Speaker 1: Hell I Suck At Dating with de Nungler and Jared
Speaker 1: Haven and I heard radio podcast. What's going on? Everyone?
Speaker 1: Welcome to a special holiday edition of Help I Suck
Speaker 1: At Dating. I said special, but there's really nothing special
Speaker 1: about this episode because you just got your two dio
Speaker 1: hosts here today as always, joined via zoom from Rhode Island, USA.
Speaker 1: I would assume you're in Rhode Island. I'm never leaving
Speaker 1: Rhode Island again. Do you think we'll ever record in person?
Speaker 1: And the next twenty five years that we host this podcast,
Speaker 1: do you ever think we'll be back in the recording studio.
Speaker 1: I think the fact that I'm on the West Coast
Speaker 1: and you're on the East coast, you have a child,
Speaker 1: the odds are slim. I would say, with all those
Speaker 1: barriers were pretty slim pickings here. But like, for instance, um,
Speaker 1: next month, at the end of January, we're going to
Speaker 1: the Pebble Beach thing I am that we go to
Speaker 1: basically every year, which I think you've been to. I
Speaker 1: could be mistaken, but like you know, normally that's something
Speaker 1: that you would go to. But you're not gonna fly
Speaker 1: all the way from the East coast of the West
Speaker 1: coast with your child and go to that. I would assume.
Speaker 1: I think we might be going. I think it's a prerequisite.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I gotta talk to Ash because this
Speaker 1: isn't that February one, yeah, d of January into the
Speaker 1: beginning of February. Yeah, I think we're going. I think
Speaker 1: that's a prerequisite. I know. So there you go. Then
Speaker 1: that's the next time we're recording person probably and then
Speaker 1: hope the first time, what like two thousand nineteen, yeah,
Speaker 1: two damn that because I remember it was February and
Speaker 1: we were talking about like does this COVID thing gonna
Speaker 1: impact us, Like, there's no way the world's gonna We're
Speaker 1: not gonna shut down like Italy. And then we shut
Speaker 1: down like Italy. So we showed down just like Italy.
Speaker 1: Well nice, I'll get me Dawson for the first time.
Speaker 1: That'd be really really cool. You mean Alistair for the
Speaker 1: first time. Uh So this is January. Happy, happy New year, everybody.
Speaker 1: We are not in the new year full transparency as
Speaker 1: lowest is flipping out, Hey, Ash, could you close the
Speaker 1: door please? You know my wife I love so much,
Speaker 1: but if I did the things that she does to me,
Speaker 1: she would lose her goddamn mind. Hey, Like, for example,
Speaker 1: if I came in didn't close the door behind me,
Speaker 1: could you close? Thank you, thank you very much. Uh.
Speaker 1: Any who, this is late December, before the holidays. We
Speaker 1: have yet to have the holidays, but we figured, uh,
Speaker 1: we would record an episode because we're not gonna be
Speaker 1: together towards the beginning of the year. Uh, it's a
Speaker 1: busy time of year, so we're gonna record now. And
Speaker 1: I hope everybody who's time traveling listening to this podcast
Speaker 1: in the future had a wonderful holiday season, a safe
Speaker 1: New Year's and a safe Christmas, all that jazz anything
Speaker 1: to adding no that you said that? So well, yeah,
Speaker 1: happy Timelidays, Merry Christmas, Happy Janka, happy Kwanza, and any
Speaker 1: other holiday that you might celebrate this time of year. Um,
Speaker 1: we we wish you all the happiest of holidays. We are.
Speaker 1: As Jared said, we were recording this pre Christmas, but
Speaker 1: we didn't want to leave you guys without an episode
Speaker 1: beginning the new year, because you know, we're thoughtful like that,
Speaker 1: and we want you guys to get your Gene and
Speaker 1: Dean and Jared fix in. So we start calling ourselves Jane.
Speaker 1: Now that could be our nickname, you know how, like
Speaker 1: every couple of Bachelor has a nickname, like we were
Speaker 1: Joshually we're Gene. I like Darred. I think Dred's better,
Speaker 1: but we can workshop at well, like Darred better than Gene. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just think Dred's cool because like a Gene is
Speaker 1: a name you can name a kid, obviously, but like
Speaker 1: Darred is a name that you know, you need a
Speaker 1: cool name. I feel like if we were Garred, though,
Speaker 1: we would be like a celebrities kid, you on, I
Speaker 1: mean Brad Pitt and Angelia Jolie or you know what
Speaker 1: formerly was Kim and Kanye. Like we'd be one of
Speaker 1: those celebrity kids that like, this is our son Dred, Like,
Speaker 1: who the hell is their kid Darred? Like we do
Speaker 1: because like every time he goes to Starbucks to give
Speaker 1: his order, they'd write the name wrong every single time.
Speaker 1: Poor kid would have Dude, they do that for me? Anyway?
Speaker 1: What do they what do they put for your name? Oh,
Speaker 1: my name is Jerry in Starbucks, it's Jerry. It's not
Speaker 1: like I don't think I've ever had Jared written on
Speaker 1: a cup. Jerry, Like, yeah, that's my red air the
Speaker 1: cookie butter with sprinkles. This guy for Jerry. It's actually
Speaker 1: nice though, because they never have to I never have
Speaker 1: to like own up to the fact I can go
Speaker 1: into Starbucks and just nobody knows who I am, so
Speaker 1: I can order whatever the hell I want, not be
Speaker 1: insecure about the curly drinks I order. Even I don't
Speaker 1: really drink Starbucks anymore, because you know, I own a
Speaker 1: coffee shop and I love ours. But sometimes I do,
Speaker 1: like we went to Duncan this morning. I went to
Speaker 1: Duncan this morning. I love Duncan. I do love Duncan.
