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<v Speaker 2>As Okay, okay, let's get into today's episode and we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to start with the question of the day. Here

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<v Speaker 2>we got all right, you ready? Cat? When was time

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<v Speaker 2>you felt backstabbed by a loved one or a friend?

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<v Speaker 2>And what did the relationship look like after? And how

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<v Speaker 2>did you personally move on from it?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, only funny things come to our mind, I know,

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<v Speaker 1>just just funny. Oh man, I don't have an answer

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<v Speaker 1>for that one backstab by a loved one.

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<v Speaker 2>I one came right, Tom. I know I've been taught

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<v Speaker 2>to forgive, and I think it's been twenty years. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if I forgave.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, let me help you. I'll be the priestest today.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me help you. What do you need forgiveness for?

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<v Speaker 2>I have moved on from it, But as far as

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<v Speaker 2>ever speaking to that person, she's not in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>So it was ugly and.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, are you going to tell me? You're not going

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<v Speaker 1>to tell me.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it just consider it something that.

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<v Speaker 1>So the relationship is over.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it's been over. Yeah, it was really ugly. But

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<v Speaker 2>I don't understand the difference between forgiving them and letting go.

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<v Speaker 2>I've let go, like when you let people go to jail,

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<v Speaker 2>like you know, or they killed somebody, and parents forgive

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<v Speaker 2>the person like in a car accident or something.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, what I'm saying, right, I think I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I think for me, I can forgive people, but I

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<v Speaker 1>often have trouble forgetting.

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<v Speaker 2>Forgetting. Yes, well, I never forget.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, So but I think I think when something happens

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<v Speaker 1>to me that I need to forgive, I always go

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<v Speaker 1>back and say to myself, who has the power here?

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<v Speaker 1>If I don't forgive that person and move on, it's

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<v Speaker 1>hurting me. It's not hurting that person.

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<v Speaker 2>It takes up your energy the thought of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, so that's why I try to forget. If it's

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<v Speaker 1>hard sometimes to forget, but you know, I really try

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<v Speaker 1>going back.

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<v Speaker 2>Reading this again, it says a loved one or a friend.

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<v Speaker 2>It could have been a relationship like people out there.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure the man cheated on you that that's hurtful.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, I don't think that's back that's not well not

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<v Speaker 1>to me.

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<v Speaker 2>A secret is just telling telling me.

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<v Speaker 1>If I said to you, Susan, I don't want you

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<v Speaker 1>to tell anyone this, swear to me you won't, and

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<v Speaker 1>that to me, that's backstabbing. If you call up Nancy

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<v Speaker 1>or something you know, well, that's different. That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>If you purposely do something to diminish me as a

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<v Speaker 1>person that's backstabbing.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you ever backstabbed anybody? I don't think.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I just did you a couple of days ago.

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<v Speaker 2>What she's lucky she's in Texas.

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<v Speaker 1>That was too easy. You walked into the one I

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't knowingly backstab people. I think it sometimes.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I'd like to tell this person, but I really

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<v Speaker 1>try not to do it, because you know, at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the day, it's not really kind. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be thought of as a kind person.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I am a kind person.

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<v Speaker 2>So you are a kind person. And how you move

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<v Speaker 2>on from it? And for me, that means time because

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<v Speaker 2>time heals.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, no forgiveness heals forgiveness sales, Yeah, I don't. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you struggle with that, but I don't. I think once

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<v Speaker 1>I made the decision to forgive, then I forgive them.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that the same of letting it go? Let things go?

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<v Speaker 1>I have let many things go with friends I have

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<v Speaker 1>been if something's happened, the friendship may change, but I've

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<v Speaker 1>let it go, meaning I'm not going to harbor it. Inviting, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's forgiving. I'm not going to harbor it and and

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<v Speaker 1>say mean things. I'm going to let it go and

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<v Speaker 1>live my life and be happy, because if I don't,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just giving away my power. I'm giving away my

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<v Speaker 1>positivity to somebody or something else, and I'm just not

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<v Speaker 1>doing that.

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<v Speaker 2>And holding on to negative energy.

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<v Speaker 1>So, Susan, when I backstab you again next week, I

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<v Speaker 1>want you to remember I love you and my relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with you is really important in our friendship. But you

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<v Speaker 1>know I may backstab you next week.

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<v Speaker 2>Just do the front step so I could see it coming.

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<v Speaker 2>Please get me all right?

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<v Speaker 1>So we are going to get into our fan questions today,

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<v Speaker 1>which you and I always love doing. Please keep him coming, folks.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to read the first one and let's see

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<v Speaker 1>what we have here. Okay, hi, ladies, I need to

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<v Speaker 1>vent lol. I've been with my boyfriend for about five months.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in college and he's been out of school for

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<v Speaker 1>a few years. I always drive to see him because

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<v Speaker 1>he doesn't have a car, which I was fine with

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<v Speaker 1>for a while, but I finally got him to come

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<v Speaker 1>visit me for once. I was so excited, but the

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<v Speaker 1>second he met my friends, he started drinking to calm

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<v Speaker 1>the nerves and completely embarrassed me. I had a whole

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<v Speaker 1>day planned with my roommates, and he just made an

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<v Speaker 1>ass out of himself, and in his drunken state, he

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<v Speaker 1>told me that his X reached out to him and

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<v Speaker 1>it stressed him out. He swore he left her on

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<v Speaker 1>red and just wanted me to know. I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks for telling me. But I noticed him acting weird

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<v Speaker 1>after that, so I checked his phone. Turns out he

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<v Speaker 1>was planning on facetiming her that night once he got

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<v Speaker 1>a chance. Annoying. That is not how I would describe it,

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<v Speaker 1>but okay anyway, Yeah, so my question is this, how

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<v Speaker 1>do I break up with this man? Susan? Can we

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<v Speaker 1>just stop the question for a second, ask I break up?

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<v Speaker 1>Anytime I've mentioned a break he sobs and begs, to

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<v Speaker 1>the point where I feel so uncomfortable and trapped. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know how to put it into words. How

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<v Speaker 1>do I get through his victim complex and break this

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<v Speaker 1>off for good? I've been so done with this relationship

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<v Speaker 1>and this was the final straw. Help me get the

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<v Speaker 1>message across him. Please please, please, Thanks, ladies, Susan, Let's

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<v Speaker 1>say it together.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a no brainer.

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<v Speaker 1>One two three dump him him now or yesterday?

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<v Speaker 2>Let's go back. So why did he need to calm

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<v Speaker 2>the nurse because he's meeting his girlfriend's friends, who stress

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<v Speaker 2>is about that?

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<v Speaker 1>Some people get nervous about me and other people. However,

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<v Speaker 1>you and I can safely say this question has so

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<v Speaker 1>many inherent problems. Number one, Well, getting drunk, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>is it just brings all sorts of problems. Anyway, he's

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<v Speaker 1>clearly a cheater, right, Well, he's gonna.

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<v Speaker 2>Be planned to chat with her on FaceTime. So the

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<v Speaker 2>drunk ass, stupid ass told her about this message. First problem.

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<v Speaker 2>But what she's asking us is how do I get

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<v Speaker 2>this message? You don't have to do anything? Block is this?

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<v Speaker 2>It's over.

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<v Speaker 1>It's over, big boy, Susan, I don't know who this is.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna call you anonymous Susan and I are going

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<v Speaker 1>to role play. Don't break up with.

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<v Speaker 2>Me, sweetie. Listen to me. Listen to me, learn from this. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>this is not normal. You don't do these things and

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<v Speaker 2>lie about it. I'm guilty for looking at your phone.

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<v Speaker 2>And there's a reason I look because you're fucking guilty.

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<v Speaker 2>Move on, forget me.

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<v Speaker 1>That is what I know.

