Speaker 1: Hell I Sucked at Dating with Me Youngler and Dared
Speaker 1: Haven and I heart radio podcast What's going On, Sucky Daters?
Speaker 1: Welcome to an all new episode of Help I Sucked
Speaker 1: at Dating and I just want to be the first
Speaker 1: to apologize on both of our behalfs for getting this
Speaker 1: episode out a little later than we usually do. Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm getting a phone call. Hopefully it's somebody
Speaker 1: at least no, but it was some random New Jersey number.
Speaker 1: It's somebody who wants to extend your car warranty. Bastards.
Speaker 1: I get so upset with those guys, I really call.
Speaker 1: I yelled back at them, so preditory. Anyways, have you
Speaker 1: ever fought? Have you ever fell for one? I felt
Speaker 1: for a cruise line one time. Somebody called me and
Speaker 1: said that this is a couple of years ago. This
Speaker 1: is when I was, I mean still very naive. But
Speaker 1: I got a phone call and it said you want
Speaker 1: to prize for a cruise line. I said okay, and
Speaker 1: then they were going through what I won. I said, okay,
Speaker 1: what do I have to do? And they're like, we
Speaker 1: we just need a credit card on file and I said,
Speaker 1: never mind, no, thank you, But for a good two minutes.
Speaker 1: I was like, I think I'm about to go on
Speaker 1: to cruise. He didn't really fall for it, though, which
Speaker 1: is good, thank god. Anyhow, continue your story. Yeah, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: why are our our episodes coming out a little bit late?
Speaker 1: Just wanted to apologize for that. The reason being we
Speaker 1: were out celebrating our friend Ben who is obviously getting
Speaker 1: married to Jess and we just couldn't record last week
Speaker 1: and so this is kind of the earliest time we're
Speaker 1: able to do that. Um. Yeah, and that's about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're down in Cabo for Ben higgins bachelor party. We
Speaker 1: had a beautiful villa down there, was my first time
Speaker 1: down there. Uh, it's awesome, obviously, that is that the
Speaker 1: dumbest thing I've ever said. Cabo is awesome. It's like
Speaker 1: I will I don't know, I feel we were talking
Speaker 1: about Ben's bachelor party, like are we should we talk
Speaker 1: about it? Is it like kind of like his thing?
Speaker 1: So we're just gonna be like, yeah, we were there,
Speaker 1: and then that's kind of the end of it. Well,
Speaker 1: do nothing crazy happened. It's not like we're exposing people.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know, but it's like there were I
Speaker 1: won't say who it is, but there were a few
Speaker 1: single guys there. Most of us were in relationships. You me,
Speaker 1: Nick Wells, a bunch of Ben's friends, you know, they're
Speaker 1: all in relationships. A few single guys, and a few
Speaker 1: single guys may have brought home a few single ladies
Speaker 1: on night one. I was not there for it. Of course,
Speaker 1: we didn't get anything too rowdy. But I guess my
Speaker 1: point is, even you know, rowdy or not rowdy, it
Speaker 1: just doesn't really feel like it's our thing to talk about.
Speaker 1: But I mean, I guess we were there. It's just
Speaker 1: it's just like it's like ben Special weekend, and then
Speaker 1: here we are talking about it on a podcast. Just
Speaker 1: feels kind of kind of weird, don't you think? You know,
Speaker 1: am I overthinking that? I think if something happened, I'd
Speaker 1: be like, shut up, Dean, don't say anything more. But
Speaker 1: seeing how I mean, I was only so you were
Speaker 1: there for four nights. I was there for two nights.
Speaker 1: I left a little bit earlier early because moved into
Speaker 1: my apartment and I still had some final projects to
Speaker 1: finish up in school, so I was a little over
Speaker 1: well on the but and I still really wanted to go,
Speaker 1: So I went on Thursday. I went Wednesday Thursday, and
Speaker 1: they left Friday, and then you left Sunday. I mean
Speaker 1: we went golfing. You shot in eighty five, which is nice.
Speaker 1: I sucked, ass. It was god such because it was
Speaker 1: like a four and a half hour I golfed with Blake.
Speaker 1: Blake sucked. I sucked, Our group sucked. But it was
Speaker 1: still a fun day. There was a cart girl that
Speaker 1: was going around and they were like, let's take tequila shots.
Speaker 1: And I, you know, as a as a guy, I
Speaker 1: guess the human being in general, you wanna, you wanna,
Speaker 1: you wanna hang out right, you want to blend in.
Speaker 1: And you were like, hey, if you're taking a shot,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take a shot. But in that moment, they're
Speaker 1: gonna take shots tequila. It was like two o'clock in
Speaker 1: the afternoon. I was like, I just don't want a
Speaker 1: shot of tequila. What I really want is I want
Speaker 1: a Voca pineapple. So I ordered a Voca pine apple
Speaker 1: while the other three gentlemen ordered three shots of tequilas.
Speaker 1: And when they took their shot at tequila, I took
Speaker 1: a sip of my nice and fruity and very refreshing
Speaker 1: Voca pine apple, And it was a moment where I
Speaker 1: felt very secure in myself because I realized, Hey, I
Speaker 1: ordered what I wanted. I didn't succumb to the pressure
Speaker 1: because a lot of times you're like, oh, if you're
Speaker 1: taking a shot, I'm taking a shot, and then most
Speaker 1: of the times I smell tequila and I immediately want
Speaker 1: to throw up. Anyway, So why am I doing this
Speaker 1: when I don't want to get drunk. I don't enjoy
Speaker 1: the taste. Ye Anyway, that's my spiel. Uh, what I
Speaker 1: started doing whenever I am golfing and people want to
Speaker 1: take shots on the golf course. The nice thing is
Speaker 1: you're outside, and the thing about when you take a
Speaker 1: shot is you're looking up at the sky and you're
Speaker 1: like throwing your head back, so you probably got like
Speaker 1: three seconds of blurred vision. You're not really seeing what's
Speaker 1: going on. And so what I've always just done is
Speaker 1: I or what I've not always done, but I've started
Speaker 1: doing over the past like four or five months, is
Speaker 1: I'll take the shot, or I'll say that I'm taking
Speaker 1: the shot, and as everyone throws the shot back, I
Speaker 1: just tossed it over my shoulder. I've done. It's probably
Speaker 1: a good ten times and no one that. There was
Speaker 1: one time I got busted for it, but it was
Speaker 1: only because the guy in the group that didn't take
Speaker 1: a shot I saw me do it, and he didn't
Speaker 1: say anything. He just looked at me and laughed. So
Speaker 1: if you ever find yourself in that situation, because I agree,
Speaker 1: it's like you don't want to be the only guy
Speaker 1: that's not taking shots. But then it's like, I just
Speaker 1: don't want to be getting wasted on a Wednesday at
Speaker 1: three pm, you know, like it doesn't it's not as
Speaker 1: appealing to me as it used to be. But so
Speaker 1: that's that's kind of my method is just toss it
Speaker 1: behind your head real quick and then make your grimacing
Speaker 1: face like, oh that was that was really hard to swallow, right, guys,
Speaker 1: those good guys. Huh, you're feeling it. I'm feeling it.
Speaker 1: Let's get let's shoot some golf balls. Now, let's do it. Boys.
Speaker 1: I know it is funny, how like camaraderite amongst men
Speaker 1: is to drink and then Yeah, So we played a
Speaker 1: lot of golf with Jared on Thursday Friday. You went
Speaker 1: on a boat, didn't you were left? I left beforehand.
