Speaker 1: Second date is something my dad always used to say
Speaker 1: to me growing up was you can control all delete
Speaker 1: a computer virus from an adult Chinese website, but you
Speaker 1: can't control all delete a bad first impression from an
Speaker 1: adult date. That it's wise, I know, very wise stuff
Speaker 1: from my father. Got a super quotable man, your dad,
Speaker 1: you say that, but those words were ringing in my
Speaker 1: ear when I read an email from one of our listeners, Kyle,
Speaker 1: who says he screwed up in the first minute of
Speaker 1: his date but thinks it went a lot better after that.
Speaker 1: How do you screw up in the first minute? We're
Speaker 1: gonna find out, Kyle. Welcome to the show. Good morning,
Speaker 1: how's it going guys. Okay, hey, you haven't messed this
Speaker 1: up yet, so congrats. Well we're not. Yeah, we're not
Speaker 1: through the full minute yet, judgment, and we'll get to
Speaker 1: your screw up here in just a second. But first,
Speaker 1: tell us about the person that you went out with.
Speaker 1: What's their name? Her name is Rebecca and we actually
Speaker 1: met off of a dating app. Okay, yeah, great. What
Speaker 1: what did you like about Rebecca? Honestly, I mean, she's
Speaker 1: beautiful and we really just kind of had a very
Speaker 1: natural vibrant off the beginning, and it was easy, you know,
Speaker 1: and a lot of a lot of the times it's
Speaker 1: not easy, and that's usually when it's like, why am
Speaker 1: I trying? Everybody? That's great? So what did you and
Speaker 1: Rebecca do for a date? We got to get to
Speaker 1: the minute of screw up? Right? Isn't that where we're at?
Speaker 1: How does that happen in the first minute? So the
Speaker 1: day of our date, my car actually had to be
Speaker 1: taken to the shop last minute, so Rebecca had offered
Speaker 1: to pick me up. So she got there, I invited
Speaker 1: her in, I introduced her to my roommate, and I
Speaker 1: should have probably left it at that, but I was
Speaker 1: a one hundred percent honest with her from the beginning
Speaker 1: and told her that my roommate and I used to
Speaker 1: date and that we had broke up two weeks ago.
Speaker 1: Whoa ago? I thought you're gonna say like that you
Speaker 1: were high school years they were introducing them. I'd be
Speaker 1: like moved out by then. I'm having a panic attack
Speaker 1: for you. I don't know what I honestly, I don't
Speaker 1: know what I was thinking in the moment. I really
Speaker 1: felt like if I'm just kind of honest, also this
Speaker 1: had been a breakup that was like a long time coming,
Speaker 1: so broken up? Can I ask, though, were you still
Speaker 1: in a one bedroom apartment or you guys, are you
Speaker 1: sleeping in different rooms? Yeah? At this point, like we
Speaker 1: were pretty much sleeping in different rooms. So wait a minute,
Speaker 1: I think it's a good thing. You're you're not honest. Well, no,
Speaker 1: you're you're showing Rebecca, like, look what I was working
Speaker 1: with last time. See now you have. I don't think
Speaker 1: anyone's yea, it's like, now, look I've moved on to
Speaker 1: something better. Be honest, you were just doing this to
Speaker 1: make your ex jealous. No, actually, I really that was
Speaker 1: not the case, because I'm the one who wanted to
Speaker 1: end the relationships. So some people like to rub in
Speaker 1: their new relationships and other people's faces there too. Sounds
Speaker 1: like an honest mistake that could have happened to anybody.
Speaker 1: So what did you do for you do? It's so specific?
Speaker 1: I know, I thought it was funny. Clearly no one
Speaker 1: else in the room thought it was funny. So immediately
Speaker 1: just said, we're gonna be late for the reservation and
Speaker 1: we last ye wait, did Rebecca not ask any other questions?
Speaker 1: Like in the car when you guys were driving to
Speaker 1: the restaurant. Yeah. She was a little funny about it.
Speaker 1: She was like, oh, wow, I didn't know you were
Speaker 1: living with your ex and you never said that. That's amaya.
Speaker 1: Let's get past let's get past the x slash roommate
Speaker 1: and get to the restaurant. Tell us how that one.
