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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network Talk.

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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who

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Speaker 2: talks back.

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Speaker 1: What's up y'all? Is your girl a j holiday? What's up?

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Speaker 2: Tandem? Hey girl, Hey y'all. I love y'all.

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Speaker 1: We back, Chad. How was your weekend?

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Speaker 2: How was my weekend? Damn bitch, I don't even remember

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Speaker 2: the weekend. It was just you ain't do shit. I

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Speaker 2: think I went to work and later around and that's it.

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Speaker 1: Talks about, right, what did you do? Renig on? Everybody

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Speaker 1: all fucking weekend, even up until yesterday.

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Speaker 2: It was cold.

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Speaker 1: I know, Like, why y'all want to be outside? I'm confused.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I ain't with that. I don't like that, coach.

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Speaker 1: I'm really a summer baby. I gotta be in the house.

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Speaker 2: To me too. I like to be bundled up watching

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Speaker 2: a good TV show, but I could not get into anything.

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Speaker 2: It's because my phone. When I tried to watch a

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Speaker 2: show called Severance on Apple.

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Speaker 1: TV that was good, I've seen the preview.

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Speaker 2: For that, and I just could not unplug from my

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Speaker 2: phone to tune into the TV. I think I started

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Speaker 2: the episodes over and over and over and over and

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Speaker 2: over again. So then I just stopped and then I've

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Speaker 2: rewatched Harlem, so because that's about to come on.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's weird that you say that, because they

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Speaker 1: must be doing something with the social media this week

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Speaker 1: for real, or these last couple of days, because I

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Speaker 1: have really spent an excessive amount of time scrolling these

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Speaker 1: last couple of days. For sure.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely me too. I just was I could never tune

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Speaker 2: into the TV. I could not put my phone down,

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Speaker 2: and that's crazy. I mean, well, TikTok was only gone

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Speaker 2: for twelve hours, so it wasn't like we lost a

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Speaker 2: lot of that. Oh, I went to my friends' birthday

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Speaker 2: party this weekend. I'm lying. I went to an eighties party.

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Speaker 2: It was so fun, like she curated this party so nice,

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Speaker 2: Like she had valet when you pull up at the

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Speaker 2: house when she got big as Yeah, so she had

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Speaker 2: valet downstairs. Homegirl got like a jumbo tron on the ceiling.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know how a person would have that

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Speaker 2: tea a wall with TV's they made one TV screen

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Speaker 2: had that down there. The DJ. It was just a

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Speaker 2: really nice everybody was dressed up. Yeah, everybody was dressed

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Speaker 2: like eighty dope eighties dope dealers. Honestly, that's how I

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Speaker 2: felt like. Everybody looked dookie ropes, the bucket had you know.

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Speaker 2: It was nice, It was a good time.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's one thing I skipped out on on Saturday

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Speaker 1: was the seventies. I mean Sunday was a seventies party.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that would have been fun too. Then go nope, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: this is one of them parties with one of their friends.

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Speaker 2: Like if you don't show up, they're gonna be looking

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Speaker 2: at you like crazy, like how you didn't come? You know?

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Speaker 2: So I definitely made sure my face was in the building.

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Speaker 2: And then I hung out with Jamaican Raquel. Shout out

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Speaker 2: to Jamaican rackuere the bitches because shots. They could take

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Speaker 2: some shots.

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Speaker 1: Do you think it's because Jamaica workouts so fucking hard.

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Speaker 1: She definitely used to be the bitch like drink drink drink,

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Speaker 1: and I never seen her drunk.

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Speaker 2: She's still that bitch. She's still I can't hay.

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Speaker 1: What type of body? Wait, what you got going on Sunday?

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Speaker 2: I had to get up and do like some hair

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Speaker 2: and makeup, and I was her team. Yeah, so that

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Speaker 2: was my weekend. That's it.

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Speaker 1: Well, I didn't go out this past weekend. I let

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Speaker 1: me tell you all what I did do last week though,

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Speaker 1: which while I was in the middle of doing it,

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Speaker 1: I was like, damn, we should do a photo shoot

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Speaker 1: doing this? What getting a fucking mammogram?

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Speaker 2: I got put out.

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Speaker 1: Awareness, you know, bitch, just be playing with their fucking health.

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Speaker 1: Chid definitely the fuck up because you know, these last

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Speaker 1: couple of years, it's like a lot of people and

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Speaker 1: I wasn't afraid. One of my homegirls was like, you

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Speaker 1: weren't nervous going to your appointment. I'm like, no, bitch,

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Speaker 1: because I know I'm healthy, right. I'm always like put

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Speaker 1: that in the universe, even if I fe some type

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Speaker 1: of way, I am healthy, right, But yeah, I let

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Speaker 1: them smash my titties up. Everything look okay, and nobody

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Speaker 1: no doctor has reviewed my ship yet. I reviewed it myself,

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Speaker 1: like I could they send you? Ain't nothing on there,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, So I guess I'm good.

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Speaker 1: Ain't no radiologists reviewed it still today, Like that appointment

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Speaker 1: was last week Tuesday, and it's nothing in your charge,

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Speaker 1: nothing except for the you know, the.

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Speaker 2: News is good news when it comes to health exactly.

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Speaker 1: So these titties, good y'all.

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Speaker 2: Let me see him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And you know the thing is, I was having

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Speaker 1: like little sharp pings and both of them though, like

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Speaker 1: just randomly occasionally, so a little piece in the back

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Speaker 1: of my head.

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Speaker 2: Like, but I that's not how it works. It's not

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Speaker 2: gonna be in both titties. I ain't never heard nobody

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Speaker 2: having girl. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: People have had double what do you call them? Second? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: people have had.

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Speaker 2: Double Yeah, but that is it because it was in

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Speaker 2: both breasts, or because the potential was there for both breasts,

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Speaker 2: so they just cut them both off. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Maybe if you've had one, you know, sliding our DMS, and.

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Speaker 1: I believe because both breasts may have been a cancer. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you may have had like some type of masks in

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Speaker 1: them that was cancers. Because ain't no way, like, okay,

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Speaker 1: just cut the one titty off so only have to

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Speaker 1: get one implant. Ain't no way you just cut my

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Speaker 1: other titty off just to match me up.

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Speaker 2: Might as well, Shit, no, I would do it. You

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Speaker 2: know what. Speaking of titties, AJ gonna send me last

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Speaker 2: night a video of somebody with little titties and was like,

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Speaker 2: this is your sign to keep them little ass titties,

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Speaker 2: because I always would be like I think I want

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Speaker 2: to get like a little a small implant. And then

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Speaker 2: AJ is like, this is your sign to lead.

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Speaker 1: Them titties alone, is what I said.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm I'm at a place where I'm not cutting

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Speaker 2: on myself.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, good titties. Them niggas is not complaining about

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Speaker 1: them titties. Has any nigga ever said, a baby, you

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Speaker 1: could use a little C cup? Well you probably a C.

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Speaker 1: You can use a little double D cup. Has anybody

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Speaker 1: ever said that? No, just do some wall push ups.

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Speaker 1: If anything, I don't know, that'll.

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Speaker 2: Make that a titty up that'll lift your titties.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, and I mean I need to do some

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Speaker 1: wall these titties is what I gained. Weight is like

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Speaker 1: the first thing to go and these titties get bloated

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Speaker 1: and like lose weight is the first thing to defleat.

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Speaker 1: Really hell yeah, so I gotta do like I be

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Speaker 1: doing like a lot of these things and chest stuff

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Speaker 1: to keep.

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Speaker 2: This is my back, my back. Like when they say

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Speaker 2: I'm big your back, that's who they speaking to me. Baby,

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Speaker 2: Like I try to wear this fur coat, I look

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Speaker 2: like the cowardly lion off wiscuse my back so big,

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Speaker 2: and then I got that big hair. Uh, I can't

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Speaker 2: wear that at shit. Crazy.

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Speaker 1: We be so hard on ourself man, and nigga like,

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Speaker 1: she looks good. Oh yeah, I said, I look up like, well,

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Speaker 1: thank you, because bitch, I feel like a mess right now.

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Speaker 2: Right And it'd be when you're looking the worst, but

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Speaker 2: the nigga think you look the best, so you look.

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Speaker 2: That's what it is. Niggas all we really got to

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Speaker 2: be like. I can look at pictures of when I

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Speaker 2: was smaller and more have more collagen and all that

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Speaker 2: good ship. And I remember saying being hard on myself.

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Speaker 1: Then and now you want to get back to that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I was like, why didn't I embrace that

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Speaker 2: when I had it? So I need to do the

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Speaker 2: same thing right now because there will be a time

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Speaker 2: where I look back on this version of myself and

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Speaker 2: be like, oh, she was fine. You know exactly.

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Speaker 1: Y'all love every moment of this journey exactly. Whatever body

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Speaker 1: you in love it today, child, yep, and work on it.

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Speaker 1: Let's get into stupid internet news.

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Speaker 2: What happened y'all?

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Speaker 1: Y'all know we was in a last week, like like

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Speaker 1: Rocco hairline. Child, they got on Rocco Monica baby Daddy.

