Speaker 1: When you look at me, I know you see a
Speaker 1: fifteen year old getting his soul beckon, go to the studios,
Speaker 1: hopping o nemeousines, fucking the ladies, see fresh t shirt
Speaker 1: new And even though these things.
Speaker 2: Are true, it's hard work.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I just want to go.
Speaker 4: Home in time, my girl to dray.
Speaker 3: Have come on in Ray, God, welcome back. This is
Speaker 3: good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and I'm Meila, and
Speaker 3: we is getting our hair braided.
Speaker 2: Yes, he is.
Speaker 3: Me Andamila are going on trip tomorrow.
Speaker 5: And of course, in black girl fashion, we must get
Speaker 5: hair braided equals vacation.
Speaker 4: And we also must do it at the last minute,
Speaker 4: at ten forty three pm the night before our morning flight.
Speaker 2: Because we're smart. We're not we wait, we really plan
Speaker 2: out ahead.
Speaker 5: Playing things out really well. You also have Jamial is
Speaker 5: also holding a seven month year old baby right now.
Speaker 3: So do you hear a little cute little voice? That's her.
Speaker 3: Her name's Lincoln and she's freaking adorable.
Speaker 6: Hi.
Speaker 5: Hi, Yeah, I'm tired. I've been driving all day. I
Speaker 5: hate driving. It was not meant to drive, was meant
Speaker 5: to be driven.
Speaker 2: It's backed. I agree, I definitely need a driver. It's
Speaker 2: not my strong point. I mean, like I could do it.
Speaker 4: I'd like to drive sometimes, but most I want to
Speaker 4: be driven, so I get text in the backseat.
Speaker 3: First and foremost.
Speaker 5: So this is the last weekend of our Black History
Speaker 5: Month that we've been given.
Speaker 4: Not that we've been given, but America chooses to observe that.
Speaker 5: We choose, that they choose to acknowledge. So, yeah, there's
Speaker 5: been some interesting things in the news in the past month.
Speaker 5: I would say we've touched on a few things, but
Speaker 5: more recently today r Kelly, if you didn't already know,
Speaker 5: went to jail or turned himself in.
Speaker 3: He's now posted.
Speaker 5: Bond for a million dollars and apparently went straight to
Speaker 5: the McDonald that he.
Speaker 3: Praise on prays on.
Speaker 2: Sorry, still has.
Speaker 7: A cough on the baby.
Speaker 5: Don't make me laugh, guys, stop laughing because I hate
Speaker 5: that cough so much.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and now it's like a week four thousand, seven
Speaker 4: hundred and twenty six of this cough. Don't judge me,
Speaker 4: and what's going on.
Speaker 3: It's like, actually, car I explained it the best yesterday.
Speaker 5: It's like it's like an annoying, like seven year old
Speaker 5: like boy cough. It just like it just like fluck.
Speaker 5: Cough just flies everywhere, and it's loud and it's annoying.
Speaker 5: You want to just like curse up the little kid,
Speaker 5: but you can't because he's a little kid.
Speaker 3: But you're angry.
Speaker 4: I've been getting sick shamed all four thousand and fourths,
Speaker 4: three hundred and eighty seven weeks.
Speaker 2: It's fucking ridiculous, you would think, because you need to
Speaker 2: go to the doctor. Go I'm healing.
Speaker 3: Oh you're not.
Speaker 2: I'm getting better. The cough.
Speaker 3: Get your throat hurt. Now it's my throat when you cough.
Speaker 2: They're getting more far between.
Speaker 8: Oh my god.
Speaker 5: Anyway, R kelly went straight to the McDonald's. But apparently,
Speaker 5: apparently he has preyed on younger underage girls in the
Speaker 5: past at and proceeded to violate his what is it, yeah,
Speaker 5: bail bail the terms of bail, which is no interaction
Speaker 5: with anyone underage, and he took pictures with underage girls
Speaker 5: at his famous McDonald said he frequents Also, would you
Speaker 5: mind reading back some of those quotes that are in
Speaker 5: the film that got him in this.
Speaker 2: I think I remember them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're pretty straightforward.
Speaker 5: So apparently R Kelly the lawyer who turned in the
Speaker 5: hidden tapes that R. Kelly's team has long been trying
Speaker 5: to bury, even when he was first brought to court
Speaker 5: in two thousand and eight. These tapes apparently say wait,
Speaker 5: where is it?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 5: Here it is Michael Avenati in response to press inquiries.
Speaker 5: Below is the information regarding the videotape we provided yesterday
Speaker 5: to prosecutors. It leaves no doubt as to our Kelly's
Speaker 5: guilt as to these serious sex crimes against underage girls.
Speaker 3: Goes a little something like this.
Speaker 5: M I can confirm that the video we provided to
Speaker 5: prosecutors yesterday includes our Kelly clearly stating the following to
Speaker 5: the victim, sometimes on multiple occasions, give me that fourteen
Speaker 5: year old p ussy show Daddy.
Speaker 3: I don't even feel comfortable saying the word fourteen year
Speaker 3: old in front of it.
Speaker 5: I'm just gonna spell it because I just can't show
Speaker 5: Daddy that fourteen year old pe us s y.
Speaker 3: Spread those legs and show me that.
Speaker 5: Fourteen year old pu You know the rest, give me
Speaker 5: that fourteen year old booty hole drops Mike.
Speaker 2: Like, what what in the fucking fuck?
Speaker 5: First of the victim also refers to herself as being
Speaker 5: fourteen years old, repeatedly on tape.
Speaker 2: Like, oh my god, this is out of control.
Speaker 3: He's going to jail forever.
Speaker 5: It's over, it's over, and all the people that defended him, like,
Speaker 5: I can't, I can't. I can't believe how little we value,
Speaker 5: you know, are women in our community.
Speaker 3: It's really really depressing.
Speaker 5: But I'm glad that justice is on its way to
Speaker 5: being served. I wish this never happened, obviously, but at.
Speaker 3: Least something's being done.
Speaker 5: And it's like more and more men are being held accountable,
Speaker 5: and there I bet there's a lot of men out
Speaker 5: there right now that are getting more and more.
Speaker 4: Scared, and I hope so because this is not acceptable behavior.
Speaker 2: It's gross. It's fucking gross. He's gross, I feel. And
Speaker 2: those poor people who are still in the sex cult,
Speaker 2: I know, it's.
Speaker 3: Just it's crazy. I don't even know how to do anyway.
Speaker 3: So that's some you know. I was, you know, reflecting
Speaker 3: on Czy too of Boo Boo.
Speaker 5: I was reflecting on the past twenty eight days of
Speaker 5: this month.
Speaker 3: And it's been interesting.
Speaker 5: There's been a lot of like negative things. There's been
Speaker 5: a lot of like education happening.
Speaker 3: There's been a lot of victories and wins for people.
Speaker 5: You know, the Oscars just happened, and you know, Spike
Speaker 5: Lee finally went his oscar.
Speaker 2: And then Trump had something to say about it.
Speaker 5: Oh god, whatever, and you know it's just Regina King
Speaker 5: winning an oscar. I can't remember the woman who won
Speaker 5: for set design, but she was. Her speech like brought
Speaker 5: me to tears. And there's a lot of black excellence
Speaker 5: going on. So that's really it's a beautiful thing. But
Speaker 5: then there's a lot there's a lot of fuckery happening,
Speaker 5: which you know is typical scheduled programming.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this has to be a little bit of everything.
