Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Hello and welcome to
Speaker 1: another episode of Reasonably Shady. I am Gazelle Bryant. My bad,
Speaker 1: I'm about to cut you off. What's up? What's up? Everyone?
Speaker 1: I am Robin Dixon. Hi, Robin. Robbin is eating candy.
Speaker 1: Robin is being really I don't know what it is
Speaker 1: right now, she's hungry. I don't all like those soft peppermints. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that dissolving your mouth like that the old people eat. Okay,
Speaker 1: don't you love what bad? No, I'm gonna I'm gonna.
Speaker 1: When we're not recording an episode, I'm gonna put this
Speaker 1: in my mouth. Okay, I'm sorry. I know you don't
Speaker 1: want to that. Okay, all right, So, per usual, we
Speaker 1: have a reasonably Shady moment of the week, and let
Speaker 1: me tell you something. I got one. Of course you do.
Speaker 1: I got one because I'm a little mad. Okay, So
Speaker 1: are you all familiar with the brand the company Ben
Speaker 1: and Jerry's never heard of him. This would be ice cream,
Speaker 1: and yes you've heard of them, Okay, New York Super
Speaker 1: Chunk Budge, Chunky, Monkey Fish Food. I can just name
Speaker 1: all them. I think you heard of them. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: I've been like a Ben and Jerry's like kind of
Speaker 1: sore or you know ever. Okay, So, and my whole
Speaker 1: thing with them is like they have all the stuff
Speaker 1: and the inside they have like chocolate chips and fish
Speaker 1: chips and white chocolate chips and cookie dough and you know,
Speaker 1: caramel swirls, and it's like so much that you get
Speaker 1: all kinds of other things outside of ice cream, and
Speaker 1: every mouthful when you go into the Ben and Jerry's
Speaker 1: when once you start eating it, Okay, yes, have all
Speaker 1: like the mixings in it. And it's if you if
Speaker 1: you go to your grocery store and you buy like
Speaker 1: a little pine or whatever, and it's so much stuff
Speaker 1: in there. So it's like amazing. So let me guess
Speaker 1: where this is going. Where you had you had some
Speaker 1: you put a spoof on your mouth and there was
Speaker 1: a rattail in it? What No, that's not No, I
Speaker 1: would be sewing. I would be rich right now. Okay.
Speaker 1: So where I'm going with this is they've cut back
Speaker 1: on the things that they mix into their ice creams.
Speaker 1: So like, for instance, with New York Superchunk Fuds, you
Speaker 1: would get like walnuts, and I think chalk, the chips
Speaker 1: and marshmallows, all this stuff, um, and now it's like
Speaker 1: half of it. Now they're being skimpy, skimpy. Same thing.
Speaker 1: Have you even noticed that the sizes of ice cream
Speaker 1: containers have gotten smaller? The prices are the same, they
Speaker 1: have gone up. Yes, so price is the same, but
Speaker 1: you don't have all of my stuff that you'll used
Speaker 1: to put in it, y'all A shady ben and Jerry's
Speaker 1: and y'all thought I wouldn't notice. So let me tell
Speaker 1: you what happened. So I bought one flavor and I
Speaker 1: was like, this ain't the same. Let me buy another flavor,
Speaker 1: and it was the same with that one too. So
Speaker 1: they know what they're doing. They're trying to save money.
Speaker 1: On the strength of my back. Guess what, I'm not
Speaker 1: here for it, no, but you know it's like, this
Speaker 1: is what the pandemic has done. This the pandemic has
Speaker 1: affected so many industries, you know, I mean. But the
Speaker 1: thing is now any company or business can use that
Speaker 1: as an excuse or a reason they the supply on
Speaker 1: chocolate syrup is low. You know, you gotta put that
Speaker 1: on the container. You just can't assume that I know
Speaker 1: that there's a supply chain issue. Well, you know what,
Speaker 1: then stop buying it and then they'll get the hint
Speaker 1: and then they'll fix it. Oh, I'm done, I'm done.
Speaker 1: I I I ain't done buying Ben and Jerry's. So
Speaker 1: they fix the problem. Or and my thing is quality.
