WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: “I Know What She Needs” 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:07.960 Looking jubil in the morning. The guy on the phone 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:09.760 today that wants to do a second date update was 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:11.959 impressed by the girl that he wants us to call 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:14.520 back today by how quickly she dropped to her knees. 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:19.880 But that is not to pray. You met her at church. 0:00:20.880 --> 0:00:25.079 You guys are herberts. You met her at church, That's 0:00:25.079 --> 0:00:29.280 all I was trying to get at. Sean is his name, 0:00:29.320 --> 0:00:31.640 and he wants to call a girl named Lisa today. 0:00:31.720 --> 0:00:34.680 I guess he met her in church. Sean, How you doing, Hey, 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:37.080 I'm doing good. I'm doing good. So that's what impressed 0:00:37.120 --> 0:00:42.479 you about Lisa? Huh? Her praying ability? Yeah, maybe not 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:45.040 in that way, but you know, church, it's a good 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:47.239 place to meet people. Yeah, so you met her at church. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:49.320 How did you approach her at church? Or did you 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:51.680 like wink at her during the service throw a Bible 0:00:51.680 --> 0:00:54.680 at the back of her head? What'd you do? Well? 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:56.360 You know, I've been going there for a while and 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:58.800 she started going and she always sits in the same 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:01.600 pew on the right hand side. Paybe about six backs, 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:03.800 So you know, I'm watching it for a while and 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:05.640 I was like, you know, it's time to make a move. 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:07.920 It almost sounds like you're stocking her at church with 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:10.120 details like that. No, you do. I grew up in 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:12.160 the church and like there's usually like a couple of 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:13.880 hot girls and you always know where they sit, and 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:15.640 you kind of want to sit like diagonal so you 0:01:15.640 --> 0:01:17.760 can stare at them while you're at church. Yeah, it's 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:20.280 not that weird, John, Thank you. So so how did 0:01:20.280 --> 0:01:22.840 you approach her? Well, it was the end of the 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:25.280 service and we're all leaving and we're all standing for her, 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:27.399 and I mean I just went up to and I 0:01:27.480 --> 0:01:30.120 was like, hey, you know, I noticed you, and I 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:31.480 have my eye on you, and I was wondering if 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:34.120 you just wanted to go grab some coffee, just you know, 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:36.200 nice and simple, That's what I said. And you had 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:37.920 never talked to her prior to that. This is the 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:40.880 first time you guys had ever talked. Yeah, exactly. I mean, 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.440 you know, you smile you walk past, but I never 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:46.360 really like said anything to her, and she never really 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:48.920 said anything. So yeah, it was just kind of just 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:50.520 walked up to her and just said that. Did you 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:52.240 get the vibe like she knew who you were too 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:56.680 a little bit? I mean she you know, you said wink, before. 0:01:56.840 --> 0:01:59.080 I mean I didn't wink, but you know that smile, 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:01.600 you know, the way they get you. So you were 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:05.760 definitely like throwing her flirty glances and stuff like that. Yeah, 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:08.640 of course, I mean, hey, she's cute, all right, so 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:11.840 obviously she said yes to coffee. How was that little date? 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:14.800 It was good. I mean, listen, I did everything. It 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:17.519 was raining that day, so I waited in the parking lot. 0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:20.480 She pulled up. I walked in from her car to 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:23.960 the dope front door and then open the door for 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:26.959 of course, and we sat down. I mean I pulled 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:29.480 out the chair, you know, all that kind of stuff, 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:32.440 and it went' good. It went't good? That's really I mean, 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:35.080 you sound like a man who's looking for a relationship. 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:36.919 You want something more out of this date. I guess 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:39.520 I really was looking for something. I mean, she seems great, 0:02:39.760 --> 0:02:43.119 she looks hot in church. I mean, what more could 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:45.960 you want? Right? How was the conversation? It was good. 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:47.720 I mean we talked about this, We talked about that. 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:49.880 She's one thing I like is like, it's not just 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:52.240 all like church talk. I mean there's the real world, 0:02:52.400 --> 0:02:54.560 you know. So we're talking about our jobs and what 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:57.720 we like do and that kind of stuff, and I 0:02:57.840 --> 0:03:00.800 bought us everything. I mean, I'm thinking I did everything right. 