Speaker 1: Hey, there're folks. It is Tuesday, January twenty seventh. Quick
Speaker 1: question for you, just how important are eating habits to
Speaker 1: a successful relationship? And with that, welcome to this Yahoo
Speaker 1: addition of Amy and DJ here on our iHeart podcast.
Speaker 1: Welcome everybody. It's not something people think about, is it rope?
Speaker 1: So we think about the important parts of being compatible.
Speaker 1: You say, you kind of religion and politics and values.
Speaker 1: But what about food?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I don't think that's usually a conversation you bring to
Speaker 3: a first date, or at least even to any relationship,
Speaker 3: conversation about what it is that you eat.
Speaker 2: I bet you.
Speaker 3: Sabine is off school right now. She likes to call
Speaker 3: this time of day.
Speaker 1: Apologies. Yes, soo maring tone is still not like us
Speaker 1: by Kendrick Lamar And Sabine calls me every single day
Speaker 1: when she gets out of school immediately, So sorry about that,
Speaker 1: but go ahead.
Speaker 3: But yeah, the they not like us, the us versus
Speaker 3: them thing. Yeah, if you eat very differently than your partner,
Speaker 3: is that potential for causing a fissure in your relationship
Speaker 3: that could end things? I don't know about that, but
Speaker 3: certainly think about the things you do together as a
Speaker 3: couple and eating together is probably something you do more
Speaker 3: than anything else with your significant other.
Speaker 1: And this came about and reason we're talking about it
Speaker 1: now is because we do we have many of you
Speaker 1: are familiar in those of you who are not. We
Speaker 1: have been doing a column with Yahoo over there for
Speaker 1: the past Your Soul will continue through twenty twenty six.
Speaker 1: And our producer there, Natalie brought this question up. It's
Speaker 1: something she's been keeping an eye on, but having to
Speaker 1: do with generally speaking, people's diets, how you eat and
Speaker 1: how couples eat, and she had us think about this. Now.
Speaker 1: The title of the column you can check out in
Speaker 1: Yahoo dot com right now in the life section. The column.
Speaker 1: The title this time is Amy Robot changed how she
Speaker 1: eats after cancer. It reshaped her life and her relationship
Speaker 1: with TJ. Holmes. Now that is the article that goes
Speaker 1: through several things we'll go through with you here, but Robes,
Speaker 1: let's start first and foremost. We don't think about this
Speaker 1: that much about eating habits. But you're not on the
Speaker 1: same page with religion, you're not on the same page
Speaker 1: with politics. That can cause a problem. And if his
Speaker 1: favorite food is hot dogs and she's a vegan, that
Speaker 1: could be an issue.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I had never considered that, and recognizing
Speaker 3: how actually your eating habits could help or hurt your
Speaker 3: relationship isn't something I've pondered before. But it makes sense
Speaker 3: because we influence one another. We decide what restaurants were
Speaker 3: going to, where we're ordering from, and.
Speaker 2: All of that.
Speaker 3: Actually, if you have very different eating habits from your partner,
Speaker 3: that's just a logistical perhaps issue, But then there's an
Speaker 3: emotional side to it too. If I'm trying to stay
Speaker 3: away from something that you love or you like to
Speaker 3: eat something that I can't stand, that actually, over time
Speaker 3: can cause.
Speaker 1: Some issues and it's not something necessarily we have had
Speaker 1: to deal with. And this is what Natalie was kind
Speaker 1: of talking about it. She was walking through some of
Speaker 1: our eating habits, how we eat, how we ate before
Speaker 1: we were a couple, how we have continued to eat
Speaker 1: as a couple. It did bring this idea up of
Speaker 1: just how difficult it can be if you're not on
Speaker 1: the same page food wise. Now, there are some upsides
Speaker 1: to this. Clearly robes just like we do in the
Speaker 1: way we eat. You can inspire somebody, you can encourage
Speaker 1: the other person if they just see you having good habits.
Speaker 1: That can be a good thing. Also, have out some
Speaker 1: trying some new stuff with your partner, that's always good.
Speaker 1: That can be an upside. Also, if you are eating
Speaker 1: a certain way, not dieting, but have a certain diet,
Speaker 1: you can hold each other accountable. We do that with
Speaker 1: our running, We do that with anything. If you have
Speaker 1: a buddy, you can hold yourself accountable. But robes, these
Speaker 1: are some pretty i think obvious.