Speaker 1: You can't give me less quality and expect me to
Speaker 1: pay the same amount of money. Exactly. Yes, okay, so now,
Speaker 1: but but no now thinks like I said, things are
Speaker 1: going the opposite way. You're getting less and less for
Speaker 1: the same amount of money. And they're just they're trying
Speaker 1: to just eyes that. They're like changing the packaging and no,
Speaker 1: it's actually like if you look at the weights, if
Speaker 1: you look at the size, is everything is smaller and
Speaker 1: if they're helping me out actually because I'm trying to
Speaker 1: have a washboard stomach. So thank you very much Ben
Speaker 1: and Jerry's for skipping me because I'm done with exactly. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: So my shady moment goes to my brother in law. Um,
Speaker 1: you know they got a baby in the house, We
Speaker 1: got some Okay, is he still with you? They're still here,
Speaker 1: they're still living with you. They're still here, but they're
Speaker 1: they're they're going to be gone soon. They're they're actually
Speaker 1: supposed to be moving. They were supposed to moved out
Speaker 1: a while ago. But what happen, what had happened was
Speaker 1: they they got a new place, they got all the
Speaker 1: furniture delivered from Florida, and somebody I don't know who
Speaker 1: it was, the movers and my brother in law lost
Speaker 1: the screws to the bid. Right, So that's the excuse
Speaker 1: that they're using for staying in y'all's house. They don't
Speaker 1: have screws, whisper. There's a home depot down the street, right,
Speaker 1: so they've gone to whom depot to buy screws and
Speaker 1: like none of the screws are the right screws, so
Speaker 1: so so right, other like waiting I think they had
Speaker 1: to order like a whole bunch of different screws. They're
Speaker 1: waiting for them to come. So anyway, so that's one
Speaker 1: of the things. I think. It was like screws for
Speaker 1: the bids, at least for the crib. So anyway, so
Speaker 1: they're still here. Yeah, but it goes to my brother
Speaker 1: in law because like last week I noticed that there
Speaker 1: was like his fiancee was out of town, so it's
Speaker 1: not her fault. So I noticed there was two baby
Speaker 1: bottles um in the in the sink right right, just
Speaker 1: sitting there. And so I said, okay, I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: the dishes, but I'm gonna lead of baby bottles. And
Speaker 1: because they don't I don't have a baby right now.
Speaker 1: You don't have baby. I don't have a baby bottles.
Speaker 1: And so you know, I did the dishes, put them away.
Speaker 1: Next day, I did the dishes, put them away. Next day,
Speaker 1: did the dishes put you know, like this is like
Speaker 1: ten eight days later, and the baby bottles are still there.
Speaker 1: They're still there. They're still there, and I'm just like,
Speaker 1: what are they using to feed the baby and her
Speaker 1: boob and her booms? And I'm just like, they got
Speaker 1: to go. So it might supposed to wash this baby bottle.
Speaker 1: Apparently they're waiting you that way, No, Robin and y
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm whispering because they're like in the next room,
Speaker 1: and the acoustics in my house, you know, I'm still
Speaker 1: waiting for furniture and so to stay on travels very
Speaker 1: easily at my house. I'm whispering. I am tired of
Speaker 1: seeing these baby bottles in my sink, and I refuse.
Speaker 1: I am mad at you, Okay, But more or more importantly,
Speaker 1: we have some other things to discuss. Because this is February. Y'all.
Speaker 1: Y'all know what that means. Black History ball. Okay, So
Speaker 1: let's be clear. We're black every day, so it shouldn't
Speaker 1: be a month. It should be every day. But it
Speaker 1: happens to be the shortest month. How shady is that? Yes,
Speaker 1: it's very shady. However, we we will take it, Black people.
Speaker 1: We're gonna take our month, yes, absolutely, with pride. Yes.
Speaker 1: So my recommendation is, you know, because this is Black
Speaker 1: History Month and there's so many black leaders and entrepreneurs
Speaker 1: and just like super bad people like your kid about
Speaker 1: a black um person in history that they don't know about.
Speaker 1: Like that's my recommendation, Like every day, try to teach
Speaker 1: your kid about a different black person that they can
Speaker 1: be proud of, that they can look up to. I agree,
Speaker 1: I agree, And I almost feel like I remember in school.
