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Speaker 1: All right, we got a brand new Second Date podcast

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Speaker 1: for you today to start your weekend. Thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for being here. Please like, subscribe, rate, do all

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Speaker 1: the things.

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Speaker 2: And today, I really feel is a lesson in how

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Speaker 2: some people don't realize they're being weird.

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Speaker 3: Yeah for sure.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then what you do with that realization afterwards.

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Speaker 1: So, but before we get into the new Second Date,

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Speaker 1: what's our favorite comment of the day, alexis who I

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Speaker 1: saw them from Sampson, who said, I love how Jeff

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Speaker 1: stands on business. Nothing throws him off from the mission,

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Speaker 1: regardless of the situation.

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Speaker 2: Get to ask them for another date, and he surely

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Speaker 2: does that.

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Speaker 1: Well, sometimes we get to the end of the day

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, why are you asking?

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Speaker 2: It is so obvious that they either have to know.

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Speaker 3: I know why.

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Speaker 4: Our producer told him when he started the main host gig,

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Speaker 4: like you have to always ask you the point of

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Speaker 4: the whole thing.

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Speaker 3: He took that so literally literally. It's like a lot

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Speaker 3: of him. Yeah, we get in Jeff, let him leave

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Speaker 3: them alone. Hold on, before I know he burned your

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Speaker 3: house down. I know, literally, it's not a lie.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's get to this second date. Back in

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Speaker 2: Joy and thanks for being here. It's fricking Jeffrey in

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Speaker 2: the morning.

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Speaker 3: Second date up dates.

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Speaker 5: Sometimes you can tell right away if you're romantically compatible

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Speaker 5: with a person just by how they order at a restaurant.

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Speaker 1: At Suddenly you're talking Jose's love language.

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Speaker 3: I know, Jose.

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Speaker 5: Like, for example, if you're at a fancy steakhouse and

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Speaker 5: they say, yeah, I'll get a side of onion petals,

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Speaker 5: no sauce, and a wedge salad as my Maine, but

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Speaker 5: with no bacon, no blue cheese. Can I sub the

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Speaker 5: croutons for keen wafflakes instead? I'm like, uh, can we

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Speaker 5: go ring shopping right now? Because that's the high maintenance

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Speaker 5: dream girl I've always needed in my life.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if you want super hot, that's what you

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Speaker 1: have to put up with. Yeah, well they have to

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Speaker 1: make sacrifice.

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Speaker 3: They can have a couple of bites exactly.

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Speaker 5: That's how our listener Andy says he knew his date

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Speaker 5: was just.

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Speaker 3: The right girl for him.

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Speaker 5: Oh really, we'll learn more about it in a second,

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Speaker 5: But first Andy, welcome to the show Man.

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Speaker 6: How you doing, Hey, guys, thanks for having me.

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Speaker 2: Man, God, any time.

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Speaker 1: We open these Andy talking about food, I'm immediately hungry.

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Speaker 1: I absolutely want to know what was ordered and what restaurant, well,

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Speaker 1: every food related item.

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Speaker 5: We'll get to all that stuff in just a second. First,

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Speaker 5: let's start with the name of this person, this girl

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Speaker 5: you met.

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Speaker 3: What's she all about?

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Speaker 6: Well, her name is Carla, Okay, and she's awesome. But

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Speaker 6: I've been recently even trying to kind of get out

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Speaker 6: on dating seeing a little bit more okay, because i

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Speaker 6: was out of the market for a while and now

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Speaker 6: I'm back in and trying to get the lay of

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Speaker 6: the land.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 6: One thing that I've noticed is women these days, they're

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Speaker 6: so particular on their meals. I'm a laid back kind

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Speaker 6: of guy, and it's like it's super annoying when they're like,

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Speaker 6: oh this and not that, Like just get some fish.

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Speaker 5: Look, people do low car but it's like, hey, no, rise,

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Speaker 5: I need ve Jesus at adjustment.

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Speaker 2: Like people are just more food conscious over both genders.

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Speaker 5: It sounds like you're pretty tired of that. Did that

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Speaker 5: happen on your date with Carla?

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Speaker 6: That's the thing, not at all, That's all she had

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Speaker 3: She's like, I'll take the blank and you were like,

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Speaker 3: I love you.

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Speaker 2: Is that accurate?

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Speaker 6: It go. She was a breath of fresh air, very easygoing.

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Speaker 6: We went to a Mexican restaurant and all she did

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Speaker 5: Just like the chicken.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, the fatas are the ones that you

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Speaker 1: can put together yourself. You don't even have to ask

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Speaker 3: You have to choose though, chicken or bee.

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Speaker 1: So I mean already, like, as soon as she orders,

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Speaker 6: And I was like totally under her and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: That's awesome, dude.

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Speaker 1: Did you tell her about your experiences and how refreshing

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Speaker 6: After? Yes, I don't want to preampibly warn her so

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Speaker 6: lest she gets all nervous when she's ordering her food.

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Speaker 5: But yeah, yeah, all of that sounds great. You got

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Speaker 5: the green flag with the food order. Tell us what

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Speaker 5: about anything else that stood out on the date with Carla?