Speaker 4: But overall there's a lot of the black excellence happening,
Speaker 4: which is pretty dope. This is a cool time, but
Speaker 4: it's also still bad times.
Speaker 2: What else happened this month?
Speaker 3: Oh, Gucci, Douci, Prada, Monkler.
Speaker 2: They all have black face, apparent.
Speaker 5: Monkler had the rope around the neck thing, the NEOs thing.
Speaker 2: What you see that? What do you mean?
Speaker 5: Well, basically, so their their runway show was themed as
Speaker 5: like nautical, and so they had a hoodie literally with
Speaker 5: a rope around the.
Speaker 2: Neck and what what what approved of this?
Speaker 3: It's just so insane.
Speaker 5: I was talking to my friend about this because I
Speaker 5: was like, how can they not know? Like how does
Speaker 5: there's touch so many hands before it releases and no
Speaker 5: one says anything. And my friend was like, you know
Speaker 5: a lot of these Italian houses that that create all
Speaker 5: this all this stuff, there's no.
Speaker 3: They're out of touch. I mean that out of Yeah,
Speaker 3: some of them are.
Speaker 5: Even when I go to Europe sometimes like racism isn't
Speaker 5: like something that they talk about like how it is
Speaker 5: in America. It's not as jarring and as like it's
Speaker 5: just polarizing as it is like the conversation.
Speaker 3: Not that it doesn't.
Speaker 5: Exist out there, it's just there's like more of like
Speaker 5: a resistance happening here, whereas people are just out there
Speaker 5: they're kind of like, good is what it is?
Speaker 3: It happened and.
Speaker 4: Whatever that's I mean, that's crazy. A new surround, a hoodie.
Speaker 4: Why would that even be necessary?
Speaker 3: It's ridiculous.
Speaker 2: People are so insensitive. Wow.
Speaker 5: Jannat Jackson announced her residency.
Speaker 2: MGM, then can we make that happen? We're going are
Speaker 2: you kidding me?
Speaker 5: Like it's Janna Jackson, She's my first she's my first concert.
Speaker 3: I went to see the Velvet Rope.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I always say that I've never been to
Speaker 4: a Janet concert, and I'm highly disappointed in myself.
Speaker 3: Oh it's so good.
Speaker 2: That's a huge Jean. Well we're gonna go.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because Vegas shows are amazing. I saw j Low
Speaker 3: that was awesome.
Speaker 2: Does Mariah have a residency?
Speaker 3: I think it's over.
Speaker 4: Oh dang, it's it's sad she did Yeah, she did, right, Yeah,
Speaker 4: I remember she did. Brittany Ryan Drake hasmon right now, that's.
Speaker 3: Not really a residency. It's it's a club appearing.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I hate like they're making it. See why these
Speaker 5: people have a residency. It's like Cardi b' is not
Speaker 5: doesn't have a residency. I mean, it's a residency, but
Speaker 5: at a club. It's not like a Vegas show.
Speaker 4: Yeah, what about Jesse Smullett?
Speaker 2: What do you think?
Speaker 5: I'm just still battling with this one. I mean, I
Speaker 5: think I need more. I need more clarity on it.
Speaker 5: I don't want to just throw.
Speaker 3: Him away.
Speaker 5: I don't want to just like believe you know what's
Speaker 5: being fed to me. But because also did you see
Speaker 5: those text messages that he released, Yeah, they say that
Speaker 5: he was paying them to trade him. Yeah, and they
Speaker 5: had like having conversations about their trading schedule.
Speaker 3: But I don't know if that was a.
Speaker 5: Code word, if that was set up beforehand to make
Speaker 5: it seem like they were who knows trading all those
Speaker 5: strange that like he went to Chicago and then they
Speaker 5: followed him there to beat him up, Like I don't.
Speaker 2: Oh wait, oh, so those those guys were from Chicago.
Speaker 3: I don't think so. No, I don't know.
Speaker 4: I heard that the guys that were supposedly allegedly hired
Speaker 4: were they were like extras on the show, and that's
Speaker 4: how but that's why I thought they were local.
Speaker 5: But apparently like he paid them like five weeks before
Speaker 5: they were even supposed to start training him, and like.
Speaker 3: They said, they were making fun of their they sent
Speaker 3: him a meal plan. People were making fun of the
Speaker 3: meal plan had like tuna and peanut.
Speaker 2: Butter on there. Or I saw that.
Speaker 3: He just I don't know Jesse, but he I mean,
Speaker 3: I don't know him, id all.
Speaker 5: Then there was rumors, I don't know if he said it,
Speaker 5: that he was battling an untreated drug problem.
Speaker 3: I don't is that is that this excuse? I don't behavior.
Speaker 3: I don't know if that's confirmed.
Speaker 5: I just it seems like such a nice and it's
Speaker 5: not innocent, but like just a sweet person.
Speaker 3: That, like I do, wouldn't do something so selfish and strain.
Speaker 2: I know it is it's odd and I can't think
Speaker 2: of a motive. That's it's really confusing, is.
Speaker 3: Like, is it is this all like a plot to
Speaker 3: weaken our cause?
Speaker 5: Like right right the weekend, like the Black Cause wearing
Speaker 5: the Gay Cause all at once, like knock them both
Speaker 5: out with one and one one hit.
Speaker 2: I mean, they think this is gonna knock it out.
Speaker 4: They'redly mistaken, of course, but it just it gives like
Speaker 4: Trump supporters Trump supporters.
Speaker 9: Like, am yeah, I thought, yeah, I can't think he
Speaker 9: needs more money.
Speaker 4: I can't think he needs more fame. So I just
Speaker 4: don't understand it. I just think maybe they're lying, and
Speaker 4: the police lie about a lot of shit, so I'm
Speaker 4: just gonna stick with they're going.
Speaker 2: But I did see the.
Speaker 4: Surveillance of the two guys buying hats, and I'm like,
Speaker 4: this is awfully convenience, the ski mask and the hat
Speaker 4: at the same time, in the same purchase.
Speaker 2: Together on camera.
Speaker 3: That came out a while ago though I already seen that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I still think it's terrible. Oh onto other news,
Speaker 2: the pop culture in the.
Speaker 5: Pop stricks in front of anything, it's the internet, the Internet.
Speaker 4: Tristan Thompson and Jordan love affair one night Stand.
Speaker 2: What do you think?
Speaker 5: I think it's a Kardashian curse or manufactured story.
Speaker 3: I don't know who knows, So don't. I don't put
Speaker 3: ship past.
Speaker 2: Them, like they would just let her go.
Speaker 3: She ain't going nowhere. That's where she's going on the
Speaker 3: red table.
Speaker 5: Talk to go, like try to like save her herself
Speaker 5: because Jada Pinket's gonna make people.
Speaker 3: Be like, she's so young and dumb. Let's talk to
Speaker 3: her and figure out why she did this.
Speaker 2: Isn't she twenty one?
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's so young.
Speaker 5: Really, Like I blame her for sure, but I really
Speaker 5: blame him, Like you're supposed to be. You're even older,
Speaker 5: You have the family, you already have two kids, you
Speaker 5: already had a baby with someone else named Jordan.
Speaker 3: Really yeah, his baby mom.
Speaker 2: Was, it's just.
Speaker 5: You want your baby, bottle baby, let may go baby.
