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Speaker 1: It is not up to you to do that like now.

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Speaker 1: I do think it's one of those industries where discretion

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Speaker 4: And stuff just to kind of let loose and live

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Speaker 4: it's definitely not on us, and we have to respect

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Speaker 1: There you go, all right, See John says, keep your

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Speaker 1: This is crazy. Sorry, I have to go on this

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