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Speaker 6: Oh? I mean she's cute. She has a great personality,

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Speaker 6: and when she spoke about things, she would literally light up.

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Speaker 6: Like one of the questions I asked her, I was like,

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Speaker 6: do you think your cat actually likes you? Or just

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Speaker 3: I like that question what she say?

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Speaker 6: She explained like how they were like best friends. But

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Speaker 6: it wasn't like in a corny way, it was in

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Speaker 6: a very great energy kind of way. Just a pause.

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Speaker 2: Asking someone about their pets is a good move always.

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Speaker 5: Okay, that personally lost me for dating Carla, but I'm

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Speaker 5: glad that you and her on the same page. You

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Speaker 5: want high maintenance and pet yes, very low negative energy.

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Speaker 3: If you're just yeah, we'll get zero.

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Speaker 1: I think that what's sweet is that she lit up

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Speaker 1: about her cat, and you are literally lighting up up

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Speaker 1: talking about her.

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Speaker 2: Sounds so excited.

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Speaker 3: How'd you mess it up?

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Speaker 6: Like?

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Speaker 3: What did you do? How did the rest of the

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Speaker 3: dinner go?

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Speaker 6: So the rest of the dinner was great. We hung

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Speaker 6: out way longer than we should have been the dinner table,

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Speaker 6: and then we decided we didn't want the night to end,

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Speaker 6: so we ended up kind of going back to my place.

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Speaker 6: We opened up a bottle of wine and we talked

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Speaker 6: some more. We we had more conversations, like one of

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Speaker 6: them was like about if you want to delete one

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Speaker 6: app forever, what would it be? My answer was TikTok,

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Speaker 6: and she was like, no, I want to believe Venmo

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Speaker 6: so I'd never have to pay for anything again.

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Speaker 2: Okay, and she's funny dude.

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Speaker 4: Okay, now I'm coming back around on yeah, okay.

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Speaker 3: So how did you and Carla leave it that night?

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Speaker 6: I mean, I didn't want the night to be over,

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Speaker 6: but it was getting late and being respectful first date

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Speaker 6: and everything, so I called her an uber and she

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Speaker 6: went home and I haven't heard from her since. The

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Speaker 6: weird thing, though, is like i'll text her and she'll

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Speaker 6: like my text, but she's not responding, like.

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Speaker 3: You know, are you yeah?

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Speaker 2: Are you asked a question or are you just saying hi?

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Speaker 6: No? I also ask a question like I'd love to

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Speaker 6: see you again, when can I'll take you out again?

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Speaker 6: Thumbs up, And it's like, okay, well, I guess it

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Speaker 6: thumbs up as good, but I need an answer.

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Speaker 5: Here unless it's not even her answering and her cat

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Speaker 5: has the password to her phone and is just getting

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Speaker 5: in there pawing around liking your.

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Speaker 3: Your text message, It's like, emphasize emphasis.

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Speaker 5: You clearly had a strong connection the first time you

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Speaker 5: hung out, so it's weird that nothing's happened since.

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Speaker 3: Was a mystery to me.

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Speaker 2: She's given like some positive vibes it's not like.

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Speaker 5: She's That's what scares me when we call and talk

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Speaker 5: to her. We have to put up with those positive

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Speaker 5: vibes and hopefully get an answer out of her when

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Speaker 5: we come back and try and get you your second

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Speaker 5: date update right after this.

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Speaker 6: Okay, thanks, appreciate you all.

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Speaker 3: All right, hold on that second date update.

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Speaker 5: I only do this maybe a couple times a year,

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Speaker 5: but I'm highlighting this second date as one we have

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Speaker 5: to get.

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Speaker 4: This guy is so head over heels from Curiously, I'm

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Speaker 4: actually compared to all the other calls that we've done

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Speaker 4: this year, I'm actually gonna put effort into this one

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Speaker 4: for our listener, Andy, you're not putting.

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Speaker 1: An effort on the your body, Legg doesn't say that

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Speaker 1: arms cruss are sitting down.

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Speaker 5: This is my effort most because Andy, he's on the

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Speaker 5: phone with us. Andy, you seem like a genuinely good guy.

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Speaker 5: And the way that you described your date Carla to us,

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Speaker 5: she seems like a really cool person too, because most

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Speaker 5: guys that we have on here, they just describe how

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Speaker 3: Recently, I mean, I told her how much I could

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Speaker 5: And while we're all impressed by that stuff, for sure,

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Speaker 5: you actually focused on Carla's personality and her words.

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Speaker 3: So clearly this means a lot to you.

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Speaker 6: Yes, that definitely doesn't. I appreciate the kind words, and

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Speaker 6: I also I appreciate the efforts as well from Jeffrey.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, rare people get it. So you should count yourself lucky.

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Speaker 2: What do you think is going on? Why do you

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Speaker 6: No clue to the alci, which is why I reached

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Speaker 6: out to you. It's like it's we had a great conversation,

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Speaker 6: we had a great time at dinner, we had a

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Speaker 6: great time back in my house.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's a mystery to all of us, and we're

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Speaker 5: running out of time here, so we need to call her.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to dial her number right now. Good luck

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Speaker 3: to me.