Speaker 4: I don't know because he's only like twenty seven, right,
Speaker 4: he's young.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's young too, but I mean, you have two kids.
Speaker 2: Grow up.
Speaker 4: Clearly he's not getting the memo, but the growing up memo,
Speaker 4: I mean, grow up.
Speaker 3: Also, I don't know.
Speaker 5: I can't imagine the kind of pressure you're under dating
Speaker 5: at Kardashian.
Speaker 4: The kind of pressure that says, don't fuck her sister's
Speaker 4: best friend, you know, just basic shita pressures.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you're.
Speaker 4: Right, and then she's done, Like I don't care how
Speaker 4: much she wanted to say there was more than an
Speaker 4: alcoholic influence.
Speaker 2: Oh, Jordan, yeah for sure.
Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, I make mistakes all the time while
Speaker 5: drinking alcohol. Not that that's not an excuse. He's your
Speaker 5: best friend's sister's baby daddy.
Speaker 2: Yeah that's oh, but that's all bad.
Speaker 5: But anyway, we have a special guest today. Our special
Speaker 5: guest is our beautiful woman who's braiding our hands today. Okay,
Speaker 5: can you introduce yourself?
Speaker 10: Hi?
Speaker 7: I'm Leana.
Speaker 3: What's up? Leanna?
Speaker 4: And Lincoln who was very sleepy and doesn't want to
Speaker 4: go to sleep, Yes, like my four year old.
Speaker 3: They like she crashed and she keeps trying to look
Speaker 3: at me, you know, somebody, like.
Speaker 6: They slowly dre know, like she'll be moving.
Speaker 7: She crashes, she doesn't like slowly.
Speaker 2: Go to sleep.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, lays I'll sell a mom. She's brought
Speaker 4: her baby and.
Speaker 3: How does she again?
Speaker 7: Seven months?
Speaker 2: Seven months?
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness?
Speaker 2: How old are you?
Speaker 7: Twenty three?
Speaker 2: She is great? How's motherhood so far?
Speaker 6: I love it?
Speaker 7: I mean I'm making mistakes every day.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's join the club.
Speaker 3: Were you planning on being?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 3: Were you? Did you plan on being a mom or
Speaker 3: did you want to be? Because I mean it's you're
Speaker 3: pretty young to be a mom.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 11: I mean I knew I always wanted to have kids.
Speaker 11: I just didn't know that. I didn't think it was
Speaker 11: going to happen, like like when it happened.
Speaker 2: So were you trying or no?
Speaker 11: Not that I was trying. I just I knew I
Speaker 11: always wanted to have kids.
Speaker 3: It's just were you not trying?
Speaker 7: I wasn't trying at all.
Speaker 2: Were you not not trying?
Speaker 3: You're not like you are not putting a condom on?
Speaker 2: You were not pulling out?
Speaker 5: Hm?
Speaker 2: Hm? Why?
Speaker 7: Why?
Speaker 2: Oh my god?
Speaker 3: She's so cute?
Speaker 5: I mean should I had my baby at twenty eight
Speaker 5: and that was.
Speaker 2: Hard, right, I was still like, little shit, what the
Speaker 2: hell's going on here?
Speaker 3: So I can imagine.
Speaker 5: I mean, you're in school, you're doing like multiple things, right, Like,
Speaker 5: that's got to be really hard to balance everything it is.
Speaker 11: I mean, I have the help from my mom, which
Speaker 11: like I don't know, why don't I really don't like
Speaker 11: she's such a big help.
Speaker 3: Do you feel like do you feel like? What was
Speaker 3: my question?
Speaker 4: Wow?
Speaker 3: I had a really good question. It just really it
Speaker 3: just came to went.
Speaker 6: Thinking, you can't touch this on my hand?
Speaker 4: Are you with the Lincoln's Dead?
Speaker 2: No? Did that happen after while you're pregnant?
Speaker 7: We were never together?
Speaker 6: Yeah, we were never together.
Speaker 3: Is he active in her life? Sometimes?
Speaker 7: I wouldn't even say.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's like so you're like, definitely, he's a Monday dead.
Speaker 2: That's what.
Speaker 11: Day he always texts me or calls me, like because
Speaker 11: he lives in New York, so he's like, oh.
Speaker 7: I'll be out there on Monday. Oh god, he's a
Speaker 7: Monday dad.
Speaker 2: I call him a Monday dead. Does he come?
Speaker 7: And I call him her her sperm growner?
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Oh that sounds familiar. Yes, there's many of these terms.
Speaker 4: I didn't I think I have to adopt the Monday one.
Speaker 11: The Monday dad right, He's like, is he young too?
Speaker 7: He's twenty eight?
Speaker 3: Okay? Does he have other kids? He has one other
Speaker 3: daughter yet in New Yorker?
Speaker 2: Okay, how does that fid? How old is she the
Speaker 2: other kid? She she just turned to Okay, so they're
Speaker 2: pretty close. Yeah, hmmm, do you know the other mom? No? Interesting?
Speaker 5: Do you feel as a young mom, because like when
Speaker 5: I was your age, I was getting blacked out drunk,
Speaker 5: doing lots of drugs and being very responsible. Clearly you
Speaker 5: can't really do that. I mean you could, but you know,
Speaker 5: probably shouldn't. Yeah, do you feel like you're like missing
Speaker 5: out on that or do you even care?
Speaker 3: Did you? Did you like before prior to having a child,
Speaker 3: were you what? Did you go out a lot?
Speaker 7: I went out?
Speaker 3: Because what you got pregnant probably when you were like
Speaker 3: what twenty two or twenty?
Speaker 11: I got pregnant when I was I was turning twenty two,
Speaker 11: twenty one.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 11: I got pregnant in November last year and then I
Speaker 11: turned twenty two in December.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So do you feel like you're missing out on
Speaker 4: any of that blacked out drunkness?
Speaker 5: I just wonder, because like, I don't know what it's
Speaker 5: like to be like a young super young.
Speaker 3: I mean we weren't that young, you know.
Speaker 2: We had like a good like eight years of blackout drunkness.
Speaker 7: Ten Yeah, I never really got like.
Speaker 3: Blackout drunk maybe not blackout like I.
Speaker 6: Mean, I like going out.
Speaker 2: How important is blackout drunk to you?
Speaker 8: For me?
Speaker 4: The hair because very high and important level, kind of
Speaker 4: like your club hair, very high like my club hair.
Speaker 4: Oh I was.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I've never been blackout, but I did party. I
Speaker 11: believe a party. I don't really feel like I'm missing out.
Speaker 3: Because you used to go out now or do I
Speaker 3: go out?
Speaker 11: Like if my mom, if I ask her to watch her,
Speaker 11: she'll watch her. But for the most part, I just
Speaker 11: like spending time with her, I because I don't want
Speaker 11: to miss anything, right, So like I try to spend
Speaker 11: as much time as.
Speaker 7: I can with her.
Speaker 3: Do you have other friends with kids? Yes, I'll do
Speaker 3: a lot of your friends have kids.
Speaker 11: Mmmmm no, I have a few friends. The ones that
Speaker 11: I have that are kids, they're a little.
Speaker 2: Bit older than me, okay.
Speaker 11: And then the friends that I do have, well, actually,
Speaker 11: my friend is pregnant now, she's doing may Oh, so
Speaker 11: a few of my friends they're older and have kids.