0:03:00.800 --> 0:03:04.280 I walked her back out ring kind of was away, 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:06.200 but you know I still had the umbrella that way 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:09.079 it could stay close. You know what I'm playing back 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:12.440 to the car, opened the door, gave or kiss on 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:15.120 the cheek. Of course it's just first date, so no, 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:18.959 you know, tongue wrestling. So gave Ri kiss on the 0:03:19.040 --> 0:03:21.720 cheek and just close the door, and she drove off. 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:23.640 And how many times have you tried to call her since? 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:26.800 I mean not every day, like stalk like five or 0:03:26.800 --> 0:03:29.200 six times a day, but you know, trying the morning, 0:03:29.480 --> 0:03:31.720 try at night, and I mean I've been trying so 0:03:32.000 --> 0:03:34.280 and you haven't seen her at church or anything. I 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:35.880 don't know. I mean I haven't been a church since, 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:38.680 so I haven't had the opportunity to see if she's 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:41.000 been there. So I'm not really sure. She just hasn't 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:43.160 been returning my phone call. Okay, is there anything that 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:44.560 you can think of that would make her not want 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:48.520 to call you back? Well, there's just one thing that happened. 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:51.960 I mean, she wanted to. It sounds really stupid. I 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:53.960 don't know. It just keeps me playing on my mind. 0:03:53.960 --> 0:03:58.800 So she wanted something to drink, right, So she wanted 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:04.119 orange juice. I'm like, it's cold, it's raining, it's wet outside. 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:08.520 Why would he get orange juice? If you questioned her 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:11.960 orange juice choice, did you like really tease her about it? Well, 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:14.000 I didn't think it was mean. I just listened. I 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:16.120 just went ahead and ordered her a hot chocolate. I mean, 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:18.839 I was saying. So, I was like, listen, it's cold outside. 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:20.840 So she wanted an orange juice. He said, no, you're 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:24.960 getting hot chocolate. Yeah, I did, you know. I mean, 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:27.040 I just don't understand why you would order orange juice 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:29.720 on a cold, rainy day. It's wet outside, you know, 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:32.719 just stomping off our rain boots with all this water. 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:34.920 I got my wet umbrella, and she like wants to 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:38.000 get a wet, cold orange yea, I mean that would 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:40.320 come off as a little controlling. I don't think so. 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:42.239 I mean, it just didn't make sense to me. So 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:45.919 maybe that's it. I don't know. Maybe she didn't like 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:49.800 that that happened. Did she get her orange juice at all? No? 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:54.240 Why would you get orange juice outside? Je And this 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:57.120 was at the beginning of your date. Yes, okay, at 0:04:57.120 --> 0:04:59.240 the counter, so, but all the conversation after that and 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:02.400 everything else is fine. It was cool. She was laughing, 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:04.200 I was laughing. We had a great time, right, I 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:06.520 mean the vibe was just a little weird standing there, 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:09.080 because like there were people behind us waiting, and we're 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:11.560 back and forth about the OJ and the hot chocolate, 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:14.000 and I'm displayed. I asked, did she drink the hot chocolate, 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:16.719 because I think that will be the telling sign she 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:19.800 drank it. Okay, maybe she wasn't upset by it. Well, 0:05:19.839 --> 0:05:21.760 the fact that it happened at the beginning of your 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:24.440 day and then you had a decent conversation after would 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:26.520 make me think that that's not the issue. Look, it's 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:29.040 not a perfect date. I can't say that it was 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:32.040 a perfect date, but it definitely deserves a second date. 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:36.440 I mean, I've had much worse happened than this, you know, tripping, falling, 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:39.200 people not showing up. I mean, I think I deserve 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:41.960 a second date. Cool, We're gonna play a song, come back, 0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:43.920 call her and get your second date update. All right, 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:51.960 all right, all right, hang up Brookings second date update. 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:54.680 All right, if you're just tuning in for the second 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:57.600 date update. Sean is on the phone. He met a 0:05:57.640 --> 0:06:00.800 girl named Lisa at church. She's not calling him back. 