Speaker 1: I don't think I can get past. Ye. So, so
Speaker 1: we're driving to the restaurant and it's in an area
Speaker 1: I'm usually never in, and like, I see this, I
Speaker 1: see a best by. So in the moment, I was
Speaker 1: just like, oh, can we stop here for a few minutes. Wait,
Speaker 1: you need to pick up another TV. There's a CD
Speaker 1: I want to buy a Why would you ever run
Speaker 1: an errand with you? Well, there's just camera standing there
Speaker 1: that I wanted to buy for six months and I'm
Speaker 1: never round this best by. Okay, we weren't. We weren't
Speaker 1: actually running late for the reservation. I just washed to
Speaker 1: like kind of get out of the awkwardness of the situations,
Speaker 1: the geek squad, my excess that we need to mount
Speaker 1: the camera next time. So up it actually ended being fun.
Speaker 1: We got to look around, you know, we got a
Speaker 1: chance to talk about like photography, which is something that
Speaker 1: we both care about, and telling her why, you know,
Speaker 1: camera stands are all different in the nuances. And then
Speaker 1: we look at you know, thrilling. I can't believe hungry
Speaker 1: waiting for a dinner reservation. At any point do we
Speaker 1: end up getting to the restaurant or yeah, so that
Speaker 1: we leave, you know, like at this point we both
Speaker 1: were ready for dinner. I'd based out the reservation, and
Speaker 1: we actually couldn't get in when we get there. So
Speaker 1: I'm just like, what the hell, what happens? What happened
Speaker 1: with the reservation? So I guess when I booked the reservation,
Speaker 1: I had, you know, booked it for a different time.
Speaker 1: I thought you said you always spit up the first
Speaker 1: We're an hour in and it's all bad. I disagree, Kyle.
Speaker 1: I think you're hitting it out of the park with this.
Speaker 1: All right, keep going, Thank you, thank you for your encouragement. Yeah, um,
Speaker 1: you know, obviously it was all going downhill at that point. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like what was the flow? You know, we made the
Speaker 1: best of it. We ended up hanging out at the
Speaker 1: place next door. We drank a decent amount because we
Speaker 1: both were just probably trying to get like you know
Speaker 1: Johnkup's point, and I can drink a lot. Anyways, she
Speaker 1: ended up driving me home after dinner. No kiss. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I really do want to make up for the
Speaker 1: first impression. I feel like I really screwed it up,
Speaker 1: and I that's why I'm trying to get another shot
Speaker 1: at it. Can we tell her, like when we talked
Speaker 1: to her, do you have plans to move out with
Speaker 1: the apartment with yours? Of course, our lease is ending
Speaker 1: in two more months. And I get it. I get it.
Speaker 1: That's hard. Yeah, I mean good for her for sticking
Speaker 1: out the entire date. She could have just barreled out
Speaker 1: of her car while she was driving home. I was
Speaker 1: going to say, leave him a best buy, Jeffrey, but
Speaker 1: she did, so maybe there's hope here. We're gonna call
Speaker 1: Rebecca and try and get you your second date update
Speaker 1: right after this second if you're just joining us for
Speaker 1: the second date update. Really hard to find any red
Speaker 1: flags on file with Rebecca. Yeah, I don't see any.
Speaker 1: Let's just recap his story really quick. He introduced her
Speaker 1: to his roommate aka ex girlfriend, who he still lives
Speaker 1: with he broke up with two weeks ago. Will stick
Speaker 1: the situation, little details. Yeah, and then on the way
Speaker 1: to the restaurant, they stopped at a best Buy to
Speaker 1: pick up a camera stand that he really really needed.
Speaker 1: They ended up missing their dinner reservation, so to make
Speaker 1: up for it, hit up a bar where he drank
Speaker 1: heavily and totally redeemed himself. Yeah. So it's such a
Speaker 1: cute look. If anything, maybe there were a couple of hiccups,
Speaker 1: But Kyle, the good news here is Brooke has dated
Speaker 1: much much worse and always rely on, including the dude
Speaker 1: in Mexico who actually tried to harvest her kidney after
Speaker 1: they hooked up. So I'm giving you a fifty fifty
Speaker 1: shot here. I was kind of sweet all the ki
Speaker 1: I mean, we didn't ask you have you reached out
Speaker 1: and apologized to her for what a train wreck you guys'
Speaker 1: first date was. I actually didn't think it was a
Speaker 1: train wreck. I you know, I basically reached out and
Speaker 1: was just like trying to focus on the positive and
Speaker 1: all the good things that came out of that. Again,
Speaker 1: I like that attitude, and Brooke is always trying to
Speaker 1: get men to apologize for everything that they do. It
Speaker 1: doesn't sound like she responded to him, so I don't know. Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's rude of her. Maybe she should apologize for not responding. Okay,
Speaker 1: that Jeffrey for apology as soon as she picks up
Speaker 1: the phone. Lets what a rude woman here we got? Oh?