Speaker 1: My flight left pretty early. But they all went on
Speaker 1: a boat. You didn't go on the boat. No, I,
Speaker 1: so Wells was also there. Wells and I golfed every
Speaker 1: single day. We golf on Thursday with the big group,
Speaker 1: Friday just us two, and then Saturday with two of
Speaker 1: the other Ben's other buddies. So we were it was
Speaker 1: a golf trip for me and well Less. I'm good.
Speaker 1: That's good. I'm glad you were. You went and hung
Speaker 1: out with Ben at Ben's bachelor party. Okay, but let's
Speaker 1: say this, who's the bigger asshole here? The guys that
Speaker 1: go to play golf every single day or the guy
Speaker 1: that leaves two thirds of a third of the way
Speaker 1: in the bachelor party. I'd argue you were the big
Speaker 1: asshole because Ben knew that I was only gonna be
Speaker 1: there for two nights, where you were like, oh, we're
Speaker 1: gonna be there for four nights, and then while you
Speaker 1: were there, you're like, well, I'm not going to hang
Speaker 1: out Ben at least my two nights. I was like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm here for Ben. I'm gonna hang out with Ben. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess. So I still hung out with
Speaker 1: Ben every day after three pm, though, But where were
Speaker 1: you you were in Rhode Island right in your research paper,
Speaker 1: right my research paper, and just putting together my Tom
Speaker 1: Brady Shrine, which is coming along quite nicely and I'm
Speaker 1: very proud of it. There may be Tampa Bay Buccaneers
Speaker 1: bobblehead Tom Brady. I'm sure that red and black, and
Speaker 1: it throws off the whole blue and red color scheme
Speaker 1: now at all, it all blends in. Thank god he
Speaker 1: didn't go to the Cowboys, now that would not have
Speaker 1: messed with my color scheme. But like Dean was saying,
Speaker 1: we do have a great episode. We have Kate harl
Speaker 1: Sin coming on now. Kate is a TikTok user and
Speaker 1: she's made recent news because she is the girl that
Speaker 1: posted the video of her face timing with Matthew Perry.
Speaker 1: Matthew Perry is Chandler from Friends. He's a little bit older.
Speaker 1: He's in his fifties. I think he's fifty one. And
Speaker 1: then he matched with Kate who's nineteen years old on
Speaker 1: Riya and they I'm assuming exchanged phone numbers which is
Speaker 1: how they ended up face timing. And then she posted
Speaker 1: a video of her face timing with matt Few on
Speaker 1: her TikTok, and it blew up because people were saying
Speaker 1: that it was creepy for Matthew Perry to be matching
Speaker 1: with a nineteen year old on RYA. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I have thought about this. I'm excited to talk to
Speaker 1: Kate about her experience. She has since been removed from
Speaker 1: the dating app Riya because it said that she violated
Speaker 1: their terms of agreement, which is to say that you're
Speaker 1: not supposed to, you know, say who or who isn't
Speaker 1: on Riot because it's like a very. I mean, we
Speaker 1: talked about right before on this podcast. It's like a very.
Speaker 1: It's it's meant to be looked at as like an
Speaker 1: elite dating app with celebrities, and you're nobody wants to
Speaker 1: be exposed, whether you're on Ryan or not. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's a whole thing. You gotta get approved to get
Speaker 1: on Riya. It's a whole thing. Anyway, Kate will be
Speaker 1: coming up very soon. UM, I don't know. Do you
Speaker 1: have any thoughts about that, Dean, about what's your instinct?
Speaker 1: Which side are you on Kate's side or matt perry
Speaker 1: side Before we have her to come on, I don't
Speaker 1: want to say I'm I'm onn sides here, okay, I
Speaker 1: have multiple thoughts, uh, and I have differing opinions about it.
Speaker 1: I think I'd like to talk to her about why
Speaker 1: if she felt creeped out, why she uh, why she
Speaker 1: matched with him, like, because you know, obviously with the
Speaker 1: match we I'm sure we've all been done dating apps,
Speaker 1: like you say you like someone and then they like
Speaker 1: you and then you can start talking. So I'm curious
Speaker 1: why she did that. She said that she wanted to
Speaker 1: expose older men in Hollywood take advantage of younger women
Speaker 1: on dating apps. Um m hmmm. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: mean if it was okay, I didn't watch the whole FaceTime,
Speaker 1: but watched like a second a second of it, and
Speaker 1: it seemed like they were just playing like a game
Speaker 1: like flirting. I don't know, because the thing is, like,
Speaker 1: I know, like the first thing that came to my
Speaker 1: mind was Dane Cook. I don't know if you know
Speaker 1: who Dane Cook is, obviously the comedian Dane Cook. Let
Speaker 1: me look up his age right now. Because Dane Cook
Speaker 1: was dating a twenty year old a nineteen year old,
Speaker 1: I believe, um, and then he got some flak for
Speaker 1: that so he's forty nine, and he was probably like
Speaker 1: forty eight when he started dating his girlfriend, and I
Speaker 1: believe she was nineteen when they started dating, and I
Speaker 1: think the is like a twenty year difference, um, and
Speaker 1: they seem to be happily in love. And then the
Speaker 1: other one, obviously that I thought of, was Nick. I mean, hey,
Speaker 1: we all know Nick's you know, Nick looks twenty seven.
Speaker 1: The guy looks younger than us, I mean, he is.
Speaker 1: Everybody talks about Tom Brady and how that dude doesn't age.
Speaker 1: Nick vill ages backwards. That guy looks younger today than
Speaker 1: he did on Andy Door from in season. He is
Speaker 1: a specimen. So I'm really buttering up Nick before I
Speaker 1: say that he's you know, we all know he's forty.
Speaker 1: And then Natalie's girlfriend, who's amazing, who we love. I
Speaker 1: I think she's mature for age. She's great. She's twenty three,
Speaker 1: I believe. So you know, what would we say about
Speaker 1: that is that well, I mean, the obvious thing is
Speaker 1: fifty days nineteen is a much bigger gap than totally agree.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. I think it's even
Speaker 1: just listening to you talked about it kind put my
Speaker 1: stance on a little bit because I was like kind
Speaker 1: of Matthew Perry side a little bit in this in
Speaker 1: this case where it's like, yeah, yeah, it's probably a
Speaker 1: little too big of an age gap to uh to bridge,
Speaker 1: Like you know, you fifty, you should probably getting a
Speaker 1: look close to your age, especially my team, Like if
Speaker 1: you're not over twenty one, if you can't bring a
Speaker 1: girl on a date to a bar art, that probably
Speaker 1: in and of itself is enough of a sign that
Speaker 1: you should be dating this person. But also, like you said,
Speaker 1: like this girl had her age filter as high as
Speaker 1: you know, however it was for it to be to
Speaker 1: hit Matt Perry. So it's like, you know, if you're
Speaker 1: a twenty one year old girl and you just like
Speaker 1: year old man, that's kind of just what you like.
Speaker 1: And so it's that's like that's why the age filters
Speaker 1: on there, so you can like do that. And so
Speaker 1: if you're a fifth year old guy and you see
Speaker 1: this pretty twenty year old girl, I want to talk
Speaker 1: to you like, yeah, I guess you could get a
Speaker 1: little excited. I don't know, I I don't know. Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: I hear you, buddy, We both don't now. But I'm
Speaker 1: excited to talk to Kate about it, and and kind
Speaker 1: of died more into that, but before she comes on.
