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Speaker 1: Now here's a highlight from Coast to Coast AM on

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Speaker 1: iHeartRadio and welcome back to Coast to Coast George and

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Speaker 1: or with you. Doctor Judith Orloff Back with Us is

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Speaker 1: a psychiatrist, an EmPATH, and an author. A couple of

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Speaker 1: her books include Thriving as an EmPATH, The EmPATH Survival

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Speaker 1: Guide as well. She synpathizes the pearls of traditional medicine

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Speaker 1: with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, energy, spirituality, specializing and

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Speaker 1: treating empaths and highly sensitive people in her private practice.

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Speaker 1: Doctor Orloff is very passionate about helping empaths come out

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Speaker 1: of the closet and become empowered. She believes that empathy

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Speaker 1: is the medicine that will save our world and our planet. Judith,

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Speaker 1: welcome back Dot. How are you? Thank you? I'm great?

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Speaker 1: How are you? George? Good? Looking forward to this? So

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Speaker 1: is being an EmPATH a good thing? I think it's

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Speaker 1: an incredible thing. I'm a psychiatrist that I'm also an EmPATH,

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Speaker 1: and I couldn't imagine living not being an EmPATH. And

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Speaker 1: an EmPATH is super or sensory. It's being able to

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Speaker 1: sense and feel energy into it. What's going on in

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Speaker 1: people and the energy in the world's creative, it's deep,

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Speaker 1: but they're challenges. Their challenges because empaths are emotional sponges

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Speaker 1: and they tend to absorb the negative energy in the world.

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Speaker 1: So they're taking on so much negativity and stress from

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Speaker 1: the world. And unless they learn how to not do

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Speaker 1: that and ground themselves, then their problems. Then they go

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Speaker 1: on sensory overload, experience anxiety, depression, overwhelmed, and that's not good.

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Speaker 1: But you could learn how to center and ground yourself

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Speaker 1: by using the self care techniques that I talk about

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Speaker 1: in Thriving as an impath. How much can an EmPATH

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Speaker 1: take then before they really start cracking Marion depends on

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Speaker 1: the EmPATH. If it's an untrained EmPATH, not much. Because

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Speaker 1: when an EmPATH goes on sensory overload, what that is

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Speaker 1: if so much is coming at you so fast, and

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Speaker 1: I've been on it at various times, and it's very painful.

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Speaker 1: You just feel like your brain can't process all this

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Speaker 1: information that's coming through to you, and so it's a

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Speaker 1: state of overwhelm and really anxiety. And unless when I

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Speaker 1: go on sensory overload, I go into a quiet place,

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Speaker 1: I close the shades. I get very quiet, no talking

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Speaker 1: to people, I meditate, I take a bath. But that's

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Speaker 1: the way to bring it back down. But if somebody

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Speaker 1: doesn't know that, and they keep subjecting themselves to stress, arguments, traffic,

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Speaker 1: then they can get into full blown panic attack. Is

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Speaker 1: it unusual though, for an EmPATH to do that? Inasmuch

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Speaker 1: as in the beginning, when they're on they're very outgoing

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Speaker 1: and care free and everything else, and then all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden, when they start taking on the burdens of

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Speaker 1: the world, do they shut down? Do people notice a

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Speaker 1: personality change? Yes, And an EmPATH on overload is not

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Speaker 1: a good sight because they're in so much pain, and

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Speaker 1: then they can get anxious and bring other people along

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Speaker 1: with them in the household, family friends. If they're anxious,

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Speaker 1: then they start blowing up at other people, or they

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Speaker 1: just are become depressed and inward. So empaths who are

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Speaker 1: able to ground themselves can sense and know things so deeply,

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Speaker 1: and it's so satisfying. It's such a gift to be

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Speaker 1: able to have that intuition. But you have to take

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Speaker 1: care of it, and that means really taking good care

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Speaker 1: of your energy and not subjecting yourself to energy vampires

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Speaker 1: and being able to be around positive people and taking

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Speaker 1: time out to decompress. That makes a huge differenced EmPATH

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Speaker 1: Are they like magnets? It can be in terms of

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Speaker 1: energy vampires. Yeah, yep, yep. The I have a chapter

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Speaker 1: in the EmPATH Survival Guide on the toxic attraction between

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Speaker 1: empaths and narcissists, and the narcissist can destroy an empathy.

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Speaker 1: An empath's very sensitive and loving and intends to overgive

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Speaker 1: and feels like they can heal other people with their

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Speaker 1: love if they just hold on enough. But the narcissist

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Speaker 1: isn't wired for empathy, and so they have what's called

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Speaker 1: empathy deficient disorder, meaning that they don't really have empathy

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Speaker 1: as as you or I might have it. They don't

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Speaker 1: seem to be carrying do they No, not really, and

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Speaker 1: they don't have the football narcissist or sociopath or psychopath,

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Speaker 1: them to do thing things that are unconscionable. It doesn't.

