1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: This is the Bread Show. Let's get you hotep a 2 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:05,760 Speaker 1: trip for two to see Jennifer Lopez her brand new 3 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: Las Vegas residency. Jennifer Lopez Up All Night Live in 4 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:13,120 Speaker 1: Las Vegas March thirteenth, twenty twenty six at the Coliseum 5 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 1: at Caesar's Palace, dext Palace to three seven three three 6 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:19,920 Speaker 1: seven right now for a chance to win two tickets 7 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:22,440 Speaker 1: to the March thirteenth show at two Night Hotel Day 8 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:25,919 Speaker 1: March twelve through the fourteenth at pe Flamingo Hotel Casino, 9 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 1: Las Vegas and Brown Trevert Fair. A confirmation text will 10 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: be sent Dennert message and data rates may apply. All 11 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:34,199 Speaker 1: thanks to Live Nation. Tickets are on stale now at 12 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: ticketmaster dot com for all shows running December thirtieth through 13 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: January third, and March sixth through the twenty eighth. Friend's 14 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: Biggest Stories of the Day. There are a bunch of examples. 15 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:47,919 Speaker 1: I guess prison Break was one. People are saying they 16 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: light high Town. Someone's saying that they kept their Star 17 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 1: subscription only for high Town. And then so there was 18 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: the one person who watched it. They listened to us too. 19 00:00:56,000 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: Cobra Kai Netflix bought that from YouTube. Netflix did that 20 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 1: with Manifest, but they have asked it. I rested development 21 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:08,200 Speaker 1: got New Life. Lucifer was another example. Okay, so it 22 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: does happen where a show doesn't necessarily do as well 23 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: the first time around, and then it gets popular on 24 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 1: Netflix and then they make more episodes. They should make 25 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 1: more episodes of this show. A little cheesy, like I 26 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: couldn't tell you ever watch a show and you're like, 27 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: sometimes I'm like, this is really really well done, and 28 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: then then I'm like, okay, but that was a lot 29 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:29,039 Speaker 1: of fake blood, you. 30 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 2: Know what I mean. 31 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,800 Speaker 1: Like I'm like, I am like, hold on, no, wait 32 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: a minute. Did the same person direct this episode that 33 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: directed the other way? Like I'm like, wow, this is 34 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: phenomenal acting like at times and then the other time 35 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,200 Speaker 1: like this is really bad. But I watched it. I 36 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: watched him, but I was very sad to learn. Or 37 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: have you ever had the disappointment of watching a series 38 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: and you didn't realize that you were on the last 39 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:55,559 Speaker 1: episode and then it's just over. Yes, that's devastating. It's devastating. 40 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:57,560 Speaker 1: So now I look to see the only problem with 41 00:01:57,640 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 1: looking to see how many episodes are left is then 42 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 1: you kind then you kind of know that they're about 43 00:02:02,280 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: to wrap up the story or like the screen grab 44 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: is something that's a spoiler. I hate when they do that. 45 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 1: Oh that's not good either. Yeah, but I've done that 46 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: where I'm like, okay, good, you know whatever, and I'm 47 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:13,640 Speaker 1: watching it. I'm having a nice time, and I'll get 48 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:15,360 Speaker 1: a bunch of episodes. I'm into this show, like I 49 00:02:15,360 --> 00:02:16,639 Speaker 1: know what I'm gonna do the next couple of days, 50 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:18,959 Speaker 1: and then oh we're out of episodes. That was it, 51 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:22,079 Speaker 1: and then in this case, there won't be anymore. It's 52 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:24,440 Speaker 1: very upsetting. Anyway, I'm going to start a high town. 53 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: We're gonna have like a little group and we're gonna 54 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 1: maybe we'll do like a discord or something, and we're 55 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: gonna all get in there and it probably already is one, 56 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 1: and we're going to talk about all of our theories 57 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: of what could have happened and what would have happened. 58 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:36,840 Speaker 1: And then I'm going to look up all the actors 59 00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:38,640 Speaker 1: on social media and I'm going to DM them and 60 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:40,519 Speaker 1: ask them what they think should have happened. It's gonna 61 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 1: be great. What's a discord? I don't I don't actually know. 62 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: I think it's a chat room. I see people talk 63 00:02:46,360 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 1: about it. I'm not a member of any disc I 64 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 1: think it's like a private chat room kind of thing. 65 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:53,639 Speaker 3: You have to get an invite to joining people's discords, 66 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,079 Speaker 3: and then it's like you can make different subject titles, 67 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 3: so like you could talk about like what you like eating, 68 00:02:58,360 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 3: what you're watching, like whatever. 69 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:02,280 Speaker 1: But no, no, it's free, but you had to be 70 00:03:02,280 --> 00:03:04,639 Speaker 1: like invited in kind of so I'd take a little 71 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: chat room kind of thing. But I thought, you know, 72 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: I thought that was it seemed like the right time 73 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,120 Speaker 1: to use the discord. Yeah, no, I think you used 74 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 1: it right. I just don't get it. But to get 75 00:03:13,360 --> 00:03:15,799 Speaker 1: in there headlines, guys, I got a couple sad ones 76 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 1: to start. Unfortunately, a gunman killed at least four people 77 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:21,239 Speaker 1: in a Manhattan office building on Monday evening. One of 78 00:03:21,280 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: them was an off duty New York City Police officers, 79 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 1: shot while exchanging fire with the shooter in the lobby. 