WEBVTT - Episode 126: Hoe Is Life (Feat. Bobby Lytes) 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:06.160 What's up, y'all? We are getting ready for lip service, 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:08.479 but I have to remind you before we do anything. 0:00:08.880 --> 0:00:12.559 Lip Service Live February thirteenth, a highline ballroom, right before 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:15.680 Valentine's Day. It's gonna be fun, a lot of surprises 0:00:15.680 --> 0:00:17.400 for you. If you were there for the first one, 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:19.079 you know we had a good time. If you weren't, 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:21.320 don't miss out again. Okay, we got a Mala La 0:00:21.400 --> 0:00:23.919 Negra coming through from Love and Hip Hop Miami, also 0:00:23.960 --> 0:00:26.560 a little mo and Carl Dark and her husband will 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:28.720 be there because it's Valentine's Day, so we gotta do 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:31.080 some couples type stuff and we've got some special guests 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:34.000 coming to so make sure you don't miss out. What's up, y'all, 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:36.040 it's lip Services. You're already to have some fun today. 0:00:36.080 --> 0:00:39.239 It's Angela. Ye I'm stuffing in Santiago. I'm g g Maguire, 0:00:39.360 --> 0:00:43.440 I'm Lauria and it's me. What's up now? We've all 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:46.080 seen Bobby Lights on Love and Hip Hop Miami. Yea, 0:00:46.840 --> 0:00:50.839 I watched all the how To end up on there, 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:53.720 and you are treatas cousin. Part of the storyline is 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:56.800 that she's not really helping you you feel. As far 0:00:56.840 --> 0:00:59.680 as being an artist, you know it's hard in this industry, 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:02.520 especially when you're gay trying to do it. All I 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:05.319 want is a little help and a little support. Everybody. 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:08.560 Turn it on, baby, turn it on, alright, So we 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:09.960 always start with the tip of the day. So for 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:12.280 the tip of the day, I want to know from you, right, 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:14.320 if you want to date somebody and you're not sure 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:17.039 if they swing that way, how do you dip your 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:20.039 toe in and find out? Okay, wait, and my sober, 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:23.040 am I drunk? Because if I'm drunk, ain't no rules, 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:25.640 ain't no limits. I'm just gonna find out. Trust me. Now, 0:01:25.680 --> 0:01:28.160 what do you do? Okay, So if I'm drunk, I'll 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:29.959 probably go up to the guy and just like be 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:32.360 very friendly and like I want to be his friend. First. 0:01:32.400 --> 0:01:34.959 It starts, you know, most situations start off with a 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:37.040 friendship first or some type of conversation. Right, So I 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:38.959 go ahead, like to believe that you know what I'm saying. 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:41.800 So you go and have a conversation, and based off 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:46.200 of how that conversation goes is how I would then determine. 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:48.560 Because it's a combination of things, it's skills. I'm telling you. 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:50.600 It's like it's it's a human nature to all of us, 0:01:50.680 --> 0:01:52.600 especially as guys, but we have this thing called the 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:56.240 gay gata. So it's like a combination of the gator 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:58.640 starts going off and then also the vibe. You know 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:01.080 what I'm saying. Some people are feel like are just 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:02.640 clueless and that's how they end up getting the ass 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:03.960 to be you know what I'm saying, going running up 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:05.280 on the wrong guy or whatever. So I feel like 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:06.960 you have to be intuitive at the same time. You 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:08.880 can't just try to figure out if a guy is gay. 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:11.880 You have to be very intuitive and touch with yourself. No, 0:02:12.120 --> 0:02:13.840 you know what I'm saying, No a man, no the 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:15.600 way that because sometimes a guy will tell you right 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:17.720 off the bat when you when you introduce yourself by 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.639 the handshake, that he's not even on that. What's the handshake? Like, 0:02:21.080 --> 0:02:24.280 you know, very like non attentive. Because I heard like 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:26.560 if they are gay, they'll do like a little tickle 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:33.320 that is so old school. That's not like give me 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:38.040 your hand, that's really that's really detailed. That's never happened 0:02:38.040 --> 0:02:40.120 to me. I've never had I've never had a guy 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:47.000 coming to me like you ever tickle something else I 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:53.960 do the tickling. That's like no, But I mean, you know, 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:57.399 there's a lot of things, not just I'm listening. It's 0:02:57.600 --> 0:02:59.280 you can look at a guy is no longer how 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:01.960 he acts, how he speaks, how he dresses. I promise you, 0:03:02.000 --> 0:03:05.040 it's not. I promise you. I feel it's more so 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:07.680 on what their preference is, you know what I'm saying, 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:09.720 Because I feel like the same way that there can 