Speaker 1: I remember I felt like Black History Month was actually
Speaker 1: a thing, you know, like I remember, really it was
Speaker 1: something that we we had um plays or not, what
Speaker 1: like assemblies and stuff geared towards Black History Month and
Speaker 1: a lot of programming, and now I just I don't
Speaker 1: see that anymore. It's almost just kind of like, yeah,
Speaker 1: they might put a little display up on the wall
Speaker 1: and that's it, right. So so so let's let's recommend
Speaker 1: that moms, dad's, y'all get into your kids school and
Speaker 1: make sure they have a Black History Month program, a
Speaker 1: speaker coming in somebody like talking to the kids and
Speaker 1: really sharing, because you know, the white kids don't know
Speaker 1: what black people before them have done exact Lord, what
Speaker 1: about the critical thinking thing? Yeah, it's just that's a slippery, slow,
Speaker 1: slipper slow. But guess what, we gotta do it, because
Speaker 1: if they gave us some mothing, it's the shortest month,
Speaker 1: God damn it. We got to be proud of our history, right,
Speaker 1: and if it's not being taught in the school, then,
Speaker 1: like just Ll said, you know, spend some time, um
Speaker 1: educating yourself your children. And even this goes not just
Speaker 1: to you know, non black people, but black people. We
Speaker 1: need to educate our kids as well, because I feel
Speaker 1: like so much of the stuff that I learned as
Speaker 1: a kid, um my, my kids aren't learning as through
Speaker 1: the same vehicles. You know what, I mean, like before,
Speaker 1: you know, our parents were so prideful too, they would
Speaker 1: teach us stuff. Um, organizations that we belong to, we
Speaker 1: teach us stuff. And like I said, I learned stuff
Speaker 1: in the schools. Now, I just feel like because times
Speaker 1: are a little bit different, um, and people try to
Speaker 1: make race not an issue anymore, that like we don't
Speaker 1: our kids aren't learning about race. And I need for
Speaker 1: people to understand the reason why I'm encouraging you to
Speaker 1: like share all different kinds of black people in history,
Speaker 1: because there's more than just mar Luther King, Barack Obama
Speaker 1: and Muhammad Ali exactly right. So like, if that's all
Speaker 1: your kid knows as far as a black person is concerned,
Speaker 1: that's the problem and it's on you. So it's your
Speaker 1: responsibility to teach them more and better, exactly. And it's clear.
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I know this is probably a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks ago, but one of our former Bravo cot
Speaker 1: leagues UM on Salt Lake City Real Hospital, Salt Lake City.
Speaker 1: It's clear she missed a Black History month. Her name
Speaker 1: is Jenny. She got fired. Thank you very much Bravo
Speaker 1: for taking care of that. But she was on her Facebook.
Speaker 1: They didn't pulled up some old posts. She oh, it
Speaker 1: was like two years ago. It was two years ago.
Speaker 1: She made some very uncomfortable, off color comments about George Floyd,
Speaker 1: about the police, and she needed to go just in m.
Speaker 1: I mean it wasn't even that My issue was. It
Speaker 1: wasn't just one one post, No, it was multiple, many,
Speaker 1: over and over again. It was very enthusiastic. You could
Speaker 1: tell that she, you know, really was had a strong
Speaker 1: belief um and it and its stemmed from a very
Speaker 1: ignorant place where it's clear she she missed a whole
Speaker 1: lot of lessons on Black History Month. Um, very out
Speaker 1: of touch. I am glad that Bravo did the right thing. Um.
Speaker 1: And yeah, we that's about it with her, Yes, that's
Speaker 1: about it. And Bravo did come out and say, hey,
Speaker 1: when we do hire new Housewives, we will do our
Speaker 1: due diligence. We will do you know, more research before
Speaker 1: we hire that. Right. So because this should have been
Speaker 1: caught before she got hired, absolutely, I mean, because it
Speaker 1: wasn't that long ago, and I guess it was still
Speaker 1: up on her Facebook. I don't. I'm so cute. I
Speaker 1: want to know the person that like that put it
Speaker 1: out there, like yes, exactly. Can we interview you the
Speaker 1: person that dug up Jenny's Facebook posts a d M. Yes,
Speaker 1: But let this be a lesson for anyone out here
Speaker 1: listening that wants to be a housewife or on a
Speaker 1: reality TV platform. Hey, you've been a clean your mess up?
