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Speaker 3: My wife accused me of cheating on her, so she

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Speaker 3: kissed some rando.

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Speaker 2: That's logical.

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Speaker 3: I thirty six male, have been married to Lily thirty

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Speaker 3: six female for sixteen years and together for twenty one. Wow.

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Speaker 3: We met freshman year and up until a couple of

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Speaker 3: months ago, we were each other's one and only. We

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Speaker 3: both went to the same college and got married at

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Speaker 3: twenty despite my parents' protest. We have a six year

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Speaker 3: old together and overall, I say we've had a great

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Speaker 3: marriage and family life. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 3: Dangerous Vehicle one through three, and if you want to

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Speaker 3: Storytime severedd I'm Sophia, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Dakota, I'm Keon, and we're here.

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Speaker 3: To give good advice. Goofly, but we don't have all

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Speaker 3: the answers. We only know what we'd do, So let

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Speaker 3: us know what you would do in the comments. And

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Speaker 3: Obie says six months ago, one of my wife's friends,

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Speaker 3: let's call her Adrian.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for doing that.

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Speaker 3: My wife that I had been cheating on her for years, Edra,

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Speaker 3: why'd you do that?

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Speaker 2: Hey?

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Speaker 3: This is obviously a lie. And she only did this

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Speaker 3: because she found out her now ex husband of five

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Speaker 3: years let's call him Steve, was cheating on her their

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Speaker 3: entire relationships. She's burning every bridge down now.

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Speaker 1: She learned a new move set called projection.

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Speaker 3: Mmmm. She said everyone's husband's a cheat a loy. Me

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Speaker 3: and him were good friends, and he told her I

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Speaker 3: was cheating as well. Oh. Now I had my suspicions

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Speaker 3: he was cheating, as he never immediately shut down any

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Speaker 3: female attention whenever we hung out together, and he complained

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Speaker 3: constantly that his wife didn't sleep with him enough. But

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Speaker 3: I never had any solid proof, so I never told

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Speaker 3: his wife. While that may make me a little bit

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Speaker 3: of an ale, I never cheated on my wife, nor

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Speaker 3: do I condone cheating. But you let it slile a

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Speaker 3: little bit.

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Speaker 2: I mean, he didn't even have any hard evidence. I

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Speaker 2: don't think it makes you an a hole that you

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Speaker 2: didn't blow up your friend's marriage on a hunch.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't have done that, but I don't think I

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Speaker 3: would have been friends with this guy. If I saw

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Speaker 3: him doing this, I'd be like, meh, hey, I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: call you back for that behavior. It's so weird. My

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Speaker 3: father cheated on my mother and I saw how badly

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Speaker 3: that hurt her, and I swore to never do that

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Speaker 3: to my wife. My wife punted me out and told

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Speaker 3: my parents, her parents, and our friend what Adrian told her.

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Speaker 3: Two months after, she filed for divorce, and I've been

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Speaker 3: dragging out the process. However, two months ago, she sent

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Speaker 3: a picture of her kissing another guy and him touching

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Speaker 3: her inappropriately as incentive to get the divorce.

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Speaker 2: Seems a little.

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Speaker 1: Backwards, so bold strategic cotton. Let's see if it pays

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Speaker 1: off for them.

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Speaker 3: She's like, is it working? How amodo? I was devastated

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Speaker 3: and really ready to divorce her. However, two weeks after that,

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Speaker 3: Steve confessed he lied to Adrian and she told Lily.

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Speaker 3: For the past month and a half she has been

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Speaker 3: begging me to reconcile with her and for us to

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Speaker 3: go to counseling. But honestly, I can't forgive her for

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Speaker 3: the video and her lack of trust in me. She

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Speaker 3: believes Steve's words with no proof over me, and she

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Speaker 3: slandered my name to my friends and family. Would I

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Speaker 3: be the ale if I continued with the divorce, We've

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Speaker 3: got an edit and an update.

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Speaker 2: What do you think divorce? I agree?

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Speaker 1: Wow, you're doing what Adriane wanted you to do.

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Speaker 2: Give her what she wants. That's what you wanted, happy wife,

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Speaker 2: happy life. And if your wife wants a divorce.

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Speaker 3: Make her happy. Yeah, too little, too late.

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Speaker 1: Savena's book.

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Speaker 3: Vena's book, Too little, too late. I don't know how

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Speaker 2: Back from that. Really, it's not even like the kissing

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Speaker 2: and touching. It's more the you just immediately believe that.

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Speaker 3: Guy who cheated on his wife, who cheated.

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Speaker 2: On his wife, and maybe was like, oh, I'm not

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Speaker 2: I'm not the only one doing it. This guy did it.

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's not so bad.

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Speaker 3: Everyone's doing it. It's like that movie with Adam Sandler

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Speaker 3: Fifty First Dates, where he sees this little kid peas

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Speaker 3: and then he pretends to his pants happy.

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Speaker 1: It's a big daddy, and.

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Speaker 3: He tells all the other kids. He's like, see all

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Speaker 3: the cool kids pee their pants. That's what this cheater

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Speaker 3: their wives.

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Speaker 1: It's true.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what movie that is.

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Speaker 1: It's The Sprouse. Big Daddy, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Big Daddy. Don't be big daddying in this scenario. Edit one.

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Speaker 3: Many of you were wondering why my wife was so

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Speaker 3: quick to believe Adrian without proof, and I have to

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Speaker 3: say she did have slightly valid reasons to not completely

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Speaker 3: believe me. Me and Steve hung out for hours without

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Speaker 3: our wives multiple times, and even went on a couple

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Speaker 3: of weekend boys trips with other mutual friends, so the

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Speaker 3: window of opportunity was there. I have in the past

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Speaker 3: got caught lying to my wife's face, but these are

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Speaker 3: small white lies and not me hiding an affair. It

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Speaker 3: was more mundane stuff like saying I took out the

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Speaker 3: trash when I didn't, or watching her shows without her. Okay,

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Speaker 3: you had me a little scared there, but you being like,

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I watched Game of Thrones without you. I

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Speaker 3: lied about that. It is not quite the same as

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Speaker 3: you cheating on her.

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Speaker 1: I was. I was gonna say to some people, that's

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Speaker 1: worse than cheating.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's Riley.

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Speaker 2: I did exactly what you just said with what Wow

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Speaker 2: I did. I watched Game of Thrones without my girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: The funny that's terrible of you.

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Speaker 2: It was, and when it came to light it was bad.

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Speaker 3: I will say on the subject of Game of Thrones

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Speaker 3: and watching things without people. During the VID, I was

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Speaker 3: and my dad didn't really like me watching. I mean

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Speaker 3: I was an adult at that time.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 3: He was like, you didn't like me watching, you know,

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Speaker 1: Was he like trying to be like PG, It's like, see,

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Speaker 3: I was nineteen by that point to be clear, but

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Speaker 3: I probably would have been fine, But like, I just

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Speaker 3: don't know. I didn't mean in a swim. I was like,

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Speaker 3: I'm lying, but I I have admitted to my wife

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Speaker 3: things I have done in private while publicly denying them,

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Speaker 3: like stealing my brother's wallet when we were younger and

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Speaker 3: then losing it.

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Speaker 2: What a classic move.

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Speaker 1: It's like comparing apples to broccoli right now.

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Speaker 4: Sophia at the in the confessional, being like, I was

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Speaker 4: meana my brother and I stepped on the roses and

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Speaker 4: I didn't hear all those rush.

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Speaker 3: You're just confessing everything right now. Also, when Steve was

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Speaker 3: first confronted about his affair, he said he and his

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Speaker 3: drop me until later. All of this to say, I

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Speaker 3: understood Lily's hesitation, but ultimately, when push came to shove,

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Speaker 3: and I suffered for months because of it.

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Speaker 1: This is a really good question here. Yeah, I think

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Speaker 1: Steve still a piece of crap. Yeah, who's the worst?

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Speaker 1: Is this a show that your wife is too gullible

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Speaker 1: context was.

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Speaker 2: There, but it's crazy that there was no like, let

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Speaker 2: at him peepers.

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Speaker 3: I would understand why she would have doubts, but to

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Speaker 2: She went out of her way to like, hurt you

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Speaker 2: really bad. So she gets what she wants.

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Speaker 3: Now she's a happy wife.

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Speaker 2: Now she hit herself with the UNO reverse card and

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Speaker 2: she went, oh wait, I cheated now, no, no, but

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Speaker 3: Update? I decided to take y'all's advice and try marriage count, saying, okay,

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Speaker 2: Advice, but that's fine.