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Speaker 1: We got arrested for I think like disorderly conduct or

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Speaker 1: some type of assault some ship. This nigga got arrested

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Speaker 1: for in Atlanta and they posted his mugshot online and

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Speaker 1: Rock I don't even understand, Like he literally has a

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Speaker 1: cone head and then he has the Fred Sandford on

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Speaker 1: the side. So all this time his nigga been hat

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Speaker 1: fishing and lace front wearing, okay, and we didn't know.

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Speaker 1: But see Monica loved you anyway.

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Speaker 2: And that just goes to show you are not ugly,

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Speaker 2: you are poor.

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Speaker 1: Ugly because a nigga responds to people laughing, is did

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Speaker 1: y'all get some money today? Like that's really all niggas

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Speaker 1: care about. It's getting money, like his hairline. But really

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Speaker 1: you care about the hairline, nigga.

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Speaker 2: Right, you ain't want them pictures out there like that?

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Speaker 2: Don't nobody who wear a wig? We're want pitches with

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Speaker 2: their wig off out there like that.

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Speaker 1: But he can't even do a ball head, Like is

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Speaker 1: that the real shape of the head. It doesn't look

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Speaker 1: like that with the hair on?

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Speaker 2: Is that the real shape of the head is a

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Speaker 2: crazy question for real.

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Speaker 1: Because did you see it? It's like comed up at

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Speaker 1: the top, so it doesn't look like that when he

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Speaker 1: has his lace run.

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Speaker 2: On, maybe because he have like more hair. Like the

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Speaker 2: barber is a good barber, and he makes it look

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Speaker 2: like the illusion of flatness when it's really hair on

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Speaker 2: the side of that cone.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Yo, it's magic.

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Speaker 2: Do you just believe in magic? While lie Magi?

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Speaker 1: But this the nigga who was playing with Big Monica manesh,

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Speaker 1: I can't believe it. I can't believe it.

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Speaker 2: Well it happens.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to that nigga here.

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Speaker 2: Line, but are you like, would you carry out? I'm

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Speaker 2: a fan of the man wigs. Some of these niggas

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Speaker 2: be upgrading ten thousand percent with that little man.

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Speaker 1: I actually like ball heads, like I have convinced a

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Speaker 1: few niggas in my lifetime to let it go. And

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Speaker 1: I feel like men don't know no better until they

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Speaker 1: meet a real one. Be like, Nigga, just try it.

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Speaker 1: Just cut it off and see how you look and

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Speaker 1: with the body.

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Speaker 2: But if you can get a way with a man

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Speaker 2: wig and it looked nice, do it. I'm not opposed

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Speaker 2: if it's done right now. If it looked like.

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Speaker 1: You gonna date one, I would, oh, okay, yeah I would.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I wouldn't hate on a nigga if

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Speaker 1: he were again, I would probably try to get him

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Speaker 1: to go do hearing plants, because I got a couple

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Speaker 1: of homeboys that went over there to Turkey and they

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Speaker 1: came back a bad bitch nigga.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, but what I don't like is that paint.

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Speaker 2: Don't do that paint. I don't like that.

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Speaker 1: And you're gonna go through an ugly stage with the

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Speaker 1: Good all the time.

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Speaker 1: But please keep that same type of energy when you're

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Speaker 2: Don't blow through your money. Guys, don't blow through your money.

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Speaker 2: You know, they have.

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Speaker 1: To give financial advisors. I just don't know, and I

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Speaker 1: Like he literally is taking care of too many people.

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Speaker 1: So you let your dick make a slave out of you.

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Speaker 1: It's not. It's not the same. They still want three

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Speaker 2: Places basically.

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Speaker 1: The math and mathing right.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes it's just literally like they're setting it up right

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Speaker 1: Drugs, like you're gonna have to do some illegal shit.

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Speaker 2: What they'll go say because that did telling drugs is

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Speaker 1: like four hundred million, four four hundred million dollars I

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Speaker 1: Flexing on the ground with all the whips in the club.

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Speaker 2: did you see.

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Speaker 1: This just came in hot? I guess I don't watch

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Speaker 1: we'd be having our moments in real life, yeah, we'd

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Speaker 1: Because now white people really don't have to be our friends.

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Speaker 2: We ain't gotta be the motherfucker friend either.

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Speaker 1: On an episode of Love and Hip Hop Miami, whoever

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Speaker 2: sometimes I watch Baddy. So I won't even hold you

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Speaker 1: So love them hip Hop Miami. Flow and amer Le

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Speaker 1: Negra got into an argument and the girl Flow said

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Speaker 2: Too, right, because all these beautiful black women at this table,

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Speaker 2: Because she who is she?

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Speaker 1: What? A licened girl? Please stand up?

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Speaker 2: Because she wouldn't even light skinned by my barometer, you know.

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Speaker 1: But apparently Flow cells U skin brightening uh creams and

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Speaker 2: So I never understood the concepts of that.

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Speaker 1: It's just so contradicting, because why the hell, y'all be like,

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Speaker 1: I'm confused. And on top of the brightening, on top

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Speaker 2: I do?

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Speaker 1: I do too, Okay, because old girl don't matter how

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Speaker 1: Amara Mara Amara face like she's not fucking with that girl.

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Speaker 2: Face face eats down. That baby looked like a woman,

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Speaker 2: look like a damn Barbie doll, a chock beautiful black Barbie. Absolutely,

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Speaker 2: we don't need to be arguing about looks with this one.

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Speaker 1: And just because you like skin does not automatically make

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Speaker 2: Episode of yeah, being each other friends, we need each

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Speaker 2: other ship exactly.

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Speaker 1: We got.

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Speaker 2: Race, yeah, you know, so.

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Speaker 1: Air Kamina chimed in, you know, because she got fired

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Speaker 2: I think she did.

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Speaker 1: And you know now she's on Zeus network, so she

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Speaker 1: But she's saying, basically, how the fuck y'all, y'all, this

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Speaker 2: And she does have a point there. I just think

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Speaker 2: of you would have done. That's really what it boils

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Speaker 1: But she said she recorded, I think I don't think

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Speaker 2: So the public outrages what got her.

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Speaker 1: The public outrages what got her fired the people. The

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Speaker 1: people canceled her.

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00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:39,680
Speaker 2: Yo, I'm sorry, my voice, everybody sick, everybody going through it, Okay,

438
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:40,720
Speaker 2: So I apologize.

439
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:42,160
Speaker 1: We both drinking tea.

440
00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:50,439
Speaker 2: Yes, like the neurovirus, upper respiratory invections. What else is

441
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:54,359
Speaker 2: going around? Good gosh, I had all of them.

442
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:56,679
Speaker 1: And that's another reason why I stay my ass to

443
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:59,160
Speaker 1: fucking the house. But I have a significant other who

444
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 1: was very social, So now I gotta get sick every

445
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:04,400
Speaker 1: time this nigga come in here with some bullshit because

446
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 1: you don't.

447
00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:08,760
Speaker 2: Know you might as well you hear me.

448
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, I got to talk for a living, Like

449
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 1: I can't be getting sick. Yeah, that is very inconsiderate.

450
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,159
Speaker 1: Like why I'm telling his girl, ass man, come me

451
00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 1: your fucking mouth. He's just in here hacking up, and

452
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:24,240
Speaker 1: now not even twenty four hours later, by the time

453
00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:25,400
Speaker 1: I wake up, I'm sick.

454
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:28,560
Speaker 2: Yeah. I call her the other day She's like hello,

455
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 2: I was like, damn.

456
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 1: Okay. So when we come back from break, y'all. I

457
00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:39,200
Speaker 1: don't know if y'all saw this clip of doctor Umar.

458
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 1: He was on a podcast called Bittersweet I think it was,

459
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:46,000
Speaker 1: and there's a couple of clips from that podcast on

460
00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:47,040
Speaker 1: social media right now.

461
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 2: Now.

462
00:24:47,280 --> 00:24:49,639
Speaker 1: I did attempt to watch the full episode give that

463
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 1: Girl of You, but I didn't get through it because

464
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 1: somebody call my phone. But I want to talk about

465
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 1: some of the things that doctor Umar has been singingly,

466
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 1: and it kind of ties into, you know, with Cam

467
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:07,159
Speaker 1: Newton expressed on this new show he's on.

468
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 2: So we'll be back let's get into it.

469
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:26,119
Speaker 1: Okay, y'all. So we're back, and so doctor Umar says that, well, okay,

470
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 1: on this on this podcast, the girl asked her him

471
00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 1: about like it was wasn't even an ask. It was

472
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:36,879
Speaker 1: a conversation about dating women, you know, black women. And

473
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:41,440
Speaker 1: this is somebody in Australia. Now near he's on this podcast.

474
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 1: It shows in Australian but as a black woman African,

475
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 1: so he's even there. They're talking about dating and black

476
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 1: women not being able to find uh suitable maids and

477
00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 1: partners blah blah blah blah blah blah. So Doctor Umar

478
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 1: upon himself to say that, you know, black women are

479
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 1: overly concerned about how much money a man makes, and

480
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 1: we cannot and should not expect for a black man

481
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,200
Speaker 1: to have the means and be able to take care

482
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 1: of us like white men do their wives, right, how

483
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,199
Speaker 1: they do their white women. And I just found it

484
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 1: kind of offensive a little bit, right, because why is

485
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 1: it that black women are the only group of people

486
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 1: who cannot ask for more? Right? I think when black

487
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 1: men in particular goal to these other groups of people,

488
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 1: they know they got to come with more, but they

489
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: while with us, they expect us to struggle with them.

