WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Be Excellent and Be Thirsty 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.440 Welcome to the podcast. We're so glad you're here, especially 0:00:02.440 --> 0:00:05.480 to start off your Monday. Yeah, it's Brooke and Jeffrey, 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:08.039 the home of the Second Date Update, and you found us. 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:09.840 We've got a brand new one for you today where 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:12.440 you are going to learn all about the Tow of Steve. Oh, yes, 0:00:12.560 --> 0:00:16.400 very educational. Did they know about this before? Moose? Yeah, 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:16.960 it's a thing. 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:17.520 Yeah. 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:19.360 Had you ever abided by the rules? 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:20.080 I don't know. 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:20.800 I don't know. 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:21.279 Yeah. 0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:22.880 I just kind of randomly get action. 0:00:23.160 --> 0:00:25.520 It's a blessing to me. Oh no, town. 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:29.560 All right, let's find out what it is. The show 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:30.479 starts right now. 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:36.320 Second Date Updated. We got an email from one of 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:39.639 our listeners who says he's been living his life by 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:43.120 a dating philosophy that's been circulating on the internet now 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:44.440 for about two decades. 0:00:44.640 --> 0:00:45.599 Over decades. 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:51.600 It's called the Tow of Steve. That is Tao of Steve. 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:54.120 And I've not heard anything about this, but according to him, 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:57.840 it involves three basic rules that men must live by. 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:01.040 Okay, Number one be desireless. 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:04.399 Number two nobody wants you. 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:05.679 Yeah, I'm good at that one. 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:07.160 I'm not sure. I guess we'll find out. 0:01:07.240 --> 0:01:11.360 Number two is be excellent and number three be gone. 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:13.959 And if you can live by all three of those 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:18.280 rules as a man, you will become irresistible to any 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.440 woman on earth, even married women. 0:01:21.520 --> 0:01:25.399 Brooks, So look out. Maybe get your ear plugs ready 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:26.440 before we talk to him. 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:27.640 I love those gone boys. 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:30.000 Yeah, we're gonna learn more in a second. First, let's 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:33.319 say hello to Bobby, who needs our spiritual guidance today. 0:01:33.319 --> 0:01:34.479 Bobby, welcome to the show. 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:35.960 Hey guys, how you doing. 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:38.319 I wanted you to be Steve, the originator of all 0:01:38.360 --> 0:01:41.280 of this, but barely you're Bobby. That works too. 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:43.520 Oh it can't be everything. I guess all the time. 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:45.520 I'm doing my best here, I'm doing my best. 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:48.800 It isn't calling our show breaking rules one in three 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:50.760 already of your exec Yeah. 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:53.000 You guys are on to me. But it's a deasperate situation. 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:53.640 I need you. 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:57.280 That's rule number four. Be desperate. Jeffer just didn't get it. 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:00.760 Yeah, so tell us who's this woman and that's making 0:02:00.760 --> 0:02:03.640 you go against everything you believe in. Her name is Tory. 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:07.960 She's super hot and she's super nice and we just 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:11.160 had an amazing date and like, I don't know, Normally 0:02:11.200 --> 0:02:15.760 a woman would respond to all these philosophical things I've done, 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:18.520 but it's completely backfiring on me now, I. 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:22.080 Know, because if you're excited about someone and it's like 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:24.720 the first time you've ever felt this way, like lean 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:28.799 into it, like life's too short to be desireless. Yeah, 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:31.880 you could tell sometimes if someone's like purposely waiting till. 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:33.920 You ry to do it, Like, yeah, next thing you know, 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:35.600 you end up on this show and you hit your 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:39.200 rock bottom. So wow, Bobby, tell us how did you 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:41.079 get to this point? Like, tell us about your date 0:02:41.120 --> 0:02:41.520 with toy? 0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:43.600 How did you know her? Is it an online thing 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:44.320 or no? 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.200 No, I met her at a bar. I just kind 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:50.360 of bumped into her, and it had to be desireful 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:53.519 in the beginning, and then you be desire less. Okay, 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:54.480 that's how it works. 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:55.920 Okay, it makes sense. 0:02:56.919 --> 0:03:01.000 I'm in the phase between desireless and the excellent and 0:03:02.000 --> 0:03:05.320 we're waiting outside the restaurant because it's like a popular. 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:05.480 Place, you know. 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:10.520 Okay, So I had my opportunity to be excellent just 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:11.519 come upon me. 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:12.240 It was awesome. 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:14.079 What are you excellent at? 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:14.400 Friend? 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:14.680 Oh? 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:16.360 I'm excited. What this opportunity was? 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:17.240 What happened? 