Speaker 1: But the only downside of Duncan is that sometimes it
Speaker 1: really in the morning. The coffee is always good, it's
Speaker 1: freshly brewed. But if you get like an afternoon coffee
Speaker 1: from Duncan that's hot, sometimes it's socks. I feel like
Speaker 1: it's just burnt coffee that's been sitting there for hours.
Speaker 1: Any Who, we don't think I've ever had the hot
Speaker 1: coffee from Duncan. I always go the ice coffee, the
Speaker 1: original blend ice coffee, and at least said the Duncan
Speaker 1: by my house in Las Vegas. It's like out of
Speaker 1: a tap and so it's pretty consistently really good, which
Speaker 1: I enjoy the consistency of the Duncan ice coffee because
Speaker 1: Starbucks ice coffee, which I also usually like, it varies
Speaker 1: so much in taste and quality, and sometimes you get
Speaker 1: a normal good one, but sometimes I would say, like
Speaker 1: one out of every five times, it's like an undrinkably
Speaker 1: bad ice coffee, like that's been sitting too long or
Speaker 1: something like that. So shout out to Duncan. You know
Speaker 1: we're giving some free plugs in this podcast. Hey, maybe
Speaker 1: you guys want to sponsor us. Why not? We both
Speaker 1: love Duncan. You've had a Duncan sponsorship on Instagram before.
Speaker 1: I think I remember he is. Come on, bro, I
Speaker 1: ran on Duncan nice. Now I run on Ben. That's right.
Speaker 1: All right, let's get into our new year recap real quick.
Speaker 1: So let's look back on this great year we just
Speaker 1: had two thousand twenty two. Jared, what do you think
Speaker 1: you learned in don't open a business, buy a house,
Speaker 1: and have a kid all within a three month span.
Speaker 1: That's what I learned. Two. God, First of all, the
Speaker 1: fact that we're saying, holy sh we're old man. That's crazy.
Speaker 1: I was talking about ironically we're talking about Sandra Bullock.
Speaker 1: Yesterday with my dad and he were talking about movies
Speaker 1: she's been in recently. I'm like, I feel like she's
Speaker 1: been in nothing. And then somebody was like, oh, she
Speaker 1: was in that bird Box movie and I said, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I forgot about that. And then my dad was like,
Speaker 1: what was that football movie? That was only a few
Speaker 1: years ago, right, my dad, the blind Side? That's like
Speaker 1: twelve thirteen years old. He goes, Holy Ship, It's like, yeah, dude,
Speaker 1: that's old. The blind Side is thirteen years old. Two
Speaker 1: thousand nine is when it came out. That's the year
Speaker 1: graduated high school. Yeah, we're really getting old. It's interesting.
Speaker 1: I was standing in line today at Duncan funny enough
Speaker 1: to bring it back to that. It's very early. It
Speaker 1: was like six am and I was standing there and
Speaker 1: I feel like, I don't know. I was thinking randomly
Speaker 1: about how when you're in your twenties, everyone still kind
Speaker 1: of looks at you as a kid. In my experience,
Speaker 1: at least, like, you know, you don't get treated as
Speaker 1: much of an adult. And now that even my thirties,
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm in the zone where I am
Speaker 1: an adult, and so I get treated like an adult,
Speaker 1: but I still can somehow talk to kids who are
Speaker 1: like working as a barista or something like that. So
Speaker 1: I feel and I was thinking, I was like, how
Speaker 1: long do I have this phase of life to last it?
Speaker 1: And I was thinking maybe like five years top, So
Speaker 1: at mid thirties to late thirties, I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: gonna lose that sense of connection with the younger generation,
Speaker 1: you know, like we're already we've already lost it for
Speaker 1: the most part, but in your head, at least in
Speaker 1: my head, I feel like I've still got a little
Speaker 1: bit of a connection there, Like I could still be
Speaker 1: like the cool guy that walks into the coffee shopping
Speaker 1: people I don't know. I think like, oh, he's got
Speaker 1: some life ahead of him still, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like you can still do something with his life if
Speaker 1: he really wanted to. I also think, listen the fact
Speaker 1: that where you know, I mean, you're taller than I am,
Speaker 1: but I'm six ft, but you're tall, handsome, you know, younger,
Speaker 1: looking like you look like you're in your late twenties.
Speaker 1: That helps us a lot, and it helps me as well.
Speaker 1: That's true. We we could still pass his late twenties,
Speaker 1: I think, which is, like you said, very helpful. There
Speaker 1: are some less fortunate people that are, you know, younger
Speaker 1: than us, that look older than us. Which is funny too,
Speaker 1: because when you're young, you want to look old, but
Speaker 1: when you get old, you want to look young. You know,
Speaker 1: I want to look like I'm in my thirties. I
Speaker 1: feel like that's a great age for a guy to look.
Speaker 1: If we could look like this forever, and like, I'm
Speaker 1: not saying I look good or anything, but I know
Speaker 1: that I'm gonna look worse than five years. So if
Speaker 1: I could just look like this for the rest of
Speaker 1: the next decade, I think I'd be happy. No, I
Speaker 1: couldn't agree more. It's only going downhill from here. So
Speaker 1: if I could just stay stagnant on this even line,
Speaker 1: I'll be happy. I don't need to go up. Just
Speaker 1: stay just like the ice coffee from Duncan Baby, just
Speaker 1: nice and consistent. Just and that we ask. So you
Speaker 1: learned not to do all those things and uh in
Speaker 1: the same year. That's good advice. Well, honestly, I learned
Speaker 1: in two Thanks for asking, Jared. I'm gonna go ahead
Speaker 1: and say that I still wanted to talk about myself
Speaker 1: for a minute. You know, I was gonna bring my
Speaker 1: thing that I learned back to you real quick. So
Speaker 1: I was gonna say that I learned in two not
Speaker 1: to host a podcast with a guy that opened the
Speaker 1: coffee shop, had a baby, and got married all the
Speaker 1: same year. Yeah, I mean, I was definitely. It's funny
Speaker 1: how I was always the one on time and consistent
Speaker 1: and here and responsible. And I still feel that I
Speaker 1: have that edge over you. But it definitely two really
Speaker 1: even the playing field a little bit for you. You You
Speaker 1: got a lot closer in the responsibility field. It used
Speaker 1: to be like to five me. Now it's like I
Speaker 1: would say, seventy already you were gonna say, and then
Speaker 1: you wanted to change a little bit. Because I agree
Speaker 1: with you, I think the gap has shrunk a little bit.