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Speaker 3: I will probably be starting individual therapy later, but right now,

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Speaker 3: I just don't have the time. We had the first

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Speaker 3: me and Lily. Therapist said the main is she was

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Speaker 3: a lack of trust in her marriage, and I responded

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Speaker 3: by saying, how could I trust she didn't sleep with

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Speaker 2: Oh no, oh lord e Lou.

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Speaker 3: I may sound crazy for this, but after confirming what bar,

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Speaker 3: what day, and what time, she took the video. I

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Speaker 3: went there and oh, and hold manager, my wife got

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Speaker 3: I asked to access their security cameras, and I did

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Speaker 3: They let me in the back, and after giving them

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Speaker 3: and the kissing started happening, I saw on the camera

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Speaker 3: that Lily and the guy were leaving together, rossing arms

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Speaker 2: He's like, I know, I know, Okay, I know, yeah.

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Speaker 3: Happy.

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Speaker 2: I think if you would have just told the first story,

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Speaker 2: they would have been even more.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they'd were like absolutely did.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they would have immediately been like, we're helping you

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Speaker 2: right now.

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Speaker 3: I got the security recording on my phone and showed

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Speaker 3: Lily in therapy. I said, you swore you didn't go

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Speaker 3: You swore.

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Speaker 1: I lied.

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Speaker 2: You saved that for the therapy sessual.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you did.

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Speaker 1: The therapist to be like, ooh, that is that as

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Speaker 1: clear as day? Ooh, ooh, here's my card for solo therapy.

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Speaker 3: Why I thought that this wasn't gonna work out. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, you hurt him pretty deep.

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Speaker 3: I always compared us to Lillian Marshall from How I

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Speaker 1: I will say, not a very good relationship to base

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Speaker 2: I haven't even watched that show, and I know that's

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Speaker 3: I don't have a full memory, but was there not

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Speaker 2: And the therapists just sitting there like yes, writing this down,

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 3: Please. This cause Lily to start hypervet delating, and she

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you said it yourself once. There's

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Speaker 3: Unfortunately, that was a week ago, and me and Lily

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Speaker 3: Has your advice changed?

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Speaker 1: No, I stick with it. It's divorce time. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh would you look at the time.

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Speaker 3: It's divorce oclock? Dang.

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Speaker 2: I thought we were just going to leave it. Would

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Speaker 3: Oh? Clock? But there's a second up date.

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Speaker 2: Maybe you were saying that Shakespearean it's divorced, oclock.

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Speaker 3: I'm talking to the clock, thank you. We just had

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Speaker 1: Would you look at the.

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Speaker 3: Time, it's divorce a clock. I'm still mourning the marriage,

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Speaker 3: the counselor asked me if I still felt like our

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Speaker 3: honestly think we should just get a divorce. I expected

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: She lined up a booty call for later that evening.

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Speaker 3: I've got an eight o'clock, so we're gonna have to divorce.

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Speaker 2: Bite dinner, please.

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Speaker 3: She said that hearing me talk about our marriage the

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Speaker 3: I didn't. I told her I appreciated that, and that

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Speaker 2: She's not wrong. That's crazy that she's right about that. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: She also admitted she still resented me. A little bit

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Speaker 3: six years ago, when we both turned thirty, we both

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Speaker 3: We did have multiple conversations about that, and I truly

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Speaker 3: had cheated, she figured that sacrifice was all for nothing

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Speaker 3: and wanted to take the opportunity to explore before she

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Speaker 2: That's a lot of words to say when she sent

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Speaker 2: that she's leaving that part out of her little mental

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Speaker 3: Well, that hurt to hear. I can sympathize, as that's

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Speaker 3: as I wanted to start exploring as well. But we've

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Speaker 3: got a little bit left to this story. Any final thoughts,

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Speaker 3: happy divorce? Yeah, finally, Yeah, it's the right move.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, it seems like this was not saying

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Speaker 1: seemed like you guys were checked out and never communicated it.

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Speaker 3: Yes, both realized there was a more underneath the surface,

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Speaker 3: and I hope that your exploration goes a lot better

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Speaker 2: I hope it goes better than your whole marriage.

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Speaker 3: But we've got a little bit left. After that revelation,

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Speaker 3: I told her that I would not be fighting for

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Speaker 3: see our child as much as possible, but I still

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Speaker 3: I did ask her if she had ever stepped out

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Speaker 2: Well, she could have cheated on you with someone who

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Speaker 2: looks just like you.

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Speaker 3: That's true.

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Speaker 2: Ah, what was that cough? No, it wasn't. It's like

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Speaker 3: It was a snuff. Honestly, I feel like a huge

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Speaker 3: not to get back together right now. I can see

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Speaker 3: us reconciling maybe five to ten years from now, but

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Speaker 3: time apart is probably best for both of us. I

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Speaker 3: and while the counselor didn't think it was good that

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Speaker 3: it's good that I at least found somewhat event Thank

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Speaker 3: you to everyone who listened and gave me advice. I

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Speaker 2: Your counselor is mad. She's like, don't go with the internet.

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Speaker 2: That's my money. I mean, you're I mean, you're Leah,

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Speaker 3: Don't do that. What'd you do that? Yeah, I'm right here,

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Speaker 3: and I cost money.

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Speaker 2: You have to pay for the opinions of people. My

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Speaker 3: It's usually pretty helpful. But we've got another story coming

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Speaker 3: right up.

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Speaker 2: My neighbor thought our nanny was my husband's wife, and

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Speaker 2: he didn't correct it.

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Speaker 3: Ooh, that's a goof.

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Speaker 2: I twenty eight female, gave birth to my husband, twenty

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Speaker 2: And by the way, you should get to know that

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Speaker 2: this story came from Born Safe nine eight nine six.

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Speaker 2: If you want to smit your own stories, go to

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Speaker 2: the ours desh Okay storytime Subbury. Last Saturday, the new

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Speaker 2: neighbor rang our doorbell. She did the reverse of the community,

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Speaker 2: to her close neighbors, and this was our turn. My

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Speaker 2: her confusion. A white man with a wedding ring and

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Speaker 2: neighbors supposed to think. She introduced herself and was talking

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Speaker 2: about how my husband and arnanny look like such a

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Speaker 2: cute couple. They have such an adorable baby. The nanny

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Speaker 3: What happened, dude, Yeah, this is weird.

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Speaker 2: Did he not look behind him and he thought she

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Speaker 3: Maybe?

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Speaker 2: I explained that this is our nanny. The neighbor looked embarrassed,

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Speaker 2: apologize for. Later, I asked my husband why he was

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00:18:29,440 --> 00:18:32,040
Speaker 2: letting the neighbor believe arnanny was his wife. He said

446
00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:35,440
Speaker 2: that it's an unfair question and that he was obviously flustered.

447
00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,119
Speaker 2: I told him it is the easiest thing to just say,

448
00:18:38,200 --> 00:18:40,680
Speaker 2: this is our nanny. My wife is in the kitchen.

449
00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:42,840
Speaker 2: He said, I'm making too much of this. I said,

450
00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:45,120
Speaker 2: maybe he wants people to think he's married to someone

451
00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:47,480
Speaker 2: who looks like Arnanny. He started saying that my body

452
00:18:47,480 --> 00:18:49,560
Speaker 2: had bounced back and that I was looking good.

453
00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:53,760
Speaker 3: Whoa not the thing that you should have said. He's like, no, babe,

454
00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:56,600
Speaker 3: you are still hot. She's like, well, that's not what

455
00:18:56,680 --> 00:18:57,560
Speaker 3: I was saying at all.

456
00:18:57,760 --> 00:19:00,840
Speaker 2: Well, apparently it was because Op says that reduced my

457
00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:02,879
Speaker 2: annoyance for a few seconds. It worked.

458
00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:04,440
Speaker 3: It worked okay for.

459
00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,280
Speaker 1: A few seconds, for a few seconds, but it.

460
00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:08,360
Speaker 3: Was not very effective.

461
00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:10,280
Speaker 2: Then I told him he needs to give me a

462
00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:13,399
Speaker 2: good explanation as to why he couldn't just say, choose

463
00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:15,800
Speaker 2: the nanny. My husband said he can't talk to me

464
00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:18,480
Speaker 2: when I'm like this, who is wrong? Am I the

465
00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:21,840
Speaker 2: a hole? And there are some comments I'm just imagining

466
00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:24,159
Speaker 2: this guy. The neighbor opens the door and he's like,

467
00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:27,679
Speaker 2: oh woman help. She's like you're she looks at your

468
00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:31,040
Speaker 2: wife with RACI say thank you, good woman, go away.

