WEBVTT - Last Call 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.119 Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:17.880 and The Black Effect. And just like that, we're back 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:21.160 with yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl. Just hilarious. 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:23.720 What I be doing, I'll be fixing mess now. I'm 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:26.439 sorry I couldn't get to everybody's story for the holidays. 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:28.400 For Christmas, I know y'all got Hello Christmas stories, and 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:31.720 y'all y'all want me to give y'all advice. A lot 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:34.240 of y'all had a lot of the same stories, the 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:37.960 same types of stories. So I'm sorry if I didn't 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:41.480 read yours specifically, but maybe you heard me read one 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:45.559 similar to yours, almost identical even. And then hopefully that 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:48.120 advice that I gave to that person last week you 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:50.360 applied it to your mess. You understand what I'm saying, 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:53.920 But if not, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. So it looks 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:56.520 like I'm gonna be reading holiday stories for a while 0:00:56.640 --> 0:00:58.040 and well into the new year. 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:01.080 All right, So listen started off like this. 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:03.640 Okay, first, I hope everything is well with you and 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:06.000 your new baby, but I need your help, girl. So 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:08.520 me and my girl upen dating for a little over 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:11.760 a year. It's holiday season, clearly, and quite frankly, I 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:15.080 don't like her family DM. Okay, but wait, it's not 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:17.880 like I just don't like them. I can feel the tension. 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:21.920 Jes like motherfucker's taking the funk with me. I can't 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:24.280 stand that. So I told her, And I also told 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:26.360 her I wanted to stay home for the holidays instead 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:28.160 of traveling two hours to see them. 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:30.120 Oh shit, and you would have to go far. 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:32.240 I told her she didn't have to stay at home 0:01:32.240 --> 0:01:34.520 with me, and that just made her even more mad. 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:37.960 But I'm not understanding if I'm wrong because I was 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:40.959 being honest, or maybe I should have never said anything. 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:43.559 I love this girl, and I know her family means 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:45.920 everything to her, but I just can't kick it with 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:47.600 people that clearly aren't fucking with me. 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:48.000 For real. 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:52.440 I totally get it, truthfully, I don't feel comfortable. It's 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:55.920 just always something. They always get quiet and then resume 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:58.920 their conversations like I'm not there or like we were 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:02.000 their topic. Hold on, let me read that again, y'all, 0:02:02.120 --> 0:02:03.920 because if y'all heard it like I just read it, 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:04.720 I don't get it all right. 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:06.120 Hold on, Wait a minute, wait a minute. 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:09.360 They always get quiet and then resume their conversations like 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:11.519 I'm not there or like we were their topic. 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:12.720 Okay, I get it. I get it. 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:17.079 Then when talking to her mom, it's just like I'm 0:02:17.080 --> 0:02:20.359 being tolerated. I cannot stand that shit, and that's from 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:24.400 previous experience. I cannot under. I cannot stand feeling like 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:26.400 I'm being tolerated, you know what I'm saying. 0:02:26.440 --> 0:02:27.040 I do get it. 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:30.919 Continuing the only people who like me are her sisters 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:33.960 and her nephew. But it's different when the mother and 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:36.240 father of the girl you love don't like you or 0:02:36.280 --> 0:02:37.120 not vibing with you. 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:41.240 It's fucked up. Honestly, it hurts, but it's just so weird. 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:43.960 Like I know I'm not crazy, but I don't want 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:46.040 to tell my girl she overreacted because I don't want 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:49.280 to go. But it's like a comfort thing. I should 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:52.400 feel comfortable, right, not just going because she wants me to. 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.400 I should want to be there, right Or should I 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:56.920 have just went and kept it cool? 0:02:57.200 --> 0:02:59.919 Should I even still go? Like I'm stuck? Help? 