Speaker 1: There are there And not to say that you've gotten
Speaker 1: considerably worse, but I think I've gotten a little bit better.
Speaker 1: You know, We've We've got a house that I spend
Speaker 1: more time in. I still have my my random outbursts
Speaker 1: where I'm like, hey, sorry, I'm on the middle or
Speaker 1: in the middle of the road in Idaho somewhere. Has
Speaker 1: it happened much though not as much as it used to.
Speaker 1: So that's good, that's good, and that in conjunction with
Speaker 1: your busy schedule, I do think the gap has shrunk
Speaker 1: just a little bit, which is good, Which is good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: uh yeah, the biggest life change. It's funny because I
Speaker 1: think it might be opening a business over Dawson. Of course, emotionally, uh,
Speaker 1: Dawson is a much bigger change. But man, just the
Speaker 1: sheer hours and effort uh and blood, sweat and tears
Speaker 1: I've put into Audrey's this past year. I really think
Speaker 1: that if I separated the two and I said, Okay,
Speaker 1: if you had one year of just Audrey's or one
Speaker 1: year of just Dawson, what would be more tasks, more
Speaker 1: tasking on you? I feel like it would have been
Speaker 1: Audrey's if I'm being honest, which is crazy, because Dawson
Speaker 1: is exhausting, but Audrey's I find way more exhausting. Also
Speaker 1: the other parts Audrey's I think also just one last thing,
Speaker 1: the Audrey's I'm doing much more on my own where
Speaker 1: Dawson I split with Ashley, and Ashley does so much
Speaker 1: that was gonna be My question is what do you
Speaker 1: think Ashley would say to that question? Obviously Dawson, Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: well what would yeah? But she hate well, I mean
Speaker 1: she loves Audrey's obviously, but she also hates Audrey's. So
Speaker 1: hate it's a love hate relationship because she loves Audrey's
Speaker 1: and she loves what it is and how comfortable it
Speaker 1: is and the quality that we serve with service and
Speaker 1: food and drink, uh, and the community aspect of it.
Speaker 1: But she also hates it because she sees how much
Speaker 1: stress it brings me and how much time it takes
Speaker 1: for me to be there and operate it, and that
Speaker 1: takes away from time from her and Dawson. And she's
Speaker 1: in Rhode Island by herself, So there's a lot going on.
Speaker 1: Do you ever regret opening Audrey's? Uh, just like twice
Speaker 1: a day, bro, It's not so bad. No, I don't
Speaker 1: regret it. I really don't. I love Audrey's. I love
Speaker 1: I really do. When I'm there, man, I do love Audrey's.
Speaker 1: I love what we do there, I love what we're
Speaker 1: all about. I love our staff, I love our coffee,
Speaker 1: I love our drinks. I love the the atmosphere there.
Speaker 1: It's so cozy and people seem genuinely happy while they're there.
Speaker 1: Which makes me happy. I think the staff likes working there.
Speaker 1: I think we really deliver a good product. It's busy,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things that I'm proud of, and
Speaker 1: I definitely don't regret opening it. But it's tough, man.
Speaker 1: You know, Inflation is way up, the economy is not
Speaker 1: doing so well. There's a lot of small businesses that
Speaker 1: are hurting right now, much more than my own, so
Speaker 1: I can't complain too much. But the fact is it's
Speaker 1: tough to make money right now from opening a business.
Speaker 1: And I'm certainly not the only one going through that,
Speaker 1: and there's a lot of people that I have it
Speaker 1: a lot worse than me. But it's tough, so I
Speaker 1: don't regret it. It's got to really depend on the
Speaker 1: next two years. I'd say, see what the next two
Speaker 1: years have to offer with the amount of money that
Speaker 1: we're making, how much time I'm putting into it an effort,
Speaker 1: what the economy looks like. Um, because I love Audrey's
Speaker 1: I'd love to open more places, but really, you know,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of factors going on. If we have
Speaker 1: more kids, are we gonna stay in Rhode Island? I
Speaker 1: want to stay in Rhode Island. But Ashley is starting
Speaker 1: to get a little Virginia fever over here. Her families
Speaker 1: from Northern Virginia, and she is missing her family. They're
Speaker 1: big help with Dawson. You know, her sister is gonna
Speaker 1: get married probably this year and probably start having kids.
Speaker 1: So if her sister, Lauren starts having kids, that's going
Speaker 1: to really change a lot, because then Grandma and Grandpa
Speaker 1: on her side, her parents will be down there with
Speaker 1: Lauren and the kid. And I think Ashley is really
Speaker 1: really going to have some serious pomo with that. We'll see.
Speaker 1: You're Dean is shrinking behind the mic right now. I
Speaker 1: don't know what the hell is going on. He's slunking.
Speaker 1: Is Laura gonna have kids? Yeah, she wants to have kids. Married. No,
Speaker 1: she's engaged. So she's engaged, due to be married probably
Speaker 1: three But yeah, dude, when she starts having kids, oh Jesus, dude, Ashley,
Speaker 1: every single day, I can already see it that she's
Speaker 1: just gonna tell me how much she hates it here.