80 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:29,079 Speaker 1: The suspect then disappeared into the skyscraper and was found 81 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:32,800 Speaker 1: later with the self inflicted gunshot wound. The Park Avenue 82 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 1: building houses the offices of some major financial firms, as 83 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 1: well as the National Football League. Security footage showed a 84 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 1: gunman walking outside the building carrying a long gun before 85 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 1: the shooting began. And for our Chicago fans and for 86 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: baseball fans everywhere on Monday, the Cubs lost one of 87 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 1: its all time great sports icons. The Chicago community did too. 88 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 1: Chicago Cubs legend Ryan Samberg. He passed away at the 89 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: age of sixty five. According to the franchise, he died 90 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:04,240 Speaker 1: in hospice care following copulation complications in his ongoing battle 91 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 1: with prostate cancer. The news comes after Samberg announced his 92 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 1: prostate cancer had relapsed and spread throughout his body in 93 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 1: December of twenty twenty four. That guy was all over 94 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 1: all over town, very involved with the Cubs and all 95 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:19,320 Speaker 1: kinds of different organizations, an amazing ambassador for the Cubs 96 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:22,239 Speaker 1: and for the city and for baseball and the NFL 97 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:25,720 Speaker 1: legend and University of Colorado football coach Dean Sanders. This 98 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 1: is a little bit better news. He said he beat 99 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 1: cancer after undergoing the full removal of his bladder in May. 100 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:34,599 Speaker 1: He said that he will continue to coach to Seize him, 101 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:38,479 Speaker 1: including the season opener against Georgia Tech. The fifty seven 102 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:41,720 Speaker 1: year old former NFL and college star appeared yesterday in 103 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:43,839 Speaker 1: a press conference with this doctor who said they removed 104 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: the bladder and worked on the insertion of a new bladder, 105 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 1: and I am pleased to report that the results in 106 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,359 Speaker 1: the surgery are that he has cured from cancer. He 107 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:54,520 Speaker 1: said that he was diagnosed with bladder cancer during a 108 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:59,159 Speaker 1: health checkup. This spring to everybody, at least with the 109 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 1: story number two, number three. Go to the doctor and 110 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: get checked on regularly so you can catch this stuff early. 111 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:08,599 Speaker 1: Hopefully this is for you, Paulina. The death of Hulk 112 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:12,359 Speaker 1: Hogan might mean the death of Hooters. Wait, wait, the 113 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: two things are connected. As if Hulk Hogan's passing wasn't 114 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 1: wasn't shocking and sad enough. Now you're talking about how 115 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:20,599 Speaker 1: he could have saved Hooters and it may not happen now. 116 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 1: A few months before his death, wrestling icon Hulk Hogan's 117 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:26,599 Speaker 1: beer brand, Real American Beer, was in talks to acquire 118 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: Hooters intellectual property as part of the change Chapter eleven 119 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:32,920 Speaker 1: bankruptcy restructuring. Rather than taking over the restaurants, he aimed 120 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: to license the Hooters name for branded products, digital content, gaming, 121 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:40,040 Speaker 1: and consumer experiences. The deal was seen as a way 122 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:43,640 Speaker 1: to preserve and modernize the beloved American brand while expanding 123 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 1: Hogan's growing lifestyle portfolio. However, legal and financial hurdles, including 124 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 1: liquor laws barring alcohol brands from owning restaurants and potential 125 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:55,880 Speaker 1: resistance from Hooters creditors, made the acquisition uncertain. Paulina, this 126 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 1: is where you step in with all of your millions 127 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 1: that you got from being the biggest to invest in 128 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: Eloye and iHeartRadio. 129 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:02,840 Speaker 4: Well my free tells for the business, and the one. 130 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:05,360 Speaker 1: Step as this way you step in right now now 131 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 1: is the time you can save Hooters. You can do it. 132 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 4: I've been thinking about it because someone's got to do it. 133 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:12,960 Speaker 4: And if it's not me, then who you know? And 134 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 4: he's the thing too. Like everyone talks about nostalgia, all 135 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 4: these things, they want to just soak up in it. 136 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: Why don't we just do that with Hooters. 137 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:21,000 Speaker 4: Why don't we all collectively come to gather society and 138 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:22,719 Speaker 4: save Hooters because that'll save us. 139 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:24,920 Speaker 1: Let's save Hooters and then all go there and watch 140 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:26,760 Speaker 1: the new seasons of high Town that are going to 141 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: be made, because I'm going to say that, Chris, this 142 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 1: is amazing, this is amazing. We can collab. We've done it. 143 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: So this is a strange story Las Vegas and a 144 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:36,360 Speaker 1: lot of sports stories this morning. But Las Vegas Raiders 145 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:40,200 Speaker 1: star Christian Wilkins was released from the team after an 146 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: unfortunate kissing incident in the team's locker room. Witness said 147 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:46,599 Speaker 1: that the kiss was on the head. It was playful, 148 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 1: but the unnamed recipient took offense to the act and 149 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:54,600 Speaker 1: then reported him to human resources. So NFL players are 150 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: subject to human resources, which is a little while. I mean, 151 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:00,160 Speaker 1: of course they are their employees and it's an organization, 152 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: But okay. Esping clarified that the football players release from 153 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:06,159 Speaker 1: the team was not entirely due to the kiss. A 154 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,920 Speaker 1: foot injury from last October also held the defensive tackler back. 155 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: The dispute stem from the Raiders team requiring him to 156 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: undergo a second surgery for his injury, but he failed 157 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 1: to do so. He joined the team in twenty twenty four, 158 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: signed a four year contract one hundred and ten million 159 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:23,720 Speaker 1: dollars eighty four million guaranteed. Parting from the team has 160 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: cost him the remainder of his contract, with about thirty 161 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 1: five point two effectively