1 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:07,960 Speaker 1: Hello, my loves It's l La Kent. Welcome to the 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:10,280 Speaker 1: bonus episode Easton. 3 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 2: It's just the two of us in year. I'm ready. 4 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:15,160 Speaker 1: I love it. 5 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 2: Is that home? 6 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:19,639 Speaker 1: It feels going so over the weekend, or maybe it 7 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 1: was last week. John Krasinski from the Office, right, that's 8 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:26,239 Speaker 1: where he got his like big pop off. 9 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 2: I want to say, yes, I don't know, but that's 10 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:29,560 Speaker 2: where I know him from. 11 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:33,880 Speaker 1: Okay, well that same Yeah, he was named the Sexiest 12 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:40,240 Speaker 1: Man Alive for twenty twenty four and I didn't realize 13 00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: that this has been going on. The people has been 14 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:45,640 Speaker 1: doing the Sexiest Man Alive? 15 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 2: Isn't it every year? 16 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: Every year since nineteen eighty five? Since before I was born. 17 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:51,839 Speaker 2: Who was the first one? Do you know? 18 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: Yes? The first one ever was Mel Gibson And there's 19 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: a can you Mel, Mel freaking give great? 20 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 2: They're all great looking, man. I'm guessing there's a personality 21 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 2: involved in the Sexiest Man Alive as well. Well. 22 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: I feel like this is what Mom always says, Beauty 23 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 1: is in the eye of the beholder. There's always someone 24 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:17,440 Speaker 1: for someone right like and also there are people where 25 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, physically they may not be my type, but 26 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: like you start kicking it with them, and then it's 27 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:27,759 Speaker 1: the combination of everything where it's like, oh my gosh, 28 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 1: this person. 29 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,039 Speaker 2: You start to shrink and the energies are there and 30 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:33,120 Speaker 2: you're like, maybe I do find this person attractive. 31 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 1: I don't know. I totally understand the John Krasinski of it, 32 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: like he does have a sexy factor there, but I think. 33 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 2: It's also the way he holds himself. Because I look 34 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 2: at him, I'm not like, that's a good looking dude, 35 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 2: but when I see him, like the mannerisms about him, 36 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 2: I'm like, it's a good looking too. 37 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 1: No, he's super hot and like totally not my type 38 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: at all, But because like I've watched him in interviews 39 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: and I've watched him on the office, just like the 40 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 1: whole thing is just working. But they've had like Patrick 41 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: Dempsey who used to be make Dreamy on Grey's Anatomy, 42 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: Michael B. Jordan was one year, Like they really I 43 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:13,520 Speaker 1: think they look at the year and that's why it's 44 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: towards the end they look at the year and go, Okay, 45 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:20,120 Speaker 1: every single thing that this person has done, said, the 46 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 1: way they carry themselves, Like it's such an intense process 47 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:27,560 Speaker 1: of like naming who the sexiest man alive? Would what 48 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: will be? Is it? 49 00:02:29,720 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 2: What is it project like projects that they've done throughout 50 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:34,920 Speaker 2: the year, or is it. 51 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: I think it's the whole package. 52 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 2: Because also I don't know did John Krasinski get it 53 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 2: because the office is coming back on who knows? 54 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 1: Everything is for publicity. 55 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking. 56 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:49,160 Speaker 1: Very much, So that could be the reason why. But 57 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,680 Speaker 1: the reason I'm bringing this up is for the bonus episode. 58 00:02:52,720 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 1: The topic today I asked what is one thing that 59 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 1: you would change about yourself? And for me, I was 60 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 1: thinking less about the physical and more about like how 61 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 1: you act in the day to day, things that are 62 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: maybe a habit, they are inherent, like just things that 63 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 1: you wish that you could tweak, but it's really freaking hard. 64 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: But there was a plethora of people being like, I 65 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 1: would change my body type, I would change my nose, 66 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: And I'm like, Okay, no matter who you are, there's 67 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:27,560 Speaker 1: always something physically that you want to fix, always, right. Yeah, 68 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:30,360 Speaker 1: Like if you could take a bunch of people's body 69 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:33,800 Speaker 1: parts and put together the person, you would look like, 70 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 1: we're all going to look very different, because again, not 71 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: everybody wants the same thing. 72 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I want a different jawline or neckline. You and 73 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 2: me both, Well, yeah, but I don't want the same 74 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 2: jaw line that Land wants. No, exactly, very different. 75 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: Everybody would look very different because everyone wants something different, right. 76 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 2: But that's the thing that's crazy, is like I'll look 77 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 2: at Land and I'm like, yeah, you got a jawlne Dude, 78 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 2: I'm jealous, And He's like, no, I'm jealous. 79 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 1: Of this guy, right Exactly, You're just. 80 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 2: Jealous of the one thing you don't have. And guess what, 81 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 2: careful what you wish for? 82 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 1: Because what does Eminem's eight? 