Speaker 1: Wind Down with Jannah Kramer and I Heart Radio podcast.
Speaker 1: So excited to wind down today. So much to talk about.
Speaker 1: We have so much. We have some great topics that
Speaker 1: I wrote down in my I have some great topics
Speaker 1: that I wrote down on my phone. Sounds like it
Speaker 1: was a busy week. It was. Let me just start
Speaker 1: by saying this. Michael and I have why have a
Speaker 1: YouTube channel that we have a series that we're doing
Speaker 1: called Have a Seat with Jan and Mike and so
Speaker 1: we um get emails from people and we answer, we
Speaker 1: answer the questions. And I learned a lot about my
Speaker 1: husband this past one. Yeah, like what he doesn't believe
Speaker 1: in soulmates? What I don't exactly. I don't believe that
Speaker 1: there's one person in this world that is meant for you.
Speaker 1: But do you believe in I believe in multiple soulmates.
Speaker 1: You can have friends who are soulmates. You can have
Speaker 1: you know, a deal with certain lovers that you have
Speaker 1: made this deal to learn this lesson and grow with
Speaker 1: and then you move on and there might be another soulmate.
Speaker 1: So I believe in multiple. So you believe in multiple
Speaker 1: and you don't believe in soulmates at all? Well, my
Speaker 1: whole thing. The whole stigma in my mind is soulmatee
Speaker 1: is there's one person for you? And that's why yes,
Speaker 1: I'm saying and when I say yesterday I said we're
Speaker 1: meant to be. Absolutely we're meant to be. Then what's
Speaker 1: the difference between meant to be in soulmate? Because then
Speaker 1: I just my whole thing is that I feel like
Speaker 1: the expects I feel like the expectation. You're setting expectations
Speaker 1: so high where you might meet someone great and maybe
Speaker 1: they don't check one box and then all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: people are like, oh, they can't be my soul mate
Speaker 1: because my soulmate would have these characteristics. I feel like
Speaker 1: people are just setting their expectations by looking for one
Speaker 1: person out there as opposed to seeing what's in front
Speaker 1: of them and being and not being blinded by their
Speaker 1: high expectations. Is being like, Wow, this person is amazing, right,
Speaker 1: but that's your one. Why can't the one slash be
Speaker 1: your soulmate? I think that's what it's trying to say.
Speaker 1: Soul mate at this moment, well, that's what she probably
Speaker 1: have multiple soul mates. I feel like your soul mate
Speaker 1: is the one. I feel like there are lots of
Speaker 1: different people that you can be with. Obviously, we've all
Speaker 1: been in different relationships. There's I think there's different people
Speaker 1: for possibly different seasons. But I believe your soul mate,
Speaker 1: slash the one is the one that you stay with,
Speaker 1: the one that you like. For example, my mother, she
Speaker 1: was married to my father for twenty something years. Was
Speaker 1: that her soul mate? No, it was the one that
Speaker 1: during that season and she was meant to have kids.
Speaker 1: But her soul mate, her one is the one that's
Speaker 1: she's married to now that's going that they're going to
Speaker 1: be together forever, and that's her twin flame, not her
Speaker 1: soul mate. But this is the same, right, twin flame
Speaker 1: is very different. No, Lobster's Friends is fens twinlame different.
Speaker 1: What's twin twin flames is what your mom's experience. Now,
Speaker 1: Like that's really meant to be. You are twin flames
Speaker 1: burning the same candle in the same pace, and you
Speaker 1: guys are really say, I think that's the same definition
Speaker 1: of a soul mate. Like I think if you stay
Speaker 1: with me, Michael, that you were my soul mate. I
Speaker 1: thought I've had other soulmates, but those people left, right,
Speaker 1: But that's the thing. It's it's all You'll think they're
Speaker 1: your soul mate. Then all of a sudden something happens,
Speaker 1: they must not be my soul mate. And then you
Speaker 1: find another person. Oh I really like this person there
Speaker 1: soul mate, And so people just say the next the
Speaker 1: next three thing is their soul mate. Okay, we're married
Speaker 1: right now. So you still don't think I'm your soul mate.
Speaker 1: I think we're meant to be. What is the difference.
Speaker 1: It's just like turning you. I'm ready to this, but
Speaker 1: I don't understand what the different Like I'm truly at like,
Speaker 1: what is the difference. So now you're saying there are
Speaker 1: multiple soulmates, I'm not saying there's multiple there's multiple people
Speaker 1: in seasons, yes, I think, but your true soulmate, so
Speaker 1: I think there could be multiple ones. But you're true
Speaker 1: soul mate is the person that stays with you, that
Speaker 1: is with you till the end, you fight through stuff,
Speaker 1: you don't leave when stuff gets hard and you fight.
Speaker 1: That is your soul mate. You are living with your
Speaker 1: with your mate and your souls together, and we are
Speaker 1: doing that. But people's I'm just saying people's idea and
Speaker 1: your soul mate, yes or no. We need a soul
Speaker 1: mate expert. People's idea of soul mate is that there's
Speaker 1: one person one not multiple soul mates. One person out
Speaker 1: there form right, I'm you're one person. Yes, But I'm
Speaker 1: saying you've even said yourself, Yeah, I've thought I've had
Speaker 1: multiple soul mates. I thought before, just like I thought
Speaker 1: they were the love of my life. They weren't just
Speaker 1: like I thought. I was saying. That's all I'm saying
Speaker 1: is that it's ever changed. I didn't. So the next person,
Speaker 1: I know you always like to say this and be
Speaker 1: you always like to say, well, Mike, if we get divorced,
Speaker 1: so I'm going to play that card. If we got divorced,
Speaker 1: there for me, then then the next person is your
Speaker 1: soul mate. So it's just everyone, he's a soul mate.
Speaker 1: You're so mate everyone. It's like, when does it stop?
Speaker 1: Come on? When you are with the person for life,
Speaker 1: your twin flame, Yeah, twin flame experts. So if we
Speaker 1: were to be together till the end, you were truly
Speaker 1: my soul mate, And on my deathbed, I'll write in
Speaker 1: my little note like I love you were my soul mate,
Speaker 1: and then I'm you know gonna die and you're gonna
Speaker 1: be like, man, I wish I would have told her
Speaker 1: that she was my soulmate. That took a really dead time.
Speaker 1: I see the movie right now. You might just tell me.
Speaker 1: You can tell her when you go upstairs. I just
Speaker 1: don't know what the difference mean. I mean, if you
Speaker 1: if you can honestly look at me right now and
Speaker 1: say that I'm not your soul mate, slash the one,
Speaker 1: you're my wife and you're the one I meant to
Speaker 1: be with. I need the term. I need to know
Speaker 1: I'm mate. This is going to drive her stil nuts
Speaker 1: so mad by Janna. If she really likes a meal,
Speaker 1: like something really good definitely not Tahita, And if you
Speaker 1: definitely and she wants you to try bye, if you
Speaker 1: say no, she'll get like highs within anxiety and she's
Speaker 1: like you have to try this. I'm like, I know
Speaker 1: it's so good. Were and I was eating the most
Speaker 1: incredible cech ever and I think it was so good
Speaker 1: and I was like, honey, we please try. But he's like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm good. I was like, can you please try it?
Speaker 1: Buy it because I just know how good it was.
Speaker 1: She takes it personal, like she made it. She's like,
Speaker 1: please try this. I knew how much you love it.
Speaker 1: And guess what did he order? Like five more the
Speaker 1: entire time we were there, it was fantastic. But the
Speaker 1: point was for a twenty minutes she was like, couldn't
Speaker 1: sit still, like just try it, just place, try it.
Speaker 1: And then he's like, well try this. I was like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm good. But for some reason, when I want someone
Speaker 1: to try something because I know that they're going to
Speaker 1: like it, it really it physically gives me hives and
Speaker 1: I started to get anxiety. I was so she feel
Speaker 1: this way about me not saying the soul mate, well,
Speaker 1: it just it just makes me sad that, like you
Speaker 1: don't think that I'm your the one and you're you're
Speaker 1: the one I'm meant to be with what I would
Speaker 1: google airplane writing words over homes and like, Janna, you're
Speaker 1: my soul mate. He doesn't, really, I'm not your soul mate.
Speaker 1: It's obviously I'm going to keep looking for my soul mate.