Speaker 1: Another guy that kind of got called out on a
Speaker 1: dating app was Ben Affleck who sent a video. I
Speaker 1: don't know if you've seen this video, but I forget
Speaker 1: what dating app it was. I think it might have
Speaker 1: been Riya as well. Um but he somebody unmatched with
Speaker 1: him on Riya that he was talking to and he
Speaker 1: I think she unmatched with him because she didn't believe
Speaker 1: that it was actually Ben Affleck. Look at that. I
Speaker 1: just got a phone call to potential spam extended warranty.
Speaker 1: These people just do not give up. Um so is
Speaker 1: this is this girl? Navine? J Navine J Navine? I
Speaker 1: believe it is? And um so Affleck? Okay, So ben
Speaker 1: Affleck found her on Instagram after she unmatched with him.
Speaker 1: I'm assuming on Riya. Uh and uh, he sent a
Speaker 1: video he said, Navine, why did you unmatch me? It's
Speaker 1: me to prove that he was actually Ben Affleck talking
Speaker 1: to her. Uh. And people again, there's people on both sides,
Speaker 1: people saying that she shouldn't have posted about it. It
Speaker 1: was a private video that was you know, innocent, enough,
Speaker 1: and then other people saying it was creepy because Ben's
Speaker 1: an older guy. She I think again is nineteen or twenty.
Speaker 1: Uh So anyway, that's why it's really in the news
Speaker 1: right now. But Ben Affleck also speaking about him, is
Speaker 1: rumored to be back with Jennifer Lopez. If you heard
Speaker 1: about this celebrity dating news I'm on this. Have you
Speaker 1: heard about it? Well? Back to back to the Ben
Speaker 1: Affleck dating or pat thing. I think that one is
Speaker 1: way less currenty than the Matt Perry one. He was
Speaker 1: just like, I don't know, I read I saw the
Speaker 1: headline and it was like Ben Affleck sends really creepy
Speaker 1: video to girl that blocked him on dating appen And
Speaker 1: it's like, well, it's not really as bad as they
Speaker 1: make it seem. It's just like it kind of like
Speaker 1: kind of goofy and silly in my opinion for Ben
Speaker 1: to do that the video. Yeah, I think he was
Speaker 1: trying to be funny in the video because it's like
Speaker 1: a it's like a close up of him and he's
Speaker 1: like it's me. I mean, I don't know, but who
Speaker 1: the hell huge Ben Affleck fan, Boston guy? You know,
Speaker 1: Ben Matt Mock you know, I support the local guys.
Speaker 1: They were for the socks. But Ben Affleck also in
Speaker 1: the news because he's rumored to be back with Jennifer Lopez. Um,
Speaker 1: what was their name again? What the hell was their
Speaker 1: dating name? Oh? Ben Bennefer So that was my god,
Speaker 1: fifteen years ago. This was before he dated Jennifer Gardner
Speaker 1: and then they got married and had kids, and now
Speaker 1: they're obviously divorced. And now he's back with j Lo apparently,
Speaker 1: which I am stoked about. Bring me some benefit. You know,
Speaker 1: she just ended up breaking off the engagement with Alex Rodriguez,
Speaker 1: who like whatever Yankee could care less about. And then
Speaker 1: you know, Ben Affleck because I love the diconomy before
Speaker 1: between them, like j Lo is this stunning, freaking badass
Speaker 1: woman who's just like, you know, she's she's awesome. And
Speaker 1: then Ben Afflecks like kind of like disheveled Boston guy
Speaker 1: who's good looking but like, I don't know, I'm in it.
Speaker 1: Who has had a better acting career in your opinion,
Speaker 1: Ben Affleck or Matthew Perry, Who would you consider more successful?
Speaker 1: So it's not even close. It's Affleck, Affleck and then
Speaker 1: and now through Alex Rodriguez into the mix two Ben
Speaker 1: Affleck or A Rod, I would I would say, I
Speaker 1: would say Ben Affleck. Removing bias from this, Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: there's no bio. Honestly, I'm removing my bias. I think
Speaker 1: Ben Affleck is a bigger star than Alex Rodriguez, and
Speaker 1: it has probably have had more successful career. Like A
Speaker 1: Rod was obviously an incredible baseball player who ended up
Speaker 1: winning one World Series with the New York Yankees, but
Speaker 1: it wasn't like, you know, he got a lot of
Speaker 1: flak for not being clutched in the playoffs and and
Speaker 1: you know, not being on a lot of winning teams,
Speaker 1: and he was just kind of an individual player and
Speaker 1: and uh, you know he's he's he's had a good
Speaker 1: post career, you know, dating Jennifer Lopez and being a commentator.
Speaker 1: But Ben, I mean you think about Ben Affleck starting
Speaker 1: off of Goodwill hunting. That was in the mid nine
Speaker 1: nineties and he's been around ever since I was twenty
Speaker 1: five years ago. He's won an Academy Award. He said this,
Speaker 1: I agree. I would have agreed with you if the
Speaker 1: New Batman never came out. Dude, he is the best
Speaker 1: batman on screen. Ever, I will this is the hill
Speaker 1: I will die on. Ben Affleck is my favorite Batman
Speaker 1: of all time. I love Michael Keaton, I really like
Speaker 1: Christian Bale. I think Robert Pattinson is going to crush
Speaker 1: the role. But as of right now, my opinion, Ben
Speaker 1: Affleck is the best Batman that's ever graced our cinematic
Speaker 1: theaters because was he in the best Batman movie? No,
Speaker 1: The Dark Knight is the best Batman movie. But that
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that he's not the best Batman. That's my case. Well,
Speaker 1: you didn't really make a case, though, you just kind
Speaker 1: of said. You just said things that were true. I
Speaker 1: don't want to go too far into it. But one
Speaker 1: of the reasons why I love Ben Affleck is Batman
Speaker 1: is because I love the idea of an older, damaged
Speaker 1: Batman who's been around for like twenty years and has
Speaker 1: seen some serious stuff, you know, like even the line
Speaker 1: and Batman v. Superman. He's like, twenty years of Gotham,
Speaker 1: how many good guys are left? And it's so true,
Speaker 1: right because he's just like seeing so many people backstab
Speaker 1: him or kill people, and he's like he's kind of
Speaker 1: messed up in the head. As you would be if
Speaker 1: you dressed up like a bat and fought villains at night.
Speaker 1: And I love that, and I love how big he
Speaker 1: is in that role. Like he's just like this brooding
Speaker 1: human being and he's a little bit darker and damaged
Speaker 1: and like he's able to like just like break bones
Speaker 1: with his hands, and like that is batman. That is
Speaker 1: Batman right there. Any that's he definitely is a little
Speaker 1: bit darker of a batman than Christian Bale. And Belle's
Speaker 1: voice gone on my nerves a little bit. Oh no,
Speaker 1: we're hockey bats. I thought he was good, but he's good.
Speaker 1: I didn'tay he was bad. But my opinion, yes, my
Speaker 1: humble opinion. Wow, nobody's listening anymore at this point. Right
Speaker 1: before we get the break, we want to cover one
Speaker 1: more big. There's a lot of like these crazy dating headlines.