83 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 2: Because you careful what you wish for, because you just 84 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 2: might get it, and if you get it, you might 85 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 2: not know just. 86 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:16,520 Speaker 1: What to do with it, right, Like for those who 87 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:19,839 Speaker 1: wish they had giant dicks and then suddenly they have 88 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 1: a tripod, they can't even put pants on. 89 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 2: You know, your paycheck goes to duct tape taking that 90 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:25,600 Speaker 2: thing down. 91 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:30,920 Speaker 1: Oh god, Okay, So I asked our friends on the podcast. 92 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:32,600 Speaker 2: Friends mostly Go Appearance. 93 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:37,120 Speaker 1: No, there were a lot of appearance writings, but actually 94 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 1: a lot of them were super relatable. And so I 95 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: want to ask you easton what is one thing you 96 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:46,720 Speaker 1: could say multiple if you wanted to that you wish 97 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: you could change about yourself. 98 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 2: My mental okay, my thought process. 99 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: Like what is your thought process that you would want 100 00:04:53,240 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 1: to reach? 101 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:56,280 Speaker 2: Pay cushions first, A lot of people don't think that. 102 00:04:56,640 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 2: I think of like, if I'm going to do this, 103 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,640 Speaker 2: what are the repercussions? And as I'm thinking, and there 104 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 2: is like obviously I do like that, but like I overthink, 105 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:10,119 Speaker 2: like a post or a twenty four hour story, people 106 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 2: just let them fly if I post it, I'm like, 107 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:14,919 Speaker 2: but what if somebody looks at it like this or 108 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:17,680 Speaker 2: this or this, and then it's so many repercussions that 109 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 2: I just don't post, Okay. So I wish I could 110 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 2: change my mindset of just not caring, okay, because I care. 111 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:28,159 Speaker 1: A lot of people said this, like I wish I 112 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:31,479 Speaker 1: didn't care, right, but I do. You were saying in 113 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: the car that, like, you are scared of failure, so 114 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 1: it prevents you from having, like from trying. 115 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what I was. It's crazy how everybody is 116 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 2: the same and they're afraid to try and afraid to 117 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:49,480 Speaker 2: put themselves out there for failure in the other people's 118 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:53,799 Speaker 2: eyes because everybody is so judgmental. So it's like how 119 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:56,039 Speaker 2: you want to do the same, So why are you 120 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 2: judgmental towards other people because now you are afraid to 121 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 2: do what you want to do because of your judgment 122 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 2: towards people doing that. 123 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 1: Right, It's such a it's such an walk and a 124 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 1: hard spot. That's exactly what it is. And we all 125 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 1: sit here and we want the same thing, and it's like, 126 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:13,520 Speaker 1: but people are afraid to put themselves out there because 127 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 1: there's a lot of mean people who are who really 128 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 1: have a big set of ovaries behind their keyboard, like. 129 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:25,400 Speaker 2: Josh Richards and like those kids that were starting like 130 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 2: they were in high school getting made fun of all 131 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:30,600 Speaker 2: of this. I mean, they're huge now, but they were 132 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:34,600 Speaker 2: making their little videos. Every other kid probably wishes they 133 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:37,040 Speaker 2: were doing what all those kids were doing, like Josh 134 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 2: Richards because they are now where they are, But like that, 135 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 2: I wish I was the Josh Richards mindset. 136 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:45,919 Speaker 1: Of where you just didn't care, silence the noise, yeah, 137 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,960 Speaker 1: and just post what you want. That's that is a 138 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:52,159 Speaker 1: hard thing to conquer though, Like I think even I 139 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 1: go through these moments of like if I say yes 140 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,720 Speaker 1: to this, well, people think that I said yes because 141 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 1: of X Y and z but do you want to 142 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 1: do it? Well, yeah, I do want to do it, 143 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:03,599 Speaker 1: So then do it, I know, but what will people think? 144 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 2: And and so by the time I'm done, I'm like, 145 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 2: I'm just exhausted. 146 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:08,839 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I need a nap. 147 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 2: Where's a blanket you lie down? 148 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: No, it does take me out. And so often people say, like, 149 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: I love you, where do you get your confidence? You 150 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 1: don't give a fuck? And I'm like, to the outside world, 151 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 1: I come across that way, but behind closed doors, when 152 00:07:26,080 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: I'm in my safe space, like it is mental torture. 153 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 2: My brain is in a fight with itself. Unchstantley like 154 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 2: just fighting, and I'm like. 155 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:37,160 Speaker 1: Just shuwn up up the same I'm saying. 156 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:42,600 Speaker 2: I'm like, stop, I'm on like the fucking seater. Sorry, 157 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 2: and I'm talking to my doctor. 158 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 1: But by the way, we're all in it together. I'm like, 159 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 1: we're all we all want the same thing. Why are 160 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 1: we kicking the. 161 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:55,400 Speaker 2: Shit out of each other? You're afraid to do it, 162 00:07:55,440 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 2: so you shit on the person doing it. That's what 163 00:07:58,080 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 2: it is. 164 00:07:58,640 --> 00:08:01,640 Speaker 1: Oh my god. It's also yes, And all. 165 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:03,120 Speaker 2: You have to do is just celebrate the guy doing 166 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 2: what you want to do and if you started doing it, 167 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 2: they'll celebrate you. But I'm just hating the person doing 168 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:10,400 Speaker 2: what you want to do so bad that. Yeah. Right, 169 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 2: we're in this boat of anxiety together. 170 00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: Someone's success is not a personal insult. 