Speaker 1: So if anyone wants to be my soul mate, email
Speaker 1: me at Janne Kramer. I hurt me. I'm gonna find
Speaker 1: myself a soul mate. Next topic, what else what else. Oh,
Speaker 1: we've just turned the dateline. Um, so the next thing
Speaker 1: is when we were doing our little half a seat. Um,
Speaker 1: I'm fine. On YouTube, my husband says, So here here's
Speaker 1: the deal. I went to therapy and I've just been
Speaker 1: very overwhelmed. We have a new baby coming obviously in
Speaker 1: less than seven weeks, and it's fast approaching, and I
Speaker 1: get very overwhelmed with things. I have a very hard
Speaker 1: time delegate. I love actually I love delegating, but I
Speaker 1: have a very hard time asking for help. So my
Speaker 1: pist encouraged me to ask for help. More So I
Speaker 1: wrote a honey to do list, and I said, and
Speaker 1: I put on there too when I would like it done,
Speaker 1: because I want things done yesterday. But you know, a
Speaker 1: dollhouse on this We'll get there later, because that's a
Speaker 1: great point too. No, it was not on there, but
Speaker 1: so I said, you know, please have all the trash
Speaker 1: taken out by the end of the month. Uh, clean
Speaker 1: up the backyard. Um, you know, sometime this week would
Speaker 1: be nice, please. And there was a few things with
Speaker 1: the kids that I was having. I need we need
Speaker 1: to transfer some of Jolie's medical stuff, and I said,
Speaker 1: please call her doctor's places and get her files sometime
Speaker 1: before this date that we're going to the new doctor
Speaker 1: at just things that like I didn't I wanted to
Speaker 1: alleviate off of my plate. And he says to me, Michael,
Speaker 1: I said, okay. No. First of all, I said, okay,
Speaker 1: that's not the first thing you said when you gave
Speaker 1: me the list. How long is the list? There was
Speaker 1: like four things? What did I say? You were like like,
Speaker 1: right now, you have to give this to me. Well, again,
Speaker 1: it's like timing. I was in the middle of I
Speaker 1: was in the middle of doing something, okay, and she's
Speaker 1: and it's just like I hate when I get overloaded too.
Speaker 1: So it's like I'm in the middle of doing something,
Speaker 1: taking care of something, and then she hands me this list,
Speaker 1: and I'm like like right now, like you're gonna hand
Speaker 1: this when I'm in the middle of like doing some
Speaker 1: work or whatever it was I was doing, Like, you're
Speaker 1: gonna hand this to me. So it's all about timing
Speaker 1: for me, okay. But then he says, well, where is
Speaker 1: your honey to do list? So his question when she posed,
Speaker 1: so he said that that one day and I kind
Speaker 1: of let it go until last night when we're doing
Speaker 1: our have a seat. He goes, I have a question.
Speaker 1: Why don't the guys ever wady honey to do list
Speaker 1: for the white serious? Her eyes just not. I was
Speaker 1: of her. I said, has a guy we can watch
Speaker 1: this video? Prooved? I said, has a guy ever given
Speaker 1: his wife honey to do the list? He'd be? I
Speaker 1: didn't say why don't? I said, I didn't say why
Speaker 1: don't guys? I said, has a guy ever done that?
Speaker 1: What would you put on a list? Mike? Stuff? We
Speaker 1: want you get done what? It's already all? Thank you?
Speaker 1: There just not coming. He's like, you're on your own. Pa.
Speaker 1: Have I not done that? You would like to put
Speaker 1: on the honey to do list for your wife? Go ahead? Mike,
Speaker 1: you have the floor, everyone's listening. What do you want
Speaker 1: to put on there? By the way, I'm serious here
Speaker 1: you you you asked and post a question. I would
Speaker 1: like to know what you want me to do on
Speaker 1: top of everything else that I do, that you want
Speaker 1: on that list? Go ahead? I didn't come prepared exactly
Speaker 1: what I would like you to do? Is this is
Speaker 1: a joke. If you even pick up after yourself, excuse me?
Speaker 1: Is um? I don't know what because that's already all done.
Speaker 1: It's already all done. She leaves stuff around the house.
Speaker 1: What you know what it's I'm so sorry. I'm literally
Speaker 1: going to throw this pen right in your eyeball. But
Speaker 1: you and it told me one time that I sometimes
Speaker 1: leave my shoes around the house. I have done a
Speaker 1: very good job to make sure to put my shoes away.
Speaker 1: What else have I left around the house? You leave
Speaker 1: things and things that shouldn't that aren't. Like I have
Speaker 1: this cute little candle thing and he puts his coins
Speaker 1: in there, and I'm like, this is not yours. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: be careful when you walk into our house because you're
Speaker 1: gonna walk into about two dozen half drinking Lacroix cans
Speaker 1: everywhere pregnant, so that stops you from throwing them away.
Speaker 1: Please counsel us right now. I'm just hoping that you
Speaker 1: both you drove separately here today, trust me, did no.
Speaker 1: I just is just so many things that I do
Speaker 1: and that wives do that you don't know that we
Speaker 1: even do. For example, like we talked about, we don't
Speaker 1: have to keep it. You know what, I'm going to
Speaker 1: say this to all the women out there, all the wives,
Speaker 1: all the girlfriends, everything Leslie. You know me, girl, and
Speaker 1: I got you right now. For the next week, don't
Speaker 1: touch anything, don't do anything. The world will fall apart.
Speaker 1: Give it another week. Your life is like Lee. I'm
Speaker 1: not challenging you, just I'm challenging the women to stop. Stop,
Speaker 1: go on strike. Pick up the kids stuff, don't do
Speaker 1: don't do the laundry, don't fold their clothes, don't put
Speaker 1: away there they're over there. I will give Michael that
Speaker 1: he does. We do a very good job of like
Speaker 1: doing the dishosher and doing those like household chores. I
Speaker 1: will give him that. But when it comes to the
Speaker 1: kids stuff, the planning, and you know, all the things
Speaker 1: that I that up for the new baby, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm just not going to do anything anymore. And I'm
Speaker 1: gonna see and you always will you do it before me. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'll see if you even think of something, the things
Speaker 1: that actually need to be taking place. I'm heated. I'm
Speaker 1: on strike, ladies and gentlemen. You're gonna have a lot
Speaker 1: of I mean, what else are you going to do? Right, honey?
Speaker 1: So can you guys explain to me? Um? I'm gonna
Speaker 1: email Watermelon now the giant dollhouse that's been constructed that
Speaker 1: looks like a guest house. We were we were talking
Speaker 1: about Christmas ideas. It's actually a guest room in the
Speaker 1: back since our son is taking our third bedroom here,
Speaker 1: it's actually the guest room. So my we were looking
Speaker 1: at our backyard and we realized that the playgrounds that
Speaker 1: that we got for Jolie last Christmas, she's completely outground.
Speaker 1: She doesn't been stand in anymore. She's she's too she's
Speaker 1: too big for it. She doesn't even go in it.
Speaker 1: So I started looking at dollhouses online and they're very expensive.
Speaker 1: They're like two grand up, like they're real nice wooden ones.
Speaker 1: So I was like, hey, honey, I was thinking about
Speaker 1: buying this for Jolie for Christmas, because, as you know,
Speaker 1: I'm already on top of things for what we should
Speaker 1: get our daughter for Christmas, three months ahead, three months
Speaker 1: ahead of thinking. He's just ugly staring, he was giving
Speaker 1: so anyways, so I said, and he so we're we're
Speaker 1: building right now a house in Nashville. Okay, so we're
Speaker 1: gonna we're yes, we're making our our our move back
Speaker 1: to nash sometime next year. And he wants a work
Speaker 1: bench so this is a little offside moment. He wants
Speaker 1: a work bench in his garage, and I said, why
Speaker 1: do you want to work bench? You don't build anything
Speaker 1: like you don't He's I've never You still need a
Speaker 1: place in new cabinets. You need to work bench. You
Speaker 1: need stuff, even if it's a household stuff. And you
Speaker 1: fix something, you gotta have a place to do it.
Speaker 1: You don't do it on the kitchen counter. But like
Speaker 1: I grew up, you have a workbench, garage, you got cadas,
Speaker 1: you got tools, that's what you three years, I've never
Speaker 1: seen him do anything on the workbench that we had
Speaker 1: at the old house. He might have put like a
Speaker 1: little like nail, like those little nail things that you
Speaker 1: put for you know, hanging a paint tang. I was like,
Speaker 1: you've never done anything handy, right, So he's like we're
Speaker 1: circling background. He's like, well, what if I make her
Speaker 1: a doll house? And I was like, you can't make
Speaker 1: her a dollhouse, Like there's no way. And he's like,
Speaker 1: if I make her a dollhouse, can I get my
Speaker 1: work bench in the house. And I said, fine, if
Speaker 1: you can prove to me that you can actually make
Speaker 1: a dollhouse. So cut to the next day he was
Speaker 1: at home depot and he got all this would and
Speaker 1: go ahead and Michael, yeah, So again, just because Jeanna
Speaker 1: hasn't seen me physically do any of this, you know,
Speaker 1: carpentry or manual labor or anything like that, because we
Speaker 1: haven't had to. But there's nothing we've had to build
Speaker 1: or do anything like that. Because she hasn't seen it
Speaker 1: first hand, she doesn't think I'm handy. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: all right, after shut it off real quick. Because I
Speaker 1: grew up building stuff with my dad all the time,
Speaker 1: we built dex we built sheds. I've done it all.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, all right, well, challenge accepted.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you that I am. So I went
Speaker 1: up the necessary tools, got the lumber, and I'm building
Speaker 1: it myself. And she and she even asked me like
Speaker 1: I was putting space in between the four boards. She's like,
Speaker 1: how do you know how to do that? I was like,
Speaker 1: because I know how to do this. You look like
Speaker 1: a total pro. You have that triangle metal thing and
Speaker 1: you have a pencil out and you're like, well, producer
Speaker 1: Amy texted me and she goes, let's talk about the
Speaker 1: fact that your husband's wearing a tool belt, but it
Speaker 1: looks like nothing's actually in the tool belt walking around
Speaker 1: with an empty toolbottle. Which is really funny that you
Speaker 1: guys went on date night. You were working on it,
Speaker 1: you went on date night, and then all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: it's like I was like, is he kneeling stuff together?