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't say it like that.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I would see that was way too

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<v Speaker 1>many words. And you who always say keep it short,

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<v Speaker 1>less is more, lessons more, you know what I would say,

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<v Speaker 1>Let's say the guy's name is Joe, Joe, I've been

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<v Speaker 1>an idiot taking you back, not this time by don't

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<v Speaker 1>let the door hit your ass on the way out,

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<v Speaker 1>and it'd be gone. And I think, Anonymous, you might

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<v Speaker 1>need to get a little bit of help here because

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to be with him, but you take

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<v Speaker 1>him back. I think you may have some self esteem

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<v Speaker 1>issues or something else going on here.

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<v Speaker 2>And she says, help me get the message across.

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<v Speaker 1>We're helping her.

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<v Speaker 2>What helped you need? Their words? Tell him straight up?

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<v Speaker 2>What part do you need help? You want to do it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Really give us this number. We'll call him. You're done,

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<v Speaker 1>you're out. And you know what, Anonymous, once you dump

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<v Speaker 1>his ass, it's going to open your brain and your

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<v Speaker 1>heart to better, healthier relationships if you do the work,

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<v Speaker 1>if you figure out why you kept taking him back.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, when we get these questions, Susan, I'm always like,

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<v Speaker 1>what is not being said or what's behind the words?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? And Kathy, you know me with the empathy thing

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<v Speaker 2>like it takes me forever to break up with the

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<v Speaker 2>guy so I can relate. However, everybody comes into your

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<v Speaker 2>life for a reason, a season, you know the saying,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's just time to accept You're not happy with

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<v Speaker 2>this behavior. So you could say as kindly as you

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<v Speaker 2>like or as mean as you like, but say it.

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<v Speaker 1>But when she says she feels trapped, I'm like, she's

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know there's a word for it, and I

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<v Speaker 1>can't think of it right now, because she's trapping herself.

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<v Speaker 1>Like he's not setting a trap. She's going for a

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<v Speaker 1>SOB story. She's got some self esteem issues. Maybe she's

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<v Speaker 1>afraid to be alone. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>This whole question that you sent to us, and thank

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<v Speaker 2>you for doing so, is not about him. It's about you, Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's what we want you to deal with. Look

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<v Speaker 2>in the mirror, talk to yourself, get it out and

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<v Speaker 2>say I'm better than this and I deserve better than this.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right, And you know what, sometimes it's hard to

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<v Speaker 1>say those things. If I were me, I would keep

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<v Speaker 1>it short, anonymous and just say I'm done, and then

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<v Speaker 1>I'd spend time. I are you agree, I'd well, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>call I would get some help you know, a friend,

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<v Speaker 1>a therapist, somebody say, he help me figure out why

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<v Speaker 1>I kept jumping back into this, but I wouldn't waste

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of words with him.

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<v Speaker 2>And just a few weeks ago, I don't know, a

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<v Speaker 2>month ago, I was having a yucky kind of day.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're the one that said, did you look at

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<v Speaker 2>the mirror this morning and say, I am right, I

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<v Speaker 2>am worth it, I am lovable, I love That's right?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, positive affirmation.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I really believe that's true. And there's something in

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<v Speaker 1>this girl's life where she does something she deserves it,

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<v Speaker 1>or she's not living her positive best life something, So Anonymous,

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<v Speaker 1>get after it. We are gonna send you positive vibes.

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<v Speaker 1>Get it done, and then get some help to figure

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<v Speaker 1>out why you kept this complete fool in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>And even though he cries, yes, you feel bad for him,

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<v Speaker 2>but you're helping him in the long run. You guys

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<v Speaker 2>are in college, you have a whole life. Yet now's

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<v Speaker 2>when you learn. Now is when you do this and

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<v Speaker 2>you move on from it.

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<v Speaker 1>Susan, she's been with this guy five months. The ink

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<v Speaker 1>on the ink on the first love letters barely dry.

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<v Speaker 2>And she drove all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>So many red flags. Get rid of him. Let us know.

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<v Speaker 1>We're sorry if we sound harsh. It's just that we're

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<v Speaker 1>old as Methuselah and we know that this is not

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<v Speaker 1>going to end up well for you. So get rid

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<v Speaker 1>of him and find a new guy and get some

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<v Speaker 1>help yourself, and then let us you.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're looking for a release and saying do the

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<v Speaker 2>right thing, you just got it. Okay, yeah, exactly, Thanks

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<v Speaker 2>for doing it though, okay, Keath. Question number two, and

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<v Speaker 2>this one is from Claire. Hi, ladies, I need some advice.

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<v Speaker 2>I just found out that my ex husband is engaged.

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<v Speaker 2>Our divorce finalized a month ago. What do I do?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm honestly distraught. I don't want to be with him anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>We split do to the typical falling out of love

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<v Speaker 2>slash terrible to no sex life stuff. But this honestly

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<v Speaker 2>really hurts to make matters worse. He's in gains to

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<v Speaker 2>his secretary. Please just tell me some things I need

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<v Speaker 2>to hear right now. Thank you so much. Okay is

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<v Speaker 2>damn secretary? You ask?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's not fair, that's not fair.

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<v Speaker 2>Sooner it's a month, obviously, you know where my head

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<v Speaker 2>at is at. He's been seeing this secretary for quite

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<v Speaker 2>some time.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, maybe he has, maybe has not, we don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't jump to conclusions. I mean, I'm right.

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<v Speaker 2>There was it divorce six years?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. But but here's the thing that you were.

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<v Speaker 1>You took the thought right out of my mouth. We

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how long they were separated. We don't know

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<v Speaker 1>any of those things. And maybe cheated, maybe didn't. That's

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<v Speaker 1>not the point. The question here is, Claire, you're asking

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<v Speaker 1>what do I do? You don't do anything. You're out

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<v Speaker 1>of his life.

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<v Speaker 2>So he says, right here, I don't want to be

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<v Speaker 2>with him.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter if she wants to or not want.

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<v Speaker 1>They are too Claire, what do I do? Start dating,

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<v Speaker 1>go out with your girlfriends, take a trip, read a book,

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<v Speaker 1>take flower arranging, bake a cake, but stop thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>him because it's over and or two he's moved on.

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<v Speaker 1>I really don't. I'm sorry, I mean, I don't. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't mean to sound harsh. I'm sure that it would

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<v Speaker 1>be hard to hear. And I'm sure you're thinking like

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<v Speaker 1>Susan did.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, he's already just we just got to a divorce

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<v Speaker 2>a minute ago. And so you're probably, but it should

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<v Speaker 2>only stink for a second because remember, you didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>to be married to him, right, so sucked.

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<v Speaker 1>I was gonna say, go find some better sex, Claire,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, go find go find a good time guy

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<v Speaker 1>for a night. It'll clear your head.

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<v Speaker 2>And I get the typical falling out of love. That

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<v Speaker 2>that's what happens. I mean, it's not easy. I think

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<v Speaker 2>marriage it's not just being and love, it's being a

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<v Speaker 2>partner with somebody. So you weren't partners obviously, so the

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<v Speaker 2>love part goes away. I know because I lived through it,

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<v Speaker 2>and the sex ed this is a no brainer. I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's stung because number one, it was a secretary.

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<v Speaker 2>At number two, it came immediately after the divorce.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I would get that, I would say number three,

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<v Speaker 1>I think what Claire isn't saying. I'm reading a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit between the lines here. She probably surmising, like you did, Susan,

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<v Speaker 1>that he went that secretary before, and that's probably what stings,

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<v Speaker 1>and she just doesn't want to put it down. So Claire,

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<v Speaker 1>if that's the case, it's sucks too. Exactly if you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know, If you still don't know, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Kathy don't some divorces take a few years, so they

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<v Speaker 2>could have been living their own lives for a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of years. But because the papers came in and he's engaged,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I'm saying. So it could be a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of things, but you want to hear us. We're

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<v Speaker 2>telling you it's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay to feel badly, but again, it's about living

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<v Speaker 1>positive life. Don't spend your days feeling hurt. Go spend

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<v Speaker 1>your days doing something positive for yourself that way, you know, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>go do something for you and the hurt. Oh, now

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<v Speaker 1>we're getting done to it. How much mon? Did you

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<v Speaker 1>get clear? Come join us for a vacation. We'll make

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<v Speaker 1>you laugh. But thank you, and I'm really sorry. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>good luck and sorry that you feel that way. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>The next question is from Nina. She writes, Hi, Kathy

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<v Speaker 1>and Susan, I feel like I'm about to lose my mind.

