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Speaker 1: First day of follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Lauren is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Tommy.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her a second date. But first, Lauren, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Tommy?

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Speaker 1: It's been about a week now, Okay.

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Speaker 3: Pretty standard for the like freak out moment. Yeah, have

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Speaker 3: you been reaching out to him.

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Speaker 4: In that time? Yeah? Yeah, I texted him, but you know,

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Speaker 4: because I wanted him to text me first. I didn't

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Speaker 4: hear anything from him, so then I figured I would

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Speaker 4: send him a text. But I haven't heard anything back.

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Speaker 3: Such a stressful game. Well, why don't you tell us

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Speaker 3: about the date?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: So I really liked him because he just had that

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Speaker 4: effortless music guy kind of vibe, you know, like a

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Speaker 4: worn and denim jacket, that messy hair that it looked

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Speaker 4: like it just was effortless, but it probably took him

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Speaker 4: actually like power. He also, yeah, he also knew every

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Speaker 4: lyric without it being annoying, and he just felt really passionate,

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Speaker 4: grounded and electrics to me, and the date was fun.

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Speaker 4: He invited me to see one of his favorite bands

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Speaker 4: at his local dive bar, and it was fun. They

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Speaker 4: had really good nachos there, and yeah, the date was

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Speaker 4: going really great. He got me a drink, He introduced

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Speaker 4: me a couple of his friends, and he kept saying

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Speaker 4: things like just wait for the bridge, this part changes lives,

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Speaker 4: and then something awkward happened.

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Speaker 3: Okay, what's an awkward thing?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so this is.

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Speaker 4: What I think made him ghost me potentially.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So, during one of the slower songs, I thought it

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Speaker 4: would be cute to vibe along, so I lit the

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Speaker 4: little tea light candle on our table and I waved

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Speaker 4: it gently, like you know, a concert lighter. Yeah, but

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Speaker 4: the wax on the candle melted and it flattered all

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Speaker 4: over his jeans. Oh yeah, yeah. He jumps up yelling

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Speaker 4: all my legs on fire, and I was like, oh

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Speaker 4: my gosh. I tried to help by patting it down

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Speaker 4: with a napkin, but that just neared the wax everywhere.

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Speaker 4: And it also probably looked pretty awkward with me doing

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Speaker 4: that on his leg in public, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, that was a really awkward moment for me.

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Speaker 4: I wish it didn't happen, but he actually laughed it

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Speaker 4: off and even joked, oh, you really brought the heat

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Speaker 4: tonight what you said.

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Speaker 1: After that, I was like, Okay, I thought.

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Speaker 4: I really messed up. But you know, he made light

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Speaker 4: of the situation and didn't you know, take it too seriously,

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Speaker 4: didn't make a really big deal out of it. So

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Speaker 4: we stayed for the encore, We danced a little bit,

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Speaker 4: we even shared some fries on the way out, and then,

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Speaker 4: like I said, nothing, I didn't hear anything from him,

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Speaker 4: no text, no follow up, no response to my text

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Speaker 4: that I sent to reach out to him.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know exactly what's going on.

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Speaker 4: But I'm thinking maybe did I ruin his jeans and

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Speaker 4: is he mad at that? Okay night because of that,

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Speaker 4: and maybe his trust in candles because of the wax

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Speaker 4: smelting on him. I'm just not sure what's going on

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Speaker 4: now with him.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, we'll play a song, come back and then

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Speaker 2: call him and see if he'll tell us and maybe

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Speaker 2: get you a second date if you still want one.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, yeah, thank you, all.

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Speaker 2: Right, we'll get your first day follow up next right

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Speaker 2: middle of your first day follow up and if you're

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Speaker 2: just joining us, Lauren is on the phone and she's

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted by a dude named Tommy, and we're about

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Speaker 2: to call him and see if he'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: he's ghostinger and maybe get her a second date if

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Speaker 2: she still wants one. But before we do that, Lauren,

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Speaker 2: why don't you break down your date again for us

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Speaker 2: real quick?

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So Tommy was like this cool music guy. I was

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Speaker 4: really into him. We had a great and fun date

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Speaker 4: at this bar. We saw one of his favorite local

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Speaker 4: bands there and it was fun. But at one point

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Speaker 4: things got awkward because I lit up the little tea

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Speaker 4: light candle on our table and I waved it like

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Speaker 4: a concert lighter, and then the whack melts it onto

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Speaker 4: his jeans. I tried to, like awkwardly and quickly, you know,

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Speaker 4: wipe it off, but that didn't really help. That seared everywhere.

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Speaker 5: And he ended up actually laughing it off. But I

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Speaker 5: still felt awkward about it, especially now that he apparently

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Speaker 5: has ghosted me. So I'm not sure exactly what's going

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Speaker 5: on and if he's upset with me for that or

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Speaker 5: whatever the reason is Okay.

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Speaker 3: The wax comes out. But anyway, yeah, we'll see if

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Speaker 3: that's it. Are you ready for us to go on?

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Speaker 6: Yes?