Speaker 1: At midnight? Yeah? I felt like we're going to come
Speaker 1: home after like a really nice, nice date night and
Speaker 1: we're going to cuddle him, bead and have a little
Speaker 1: like into mistech. No, No, he went back out to
Speaker 1: the dollhouse to start. Yeah. I was like, not the
Speaker 1: way that I wanted to end the night. But it's
Speaker 1: just she, I mean, she lit a fire under me
Speaker 1: and on now, all I want to do is just
Speaker 1: get that done and show her improved to her like
Speaker 1: that I am handy and I know how to do
Speaker 1: these things. I mean, it's like a two story like
Speaker 1: dollhouse and it's building him. It's it's eight ft by
Speaker 1: eight feet okay, um one and a half Okay. I
Speaker 1: will say, I'm really impressed by you. I'm impressed that
Speaker 1: you haven't quit yet. I'm not going to like, what
Speaker 1: are you going to are you going to use um
Speaker 1: real what are those called shingles or tile? What is
Speaker 1: that singles? I've been decided yet still it's like sliding
Speaker 1: windows or um Yeah, probably probably remote remote windows a
Speaker 1: power outside. This is like you guys are going to
Speaker 1: have to move it. We're gonna know we have to.
Speaker 1: And I will say, I'm, I'm it's really cute to
Speaker 1: see Jolie and him there were come together, So I
Speaker 1: was like, this is really cute. Yeah, And I will
Speaker 1: say like I was coming home yesterday from home depot
Speaker 1: and as maybe hokey as it sounds, I was carrying
Speaker 1: some more lumber into the backyard and I just had
Speaker 1: a moment where I felt extremely grateful and kind of
Speaker 1: reflected on the past couple of years, what we've been through,
Speaker 1: where we've been. I was like, how awesome is this
Speaker 1: that I'm in the place I am getting to build
Speaker 1: my daughter like this dollhouse, and because I'm pregnant in
Speaker 1: the house that we share together as a family. It
Speaker 1: just I had a moment yesterday. I wanted to share
Speaker 1: it with Jannah and I meant to yesterday but we
Speaker 1: got busy. But but yeah, I felt that I was like,
Speaker 1: this is the best feeling ever, Like, if there's any
Speaker 1: kind of healthy behavior like this is it. That's really sweet?
Speaker 1: It was cool, that's cool. I'm sorry if everything is
Speaker 1: that during this podcast and I think you and I
Speaker 1: think you're so great and you can write me honey
Speaker 1: to do list if you want. Thank you know that's sweet,
Speaker 1: and I'm just it's yeah, it's it's the healthy behavior
Speaker 1: and you're You're just I'm really proud of you. I'm
Speaker 1: excited to see the Stallhouse come together. So I'm really
Speaker 1: excited about this thing that I just learned about. It's
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Speaker 1: I mean albums and albums which I miss honestly today
Speaker 1: in this day and age, but you know, from childhood,
Speaker 1: my parents have so many pictures in their garage and
Speaker 1: on all these books and they're just kind of sitting
Speaker 1: there and I never do you ever get to see yours.
Speaker 1: I mean, they're in a they're just in a box.
Speaker 1: So it's taking up space, um first and foremost, but
Speaker 1: then also I kind of want to be able to
Speaker 1: have it all in one thing. So that's why I'm
Speaker 1: really excited about legacy box because all you have to
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Speaker 1: you think? Yeah? I did this over the summer. Took
Speaker 1: a photo album and it took me hours because you scan,
Speaker 1: I'd like four times. Yeah, but then you have to
Speaker 1: go in and you have to like split up the
Speaker 1: different things because it copies them always one big collage,
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Speaker 1: past today. I'm actually really excited about this because I
Speaker 1: feel like this term gets thrown around a lot, but
Speaker 1: yet we really know the true definition of what a
Speaker 1: narcissist is, right, And how many do we have in
Speaker 1: our lives exactly? And are we a narcissist? Count five?
Speaker 1: But are you one? Though? That's the thing we're about
Speaker 1: to find out. Laura, Hey, you got the crew, You
Speaker 1: got the wine Down Crew, So I'm we're really excited
Speaker 1: to have you on because can you just, you know,
Speaker 1: first off, tell us in our listeners, what is the
Speaker 1: true definition of a narcissist. A narcissist truly someone with
Speaker 1: a personality disorder. Um. In my book, there there are
Speaker 1: a characteristics that psychologist psychiatrists have said that a person
Speaker 1: with narcissistic personality disorder has You have that? I can?
Speaker 1: I can. I'm going to lift them up. And my
Speaker 1: husband applies to any of these boxes as are checked.
Speaker 1: You know, people say everyone knows the narcissists in his
Speaker 1: or her life. Do you think so, how many? How
Speaker 1: many of those they come to realize that the narcissist
Speaker 1: is looking back at them in the mirror. None? None,
Speaker 1: because there's no self awareness with the narcissists. Absolutely not. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's very true. Okay, so can you just give me
Speaker 1: to the point so I can we can those down
Speaker 1: and yeah, here we go. I'll give you all of them. Okay.
Speaker 1: The first one is has the grandiose sense of self important.
Speaker 1: For example, they accept rate their achievements and their talents.
Speaker 1: They expect to be recognized as superior without any commensurate achievements.
Speaker 1: So yeah, Number two is preoccupied with fantash fantasies of
Speaker 1: unlimited success, power, brilliant, beauty, or love. Number three believe
Speaker 1: that he or she is special and unique and should
Speaker 1: only be surrounded or associate with other special or high
Speaker 1: status people. Okay, next one requires excessive ever sorry are
Speaker 1: you okay? I love it? And it has a very
Speaker 1: strong sense of entitlement unreasonable expectations of from people. Um.
Speaker 1: The next one is exploitative of others, so basically they
Speaker 1: take advantage of other people to serve themselves. Um. The
Speaker 1: big one is the huge I have not heard of
Speaker 1: or met a narcissist that has empathy. A narcissist lacks empathy.
Speaker 1: They do not look at the feelings or needs of others. Um.