171 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 2: No, no, no, but boy does it feel like it. 172 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: I'm telling you, it's too much stimulation, is what's happening. 173 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: So when I was reading the comments that people were writing, 174 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:31,840 Speaker 1: oh you told that. 175 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:32,959 Speaker 2: Okay, no, no, no. 176 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:35,920 Speaker 1: I avoid the comments section at all costs. But the 177 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 1: post I put up and people were writing in and 178 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 1: every single one I saw, I'm like, oh my god, 179 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: I relate to this. That is something I do as well. 180 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:46,199 Speaker 1: But this one really jumped out of me, just because 181 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:47,520 Speaker 1: I like the way it was written, and I think 182 00:08:47,559 --> 00:08:51,520 Speaker 1: she's funny as fuck. Well maybe it's a girl, yeah, Lily. 183 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 1: Lily Dolman's response to be able to control my anger 184 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:58,880 Speaker 1: and not get angry over someone breathing the wrong way. 185 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:03,080 Speaker 2: Fuse. I know about those. 186 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:06,400 Speaker 1: I feel like you have the longest fuse. Ever. 187 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:08,439 Speaker 2: That's why I go into my room and lay down 188 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:08,719 Speaker 2: a lot. 189 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:15,319 Speaker 1: So my case in point for my short few Yesterday, 190 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 1: yesterday we're at love Sack and buying a couch. 191 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:22,360 Speaker 2: And to interrupt. First, I can't wait till it's set 192 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 2: up and my and it. 193 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 1: And it could be. How vindicating will it be when 194 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:27,680 Speaker 1: that happens for you? 195 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:28,319 Speaker 2: No, I don't know. 196 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 1: So for those of you who know love Sack, you 197 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: go in and everything is custom ordered, right, like you 198 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:37,079 Speaker 1: can flip the cushions a certain way, the back is 199 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 1: a certain way, the arms a kill in between the seats, 200 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 1: a lot of options. So Easton comes up with this 201 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 1: idea that I told him like, okay, yeah, I don't 202 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: want that. He like again tries to push me on 203 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: I don't want that. I probably said I don't want 204 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:50,719 Speaker 1: that four times he. 205 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 2: Goes getting it. 206 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:55,680 Speaker 1: No, but I was getting it. Let's not start again, okay. 207 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 1: So he then goes in for the kill, probably the 208 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:01,720 Speaker 1: seventh time that he's tried to push it, and I go, 209 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: I don't want that, Easton, and I yelled in the 210 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:08,360 Speaker 1: middle of the store. I was so embarrassed, and I 211 00:10:08,360 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: don't know why I hit that level of breaking point. 212 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: But then Mom reprimanded me and she was like, well, 213 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: you embarrassed Easton. I was like, well, in return, you 214 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: embarrassed me, Like it was the perfect store. I was like, oh, 215 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:22,679 Speaker 1: very short. Really, I felt really bad. 216 00:10:22,960 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 2: I'm glad that you felt bad. You guys just do 217 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:25,839 Speaker 2: it so much. 218 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: I'm just no, I have a very short fuse, and 219 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 1: I think you have mom's patience. 220 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 2: No, I do, and I thank God for that. But 221 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:37,560 Speaker 2: I really do believe my idea is what is going 222 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:39,559 Speaker 2: to happen syndicated. 223 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go stuck on it. I just told 224 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:43,319 Speaker 1: you he's still stuck on it. Oh my god, I'm 225 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 1: not going to snap. This is where we implement the change. 226 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:49,679 Speaker 2: This is where we grow your fuse. That's why I'm 227 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:51,440 Speaker 2: doing it. We're going to extend your fuse. 228 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:54,280 Speaker 1: I have dad's short FEUs. My dad was like the 229 00:10:54,400 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: kindest human alive, but then one thing and he would 230 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: be like very upset. 231 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:03,840 Speaker 2: No, it was scary quiet talking like the tucked lips. 232 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:06,920 Speaker 1: Oh, the tucked lips freaking terrifying. But I feel like 233 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: you develop certain mannerisms or tools when she become a parent. 234 00:11:11,800 --> 00:11:13,719 Speaker 2: Well, yeah, and you don't listen for the first night 235 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:18,240 Speaker 2: and then if it yeah, and then if it works, 236 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 2: then you know that's your go to move. Oh. If 237 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 2: Dad yelled at me, I was like, all right, he's 238 00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:24,360 Speaker 2: not too pissed. If he came up to me and 239 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:25,880 Speaker 2: he was like, what the fuck are you doing, I 240 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:29,080 Speaker 2: was like, my life's ending, I'm not grounded. 241 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:30,400 Speaker 1: I want to try that with Ocean. 242 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 2: You do it though. That's what you don't understand is 243 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 2: you'll walk up to Ocean and go I'm done. It 244 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 2: is time forbid and you don't even know you're doing it. 245 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 1: Wow, So I just inherited its shenetic. I love that 246 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 1: jealousy issues because I always feel like my partner can 247 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 1: do better than me. That would be a tough one. 248 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 1: I don't know to have, Like I feel like we 249 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 1: all have jealousy within us. It's just part of being human, 250 00:11:57,760 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 1: and I feel like you kind of have to quiet 251 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:02,440 Speaker 1: that beast because again, someone else's success is not a 252 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:06,240 Speaker 1: personal insult, but to have it with your partner, I 253 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: think would be really really hard. Yeah, we're like, we've 254 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:16,440 Speaker 1: never been in partner That's all I've been. But I 255 00:12:16,480 --> 00:12:20,240 Speaker 1: feel like I wonder