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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocates Law dot com.

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Speaker 2: Andy is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 2: follow up, and he's getting ghosted by a girl named Serena's.

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Speaker 2: In a few minutes, we're gonna call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get him another date. But first, Andy, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Serena?

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Speaker 3: It's been two weeks.

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Speaker 4: Have you been counting?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, that's so frustrating. Have you reached out to her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've reached out. I've sent her some texts and stuff,

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I'm not.

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Speaker 4: I'm not.

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Speaker 3: I haven't heard anything back.

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Speaker 4: Why don't you go back and tell us about the date?

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Speaker 4: How did you meet her?

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Speaker 5: So we met him bumble, and we spent a few

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Speaker 5: weeks talking and facetiming before we actually met up the

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Speaker 5: first time, so it's like, I feel like we got

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Speaker 5: to know each other a little bit. We eventually planned

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Speaker 5: to meet at a cafe that we both are into,

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Speaker 5: and uh, we were going to do a mike ride

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Speaker 5: and drink slater and stuff, and I was really excited

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Speaker 5: to meet her in person, but he yeah, she never

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Speaker 5: ended up being.

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Speaker 3: Able to show up.

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Speaker 6: Did not actually have the date?

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Speaker 5: No, actually, because about twenty minutes before I was, you know,

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Speaker 5: I've been sending way to get the coffee shop, and

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Speaker 5: she sent me a text that her dog was sick

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Speaker 5: and something got picked so she needed.

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Speaker 3: To take them to the vet.

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Speaker 5: And I never ended up happening, and I and I

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Speaker 5: was really excited, Like I ended up wearing a T shirt,

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Speaker 5: these plaid shorts and sneakers that you know, she's kind

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Speaker 5: of like telling me to wear beforehand so that she

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Speaker 5: could find me.

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Speaker 3: But you know, I was, I was happy.

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Speaker 4: You were happy, So she told you what to wear.

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Speaker 4: You guys planned this whole date. And then so her

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Speaker 4: dog got sick. Did she ever give you an update

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Speaker 4: on her dog? Like what happened with that after that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I haven't. I honestly haven't really heard.

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Speaker 5: So that's where yeah, I'm trying to figure it out.

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Speaker 4: So how did you respond to that text?

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Speaker 3: Cause oh yeah, yeah, sorry, yeah, yeah no. When she

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Speaker 3: sent me that, I that's okay.

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Speaker 5: So I responded like I just kind of said bummer,

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Speaker 5: and I said, hope your dog is okay, because I was.

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Speaker 3: I was really sad at the time, But I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I've looked back and I've read that text a million times,

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Speaker 5: and I feel like, maybe I maybe I wasn't a

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Speaker 5: little cold.

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Speaker 4: Would she have expected you to say more?

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Speaker 3: Maybe maybe uh, maybe I should offer to go with her.

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Speaker 4: So has anything happened then between that text message and

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Speaker 4: maybe all those face times? You know, like if you're

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Speaker 4: talking from the past couple of weeks, you kind of

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Speaker 4: start to build what is it about her that makes

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Speaker 4: you want to see her again? Like if this girl

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Speaker 4: just disappears, like, don't you kind of feel like screw you?

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Speaker 1: Then? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I mean I think she's first of all beautiful, and

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Speaker 5: I felt like our personalities kind of balanced each other out,

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Speaker 5: and you know, she seems like she does once and

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Speaker 5: I'm happy to give that to her.

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Speaker 2: So okay, okay, And so she just ghosted you basically

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Speaker 2: for the date, like she didn't show up and then

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Speaker 2: hasn't responded to you since, saying that she couldn't make

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Speaker 2: it because her dog was.

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Speaker 5: Sick, right, And yeah, again, like I don't know if

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Speaker 5: I just responded wrong at the time, it wasn't you know,

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Speaker 3: But hopefully, hopefully we can get it worked out.

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Speaker 4: What if, like something really bad happened to her dog.

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Speaker 3: That's also a concern of mine too.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, would I be mad at a bummer, Like if

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Speaker 4: somebody responds bummer if your dog sick?

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Speaker 2: I mean maybe I would have been like, Okay, maybe, yeah,

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Speaker 2: maybe that's It's like bummer is more than a bummer?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Maybe? All right, Andy, Well we'll try to figure it out.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song and then come back and call

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Speaker 2: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: you and.

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Speaker 6: Maybe get you another date. Okay, all right, thank you.

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Speaker 6: All right, we'll get your first date follow up next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first date follow up,

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Andy is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and he's getting ghosted by Serena. So in a second

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Speaker 2: we're going to call her and see if she'll tell

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Speaker 2: us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another day.

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Speaker 2: But first, Andy, why don't you catch everybody up on

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Speaker 2: your situation.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I met Stringa on Bumble.

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Speaker 7: We've spent a few weeks talking facetiming before we finally

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Speaker 7: met our plans to meet up in person. And then

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Speaker 7: during that time, you know, I wore a tea shirt,

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Speaker 7: pad shorts, white shoes that she told me to pick out.

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Speaker 5: I was waiting for her and I got a text

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Speaker 5: that said her dog was sticking, that she ate taking

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Speaker 5: to the vet.

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Speaker 3: So the day never happened, and I haven't heard from

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Speaker 3: her sets.

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Speaker 4: And it might be because he responded, bummer, All.