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:12.200 be a guy that's super super feminine and super metro 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:16.639 sexual and all about themselves right and even maybe and 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:21.239 he can be young, satuated with with females, and then 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:23.440 vice versa could be thugs like the boys that I 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:25.640 like to deal with a lot on the regular. It's 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:28.919 like I like them to be manly, yes I do, 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:31.440 and like and here's my thing, like they will you 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:34.480 would think they're full hardcore or whatever, and they love 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:36.920 sex with gay men. And then the shocker of it 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:38.800 all is like the ones that are so they wanted 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:41.280 up their ass, you know what I'm saying. So it's 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:45.360 like there's there's literally no you can't you can't tell 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:48.680 you can't look at somebody in th same with females 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:52.200 and literally all of my female friends have no issue 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:55.680 having sex with a girl or they would And do 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:57.480 you think for a woman that doesn't make a woman 0:03:57.560 --> 0:03:59.640 gay but for a guy. If a man has sex 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:01.400 with another man, he's gay, But if a woman does, 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:03.880 they could say, oh, I just like to yes, you noticed. 0:04:03.920 --> 0:04:05.520 We've been talking about this for years now. It's like 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:07.560 such a double standard, Like it's okay for guys to 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:09.800 see women walking down the street holding hands. There's some 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:11.960 guys majority of man would be like, that's so fucking hot, 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:14.960 Oh my god, that's so sexy looking at bitches. Can 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:16.719 you believe these two bitches making out in front of you? 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:19.520 Bro Let let a female ever say, can you believe 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:30.160 these two guys you have a normal just like I 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:32.919 don't have a problem with day Okay. A lot of 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:35.480 my female friends watching Point, they're like, Bobby, I'm sorry, 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:39.359 but I like gay point. I'm like, bitch, no, But 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:41.720 like a like there is a double standard. I feel 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:43.120 like it doesn't come from the ladies though, Like a 0:04:43.120 --> 0:04:45.520 lot of the females are my biggest supporters, like my 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:48.480 female Even if a female is a homophobic as female, 0:04:49.200 --> 0:04:51.520 she is still you know what I'm saying, being way 0:04:51.600 --> 0:04:55.480 less harsh on me than the guys would saying by 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:58.120 taking a man's virginity like it was his first time 0:04:58.200 --> 0:05:03.839 ever doing it, I call that virginity virginity. Yeah, we 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:06.000 call that the homo the homo card if you lose 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:12.080 your homeo card. Yeah, I mean, okay, truthfully speaking, I 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:13.960 like to think that I have one time in the past, 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:18.680 but I don't believe it. I don't normally do this, right, 0:05:18.960 --> 0:05:21.080 I've never done this before. And then then in their 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:23.880 head they're delusional and they're they're not counting that training. 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:26.240 They they just fun last week as a guy. So 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:28.480 they're like they're like, oh, yeah, now, you never did 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:34.040 this before, but you right up in there for real. R. Well, 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:36.160 I'm gonna be honest with you, guys. I mean, I'm 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:38.520 a very open I'm a very open person. I'm not 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:41.200 gonna put a label on me. I'm already gay. I'm 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:42.719 just saying at the label as far as now, like 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:46.240 my position top bottom, So I would just say this 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:48.719 like I do prefer to bottom. I mean it's I 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:50.960 think it's very clear to the world. Yeah, but I 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:54.039 will do like that first, yes, and you like to 0:05:54.440 --> 0:06:03.000 do so dougs like, yeah, no, but I do not 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:05.159 support and I do not agree with the idea that 0:06:05.240 --> 0:06:07.960 men are in the closet, So I want to make 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:10.320 that clear also as well, like my ex boyfriend, like 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:12.600 not the one who was on loving him because you know, 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.880 years long he was like gives off a thug type effect, 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:19.240 but he's openly gay with my hand in public we 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:21.479 go out of because mom is knows he's gay. Everybody knows, 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:23.560 So like you can be, you know, give off that 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:26.960 thug masculine effect without having to be in the closet. 