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<v Speaker 1>I just found out that my best friend of ten

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<v Speaker 1>years has been talking shit about me behind my back

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<v Speaker 1>for our entire friendship. I found out because she sent

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<v Speaker 1>a message about me to me by accident. Then when

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<v Speaker 1>I blocked her from viewing my story, that's literally all

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<v Speaker 1>I did. Lol. She went on a rampage and started

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<v Speaker 1>making up crazy lies about me to all of our friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Turns out this isn't the first time she's done that.

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<v Speaker 1>The biggest lie I was telling every one that I

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<v Speaker 1>was in rehab when really I was in the hospital

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<v Speaker 1>dealing with some severe medical issues. My question is this,

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<v Speaker 1>How do I heal from this? I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>can't trust anyone, and I'm spiraling. I'm away at college.

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<v Speaker 1>She's still in her hometown, so I feel so disconnected

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<v Speaker 1>from all of my friends there. I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>if they are my friends. Any advice would be great.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, that's sad, you know what. I know she's hurting,

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<v Speaker 2>but that girl karma's a bit. I feel sorry for

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<v Speaker 2>her for what life is going to be given her.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't do things like that. You don't spread lies.

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<v Speaker 2>It's bad enough if you're going to spread secrets the

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<v Speaker 2>backstabbing part, but to make up bold face lives. Did

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<v Speaker 2>I tell you that story? Because I think I did

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<v Speaker 2>on another podcast when I used to pray that I

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<v Speaker 2>would develop boobs.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, yes you did at the Splash party and

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<v Speaker 3>that that thing went out Piccolo stoves and I came

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<v Speaker 3>out and bar it all, but she's not home to

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<v Speaker 3>defend herself.

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<v Speaker 2>So do you think she should put out something on

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<v Speaker 2>social media to embarrass this woman or this girl or.

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<v Speaker 1>Not at all. Here's what I think.

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<v Speaker 2>Simply move on, Nina.

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<v Speaker 1>You're young, you're in college. I get it. It stings.

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<v Speaker 1>You've obviously known this girl. I'm guessing it's a girl,

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<v Speaker 1>could be a guy. But you've known this person for

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<v Speaker 1>ten years, so probably since your teenage years, and to

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<v Speaker 1>find this out now is brutal. I would say to you, don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I would not do what Susan said. I would not

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<v Speaker 1>put anything out on social media. I would not put

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<v Speaker 1>any negativity out there because negative breeds negative. So if

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<v Speaker 1>I were you, I would let it go. When you

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<v Speaker 1>get home from college and Thanksgiving, Christmas, spring break, summer,

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<v Speaker 1>whenever it is the next time you see her, I

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<v Speaker 1>would have a sit down with just her and I

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<v Speaker 1>would say here's how I feel, this is what you know,

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah. Go through all of it with her

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<v Speaker 1>and say you really hurt my feelings and I can't

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<v Speaker 1>believe this happened. Do you want to be my friend,

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<v Speaker 1>because if you do, you can't do this again. And

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<v Speaker 1>let me tell you. Wait, I had an experience like

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<v Speaker 1>this with a very good friend. And I've never told

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<v Speaker 1>this straight before. I just just in talking about her,

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<v Speaker 1>it just came back to my mind. I had a

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<v Speaker 1>very good friend who when she would get worried about me,

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<v Speaker 1>she would call my kids, and of course, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>my husband's gone, my kids were my kids are worried

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<v Speaker 1>about me, right if something happens. And so last time

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<v Speaker 1>she did this and my kids panicked because they couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>reach me. I was out playing golf and having dinner

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<v Speaker 1>and I turned my phone on. Well, they thought I

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<v Speaker 1>was dead by the side of the road. Anyway, when

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<v Speaker 1>I called them back, they my children had called them

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<v Speaker 1>like ten times. I found out she had called all

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<v Speaker 1>of my children and said, I can't reach Kathy out

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<v Speaker 1>of nowhere, and she knew where I was by the way.

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<v Speaker 1>She I don't know why she did it, but I

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<v Speaker 1>called her and I said, I can tell you it

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<v Speaker 1>was a guy I was on a date with and

0:21:33.960 --> 0:21:36.560
<v Speaker 1>she didn't like the guy, so I don't know. So

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<v Speaker 1>I called her and I said, listen, you cannot ever

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<v Speaker 1>call my children again.

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<v Speaker 2>You cannot do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, if I'm dead by the side of the road.

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<v Speaker 1>My children will find out if I'm in the hospital,

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<v Speaker 1>they will contact my children. If you want to be

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<v Speaker 1>my friend, you can never do this again, can you

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<v Speaker 1>promise that? And she said no, I can't. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>our friendship just ended. And okay, I'm just saying it's

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<v Speaker 1>short and sweet.

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<v Speaker 2>Where my mind's going. When she received the message about

0:22:11.280 --> 0:22:17.360
<v Speaker 2>her accidentally from this gossipy girl, she says she blocked her.

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<v Speaker 2>You wouldn't confront right then and there make the phone

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<v Speaker 2>call like whoa, I'm sure you didn't mean to send

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<v Speaker 2>that message to me, And why on earth would you

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<v Speaker 2>be saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Because she's in college.

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<v Speaker 2>If I send you a message and I meant to

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<v Speaker 2>send it to Nancy, okay, and it was trashing you,

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<v Speaker 2>You're only going to block me. You're not going to

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<v Speaker 2>call me it and Susan.

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<v Speaker 1>Susan, I have it. I have a news flash. And

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<v Speaker 1>I hope everyone's listening very carefully. Neither you nor I,

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<v Speaker 1>come to think of it, Nancy either we're not in college.

0:22:51.520 --> 0:22:54.440
<v Speaker 1>We've lived a lot of life. I'm saying I could

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<v Speaker 1>see it where where Nina might be so hurt that

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<v Speaker 1>oh I just want I just want to block this.

0:23:01.920 --> 0:23:04.080
<v Speaker 1>I just want to you know, I want to forget it,

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<v Speaker 1>but clearly that doesn't work, which is why I suggested

0:23:08.440 --> 0:23:09.360
<v Speaker 1>sit down with her.

0:23:11.920 --> 0:23:15.000
<v Speaker 2>Mind gotthy can remember when I tried to hold it

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<v Speaker 2>in when something happened between people we know and I

0:23:18.600 --> 0:23:21.040
<v Speaker 2>did good for like a week, and they were all

0:23:21.080 --> 0:23:26.200
<v Speaker 2>on a zoom call together, and.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, let me just say, Susan gives great advice. She

0:23:27.920 --> 0:23:32.000
<v Speaker 1>doesn't know what's take her, she doesn't know what's follow through.

0:23:32.200 --> 0:23:35.480
<v Speaker 1>I remember this phone call. I was like, oh my god,

0:23:36.560 --> 0:23:39.359
<v Speaker 1>can we just say bats Nation needs to hear this.

0:23:39.840 --> 0:23:45.359
<v Speaker 1>They think Susan is miss sweetness, princess sweet I am, oh, really,

0:23:45.560 --> 0:23:48.640
<v Speaker 1>you don't have sign of you. That was wrong button exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember they.