Speaker 1: Hi is this Rebecca? Hi? Yeah, hey Rebecca. My name
Speaker 1: is jeff from a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the Morning. Hi Rebecca, Hey have you ever heard
Speaker 1: of us before? Um? That's okay, I think my mom. Listen.
Speaker 1: Thanks for lying. Your mom sounds like a good person,
Speaker 1: because we do. We do something on the show called
Speaker 1: a second Date Update, and we'd like you to be
Speaker 1: a part of one right now, all right? What's that? Um?
Speaker 1: It's basically where listeners ask us to reach out to
Speaker 1: a person they went on a date with recently to
Speaker 1: try and figure out why a second date hasn't happened yet. Okay,
Speaker 1: you went out with a guy named Kyle the other
Speaker 1: night who's a little curious what's going on? Okay? Is
Speaker 1: that a good laugh? Or like Kyle should know? Laugh?
Speaker 1: Did he talk to you already? Yeah? Weird? A little
Speaker 1: bit from Kyle. Yeah, just quick summary. Nothing too bad
Speaker 1: though not in our opinion, was anything In Jeffrey's opinion,
Speaker 1: Alexis and I saw a couple of red flags when
Speaker 1: he was describing the date. I would love to hear
Speaker 1: your side of the story of the first like thirty minutes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just like give us the start from your eyes. Okay.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I went to pick him up, and you know,
Speaker 1: as a normal person, you text me like I'm hearing
Speaker 1: they come out, and he was like, oh, come in.
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, and when you went into
Speaker 1: his apartment, what do you think? Um, the apartment was fine,
Speaker 1: but like he was like, oh, this is my roommate
Speaker 1: Boa and then he goes, yeah, like we used to date,
Speaker 1: and and then I find out they broke up like
Speaker 1: two weeks ago. What was going through your head? What
Speaker 1: a catch? I was just like, never met a next
Speaker 1: in the first minute or really at all on a date.
Speaker 1: And my second thought was she's really pretty like best
Speaker 1: what he what do he meant when he had car trouble?
Speaker 1: He just wants to me to meet his bags? Because
Speaker 1: there were other moments where it was just he just
Speaker 1: kind of felt like he was posturing or whatever. What
Speaker 1: do you mean what moment does sound pretty convenient? Well,
Speaker 1: I would say this is my own thing with people
Speaker 1: pleasing or whatever. I was like, okay, like I can
Speaker 1: move on from this. So to get in the car
Speaker 1: and we're driving and then he's like, oh, can we
Speaker 1: go to Good Buy and I need to get this
Speaker 1: camera stand or whatever, and I was like, uh, okay,
Speaker 1: second thing. That's super weird. But were you sound very
Speaker 1: patient and nice so far? Just so you know again,
Speaker 1: she said it's her people pleasing problem exactly. Thank you.
Speaker 1: It's probably not for the best, but something weird happened
Speaker 1: at best Buy. I mean besides just going there. So
Speaker 1: besides just going there, he takes about an hour looking
Speaker 1: at camera stands, and man's playing to me and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm not the one buying a camera, Stan, I don't care.
Speaker 1: But if you think about it, that's an hour of
Speaker 1: free electronic education that he gifted to you. Well, I
Speaker 1: don't like that. I don't want the energy that I'm
Speaker 1: getting in this moment. Let's move on. Tell us about
Speaker 1: what happened when you and Kyle were over at the
Speaker 1: bar together. Oh so you already know that we didn't
Speaker 1: even go to the restaurant. Okay, yeah, I mean we're
Speaker 1: calling that a little hiccup. Go ahead. So, like there's
Speaker 1: a bar nearby, so we just walked over to the bar.
Speaker 1: He's getting drinks. I don't want to drink that much
Speaker 1: because obviously I'm driving, And yeah, he goes as let
Speaker 1: you know that, like I have a blood condition where
Speaker 1: I can handle a lot of alcohol. And I was
Speaker 1: like okay, and he takes like six shots and within
Speaker 1: like thirty minutes he's faced down on the bar. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I can't believe you drove him home. I wish I didn't.