490
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:50,680
Speaker 2: And we do. That's the crazy part.

491
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:54,200
Speaker 1: That's why I want to talk about it exactly. We

492
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 1: fucking do.

493
00:26:55,960 --> 00:27:02,639
Speaker 2: Right, this narrative that black women are just after finances,

494
00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 2: We be in the trenches with these men.

495
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 1: All the time. Yeah, okay all the time. So it's

496
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: just and then where's your fucking wife, doctor, Umar, where's

497
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 1: your black wife? Where's your black woman? While you're out

498
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:22,200
Speaker 1: here telling black men and women how the relationship?

499
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 2: Because who is he dating? Is he dating anyone? Because

500
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 2: I mean he does have a lot of advice for

501
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:37,000
Speaker 2: black women, and I just don't see him ever with

502
00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 2: the one or any woman for that matter, Like have

503
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:44,120
Speaker 2: we seen him?

504
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 1: We know, I think he got I think he got

505
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 1: like three kids with a turn. If you got him,

506
00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:53,399
Speaker 1: where the women? Do you like him?

507
00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 2: Or are you creating broken homes?

508
00:27:58,160 --> 00:27:58,959
Speaker 1: I'm confused.

509
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 2: Somebody, somebody help me understand what's going on here.

510
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 1: But here's the thing. Black men are way more hypergamous

511
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:20,719
Speaker 1: than black women, meaning black men date the fuck up, okay,

512
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:25,200
Speaker 1: And if they're not dating up, you're a stepping stool

513
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 1: until they get the women that they actually think they deserve.

514
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 2: So when you say men date up, it's not in

515
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 2: terms of finance. Is this in terms of beauty? Often

516
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 2: like are what they deem beauty like, they'll be with

517
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 2: the average looking around the way chick like that'll be

518
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 2: their first baby mama. And then when they get money,

519
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 2: it might be some exotic looking or more glamorous looking,

520
00:28:56,600 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 2: or more fit or more something that's esthetically pleasing to

521
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 2: the eye. Perhaps when you say, is that what you mean.

522
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 1: By no, I'm talking about straight up finances. I'm talking

523
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 1: about finances. Black men date up when you see a

524
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 1: black Okay, So this is this had been an ongoing

525
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 1: argument with me and this nigga, right because, and I

526
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 1: mean for years. This is an argument because he would

527
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 1: make comments like black women only date white men for

528
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 1: a come up, and I'm like, that's a lie. Usually

529
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 1: when a black woman dates a black dates a white

530
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 1: man date she actually likes white people, white men. Excuse me,

531
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 1: chause he likes the white people, white men. She prefers

532
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 1: white men, right, And she's also well established. A lot

533
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:51,959
Speaker 1: of the time, they're highly educated, great jobs, you know,

534
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 1: deep in their professions in their careers, and they go

535
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:58,160
Speaker 1: get a white guy, right because that's what they want. Right.

536
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:01,600
Speaker 1: When a black man dates a white woman, it's usually

537
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 1: for a come up so he can reposition himself so

538
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 1: he can have more access that it's not the same

539
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 1: when black women do it.

540
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 2: I agree.

541
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 1: So that's what I mean by when doctor Lumar says

542
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:19,480
Speaker 1: that black women have this expectation from black men. I

543
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 1: feel like black men have an expectation from black women

544
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 1: that they don't have from other groups of women.

545
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, they ask us.

546
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: What we bring it to the table and somebody else

547
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 1: can just come sit down, because that they go after

548
00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:40,040
Speaker 1: something different once they arrive, once they get their finances

549
00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 1: in order, A lot of times they go after something different.

550
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 1: It may not be a white woman right right, but

551
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 1: it's not always an afrocentric black woman. That's what I'm saying.

552
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 1: So why are we expected right to not at least

553
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 1: have a man, Like I said when we were talking

554
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 1: about Cam Newton, at least have a man and who's

555
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 1: aspiring to take care of I'm not asking you to

556
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:09,320
Speaker 1: have everything today. We know women have potential. We be

557
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 1: fucking with niggas because of potential a.

558
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 2: Lot, right, but in our all right, So here's me

559
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 2: playing devil's advocate all the time. Right now, Black women

560
00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 2: make more money and are more educated than black men.

561
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 2: So with that, knowing that statistic, all of us ain't

562
00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 2: gonna be able to get a man who's making as

563
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 2: much as us because they don't exist.

564
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: Black women are also more in debt than black men,

565
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: So yeah, you're making more money, but that education costs

566
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 1: you one hundred two hundred thousand dollars you coming to

567
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 1: the table, we're more debt, so it kind of evens out.

568
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 2: Actually, But if you're saying, oh, I only make it,

569
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 2: look I only want today a man who is equally

570
00:31:57,240 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 2: yoked when it comes to financing as me, making as

571
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 2: much as me, some of us gonna miss out because

572
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 2: there's just not enough black men to make that happen.

573
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 2: So what do we do do we day outside of

574
00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 2: our race? Do we decide to just be alone? Do

575
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 2: we you know, are we date down?

576
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 1: No? Those are I can't the men come up, right,

577
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: you don't have to work for somebody. Most black women

578
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:30,360
Speaker 1: are working corporate jobs. You know, they get their educations. No, they,

579
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 1: like a lot of black women do have businesses they've

580
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 1: created as well. Right, But a lot of my like

581
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 1: guy friends, like these niggas own businesses. They don't have

582
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 1: a degree, you know what I'm saying. It might have

583
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 1: been in a military at some point, something like that.

584
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 1: But they created the riches, they created their wealth. Right,

585
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 1: you can do that, I think. I think the problem

586
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 1: is is that why are we acting? Why are we

587
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 1: being asked to step down as opposed to the men

588
00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 1: actually elevated elevator? Because I feel like if every woman

589
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 1: required a man to have a house, a car, and

590
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:10,120
Speaker 1: a job, every man would have a house, a car,

591
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 1: and a job. But because there are some women that

592
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 1: would allow a man to come sleep on their couch

593
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 1: and their house, some men feel like they don't have

594
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 1: to get to it.

595
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, but can we love a man until he gets

596
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 2: a house, a car and a job. Do we need

597
00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 2: to already he needs to already come with that? I'm

598
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 2: just thinking about our twenties, no, so so all right,

599
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 2: I'm thinking about remember the movie with Taraji.

600
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:41,200
Speaker 1: P Hensen Oh Acrimony.

601
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 2: Acrimony, and how the woman he ended up marrying pretty

602
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 2: much took him in and he was in a low place.

603
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 2: He ain't have no money. He just had an idea

604
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 2: that was brilliant, you know, But.

605
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 1: How many years was Taraji with him with the idea

606
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 1: this woman reaped the benefits when he finally arrived. Do

607
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 1: you see what I'm say?

608
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 2: No, No, he didn't arrive, He arrived with her. She

609
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 2: she got him out the trenches. He was working in

610
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 2: the kitchen at a restaurant washing dishes.

611
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:14,040
Speaker 1: You watch that movie. Yeah, he put up Taraji p

612
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 1: Henson Mama house for that, for that, for that his creation.

613
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:21,799
Speaker 1: The girl worked at the firm that he was trying

614
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:24,760
Speaker 1: to get his foot into. That's how he was able.

615
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: She she basically got him in the door. Now, Taraji

616
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 1: Pinson wasn't in this woman's position to actually get him

617
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:35,360
Speaker 1: in that door. She happened to work at the place

618
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:37,359
Speaker 1: right right.

619
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:41,359
Speaker 2: But what I'm saying is she didn't get him from

620
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 2: He wasn't already glowed up when she snatched him up.

621
00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 2: He was down.

622
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, But I think I don't know if that's a

623
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 1: good example, because Taraji p Henson lost her mind literally

624
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:59,879
Speaker 1: she did, staying with him through the thick mm hmm.

625
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 1: She literally lost her fucking mind, and some other woman

626
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 1: gets to benefit, you know, and you know this is

627
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:10,360
Speaker 1: why they So, this is why you could be in

628
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 1: a situation with somebody where either this person want to

629
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:15,360
Speaker 1: be moving mountains with you or they gonna be the

630
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:18,319
Speaker 1: mountain you gotta move mm hmm. So it could be

631
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 1: the energy from the other person why you're not advancing

632
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:24,800
Speaker 1: and get into where you need to be at. It's

633
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 1: a lot of men and women situations like that, just

634
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:30,359
Speaker 1: with the wrong partner and they're holding on to this thing,

635
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 1: and maybe that relationship is what they actually got to

636
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 1: let go of to get to the.

637
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 2: Next to elevate. Yep, I agree, But.

638
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 1: How long was she supposed to cater to his thing?

639
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:42,799
Speaker 2: How long?

640
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:47,280
Speaker 1: How long do we struggle in the relationship? And why

641
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 1: do we have to struggle?