469
00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:33,400
Speaker 3: And then his wife is like I'm the wife and he's.

470
00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:36,359
Speaker 2: Like, oh, maybe he's got lady phobia. Maybe you have

471
00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:38,120
Speaker 2: a thought about that, genius.

472
00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:39,760
Speaker 1: Should be consider Oh my gosh, I mean she's scared

473
00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:40,320
Speaker 1: of Sophia.

474
00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:42,040
Speaker 2: Oh this is the neighbor's fault.

475
00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:42,600
Speaker 1: Neighbor's fault.

476
00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:44,600
Speaker 2: I think by being like, what so you want people

477
00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:46,679
Speaker 2: who think that the I'd like, do you're married to

478
00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:49,480
Speaker 2: the No, of course not. That's insane. You were there

479
00:19:49,720 --> 00:19:52,399
Speaker 2: comments top turn up. Honestly, I think you're overthinking it.

480
00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:54,600
Speaker 2: I'm assuming he's on very little sleep as you have

481
00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:57,080
Speaker 2: a newborn. Oh, he says, being a new dad is

482
00:19:57,080 --> 00:19:58,919
Speaker 2: a new adjustment for him. But and I hope this

483
00:19:58,960 --> 00:20:01,320
Speaker 2: doesn't make us sound like l parents. My husband and

484
00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:02,440
Speaker 2: I get enough sleep.

485
00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:03,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, they have a nanny.

486
00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:07,280
Speaker 2: The nanny is raising the kids. Yeah, that's why he

487
00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:08,120
Speaker 2: got confused.

488
00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:10,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's like, I hope it doesn't make a sound

489
00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:12,760
Speaker 3: like lazy parents. We don't parent our child.

490
00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:15,800
Speaker 2: We are sleeping. She is the one taking care of

491
00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:16,480
Speaker 2: the kid at night.

492
00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:18,600
Speaker 3: We sleep through the night and also the day.

493
00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,399
Speaker 2: Let me just put it this way, she produces milk.

494
00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:23,520
Speaker 3: So we're good there. I look great.

495
00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:26,639
Speaker 2: Maylee nineteen ninety. Maybe keep an eye on them, because honestly,

496
00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:29,119
Speaker 2: the nanny could have said, oh, no, I'm the nanny,

497
00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:31,120
Speaker 2: because that is for sure what I would have done.

498
00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:33,960
Speaker 2: If something weird happens like that again, then maybe get

499
00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:37,040
Speaker 2: an old nanny or do without a nanny at backfires,

500
00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 2: and he just becomes like into Grandma's classic.

501
00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:41,639
Speaker 3: Now she pulls a nanny McFee and she shows up.

502
00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:44,160
Speaker 3: She's really ugly. By the end, she's beautiful again.

503
00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:48,160
Speaker 2: Backfires spectacularly. Ope says, our nanny is someone who grew

504
00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:49,560
Speaker 2: up with my cousin.

505
00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:51,840
Speaker 3: Wait, wait, wait, last one. You've hired you nanny, but

506
00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:52,960
Speaker 3: it's actually just the dad.

507
00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:55,800
Speaker 2: But instead of the dad, it's literally Robin Williams back

508
00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:58,640
Speaker 2: from the dead rob Or nanny is someone who grew

509
00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:01,480
Speaker 2: up with my cousin the story. That's one of the

510
00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:04,480
Speaker 2: reasons why I hired this hot woman is our nanny.

511
00:21:04,560 --> 00:21:07,400
Speaker 1: Okay, so now she's hot, Yeah, okay, Oh he put

512
00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:09,359
Speaker 1: that a hot friend of my cousin.

513
00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:12,760
Speaker 2: I also didn't think I would need to watch my husband. Hey,

514
00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:17,080
Speaker 2: it's tism, says gave birth to my husband's baby.

515
00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:18,240
Speaker 1: Read that one more time.

516
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:23,080
Speaker 2: Hey, it's tism. Words of an irrationally angry mama. Oh

517
00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:25,000
Speaker 2: p He says, I was raised in Japan and English

518
00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:27,199
Speaker 2: is my second language. Does that phrase have a hidden

519
00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:28,360
Speaker 2: meaning in America?

520
00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:30,119
Speaker 3: I don't think. I think it was fairly normal.

521
00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:33,320
Speaker 2: Cat zero nine two six two zero info. Do you

522
00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:35,240
Speaker 2: think anything is going on? Does than any live in

523
00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 2: your home? Has he validated your feelings at all? Obi says,

524
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:42,160
Speaker 2: she lives with us? Oh, your hot cousin friend lives

525
00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 2: with you?

526
00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:44,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's living nanny.

527
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,200
Speaker 2: My husband has called me beautiful?

528
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:49,240
Speaker 3: What is going on? Okay? Those are two separate thanks.

529
00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:50,920
Speaker 1: I think she's just trying to show off.

530
00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 3: She's like, just to be clear, I am beautiful, she's hot.

531
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:55,640
Speaker 1: Know the difference.

532
00:21:55,840 --> 00:21:58,679
Speaker 2: I just I gotta again bring this back to I

533
00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:02,360
Speaker 2: don't think you're a husband. Was trying to convince your

534
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:05,439
Speaker 2: new neighbor that then nanny is his wife because he

535
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,679
Speaker 2: would rather be married to someone who looks like your nanny,

536
00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:11,439
Speaker 2: even though she is your hot cousin friend. Because again,

537
00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 2: you were there in the kitchen. Yeah, no, it's great.

538
00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:17,159
Speaker 2: Got leave bye bye woman bye. Which is weird in

539
00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:21,240
Speaker 2: and of itself, But I don't know. Angela Kendy Store says,

540
00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 2: your body bounced back and you look good? What not? Honey?

541
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,879
Speaker 2: I love you, not the ahole. Your husband is weird.

542
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:30,119
Speaker 2: Moby says, I think he didn't want me to compare

543
00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:33,240
Speaker 2: my body negatively against ar Nani's body. Well, Ar nanny

544
00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 2: and me have very similar body types.

545
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 3: So you look exactly like your nanny. It's what's sounding like.

546
00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:40,240
Speaker 3: Maybe he got.

547
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:44,120
Speaker 2: Confused, Maybe he literally is just he just can't say that.

548
00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:46,040
Speaker 2: Out of the corner of his eye, he did get

549
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 2: you guys mixed up?

550
00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:49,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, He's like, I didn't. He's like, it's so much worse.

551
00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:50,880
Speaker 3: I just I thought it was.

552
00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:52,159
Speaker 2: You, thought it was you out of the corner of

553
00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 2: my eyebabe. I'm sorry.

554
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:53,800
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

555
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. You're both hot Japanese women. What am I

556
00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:56,960
Speaker 2: supposed to do with myself?

557
00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:57,680
Speaker 3: I didn't know.

558
00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 2: Nerd is a verb, says, what do you mean by

559
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 2: this that if you have the same body type, Clearly

560
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 2: you do have some insecurities about the nanny's appearance being

561
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 2: compared to yours. I said, maybe he wants people to

562
00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:10,800
Speaker 2: think he's married to someone who looks like on nanny.

563
00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 2: I don't think you're being crazy or anything. And your

564
00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:16,399
Speaker 2: husband is handling this very poorly, but I really don't

565
00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:18,640
Speaker 2: think it's that deep. Hope, he says. Our body types

566
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:21,439
Speaker 2: are similar. We have both thin and tall, hourglass We

567
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 2: also have the same hair color and eye color. We

568
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:26,439
Speaker 2: have both Japanese but I have stretch marks. Now I

569
00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 2: have acne. Maybe I'm projecting because I still think our

570
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:30,560
Speaker 2: nanny looks prettier than me.

571
00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 1: You have mentioned it a lot. I think we need

572
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 1: to see pictures.

573
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:34,439
Speaker 3: I think so.

574
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 2: European lady, Oh no, what do you got to say

575
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:39,879
Speaker 2: about these Japanese people.

576
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 3: You don't have anything to say right now?

577
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:43,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, here we go, not the ahole. Both you and

578
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:47,600
Speaker 2: the nanny o Japanese. The neighbor's confusion is understandable, but

579
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:50,480
Speaker 2: your husband should have immediately said, no, this is on nanny.