Speaker 3: Cons Yeah, and these make a lot of sense because
Speaker 3: if you're the one who's eating cleaner or better by
Speaker 3: societal standards or even by scientists evaluation, you can maybe
Speaker 3: not even realize it, but maybe you're criticizing your partner.
Speaker 3: Maybe you're trying to convince your partner to come on
Speaker 3: to see food as in your way of thinking. But
Speaker 3: you might actually end up critics sizing their habits and
Speaker 3: maybe not even realizing you're doing so.
Speaker 2: You also might tempt your partner.
Speaker 3: You know, if I'm saying, hey, I'm really going to
Speaker 3: try and stay away from candy, I know sugar is
Speaker 3: not good for me, and your partner's just throwing down
Speaker 3: Swedish fish and gummy bears, that can be really hard
Speaker 3: that can actually cause some problem.
Speaker 1: The criticism part is that can go right. We're talking
Speaker 1: about food here, but that can go with anything. They
Speaker 1: can criticize how you dress, your taste in movies, your
Speaker 1: taste in music, and all those things can kind of
Speaker 1: wear you down and beat you down. When youre talking
Speaker 1: about how somebody eats, that is a big deal. I
Speaker 1: will ask what we move on here? Have you ever
Speaker 1: in a relationship had food be an issue.
Speaker 3: With my with within a romantic relationship, no, but in
Speaker 3: friendships and even with my children, yes it has become
Speaker 3: an issue.
Speaker 1: How about with you, h neb fur No, not even no, no,
Speaker 1: not even close. Obviously, you know I cook all the time,
Speaker 1: so I don't need anybody to take care of my
Speaker 1: meals for me, so I get to pick how I eat.
Speaker 1: I suppose so no, asn't been an issue, and you
Speaker 1: know how I eat. So we go back now. Natalie
Speaker 1: was asking us these questions for the column, but I
Speaker 1: did don't really sit down and think about it that often.
Speaker 1: But a reminder how we grew up eating versus how
Speaker 1: we eat now? Pretty clean keto, And we'll explain some
Speaker 1: of that in a second. B b oh, we grew up
Speaker 1: eating some pretty bad stuff in an area of the
Speaker 1: country where it's known now it's a pretty unhealthy food.
Speaker 3: Yes, I grew up in the Midwest and in the South,
Speaker 3: so lots of I mean.
Speaker 2: Look, lots of processed foods. And I actually, I actually
Speaker 2: want to say I'm sorry to my mom.
Speaker 3: I felt a little bad reading the Yahoo article because
Speaker 3: it makes it seem as though she was just throwing
Speaker 3: processed foods at us. My mom cooked every single day.
Speaker 3: She actually was in that kitchen preparing meals from scratch.
Speaker 3: But in between and on Friday nights, yeah, we did
Speaker 3: do the Chef boy rd and we did do the
Speaker 3: canned foods and the Vienna sausages, and we did have
Speaker 3: spam sandwiches, and we did eat lots of candy.
Speaker 2: And drink soda.
Speaker 3: But I also think that perhaps people weren't as focused
Speaker 3: on it was a war against fat. There wasn't a
Speaker 3: war against sugar necessarily, or carps. And so the thinking
Speaker 3: has changed, The science has evolved, and the recommendations have
Speaker 3: certainly grown from where when we were kids.
Speaker 1: It's not gonna work, that's not good enough to make
Speaker 1: it a do good for your mom. Because more people
Speaker 1: are probably gonna read the article than.
Speaker 2: But she really tried her best. They didn't have a
Speaker 2: lot of money.
Speaker 1: Look, everybody's trying the best. This is the thing here. Yes,
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't want to go get a
Speaker 1: bucket of fried chicken, but you know what, it can
Speaker 1: feed five people for eight ninety nine. Okay, we get that.
Speaker 1: There are difficult choices that people have to make, and
Speaker 1: growing up part of it, Yes, for us was yes,
Speaker 1: by circumstances, but some of it was location regional. I
Speaker 1: grew up, yes, in Memphis, and I grew up my
Speaker 1: parents in the Mississippi Delta, one of the poorest regions
Speaker 1: in this country. Fry pork, chops, fried chicken, macaroni, you
Speaker 1: name it. All that stuff was in there. That was
Speaker 1: no grilled.