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Speaker 1: Here we go, good luck to me, Good luck to It's.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Hello, Hey.

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Speaker 3: Is Carla there?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? This is she? Who is this?

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Speaker 3: Hey, Carla?

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Speaker 2: Hi, Carla?

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Speaker 5: Love your name. By the way, my name is Gross.

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Speaker 5: It's jeff and I work on a radio show called

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Speaker 5: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 2: Okay, she sounds like a real sailor when it comes in.

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Speaker 5: And uh, we're not trying to shock you too much,

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Speaker 5: but we're calling as a favor to a really cool

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Speaker 5: new friend of ours. We spoke to him on the phone,

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Speaker 5: and you've met him before. He's a guy named Andy.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh whoa interesting?

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Speaker 3: That was a negative?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean maybe it didn't come out right.

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Speaker 2: You remember Andy?

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Speaker 6: Right again? What is this about?

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Speaker 7: I'm just I don't know what this is all about.

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Speaker 3: This is a segment we do called second Date Update.

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Speaker 5: It's about your date and Andy, according to him, said

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Speaker 5: that when you guys hung out, it was a lot

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Speaker 5: different than most of the other dates that he's gone

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Speaker 5: on this year in a really good way. So we're

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Speaker 5: just trying to figure out if there's a reason why

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Speaker 5: there hasn't been a second meetup because he's really hoping

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Speaker 5: for one.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I bought with a frame, Like, why were framed

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Speaker 7: There there were framed photos of him of Andy.

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Speaker 2: Talking about my art, like him or him with people.

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Speaker 7: Just him, just him when he graduating, when he's like

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Speaker 3: Well, what's a red flag about that? To you?

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Speaker 7: There were twenty of them him.

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Speaker 3: You know, maybe should put up.

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Speaker 2: See you don't see it is a red flash?

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Speaker 7: I did feel like it was clear to me after

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, Maybe it's that motivational thing people do where

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Speaker 3: He just has twenty of them. Well, he's talking to

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Speaker 5: I just felt, But I don't know, maybe we got

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Speaker 3: And he does want to talk to you, Andy.

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Speaker 6: Hi, Carla, how are you?

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Speaker 7: Hi?

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Speaker 5: For you?

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Speaker 7: And he's they're everywhere. There's one in the bathroom, Like, whoa,

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Speaker 6: Okay, I'm sorry, I'm I don't have very good interior

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Speaker 5: Can we ask, bro, like, when you were putting up

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Speaker 6: I know they're just big moments in my life that

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Speaker 5: Is that the bathroom one? Because I would understand it

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Speaker 3: Like, Carl, are you hearing him?

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Speaker 1: I'm hearing this.

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Speaker 7: I just feel like maybe he could have asked one

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like it didn't register with him at all.

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Speaker 6: I don't really, I don't have a lot of people

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Speaker 6: think about decorating with sock target photos of like red

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Speaker 5: Okay, well, let's not hate on people that like to

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Speaker 3: You should use a woman's touch. Maybe you two can

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Speaker 1: Maybe you have a reasonable amount that he should have, Carla,

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Speaker 6: Of course?

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Speaker 6: How the world I choose just three moment?

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Speaker 5: Actually, Andy, I have a good suggestion for you. They

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Speaker 6: Look, I'm definitely open to some options here, but I

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Speaker 1: He's taking this instride.

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Speaker 2: Some people could have gotten really defensive about it.

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Speaker 3: Well, no room for improvements, is what I'm hearing.

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Speaker 6: So I mean, if you give me a second date

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Speaker 3: Together, twenty pictures of you.

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Speaker 5: So, now that you know everything, Carlo, you've heard what

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Speaker 7: I mean, I feel like he was kind of in

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Speaker 5: Okay, you guys can actually do that on your next date.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, pick your top one.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm totally done. We'll go out to dinner. Then

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Speaker 6: Thank you guys so much. I really appreciate your how

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Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, ask that is our effort for the entire year.

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Speaker 3: We can go back to not caring. Any can bail

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Speaker 2: It's freaking Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 3: You know, today's second date was a good lesson for me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, to put effort into things.

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Speaker 5: No, because I have lots of frame photos of myself

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Speaker 3: I tend to capture other stuff.

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Speaker 2: But I almost asked what was and that was, no, you.

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Speaker 3: I'm good, I.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, now I know I need to limit them

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Speaker 5: But I do think Brooke actually said it best during

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Speaker 3: That derails a date.

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Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, but good for him, he was open minded,

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Speaker 5: he was willing to change and adjust. That's literally the

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's so.

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Speaker 1: Hard for people these days to hear's up being like

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Speaker 1: maybe a somewhat critical about themselves and think, yeah, oh okay,

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Speaker 1: well I can fix that. But that's a great thing

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Speaker 1: to think after that.

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Speaker 5: They really were a great match, and I hope that

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Speaker 5: we do get an update from them soon. And you

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Speaker 5: If you email the show, we call that person who's

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Speaker 5: not calling you back and go check out all of

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Speaker 5: our second dates wherever you get your podcasts, they're available

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Speaker 5: at Brook and Jeffrey