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:29.599 You get what I'm saying. And then of course, like 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:31.839 the men that are in the closet do someway somehow 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.560 always attracted me because they're so fine all the time. 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:36.320 But when I analyzed they have the words, I'm like, no, 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:37.680 this is not right. You know what I'm saying. I 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:39.200 just don't feel right, especially when they were like, oh 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:41.200 yeah I got a baby mama or I got a girlfriend. 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:43.520 I just yeah, I don't feel But is it like 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:46.960 the thrill of it that gets you that, like maybe 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:50.159 it's like only you know or whatever the case, like 0:06:50.200 --> 0:06:52.200 with the guys that have the baby mamas and all 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:55.240 that stuff. Yeah, but I swear on everything I love 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:57.599 I think my friend like, I don't think that's I 0:06:57.600 --> 0:06:59.839 don't I don't entertain him when I find out they 0:06:59.880 --> 0:07:01.280 have a baby mama and all that. Even with that, 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:02.920 I find out they have kids that they're like, yeah, 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:05.120 but I'm not with my baby mama. I just don't 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:08.880 entertain them. I'll probably like just you know, but there's 0:07:08.920 --> 0:07:10.720 too many men out there. I can move on to 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:12.120 the next one. Trust me. It's like I can move 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:14.000 on to the next one, and I'm probably like I'm popping. 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:15.640 I can get whatever the funk I want right now 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:18.640 to a certain extent, you know what I'm saying in 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:25.200 your DM, I've had a few are they out celebs? 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:28.640 Are the celebs that you would think like, oh, ship, well, 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:31.680 we're not gonna ask names. We do know. Actually a 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:33.840 lot of them have been um there. Actually a couple 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:38.080 of them have been openly gay. Yeah, like they're openly gay. Okay, 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:41.360 all right now, but nobody that you were surprised, like, damn, 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:47.080 I didn't like a football player or something that you're like, 0:07:46.560 --> 0:08:01.360 I love Angela. Next question that for breakfast club. Yeah, 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:06.760 this lip service though, but not listening. No linebackers. I'm friends. 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:10.800 I'm friends with football players for sure. For sure, I've 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:12.480 seen you. I'm trying to get at Mike Sam though, 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:14.160 what's up Mike Sam? Is that his name, the one 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:16.760 that's openly gay? He at football players? He is in 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:22.480 an NFL. Right, don't be a thought. Okay, don't you 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:25.720 have a boyfriend. I am not. I'm right now. I'm single. Guys, Okay, 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:27.320 so you don't see me getting you don't see me. 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:31.480 But you know a lot of people go back at 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:36.360 episode somebody, well he came back. He came back to me, 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:38.880 and you don't see that. I guess what you're gonna 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:40.679 see what you're gonna see how that unfolds on. I 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:43.320 see you come back with a fist. I've seen in 0:08:43.320 --> 0:08:46.720 the preview that this money coming up. Yeah, for sure, 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:48.560 I don't want to see you fighting, Babby. Come on, 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:50.679 I don't want to see myself either. It's not classy, 0:08:50.679 --> 0:08:53.160 it's uncouth. As soon as you have boy friend was 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:55.800 being disrespectful. Yeah, he deserves that one thing to do 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:57.280 your dirt, but it's another thing to be But I'm 0:08:57.280 --> 0:08:59.640 gonna be honest with you guys, like you know, nothing 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:01.600 on other hip hop is portrayed other than what we 0:09:01.720 --> 0:09:03.880 filmed because I one thing I always tell people I 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:06.600 hate cast members to get on they're saying, oh, it's production, 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:09.120 and the way they edited, the way they edited. No, no, no, bitch. 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:11.839 You know what you're doing. You know what you said, 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:13.600 and you know what place you're at, and you know 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:15.320 what you're doing. So I feel like you're always in 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:18.720 control no matter what. So with that being said, that 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:21.360 situation that you see when I slapped him, it took 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:23.720 a while for me to slap him. So, yes, they 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:27.760 chopped it up and fit for TV, yeah, they but 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:29.439 they made it seem like I just walked. It wasn't 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:30.880 like that. It took a lot. And the things he 0:09:30.960 --> 0:09:33.400 was saying to me is what pissed me off. They're 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:36.120 gonna show it more like in the in the episode 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:37.480 is gonna be more detailed, you know how they do that, 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:39.480 show more detail. But like the things he was saying 0:09:39.520 --> 0:09:41.320 to me, and the way he was handling that situation 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:42.920 and handed You're at a pool party with your ex 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:46.640 boyfriend and I was not in the knowledge that he 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:48.080 was cheating on me the whole time, for real, for us. 