Speaker 11: And then a few of my friends are pregnant.
Speaker 2: Now I'm about to have kids. Most of your friends
Speaker 2: out here in LA or are they back home? They're
Speaker 2: back in Philly. Yeah.
Speaker 5: Oh you're from Philly. Oh okay, you and your Philly connection.
Speaker 5: I always got a Philly connected.
Speaker 2: Well you know I'm from Philly.
Speaker 3: Okay, bitch, got it, make it known.
Speaker 2: You forget all the time.
Speaker 4: Actually her, her mom is friends with us. She okay,
Speaker 4: how is your birth experience?
Speaker 6: Oh my god, I'm currently suing the hospital.
Speaker 11: Really, So what happened was we went to the beach
Speaker 11: and I was riding bikes and that like kind of
Speaker 11: like started like I had like started out.
Speaker 6: The contractions, and so we like rushed to the hospital.
Speaker 11: And so when I got there, they were like I
Speaker 11: was like two three centimeters dilated.
Speaker 6: So they were like, okay, we're gonna give you morphine.
Speaker 3: Morphine. Why morphine?
Speaker 7: They said that the morphine will like help me dilate.
Speaker 11: So I was there by myself because my mom had
Speaker 11: to go back home with my little sister because they
Speaker 11: I was like in the emergency part, like the labor
Speaker 11: room or whatever, and they.
Speaker 7: Told her that my little sister was too young to be.
Speaker 11: In there, so she had to go back home with her.
Speaker 11: So me, not knowing, I was like, okay, give me
Speaker 11: the morphine.
Speaker 2: So right, because you're just gonna take whatever they say.
Speaker 6: Right, So I took. They gave me the working nothing happened.
Speaker 11: So then they told me, well, in order to for
Speaker 11: you to get induced, you have to get epidural. And
Speaker 11: I was so against epidural. I didn't want it because
Speaker 11: I originally went a home birth. And so they gave
Speaker 11: me the epidural and you know, and you.
Speaker 7: I don't know if you've ever been on Potoso when they.
Speaker 5: Gave you, the contractions are so intense exactly.
Speaker 11: So they gave me the epidural and I was feeling
Speaker 11: my contractions, so you know that button that you're the
Speaker 11: pressed to release the Yeah, So it literally would last
Speaker 11: ten minutes and then I was circling on my contractions
Speaker 11: again and it hurt ten times worse.
Speaker 7: Because I was on. So I told them and they
Speaker 7: were like, oh, well, we're gonna have to take it
Speaker 7: out of your back and put it back in.
Speaker 3: Oh no, that's so.
Speaker 7: Yeah. So my mom was like, no, absolutely not. She
Speaker 7: was like, you guys aren't playing with her spine.
Speaker 6: So they did charged me.
Speaker 12: What do you mean they discharged.
Speaker 11: Because they wouldn't because because I wouldn't do it again.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they discharged me.
Speaker 7: So the next day, I.
Speaker 3: Because you wouldn't put the epidural back back in. Yeah
Speaker 3: it is that like legally you have to do put in.
Speaker 2: You don't have to.
Speaker 6: This was Holy Cross and Mission Hills.
Speaker 3: What the hell?
Speaker 11: Yeah, And so I knew that I had an appointment
Speaker 11: with my OBI the next day. So I went and
Speaker 11: I told him, and he was pissed.
Speaker 4: He was like, they what that's his that's his like
Speaker 4: where he practices out of the right, that's where he
Speaker 4: was going to deliver it.
Speaker 7: Well, he doesn't deliver anymore other people, right right. Yeah,
Speaker 7: but he was like what he.
Speaker 11: Was like, She's like no, because I was already having
Speaker 11: problems because her foot was in my rim so like
Speaker 11: it was hurting.
Speaker 7: And then he thought that I had preclampsy.
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, because you're having pain.
Speaker 11: No, because my feet like swelling out of nowhere.
Speaker 2: No, he just changed it.
Speaker 7: Yeah, they swell up.
Speaker 11: They had they had gotten swollen out of nowhere because
Speaker 11: I had a really good pregnancy up until the last
Speaker 11: few weeks and so that that's originally why.
Speaker 7: He had sent me over to the hospital.
Speaker 11: And girl, it was like, uh, it was like a
Speaker 11: few days before I had went and did that whole
Speaker 11: morphine and epidural crap.
Speaker 6: So he said, okay, you're giving birth.
Speaker 3: He said, you're.
Speaker 7: Basically full term. He was like, so I'm sending.
Speaker 11: You back over there. So he sent me back and
Speaker 11: I got admitted and my nurse said, so, do you.
Speaker 6: Want the epidural again?
Speaker 11: And I said, well, I don't know, because you know,
Speaker 11: you guys screwed me over the first time.
Speaker 6: So she said, well just think about it it you know.
Speaker 7: So my mom was home with my sister at the time,
Speaker 7: and I just could not take the pain.
Speaker 11: I think, honestly, I think if someone was in there
Speaker 11: with me, then I probably could have took the pain.
Speaker 3: You were alone, but.
Speaker 7: Exactly so, I was just like.
Speaker 3: Was there even a nurse in there with you?
Speaker 7: No, there wasn't even her. She gave me a ball
Speaker 7: you were and I was by myself, and I was just.
Speaker 13: Like so much young, and like, your mom, isn't that
Speaker 13: what the hell kind of Well my mom because she
Speaker 13: had to be home by sister son, No, but I'm
Speaker 13: just saying like it's not your mom's fault, but no one.
Speaker 11: Was, and I said, okayn, my sister being there, she's
Speaker 11: They said only if she's your child, and I'm like,
Speaker 11: so do.
Speaker 2: You want me to lie and say she's my child?
Speaker 11: I wanted her in there because I wanted her to
Speaker 11: cut her in loolical cord. So anyways, I was like, okay,
Speaker 11: I'll just get that for durl. So I was like,
Speaker 11: but is it the same anethesia doctor that did it
Speaker 11: last time?
Speaker 7: And she said no, this one was really good.
Speaker 2: So the other. So so he came down and.
Speaker 7: Did it, and I literally had to get it, like
Speaker 7: I was having contractions. Well so like it was so
Speaker 7: hard for me.
Speaker 11: To like stay still, and so he's like, you can't
Speaker 11: move and I'm like it I can't, like and so
Speaker 11: I literally got.
Speaker 7: The epidural during a contraction and like it was so
Speaker 7: hard for me.
Speaker 11: As they still, but I did it, and then I
Speaker 11: did it. He lifted the epidurl on my back and
Speaker 11: it worked. So then the doctor that was delivering men
Speaker 11: came in and I told to him what happened when
Speaker 11: I first went the day before, and he said, okay, well,
Speaker 11: remember your water, you swing to me. You know, once
Speaker 11: your water's broken, you have to deliver within.
Speaker 2: The twenty four hours. Yeah, So he.
Speaker 7: Broke it and I started dilating.
Speaker 11: By the next morning, I dilated eight centimeters. So I
Speaker 11: had to lay on one side with the peanut and
Speaker 11: between my legs. I had to lay on each side
Speaker 11: for an hour until I got to ten centimeters and
Speaker 11: then after that it was like full time and my
Speaker 11: mom was there and.
Speaker 7: The nurse. She was basically coaching me, like telling me like, okay,
Speaker 7: this is your think.
Speaker 6: You have to push your chin down to your chest.