voided. But he'll be okay. But 162 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: he kissed a guy on the head and got fired 163 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:36,560 Speaker 1: from the NFL. Wow, I didn't. I honestly didn't know 164 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:38,840 Speaker 1: you could do that, believe it or not, based on 165 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: everything I know about you know, the stories in the 166 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:43,280 Speaker 1: NFL over the past few years, I didn't realize that 167 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: your behavior would actually get you kicked off the team. 168 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 1: Of all of all the things that have happened a 169 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 1: lot of things. You kissed someone on the forehead, you 170 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: get kicked off the team. But the other stuff you 171 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:55,440 Speaker 1: can do, you can do a lot of stuff you're 172 00:07:55,440 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: not supposed to do. Famous Yetti's pet said Wisconsin mistakenly 173 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: used t EHD infused cooking oil last October and it 174 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 1: left eighty five diners ages one to ninety one, buzz 175 00:08:06,680 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: dizzy and hallucinating. Three people went to the hospital. Police 176 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:12,560 Speaker 1: seemed it an accident, and the shop has since titan 177 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 1: storage and apologized. I don't know what they got to 178 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: hold vat of THHD cooking oil for, and I guess 179 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:20,120 Speaker 1: I'm surprised you don't get in more trouble for that. 180 00:08:21,160 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 1: But can you imagine if you didn't know that you 181 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 1: were consuming THHD and then you got high, Like if 182 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: you knew then I guess you might, you would expect it, 183 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: but if you're ninety one years old, like, is this 184 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: the end? 185 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 5: Is this? 186 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 6: It? 187 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 1: Is it happening now right this second? And a fifty 188 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 1: four year old Texas man named Fritz. He mocked law 189 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:44,680 Speaker 1: enforcement on Facebook, calling outstanding arrest warrants the adult version 190 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:46,480 Speaker 1: of hide and seek. And less than ten days later, 191 00:08:46,520 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 1: what do you think happened? They raided his house, found 192 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: him and arrested him on charges of fraud and theft. 193 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:53,680 Speaker 1: No word and if he tagged his location in the post, 194 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: This guy Fritz over here reminds me a little bit 195 00:08:57,760 --> 00:08:59,680 Speaker 1: of like if my mom tried to taunt police on 196 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:02,240 Speaker 1: face Book or Instagram. I love my mom and she's 197 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 1: a very smart lady, but I'm finding that her tech 198 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 1: skills are really sort of slipping and she doesn't really 199 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:11,080 Speaker 1: know who she's dming or who she's commenting on and 200 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 1: if it's public or private. So I would encourage, you know, 201 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,559 Speaker 1: some of you who may not be as sharp technically, 202 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:20,080 Speaker 1: you know, as it comes to new technology, don't mock 203 00:09:20,160 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: the police using social media because it turns out, whether 204 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:26,240 Speaker 1: you tag yourself or not, they can probably go deep 205 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:28,439 Speaker 1: to dig in there and do whatever they gotta do, 206 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: you know, or maybe look at your background and you 207 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 1: the sign, you know, or like with your address on 208 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 1: it or something, and they're like, hmm, I bet he's 209 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:37,199 Speaker 1: at his house. But isn't this a tale so old 210 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:40,480 Speaker 1: as time? People taunt the police on the internet and 211 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: then they get arrested days later. Further warns were issued 212 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:46,480 Speaker 1: after evidence was found during the search. He is currently 213 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:49,320 Speaker 1: being held in jail on twelve thousand dollars bond. It's 214 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:52,640 Speaker 1: National Chicken Wing Day. There you go, save Hooters. Today's 215 00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: the day, Yes, National Lusanna Day. Today is well. The 216 00:09:57,360 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 1: entertainment of port is next. This is the Bread Show. 217 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:02,199 Speaker 1: Let's get you Hotel a trip for tud to see 218 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:06,560 Speaker 1: Jennifer Lopez her brand new Las Vegas residency. Jennifer Lopez 219 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 1: Up All Night Live in Las Vegas, March thirteenth, twenty 220 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: twenty six, at the Coliseum at Caesar's Palace dext Palace 221 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:16,880 Speaker 1: to three seven three three seven right now for a 222 00:10:16,960 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 1: chance to win two tickets to the March thirteenth show 223 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:22,520 Speaker 1: at two Night Hotel Day March twelve through the fourteenth 224 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:26,440 Speaker 1: at Key Flamingo Hotel Casino, Las Vegas and Brown trevera fair. 225 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:29,320 Speaker 1: A confirmation text will be sent. Dennered message and data 226 00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:32,040 Speaker 1: rates may apply. All thanks to Live Nation. Tickets are 227 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:34,600 Speaker 1: on stale now at ticketmaster dot com for all shows 228 00:10:34,679 --> 00:10:38,000 Speaker 1: running December thirtieth through January third, and March sixth through 229 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,840 Speaker 1: the twenty eighth. The front show is on is Stay 230 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:47,679 Speaker 1: or Go hard Kelly. Good morning to Kelly. How you doing, 231 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:52,720 Speaker 1: Welcome to the program, Kelly, So you are you're a 232 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:56,439 Speaker 1: married woman. Congratulation. Congratulations for being a married woman. I 233 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 1: don't know if you've made it. Have you been married 234 00:10:58,280 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 1: for a while, a couple of years, something like that. 235 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:00,719 Speaker 1: That's a big accomplishment. 236 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:03,560 Speaker 7: Have been together a long time? 237 00:11:03,960 --> 00:11:06,439 Speaker 1: I'm serious. I feel like being married for any period 238 00:11:06,480 --> 00:11:08,840 Speaker 1: of time like past maybe, I don't know. Twenty four 239 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 1: months is impressive for me. I've been being with someone 240 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 1: longer than six months is impressive. But anyway, nonetheless, this 241 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:18,760 Speaker 1: is about kids, though, So what's going on with you 242 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 1: and your husband? 