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:20.959 So this foreign family I'm not sure where they were from. 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:24.440 I didn't speak whatever language they like. Vaguely, I can 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:26.720 tell they're looking for a specific museum, like a really 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:27.320 famous read. 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:29.600 Okay, so they're like tourists in the area and they 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:30.280 need some help. 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:35.320 Yeah, exactly, Okay, they weren't understanding my directions, so I 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:37.600 was just like with my fingers. I was like, I 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:40.440 will walk you there, you know, like little like walking 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:41.720 man finger Yeah. 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:45.200 Most people would pull out Google Translate on their phone 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:47.280 and pull it up on their phone on Google Maps. 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:49.600 Yeah, but okay, yeah. 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:51.960 But Google Maps is an excellent I want. 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:56.440 To be You're gonna leave your date standing in front 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:59.920 of the restaurant while you walk this family. Absolutely not. 0:04:00.280 --> 0:04:04.080 I took her with me. So now you're demonstrating that 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:06.960 you're a guy who's willing to help strangers. You know 0:04:07.080 --> 0:04:10.640 your way around the neighborhood generally a lot of excellent quality. 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:13.440 You know what a museum is, yes, you know exactly. 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:16.040 So did you go straight to the bedroom from the museum? 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:17.640 Did you have to do more? 0:04:18.040 --> 0:04:19.880 Well, you know, if you have the chance to be 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:23.320 excellent twice, let's do it twice. And luckily for your 0:04:23.320 --> 0:04:25.640 boy here he was excellent. Twice in one night. 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:27.440 Whoa at the museum? 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:29.400 So many directions back to the restaurant. 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:33.200 Wow, what'd you do the second time? 0:04:33.720 --> 0:04:37.280 So second time we're having dinner. Dinner is like pretty 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:40.039 much finishing up and you could just tell like someone 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:44.760 dined and dashed, someone hadn't paid their bill. Woh yeah, 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:47.800 Like the waiters were all huddling together and stuff, and 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:49.880 like it's an expensive bill. 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:51.880 It was a big deal. Yeah. 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:53.880 I took care of the bill and I tipped the waiter, 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:55.640 just kind of nonchalant. 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:58.400 Like, oh wow, super nice, bro. 0:04:58.680 --> 0:04:59.920 I thought you were going to go to hear them 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:03.560 and tackle the dining dasher, but you just took care 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:03.960 of it. 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:07.240 I mean, I think tackling the dining dasher is cool, 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:10.080 but it's even cooler to be nonchalante. 0:05:10.360 --> 0:05:13.279 How do you be nonchalant after just going over and 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:15.159 paying someone else's bill? Like, what do you say to 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:16.680 Tory when you come back to the table. 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:19.000 Well, the thing is you say nothing, and you wait 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:20.599 for her to question you what was that? 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:25.120 And then you reveal, wow, did she fall into that? Ploy? 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:28.680 She was like what was that? I was like, I 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:32.080 just took care of it. A little shoulder shrug, No, biggie. 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:35.840 No, while you're checking your bake, stage me to make 0:05:35.839 --> 0:05:36.760 sure it doesn't bounce. 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:41.520 These things, these are investments. Okay, you are investing though, 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:43.640 because you know she's gonna think about little things. 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:46.040 I mean, honestly, it's a gentleman thing to do. 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:49.599 We're all impressed. Did it work on Tory? 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:52.560 If you had asked me in the moment, I was like, 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:57.080 couldn't be better. I walked her home, we hugged, I 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:59.360 gave her a peck on the cheek, said we'd talk, dude. 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:02.640 And it turns out she goned me. 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:06.640 Oh no, yeah, the gonner got gone. 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:07.880 You never hit me up. 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:10.679 How long did you wait before you contacted her after 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:11.080 the date? 0:06:11.640 --> 0:06:14.560 Well, I mean, like according to the pools I live by, 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:16.640 and trying to be gone. So I was trying to 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:17.800 be gone for a while. 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:20.360 Yeah, that's your answer right there. 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:23.080 Yeah. Do you think she thought she got ghosts me? 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:23.360 Yeah? 0:06:23.360 --> 0:06:25.400 You don't hear from someone after a first date, you're not, yea. 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:28.520 So maybe your rules are playing against you if you're 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:29.160 sticking to them. 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:31.800 Yeah, But like after like four or five days, I 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:34.760 just couldn't take it anymore and I just started texting 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:39.960 her and I was absolutely desireful, not excellent, and I 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:40.680 was pregnant. 0:06:40.880 --> 0:06:43.640 Man, she broke you. I feel you, Steve, would be 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:45.640 so disappointed in your behavior. 