WEBVTT - Aloha Annaliese! 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:05.480 Hell I Sucking with Dengler, Dared Haven and I heard 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:12.240 radio podcast What's going on? Sucky Daters. We're here for 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:15.640 all new episode of your favorite podcast. It's called Help 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:21.600 I Suck At Dating. Usual suspects are here. It's myself, 0:00:21.680 --> 0:00:26.280 Jared Haven somewhere on the East Coast, and a woman 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:28.800 that we've seen on this podcast before. She's gonna be 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:32.040 co hosting with us this week. It's Analyze Puccini. What 0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:35.760 is up? Analyse? How are you? I'm good. It's good 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:38.839 to see you, guys. It's been forever. It has been 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:40.800 a while. We'll fill us in. Why has it been 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:44.280 so long? What have you been doing? Analys What have 0:00:44.320 --> 0:00:45.600 you been up to? I feel like we have. Like 0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:47.240 you said, it's been forever, So what's been going on 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:49.320 in your life? Give us an update? Like we haven't 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:53.440 talked him favorite, Well, if you haven't heard, there's a 0:00:54.480 --> 0:01:00.480 quarantine going on each other. That's that's a good way. 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:01.880 That's a good way to put it. Let's say like 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:04.640 aliens came to Earth and they have no idea what's 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:08.160 going on, and you have to describe you're to them 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:10.280 to kind of fill them out what's going on? So 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:18.280 what's analysis been like? It started out really great and 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:20.520 I think probably like many of us, were super excited 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:23.920 about twenty right, We're all like vision, It's going to 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:29.160 be so amazing, and then proof, Um, you know, I 0:01:29.200 --> 0:01:31.880 felt really guilty a lot of times during this year 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:33.960 because I was like, my year has been pretty great, 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:37.120 and then I think I just had like streams like 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:39.760 a lot of us too, it was like I don't 0:01:39.800 --> 0:01:42.520 know how the world's doing, but I'm doing pretty good. 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:46.280 I felt really I felt really bad because people would 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:47.800 be like, how are you. I'm like, I'm living in 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:50.840 how I went on a road trip like life was 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:52.920 pretty good, and then all of a sudden, like my 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:58.040 hit that that like bang that everyone else had been 0:01:58.040 --> 0:02:00.280 going through and just had been feeling it to front 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:02.360 times during this whole year, right, like we've all gone 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:07.000 through our extreme highs and lows. So when did I 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:09.280 When did I see you? Was it earlier this year? 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:12.720 Was it last year? I think I saw you guys 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:17.160 for it was right around Was it Valentine's Day last year? 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:19.400 Or was it or this year? I think it might 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:22.320 have been Valentine's Day this year. That's insane to think 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:27.800 that we were in a crowded auditorium just in February. Yeah, 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:31.600 we're yeah, we did, but right, yeah it was it 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:34.720 was almost famous live podcast. Uh. And it was in 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:38.799 front of like three people and you were there. Uh. 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:42.640 Jed was there to do a musical performance. Interesting choice, 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:46.000 but I actually quite enjoyed Jed. He was quite nice. Uh. 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:48.600 And yeah, to think that that was in February. So 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:49.840 that was the last time I saw you. And the 0:02:49.880 --> 0:02:53.240 fact that we were in a room with four other 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:55.839 people is insane. Actually, I saw you guys a lot 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:57.880 at the beginning of the year. And then this is 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:00.720 making me sad too, because I was like, oh, I 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:06.440 usually see Dean pewbl Beach at the program. That won't 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:09.720 be happening. But he's not golfing though, because if you 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:11.639 got the pebble Beach, he'd shoot at least a one 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:15.200 oh five. I don't know. I've been playing pretty good lately. 