Speaker 2: You had colored greens.
Speaker 1: Yes, that was the healthiest thing I had from zero
Speaker 1: to eighteen years old. But it's that's how I grew up,
Speaker 1: and that stuff is all delicious. But I didn't know
Speaker 1: about you can grill chicken. I didn't know that it
Speaker 1: belongs in Greece. You can grill fish. No, it has
Speaker 1: to be battered and dropped in a hot pan, is
Speaker 1: what I understood.
Speaker 3: So only fish sticks, Like that's literally the only exposure to.
Speaker 2: Seafood I had.
Speaker 1: Those are great fish sticks. So how did we we
Speaker 1: have evolved now to something in this house if we
Speaker 1: go in there right now, and maybe we should so
Speaker 1: post something in all honesty, you open our cabinets, you
Speaker 1: do not see junk. You can't find you can't find carbs,
Speaker 1: you can't find processed anything. Because as we are, and
Speaker 1: have been for quite a while keto at different points
Speaker 1: in our lives. But now it's pretty easy they were together.
Speaker 3: Yes, I mean the headline was maybe even a little
Speaker 3: misleading because you, I believe, said that you had actually
Speaker 3: been and pretty much lived a ketogenic lifestyle before I did,
Speaker 3: like you were ahead of the curve.
Speaker 1: But it wasn't necessarily And can we explain this in
Speaker 1: the article? You can see yahoo dot com the life section.
Speaker 1: It's in there. But yeah, I just being I was
Speaker 1: in the Arkansas Athletic program for a couple of years
Speaker 1: in college, and they put us on specific things they
Speaker 1: wanted us to eat, and they gave us the carbs.
Speaker 1: They wanted us to have refrigerator in the training rooms.
Speaker 1: Still see it today, you take me to but Walt
Speaker 1: Marina I will be able to walk exactly in the
Speaker 1: training room where that refrigerator was. It was a part
Speaker 1: of my life. These little red liquids wasn't delicious. I said, hey,
Speaker 1: go get you some carbs, and we used to suck
Speaker 1: those down like babies.
Speaker 3: And you don't know what's inside of it, like you
Speaker 3: don't know what, but it is composed of no idea.
Speaker 1: That was just our carb intake. So I grew our college,
Speaker 1: went to college. Forget all the fried stuff. So from
Speaker 1: that point on, I was eating meat, vegetables. I don't
Speaker 1: like a potato, a fry, I can pass it up anytime.
Speaker 1: I just eat clean. So yes, it wasn't a decision
Speaker 1: I made, but it became a habit to where it.
Speaker 1: That's all I started eating.
Speaker 3: And I always say, look, not taking away your discipline,
Speaker 3: because you have a significant amount of it. But I
Speaker 3: have said to you how lucky you are that you
Speaker 3: don't miss or love potatoes, because potatoes are amazing, and
Speaker 3: so is bread. Like I'm here to say, I love
Speaker 3: that stuff. I love French bread, I love potatoes, I
Speaker 3: love pizza, I love French fries. And I'm telling you
Speaker 3: I didn't pass any of that up. Until after my
Speaker 3: cancer diagnosis, because I kind of had that Yolo attitude.
Speaker 2: I work out hard.
Speaker 3: I've always been an athlete, and so I figured I
Speaker 3: could go ahead and maybe eat things I shouldn't because
Speaker 3: I was working out. I just defied bad eating habits
Speaker 3: because I was active, and that's not okay.
Speaker 1: And so yes, so we now have switched up. Just well,
Speaker 1: we were eating a certain way, and now the government
Speaker 1: seems the one to want to eat a certain way.
Speaker 1: You saw Rkjuni. You put out the new guide essentially
Speaker 1: flip the pyramid upside down. More focus on whole grains,
Speaker 1: on protein, on good fats right, and animal fats and
Speaker 1: animal fats. This is not something they used to Well,
Speaker 1: they wanted you to what it's all get fat out
Speaker 1: of your diety.
Speaker 3: Well yeah, so there was a war, an anti fat
Speaker 3: campaign for the longest time. I remember skim milk. That
Speaker 3: was the only thing I would drink. I remember trying
Speaker 3: to degrease a patty but devouring French fries and a
Speaker 3: bun because I thought the animal fat was bad for you.