Speaker 1: Right up? Okay, now speaking of cleaning up in education? Okay,
Speaker 1: So I saw something on Twitter. No, I think it
Speaker 1: was on the Instagram that rappers. It listed rappers and
Speaker 1: their high school g p A. S Okay, So j
Speaker 1: Cole had a four point two drake, your buddy had
Speaker 1: a three point four. The baby had a one point eight. Okay,
Speaker 1: And how do we know that this is factual? Is? Wait?
Speaker 1: Now do we get this information? The baby said this
Speaker 1: was cat he said this was a lie, but he
Speaker 1: did not give what his g p A was, right,
Speaker 1: So that leads me to believe that it was probably
Speaker 1: one point nine. Right. So my point is, Okay, these
Speaker 1: kids in schools, we need to like stay on top
Speaker 1: of them and make sure that they are getting an education. Oh.
Speaker 1: Absolutely absolutely. I mean, I'm sorry, I would not be
Speaker 1: surprised if that was the baby's not because he's not
Speaker 1: smart or intelligent. But you know, he probably was focused
Speaker 1: a little bit more on some other things. So, um,
Speaker 1: but I'm sorry, J Colden like a four point I
Speaker 1: can see that A J. Coley's four point two. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I can see that. I can see Drake three point
Speaker 1: four because Drake is literally not like, so we want
Speaker 1: a five point on scale? Now, yes, what's happening? Angel
Speaker 1: has a four? He did? Come on? Now what Angel?
Speaker 1: My daughter? YESO, So that's that's not it's on a
Speaker 1: five point scale. So you gets on a four point
Speaker 1: scale and she's getting extra So if you take honest classes,
Speaker 1: those count those way heavier, right, so you can get
Speaker 1: up to a five point Oh okay, well she's not
Speaker 1: doing good, then what are you doing? Okay, morning on
Speaker 1: the Shady one today she has it eaten? Okay, Robin,
Speaker 1: I watched Oh no before I tell you what I watched. Okay,
Speaker 1: real quickly, because y'all know, we talked about Adele like
Speaker 1: four times. I wanted I wanted to go to the concert,
Speaker 1: but I said in tickets were too high, and then
Speaker 1: God said she's not having a concert. Is it like crazy?
Speaker 1: Protect you? I know it's but it's it crazy for
Speaker 1: me to say that. God stopped Adele's concert because her
Speaker 1: tickets were too expensive. Well, no, it is absolutely should
Speaker 1: we blame this on God? I mean I think, okay,
Speaker 1: the I'm not gonna blame it on God, but I
Speaker 1: think when you are charging that much for tickets, then
Speaker 1: your show better be flawless, and and God didn't appreciate it,
Speaker 1: so that the show went away. But recently what what
Speaker 1: did They said she was crying in the corner a right,
Speaker 1: They said that she she was on well and this
Speaker 1: is day so who is they? Right? A source? A
Speaker 1: source said that during the rehearsals and stuff, she was
Speaker 1: always on the phone crying and screaming talking to her boyfriend,
Speaker 1: her boat rich Paul. Yes he's he's causing her some
Speaker 1: agony or something and she can't focus on the show.
Speaker 1: But then also I heard that the production quality was
Speaker 1: not craig and she had a pool and the pool
Speaker 1: wasn't right and in the rain coming down didn't work.
Speaker 1: It was to take a sales take your sales went
Speaker 1: left on her ass. Okay, they went left on her ass.
Speaker 1: So anyway, a doubt. Whenever it all comes together, my
Speaker 1: recommendation is you lower your ticket prices and Giselle will
Speaker 1: be there front rock. Yes, you know what, lower the
Speaker 1: ticket prices forget about all the theatrics and just and
Speaker 1: just sing that you can sing, just say. They don't
Speaker 1: need to see all that extra stuff. They know what
Speaker 1: they're gonna get. They're gonna get a bunch of who
Speaker 1: That's what they're gonna get. Like, just give us. They
Speaker 1: paid for it. They come from the Vegas Sport. Robin
Speaker 1: is Robin is wrong, Adele and Rich Paul be nice
Speaker 1: to her. She's trying to get her concept together, not
Speaker 1: just be nice. Rich said, I am not trying to
Speaker 1: be settled down like that. Listen, okay, getting into that
Speaker 1: thought you just got divorced. You wasn't under me. Listen. Okay.