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:05.000 Okay, So you must have wrote this on actual Christmas, 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:10.360 because because you're talking as if she already went and 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:12.960 you can still go, So maybe it's like a holiday 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.440 thing where Okay, I totally get it, but no, I'm 0:03:15.480 --> 0:03:17.720 totally with you, sir, I do get Actually, let me 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:20.760 not even just place a gender on your ass, because 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:22.359 you ain't let me know whether you were a woman 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:26.959 or a man, right, But either way, you're totally right. 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.280 If I would hate to be in the presence of 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:31.519 somebody who I know, don't fuck with me, you know 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:31.959 what I'm saying. 0:03:32.000 --> 0:03:32.959 And then it's kind of tricky. 0:03:33.000 --> 0:03:35.560 That's kind of sticky when you're dealing with somebody, you're 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:38.280 in a relationship with someone and you love them, you 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:40.920 see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person, 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:42.720 but their family don't fuck with. 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:43.640 You, you know what I mean. 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:48.680 And now this is the thing, further more than it 0:03:48.920 --> 0:03:51.120 just being a thing, you not the damn fuck with you. 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:55.040 Have you talked to her about talking to them about it? 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:58.120 You get what I'm saying. Because she's in the middle. 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:00.360 Imagine how she feels, first of all, at you. How 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:02.240 she feels first of all, it's like fuck, like I 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:03.920 know that she It has to be some type of 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:08.280 dreading feeling that comes over her during the holidays when 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:11.600 she feels like, h I got a drag, my man 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:14.360 or my woman here to be with my family, and 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:17.599 my family don't even fuck with this person, like you 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:19.560 don't fuck with my partner, you don't fuck with my lover, 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:23.240 you feel me, So it has to be a sticky 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:26.080 situation for all, well for both of y'all. I don't 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:28.440 know what the family got against you. I can't speak 0:04:28.720 --> 0:04:31.800 on them. I want to know because this is this 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:36.920 what can also happen. Have y'all had any previous situations 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:39.960 where you may have cheated on her, You've done something 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:41.800 that she don't like, and then she goes back and 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:46.200 tells her family and now y'all are good. You know, 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:48.080 y'all got past that bump in the road or whatever 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:50.960 y'all were going through. And then now she has to 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:54.480 take you around for Christmas and for holidays and shit 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:58.280 like that. And they still looking at you judge you 0:04:58.600 --> 0:05:01.920 from the situation that she to them when y'all were 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:05.520 fucking up or where y'all were going through something. It 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:10.159 could be that it could be a fact of she 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:12.080 had an ex that they fucked with more than you. 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:13.279 It could be a number of things. 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:16.200 So I can't really speak on the family, but that 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:20.720 could be, like that's just one of the main reasons 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.240 as to why somebody's whole family don't fuck with you. 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:25.960 If it's the mom, the dad, the cousins, the aunties 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:27.480 that you know, because you said she got about two 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:29.680 or three family members that fuck with you, like her 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:32.800 two siblings and her nephew or something like that. You said, like, 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:36.320 if everybody else don't fuck with you, that's what it is. 0:05:36.880 --> 0:05:38.280 I feel like that's what it is. 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:40.680 If it ain't a previous exit, they prefer her with 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:43.839 over you, it has to be something that she has 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:48.440 told them. So yeah, like, have y'all had any issues 0:05:48.480 --> 0:05:51.960 in the past with infidelity, trust, not keeping it real? 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:53.520 Did you betray her in any way? 0:05:53.680 --> 0:05:53.839 You know? 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:54.880 Do y'all argue a lot? 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:57.599 Or were y'all ever at a point where y'all were 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:00.000 arguing a lot? Maybe she took that back to her family. 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.960 Maybe she confides in them, you know, about certain things. 