WEBVTT - Ep. 22 How to Spot a Narcissist 0:00:01.800 --> 0:00:05.240 Wind Down with Jannah Kramer and I Heart Radio podcast. 0:00:06.640 --> 0:00:09.600 So excited to wind down today. So much to talk about. 0:00:10.720 --> 0:00:15.480 We have so much. We have some great topics that 0:00:15.520 --> 0:00:19.160 I wrote down in my I have some great topics 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:21.520 that I wrote down on my phone. Sounds like it 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:24.000 was a busy week. It was. Let me just start 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:26.680 by saying this. Michael and I have why have a 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:28.640 YouTube channel that we have a series that we're doing 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:30.360 called Have a Seat with Jan and Mike and so 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:34.120 we um get emails from people and we answer, we 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:37.120 answer the questions. And I learned a lot about my 0:00:37.200 --> 0:00:41.360 husband this past one. Yeah, like what he doesn't believe 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:47.160 in soulmates? What I don't exactly. I don't believe that 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:51.639 there's one person in this world that is meant for you. 0:00:52.320 --> 0:00:54.640 But do you believe in I believe in multiple soulmates. 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:57.920 You can have friends who are soulmates. You can have 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:02.920 you know, a deal with certain lovers that you have 0:01:03.040 --> 0:01:05.400 made this deal to learn this lesson and grow with 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:07.759 and then you move on and there might be another soulmate. 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:10.320 So I believe in multiple. So you believe in multiple 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:13.360 and you don't believe in soulmates at all? Well, my 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:17.720 whole thing. The whole stigma in my mind is soulmatee 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:21.360 is there's one person for you? And that's why yes, 0:01:21.680 --> 0:01:23.600 I'm saying and when I say yesterday I said we're 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:25.520 meant to be. Absolutely we're meant to be. Then what's 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:28.280 the difference between meant to be in soulmate? Because then 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:30.520 I just my whole thing is that I feel like 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:34.120 the expects I feel like the expectation. You're setting expectations 0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:36.679 so high where you might meet someone great and maybe 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:38.919 they don't check one box and then all of a sudden, 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:41.200 people are like, oh, they can't be my soul mate 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:44.880 because my soulmate would have these characteristics. I feel like 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:47.080 people are just setting their expectations by looking for one 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:49.640 person out there as opposed to seeing what's in front 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:52.240 of them and being and not being blinded by their 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:55.280 high expectations. Is being like, Wow, this person is amazing, right, 0:01:55.280 --> 0:01:58.040 but that's your one. Why can't the one slash be 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:00.680 your soulmate? I think that's what it's trying to say. 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:04.760 Soul mate at this moment, well, that's what she probably 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:06.960 have multiple soul mates. I feel like your soul mate 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:09.880 is the one. I feel like there are lots of 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:12.320 different people that you can be with. Obviously, we've all 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:15.840 been in different relationships. There's I think there's different people 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:19.720 for possibly different seasons. But I believe your soul mate, 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:23.079 slash the one is the one that you stay with, 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:26.200 the one that you like. For example, my mother, she 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:29.160 was married to my father for twenty something years. Was 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:32.120 that her soul mate? No, it was the one that 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:35.120 during that season and she was meant to have kids. 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:37.680 But her soul mate, her one is the one that's 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:40.079 she's married to now that's going that they're going to 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:43.519 be together forever, and that's her twin flame, not her 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:48.040 soul mate. But this is the same, right, twin flame 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:52.960 is very different. No, Lobster's Friends is fens twinlame different. 