Speaker 2: And you have to push.
Speaker 11: She's like, you have to do it like every like
Speaker 11: every three contractions.
Speaker 7: You had to push three tongues.
Speaker 4: And so.
Speaker 7: I was pushing. We did a practice and she's.
Speaker 6: Like, Okay, you're really good.
Speaker 11: She was like, so let's just get started. So the
Speaker 11: doctor wasn't even in there yet. She like just started
Speaker 11: and so.
Speaker 7: I pushed her out.
Speaker 11: A little bit under two hours and it was I
Speaker 11: wound up having a fever. I think my favorite I
Speaker 11: got up like one hundred and three and it called
Speaker 11: her to have a fever because I was like, really
Speaker 11: the dehydrated, like when I was pushing and so after that,
Speaker 11: I think they because I think they cut me a
Speaker 11: little bit when she came out because her head was
Speaker 11: like too big. So she was like sewing me up
Speaker 11: and my legs like felt like I don't know, Joe,
Speaker 11: this was a weird feeling.
Speaker 7: But I was like I need the walk.
Speaker 2: I need the walk.
Speaker 11: And yeah, he was like, way, I'm so because I
Speaker 11: was like, oh, he's like you feel that. I was like, no,
Speaker 11: my leg's urt.
Speaker 2: I need to get up. I need to walk.
Speaker 3: And so.
Speaker 7: Once they finished everything, she was.
Speaker 11: Like, Okay, we're gonna push you in a w beelchair
Speaker 11: and you can hold baby.
Speaker 7: I said, no, I need to walk, and she's like you're.
Speaker 12: Gonna walk, and I was like, I don't want to walk.
Speaker 11: So literally I was walking down the hallway and the
Speaker 11: nurses were clapping and I asked my nurse why why
Speaker 11: are they clapping and she's like, because you're walking normally.
Speaker 7: Mom's sitting with you. Like, oh, no, I need to walk.
Speaker 7: So you know when they check the baby when you
Speaker 7: go what is it like the.
Speaker 6: Post part of my rooms.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, they have to thoroughly check the baby.
Speaker 11: So clearly they didn't do that with her because when
Speaker 11: I went home, I'd seen something in her head and
Speaker 11: I was like.
Speaker 7: Why is there food in her head? Like like she
Speaker 7: doesn't like how? So I looked in the back of
Speaker 7: her head and she had a hole and puss was
Speaker 7: coming out of it.
Speaker 11: So what happened was I went to I didn't go
Speaker 11: back to the hospital. I went to the north Ridge
Speaker 11: Hospital and they had to run all these tests. They
Speaker 11: even had to go on her spine because they had
Speaker 11: to run certain tests to see what it was.
Speaker 7: And they were they were asking me.
Speaker 11: They were like, you know, did you ever have her
Speaker 11: fees or is you like you guys have my records
Speaker 11: like you.
Speaker 7: Guys spent every month.
Speaker 11: But because they were like, well, when you push her out,
Speaker 11: you know, did you have her like how you guys
Speaker 11: have my records Like I got.
Speaker 7: Checked every month, right right right right, So there's no possible.
Speaker 6: Way, and they're like, we just we have to ask.
Speaker 11: So when they went to look for the records at
Speaker 11: holy Cross, there was no record of them putting the
Speaker 11: internal probe inside of me. So what happened was when
Speaker 11: I was in labor, they couldn't monitor her from the
Speaker 11: outside anymore, so they put an internal probe and it
Speaker 11: like it like attaches on her to her head.
Speaker 7: So they're saying either.
Speaker 11: Their probe was dirty or like something, because that's what
Speaker 11: caused the hole and that's why the puss was coming out.
Speaker 2: And they didn't even tell you they were doing that.
Speaker 11: Well, no, they said that they were putting an internal probe,
Speaker 11: but they didn't give me anything to like sign and they
Speaker 11: didn't put it in my record stating that that's what
Speaker 11: they did. Because when north Bridge had requested my records
Speaker 11: from Holy Cross, it wasn't in it. And they asked me.
Speaker 11: They said that they put like an internal program.
Speaker 7: Then I said, yes, they did.
Speaker 11: I said they couldn't monitor me from the outside anymore
Speaker 11: because she was starting to move down, so they said
Speaker 11: they had to monitor her from the inside. And he said, well,
Speaker 11: the probe attaches to their head, and he said that's
Speaker 11: what caused the puss.
Speaker 7: He said something. He said that the nurse should have
Speaker 7: put it, she.
Speaker 6: Should have documented it, she should have put it.
Speaker 12: In my record affect her like, well, that's what they're saying.
Speaker 11: They're saying that, you know, like because she had the
Speaker 11: cause she was in the niku for two weeks.
Speaker 7: She was in there because two.
Speaker 11: Days because of that, because she had to be on antibiotic,
Speaker 11: and they just they wanted to make sure.
Speaker 7: It wasn't infected because.
Speaker 11: All the every all the tests that they did came
Speaker 11: back negative, so they didn't know what it was. But
Speaker 11: they were like, clearly it's infected because it's puts suits
Speaker 11: coming out.
Speaker 6: So that that whole thing.
Speaker 7: Caused her head to be flat.
Speaker 11: Now she has a flat head because she had to
Speaker 11: lay on the back of her head, so now she
Speaker 11: has to wear a helmet to like shape her head.
Speaker 7: So when I talked to.
Speaker 11: The lawyer, he basically was like, you can sue them
Speaker 11: on a lot of stuff. He said, you can basically
Speaker 11: sue them because you know, she was on a heavy
Speaker 11: medication only two weeks old and not seeing that it'll happen,
Speaker 11: but she could possibly have like development issues.
Speaker 2: That she gets older or like anything.
Speaker 11: So he was just basically saying that it's a lot
Speaker 11: of stuff that I could get them on. So I
Speaker 11: will say, I had a really good pregnancy up until
Speaker 11: like the last month, but had I had a really.
Speaker 6: Bad delivery, a really bad look.
Speaker 7: I had a really bad like labor pulled.
Speaker 3: Part of experience.
Speaker 2: I mean being in the nikki with your newborn for
Speaker 2: two weeks?
Speaker 7: Did you think you.
Speaker 3: Had postpartum that after that post depression?
Speaker 7: Not really.
Speaker 11: I was more so just worried about her because they
Speaker 11: were telling me, like, you know the possibilities of stuff.
Speaker 6: That can happen.
Speaker 11: So I was just more worried than all of that. Yeah,
Speaker 11: for this, and I stayed. I stayed in the nikki
Speaker 11: with her.
Speaker 7: The entire time.
Speaker 2: Wow, that's crazy.
Speaker 7: The only time I left was to like go take
Speaker 7: a shower.
Speaker 4: Prior would you say, prior to giving birth, Like, obviously
Speaker 4: you knew you didn't want you didn't really want to
Speaker 4: up adul, But did you have like a birth plan?
Speaker 2: Did you write anything out that said this is you know, did.
Speaker 4: You think about that at all, about like not having
Speaker 4: any interruptions during your pregnancy, not having any any like
Speaker 4: drug Well.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I was like so anti epidural, Like I actually
Speaker 11: wanted home birth, but when he thought I had preclamcia,
Speaker 11: he thought that I was like a high risk, so
Speaker 11: we scratched.