Speaker 1: You're so right. But like so I'm like basically dragging
Speaker 1: him back to my car, and he's like, you do
Speaker 1: pretty thing. You can't know that. I'm a Navy seal
Speaker 1: in training, And I'm like, what does this happening feel
Speaker 1: in trading? Yeah, he's just trying that just even feels
Speaker 1: like a lie, Like, hello, I am a Navy sealing training.
Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Wait? What the heck? Hey? Yeah,
Speaker 1: Rebecca Kylesman on the other line listening this entire time.
Speaker 1: It was supposed to wait till we called him in,
Speaker 1: but honestly, I feel like this is something you should
Speaker 1: tell the people right away. Yes, sorry, you're right, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: We were just so caught up in the terrible stories
Speaker 1: that you were sharing. I didn't get terrible from anything
Speaker 1: that she seek. On top of all of his other
Speaker 1: positive qualities, he wants to surprise here too. After hearing
Speaker 1: all of that, I think it was more positive than negative.
Speaker 1: To be honest, I do. I think there are a
Speaker 1: lot of hiccups at the beginning, but I thought it
Speaker 1: ended on a good note. Would you sloppy drunk in
Speaker 1: her car? Kyle? Clearly they're not understanding this. Why don't
Speaker 1: you man explain all the positive things that happened? My
Speaker 1: headset off? Yeah. Well, initially, you know, when we talked
Speaker 1: about photography and everything, like, you seemed really into it.
Speaker 1: So I thought when we were at Best Buys, you
Speaker 1: seemed pretty engaged. You laugh, I got a couple of
Speaker 1: laughs and smiles out of you, and we were there
Speaker 1: for a while, and I thought that was pretty positive.
Speaker 1: I mean, what was I supposed to say? I feel
Speaker 1: like it would have been rude for me to be like,
Speaker 1: well this is boring, let's go. Yeah. I guess that's fair,
Speaker 1: but I didn't do it that way. Of course, you
Speaker 1: didn't see anything as rude because you were like, here,
Speaker 1: picked me up here and meet my roommate here, meet
Speaker 1: my ex here, Let's go to best Buy here, let's
Speaker 1: our reservation. And that's a lot of things that he
Speaker 1: did for you there. What's something that you did for him?
Speaker 1: Jeff been sarcastic right now? I mean that that is
Speaker 1: all really selfish stuff. Man. Were you ever thinking of her? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, I told her she was pretty I
Speaker 1: was thinking about her. Are you serious? Like I think
Speaker 1: I'm speechless? Good work, Kyle, you got a speechless fight?
Speaker 1: Is because Kyle's so clueless. Honestly, I disagree with you guys.
Speaker 1: Like Jeff said, I gave her like an hour of
Speaker 1: education on cameras, and I feel pretty good about that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you have to pay for that most places. I mean, Kyle,
Speaker 1: were you training with to be a Navy seal? I'm
Speaker 1: looking at like YouTube videos? You know, Wait a minute,
Speaker 1: that's how it's intense training. You can't just learn how
Speaker 1: to hold your breath for two minutes YouTube. Kyle's going
Speaker 1: to prove you wrong on that one, Jose. I think,
Speaker 1: because like he proved me wrong with his blood condition,
Speaker 1: that he could drink six shots in a row. Yeah, Rebecca,
Speaker 1: I'm going to ask you a question here, and I
Speaker 1: really hope that you don't turn down a future Navy
Speaker 1: seal on a second date that we will pay for.
Speaker 1: And I promise you that on the date, he'll prove
Speaker 1: that he can hold his breath for two minutes in
Speaker 1: the bathtub while is X watching yeahs Navy seal training
Speaker 1: with that mounted camera that you helped buy circle. What
Speaker 1: do you say, Rebecca, what an opportunity, Rebecca, do the
Speaker 1: hero a chance? I mean, that is a very enticing offer.
Speaker 1: But he's proven everything and I never want to see
Speaker 1: him again. Yeah, good job, Rebecca finding some boundaries. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: oh yeah. I'm sweating bullets over here. I'm about to
Speaker 1: hang up and just hypervently. Oh you'll be good. You'll
Speaker 1: be good. You're a great sport. Everybody understand. And I
Speaker 1: think Kyle, like, once he does some reflection, has learned,
Speaker 1: will kind of soak in some of this, hopefully when
Speaker 1: he's taken down the next bin. Laden for sure, it's
Speaker 1: just a drunk guy. I'm calling you back, just see
Speaker 1: you know, all right, happy hours come enough, Brooke needs somebody.
Speaker 1: I'm good. That's not much Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,