Speaker 1: There's some little people running around right now, and I
Speaker 1: just want you all this is a cautionary tale. Okay.
Speaker 1: It's some little girls running around right now, and they're treacherous.
Speaker 1: What are we talking about. They're selling Girl Scout cooks.
Speaker 1: It's Girl Scout cookie season, okay, and I've already been
Speaker 1: hit up fifteen times upside my head. And guess what,
Speaker 1: I didn't order about five hundred boxes of Girl Scout cookies.
Speaker 1: So everybody listening. D M j Lle and tell tell
Speaker 1: her that your daughter is selling girls because she's gonna
Speaker 1: buy them. No, I'm not. I have I have my
Speaker 1: full um lot meant for the season girl Scout cookie down,
Speaker 1: yes now. But I do of you'all to know that
Speaker 1: these girls casts are serious. They are treacherous. You come
Speaker 1: out of a grocery store and they're standing there with that,
Speaker 1: and they're so cute, right, that's so cute with their
Speaker 1: little table and they're little set up and their little
Speaker 1: entrepreneurs and then they're in your face and the next thing,
Speaker 1: you know, you didn't bought fifty boxes. I know, we'll see.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing I do. I don't, but I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't like girls Scout cookies, right, I think they're gross.
Speaker 1: I like them, I don't. I don't. They're all hard
Speaker 1: and crispy and like, you know, weird, all these weird
Speaker 1: flavors and stuff. Look, I just want a soft chocolate
Speaker 1: chip cookie, you know what I'm saying? Like, just give
Speaker 1: me that, that's all or oreo cookie. Okay. So when
Speaker 1: the little cute girl Scout rolls up on you, what
Speaker 1: are you gonna do? Hey? Or take this money and
Speaker 1: beat it? Here here's my donation. No, but what I
Speaker 1: do so so people will email me links to their
Speaker 1: child's girls Scout cookie website or whatever. And there's an
Speaker 1: option to donate boxes to troops. So I'll just like
Speaker 1: donate whatever, having many boxes to troops. Okay, to be done. Okay,
Speaker 1: and I've done that multiple times so far. Okay, very good,
Speaker 1: very good? All right, guys, this is our segment done? Done? Duh?
Speaker 1: Is it reasonable or is it shady? Now? You guys
Speaker 1: have been sending us some store reads Okay, and we
Speaker 1: truly appreciate it. Robin, you have one. I mean, it
Speaker 1: makes me feel good that, like, you know, I ain't
Speaker 1: the only one with crazy craziness going on in my life,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. That's but that's what we're
Speaker 1: here for. We're here to let everyone know that life
Speaker 1: is like a box of chocolates and it ain't perfect. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're all going through some ships. Let's see what do
Speaker 1: I have? So Fantasia rights, Fantasia, the Fantasia Fantasia. Oh yeah, girl?
Speaker 1: Are we is it really? We are? In double A
Speaker 1: CP Image Award nomined. No, I'm joking. It's not the
Speaker 1: real Fantasia okay, Okay, So Fantasia Rights. Hey ladies. Okay, First,
Speaker 1: I love your podcast and haven't been and have been
Speaker 1: a fan since season one. Arch. So, my husband and
Speaker 1: I are having a debate about the guest room slash
Speaker 1: baby room in our apartment keyword apartments. Okay. I told
Speaker 1: him I feel it's unfair for our son to have
Speaker 1: to share a room with anyone that decides they want
Speaker 1: to come visit us. Any family and friends that want
Speaker 1: to visit should be able to get a hotel room,
Speaker 1: specifically his family, because my family thinks it's weird to
Speaker 1: stay with the married couple in their home when they
Speaker 1: come to visit. But to be honest, it's because I
Speaker 1: don't want his mom to feel too comfortable thinking that
Speaker 1: she can just come to my house, dictate what I
Speaker 1: do with my son, and invade my space whenever she wants. Okay.
Speaker 1: So this is a two bedroom apartment, one bedroom for
Speaker 1: them for guess what it's feeling like. Okay. So I
Speaker 1: told my husband it's time to take out the queen
Speaker 1: size bed out of the guest room and just add
Speaker 1: my son's big boy bed so he can feel like
Speaker 1: he has his own Spacey, I feel kids need their
Speaker 1: own sanctuary as well, him and his mom, or like,
Speaker 1: why not just leave the queen bed in there and
Speaker 1: place his bed next to it? Oh god, So this
Speaker 1: slipped out of my mouth and I said, ma'am, this
Speaker 1: is my house. My son will have his own room.
