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Speaker 1: All right, buckle up, hold on tight, we got it

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Speaker 1: for you. Strawberry Letta. All right, here we go. Buggle up,

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Speaker 1: hold on, Strawberry Letta. All right, here we go. Subjects

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Speaker 1: and upset child, I am writing you this letter in

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Speaker 1: regards to my mother. I love my mother dearly, but

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Speaker 1: the decision she makes are poor. To be specific, her

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Speaker 1: a man, and I have no respect for him. My

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Speaker 1: mother is the man of the house. She's a nurse,

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Speaker 1: so she brings in the money and she takes care

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Speaker 1: of any problems in the house. Last year, my sister

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Speaker 1: became ill and was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Other than me,

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Speaker 1: I'm away at school and my aunts who live out

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Speaker 1: of state, my mother has no help. He never came

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Speaker 1: to the hospital, nor did he see if she needed anything,

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Speaker 1: nor did he see if she needed anything. Instead, he

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Speaker 1: was at the casino. They were barely making ends meet

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Speaker 1: even before my sister became sick. Uh. My mom only

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Speaker 1: works too days out of the week and sometimes not

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Speaker 1: even that because of doctor's appointment. Instead of her husband,

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Speaker 1: she looks to others if she needs help with a

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Speaker 1: bill or things of that nature. As a man. Instead

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Speaker 1: of taking off work and gambling, he should be going

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Speaker 1: his family. He also put everything in my mom's name,

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Speaker 1: so if she leaves him, everything is on her. On

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Speaker 1: top of all this, he doesn't have any type of

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Speaker 1: relationship with me or my siblings. He said he married her,

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Speaker 1: not us. In um fact, he doesn't even want me

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Speaker 1: not there. I'm all out of solutions. I pray and

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Speaker 1: even confronted my mother. I don't know what else to do.

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Speaker 1: I know you love your mother. I know you do.

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Speaker 1: I I feel you on this, I really do. And

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Speaker 1: you're right if what you're saying in this letter, all

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Speaker 1: this is going down. Uh, she has made a poor

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Speaker 1: choice in a man for a husband, and I do

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Speaker 1: use that term man very loosely. But as her child,

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Speaker 1: as her daughter, you've got to know that your mother's

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Speaker 1: are grown woman and a lot of times, you know,

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Speaker 1: we see things as outsiders that they don't see when

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Speaker 1: they're actually in the relationship, and she might even see it.

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Speaker 1: She may even see it, but you know, figure that

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Speaker 1: this might be the best she can do. He's her husband,

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Speaker 1: so she's gonna deal with it. But I do know

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Speaker 1: that if you've confronted her, and you've talked to her

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Speaker 1: about all you can do. Because she's a grown woman

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Speaker 1: in a grown woman's situation, and only she can change that.

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Speaker 1: Steve h Well, little girl college student, I feel for you, huh,

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Speaker 1: because you know better in your mama don't. But then again,

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Speaker 1: in this letter, she does no better. I'm gonna refer

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Speaker 1: to one line in your letter. You said, instead of

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Speaker 1: with the bill or things of that nature. That's the

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Speaker 1: key line in this whole letter to me. Your mother,

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Speaker 1: instead of turning to her husband, turns to others if

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Speaker 1: That is the essence of any marriage. The man must

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Speaker 1: be able to turn to the woman, but the woman

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Speaker 1: That is the order. The reason your mother does not

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Speaker 1: turn it is because she know she already know ain't

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Speaker 1: nothing happening right here, your mama. No, she'd have made

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Speaker 1: a mistake. She's just keeping it to herself. You can

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Speaker 1: confront her. She know he ain't nothing. She know she

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Speaker 1: discovered it long before you did. When we come back,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you more. I'm gonna tell you the

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Speaker 1: real issue here so you can release yourself from feeling responsible,

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Speaker 1: messed up, jacked up anything. I'm going to share with

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Speaker 1: going back school, gonna get your education right now. Steve

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Speaker 1: is here with part two of his response to today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter. An upset child that is the subject today.

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Speaker 1: I pointed out earlier that your mother knows this because

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Speaker 1: whenever she gets in trouble, she goes to other people. Well,

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Speaker 1: real issue is. Because you seem to have a better

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Speaker 1: grasp on manhood than your stepfather. That's alarming. Whenever a

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Speaker 1: It's because your man. Listen to me, Just because a

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Speaker 1: you don't get a pass into the club. You don't

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Speaker 1: on will you do what you say you're gonna do. Well. Now,

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Speaker 1: let's just go through what's really wrong with your daddy

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Speaker 1: in law here he is. He never came to the hospital,

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Speaker 1: was at the casino. A real man takes care of business.

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Speaker 1: Daddy in law whatever you ain't. Why are you calling

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Speaker 1: ain't your father in law. He has no father traits.

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Speaker 1: So instead of being at the hospital, he had the casino.

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Speaker 1: A real man take care of family first. Let me

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Speaker 1: show you something else, uh instead, I mean as a man,

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Speaker 1: instead of taking off work in gambling, he should be

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Speaker 1: going to work, even looking for another job to support

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Speaker 1: his family because he ain't got his orderline up. It

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Speaker 1: ain't family first, it's him first. Real men understand that

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Speaker 1: the family is the second order of business after God.

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Speaker 1: He don't know the meaning of manhood. You're gonna be

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Speaker 1: mad at him rest of your life. He don't get it.

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Speaker 1: Next thing he says, he also put everything in my

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Speaker 1: I don't know any man who does this because for us,

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Speaker 1: as other men, you can't call yourself a man. See

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Speaker 1: just because he said he a man, don't mean he

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Speaker 1: a package deal. He don't get that. Here's your deal.

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Speaker 1: Your daddy in law is not a man. Quit whearing

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Speaker 1: yourself about his punk ache. You go back to school,

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Speaker 1: So as you start the selection process for your man,

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Speaker 1: do not pick him. Got it all right? Thank you, Steve,

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Speaker 1: But we gotta go email or Instagram. What's your thoughts

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Speaker 1: on today's Strawberry Letter at My Girl Shirley and coming

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Speaker 1: soon Strawberry Letter Live after the show on Facebook will

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Speaker 1: start that next Thursday at one o'clock after the show

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter Live on Facebook. So people you know always

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Speaker 1: do it. We're gonna start doing it next Thursday at

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Speaker 1: one pm Eastern Strawberry Letter Live on Facebook. Yeah yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: so so so it's a week from a week from tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: But we'll tell you all about it. Cool, okay, all right,

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Speaker 1: So it's gonna be fun, but but it'll it'll be funny.

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Speaker 1: You guys can join me whenever you want to. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: whenever you want to. I know you will. I'll come

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Speaker 1: to the set. We'll do it from there. Okay, but

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