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<v Speaker 1>And I have the reputation of being I have a

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<v Speaker 1>bat at all times, and I'm exactly the opposite. So

0:23:57.680 --> 0:24:01.680
<v Speaker 1>bachsor Nation figure it out. And anyway, Nina, delivery, It's

0:24:01.720 --> 0:24:05.080
<v Speaker 1>a delivery, I know, Nina. Here's what I'm recommending that

0:24:05.200 --> 0:24:08.440
<v Speaker 1>I think Susan would agree, sit down with her when

0:24:08.480 --> 0:24:11.679
<v Speaker 1>you get home from school. If you can't resurrect, or

0:24:11.880 --> 0:24:14.360
<v Speaker 1>remediate or repair, I don't know where all those are.

0:24:14.359 --> 0:24:17.359
<v Speaker 1>Words just came from the friendship. Then it might be over.

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<v Speaker 2>I agreed to appoint Kathy. I wouldn't give her an

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<v Speaker 2>opportunity to be my friend again. The damage is done,

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<v Speaker 2>and I personally, as I sit here while you were

0:24:29.960 --> 0:24:33.720
<v Speaker 2>talking and I'm listening to you, would probably put something

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<v Speaker 2>out about why I was in the hospital, not saying

0:24:36.480 --> 0:24:39.719
<v Speaker 2>she said or did anything this friend, and thank you

0:24:39.800 --> 0:24:43.880
<v Speaker 2>for all your well wishes. I had a severe whatever

0:24:44.080 --> 0:24:47.399
<v Speaker 2>the problem was, so that the world knew she was there,

0:24:47.520 --> 0:24:50.000
<v Speaker 2>and then the people I think she was in rehab

0:24:50.680 --> 0:24:52.119
<v Speaker 2>they might question that friend.

0:24:52.680 --> 0:24:55.399
<v Speaker 1>They might or they might say, oh god, it's true

0:24:55.440 --> 0:24:58.200
<v Speaker 1>and she's putting up this fake story about being the mostrue.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I don't say anything. I don't justify stupid,

0:25:02.480 --> 0:25:05.760
<v Speaker 1>mean rumors with the response. I just don't. People are

0:25:05.760 --> 0:25:08.280
<v Speaker 1>gonna believe what they want to believe. Her friend, What

0:25:08.320 --> 0:25:10.359
<v Speaker 1>do I always say to you? What do I always

0:25:10.359 --> 0:25:12.679
<v Speaker 1>say to you when we talk about the mean people

0:25:12.840 --> 0:25:13.840
<v Speaker 1>saying stuff about you.

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<v Speaker 2>And me online? Wearing a bikinias get your negative thoughts

0:25:19.320 --> 0:25:20.600
<v Speaker 2>thrown at right?

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<v Speaker 1>Who cares what they say? I care what you think

0:25:23.400 --> 0:25:25.920
<v Speaker 1>of me because you're my friend. But if people who

0:25:25.920 --> 0:25:28.359
<v Speaker 1>don't know me on the internet, who cares, so Nina,

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<v Speaker 1>good luck. Let us know if you in fact do

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<v Speaker 1>repair the friendship.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, can I say one more thing. When you get

0:25:37.200 --> 0:25:40.680
<v Speaker 2>home and you talk to those other people, not the person,

0:25:41.040 --> 0:25:43.600
<v Speaker 2>but the other people, you could bring it up and

0:25:43.640 --> 0:25:46.560
<v Speaker 2>say I was so hurt by that. I can't believe

0:25:46.680 --> 0:25:50.280
<v Speaker 2>that she told people, and maybe they get some feedback

0:25:51.400 --> 0:25:54.520
<v Speaker 2>or like, I think we never thought that.

0:25:54.720 --> 0:25:57.679
<v Speaker 1>I think you're pitying. That's I think it's keep it

0:25:57.720 --> 0:26:00.880
<v Speaker 1>and it's pity. It's like triangulation. You're bringing other people.

0:26:01.400 --> 0:26:04.000
<v Speaker 1>I just say lessons more. I don't. I'm not gonna.

0:26:04.880 --> 0:26:06.639
<v Speaker 2>I wish I would be more like you and just

0:26:06.680 --> 0:26:07.359
<v Speaker 2>shut it down.

0:26:07.720 --> 0:26:09.359
<v Speaker 1>I wish I wish I could be more like you

0:26:09.400 --> 0:26:11.280
<v Speaker 1>and had hair like yours that could try in thirty

0:26:11.320 --> 0:26:22.000
<v Speaker 1>seconds with the hair dryer. That's what I wish. Moving on,

0:26:22.640 --> 0:26:24.680
<v Speaker 1>all right, are you ready? We're going to play a game.

0:26:24.920 --> 0:26:28.479
<v Speaker 1>It's time for games. And you know it's as close

0:26:28.520 --> 0:26:33.040
<v Speaker 1>to moral quandary as we can get. No, but no, listen,

0:26:34.160 --> 0:26:36.119
<v Speaker 1>we're going to answer all your dreams. Your dream is

0:26:36.119 --> 0:26:38.639
<v Speaker 1>about to come through, Susan. You know why. We're going

0:26:38.720 --> 0:26:41.480
<v Speaker 1>to talk about what we would do. You do not

0:26:41.760 --> 0:26:42.919
<v Speaker 1>have to guess what I would do.

0:26:43.240 --> 0:26:45.320
<v Speaker 2>This is a perfect It's.

0:26:45.160 --> 0:26:48.080
<v Speaker 1>The Susan Show. You're going to say what you would do,

0:26:48.119 --> 0:26:50.679
<v Speaker 1>and I'm going to say what I would do. So

0:26:50.840 --> 0:26:53.000
<v Speaker 1>here goes first one dreams.

0:26:54.320 --> 0:26:56.399
<v Speaker 2>Guess that's what I said.

0:26:56.440 --> 0:26:59.920
<v Speaker 1>It's Susan's dream day, all right? What would you do

0:27:00.880 --> 0:27:06.400
<v Speaker 1>if your first date brings up their ex multiple times

0:27:06.760 --> 0:27:09.359
<v Speaker 1>and even compares you to them. Do you call it

0:27:09.400 --> 0:27:13.679
<v Speaker 1>out or let it slide?

0:27:14.359 --> 0:27:14.679
<v Speaker 2>Well?

0:27:15.119 --> 0:27:16.199
<v Speaker 1>I wish off could happened.

0:27:16.400 --> 0:27:24.080
<v Speaker 2>That's happened. That has happened, and honestly it at that time,

0:27:24.160 --> 0:27:29.359
<v Speaker 2>it was whether I was wanting to get to know

0:27:29.440 --> 0:27:31.719
<v Speaker 2>this guy or not, Like I know, within three minutes

0:27:31.840 --> 0:27:33.680
<v Speaker 2>going on a first date, whether I'm going to see

0:27:33.680 --> 0:27:37.320
<v Speaker 2>you again or not. But multiple times, like sometimes people

0:27:37.359 --> 0:27:39.720
<v Speaker 2>do bring it up and to compare me to somebody.

0:27:40.760 --> 0:27:43.280
<v Speaker 2>So it happened one time and he was a widow.

0:27:43.600 --> 0:27:47.119
<v Speaker 2>I felt so bad for him, Kathy by the fourth

0:27:47.160 --> 0:27:49.280
<v Speaker 2>time and I looked at him in my face, my

0:27:49.359 --> 0:27:52.440
<v Speaker 2>eyes tell all like really, and he goes, I'm so

0:27:52.480 --> 0:27:54.679
<v Speaker 2>sorry for doing this, but can I just show you?

0:27:55.560 --> 0:27:57.720
<v Speaker 2>I said, of course, I'm about to throw up in

0:27:57.760 --> 0:28:03.639
<v Speaker 2>my mouth, Kathy, I have and it was scary like

0:28:04.440 --> 0:28:08.560
<v Speaker 2>she was a hairdresser. She looked, we looked just alike.