if it's more in same sex 256 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 1: couples because it's I think it's hard to be in 257 00:12:22,720 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 1: competition if you're a female and you're in a partnership 258 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: with a man, because you're never going to have the same. 259 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:35,120 Speaker 1: You're really never gonna have the same opportunities, I don't think, 260 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:37,079 Speaker 1: as much as we would all love. 261 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 2: To see that, Like, it's just like women don't get 262 00:12:39,080 --> 00:12:40,520 Speaker 2: the same opportunities as I. 263 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:43,680 Speaker 1: Just like, I guess unless you're like both actors and 264 00:12:43,720 --> 00:12:46,440 Speaker 1: going out for the same movie, right, and he books 265 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 1: his role but you don't book yours, Like okay, that 266 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:52,440 Speaker 1: would be a huge bummer. But to say, like you 267 00:12:52,559 --> 00:12:55,240 Speaker 1: have jealousy with your partner because they can do better 268 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:56,240 Speaker 1: than you, like that. 269 00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:58,240 Speaker 2: Will only come if you and your partner are in 270 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 2: the same field. Okay, yeah, just for me, because like 271 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:04,160 Speaker 2: if my wife and if I had a partner and 272 00:13:04,200 --> 00:13:05,880 Speaker 2: we were in the same and she was like doing 273 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:08,520 Speaker 2: way better than me, I would be I don't know 274 00:13:08,520 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 2: if I would be jealous or I would think about 275 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:13,800 Speaker 2: myself because I don't really I would be like, am 276 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:16,160 Speaker 2: I in the wrong industry for me? 277 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 1: You're not? You're Oh yeah, I'm. 278 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:20,480 Speaker 2: Built for this? Is she getting everything because she's built 279 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:22,720 Speaker 2: for this? Am I on the wrong path? Am I? 280 00:13:22,840 --> 00:13:23,840 Speaker 2: Joey Tribiani? 281 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:27,720 Speaker 1: I mean he was on Days of Our Lives? That's 282 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: a pretty big get. 283 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 2: Yes, Drake for more, eg come on, but no, like 284 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 2: that's the thing. Like I wouldn't be like, damn, I'm jealous, 285 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:36,200 Speaker 2: I need to do this. I would be thinking, maybe 286 00:13:36,200 --> 00:13:37,880 Speaker 2: this isn't the line of work that is for me. 287 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:41,440 Speaker 1: Well, this person didn't go into like detail. I don't 288 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:44,079 Speaker 1: know if they're they're a man with a woman, woman 289 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:46,960 Speaker 1: with a man, same couple. But I do think that 290 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:49,960 Speaker 1: this one would be extremely difficult because intimacy is added 291 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:54,800 Speaker 1: into that. And I'm sorry, once you start having feelings 292 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:57,680 Speaker 1: of jealousy, you don't want to fuck that person. 293 00:13:58,000 --> 00:14:01,720 Speaker 2: See. I don't have jealousy for me. I have self doubt. 294 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:05,839 Speaker 2: I don't get jealous of people's success, like I doubt 295 00:14:05,840 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 2: myself of like am I doing something correctly? I'm not 296 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:10,120 Speaker 2: like fuck them for being there? 297 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:13,120 Speaker 1: No, But that goes back to it's not an insult 298 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:15,120 Speaker 1: on you. It doesn't mean you're not doing enough. 299 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:19,000 Speaker 2: Well it does, but if I'm not why it's on me, 300 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 2: it's not fuck them. 301 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:22,680 Speaker 1: So you go back to beating yourself up. 302 00:14:22,680 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 2: Like, Okay, they've done obviously a lot of things, right, 303 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:29,280 Speaker 2: I have it. So I don't get jealous, I get 304 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:30,280 Speaker 2: more self. 305 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:34,560 Speaker 1: Doubt, self doubt. Yeah, that's still a tough one though. 306 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:36,880 Speaker 2: Either war, you're in a bad hole caring. 307 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:39,040 Speaker 1: Too much about what people think. This goes this I 308 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:39,840 Speaker 1: think is most people. 309 00:14:39,920 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 2: No, it's everybody's And that's the thing. If you were 310 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:44,720 Speaker 2: nice and made nice comments to people that do what 311 00:14:44,760 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 2: you want to do, it would give you confidence to 312 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:49,160 Speaker 2: maybe do it because you're like, oh, well people are 313 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:51,960 Speaker 2: nice because I'm nice. You know. 314 00:14:52,160 --> 00:14:54,520 Speaker 1: It's crazy though. I was talking to land in the 315 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 1: other day and Landon is Eastern Front. He's part of 316 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:01,840 Speaker 1: the pod he lives, he lives in the back house, 317 00:15:02,640 --> 00:15:07,920 Speaker 1: and he was talking about how there was a study 318 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 1: about do nice guys really finish last? And it was 319 00:15:12,040 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 1: actually split. 320 00:15:13,320 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 2: In the middle give and take. 321 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:19,400 Speaker 1: Yes, So nice guys, yes, do finish last. However, the 322 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: ones that are nice and don't finish last, it's because 323 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:24,080 Speaker 1: of who they surround themselves with. 324 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:27,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's honestly about who. From what I took, it's 325 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 2: more about who you surround yourself with and not about 326 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:34,200 Speaker 2: how you handle yourself. You are who you are, surround 327 00:15:34,200 --> 00:15:36,920 Speaker 2: yourself with people that will benefit who you are, who 328 00:15:36,920 --> 00:15:38,280 Speaker 2: won't take advantage of you. 329 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:40,760 Speaker 1: But I think that's where the nice guy comes in. 330 00:15:40,840 --> 00:15:42,920 Speaker 1: Like I think Dad was a nice guy and people. 