Speaker 1: So we have an engagement party in a couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: We were gonna avite you guys, but I want to
Speaker 1: invite you guys, but I feel weird inviting people knowing
Speaker 1: that they're not gonna go, so like you already know
Speaker 1: the answer, I don't wanna. I don't want you to
Speaker 1: be uninvited, But I also feel guilty putting like the
Speaker 1: guilt on you guys for getting an invite and obviously
Speaker 1: knowing that you can't make it. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't think like that, just invite people and let
Speaker 1: people make their own decisions. But I also feel bad,
Speaker 1: like I don't know, I just like I don't want
Speaker 1: you to fly all the way, like you have too
Speaker 1: much going on, and I know you wouldn't, but like,
Speaker 1: I don't want you to have to fly out from
Speaker 1: the East coast to the West coast just for an
Speaker 1: engagement party. Yeah, we wouldn't, and we would send our guy.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to feel But then I don't
Speaker 1: want you to feel bad for not going to the
Speaker 1: engagement party because we invited you. You You know what I mean? Honestly, bro,
Speaker 1: once you have kids, For me at least, it's like
Speaker 1: all things just I don't feel bad anymore. I don't
Speaker 1: feel bad about things. It's like if I could do it, great,
Speaker 1: If I can't, that's okay too. I'm starting to just
Speaker 1: become that old grump who's like, yeah, if we're there,
Speaker 1: we're there. But I'll let you know. Like I'm trying
Speaker 1: to think. Even uh, Ashley was freaking out because we
Speaker 1: didn't get anything my parents for Christmas, and like so
Speaker 1: they're fine, you know, a couple of years ago before
Speaker 1: we had kids, sure be like, oh, we gotta get
Speaker 1: him something and something nice. My parents don't care. I
Speaker 1: don't care. It's all about Dawson. They just want gifts
Speaker 1: for Dawson. They don't want anything like, well, let's just
Speaker 1: get him a gift card for USh. You're telling me
Speaker 1: kids are a good reason to slack off your social
Speaker 1: obligation thousand and ten percent. Dude, kids are the greatest
Speaker 1: excuse ever. I gotta have a baby. I gotta have
Speaker 1: a baby. But even strolling through Walmart, Broo, everybody gets
Speaker 1: out of your way. And if you get in my way,
Speaker 1: you're the asshole. I have the baby, I have the kid.
Speaker 1: You have to get out of my way, you know, everything,
Speaker 1: Like because if I'm carrying like everything, everybody just feels
Speaker 1: bad for you because you have the kid, because they
Speaker 1: know that. It's just there's so much going on, and
Speaker 1: it's it makes me feel good because he's the easiest
Speaker 1: excuse ever. Dawson's getting a little fussy. We gotta go
Speaker 1: as a non child bearing human. I zent everything you
Speaker 1: just said. It's great, man, it's awesome because, like, honestly, yeah, bro,
Speaker 1: if you and Calin are walking down the Walmart aisle
Speaker 1: and Ashley and me and Dawson are walking in the
Speaker 1: opposite direction, and we're playing a game and chicken, at
Speaker 1: this point, I'm bowling that kid over. I don't care
Speaker 1: get out of my way. A kid, I'm bigger than you,
Speaker 1: I'm stronger than you, and I will mess you up
Speaker 1: if you get in my way totally. But then someone
Speaker 1: will be recording. Yeah no exactly, but then someone will
Speaker 1: be recording it. And then Dean is the asshole because
Speaker 1: he bumped the kid he got in the way, Like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's just a baby. It's like, dude, anybody who gets mad,
Speaker 1: I also get so annoyed. People who like get annoyed
Speaker 1: about a baby crying on a plane. It's like, guys, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're all aware. We don't want this baby to be crying.
Speaker 1: He's my child. We have to do this. We have
Speaker 1: to be on this plane. I'm going to do everything
Speaker 1: in my power to keep this baby from crying. But
Speaker 1: there might be some moments where you here and it's like,
Speaker 1: you know what, if you're smart, you planned ahead, you
Speaker 1: brought headphones so you don't have to listen to any
Speaker 1: of this. It's the people that get annoyed about having
Speaker 1: a baby on a plane that don't have headphones. You
Speaker 1: have nobody to blame but yourself. Bring headphones, zone out,
Speaker 1: watch movies on your phone, or listen to music and
Speaker 1: shut the hell up. I get a baby crying that's
Speaker 1: less uh controllable by the parents. But when like a toddler,
Speaker 1: like a three to a twelve year old kid is
Speaker 1: acting up on an airplane and the parents not doing
Speaker 1: anything about it, that's when I get annoyed, because it's
Speaker 1: the parents responsibility to ease their their child, and by
Speaker 1: not doing that, they're making the flight a miserable experience
Speaker 1: for everyone involved. And yeah, sure headphones are helpful, but
Speaker 1: they don't block a dent of the sound a hundred
Speaker 1: percent of the time. So I get the babies baby
Speaker 1: aspect of it, but once that baby reaches a certain age,
Speaker 1: it then becomes back to me being annoyed at the parents.
Speaker 1: I agree with that there's a certain age, and I'm
Speaker 1: dreading that because then it's like, then I have to
Speaker 1: put some serious effort in. That sounds terrible. I have
Speaker 1: to watch my effort that worst. Jesus uh Odean. What
Speaker 1: about you? What did you two? You've gotten engaged twice,
Speaker 1: You've proposed, and then you got proposed to. Did you
Speaker 1: move or was that we moved to Vegas? That was
Speaker 1: April of last year. Damn, dude, I have no sense
Speaker 1: of time anymore. So what about you? What did you
Speaker 1: learn in this past year? I learned that when you
Speaker 1: buy an engagement rank for someone, you damn well better
Speaker 1: ensure it because that ring might go missing, and if
Speaker 1: it does, you're stuck footing the bill for a new one. Dude,
Speaker 1: I cannot believe you haven't found this thing. I know.