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:17.720 I joined the country club. I gotta play golf whenever 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:21.840 I want. For country club, Yeah, you should join. Actually, 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:24.239 I got a good referral bonus if you joined. Where's 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:27.200 the country club. It's called Bramar Country Club. It's just 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:32.000 like it's like Tarzana Ah that's the most anti Dean 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:34.600 thing I've ever heard. You joined on. Let me get 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:36.839 this straight. In the past month, you've put a lease 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:39.240 in a place in Los Angeles, and you've bought a 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:43.000 place in Nevada. You've joined a country club. Who the 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:46.000 hell are you? I know, Calin's really domesticated me. It's 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:48.120 kind of embarrassing to be to be totally honest, but 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:51.200 that's not the topic of conversation. Here. Join the country club. 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:54.200 I'll show you how much, how how capable I am 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:56.360 of handling you at Pebble Beach if it comes to that, 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:59.640 But analyze. So You're right, we do normally see a 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:01.440 lot of each other in that Pebble Beach. I've got 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:03.640 a question for you. I think did I see something 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.800 that you moved to Hawaii? Is that where you are 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:08.840 right now? I am. I had to close on my 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.640 windows because the sun is coming up right now and 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:15.920 the birds go crazy, so kind of like your dog's Jared, 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:18.039 the birds would be echoing in the Dude, I don't 0:04:18.040 --> 0:04:20.080 know what the hell is going on outside this door. 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:22.880 But like I just texted Ashley, I was like, what 0:04:22.920 --> 0:04:25.839 the hell is going on? Is the mailman? Like antagonizing 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:28.800 the dogs right outside the window. They're losing it. For 0:04:28.839 --> 0:04:30.960 the record, Jared, every single week, it seems like you 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:32.320 have no idea what's going on with them, because they 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:36.200 definitely are just a rambunctious couple of pups. Well, Lois 0:04:36.320 --> 0:04:39.160 is quite adorable, but she's also quite unpredictable. Well, it's 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:41.520 it's funny because you're on East Coast time, which is 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:43.920 twelve noon when we started this, I'm on West Coast 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:46.600 time nine am, and analyze, it's got to be six 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:51.279 am over there it's seven. Luckily they don't. They don't savings, 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:54.400 oh my gosh. But still, I mean, that's even getting 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:56.080 up for a nine am. I was like, oh my gosh, 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:59.080 what time you usually wake up? Antaly's I keep all 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:01.760 of my windows and so I rise with the sun. 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.760 It's pretty great, I would say, I get up. I 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:09.280 get six thirty probably every day, just naturally six. So 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:11.240 all right, well let's let's ask the question. At least 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:13.880 you we have to know about your relationship status, because 0:05:13.880 --> 0:05:16.360 obviously bachelor help my second dating. So are you dating 0:05:16.400 --> 0:05:19.880 someone right now? I'm not. That was kind of when 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:22.440 I moved to Hawaii. To be honest, I was with 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:24.560 my X and we signed a six month lease to 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:28.159 move to Hawaii together, and he broke up with me 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:31.559 two days before moving, and so I in our house 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:35.600 for two weeks by myself. It was like the most 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:41.760 beautiful difficult I don't even know it was the It 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:47.480 was intense two weeks. I had like no TV, no distractions. 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:49.920 I took a break from social media, and I just 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:53.400 was like in it. I like read five books, I 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.760 started therapy again. I did all the things. And then 0:05:56.839 --> 0:06:00.600 I got out of quarantining in that house. I got 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:03.600 my own place, I bought a car, um and then 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:05.919 he moved here less than a month later with his 0:06:05.960 --> 0:06:12.880 new girlfriend. Me. What yeah, so that is my quarantine 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.520 love story. All right? Hold on, how long were you 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:19.920 guys dating before you decided, hey, let's move to Hawaii. 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:24.240 So we met actually the weekend that I was with 0:06:24.279 --> 0:06:27.960 you guys. I met him in February, um, and then 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:30.919 it was just like a very We just hit it 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:35.159 off instantly. We like skied in Tahoe. We met in Tahoe, 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:37.719 but he was living in San Francisco too, and so 0:06:37.800 --> 0:06:40.240 we like we're able to see each other a ton. 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:44.000 And then obviously because of like San Francisco kind of 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:46.560 shutting down. All the big cities are sort of doing that. 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:50.520 He moved in with me, so we lived in Tahoe together. 