Speaker 3: So yes, RFK Junior and the CDC now have flipped
Speaker 3: the pyramids, and a lot of some people are applauding it. Actually,
Speaker 3: there are plenty of groups that are applauding it. Some
Speaker 3: people are cautioning against so much protein and so much
Speaker 3: red meat and animal fat, but they're rare to.
Speaker 1: Say they're cautioning and not saying don't do it.
Speaker 3: That is correct, Yes, and I think a lot. I
Speaker 3: read a lot of positive reviews. I know OURFA Junior
Speaker 3: hasn't gotten a lot in the medical community with some
Speaker 3: of his decisions and implementations, but this one actually was
Speaker 3: received fairly well because it was overdue. We did have
Speaker 3: a need for a revamp on the food pyramid that
Speaker 3: we've been working off of for so long, so I
Speaker 3: think several groups applauded that decision.
Speaker 1: Okay, so this now and again. It was part of
Speaker 1: the article about being food being one's love language, and
Speaker 1: we are perfectly aligned. And I think in everything we eat,
Speaker 1: there are very few times that we have a meal
Speaker 1: somewhere and oh I can't get anything there. Oh I
Speaker 1: can't eat something there. And it makes robes really the
Speaker 1: decisions about where we eat, but also what we eat
Speaker 1: on that menu pretty simple because a lot of things
Speaker 1: are eliminated. It makes eating very easy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you always say that like, Hey, we only have
Speaker 3: a certain amount of choices on the menu, so let's
Speaker 3: go ahead and order them all and then we just
Speaker 3: share the food. It does make going out to eat
Speaker 3: very nice. Compatible We honestly just order two three things
Speaker 3: and then just pick off each other's plates.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just a lot we is it? What is it? Vegetables?
Speaker 1: It's a lot of salads and a lot of protein
Speaker 1: on those salads. Is this something I'm missing about you?
Speaker 3: You don't have a lot of fruit, and I don't
Speaker 3: really eat fruit that much in front of you, but berries.
Speaker 2: I eat berries.
Speaker 3: That's probably the one thing I eat that you don't.
Speaker 3: And then avocados, and then you eat shellfish, which I
Speaker 3: cannot eat.
Speaker 2: But that's about it.
Speaker 1: Yes, that has to do with an allergy. Sometimes not
Speaker 1: necessarily because you take But we wake up in the morning,
Speaker 1: we usually have bacon or and scrambled or fried eggs
Speaker 1: because of the time we're up, that's what we get.
Speaker 1: We end up having a salad and a grilled piece
Speaker 1: of meat here at the house and then we'll figure
Speaker 1: out dinner. That is our day, yeah, every single day,
Speaker 1: and how we eat. A lot of people wonder this
Speaker 1: two things, right, who cooks, who does the grocery shopping?
Speaker 1: We split it in this house. I wonder if everybody understood,
Speaker 1: if anybody listens to us, they know by it now
Speaker 1: how it's split. But how would you think most people
Speaker 1: would guess it's split? Who does the grocery shopping, who
Speaker 1: does the cooking? And is it usually the same person
Speaker 1: in the house.
Speaker 3: Yes, usually the same person does the grocery shopping and
Speaker 3: the cooking. But we split it in our house. I
Speaker 3: do the grocery shopping and you do the cooking, and
Speaker 3: it works great with us.
Speaker 2: And I appreciate that.
Speaker 3: It is a great way to divvy up the duties
Speaker 3: because doing them both is tough, as many people will
Speaker 3: tell you who do both?
Speaker 1: Many women?
Speaker 3: Yes, I was trying to avoid that, but yes, that
Speaker 3: is usually the case.
Speaker 1: All right, folks, stay here before we let you go,
Speaker 1: though when we come back we'll tell you actually though, yes,
Speaker 1: we eat clean meat, vegetables, grilled. Oh where are those
Speaker 1: annoying people? But we do have some guilty pleasures, but
Speaker 1: you're probably not gonna like thees either. Stay here, all right,
Speaker 1: We continue here talking about food and how it relates
Speaker 1: to your real relationship. A few things before we let
Speaker 1: you go here, folks. Yes, we're going to tell you
Speaker 1: about some of the snacks when we do have some
Speaker 1: guilty pleasures what we actually do eat. But quick question robes,
Speaker 1: does it matter who does the cooking in a relationship
Speaker 1: and do people make a judgment about that relationship based
Speaker 1: on what the answer is?