Speaker 1: I feel like that that have been kind of going
Speaker 1: around lately. So as I'm sure most of you already know,
Speaker 1: Bill Gates and his wife broke up, but oh right
Speaker 1: after the marriage. Okay, so Bill Gates took getaways with
Speaker 1: his ex girlfriend after his marriage to Melinda, which they
Speaker 1: must be. They must have been broken up for a
Speaker 1: while because yeah, they were married for a while. I'm
Speaker 1: sure they've been kind of on the rocks for quite
Speaker 1: a long time and have seen this coming. What's what's
Speaker 1: your take on the Bill Gates Melinda Gates thing. I mean,
Speaker 1: I really don't have a take on it. I mean,
Speaker 1: they're just they're getting divorced. I'm surprised this is such
Speaker 1: big news, I guess because they've been marriage for someone
Speaker 1: and Bill Gates's such a big name. But it's like
Speaker 1: it's sad. Anytime you see you a divorce, it's sad.
Speaker 1: But I guess I have really no investment in level
Speaker 1: in Bill Gates, right, I'm always surprised to see This
Speaker 1: might sound bad, but I'm always surprised to see people
Speaker 1: of a certain age get divorced. You know, like Bill
Speaker 1: Gates was what sixties seventies something years old and yes,
Speaker 1: see the one of the wealthiest men in the in
Speaker 1: the world, and me Linda obviously around the same age
Speaker 1: as well. It's just like once you're single at that age,
Speaker 1: you know, it's just it's a little harder to grant
Speaker 1: to the dating pool, especially they were married for twenty
Speaker 1: seven years. Like he felt like you're getting divorced after
Speaker 1: a year and a half of marriage, because you guys
Speaker 1: see each other's guts. Like you guys, they've been married,
Speaker 1: they've been together longer than I've been probably, I know,
Speaker 1: like I think about that too. How do you change
Speaker 1: your life, you know, if you're with someone for forty
Speaker 1: years or however long Bill Gates and me Linda were together.
Speaker 1: Like I mean, like you said, I've been with Ashley
Speaker 1: for I've only known her for five years, and I
Speaker 1: can't like I can't imagine my life without her, even
Speaker 1: in the bad times. So I mean the idea of
Speaker 1: just you know, saying, Okay, you know we're gonna we're
Speaker 1: gonna divorce in our lives are drastically going to change
Speaker 1: after being together for forty years, obviously, you know it's
Speaker 1: it went south, and I wish the two of them happiness.
Speaker 1: But like, other than that, I don't really have too
Speaker 1: many thoughts on it. Just some other guy who's not
Speaker 1: been Affleck making the headline. Yeah listen, if it was
Speaker 1: Benny Boy, I'd have all the thoughts in the world
Speaker 1: about it, you know, I mean, all right, well that's
Speaker 1: that's gonna do it. For this first little bit of help,
Speaker 1: I second dating. We have Kate coming in, so stick
Speaker 1: around through the break and we will see you shortly.
Speaker 1: All right, welcome back to help I suck at dating
Speaker 1: Dean myself of course, and we have a very special
Speaker 1: guest on the line right now. She's been in the
Speaker 1: news recently about a TikTok video that she posted while
Speaker 1: face timing Matthew Perry. It is Kate Harrelson. Kate, thank
Speaker 1: you so much for joining us and help my second dating.
Speaker 1: How are you good? How are you? Thank you guys
Speaker 1: for having me? Of course? Did I pronounce your last
Speaker 1: name properly? Harolson? Yeah? Okay, yeah, you're pronounced it perfectly.
Speaker 1: I'm a lot of people, Butcher usually. Oh, very proud
Speaker 1: of myself then. Um so, Kate, obviously you've been in
Speaker 1: the news recently because you are You were on Riya
Speaker 1: and you matched with Matthew Perry. Matthew Perry is uh,
Speaker 1: the guy who plays Chandler on Friends, and he is
Speaker 1: a bit older. He's fifty one. Uh. And you guys,
Speaker 1: you were nineteen if I'm correct. Yeah, I was nineteen
Speaker 1: at the time. Okay, so how long ago did this happen?
Speaker 1: This was a year ago? Like pretty much almost year ago,
Speaker 1: last year, and like, may okay um, so why don't
Speaker 1: you just tell us a story a little bit. So
Speaker 1: you matched? You saw Matthew Perry on Riya and what
Speaker 1: happened after that? Yes, I was with a girlfriend and
Speaker 1: I had saw the match come up and we're like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is funny, like, oh my gosh, most people would
Speaker 1: you know, do the same thing. See a celebrity, they
Speaker 1: match with them. And then he started messaging me and
Speaker 1: this is funny. Let's just go along with it. And
Speaker 1: then he said, oh, we should face them so time,
Speaker 1: and we were like first I was like pretty hesitant,
Speaker 1: and then I was like, you know, like this is funny,
Speaker 1: Like let's just do it like battle come out of it,
Speaker 1: like harmless. So then I gave him my number and
Speaker 1: he had texted me a little bit and then called
Speaker 1: me later that night and we just FaceTime and it's
Speaker 1: somewhat harmless, you know, we just played questions back and
Speaker 1: forth whatnot. But we just thought it was really funny.
Speaker 1: He never really thought anything of it. And then a
Speaker 1: year later, the ben athlete girl posted the TikTok and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, this is funny. He's trending maybe
Speaker 1: I should just hop on the trend, not really expecting
Speaker 1: it to blow up like it said. I have a question, so, so,
Speaker 1: did you ever get to meet Matthew Perry face to
Speaker 1: face or no? No, he tried to hang out, but
Speaker 1: I never hung out with him. I just I figured
Speaker 1: I would keep it at the FaceTime and leave it
Speaker 1: up that. I mean, it is Chandler from Friends though,
Speaker 1: so it would have been a very funny story. I
Speaker 1: guess my question is, uh, you have to have your
Speaker 1: age letter to go up that high too, so it
Speaker 1: was still you know, it's still a little bit of
Speaker 1: reciprocity there, right, Yeah. I mean I didn't realize that
Speaker 1: my letter was even up really, so when I match
Speaker 1: with my song, I was like, okay, like whatever, and
Speaker 1: then we had a match. But I never really like
Speaker 1: talked to older guys or anything and started with my thing.
Speaker 1: I just honestly more thought of it as kind of like,
Speaker 1: but you see Chandler from Friends on Riyo, you're definitely
Speaker 1: swiping right for that exactly. I think that everyone would
Speaker 1: have done the same thing as me. So how do
Speaker 1: you feel now after posting the video? Do you feel
Speaker 1: like do you still feel like feel good? About it.
Speaker 1: Stand by all that kind of stuff. Um, I mean yeah,
Speaker 1: I didn't think it would blow up as fast as
Speaker 1: it did, but it did. And I mean everyone was like, oh,
Speaker 1: you should just post it like benaff the girls doing
Speaker 1: it like it's fine. My boss was telling me it's
Speaker 1: so funny, you should do it. I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: like it's fine. I still stand by it. I mean
Speaker 1: it was just a harmless to talk and really, and
Speaker 1: I think everyone's just taking it too seriously. I think
Speaker 1: I read in the I think I read in the
Speaker 1: article that they banned you from the dating app? Is
Speaker 1: that true? Yeah, they banned me. They banned me from Ryan.
Speaker 1: I happened pretty quick after the article went out, But
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, and so even with that considered,
Speaker 1: you still think you still like, don't regret it at all,
Speaker 1: just because now it's like, you know, I get to
Speaker 1: be on Bumble or Tinder. You lost. I'm it is
Speaker 1: a bummer, But I mean I wasn't really using it
Speaker 1: that much anyway anymore. I was kind of like, I've
Speaker 1: been on it for long enough, so at this point
Speaker 1: you had to sacrifice, you know, what I did for
Speaker 1: my Ryane membership. I guess is it really strange to
Speaker 1: make a TikTok video and then all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: like you're having like these news articles written about you.
