WEBVTT - Andy & Serena - Sick Dog

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<v Speaker 1>First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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<v Speaker 1>online at Advocates Law dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>Andy is on the phone today for our first day

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<v Speaker 2>follow up, and he's getting ghosted by a girl named Serena's.

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<v Speaker 2>In a few minutes, we're gonna call her and see

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<v Speaker 2>if she'll tell us why she's ghosting her and maybe

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<v Speaker 2>get him another date. But first, Andy, how long has

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<v Speaker 2>it been since you heard from Serena?

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<v Speaker 3>It's been two weeks.

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<v Speaker 4>Have you been counting?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, okay, that's so frustrating. Have you reached out to her?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I've reached out. I've sent her some texts and stuff,

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 3>I haven't heard anything back.

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<v Speaker 4>Why don't you go back and tell us about the date?

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<v Speaker 4>How did you meet her?

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<v Speaker 5>So we met him bumble, and we spent a few

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<v Speaker 5>weeks talking and facetiming before we actually met up the

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<v Speaker 5>first time, so it's like, I feel like we got

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<v Speaker 5>to know each other a little bit. We eventually planned

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<v Speaker 5>to meet at a cafe that we both are into,

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<v Speaker 5>and uh, we were going to do a mike ride

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<v Speaker 5>and drink slater and stuff, and I was really excited

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<v Speaker 5>to meet her in person, but he yeah, she never

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<v Speaker 5>ended up being.

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<v Speaker 3>Able to show up.

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<v Speaker 6>Did not actually have the date?

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<v Speaker 5>No, actually, because about twenty minutes before I was, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>I've been sending way to get the coffee shop, and

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<v Speaker 5>she sent me a text that her dog was sick

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<v Speaker 5>and something got picked so she needed.

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<v Speaker 3>To take them to the vet.

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<v Speaker 5>And I never ended up happening, and I and I

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<v Speaker 5>was really excited, Like I ended up wearing a T shirt,

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<v Speaker 5>these plaid shorts and sneakers that you know, she's kind

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<v Speaker 5>of like telling me to wear beforehand so that she

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<v Speaker 5>could find me.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, I was, I was happy.

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<v Speaker 4>You were happy, So she told you what to wear.

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<v Speaker 4>You guys planned this whole date. And then so her

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<v Speaker 4>dog got sick. Did she ever give you an update

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<v Speaker 4>on her dog? Like what happened with that after that?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>I haven't. I honestly haven't really heard.

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<v Speaker 5>So that's where yeah, I'm trying to figure it out.

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<v Speaker 4>So how did you respond to that text?

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<v Speaker 3>Cause oh yeah, yeah, sorry, yeah, yeah no. When she

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<v Speaker 3>sent me that, I that's okay.

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<v Speaker 5>So I responded like I just kind of said bummer,

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<v Speaker 5>and I said, hope your dog is okay, because I was.

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<v Speaker 3>I was really sad at the time, But I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I've looked back and I've read that text a million times,

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<v Speaker 5>and I feel like, maybe I maybe I wasn't a

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<v Speaker 5>little cold.

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<v Speaker 4>Would she have expected you to say more?

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe maybe uh, maybe I should offer to go with her.

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<v Speaker 4>So has anything happened then between that text message and

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<v Speaker 4>maybe all those face times? You know, like if you're

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<v Speaker 4>talking from the past couple of weeks, you kind of

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<v Speaker 4>start to build what is it about her that makes

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<v Speaker 4>you want to see her again? Like if this girl

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<v Speaker 4>just disappears, like, don't you kind of feel like screw you?

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<v Speaker 1>Then? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean I think she's first of all beautiful, and

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<v Speaker 5>I felt like our personalities kind of balanced each other out,

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<v Speaker 5>and you know, she seems like she does once and

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<v Speaker 5>I'm happy to give that to her.

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<v Speaker 2>So okay, okay, And so she just ghosted you basically

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<v Speaker 2>for the date, like she didn't show up and then

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<v Speaker 2>hasn't responded to you since, saying that she couldn't make

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<v Speaker 2>it because her dog was.