642
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 2: That's what doctor Umar said, because the black man doesn't

643
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:57,919
Speaker 2: have the privilege that the white man has, So that's

644
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 2: why you have to struggle with them. Listen. I don't

645
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,800
Speaker 2: I don't, I don't. I don't subscribe to the idea

646
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:07,680
Speaker 2: of struggle. I don't want to struggle in any stretch

647
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 2: of the imagination. But I'm willing to.

648
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:18,400
Speaker 1: Like we do with I just don't like because we

649
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 1: do it, we do it, we do we do Yeah.

650
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 1: So it's just like where do all where are all

651
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:27,719
Speaker 1: these men with all this money that black women just

652
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:30,400
Speaker 1: not fucking with? I mean with no money. I mean, like,

653
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 1: where are where are all these men? Bitch is pregnant? Yeah, there,

654
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,920
Speaker 1: it's more. It's more black people period. Black men and

655
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 1: women that don't have nothing, no money, right, living paycheck

656
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:45,960
Speaker 1: to paycheck. They be doing it together.

657
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 2: Mm hmm I agree.

658
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,880
Speaker 1: So what I think the group of people that these

659
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 1: men get on podcasts and who they're talking about are

660
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 1: the women who are now choosing to be single and

661
00:36:55,680 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 1: they have standards, right, Those are the women that men

662
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:02,319
Speaker 1: have a problem with, right, because a lot of those

663
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:05,959
Speaker 1: women are getting comfortable being by themselves. Right.

664
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:08,239
Speaker 2: I ain't comfortable. I'm gonna let y'all know, right.

665
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 1: Be comfortable for real by myself because I'm a relationship person, right,

666
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 1: kind of like a hybrid kinda like I said, I

667
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 1: want to be single in a relationship.

668
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 2: I remember I came home from work and I was

669
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:23,719
Speaker 2: living in this high rise. Everything was beautiful, and I

670
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,239
Speaker 2: put my little factor meal in the microwave and I

671
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:29,280
Speaker 2: sat down on the couch at my little uh TV

672
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 2: TV tray and I was like, this is not what

673
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 2: God intended me eating this motherfucking factor meal by myself

674
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 2: in this house. This is not how it's supposed to be,

675
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 2: and I know the.

676
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:48,759
Speaker 1: Life is based on double occupancy. Y'all can tell what

677
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 1: these damn bills Okay, yeah, the price of cost.

678
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 2: In the same breath, I'm not willing to just lay

679
00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:59,879
Speaker 2: my standards down by the riverside just to have somebody right,

680
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 2: I'll be alone until I meet someone that but it's

681
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 2: just so it. I don't know how it's become so difficult,

682
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 2: you know. I think social media plays a role because

683
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:19,360
Speaker 2: we have access to too many people exactly, you know,

684
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 2: I think that plays a huge role. The DMS is

685
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 2: never it's endless. It's endless niggas in there which make

686
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 2: you not kind of want to it. I don't like

687
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:33,240
Speaker 2: because it, oh don't nobody's lie harder than somebody else. Husband,

688
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 2: and the damn slipping and sliding boy, get yeah that.

689
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: I really don't want us to be girls girls because

690
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 1: y'all be in.

691
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 2: Trouble, right, It benefits me nothing, So I don't even

692
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 2: like entertain But then my husband might be right sitting

693
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 2: in that DM wait on me to respond, you know,

694
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 2: because where else I'm gonna meet him at we talk back,

695
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 2: ain't not. But it's a bunch of bitches. It's a

696
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:04,320
Speaker 2: bunch of us. Or then I work in the industry

697
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 2: where it's nothing but women and gay men, so I

698
00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 2: don't I'm not even in environments where I get to

699
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:13,239
Speaker 2: meet men. So then now I get to I got

700
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:16,759
Speaker 2: to either use social media and I just want to

701
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:21,319
Speaker 2: talk about this real quick. I downloaded this app called Luxy.

702
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 2: It's a dating app. It's supposed to be like an

703
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,719
Speaker 2: upscale dating app. And the motherfucker's trying to charge me

704
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,839
Speaker 2: five hundred dollars. I don't want no man that bad.

705
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:32,360
Speaker 2: You're buying a Yeah, I don't want no nigga for

706
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 2: five hundred dollars match Maker, not when the DMS that's free.

707
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 2: It's the same ship. You know. What's what makes it

708
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 2: any different?

709
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 1: So is it white men on Luxy or the any

710
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:44,719
Speaker 1: black men on there?

711
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:49,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's different, like all kinds of men white, black, uh,

712
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 2: Middle Eastern all.

713
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 1: I guess that's the investment, right to so you can

714
00:39:55,080 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 1: find somebody who is to you got five hundreds exactly,

715
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 1: that's the fee you gotta pay to let people know

716
00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 1: like this is real, Like you gotta that's an investment.

717
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 2: I went. I reached out to one of those like

718
00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:14,239
Speaker 2: million dollar match maker companies that I saw, like I

719
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 2: think it was on like Housewives of Atlanta or something.

720
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 2: I saw it on and I reached out to them

721
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 2: and I got an interview and they liked me and

722
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 2: all that stuff, and they was like, oh, yeah, we

723
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 2: definitely can pair you with somebody. You seem like a

724
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:31,320
Speaker 2: great option, you know, candidate for the type of minute

725
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:33,879
Speaker 2: we have here. She's like, we're just going to need

726
00:40:33,960 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 2: you to invest ten thousand dollars as it. Excuse me,

727
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 2: say what ten thousand? I'm not paying five hundred. I'm

728
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 2: definitely not paying ten thousand dollars. Like, we just want

729
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 2: to make sure that this is something that you want.

730
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:53,360
Speaker 2: They want to make sure that you're not just looking

731
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 2: for a man with money to come take care of you.

732
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 2: I'm assuming because you got ten thousand of your own

733
00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:03,720
Speaker 2: to invest into. And they was like, we'll keep sending

734
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 2: you on dates until we find your husband forever. Once

735
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 2: she paid this ten grand, I was like, Rachel, I'm

736
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:11,720
Speaker 2: gonna call you back in about thirty minutes.

737
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:17,759
Speaker 1: Isle as a portion of it.

738
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 2: Refundable, No, it's not refundable. This is the feed to

739
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:27,920
Speaker 2: be a million dollar matched in stacks. So if y'all

740
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 2: got ten grand. Y'all better if y'all have ten grand

741
00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 2: that you're willing to invest in. You know, being paired

742
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 2: and you're someone who really cares about finances in a

743
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 2: relationship and you want a man who has a lot

744
00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 2: of money, that is an option for you, you know,

745
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 2: throw ten thousand dollars at it. I'm not willing to

746
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 2: take ten thousand of my money to invest in that

747
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:54,720
Speaker 2: because I just feel like I can the best romance

748
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:59,440
Speaker 2: for me will happen organically. You know, I'm not paying

749
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 2: five hundred that I'm trying to see here?

750
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 1: How does that? How does that correlate to what we're

751
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: talking about? Because it's something there with that, Right, So

752
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 1: the woman has to have some means in order to

753
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:21,360
Speaker 1: get a man with money, right, right, And that's a

754
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:26,040
Speaker 1: I think that's another part that some women don't consider.

755
00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 2: Right.

756
00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:30,799
Speaker 1: You want, you want a certain type of man, and

757
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 1: that if he's not a rapper or a street nigga, like,

758
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:37,799
Speaker 1: you have to present a certain way too. You got

759
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,239
Speaker 1: people who be in these these there's a lot of

760
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 1: affluent black families, right, and they be real cut throat,

761
00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 1: like they're not just letting anybody into their circle, Like,

762
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:50,120
Speaker 1: who's this outside bitch? Because you could have married one

763
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,839
Speaker 1: of these other bitches that we in Debutante and all

764
00:42:52,880 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 1: this shit I can't exactly a member of exactly. It's

765
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 1: a mean girl. Shit goes on. So who are you

766
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 1: some random ass bitch and where you come from?

767
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 2: Right? Yeah?

768
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 1: Like shit, get real, so are you even are you

769
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:11,440
Speaker 1: even that breed?

770
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:13,000
Speaker 2: Right?

771
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: Do you do? You have what it takes to even

772
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 1: keep up with that lifestyle once you get that man

773
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 1: in the upper echelon? Like, how can you maintain.

774
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:30,800
Speaker 2: That man? Can you maintain that man and that family

775
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 2: that comes with that man?

776
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:34,439
Speaker 1: Hold on, Tom, let's stay some bills.

777
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 2: Because do you feel like when you marry a man,

778
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:42,200
Speaker 2: you marry the family.

779
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 1: I used to feel like that, and I feel like

780
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:48,800
Speaker 1: it is important to have a good rapport with whoever

781
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 1: you went with their family. But at this big age,

782
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:57,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, fuck your sister, fuck them. People ain't coming.

783
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:02,720
Speaker 1: I ain't going really well luckily.

784
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:07,400
Speaker 2: I just always aspire to like really lock in with

785
00:44:07,480 --> 00:44:09,600
Speaker 2: my my partner's family.

786
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've done it in some situations and others I

787
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck.

788
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I come from a very small like I don't

789
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 2: have like a huge family, so it would be important

790
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 2: for me to have a healthy relationship with my partners family.