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Speaker 1: They're not wired in the same way, and so when

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Speaker 1: and the EmPATH is drawn in. But then when you

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Speaker 1: according to their plan, they start gaslating you. They become cold, withholding, punishing,

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Speaker 1: and generally very destructive to the sensitive soul. Interesting. It

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Speaker 1: is fascinating, indeed, when an EmPATH is on, I mean

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Speaker 1: really on. Do people like to be around them? Oh? Yes,

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Speaker 1: and not only be around them. Everybody tells you their

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Speaker 1: can't tell you. I really can't go places where people

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Speaker 1: something about you. Oh yeah. And it's not just me,

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Speaker 1: it's most impath We wear a sign in a visible

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Speaker 1: sign saying I can help you. Out of a hundred people,

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Speaker 1: what percent would you say would be an EmPATH. Well,

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Speaker 1: there's been research done on highly sensitive people and the

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Speaker 1: figure is twenty percent. That's all. That's low. It's very low,

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Speaker 1: and I don't think it's entirely accurate, especially now since

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Speaker 1: the pandemic and everything going on in the world. Empaths

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Speaker 1: So they're feeling things they've never felt before, and they're

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Speaker 1: open to feelings and levels of stress and connection that

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Speaker 1: the figure is higher now if the studies were redone. Now,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to read a definition of EmPATH and tell

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Speaker 1: me what you think of this one. Okay, okay? Do

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Speaker 1: you often justly know how a complete stranger is feeling?

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Speaker 1: Have you frequently noticed someone else's feelings seem to have

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Speaker 1: rubbed off on you? Perhaps you are someone who seems

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Speaker 1: to find every emotion and feel them extremely profoundly, even

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Speaker 1: if it's something simple. These are all signs that you

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Speaker 1: are an EmPATH. An EmPATH as someone highly sensitive to

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Speaker 1: what others around them are feeling. Often, empaths aren't even

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Speaker 1: aware of their heightened sensitivity. If you suspect you may

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Speaker 1: be an EmPATH, here are some signs of empathetic abilities

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Speaker 1: that you probably have experienced at some point. And that's

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Speaker 1: some of the things you've already talked about. Yes, pretty accurate.

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Speaker 1: I think that's very accurate. And empaths you know, there's

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Speaker 1: a twenty question self assessment test in the EmPATH Survival

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Speaker 1: Guide if you want to self diagnose yourself as an EmPATH,

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Speaker 1: and it's very important. And other questions in addition to

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Speaker 1: the ones that you read which are accurate. Aren't you

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Speaker 1: annoy smells or excessive talking overwhelm you? Do? I like

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Speaker 1: taking my own car places so I can leave when

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Speaker 1: I please. Empasts don't like to be trapped places? Do

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Speaker 1: I start absorbing other people's stress emotions or actual physical symptoms?

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Speaker 1: So those are other qualities in addition to the ones

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Speaker 1: you read of being an EmPATH? So, yes, those are

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Speaker 1: people who may not even know what an EmPATH is

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Speaker 1: tend to congregate and migrate to the EmPATH because they've

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Speaker 1: got their own personal problems? Oh? Yes, Empaths are like

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Speaker 1: magnets for new people and for anybody who's just looking

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Speaker 1: for a kind heart or a loving response. Somebody who's

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Speaker 1: a good listener and really cares about you, in fact,

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Speaker 1: may care too much about too many people and become

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Speaker 1: drained by it. So I think that empaths are magnets

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Speaker 1: and in a way, you know, the EmPATH I feel

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Speaker 1: it is going to save the world because empaths have

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Speaker 1: the heart and the soul, and if they learn how

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Speaker 1: to ground themselves and they're not in emotional pain from

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Speaker 1: taking on too much stress, they have what it takes

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Speaker 1: to be a good human being and to be able

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Speaker 1: to care for themselves and others. And that caring, that empathy.

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Speaker 1: I care about you, You matter to me. Now, that

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Speaker 1: is what we all need is in humanity. Let's go

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Speaker 1: through some of the challenges empaths have with this pandemic

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Speaker 1: right now. I have never witnessed a time, Judith where

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Speaker 1: so many people are depressed uptight. I mean, it's truly remarkable.

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Speaker 1: out there, it's huge. But in terms of empaths, it's

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Speaker 1: been a mixed bag for them. Because empaths like staying home.

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Speaker 1: They like the quiet, they like lack of crowds and noise,

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Speaker 1: and so a lot of my EmPATH patients are enjoying

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Speaker 1: that aspect of it. However, the isolation and the loneliness

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Speaker 1: and the depression and the uncertainty and the lack of

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Speaker 1: it's a whole new mindset that an EmPATH enjoys loving.

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Speaker 1: And when you can't reach out and hug your friends,

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Speaker 1: lot of depression, a lot of anxiety, a lot of confusion.

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Speaker 1: And so it's a time like none other right now,

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Speaker 1: and so empaths now have to really practice a lot

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Speaker 1: of self care and try and get the leve in

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Speaker 1: touch through their animals or through going out into nature.

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Speaker 1: Empatht love nature. So that's one way that I've gotten

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Speaker 1: through this pandemic as an EmPATH is going hiking and

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Speaker 1: spending time in the hills or by the ocean. Now,

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Speaker 1: just connecting in that way, that's very powerful. Impaths have

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Speaker 1: a very strong relationship with nature, so that can help

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