331 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 1: He allowed people to take advantage of him, and Landon said, 332 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:50,320 Speaker 1: you have to surround yourself with the right matchers. So 333 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:54,920 Speaker 1: he considers me and Mom one of his matchers. Dad 334 00:15:55,240 --> 00:15:57,880 Speaker 1: Mom was Dad's matcher. Like, they're willing to go to 335 00:15:57,920 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 1: the match for you and allow you to rise while 336 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:04,680 Speaker 1: still be a nice guy, because we don't want anything 337 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:07,200 Speaker 1: from you. And that's where it can get very tricky 338 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:10,200 Speaker 1: because more times than not, just the way the world 339 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:13,720 Speaker 1: is now, people number one don't want to see other 340 00:16:13,760 --> 00:16:17,240 Speaker 1: people do well. The other thing is there's a lot 341 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 1: of leeches in the world where they may be all 342 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 1: for you until a certain point hits. 343 00:16:23,640 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 2: Until all for you doesn't benefit them. 344 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 1: Yes, or they think like, oh this is kind of nice, 345 00:16:30,720 --> 00:16:33,240 Speaker 1: I would like to have this, and then it becomes 346 00:16:33,240 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 1: like a scary place. So I think there is a 347 00:16:37,920 --> 00:16:41,080 Speaker 1: world in which like you can, you can be nice. 348 00:16:41,320 --> 00:16:44,760 Speaker 1: You can. Nice guys are usually hard on themselves, and 349 00:16:44,800 --> 00:16:46,440 Speaker 1: a lot of people are saying I'm too hard on myself. 350 00:16:46,480 --> 00:16:47,480 Speaker 1: I'm too hard on myself. 351 00:16:47,560 --> 00:16:50,280 Speaker 2: But that's the thing. I'm a nice guy until you're 352 00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:54,280 Speaker 2: not well. Yes, But also me and land and like 353 00:16:54,400 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 2: if Landing gets taken advantage of yeah, I'll step in 354 00:16:57,480 --> 00:16:59,600 Speaker 2: for Landing, So you're a matcher for him, but Landing 355 00:16:59,600 --> 00:17:02,440 Speaker 2: will step been for me because I get taken advantage of. Yes. 356 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:04,960 Speaker 2: So that's what me and Lannon are really good at, 357 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:07,920 Speaker 2: is like when I see him getting because he can't, 358 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 2: I'm thirty thousand above for him. He's thirty one thousand 359 00:17:11,080 --> 00:17:11,600 Speaker 2: above for me. 360 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:12,440 Speaker 1: That's what you need. 361 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:15,119 Speaker 2: So every time like he's like, hey, is this weird, 362 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:17,639 Speaker 2: and I'm like, yeah, it's a use. Don't do it. Okay, 363 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 2: it didn't feel like that to me. And I'll be 364 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:21,840 Speaker 2: like how and then we'll discuss it and he's like 365 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:23,280 Speaker 2: he is using. 366 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:24,960 Speaker 1: We're now seeing all the. 367 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:27,040 Speaker 2: Sides, and then I'll do that. I'm like I'm being 368 00:17:27,119 --> 00:17:29,919 Speaker 2: used and he's like, no, no, it's this and I'm like, 369 00:17:30,520 --> 00:17:32,520 Speaker 2: I never would have seen that if I didn't ask 370 00:17:32,560 --> 00:17:35,760 Speaker 2: you totally. So it's like that's yeah, I didn't even 371 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:37,080 Speaker 2: put that together until just now. 372 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:41,439 Speaker 1: Wow. And this is what the podcast is for, to 373 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:45,560 Speaker 1: bring awareness this person. I wish I had more motivation. 374 00:17:46,240 --> 00:17:49,880 Speaker 1: You said something about this motivation is a hard one 375 00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 1: because I'm the type of person where I can feel 376 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 1: so motivated, but then because I don't allow myself to 377 00:17:58,000 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 1: be like my mom, who looks at life like a 378 00:17:59,760 --> 00:18:02,480 Speaker 1: herd race, and she always says, like, you don't look 379 00:18:02,560 --> 00:18:05,080 Speaker 1: at the full track. You look down and as the 380 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:07,520 Speaker 1: hurdles come, you jump, because if you don't, you're going 381 00:18:07,600 --> 00:18:09,960 Speaker 1: to fall, and in my case, become like one of 382 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:13,520 Speaker 1: those goats who stares quickly or scares quickly and then 383 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:17,760 Speaker 1: tips over. That's how I become very overwhelmed when I 384 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:21,479 Speaker 1: think about, Okay, I have motivation, here are the steps 385 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:23,520 Speaker 1: I need to take to get to where I want 386 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 1: to be, And then all of a sudden, I'm like, 387 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:28,800 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm hyperventilating. All the logistics are coming 388 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:30,640 Speaker 1: to a head, and I'm gonna pass out. 389 00:18:30,760 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 2: Motivation though, for me, I feel like you have to 390 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:36,639 Speaker 2: have a reward at the end of the motivation, like 391 00:18:36,680 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 2: you have motivation at the beginning of the game, to 392 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 2: win the game at the end. It's hard to stay 393 00:18:41,119 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 2: motivated in life when all you do is take a 394 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 2: fucking l Yes, you know, because I've been in that boat. 395 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:50,119 Speaker 2: You Right when you get ahead, even like I'll just 396 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:52,639 Speaker 2: use a bank account. Right when you feel like you're 397 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:54,840 Speaker 2: getting ahead, you're like, okay, I got some shit something 398 00:18:54,920 --> 00:18:55,879 Speaker 2: fucking hits and you're like. 399 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:59,400 Speaker 1: Right, the car breaks, you got it down two thousand dollars. 400 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:02,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I was ambitious today, I was I had it 401 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:05,880 Speaker 2: all and now this just shit on it? And how 402 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:12,080 Speaker 2: long can I keep being motivated motivated with just not 403 00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:16,040 Speaker 2: getting something out of it at the end. You're so right, 404 00:19:16,520 --> 00:19:20,240 Speaker 2: because yeah, like are you motivated today? Yeah? I have this, 405 00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:22,800 Speaker 2: this and this. Everything comes with like at the end 406 00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:25,520 Speaker 2: of the day, you gotta win or you got something 407 00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:27,719 Speaker 2: out of it. It's very hard for me when I 408 00:19:27,760 --> 00:19:30,920 Speaker 2: was big, like living in Utah, to stay motivated every 409 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:33,879 Speaker 2: day when there wasn't It was like a carrot in 410 00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 2: front of my head. I was motivated, but I was 411 00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:39,080 Speaker 2: never fucking getting it right. So you're like a dog. Yeah, 412 00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:40,840 Speaker 2: So sometimes you just lay down with the carrot in 413 00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:42,480 Speaker 2: front of your face and just say fuck it, I'm 414 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:45,439 Speaker 2: going to bed, right. So that's what I feel like, 415 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:48,399 Speaker 2: to stay motivated. Pick something that you can have a 416 00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:51,920 Speaker 2: goal to get as well as doing motivation in life. 417 00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:55,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that Easton. Yeah, Wow, what a great 418 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:57,880 Speaker 1: fucking thing to bring up. I didn't even think about 419 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:00,960 Speaker 1: taking the l I love this because I have so 420 00:20:01,040 --> 00:20:03,639 Speaker 1: many friends that are like this. I have so many 421 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:07,240 Speaker 1: friends that are like this. I am late to everything 422 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:14,040 Speaker 1: in my life, work, appointments, events, send help, no trying face. 423 00:20:14,720 --> 00:20:18,239 Speaker 2: Just be okay with being late. I'm not kidding you. 424 00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:20,400 Speaker 2: I've finally been okay, but I'm like, fucking I'm late. 425 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:21,000 Speaker 2: I don't care. 426 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:24,520 Speaker 1: No, if you're late to a reservation, there's only a 427 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:26,800 Speaker 1: fifteen minute grace period. If you're late. 428 00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:29,080 Speaker 2: To fuck it, they'll get you in. 429 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:32,960 Speaker 1: Doctor's appointments that if you make a month in advance 430 00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:34,560 Speaker 1: and you missed the grace window. 