791
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:33,719
Speaker 2: I've always like prioritized that where even after we break up,

792
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:35,399
Speaker 2: the mom would still be like, I want to hook

793
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 2: you up with my doctor, you know, like I prioritize that.

794
00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, most most of the time, like mamas love me,

795
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,360
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Sisters hook me up with

796
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:48,040
Speaker 1: their brothers, and you know what, I definitely then happens

797
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 1: over time, like they get some I think, I don't

798
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 1: know if they're not. Like I always be saying, if

799
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 1: the mom, I don't really like niggas with mamas, but

800
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 1: if you have one, I just need her to be

801
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 1: in a healthy relationship. I need your sister being in

802
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: a healthy relationship and she's not interfering with our relationship.

803
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:11,399
Speaker 2: Like my my my high school boyfriend, his family did

804
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 2: not his sister and mom did not think I was

805
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:17,399
Speaker 2: good enough for him. But that's because I was from

806
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 2: the hood and they were like upper class wax in Columbia,

807
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 2: you know, good well. And it was so crazy because

808
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,799
Speaker 2: I was definitely like an honorall student. I was in

809
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 2: all the clubs. I was like highest ranking in ROTC.

810
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 2: I was an exchange student.

811
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:36,840
Speaker 1: You know.

812
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,960
Speaker 2: I was just very a cheerleader. I did it all

813
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:42,640
Speaker 2: and I but I just was from the hood, you know,

814
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 2: I didn't I was a good girl, you know, but

815
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:50,560
Speaker 2: they just did not like me for any I mean,

816
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:57,279
Speaker 2: who export fast forward, we got kids with Listen, I

817
00:45:57,280 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 2: ain't gonna put all the business out like that, but

818
00:45:59,239 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 2: I'll just.

819
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 1: Say who y'all was playing with?

820
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:04,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, who y'all was playing with? Period.

821
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:07,320
Speaker 1: That's why. That's what That's a part of my reason

822
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 1: for not like imagine imagine it being the opposite. Though

823
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 1: I ain't from the hood like both of my parents,

824
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 1: like they from the hood of the Hood of the

825
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:21,839
Speaker 1: Hoods and Charlston, but they the niggas that made it right.

826
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 1: So I all my sisters have lived in the projects

827
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 1: and they was kids, but I never experienced that. My

828
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,800
Speaker 1: mom is still liveing in the same house that she

829
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:33,279
Speaker 1: bought that they bought her, my husband, my dad bought

830
00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:36,799
Speaker 1: I don't know, a month or two before I was born, right,

831
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 1: So that's that's stability, right. But imagine being with somebody

832
00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: who motherfucking people don't look like where they come from,

833
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 1: but bit you from the hood and you treating me indifferent? Yeah,

834
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 1: because she got all the things, like you know, she

835
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 1: got a little Louis bag and all that. You living

836
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:56,880
Speaker 1: in a house that's damn there, dilapidated and treating me

837
00:46:57,880 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: some type of way. Imagine that Treating like I'm not

838
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:03,080
Speaker 1: good enough for your brother.

839
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:05,400
Speaker 2: This was oh for their brother.

840
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:09,120
Speaker 1: Yes, treating me like I'm the one that's not good enough.

841
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:15,520
Speaker 2: That's crazy. But but being from the hood does not

842
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:17,040
Speaker 2: make you not good exactly.

843
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:19,400
Speaker 1: It's it's all this stuff is a state of mind,

844
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like country is a state

845
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 1: of mind. Hood is a state of mind. You don't

846
00:47:24,680 --> 00:47:27,439
Speaker 1: have to look like where you're from, right, you don't

847
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 1: have to be like where you're from.

848
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:30,640
Speaker 2: Right, I agree?

849
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:32,840
Speaker 1: And that's but that's what I was talking about with

850
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 1: these mean girl groups, Like these people live this way.

851
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 1: They whole lies. So even if you were the hood

852
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:41,279
Speaker 1: chick that made it, they will still be looking at

853
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:45,000
Speaker 1: you like an outsider, like you're not You're not like us.

854
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 2: Right, it is. It is a class system, you know

855
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 2: that happens within our culture. But does that does that

856
00:47:56,680 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 2: mean like, because all right, honestly, I've met some men

857
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:05,360
Speaker 2: that were like really really nice and successful and really

858
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:08,400
Speaker 2: liked me, but they were just too stuffy.

859
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 1: I need, like I need to I need to do

860
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:14,960
Speaker 1: it me neither, like I need to be able to

861
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:17,920
Speaker 1: be myself because I can be like that, right, but

862
00:48:17,960 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 1: I can also I'm like renaissance woman. I can do

863
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 1: all the things.

864
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 2: That's why I feel like you could take me anywhere

865
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 2: from the White House to the our House and I can,

866
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:31,240
Speaker 2: you know, maneuver, maneuver. But I don't need someone who's

867
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 2: just so stuffy like you laught like an englishman, get

868
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:46,439
Speaker 2: out the face. Yeah, I can't do stuffy. It needs

869
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 2: to be balanced for me. So but maybe I need

870
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:54,560
Speaker 2: to not be so you know, maybe I need to

871
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:57,360
Speaker 2: relax that. Maybe I don't like I'm asking him to,

872
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 2: you know, people to accept me with my I you know,

873
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 2: upbringing and the things that I've experienced and I can't.

874
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 2: I'm saying, Oh, I can't date a STUFFI ass nigga.

875
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:08,720
Speaker 2: Maybe I need to date me a STUFFI ass nigga.

876
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I think that I

877
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:17,719
Speaker 1: just balance is always good. I don't like anybody. That's

878
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 1: just just one way, you know what I'm saying. I

879
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 1: have a friend who is like raising the hood, single

880
00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 1: mama that made. Those are generally the type of men

881
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 1: that I like. I like niggas that maiden, I like

882
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:36,280
Speaker 1: men who they just did. Just the character is just different,

883
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:37,399
Speaker 1: and it's just.

884
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 2: Something about a person who uh no struggle that Yeah,

885
00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 2: I think, I don't know. Sometimes I feel like they

886
00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:56,280
Speaker 2: have a greater appreciation for things and wealth and relationships

887
00:49:56,360 --> 00:50:00,400
Speaker 2: and I don't know, they just mo. Yeah, someone who's

888
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:03,160
Speaker 2: you know, had everything provided and give it to them

889
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 2: their whole life. No, I could, you know what. I

890
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:09,760
Speaker 2: don't want to discredit them, because everybody's bottom is different,

891
00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:13,319
Speaker 2: you know, So I don't want to like say that

892
00:50:13,400 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 2: about people who've been provided everything. But it is a difference.

893
00:50:17,239 --> 00:50:21,719
Speaker 2: There is a difference in gratitude perhaps.

894
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:25,440
Speaker 1: And see I even my I was not in my

895
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:29,120
Speaker 1: in my house and my upbringing, we were not provided everything.

896
00:50:29,200 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 1: We were provided what we needed and we never went

897
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:37,960
Speaker 1: without things, right, So just real life middle class for real.

898
00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:39,279
Speaker 2: Yeah.

899
00:50:39,640 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 1: But I mean, like I would see people who was

900
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:45,520
Speaker 1: in the hood, they had all the New Jordan's I'm

901
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:48,760
Speaker 1: always not. I had the basic ass fucking nikes, basic,

902
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:50,799
Speaker 1: all the basic shit, like, so the things that I

903
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:52,759
Speaker 1: buy now. Is because I was a proud of those

904
00:50:52,800 --> 00:50:56,319
Speaker 1: things as a kid a mama, but we always had

905
00:50:56,320 --> 00:50:59,239
Speaker 1: a house, So her priorities were different because she was

906
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:03,879
Speaker 1: also a single with three fucking kids, working all day

907
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:07,239
Speaker 1: long like a lot of other people moms. But the

908
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 1: priorities and what was important was just different, right, So

909
00:51:11,200 --> 00:51:13,719
Speaker 1: people will I have dated a nigga who judged me

910
00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:18,000
Speaker 1: I would wear like wool coats. This nigga was like,

911
00:51:18,040 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 1: you got that Manhattan jacket on? Like, what, this is

912
00:51:21,080 --> 00:51:25,360
Speaker 1: a nice colt? I wanted to buy me thye of

913
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:28,759
Speaker 1: those timberlands, those thigh high timberlands that came out. I

914
00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: was like, your baby mama might like them. I don't

915
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: like those, Like that's bit. No, they weren't.

916
00:51:34,640 --> 00:51:41,440
Speaker 2: You're talking about the knee high Uh. Yes, they had

917
00:51:41,440 --> 00:51:43,400
Speaker 2: a good run. When they came out. They was cute.

918
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:46,160
Speaker 2: You had no I didn't.

919
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:48,200
Speaker 1: Have that exactly, you ain't. But they was cute for them.

920
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 1: It was not cute for me. I like, it weren't cute.

921
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:57,040
Speaker 2: I'm not saying what about the Manola blons.

922
00:51:57,280 --> 00:51:58,960
Speaker 1: But then when they came out with all the knockoffs,

923
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:00,560
Speaker 1: I'm like it's over with.