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:47.360 When I tell myself I'm gonna eat healthy and then 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:49.560 what do you know, a whole box of oreos ends 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:50.200 up in my mouth. 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:52.880 You know, and now you're reaching out to us, which 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:56.320 I think breaks your first rule of like be desireless, 0:06:56.360 --> 0:06:59.039 because now you're asking a radio show to show how 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:00.279 much you want to hang out. 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:01.680 Yeah, I mean all the rules are out of the 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:05.719 window at this point. I want to so bad. 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:08.080 Oh, we're throwing every rule that we know out the 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:10.400 window when we come back and call Tory for you 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:12.840 and try to get her to agree to abide by 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:15.000 the towe of Bobby and give you one more chance 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:17.600 with your second date update right after this hold on 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:22.720 second date update. You know you're in a good place 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:26.600 when you find yourself abandoning your entire belief system to 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:30.680 score a date with a woman. I've abandoned my belief 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:32.760 six times since I got to work today. 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:34.640 Oh, and it feels great. 0:07:35.240 --> 0:07:37.640 I don't know we can call a dating strategy your 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:40.520 belief system that he's a little dramatic. 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:43.160 Well, that's what Bobby says. He told us he used 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:46.360 to live by a dating philosophy called the Tow of Steve, which, 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:49.440 if you didn't hear, it's basically three rules about demonstrating 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:53.480 your value while also not coming across as desperate. 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:53.960 Or two available. 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:57.800 Okay, so he's stuck to those very strictly until he 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:00.720 met Tory Yeah, and said, screw it, Tory is way 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:01.120 too hot. 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:02.880 I need to know why she's not calling me back 0:08:02.960 --> 0:08:03.360 right now. 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:05.920 I mean, he lasted four days until he started incessantly 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:08.040 texting her exactly with no response. 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:10.520 Now, Bobby, I'm assuming you don't want us to tell 0:08:10.560 --> 0:08:13.360 Tory about your mantra and the rules that you follow, 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:15.720 unless how you already told her, did you? 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:18.680 No? No, no, I didn't tell her my philosophy. 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:22.000 Don't tell her. That's part of it. You don't say it. 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:23.880 But also, do you assume most singles out there try 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:26.040 to do the same general thing, play hard to get, 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:29.720 not be too available. It's pretty be excellent. 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:34.480 Yeah yeah, yeah, but like this is my secret, sauce. 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:36.360 Tell the secret, sauce. 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:38.839 I think it's admirable that as a plan, because mine 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:40.520 is just drink a lot and hope for the best. 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:43.480 So, Bobby, you earn a better spot than a lot 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:43.920 of people. 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:45.520 And we've all seen you after you drink a lot. 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:48.040 It's not. 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:50.440 What she's a crier to. 0:08:50.679 --> 0:08:53.760 Yeah, well that's exactly right. Let's call Tory. We'll see 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:55.559 what she has to say why she's not calling you back. 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:57.480 Hopefully she picks up, and I'm dialing your number right 0:08:57.480 --> 0:09:10.079 now here we go pick up for us. Hello, Hey, 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:11.199 we're looking to speak with toy. 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:14.400 I can I ask you's calling? 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:16.560 Yes, you can. We're a radio show. We're called Brook 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:17.440 and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:19.040 Hey, Tori al shows here. 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:21.840 I'm sorry, what's going on? 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:25.320 We're doing a segment on our show called the Second 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:27.200 Date Update where we're trying to help out one of 0:09:27.200 --> 0:09:30.640 our listeners get in touch with you after you already 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:31.840 went on one day with him. 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:36.680 Is just like some internet thing or no, no. 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:39.120 It's much more disgraceful. It's a radio thing. 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:40.640 Yeah, but it's also a podcast. 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:42.360 Focus on the radio part. 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:44.760 That's the cool bit of this, because we're just trying 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:47.760 to get some answers for Bobby about why you're not 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:50.120 hanging out again or even talking to him at all. 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:52.520 I mean it was a. 0:09:52.559 --> 0:09:56.520 Date, okay, I mean you could see it's probably pretty 0:09:56.520 --> 0:09:58.719 obvious that it's driving him nuts, not knowing why you're 0:09:58.720 --> 0:09:59.839 not calling, because. 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:03.960 Yeah, I mean, it's kind of just felt like I 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:06.800 was on a date with someone who was giving attention 0:10:06.920 --> 0:10:11.720 to everyone and everything else except me. 0:10:12.720 --> 0:10:13.800 Why do you say that? 