Speaker 1: So I'm doing renovations in the house right now, and
Speaker 1: one of the like things that I've been holding onto
Speaker 1: where I was like, oh, I'll find it, was when
Speaker 1: I demoed our home office to like redo a bunch
Speaker 1: of stuff, and it's fully demoed and there was no
Speaker 1: rank to be found. So the hope is dwindling quite
Speaker 1: a bit. But what do you think could have had?
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously someone threw it out, see only logical
Speaker 1: explanation if this thing is never found, is that smartly
Speaker 1: you put it in a crumpled piece of paper or
Speaker 1: tissues in the junk draw you know, as you should
Speaker 1: do with what you say, a four carrot diamond? Yeah,
Speaker 1: four and a half four and a half. Excuse me,
Speaker 1: I forgot the half? Uh and then it but my
Speaker 1: how who if you knew what it was, and Kalin
Speaker 1: knew what it was, who the hell would have thrown
Speaker 1: this thing out? Has anybody been over your house that
Speaker 1: would feel comfortable enough? There's a seventy chances in a landfill,
Speaker 1: but that that's what we're cleaning too. We yeah, if
Speaker 1: we we've I don't know, is there anybody that's come
Speaker 1: over the house that would feel comfortable enough to go
Speaker 1: through any drawers or clean up? Do you have a
Speaker 1: cleaning company? We have cleaners that come every once in
Speaker 1: a while. But here's where the plot thickens a little bit.
Speaker 1: I think I've already talked about this on the podcast before,
Speaker 1: but my golf club's got stolen out of my garage.
Speaker 1: My favorite broncos stool is missing, and I presume to
Speaker 1: be stolen. So I'm not saying anyone came into our
Speaker 1: house and took it out of junk drawer. That's like
Speaker 1: very very low odds, but it does thicken the plot
Speaker 1: a little bit knowing that other things from our house
Speaker 1: have been taken and are missing, and who knows, who knows.
Speaker 1: But that's what I learned. I learned in in two
Speaker 1: thousands twenty two. I learned that wedding ring engagement, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: wedding ring insurance is a thing and it's something I
Speaker 1: should have purchased. And Caitlin is laughing at me. I'm
Speaker 1: glad my dismay is very pleasing to her. And yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I learned. So when I get the new ring,
Speaker 1: I will be sure to think about ensuring it and
Speaker 1: I go from there. Well, you should probably just put
Speaker 1: it on a band quickly and put it on Caalen's
Speaker 1: finger pretty fast. Yeah, and then if it gets lost,
Speaker 1: it's her doing, not mine, that's the big thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: then she like probably lost her finger. Uh, it's good
Speaker 1: that she's laughing at you and not stabbing you over
Speaker 1: So that's the step in the right direction. She is
Speaker 1: making it known. Every passing day she gets a little
Speaker 1: bit more upset with me about it's missing, about how
Speaker 1: it's not around. So I you know, we're getting married
Speaker 1: in follow next year. If it's not around by then,
Speaker 1: I'm sure she probably will get cold feet and not
Speaker 1: want to walk down the aisle where you guys getting married.
Speaker 1: You know, Colorado, Colorado? It is Colorado. Okay, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: gonna be. It's gonna be an Aspen and Brissel or something.
Speaker 1: So save the date. We're actually so for our the
Speaker 1: holidays this year. We wanted to go to Virginia for
Speaker 1: Christmas to hang out with Kaylin's family, but with the
Speaker 1: weather coming in and the stress of the wedding looming
Speaker 1: and all of these things, we decided we're just going
Speaker 1: to stay in Vegas for Christmas. But then we're gonna
Speaker 1: go to Aspen for New Year's And on that trip
Speaker 1: to Aspen for New Years, we're gonna look at a
Speaker 1: bunch of venues and stuff. And it's pretty cool, uh,
Speaker 1: that we're doing it there because obviously I grew up
Speaker 1: there and so a lot of the venues were looking
Speaker 1: at our places that I've been too frequently as a child.
Speaker 1: And one of the places that we're looking at too
Speaker 1: is actually the So there's this company in the valley
Speaker 1: that I grew up in called the Colorado five hundred.
Speaker 1: It's like an organization and a nonprofit and it's like
Speaker 1: a motorcycle of race that they do every year, and
Speaker 1: they also offer scholarships. And so when I graduated high school,
Speaker 1: they offered me their max scholarship, and without their scholarship,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have been able to attend college. So they've
Speaker 1: got this big, beautiful plot of land up in the mountains,
Speaker 1: and they're one of the places we're looking at. And
Speaker 1: I just thought to be a really cool kind of
Speaker 1: like full circle moment of having our wedding reception at
Speaker 1: the same place that gave me the ability to further
Speaker 1: my education. That would be pretty cool. Yeah, So you
Speaker 1: haven't are these places booked up? Because over here in
Speaker 1: New England, it's like if you don't book at least
Speaker 1: a year in advance, you're not getting anything. Yeah, there
Speaker 1: there some of them are, some of them aren't. Especially
Speaker 1: that time of the year in the fall, and Aspen
Speaker 1: is like a pretty sought after time of year because
Speaker 1: the leaves are changing, and the weather is perfect and
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff. Yeah, it's pretty nice. So
Speaker 1: some of them, like one of them is a good
Speaker 1: family friend that has this ranch out there that is
Speaker 1: offering their plot of land, and they're like, whatever, whatever
Speaker 1: you want, if you want it, it's yours. If you
Speaker 1: want to give us money, you can. If you don't
Speaker 1: want to, that's fine too. In my head, I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: let's let's do that. But we also have to provide
Speaker 1: all of our infrastructure and everything. We're also looking at.
