1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:05,160 Speaker 1: All right, guys, it is time for ask the CLO. Ready, 2 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:09,079 Speaker 1: Chief Love Officer Steve Harvey. Yes, all right, here we 3 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:10,120 Speaker 1: go Jeanette and Tucker. 4 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:12,960 Speaker 2: Georgia says, I'm a thirty four year old woman that 5 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 2: thought she was dating a thirty six. 6 00:00:14,840 --> 00:00:16,439 Speaker 1: Year old man for almost a year. 7 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:18,919 Speaker 2: Three weeks ago, out of the blue, he said he 8 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:21,600 Speaker 2: was having back surgery, so I told him I would 9 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:23,840 Speaker 2: be there for him. He said he had a private 10 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 2: duty nurse that is staying with him and his insurance 11 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 2: provided it. After his surgery, I tried to visit him 12 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 2: in the hospital and I was told he could only 13 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 2: have one visitor at a time and his girlfriend is 14 00:00:36,760 --> 00:00:38,479 Speaker 2: staying with him. 15 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:41,200 Speaker 1: I was so mad and hurt. Do I let him 16 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: know he hurt me? Or walk away quietly? 17 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 3: Well? I mean, wow, you going to let him know 18 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 3: he hurts you? 19 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 4: You go? 20 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,200 Speaker 3: You go tell him, you know, for your own closure purposes. 21 00:00:53,479 --> 00:00:55,760 Speaker 4: You could have told me you had somebody I didn't 22 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 4: have to find this way, but didn't you know? 23 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 3: You hit back out? What's your trip and. 24 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 1: Full his backside? 25 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 3: You know? 26 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:09,119 Speaker 4: Yeah, he can't do nothing. He can't do nowhere. Probably 27 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:10,960 Speaker 4: a't gonna be able to work for a while. He's 28 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:12,200 Speaker 4: just going about your business. 29 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 1: Oh okay, Yeah, he don't sound like he thirty. He 30 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 1: don't sound like he. 31 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 4: Thirty something though. He really don't sound like that. Why 32 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 4: you say that, Well, let's say no to love. You 33 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 4: ain't saying no vile sickness, any health, death? 34 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 1: Do you call p Yeah? 35 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 3: Part and you can walk away. 36 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: He doesn't have to be quietly. You can make some noise, 37 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 1: you know, all right? 38 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 2: Morgan and Ypsilanti, Michigan, says, my mother recently moved into 39 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 2: a senior living apartment building, and I got a call 40 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 2: from the administrator to let me know that my mother 41 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:49,800 Speaker 2: is seeing a married man and his wife has threatened 42 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 2: my mother. I called my mother to see what was 43 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 2: going on, and she said that the man comes to 44 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 2: see her, not the other way around. So I need 45 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 2: to talk to him, she said, the shows her. So 46 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 2: it is what it is. 47 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: How can I get my seventy eight year old mother 48 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 1: to behave you know, the rules? 49 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 3: Maybe she behaved, She seventy eight. What rules you wanted 50 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:16,239 Speaker 3: to go by? She seventy eight, Well, there are rules 51 00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:16,519 Speaker 3: to this. 52 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: I mean he is married married. Yeah, you don't think. 53 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 3: That, she'dah said, he chose me. It is what it is. 54 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:30,679 Speaker 3: That's what she done. 55 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 4: Came away with what you want, hunted what you want 56 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:37,839 Speaker 4: to do, what you finish? Call the man, she said, 57 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:38,880 Speaker 4: may holler this man. 58 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 1: Yeah she didn't say. 59 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 3: Yeah. See, all these old ass people like that. 60 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 4: They make different rules when they get old. Say what 61 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 4: they want to say, do what they want to do, 62 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 4: to go where they want to go. You know, they 63 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 4: want to see you know, ninety day rule. Ain't got 64 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 4: nothing the ninety day ruling more like a ninety minute rule. 65 00:02:58,320 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 4: You know. 66 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 1: A lot of time. Yeah, all right, So so she 67 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 1: can't get her to behave to leave her mom alone. 