0:28:09.200 --> 0:28:11.399
<v Speaker 2>Just I mean, maybe our features were a little the

0:28:11.480 --> 0:28:16.960
<v Speaker 2>hair that, the body, the height, the And he said

0:28:16.960 --> 0:28:17.280
<v Speaker 2>to me.

0:28:17.680 --> 0:28:21.520
<v Speaker 1>Wait, he is a widower. Yes, she wanted to marry

0:28:21.520 --> 0:28:23.560
<v Speaker 1>the ghost of Christmas past.

0:28:23.400 --> 0:28:25.840
<v Speaker 2>He said. And I liked the guy a lot. I

0:28:25.960 --> 0:28:28.800
<v Speaker 2>really did. And he said to me, I don't think

0:28:28.880 --> 0:28:33.399
<v Speaker 2>I could see you. It's too much. Oh, I know,

0:28:34.480 --> 0:28:35.000
<v Speaker 2>I know.

0:28:35.600 --> 0:28:39.200
<v Speaker 1>I mean it's really good for him though, you know,

0:28:39.200 --> 0:28:40.240
<v Speaker 1>good for him for knowing.

0:28:40.560 --> 0:28:42.080
<v Speaker 2>And like I said, I would have seen him again.

0:28:42.080 --> 0:28:46.000
<v Speaker 1>He was a nice I think I this this an

0:28:46.040 --> 0:28:49.320
<v Speaker 1>ex a widower that's not an X that's a death right.

0:28:49.880 --> 0:28:54.440
<v Speaker 1>So this is different if your your first date for

0:28:54.640 --> 0:28:57.800
<v Speaker 1>me brings up their ex So you know, for me,

0:28:58.200 --> 0:29:01.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm out. I'm not a first state. You know, down

0:29:01.520 --> 0:29:04.000
<v Speaker 1>the road. Maybe if he was talking to me about

0:29:04.360 --> 0:29:07.600
<v Speaker 1>and that's another conversation, by the way, that we can

0:29:07.640 --> 0:29:09.840
<v Speaker 1>have someday, whether or not you know, how much do

0:29:09.880 --> 0:29:13.160
<v Speaker 1>you want to know about your current boyfriend.

0:29:12.800 --> 0:29:15.720
<v Speaker 2>Exes fashion them like they're saying.

0:29:15.680 --> 0:29:21.400
<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's a big flag. I'm saying, I don't. Someday

0:29:21.400 --> 0:29:25.680
<v Speaker 1>we're going to have this conversation about whether how much

0:29:25.680 --> 0:29:28.520
<v Speaker 1>do you want to know about your current boyfriend, of

0:29:28.560 --> 0:29:30.680
<v Speaker 1>which I don't have one, but how much you want

0:29:30.720 --> 0:29:33.840
<v Speaker 1>to know about their exes? Right? I want to know

0:29:33.960 --> 0:29:35.160
<v Speaker 1>some know a.

0:29:35.080 --> 0:29:37.760
<v Speaker 2>Little bit of where you're coming from, but rightly details.

0:29:38.040 --> 0:29:39.200
<v Speaker 2>Everybody's got a past.

0:29:39.360 --> 0:29:42.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, right, So anyway I would, I would call it

0:29:42.960 --> 0:29:45.200
<v Speaker 1>out and I would let him slide right out the door.

0:29:47.680 --> 0:29:51.800
<v Speaker 2>Your date gets a little too drunk and starts making

0:29:52.000 --> 0:29:55.640
<v Speaker 2>a scene. Do you stick it out in the night early?

0:29:56.400 --> 0:30:00.560
<v Speaker 1>Okay? God, I can tell you my mine's a real

0:30:00.680 --> 0:30:03.680
<v Speaker 1>quick answer. I'm out the door. I do not like

0:30:04.720 --> 0:30:08.000
<v Speaker 1>a start. That's right, I'm out, goodbye, I see you.

0:30:08.240 --> 0:30:10.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm at at Susan's house.

0:30:11.800 --> 0:30:14.560
<v Speaker 2>Who's ever closed? Okay?

0:30:14.960 --> 0:30:18.680
<v Speaker 1>You realize you have zero chemistry, but they seem really

0:30:18.720 --> 0:30:21.200
<v Speaker 1>into you. Do you give them another date or call

0:30:21.240 --> 0:30:23.080
<v Speaker 1>it quits early? What do you do, Susan?

0:30:23.840 --> 0:30:27.160
<v Speaker 2>I stick it out for that date, and I'm usually

0:30:27.320 --> 0:30:31.520
<v Speaker 2>a little I don't want to call myself a puss,

0:30:31.520 --> 0:30:33.880
<v Speaker 2>but I'll text them that I didn't feel what I

0:30:33.920 --> 0:30:35.960
<v Speaker 2>needed to feel, but I'm not going to go out

0:30:36.120 --> 0:30:37.480
<v Speaker 2>on another date with them. Right.

0:30:38.000 --> 0:30:41.200
<v Speaker 1>I also would stick out the date and then if

0:30:41.240 --> 0:30:43.120
<v Speaker 1>they called me for another date. I would say, I

0:30:43.120 --> 0:30:50.440
<v Speaker 1>have a horrible case of cholera. I mean, I want

0:30:50.440 --> 0:30:54.720
<v Speaker 1>to make sure. I want to make sure, I'll I

0:30:54.760 --> 0:30:56.760
<v Speaker 1>want to make sure they don't want to be around me. God,

0:30:56.800 --> 0:30:59.800
<v Speaker 1>it's extremely and it's contagious.

0:31:00.320 --> 0:31:02.280
<v Speaker 2>Can you see the guy now asking a friends do

0:31:02.280 --> 0:31:08.480
<v Speaker 2>you know what color is? Okay? You see your friend's

0:31:08.560 --> 0:31:12.920
<v Speaker 2>partner out with someone else looking a little too cozy?

0:31:13.160 --> 0:31:16.200
<v Speaker 2>Do you tell your friend or do you stay out

0:31:16.200 --> 0:31:16.400
<v Speaker 2>of it?

0:31:16.640 --> 0:31:21.640
<v Speaker 1>You've had this conversation, You've had this conversation, So.

0:31:21.800 --> 0:31:28.200
<v Speaker 2>The word friend is the hard part. Like I, yeah,

0:31:28.240 --> 0:31:30.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm not kissing and telling them, but I've seen people

0:31:30.720 --> 0:31:32.760
<v Speaker 2>with their wives. Weren't my friend?

0:31:33.240 --> 0:31:37.920
<v Speaker 1>Wait a second, I knew the if it is you,

0:31:38.000 --> 0:31:39.160
<v Speaker 1>oh no, no, no, no, no no.

0:31:39.800 --> 0:31:42.120
<v Speaker 2>If it's you mean Nancy, I don't know.

0:31:42.400 --> 0:31:44.760
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm oh no, I am saying it.

0:31:45.320 --> 0:31:47.560
<v Speaker 2>Yes, if I see friend.

0:31:47.880 --> 0:31:51.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but if I just see uh, you know, a friend,

0:31:53.920 --> 0:31:55.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It could be a business meaning that's

0:31:55.720 --> 0:31:57.600
<v Speaker 1>where you get yourself into trouble, you know. It could

0:31:57.640 --> 0:32:00.600
<v Speaker 1>be their cousin. It could be you know, serious, it

0:32:00.640 --> 0:32:03.200
<v Speaker 1>could be failing cousin. It could be someone in from

0:32:03.200 --> 0:32:05.560
<v Speaker 1>out of town. I never mess with that stuff.

0:32:05.640 --> 0:32:08.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't know that I would do an immediate.

0:32:07.960 --> 0:32:09.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't either. I think I would keep my

0:32:09.920 --> 0:32:13.240
<v Speaker 1>mouth on your own business. Yeah, but again it depends

0:32:13.240 --> 0:32:16.360
<v Speaker 1>on how good a friend it is and how posy.

