Speaker 1: All right, we got a brand new Second Date podcast
Speaker 1: for you today to start your weekend. Thank you so
Speaker 1: much for being here. Please like, subscribe, rate, do all
Speaker 1: the things.
Speaker 2: And today, I really feel is a lesson in how
Speaker 2: some people don't realize they're being weird.
Speaker 3: Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then what you do with that realization afterwards.
Speaker 1: So, but before we get into the new Second Date,
Speaker 1: what's our favorite comment of the day, alexis who I
Speaker 1: saw them from Sampson, who said, I love how Jeff
Speaker 1: stands on business. Nothing throws him off from the mission,
Speaker 1: regardless of the situation.
Speaker 2: Get to ask them for another date, and he surely
Speaker 2: does that.
Speaker 1: Well, sometimes we get to the end of the day
Speaker 1: and I'm like, why are you asking?
Speaker 2: It is so obvious that they either have to know.
Speaker 3: I know why.
Speaker 4: Our producer told him when he started the main host gig,
Speaker 4: like you have to always ask you the point of
Speaker 4: the whole thing.
Speaker 3: He took that so literally literally. It's like a lot
Speaker 3: of him. Yeah, we get in Jeff, let him leave
Speaker 3: them alone. Hold on, before I know he burned your
Speaker 3: house down. I know, literally, it's not a lie.
Speaker 2: All right, let's get to this second date. Back in
Speaker 2: Joy and thanks for being here. It's fricking Jeffrey in
Speaker 2: the morning.
Speaker 3: Second date up dates.
Speaker 5: Sometimes you can tell right away if you're romantically compatible
Speaker 5: with a person just by how they order at a restaurant.
Speaker 1: At Suddenly you're talking Jose's love language.
Speaker 3: I know, Jose.
Speaker 5: Like, for example, if you're at a fancy steakhouse and
Speaker 5: they say, yeah, I'll get a side of onion petals,
Speaker 5: no sauce, and a wedge salad as my Maine, but
Speaker 5: with no bacon, no blue cheese. Can I sub the
Speaker 5: croutons for keen wafflakes instead? I'm like, uh, can we
Speaker 5: go ring shopping right now? Because that's the high maintenance
Speaker 5: dream girl I've always needed in my life.
Speaker 1: I mean, if you want super hot, that's what you
Speaker 1: have to put up with. Yeah, well they have to
Speaker 1: make sacrifice.
Speaker 3: They can have a couple of bites exactly.
Speaker 5: That's how our listener Andy says he knew his date
Speaker 5: was just.
Speaker 3: The right girl for him.
Speaker 5: Oh really, we'll learn more about it in a second,
Speaker 5: But first Andy, welcome to the show Man.
Speaker 6: How you doing, Hey, guys, thanks for having me.
Speaker 2: Man, God, any time.
Speaker 1: We open these Andy talking about food, I'm immediately hungry.
Speaker 1: I absolutely want to know what was ordered and what restaurant, well,
Speaker 1: every food related item.
Speaker 5: We'll get to all that stuff in just a second. First,
Speaker 5: let's start with the name of this person, this girl
Speaker 5: you met.
Speaker 3: What's she all about?
Speaker 6: Well, her name is Carla, Okay, and she's awesome. But
Speaker 6: I've been recently even trying to kind of get out
Speaker 6: on dating seeing a little bit more okay, because i
Speaker 6: was out of the market for a while and now
Speaker 6: I'm back in and trying to get the lay of
Speaker 6: the land.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 6: One thing that I've noticed is women these days, they're
Speaker 6: so particular on their meals. I'm a laid back kind
Speaker 6: of guy, and it's like it's super annoying when they're like,
Speaker 6: oh this and not that, Like just get some fish.
Speaker 5: Look, people do low car but it's like, hey, no, rise,
Speaker 5: I need ve Jesus at adjustment.
Speaker 2: Like people are just more food conscious over both genders.
Speaker 5: It sounds like you're pretty tired of that. Did that
Speaker 5: happen on your date with Carla?
Speaker 6: That's the thing, not at all, That's all she had
Speaker 6: to do.
Speaker 3: She's like, I'll take the blank and you were like,
Speaker 3: I love you.
Speaker 2: Is that accurate?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 6: It go. She was a breath of fresh air, very easygoing.