243 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:20,760 Speaker 6: Well? 244 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:23,840 Speaker 7: Okay, so you know, when we were younger, we both 245 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:27,720 Speaker 7: agreed we just didn't want children, and so that was 246 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:30,959 Speaker 7: our thing. But we've gotten a little older, and unfortunately 247 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 7: I'm one of the people that they kind of talk 248 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:37,719 Speaker 7: about that I've changed my mind and I want kids. 249 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:43,360 Speaker 1: Okay, so you you guys have this conversation. This is 250 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:47,199 Speaker 1: and this is a very fundamental thing to talk about. Here, 251 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:49,440 Speaker 1: I am talking about relationships like I've ever been successful 252 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 1: in one. But nonetheless I have I can, I can observe, 253 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:56,080 Speaker 1: I give great advice, I give excellent advice, and I 254 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:59,680 Speaker 1: have great perspective. I just myself cannot really seem to 255 00:11:59,679 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 1: find very much success. But you have this conversation ahead 256 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:06,400 Speaker 1: of time. Hey kids, no kids. I think talking about 257 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:09,600 Speaker 1: money ahead of time. I think talking about you know, love, 258 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 1: languages and that kind of thing. I think there's all 259 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:14,720 Speaker 1: stuff to get ironed out before you get married, so 260 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:16,520 Speaker 1: that you're on the same page, that you don't commit 261 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:18,719 Speaker 1: to each other for life legally, and then decide one 262 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 1: person's like I want to spend all of our money 263 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:21,280 Speaker 1: and the other person like I want to save all 264 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 1: of our money. Or I want to have kids and 265 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 1: I don't want to have kids, or you know, these 266 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 1: fundamental things. And now you guys are latched together and 267 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 1: you're going to be unhappy because you view things differently. 268 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 1: So you guys had the conversation before you got married. 269 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:36,960 Speaker 1: No kids, that was what you determined. 270 00:12:37,960 --> 00:12:40,959 Speaker 7: Oh yeah, we definitely had this conversation, and I mean 271 00:12:41,040 --> 00:12:44,319 Speaker 7: I definitely didn't want them, and he didn't either. But 272 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 7: it's just gotten older and I have changed my mind, 273 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:51,280 Speaker 7: and I went and told them, though I, of course 274 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 7: we are really communicative, this is this is just one 275 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:58,319 Speaker 7: of our busses. But I told them that I had 276 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:03,120 Speaker 7: a change of heart, and he he was like, you know, 277 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 7: I appreciate you telling me, but I don't My mind 278 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:11,959 Speaker 7: hasn't changed. So anyway, he still doesn't want kids, but 279 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:14,960 Speaker 7: he did have a compromise. 280 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 1: Well, a compromise that's exciting. What was it? Yeah, what 281 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:18,800 Speaker 1: is it? 282 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:23,520 Speaker 7: Well, well, he said that if I wanted a kid 283 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:28,160 Speaker 7: bad enough, he said, he would obviously contribute financially. But 284 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 7: he's not doing diapers, he's not doing feedings, like waking 285 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:35,000 Speaker 7: up in the middle of the night, warming bottles, all 286 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:37,240 Speaker 7: of the thing. I'm going to be doing all of them. 287 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:39,840 Speaker 1: So he'll help you make the kid, but you get 288 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:42,079 Speaker 1: to raise it. And he's just he's and he'll give you, 289 00:13:42,320 --> 00:13:45,040 Speaker 1: he'll pread a couple of bucks towards it, but he's 290 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:47,079 Speaker 1: not going to be involved in like the hard work. 291 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 2: I mean, you're right, But I want to make. 292 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 1: Sure I have this right. 293 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:51,720 Speaker 2: I'm not. I'm not. 294 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:53,800 Speaker 1: I mean, I think that's that's a wild take, But 295 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:55,240 Speaker 1: I want to make sure I have this right. So 296 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 1: he's not telling you you're fine, we can have a kid. 297 00:13:57,720 --> 00:14:01,360 Speaker 1: I'm just not going to do the hard stuff. Yeah 298 00:14:01,480 --> 00:14:01,840 Speaker 1: he's not. 299 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:03,079 Speaker 2: He's exactly. 300 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:05,439 Speaker 7: Yeah, he's not going to do any of that if 301 00:14:05,480 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 7: I want, if we're going to do this, how. 302 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 1: Does that make you feel? 303 00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:10,240 Speaker 7: Change my mind? 304 00:14:10,440 --> 00:14:12,200 Speaker 1: Well, and that's fair, But how does that make you feel? 305 00:14:12,200 --> 00:14:14,720 Speaker 1: Because you're allowed to change your mind now, I mean, 306 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:20,640 Speaker 1: it's it's a pretty significant thing to to then say, well, 307 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:22,800 Speaker 1: now I want to add a human to our sort 308 00:14:22,800 --> 00:14:24,960 Speaker 1: of existence. Now, I mean, but you also have every 309 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 1: right to change your mind. I suppose he has every 310 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 1: right to say. But we talked about this and I've 311 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 1: never wanted kids, and I don't want them now. I 312 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 1: think that's a weird compromise. But how does this all 313 00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:34,360 Speaker 1: make you feel? 314 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:38,560 Speaker 7: I mean, at first it was like that is, but 315 00:14:38,880 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 7: I mean again, I'm the one that made this decision 316 00:14:41,600 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 7: in my head. I changed my mind. And if he's 317 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 7: going to he's not going anywhere. He's going to be 318 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 7: financially supporting. I mean, plus, you know, what's the difference 319 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 7: between like having a kid on your own. You know, 320 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 7: there's plenty of single moms that do it every day. 321 00:14:56,920 --> 00:15:00,560 Speaker 7: And I'm thinking he's going to change his mind over time, 322 00:15:00,800 --> 00:15:02,800 Speaker 7: you know, And so I don't know. I don't know. 323 00:15:02,840 --> 00:15:03,440 Speaker 7: What do I do? 324 00:15:03,720 --> 00:15:06,480 Speaker 6: I don't know? 325 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 1: I mean, what are the options? 326 00:15:09,200 --> 00:15:09,360 Speaker 5: Right? 