924
00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 2: Everybody came out with. That's just like the shark boots.

925
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:08,200
Speaker 1: It's over it. I still like them, shark boots, fucking

926
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:11,920
Speaker 1: knee high ones. Yeah, the kids those are nice.

927
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:15,839
Speaker 2: I like them too, but I don't say they over

928
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:17,520
Speaker 2: so I guess people can't worry them.

929
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:22,360
Speaker 1: And now the same man right has strived. Right, he

930
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:26,680
Speaker 1: bought his kids at home. They don't know his struggle.

931
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:27,759
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

932
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:31,760
Speaker 1: So basically you was hating on your kids because I

933
00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 1: would I represent your children. Basically, my parents tried to

934
00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 1: do all the things so that I didn't have to

935
00:52:38,560 --> 00:52:41,239
Speaker 1: grow up how they did. He did all the things,

936
00:52:41,239 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 1: so his children have to grow up like he did.

937
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 1: But while dating me, you trying to make me feel

938
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:48,880
Speaker 1: bad because my bottom was different from yours.

939
00:52:49,200 --> 00:52:56,000
Speaker 2: Right, I still got struggle and uncarmedy children like kids,

940
00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:58,000
Speaker 2: be like, oh you got daddy had.

941
00:52:58,760 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 1: I'm talking about grown people though, we in our fucking

942
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 1: twenties thirties, like, and you coming at me because I

943
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 1: have a different upbringing. Yeah, why are you dating me?

944
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:11,960
Speaker 1: Why are you dating up?

945
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:12,320
Speaker 2: Nigga?

946
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:17,799
Speaker 1: Stay where you say that? The fuck? That's what I'm

947
00:53:17,800 --> 00:53:20,920
Speaker 1: talking about. Men are her pergamus. Okay, they're gonna date

948
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:24,320
Speaker 1: up and I met that nigga in a gas station, okay,

949
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:28,640
Speaker 1: working mopping the floor and a gas station. But when

950
00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:30,680
Speaker 1: I once I spoke to him, once I talked, this

951
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 1: is a nigga now who's doing very well in life. Okay,

952
00:53:34,560 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: I saw his potential. Then he was mopping the gas

953
00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:40,640
Speaker 1: station floor by uh at this gas station where by

954
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 1: where my apartment was at in Columbia, South Carolina, and

955
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:48,520
Speaker 1: he was working there only to get enough gas money

956
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:51,720
Speaker 1: to get to Orangeburg. Fazi's a mechanics.

957
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 2: Schooling me and brother. Okay, that's right, that's what I'm

958
00:53:56,520 --> 00:53:59,120
Speaker 2: talking about. So why can't you catch a man there?

959
00:53:59,280 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, You can catch a man

960
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:03,200
Speaker 2: there at that point, That's.

961
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:06,200
Speaker 1: What Umar was saying, Like black women don't catch men

962
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:09,919
Speaker 1: in progress. That's a lie. We be in progress with

963
00:54:10,520 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 1: black men all the time. Yeah, I agree, But when

964
00:54:14,640 --> 00:54:18,200
Speaker 1: a man hasn't arrived at his final destination, they are

965
00:54:18,239 --> 00:54:23,840
Speaker 1: oftentimes disgruntled and mad and upset, and it takes time

966
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:26,279
Speaker 1: for them to be comfortable with their situation. Because really,

967
00:54:26,280 --> 00:54:28,000
Speaker 1: guess what, nigga, you should not be.

968
00:54:28,040 --> 00:54:31,680
Speaker 2: Comfortable, right, But you don't have to be mean though,

969
00:54:33,640 --> 00:54:34,239
Speaker 2: that's the thing.

970
00:54:34,640 --> 00:54:35,359
Speaker 1: But they don't have nothing.

971
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:37,840
Speaker 2: Neither one of us are comfortable. Neither one of us

972
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:41,520
Speaker 2: are comfortable right now, but only one of us is nice. Listen,

973
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:45,560
Speaker 2: my ex bodriend. I used to come home from work

974
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 2: and I'd be like, hey, He's like, why the fuck

975
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 2: you so happy all the time?

976
00:54:48,920 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 1: Leave him? The minute the nigga says some shit like that,

977
00:54:51,880 --> 00:54:52,799
Speaker 1: leave him.

978
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:55,560
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm just happy to see I'll never

979
00:54:55,600 --> 00:54:57,840
Speaker 2: forget this. He was like, why the fuck you happy

980
00:54:57,920 --> 00:55:00,000
Speaker 2: so much all the time. I was like, I'm just happy,

981
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:02,080
Speaker 2: need to see you. He's like, you went to work

982
00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 2: for eight hours, you see me eight hours ago.

983
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:10,160
Speaker 1: But imagine if you came home this is why people

984
00:55:10,239 --> 00:55:14,160
Speaker 1: like abuse. Imagine if you came home with his attitude

985
00:55:14,200 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 1: every day, he would be loving and your draws people.

986
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:25,320
Speaker 2: That's crazy. What the fuck is so happy about? Like?

987
00:55:26,200 --> 00:55:28,720
Speaker 1: Girl a minute and nigga act like that? Too many times?

988
00:55:28,719 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 1: Did you say too many? Little Get the fuck up

989
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:31,960
Speaker 1: out of there.

990
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:34,479
Speaker 2: It was time to go. It got to the point

991
00:55:34,480 --> 00:55:36,399
Speaker 2: where I would come home from work and just sit

992
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:38,919
Speaker 2: in the car for a little while because I knew

993
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:41,439
Speaker 2: I was gonna come into some energy that wasn't the same.

994
00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:44,359
Speaker 2: It was gonna shift my spirit, you know, like y'all

995
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 2: had a good day. I'm happy. I come in and

996
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:50,880
Speaker 2: I need to tone down my happiness to match the vibes.

997
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:55,560
Speaker 1: And see I can't. I'm learning to thrive in any situation,

998
00:55:55,719 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 1: but toxicity that should be crumbling me a little bit.

999
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:03,040
Speaker 1: Dog my last relationship. You know how the men be like, oh,

1000
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:04,960
Speaker 1: and I've said this before. They want peace, they want

1001
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 1: piece piece piece. All men are not fucking peaceful. That's

1002
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:09,560
Speaker 1: how it would be when that nigga would walk in

1003
00:56:09,600 --> 00:56:13,280
Speaker 1: the house. It it would be a dark cloud over

1004
00:56:13,440 --> 00:56:16,400
Speaker 1: anybody that's in there. Soon as you could be so

1005
00:56:16,560 --> 00:56:18,799
Speaker 1: happy the sun was shining in that motherfucking bit. As

1006
00:56:18,800 --> 00:56:21,800
Speaker 1: soon as that keep going, that lock dark cloud.

1007
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, you got to go. And if you are listening

1008
00:56:27,120 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 2: to this and you are living in a space where

1009
00:56:30,680 --> 00:56:34,919
Speaker 2: your man come in and it's darkness, brothers, baby, start

1010
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:36,840
Speaker 2: getting your exit strategy together there.

1011
00:56:37,560 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 1: To live, get the fuck up out of there.

1012
00:56:39,360 --> 00:56:42,399
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, men and women, if you come if your

1013
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:44,600
Speaker 2: woman come home and you listen to this and every

1014
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:46,960
Speaker 2: time she come home, it's darkness.

1015
00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:49,600
Speaker 1: Gons, it's a rainbow on the other side.

1016
00:56:50,040 --> 00:56:51,799
Speaker 2: You know, I ain't gonna say just get out of there.

1017
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:54,640
Speaker 2: Maybe try to navigate why is dark and fix that.

1018
00:56:55,040 --> 00:56:57,279
Speaker 2: But if you can't navigate why is dark and can't

1019
00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:59,799
Speaker 2: fix it, baby, life is too short to be sitting

1020
00:56:59,800 --> 00:57:03,920
Speaker 2: in the rain cloud all the time. If anybody asking you,

1021
00:57:03,960 --> 00:57:05,360
Speaker 2: why are you happy every time?

1022
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:10,600
Speaker 1: What you have to smile for? We got bills due, like,

1023
00:57:10,719 --> 00:57:12,560
Speaker 1: I'm happy to pay them. I'm happy to be able

1024
00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:16,560
Speaker 1: to pay my bills. To find gratitude, man, and all

1025
00:57:16,600 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 1: the things right the fuck like, that's how you get

1026
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:28,160
Speaker 1: more gratitude. That's it anyway, Fuck you, doctor Lumar. He

1027
00:57:28,240 --> 00:57:31,520
Speaker 1: also said about Yeah. He also says some about the

1028
00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:34,160
Speaker 1: snow bunnies versus black women and how the black women,

1029
00:57:34,280 --> 00:57:36,680
Speaker 1: black men and black women Like I just said that

1030
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 1: black women will catch I mean white women, the snow

1031
00:57:39,240 --> 00:57:42,959
Speaker 1: bunnies will catch men in progress? Right, black women ain't

1032
00:57:43,000 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 1: doing that. That is not fucking treating me. And the

1033
00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:48,560
Speaker 1: thing what y'all until y'all get to where y'all going

1034
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 1: and then somehow you don't want us no more. That

1035
00:57:52,120 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 1: happens a lot. So why should we keep putting our

1036
00:57:55,640 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 1: fucking life on the line? When do we choose us? Yeah?