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<v Speaker 5>Sick, right, And yeah, again, like I don't know if

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<v Speaker 5>I just responded wrong at the time, it wasn't you know,

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<v Speaker 5>nice enough.

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<v Speaker 3>But hopefully, hopefully we can get it worked out.

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<v Speaker 4>What if, like something really bad happened to her dog.

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<v Speaker 3>That's also a concern of mine too.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, would I be mad at a bummer, Like if

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<v Speaker 4>somebody responds bummer if your dog sick?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean maybe I would have been like, Okay, maybe, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe that's It's like bummer is more than a bummer?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Maybe? All right, Andy, Well we'll try to figure it out.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll play a song and then come back and call

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<v Speaker 2>her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting

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<v Speaker 2>you and.

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<v Speaker 6>Maybe get you another date. Okay, all right, thank you.

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<v Speaker 6>All right, we'll get your first date follow up next.

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<v Speaker 2>Right in the middle of today's first date follow up,

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<v Speaker 2>if you're just joining us, Andy is on the phone

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<v Speaker 2>and he's getting ghosted by Serena. So in a second

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<v Speaker 2>we're going to call her and see if she'll tell

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<v Speaker 2>us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another day.

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<v Speaker 2>But first, Andy, why don't you catch everybody up on

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<v Speaker 2>your situation.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so I met Stringa on Bumble.

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<v Speaker 7>We've spent a few weeks talking facetiming before we finally

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<v Speaker 7>met our plans to meet up in person. And then

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<v Speaker 7>during that time, you know, I wore a tea shirt,

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<v Speaker 7>pad shorts, white shoes that she told me to pick out.

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<v Speaker 5>I was waiting for her and I got a text

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<v Speaker 5>that said her dog was sticking, that she ate taking

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<v Speaker 5>to the vet.

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<v Speaker 3>So the day never happened, and I haven't heard from

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<v Speaker 3>her sets.

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<v Speaker 4>And it might be because he responded, bummer, All.

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<v Speaker 6>Right, Andy, are you ready to call her?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man speak to Serena. Please. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>Hi Serena. My name is Jewbell. I host the radio show.

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<v Speaker 6>It's called The Jewbel Show.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi, Serena, I'm Nina. The whole show's here. Hi, and

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<v Speaker 4>I'm Victoria.

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<v Speaker 6>How are you.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm good.

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<v Speaker 2>We're calling you today because we got an email about

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<v Speaker 2>you from somebody who listens to the show and they

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<v Speaker 2>wanted us to call you.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, So we do a segment on the show. It's

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<v Speaker 6>called the first Date follow Up.

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<v Speaker 2>What that is is if you go out on a

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<v Speaker 2>date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them,

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<v Speaker 2>they can ask us to get you on the phone

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<v Speaker 2>and ask why you're ghosting them. So a dude named

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<v Speaker 2>Andy emailed us. He told us about your date. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>the date that didn't happen. And then asked if we

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<v Speaker 2>could call you and ask why are you ghosted him?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, that's really cute. You know, he's that far to

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<v Speaker 1>see what happened, so.

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<v Speaker 6>You think it's cute.

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<v Speaker 4>Is your dog? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>No, No I didn't.

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<v Speaker 3>He's just not what I thought he would be.

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<v Speaker 6>And uh, the dog is your okay?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 1>And Annie, do you.

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<v Speaker 6>Have a dog?

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<v Speaker 4>Even?

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<v Speaker 1>Whoa? I mean we chatted for a while in a bumble.

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<v Speaker 1>It was nice getting to know. Yeah, and he also like,

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<v Speaker 1>I actually don't have a dog.

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<v Speaker 6>I figured that's where it was going than.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So when I step to go to the date

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<v Speaker 1>they wouldn't go on, I saw him sitting there like

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<v Speaker 1>a puppy dog. He had like a rose and some

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<v Speaker 1>dirty white sneakers and I'm just like, I'm not busy,

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<v Speaker 1>but how am I? She sept the sneakers just.