327 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:14,280 Speaker 1: The options are you you do it this way? You know, 328 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:17,000 Speaker 1: you have your kid with your partner who you love, 329 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:21,360 Speaker 1: and he's just not involved very much. Somebody tells me 330 00:15:21,360 --> 00:15:23,240 Speaker 1: he'll be okay. Maybe he'd be okay with like some 331 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:25,040 Speaker 1: of the upside, but doesn't sound like he doesn't want 332 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 1: to be up in the middle of the night changing diapers. 333 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:28,800 Speaker 1: He doesn't want to do right, he doesn't want to 334 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:33,280 Speaker 1: hear you're the nurturing part of it. Maybe okay, you 335 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:38,040 Speaker 1: could not have a kid, which means then that you're 336 00:15:38,080 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 1: not fulfilled in this way because this is what you 337 00:15:40,160 --> 00:15:43,000 Speaker 1: want and that's a big deal. Or you could divorce 338 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:45,560 Speaker 1: him and then go find somebody who does want to 339 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:48,040 Speaker 1: have a kid. Am I missing any options here? And 340 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:50,040 Speaker 1: I know this all studs cut and dry and like 341 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:52,760 Speaker 1: very simplified, But am I missing anything. 342 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:55,600 Speaker 7: Noll, that's it. 343 00:15:56,600 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 2: That's it. 344 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't really like this very much. 345 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:01,880 Speaker 4: And I only say that. And you can totally have 346 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:03,000 Speaker 4: a kid on your own, that is not. 347 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:03,560 Speaker 1: Even the issue. 348 00:16:03,560 --> 00:16:06,800 Speaker 4: But I feel like because you are married to somebody 349 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 4: and that person you know, is quote okay with this 350 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,200 Speaker 4: idea and kind of treating it like almost like you're 351 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:14,200 Speaker 4: bringing home a puppy or something like he's like, you 352 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 4: know what I mean, he's like, oh, I'm not gonna 353 00:16:15,400 --> 00:16:16,440 Speaker 4: get up the middle of the night and do this 354 00:16:16,480 --> 00:16:18,600 Speaker 4: and that like that's that's a single married mom in 355 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:20,360 Speaker 4: my opinion, And I don't really like that. If you're 356 00:16:20,360 --> 00:16:21,680 Speaker 4: gonna do it on your own, I would just say 357 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 4: do it fully on your own and like not even 358 00:16:24,280 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 4: like truly I have to leave this man because also 359 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:28,480 Speaker 4: too so you're gonna bring him a baby and there's 360 00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:30,640 Speaker 4: gonna be a man living there, but he's not involved. 361 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:31,720 Speaker 1: But he's a dad, you know what I mean. 362 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 4: It's like, who's that man walking in the hallway? 363 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:35,480 Speaker 1: Like you know what I mean? How involved does he 364 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:36,400 Speaker 1: think he's gonna be? 365 00:16:36,520 --> 00:16:38,880 Speaker 4: Like you're the father and you also live here, and. 366 00:16:38,840 --> 00:16:41,120 Speaker 1: I suppose he might change his mind once the kid's 367 00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:43,640 Speaker 1: there and he sees you working hard and doing all this, 368 00:16:43,680 --> 00:16:45,520 Speaker 1: he might decide, well, maybe I should be involved. It's 369 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 1: my offspring too. I guess there's a chance of that. 370 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 1: I just from the jump, I just don't like the 371 00:16:51,360 --> 00:16:54,640 Speaker 1: way that feels, you know, like, hey, yeah, you can 372 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 1: have the kid, but like I'll just I'm just sort 373 00:16:56,720 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 1: of here, don't don't, don't, don't inconvenience me with it. 374 00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: But for the people who are texting saying this guy's 375 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:06,119 Speaker 1: a jerk, that that is a jerk, that's kind of 376 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:09,119 Speaker 1: a jerky response by all means. But he did say 377 00:17:09,160 --> 00:17:12,879 Speaker 1: from the beginning his truth was I don't want kids, right, 378 00:17:13,040 --> 00:17:15,520 Speaker 1: So that does not make him a bad guy. He 379 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:18,359 Speaker 1: was very clear about that. So I mean, for the 380 00:17:18,359 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 1: people who are like, this guy's terrible, I don't know. 381 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:25,879 Speaker 1: I don't know if he's his response is not great, 382 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:28,720 Speaker 1: but he's allowed to be a person who doesn't want 383 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:30,840 Speaker 1: to have kids, like that's not And and you guys 384 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:33,200 Speaker 1: didn't talk about it and agree on that initially. 385 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 7: Yes, And I understand where he's at. That's why, because 386 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:41,280 Speaker 7: we were hard knows, so I get where he's at. 387 00:17:42,240 --> 00:17:44,880 Speaker 7: So you know, that's why I'm struggling with this. 388 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 6: And. 389 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:47,920 Speaker 1: You're going to resent him. 390 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:49,920 Speaker 4: You're going to resent him when the baby's there middle 391 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 4: of the night. You're the one changing diapers, You're the 392 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 4: one doing all these things. 393 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:53,240 Speaker 1: I don't know. 394 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:55,080 Speaker 4: I feel like it's a terrible idea and you're allowed 395 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:56,639 Speaker 4: to change your mind. And Fred was right about that. 396 00:17:56,680 --> 00:17:58,760 Speaker 4: Like you guys were very clear in the beginning. You guys, 397 00:17:58,800 --> 00:18:00,879 Speaker 4: you know, grew in your marriage. Whatever you want different 398 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:03,200 Speaker 4: things now. I think, I hate to say it, doesn't 399 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:05,800 Speaker 4: that call for like some form of like I don't know, separation, 400 00:18:05,960 --> 00:18:08,720 Speaker 4: going your own ways, then living your life on your terms, 401 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:11,160 Speaker 4: both of you doing what you both want. 402 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:13,320 Speaker 1: My crazy, I. 403 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:16,480 Speaker 7: Think this is bigger than oh god, someone, this is 404 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:17,720 Speaker 7: even bigger than the baby. 405 00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:20,119 Speaker 1: Someone texting have the baby and then divorce him. Do 406 00:18:20,200 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 1: not do that, ye, do not do that. That is 407 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:24,920 Speaker 1: the that's the worst. I love you, but that is 408 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 1: the worst advice. Because you're still tied to the guy. No, 409 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:32,359 Speaker 1: this is what you do either. You may have to 410 00:18:32,480 --> 00:18:35,760 Speaker 1: leave this dude. If you really want a kid, you 411 00:18:35,840 --> 00:18:38,280 Speaker 1: deserve a supportive partner who's in it with you. It 412 00:18:38,359 --> 00:18:41,040 Speaker 1: also wants the kid. Maybe give him a little bit 413 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:43,240 Speaker 1: of time to marinate on this, but you I don't 414 00:18:43,280 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 1: think it's unfair. If this is really your calling and 415 00:18:46,600 --> 00:18:48,600 Speaker 1: really