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:50.040 So now when I'm putting all this together, my emotion 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:51.360 took over me and I did have to put my 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:53.480 hands on him. The same with the first episode, like 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:56.720 that was all provoked. Like I am provoked. I don't 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:59.720 go around because I'm all about breaking barriers and coming together, 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:01.640 you know. I feel like if you're on the blogs 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.800 a lot, you was on the blog for getting into 0:10:03.840 --> 0:10:06.600 a fight when you were around trein a one time, 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:11.120 it does kind of make it look like do do 0:10:11.400 --> 0:10:12.920 and do it. But guess what, at the end of 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:14.719 the day, the only way I can get past that 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:16.079 I prove people that I'm not. I just have to 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:18.120 continue doing me and showing her my good side and 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:21.000 just being the loving person that I am and positive 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:23.040 person that I am. One thing I can't say though, 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:25.320 in this world of reality or this world of pop culture, 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:27.440 you have to do things like that in order to 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:29.600 even be noticed. And that's so sad. It's so sad 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:32.040 that everyone's like not excited to see my single released 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:33.480 body is coming up in a couple of episodes, but 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:36.120 they're excited to see me slap somebody. Know what I'm saying, 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:38.480 you know, And it just is what it is. It's TV, 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:41.520 and I'm not gonna sit there and like back down 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:43.640 when I know that I have a chance to make 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:45.679 my impression and be like, no, that's what I stand for. 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:51.280 And in order for me to depict that restaurant, I 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:53.520 never fight. I don't believe guys should ever fight girls. 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:57.120 That's not smart or it's not good. But um, I 0:10:57.160 --> 0:10:59.800 feel like, you know, TV can make you seem a 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:02.000 certa away, but it's up to like the fans to 0:11:02.080 --> 0:11:04.280 just rock with you enough to you to just be like, no, 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.079 this is me, this is why I really am. Look 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:10.160 at came Michell like she was looked at. Yeah, we 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:13.080 don't talk about holy ship. I don't know what's going on. 0:11:13.080 --> 0:11:17.559 I feel like I've just into the twilight zone along. 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:21.720 Now let me ask you this, but don't you feel 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:23.880 like when you're in a relationship with somebody and it 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:25.559 comes to the point where you put your hands on them, 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:29.320 then maybe that's a toxic relationship Because has it ever 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:31.840 worked where you put you get to the point where 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:33.360 you feel like you put your hands on someone they 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:35.520 put their hands on you. Can it never work past that? 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:40.000 I ain't gonna like can because me and my boyfriend, 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.559 like we fight. You fight. You know what I'm saying, 0:11:43.559 --> 0:11:46.520 you hit me, I hit you or whatever like that. Yeah, 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:49.520 I feel like me. Me and my boyfriend, we were 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:52.480 together for almost eight years. We've been through a couple 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:55.880 of different things. We had a couple of domestic viole situation. 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:01.000 They don't even be all that with the police and 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:05.360 the statement maker. No, no no, no, no, it's just no. 0:12:05.559 --> 0:12:07.640 You don't call the cops. You know, it's just you 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:13.240 get choked out. You might get a slab, right, you 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:16.160 might staff somebody want a scissor. It's never you. It's 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:18.920 always like the neighbor calling or someone from far away, 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:20.840 not minding their business, just buying a bagel and they 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:25.040 see like back of bagel you. So yeah, I feel 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:27.440 you on that. But now I feel like this, once 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:29.200 I get to the point in a relationship where I 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:31.640 physically want to harm you or you physically want to 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:33.280 harm me, I don't know that I could continue on 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:36.240 past that, Like I'm not gonna feel safe. But you're 0:12:36.240 --> 0:12:41.839 a Capricorn, Okay, what that means. Capricorns are very You 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.320 guys don't tolerate a lot of bullshit. I know that 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:47.720 for a fact. I'm telling you a lot of bullshit. 