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<v Speaker 6>Kind of you know, so it's the dirty shoes.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he was like, I don't know, just it wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't look like he did any pictures.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait, but he had a rose there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but he's just like I was just sitting there

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<v Speaker 1>like a like a bad puffy dog.

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<v Speaker 4>Like it's just like, I don't know, you felt like

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<v Speaker 4>you could bulldoze him. I mean sometimes sometimes that's sometimes

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<v Speaker 4>that's the thing. I mean it sounds a little shallow,

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<v Speaker 4>but sometimes you know, if you're gonna like be too

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<v Speaker 4>much for somebody.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and if I did have a dog and.

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<v Speaker 3>He replied bummers or your dogs, just like come.

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<v Speaker 4>On, Okay, so it was because he was sitting like

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<v Speaker 4>a puppy dog and he had dirty sneakers. Oh so

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<v Speaker 4>what did dirty sneaker say about him? Man to you?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, come on, it's the first date.

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<v Speaker 1>If you can't like seeing your shoes or like wear

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<v Speaker 1>some like, come on.

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<v Speaker 4>Like was it a nice like fancy restaurant that you

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<v Speaker 4>were going to.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean it wasn't a fancy restaurant. It was just

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<v Speaker 3>like a cafe.

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<v Speaker 1>But still, come on, like, come on, just at least

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<v Speaker 1>wash your shoes or buy a new pair on a

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<v Speaker 1>first feat.

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<v Speaker 4>I get presenting yourself nicely. I wouldn't and you don't

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<v Speaker 4>have to go as far as buy new shoes, but

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<v Speaker 4>I mean keeping them, you know, do you think about that?

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<v Speaker 4>I do.

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<v Speaker 2>I try not to wear dirty shoes if I go places.

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<v Speaker 2>But also yeah, but I'm one of those people that

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<v Speaker 2>always wants you know, tries to clean my shoes and

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<v Speaker 2>stuff too. Right, some people don't care, though.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, well I cared, and I was just sitting

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<v Speaker 1>there with like a road like not even like a bookcase,

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<v Speaker 1>just like a rose. Come on, now, it's really blimpy,

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<v Speaker 1>you know.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, well, thank you for telling us.

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<v Speaker 2>And now, Serena, I'll let you know that Andy is

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<v Speaker 2>actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 3>What scaly. Wow, I'm a wimp because I had dirty

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<v Speaker 3>shoes and a rose. You lied about having a sick dog.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean to be, I was weirding what you told

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<v Speaker 3>me to wear.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't tell you to wear dirty shoes, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>come on, first impressions or kind of big Well, I.

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<v Speaker 7>Went out and bought a new shirt and plaid shorts

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<v Speaker 7>because I didn't have any I wasn't thinking about my shoes.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's a bummer.

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<v Speaker 8>So you just so you saw me sitting there, and

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<v Speaker 8>instead of coming up to me and saying anything like

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<v Speaker 8>an adult, you just walked away and hid lied about

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<v Speaker 8>having a dog that was sick, and you're saying that

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<v Speaker 8>I'm awa, yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Mean a little bit, and you don't even look like

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<v Speaker 3>your pictures. So you know what, you didn't look like

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<v Speaker 3>your pictures either. You didn't look evil.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think that was the appropriate time to ask Serena,

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<v Speaker 2>would you like to go on another day with Andy?

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<v Speaker 6>We'll pay for it.

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<v Speaker 1>No, thank you, No.

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<v Speaker 3>Buck, though I wish you the bye, Candy.

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<v Speaker 4>Somebody's gonna appreciate your rose.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you. I think I'm dodging a bullet, you know.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I'll pay attention to if you ever do end

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<v Speaker 5>up getting a dog, and I'm gonna call a spc

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<v Speaker 5>I on you because yeah, you shouldn't be owning an animal.

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<v Speaker 1>Jubile's first date follow up