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:53.240 We like we went on at a big road trip 0:06:53.440 --> 0:06:55.680 and um, we spent a lot of time with his 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:57.600 family and my family, and then we were like, what 0:06:57.640 --> 0:07:00.560 are we gonna do because being are not going to 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:02.839 be opening back up in San Francisco for a while. 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:05.640 So we were like, where can we do all of 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:11.400 the things still and just be outside And he chose why, Um, 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:15.160 but yeah, I'm in the same same little town as him. 0:07:15.200 --> 0:07:19.440 Because our initial plan was to get here and like 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:21.680 work on things. It was just to like take a 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:24.440 step back because we were like we really were that 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:27.000 relationship where I think a lot of people can relate 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:29.360 where it's like you met and then it was like, Okay, 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:32.720 well do you want to be alone? No, so like 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:35.280 let's just move in together and just be together all 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:37.800 the time. So we were like, maybe we just need 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:40.400 to slow things down and like take a step back. 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:42.560 So that was the plan. The plan was like he 0:07:42.600 --> 0:07:44.679 would still have the place, I would get my own place, 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:49.000 maybe like do some couples therapy, like date like you know, 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:52.360 not just be like living together immediately, but date, and 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:55.520 so that was that kind of went out the window 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.640 when he brought his new girlfriend. That's so crazy to 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:01.400 me that he brought his new girl for it. Yeah. Yeah, 0:08:01.520 --> 0:08:03.160 Like two days after we broke up, he was like 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:06.160 posting pictures with her already. I was like, cool, have 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.040 you have you confronted him about it at all or 0:08:08.200 --> 0:08:11.800 like like almost daily and he has yet to say 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:14.960 one word to me, But what the hell is going on? 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.600 Hold on, so you're telling me that you guys dated 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:21.400 med in February. It was a pretty intense relationship obviously 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:25.040 because during quarantine, you moved in together. Then you guys decided, hey, 0:08:25.280 --> 0:08:27.840 let's move to Hawaii together. But you were getting two 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:30.680 separate places but moving to the same town in Hawaii. No, 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:32.880 you're only were getting one place. But then when he 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.320 broke up with me, it was like it was like 0:08:35.360 --> 0:08:37.920 a week long breakup of like, Okay, do we really 0:08:37.920 --> 0:08:40.520 want this? Maybe we don't, and so it was like 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:42.800 maybe we just need to take a step back. So 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:45.360 so it was like, but during that two weeks we 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:49.320 were broken up, and then during that I guess twenty 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:51.560 four hours after we broke up, though, he was like 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:55.719 onto the next so overlap. I have no idea what 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:59.480 was going on there, but I feel like, because I 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:02.000 need to figure you this out. So so then after 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:05.200 you guys broke up, You're like, okay, you you still 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:07.880 decided I'm going to still move to Hawaii. And he 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:10.360 was like, I'm still going to move to Hawaii as well. 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:13.440 He was a little bit more iffy. He wasn't sure, 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:14.920 and I wasn't sure how long I was going to 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:16.679 do it for. I had had a bunch of stuff 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:19.160 already sent here, and so I was like, you know what, 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:24.120 I'm just gonna go and like do me like this 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:27.400 is still my just as much my experience, and I'm 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:29.560 like it's a great place to heal and I do 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:31.319 know some people here, and so I was like, I'm 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:34.160 just gonna go, and maybe I'll only stay for two weeks. 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:36.240 Maybe I quarantined in the house for two weeks, pack 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:38.880 up my stuff, and I fly back to San Francisco. 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:42.199 Um So that was like a total possibility. But then 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:43.680 I got out of it and I was like, you 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:48.040 know what, no, Like he doesn't win this this experience, 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:50.640 Like I can move to Hawaii to I've moved to 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:55.280 different countries and other skates and like I've done alone time, 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:58.199 I'm I can do it, and I was like thriving. 0:09:58.280 --> 0:10:02.600 I Um yeah, I just felt like a total badass. 