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.680 After their first date, they went out for coffee, enjoyed 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:06.159 some conversation, and you can't figure out why. The only 0:06:06.200 --> 0:06:08.280 thing that he can think of that might have turned 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:09.839 her off a little bit was at the beginning of 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:12.560 it when she ordered she ordered an orange juice at 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:14.680 the coffee place, and he kind of gave her a 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:16.480 hard time for that because it was wet and rainy 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:18.279 and cold outside, and said, why are you gonna do 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:20.239 that on a wet, rainy day? And then he ordered 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:23.200 her a hot chocolate. But the date continued and it 0:06:23.240 --> 0:06:25.000 seemed to go fine. So I don't know if that's 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:26.599 really the reason. We're about to get her on the 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:29.320 phone and find out what went wrong. Sean, you have 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:31.560 any last thoughts before we give her a call. No, 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:33.840 I mean, let's get to the bottom of this, all right. 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:35.920 And you guys haven't worked out on how you're gonna 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:39.080 win her over with your words of romance. Well, we'll 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:41.120 see what she says first before I decide what to 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:43.800 say her. It could be something terrible. You're like, I 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:45.440 don't ever want to talk to her again. Who cares? 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:47.440 All right, I'm gonna doll the phone of her right now, 0:06:47.520 --> 0:06:49.679 get her on the phone and get your second date update. 0:06:49.680 --> 0:07:04.200 Here we going. Hello, Hi, gonna speak to Lisa. Please. 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:07.440 This is Lisa. Hey, Lisa, how are you doing? This 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:10.680 is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Who 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:16.440 Jebil from Brook and Jewel in the Morning the radio show. Okay, 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:22.440 have you ever listened? Maybe one? Okay? Cool? Well, it's 0:07:22.560 --> 0:07:24.560 nice to meet you, Lisa. The reason I'm calling you 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:27.840 today is because we recently got an email about you 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:33.120 from one of our listeners. You this, m that's weird. 0:07:35.120 --> 0:07:36.680 You actually went out on a date with one of 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:40.480 our listeners. His name is Sean, and you met him 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:46.440 at church. Oh you remember meeting Sean? You remember going 0:07:46.440 --> 0:07:53.080 out with Sean obviously? Yeah, So he contacted the radio. Yeah. 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:55.000 It's the thing we do call the second date Update. 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:56.520 It's where if somebody goes on on a date and 0:07:56.560 --> 0:07:58.680 gets blown off, they email us so we can get 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:01.119 the person on the phone and ask why. Wow, Sean 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:03.360 told us about your date, and he also says that 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:05.240 you haven't been returning any of his phone calls. Do 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:07.200 you mind talking to us? For a second and telling 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:11.640 us why you're not calling him back. I didn't like him. 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:16.720 That's quite clean, all right, that's a good reason for 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:19.640 not calling somebody back. Is there a specific reason that 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:22.800 you didn't like him? Because when you talked about your date, 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:25.480 he said, you guys seem to have a good conversation 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:30.520 and enjoy each other's company. I mean, he was still 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:32.120 not right on the day. I mean, I have to 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:34.839 give him credit. Like it was raining and he came 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:38.320 to my car with his umbrella and he walked us 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:42.319 into the restaurants. So, you know, I compliment him. I 0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:45.679 told him, you know, it's really refreshing to meet a 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.920 guy who does all these things. I mean, you've been 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:51.440 really polite and you know, going out of your way 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:54.280 to be a gentleman. And then he's like, well, you know, 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:58.120 thank you. I fell as a man, it's my job 0:08:58.360 --> 0:09:00.920 to take care of my will. And you know, the 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:04.520 type of girl that I'm looking for, she just knows 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:10.880 how to be subsurvan. He said the word subservian, I 0:09:11.080 --> 0:09:16.960 would have lost it exactly. It was just over from there. 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:20.520 He pretty much wants a woman who wants to be 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:24.160 barefoot and pregnant all the time, and he said that 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:28.520 he didn't want his wife to work. He basically wanted 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:32.040 her to stay home and raise the children and cook 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:34.199 all of his mills. Oh my god, I would have 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:37.080 left right there. I can't believe you stayed through the date. 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:39.439 I was trying to hear him out. I thought like, 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:43.400 maybe I can reason with him, but he's just narrow minded, 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:45.840 and it was like trying to talk to a caveman. 