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Speaker 1: All right time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: is to Strawberry Letter. Thank you enough you subject. My

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Speaker 1: mama hooked me up with her friend. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm a forty year old black female and I'm an

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Speaker 1: office manager at a small business. The owner of the

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Speaker 1: business is an old family friend of my parents. He's

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Speaker 1: day operations. This older gentleman is in his seventies and

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Speaker 1: he's very sweet and pleasant. He comes to work overdressed

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Speaker 1: daily in his suit and tie and cologne. He started

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Speaker 1: He told me that he did most of the cooking

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Speaker 1: for his wife, and since she's passed away, he doesn't

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Speaker 1: have anyone to cook for. The longer he stays and

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Speaker 1: helps out. The more he talks about missing his wife.

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Speaker 1: He's been inappropriate a couple of times, telling me he

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Speaker 1: he loves big breasts on a woman. I have big breasts,

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Speaker 1: so I've started dressing more conservatively. On my birthday last week,

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Speaker 1: he insisted on taking me to lunch, and I went.

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Speaker 1: I was a little uncomfortable because it seemed like we

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Speaker 1: were on a real date. I told my parents about lunch,

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Speaker 1: mom was smirking and said he's a great man and

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Speaker 1: always has been. She said he's kind and wealthy, and

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Speaker 1: old man told them I was just his type, and

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Speaker 1: my dad didn't like it, but agreed that I am

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Speaker 1: old enough to decide what I want to do. I

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Speaker 1: told my mom there's no way I'm dating their friend,

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Speaker 1: and I'm not physically attracted to him at all. I

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Speaker 1: told my mom to tell him I'm not interested. She

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Speaker 1: told me to tell him myself. How can I politely

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Speaker 1: tell this old man that I don't want him. Well,

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Speaker 1: I think your mom's right. You should tell him yourself.

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Speaker 1: That way, there could be no reason for any misinterpretation

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Speaker 1: or any mistakes or any of that. He will get it.

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Speaker 1: He will understand. And I got to ask you, has

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Speaker 1: because so far I don't think it has. You didn't

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Speaker 1: mention in the letter that he wants to take it

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Speaker 1: any further than this or anything. But we all, including

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Speaker 1: your parents, we all know that he is very much

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Speaker 1: interested in you, and at seventy probably does want to

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Speaker 1: his kind of woman. He wants to marry you. He

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Speaker 1: you know, to tell him you're not interested. The way

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Speaker 1: don't want to lead you on. I like you, You're

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Speaker 1: a nice guy, but I'm you know, I'm not interested.

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Speaker 1: You cannot keep going out with him and keep you know,

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Speaker 1: that you know, something else's might have a chance of

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Speaker 1: going on. You know, uh, he might already be thinking

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Speaker 1: So I think you know, and it's okay. If you're

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Speaker 1: And that's my answer. So just tell him nicely, tell

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Speaker 1: Steve hopefully. Well, you don't want to crush him. Oh

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Speaker 1: he's seven. He'd be all right. He's had way more

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Speaker 1: crushing news and his life stopped thinking. Y'all need to

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Speaker 1: stop thinking that old people to these fragile individuals. Old

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Speaker 1: people know how to suffer old people. Man, you date,

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Speaker 1: they're good at it. He's seventy colored, only water fountains,

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Speaker 1: all types of stuff. You too. I don't want to

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Speaker 1: date you a hand. He'll be fine, But let me

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Speaker 1: tell you a couple of things. Now, you farty you know,

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Speaker 1: think he gonna be hellified? But in the words of

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Speaker 1: my daddy, any day now, oh wow? Uh. You know,

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Speaker 1: the older gentleman's in his seventies. He's very sweet and pleasant.

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Speaker 1: He comes to works overdressed daily in his suit and

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Speaker 1: Tieme cologne. He ain't overdressed the old player. Why is

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Speaker 1: he overdressed? He the head of the company. He ain't overdressed.

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Speaker 1: He coming fire you all this. He started bringing me

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Speaker 1: So you went. So now he coming to work dressed

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Speaker 1: the letter says, I have big breast. You know that.

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Speaker 1: That's why he said it. Why do you think you're

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Speaker 1: getting that food to keep him? Don't you think he's

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Speaker 1: bringing it food down hill so he can watch him

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Speaker 1: lean over and dip in it. That what I'll tell

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Speaker 1: you the rest possible re enactment when we come back. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we have part we'll have part two of Steve's response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes. After my mama hooked

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Speaker 1: back right after this. You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subjects my mama hooked

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Speaker 1: me up with her friend. Well, your mama then hooked

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Speaker 1: you up with this older gentleman that's a friend of theirs,

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Speaker 1: that has a company, because you'd office manager out there,

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Speaker 1: but he didn't got some health issues in sick, and

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Speaker 1: you know, same DNA, so he's probably gonna have some

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Speaker 1: health fissure coming up shortly. He's in his seventies. He's

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Speaker 1: very sweet and pleasant. He comes in to work overdressed.

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Speaker 1: That's because he's hitting on you. He bringed lunch because

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Speaker 1: he missed cooking for his wife. He could cook. He's

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Speaker 1: You have big breasts, so you'd started dressing more conservatively

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Speaker 1: on your birthday last week. He insisted on taking me

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Speaker 1: because it seemed like we were on a real day. Well,

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Speaker 1: for my birthday? Come on, now, he'd have told you

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Speaker 1: he liked big breass. Ain't you got her? He cook

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Speaker 1: Ain't you noticed it? My mama was smirking. It's I

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Speaker 1: telling me yourself, how can I politely tell this old

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Speaker 1: Your old man? I know why, because you ain't got nobody,

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Speaker 1: I'm just telling you now to daddy. He really can't

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Speaker 1: we're gonna do a reenactment. We're out on a date

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Speaker 1: and I want you to just have a conversation with me.

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Speaker 1: I'm the old set me old dude on the date

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Speaker 1: and you're just trying to make general conversation. You're trying

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Speaker 1: Let's go. So thank you for bringing me to lunch.

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Speaker 1: How is your day? Oh? My day? Good now baby girl? Um,

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Speaker 1: I do all the time. Oh that's good. What's your

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Speaker 1: the church? No, I'd helped me Jesus the name of it,

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Speaker 1: because that's all I say from time I walk in

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Speaker 1: bring it in here, Donna? How long? How long have

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Speaker 1: you been friends with my mom and dad? Long enough

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Speaker 1: to get to know you. I don't really like your daddy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: really pissing him on? Did Well? My mom likes you.

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Speaker 1: My mom thinks you're great. Yeah. I think your mother's

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Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, that's what some people say. I know

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? Well, you know, what um

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Speaker 1: have you? I'm Class Carter. Have you read any good books? Class?

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Speaker 1: Have you read any good books lately? Seen any good

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