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:05.720 To be honest, those two weeks, I was like I 0:10:05.760 --> 0:10:08.440 started writing a book. I just was. I was like, 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:11.840 maybe this is what maybe this whole experience was meant 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:14.080 to bring me here. This sounds like the story from 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:18.280 Forgetting Sarah Marshall, where like they break up a hundred 0:10:18.360 --> 0:10:21.200 and I rewatched that movie and I was like, this 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:25.920 is my life. You are Jason Siegel, which means that 0:10:25.960 --> 0:10:28.160 whoever this girl is, that that's dude is dating as 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:32.679 Russell Brand. And I don't like this. So I'm confused, 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:34.840 Like how he thought it was okay for him to 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:37.160 move into the same town again. Wouldn't he be like, 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:39.480 all right, if I'm gonna go to Hawaii, First of all, 0:10:39.480 --> 0:10:41.600 why would I go to Hawaii when my ex girlfriend 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:44.160 is already going to go there. And I'm gonna go 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:48.040 to Hawaii with my new girlfriend and not only to Hawaii, 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:51.840 but the same town that I know my ex girlfriend 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:59.720 is now in. Yeah, that's wrong with this guy. We 0:10:59.800 --> 0:11:02.360 may never know. Well, I'm sorry, they have to go 0:11:02.400 --> 0:11:05.640 through that. And you see him daily, you say, I mean, yeah, 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:09.000 pretty frequently. It's a small town. So I see him 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.640 at the grocery store, walking on the beach, surfing, like, 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:16.320 and he even acknowledge existence. Nope, well you can do 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:19.600 much better than this guy. I'll tell you that. Oh. 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:23.079 I mean that's the thing. Like, it's definitely been difficult 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:27.280 because he was like my my person during all this, 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:30.240 like he was my safety neck. He was the person 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:32.679 I felt the most comfortable with. We got, you know, 0:11:32.720 --> 0:11:36.400 like six and a half months together during quarantine. Living 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:39.560 with just one person, that's like two years. That's like 0:11:39.920 --> 0:11:41.720 we spent a month with my family, a month with 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:45.920 his family. I mean you're like you're in it twenty 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:48.280 four hours a day. So we got to know each 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:50.280 other really well. So I think the hardest thing for 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:53.520 me right now is just like the I do miss 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:57.920 like my my like buddy, like my best friend that 0:11:58.000 --> 0:12:01.320 I had for six months that we did all the 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:04.640 fun things. But now I'm I'm like I can still 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:06.360 It's the same thing with coming to my It's like 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:08.440 I can still do all those things. Like I don't 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.200 need him. I don't need a man so that's where 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:14.160 I'm like, I'm surfing, I'm golfing, I'm joining your country 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:18.760 club to d and say so in ways that all 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:22.640 things considered then have you like obviously with with COVID 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:24.160 and stuff, it makes a little bit more difficult. But 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:26.199 what is the dating scene as a as a newly 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:29.080 single woman out and how I've been like, um, it's 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:33.760 not easy, but I'm definitely dating. Like it's a weird. 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:39.360 It's very strange to be dating during COVID. Um, I 0:12:39.400 --> 0:12:41.640 don't know. I feel like people here it's like such 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:43.559 a community, such a small community. That's one of the 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:48.120 things I'm super grateful for. But people really like rally 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:51.120 around to especially in my situation, a lot of people 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:53.960 know and they're just like as soon as there's some 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:57.920 single guy that they know that is an eligible bachelor, 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:00.920 they're like, hey, let me let me introduce you. So, 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:03.440 I mean, the dates here are a lot of just 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:06.240 like let's go hike a waterfall and um, or let's 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:09.600 go surfing together or something like that. So their chill 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:12.520 I've had Like it's a small island though too, so 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:15.360 there's numerous conversations that I've already had to have where 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:17.720 I'm just like, I don't I don't want to have 0:13:17.760 --> 0:13:20.480 like a reputation. I don't want to be like dating everyone, 0:13:20.640 --> 0:13:22.880 so like I just want to be friends with you 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:26.040 and like if it develops into something down the road whatever, 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:31.480 but like just friends. Now this sounds like Bachelor in Paradise. No, 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:33.600 I mean, I do feel like my boundaries. I don't 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:35.480 know if it's like coming off of a breakup or 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:37.959 if it's like again being on a small island. Maybe 0:13:37.960 --> 0:13:40.920 it's a good thing, but there's definitely I have much 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:43.760 stronger boundaries that I'm putting up and just like being 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:47.120 a lot more open um about like where I'm at 0:13:47.160 --> 0:13:52.680 and like what my expectations are in relationships. So I've 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.720 been super super upfront with everyone that I've met because 0:13:55.720 --> 0:13:57.839 I don't want to lead anyone on. That's the other 0:13:57.920 --> 0:14:00.120 thing I think in this, Like during all of this, 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:03.000 it's super easy to just be like, oh I am lonely, 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:06.040 and that's like the wrong reason to ever be with anyone. 