Speaker 10: Out home birth and then early on, yeah, early on,
Speaker 10: I want at home birth, but usually preclamsia doesn't show up,
Speaker 10: or is there's no signs of that till the third trimester.
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 11: When towards the end was when I started, he thought
Speaker 11: that I had preclamsia. So then we scratched that the
Speaker 11: home birth out because he thought that I was like
Speaker 11: high risk. But turned out when I went to the hospital,
Speaker 11: I didn't have preclamcy.
Speaker 7: I was just swelling.
Speaker 2: I was just fat, right right.
Speaker 11: So then I said, okay, well I'm gonna have a
Speaker 11: you know, I'm going to deliver at the hospital.
Speaker 7: And I took the tour at holy Cross.
Speaker 11: I took the tour at holy Cross, and I took
Speaker 11: the tour at north Ridge because I had three children that.
Speaker 7: Had north Ridge, holy Cross, you know, some other hospital.
Speaker 11: But I was more focused on north Ridge and holy
Speaker 11: Cross because they were near me.
Speaker 7: And I should have.
Speaker 2: Went to West Hills, I know, and that's that's.
Speaker 7: There me too, And so.
Speaker 11: I scratched out north Ridge after I went on a
Speaker 11: tour because I had went on Yelp and Google and
Speaker 11: was looking at the ratings and the comments and I
Speaker 11: didn't like it. And so when I went on a
Speaker 11: tour with holy Cross and then I looked at their
Speaker 11: reviews and comments, I really like them. But after delivering,
Speaker 11: a lot of people told me they were like, yeah,
Speaker 11: holy Cross, they don't care.
Speaker 7: They were like that.
Speaker 6: The nurses they just basically like it's like they don't care.
Speaker 3: They just go to work for a check.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's really important. I mean, I can't even imagine
Speaker 4: that twenty three even knowing anything to think about about
Speaker 4: being alone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's scary.
Speaker 4: It's it's scary at any age, should be like just
Speaker 4: going into labor. Yeah, so to just be alone, because
Speaker 4: I think, you know, I was alone for a little.
Speaker 2: Sorry, for a little while in the hospital.
Speaker 4: I think I was with my baby buddy's sister, and
Speaker 4: then she had to leave and I was spending for
Speaker 4: him to come. So there was a time where I
Speaker 4: was long and it was only like maybe an hour
Speaker 4: or two, and I was tripping. So I can only imagine,
Speaker 4: you know, just being alone and then they just tell
Speaker 4: you whatever you you know, you think sounds, you know,
Speaker 4: you trust them, and you're in a very vulnerable state,
Speaker 4: not you know shit that usually haven't given birth before,
Speaker 4: and you're concerned about your baby. It's painful. There's so
Speaker 4: many factors that contribute to that. So that's why every
Speaker 4: time I find like I run into a mom that's pregnant,
Speaker 4: young or old or whatever. I'm always like, do you
Speaker 4: have a birth planned? Do you know how you want
Speaker 4: to give birth? Have you seen this documentary? Because the
Speaker 4: ship is so over medicalized that a lot of times
Speaker 4: they end up messing messing shit up instead of letting
Speaker 4: nature do its thing. Yeah, which, we know how to birth.
Speaker 4: Our bodies know how to birth, just like any animal
Speaker 4: in the in you know, in the wild just births.
Speaker 4: You go into a dark place and you let your
Speaker 4: body do its thing.
Speaker 10: You know.
Speaker 4: Western medicine over medicalizes so much shit that's so fucking unnecessary,
Speaker 4: and a lot of times once you have an interruption,
Speaker 4: everything else goes fucking downhill.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I.
Speaker 11: Know I want to have more kids, but it's like
Speaker 11: I'm scared of the labor and delivery.
Speaker 2: Part right now. Of course.
Speaker 4: So, as a young mom, have you felt like.
Speaker 2: After you had a baby you had to shift in
Speaker 2: any way, Like.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I just shift the well I want to say
Speaker 11: I had to shift a lot, but yeah, being a
Speaker 11: young mom, well, just being a mom period, right, I
Speaker 11: feel like it's life changing, So of course you have
Speaker 11: to make changes.
Speaker 5: To your life, right, right, so if you do, you
Speaker 5: feel like you've lost friends because even as you know,
Speaker 5: because I felt like I do, and I know, like
Speaker 5: I just felt like my friends at the time, like
Speaker 5: a lot of.
Speaker 3: I was going out. I was, you know, I was
Speaker 3: going out.
Speaker 5: I was young too, and like not not as same
Speaker 5: as you, but like I was still going out and stuff,
Speaker 5: and my friends that didn't have kids and we're still
Speaker 5: living that life didn't understand the new life that I
Speaker 5: was living.
Speaker 3: And so I was like, well, we're just.
Speaker 5: Not going to hang out then, because I can't go
Speaker 5: to the party tonight.
Speaker 7: You know.
Speaker 6: Surprisingly, a lot of my friends are like very helpful.
Speaker 11: That's a I get help from a lot of my friends.
Speaker 11: Like a lot of my friends.
Speaker 6: I get that help because.
Speaker 7: I need it.
Speaker 6: I'm not ashamed to say I need help.
Speaker 2: That's good, right, right, because shit is hard. She is
Speaker 2: rather rough out here.
Speaker 11: And I think, well, I don't know, I'm not going
Speaker 11: to say that's why. But Lincoln's very chill, like right now.
Speaker 11: She does this every night. She like really hype at
Speaker 11: this time, and then she crashes.
Speaker 3: She likes to be rocked.
Speaker 11: She just I just let her make herself falls, I
Speaker 11: let her cry herself out.
Speaker 4: She's laughing, like, never gonna happen. But every time I've
Speaker 4: never gotten my hair braided. She literally watches TV.
Speaker 7: Yeah, she's very calm.
Speaker 11: It was just around this time she's like extra hype
Speaker 11: and I don't know why.
Speaker 7: It's like she's like on sugar.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm that milk sugar.
Speaker 7: And it's only it happens literally every night.
Speaker 11: Around this time. Like during the day, she's so chill.
Speaker 11: She watches TV.
Speaker 2: Have you dated just since you've been a new mom?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 2: How is that? Man? Is it like different now that
Speaker 2: your mom?
Speaker 11: You feel like I feel like I get more guys
Speaker 11: hitting on me when I have a child, really, and
Speaker 11: I think it's benefiting me.
Speaker 3: Like when you're out with her or just well not just.
Speaker 7: When I'm like even on Instagram, like people guys them
Speaker 7: me like, oh, your daughter's so cute, and then like
Speaker 7: they'll try to talk to me.
Speaker 11: So I'm like, Lincoln, keep doing whatever you're doing.
Speaker 2: Are the guys your your age? That's interesting?
Speaker 4: I think it's probably like, look how responsible she is too.
Speaker 4: I think the moms are hot in general to men.
Speaker 4: It's it's attractive.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I've gotten a lot.
Speaker 11: Of people like a lot of guys and the like
Speaker 11: had her, and the first thing every guy says is
Speaker 11: so cute, Like that's.
Speaker 7: What they say every time.
Speaker 2: What a pickup one?
Speaker 4: General, yes, do you feel like you like nothing obviously,
Speaker 4: like we all shift and may become mothers Oh Erica
Speaker 4: about here dropping shit, rocking the baby? Like did you
Speaker 4: feel like you had to be in differ a certain way,
Speaker 4: like because other people made you feel that way, like
Speaker 4: you had to not go out or not smoke weed
Speaker 4: or you know whatever you usually did. Generally, did you
Speaker 4: feel like there was pressure from other people that you
Speaker 4: had to change and you're social first?