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Speaker 6: Right, Andy, are you ready to call her?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man speak to Serena. Please. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: Hi Serena. My name is Jewbell. I host the radio show.

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Speaker 6: It's called The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Serena, I'm Nina. The whole show's here. Hi, and

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Speaker 4: I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 6: How are you.

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 4: I'm good.

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Speaker 2: We're calling you today because we got an email about

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Speaker 2: you from somebody who listens to the show and they

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Speaker 2: wanted us to call you.

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Speaker 6: Okay, So we do a segment on the show. It's

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Speaker 6: called the first Date follow Up.

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Speaker 2: What that is is if you go out on a

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Speaker 2: date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: they can ask us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting them. So a dude named

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Speaker 2: Andy emailed us. He told us about your date. Well,

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Speaker 2: the date that didn't happen. And then asked if we

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Speaker 2: could call you and ask why are you ghosted him?

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's really cute. You know, he's that far to

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Speaker 1: see what happened, so.

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Speaker 6: You think it's cute.

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Speaker 4: Is your dog? Okay?

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Speaker 1: No, No I didn't.

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Speaker 3: He's just not what I thought he would be.

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Speaker 6: And uh, the dog is your okay?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: And Annie, do you.

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Speaker 6: Have a dog?

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Speaker 4: Even?

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Speaker 1: Whoa? I mean we chatted for a while in a bumble.

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Speaker 1: It was nice getting to know. Yeah, and he also like,

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Speaker 1: I actually don't have a dog.

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Speaker 6: I figured that's where it was going than.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So when I step to go to the date

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Speaker 1: they wouldn't go on, I saw him sitting there like

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Speaker 1: a puppy dog. He had like a rose and some

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Speaker 1: dirty white sneakers and I'm just like, I'm not busy,

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Speaker 1: but how am I? She sept the sneakers just.

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Speaker 6: Kind of you know, so it's the dirty shoes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he was like, I don't know, just it wasn't

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Speaker 1: he didn't look like he did any pictures.

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Speaker 4: Wait, but he had a rose there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but he's just like I was just sitting there

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Speaker 1: like a like a bad puffy dog.

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Speaker 4: Like it's just like, I don't know, you felt like

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Speaker 4: you could bulldoze him. I mean sometimes sometimes that's sometimes

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Speaker 4: that's the thing. I mean it sounds a little shallow,

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Speaker 4: but sometimes you know, if you're gonna like be too

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and if I did have a dog and.

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Speaker 3: He replied bummers or your dogs, just like come.

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Speaker 4: On, Okay, so it was because he was sitting like

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Speaker 4: a puppy dog and he had dirty sneakers. Oh so

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Speaker 4: what did dirty sneaker say about him? Man to you?

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Speaker 3: I mean, come on, it's the first date.

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Speaker 1: If you can't like seeing your shoes or like wear

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Speaker 1: some like, come on.

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Speaker 4: Like was it a nice like fancy restaurant that you

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Speaker 3: I mean it wasn't a fancy restaurant. It was just

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Speaker 3: like a cafe.

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Speaker 1: But still, come on, like, come on, just at least

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Speaker 1: wash your shoes or buy a new pair on a

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Speaker 4: I get presenting yourself nicely. I wouldn't and you don't

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Speaker 4: I mean keeping them, you know, do you think about that?

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Speaker 4: I do.

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Speaker 2: I try not to wear dirty shoes if I go places.

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Speaker 2: But also yeah, but I'm one of those people that

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Speaker 2: stuff too. Right, some people don't care, though.

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Speaker 1: I mean, well I cared, and I was just sitting

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Speaker 1: there with like a road like not even like a bookcase,

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Speaker 1: just like a rose. Come on, now, it's really blimpy,

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Speaker 6: Okay, well, thank you for telling us.

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Speaker 2: And now, Serena, I'll let you know that Andy is

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Speaker 2: actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: What scaly. Wow, I'm a wimp because I had dirty

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Speaker 3: I mean to be, I was weirding what you told

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Speaker 1: I didn't tell you to wear dirty shoes, and you know,

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Speaker 1: come on, first impressions or kind of big Well, I.

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Speaker 7: Went out and bought a new shirt and plaid shorts

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Speaker 7: because I didn't have any I wasn't thinking about my shoes.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Well that's a bummer.

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Speaker 8: So you just so you saw me sitting there, and

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Speaker 8: instead of coming up to me and saying anything like

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Speaker 8: an adult, you just walked away and hid lied about

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Speaker 8: having a dog that was sick, and you're saying that

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Speaker 8: I'm awa, yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Mean a little bit, and you don't even look like

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Speaker 3: your pictures. So you know what, you didn't look like

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Speaker 3: your pictures either. You didn't look evil.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think that was the appropriate time to ask Serena,

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Speaker 2: would you like to go on another day with Andy?

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Speaker 6: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 1: No, thank you, No.

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Speaker 3: Buck, though I wish you the bye, Candy.

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Speaker 4: Somebody's gonna appreciate your rose.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. I think I'm dodging a bullet, you know.

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Speaker 5: Well, I'll pay attention to if you ever do end

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Speaker 5: up getting a dog, and I'm gonna call a spc

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Speaker 5: I on you because yeah, you shouldn't be owning an animal.

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Speaker 1: Jubile's first date follow up