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:51.000 I'm a Capricorn. You're a Capricorn. From one particularly, well 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:53.600 are you born in January or somebody and you're born 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:56.400 in January? January? But I knew that, Like when somebody 0:12:56.400 --> 0:12:59.000 puts their hands on you, I'm like, especially like in 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:01.839 a way that you're like, Okay, I gotta hide from 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:05.480 people now because I'm sucked up. That's I'll tell y'all 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:07.120 what I'll tell you all this. After I put my 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:09.200 hands on that motherfucker, he didn't want nothing to do 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:12.520 with me for a good minute. Yeah, he was very hurt. 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:16.360 He was very shocked, aside from it happening in real life, 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:17.920 Like he was hurt and he was like, you really 0:13:17.920 --> 0:13:20.280 did that to me on TV? Though, but he provoked you. 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:22.640 Yeah he did, and I look what he did to 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:25.560 you on TV. Yeah exactly, look what exactly. But here's 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:27.520 the thing, like certain people really don't put up with 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:30.200 that volage. Like he was like really distropped by it, 0:13:30.200 --> 0:13:32.400 and it was something. But it comes as off as 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:35.200 a shocker, like because I know you can because it's like, wait, 0:13:35.800 --> 0:13:39.160 you weren't expecting to get slapped. Oh you didn't think 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:41.559 he was gonna get slapped, No, motherfucker, you know what 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:43.160 I'm saying. So it's just a rude awakening. I guess 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:45.240 there's different characters. What if it's worse than a slap, 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:47.960 like an actual like you have to go to the 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:50.040 hospital or you have a black eye or anything like that. 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:53.600 Oh no, that's something that's ridiculous. Not even even going 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.640 into it, I said, I'm not gonna harm him. I'm 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:57.360 I'm not trying to hurt I'm not trying to damage 0:13:57.440 --> 0:13:59.280 him or his face. I just want to let him 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.200 feel my pencil. I I went into it with even 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:03.520 I'm right handed. I went into it with a left hand, okay, 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:05.200 because I knew that it wasn't gonna hurt him that much, 0:14:05.240 --> 0:14:06.800 and I knew it was just gonna be like are 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:09.120 you serious? And it just turned so dramatic because how 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:11.200 much I had to reach. But it was just like 0:14:11.360 --> 0:14:13.280 are you serious? He told me. I don't get He's like, 0:14:13.280 --> 0:14:14.560 I don't get what you want to do. And we 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:16.080 had just got into a heated thing. It's a lot 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:17.920 you gotta tune in. I promise you. But I promise you. 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.160 One thing is like, I don't condone. I do not 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:24.200 believe violence is the answer at all, said stabbing somebody 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:27.880 with scissors, Like can you recover from that. She said, yeah, 0:14:27.960 --> 0:14:30.640 it worked out a long time, but it was just 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:33.360 a little stitch, little butterfly stitch that he had to get. 0:14:33.600 --> 0:14:35.080 But then, what can I just touch on that and 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:39.360 about everybody's It's about everyone's background, what you've been through 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:41.800 in life, right, And that's what I'm saying. Like I'm 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:44.720 Puerto Rican, you know what I'm saying. So it's expected 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:48.080 for me to like pull out a blade and like 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:51.240 from the West Side Story that that that movie took 0:14:51.240 --> 0:14:54.040 place in like the fifties or something like we're known 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:56.440 for that. You know, I think it's part of my 0:14:56.520 --> 0:15:01.080 culture to be get crazy your boyfriend. But I feel 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:04.760 like I feel like now, you know, and lately, you know, 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:08.480 as I've gotten you know, a little older, I feel 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:11.000 like I've been more calm. Like sometimes I look at 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:16.760 my dude while he's sleeping and I just wanna told back, 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.080 I pray, and you know, while he's sleeping, what is 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:21.920 he doing to you? Then while he's sleeping, he just 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:25.280 looks so innocent, And he just looks so innocent while 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:29.280 he's sleeping, and he's not. He's so evil. It's so 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:33.400 you want to put that pillow and just suffocated. Y'all. 0:15:33.680 --> 0:15:36.240 Y'all are crazy. I would know, you know what I 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:39.400 David that guy once that asked me, he said, you know, 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:41.800 have you ever been to love to the point where 0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:43.600 you felt like you were mad at you had to 0:15:43.600 --> 0:15:46.560 put your hands on the person? And I told him no, 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:48.560 and he told me, well, you've never been in love. 