Speaker 1: And if people want to come see us that bad,
Speaker 1: they can go to a hotel. If you can't afford
Speaker 1: a hotel, then you shouldn't be traveling out here. What's
Speaker 1: that too? Shady? Like fantation? You shady girl. I personally
Speaker 1: feel like they both had it coming because I can't
Speaker 1: make any decisions without him running to his mom for
Speaker 1: her opinion. Oh no, there's a whole lot of shady
Speaker 1: that's going on. Okay, So okay, I'm with her. So
Speaker 1: what she did was reasonable, but how she had yes, yes,
Speaker 1: the way she she said it and communicated it with
Speaker 1: shady yes. So yeah, I mean, no, how old is
Speaker 1: the sun to just say, well, he's old enough for
Speaker 1: a big boy bed, so he's got to be would
Speaker 1: be like two, he could be like two, three right too? Right? Well,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I mean, I don't know if we're
Speaker 1: going from a crib to a bed or like uh,
Speaker 1: let's say he's five. Okay, all right, but still he
Speaker 1: shouldn't have to share his room with a empty, big
Speaker 1: old queen bed for the guest that's gonna come every
Speaker 1: now and then. No, I don't want my child in
Speaker 1: the same room as grandma, right yeah, yeah, like for
Speaker 1: an extended stay. And how long does this go on for?
Speaker 1: Like is he going to be like and Grandma's sleeping
Speaker 1: in the room and here this mother in law is
Speaker 1: in their business about other things. That's how That's what
Speaker 1: I'm feeling, right, So I'm thinking if the mom wasn't
Speaker 1: as involved in your relationship, or the son and the
Speaker 1: mom weren't so connected, then maybe it would be kind
Speaker 1: of like, Okay, all right, here's the solution. Is there
Speaker 1: anything wrong with the mom sleeping on an air mattress?
Speaker 1: What you can't put your mom on an air mattress, Now,
Speaker 1: that's shade, got like real thick pillow top ones. Okay,
Speaker 1: But what you can do is put your mother in
Speaker 1: a nice hotel around the corner down the street. Yes,
Speaker 1: but plantage your tone, honey, your tone real shady. Let's
Speaker 1: let's clean that up, sweetie. Yeah, yeah, that's a little shady. Okay, Okay.
Speaker 1: So this is from Caitlin Dorsey. Okay, you know she
Speaker 1: says great things. I love you guys, I love hl P.
Speaker 1: She said she moved to Bristol in September and she
Speaker 1: has a male roommate who's subleasing. Now Bristol, that's like
Speaker 1: out of the country. Just make that clear. Bristol's not
Speaker 1: in this Crystal England. Bristol, England. Oh, this is from
Speaker 1: the other side of the pond. So should I talk
Speaker 1: in an accent this whole thing? I should? Okay, how
Speaker 1: are you doing? Okay? Catlyn Dorsey said she moved to
Speaker 1: Bristol in September. Okay, that I didn't mix British with
Speaker 1: we don't know you? Are you British? You Australia? Where
Speaker 1: we're doing here? Okay, I'm just gonna be black girl
Speaker 1: here we go, all right. So she moved to Bristol
Speaker 1: in September and she has a male roommate who's sub
Speaker 1: leaves the apartment with her. She's twenty five and he
Speaker 1: is a black man she put that in parentheses, who
Speaker 1: was twenty four. Okay, so within the first week of
Speaker 1: moving in he started flirting with her, like you know
Speaker 1: the old put the hand on the knee when they're
Speaker 1: watching TV, or you can put your legs on me
Speaker 1: if you want to, Like, that's I want to have
Speaker 1: sex right now. That ain't flirt. That's like pull your
Speaker 1: pants down. You see where he can go fuck? I
Speaker 1: push this so brustlum, Caitlin said. She shut it down immediately,
Speaker 1: and I told him we will never date or do anything.
Speaker 1: I'm not interested in relationship with you because you're my
Speaker 1: roommate and I don't know if you had any wrong impression,
Speaker 1: but that's how it's going to be. And he said, yeah, yeah, Yeah.