Speaker 6: We went to a Mexican restaurant and all she did
Speaker 6: was she just ordered the Sashidas was.
Speaker 5: Just like the chicken.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, the fatas are the ones that you
Speaker 1: can put together yourself. You don't even have to ask
Speaker 1: them for substitution.
Speaker 3: You have to choose though, chicken or bee.
Speaker 1: So I mean already, like, as soon as she orders,
Speaker 1: does your whole mood change?
Speaker 6: And I was like totally under her and I was like, oh,
Speaker 6: moving with me mouth.
Speaker 3: That's awesome, dude.
Speaker 1: Did you tell her about your experiences and how refreshing
Speaker 1: it was to see her order like that?
Speaker 6: After? Yes, I don't want to preampibly warn her so
Speaker 6: lest she gets all nervous when she's ordering her food.
Speaker 5: But yeah, yeah, all of that sounds great. You got
Speaker 5: the green flag with the food order. Tell us what
Speaker 5: about anything else that stood out on the date with Carla?
Speaker 6: Oh? I mean she's cute. She has a great personality,
Speaker 6: and when she spoke about things, she would literally light up.
Speaker 6: Like one of the questions I asked her, I was like,
Speaker 6: do you think your cat actually likes you? Or just
Speaker 6: putting up with you?
Speaker 3: I like that question what she say?
Speaker 6: She explained like how they were like best friends. But
Speaker 6: it wasn't like in a corny way, it was in
Speaker 6: a very great energy kind of way. Just a pause.
Speaker 2: Asking someone about their pets is a good move always.
Speaker 5: Okay, that personally lost me for dating Carla, but I'm
Speaker 5: glad that you and her on the same page. You
Speaker 5: want high maintenance and pet yes, very low negative energy.
Speaker 3: If you're just yeah, we'll get zero.
Speaker 1: I think that what's sweet is that she lit up
Speaker 1: about her cat, and you are literally lighting up up
Speaker 1: talking about her.
Speaker 2: Sounds so excited.
Speaker 3: How'd you mess it up?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 3: What did you do? How did the rest of the
Speaker 3: dinner go?
Speaker 6: So the rest of the dinner was great. We hung
Speaker 6: out way longer than we should have been the dinner table,
Speaker 6: and then we decided we didn't want the night to end,
Speaker 6: so we ended up kind of going back to my place.
Speaker 6: We opened up a bottle of wine and we talked
Speaker 6: some more. We we had more conversations, like one of
Speaker 6: them was like about if you want to delete one
Speaker 6: app forever, what would it be? My answer was TikTok,
Speaker 6: and she was like, no, I want to believe Venmo
Speaker 6: so I'd never have to pay for anything again.
Speaker 2: Okay, and she's funny dude.
Speaker 4: Okay, now I'm coming back around on yeah, okay.
Speaker 3: So how did you and Carla leave it that night?
Speaker 6: I mean, I didn't want the night to be over,
Speaker 6: but it was getting late and being respectful first date
Speaker 6: and everything, so I called her an uber and she
Speaker 6: went home and I haven't heard from her since. The
Speaker 6: weird thing, though, is like i'll text her and she'll
Speaker 6: like my text, but she's not responding, like.
Speaker 3: You know, are you yeah?
Speaker 2: Are you asked a question or are you just saying hi?
Speaker 6: No? I also ask a question like I'd love to
Speaker 6: see you again, when can I'll take you out again?
Speaker 6: Thumbs up, And it's like, okay, well, I guess it
Speaker 6: thumbs up as good, but I need an answer.
Speaker 5: Here unless it's not even her answering and her cat
Speaker 5: has the password to her phone and is just getting
Speaker 5: in there pawing around liking your.
Speaker 3: Your text message, It's like, emphasize emphasis.
Speaker 5: You clearly had a strong connection the first time you
Speaker 5: hung out, so it's weird that nothing's happened since.
Speaker 3: Was a mystery to me.
Speaker 2: She's given like some positive vibes it's not like.
Speaker 5: She's That's what scares me when we call and talk
Speaker 5: to her. We have to put up with those positive
Speaker 5: vibes and hopefully get an answer out of her when
Speaker 5: we come back and try and get you your second
Speaker 5: date update right after this.