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:51.560 That's crazy, right, That's what he was. That's what he 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:53.760 told me. And I promise you that's the first person 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:58.080 I put my hands on. Damn, that's that's the first 0:15:58.080 --> 0:16:00.960 person I punched in the face that I was in 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:03.680 a relationship. And to me, that's not the definition of 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:05.520 what love is supposed to be. Yeah, no, I didn't 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:08.560 think so either. So it's just that I love is. 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:11.200 At the same time, love is unconditional. So it's like, 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:12.800 if you love this person, I love you, and then 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:14.920 you I might mush you because you did something to me. 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:16.440 It's like I love you. So it's like, yeah, you 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:18.560 mushed me, but stop, But what if like I broke 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:23.000 your ribs because I love you, give you a black 0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:27.600 guy because I love you. I love you. Yeah, I 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:30.720 say I love you. Know I feel like, um, you know, 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:33.760 you love somebody if you're willing to suffer for them, 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:37.800 But a broken rib that's a little extra suffering. That's jealousy. 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:40.560 Jealousy is love and hate at the same time. So 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:42.560 you hate that person so much you're willing to beat 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:44.920 them and put your hands, but you love them that 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:47.160 you you want to still keep him around. And then 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.080 what do you do? Do you get them help? Because say, 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:51.520 everything was great and everything was fine and something fun 0:16:51.680 --> 0:16:56.520 that happened and he broke your fucking ribs. Let's just 0:16:56.560 --> 0:17:02.120 say this is what happened. Neels saying black, Yeah, so 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:04.240 what are you doing? Like do you call the cops? 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:06.640 Like what do you like? You just love this person yesterday? 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:09.520 So like, how do you call your brother? You don't 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:11.600 got a brother, So now what do you do? You 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:15.680 call your boy? Yeah? See, but this is love. So 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:18.280 that's what the problem. And we're because I'm not saying 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:20.680 it's okay, It's not okay at all. But what I'm 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.399 saying is that's where the confusion could come because it's like, 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:25.760 what do you do to this person? If I love you, 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:28.800 I would leave you alone after that, leave you because 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:31.240 I would know that that means this ship ain't going nowhere. 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:33.399 If we feel like that where you would feel like 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:35.040 you could put your hands on me and hurt me, 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:36.920 then I'm a question whether or not you love me. 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:41.560 That's you know. I remember my ex boyfriend one time, 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:44.240 he like we got into an argument and I was like, 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:46.000 I'm not talking with you anymore. He slammed me on 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:48.240 the bed, but it wasn't It didn't hurt me, but 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:49.960 I felt crazy that he put his hands on me 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:52.120 at all in any way, and I was like, yo, 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:54.320 what are you doing? And he never he looked like 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:57.320 he looked more scared than I was. And he never 0:17:57.400 --> 0:17:59.480 ever did nothing like that and never did anything like 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:01.920 that again. But after that, it kind of like changed 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:04.800 how I felt about him. Remember one time somebody was 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:08.439 playing with you that you were dating, and they like 0:18:08.600 --> 0:18:10.560 hit her about mistake. It wasn't like it was They 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:13.080 was literally just playing and she was like no. She 0:18:13.080 --> 0:18:15.960 didn't speak to the dude for mad long and it 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:20.200 was an accident. It was clearly like it was an accident. 0:18:21.040 --> 0:18:26.639 She know you, I don't play games that like a 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:28.760 guy can be, like a guy can be like this 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:30.560 is my best friend, princess, that she could be like 0:18:30.880 --> 0:18:32.359 a guy could be like, um, let me see a 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:37.000 perfect example, um My, damn mad pass me some catch 0:18:37.040 --> 0:18:39.240 and she was like, oh no, I'm not passing anything 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:42.600 doing that. She's defending. Now she's get him away from me. 0:18:42.640 --> 0:18:45.640 He just caught like his approach is wrong. Guy's approach 0:18:45.760 --> 0:18:48.840 is wrong, Like that's a no go. So I know 0:18:48.920 --> 0:18:51.120 if you raise your voice at me, I'm never working 0:18:51.119 --> 0:18:53.600