431 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:37,160 Speaker 2: There was a car accident. Sorry, couldn't get heard in time. 432 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 1: Oh so Easton implements, the lying, white. 433 00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:41,879 Speaker 2: Lie there was an accident somewhere. 434 00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:44,359 Speaker 1: See, I'm too afraid because every time I blame something. 435 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:46,680 Speaker 1: If I'm like late to something and I'm like, I'm 436 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:50,400 Speaker 1: so sorry, I'm sick. Literally two days later I get 437 00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 1: way sick. 438 00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:54,600 Speaker 2: Is this in my life style? Just white lying and just. 439 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:56,520 Speaker 1: My kar Is is that what it is? No? 440 00:20:56,600 --> 00:21:00,200 Speaker 2: I refuse all right, I'll start just canceling and being honest, 441 00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:01,000 Speaker 2: don't want to go. 442 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 1: This is what I think. If you know that you 443 00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:08,119 Speaker 1: have an appointment at like ten am, get there at 444 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:11,960 Speaker 1: line instead, tell yourself that appointment is at nine am, 445 00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:14,960 Speaker 1: and put that in the forefront of your mind nine am, 446 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:18,119 Speaker 1: nine am, nine am. That way you have an hour 447 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:18,960 Speaker 1: grace period. 448 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:21,120 Speaker 2: Also, if you will really are late to everything, make 449 00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:23,640 Speaker 2: it quick. There's a Google calendar that you can put 450 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:26,240 Speaker 2: everything in with a drive time, so it'll let you 451 00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:28,160 Speaker 2: know where you need to leave to be on time. 452 00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:30,840 Speaker 1: Boom boom, it'll technology. 453 00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:35,400 Speaker 2: Man, like your appointment, d leave right now to make 454 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:36,040 Speaker 2: it on time. 455 00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:39,399 Speaker 1: No, it needs to say like leave in thirty minutes 456 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:43,200 Speaker 1: or something, because right now it's like, oh no. Sins. 457 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:47,840 Speaker 1: Limbs are like a real issue. You're constantly banging them around. 458 00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:52,040 Speaker 1: The ability to think through my words in certain situations, 459 00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:55,360 Speaker 1: I always regret my delivery. Oh my god, I saw it. 460 00:21:56,840 --> 00:22:02,200 Speaker 1: I am great at delivering the of intentions covered in shit. 461 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:05,359 Speaker 1: Hope you're okay with digging through ship, but once you 462 00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:08,280 Speaker 1: dig through and hit the middle, you're gonna find gold. 463 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:13,400 Speaker 2: Oh god, I can't relate with any of this. You're 464 00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:17,720 Speaker 2: very You're like a beef Wellington. What that just ship 465 00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:21,800 Speaker 2: looks like ship, but it means well, looks like shit, 466 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:27,320 Speaker 2: tastes great. Just a beef Wellington, you are. I can't 467 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:29,359 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 468 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:34,520 Speaker 1: If I ever become like an artist, like a rapper, 469 00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:35,400 Speaker 1: a singer. 470 00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:41,720 Speaker 2: You're going by Beef Wellington. What strip club are you 471 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:43,680 Speaker 2: going to? I don't know. I'm just going to fucking 472 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 2: see Beef Wellington. I would assume her vagina was the 473 00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 2: one wrapped around the pole with the name Beef Wellington. 474 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 2: I'm just thinking of the dirtiest town with like the 475 00:22:53,400 --> 00:23:00,480 Speaker 2: dirtiest strip. I cannot breath Beef Wellington. RB's melt is 476 00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:02,000 Speaker 2: the other girl's na shut up? 477 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,560 Speaker 1: Oh my god, this took a turn. 478 00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:07,720 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, half off every day for sure. 479 00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:12,600 Speaker 1: Oh my hell, and we're back, you Ston, you'll relate 480 00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:15,919 Speaker 1: to this one. My anxiety, legit, get anxiety over nothing, 481 00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:17,760 Speaker 1: over things I make up in my head. 482 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:19,679 Speaker 2: Oh the amount of gosh. 483 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:24,879 Speaker 1: You talked about this on the regular episode where I 484 00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:28,199 Speaker 1: was like staring at something. The TV was on and 485 00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:30,800 Speaker 1: I was holding Sosa and I was just blank staring. 486 00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:34,200 Speaker 1: Easton looks over and says he's like building his leg. 487 00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:36,359 Speaker 1: I was like singing, and he looks over and he's like, bitch, 488 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:38,520 Speaker 1: whatever you're thinking about stop, And I was like, wow, 489 00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:40,960 Speaker 1: you know me so well? How do you know I 490 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:44,479 Speaker 1: was thinking about something dark. And the thing is, I 491 00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 1: still have high thoughts even though I don't smoke weed. 492 00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,160 Speaker 1: There was a time that I was like, I look 493 00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 1: at the clock ten o'clock. 