Speaker 1: Uh there's the vice right up in snowmass that has
Speaker 1: like all of the infrastructure already in place for a wedding. So, uh,
Speaker 1: we're doing all that. But yes, we do have to
Speaker 1: make our decision relatively soon, if not long time ago,
Speaker 1: because those venues book up pretty quick. So it's pretty
Speaker 1: much decided that you guys are having a pretty decent
Speaker 1: sized wedding. I don't know, I how big do you
Speaker 1: think our wedding will be? Kalin, you can say that loud,
Speaker 1: Yeah how big was yours? One? Eight? Yeah? Ours will
Speaker 1: be smaller than that? Good a good amount. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: I would never tell anybody go over that dude, Ben,
Speaker 1: wouldn't you just didn't feel like one eight. You just
Speaker 1: felt like a twenty more intimate. Yeah, it was definitely
Speaker 1: more intimate because there was great people there, but and
Speaker 1: whoever planned did a great job. Ben's wedding was a lot.
Speaker 1: Ben's when it was gorgeous and awesome, but there was
Speaker 1: like four people there. Yeah. Even just Ben's bridal party
Speaker 1: or groomsman party was like fifteen people. Yeah, that was
Speaker 1: a lot. It was fun though. Uh so wait how many?
Speaker 1: So you guys, do you think you'd be over under
Speaker 1: a hundred? I wanted to be under but it'll probably
Speaker 1: be over just barely. If you're over a hundred, that's
Speaker 1: a good size wedding. So you're having a pretty big wedding. Yeah,
Speaker 1: does that make you feel? How does that make you feel?
Speaker 1: As like your inner soul being like I am having
Speaker 1: a big wedding. This is it, this is who I
Speaker 1: am now, this is the man I've become hasn't really
Speaker 1: connected yet, so I can't really I can't really be sard.
Speaker 1: And you know, you could invite two hundred people but
Speaker 1: only fifty of them show ups, so who really knows?
Speaker 1: The challenging thing is is since it is in the
Speaker 1: town that I grew up in. A lot of my
Speaker 1: friends that I'm friends with but I'm not super close with,
Speaker 1: since they're already there, do I invite them because it's
Speaker 1: like like a proximity wise, it's so easy for them
Speaker 1: to get to you know. I mean, I wouldn't invite
Speaker 1: people based on proximity. I would invite them based on
Speaker 1: if you want them at your wedding or not. I mean,
Speaker 1: I want them there, but the numbers are gonna add
Speaker 1: up fast. I also thought I had a lot of friends.
Speaker 1: I really, I thought I was a really popular guy
Speaker 1: with a lot of friends. And then we started like
Speaker 1: inviting people to our engagement party and I was like, man,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm tapped out. And I was like, twenty people in.
Speaker 1: I've got a lot of I was actually talking to
Speaker 1: someone about this here night. I have a lot of friends,
Speaker 1: but I don't have a lot of like really close friends.
Speaker 1: I don't have like a group of like ten friends.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, I guess that's not true. I do,
Speaker 1: but I've got a lot of friends who I'm like
Speaker 1: friends with, but I don't interest like I don't see
Speaker 1: very often, you know, So it makes the whole invite
Speaker 1: tee thing a little bit more challenge. Um. But yeah,
Speaker 1: so that's that's what's happening. We're getting married in Colorado.
Speaker 1: We've already got our wedding planners and stuff, and that
Speaker 1: money is already adding up very quickly. So we'll see
Speaker 1: what happens. But um, was it your let I want
Speaker 1: to ask you about your Were you like that in
Speaker 1: high school? Do you find that like in high school
Speaker 1: you didn't have that many close friends but your friends
Speaker 1: with everybody? Or did you have like a close knit Yeah,
Speaker 1: we had a close knit We had a close knit group,
Speaker 1: but of the close knit group, I felt like they
Speaker 1: were all really close and I was just like not
Speaker 1: as close with all of them as they all were
Speaker 1: with each other. You know, I kind of feel the
Speaker 1: same way. I'm curious. Is that everybody's experience in high
Speaker 1: school or is that just might be because I feel
Speaker 1: like I hear that a lot where they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: I was friends a lot of people, but I never
Speaker 1: had like that close friend group. Like, man, I feel
Speaker 1: the same way. Is it me? Hi, I'm the problem?
Speaker 1: It's me? Is that what we're talking about? It that
Speaker 1: that's the thing in high school, I had a group
Speaker 1: of like ten friends and we're all super close and
Speaker 1: we hung out every single weekend and did everything together.
Speaker 1: But of that group, I felt like there was only
Speaker 1: like one or two of them that I could like
Speaker 1: hang out with just us two, whereas like the other eight.
Speaker 1: It would be weird if we were hanging out just
Speaker 1: me and them, you know. That's I think that's the
Speaker 1: that's the big test is can you hang out with
Speaker 1: this person with just you and that person? And if
Speaker 1: you can't, then you're probably not as good a friends
Speaker 1: as you think you are. So I don't know, we'll see.
Speaker 1: It's weird. It's weird having a wedding because it reminds
Speaker 1: you that you have to think about friendships a little
Speaker 1: bit more seriously. And it's just something that we don't
Speaker 1: really think about in our day to day lives. And
Speaker 1: so now that I have to do this, it's just
Speaker 1: I don't know. You have to play in high school again. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you have to play the hunger games with your friends
Speaker 1: and family, like which ones are gonna get asked? Uh? So? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't believe this episode is already almost over three.
Speaker 1: So you're getting married, You have any other goals for
Speaker 1: the New Year resolutions, And yeah, I really want to
Speaker 1: climb all of the high points in the USA fifty
Speaker 1: high points. I think I can do it in a year,
Speaker 1: and that's my goal. Uh. The only one I'm concerned
Speaker 1: about is Mountainali, which is probably not gonna happen. Sob
Speaker 1: about why would that not happen. It's such a big undertaking.