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:07.920 And that's when shit gets sticky, because, like I said before, 0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:10.080 if you plan to spend the rest of your life 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:13.680 with a person, ugh, and the person put me through 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:16.679 some shit and I ran and I told my parents 0:06:16.720 --> 0:06:20.120 and my my family members, and now y'all looking at 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:23.160 this nigga like, uh, why are you here. 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:24.320 We're gonna tolerate you. 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:27.279 But because you said this, you feel that that the 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:29.880 parents tolerate you, you don't like to feel tolerated. Yeah, that's 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:32.120 exactly what happened. Then I'm not gonna I'm not gonna 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:33.880 say that's not what happened. That's what happened. She talked 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:36.440 about something that happened with y'all. Y'all must have been 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:38.120 having problems and she took it back to the fam. 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:41.960 But going back to the initial advice, you need to 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:46.839 have a conversation with your girl about having a conversation 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.159 with her family. Maybe y'all all can sit down, but 0:06:49.200 --> 0:06:51.000 I think it needs to be a conversation between her 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:53.839 and her family first, not just bringing you because they're 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:57.279 already they're already a little skeptical of you. If you 0:06:57.320 --> 0:06:59.680 love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:03.240 be right back. Anytime you got to tolerate somebody, Yeah, 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:05.520 you ain't really fucking with me. I'm suspecting some type 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:07.200 of way to you, you know, And I don't like 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:07.960 that feeling. 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:09.840 And this is the holidays. 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:12.480 You're not supposed to feel that way during the holidays, 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:15.880 you know, And you're not supposed to be forced to 0:07:15.960 --> 0:07:18.560 have to feel that way either. I understand she's your girlfriend, y'all, 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:21.280 in a relationship, but if you feel uncomfortable, I think 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:22.720 there has to be a level of compromise. 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:24.520 I think if. 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:28.200 You are if you projected this to her like you're 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:30.840 projecting it to me, like you're telling me you described 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:35.480 the same, the very exact feelings to her, and she 0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:38.760 knows about this, I think she should be open to 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:40.960 be like, all right, let me go and spend this 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:43.200 day with my family because it is two hours away. 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:45.280 All right, let me go spend this day with my family, 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:46.720 and then me and you can spend the rest of 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:47.640 the holiday together. 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:48.200 You know what I'm saying. 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:50.640 At least let me get Christmas even with my family, 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:52.960 and then I'll be home early morning on Christmas, or 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:54.840 I'll be back late that night so I can wake 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:55.880 up on Christmas with you. 0:07:56.160 --> 0:07:56.520 Something. 0:07:57.040 --> 0:08:01.160 It should have been a compromising result that you understand 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:01.680 what I'm saying. 0:08:02.600 --> 0:08:03.560 Yeah, you have to sit down. 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:05.960 You have to talk to her, because it just sounds 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:09.120 a little skeptical. I you know, they're skeptical because of 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:11.000 something that was said to them or something that they 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:13.680 don't like that you've done. But they would only know 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:16.240 that or find that out from your girl, you know 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:18.400 what I mean. So just have a conversation. I'm sorry 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:19.960 that you had to go through that, you know, But no, 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:22.480 to answer your question, No, you're not wrong ful feeling 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:24.360 that way, You're not wrong and you're not supposed to 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:28.080 be forced to be put in situations like that where 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:32.200 you're unsure about the company around you. 0:08:32.200 --> 0:08:35.480 You get what I'm saying. And it's not just one. 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:38.640 Or two people this this girl whole family basically like 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:41.800 a lot of the family, you know, So I totally 0:08:41.800 --> 0:08:43.640 get it. Keep me updated and let me know what 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:48.959 happened there, all right, moving the hook owing, Hey, Jess, 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:52.120 happy holidays. Whole parenthood is treating you well. So girl, 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.400 let's get into it. I met this boy at my job. 