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:57.560 What's twin twin flames is what your mom's experience. Now, 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:01.760 Like that's really meant to be. You are twin flames 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:06.680 burning the same candle in the same pace, and you 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:10.840 guys are really say, I think that's the same definition 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:13.000 of a soul mate. Like I think if you stay 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:16.600 with me, Michael, that you were my soul mate. I 0:03:16.680 --> 0:03:19.280 thought I've had other soulmates, but those people left, right, 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:22.280 But that's the thing. It's it's all You'll think they're 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:24.080 your soul mate. Then all of a sudden something happens, 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:26.120 they must not be my soul mate. And then you 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:27.880 find another person. Oh I really like this person there 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:30.080 soul mate, And so people just say the next the 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.360 next three thing is their soul mate. Okay, we're married 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:34.359 right now. So you still don't think I'm your soul mate. 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:36.720 I think we're meant to be. What is the difference. 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:44.040 It's just like turning you. I'm ready to this, but 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:46.040 I don't understand what the different Like I'm truly at like, 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:48.200 what is the difference. So now you're saying there are 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:53.120 multiple soulmates, I'm not saying there's multiple there's multiple people 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:56.880 in seasons, yes, I think, but your true soulmate, so 0:03:56.920 --> 0:04:00.320 I think there could be multiple ones. But you're true 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:03.520 soul mate is the person that stays with you, that 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.200 is with you till the end, you fight through stuff, 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:08.800 you don't leave when stuff gets hard and you fight. 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:12.000 That is your soul mate. You are living with your 0:04:12.280 --> 0:04:15.720 with your mate and your souls together, and we are 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:19.720 doing that. But people's I'm just saying people's idea and 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:23.839 your soul mate, yes or no. We need a soul 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:27.360 mate expert. People's idea of soul mate is that there's 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:30.480 one person one not multiple soul mates. One person out 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.520 there form right, I'm you're one person. Yes, But I'm 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:37.240 saying you've even said yourself, Yeah, I've thought I've had 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:39.839 multiple soul mates. I thought before, just like I thought 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:41.520 they were the love of my life. They weren't just 0:04:41.600 --> 0:04:43.560 like I thought. I was saying. That's all I'm saying 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:46.080 is that it's ever changed. I didn't. So the next person, 0:04:47.200 --> 0:04:48.760 I know you always like to say this and be 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:51.560 you always like to say, well, Mike, if we get divorced, 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:53.600 so I'm going to play that card. If we got divorced, 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:57.600 there for me, then then the next person is your 0:04:57.600 --> 0:04:59.600 soul mate. So it's just everyone, he's a soul mate. 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:03.560 You're so mate everyone. It's like, when does it stop? 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:07.520 Come on? When you are with the person for life, 0:05:07.680 --> 0:05:11.640 your twin flame, Yeah, twin flame experts. So if we 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:14.919 were to be together till the end, you were truly 0:05:14.960 --> 0:05:17.599 my soul mate, And on my deathbed, I'll write in 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:20.520 my little note like I love you were my soul mate, 0:05:20.520 --> 0:05:22.080 and then I'm you know gonna die and you're gonna 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:23.320 be like, man, I wish I would have told her 0:05:23.320 --> 0:05:26.920 that she was my soulmate. That took a really dead time. 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:31.040 I see the movie right now. You might just tell me. 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:33.919 You can tell her when you go upstairs. I just 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:36.279 don't know what the difference mean. I mean, if you 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:38.000 if you can honestly look at me right now and 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:40.240 say that I'm not your soul mate, slash the one, 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:42.960 you're my wife and you're the one I meant to 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:46.880 be with. I need the term. I need to know 0:05:46.960 --> 0:05:51.200 I'm mate. This is going to drive her stil nuts 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:53.880 so mad by Janna. If she really likes a meal, 0:05:54.440 --> 0:05:56.920 like something really good definitely not Tahita, And if you 0:05:57.200 --> 0:05:59.479 definitely and she wants you to try bye, if you 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:02.440 say no, she'll get like highs within anxiety and she's 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:04.680 like you have to try this. I'm like, I know 0:06:04.760 --> 0:06:09.039 it's so good. Were and I was eating the most 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:13.680 incredible cech ever and I think it was so good 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:15.200 and I was like, honey, we please try. But he's like, no, 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:18.240 I'm good. I was like, can you please try it? 