Speaker 6: Okay, thanks, appreciate you all.
Speaker 3: All right, hold on that second date update.
Speaker 5: I only do this maybe a couple times a year,
Speaker 5: but I'm highlighting this second date as one we have
Speaker 5: to get.
Speaker 4: This guy is so head over heels from Curiously, I'm
Speaker 4: actually compared to all the other calls that we've done
Speaker 4: this year, I'm actually gonna put effort into this one
Speaker 4: for our listener, Andy, you're not putting.
Speaker 1: An effort on the your body, Legg doesn't say that
Speaker 1: arms cruss are sitting down.
Speaker 5: This is my effort most because Andy, he's on the
Speaker 5: phone with us. Andy, you seem like a genuinely good guy.
Speaker 5: And the way that you described your date Carla to us,
Speaker 5: she seems like a really cool person too, because most
Speaker 5: guys that we have on here, they just describe how
Speaker 5: hot their date's bodies are and how they tricked them
Speaker 5: into spending the night.
Speaker 3: Recently, I mean, I told her how much I could
Speaker 3: bench press. I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 5: And while we're all impressed by that stuff, for sure,
Speaker 5: you actually focused on Carla's personality and her words.
Speaker 3: So clearly this means a lot to you.
Speaker 6: Yes, that definitely doesn't. I appreciate the kind words, and
Speaker 6: I also I appreciate the efforts as well from Jeffrey.
Speaker 1: Yeah, rare people get it. So you should count yourself lucky.
Speaker 2: What do you think is going on? Why do you
Speaker 2: think it's been so hard with her?
Speaker 6: No clue to the alci, which is why I reached
Speaker 6: out to you. It's like it's we had a great conversation,
Speaker 6: we had a great time at dinner, we had a
Speaker 6: great time back in my house.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's a mystery to all of us, and we're
Speaker 5: running out of time here, so we need to call her.
Speaker 3: I'm going to dial her number right now. Good luck
Speaker 3: to me.
Speaker 1: Here we go, good luck to me, Good luck to It's.
Speaker 6: Okay, Hello, Hey.
Speaker 3: Is Carla there?
Speaker 7: Yeah? This is she? Who is this?
Speaker 3: Hey, Carla?
Speaker 2: Hi, Carla?
Speaker 5: Love your name. By the way, my name is Gross.
Speaker 5: It's jeff and I work on a radio show called
Speaker 5: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: Okay, she sounds like a real sailor when it comes in.
Speaker 5: And uh, we're not trying to shock you too much,
Speaker 5: but we're calling as a favor to a really cool
Speaker 5: new friend of ours. We spoke to him on the phone,
Speaker 5: and you've met him before. He's a guy named Andy.
Speaker 2: Oh oh whoa interesting?
Speaker 3: That was a negative?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean maybe it didn't come out right.
Speaker 2: You remember Andy?
Speaker 6: Right again? What is this about?
Speaker 7: I'm just I don't know what this is all about.
Speaker 3: This is a segment we do called second Date Update.
Speaker 5: It's about your date and Andy, according to him, said
Speaker 5: that when you guys hung out, it was a lot
Speaker 5: different than most of the other dates that he's gone
Speaker 5: on this year in a really good way. So we're
Speaker 5: just trying to figure out if there's a reason why
Speaker 5: there hasn't been a second meetup because he's really hoping
Speaker 5: for one.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I don't know. I just I feel like I
Speaker 7: probably didn't have gone to his apartment.
Speaker 2: Gone to his apartment, he said, you guys didn't fool right,
Speaker 2: und or anything.
Speaker 3: What was weird about his apartment?
Speaker 7: Okay, Well, I'll just say this. There were a lot
Speaker 7: of framed photos.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, that's good.
Speaker 1: Usually, usually bachelors can't figure out frames and picture together.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I bought with a frame, Like, why were framed
Speaker 5: photos a red flag?
Speaker 6: To you?
Speaker 7: There there were framed photos of him of Andy.
Speaker 3: Wait, well, I would hope that they would be him
Speaker 3: in his own apartment. No, bro, I'm.
Speaker 2: Talking about my art, like him or him with people.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good question.
Speaker 7: Just him, just him when he graduating, when he's like
Speaker 7: heading a tiger. I think it was, Uh, that's cool.