Speaker 1: Uh you know, sure enough, you're here on this podcast, Like,
Speaker 1: has that been weird? It's been so weird. I really
Speaker 1: did not to make news headlines like a has been.
Speaker 1: Like I've had old people, like all my old friends
Speaker 1: hitting me up like everyone, and I'm like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I mean even like Inside Edition and tried to call
Speaker 1: my mom and she was like, no comment. So when
Speaker 1: you said you you posted the video, because I don't
Speaker 1: want to speak for you, obviously, but the way I'm
Speaker 1: I'm hearing it, it makes it sound like you posted
Speaker 1: the video and you didn't think much about it. It
Speaker 1: wasn't like you're posting it to like, quote unquote expose anybody. Yeah. No,
Speaker 1: I wasn't trying to expose them at all or anything.
Speaker 1: I just kind of thought, literally since the ben after
Speaker 1: girl trying to differ it, I was like, Okay, maybe
Speaker 1: like this will get a few views like here and there,
Speaker 1: But I did not expect the backlash of it at all,
Speaker 1: like negative, negative backlash. Um. Yeah, I mean a lot
Speaker 1: of people are like not very happy with me. But
Speaker 1: I guess it comes with the price of posting back,
Speaker 1: especially since it's such like a beloved TV character. But
Speaker 1: when you say so, when you say people aren't happy
Speaker 1: with you about it, what does that mean exactly? Like
Speaker 1: how are how are they expressing their frustration? Just a
Speaker 1: lot of like hate comments, negative calling me like, oh,
Speaker 1: you're just exposing trying to get out you're at the
Speaker 1: tea minutes the same, which I was like, that was
Speaker 1: not my intention at all. Yeah, it's crazy. It's a
Speaker 1: it's a polarizing conversation to say the least, and a
Speaker 1: lot of people have different opinions. I mean, any hate comments,
Speaker 1: those people should just I have no time for those people,
Speaker 1: Like nobody should be You can have your opinions, and
Speaker 1: you are very entitled to your opinion. But anytime you're
Speaker 1: writing hateful comments like whether they agree with what you
Speaker 1: did or didn't don't agree with you, like, you know,
Speaker 1: there's no need for that. Um. A lot of comments,
Speaker 1: a lot of hate comments, So I know, I know
Speaker 1: what's going on. Um, exactly, I think they're the ones
Speaker 1: just sitting on the screen board, you know, hating on
Speaker 1: keyboard Warrior have there been Have there been any other
Speaker 1: notable people that you've matched with then you don't have
Speaker 1: like out or anything like that, But like, are there
Speaker 1: any other crazy stories? Not anything too crazy? I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously I've been like a lot of celebrities on there.
Speaker 1: I mean when Ben Afflick was on there, I saw
Speaker 1: him on there. But like I've seen a few other
Speaker 1: celebrities been one like super crazy or anything like that.
Speaker 1: A lot of just like pheographers stuff like that. So
Speaker 1: I was on Riot years ago and I did not
Speaker 1: know that you couldn't um like tell other people who
Speaker 1: are on who's on Ryan, who's not on Riya? And
Speaker 1: because you know, you have to, like we talked about
Speaker 1: in the Pockets, you have to get approved, like there's
Speaker 1: this whole thing with Riya. And I saw someone I
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, I can't believe this person's
Speaker 1: on Riot. And I went to go screenshot and sent
Speaker 1: it to a buddy of mine, and as soon as
Speaker 1: I screenshot at it, it was like it was like
Speaker 1: red alerts everywhere and saying like you if you you know,
Speaker 1: you can't screenshot, you can't say that if you do
Speaker 1: it again, you're gonna be kicked off the app and
Speaker 1: also holy craps, like all right, learned my lesson? Never mind. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they're really serious, no screenshots, nothing that's crazy, which I
Speaker 1: guess I guess that's kind of what you sign up for.
Speaker 1: But oh, do you have a boyfriend now or have
Speaker 1: you been dating anyone now? I mean I'm dating around
Speaker 1: a little bit like here, and they're seeing people more,
Speaker 1: just like, has it been weird talking to someone that
Speaker 1: you're interested in that's already like maybe seen your video
Speaker 1: or like anything like that, Um, a little bit. I
Speaker 1: mean they think it's more funny. I mean a lot
Speaker 1: of guys I talked to about like kind of around
Speaker 1: my age, so they all think it's kind of like
Speaker 1: funny on the same page as me. So it's a
Speaker 1: little weird but not too weird. They don't really care
Speaker 1: how people message me on like other dating apps me like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I saw like your TikTok is growing
Speaker 1: up like that. It's so crazy. They're kind of like
Speaker 1: just just don't do the same thing for me. But
Speaker 1: one of our producer's favorite favorite lines, Matt Perry said,
Speaker 1: was do you always play with your hair like that?
Speaker 1: Do you always heard with yours? Yes? Creepy, I guess.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, it seemed pretty pretty harmless, right,
Speaker 1: It was pretty harmless exactly. I thought it was just funny,
Speaker 1: like but lie like everything like you do always play
Speaker 1: with their hairs as much. I thought it was hilarious,
Speaker 1: but that's to other people to not so when you
Speaker 1: posted it, you thought it was going to be like
Speaker 1: a funny video. Yeah, I'm for sure. I thought it
Speaker 1: was gonna be really funny. It's funny. I think I
Speaker 1: think you nail it around out. Yeah, I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. When I watched it, I thought it
Speaker 1: was funny, But then I was reading a lot of
Speaker 1: the people commenting saying it's creepy. And you know, someone
Speaker 1: who's Matthew Perry's age shouldn't be matching with, you know,
Speaker 1: a nineteen year old on a dating app. I don't know,
Speaker 1: I have I have thoughts about it because I was.
Speaker 1: I gave this example earlier. Dane Cook was one of
Speaker 1: my favorite comedians growing up, and he's in his late
Speaker 1: forties and he was dating someone who's nineteen or twenty
Speaker 1: and they seemed pretty happy. One of our buddies is
Speaker 1: forty who's dating a year old. I keep saying next
Speaker 1: going to kill me for saying this over and over again.
Speaker 1: But but it's just like the fact of the matter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with it. I don't think there's anything
Speaker 1: wrong with it as long as like you're two consenting
Speaker 1: adults and like you're you're happily in in a relationship. Um,
Speaker 1: but it's become certainly a polarizing conversation. So I hope
Speaker 1: you're doing well. Um, oh yes, I am, okay, good. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think it's fine for too consenting adults for sure.
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously it was a little weird. I think
Speaker 1: the weirdest thing was Handles being like, I'm as old
Speaker 1: as your dad. I was like, okaya, that is where
Speaker 1: kind of puts it into perspective a little bit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, well, kay, thanks so much for
Speaker 1: joining us on the podcast today. So, so you're on TikTok.
Speaker 1: Where else can people find you? Um? Instagram? Twitter? Um,
Speaker 1: all my handles are just Kate Hailson. My TikTok is
Speaker 1: the only one that's different, kiddy Nicole. So what do
Speaker 1: you what do you usually post on TikTok? I just
Speaker 1: post like random funny videos. I like to keep it
Speaker 1: fine and um, just like that, I'm going to do
Speaker 1: a few this week, writing the hills from my bosses.