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:20.000 Buy it because I just know how good it was. 0:06:20.080 --> 0:06:22.279 She takes it personal, like she made it. She's like, 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:24.200 please try this. I knew how much you love it. 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:26.240 And guess what did he order? Like five more the 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:29.120 entire time we were there, it was fantastic. But the 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:31.440 point was for a twenty minutes she was like, couldn't 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:34.880 sit still, like just try it, just place, try it. 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:37.640 And then he's like, well try this. I was like, no, 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:39.920 I'm good. But for some reason, when I want someone 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:41.440 to try something because I know that they're going to 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:44.719 like it, it really it physically gives me hives and 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:50.120 I started to get anxiety. I was so she feel 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:52.520 this way about me not saying the soul mate, well, 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:54.839 it just it just makes me sad that, like you 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:57.200 don't think that I'm your the one and you're you're 0:06:57.320 --> 0:07:00.960 the one I'm meant to be with what I would 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:05.800 google airplane writing words over homes and like, Janna, you're 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:08.880 my soul mate. He doesn't, really, I'm not your soul mate. 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:11.160 It's obviously I'm going to keep looking for my soul mate. 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:13.400 So if anyone wants to be my soul mate, email 0:07:13.440 --> 0:07:18.080 me at Janne Kramer. I hurt me. I'm gonna find 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:27.640 myself a soul mate. Next topic, what else what else. Oh, 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:33.840 we've just turned the dateline. Um, so the next thing 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:37.760 is when we were doing our little half a seat. Um, 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:41.840 I'm fine. On YouTube, my husband says, So here here's 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:44.600 the deal. I went to therapy and I've just been 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:47.360 very overwhelmed. We have a new baby coming obviously in 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:52.600 less than seven weeks, and it's fast approaching, and I 0:07:52.720 --> 0:07:54.640 get very overwhelmed with things. I have a very hard 0:07:54.680 --> 0:07:57.720 time delegate. I love actually I love delegating, but I 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:59.720 have a very hard time asking for help. So my 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:04.480 pist encouraged me to ask for help. More So I 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:07.800 wrote a honey to do list, and I said, and 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:10.120 I put on there too when I would like it done, 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:13.920 because I want things done yesterday. But you know, a 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:19.840 dollhouse on this We'll get there later, because that's a 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:22.520 great point too. No, it was not on there, but 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:26.080 so I said, you know, please have all the trash 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:29.880 taken out by the end of the month. Uh, clean 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:33.160 up the backyard. Um, you know, sometime this week would 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:36.360 be nice, please. And there was a few things with 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:38.040 the kids that I was having. I need we need 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:40.480 to transfer some of Jolie's medical stuff, and I said, 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:45.560 please call her doctor's places and get her files sometime 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:48.400 before this date that we're going to the new doctor 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:51.600 at just things that like I didn't I wanted to 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:55.280 alleviate off of my plate. And he says to me, Michael, 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:58.200 I said, okay. No. First of all, I said, okay, 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:01.520 that's not the first thing you said when you gave 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:04.599 me the list. How long is the list? There was 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:10.280 like four things? What did I say? You were like like, 0:09:10.400 --> 0:09:13.240 right now, you have to give this to me. Well, again, 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:15.400 it's like timing. I was in the middle of I 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:18.720 was in the middle of doing something, okay, and she's 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:20.960 and it's just like I hate when I get overloaded too. 0:09:21.000 --> 0:09:22.400 So it's like I'm in the middle of doing something, 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:24.600 taking care of something, and then she hands me this list, 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:28.160 and I'm like like right now, like you're gonna hand 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:29.400 this when I'm in the middle of like doing some 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:31.400 work or whatever it was I was doing, Like, you're 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:33.040 gonna hand this to me. So it's all about timing 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.360 for me, okay. But then he says, well, where is 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:40.080 your honey to do list? So his question when she posed, 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:42.600 so he said that that one day and I kind 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:45.680 of let it go until last night when we're doing 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:48.600 our have a seat. He goes, I have a question. 