Speaker 1: And they're two more is often envious of others or
Speaker 1: belief that others are envious of him or her. And
Speaker 1: then the last one is regularly shows arrogant, haughty behaviors
Speaker 1: or attitudes, hatty behaviors, haughty like um, yeah, potty potty
Speaker 1: h A crap? Check that one off from me? Shoot,
Speaker 1: that X is accent? That's okay, okay. Have you ever
Speaker 1: actually met someone that has all of these? My ex
Speaker 1: has eight seven of the eight. How long were you
Speaker 1: with your ax? Way too long? Sixteen years? How did
Speaker 1: you survive seriously seriously. Um, lots of counseling. Um. I
Speaker 1: eventually lived upstairs. I talk about all of this in
Speaker 1: my book That pub Ugly Love. Eventually lived upstairs and
Speaker 1: even moved from the guest room into my sunsroom because
Speaker 1: he would not come in there and scream at me
Speaker 1: and yell at me. Um, if my little boy was around,
Speaker 1: How did you break away? Because isn't it almost impossible
Speaker 1: to get away from a narcissist? Don't they what's the
Speaker 1: word they play with your brain? The gaslight you? It's
Speaker 1: all gaslighting. They yes, they gaslight you, and they eventually
Speaker 1: isolate you from friends, family, and they tell you that
Speaker 1: make you think you're so crazy that you know, he
Speaker 1: would say things like, Laura, you're I'm the only one
Speaker 1: who could ever love you. If you ever leave me,
Speaker 1: good luck. You can't compete with all these other women
Speaker 1: in Dallas. No one will love you. You You know, you
Speaker 1: better stick with me. You start to believe that, But
Speaker 1: you know, Um, how did I leave? Through therapy and
Speaker 1: realizing leaving wouldn't be any worse than what I was
Speaker 1: going through? Did you probably is probably so much? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm the happiest I've ever been. Did you grow up
Speaker 1: with a narcissistic parent. Is that that is a great question. Yes,
Speaker 1: that that typically all the women. I have a Facebook
Speaker 1: group it's called Victorious Voices, and it's mostly women. We
Speaker 1: have a couple of guys that are members, but almost
Speaker 1: everyone has someone in their family that is a narcissist,
Speaker 1: and that becomes your default because it's that conditional, almost
Speaker 1: unattainable love and you never really get that from that
Speaker 1: parent or grandparents, so you try to sign that in
Speaker 1: your next significant relationship, which is often a partner. What
Speaker 1: is your best advice to deal with family members who
Speaker 1: are full blown narcissists. Stay away as much as you can,
Speaker 1: and when you are in their presence, don't expect anything
Speaker 1: from them. Um. It helps me to learn to anticipate
Speaker 1: what mine was a parent, what this parent would say
Speaker 1: to me. Even in the last two years. I would think, Oh,
Speaker 1: she's going to criticize how I am setting the table
Speaker 1: or how I'm raising my son. And I would count
Speaker 1: like one to three, and then there it would be
Speaker 1: so prepare myself and mostly, Wow, Michael, do you know
Speaker 1: anyone that's a true narcissist like this that has all
Speaker 1: those eight points? Because I'm not, and I don't know
Speaker 1: there are things that I can say, oh maybe this
Speaker 1: one point or this one, but I don't know anyone
Speaker 1: that actually has all. Well that's all I was gonna
Speaker 1: ask Laura, after how many of these kind of going
Speaker 1: down the checklist does someone have to have check off,
Speaker 1: you know, three out of the eight to be really
Speaker 1: considered a true narcissist or is there do you have
Speaker 1: any kind of system around that? Um there, it's five
Speaker 1: of the eight. That's what psychologists and psychiatrists have determined,
Speaker 1: and those eight characteristics are listed in there. It's called
Speaker 1: a diagnostic in statistical Manual of personality or um psychiatric disorder.
Speaker 1: So it is truly an illness. And you know they
Speaker 1: don't change. These people don't change. So you know it's
Speaker 1: to get out or stay away or laurens that or
Speaker 1: very very thick skin. You really don't think there's any
Speaker 1: hope for a narcissist at all, even if they were
Speaker 1: to go through, because really they just don't. I'm getting
Speaker 1: shaking their heads in the right, Okay, But but I
Speaker 1: mean for Mike, I mean you could have you were
Speaker 1: a strong manipulator, and you've now been able to kind
Speaker 1: of see and change that. Yeah, But but I also
Speaker 1: had the capability of empathy, and I didn't think of
Speaker 1: myself better than other people, and I'm still grounded human beings.
Speaker 1: So yes, I had negative traits of things like being
Speaker 1: manipulating to hide my secrets or flaws or whatever, but
Speaker 1: I had other characteristics that completely go against what a narcissistem.
Speaker 1: He didn't have the checklist to diagnose him with a
Speaker 1: personality disorder. Personality disorders are almost untreatable, so they're just
Speaker 1: screwed pretty much with people around them. But that's sad though,
Speaker 1: that's sad that someone you can't get through people like that. Well,
Speaker 1: we all know people that it's hard to get through
Speaker 1: to them, right, But I think, I mean, over time,
Speaker 1: can't you if if there was like an intervention to
Speaker 1: be like, look, ten out of ten people in this room,
Speaker 1: I think that you have all these traits and you
Speaker 1: really need to look at yourself. Like even that one worked.
Speaker 1: It's like if you have like an old, senile grandparent
Speaker 1: or something like, you just kind of accept it, right,
Speaker 1: So it's it's kind of to the degree of that
Speaker 1: like use an old person not necessarily, but I'm disorders.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that's an example of you just accepting
Speaker 1: how they are, so like, oh, this is my grandfather,
Speaker 1: this is my grandmother, she's this way, that's just her
Speaker 1: and you accept it. And so dealing with people with this,
Speaker 1: I feel like it's kind of the same thing once
Speaker 1: you address it and you acknowledge it, like you know
Speaker 1: what you are, what you are called, you know, spade
Speaker 1: to space, even move on, right. I don't think it's hopeless,
Speaker 1: but I will tell you of all the research I've done.
Speaker 1: There is a psychologistic guy named Lundy Bancroft, and he
Speaker 1: has counseled over two thousands abusive, emotionally and verbally abusive men,
Speaker 1: and he says he's only seen a just a handful
Speaker 1: like two or three change and it took years and years.
Speaker 1: He must be exhausted. Do you see it more in
Speaker 1: this day and age or is it more because I
Speaker 1: I honestly see some of these traits in someone in
Speaker 1: my family. So what do you see it as as
Speaker 1: older people? Or is it? Does it? Does age really
Speaker 1: make a difference? Age doesn't make a difference. You know,
Speaker 1: there's some a lot of people joke O with's some
Speaker 1: millennials and they're very, um, narcissistic. But then you look
Speaker 1: at those millennials that care so much about the environment
Speaker 1: and it's impact on all of us and others, and
Speaker 1: so you know, I, you know, I don't know, but
Speaker 1: age does not make a difference. Um. You know, I
Speaker 1: still have a narcissistic parents and in her seventies. And
Speaker 1: then I have you know, my ex who's in his fifties.
Speaker 1: So and do you tell her she's a narcissist? Um? Well, yes,
Speaker 1: there's a chapter in the book about it. And we
Speaker 1: do not speak right now. I'm sorry, it's nope, it's
Speaker 1: a free and feeling. It's kind of like when I
Speaker 1: left my x now ex husband. So so what do
Speaker 1: you do now to like move forward in your new relationships?
Speaker 1: Like what are you just like if you see one
Speaker 1: of these traits, you're you run for the hills or
Speaker 1: are you? Um? There are some traits to look for
Speaker 1: when you're dating. And I've learned what those are, and
Speaker 1: yessess um there are three or four that I'll tell
Speaker 1: you they're the most important. One is narcissist are very
Speaker 1: very charming, Like on the first day they will roll
Speaker 1: out the red carpet for you, flowers, you know, the
Speaker 1: nicest restaurant you know, blah blah blah. Another one is that,
Speaker 1: and they like to move very very fast. They want
Speaker 1: to hook you. And if you don't see that any
Speaker 1: perceived you know, default in their character or any you know,
Speaker 1: just like lack of integrity, they want to move very
Speaker 1: very fast, whether it's intimacy or you know, telling you
Speaker 1: I love you. I had a guy tell me you
Speaker 1: loved me on the second day. I'm like, really, I've
Speaker 1: known you for like about an hour and a half.
Speaker 1: How they know the second I don't know what? Um?
Speaker 1: And then another one is and you will notice that
Speaker 1: they eventually begin to gas light you, like they'll subtly say,
Speaker 1: they'll say something and then you might question them about it,
Speaker 1: Like they'll say, oh, um, your hair looks okay, and
Speaker 1: then you'll ask them about it later. Will you you
Speaker 1: don't like my hair this way? No, I never said
Speaker 1: anything like that. I've never miss your Starting to make
Speaker 1: you feel crazy, Yes, you start to feel crazy, But
Speaker 1: those are probably the top three or sounds like a lifetime.
Speaker 1: I wish I would have met you three years ago,
Speaker 1: and I hope not. I'm just I'm just ignoring all
Speaker 1: of these comments. No, no, I will say those like
Speaker 1: the charming and moving fast that that just plays onto
Speaker 1: our love addiction. So I you know, yes, I'm there,
Speaker 1: I'm a love addict to Why do you think? Where
Speaker 1: do you think the term narcis like narcissist or narcissism
Speaker 1: is thrown around as easily as it is, like, you know,
Speaker 1: people get an arguments, you're such a narcissist this or that.
Speaker 1: Why why do you think that is? I think, um,
Speaker 1: the word is more commonplace these days, and not to
Speaker 1: get policial, but you know what I'm talking about, right, Um,
Speaker 1: So people tend to just use that word not knowing
Speaker 1: it exactly what a true narcissist is, someone who's maybe
Speaker 1: ultra confident. They say, oh, you're such a narcissist. You know,
Speaker 1: you can be very confident, but not be a narcissism
Speaker 1: for sure. That makes sense. You look at what you do?
Speaker 1: Three do you know you're you have this awesome podcast
Speaker 1: and you're confident what you do, but you're not a narcissist.
Speaker 1: You have empathy? Yeah? I mean I I don't I
Speaker 1: look at this list and I don't feel like I'm
Speaker 1: an narcissist you because I think it's so funny that
Speaker 1: you're like, hold on, do I check any of these
Speaker 1: vis I think sometimes we can mean, but some of
Speaker 1: these I don't think you don't check, Laura mat Now,
Speaker 1: when you're in your life, you know, post your divorce
Speaker 1: with your ex husband and everything, do you still kind
Speaker 1: of deal with a lot of trauma from that relationship
Speaker 1: trying to move forward in your personal life with with
Speaker 1: other you know, men or dating. That's a great question. Um,
Speaker 1: I didn't initially with men, I would date. I would Um.