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:09.320 So um, I need to just be good on my 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.240 own and like have If there's somebody that really sparks 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:14.360 my interest, great, but there just hasn't been anyone that 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:16.880 I'm like, oh, I kind of want to make out 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:20.920 with you. I feel like dating in Hawaii has to 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:24.120 be similar to dating from like a mountain town where 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:26.360 I grew up, and it's just like it's so small 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:29.760 that everyone kind of like knows each other. Uh. Single 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:31.960 people don't stay single along and like if they do, 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:34.920 you like they're probably single for a reason sort of thing. 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:37.480 I don't know. It's just it's tricky because it's like 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:39.720 everyone kind of knows each other. Uh, and then the 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:42.760 second someone gets single, it's like, okay, uh, We're like 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:44.360 then they're like off the market just as quick because 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:45.640 they were on it, and you just don't have quite 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:47.200 as much like options, I guess, you know, so you 0:14:47.240 --> 0:14:49.640 have to be you have just play things a little 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:52.840 bit differently. It's just everyone says here, they're like you 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:55.000 gotta get them fresh off the plane, and I'm like, 0:14:55.040 --> 0:14:59.160 maybe from an uber driver, just like from the airport. 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:03.040 So that right, how are you in town for? All? Right? Well, analyze, 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:05.520 we have to take a quick break. But I do 0:15:05.640 --> 0:15:06.920 kind of want to play a game with you. Have 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:11.440 you have you been watching Bachelorette? Haven't you haven't? No, 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:14.200 never mind, we're not playing the game. Then I was 0:15:14.240 --> 0:15:16.680 gonna say who. I was gonna see who you wanted 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:19.320 to see down in Paradise, because if you're single and 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:21.240 you go back to Bachelor in Paradise, which I've already 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:24.280 announced is going to happen again in one, I'm interested 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:27.400 to see who you analyse would like to see down 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:29.200 in that island. And I was gonna play a game 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:32.600 with you with this season, but darn it, never mind. 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:34.480 Then I said, we played anyways and just based off 0:15:34.480 --> 0:15:38.640 the names. All right, cool, are you down to play analyze? 0:15:40.000 --> 0:15:42.680 I know that there's I think there's two three guys 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:45.360 maybe that I people have been like you should date 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:48.360 this person, but all right, well, don't say their names 0:15:48.440 --> 0:15:50.400 right now. We'll tell we'll tell you. We're gonna tell 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:53.120 suck Army what the three names are the analyes of 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:55.760 the three names that guys that anally should date down 0:15:55.760 --> 0:16:06.320 in Bachelor in Paradise right after we take a quick break. 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:11.080 All right, welcome back to help I suck at dating myself. 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:14.680 I'm jared by the way, Dean we have analyze of 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:16.680 course you know her from our season of The Bachelor 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:19.960 and Bachelor in Paradise. Uh, and analyze before we took 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:22.680 a break with tease that there were three guys. A 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:25.840 lot of people have been commenting to you that you 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:28.880 should be uh keeping an eye out in case you 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:32.440 walk down those faithful stairs and bachelor and Paradise again. 