Speaker 1: It's like a month long and it's like forty dollars
Speaker 1: and that's dollars to climb a mountain. Yeah, because you're
Speaker 1: on the mountain for a month and you can't hire
Speaker 1: cheap labor as you can in like South South Asia. Um,
Speaker 1: so it's just expensive. It's a big undertaking. It takes
Speaker 1: a lot of knowledge and a lot of skill. So
Speaker 1: that's my goal, but it's it's kind of lofty, So
Speaker 1: we'll see if it actually ends up happening. What's your goal,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you one second. Uh, well, we have multiple goals, right,
Speaker 1: we all have multiple goles. I'm very curious why it's
Speaker 1: so expensive for climb a mountain. I understand you to
Speaker 1: stay there, and so when you pay this money, do
Speaker 1: you get supplies and food to survive for the month? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's part of the expense. Uh supplies, food, like a
Speaker 1: guide is expensive, permits can be expensive sometimes. Logistics obviously,
Speaker 1: like getting there then aali you have to like fly
Speaker 1: and then you have to like no, I don't even know,
Speaker 1: I don't really know the logistics against really, but I
Speaker 1: know it's hard to get to like you have to
Speaker 1: fly somewhere, take a take a pond skipper somewhere else,
Speaker 1: take a symobile up and then you're like hiking with
Speaker 1: these like hundred pounds sleds behind you the whole way,
Speaker 1: and it's just and then you're on the mount and
Speaker 1: like you're taking enough food to last you for a month.
Speaker 1: So that's expensive, and it's just it's it can get
Speaker 1: very expensive. That's insane. And the end goal is just
Speaker 1: you know, you get to the top, right, and then
Speaker 1: you head back down. But as with with most goals
Speaker 1: in life, as with most achievements in life, it's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's that, and now what do I do next? But yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right, you get to the top of mountain and
Speaker 1: you're like cool, this is cool, and then you just
Speaker 1: walk back down. Yeah, but at least, like if I
Speaker 1: spend money and go on a vacation, I come back
Speaker 1: home like relaxed and tan. So I got some things
Speaker 1: that I get to carry back home with me. With you,
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess you're you know, your soul is fulfilled,
Speaker 1: whatever the hell that means. So that's nice, I think.
Speaker 1: I think personally, to go on a trip that physically
Speaker 1: exerts you and drains you and wears you out is
Speaker 1: so much more fulfilling than going on a beach vacation
Speaker 1: where you just sit clads and get a tan. Don't
Speaker 1: get me wrong, and they're both they're both good, and
Speaker 1: they're both enjoyable things. But then to have that experience
Speaker 1: of climbing the tallest mountain in the USA, in North
Speaker 1: America for the rest of your life, Like, that's something
Speaker 1: you take with you for the rest of your life.
Speaker 1: You don't take a trip to Camcoon with you back
Speaker 1: for the rest of your life. It depends on the trip. Really. Uh,
Speaker 1: there's been trips to kick you can get herpes at
Speaker 1: last forever. Yeah, that's true, that's true, and that's not
Speaker 1: a good ending for anybody. Uh. My goal, you know
Speaker 1: what my goal is in life, and I'm gonna try
Speaker 1: to manifest it in I want to make a movie.
Speaker 1: I want to make a movie. So I've always wanted
Speaker 1: to write and direct my own short film. I feel
Speaker 1: like I have the capabilities and the creative knowledge to
Speaker 1: do so, and um, I just want to do it.
Speaker 1: I just want to do it. But I really have
Speaker 1: to find something that i'm uh you know. I've written
Speaker 1: a couple of different scripts but never finished them, and
Speaker 1: they've all been various genres. I do love the Scream franchise,
Speaker 1: so to write maybe a some sort of um, who
Speaker 1: done it? Uh? Murder mystery, serial killer type aspect of film.
Speaker 1: Would you know, some sort of uh you know, um
Speaker 1: homage to scream something like that could interest me. But
Speaker 1: I would really want to do it, um and uh,
Speaker 1: I think I have the capabilities doing it and finding
Speaker 1: the time and really just planning and uh you know,
Speaker 1: just doing the damn thing. So that's my goal. I
Speaker 1: think would be able to write a movie the horror
Speaker 1: genre as my as I understand it, pound per pound
Speaker 1: is the best genre to do like a indie film
Speaker 1: four because it's less expensive than most others. The scripts
Speaker 1: are I could be way off on this, but they
Speaker 1: seem like they're easier to write in the sense that
Speaker 1: the arc of the movie makes more sense. Like there,
Speaker 1: you don't have to be like super out of the
Speaker 1: box to make a good horror movie, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Like you could just kind of follow the
Speaker 1: traditional wavelength and still make a really solid movie. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I would I think I think you'd be good at that. Well,
Speaker 1: thank you. I'd say that two would be either you
Speaker 1: want to do a drama or horror comedy. Would be difficult,
Speaker 1: um to try to get a short film and get
Speaker 1: like as many laughs in there as possible. I mean,
Speaker 1: it could work, but it would, I feel like, be
Speaker 1: more difficult. And then action or science fiction no way.
Speaker 1: Could you ever try, like on a low Have you
Speaker 1: ever seen a low budget action movie. It's terrible. It's
Speaker 1: terrible unless you're intentionally trying to make a terrible movie,
Speaker 1: make it terrible. Yeah. So if you do an action
Speaker 1: adventure movie and you don't make me the main character,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna revolt. Yeah, I'll just make my Tom cruise.
Speaker 1: So any dangerous stunt that he does. Do you see
Speaker 1: that video where he like he's on a motorcycle and
Speaker 1: he drives it off a cliff and then he watched
Speaker 1: I watched the behind the scenes of how they film that.