68 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:11,079 Speaker 1: You're saying what you want? 69 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 2: What? 70 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:12,639 Speaker 1: Okay? 71 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 3: All right? I put it in the home. 72 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:22,160 Speaker 4: You ain't got too many votes. Wow, Amelia dropped me 73 00:03:22,200 --> 00:03:24,200 Speaker 4: off at the home. You can quit talking to. 74 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 2: Me, Amelia Intella has He says, I'm forty one years 75 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 2: old and my boyfriend's fifty one, and we've been dating 76 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 2: for six months. I put up with drama from his 77 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 2: ex wife for the first three months of getting to 78 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 2: know him. He was going through the divorce when we met, 79 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 2: and now it's final. His ex thinks it's cheating. But 80 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 2: he went to divorce court twice. Right after I met him. 81 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 2: He begged me to be patient and stay with him, 82 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 2: And recently she went to my son's job and told 83 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 2: him I took her husband. My son has been on 84 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 2: my case about it. Is it considered cheating if he'd 85 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 2: already file. 86 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 3: No, look, you can look. It's look if you're if 87 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 3: you're married, the party is gonna call it cheating. Here's 88 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:17,599 Speaker 3: the deal. When you file filing, the marriage has been over. 89 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:21,599 Speaker 4: By the time you file, by the time the court 90 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 4: grants the divorce, it's been over even longer than that. 91 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 3: The marriage is over. It's over. 92 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 4: We filed, we want to get out, and now we're 93 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 4: waiting on some paperwork from the court. 94 00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 3: It's over. You call it cheating if you want to, 95 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:42,840 Speaker 3: but hey, it's over. You're going down the job telling 96 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:44,799 Speaker 3: this woman's son and all this hell. 97 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:54,520 Speaker 4: Whatever, it's filed, it's over, all right, yours son, wake up, 98 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:56,840 Speaker 4: get a life, start realizing this. 99 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 3: How it go? Sometime with your mom? Yeah, right, with 100 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:03,039 Speaker 3: your mama. Yeah? 101 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:06,600 Speaker 1: All right. Here we go, moving on. 102 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:09,960 Speaker 2: Maria and Tennessee says, I've been married three years to 103 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:11,840 Speaker 2: a great guy with a big heart. 104 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 1: But he's nice to everyone. Except his own brother. 105 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 2: We live in a townhouse with a one car garage, 106 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:22,160 Speaker 2: and his brother is sleeping in our garage. He's an 107 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 2: alcoholic and he lost his job and his wife from 108 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:28,720 Speaker 2: the drinking. Nobody in their family will take him in, 109 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:31,280 Speaker 2: so my husband gave him a fan and an air 110 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 2: mattress for the garage. I want to offer him our 111 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:37,800 Speaker 2: guest room, but my husband is dead set against it. 112 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 2: Should I overrule my husband and put his brother in 113 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:42,040 Speaker 2: the guest bedroom? 114 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:48,159 Speaker 4: Oh? Brother in the garage for a reason, and brother, 115 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 4: no brother knows something you don't know? 116 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 3: Right? 117 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:54,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, your brothers Your brother had married you and is 118 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 4: trying to protect his family. Listen to me, This man 119 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 4: don't care enough about his own family to where he 120 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 4: done lost his family and his job. What makes you 121 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 4: think he gonna come in your house and care about 122 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 4: your family when he didn't give a damn about his 123 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:19,560 Speaker 4: own family. You leave your brother alone. He cheating, He 124 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,760 Speaker 4: treating his brother as he needs to be treated. Right now, 125 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 4: If you put him in the house, he ain't gonna 126 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 4: ever leave, and he's gonna mess his brother's house up, 127 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:31,160 Speaker 4: and the brother ain't finished. Stand for that, and you 128 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:37,520 Speaker 4: overlive regret that facts. Yep, you're gonna regret that, lady. 129 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:41,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't put him between your marriage either. Yep, 130 00:06:43,720 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 2: should she overrule her husband? Well, her brother and his 131 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 2: brother in the guest room. 132 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:52,360 Speaker 3: No, let his stay in the garage with that fan. 133 00:06:53,240 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 4: That's the kind of hell he got a fan, Yeah, 134 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:01,719 Speaker 4: a fan in an air mattress. 135 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: All right, thank you, clo. You're listening to the Dave 136 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.