1037
00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:02,560
Speaker 1: This is why men, this is why the podcasts are

1038
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 1: in such uproar because black women have started to choose themselves.

1039
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 1: And even if choosing yourself looks like you being by yourself,

1040
00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 1: these niggas is fucking mad. How dare you? You're the

1041
00:58:13,640 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 1: one thing that we should always have control of and

1042
00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:22,440
Speaker 1: care But once we realize we the fucking gods? Okay,

1043
00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:23,960
Speaker 1: because God is.

1044
00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:26,800
Speaker 2: But I just don't want the narrative to change so

1045
00:58:26,880 --> 00:58:29,760
Speaker 2: we can start pairing. Like there needs to be like

1046
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 2: a major paradigm shift so we can start.

1047
00:58:32,680 --> 00:58:34,400
Speaker 1: I think it's happening. It's just some of these some

1048
00:58:34,480 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 1: of these people, black men and women will just have

1049
00:58:37,400 --> 00:58:40,160
Speaker 1: to be thrown to the wayside. The niggas gotta get

1050
00:58:40,160 --> 00:58:42,440
Speaker 1: thrown to the wayside, and then we just gotta deal

1051
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:47,600
Speaker 1: with black people. Yeah, I'm sorry, it's just different. It's different.

1052
00:58:48,080 --> 00:58:50,120
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know. I don't know because

1053
00:58:50,160 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 2: I'm just looking at, you know, the youth and some

1054
00:58:54,320 --> 00:58:58,840
Speaker 2: of the behavior and some of the it's scary, you know,

1055
00:58:58,920 --> 00:59:03,680
Speaker 2: it's scary. It seems very divisive, you know, the young

1056
00:59:04,120 --> 00:59:05,200
Speaker 2: the young people, are.

1057
00:59:06,720 --> 00:59:07,240
Speaker 1: They smarter?

1058
00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:15,680
Speaker 2: Yeah? I just need to know why is y'all ass out?

1059
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 2: Why are not wearing them skirts? With their ass out.

1060
00:59:18,320 --> 00:59:22,320
Speaker 2: I don't come in my DMS and tell me why

1061
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:24,960
Speaker 2: when did that? Like, how did that become?

1062
00:59:25,040 --> 00:59:27,520
Speaker 1: Girl? Bitch has been wearing their ass. You forget about

1063
00:59:27,520 --> 00:59:30,920
Speaker 1: freakneek and everything else. The Coucie cutters, like that's been

1064
00:59:30,920 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 1: the thing.

1065
00:59:31,480 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 2: No, I'm talking about these little skirts with the whole

1066
00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:35,120
Speaker 2: booty hanging out the back.

1067
00:59:36,040 --> 00:59:37,200
Speaker 1: Oh, like the Gothic ship.

1068
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,560
Speaker 2: It's like a little lamp shade, just like a little

1069
00:59:40,600 --> 00:59:43,120
Speaker 2: lamp shade over as. They don't cover the ass up

1070
00:59:43,160 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 2: at all.

1071
00:59:45,240 --> 00:59:47,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, but I mean it's no different

1072
00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:54,000
Speaker 1: from the Kuccie cutters. People ask what is literally hanging out?

1073
00:59:54,040 --> 00:59:56,080
Speaker 2: I had Kouchie cutters back in the day, but they

1074
00:59:56,280 --> 00:59:59,280
Speaker 2: was not as little as these pasts come now. I'm

1075
00:59:59,320 --> 01:00:02,080
Speaker 2: sorry they were short, but there was not this short

1076
01:00:02,320 --> 01:00:03,080
Speaker 2: Cuccie cutters.

1077
01:00:03,080 --> 01:00:05,880
Speaker 1: You ain't having Cuccie cutters in because Kuccie cutters literally

1078
01:00:06,200 --> 01:00:08,600
Speaker 1: you got the kucie. You can see it in the

1079
01:00:08,640 --> 01:00:11,520
Speaker 1: front and then you could see that ass hanging it

1080
01:00:11,560 --> 01:00:12,200
Speaker 1: from the bottom.

1081
01:00:12,960 --> 01:00:15,280
Speaker 2: Oh no, I didn't. My mama wouldn't allow that.

1082
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:17,480
Speaker 1: You aboub have had some shorts with a little fringe

1083
01:00:17,520 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 1: on it. They might have been.

1084
01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:21,760
Speaker 2: We would cut off our jeans. We cut up old

1085
01:00:21,840 --> 01:00:25,920
Speaker 2: jeans and then like cut little like little lines and

1086
01:00:25,960 --> 01:00:28,240
Speaker 2: then wash it and dry so it'd be like freely

1087
01:00:28,280 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 2: at the bottom.

1088
01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:31,600
Speaker 1: And see that even a little frilly thing that covered

1089
01:00:31,600 --> 01:00:33,640
Speaker 1: the booty a little bit at the bottom. But you

1090
01:00:33,680 --> 01:00:36,720
Speaker 1: have they just really walk around with the ass out

1091
01:00:36,760 --> 01:00:39,480
Speaker 1: and at the top. When low Rides came out, remember

1092
01:00:39,960 --> 01:00:41,520
Speaker 1: Loki low rise jeans.

1093
01:00:42,480 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and they had their little throng. Yeah, we

1094
01:00:45,040 --> 01:00:47,560
Speaker 2: did all I did too. I did that. I definitely

1095
01:00:47,560 --> 01:00:50,960
Speaker 2: had a little my little little strip on the side show.

1096
01:00:52,480 --> 01:00:54,240
Speaker 1: We did all the things too. I think it's just

1097
01:00:54,320 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 1: we're just older now and looking at the things and

1098
01:00:58,760 --> 01:00:59,840
Speaker 1: you don't have to do all that.

1099
01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:04,920
Speaker 2: I don't know, it just seemed very super suggestive. Now.

1100
01:01:04,920 --> 01:01:09,240
Speaker 2: Maybe it is because I'm older, older mm hmmm, because

1101
01:01:09,320 --> 01:01:11,840
Speaker 2: I'm so tired of looking at y'all. Motherfucking ass. I

1102
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:21,560
Speaker 2: ain't gonna hold you. It ain't even good bookie. All Right,

1103
01:01:21,640 --> 01:01:25,880
Speaker 2: we start y'all beautiful, y'all.

1104
01:01:25,960 --> 01:01:28,480
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day coming up, y'all, find y'all some love. Okay,

1105
01:01:28,480 --> 01:01:31,480
Speaker 1: if y'all ain't get nobody during cuffing season, uh, you

1106
01:01:31,520 --> 01:01:34,120
Speaker 1: still got some time. You got some time to get

1107
01:01:34,120 --> 01:01:37,800
Speaker 1: a little little Valentine. Niggas hate Valentine. Nigga, don't wan't

1108
01:01:37,800 --> 01:01:39,320
Speaker 1: give no gift by ship.

1109
01:01:39,320 --> 01:01:44,480
Speaker 2: Like that's not true. Niggas to be lacking Valentine's.

1110
01:01:43,840 --> 01:01:47,240
Speaker 1: They get your niggasun for Valentine's. If you got a man,

1111
01:01:47,320 --> 01:01:48,960
Speaker 1: get your man. I've been trying to find out, like

1112
01:01:49,040 --> 01:01:53,520
Speaker 1: figure out what I'm gonna get mine for Valentine's Day.

1113
01:01:53,880 --> 01:01:56,840
Speaker 2: I got a good idea for y'all, for y'all Valentine's

1114
01:01:56,880 --> 01:01:59,080
Speaker 2: Day for a nigga, this is thoughtful. Y'all heard it

1115
01:01:59,120 --> 01:02:03,200
Speaker 2: here tam Ban, share this with y'all. Make go buy

1116
01:02:03,240 --> 01:02:08,120
Speaker 2: a photo album. Put a picture like from when y'all

1117
01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:11,000
Speaker 2: first started kicking it, however long that is. Put that

1118
01:02:11,080 --> 01:02:14,720
Speaker 2: in the front. And then the next page put like

1119
01:02:16,000 --> 01:02:21,280
Speaker 2: a gift card. It says, Oh, you look so good

1120
01:02:21,280 --> 01:02:23,200
Speaker 2: with a fresh cut. Here's a cut to pay for

1121
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 2: the bar Here's some money to pay for a barber.