580
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 2: My wife's in the kitchen. Hope. He says, yes, both

581
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:55,680
Speaker 2: me and the nannio Japanese. In fact, the nanny grew

582
00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:56,800
Speaker 2: up just miles from me.

583
00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 1: Every little detail gets a little weirder, like it's like

584
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 1: trying to make us into like a mystery. I love it.

585
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 3: Then nanny did it?

586
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 2: European lady responds, it's great that you can afford to

587
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 2: live in nanny. For most people here in the US,

588
00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 2: either one parent stays home with the child or the

589
00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 2: child is enrolled in daycare.

590
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:14,160
Speaker 3: What is that? That's not even relevant.

591
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:16,120
Speaker 1: Oh, he's gonna respond with that nanny's hot.

592
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 3: The nanny is beautiful.

593
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:20,199
Speaker 2: Did I tell you she's hot and my cousin's friend hot.

594
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, she's hot.

595
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:23,520
Speaker 2: And produces milk.

596
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:24,800
Speaker 3: And she looks like me, but hotter.

597
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:27,440
Speaker 2: Oh, he says, My husband and I live in California.

598
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 2: We're so lucky, especially here. Update two days later.

599
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,600
Speaker 1: Oh boy, that was a whole lot of subthing.

600
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 2: Boy, the update's going to be like, I've divorced my husband,

601
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 2: I'm marrying nanny.

602
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 3: I fell in love with the nanny.

603
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 1: I realized, Yeah, that nanny's hot.

604
00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:42,680
Speaker 3: I realized it was her this whole time.

605
00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:45,720
Speaker 2: I realized me and the nanny are just too hot

606
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 2: to not be married to each other.

607
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:50,760
Speaker 3: It would be a shame, just that it would.

608
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 2: It would be a shame.

609
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 1: You'd imagine, Sorry, nanny, we're gonna have to let you go.

610
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:55,760
Speaker 1: You're too hot.

611
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:58,159
Speaker 3: You're just too hot, and you understand.

612
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 2: Goes back when you're ugly. My update, I had listened

613
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:04,639
Speaker 2: about what people had to say about how confrontational I was,

614
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 2: so I twenty eight female calmly asked my husband, twenty

615
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 2: eight male, why he had allowed a neighbor female to

616
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 2: think our nanny thirty six female was his wife. He

617
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 2: promises he was caught off guard and he panicked internally.

618
00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 2: He said the neighbor was so nice and friendly, he

619
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,679
Speaker 2: didn't want her to feel embarrassed. He then said he

620
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:23,560
Speaker 2: also didn't want us to get judged. I asked judged

621
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 2: about what he said since our nanny was sweaty and

622
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 2: looking domestic while we were dressed up and going to

623
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,680
Speaker 2: head out later, he said, the optics made us look

624
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:32,920
Speaker 2: like bad parents.

625
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 3: Oh so he feels bad that y'all have a nanny jury.

626
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,879
Speaker 1: Do we feel like that's the good lie? Is that

627
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 1: a good lie?

628
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 3: Honestly, I think he's telling the truth.

629
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:45,560
Speaker 2: I believe that one hundred percent.

630
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 3: I think he's telling the truth.

631
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:48,359
Speaker 1: That's an interesting excuse.

632
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 3: I think it is an I think it's a stupid

633
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 3: excuse still, but I think I think he's telling the truth.

634
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:56,680
Speaker 2: It makes sense. This like all of these different equations

635
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 2: started playing out in his head, and he just like

636
00:25:58,880 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 2: short circuit.

637
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,439
Speaker 1: It's the yeah, the one, the woman going with all

638
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:03,639
Speaker 1: the math symbols around her.

639
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 2: He's like, that's not my wife. But if I say

640
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 2: that it's not, and then it's my nanny and she

641
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:09,159
Speaker 2: looks hot and sweaty, and then she's gonna be like,

642
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 2: are they like, just what's going on here? Are they

643
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 2: working this one to the bone? Why do they look

644
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 2: so great? Do they keep her locked in the basement?

645
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 3: Yes, she is my wife.

646
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:19,120
Speaker 1: It's having the Scott Pilgrim. I have to pee.

647
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 2: I think this is the story with the most Japanese

648
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 2: women that we've ever had.

649
00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 3: Though two, we've never had more than two.

650
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 2: It's a rule.

651
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 3: It's not my rule, folks, Dakota's rule.

652
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:28,920
Speaker 2: It's not my rule.

653
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 3: I just follow them wow, following orders.

654
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 2: I asked, why is he so worried about the optics.

655
00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 2: All of a sudden, I asked if people have been

656
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:40,359
Speaker 2: criticizing us. He didn't say anything directly, and there is

657
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 2: other indirect stuff. He mentioned how he's gotten mild teasing

658
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 2: at work.

659
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 3: They've been mildly teasing me at work.

660
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:49,880
Speaker 1: Oh make it spicy.

661
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,880
Speaker 3: They see my wife doesn't parent a lot?

662
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:56,479
Speaker 2: Say you, your wife looks an awful lot like your nanny.

663
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 2: Are they Japanese? Do they grow up a couple miles

664
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 2: apart from e Stenio?

665
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 3: Stop it, stub it. They're like, what we're just singing facts?

666
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 3: Stop making lenem mildly.

667
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 2: Your wife and your nanny are so hot in Japanese.

668
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 2: We can hardly tell the difference.

669
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 3: Wait, well, now that one was rude.

670
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 2: What oh, I'm it's rude to say his wife is hot.

671
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 3: We've gone from mild to medium teazing. Don't get hot.

672
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 2: He says, our nanny and I look so much alike

673
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 2: and have the same dialect, and that people have been

674
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 2: saying that nanny is like a second wife to him.

675
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:31,120
Speaker 2: So you just said, yeah, you just agreed.

676
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 1: This sounds so bad. Keep digging your great and they're like, wow,

677
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:38,560
Speaker 1: they look alike. Wow, they sound alike, they speak the

678
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,719
Speaker 1: same language. Holy crap, they're from the same place.

679
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 3: There's only one possible conclusion. It's the same woman.

680
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:48,160
Speaker 2: He also said, people who don't know us that well

681
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 2: are judgmental about how the nanny looks. I mentioned that

682
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:54,119
Speaker 2: in our city people would be judging us if I

683
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 2: was a stay at home mom while you were the

684
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 2: sole provider. I said other things to that effect, but

685
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 2: I can't remember what I said. He asks if I

686
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 2: think he's a bad father and or bad husband. I

687
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 2: said no and told him to not let nonsense get

688
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,399
Speaker 2: in his head. Not sure what else to add. So

689
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 2: you can ask questions in the comments if you want.

690
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 2: To know more, and Opie says some things he did

691
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 2: not say. She was his wife. The neighbor was complimenting

692
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 2: them about being such a cute couple with an adorable baby.

693
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 2: My husband said, thank you. Right, big difference there too,

694
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 2: him not going yes, and this is my wife.

695
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 3: Yes, isn't she beautiful and hot?

696
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:29,679
Speaker 2: Isn't she beautiful hot? In thirty six?

697
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:30,480
Speaker 3: Look at her skin?

698
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 2: No acne op He says, thank you, and I do

699
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 2: feel better after hearing his explanation. And that is the

700
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 2: end of that thriller.

701
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 3: Oh man, we'll never know.

702
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 2: We'll never know which one is truly your wife.

703
00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 3: Switch them around.

704
00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 2: It's simply impossible to say.

705
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 3: You go, I'll close my eyes and you guys spin around.

706
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 1: Baby baby, pick which one's mom.

707
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 2: Now I've got I've got two wives now?

708
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: Oh man, Do I have two wives or two nannies?

709
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 3: Oh no, I've just been calling you both, babe.

710
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the only The only thing you guys can

711
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 2: do now is just take turns and rotate.

712
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: Like rotisserie chicken.