Speaker 3: Well, what's a red flag about that? To you?
Speaker 7: There were twenty of them him.
Speaker 3: That's a lot.
Speaker 2: But listen, he's a solo guy.
Speaker 1: He lives by himself, and obviously maybe he just has
Speaker 1: him up because he wants to remind himself of all
Speaker 1: the cool places he's been.
Speaker 3: You know, maybe should put up.
Speaker 5: Some stuff so Brook you you would see this and
Speaker 5: you would think this is normal.
Speaker 3: Twenty plus pictures twenty's a lot.
Speaker 2: I don't know about normal.
Speaker 1: But I'm just like, I don't know that it's like
Speaker 1: nefarious or means that he's a bad person.
Speaker 5: She doesn't say nefarious, she just said it's odd or
Speaker 5: it's weird.
Speaker 1: Well, she used it as a red flag, and it's
Speaker 1: the reason that she's not calling him back, And I
Speaker 1: don't know that that's fair.
Speaker 2: That's all I'm saying. I think if he's like cocky too,
Speaker 2: but I don't know that it is.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, were there any cocky pictures of him? Do
Speaker 3: you think, Wow, this guy's a real.
Speaker 5: Chir wrong Jack, Well, I think it's so.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 7: He had a photo of himself flexing.
Speaker 3: Did he have muscles?
Speaker 2: Did he have muscles?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 2: Was it good?
Speaker 6: It was okay at best?
Speaker 5: I mean okay, I mean we could go into detail
Speaker 5: and talk about what was inside of all of his photos,
Speaker 5: But I'm still trying to understand what the underlying problem is.
Speaker 2: See you don't see it is a red flash?
Speaker 3: What is it? He's confident in himself and.
Speaker 4: Likes him absorbed self absorbed, or you're worried that he
Speaker 4: doesn't have friends.
Speaker 7: I did feel like it was clear to me after
Speaker 7: being there for half an hour it would be difficult
Speaker 7: to date someone who's already in a committed relationship with himself.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, Maybe it's that motivational thing people do where
Speaker 1: you put a photo of yourself as a kid in
Speaker 1: the mirror.
Speaker 3: He just has twenty of them. Well, he's talking to
Speaker 3: the graduate.
Speaker 2: Just came across as such a good guy.
Speaker 5: I just felt, But I don't know, maybe we got
Speaker 5: a totally wrong read on him. And he's absolutely obsessed
Speaker 5: with himself because he is on the other line right
Speaker 5: now listening in on this conversation, which I guess in.
Speaker 6: A way is about oh, oh my god.
Speaker 3: And he does want to talk to you, Andy.
Speaker 6: Hi, Carla, how are you?
Speaker 7: Hi?
Speaker 5: For you?
Speaker 6: And this is like embarrassing for you.
Speaker 7: I don't want to put you on black on the.
Speaker 6: Radio because I thought we had a great time and
Speaker 6: then and you weren't necessarily responding back to me, and
Speaker 6: I didn't know You're gonna be kind of hitting on
Speaker 6: all the photos of like big moments in my life
Speaker 6: and stuff like that.
Speaker 7: And he's they're everywhere. There's one in the bathroom, Like, whoa,
Speaker 7: it is weird.
Speaker 6: Okay, I'm sorry, I'm I don't have very good interior
Speaker 6: decoration skills. I guess you can say you make it
Speaker 6: seem like I have a big crush on myself.
Speaker 2: That's okay, you could crush on yourself.
Speaker 5: Can we ask, bro, like, when you were putting up
Speaker 5: all those pictures, why, like why did you.
Speaker 3: Put those up.
Speaker 6: I know they're just big moments in my life that
Speaker 6: it's nice of when I'm walking around being reminded of them,
Speaker 6: Like you mentioned the tigers, Like that's a trip I
Speaker 6: took with my parents when I went to Africa. Or
Speaker 6: I do I do have a shirtless Jim selfie on
Speaker 6: my well oneie?
Speaker 5: Is that the bathroom one? Because I would understand it
Speaker 5: might have fit.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like.
Speaker 6: I mentioned before, I've been off the market for a while,
Speaker 6: I might have gained a lot of weight, and so
Speaker 6: like this is a picture of like after I hit
Speaker 6: my goal.
Speaker 3: Like, Carl, are you hearing him?