Speaker 1: I found myself, especially right after the divorce, being attracted
Speaker 1: to narcissis, but that too reset my default, if you will. Um,
Speaker 1: And lately I've kind of gone the other way. I'll
Speaker 1: go out with guys i'm they've even attracted to and
Speaker 1: I end up on a date going okay, just really stuck.
Speaker 1: So I've got to get happy medium. So yes, in
Speaker 1: the beginning, I did. And it's uncomfortable on the beginning,
Speaker 1: isn't that? Yes, what a great journey though, I mean,
Speaker 1: you went through something that sucks, but you're you have
Speaker 1: like the silver lining. You have a you have a
Speaker 1: book that's called Ugly Love a survivor story of narcissistic abuse.
Speaker 1: So I think that's really great because now you're you're
Speaker 1: able to give back in the struggles that you faced.
Speaker 1: I have. I spoke with a woman yesterday and she's
Speaker 1: been um with a narcissist for almost twenty years and
Speaker 1: she's ready to go, and so we talked about how
Speaker 1: to exit that relationship without losing her money and her
Speaker 1: kids and her home and it's all the things that
Speaker 1: are important to her. And she texted me last night
Speaker 1: because I just feel like I can conquer the world now.
Speaker 1: And I thought, Okay, that's why I wrote the book.
Speaker 1: Right there, I'm done. That was that was your purpose theory,
Speaker 1: that's my purpose? So where can where can my listeners
Speaker 1: find everything about you? Um? I have a website called
Speaker 1: the Ugly Love Book dot com and then you can
Speaker 1: find my book on Amazon or Barns and Nobles dot
Speaker 1: com that if you want to friend me on Facebook
Speaker 1: at Flora Koreansa with a d H, and I can
Speaker 1: lead you to my page. For those of us that
Speaker 1: have been through this journey or are going through it,
Speaker 1: I love it. Well, thank you so much for sharing
Speaker 1: your insight and I'm going to start exing some people
Speaker 1: out of my life, right that garden weed, that garden baby,
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, you do it all right, Thanks
Speaker 1: so much, guys, Bye bye bye. I honestly feel like
Speaker 1: the narcissistic people I have in my life they are older,
Speaker 1: are all older people in my family. I feel the
Speaker 1: same way you do. Absolutely. Yeah, I don't even know.
Speaker 1: I can honestly say I don't think I have a
Speaker 1: true narcissist that I know, or am I family. I
Speaker 1: think again, for me, maybe a grandparent or something. It's
Speaker 1: they're kind of stuck in their ways. That's how That's
Speaker 1: how I look at it, because there is they don't
Speaker 1: check all these boxes. There are some that they're definitely not.
Speaker 1: So I think that in that sense, it's a generational thing. Possibly.
Speaker 1: I don't think like your question to her about does
Speaker 1: it does age affect whether someone's a narcissist or they're
Speaker 1: more narcissistant and older generation, I think just there's more
Speaker 1: the older generation, there's more people stuck in their ways. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I actually got into radio from a play on this
Speaker 1: word because I wrote a story in fourth grade called Sussecran,
Speaker 1: which is narcissist backwards, and scran was the opposite character
Speaker 1: of Narcissus. Narcisi yes fourth grade and fourth grade, and
Speaker 1: he was secure and unsure of himself and wouldn't look
Speaker 1: in the way to see his reflection, and so it
Speaker 1: was a complete opposite. And I won the Young Author
Speaker 1: Award for in Michigan and I got to read the
Speaker 1: story live on air for the AM station in Detroit.
Speaker 1: And when I walked into the studio, I was like,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love this. Yes, that's really cool.
Speaker 1: Do you have the recording of that. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: get it. I've been trying and trying to get it.
Speaker 1: You should. If you do get it, put in a
Speaker 1: legacy box in that way you can have it forever. Okay.
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Speaker 1: You are so just You're naturally just stunning. I mean,
Speaker 1: you make but what do you do your face is
Speaker 1: just like you know, you're really making me feel good
Speaker 1: right now, so good. I don't know, are you like
Speaker 1: a family morning show. Because the truth is, I like,
Speaker 1: stop drinking. That's great. Stop drinking. Yeah, stop drinking wine
Speaker 1: the one o'clock every night, every night. Don't tell me
Speaker 1: that I have to every single night. Obviously I can't
Speaker 1: right now, but I'm not. I can't. That's I said
Speaker 1: to the same thing. And then I was like thirty
Speaker 1: pounds over the top and I stopped. I got it out.
Speaker 1: It's about even for the skin. That helps your skin
Speaker 1: because it dehydrates you all that stuff and you read
Speaker 1: all those beat hydrates. You read the beauty blogs and
Speaker 1: you're like, really, eight glasses of water, no booze, no bread.
Speaker 1: Who lives like that? Because I'm a pasta wine drinking
Speaker 1: So what are you drinking? It's no fun. I'm just
Speaker 1: about friends friends. I'm the I'm the friend with the
Speaker 1: lime and the silts of water. Now, no, but what
Speaker 1: about that? But it in the last say it was
Speaker 1: a nightmare the first couple of weeks. But I lost
Speaker 1: him pounds the first couple of weeks. Yes, because it's
Speaker 1: just you're just swollen, You're just in flaming. See, I
Speaker 1: disagree with you because because my trainer always says, I
Speaker 1: disagreed with myself Okay, maybe I'm just but I will
Speaker 1: say this, I feel like my body works differently because
Speaker 1: my trainer says, stop the wine and you'll get the blow.
Speaker 1: When I stop the wine, I get more bloated. And
Speaker 1: then when I drink my wine, my stom is flatter.
Speaker 1: He's like, my stomach is flatter in the morning when
Speaker 1: I wake up when I have wine. I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: I can't now, but that's the that's the mom and
Speaker 1: the wife and you, that's the married with kids in
Speaker 1: you girls. It's how I survived. So I just I
Speaker 1: don't know so much prettier with the martini. If I
Speaker 1: have to get more botox so that I can continue,
Speaker 1: then that's what I'm gonna do. I'll get some more hydration. Listen.
Speaker 1: And I'm not going to be the person who never
Speaker 1: has a drink of champagne at the wedding, you know.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be that person. But I had
Speaker 1: to do something and I didn't want to get like
Speaker 1: a bunch of fillers in my face, you know, And
Speaker 1: it was starting to show on my birthdays on Sunday. Well,
Speaker 1: why no way, no stop. Yeah wait, I mean I'm
Speaker 1: still not drinking wine, but I gonna do the man,
Speaker 1: but listen that Yeah, I was. I was born in
Speaker 1: nineteen seventy. Oh my god. But what's your background though racially? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what, I wish I had a really sexy
Speaker 1: answer for you, like I'm half Dominican. Yeah I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm just light skin. I'm black. I'm all black. But
Speaker 1: c so it's like I don't know everything. Like so, yeah,
Speaker 1: it really is the win great skin. Maybe that's it.
Speaker 1: But no, seriously, I just took a break from wine.
Speaker 1: I didn't really do anything else, not really a tequila person.
Speaker 1: I just had my glass of wine every night, and
Speaker 1: I lost weight, my skin cleared up. I use a
Speaker 1: thousand creams and serums. I'm just, you know, fighting the clock.
Speaker 1: Like they're just taking care of yourself. I'm just taking
Speaker 1: care of myself, taking an aggressive approach, taking care of yourself.
Speaker 1: Your kids are he summed it up. Stop sucking up
Speaker 1: to her right now, because I know you want something
Speaker 1: from her right now, and we'll get to that later.
Speaker 1: What is your work out? Um? I don't kill myself
Speaker 1: in real time. UM. I just do something every day. Um,
Speaker 1: and then on the weekends. I don't really do that much.
Speaker 1: But I like, you know, I do cardio, you know,
Speaker 1: I just go for it. That high intensity really works.
Speaker 1: Twenty minutes, that's usually all I have, and then I'll
Speaker 1: just do a circuit. You know, you don't have to
Speaker 1: pay someone. I've had really great trainers, but I got
Speaker 1: to the point with traveling and shooting and working and
Speaker 1: crazy schedules from the Empire right now, I'm Empire right now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I shoot out of town in Chicago, my families
Speaker 1: here in l As I'm flying home all the time.
Speaker 1: I had to create like a twenty minute workout for myself.
Speaker 1: And basically, you can get out of bed in your
Speaker 1: pajamas and you can either go for a run if
Speaker 1: that's what you like outdoors, or if you're in your pajamas,
Speaker 1: you get laid down on the side of the bed.