713
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 2: Oh boy, but that is the end of that rotisseriy chicken,

714
00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 2: and we spin ourselves on over to the next one. Hey,

715
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Speaker 3: My husband wanted to vacation during the VID because he

719
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 3: was unhappy at home. My husband wants to spend the

720
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:27,440
Speaker 3: weekend at a lake house with three of his friends

721
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 3: during a dang quarantine. I told him that was really

722
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 3: stupid and that he could not go. By the way,

723
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 3: this comes from realists, and if you want to spit

724
00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 3: your own stories, go to the our sash Okay storytime

725
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 3: severed it end Op says. So his reasoning is that

726
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:43,719
Speaker 3: he has already visited those three friends during the quarantine,

727
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 3: so there's no reason to distance himself at all. Apparently,

728
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 3: because there's no difference between having dinner with someone and

729
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 3: spending a whole weekend in close proximity to someone. Apparently,

730
00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 3: he says the lake house is isolated and they won't

731
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 3: be going out anywhere. But that's obviously a lie. Even

732
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 3: if he stays at the lake house, the others would

733
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 3: get hungry and want to pop over to the grocery store.

734
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 3: And here's the most ridiculous assertion of his it's harder

735
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 3: on him now due to the quarantine. That's just true.

736
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 3: It was harder on everyone during the quarantine.

737
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:16,000
Speaker 2: That doesn't sound That doesn't sound wrong at all.

738
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 3: I know that doesn't sound ridiculous. It doesn't because it's

739
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 3: hard to break routine and get used to staying home, right,

740
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 3: But my husband has always worked from home and is

741
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,120
Speaker 3: used to taking care of our son during the day.

742
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 2: Yes, so that's not the same thing as being forced

743
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 2: to stay inside because of global events.

744
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 3: And also not being able to see anyone.

745
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 2: Honestly, I'd say go to the lake house. Brother, in hindsight,

746
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:38,960
Speaker 2: kin to the freaking lakehouse.

747
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:41,840
Speaker 3: At the moment, I probably I totally understand where he's

748
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:42,240
Speaker 3: coming from.

749
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 2: Of like a lot of the fear, I would have

750
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 2: also been like, don't do that. Yeah, But now I'm like,

751
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 2: you go do whatever you want.

752
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 3: I'm the one who's had to get used to a

753
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 3: completely new routine and learn to work over my four

754
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 3: year old's need for attention. And he doesn't even do

755
00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 3: much anyway. He's a digital artist, which isn't exactly a

756
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 3: stressful job in the first but half the time I

757
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 3: even go to check on him, he's not even doing crap.

758
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 3: He used to complain that he had to help with

759
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 3: the housework. But now that I actually see what he

760
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 3: gets up to, I see he spends maybe an hour

761
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 3: actually doing anything work related. He's probably depressed.

762
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 2: Are you just sitting there or watching him work all?

763
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 3: Yeah? The old time, she's like taking notes, She's like,

764
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 3: m it's weird.

765
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 1: You know.

766
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 2: It sounds like to me like you don't respect your

767
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 2: husband in any way.

768
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 3: I think that you guys have both been stuck with

769
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 3: each other.

770
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

771
00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 3: I honestly, this is so run of the mill, like

772
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 3: this is so standard for that time of being frustrated

773
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:35,280
Speaker 3: with the people that you're stuck with. I think it's

774
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:37,400
Speaker 3: careless of him to go out with his friends during

775
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 3: a pandemic, especially while we have a toddler at home,

776
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 3: and while I'm taking care of my disabled, at risk mother.

777
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 1: Oh that's pertinent information.

778
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 2: The toddler at home and you're at risk mother at

779
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 2: home changes everything for me. Don't go to the lake house.

780
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 3: My husband and son never visit my mother face to

781
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 3: face anymore. But if he gave me the virus, I

782
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 3: could give it to her. And it's unfair for him

783
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 3: to leave me alone to take care of our son

784
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 3: and my mother for the whole weekend. I'm already incredibly stressed,

785
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 3: and he's just gotta leave me alone to go goof

786
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 3: around at some lake. He keeps saying he misses going

787
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 3: out with friends, like I don't too, but I'm being

788
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 3: an adult about it and working even harder. And he

789
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 3: decides to go on vacation. So am I the ale

790
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 3: for not letting him go? And just to clarify, we're

791
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 3: both men. Someone on the original post thought I was

792
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:25,040
Speaker 3: either lying or reverse the genders to make some point

793
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 3: that sometimes people are attracted to the same gender. Sometimes

794
00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:30,360
Speaker 3: people a J, sometimes.

795
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 1: They are Jay with a G.

796
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:34,440
Speaker 3: And we've got an update. But what do you think everyone?

797
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 1: We all live through it.

798
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 3: Everyone lived through it unless you're younger than the time

799
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 3: in which you wouldn't have lived through it.

800
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Speaker 2: You've got a baby, got a baby, and an at

801
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 2: risk mother.

802
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I'm sorry everyone had to hunker down.

803
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: It sucked. Oh some someone's really upset because he's been

804
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 1: confined in his space for so long. I'm sorry you're

805
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 1: gonna have to deal with it.

806
00:32:57,280 --> 00:32:59,320
Speaker 2: You've got a baby.

807
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 3: I think we could have found a compromise where you say, hey,

808
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 3: like I want you to be able to let off

809
00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 3: some steam. But you know, I need help. I can't

810
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 3: do this alone. Maybe that's, you know, instead of a

811
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 3: whole weekend, you socially distanced hang out with them, or

812
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 3: maybe we all get tested and then hang out not necessarily,

813
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 3: you know, saying the whole weekend or something, but like,

814
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 3: there are compromises that you could make where he still

815
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 3: gets to see his friends, but in a safer way.

816
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 1: Do it via zoom.

817
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 3: There were ways to do it safely in link distance

818
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 3: and stuff, and do it outside masked up and stuff,

819
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 3: all that jazz, especially if you have people that are

820
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 3: at risk. I understand where you're both coming from. I

821
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 3: don't think there is an ale here. I think you're

822
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 3: both stressed and you're both stuck.

823
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and guess what everyone else was to everyone else

824
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 1: was too and yeah, it's just a time of eight.

825
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: Was unfair. Sorry, you can koreop gets better? But we

826
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 1: got an update, does it? Though?

827
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 3: Oh it didn't get better. We're getting a divorce. Oh

828
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 3: oh so a lot of the comments said I was

829
00:33:56,880 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 3: an ale and my husband probably needed a vacation from me,

830
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 3: and was apparently true. A week after I posted the original,

831
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 3: he sent me a seventeen paragraph email about how unhappy

832
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 3: he was, about how he doesn't blame me, but then

833
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 3: gave ten thousand reasons I'm actually a horrible piece of crap.

834
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 1: Oh my favorite movie, thousand reasons I hate about you,

835
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:18,959
Speaker 1: ten thousand reasons.

836
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:20,280
Speaker 2: I think you smell like Pooh.

837
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,720
Speaker 3: He was basically begging to go away for some time

838
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 3: two weeks, he suggested. The last paragraph was suggestions he

839
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:29,680
Speaker 3: had to make him going away more pandemic feasible. As

840
00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 3: soon as I finished the email, I called the husband

841
00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 3: of the woman he planned to go on this trip

842
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:35,919
Speaker 3: with and asked him how he felt about his wife

843
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,680
Speaker 3: spending up to two weeks away from him with another man.

844
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:41,120
Speaker 3: He was fine with it, said they had already talked

845
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,879
Speaker 3: about it. He said it's fine because their jobs make

846
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,959
Speaker 3: them spend plenty of time apart already, which honestly should

847
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,880
Speaker 3: be a reason to avoid unnecessary time apart. He also

848
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 3: told me that my husband apparently called his wife and

849
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 3: cried because he couldn't stand it here anymore.

850
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:57,719
Speaker 1: He's throwing a temper. It was a temper tantrum. I what.

851
00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 3: I couldn't speak to my husband for the rest of

852
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:03,200
Speaker 3: the day, beyond pissed. Neither of us could sleep, though,

853
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 3: and we had a long discussion, not an argument. We

854
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 3: were both shockingly calm about it. In the early morning,

855
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 3: we agreed to let the vacation issue rest for a

856
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 3: while and instead work on the root problems of our marriage.

857
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 3: Not even two days later, he brought up going again,

858
00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 3: and honestly, I freaked out a little. I was harsh,

859
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,319
Speaker 3: but I could tell that our relationship was hanging by

860
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:24,440
Speaker 3: the threads. Letting him leave would mean it was basically over.

861
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 3: There is a little bit left the story. But ope,

862
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 3: he's frustrated, his husband's frustrated. Everyone's frustrated, and it seems

863
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,320
Speaker 3: like you never got over that frustration.

864
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 2: I have no window into this relationship outside of this story,

865
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:39,960
Speaker 2: as do the rest of us. However, I don't want

866
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:40,919
Speaker 2: to be married to you either.