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Speaker 2: I am okay, here we go. Hi mespeaking to Tommy please,

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Speaker 2: Hey Tommy, how are you? This is the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 2: It's a radio show.

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Speaker 3: Hi Tommy, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name

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Speaker 3: is Jebel. How are you.

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Speaker 6: I'm a little confused, to be honest. What's this?

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Speaker 3: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: Sorry, okay, hey, that's fine. We do a segment on

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Speaker 2: the show and it's called the first Aid follow up.

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Speaker 2: What that is is if you go on a date

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Speaker 2: with somebody and you end up ghosting them, that person

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Speaker 2: can email us to get you on the phone and

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Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting. And we got an email about

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Speaker 2: you from somebody you went on a date with that

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Speaker 2: you're not calling back any idea who that would be?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Is this Lauren?

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Speaker 3: Yes? It is so. Lauren emailed us.

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Speaker 2: She said that she thought you were awesome, but you

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Speaker 2: haven't gone back to it all after your date, and

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Speaker 2: she's wondering if if you wouldn't mind telling us why

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting her.

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Speaker 6: Uh, yeah, okay, well, that's going to be a little awkward.

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Speaker 6: But she I ghosted her. She was fine, she was

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Speaker 6: she was she was lovely actually, but I ghosted her

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Speaker 6: because she uh she bowed the opening act.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: She told us, you guys went to a bar to

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Speaker 2: watch like some a couple of bands that you like

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Speaker 2: or whatever. She thought that you might be ghosting her

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Speaker 2: because she spilled wax on your pants with the candle.

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Speaker 6: Oh god, no it was wax. I didn't care. That

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Speaker 6: was that was fine.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like how was she just like boo or like boo,

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Speaker 4: get off the seat, you suck?

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Speaker 6: I mean, uh no she uh? I mean the opener started,

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Speaker 6: and that's my buddy up there.

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Speaker 3: She was bowing your buddy.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, she she brewed my buddy. She she she

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Speaker 6: stood there mid song and said, boo, this is not

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Speaker 6: the vibe. And dude, I just wanted to die. I

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Speaker 6: was still embarrassed.

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Speaker 3: I spent a long time I've seen somebody actually boo

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Speaker 3: somebody like that. What did you say to her? Did

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Speaker 3: you say anything like that's my friend?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: I told her, you know, I wash he was a vibe.

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Speaker 6: You know, he's good, And she just kind of old

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Speaker 6: her eyes at me. So, uh that was it?

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Speaker 3: Oh man, Okay, so you made that decision early in

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Speaker 3: the night that you were just out.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, finish the day. I didn't walk out on her.

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Speaker 6: I just finished the day and chalk that up. Took

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Speaker 6: bad evening.

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, thank you for being honest with Tommy. I

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Speaker 3: appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: Now I need to let you know that Lauren is

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Speaker 2: actually listening and has been one to talk to you.

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Speaker 4: Really, my friend is a vibe.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, Hi Laurence.

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Speaker 1: Hi Tommy. So I think that's that's pretty ridiculous to me.

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Speaker 4: He goes to me because I booned the opener.

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Speaker 6: You you told my friends he sucked. I don't see

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Speaker 6: why I should want to be around you again.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, Oh, I was just joking, and he even

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Speaker 6: You said, try singing from your diaphragm. W ego. I

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Speaker 6: don't think you're a lot there for us, hun.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you know what, And that guy was wearing

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Speaker 4: fingerless gloves and quoting John Mayer. I'm pretty sure he'll

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Speaker 4: live just because I bowed him. You know, I don't

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Speaker 4: think that's such a big deal. And honestly, Tommy, he

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Speaker 4: wasn't good. I mean, it's just constructive criticism.

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Speaker 6: You don't yelp review bands in real time. That's insane.

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Speaker 4: Well, I felt like you brought me to see.

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Speaker 1: A middle school talent show or something. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: They shouldn't be up there if they can't handle any back,

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Speaker 4: especially if it was constructive feedback like how I was providing.

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Speaker 6: Booing is not constructive criticism, Lauren, And that's something that

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Speaker 6: the teacher in kindergarten. I think we're done here. I

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Speaker 6: don't want to talk to you anymore, Lauren. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, well I'm sorry. I mean, I don't know

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Speaker 4: what to tell you. Tommy, but he just wasn't good.

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Speaker 4: What did you want me to do?

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Speaker 1: Just live?

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Speaker 6: No smile and nod like I had to do for

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Speaker 6: the rest of the day.

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Speaker 4: Oh see, even you thought he was sad, you were

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Speaker 4: smiling and nodding while he was performing.

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Speaker 3: Tommy was like another day with larn We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 6: Not a chance in hell, my, man.

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Speaker 1: Okay, fine, just have fun with.

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Speaker 4: Your music that no one wants to listen to anyway

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Speaker 4: besides you, I guess. And your friend's never going to

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Speaker 4: get better with an enabler.

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Speaker 1: Like you for a friend.

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Speaker 3: Oh man.

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Speaker 1: And if you ever change your mind, just call me, Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right. Juble's first day follow up