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:58.080 He was tall as fuck, Like all right, hey, he 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:00.720 was tall as fuck, dark skinned, big lips, funny as hell, 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:03.440 and I don't know, we just hit it off. We 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:06.280 started flirting at the job. He would always come to 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:07.600 my section and bother me. 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:09.240 On some cute shit. Okay, so you must work at 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:13.040 a club. We ended up we ended up smoking together. 0:09:13.280 --> 0:09:15.400 He would take me home afterward and we would just 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:18.240 be with each other more often. We ended up having sex. 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:20.520 A few days after we had sex, he told me 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:22.480 his baby mom was about to have his baby. 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:24.080 What the fuck? 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.680 My response was, nigga, have a good life, lol exactly. 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:30.079 I was also on and off with my ex at 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:33.720 the time, so I wasn't really worried about that. Hmm, okay, 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:35.520 you mean a do you fucked him? You wasn't really 0:09:35.559 --> 0:09:37.800 worried about it? What the fuck is going on with y'all? 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:38.920 Girls? Uh? 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:41.360 I go back to work the next day. This man 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:43.240 comes to my section, like, can I talk to you 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:45.600 real quick? So we talking and he jacks me up 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:47.080 and said he jacks you up? 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:48.120 The fuck? 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:50.520 He jecks you up and say you really dumb with me? 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.480 And my dumb ass says no. First of all, your 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:55.160 dumb ass, like, yeah, you're dumb. 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:55.960 Why would you say no? 0:09:56.000 --> 0:09:58.320 This nigga jacking you up at your fucking job, Miss 0:09:58.400 --> 0:10:00.719 Tike Turner. Really, this is what you It's what you're 0:10:00.720 --> 0:10:02.720 saying for yourself. Did you pussy got wet off that 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:04.600 this should not be sexy to you? 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.000 Bitch? The fuck? Like? 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:08.840 Now, what if he dejacked you up and gave you 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:12.080 a gut punch. Then what the fuck? Don't ever that's 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:14.240 not sexy. I wouldn't know where you're from, what you're doing. 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:16.080 You know how old are you? 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:17.920 That's not cute? All right? 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:20.880 So continuing, I know, I know, yeah, you better know. 0:10:21.000 --> 0:10:22.800 You already knew how I was gonna react to that. 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:26.840 But we ended up being with each other every night. 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:29.520 You know how that go? No, I don't know how 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:31.080 to go. I ain't even gonna try to act like 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:33.160 I know how this go. But I just had this 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:35.080 gut feeling that he was still messing around with his 0:10:35.160 --> 0:10:38.880 baby mom. Well, I die, bitch, the baby was fresh 0:10:38.960 --> 0:10:42.640 out the coach, stupid, and just messing around in general. Okay, 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:44.560 so you thought he was just messing around in general 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:46.600 as well, like you ain't the only other woman, because 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:48.839 you are definitely the other woman, not the baby mom 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:53.160 baby you were to begin with. Okay, Continuing, so I 0:10:53.160 --> 0:10:55.240 get to lurking on social media to see what's going on, 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:58.400 and he actually was, I mean, showing the fuck out, 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:01.520 buying shoes, paying for hair, giving her money, laughing my 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:02.000 ass off. 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:02.800 Bitch, You ain't laughing. 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:07.960 You're distraught and miserable right now, shit, you're devastated. We stopped, 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:10.959 we stopped messing around. But the type of person I am, 0:11:11.080 --> 0:11:14.240 I'm really thinking, Okay, this is my nigga. He acting 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:16.840 like it. I'm with No, he not acting like it. 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:20.280 I'm with this person every day. We always on the phone. 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:24.520 I'm giving my body to him, you know what I mean, girl, 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:26.480 and not to see his bullshit ass horn. 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:27.840 But the sex was good. 0:11:28.000 --> 0:11:33.959 You know, the package was packaging girl, goofy ass ah, 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:37.640 these whole hugs, bitch, Oh my god. And yes, to 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:40.240 answer a question, we did start messing back around. I 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:42.640 wasn't even gonna ask because I already knew. And I 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:45.160 just felt like it's no growth in this connection, like 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:47.719 I'm not getting anything out of it. 