Speaker 1: You do tin setups, tin push ups, tin squats, ten
Speaker 1: jumping jacks, and you do that five times with your
Speaker 1: glass of wine in hand. Well, you have breakfast and
Speaker 1: then amosa. But that's great though. Yeah, I mean, and
Speaker 1: you have two kids, yes, ages ten eleven and thirteen.
Speaker 1: Yes boys girls. Nicholas um is going to be twelve
Speaker 1: on Halloween birthday and Sophie's my thirteen year old eighth grader. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so how's the thirteen year old girl? Because we have
Speaker 1: a three year old girl right now and then a
Speaker 1: boy on the way. So I know you're still in
Speaker 1: the wonderful stage. It's wonderful. Um, she's okay, wonderful is
Speaker 1: a strong word, but it is more times wonderful. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's more times wonderful. But she's been super challenging lately. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but then she has that one second of sweetness yet.
Speaker 1: But you knows, I just tried to do everything right.
Speaker 1: I like, Okay, you gotta have manners, you gotta be
Speaker 1: a good person, you gotta know how to make your bed.
Speaker 1: You gotta eat spaghetti with with not your fingers, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Just you have to say your grace.
Speaker 1: I just tried to give them everything, and then around
Speaker 1: nine eleven you start to see what sticks. So like
Speaker 1: I didn't really clearly do well in the bed making
Speaker 1: discipline in part, but Mike has been more of the disciplinary.
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, he's kind of like regiment and he's really
Speaker 1: good with teaching them time management because you know, seventh
Speaker 1: and eighth grade these days, it's serious, like you have
Speaker 1: to monitor the phone time. This is my son's a
Speaker 1: little athlete, the athletics, and so right now at thirteen,
Speaker 1: my daughter is a really sweet, kind person who just
Speaker 1: likes blue nail polish and blue hair extensions. First boy,
Speaker 1: thirteen and a half years. You've known each other about
Speaker 1: believe that's like a hundred years. In Hollywood, people ask
Speaker 1: us to speak on marriage panels. Yeah, so what's your secret?
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, It's like, married is one thing.
Speaker 1: I was just saying this, and married with kids is
Speaker 1: another thing. It's a really hard job. And anyone who
Speaker 1: tells you different has like eight thousand nannies. Okay, I
Speaker 1: have one, amazing one. And but in terms of your relationship,
Speaker 1: some of the old fashioned stuff, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like when you find your husband, you gotta make him
Speaker 1: your boyfriend. You know, youve got to still be boyfriend
Speaker 1: and girlfriend. That includes date night. Let's that includes you know,
Speaker 1: caring about what you wear and also being nice. Like
Speaker 1: we have every right in the world to be grumpy.
Speaker 1: So much stuff is coming at us and we're developing
Speaker 1: all these skills. Like you, I'm sure you can catch
Speaker 1: your baby like without even thinking, and you're gonna have
Speaker 1: to You're gonna have like these crazy octopus arms. Your
Speaker 1: brain's gonna explode. You're gonna know the weather three days
Speaker 1: in advance, and then do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: And now like somebody drops something in you're in traffic,
Speaker 1: like you might have a meltdown, and you're gonna call
Speaker 1: your husband, you know, in the four oh five. It
Speaker 1: just it's unfair and he's not going to understand. But
Speaker 1: that's just the reality. And so like the husband has
Speaker 1: to work too, and has he ever given you a
Speaker 1: honey to do list? What's the honey to do list? Well,
Speaker 1: you know how we give men honey to do list?
Speaker 1: That was my other thing, like trying not to give
Speaker 1: to my lists. But but has the husband would you
Speaker 1: even think that that's something that a husband should do
Speaker 1: for the wife, that the wife should have a honey
Speaker 1: to do list? Well, you know what, I would love that,
Speaker 1: What I would love that because listen, I would love
Speaker 1: it because what happens in a marriage is that you
Speaker 1: break down communication. He has all of a sudden, he
Speaker 1: has hearing problems, you know, he you know, but we
Speaker 1: do everything. Yeah, but no, I like I could I
Speaker 1: could just walk in the room of my husband would
Speaker 1: know I'm there and now I'm like at a party
Speaker 1: and I say, boris honey, sweetie, babe, babe. But like
Speaker 1: so I think that if my husband woke up and said,
Speaker 1: you know what, I would love. I would love it
Speaker 1: if you made the lasagna you made, and love it
Speaker 1: if you wear that black dress because I love it.
Speaker 1: That's not a honey, I'm talking And I wouldn't love
Speaker 1: to all that stuff because I'm like, you don't like
Speaker 1: the grace weapons, right? What I mean? No, I mean
Speaker 1: like a honey to do less, as in, like you know,
Speaker 1: tasks which we already do without even them even thinking
Speaker 1: of it. Will give me an example, like give me like,
Speaker 1: like to make the appointment for the kids dentist. Um,
Speaker 1: we've already done that. We've already been there, done that up,
Speaker 1: and you gotta sign up for that. Married with kids,
Speaker 1: you both got to do that. I'll call the dentists
Speaker 1: and make the appointment, but you gotta take them. Do
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? We went together. There's just
Speaker 1: no way you get We gotta work together. Yeah. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: And the other thing is that you know those self
Speaker 1: books they talk about you gotta be happy inside yourself. Yes,
Speaker 1: you can't lean on another person happiness. It's like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm stuck with this person. This person better make me happy,
Speaker 1: That's what I really think. But after thirteen years, guys,
Speaker 1: I can tell you that you gotta work on yourself. Yes,
Speaker 1: and bring You're happy to the dinner table. You just
Speaker 1: have to. There's no way you can't survive. Like, that's
Speaker 1: good a cookbook title, bring You're Happy to the table.
Speaker 1: Oh that's cute. I feel it coming. And I cooked too,
Speaker 1: got together. I'm a cook in the family, so really
Speaker 1: cooked break sides. Can you make mash potatoes? Sure, I
Speaker 1: can mash them potatoes. I can't make mashed potatoes. Figure
Speaker 1: it out. Let's fire out to do it. So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell I'm kind of going to burst your bubble
Speaker 1: bab because she knows about what you put on your head.
Speaker 1: I saw it. So we share the same publicist. And
Speaker 1: so when my husband was making a dollhouse jendorable dead situation,
Speaker 1: Nicole has come out with a new product. And so
Speaker 1: what Michael did is I brought this is if those
Speaker 1: of you that can't see obviously, it is the cutoffs.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I didn't realize that's what that
Speaker 1: was in the picture. Yeah, it's the cut off sleeve
Speaker 1: of Michael's T shirt. So he puts this on his
Speaker 1: head so the sweat won't go in his eyes when
Speaker 1: he was working. I need something on my head. So
Speaker 1: like when he was looking at your product, he's like,
Speaker 1: I needed this. I could actually use this, Like we
Speaker 1: are bringing that then to show her that you love
Speaker 1: that you showed it to me. Because you're not ready
Speaker 1: for this bit of detail information, please give it to us.
Speaker 1: Like six years ago, I sat down in my kitchen
Speaker 1: and I cut up my husband's dry fit T shirt
Speaker 1: to make my first prototype for my product that I'm
Speaker 1: now giving to your husband. He must have felt intuitively
Speaker 1: that that was the secret and this was you a
Speaker 1: couple of years ago. That's exactly what my husband was
Speaker 1: not happy. That's amazing. Yeah, I made it, and you know,
Speaker 1: and then I'm just a mom. I was actress. I
Speaker 1: went to with you, but I studied theater, I got
Speaker 1: a b f A. You know, I didn't know anything
Speaker 1: about business, and I just you know, hit the ground
Speaker 1: running and ask questions and corporate let's see it. I'm like,
Speaker 1: let's honey, I want you try it on. So I
Speaker 1: saw that it was gray workout too, Yes, yes, And
Speaker 1: I brought you, ladies a couple you designed this because
Speaker 1: and this was I have two designs. One is the
Speaker 1: tie and if you like them to like camo and sparkling,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna send you like a pretty package. But I
Speaker 1: just brought what I had. You explained to the listeners
Speaker 1: what they are. Okay, there are three layers sweatband that
Speaker 1: I created to fit every type of head, every type
Speaker 1: of hair, and it's just highly absorbent. Like there's a
Speaker 1: lot of cute sweatbands out there, but the sweat just
Speaker 1: dripped on your face. So I created a set band
Speaker 1: that actually absorbs your sweat. And then I know people
Speaker 1: who don't like the tie, look at him. I gotta
Speaker 1: get a picture later. This is my bandy for people
Speaker 1: who just want to wearn errands. My cheerleader customer wears this,
Speaker 1: my mom's on the run. These are just cute little
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Then Joe, this is gonna be worn
Speaker 1: every day. Now when I help you have the do
Speaker 1: you have the man type two that doesn't have the
Speaker 1: tie in the back, Yeah, I have gray and black.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna send you guys a little package.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna send your you and your husband this in gray,
Speaker 1: white and black. Okay, great, perfect, thank you. And so
Speaker 1: it's really keep your hair yeah yeah, off your forehead
Speaker 1: and you know, I um, it works for everybody. Like
Speaker 1: I'm a black woman and I made it because we
Speaker 1: always spend so much money on our hair. And when
Speaker 1: I first started my business, I did all these media buiyes.