Speaker 1: I'm hearing this.
Speaker 7: I just feel like maybe he could have asked one
Speaker 7: of his friends and like is this too many photos?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like it didn't register with him at all.
Speaker 1: Like have you ever had anyone else comment about the
Speaker 1: excessive amount of photos?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I don't really, I don't have a lot of people
Speaker 6: come over, to be honest with you. And then you
Speaker 6: think about decorating with sock target photos of like red
Speaker 6: sucking up plants or whatever.
Speaker 5: Okay, well, let's not hate on people that like to
Speaker 5: decorate from Target because they have some good stuff.
Speaker 3: You should use a woman's touch. Maybe you two can
Speaker 3: help each other. I'm just an adjusted a little bit.
Speaker 1: Maybe you have a reasonable amount that he should have, Carla,
Speaker 1: is there a number in new head that's okay?
Speaker 6: Of course?
Speaker 7: Like three macs?
Speaker 6: How the world I choose just three moment?
Speaker 5: Actually, Andy, I have a good suggestion for you. They
Speaker 5: have these digital photo frames. Now we're all rotate through
Speaker 5: like five hundred, and you don't have to limit it down.
Speaker 6: Look, I'm definitely open to some options here, but I
Speaker 6: mean some of them need to stay up.
Speaker 1: He's taking this instride.
Speaker 2: Some people could have gotten really defensive about it.
Speaker 3: He went through all of this effort just to get
Speaker 3: in touch with.
Speaker 1: You, and look at what he could look like. I
Speaker 1: mean that gym picture is was okay.
Speaker 3: Well, no room for improvements, is what I'm hearing.
Speaker 6: So I mean, if you give me a second date
Speaker 6: that leads to the third, fourth, one hundred dates, then
Speaker 6: we can start hanging up pictures of us.
Speaker 3: Together, twenty pictures of you.
Speaker 5: So, now that you know everything, Carlo, you've heard what
Speaker 5: he has to say, would you consider going out with
Speaker 5: him again? We would pay for it.
Speaker 7: I mean, I feel like he was kind of in
Speaker 7: the dark about it. It's not like he's in love
Speaker 7: with himself, which I was really worried about. Yeah, I
Speaker 7: would be interested, but he has to take down some
Speaker 7: of those photos if I'm going back, or at.
Speaker 1: Least turn them around so not all of him is
Speaker 1: looking at you at the same time.
Speaker 5: Okay, you guys can actually do that on your next date.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, pick your top one.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm totally done. We'll go out to dinner. Then
Speaker 6: afterwards you can go back and have a redecoration partylations.
Speaker 3: Andy, you got another meet up with Carla.
Speaker 6: Thank you guys so much. I really appreciate your how
Speaker 6: we set.
Speaker 4: A goal to get them together and we did it,
Speaker 4: guys without even one picture of us.
Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, ask that is our effort for the entire year.
Speaker 3: We can go back to not caring. Any can bail
Speaker 3: it in.
Speaker 2: It's freaking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: You know, today's second date was a good lesson for me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, to put effort into things.
Speaker 5: No, because I have lots of frame photos of myself
Speaker 5: up in my place, my thing isn't in any of them.
Speaker 3: I tend to capture other stuff.
Speaker 2: But I almost asked what was and that was, no, you.
Speaker 3: Didn't come over and check it out if you want,
Speaker 3: I'm good, I.
Speaker 2: Get this printed like a public place.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, now I know I need to limit them
Speaker 3: down to just three. So that's good to know.
Speaker 5: But I do think Brooke actually said it best during
Speaker 5: the segment because he seems genuinely surprised that too many
Speaker 5: photos of himself could be something.
Speaker 3: That derails a date.
Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, but good for him, he was open minded,
Speaker 5: he was willing to change and adjust. That's literally the
Speaker 5: number one thing you can do to be in a
Speaker 5: successful relationship.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's so.
Speaker 1: Hard for people these days to hear's up being like
Speaker 1: maybe a somewhat critical about themselves and think, yeah, oh okay,
Speaker 1: well I can fix that. But that's a great thing
Speaker 1: to think after that.
Speaker 5: They really were a great match, and I hope that
Speaker 5: we do get an update from them soon. And you
Speaker 5: could be the next couple that we get an update from.
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