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:51.040 Why don't the guys ever wady honey to do list 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:56.120 for the white serious? Her eyes just not. I was 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:59.920 of her. I said, has a guy we can watch 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:02.559 this video? Prooved? I said, has a guy ever given 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:04.439 his wife honey to do the list? He'd be? I 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:06.320 didn't say why don't? I said, I didn't say why 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:08.199 don't guys? I said, has a guy ever done that? 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:10.719 What would you put on a list? Mike? Stuff? We 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:16.880 want you get done what? It's already all? Thank you? 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:19.160 There just not coming. He's like, you're on your own. Pa. 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:25.000 Have I not done that? You would like to put 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:29.360 on the honey to do list for your wife? Go ahead? Mike, 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:32.280 you have the floor, everyone's listening. What do you want 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:37.520 to put on there? By the way, I'm serious here 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:40.520 you you you asked and post a question. I would 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:43.360 like to know what you want me to do on 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:46.240 top of everything else that I do, that you want 0:10:46.240 --> 0:10:52.079 on that list? Go ahead? I didn't come prepared exactly 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:55.760 what I would like you to do? Is this is 0:10:55.800 --> 0:10:59.400 a joke. If you even pick up after yourself, excuse me? 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:08.680 Is um? I don't know what because that's already all done. 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:11.600 It's already all done. She leaves stuff around the house. 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:16.520 What you know what it's I'm so sorry. I'm literally 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:18.920 going to throw this pen right in your eyeball. But 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:21.200 you and it told me one time that I sometimes 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:22.760 leave my shoes around the house. I have done a 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:25.480 very good job to make sure to put my shoes away. 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:28.280 What else have I left around the house? You leave 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:30.760 things and things that shouldn't that aren't. Like I have 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:33.080 this cute little candle thing and he puts his coins 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:37.960 in there, and I'm like, this is not yours. I'm sorry, 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:40.480 be careful when you walk into our house because you're 0:11:40.480 --> 0:11:44.520 gonna walk into about two dozen half drinking Lacroix cans 0:11:44.640 --> 0:11:48.160 everywhere pregnant, so that stops you from throwing them away. 0:11:48.720 --> 0:11:52.000 Please counsel us right now. I'm just hoping that you 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:59.000 both you drove separately here today, trust me, did no. 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:01.520 I just is just so many things that I do 0:12:01.880 --> 0:12:03.960 and that wives do that you don't know that we 0:12:04.000 --> 0:12:07.520 even do. For example, like we talked about, we don't 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:15.319 have to keep it. You know what, I'm going to 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:17.440 say this to all the women out there, all the wives, 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:20.720 all the girlfriends, everything Leslie. You know me, girl, and 0:12:20.760 --> 0:12:23.800 I got you right now. For the next week, don't 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:28.000 touch anything, don't do anything. The world will fall apart. 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:35.960 Give it another week. Your life is like Lee. I'm 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:41.480 not challenging you, just I'm challenging the women to stop. Stop, 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:45.400 go on strike. Pick up the kids stuff, don't do 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:47.520 don't do the laundry, don't fold their clothes, don't put 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:51.560 away there they're over there. I will give Michael that 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:53.080 he does. We do a very good job of like 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.520 doing the dishosher and doing those like household chores. I 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:57.120 will give him that. But when it comes to the 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:59.680 kids stuff, the planning, and you know, all the things 0:12:59.679 --> 0:13:01.760 that I that up for the new baby, you know what, 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:04.000 I'm just not going to do anything anymore. And I'm 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:06.800 gonna see and you always will you do it before me. Okay, 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:08.880 I'll see if you even think of something, the things 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:14.360 that actually need to be taking place. I'm heated. I'm 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:22.240 on strike, ladies and gentlemen. You're gonna have a lot 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:26.440 of I mean, what else are you going to do? Right, honey? 