Speaker 1: But basically you know those infomercials you see at night,
Speaker 1: Like I put the money back into buying those shot
Speaker 1: an infomercial. My biggest return was on the tennis channel,
Speaker 1: like my definitely, I all of a sudden overnight became
Speaker 1: like every white female outdoor athlete was like I need this,
Speaker 1: and then men realized they could wear two. But like
Speaker 1: I'm completely it's for everybody. Is it? Every age, every race,
Speaker 1: every size, and for bald people for the they're called
Speaker 1: they're called jim Wrap, jim rap, gim wrap dot com. Okay,
Speaker 1: so jim wrap dot com. And then is there specifically
Speaker 1: for men and women's bigger killer. I used to have
Speaker 1: three sizes, but everybody just bought one. So I just
Speaker 1: stream you have a big head through this one. I
Speaker 1: love the Thai. Yeah. If he likes the time, I'm
Speaker 1: going to send you a whole care pack. Okay, I
Speaker 1: mean that's fantast I've got boy colors lots where where
Speaker 1: can you do? You? Do you only e commerce them online?
Speaker 1: Or girl address? Six years of pounding the pavement. I'm
Speaker 1: in Target. Yeah, congratulation, and i just ordered more stores.
Speaker 1: I'm in. That's eleven hundred Sally Beauty in a hundred
Speaker 1: Walmarts and I'm online. What do they for you? Part
Speaker 1: of me? What do they retail for? Um? Different prices,
Speaker 1: somewhere anywhere between always having a sale. That's great. And
Speaker 1: you can just rinse them out, squeeze them in your
Speaker 1: sink and let them air dry, don't put them in
Speaker 1: the dryer, or you just throw them in with your
Speaker 1: towels or your pajamas. So yeah, yeah, they last a
Speaker 1: really long time. Wow. This is also cool running zoomba
Speaker 1: Yoga's thin crossed that way, training volleyball, at basketball, tennis, anything,
Speaker 1: anytime you sweat. My son went to school like I'm
Speaker 1: his mom, and he sees all my products laying around
Speaker 1: the house and I'm making gift bags for people and
Speaker 1: sitting out thank you notes for people have supported me.
Speaker 1: He goes to school and his friend is wearing the
Speaker 1: blue gym rap and sec in sixth grade and he's like,
Speaker 1: what are you doing with my mom's headband on? He's like,
Speaker 1: this isn't your mom's headband on? My dad bought this
Speaker 1: for me from from Target. And so I was like, like,
Speaker 1: it's really getting out there. You know, to come from
Speaker 1: my kitchen with the cut husband T shirt. Heck, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know that's fantastic. And then you're also an Empire right, yes,
Speaker 1: season I play a really mean person. You know, you're
Speaker 1: so like you just you give off that vibe mean girl. Now.
Speaker 1: I came in and as a guest star they I
Speaker 1: got a call saying, do you want to play Force
Speaker 1: Whittaker's ex wife and Oscar Winner's ex wife on Empire?
Speaker 1: Think about it? Think about No? I went it was great.
Speaker 1: It was so much fun. I was like, great clothes,
Speaker 1: thy high boots, for jackets, big earrings, like who wouldn't
Speaker 1: And so I then in the spring of this year,
Speaker 1: they said, do you want to be a regular? I said, yes, please,
Speaker 1: I want to work with Taragi. I've known Terrence for
Speaker 1: a really long time in the whole cast Jesse and Gabby.
Speaker 1: It's just so great and it's dangerous. It's fun. It's
Speaker 1: like emotional roller Coade. For an actor. This is like heaven.
Speaker 1: You know you have to do like you read the script.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I'm just happy I'm not dead. Yes,
Speaker 1: I remember that. And I get to like get in
Speaker 1: a fight with Cookie. I get to boss people around
Speaker 1: and you know, climb my way to the top and
Speaker 1: stand there. It's great. Are you enjoying Chicago? I am.
Speaker 1: I'm a city girl. I don't know what I'm doing
Speaker 1: out of your in l A. I've been here for ever.
Speaker 1: But your family? Are you born? Michael's from Well, you're
Speaker 1: from I lived in for a little while. You look
Speaker 1: so familiar. I don't know why. I like, it's like,
Speaker 1: did you wear? Do you to school? I went to
Speaker 1: James Madison Small School in Virginia. My husband went to
Speaker 1: BC You yeah, yeah? Is he from the East corrist
Speaker 1: Also he's from Germany Deutsche bi Yeah, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: he's literally my husband. We got married over there. He
Speaker 1: literally is from like we're Hansel and Gretel was written
Speaker 1: next one of my favorite cities. I can't wait to
Speaker 1: take him. I love Germany. I'm German, so his family
Speaker 1: on his mother's side is German, French and Jewish and
Speaker 1: his dad is from West Africa. So he always enters
Speaker 1: the room like, just back off, okay, I've, I've, I'm
Speaker 1: from the generations of the most persecuted people in the world.
Speaker 1: Don't even talk to me. I don't want to hear
Speaker 1: about the chiki's or anything. I know everything about Africa
Speaker 1: and and like, you know, German Judaism and like, you know,
Speaker 1: he's just the boss man, you know, the king of
Speaker 1: the castle. I love it. Yeah, smarter than everyone, even
Speaker 1: though I don't let him. So would you? Would you
Speaker 1: move your family in Chicago? Um? Move back? You don't
Speaker 1: like it because I feel like actors nowadays we don't
Speaker 1: have to. I just talked to my manage because we're
Speaker 1: we're building in Nashville, and I said, you know, everything
Speaker 1: now is off self tapes. It's it's like, do we
Speaker 1: really have to be here? And nothing I've ever filmed
Speaker 1: has ever actually been in l A anyway, So I'm like,
Speaker 1: we can get We're you know, we're building a beautiful house.
Speaker 1: So we could never buy here because it's it would
Speaker 1: be five million trillion dollars. I know it's a lot.
Speaker 1: It's you just have to like plan and hope, you know,
Speaker 1: like that's still on my bucket list. I want to
Speaker 1: just buy something in New York eventually, and you know,
Speaker 1: just I don't know, but I can't really do too
Speaker 1: much until the kids there your life now and once
Speaker 1: they get into middle school in high school, you don't
Speaker 1: want to move. That's what I'm saying about you guys,
Speaker 1: about like, you know, like the babies, you can. I
Speaker 1: took my kids with me everywhere. Yeah, they all right, Well,
Speaker 1: we love you. Thank you so much for coming on
Speaker 1: the show. Where can our listeners find you? Um, I'm
Speaker 1: on Instagram. It's my name, Nicole ra Parker. Um the
Speaker 1: gym rop dot com. I'm always having great sales and
Speaker 1: promotions and stuff. Um and um. Yeah, I had a
Speaker 1: great time. You guys are You're awesome. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: I really appreciate it. All right, y'all give it up
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Speaker 1: to raise some emails, I do. Um. Ashley says she
Speaker 1: and her boyfriend just moved into a place together about
Speaker 1: two months ago, and from the get go he was
Speaker 1: referring to us as roommates. His reasoning is because I
Speaker 1: never want to have sex anymore, and we never do
Speaker 1: a couple of things. Now we're on different schedules, so
Speaker 1: a lot of the time, so when he gets home
Speaker 1: from work, I'm already in bad asleep. But a couple
Speaker 1: of nights ago I did try to have sex with him.
Speaker 1: It started with me getting him in the mood and
Speaker 1: ended up with me rolling over crying because he said
Speaker 1: he just wasn't into it. I met a loss right
Speaker 1: now with what to do. Ever since that night, it's
Speaker 1: been awkw intense between us. I'm embarrassed because I feel
Speaker 1: like I don't do it for him anymore, and I'm
Speaker 1: upset because it's like nothing I do is right or
Speaker 1: good enough. He's always complaining about never having sex, but
Speaker 1: when I try, he's not in the mood or he's
Speaker 1: just not into it. Well, two things that I'm going
Speaker 1: to take from that is him saying his we never
Speaker 1: do a couple things, So callinghi roommates is very passive
Speaker 1: aggressive of him to say that you should talk from
Speaker 1: a better place. And it also sucks when you're the
Speaker 1: one you are trying and then he's not. It's like, hey,
Speaker 1: wait a minute, Like I'm I'm actually trying to give
Speaker 1: you what you said you wanted, but then you're not reciprocating.