867
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.

868
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 2: I picked up on a vibe that you don't really

869
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 2: respect your husband. You didn't before, you don't now, and

870
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 2: you won't after. And that's not to say your husband

871
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 2: doesn't have problems.

872
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:56,840
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not gonna lie. Seventeen paragraphs is not

873
00:35:57,160 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 1: just nothing. So there's gotta be more here than what

874
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 1: we got. Because seventeen paragraphs. It can't be repetitive. Yeah,

875
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:06,520
Speaker 1: did he do an MLA format? I don't know.

876
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:08,880
Speaker 2: I don't think that was a creative writing assignment.

877
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

878
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 2: I think there's probably been a lot lurking underneath. Yeah,

879
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 2: you know, some people aren't meant for each other because

880
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 2: you wrote that stuff before y'all were getting divorced. And

881
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 2: if I found out that my partner wrote about me

882
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 2: that way, we'd have very large problems. Yeah, just like

883
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,799
Speaker 2: just you think that my career is like nothing. Yeah,

884
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 2: I like like a dumb little baby who can't, like,

885
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 2: you know, do anything around the house.

886
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:33,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

887
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 3: It just seems like it wasn't a super healthy marriage,

888
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:39,120
Speaker 3: and that was exacerbated when you guys were stuck together.

889
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 3: But I changed my mind a few days later. He

890
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 3: seemed miserable. If staying with me was so effing awful,

891
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 3: I just couldn't force him. That wouldn't help anybody. He,

892
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:49,439
Speaker 3: his friend, and our son went to the lake house

893
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:52,720
Speaker 3: and planned to stay for two weeks. It's been six. Honestly,

894
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:54,919
Speaker 3: it's been nice to have the place to myself. We've

895
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 3: been in touch every night, but I haven't missed having

896
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 3: him around at all. I miss my son. But the

897
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 3: absence of my part or means nothing that.

898
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:05,320
Speaker 2: Really tracks to how I was picking up the vibe.

899
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 3: Seems like that settles it.

900
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 2: You just didn't like your husband at all the first week.

901
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 3: I was very mad. I thought about it all the time.

902
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 3: I made him update me constantly on his and my

903
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,400
Speaker 3: son's every move, just waiting for him to f up

904
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:18,839
Speaker 3: so I could bring them both home.

905
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:22,759
Speaker 2: Also not how that works right temporally he is in

906
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:25,800
Speaker 2: a different place. You don't have like a fishing pole

907
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 2: to just reel him back in.

908
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 3: But then I just stopped caring. He's axted me earlier tonight.

909
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:33,439
Speaker 3: Thought we should probably just end things fine with me. Dang, yeah,

910
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 3: y'all are Booh.

911
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, that really goes to show up. I'm sorry it was.

912
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:40,480
Speaker 3: Not doing well long before then.

913
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 1: I have some I did pull up this post, and

914
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:45,319
Speaker 1: I do have some comments that I do want to

915
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:47,840
Speaker 1: read that are very pertinent because it kind of just

916
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:51,800
Speaker 1: supports our theory. Yeah, I'll go and read them. Delete

917
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,520
Speaker 1: it says not the a hole, but this bit concerns me.

918
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 1: And it's a bit where it says, and here's the

919
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 1: most ridiculous assertion of his it's harder on him now

920
00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: due to the quarantine. I know this doesn't sound ridiculous

921
00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 1: because it's hard to break a routine and get used

922
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 1: to staying home, right, but my husband has always worked

923
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 1: from home and he's used to taking care of her

924
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 1: son during the day. I'm the one who's had to

925
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 1: get used to a completely new routine and learn to

926
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 1: work over my four year old's need for attention. And

927
00:38:14,239 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 1: he doesn't even do much anyway. Nang, his routine has changed.

928
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 1: You're there judging him. I know there are quite a

929
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 1: few couples who love each other but are struggling to

930
00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 1: adjust to be around one another all day. And op,

931
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 1: you're mean. I've never been a digital artist, so I

932
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 1: have no idea how stressful it is or not. How

933
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 1: do you know it's not stressful. It's just like going

934
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:35,759
Speaker 1: on about like you're talking about this and talking about

935
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:39,839
Speaker 1: him in a very certain tone and way, a complete.

936
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:40,360
Speaker 2: Lack of respect.

937
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 3: It didn't seem like you liked him.

938
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 1: And guess what, there's another comment here from ha ha

939
00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 1: ha ha ha oh. No, being a digital artist is

940
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:49,959
Speaker 1: absolutely a stressful job, and doing any job while caring

941
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:53,760
Speaker 1: for a child is exceptionally harder. OPI, you are finding

942
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 1: it challenging to manage your child's need for attention while working. Well,

943
00:38:57,600 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 1: you should appreciate your husband all the more because he's

944
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 1: always doing that and before this he didn't have another

945
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: parent at home to split the work like you do. Jeez,

946
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 1: the lack of respect in that statement.

947
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 3: That's yeah, that story. I hope you're you know, doing better.

948
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 2: Now, o OPI's husband go.

949
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:14,399
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story. And we got

950
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 3: another one, come right up.

951
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 2: My husband had agreed to something years ago until his

952
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 2: friends got involved.

953
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,480
Speaker 3: Well what's it for then?

954
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:26,359
Speaker 2: My thoughts exactly. My husband Gary thirty male and I

955
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 2: twenty eight female have been together for about six years,

956
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 2: married for two. We have had a really good run

957
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 2: so far, but there is one topic that we have

958
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 2: always disagreed on bikes and bike the way. This comes

959
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 2: from Bike your Wife Throwaway. If you want to submit

960
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:43,239
Speaker 2: your own stories, go to the ars that showcase story

961
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 2: Time subburned it and we're here to read this story

962
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,400
Speaker 2: and we're gonna read it and have thoughts, and then

963
00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 2: you can tell us your thoughts in the comments. Let's

964
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 2: workout and then we'll read it.

965
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 1: For the ones who are listening they are doing like

966
00:39:57,440 --> 00:39:58,760
Speaker 1: the paddle boat thing.

967
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:01,880
Speaker 3: Doesn't make sense in the story we're biking context clues.

968
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 1: Is that just water biking?

969
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 2: Oh, he says. Very early in the relationship, he told

970
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 2: me that he wants to get a bike license, like

971
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 2: a motorbike, like a realm. I sat him down and

972
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 2: told him that that was an absolute no go for

973
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:19,160
Speaker 2: me and would always be, but that we were only

974
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 2: together for a month, and that I would understand if

975
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 2: he decided to end things cleanly there.

976
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 3: And then I mean, that's my mom. She wouldn't let

977
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:26,800
Speaker 3: my dad get a motorcycle.

978
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 2: She is I only after I'm gone, you can get

979
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:33,280
Speaker 2: a motorcycle. I was like, Oh. He asked for some time,

980
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:35,320
Speaker 2: but in the end told me that he was okay

981
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:38,240
Speaker 2: with giving this up for a chance with me. Fast

982
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:40,959
Speaker 2: forward to two days ago. He came home from work

983
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 2: and he was visibly upset. I tried talking to him,

984
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:46,840
Speaker 2: but he was avoidant until he snapped and started venting

985
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 2: that all of his friends are planning a massive bike

986
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 2: trip for next summer and that they told him that

987
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:53,239
Speaker 2: he should get his license and tag along. He also

988
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 2: told me that he was always very supportive of me,

989
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 2: which is very true, and that this was his only

990
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:02,239
Speaker 2: dream and I taking it away. I did not have

991
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:05,920
Speaker 2: the best reaction to this and just replied asking pretty serious.

992
00:41:06,040 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 2: He said, yes, yeah. I told him that he was

993
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:11,360
Speaker 2: a big boy and he can go do what he wants,

994
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:13,319
Speaker 2: but that if he goes on that trip, he would

995
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:15,840
Speaker 2: come back to an empty house. He packed some stuff

996
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 2: and is now staying with some friends.

997
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 3: Dude, if this was your lifelong dream, when someone says

998
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 3: a month into you dating, I will never be okay

999
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 3: with this, maybe believe them.

1000
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 2: Maybe, maybe maybe you can just ride in the sidecar.

1001
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 1: Oh, or on the or in the back or loophole.

1002
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:38,360
Speaker 2: Just don't get your license. Mmm, go on the trip,

1003
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 2: you said, Babe, you just said you leave me if

1004
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 2: I got the license. I never got it.