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:50.480 I can't wait to be done with this shit. It's 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:52.480 and that's to me talking, y'all. 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:54.040 I cannot wait to be done with this story because 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:55.680 I'm about to read your ass for filth. 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:55.960 Girl. 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:58.920 It's always the same thing with him, like either his 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:02.319 car isn't working, he needs some money. He depressed him 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:05.560 and his BM beefing, and we only having sex. We 0:12:05.559 --> 0:12:09.439 ain't together, we only having sex. But I knew that though, 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:12.160 and I was only having sex with him, and we've 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:14.360 been Girl, you're running all of this shit down to 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:17.160 me without one punctuation mark in this shit. This is 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:20.720 a long run on ass essay, it's one sentence. So 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:21.679 bad with me, y'all. 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:24.040 We've been messing around with each other for a year 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:26.600 and some change. Now. I don't know. 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:29.200 I just feel like I'm on a different level right now. 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:32.400 I'm trying to focus on myself because I truly believe 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:35.560 the love I give out I will get back one day. 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:38.720 But it's like I'm mistaking lust for love. 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:40.000 Yep. 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:42.400 I've been there as well, and I was so blind 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:44.600 that I couldn't see how I was being played. 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:46.400 I wouldn't say I'm gullible, Oh. 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:48.920 Bitch, please, I would say it takes me a little 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:53.280 longer to understand, especially when my feelings are involved. But 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:55.880 I just be wondering to myself, how do you give 0:12:55.960 --> 0:12:58.719 this person so much and they give you nothing? When 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:01.600 do you start loving yourself more and saying enough is enough? 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:05.280 Now you're asking the right questions. How many more times 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:07.400 does he have to show me I don't matter for 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:10.959 me to get it? So my point is, how do 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:15.000 I detach myself from a connection that I truly feel 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:15.600 isn't for me. 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:19.400 Ah. Now I'm about to get in your ways, baby, okay. 0:13:20.320 --> 0:13:24.240 Ah, you called the gullible. I call it, for lack 0:13:24.280 --> 0:13:28.480 of a better word, dumb. First of all, it's too 0:13:28.520 --> 0:13:30.720 much that you allowed at the beginning, you had sex 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:32.599 with this man, and you said the next day, I 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:36.360 think you said whatever shortly after you fucked this man 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:38.800 right without even really getting to know him. That was 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:41.200 the first fucking red flag right there. That was the 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:44.160 first problem. Right there. You're giving up your pussy too 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:47.840 fucking quick. This man turns around and tell you he 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:50.080 got a baby that could be here any fucking day now, 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:53.319 so you know it gotta be something still going on 0:13:53.440 --> 0:13:56.400 with this fucking baby, mom right Hold up, hold up, 0:13:56.440 --> 0:13:58.400 I know this shit getting good, but listen to just 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:00.480 a couple seconds of a commercial with you love Me. 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:02.960 You'll listen. Now. 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:06.120 You even start fucking with him after that, and your 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:08.120 excuse as to why you did it and it wasn't 0:14:08.160 --> 0:14:09.920 really worried about him telling you that he had a 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.280 baby on the way that could be here any minute, 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:15.160 was that you were still texting your ex girl. 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:16.600 You just as toxic as this. 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:20.960 Nigga and you're allowing things and you could be unknowingly 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:22.440 unintentionally toxic. 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:24.560 But that's very problematic. 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:27.880 And the reason why it's hard for you right now 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.440 is because you kept giving him yourself over and over 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:32.840 and over. And I'm gonna just go ahead and take 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:34.920 the fucking gloves off and get ready to box with you, 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:36.840 because I'm about to tell you you let that man 0:14:36.920 --> 0:14:37.480 fuck you raw. 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:38.840 You didn't even have to tell me that he was. 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:40.960 You didn't even have to tell me it was raw dog. 