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:15.960 Even when we first got to the restaurant, we were 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:18.480 waiting and he offered to show some people that were 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:19.880 lost the way to the museum. 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:21.240 But that's nice. 0:10:21.920 --> 0:10:24.280 Yeah, but I was starving and we lost our reservation 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:26.240 so we had to wait another thirty minutes. 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:28.160 Because you were gone. 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:31.800 I could see that happening. Actually, I'm sorry, not if 0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:34.199 she's in heels, like it's not comfortable to walk. 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:37.840 Okay, So you don't value helping people. 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:39.360 You value material. 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:42.520 Things, like don't come at her like that. 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:45.120 Oh, I'm trying to understand where your thought processes. 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:47.959 I mean, that was just one part of the date. 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:51.280 Like even when we were inside, he would compliment the 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:54.880 wait staff. But how dare he never once complimented me? 0:10:56.160 --> 0:11:01.120 Interesting, Oh that's important, like the focus of the whole night, 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:04.840 or told the white staff to compliment you for going 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:05.199 to do it. 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:07.679 Directly looks so beautiful? Could you also relay that to her? 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:11.360 Yeah, we didn't compliment you, because I mean he gushed 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:15.200 about you to us, about and lovely and nice you were. 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:18.319 He never said anything like that to you. 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:20.160 No. I mean even when I was in the middle 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:22.280 of a story. I was telling him about my vacation 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:24.840 to Europe, and he got up in the middle of 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:26.839 it and went picked up a nap and somebody else 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:27.960 dropped at another table. 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:32.520 He's almost like his gonna sound funny, He's almost like 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:33.320 two nice. 0:11:33.160 --> 0:11:35.240 No, guys, you think she cares about things that she does, 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.520 Like guys think girls are impressed by those things, not 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:38.920 just listening to them. 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:41.240 Yeah, and like even at the end he held the 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:43.760 door up and for someone else and then went out 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:45.680 behind them, not holding the door for. 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:49.760 Me and didn't hold What the heck do you think 0:11:49.800 --> 0:11:51.720 here's the thing? 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:55.240 Obviously he's a kind person. Do you think that he 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:58.480 was just nervous and maybe that's why those things didn't 0:11:58.520 --> 0:11:59.040 happen for. 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:03.040 You and seem nervous And he was super nice, polite, 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:04.440 talkative with everyone else. 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:07.920 Okay, okay, but a lot of times guys don't want 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:10.319 to like seem too desperate in front of a girl 0:12:10.360 --> 0:12:13.720 and won't say the thing that they're feeling because it 0:12:13.760 --> 0:12:15.280 don't make them seem you know. 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:17.559 Beta, which which is a thing. 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:20.959 It's a complex that guys have and. 0:12:21.200 --> 0:12:22.920 That's why they slam doors in their face. 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:27.240 Is But maybe he was just in his own head 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:29.480 too much, and we should probably ask him about it, 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:32.360 because Bobby is waiting on the other line wanting to 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:33.760 compliment you profusely. 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:39.679 I'm sorry, what, Yeah, he's been listening to this call, Bobby. 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:48.800 You there a coming a little smooth, Bobby, anything you 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:50.880 want to say to her story? 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:56.920 You didn't like all those excellent things I did set 0:12:56.960 --> 0:12:57.520 you up there? 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:59.320 I mean, what was the point of me being there 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:02.120 if you weren't going to give any attention or participate 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:02.960 in the date at all. 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:06.800 I mean, you didn't really give me a lot of 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:09.120 attention after the date, you know, I gave you a 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:10.959 lot of texts and calls and stuff. 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:14.720 Why would I do that, give attention to someone who 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:16.800 clearly didn't have the time of day for me. 0:13:18.640 --> 0:13:22.719 No, that's that's really that's for you. 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:23.400 That's not it. 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:27.240 Okay, So basically. 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.000 Bobby, wait, wait, hold on, are you sure you want 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:29.360 to do this. 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:33.480 Yeah, it's just like apologize and compliment her. 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:36.800 Yeah, but like you guys want me to lie there, 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:38.520 I don't want to lie there. I gotta be honest. 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:43.760 We say, compliment her, that's a lot, go for it, 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:46.160 then all right, clear your chests. 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:47.200 Man, then go for it. 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:49.200 Bobby, what do you have to tell me? But can 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:50.480 you hurry up? I got things to do? 