0:32:16.480 --> 0:32:18.360
<v Speaker 1>I mean, if they're sitting making out, it's probably not

0:32:18.400 --> 0:32:19.160
<v Speaker 1>a business meeting.

0:32:19.320 --> 0:32:22.760
<v Speaker 2>Okay, your tongue was down her throat. I probably would

0:32:22.800 --> 0:32:25.840
<v Speaker 2>address him before i'd address her. I'm going to give

0:32:25.880 --> 0:32:28.520
<v Speaker 2>him an out here. Point in my eyes to his eyes.

0:32:28.560 --> 0:32:31.600
<v Speaker 2>I see you, I'm watching you.

0:32:31.640 --> 0:32:34.680
<v Speaker 1>Okay, what vachor nation? She would do it too, be

0:32:34.800 --> 0:32:37.440
<v Speaker 1>scared of suits, and she means what she says. All Right,

0:32:37.920 --> 0:32:40.280
<v Speaker 1>you agree to go to a party, but when you

0:32:40.360 --> 0:32:43.440
<v Speaker 1>get there, you realize you don't know a single person.

0:32:43.720 --> 0:32:44.480
<v Speaker 1>What's your move?

0:32:44.560 --> 0:32:46.480
<v Speaker 2>Oh that's easy, Yeah, that's very easy.

0:32:46.640 --> 0:32:53.680
<v Speaker 1>Hey, exactly, I'm counting. Who's on old? Come on? Stop?

0:32:55.880 --> 0:32:58.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? No, I don't know how long i'd stay. Depends

0:32:58.080 --> 0:33:01.200
<v Speaker 2>on the feedback from the crowd, I guess. But when

0:33:01.200 --> 0:33:02.120
<v Speaker 2>you do not know a.

0:33:02.080 --> 0:33:04.360
<v Speaker 1>Person, if you're invited to them, maybe maybe the person

0:33:04.760 --> 0:33:06.640
<v Speaker 1>you got sick or someone who knows. But I will

0:33:06.640 --> 0:33:09.600
<v Speaker 1>say you and I've talked about this as well. You

0:33:09.640 --> 0:33:12.080
<v Speaker 1>and I can both walk into a room not know

0:33:12.160 --> 0:33:16.080
<v Speaker 1>anybody and make friends and talk. And it's actually a gift,

0:33:16.120 --> 0:33:18.240
<v Speaker 1>and I'm grateful that it is. I have that gift

0:33:18.240 --> 0:33:18.880
<v Speaker 1>and you are too.

0:33:19.080 --> 0:33:22.440
<v Speaker 2>It's and it's the smile that's warming and welcoming. People

0:33:22.440 --> 0:33:23.800
<v Speaker 2>want to know when you smile.

0:33:24.440 --> 0:33:26.400
<v Speaker 1>Just walking with a smile. Hey, and you know what,

0:33:26.520 --> 0:33:28.360
<v Speaker 1>get people to talk about them for a little bit.

0:33:29.080 --> 0:33:31.200
<v Speaker 1>You got a new friend, it's great, all right, go ahead,

0:33:31.360 --> 0:33:31.880
<v Speaker 1>all right.

0:33:31.960 --> 0:33:36.280
<v Speaker 2>Your friend borrowed something valuable from you and accidentally broken.

0:33:36.880 --> 0:33:39.680
<v Speaker 2>But has it mentioned it yet? Do you bring it

0:33:39.800 --> 0:33:42.520
<v Speaker 2>up or wait for them to So I'm taking it

0:33:42.560 --> 0:33:45.120
<v Speaker 2>that they've already given it back to you and you

0:33:45.200 --> 0:33:49.440
<v Speaker 2>realize it's broken. I say to me that, yo, what happens?

0:33:50.000 --> 0:33:54.560
<v Speaker 1>You owe me? And she means it. Folks, I'm going

0:33:54.560 --> 0:34:00.680
<v Speaker 1>to be honestly, if something valuable, I'm very careful about

0:34:00.840 --> 0:34:01.760
<v Speaker 1>lending lens.

0:34:01.880 --> 0:34:02.960
<v Speaker 2>Yes, I do borrow.

0:34:03.120 --> 0:34:06.040
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, well you said that, but I happen to

0:34:06.080 --> 0:34:07.480
<v Speaker 1>know for a fact you do.

0:34:08.200 --> 0:34:09.160
<v Speaker 2>What did I borrow?

0:34:09.719 --> 0:34:13.040
<v Speaker 1>There might be when you took your last trip to

0:34:13.480 --> 0:34:17.879
<v Speaker 1>Saint Martin because you needed some additional beach cover ups.

0:34:17.880 --> 0:34:19.480
<v Speaker 1>When you went to Saint Martin.

0:34:19.880 --> 0:34:24.440
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, that was forced. You're talking about your friend,

0:34:24.800 --> 0:34:27.439
<v Speaker 2>and let me tell you that she have some gorgeous things.

0:34:27.520 --> 0:34:31.200
<v Speaker 1>We love our friend on this that we say we

0:34:31.239 --> 0:34:33.319
<v Speaker 1>love our friend. Don if you're listening, we love you,

0:34:33.400 --> 0:34:37.120
<v Speaker 1>all right, I I just don't lend something that valuable.

0:34:37.160 --> 0:34:39.360
<v Speaker 2>All right, Well if you did, Pat, I want to know,

0:34:39.480 --> 0:34:44.040
<v Speaker 2>would you say, hey, I just noticed that it's broken or.

0:34:44.000 --> 0:34:47.560
<v Speaker 1>Its I probably I probably would bring it up, yeah,

0:34:47.560 --> 0:34:49.400
<v Speaker 1>I probably nicely, kindly?

0:34:49.680 --> 0:34:53.160
<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, yes, okay, all right we agreed again.

0:34:53.239 --> 0:34:57.279
<v Speaker 1>Guys, yep, we're agreeing. That's a new friend. A new

0:34:57.320 --> 0:35:00.680
<v Speaker 1>friend always forgets their wallet when you got to How

0:35:00.719 --> 0:35:03.480
<v Speaker 1>do you handle it? Oh, we've had this conversation.

0:35:03.360 --> 0:35:05.879
<v Speaker 2>Before they get there, I remind them she does.

0:35:06.520 --> 0:35:09.239
<v Speaker 1>I swear I've heard her do it. I've paid the

0:35:09.320 --> 0:35:11.360
<v Speaker 1>last two times. Don't forget your wallet?

0:35:11.400 --> 0:35:15.200
<v Speaker 2>That's yes, yes, I mean because then you're not going

0:35:15.239 --> 0:35:18.200
<v Speaker 2>to be friends with them anymore. If they consistently, you're

0:35:18.200 --> 0:35:19.040
<v Speaker 2>going to shy away.

0:35:19.280 --> 0:35:21.160
<v Speaker 1>I have to tell you I have a friend. This

0:35:21.280 --> 0:35:22.919
<v Speaker 1>is how people get to know about it. These things

0:35:22.960 --> 0:35:25.760
<v Speaker 1>make us tell stories. I have a friend here, Beth,

0:35:26.160 --> 0:35:30.680
<v Speaker 1>who has a couple of friends who do not reciprocate.

0:35:31.120 --> 0:35:33.960
<v Speaker 1>And Beth is always inviting people over for dinner and

0:35:34.040 --> 0:35:38.799
<v Speaker 1>for drinks and for lunch and no, and she always no.

0:35:39.080 --> 0:35:42.000
<v Speaker 1>I always she always has me over for dinner. I

0:35:42.040 --> 0:35:42.640
<v Speaker 1>always bring.

0:35:42.520 --> 0:35:43.799
<v Speaker 2>About every mind.