Speaker 1: Probably very cool. Make sure everybody listening follow Kate on TikTok,
Speaker 1: on Instagram, all the social media apps. Kate, once again,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for joining us. Kate Haroldson, Man,
Speaker 1: I said your name the first time and I just
Speaker 1: buschered it. Kate Haroldson, thank you so much for joining us.
Speaker 1: Thank you guys for having me. All right, welcome back
Speaker 1: to help I suck at dating. Uh, that was interesting.
Speaker 1: I didn't know where that conversation was going to go
Speaker 1: with Kate because I've heard differing things. I heard that
Speaker 1: like she did it to possibly expose older men. Um.
Speaker 1: I heard that she thought it was just gonna be funny.
Speaker 1: People saying the video is creepy, people saying that it's fine. Um,
Speaker 1: so I mean, yeah, not to you know, Kate made
Speaker 1: it pretty apparent that she thought it was gonna be funny.
Speaker 1: She was hopping on the ben Affleck trend and she
Speaker 1: didn't really see anything wrong with it. Um, and I
Speaker 1: I tend to agree. I mean, she's comfortable with it, obviously,
Speaker 1: It's just it's two people face timing, you know, and
Speaker 1: so you can have opinions about age and and I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that I disagree with you wholeheartedly, but I
Speaker 1: think we should be able to have a conversation about
Speaker 1: you know, um, you know, what's okay, what's not okay? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think there's really anything wrong
Speaker 1: with someone talking about something that happened, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. Like, it's not like she's like making something
Speaker 1: up and like slandering Matthew Perry. It's just like she's like,
Speaker 1: this is a funny thing that happened to me, you know,
Speaker 1: I know it is interesting though, Like should you Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's tough because obviously I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's such a funny. It's just a
Speaker 1: weird time. It's like, let's say in three years someone
Speaker 1: comes out and they have pushed a FaceTime conversation with
Speaker 1: you and then and you're being all weird and creepy.
Speaker 1: How would you feel about that? I mean not good?
Speaker 1: How would you feel? Yeah, I mean not good either.
Speaker 1: I guess my point is it's like, if it's not
Speaker 1: happening to you, it's easy to see the side of
Speaker 1: like the person sharing their experience, But then if it
Speaker 1: is happening to you're like, oh, why why don't you
Speaker 1: just why don't you just keep that quiet? Let's just yeah,
Speaker 1: why do you need to post that? Um? Yeah, all right,
Speaker 1: well we we do have a listener email from anonymous,
Speaker 1: our favorite listener, Nick Vile. He's been mentioning a lot
Speaker 1: during this podcast. Um, but I did want to talk
Speaker 1: about an SNL skit that that happened this past weekend.
Speaker 1: So SNL was hosted by Elon Musk. Did you watch
Speaker 1: any of it? No? Did you? I didn't watch No,
Speaker 1: I didn't watch much of it. I watched a couple
Speaker 1: of skits though. Alon Musk is an interesting human being
Speaker 1: to me, but I don't know about his comedic skills.
Speaker 1: I didn't want. But I mean, who the hell knows?
Speaker 1: He's interesting. On Joe Rogan's podcast, I've watched that a
Speaker 1: couple of times. Um, but Alon must hosted uh and
Speaker 1: they did a skit about post quarantine social anxiety. Because listen,
Speaker 1: this summer, it seems like, hopefully, knock on wood, we're
Speaker 1: gonna be somewhat back to normal to a certain extent,
Speaker 1: you know, they're talking about sporting events being full capacity,
Speaker 1: concerts coming back. Mass mandates are being you know, uh,
Speaker 1: they're getting rid of a lot of them in different
Speaker 1: parts of the country. Like I'm in Rhode Island and
Speaker 1: I think the mask mandate for outside ends later this month.
Speaker 1: Now indoors, that's different. In private businesses can still dictate
Speaker 1: whether you need to wear a mask or not. But
Speaker 1: like social distancing capacities, that's all changing, like and changing
Speaker 1: pretty rapidly. So SNL did a skit about post quarantine
Speaker 1: conversations with people you know at parties and so on
Speaker 1: and so forth, and it's until every conversation with people
Speaker 1: you haven't seen since quarantine started, and like they talk
Speaker 1: about like Alon Musk played a husband um who talked
Speaker 1: about how he's getting divorced and he's losing his job.
Speaker 1: It was a pretty interesting Like Kate McKinnon is a
Speaker 1: party guard saying like did I just say I'm going
Speaker 1: to dinner again? Should I give more details or should
Speaker 1: I die? Like people just not knowing how to converse
Speaker 1: with one another, saying the wrong things, not knowing what
Speaker 1: to say. Do you think you're gonna have any post
Speaker 1: quarantine social anxiety? Coming out of this thing, Dean. Um,
Speaker 1: I don't think so personally, mostly because I don't really
Speaker 1: I don't really have much of a social life anymore. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like going to Cobbo for ben bachelor party was like
Speaker 1: the most obviously everyone I kind of had to take
Speaker 1: a big backseat for COVID restrictions and all that kind
Speaker 1: of stuff, But like that's the most I drank alcohol
Speaker 1: and like probably sinceil like twenty seven. So I don't
Speaker 1: really anticipate much like going out to the bars, you know,
Speaker 1: seeing someone that you haven't seen in two years, haven't
Speaker 1: really cared enough to keep up with, and then like
Speaker 1: feigning interest in their life after you know, I think, um,
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna have zero social anxiety after this
Speaker 1: thing is over, because it feels like so when we
Speaker 1: were in Cabo, and you know, we were in a
Speaker 1: house with like twenty guys or whatever it was, and
Speaker 1: we were all tested beforehand, we got tested while we
Speaker 1: were there, but so that creates like, you know that
Speaker 1: that made me feel a lot more comfortable. A lot
Speaker 1: of people were already vaccinated at this point, probably two
Speaker 1: thirds of the house at least had their second dose
Speaker 1: of vaccination. But I digress. Um. My point being is,
Speaker 1: I think I'm just gonna kind of like fall right
Speaker 1: back into the routine of things. I don't think I
Speaker 1: would have any social anxiety. Like if this was last
Speaker 1: June and I hadn't seen people for you know, three
Speaker 1: months and was still you know, completely terrified of of
Speaker 1: COVID and like leaving the house and wiping down every
Speaker 1: single grocery I bought, then yeah, I think I would
Speaker 1: have a lot of anxiety entering back into social norms.
Speaker 1: But I think now, I think everybody's ready for it.
Speaker 1: Everybody wants to get back to some sense of normalcy.
Speaker 1: Everybody wants to feel safe, Like you know, I'm getting
Speaker 1: my second dose of the vaccine this week, and you
Speaker 1: know my parents are vaccinated, so that's given me a
Speaker 1: lot of sense of comfort. Um, And I just think
Speaker 1: that I'm going to fall right back into it. Like
Speaker 1: I thought initially, I was like, Oh, when am I
Speaker 1: ever going to feel comfortable being a crowded bar or
Speaker 1: a crowded restaurant or concert or a sporting event. I
Speaker 1: don't know now that like we're dipping our toe back in.
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm gonna have issues with it now.
Speaker 1: You know, I said a lot of stupid stuff before
Speaker 1: the pandemic. I'm going to say a lot of stuff
Speaker 1: stupid stuff after the pandemic. So that's different. That's just
Speaker 1: like me being socially awkward. That's going to continue right
Speaker 1: on through. But in terms of like any post quarantine weirdness,
Speaker 1: I don't know, feeling pretty good about it, yeah, I think.