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:29.760 So can you guys explain to me? Um? I'm gonna 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:36.800 email Watermelon now the giant dollhouse that's been constructed that 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:41.800 looks like a guest house. We were we were talking 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:44.440 about Christmas ideas. It's actually a guest room in the 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:47.400 back since our son is taking our third bedroom here, 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:53.120 it's actually the guest room. So my we were looking 0:13:53.120 --> 0:13:56.559 at our backyard and we realized that the playgrounds that 0:13:56.640 --> 0:13:59.319 that we got for Jolie last Christmas, she's completely outground. 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:02.880 She doesn't been stand in anymore. She's she's too she's 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:04.320 too big for it. She doesn't even go in it. 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:08.319 So I started looking at dollhouses online and they're very expensive. 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:12.320 They're like two grand up, like they're real nice wooden ones. 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:15.079 So I was like, hey, honey, I was thinking about 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:17.920 buying this for Jolie for Christmas, because, as you know, 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:19.800 I'm already on top of things for what we should 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:23.040 get our daughter for Christmas, three months ahead, three months 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:29.080 ahead of thinking. He's just ugly staring, he was giving 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:35.320 so anyways, so I said, and he so we're we're 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:37.720 building right now a house in Nashville. Okay, so we're 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:41.200 gonna we're yes, we're making our our our move back 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:44.680 to nash sometime next year. And he wants a work 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:47.520 bench so this is a little offside moment. He wants 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:49.680 a work bench in his garage, and I said, why 0:14:49.680 --> 0:14:51.760 do you want to work bench? You don't build anything 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:55.440 like you don't He's I've never You still need a 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:56.960 place in new cabinets. You need to work bench. You 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:58.800 need stuff, even if it's a household stuff. And you 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:00.200 fix something, you gotta have a place to do it. 0:15:00.200 --> 0:15:02.080 You don't do it on the kitchen counter. But like 0:15:02.120 --> 0:15:04.280 I grew up, you have a workbench, garage, you got cadas, 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:06.040 you got tools, that's what you three years, I've never 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:08.400 seen him do anything on the workbench that we had 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:10.000 at the old house. He might have put like a 0:15:10.040 --> 0:15:12.640 little like nail, like those little nail things that you 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:15.200 put for you know, hanging a paint tang. I was like, 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:20.640 you've never done anything handy, right, So he's like we're 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:23.520 circling background. He's like, well, what if I make her 0:15:23.520 --> 0:15:25.920 a doll house? And I was like, you can't make 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.480 her a dollhouse, Like there's no way. And he's like, 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:30.280 if I make her a dollhouse, can I get my 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:32.360 work bench in the house. And I said, fine, if 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:34.000 you can prove to me that you can actually make 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:37.560 a dollhouse. So cut to the next day he was 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:41.200 at home depot and he got all this would and 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:45.040 go ahead and Michael, yeah, So again, just because Jeanna 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:48.240 hasn't seen me physically do any of this, you know, 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:51.400 carpentry or manual labor or anything like that, because we 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:53.480 haven't had to. But there's nothing we've had to build 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:55.560 or do anything like that. Because she hasn't seen it 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:57.920 first hand, she doesn't think I'm handy. So I'm like, 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:01.880 all right, after shut it off real quick. Because I 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:03.600 grew up building stuff with my dad all the time, 0:16:03.640 --> 0:16:05.600 we built dex we built sheds. I've done it all. 0:16:06.640 --> 0:16:08.320 And so I was like, all right, well, challenge accepted. 