Speaker 1: I thought I thought that's what's going on. I thought
Speaker 1: that what's going on because you know, a man, it's
Speaker 1: never gonna be like a man is never gonna like
Speaker 1: he's gonna like baby step. He's gonna test, yes, he's
Speaker 1: gonna baby step, and then when it fails, he's gonna
Speaker 1: be like no one. It wasn't like that. Cool We cool? Okay,
Speaker 1: So long story short, Caitlin has a boot. Okay, she
Speaker 1: has a real boyfriend. Alright, she met she met a guy.
Speaker 1: He fell in love really quickly. Right, I met my
Speaker 1: twin flame, ridiculously quick. A man, I'm head over heels
Speaker 1: in love with and I met him the Tuesday just
Speaker 1: before my birthday. For four weeks, we saw each other
Speaker 1: four or five times every week, and he came over
Speaker 1: quite often. On November fourteen, my roommate went to his
Speaker 1: other apartment in Portugal until January, and ever since that
Speaker 1: day he comes back, he's been bitching about every damn thing.
Speaker 1: He texts me two hours after arriving back in the flat.
Speaker 1: They have a flat, so you know they're in London,
Speaker 1: because we don't say flat that he doesn't want to
Speaker 1: feel like he's living with three people, because my boyfriend
Speaker 1: and I were both at the apartment when he arrived.
Speaker 1: I spent about half my time at my boyfriend's house.
Speaker 1: But he says we're too loud when we are at
Speaker 1: the flat, opening and closing doors, talking, laughing, and he's
Speaker 1: heard sex noises and this listen in quote, this flat
Speaker 1: isn't really designed for guests or for more than two people.
Speaker 1: But mind jew this man isn't in school, doesn't have
Speaker 1: a job, doesn't do ship ever, and it's just home
Speaker 1: seven every day every night, stays up until one am,
Speaker 1: smoking weed and making whole ass meals to eat and
Speaker 1: proceeding to leave the kitchen and disarray. Child, this is
Speaker 1: getting good. So they had a big fight, and she said,
Speaker 1: in our second and last conversation we had about this
Speaker 1: issue with me having my man over whenever I wanted to,
Speaker 1: I said this, okay, So this is what we're trying
Speaker 1: to figure out. Is either reasonable or shady? Okay? Because
Speaker 1: this man didn't even want her to have her boot
Speaker 1: over to the house. How crazy is that? I mean,
Speaker 1: I feel like those are things you should talk about
Speaker 1: when you have roommates. But if you for your room,
Speaker 1: I know, but you just gotta sell you sech a balunity.
Speaker 1: But where are we going with this? Okay? All right,
Speaker 1: here we go, she said. I appreciate that you're telling
Speaker 1: me how you feel about the situation, but the reality is,
Speaker 1: I'm here for about four days a week and only
Speaker 1: at nighttime because I have um a UNI all day.
Speaker 1: I think that's a job all day Monday Tuesday, and
Speaker 1: she has therapy. I don't know anyway, she's only there
Speaker 1: at night. I hear that it bothers you to have
Speaker 1: another man in the house, but I pay rent here
Speaker 1: and least here, and there is nothing you can do
Speaker 1: or say to prevent me from having guests whenever I want.
Speaker 1: As far as the sex noises, oh lord, she's having
Speaker 1: a loud sex noises in the other room. Okay, I
Speaker 1: can see the brother and not appreciate you like soft
Speaker 1: sexes like that. Okay. She said, I'm a human being
Speaker 1: and I'm going to eat, sleep, shot our and wherever
Speaker 1: I want not and I'm not comfortable talking to you
Speaker 1: about my sex life. So she's like, is this reasonable
Speaker 1: or is it shady? I think this is real. Let
Speaker 1: me see who Okay, is what she said reasonable or shady?
Speaker 1: Or is the roommate having a problem reasonable or shady? Okay?
Speaker 1: So I feel like if your sex noises are that loud,
Speaker 1: then I kind of feel like I would be annoyed
Speaker 1: by my roommates sex noises. Yes, I don't care if
Speaker 1: I forget the fact that he wants to have sex.