0:35:44.760 --> 0:35:48.400
<v Speaker 1>And when we go out for brunch, I always stick

0:35:48.440 --> 0:35:50.360
<v Speaker 1>my credit card down and say and put hers on

0:35:50.440 --> 0:35:54.319
<v Speaker 1>mine because she always has me for dinner always. And

0:35:54.680 --> 0:35:56.640
<v Speaker 1>as people know, I don't really cook very much, so

0:35:56.719 --> 0:36:01.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm but other people don't. They let they let her

0:36:01.360 --> 0:36:03.400
<v Speaker 1>pick up the tab, and I'm like, I talk, I

0:36:03.440 --> 0:36:05.640
<v Speaker 1>keep saying that's don't be so quick with the credit card.

0:36:05.880 --> 0:36:06.960
<v Speaker 1>Sit back, and you know.

0:36:07.960 --> 0:36:11.200
<v Speaker 2>He told me that, Yeah, I'm in somebody's company, Like,

0:36:11.239 --> 0:36:13.000
<v Speaker 2>oh no, I'm staying there, you know, let me.

0:36:13.160 --> 0:36:16.440
<v Speaker 1>Ye, yeah, you gotta, you gotta. You know it is

0:36:16.520 --> 0:36:18.560
<v Speaker 1>can be uncomfortable, but you know what, you don't want

0:36:18.600 --> 0:36:19.560
<v Speaker 1>to breed resentment.

0:36:20.080 --> 0:36:21.760
<v Speaker 2>So it's so good point.

0:36:22.200 --> 0:36:24.440
<v Speaker 1>So let's let your credit card stay in your pocket

0:36:24.440 --> 0:36:25.240
<v Speaker 1>a little bit longer.

0:36:26.440 --> 0:36:30.720
<v Speaker 2>Next one, is you accidentally like an old Instagram post

0:36:30.800 --> 0:36:33.400
<v Speaker 2>of someone you have a crush on it? What do

0:36:33.440 --> 0:36:33.759
<v Speaker 2>you do?

0:36:34.400 --> 0:36:35.360
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely nothing?

0:36:35.920 --> 0:36:38.799
<v Speaker 2>Nothing like it? You have a crush on them. Hello,

0:36:38.880 --> 0:36:41.880
<v Speaker 2>I hope you noticed or see or whoever.

0:36:42.520 --> 0:36:44.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's oh my gosh, we're green way too much.

0:36:45.760 --> 0:36:47.680
<v Speaker 2>It's going to be a good day, cat, all right,

0:36:47.920 --> 0:36:48.359
<v Speaker 2>all right.

0:36:48.320 --> 0:36:50.920
<v Speaker 1>You and your partner planned a big night out, but

0:36:50.960 --> 0:36:55.240
<v Speaker 1>they cancel last minute for something that doesn't seem important. Oh, Susan,

0:36:55.239 --> 0:36:55.839
<v Speaker 1>what would you do?

0:36:56.320 --> 0:36:59.000
<v Speaker 2>Doesn't seem important to me? Or was?

0:36:59.560 --> 0:37:02.200
<v Speaker 1>Obviously it doesn't important to you, but they can't.

0:37:02.280 --> 0:37:06.400
<v Speaker 2>I would definitely be disappointed. I mean, obviously you have

0:37:06.480 --> 0:37:08.319
<v Speaker 2>to accept the fact that they canceled.

0:37:08.920 --> 0:37:10.560
<v Speaker 1>You're not going to say anything. Who are you trying

0:37:10.560 --> 0:37:10.839
<v Speaker 1>to kill?

0:37:11.760 --> 0:37:13.600
<v Speaker 2>Why? And when you tell me that's why, I'm going

0:37:13.640 --> 0:37:17.120
<v Speaker 2>to say, really, I'm not. That depends on what the

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<v Speaker 2>reason was, you know, if it under way, the disappointment will.

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<v Speaker 1>Be exactly I think I would do exactly the same thing,

0:37:24.360 --> 0:37:25.880
<v Speaker 1>and I would let them know. You know what, It

0:37:25.880 --> 0:37:29.719
<v Speaker 1>comes back to communicating. If I said, pay no problem,

0:37:30.080 --> 0:37:33.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm likely to say, hey, John, whoever it is, I

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<v Speaker 1>was really looking forward to seeing you, you know, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's okay, Maybe we can do it another night. It's

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<v Speaker 1>better to be, you know, it's it's better. It is better.

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<v Speaker 2>It is better to be.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, go your significant other makes a joke about

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<v Speaker 1>something you're insecure about. Do you address it or brush

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<v Speaker 1>it off?

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<v Speaker 2>Address it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, immediately, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And I know we're taught to wait till you get home.

0:37:59.200 --> 0:38:02.040
<v Speaker 2>Like we've read one of these questions a few weeks back,

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<v Speaker 2>a few episodes back, and they the husband and wife

0:38:06.200 --> 0:38:08.280
<v Speaker 2>were the couple. I don't know if they were married,

0:38:08.320 --> 0:38:11.799
<v Speaker 2>and they agreed if anything like this should happen, you

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<v Speaker 2>never say you just go about the party or whatever

0:38:14.480 --> 0:38:17.680
<v Speaker 2>you're at and wait till you get home. That would

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<v Speaker 2>stew in me, can be like a fire being ignited.

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<v Speaker 2>I would look like a dragon by the time we go.

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<v Speaker 1>And she would. Folks, but they're not saying that this

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<v Speaker 1>that the significant other is doing in front of other people.

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<v Speaker 1>They're saying, you know, it's like it's like this, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm dating or you know Joe, and Joe makes

0:38:38.640 --> 0:38:43.799
<v Speaker 1>a joke about me interrupting Hi. You know you're just

0:38:43.920 --> 0:38:44.400
<v Speaker 1>you're choking.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not insecure about well.

0:38:47.160 --> 0:38:51.319
<v Speaker 1>Actually I am. I'm trying to be better about you

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<v Speaker 1>know about or you know, Kathy, uh.

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<v Speaker 2>Something you're insecure, man.

0:38:56.600 --> 0:38:59.200
<v Speaker 1>I am insecure about that, or or joking like, oh,

0:38:59.239 --> 0:39:01.360
<v Speaker 1>you were the only girl at the pool with a

0:39:01.440 --> 0:39:04.399
<v Speaker 1>one piece on that was a lot of fabric that

0:39:04.440 --> 0:39:08.600
<v Speaker 1>would that I'm insecure about that, because it would be well,

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<v Speaker 1>here's where I's gonna say to you. People say things

0:39:13.440 --> 0:39:16.440
<v Speaker 1>and they and they they cushion it by saying, oh,

0:39:16.440 --> 0:39:19.239
<v Speaker 1>it's just a joke. It's not a joke. It is

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<v Speaker 1>not a joke. So if my significant other makes a

0:39:23.400 --> 0:39:26.279
<v Speaker 1>quote unquote joke about something I'm insecure about, you know

0:39:26.320 --> 0:39:29.120
<v Speaker 1>what that is. It's cruel. And they know what they're

0:39:29.160 --> 0:39:32.240
<v Speaker 1>doing and they're not making a joke. They're either making

0:39:32.239 --> 0:39:34.200
<v Speaker 1>fun of me or trying to make a point, and

0:39:34.239 --> 0:39:35.040
<v Speaker 1>it's not nice.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice.

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<v Speaker 2>So, all right, you're casually dating someone and they tell

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<v Speaker 2>you they don't believe in tipping at restaurants. Is this

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<v Speaker 2>a deal?

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<v Speaker 1>Can we answer in unison? Yes, let me tell you

0:39:52.880 --> 0:39:56.160
<v Speaker 1>something I think when you talk about like red flags

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm on a date. If they are never mind tipping,

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<v Speaker 1>they are not kind to the server, bending over backwards.

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<v Speaker 1>Two of my three children were servers and restaurants, so

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<v Speaker 1>I always tip close, you know, way over twenty percent

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<v Speaker 1>because they work their tails off and I'm always.