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:10.000 I'm gonna show you that I am. So I went 0:16:10.160 --> 0:16:11.960 up the necessary tools, got the lumber, and I'm building 0:16:11.960 --> 0:16:13.880 it myself. And she and she even asked me like 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:16.480 I was putting space in between the four boards. She's like, 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:18.160 how do you know how to do that? I was like, 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:20.560 because I know how to do this. You look like 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:24.120 a total pro. You have that triangle metal thing and 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:27.040 you have a pencil out and you're like, well, producer 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:29.760 Amy texted me and she goes, let's talk about the 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:32.040 fact that your husband's wearing a tool belt, but it 0:16:32.080 --> 0:16:36.240 looks like nothing's actually in the tool belt walking around 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:40.480 with an empty toolbottle. Which is really funny that you 0:16:40.520 --> 0:16:43.280 guys went on date night. You were working on it, 0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:45.280 you went on date night, and then all of a sudden, 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:48.880 it's like I was like, is he kneeling stuff together? 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:51.160 At midnight? Yeah? I felt like we're going to come 0:16:51.160 --> 0:16:53.320 home after like a really nice, nice date night and 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:54.800 we're going to cuddle him, bead and have a little 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:56.880 like into mistech. No, No, he went back out to 0:16:56.920 --> 0:17:00.640 the dollhouse to start. Yeah. I was like, not the 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:02.520 way that I wanted to end the night. But it's 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:12.399 just she, I mean, she lit a fire under me 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:13.679 and on now, all I want to do is just 0:17:13.720 --> 0:17:16.400 get that done and show her improved to her like 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:18.080 that I am handy and I know how to do 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:20.320 these things. I mean, it's like a two story like 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:24.159 dollhouse and it's building him. It's it's eight ft by 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:29.240 eight feet okay, um one and a half Okay. I 0:17:29.280 --> 0:17:32.200 will say, I'm really impressed by you. I'm impressed that 0:17:32.240 --> 0:17:34.840 you haven't quit yet. I'm not going to like, what 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:36.919 are you going to are you going to use um 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:40.399 real what are those called shingles or tile? What is 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:44.800 that singles? I've been decided yet still it's like sliding 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:49.080 windows or um Yeah, probably probably remote remote windows a 0:17:49.200 --> 0:17:52.720 power outside. This is like you guys are going to 0:17:52.800 --> 0:17:55.359 have to move it. We're gonna know we have to. 0:17:55.480 --> 0:17:58.040 And I will say, I'm, I'm it's really cute to 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:01.159 see Jolie and him there were come together, So I 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:03.240 was like, this is really cute. Yeah, And I will 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:05.320 say like I was coming home yesterday from home depot 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:08.159 and as maybe hokey as it sounds, I was carrying 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:10.359 some more lumber into the backyard and I just had 0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:13.960 a moment where I felt extremely grateful and kind of 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:16.760 reflected on the past couple of years, what we've been through, 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:19.399 where we've been. I was like, how awesome is this 0:18:19.760 --> 0:18:21.679 that I'm in the place I am getting to build 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:27.760 my daughter like this dollhouse, and because I'm pregnant in 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:29.639 the house that we share together as a family. It 0:18:29.760 --> 0:18:31.440 just I had a moment yesterday. I wanted to share 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:33.879 it with Jannah and I meant to yesterday but we 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:36.199 got busy. But but yeah, I felt that I was like, 0:18:36.280 --> 0:18:38.240 this is the best feeling ever, Like, if there's any 0:18:38.320 --> 0:18:41.560 kind of healthy behavior like this is it. That's really sweet? 0:18:41.600 --> 0:18:43.840 It was cool, that's cool. I'm sorry if everything is 0:18:43.880 --> 0:18:47.199 that during this podcast and I think you and I 0:18:47.200 --> 0:18:49.840 think you're so great and you can write me honey 0:18:49.840 --> 0:18:53.840 to do list if you want. Thank you know that's sweet, 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:56.680 and I'm just it's yeah, it's it's the healthy behavior 0:18:56.720 --> 0:19:00.480 and you're You're just I'm really proud of you. I'm 0:19:00.520 --> 0:19:06.280 excited to see the Stallhouse come together. So I'm really 0:19:06.320 --> 0:19:08.719 excited about this thing that I just learned about. It's 0:19:08.720 --> 0:19:12.240 called legacy Box. 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