Speaker 11: Yeah, because when I was breastfeeding her, it was like, oh,
Speaker 11: you can't.
Speaker 6: Smoke, and I was like okay.
Speaker 4: Or like.
Speaker 11: Not more so going out because like I said, my
Speaker 11: mom was like, you know, whenever you.
Speaker 7: Want to go out, I'm not busy or whatever. You know,
Speaker 7: I'll babysit. So they're going out part.
Speaker 6: But as far as like smoke.
Speaker 7: And like or like even when I was smoke and like.
Speaker 6: People are like, oh why are you smoking? Aren't you breastfeeding?
Speaker 7: For one, I talked like, don't judge me, you.
Speaker 2: Think this is so funny? She thinks it's hilarious, like ha,
Speaker 2: I didn't talk all day? How about that?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I definitely felt judged when I smoked him breastfa.
Speaker 2: And when I you know, but we're really like.
Speaker 11: Just the other day, like we're really like me and
Speaker 11: my day. My it means grandmomy a little pal but.
Speaker 7: Because that's what she is. But my Lola said to me,
Speaker 7: you're doing a really good job. She's like, you're a
Speaker 7: really good.
Speaker 11: Mom, and that like me my day because every day
Speaker 11: I'm like, I like job.
Speaker 2: Valid reassuring.
Speaker 5: It means so much when it comes from like a
Speaker 5: family member like that, like your mother or like a grandmother.
Speaker 5: I don't know why it does, but it just holds
Speaker 5: for me at least really like the most the times
Speaker 5: when my mom or like because sometimes you're like, am
Speaker 5: I like, ye, ain't said nothing in a while.
Speaker 2: There, right? I feeling Yeah, No, it does feel good.
Speaker 4: It's very important two get that assurance because we don't
Speaker 4: really know what we're doing.
Speaker 2: We're really playing it by ear.
Speaker 11: Yeah, like you, like I said, I'm making mistakes every day,
Speaker 11: but I learned from them.
Speaker 2: So it's like you know, I.
Speaker 12: Can walk, she's going she's trying trying to sip. You
Speaker 12: want to start walking? I wish I had a little
Speaker 12: matt I could put it on the floor over there.
Speaker 3: A little blanket, roll around.
Speaker 7: Right?
Speaker 2: Maybe need freedom? Is that what I think she's want
Speaker 2: to be?
Speaker 12: How old anymore?
Speaker 5: Okay, let's take a little quick break one moment, please, Okay.
Speaker 2: Erica, don't forget your passports.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, So we're going on a trip tomorrow, which
Speaker 5: we didn't even tell them where we're going.
Speaker 3: Oh, we're going to Cobo tomorrow.
Speaker 5: We are going to on a friend's mama baby mama vacation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, with another mom and our friend Danny.
Speaker 4: And I was.
Speaker 3: Telling Jamilla Yestro was very stressed about this trip. But
Speaker 3: I've just given in to it. And you know where
Speaker 3: you go. You know, when you decide to go on
Speaker 3: a trip and then you immediately you regret it later.
Speaker 2: What did I tell you about that word?
Speaker 3: What is with this word?
Speaker 6: Why?
Speaker 7: Why is regret such a terrible word for?
Speaker 2: I hate that word.
Speaker 3: I mean it's a bad word. You're right, Does it
Speaker 3: like mean like something bad is going to happen?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I just don't like it. I don't
Speaker 2: believe in it.
Speaker 4: I just don't believe in using the word regret because
Speaker 4: there's no regrets, there's only lessons, and I just don't
Speaker 4: like the negative energy you're putting out.
Speaker 3: Well, so what's the lesson in this? Don't book a
Speaker 3: seven day trip.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: We haven't even done it yet. We might like be
Speaker 4: found like can n discover ourselves? We might come back
Speaker 4: like even bomber podcasters than ever before.
Speaker 3: We have a lot of shit to do while we're there,
Speaker 3: a lot, a lot.
Speaker 2: So maybe it'll be like a work vacation. Mkay.
Speaker 6: It's like a table or something.
Speaker 3: A what a table?
Speaker 10: Yeah? Is that?
Speaker 3: Mm oh? To lay it on across? Can you lose
Speaker 3: the this?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 4: Uh?
Speaker 7: What if we're.
Speaker 3: Oh, yeah, that's that's yeah.
Speaker 2: She her, she just loves putting stuff in her mouth.
Speaker 3: Should I take that away from her?
Speaker 14: Or is that?
Speaker 6: Okay?
Speaker 3: It's probably about the coldest day.
Speaker 12: A lot of people have touched it day.
Speaker 7: I'm gonna take that from it.
Speaker 6: But I'm gonna get you something different. Okay.
Speaker 7: I don't know if that's gonna be.
Speaker 4: But I kind of want another baby, and then I'm
Speaker 4: like maybe not, Maybe I'm good with one.
Speaker 2: Four seems like I've come so far.
Speaker 4: I've come so far. You're almost eighteen. But like, if
Speaker 4: I mean, like just to start, I love her. It's
Speaker 4: just like, oh my goodness, it's so much pressure. I
Speaker 4: literally forgot about all this shit. It's sweet cause it
Speaker 4: can't talk back, but.
Speaker 7: Oh she talks back.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but she's she's not She's not talking real shit.
Speaker 4: Lena starts started talking real ship to me and I'm
Speaker 4: pissed about it.
Speaker 12: Are you rolling around too? How did you drive?
Speaker 4: She's like, my business. Clearly me and Erica are not
Speaker 4: prepared for this episode, just like we're not prepared for
Speaker 4: our trip.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we didn't really think this went through.
Speaker 5: This is very spontaneous and clearly we have no energy
Speaker 5: to give, which is probably our most boring episode.
Speaker 3: So sorry, you can't win them all.
Speaker 4: You really, you can't win them all. You win something lose.
Speaker 4: But just don't worry. We're not losing steam. We're just recalibrating.
Speaker 4: I'm getting our hair braided. All I can think about
Speaker 4: is like, what do I need to put in my suitcase?
Speaker 4: What do I need to put in my suitcase? Don't
Speaker 4: forget anything.
Speaker 3: I literally packed every piece of summer clothing I own.
Speaker 4: Write summer clothing, passports, coloring book shenanigans, everything.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, coloring books I need.
Speaker 4: Oh and don't worry, guys, Floor's coming with us. So
Speaker 4: we're gonna have equal parts fuckery and equal parts family friendly.
Speaker 2: So look forward to this instant stories.
Speaker 4: We'll be there six days and we'll be uh on
Speaker 4: the fence doing both fuckery and family.
Speaker 2: Friendly on the fence. I don't know, I can think
Speaker 2: of anything else.
Speaker 7: Apparently we might go to a Migos party.
Speaker 2: We're going to the concert a.
Speaker 3: Migo's concert slash brick Ross thing.
Speaker 2: I know. We're basically about to.
Speaker 4: Lift out all of our spring break fantasies we've ever
Speaker 4: had since childhood, which I'm actually really excited about. Even
Speaker 4: if it had to come tenth twelve years past spring
Speaker 4: spring break age, I'm fine with that.
Speaker 2: What time to be there for ten thirty?