494 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:52,280 Speaker 2: Right, shut up. 495 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 1: I was a half of unisombdeep, but I like looked 496 00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:57,520 Speaker 1: at the clock. I was stoned out of my fucking mind. 497 00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:01,360 Speaker 1: It was ten, okay, ten pm. And I just remember 498 00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,040 Speaker 1: like thinking about a million things. And I looked at 499 00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:07,880 Speaker 1: the clock and it was still ten. And I had 500 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:13,399 Speaker 1: had many, many thoughts. So what happens is one single 501 00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:17,080 Speaker 1: thought parlays into another, and then we've gone down the 502 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:20,600 Speaker 1: rabbit's hole. Call me Alice in Wonderland. And then I 503 00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:24,399 Speaker 1: have to bring God into the mix and pray. I'm like, please, God, 504 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:28,960 Speaker 1: calm me down, take these stressors. I go into my 505 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:32,240 Speaker 1: AA prayer and I'm like, pre pra so pray where 506 00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:37,280 Speaker 1: reave me, Please relieve me from the bondage of self. 507 00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:40,879 Speaker 1: Because it is here summating. 508 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,520 Speaker 2: I wish I could just unzip and like walk out 509 00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:44,600 Speaker 2: of my body and just leave it there. 510 00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:46,400 Speaker 1: For the amount of times that I wish I could 511 00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:47,720 Speaker 1: leave my personality at the. 512 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:49,720 Speaker 2: Door, It's like I just want to like take my 513 00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:52,520 Speaker 2: brain out, put it there and just not be anybody 514 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:53,080 Speaker 2: for a minute. 515 00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:55,200 Speaker 1: You know, God should have planned this a little better. 516 00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:58,119 Speaker 1: He should have been He should have made it so 517 00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:00,439 Speaker 1: that when it's time to go to bed, you remove 518 00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:04,600 Speaker 1: part of your brain, replug it in, and so you 519 00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:06,920 Speaker 1: don't think about anything except for powering down and going 520 00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,040 Speaker 1: to sleep. I feel like we'd be much more productive, 521 00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 1: you know. 522 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:11,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we're headed towards You're gonna crawl into 523 00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:15,399 Speaker 2: like a little tank and it'll do that for you. 524 00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:19,600 Speaker 1: Right. That's terrifying. So that one I really related to, 525 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,320 Speaker 1: like the anxiety over nothing and you just suddenly like 526 00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:23,879 Speaker 1: there are times where all land bed and I'm like, 527 00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:27,399 Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not stressed. Something's wrong. 528 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:30,080 Speaker 2: That's what I do. If I'm like, I'll be like, 529 00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:33,040 Speaker 2: oh my gosh, my brain is clear, and then I think, 530 00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:34,520 Speaker 2: but my life isn't. 531 00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:38,440 Speaker 1: So while am I not stressed, I'm stressed that I'm 532 00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 1: not stressed. I'm obsessed with this person, she said my brain. 533 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:44,399 Speaker 1: I wish I was a genius the same I. 534 00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:50,560 Speaker 2: Watch Sheldon or Young Sheldon and Big Bang Theory. Yeah, 535 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,520 Speaker 2: I wish I were just any of them. Yeah. 536 00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:56,120 Speaker 1: That would be intense too, though, because then you walk 537 00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,159 Speaker 1: around life and you're like, I won't. 538 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:01,120 Speaker 2: Be really, I know. That's why you only hang out 539 00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:02,640 Speaker 2: with other scientists. 540 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:05,040 Speaker 1: Right you? You you only kick it with the people 541 00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:05,840 Speaker 1: in your class. 542 00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 2: Well remember our cousin which one Jeff oh genius. Remember 543 00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:13,639 Speaker 2: Dad would tell him jokes and he'd just look at 544 00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:19,320 Speaker 2: him and go, yeah, so how are the kids. That's 545 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:20,080 Speaker 2: a common ground. 546 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,040 Speaker 1: I have kids, You have kids. Let's stick to that. 547 00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 2: Dad would always look at me and go like, yeah, 548 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,479 Speaker 2: right over his head. But it's like, no, I just is. 549 00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:29,840 Speaker 1: He just is not. He would rather tell you how 550 00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 1: to like connect a kneecap, yeah, back to its place? 551 00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,679 Speaker 2: What an achilles pop? I'll teach you how to put 552 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:37,520 Speaker 2: it together. Yeah. No, I'm just gonna tell you a 553 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 2: teddy joke. 554 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:42,399 Speaker 1: Yeah right. I'd rather just talk about like exactly no, 555 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:46,280 Speaker 1: seriously that I was never good at setting boundaries and 556 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 1: being too much of a people pleaser. I'm horrific with boundaries. 557 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:51,440 Speaker 1: That's why I am. 558 00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:53,680 Speaker 2: That's why I am where I am. 559 00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:56,919 Speaker 1: People think I'm good at setting boundaries. I set the 560 00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 1: boundary after it's too late. 561 00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:02,199 Speaker 2: Yes, and then you're in the boat of if I 562 00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,000 Speaker 2: set the boundary. Now, how are they going to look 563 00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:07,520 Speaker 2: at me and are we even going to be friends? 564 00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:11,879 Speaker 1: So then I continue just like I don't want to 565 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,840 Speaker 1: say people pleaser, but I just continue doing what I do. 566 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:17,840 Speaker 1: And then I realize that I'm getting walked on, and 567 00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:20,359 Speaker 1: then they do something that we can't come back from, 568 00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,080 Speaker 1: and then now we end up hating each other because 569 00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:27,280 Speaker 1: then I go off and deliver the shitty package because it's. 570 00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:30,159 Speaker 2: The last straw you've felt being walked on by this person, 571 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:31,720 Speaker 2: and then you're fucking done. 572 00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:35,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I relate. I would like to start setting boundaries. 573 00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 2: That's my new Year's resolution. I think boundaries, setting boundaries 574 00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:40,920 Speaker 2: for myself, healthy boundaries. 575 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:42,879 Speaker 1: I said to Stossy the other day. I was like, 576 00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,320 Speaker 1: you are the queen, Like this is why you are 577 00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 1: where you are because you are great at letting people 578 00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:52,560 Speaker 1: know without letting them know, you will not pass this point. 