Speaker 1: So I can understand how, but he might just be
Speaker 1: shut off at this point. My guy's perspective, I'm not sure,
Speaker 1: except that she's feeling a lot of rejection because the
Speaker 1: rejection is not fun. But if he's giving her crap
Speaker 1: about it, she's trying, so yeah, I mean, that's that's tough.
Speaker 1: What what stinks is that they went into the new
Speaker 1: place together starting off like that, came seeing that their roommates.
Speaker 1: So obviously this is something that was ongoing before that.
Speaker 1: And if he wasn't willing to stay in the relationship
Speaker 1: and keep working on it, they wouldn't have got a
Speaker 1: place together even though this was an issue. So clearly
Speaker 1: he still wants to be in it. They just have
Speaker 1: to talk about it. They have to put down their shields,
Speaker 1: put down their defense and just be like, look, you know.
Speaker 1: She can go to him like I'm sorry it's been
Speaker 1: this way, explain what's going on with her. But she's trying. Yes,
Speaker 1: I know they should talk about it, but she is.
Speaker 1: It's not like she's like yeah, but again, it's not.
Speaker 1: It's the whole thing I've said on here numerous times.
Speaker 1: Were not light switches, right, So if he has feelings,
Speaker 1: maybe these pent up feelings of resentment or whatever, torture
Speaker 1: because she hasn't want to be sexual in a while,
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden she tries one time.
Speaker 1: He's like, he still has resentment though he's like, no,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't want to because he's got feelings
Speaker 1: that he hasn't expressed to her and let out. So
Speaker 1: he's still angry or bit or whatever it might be.
Speaker 1: And they just moved in together a couple of months
Speaker 1: ago that it sounds like they need to talk about more,
Speaker 1: like there's there's a different issue. Maybe, yeah, definitely, maybe
Speaker 1: he's having second thoughts that they moved in together. You
Speaker 1: might be freaking him out. Yeah, I mean that's a
Speaker 1: big step. I feel like guys can definitely freak out. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: Did we get any paid forwards? As a matter of fact,
Speaker 1: we did. Terry emailed us a story an older handicap
Speaker 1: man was in front of her the grocery store and
Speaker 1: he was fifty two dollars short on his bill. The
Speaker 1: groceries were all bagged and he was a mess. He
Speaker 1: didn't know what to do, so I yelled, I'll pay it.
Speaker 1: I paid. I can't really afford to do that, but
Speaker 1: I just said i'd pay it. He said thank you,
Speaker 1: and I said Mary Christmas. I have no idea why
Speaker 1: I said that. I love her. The clerk said, that
Speaker 1: was so nice of you. All I could say was
Speaker 1: I was a single mother of three and in my
Speaker 1: very worst of time, somebody helped me. And I hope
Speaker 1: he enjoyed his food. Sweet that Terry. Did you guys,
Speaker 1: did you guys pay it forward? This week? We fed meters.
Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, that's awesome some yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: and that's one of those things. It's funny we kind
Speaker 1: of sent that challenge out in Janna and I were
Speaker 1: trying to We're almost trying to look for opportunities, like, oh,
Speaker 1: we gotta do something. That dinner we went to dinner
Speaker 1: date night, we went to go see Walker Hayes and
Speaker 1: we had dinner before and he's like, hey, let's pay
Speaker 1: for you know, they must be celebrating some let's pay
Speaker 1: for their meal. And I'm like, like it was just
Speaker 1: we were trying to figure it out about it to
Speaker 1: be for Yeah, we're trying. We realized we're trying too hard,
Speaker 1: and it's like the whole pay for things like it
Speaker 1: just comes to you. Situation comes to you, and if
Speaker 1: it doesn't in a week, that's fine. It's okay, but
Speaker 1: you know, situation day walking to the store to pick
Speaker 1: up some things and walked by a couple of meters
Speaker 1: and we saw someone red and saw some fewer running out.
Speaker 1: Let's just feed these. But I felt stressed out though,
Speaker 1: because we didn't have like the opportunities didn't really come.
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, we have to have We
Speaker 1: can't say that we didn't do anything, you know, but
Speaker 1: it becomes Yeah, it's like the opportunity has to be there,
Speaker 1: so you have to be aware of those opportunities when
Speaker 1: they're there. Did you do anything, It's okay if you didn't. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I did my huge you know, the contact always pay
Speaker 1: it forward with coffee, um, And I ordered a coffee
Speaker 1: maker for the staff here because you know, coffee is
Speaker 1: my thing and everybody is always trying to get a
Speaker 1: cup of coffee here. And I was like, why don't
Speaker 1: we have a why don't we have coffee here? Good coffee?
Speaker 1: That's rights Instagram and she had a she said thank you,
Speaker 1: Oh she did. Yeah, Oh that's okay. Um, And uh,
Speaker 1: you know, just the usual trying to pay it forward
Speaker 1: on a regular basis, trying to make people happy, make
Speaker 1: their day, easier bringing bagels in all that stuff. Did
Speaker 1: you pay for this week? For sure? But now this
Speaker 1: coming week will for sure? Last week I didn't. I
Speaker 1: don't go places or do things, so it's hard. It's
Speaker 1: hard if you don't, if you just go to work
Speaker 1: at home, it's hard to find the right opportunity. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: I do so much for so many people on a
Speaker 1: regular basis. It's hard to slate just one. But you
Speaker 1: know something I've been doing a lot, Well, know something
Speaker 1: I've been doing a lot of, actually is when I'm
Speaker 1: out Well, no grandiosity at its finest. No, No, I'm
Speaker 1: just I'm just better than everybody else. That's all. That's
Speaker 1: all it is. Surely you can understand. I was at
Speaker 1: the mall the other day and the scroll working at
Speaker 1: the clothing store Vans was struggling to move some product
Speaker 1: that was on the upper shelf. And I'm tall like
Speaker 1: to think of myself as a reacher, so I put
Speaker 1: myself on the clock for longer than I had anticipated
Speaker 1: and helped to move these things around. But it made
Speaker 1: me feel very good. I hope to think, I hope
Speaker 1: to think that her day was better because of that.
Speaker 1: I'm sure it was. It made her day easier. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's cool. You know one thing too, I was just
Speaker 1: thinking of it came to me when you're talking about
Speaker 1: something that lady was. I was at Walgreen's yesterday and
Speaker 1: this one clerk there is super talkative. You know a
Speaker 1: lot of times when you go to the stories, you
Speaker 1: just want to get in, get out, grab your stuff.
Speaker 1: And I sat there like talk to him and conversed
Speaker 1: with him for longer than I maybe usually would, and
Speaker 1: he seemed very apreciative and shook my hand when I
Speaker 1: was leaving and stuff like that. But just Eastern telling
Speaker 1: that like that could even be paid forward, Like even
Speaker 1: talk to somebody that's helping you were working somewhere that
Speaker 1: normally blow them off like I gotta go, I'm busy.
Speaker 1: You're right, Yes, you gave your time on right, which
Speaker 1: is the most valuable thing you can give, speaking of
Speaker 1: all grains. When I was going to pick up the prescription,
Speaker 1: there was this older couple there. It was such a
Speaker 1: long line and I was waiting forever, and I was like,
Speaker 1: maybe she should like let them go in front of me,
Speaker 1: and I was like, no, maybe that could him a
Speaker 1: pay for it. Now I think of something else, like like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to wait any longer, just like keeping
Speaker 1: it real. But I really truly intended to do something.
Speaker 1: Your heart was in the right place. But I was like,
Speaker 1: and she was so sweet. She was a little lunchback
Speaker 1: old lady. And I was like, I love that. That
Speaker 1: that what was her name? I love that. Terry said
Speaker 1: Merry Christmas. That's like when you go to movies and
Speaker 1: they say enjoy your movie, like here you too, you anywhere?
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. So this was a really fun show
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Speaker 1: was so much fun. I cannot wait. I cannot wait
Speaker 1: to wind down and see how the strike went this week.
Speaker 1: That was that was a heated one. I feel like
Speaker 1: we're gonna get a lot of emails. Ladies. The strike
Speaker 1: begins now and I want to hear how the week went,
Speaker 1: so email us please at Jenna Craman. I heart media
Speaker 1: dot com. Let the strike begin. Wind Down next week. Oh,
Speaker 1: one more thing before we go next week. Oh, next week,
Speaker 1: my girlfriend Kristin Cavalary is coming on the show. I
Speaker 1: love her. Yeah, she's the best. She's so awesome. So
Speaker 1: can't wait. Can't wait to chat with her because we
Speaker 1: talked about married life a couple of weeks ago and
Speaker 1: I was like, I need you on the show. So
Speaker 1: that's gonna be fun. Christ and Cavalary next week. Wind
Speaker 1: Down