Speaker 3: Well, I think most people expect the woman to probably
Speaker 3: cook and get the groceries and probably clean too, and
Speaker 3: no one says anything about it. When a man steps
Speaker 3: up into any of those roles, we applaud it.
Speaker 2: We think you're a saint.
Speaker 3: I mean, I am so in awe of and appreciative
Speaker 3: of and grateful for your chefing and your cooking ability
Speaker 3: because I am so grateful, And I don't think you're
Speaker 3: viewed differently.
Speaker 2: I think you're viewed positively.
Speaker 3: I think all women are like, dang, that's amazing, and
Speaker 3: most men are thinking, I wish I knew how.
Speaker 2: To do that.
Speaker 1: But how do then other people and maybe even particular
Speaker 1: women look at other women who aren't cooking in the house.
Speaker 2: Oh, I never felt judged by that.
Speaker 3: I think people look me as somebody who's really lucky,
Speaker 3: like that's I feel like people like man I wish
Speaker 3: I had a man who did that. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 3: feel like anyone looks at me like I'm less than
Speaker 3: or somehow I am shirking my responsibilities.
Speaker 2: I think they're jealous.
Speaker 1: I think people raise their eyebrow. I always get that
Speaker 1: in that, like raise their operak. What's going on in
Speaker 1: that house? Why is he doing the cooking? Like there's
Speaker 1: some imbalance or something weird about the relationship. But anyway,
Speaker 1: last thing here, we told you folks, yes we eat well,
Speaker 1: but when we are when we are really splurgeon, when
Speaker 1: we are really going out on a limb, being wild,
Speaker 1: these are the things we do eat. I listed five.
Speaker 1: Which is the one do you think is the biggest
Speaker 1: guilty pleasure? Like we know is the worst for us,
Speaker 1: but we do it anyway, the.
Speaker 2: Worst for us that we do it anyway. No, I'm
Speaker 2: not looking at it.
Speaker 1: Oh.
Speaker 3: I was trying to get Oh, so that was gonna
Speaker 3: be my number one thing? Sugar free gummy bear.
Speaker 1: You think that's the worst. I would say it's the popcorn.
Speaker 2: Oh really, because we douse it with butter and salt.
Speaker 1: And the keto they're sugar free.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but they got to have other things in them right,
Speaker 2: and then we do. I actually so.
Speaker 3: As much as I don't love cooking, I do love baking,
Speaker 3: and so the Keto cheesecake.
Speaker 2: I do Keto cookies are good.
Speaker 3: So it's one of those things where you get a
Speaker 3: little bit of your sweet tooth satisfied. But instead of
Speaker 3: flour you're using almond flour. Instead of sugar, you're using
Speaker 3: erythritol or stevia, and so it's not as bad, but still.
Speaker 2: It's obviously not optimal.
Speaker 3: Desserts are probably never good other than your favorite whipped
Speaker 3: cream and berries.
Speaker 2: That is a very Keto dessert.
Speaker 1: Aroma, what did you say? A erythrothol? I don't know
Speaker 1: what that is. Erythrotol, I don't know what that is.
Speaker 1: It sounds like I need a prescription.
Speaker 3: It does.
Speaker 2: That's fair, But it is a sugar substitute. Yes, folks, we.
Speaker 1: Always oh yeah, the number one thing we probably eaten
Speaker 1: miss out is a snack pecan.
Speaker 3: Oh.
Speaker 2: Yes, but that's not bad for you.
Speaker 1: It's not at all. I was joking with the audience.
Speaker 1: So well, our big splurge is pecans.
Speaker 2: That is true.
Speaker 3: We go through a lot of pecans. It's a very
Speaker 3: expensive habit. I might say that's a lot more expensive
Speaker 3: than I realized.
Speaker 1: Well, folks, please check it out Yahoo dot com in
Speaker 1: the life section. The new one just came out this week,
Speaker 1: but check them out and several of them are there.
Speaker 1: We always appreciate you, We appreciate the feedback. We've incorporated
Speaker 1: some of those into some of these podcasts, so always
Speaker 1: appreciate you listening to us, folks. But now I am TJ.
Speaker 1: Holmes on behalf of my dear Amy Robot. Will talk
Speaker 1: to you all soon.