what you're drawn to do, and you feel very 416 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:51,159 Speaker 1: strongly about it, you have one life. You deserve a 417 00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:54,080 Speaker 1: supportive partner with whom to do this. You may have 418 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:56,160 Speaker 1: to go to shay him and say, look, I love you, 419 00:18:56,560 --> 00:19:00,879 Speaker 1: but we are now fractured. We are fundamentally on different 420 00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:02,600 Speaker 1: sides of this, and I don't want to do this 421 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:04,880 Speaker 1: with somebody who's going to be absent minded. And maybe 422 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,359 Speaker 1: if you have that conversation, he comes around because he 423 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:09,480 Speaker 1: loves you, and maybe he can see it, and maybe 424 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:11,960 Speaker 1: he does it. I actually know a couple. This is 425 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:13,840 Speaker 1: a real story. I know a couple that had this 426 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:17,920 Speaker 1: very thing happen. They decided no kids, no kids. And 427 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 1: I'm not going to get into too many details because 428 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:21,320 Speaker 1: these people might know who I'm talking about. I don't 429 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 1: know people might know who I'm talking about. But let's 430 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:26,159 Speaker 1: just say that he was willing to take on some 431 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:29,400 Speaker 1: other responsibilities, but he did not want kids. He never did, 432 00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:32,399 Speaker 1: but he loved her. They got married. She says, you know, 433 00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:35,280 Speaker 1: in somewhere in years into the marriage, I want kids, 434 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:38,199 Speaker 1: and he's like I don't want kid. I told you 435 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,520 Speaker 1: I really don't like I have my whole life planned out, 436 00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:43,919 Speaker 1: and I told you this, And at some point the 437 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:46,680 Speaker 1: conversation was, if you need to leave me, I would 438 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:49,320 Speaker 1: be heartbroken. But I understand. I'm not going to stand 439 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:51,560 Speaker 1: in your way, but I'm not one hundred percent in this. 440 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:54,440 Speaker 1: They wound up staying together and having a kid, and 441 00:19:54,560 --> 00:19:59,520 Speaker 1: everything is wonderful. But it wasn't the plan. It wasn't 442 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:01,720 Speaker 1: it kind of all it didn't happen in order or 443 00:20:02,119 --> 00:20:04,840 Speaker 1: as you know. It kind of just happened, and that's 444 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:07,720 Speaker 1: a different story. But nonetheless, everything works out fine, everyone's happy, 445 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 1: and it turns out I think this guy would tell 446 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:12,280 Speaker 1: you that it's the greatest thing that ever happened to him. 447 00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:16,040 Speaker 1: But if a guy's telling you right now, I don't 448 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:18,359 Speaker 1: want it and I'm not going to be involved, that 449 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: is bad. Right like that, I can't imagine starting that way. 450 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:26,639 Speaker 7: You know, do you really think I could do it 451 00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:27,160 Speaker 7: on my own? 452 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 1: Of course you can. At least someone wants to know 453 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:31,159 Speaker 1: how old you are. By the way, how old are 454 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:32,199 Speaker 1: you in your thirties? 455 00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 2: I'm in my thirties. 456 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,960 Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, you absolutely can do it. On your own. 457 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:39,280 Speaker 1: I mean, here's what I'll say. I don't know you 458 00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:41,320 Speaker 1: people can do it on their own, and I believe 459 00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:43,800 Speaker 1: you're you're probably very capable of it. But I don't 460 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:47,120 Speaker 1: think this is going to work. And it's it's heartbreaking. 461 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:49,120 Speaker 1: But eight five, five, five, nine, one one three five, 462 00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:51,400 Speaker 1: the text are going crazy. I would love to know 463 00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:53,560 Speaker 1: what people have to say about this though. I hate 464 00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:55,760 Speaker 1: to say this, but I think you you know, have 465 00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:58,280 Speaker 1: to have a very and it's not a mean conversation. 466 00:20:58,400 --> 00:20:59,920 Speaker 1: It's not you know, there's no lack of love. I 467 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,800 Speaker 1: don't think it's spiteful or hateful. This guy didn't lie 468 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:05,200 Speaker 1: to you. He told you the truth. But I think 469 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 1: it may it may be the kind of conversation where 470 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:10,440 Speaker 1: you have to just say, look, I gotta do this 471 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:14,320 Speaker 1: and so and I want to do it with somebody 472 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:16,600 Speaker 1: who either either is going to be an active participant 473 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,639 Speaker 1: who wants to be there, or I'd rather do it 474 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:24,080 Speaker 1: on my own. I know people who've done that too. Well, Kelly, 475 00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:25,920 Speaker 1: let me take some calls and have the radio one 476 00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:27,359 Speaker 1: and thank you for sharing this. I know it's very 477 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:28,639 Speaker 1: personal and good luck to you. 478 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:31,719 Speaker 7: Well, thank you so much for having me. 479 00:21:31,840 --> 00:21:34,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, you got it, we appreciate you. I mean, yeah, 480 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:37,480 Speaker 1: I don't know. I think she's got to probably leave 481 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:37,800 Speaker 1: this guy. 482 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:42,439 Speaker 3: Yeah, from his perspective too, like he came into this 483 00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:44,960 Speaker 3: relationship like thinking one thing, and now yeah, she gets 484 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,879 Speaker 3: to choose her what she wants to do. But in 485 00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:49,919 Speaker 3: a way, is also like blowing up his life, you know, 486 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 3: like now he may lose his marriage because of it. 487 00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:54,440 Speaker 3: And he had the same intentions from the jump. 488 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:57,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like his response, but I don't disagree 489 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:01,280 Speaker 1: with with him having a set and in this and 490 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 1: having a vote and having a desire for his life too. 491 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:08,119 Speaker 1: I mean again the whole I'll well, I'll knock you 492 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,480 Speaker 1: up and then just be here. I don't like that. 493 00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:13,600 Speaker 1: But I also for the people, like this guy's such 494 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 1: a d I he didn't have to want this, you know, 495 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:19,000 Speaker 1: he didn't have to wun the jump. This is what 496 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:20,919 Speaker 1: I want. She's the one switching up with Yeah, she 497 00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:22,879 Speaker 1: can do. But it's sad, but it happens. 