Speaker 1: And my biggest thing too, is it's like the things
Speaker 1: that I want to be doing anyways, I've more or
Speaker 1: less being able to do, Like, you know, I can
Speaker 1: still do like a big camping trip, climbing trip, skiing, skydiving,
Speaker 1: like all that stuff that I normally did already. Like
Speaker 1: that stuff hasn't really changed all that much because most
Speaker 1: of it's already socially distanced anyway. So it's like, I
Speaker 1: don't really foreseeing many issues coming from my side of things.
Speaker 1: What's the one thing that you are uh looking forward
Speaker 1: to the least coming back? Well, it's actually kind of
Speaker 1: already started here in Los Angeles, but the traffic has
Speaker 1: returned pretty fully. That sucks. I know that's kind of
Speaker 1: like a silly thing to say, but like not stilly
Speaker 1: at all. You uhould take me twenty five minutes to
Speaker 1: drive up to the valley. Now it takes me an
Speaker 1: hour every single time, So that really sucks. Uh. I
Speaker 1: just I don't know, I don't really love how there's
Speaker 1: been so much like drama around. It's like it's such
Speaker 1: a divisive topic, you know, COVID and all and the vaccines. Now.
Speaker 1: It's just like I'm just ready for that all to
Speaker 1: be under the bridge at some point, you know. But
Speaker 1: unfortunately I don't think that's you know, I just feel
Speaker 1: like this pollar rization and division is just going to continue,
Speaker 1: whether it's with COVID or a different topic. It's just anyway,
Speaker 1: we don't have to go down that road. But I
Speaker 1: agree with you. I want people to stop yelling at
Speaker 1: each other. I will say that there are even like
Speaker 1: some of my friends, uh the whole you know, way
Speaker 1: less seriously than I think a lot of people would
Speaker 1: have wanted. And there were times where it's like we
Speaker 1: would have like a small gathering over at a house
Speaker 1: or something like that, and you'd be like, yeah, my
Speaker 1: roommate's COVID right now, and what are you doing here
Speaker 1: if your roommate has COVID right now? We're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's they'd be going to like these like fifty person
Speaker 1: raids on the beach and it's like you see that
Speaker 1: stuff and they're like promoting on Instagram and you're like,
Speaker 1: that's just such a bad look in my opinion, you know,
Speaker 1: like whether whether you believe it it's uh, you know,
Speaker 1: as serious as it is, or it's not, whether you
Speaker 1: think you're like immune to getting it, just like it's
Speaker 1: not really a good look to just like be going
Speaker 1: out and promoting all your carelessness in my opinion. So
Speaker 1: I'm oh, absolutely, like people trust me. I I know
Speaker 1: people who have been exposed to COVID and refused to
Speaker 1: get tested, and it's like, are you insane? You can't
Speaker 1: do that, Like you just you can't do that. You
Speaker 1: can't you know. Anyhow, we when I got Caylin, I
Speaker 1: got especially pist offs. I'll to share the story real
Speaker 1: quick because after after we heard that this guy's roommate
Speaker 1: had COVID, we were like planning on visiting Kalin's grandparents
Speaker 1: like within the next two days. And we're like, well, dude,
Speaker 1: you just like totally kind of ruined that whole situation
Speaker 1: because like now we have to get these rapid tests
Speaker 1: rapid tests aren't aren't cheap. They're like a hundred ten
Speaker 1: bucks per rapid tests. So it's like, you know, you
Speaker 1: they just essentially just added an extra step into us
Speaker 1: get being able to go see Klan's grandparents and like, yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: maybe we shouldn't have been there their first place before
Speaker 1: that worried about it. But it's just one of those
Speaker 1: things where it's like you kind of assume the people
Speaker 1: that you're going to be around are like being equally
Speaker 1: as responsible, but sometimes it's not the case. But I
Speaker 1: don't know, like you said, the bass mandates are turning off.
Speaker 1: I know that Aspen, Colorado just said you don't have
Speaker 1: to wear a mask outside anymore as of like last week. Um,
Speaker 1: but you have the indoor dining and all that kind
Speaker 1: of stuff too. I think I remember seeing that indoor
Speaker 1: dining and all that stuff is gonna return to a
Speaker 1: occupancy under like you know, mask mandates and all that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff too. So that's one thing I'm not
Speaker 1: looking forward to. I do like the social distancing inside
Speaker 1: at restaurants and not being on top of each other.
Speaker 1: I'm going to severely miss that. I don't know, dude,
Speaker 1: you just got to use open table. You gotta make reservations.
Speaker 1: What is this your first ground? I've never even heard
Speaker 1: of that at shocking. Anyhow, we do have one more
Speaker 1: of What were you gonna say? I was gonna say,
Speaker 1: do we want to bring Mark in to read this
Speaker 1: anonymous email it for us? Well, of course we do.
Speaker 1: The voice of God, please Mark graces with your president.
Speaker 1: You said your mike is how are you not an
Speaker 1: on air personality? I mean you just your voice sounds great,
Speaker 1: your mic sounds great. You gotta face for radio. I'm
Speaker 1: just kidding. You're very good looking man. Thanks Jered, You
Speaker 1: guys are too appreciate. Are you ready for this? It's
Speaker 1: out amous question for you. How would you handle it
Speaker 1: if your partner and you do not see eye to
Speaker 1: eye In the COVID vaccine, I've gotten it. He will
Speaker 1: not consider it until there was additional information and research
Speaker 1: on long term effects. We've been in a relationship a
Speaker 1: year and a half and have had many respectful conversations
Speaker 1: about this difference of opinion, but I'm still questioning if
Speaker 1: our values are misaligned. This was not our first difference
Speaker 1: of opinion on social political topics, but it is the
Speaker 1: first time we really fought and argued because we have
Speaker 1: completely opposite viewpoints. My question is am I overthinking this
Speaker 1: difference of opinion or should I accept it as an
Speaker 1: eye opener that our values may not be aligned. What
Speaker 1: would you do in this situation when the rest of
Speaker 1: the relationship is extremely solid, Idella, you take the reins
Speaker 1: on the one. I mean, you have to continue having respects,
Speaker 1: respectful conversations about it. Like I I am all for
Speaker 1: people of different values and different opinions and specifically different
Speaker 1: political associations dating because we cannot live in a war world.
Speaker 1: I believe were you can only date someone who has
Speaker 1: the same views in the world as you, because it's
Speaker 1: just like then then we're I don't know, I feel
Speaker 1: like that could really spiler out of control and become
Speaker 1: a serious issue. So like, I love the idea of
Speaker 1: people who have different opinions, who think differently, but can
Speaker 1: like understand one another and still love each other, like
Speaker 1: still being able to have a successful and happy marriage.
Speaker 1: So you know, listen that you have to really, you know,
Speaker 1: figure out what's important to you and what you prioritize
Speaker 1: in a partner. Um, I would advise, like if you
Speaker 1: got the vaccine and you want him to get the vaccine. Uh,
Speaker 1: maybe try to have him listen with you to, like,
Speaker 1: you know, a doctor that you guys both trust. Maybe
Speaker 1: he could go to his doctor and say, hey, listen,
Speaker 1: i'm thinking about take You know, I don't want to
Speaker 1: take the vaccine. What are your thoughts on the vaccine?