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:50.560 That's why I haven't caught him back. You know, Yeah, 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:52.839 I don't blame it. I just think that that's so 0:09:53.000 --> 0:09:55.120 weird that you would continue to be that nice, not 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:57.079 that you'd have to be rude, but you know, I 0:09:57.200 --> 0:10:00.599 really just didn't want to make a scene. It was 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:03.160 just a coffee day. But I thought, just held my 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:06.079 tongue and in forty five minutes will be over and 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:11.120 I will never see this after every Well, Lisa, what 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:13.040 if I told you at least have to talk to 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:16.160 him one more time? What do you mean? I mean 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:19.600 that he's actually on the other line listening. He heard 0:10:19.640 --> 0:10:22.599 what I said. Yes he did, Yes, I've been on 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:28.880 the phone the whole time. Hey, Lisa, Oh god, what okay? 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:32.160 So tell me you didn't have fun? You didn't like it? Right, 0:10:32.240 --> 0:10:33.880 you have a good time. Did you hear what I 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:38.040 have to say? Shot, sweetie, listen, I heard it. You 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:40.319 mean okay, I'm trying to talk to me after what 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:43.640 I said about you. There's nothing wrong with a man 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:47.440 taking care of a woman and taking care of her needs. 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:50.319 That's what I'm talking about. I'm not talking about you. 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:54.480 That is not taking care of a woman and her needs. 0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:58.760 That is being controlling and condescending. And since you don't 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.439 understand that, we don't need to see each other. We 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:06.280 don't need. But here's the thing, which with me knowing 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:08.679 what you need? I know what you need. I know 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:10.600 what you want, so I'll give it to you. Oh 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:15.000 my god, are you serious? It's cold outside. Hot chocolate. 0:11:17.960 --> 0:11:20.079 I'm an old school guy, all right. Even if you 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:22.480 don't know what you need, I know what you need 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:27.360 because I'm tuned in. I'm paying attention. You're not the 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:30.320 issue here, and you're not playing your role. You don't 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:33.720 know your place. Your place is to be a woman, 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:35.840 and my place is to be a man. A man 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:39.240 has a place. It goes both ways. I know what 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:41.439 I want, I know what I need, and you cannot 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:44.920 control everyone. You cannot control every situation. You don't even 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:49.760 know me. You met me one time, side, you cannot 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:58.079 know time. Honey, honey, honey, just calmed out what I'm saying. Rest. 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:00.719 So you're telling me you don't like a gentleman. You 0:12:00.720 --> 0:12:03.800 don't like somebody opening the door for you or walking 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:05.679 in the rain, I mean, you don't like somebody doing 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:10.199 a man's job. Don't like you. I won't like you. 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:13.240 I don't like what you're about. I don't like your ideas. 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:15.720 I don't like your views. I don't like your opinions. 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:18.960 I don't like you, Sean. I don't think any woman 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:22.760 listening right now likes you, Sean. No, no, no, no. 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:24.640 There's a lot of girls out there that want to 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:27.960 be taken care of. Okay, well you go find that girl, 0:12:28.200 --> 0:12:33.480 you go find that crazy f al right, Well, okay, listen, 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:36.360 I don't have to listen to some feminist nazi on 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:40.080 the radio. Wow, you are the one who reached out 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:43.440 to me. I would not have hit up the phone 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.959 if it had been your number. I'm gonna ask the 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:49.400 question anyway. I feel like I know the answer, but 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:51.680 I could be wrong. I'm wrong a lot, Lisa, would 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:53.199 you like to go out with Sean on a second 0:12:53.240 --> 0:13:01.000 tape as well. Thank thank you very much for your time. 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:05.120 I appreciate you being honest with us. You're welcome, all right, 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:10.240 take care. Yeah, there you go, Sean. That's your answer. Man. Well, 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:12.880 you know, it looks like somebody lost out and I'm 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:15.200 just gonna go find another one. A lot of people 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:18.280 want a real gentleman. A gentleman, A gentleman believes in 0:13:18.360 --> 0:13:21.679 things like gender equality and respect for women. I don't know, 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:27.199 broken Juwil in the morning.