498 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:24,960 Speaker 4: I think in marriages people just outgrow each other, not 499 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:27,520 Speaker 4: because of Kay's but other things too, right, And I 500 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:29,720 Speaker 4: think it's sad and it blows up everyone's life. 501 00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:31,760 Speaker 1: And now you know, you're divorced, but it is what 502 00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 1: it is. Autumn. Good morning, Hi, welcome. 503 00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:37,800 Speaker 8: Hi, I'm your fourteenth color. 504 00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:39,800 Speaker 2: Just so you guys know, Oh you're the fourteenth. You 505 00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:40,040 Speaker 2: know why. 506 00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:42,880 Speaker 1: That's impossible And we only have thirteen listeners, will only 507 00:22:42,920 --> 00:22:45,560 Speaker 1: ever have thirteen listeners? Right when we think we got fourteen, 508 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 1: someone moves to somewhere where they don't have the Internet yet. 509 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:50,560 Speaker 1: It's crazy. Anyway, what do you think? 510 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:51,359 Speaker 5: So? 511 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:55,680 Speaker 8: I just I'm thinking about the child. My that's always 512 00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:58,040 Speaker 8: my number one is do you really want to raise 513 00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,800 Speaker 8: a child or have it even a peoplesh chance of 514 00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 8: like this child not having the father being around like 515 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,200 Speaker 8: in their life. So I just think that that's that's 516 00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:09,960 Speaker 8: what I would think about. I'd leave. I for sure, leave, 517 00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:13,720 Speaker 8: especially if she really wants a baby, because you don't 518 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:15,520 Speaker 8: know for sure if he's going to want to be around, 519 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:17,480 Speaker 8: and you don't want to do that to the baby either, 520 00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:17,840 Speaker 8: you know. 521 00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:20,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, And and you know what it could 522 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:22,199 Speaker 1: be like my friend who had a kid that he 523 00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:24,720 Speaker 1: wasn't expecting and and loves that kid more than anything 524 00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:27,359 Speaker 1: and it changed his life. If you're here right now, 525 00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:28,720 Speaker 1: he would tell you it's the greatest thing. That ever 526 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:30,639 Speaker 1: happened to you. I know he'd say that, but he didn't 527 00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:33,280 Speaker 1: see it. But you're taking a risk. You're taking a risk. 528 00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:38,280 Speaker 8: He's an exception, He's not the rule. Right, isn't a movie. 529 00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:43,879 Speaker 1: And I can't I can't with much confidence, uh, engage 530 00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:46,440 Speaker 1: in that agreement, you know what I mean? Like that's 531 00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:50,840 Speaker 1: that doesn't feel good. My partner is gonna My partner 532 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,840 Speaker 1: is willing to sleep with me, and you know whatever. 533 00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:55,679 Speaker 1: But but but he's not really willing to do this 534 00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:56,040 Speaker 1: with me. 535 00:23:56,200 --> 00:24:00,320 Speaker 8: So sometimes you grow apart like that just is you'd 536 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:02,800 Speaker 8: want different things and you grow in different directions and 537 00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:06,080 Speaker 8: that's okay, and she shouldn't feel ashamed about that, But 538 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:08,640 Speaker 8: if she doesn't want the same things, then I mean 539 00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:09,760 Speaker 8: it might be time to part ways. 540 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe so thank you autumn listener number. You say 541 00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:14,680 Speaker 1: fourteen and you're still thirteen. But HI, have a good day. 542 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:15,879 Speaker 8: Thank you. 543 00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:23,640 Speaker 1: I love you mean it. Hi, Kelly, good morning, Kelly. Hello, Hi, 544 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:25,080 Speaker 1: Hi Kelly. What do you want to say? 545 00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:26,200 Speaker 5: Hi? 546 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:28,680 Speaker 7: I want to say that she needs to go. 547 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 2: This is so selfish. 548 00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:34,600 Speaker 7: She should not bring a child into this world knowing 549 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,560 Speaker 7: that their father wants nothing to do with it. 550 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:38,639 Speaker 8: It's so cool. 551 00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:43,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I don't think it's going to work under 552 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 1: the current arrangement, and I think it's a risk if 553 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 1: you do it within these with the confides of this relationship, 554 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:50,760 Speaker 1: because he's telling you he doesn't want to do it. 555 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:54,119 Speaker 1: But thank you, Kelly, I'm glad you called. Have a 556 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,280 Speaker 1: great day, you two, and thank you for listening. Brandon, 557 00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:58,360 Speaker 1: So you say stay, Why. 558 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:04,000 Speaker 2: Stayed? Because he was honest from the very beginning. He 559 00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:08,760 Speaker 2: told her exactly what the situation was. While there's a 560 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:12,280 Speaker 2: good chance that his mind will change when he sees 561 00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 2: that precious young one and he holds it in his hands. However, 562 00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:22,360 Speaker 2: there's so many fathers who never were honest from the beginning, 563 00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:27,439 Speaker 2: who have adjusted, who actually never told their wives that, 564 00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:31,680 Speaker 2: oh no, I'll do everything, but then never do anything, 565 00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:35,800 Speaker 2: who are married now but never take care of the 566 00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:39,439 Speaker 2: child in any way, who perhaps live from the beginning. 567 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,680 Speaker 1: I think we're talking about it. He told two different things, Brandon. 568 00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 1: Then we're talking about dead bee dad. We're talking about 569 00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:45,400 Speaker 1: people who want a kid but don't want to work 570 00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:47,440 Speaker 1: for it. This guy, and you don't find that out 571 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:50,440 Speaker 1: until after the fact. This guy's telling you, he's telling 572 00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:52,640 Speaker 1: you right now. Hey, he's calling a shot, like, hey, 573 00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:55,159 Speaker 1: just heads up, I don't want to do this Like 574 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,440 Speaker 1: that's I think that's a little bit different because it's 575 00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:00,560 Speaker 1: bad enough if you have a kid and then yeah, yeah, 576 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:02,560 Speaker 1: yeah kid, and then you don't want to raise it. 577 00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:05,960 Speaker 1: I mean, that's a different I think it's a different problem. 