Speaker 1: So you can get more information from a trusted source
Speaker 1: rather than you know, just watching a YouTube clip from
Speaker 1: a scientist or doctor that you you don't know. UM,
Speaker 1: So that would be my piece of advice. Try to
Speaker 1: go to your primary doctor, somebody that's trustworthy and get
Speaker 1: their opinion on whether he should take the vaccine or not. Well,
Speaker 1: let's make it more personalized for you. Let's say you
Speaker 1: want to get that you got the vaccine and actually
Speaker 1: refused to get it. How you react to that exact scenario.
Speaker 1: I would do exactly what I just told I would.
Speaker 1: I would. I would say, listen, I think you should
Speaker 1: you know, don't listen to me, you know, listen to
Speaker 1: you know, your doctor, someone that you trust, uh, and
Speaker 1: let them tell you what they think you should or
Speaker 1: shouldn't do. UM. That would be my advice. That's what
Speaker 1: I would do. Honestly, we're kind of we're not going
Speaker 1: through this scenario. But but you know I got vaccinated.
Speaker 1: Ashley has not gotten vaccinate yet because you know, she's
Speaker 1: trying to get pregnant, and you know there's there's there's
Speaker 1: more to think about when taking the vaccine if you're
Speaker 1: trying to have a kid, specifically for women, if you
Speaker 1: are already pregnant. Um. But the more research that she does,
Speaker 1: the more comfortable she does, she she feels about take
Speaker 1: in the vaccine. She's talked to her gun to college is,
Speaker 1: she's talked to her doctors and they say that she
Speaker 1: should be okay getting the vaccine. So she's gonna get
Speaker 1: it now, but especially like not even that long ago,
Speaker 1: like a month ago, she was like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't you know, there's there's just I'm trying to
Speaker 1: figure out as much as I can. It is a
Speaker 1: lot easier for me as a dude, because it's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll just take the vaccine. Doesn't feel like it's it's
Speaker 1: hurting me in the least. Um. So everybody's in talent
Speaker 1: to their own opinion about things. That's how I feel. UM,
Speaker 1: So I would just say do your best, try not
Speaker 1: to have huge arguments over it, you know, um, and
Speaker 1: then just you know, he'll he'll do what he thinks
Speaker 1: is the best for himself, and then you have to
Speaker 1: figure out, you know, you have to do what's best
Speaker 1: for you and the two of you. And it's it's
Speaker 1: not easy. Yeah, I agree. I Uh, I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm obviously pro vaccine. I got vaccinated like a month ago,
Speaker 1: maybe a little longer. I got the Jane j want
Speaker 1: and done baby or they recalled it for the blood clots. Uh.
Speaker 1: Fortunately no blood thoughts, uh you know that I received.
Speaker 1: But but yeah, I mean I'm pretty fortunate, I guess
Speaker 1: in that sense because Caylin and I have a pretty
Speaker 1: equal and like similar understanding on all that kind of stuff,
Speaker 1: so it hasn't been an issue in our relationship. And
Speaker 1: she's obviously not trying to get pregnant, so you don't
Speaker 1: have to take that into consideration. But yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: like Jared said, it's like, you know, having different beliefs,
Speaker 1: it's kind of like required, like it's it's it's a
Speaker 1: good thing to think different things. And I mean, granted,
Speaker 1: there are certain beliefs that are bad, like you know, obviously,
Speaker 1: like racist beliefs are bad like that type of stuff,
Speaker 1: Like there are bad beliefs that to differ on because
Speaker 1: like if you, if they think that, they probably think
Speaker 1: a lot of other bad things too. But that's kind
Speaker 1: of like the beauty and the spice of life is
Speaker 1: to be able to disagree with people, have conversations about
Speaker 1: with them about it. Um So yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I agree with what Jarred said. See medical professional, get
Speaker 1: his opinion, and hopefully your boyfriend hearing that will take
Speaker 1: that into consideration. I mean, there are probably doctors out
Speaker 1: there that don't recommend getting it though, so hopefully the
Speaker 1: one that she does take them two is the right
Speaker 1: one to motivate them to get it. But I mean
Speaker 1: about you, that's not a far I kind of agree.
Speaker 1: I don't think this is a deal breaker personally. I
Speaker 1: think it could be. I think if he if he
Speaker 1: doesn't want to get it because he thinks Bill Gates
Speaker 1: is putting micro chips inside of him, if he thinks
Speaker 1: it's some weird random human on theory or something, then
Speaker 1: yes he's loony and you need to get rid of him.
Speaker 1: But if he just wants more information, I think you
Speaker 1: let him get that more information. I think this will
Speaker 1: work itself out in the long run. If this is
Speaker 1: the only issue you guys have, I think you let
Speaker 1: it play out. I don't think it's a big deal.
Speaker 1: I agree. Mark is so good at menalizing and concising
Speaker 1: his thoughts, while Diana and I are just like blab
Speaker 1: it on for ten straight minutes about you know, Marks, like,
Speaker 1: this is the way it is. I'm a father, I'm
Speaker 1: a husband. I've been on this earth. How are you
Speaker 1: I am? You don't look at day over thirty five,
Speaker 1: my friend nine years on this earth. He's like, this
Speaker 1: is how you do it. This is how you get
Speaker 1: it done. This is what you're supposed to say. Moving on.
Speaker 1: I have found that when there are disagreements over the
Speaker 1: course of a relationship, if you if you really try
Speaker 1: and aggressively persuade them, they're only going to dig in
Speaker 1: their heels. Yeah, people are stubborn, but if you just
Speaker 1: kind of hang back, people just kind of are going
Speaker 1: to get where they're going to get in there have
Speaker 1: to get on their own journey to get there. Well,
Speaker 1: well put Mark, well put and on that note, you
Speaker 1: know what, guys, I think it's time we get to
Speaker 1: be on this podcast. We appreciate you tuning in. We
Speaker 1: appreciate you listening. Mark. I want to say one thing
Speaker 1: before you turn your video off. I'm looking forward to
Speaker 1: seeing you in. I would say about three weeks after
Speaker 1: Aaron Rodgers decides to gracefully sign with the different Broncos
Speaker 1: and lead us to five consecutive Super Bowl championships that
Speaker 1: we're not gonna talk about that. I just wanted to say,
Speaker 1: I'm excited for it to happen. I think you can
Speaker 1: get a little bit of excitement out of that too,
Speaker 1: because you know you're gonna let the Broncos win a
Speaker 1: bunch of Super Bowl So he'll be back in Green
Speaker 1: Bay in the fall, I said today. May We'll see anyways, Jared,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for co hosting this with us.
Speaker 1: Big just final apologies to you guys for missing the deadline.
Speaker 1: We're not our deadline, but usually we air over the
Speaker 1: weekend and obviously we weren't able to do that this week.
Speaker 1: But thanks for sticking with us anyways, because that's just
Speaker 1: that's just great. Big thank you Kate Harrilson for joining us. Um,
Speaker 1: what do you guys think about the Kate and matc
Speaker 1: Terry thing? So if you. If you want to have
Speaker 1: any thoughts on that, email us at I suck at
Speaker 1: Dating at i heart media dot com. It's always good
Speaker 1: to hear what you guys thinking. Thanks to anonymous Ben
Speaker 1: Affleck and Bill Gates for just giving us to talk
Speaker 1: about because content or knows we need it. We need it.
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to add? Jared, I'm good, buddy.
Speaker 1: I'll see you next week. Yeah, maybe we'll suck a
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