1005
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:44,480
Speaker 3: I'm driving illegally.

1006
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 2: I broke the law for our marriage.

1007
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 1: You outcome your husband should have done the We bought

1008
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:50,160
Speaker 1: a zoo thing.

1009
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,240
Speaker 3: I just bought it. I bought it anyway.

1010
00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my favorite line from that movie. Hey, I

1011
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:56,439
Speaker 2: bought this, ZU got it?

1012
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 3: I forgot it was Matt Damon in it, And so

1013
00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:02,120
Speaker 3: I accidentally reply with Mark Wahlberg for a second.

1014
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 2: Sorry about a zoo you don't like it, you don't

1015
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 2: like my zoo than your mother? For me? Am I

1016
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 2: the battie here, I don't know, send a pick, don't

1017
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,720
Speaker 2: do that. I was always very clear about my boundary.

1018
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 2: I gave him the chance early enough to leave if

1019
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 2: he doesn't like it, don't want it crossed. His friends,

1020
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,960
Speaker 2: obviously biased of course, have been putting divorced jokes on

1021
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 2: their social media since he left after our fight. And

1022
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:25,120
Speaker 2: there is a little bit edit here. I wanted to

1023
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,760
Speaker 2: add a small edit to answer some of the common

1024
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:31,399
Speaker 2: questions I've seen in response to the post. Let's see

1025
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:34,759
Speaker 2: if this preemptively answers any of my questions. Why is

1026
00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 2: it such a hard boundary for me? That's my question.

1027
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 2: I have lost multiple a total of six family six,

1028
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:43,320
Speaker 2: a total of six.

1029
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 1: Our that's what you get for making fun of him.

1030
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:48,879
Speaker 2: Damn it? Okay, I've lost six family members and friends

1031
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 2: between the ages of six and nineteen. What was his

1032
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:52,960
Speaker 2: six year old doing on a motorcycle?

1033
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 1: I was like for clarification, was it on motorcycles.

1034
00:42:56,960 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 3: From the ages of him being?

1035
00:42:58,600 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 2: Okay, n ok We've got that. We don't need to

1036
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 2: read that again.

1037
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 3: We know it.

1038
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 2: Also, he has known this since the first time we

1039
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:08,440
Speaker 2: talked about it. Why am I taking out my trauma

1040
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:11,319
Speaker 2: on him? And why don't I get help for my anxiety?

1041
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:14,680
Speaker 2: I have been in various forms of therapy since I

1042
00:43:14,800 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 2: was eight. This continues to this day, though it's not

1043
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 2: completely for my anxiety anymore, since it has lessened over

1044
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,240
Speaker 2: the years and there have been other issues I needed

1045
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 2: help with. My last therapy was last week. Another is

1046
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:29,359
Speaker 2: scheduled for Monday. And also never felt like I am

1047
00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 2: taking my trauma out on anyone. I dealt with my

1048
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:35,279
Speaker 2: feelings in therapy, but decided that I would never put

1049
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 2: myself into a position where someone could pass away due

1050
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 2: to a bike accident. Yes, I know anyone can pass

1051
00:43:41,080 --> 00:43:43,520
Speaker 2: away at any point for any reason. When we first

1052
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 2: talked about it, he asked me if there was any

1053
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 2: form of extreme sport that I'd be okay with. We

1054
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 2: have been diving together, he's regularly bouldering, and I got

1055
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 2: him skydiving lessons for his birthday last year. But bikes

1056
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 2: are a no go and they always will be. Is

1057
00:43:57,440 --> 00:44:00,239
Speaker 2: there any other option in this situation? I asked if

1058
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:02,719
Speaker 2: he was okay with going along in another vehicle.

1059
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 3: Goes on an atv.

1060
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 2: Arguably several degrees more dangerous.

1061
00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:12,320
Speaker 1: Say a tricycle.

1062
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:15,839
Speaker 2: Wait, guys, wait, we'll let you think that. That's what

1063
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 2: that meant.

1064
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:16,839
Speaker 1: That's what it meant.

1065
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:19,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, you didn't mean a tricycle.

1066
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 1: Oh Sophia, you sweet pee, we did. I amend a tricycle.

1067
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 2: Okay, the big ones that go and have a motor.

1068
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, they're called tricycles. That's idiotic. A tricycle is

1069
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 3: a baby bike with three wheels. What do you think of?

1070
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 1: Okay, so motorcycle at another wheel.

1071
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:38,800
Speaker 3: With three wheels, a tri motorcycle. It's not about connecting.

1072
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:40,320
Speaker 2: There needs to be a motor cycle.

1073
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 3: We'll always mean in my mind a baby bike with

1074
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 3: three wheels. It will never be the forefront of my

1075
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 3: Wand if someone said to you, yeah, i've got a tricycle,

1076
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 3: I'm not thinking they have a motorcycle. I'm thinking they've

1077
00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 3: got a little baby bike. Context, no context, tricycle only

1078
00:44:59,360 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 3: ever seen?

1079
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 2: Thirty year old man. I'm gonna go, well, you freak,

1080
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 2: you never learned how to ride a bike.

1081
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 3: Come on, crop.

1082
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 2: I asked him if he were okay with going in

1083
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:13,239
Speaker 2: another vehicle. He scoffed, oh, and told me that it's

1084
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:15,960
Speaker 2: not Sam, which is true, it's not. Maybe you could

1085
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:18,680
Speaker 2: get one of those like Polaris slingshots, tricey you can

1086
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 2: still feel the wind in your face. One of those

1087
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 2: things that Shack used to ride tricycles, trike, but it's

1088
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 2: got two wheels in the front, a Canam roadster or something.

1089
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 2: Get a plane. Yeah, I think that's what it was.

1090
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:31,800
Speaker 2: It was a Canam something because Shack is too big

1091
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:34,440
Speaker 2: to ride motorcycles too. He literally couldn't. He had to

1092
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:35,399
Speaker 2: ride one of those things.

1093
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 1: Hate how I looked up a motorcycle of four wheels.

1094
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 1: It gave me ATV a TV.

1095
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:44,920
Speaker 2: Four wheel motorcycle. ATV Why gave him an ultimatum? This

1096
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 2: is where I royally fed up, and I admit and

1097
00:45:47,800 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 2: accept it. In the moment when I said it, I

1098
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 2: didn't see it as a threat or an ultimatum, but

1099
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 2: rather a fact. I was stating. It was not to

1100
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,320
Speaker 2: scare or manipulate him. It's just the truth. But I

1101
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 2: understand that it comes across horribly and I'm going to

1102
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 2: apologize for it when I can. There's an update.

1103
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:04,359
Speaker 1: Hey, it's key on your favorite Filipino here. We're going

1104
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:06,399
Speaker 1: to get back to the stories. But here's three minutes

1105
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:07,520
Speaker 1: of ads from our sponsors.

1106
00:46:08,239 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 2: I've I've seen the solution to this in my head.

1107
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 3: Oh have you.

1108
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 2: Go on the trip? Yeah, you don't take a bike.

1109
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:17,839
Speaker 2: You know what you do? What you rent a convertible corvette.

1110
00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:19,760
Speaker 3: Oh, you look way cooler.

1111
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 2: And then you cruise in the middle of the bike.

1112
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:25,040
Speaker 1: Looks like a VIP. Yeah, exactly, you.

1113
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:28,200
Speaker 2: Look and then you become the guy everyone else you're

1114
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:29,360
Speaker 2: being escorted.

1115
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:30,720
Speaker 3: That's that is a good idea.

1116
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1117
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 2: And also I don't know how big this trip is,

1118
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 2: but if you haven't been on a motorcycle in.

1119
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:37,080
Speaker 3: Six plus years, probably not a good idea.

1120
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 2: It is significantly increases the danger for you guys.

1121
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 1: It's like riding a bike. No, it's not nothing like that.

1122
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 2: It's like riding a trike.

1123
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 1: No.

1124
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:48,360
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, I think Op's question of is

1125
00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 3: this a fair boundary to upset? Yeah, I think I

1126
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 3: think you said it early on.

1127
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 2: You said it literally at the very beginning, very beginning.

1128
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:57,800
Speaker 3: I think it is. I was, you know, I was

1129
00:46:57,840 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 3: thinking about it because I don't know if I would

1130
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:02,240
Speaker 3: necessarily have the same boundary, but I was thinking about,

1131
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:06,399
Speaker 3: like with pewpews. Personally, I would never be okay with

1132
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 3: my partner having a pupew in the house or owning one.