Speaker 4: Shit, it's gonna be traffic with's traffic hours so annoying.
Speaker 2: We're going to La where everything takes.
Speaker 4: Forty seven hours to get there, unless you're going to
Speaker 4: get at eleven o'clock at night.
Speaker 12: Oh baby, it was wrong, was wrong?
Speaker 6: Wrong?
Speaker 4: Do you have any advice for any other maybe like
Speaker 4: moms that are pregnant, young moms that are pregnant or.
Speaker 2: Thinking they become pregnant, Like, yeah, I do any.
Speaker 3: Advice cause we I think we do have a lot
Speaker 3: of young mom listeners. Actually we don't.
Speaker 11: My advice I would, I would seriously read into everything
Speaker 11: that you can.
Speaker 7: What I did was I recorded what like the doctors
Speaker 7: and nurses were saying.
Speaker 11: If I didn't understand it, uh, that way I could
Speaker 11: play it back and let my mom listen. And if
Speaker 11: I didn't understand.
Speaker 6: It, I would say, oh, well can.
Speaker 3: I think about it?
Speaker 7: And then I would ask my mom.
Speaker 4: This is like leading, This is leading up to like
Speaker 4: before you like during your pregnancy and my appointment everything
Speaker 4: I mean, then with your delivery. I guess it was
Speaker 4: important that you did record every year. Yeah, labor is
Speaker 4: a business, you guys, and don't be fooled.
Speaker 2: They will get over on you.
Speaker 11: If you're not informed, they will try to like push
Speaker 11: well I know in California they'll try to push for
Speaker 11: you to have a Sasirians.
Speaker 4: They are bullies and if you're not aware of your
Speaker 4: rights and what the lingo they're talking, then they will.
Speaker 2: Take advantage of you.
Speaker 4: So I recommend that all moms young or other, really
Speaker 4: really really be thorough about understanding everything that can happen
Speaker 4: in a hospital and just understanding your.
Speaker 2: Body and that you kind of already know what to do.
Speaker 4: Because the shit is really scary. Yeah, it is and
Speaker 4: foreign if you've never done it before.
Speaker 11: And I would recommend, like if somebody can be in.
Speaker 3: There with you.
Speaker 2: And it's really hard. Having a kid is really hard.
Speaker 4: Actually, I was dming with one of our listeners, Erica,
Speaker 4: and she was like, yeah, I think she's twenty three too.
Speaker 4: She's like, or maybe she's twenty six or something, and
Speaker 4: she's like, she's been feeling pressuous to have a baby.
Speaker 2: I'm like, girl, think about it twice.
Speaker 3: Oh she didn't have a baby.
Speaker 4: She didn't have a baby yet. I was like, I'm
Speaker 4: happy we have listeners that aren't moms.
Speaker 2: Though, Yeah, learned from a mistakes.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not easy, and a lot of times a
Speaker 4: lot of moms can.
Speaker 3: Honestly couldn't imagine having a child at twenty three. I
Speaker 3: was so irresponsible.
Speaker 7: I don't know.
Speaker 5: I don't know if I would be I don't know
Speaker 5: if I would have been like unselfish enough even after
Speaker 5: having a child. I think I don't think I maybe
Speaker 5: for me personally, I don't know if I would have
Speaker 5: been the best parent, But like some people are young
Speaker 5: and then and they can handle it.
Speaker 3: Like you seem like you're.
Speaker 5: You're still in school, You're focused, you're you know, you're
Speaker 5: here working right now.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, You're doing what you have
Speaker 3: to do.
Speaker 5: And you know, a lot of a lot of even
Speaker 5: people that are our age, I can't even do that
Speaker 5: as parents, you know what I mean? Right, So I
Speaker 5: commend you honestly because you know it's it's it's not easy, and.
Speaker 2: It's definitely not easy at twenty three.
Speaker 5: No, it's not easy, especially you know, not having the
Speaker 5: support of her father, Like that's you know, that's that's hard,
Speaker 5: you know, because I mean I have the support of
Speaker 5: IRI's father. You know, whether it's a perfect perfectly perfect.
Speaker 3: All the time and how I would like it to be,
Speaker 3: how I think it blah blah blah. No, of course not.
Speaker 3: But I mean it's something. It's a lot, Like it's
Speaker 3: a lot.
Speaker 14: So I think if I get past like Luna being like,
Speaker 14: fuck damn, our kids are gonna be will be thirty
Speaker 14: six and our kids are ten thirty seven after a
Speaker 14: certain age, I might not have the energy to try
Speaker 14: to do this again, even though I would like to soon.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but you fall in love again and forget again,
Speaker 5: and then you want to have a baby.
Speaker 3: I want to know what you want?
Speaker 2: What about baby?
Speaker 3: Look like do what I'm forty fuck it?
Speaker 4: Oh godgin, I'm being so close to the finish line
Speaker 4: and saying.
Speaker 2: Fuck it in your eye. That's fine.
Speaker 7: Kind of baby.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 4: Are there things that you wish that you would have
Speaker 4: done before you had that you didn't?
Speaker 5: Not?
Speaker 2: Really?
Speaker 5: I really did a lot, you know, honestly, Like I
Speaker 5: traveled a lot. I you know, I had my fun.
Speaker 4: I No, I wish I could have traveled a little
Speaker 4: more like a three month travel situation.
Speaker 2: But I feel like I could still do that I
Speaker 2: wanted to.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think that's the thing, Like traveling is still
Speaker 5: possible with the child. Yeah, it's like it seems hard,
Speaker 5: it's harder, but it's possible. We're doing it tomorrow, and
Speaker 5: you know, we're gonna go to the airport and our
Speaker 5: kids are gonna annoy us and they're gonna scream, and
Speaker 5: they're gonna like want to play on the five thousand
Speaker 5: things and fight with each other.
Speaker 2: But yeah, we're doing it. You know what we should do. Also,
Speaker 2: did you guys.
Speaker 4: Know that you could buy your own airplane size Luer
Speaker 4: bottles and take them through security because they're under three
Speaker 4: point five flow ounces, and then you could just buy
Speaker 4: the mixer on the plane.
Speaker 7: Okay, wow, I didn't know.
Speaker 4: You're welcome everyone listening.
Speaker 2: They don't. They don't tell you that because they want
Speaker 2: you to buy it from the airline. But you could
Speaker 2: bring your own.
Speaker 4: Liquor and then just get the mixer and if we
Speaker 4: have time in the morning, that's what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 2: God damn it, what's a.
Speaker 12: Two hour flight.
Speaker 3: It'll be fine.
Speaker 8: We could start the party early, okay, okay, because.
Speaker 2: We're like, oh, very are you stepping on this?
Speaker 3: Honey?
Speaker 2: You want to go back down here?
Speaker 11: Let's go down.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 4: This episode is primarily to say, watch your stories on Instagram.
Speaker 2: They're gonna be lit the next six days.
Speaker 4: They We're also gonna have a lot of tricks and
Speaker 4: tips on how to travel with toddlers and how to
Speaker 4: balance the vacation fun.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so tune in next week.
Speaker 2: Oh and also listen to the Dualities podcast. We're on it.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, we're on the Duality podcast this week, right, yeah,
Speaker 3: I think.
Speaker 2: Was it did to come on tonight, so.
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Speaker 7: All right, we're gonna wrap this up.
Speaker 5: We are.
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