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:56.240 Okay, okay, So, like I live by these these philosophical rules, 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.160 all of which you don't really need to know about. 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:02.239 But basically, like I was, I was trying to demonstrate 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:07.360 value and be excellent for you to other people. You know, 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:10.320 maybe it came off as like I didn't care about you, 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:12.480 but I was like trying to do these things to 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:15.880 show you what I am capable of, like my potential 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:16.640 and stuff. 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:18.760 I can pick up a napkin so fast, yes. 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:21.680 Yeah, exactly, I can pick up a napkin so fast. 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:23.280 Yeah. 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:24.840 Right now, I don't even know what you're talking about 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:26.880 right now, Like all you have to do is ask 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:29.800 me questions and listen and compliment. 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:31.240 That is a lot to ask for. 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:36.200 That is the thing is complimenting kind of goes against 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:38.600 the philosophy that he believes in so. 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:41.400 Well, that would be part of being excellent. 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:43.080 No, i'd be breaking desireless. 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:44.280 But yeah, but you do that. 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:46.120 He said after the first eight. See, this is the 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:49.200 whole thing with rules, Like they get so complicated. Why 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:51.240 don't you just be a normal human and have a 0:14:51.240 --> 0:14:51.960 good conversation. 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:56.040 Yeah, let's get rid of laws too, Jeff, that doesn't 0:14:57.200 --> 0:14:57.960 no structure. 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:00.720 I think I know what she's taught talking about. I 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:03.080 think she just doesn't like people who do good things. 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:07.560 Here's a question, Tory. If he would have done those 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:12.600 things for the other people and also listened and complimented 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:15.920 you and asked you questions, how would you have felt. 0:15:16.760 --> 0:15:19.280 I mean, it would have been better. But I'm not 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:22.480 sure why he needed to focus on everything else except 0:15:22.480 --> 0:15:22.920 our date. 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:27.440 But I can't do all those things. I was already 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:28.800 tired doing the other stuff. 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:31.120 It's a lot, man. 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:32.920 So it's one or the other for you. 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:36.480 You're either fully thinking, strategizing, or you're doing nothing. 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:37.680 He's not a multitasker. 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:41.359 Yeah, Like, I'm sorry for being excellent. 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:46.280 That's not the apology that she was stepped in before that. 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:50.680 But the one thing that he is focused on right now, Tory, 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:53.720 his only focus is getting another date with you. That 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:56.240 is why he reached out to a radio show to 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:59.160 get a hold of you and arrange a second meet up. 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:01.320 And we would pay for if you're willing to give 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:02.240 him a second chance. 0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:05.520 I think I'm good. I don't want to be with 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:07.440 someone who just likes to grand stand. 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:10.440 But remember, Bobby's not good, He's excellent, so you could 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:11.320 level up. 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:14.720 I mean now, he knows right like now, the expectations 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:16.920 of what you're looking for out there, like you might 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:18.840 as well give him a chance to make that happen, 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:19.480 don't you think. 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:23.960 Yeah, I'm listening out. Look you're hot, and I'll pick 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:26.520 up your napkin and like you want me to ask 0:16:26.520 --> 0:16:29.120 you questions? What are you doing next Friday? Let's get dinner. 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:32.800 That was actually the smoothest thing he's ever done. 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:36.400 Yeah, Tory, what do you think I'm gonna pass? 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:40.800 We did our best, honestly, he just he came on 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:44.080 way too strong at the end and act just like 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:44.480 a simp. 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:52.560 Oh, Bobby, you're back to square one, dude. 0:16:52.960 --> 0:16:55.880 These rules just like don't work for some people, Like 0:16:55.960 --> 0:16:57.560 I'm desireless. Doesn't work. 0:16:57.800 --> 0:16:58.640 I'm desireful. 0:16:58.720 --> 0:16:59.360 It doesn't work. 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:00.000 I'm excellent. 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:03.000 Them too excellent. I'm gone, I'm too gone. 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:05.159 Welcome to dating women, buddy, It's going to be a 0:17:05.200 --> 0:17:05.600 long road. 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:07.280 Nobody said too excellent but. 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:13.359 Yourself, Jeffrey in the morning. You know, after thousands of 0:17:13.440 --> 0:17:16.119 second date calls, I'm starting to notice a trend. 0:17:17.040 --> 0:17:19.880 Sometimes men don't listen very good. 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:23.359 Wait are you just now hearing that? 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:25.600 Yeah, I'm thousands. 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:28.160 I don't know if anybody saw this, But even when 0:17:28.200 --> 0:17:30.680 guys get her like beating over the head with good information, 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:33.560