Speaker 1: Right that he tried to flir. He tried to get
Speaker 1: that if you have a roommate, you have to like
Speaker 1: abide by normal code, which is you have quiet sex. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like nobody wants to hear that. So so maybe that's stemming.
Speaker 1: That's so okay? And then as a man, do you
Speaker 1: get intimidated or do you have some sort of fla. Yes,
Speaker 1: she's screaming and yelling and he's like, oh, he's breaking
Speaker 1: her back out right, So he's feeling like he can't
Speaker 1: break her back out, so he's even more mad. He's
Speaker 1: feeling some ownerships, like he's just like he's just like
Speaker 1: like not feeling uncomfortable because here's another guy in the house.
Speaker 1: He's all these noises and he's saying it. But if
Speaker 1: if the shoes on the other foot, he probably wouldn't care,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like, he's gonna do what
Speaker 1: he wants to do, not think about her feelings or
Speaker 1: how it might um bother her or annoy her. This
Speaker 1: is this is okay. As far as the sex noises,
Speaker 1: that's gotta stop. And you, yeah, just just be quiet.
Speaker 1: Yeah you can do that. But as far as you
Speaker 1: having a conversation with him, that was very reasonable. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's definitely reasonable if he's acting in a
Speaker 1: certain type of way, if he's getting mad, if he's
Speaker 1: causing a problem, it's very reasonable to put your foot
Speaker 1: down and say, yeah, I paid right here and live
Speaker 1: with it. But I think you do have to bend
Speaker 1: and say, Okay, what can I do to make the
Speaker 1: situation a little less uncomfortable? And that means be quiet
Speaker 1: or or just invite a man, and it could be
Speaker 1: the three y'all, but you don't listen to her. Just kidding, Kate,
Speaker 1: just kidding. I don't know what y'll do in Bristol.
Speaker 1: But if this was over here in the Patumic, just kidding,
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I'm sure your roommate's pride is
Speaker 1: getting in the way a little bit, like you don't
Speaker 1: want to see another man. And yeah, his spills to her.
Speaker 1: He thought he had a he had a window, right,
Speaker 1: But also, like y'all, you gotta put that stuff on
Speaker 1: the table when you do move into When you move
Speaker 1: into a situation from a roommate that you don't know,
Speaker 1: you need to say listen, Like it should be clear
Speaker 1: that I'm gonna have company, and you know it's it's
Speaker 1: my right to have company. Yeah, but it's common decency
Speaker 1: not to just be screaming and yelling and waking your
Speaker 1: roommate up that you know likes you. Nobody wants to
Speaker 1: hear that. Yeah, I think, um, you should start looking
Speaker 1: for another apartment. Yes, Now, I used to live in
Speaker 1: this building and I could hear my roommates, I mean,
Speaker 1: not my roommates, what do you call it, my neighbors
Speaker 1: through a wall. And it was two guys and it
Speaker 1: was every night. It was like clockwork and it was
Speaker 1: like bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang
Speaker 1: bang bang bang. Right, it was like I could count
Speaker 1: the number of bangs and it was done. And I
Speaker 1: was just like I felt like saying, I want to
Speaker 1: watch this because I need to know what's getting banged.
Speaker 1: Who's getting banged? You can hear that would be too.
Speaker 1: It was so embarrassing. But I like really like imagine
Speaker 1: in my mind, like who's getting the banging and why
Speaker 1: is it not reciprocated and just it was so many
Speaker 1: questions I had in my mind. Maybe they switch you
Speaker 1: off every night, but anyway, I mean, at first it
Speaker 1: was like I was like, what is that noise? It
Speaker 1: took me a very long time to figure it out.
Speaker 1: And because it was like it was just banging, it
Speaker 1: was so rudimentary banging. It was like bang bang bang
Speaker 1: bang bang bang bang bang, Like who has sex? Like
Speaker 1: that you thought they were who has okay, where no
Speaker 1: woman wants to be like bang bang bang bang bang
Speaker 1: bang bang bang bang bang bang Bank done like no,
Speaker 1: and that has happened to me. It was like it
Speaker 1: was like fifteen It was fifteen pumps and it was
Speaker 1: a rap and I was like, dude, you can never
Speaker 1: come back. Okay. Ever, this this, this, this episode is
Speaker 1: gonna laugh. Yeah. Listen, guys, we're out of here. Don't
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