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:34.840 Can you tell us who the three guys are? Okay, 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:36.520 so I don't know their names. I was literally just 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:39.040 gonna google it. But Dean I started this just made 0:16:39.080 --> 0:16:41.800 me think of you a little bit, um because I 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:44.120 feel like you were on a similar trajectory. You were 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:46.720 like never going on Paradise again. You were living in 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:49.800 a van. I was like living in a trailer for 0:16:49.880 --> 0:16:53.560 a good portion of this summer. I'm like never going 0:16:53.640 --> 0:16:59.440 on Paradise again. And now you guys are asking me 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:01.840 about her days. Well, I mean he followed the path 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:07.600 to success. I walked so you could run analyis. Yeah, Well, 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:10.399 I mean it feels like the farthest thing from anything 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:14.440 I would want to do right now? Um, okay, wait, 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:16.800 should I just google? I don't even know the names 0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:19.880 of any of the of the guys on this season? 0:17:20.480 --> 0:17:23.240 Well how about this? How about how about jaredald say 0:17:23.280 --> 0:17:25.480 the name that he thinks and then explain the guy 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:27.440 and why he thinks. You guys would be good for 0:17:27.480 --> 0:17:30.719 each other. That's what I think we should do. So 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:33.240 this is just this is gonna be really Jared, We're 0:17:33.280 --> 0:17:35.600 relying pretty heavily on you here, all right. Well, the 0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:39.720 first guy, obviously, he was a big name on this season. Uh. 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:42.919 He fell in love with Asia. She let him go, 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:45.920 but then he came back. But then, of course, ultimately 0:17:45.960 --> 0:17:48.640 it shows somebody else. I'm talking about Ben Smith. Now 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:54.560 do you know who Ben Smith is? Annaly's Um, yes, 0:17:54.600 --> 0:17:57.800 they do, alright, perfect, very good looking, great body. He 0:17:57.920 --> 0:18:00.480 also at one point during the season stripped Nate Kid 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:03.480 in front of Tasta, just so his vulnerability. Interesting choice, 0:18:03.520 --> 0:18:06.560 but I think uh a lot of women out there 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:11.240 enjoyed it. Uh. So he is from Indianapolis, so kind 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:13.440 of far, but you know, long distance relationships can work. 0:18:13.480 --> 0:18:15.560 I'm sure he'd be very open to moving to Hawaii. 0:18:15.720 --> 0:18:20.560 He's a coach at Deuce Jim Deuce. Interesting choice, uh 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:22.600 for the name of Jim, but I like it. Uh. 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:25.479 And he's one of the Bachelor's who Uh he went 0:18:25.520 --> 0:18:28.600 on Claire season. Uh. And he was a part of 0:18:28.640 --> 0:18:33.320 the recasting apparently after so he was not a part 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:36.639 of the original cast. I didn't know that that's insane. Uh. 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:38.960 And then COVID hit and then there was like this 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:42.600 six month delay and then they cast it into beyond Clais. 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:46.320 He's a pretty interesting so judging by his picture, how 0:18:46.359 --> 0:18:50.520 old is he? Ben is? He's twenty nine years old. 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:54.080 He lives in Venice right now, but he's from Indianapolis. 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:57.320 He's an army vet. Uh. He works at a gym 0:18:57.560 --> 0:19:02.240 fitness guy. What do you think, Um, I would go 0:19:02.280 --> 0:19:04.200 on a date with him. I don't know if I'd 0:19:04.200 --> 0:19:05.840 go on a date with him in Paradise, but I'm 0:19:05.840 --> 0:19:08.520 gonna do. I mean, I would go on a date 0:19:08.520 --> 0:19:10.439 with him. He's very good looking and charming. I'm not 0:19:10.440 --> 0:19:15.760 gonna lie. Um. Yeah, he I actually have seen you know, 0:19:15.760 --> 0:19:18.040 when you go to the homepage on Instagram or the 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:20.200 search or whatever and you can see people, it always 0:19:20.200 --> 0:19:22.240 pops up with everything. So that's the only way that 0:19:22.280 --> 0:19:25.919 I'm aware of things going on on on Bachelor at 0:19:26.000 --> 0:19:29.320 this season. But I've seen him pop up, all right. 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:31.359 The next guy that I want to talk about. His 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:35.879 name is Bennett. Bennett. Jordan's Annalys. Have you heard about Bennett. Yeah, 0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:38.720 he's gonna be a hard pass through me, but let 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:41.040 me give you the bio is so Bennett, of course 0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:44.119 is a gentleman of Harvard. Uh, something that I strive 0:19:44.240 --> 0:19:47.440 to be. He's thirty seven, so a little you know, mature. 0:19:47.760 --> 0:19:50.560 He's from Atlanta. I don't know if he lives there 0:19:50.640 --> 0:19:52.880 right now. I think he lives in New York. Uh. 0:19:52.920 --> 0:19:56.160 And again he was one of the recasting guys. Uh. 0:19:56.200 --> 0:19:59.320 He wasn't originally on the show, got recascid after COVID. 0:20:00.240 --> 0:20:05.760 He's an interesting human being, very Uh. How how the 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:09.399 hell do you even explained Bennett? Just like such a 0:20:09.440 --> 0:20:12.439 caricature of what a gentleman of Harvard would be. But 0:20:12.520 --> 0:20:15.080 that's just like who he actually is. So we're gonna 0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:18.359 go hard pass with Bennett. Somebody wrote on my like 0:20:18.400 --> 0:20:21.520 a comment, so they said you should date Bennett. Uh. 0:20:21.840 --> 0:20:26.080 I could see you guys in the Hampton's eating lobster together, 0:20:26.320 --> 0:20:29.840 and I was like, m I don't really think that 0:20:29.840 --> 0:20:33.400 that's my vibe at the moment. It's more like walking 0:20:34.200 --> 0:20:36.919 a mile with no shoes on and not brushing my 0:20:37.000 --> 0:20:39.280 hair for a week vibe. I don't know if Bennett 0:20:39.280 --> 0:20:41.400 would be into it. Is that your perfect date? Like 0:20:41.840 --> 0:20:43.960 if you had to explain your perfect first date? What 0:20:44.040 --> 0:20:48.240 would it be. I mean right now, it would be 0:20:49.720 --> 0:20:58.320 probably like surfing and then getting fish tacos afterwards, or yeah, 0:20:58.640 --> 0:21:01.000