0:40:14.400 --> 0:40:18.160
<v Speaker 2>They're not good. Yes, they're giving me no service. They'll

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<v Speaker 2>give the minimal, but they get it tip.

0:40:20.200 --> 0:40:21.960
<v Speaker 1>And I tell you why. You need to tip them

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<v Speaker 1>the right amount. This is my PSA. No, you need

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<v Speaker 1>to tip the customary total amount. Here's the deal.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you keep a certain percentage twenty percent of them.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, And you're saying, if they're rude, you give them

0:40:34.000 --> 0:40:34.720
<v Speaker 1>less than twenty.

0:40:35.239 --> 0:40:38.359
<v Speaker 2>Now, I always tip the minimum, the basic. Oh so

0:40:38.400 --> 0:40:41.600
<v Speaker 2>you're saying, somebody treats me well and I noticed because

0:40:41.640 --> 0:40:43.839
<v Speaker 2>I was a server as well once fun a time.

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<v Speaker 2>Then they get not double, but way more.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you questioned it because you appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So here's a question that was on here. But

0:40:53.200 --> 0:40:56.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, not not all tips are. If it's cash,

0:40:56.680 --> 0:40:58.840
<v Speaker 1>they don't have to claim them. All you tip in

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<v Speaker 1>cash or credit.

0:41:00.440 --> 0:41:04.000
<v Speaker 2>I tried to yes, in kat, chip and cash.

0:41:04.040 --> 0:41:05.920
<v Speaker 1>So what I'll try You know what I tried to

0:41:05.960 --> 0:41:10.040
<v Speaker 1>do because they split the tips with the with the bartender.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, yeah right, So if I so, I'll usually

0:41:14.880 --> 0:41:16.960
<v Speaker 1>put it on the check because I wanted to get

0:41:17.040 --> 0:41:19.680
<v Speaker 1>split with everyone that helped prepare my meal. But you

0:41:19.719 --> 0:41:22.319
<v Speaker 1>know what I'll do sometimes when I walk out, I'll

0:41:22.360 --> 0:41:24.480
<v Speaker 1>take like a ten dollars bill out of my wall.

0:41:24.640 --> 0:41:27.399
<v Speaker 1>Depends on the price of the and just say shake

0:41:27.440 --> 0:41:29.239
<v Speaker 1>their hand and say thank you so much. It was

0:41:29.239 --> 0:41:31.600
<v Speaker 1>a delight having you serve and hand them, and that

0:41:31.640 --> 0:41:33.880
<v Speaker 1>money is meant to go to them, and they know it.

0:41:34.120 --> 0:41:35.799
<v Speaker 2>And you know, when we all go out, when all

0:41:35.840 --> 0:41:38.000
<v Speaker 2>the girls are together, we all throw cards down and

0:41:38.040 --> 0:41:39.359
<v Speaker 2>we add the tip to the car and.

0:41:39.320 --> 0:41:42.319
<v Speaker 1>We always over we as a group always leave a

0:41:42.360 --> 0:41:46.040
<v Speaker 1>big tip, because that's the kind thing to do, round

0:41:46.280 --> 0:41:49.399
<v Speaker 1>fine thing to do. All Right, you're on a date

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<v Speaker 1>and your date says something you completely disagree with, but

0:41:53.520 --> 0:41:56.240
<v Speaker 1>you still like them. Do you challenge them or change

0:41:56.239 --> 0:41:58.640
<v Speaker 1>the subject? Oh? Come on, guess well this last wait,

0:41:59.120 --> 0:42:00.640
<v Speaker 1>let's just guess what the other one would do.

0:42:00.719 --> 0:42:01.239
<v Speaker 2>Susan do.

0:42:01.520 --> 0:42:04.400
<v Speaker 1>What would Susan do? I would say the same thing,

0:42:04.480 --> 0:42:05.319
<v Speaker 1>Kathy's gonna do.

0:42:05.760 --> 0:42:10.440
<v Speaker 2>We challenge, we challenge. Yes, I would have won the moral.

0:42:12.080 --> 0:42:15.040
<v Speaker 1>Susan. Susan, I'm going to tell the producers we want

0:42:15.080 --> 0:42:16.600
<v Speaker 1>to go back to moral quandary.

0:42:16.320 --> 0:42:19.320
<v Speaker 2>Because no, no, no, don't get excited. Do not get excited.

0:42:20.680 --> 0:42:23.160
<v Speaker 2>But I think we did well. This game worked for us.

0:42:23.320 --> 0:42:26.680
<v Speaker 1>This game works so well for us. I just want

0:42:26.719 --> 0:42:29.120
<v Speaker 1>to know. I just wonder before we wrap it up,

0:42:29.360 --> 0:42:32.120
<v Speaker 1>and we only have a couple of minutes here, Okay, okay,

0:42:32.239 --> 0:42:34.640
<v Speaker 1>So one of the most I just want to say

0:42:34.640 --> 0:42:36.040
<v Speaker 1>one of the things I love. I haven't had a

0:42:36.120 --> 0:42:38.120
<v Speaker 1>chance to say this yet. One of the things I

0:42:38.200 --> 0:42:41.080
<v Speaker 1>love about Bachelor Nation is when we have people on

0:42:41.120 --> 0:42:44.520
<v Speaker 1>the podcast, we get to know them and we get

0:42:44.560 --> 0:42:48.520
<v Speaker 1>new friends. And can I just tell you Ali, Joe

0:42:49.160 --> 0:42:53.160
<v Speaker 1>and Julianna, Like, I have Juliana's phone number now, She's like,

0:42:53.200 --> 0:42:56.319
<v Speaker 1>we're the Newton girls. They're so nice. I feel like

0:42:56.360 --> 0:42:58.200
<v Speaker 1>I've made new friends.

0:42:58.360 --> 0:43:00.640
<v Speaker 2>I know, I've just in the past guys that we

0:43:00.800 --> 0:43:03.400
<v Speaker 2>had I think we knew them from the show, but

0:43:03.960 --> 0:43:06.920
<v Speaker 2>getting to talk to them and digging in and.

0:43:08.040 --> 0:43:10.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I just I just want everyone to know that

0:43:10.920 --> 0:43:14.000
<v Speaker 1>we're the friendships were blessed, and the friendships that we

0:43:14.040 --> 0:43:20.160
<v Speaker 1>make through Bachelor are really friends. It crosses age lines though.

0:43:20.200 --> 0:43:23.160
<v Speaker 1>I just feel so grateful to be making all these friends.

0:43:23.400 --> 0:43:27.239
<v Speaker 1>All right. So that's that's the PSA. This was so

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<v Speaker 1>much fun.

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<v Speaker 2>And thank you, sir God, Yes people, we.

0:43:32.600 --> 0:43:36.840
<v Speaker 1>Love you all. Thank you all to our listeners, uh

0:43:36.920 --> 0:43:39.680
<v Speaker 1>for joining in and listening to us today, because without

0:43:39.719 --> 0:43:43.359
<v Speaker 1>you and your questions and your comments, we'd have nothing.

0:43:44.120 --> 0:43:46.879
<v Speaker 2>And make sure you follow us on Bachelor Happy Hour

0:43:47.360 --> 0:43:49.439
<v Speaker 2>because you know us, we have a new one coming

0:43:49.480 --> 0:43:53.240
<v Speaker 2>at every week and you don't want to miss. I mean, really,

0:43:53.680 --> 0:43:57.120
<v Speaker 2>for Kathy and I to agree on just about everything today,

0:43:57.280 --> 0:43:57.839
<v Speaker 2>that's a win.

0:43:58.560 --> 0:44:00.719
<v Speaker 1>That is a win. Although maybe they want to hear

0:44:00.760 --> 0:44:04.760
<v Speaker 1>us argue Susan, here's the thing we do. We don't agree.

0:44:05.040 --> 0:44:08.160
<v Speaker 1>We could really dial it up, but in the meantime,

0:44:08.600 --> 0:44:11.640
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