1122
01:02:25,440 --> 01:02:28,200
Speaker 2: VI's a gift card for sixty dollars. The next page

1123
01:02:28,280 --> 01:02:31,680
Speaker 2: is like, don't ever walk out of my life, and

1124
01:02:31,720 --> 01:02:33,440
Speaker 2: it'll be a gift card to like a where he

1125
01:02:33,480 --> 01:02:38,480
Speaker 2: gets his sneakers from. And then uh, pull up on

1126
01:02:38,520 --> 01:02:40,280
Speaker 2: me on the next page and it'll be a gas

1127
01:02:40,280 --> 01:02:43,960
Speaker 2: gift card. Then on the next page it'll be like

1128
01:02:45,160 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 2: I want it when I can't cook for you, but

1129
01:02:47,640 --> 01:02:49,440
Speaker 2: I want you to be fed, and it'll be a

1130
01:02:49,480 --> 01:02:53,120
Speaker 2: gift card to his favorite restaurant. And then the next page,

1131
01:02:54,320 --> 01:02:56,440
Speaker 2: this is just some cash because I like tricking on you,

1132
01:02:56,720 --> 01:02:59,680
Speaker 2: and it just be cashing that slot. Just and then

1133
01:02:59,760 --> 01:03:02,440
Speaker 2: just the of all the things that your man pays

1134
01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:06,120
Speaker 2: for for himself, and create a slot where you help

1135
01:03:06,200 --> 01:03:09,200
Speaker 2: participate in that and put a cute little caption over it,

1136
01:03:10,080 --> 01:03:14,280
Speaker 2: and yeah, had a photo album. That'll be a cute

1137
01:03:14,320 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 2: little gift.

1138
01:03:15,360 --> 01:03:17,760
Speaker 1: Then make sure your your gift that he's to gift

1139
01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:21,400
Speaker 1: you totals up the amount of money that you said.

1140
01:03:23,080 --> 01:03:23,840
Speaker 2: Don't worry about.

1141
01:03:23,840 --> 01:03:30,080
Speaker 1: That don't worry about was like trying to give the

1142
01:03:30,080 --> 01:03:31,560
Speaker 1: same amount of money. That mean I might as well

1143
01:03:31,640 --> 01:03:32,400
Speaker 1: buy my own ship.

1144
01:03:32,680 --> 01:03:35,000
Speaker 2: You buy a ship. That's why you should not think

1145
01:03:35,000 --> 01:03:35,360
Speaker 2: about that.

1146
01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:36,200
Speaker 1: Why are we doing that?

1147
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:42,920
Speaker 2: But just don't let my gift be more right m hm?

1148
01:03:43,520 --> 01:03:48,560
Speaker 2: Because practice like over here one Christmas and this nigga,

1149
01:03:48,640 --> 01:03:51,000
Speaker 2: we got each other gifts and I bought him like

1150
01:03:52,560 --> 01:03:56,240
Speaker 2: two expensive pairs of designer sneakers and he bought me

1151
01:03:56,280 --> 01:03:58,720
Speaker 2: this little Gucci wallace. I was like, I know the

1152
01:03:58,920 --> 01:04:06,120
Speaker 2: fuck you didn't buy me the look goddamn sticks back right,

1153
01:04:07,240 --> 01:04:10,240
Speaker 2: but it is what it is. I'm joking, all right,

1154
01:04:10,280 --> 01:04:13,120
Speaker 2: So y'all guess what on Valentine's Day. For our Valentine's

1155
01:04:13,160 --> 01:04:17,760
Speaker 2: Day episode by A J. A J wants to do

1156
01:04:17,800 --> 01:04:19,680
Speaker 2: this because she thinks it's gonna be fun for y'all

1157
01:04:19,720 --> 01:04:25,560
Speaker 2: and her the love of tambaw for the love of

1158
01:04:25,600 --> 01:04:30,840
Speaker 2: tam Ban. We're gonna have some gentlemen suitors to shoot.

1159
01:04:30,840 --> 01:04:34,840
Speaker 2: They shot because I think it's gonna be fun. Yeah,

1160
01:04:35,360 --> 01:04:37,960
Speaker 2: that's what you said. You said, it's gonna be fun,

1161
01:04:38,080 --> 01:04:38,680
Speaker 2: I said, for.

1162
01:04:38,680 --> 01:04:44,760
Speaker 1: Who's going if we actually, if we do some YouTube ship,

1163
01:04:44,880 --> 01:04:46,360
Speaker 1: I mean we can actually have people come.

1164
01:04:47,360 --> 01:04:50,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, Wenna have to come. But y'all, I get nervous

1165
01:04:50,760 --> 01:04:58,840
Speaker 2: and awkward, so it's gonna be autism. Well, y'all know

1166
01:04:59,240 --> 01:05:03,800
Speaker 2: I retarded. Please said, We're not gonna speak that over me.

1167
01:05:03,920 --> 01:05:06,800
Speaker 2: I have I retarded, Okay, I just sometimes I get

1168
01:05:06,920 --> 01:05:09,440
Speaker 2: social anxiety and I might get a little weird, but

1169
01:05:09,480 --> 01:05:10,200
Speaker 2: it's okay.

1170
01:05:10,560 --> 01:05:15,640
Speaker 1: Might start rapping, might start freestyling, fucking weird ass and like.

1171
01:05:15,600 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 2: To stick my hands under my armpits and smell like this.

1172
01:05:23,120 --> 01:05:31,280
Speaker 1: He was like, just not cool, Hi yo, man, Okay,

1173
01:05:31,960 --> 01:05:33,960
Speaker 1: just do what you want to do, man, love for

1174
01:05:34,120 --> 01:05:36,600
Speaker 1: you love. If you're comfortable by yourself, stay there. This

1175
01:05:36,680 --> 01:05:38,920
Speaker 1: is my last last. Stay comfortable by yourself. Then I

1176
01:05:39,040 --> 01:05:42,360
Speaker 1: listen to these niggas like Umar Johnson man because he

1177
01:05:42,520 --> 01:05:44,080
Speaker 1: don't got dance this way.

1178
01:05:45,120 --> 01:05:47,400
Speaker 2: He he do drop some gems every now and then,

1179
01:05:47,440 --> 01:05:48,440
Speaker 2: but when it comes to.

1180
01:05:48,640 --> 01:05:50,720
Speaker 1: It, be skewed when it comes to black women, man.

1181
01:05:51,440 --> 01:05:55,760
Speaker 2: Like saying that women aren't into trenches and not we are.

1182
01:05:56,040 --> 01:05:59,040
Speaker 2: We are there for each other more than people like

1183
01:05:59,080 --> 01:06:02,040
Speaker 2: to give us credit for so continuing to be I

1184
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:04,480
Speaker 2: think it's the light in someone's life and being the

1185
01:06:04,560 --> 01:06:06,280
Speaker 2: light for your own self, huh.

1186
01:06:06,320 --> 01:06:09,400
Speaker 1: I think it's entitlement. They feel entitled to black women,

1187
01:06:10,600 --> 01:06:13,800
Speaker 1: so you don't really respect what you feel like is

1188
01:06:14,120 --> 01:06:19,040
Speaker 1: supposed to be given. We're not a given anymore.

1189
01:06:18,680 --> 01:06:22,680
Speaker 2: No, we aren't. But we do love them, and I

1190
01:06:22,680 --> 01:06:24,919
Speaker 2: believe they love us. We just need to get back

1191
01:06:24,960 --> 01:06:31,320
Speaker 2: to a healthy dynamic with each other. Absolutely, all right,

1192
01:06:31,080 --> 01:06:32,800
Speaker 2: I gotta go to work.

1193
01:06:32,920 --> 01:06:35,640
Speaker 1: If y'all enjoyed this episode, y'all tune in every Thursday

1194
01:06:35,640 --> 01:06:37,960
Speaker 1: on the Black Effect iHeartRadio app. And this is our

1195
01:06:37,960 --> 01:06:39,800
Speaker 1: first episode of season five.

1196
01:06:40,320 --> 01:06:43,600
Speaker 2: Niggas, Yeah, happy season five? Ain't j all right? Five

1197
01:06:43,720 --> 01:06:45,000
Speaker 2: years y'all live?

1198
01:06:45,360 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 1: Okay, it's what we're going into.

1199
01:06:47,720 --> 01:06:50,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean coratulations.

1200
01:06:50,480 --> 01:06:52,840
Speaker 1: Y'all tune in every Thursday and The Black Effect iHeart Radio,

1201
01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:55,480
Speaker 1: Apple Way, but the fuck you get your podcast? This

1202
01:06:55,600 --> 01:06:59,360
Speaker 1: your co host a j Holiday two point zero on

1203
01:06:59,680 --> 01:07:03,040
Speaker 1: instant grams. Kick a tad oh, y'all, followed Dasha too,

1204
01:07:03,160 --> 01:07:08,600
Speaker 1: Dosha mink mink my cat can't Dasha mink mink. D

1205
01:07:08,680 --> 01:07:12,760
Speaker 1: a s h a mink mink.

1206
01:07:13,440 --> 01:07:16,200
Speaker 2: Y'all, it is official. Tam Bam on Instagram social media.

1207
01:07:16,480 --> 01:07:19,040
Speaker 2: I love y'all so much. If nobody loves y'all, Tan

1208
01:07:19,160 --> 01:07:22,880
Speaker 2: Bam love y'all, But don't forget to love yourself most

1209
01:07:22,920 --> 01:07:34,080
Speaker 2: of all. Remember speak now. I don't know I speak now,

1210
01:07:34,920 --> 01:07:37,960
Speaker 2: and be peaceful.

1211
01:07:39,000 --> 01:07:40,000
Speaker 1: Never hold your peace.

1212
01:07:43,000 --> 01:07:49,880
Speaker 2: No, be peaceful, Speak now and never hold its Yeah.

1213
01:07:50,120 --> 01:07:54,560
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1214
01:07:54,680 --> 01:07:57,600
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