Speaker 1: It's amazing, mind blowing. He is awesome. God he did
Speaker 1: that six times. What I mean, I I watched that
Speaker 1: movie or I'm sorry I have. I watched that clip
Speaker 1: of the behind the scenes. And I've always known that
Speaker 1: Tom Cruise does all of his own stuff and all
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff, but watching that for a minute
Speaker 1: clip really made me admire him in a way that
Speaker 1: I hadn't before, because it's pretty amazing what he's done.
Speaker 1: And he's like fifty years old and he's still doing
Speaker 1: this crap. Dude, I think he might be sixty. That's crazy.
Speaker 1: Good for him, that man is sixty years of age.
Speaker 1: Well done, Well done, Tom, collaps for you. I want
Speaker 1: to say another goal that Kalen and I have together
Speaker 1: for beside to the wedding, obviously, we want to be
Speaker 1: back on TV in some way, and so we've been
Speaker 1: talking to We've been talking to well she told me
Speaker 1: the shish, but we we whether it's in the form
Speaker 1: of being contestant on like some game show or Kaitlin
Speaker 1: and I think we might have the snuff to host
Speaker 1: our own show. But we're in the very very beginning
Speaker 1: phases of all this. But we're talking to some people
Speaker 1: about it, and that's that's our goal. And I'm saying
Speaker 1: it as she's shishing me. I'm saying it because I
Speaker 1: think there's like a self fulfilling prophecy maybe. So if
Speaker 1: the more we put it out there, maybe the more
Speaker 1: likely we are to get it back. Put it out there, Baby,
Speaker 1: it will happen. It will definitely. Have no doubt. You
Speaker 1: guys are too good on TV, and you guys are
Speaker 1: back on TV. We'll see, we'll see. That's the hope. Um.
Speaker 1: But yeah, is there anything else you want to cover
Speaker 1: before we I think that's it. First podcast, Suck Army.
Speaker 1: We thank you all for listening to this podcast. Anybody
Speaker 1: who comes into Audrey's and tell me, you know says
Speaker 1: that you're a part of Stuck Army or you listen
Speaker 1: to the podcast, it means the world to both Diana
Speaker 1: and I, So thank you so much for listening to
Speaker 1: this podcast. I mean, we started this. You started in
Speaker 1: twenty seventeen and then I came on board in ten.
Speaker 1: So you're talking about five years for you, going on
Speaker 1: five years going on four years for me. Now the
Speaker 1: turn of the year will be six years from me,
Speaker 1: five years for you. So oh yeah, longest time I've
Speaker 1: ever had. And you know, you know what, Like you said,
Speaker 1: we all all to our sucky daters suck suck suck, suck, suck, suck, suck,
Speaker 1: suck suck. Without you guys, it wouldn't be possible. I
Speaker 1: every week when we get the rundown from Hannah, who
Speaker 1: is is uh like one of the producers of the show.
Speaker 1: Every week we get that email, I'm like, wow, still
Speaker 1: not canceled. Another day, another week, it's mine boggling. So again,
Speaker 1: thank you guys for listening. As always, I wish there
Speaker 1: was I wish there was a way that we could
Speaker 1: like legitimately show you our appreciation without just saying, hey,
Speaker 1: thanks for listening. I really wish there was a way
Speaker 1: we could prove to you that we are so appreciative
Speaker 1: of you guys listening to us. I have another idea
Speaker 1: for a goal of three. We should do a live podcast.
Speaker 1: I think that maybe doesn't show like I mean, its
Speaker 1: appreciation because we want to like be with our the
Speaker 1: people who listen. I think we should do a live podcast.
Speaker 1: It will you know, we'll talk about maybe maybe we'll
Speaker 1: make it free you know what I mean. That's kind
Speaker 1: of like just come hang out. If you want to
Speaker 1: listen to us for an hour, you'll be on the
Speaker 1: show with us. I don't know. That's something to think about.
Speaker 1: I think we should do a lot podcast. That's another
Speaker 1: goal of mine. Let's do help I suck at Dating
Speaker 1: live edition. If it so happens, So the atogrees, that's great. No,
Speaker 1: I agree with you. My fear with that is very
Speaker 1: similar to the fears that I have at the wedding.
Speaker 1: Is hey live podcast, three people show up? No, we'll
Speaker 1: get some people. Believe if listen, if this podcast hasn't
Speaker 1: been canceled yet, come on, now, there are people who
Speaker 1: listen to this, they will come to a live podcast.
Speaker 1: You suck arm me out there. Will make this happen.
Speaker 1: We have to make it real convincing, like real enticing
Speaker 1: like pkalin coms actually Dawson Calm. You would have to
Speaker 1: like like we have to give away like iPads to
Speaker 1: every guest in attendance, like there has to be some
Speaker 1: sort of draw for them beyond listening to us talk.
Speaker 1: But I agree with you, that would be a great goal. Um,
Speaker 1: but we'll see, we'll see. We've have we done a
Speaker 1: live podcast before. We've done something similar to that, but
Speaker 1: I can't remember what it was. We've never done a lot.
Speaker 1: I mean, the only time I remember was doing when
Speaker 1: they did the almost famous live in like San Francisco.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you were there or not, though,
Speaker 1: but that was like Jed was there and that's right there.
Speaker 1: Who the hell outs? I don't know, analyst was there?
Speaker 1: I don't know. But anyway, we've never done a lot
Speaker 1: of podcasts helped a second day. Well, we've done those.
Speaker 1: We we did like an after party thing once. Maybe
Speaker 1: that's what I'm ticking up. We're getting mixed up with.
Speaker 1: But but yes, thank you guys so much for listening
Speaker 1: to this episode. We hope your three is filled with
Speaker 1: joy and success and love and money because that's you know,
Speaker 1: pretty nice to have sometimes too. Um what what else? Shared?
Speaker 1: Anything else? Before we say a do or a bit
Speaker 1: of do and welcome everyone into the new year. Happy
Speaker 1: New Year, everybody. I hope it was a great one.
Speaker 1: Uh and uh, here we go and we suck just
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