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:43.560 It was because you sound way too fucking gone over 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:46.760 somebody else's baby daddy, slash man. He was in a 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:49.000 relationship with the baby mom and the whole time he 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:52.680 was cheating with you and other girls. The proof was 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:55.360 right there. You went on social media. That's the number 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:57.360 one place to fucking go when you're trying to figure 0:14:57.360 --> 0:14:59.720 out if a nigga creeping or not. Y'all weren't public. 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:03.200 It's public with his girlfriend slash baby mom. He's been 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:05.640 cheating on this bitch, so really she should be right 0:15:05.680 --> 0:15:08.600 in me. You are a side bitch, and you've been 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:13.440 a side bitch. Okay, that's weird. That's how you break it. 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:16.760 You don't talk to him. You don't anything that reminds 0:15:16.760 --> 0:15:19.560 you of him, you burn it, you block that number. 0:15:20.000 --> 0:15:22.240 I wish you could burn the damn phone that you got, 0:15:22.280 --> 0:15:25.360 but you can't, so block the number. Cut sides with him. 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:27.240 That's why at the end of the day, you're never 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:30.640 gonna be happy. You're looking for love in the wrong places, 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:33.280 in the wrong men. Like it started off wrong. It 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:37.440 started off wrong, okay, And then I'm not trying to 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:40.960 like judge. This ain't for all women that works at 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:45.640 a club. But this man comes to your job. Obviously 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:46.640 you do work at a club. 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:47.120 Okay. 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:50.640 He comes to your club often, he sees you. You 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:53.720 probably a bad lord, joy, nice body. You know what 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:54.240 I'm saying. 0:15:54.320 --> 0:16:00.400 You look good. You know you probably wear clothes. Who's 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:01.400 you know? 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.080 You probably wear a shit that you show your body. 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:07.680 So nigga's minds and imaginations is running wild. I mean, 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:11.000 what's left of their imagination because you probably wear clothes 0:16:11.120 --> 0:16:14.280 where niggas don't really need to imagine much because they 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:16.440 see a lot of it already. You get what I'm saying. 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:19.400 You're not leaving anything to his imagination. You're not making 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:22.640 them work for shit. But in your in his eyes, 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:25.280 you're just a fucking bottle girl maybe or a bar tend. 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:27.160 I don't know what you are, but you work at 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:27.560 a club. 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:32.560 That is the first fucking place that niggas find comfort. 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:38.080 The baby mom she's in her third trimester, so she 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:40.240 getting on his nigga nerves like I got on my 0:16:40.320 --> 0:16:43.560 mass nerves the third trimester, every fucking trimester, but by 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:46.080 the third you ready to have that fucking baby. So 0:16:46.120 --> 0:16:49.040 you on this nigga's head like about everything. Any little 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:52.720 thing that he does gets to you, gets on your nerves. 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.240 I was there, so I know what the baby mom 0:16:55.320 --> 0:16:57.240 was going through, and the fact that I was there, 0:16:57.400 --> 0:16:59.240 I know what the nigga was going through too. And 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:02.960 instead of of being faithful and just sticking it out 0:17:03.160 --> 0:17:04.679 what a real man should do if he's in a 0:17:04.720 --> 0:17:07.920 committed relationship with somebody who's about to have his fucking baby, 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:12.080 he went to seek comfort in the club, and you 0:17:12.119 --> 0:17:18.159 gave him a microwaveable night, basically instant pussy. 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:19.520 Like you know what I'm saying. 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:22.240 Like you gave him like you talk about, we smoked 0:17:22.280 --> 0:17:25.600 and we talked and then I fucked him. Yeah, you 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:27.360 didn't get to know him, or you would have known 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:29.399 he had a bit who was pregnant. You know what 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:32.600 I'm saying, So I all the gloves was off. I 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:34.200 had to give it to you straight like that, because 0:17:34.240 --> 0:17:36.600 you're smarter than that. You're smarter. I'm gonna say you're 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:39.160 smarter than that, because you This ain't the first time 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:41.720 some shit like this happened. This ain't this, Cabby, the 0:17:41.720 --> 0:17:43.359 first time. I don't know how long you've been working 0:17:43.359 --> 0:17:45.000 at that club, but you notice is how that shit go. 0:17:45.080 --> 0:17:48.400 The club is a revolving door of niggas who looking 0:17:48.440 --> 0:17:49.440 for something real quick. 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:51.440 You know, unless that nigga was t Pain. 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:56.280 No, because T Pain made his wife stop stripping, he 0:17:56.280 --> 0:17:57.920