578 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 2: That's true. But however, he is willing to take care 579 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:10,840 Speaker 2: of in every way. But the amount of single moms 580 00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 2: out there who have zero support whatsoever have to do 581 00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:14,880 Speaker 2: it all on their own. 582 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:18,520 Speaker 9: Well, not every way, not the emotional part. You know, 583 00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:20,680 Speaker 9: he's saying, I want to be like a hands offstitute. 584 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:22,720 Speaker 9: So I wonder, okay, if she goes to a sperm 585 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 9: make and the kid doesn't hack quote unquote have a dad, 586 00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,159 Speaker 9: is that less painful than having a dad that's like 587 00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,760 Speaker 9: one foot in, one foot out the door, you know 588 00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:30,119 Speaker 9: what I mean. 589 00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:31,879 Speaker 1: And it's on the risk that he's somehow going to 590 00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,240 Speaker 1: buy in after the fact. But Brandon, I appreciate you, man, 591 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,159 Speaker 1: thank you so much for calling Katie. Katie you say, go, 592 00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 1: she's got to go. 593 00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:40,199 Speaker 8: Yes, I do. 594 00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:40,800 Speaker 2: Well. 595 00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:43,639 Speaker 8: I think if they can find a compromise, great, But 596 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,160 Speaker 8: I think the idea at hands is a bad idea, 597 00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:48,199 Speaker 8: and if that's the only idea, she should go. 598 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, So we got to vote for go. 599 00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:57,400 Speaker 1: Thank you, Katie. Yeah, Larry, vote for stay. Hi, Larry. 600 00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:01,439 Speaker 1: Hell over there, Larry. You can say why. 601 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:06,560 Speaker 5: So the reason why is that and I don't know 602 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:11,320 Speaker 5: this gentleman's circumstances, but depending if he was an only 603 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:13,480 Speaker 5: child or something like that, I had the same thing 604 00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:15,359 Speaker 5: with my folks. So when my folks got married, my 605 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,840 Speaker 5: dad wanted to have kids. But until we were like, 606 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,920 Speaker 5: I don't know, seven or eight years old, he didn't 607 00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:24,679 Speaker 5: really He wasn't involved in our in our you know, 608 00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,399 Speaker 5: raising us and what have you. Thus he would do 609 00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:29,480 Speaker 5: is probably wipe a butt every now and then, but 610 00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:32,199 Speaker 5: other than that, he didn't do much. But as we 611 00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:36,399 Speaker 5: got older, he got more involved and active. And I 612 00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,160 Speaker 5: think that has a lot to do with it. Since 613 00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:41,199 Speaker 5: we don't know the gentleman's circumstances here and what his 614 00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:45,240 Speaker 5: upbringing is, I think that it's the same thing that 615 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:48,680 Speaker 5: maybe once this child gets older, he may get more involved. 616 00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:54,560 Speaker 1: And we love Larry, but Larry, no, I hear what 617 00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:56,359 Speaker 1: you're saying. That's a risk. I mean, I hear what 618 00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:58,440 Speaker 1: you're saying, does a chance he buys in over time, 619 00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,600 Speaker 1: right or warms up to the idea, But that now 620 00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,520 Speaker 1: you have another human involved, and I think we have 621 00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:07,280 Speaker 1: to consider not only her needs, his needs, as Jason 622 00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:10,320 Speaker 1: pointed out, but also like, how's this how's this kid 623 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:14,080 Speaker 1: going to feel if dad is truly detached from the process. 624 00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:18,439 Speaker 1: Sample Jenny, good morning, Hey, good morning. I'm gonna let 625 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:19,760 Speaker 1: you have the final say here, what do you think? 626 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:21,159 Speaker 4: So? 627 00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:23,120 Speaker 6: I think they both should try to work it out, 628 00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,959 Speaker 6: only because it's a little different. But I had a 629 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:28,800 Speaker 6: friend or I have a friend who they both got married. 630 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:30,680 Speaker 6: In all their lives, they said, you know, we don't 631 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:35,280 Speaker 6: want kids. Both when she turned forty I think forty one, 632 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:40,320 Speaker 6: she accidentally got pregnant. They baby, and now they're in 633 00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,600 Speaker 6: love with this little boy fell I think eight years old. 634 00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 6: And he says it's the best thing that's ever happened 635 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:47,280 Speaker 6: to their lives. 636 00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:50,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's very possible. 637 00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,080 Speaker 6: Yeah, once the baby's here, he could easily change his mind. 638 00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:55,920 Speaker 1: You never know, it's possible. 639 00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:59,240 Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't know, but yeah. 640 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:03,000 Speaker 1: It's a risk. I mean that's a risk. Yeah, that's 641 00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 1: that's a big risk, because you know, he's telling you 642 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,760 Speaker 1: his truth. It's almost like when people show you who 643 00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:10,520 Speaker 1: they are, you should believe them kind of thing. I mean, 644 00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 1: I know that applies to different scenarios, but it's like 645 00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,680 Speaker 1: he's telling you so. Then in when when the kid's 646 00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:18,400 Speaker 1: five years old and he's like, I told you I 647 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,760 Speaker 1: don't want any I don't want to do this, you 648 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:22,880 Speaker 1: can't be mad at him, I guess because he's as 649 00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:26,320 Speaker 1: messed up as that is. He told you that. So 650 00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,480 Speaker 1: I don't know, Jenny, but thank you, thanks for calling. 651 00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:31,160 Speaker 1: You have a good day. Okay, Well I don't think 652 00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:32,719 Speaker 1: we solved their problem, but anyway,