1133
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 3: And that's just like my boundary, and other people have

1134
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 3: different boundaries, like other relationships would be like yeah, no,

1135
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:17,279
Speaker 3: I'm totally fine with that, or I welcome that, or

1136
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:20,280
Speaker 3: like I have my own, which is your own personal boundary.

1137
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 3: So I feel like that is pretty similar to a

1138
00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:26,759
Speaker 3: motorcycle in that it is dangerous and obviously in a

1139
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:29,880
Speaker 3: different way, but it is a dangerous thing that you

1140
00:47:29,880 --> 00:47:32,840
Speaker 3: know a lot of people get hurt using. So I

1141
00:47:32,960 --> 00:47:35,880
Speaker 3: understand where you're coming from with that boundary, and maybe

1142
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 3: just you guys aren't a mash if there is no

1143
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 3: compromise question for you. Yes, sling shot, Absolutely, you have

1144
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 3: to appe slingshot. It's a boundary for you to have one.

1145
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:48,080
Speaker 2: You need that self defense sling shot.

1146
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:48,520
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.

1147
00:47:48,640 --> 00:47:51,439
Speaker 2: Those are honestly gnarlier than I think anything else.

1148
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 3: Well, they defeated a goliath, that is true. Classically that

1149
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:58,480
Speaker 3: kind of sling makes the sound barrier when you throw it.

1150
00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:02,200
Speaker 3: There would be at an update, it's been about a

1151
00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:02,840
Speaker 3: month since.

1152
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 2: My first post, and though the final result was no

1153
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:08,360
Speaker 2: A holes here. The comments were extremely varied, and I

1154
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 2: read through almost all of them. Special shout out of

1155
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:12,360
Speaker 2: here to all the people who could write why they

1156
00:48:12,400 --> 00:48:15,320
Speaker 2: thought I was the a hole without using strings of insults.

1157
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 2: On to the update. The day after, I messaged mysen

1158
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 2: that I would like to sit down with him and

1159
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:23,920
Speaker 2: talk about things properly. I forgot y'all were married, two

1160
00:48:24,000 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 2: years of marriage, six years of dating who He said

1161
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:30,840
Speaker 2: that he would like that too, and came home. I

1162
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:33,319
Speaker 2: apologize for how I said what I said, while also

1163
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:36,920
Speaker 2: standing firm that while my delivery left things to be desired,

1164
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:39,880
Speaker 2: to put it mildly, the message itself still stands. He

1165
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:42,359
Speaker 2: said that he understood, and he apologized for snapping at

1166
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 2: me like he did. After a long talk, this is

1167
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:47,799
Speaker 2: how I could summarize what happened. His friends at work

1168
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:50,399
Speaker 2: invited him on the trip. He said no and explained why.

1169
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:53,480
Speaker 2: He then started getting teased by them that he was

1170
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:55,919
Speaker 2: being whipped. What does it feel like when the wife

1171
00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:56,760
Speaker 2: wears the pants?

1172
00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:57,280
Speaker 3: Yikes.

1173
00:48:57,480 --> 00:48:59,759
Speaker 2: This went on for a couple of weeks, after which

1174
00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 2: he decided he would tell them that he would go

1175
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:02,520
Speaker 2: with them because he.

1176
00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:03,600
Speaker 3: Put me my poise.

1177
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,919
Speaker 2: Yikes, you gross? I don't like that this guy didn't

1178
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:08,799
Speaker 2: get bothered enough by his friends growing up?

1179
00:49:09,040 --> 00:49:10,839
Speaker 3: Does it not how to stand up to his friends? Yeah?

1180
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:12,560
Speaker 2: You know what? The answer to all of this was

1181
00:49:12,880 --> 00:49:16,360
Speaker 2: just a little sack tap out? Whoopsh how does that? Oosh?

1182
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:17,280
Speaker 2: How does that feel?

1183
00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: Ow?

1184
00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 2: Get back to work?

1185
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:19,320
Speaker 1: Ow what?

1186
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:19,839
Speaker 3: OW?

1187
00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:22,400
Speaker 2: I know for a fact you've resolved many an argument

1188
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:24,359
Speaker 2: with that move. OW tell me I'm wrong.

1189
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:25,640
Speaker 1: I'm just short enough to hit it.

1190
00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:29,280
Speaker 3: Anyway, what happened next? The teasing did not stop, and now.

1191
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:31,880
Speaker 2: He also felt guilty, causing him to be as angry

1192
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,319
Speaker 2: as he was that night. After the talk, we weren't

1193
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 2: really sure how to proceed, so we thought the best

1194
00:49:36,480 --> 00:49:38,360
Speaker 2: would be if we went to a professional together to

1195
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 2: figure things out. Counseling was a blessing, helping us articulate

1196
00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:43,960
Speaker 2: some thoughts we both had that we couldn't really say

1197
00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 2: out loud before. There was a lot of emotion and

1198
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 2: a lot of crying, but it was so helpful for

1199
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 2: both of us to really understand what the other was

1200
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:53,480
Speaker 2: going through. He also did some individual sessions, and he

1201
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:58,799
Speaker 2: decided to distance himself from his friends indefinitely. Wow, which Yeah,

1202
00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:02,000
Speaker 2: after being like make fun of my wife. I would

1203
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:03,160
Speaker 2: have done the same thing.

1204
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:05,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like make fun of me. That's fine, that's fine,

1205
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 1: that's my wife. But my wife, my life.

1206
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:10,360
Speaker 2: You do not just perish my wife in those house.

1207
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:12,320
Speaker 2: Oh I'm happy.

1208
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, me too. I'm glad that you had that conversation

1209
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:17,560
Speaker 3: and you both were willing to hear each other out

1210
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:20,880
Speaker 3: and be adults about it, and fine, you know the

1211
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:24,439
Speaker 3: best way forward, which is not hanging out with those friends. Yeah,

1212
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 3: maybe buy i'm a tricycle and put them in a

1213
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 3: little raincoat, but don't let them near any drains because

1214
00:50:29,719 --> 00:50:30,680
Speaker 3: there's clowns down there.

1215
00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:32,960
Speaker 2: No a little red balloon.

1216
00:50:36,200 --> 00:50:36,680
Speaker 3: That was better.

1217
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:37,319
Speaker 2: I am better.

1218
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 3: I'll work.

1219
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:40,200
Speaker 2: You were to hear first, folks clip it. We also

1220
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 2: realized that where we live is extremely motorcycle centric, and

1221
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:46,080
Speaker 2: that if we decided to stay together, then we should

1222
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 2: probably move away. You see them everywhere they live in Manila.

1223
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:52,280
Speaker 1: It's a say, bro, you see.

1224
00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:56,759
Speaker 2: Them all this Last week he sat me down and

1225
00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:58,960
Speaker 2: told me that he's been looking for work and got

1226
00:50:59,040 --> 00:51:01,640
Speaker 2: a really good offer for a company almost two thousand

1227
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 2: miles away from where we live.

1228
00:51:03,360 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 1: Oh nuts, as far, very far.

1229
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 2: He asked me if he could put in his notice

1230
00:51:07,560 --> 00:51:09,360
Speaker 2: and we could start looking for a house somewhere in

1231
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:11,759
Speaker 2: the area. I work from home, so moving is not

1232
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 2: really an issue for me, and we managed to find

1233
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:16,799
Speaker 2: a nice looking place pretty close to his work. Nothing

1234
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 2: is said in stone yet, but things are looking really good.

1235
00:51:19,320 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 3: Heck, yeah, brother, I do.

1236
00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:21,440
Speaker 2: I love that.

1237
00:51:21,600 --> 00:51:23,800
Speaker 3: That was nice, great way to end this episode.

1238
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 1: You guys should get a motorcycle and ride it all

1239
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:27,399
Speaker 1: the way there.

1240
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:29,759
Speaker 3: And you have a kid, give you a kid a trike. Wait, no,

1241
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 3: do they have a kid. They don't have a kid. No,

1242
00:51:31,560 --> 00:51:33,240
Speaker 3: but maybe I saw that in the future.

1243
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:35,200
Speaker 2: Now it's time to get a kid and a trike.

1244
00:51:35,320 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 2: You know what that kid's gonna want to do ride motorcycles.

1245
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: And on that note, yeah, I do the closing.

1246
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:46,600
Speaker 3: Like that, she's triking away. But if you love us,

1247
00:51:46,680 --> 00:51:51,080
Speaker 3: make sure to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.