579 00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:54,920 Speaker 1: And she was like, setting boundaries is my most favorite thing. 580 00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:57,280 Speaker 2: But here's the thing. If you were to ask Stossy 581 00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:00,520 Speaker 2: and you get to know, it's just to know. I've 582 00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,119 Speaker 2: seen people ask you, and I think it's because you 583 00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:04,880 Speaker 2: make a party when you're like, no, I don't want 584 00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:08,959 Speaker 2: to go up. They like, and there's multiple people like 585 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 2: if somebody tells me no, I'm just like, all right, cool. 586 00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:14,560 Speaker 2: If I tell somebody no, they're like, bro, come on, 587 00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:16,920 Speaker 2: it'll be fun. I've seen them like, law, you have 588 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,160 Speaker 2: to come, we'll miss you. And then you feel this 589 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:24,600 Speaker 2: pressure and then it's like, well, I don't want to 590 00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:26,800 Speaker 2: make them feel a certain way, but it's like I 591 00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:30,280 Speaker 2: just want to say, don't stop doing that. I don't 592 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:31,880 Speaker 2: want to go. Don't make me feel bad. 593 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,720 Speaker 1: For not going out right exactly. 594 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:35,720 Speaker 2: And that's a boundary I need to set because I'll 595 00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:38,720 Speaker 2: say no, then they guilt me into going. I go, 596 00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:42,200 Speaker 2: I don't pass off, and then I'll get in a 597 00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:46,120 Speaker 2: fight or oh no, I just you know, you're just 598 00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 2: short fused again something, and then you just get into 599 00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:51,680 Speaker 2: an argument about nothing you care about. 600 00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:53,000 Speaker 1: Which I'm already short fused. 601 00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,320 Speaker 2: So canceling is my favorite thing. 602 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,280 Speaker 1: But yeahs my favorite thing too. I think that's another 603 00:28:58,280 --> 00:28:59,640 Speaker 1: thing I wish I would change, is. 604 00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:03,240 Speaker 2: Like when but then that fills with this healthy boundary. 605 00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,960 Speaker 1: Mom made us honor commitments too much as kids to 606 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:10,000 Speaker 1: now where we are and we're adults where I'm like, 607 00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:12,920 Speaker 1: guess what, Mom, I don't have to honor. 608 00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:18,840 Speaker 2: Anything, right, Yes, because every day I'd wake up, you 609 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:21,640 Speaker 2: have volleyball and basketball. Then you're going to your friend's house. 610 00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:23,480 Speaker 1: Now, I told you that you had to stick with 611 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,959 Speaker 1: it for a year, and if you still don't enjoy it, 612 00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:27,200 Speaker 1: then you can give it up. 613 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:27,880 Speaker 2: I don't. 614 00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:30,000 Speaker 1: I don't do any of it. I don't do any 615 00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:31,760 Speaker 1: of it. How depressing. 616 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:36,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, So setting healthy boundaries will, in my opinion, make 617 00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:40,160 Speaker 2: us better with like sticking with plans and not canceling, 618 00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,160 Speaker 2: because we won't feel the guilt. 619 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:43,880 Speaker 1: And we'll say right from the joke. You want to 620 00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:47,400 Speaker 1: know what I'm gonna start telling people, I'll let you 621 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:50,160 Speaker 1: know day of Well, we're making a reservation and we 622 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,200 Speaker 1: won't be able to fake. Then don't count on you. 623 00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:55,600 Speaker 1: I will let you know data to me neither. By 624 00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:57,720 Speaker 1: the way, my daughter Ocean, who you know. 625 00:29:58,200 --> 00:29:59,920 Speaker 2: I do know her, she's my daughter. 626 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:04,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, great at setting boundaries, great at setting boundaries. And 627 00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:08,560 Speaker 1: I believe that's because she's Pisces double sign rising in sun. 628 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 1: She came into the world as a Pisces and what 629 00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:14,520 Speaker 1: she portrays to the world is Pisces. There's no conflict. 630 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:18,040 Speaker 1: My Virgo and Scorpio constantly are at each other's throats. 631 00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:21,239 Speaker 1: She is who she is. I don't want to do it. 632 00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:23,880 Speaker 1: I'm not doing it. A little tough when I have 633 00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,080 Speaker 1: to go to parent teacher conference, but it's fine. 634 00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:28,520 Speaker 2: I don't have to do that. Thank God. 635 00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:30,720 Speaker 1: You're like, she wouldn't do X, Y, and Z, and 636 00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,880 Speaker 1: I'm like boundaries. Wow, don't we all wish that we 637 00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:35,800 Speaker 1: had them at the age of three and a half. 638 00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:38,680 Speaker 2: That's where they yank them away from us. I know. 639 00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:41,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, why are we trying to fight this? This 640 00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:42,960 Speaker 1: is what we try to get them to do in 641 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,560 Speaker 1: the real world. But she's going to spend more time 642 00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:48,280 Speaker 1: in the real world than she is in this I know. 643 00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:50,920 Speaker 1: So Also, it'll set up don't kill her, imagine think 644 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:53,560 Speaker 1: should I know? Let her think she's the bus she 645 00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:56,600 Speaker 1: is she is. I had fun this episode Easton. 646 00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 2: Is it already over? 647 00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:02,520 Speaker 1: Yeah? I had a tit tits LaRue as dad would say, 648 00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:04,800 Speaker 1: it was tit. You guys, thank you so much for 649 00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:07,360 Speaker 1: writing in. I appreciate you. Thank you for listening to 650 00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:10,000 Speaker 1: another episode of the Give Them Lalla podcast. Keep in 651 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:13,480 Speaker 1: mind you can also watch this episode on YouTube. Now. 652 00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:15,960 Speaker 1: We'll catch you guys on Wednesday, and then again for 653 00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:19,400 Speaker 1: another boner episode next week. Bye Bye,