1
00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,600
Speaker 1: I inherited two hundred thousand dollars and I'm not going

2
00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:04,240
Speaker 1: to tell my husband for a good reason.

3
00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:07,920
Speaker 2: I actually love this. I'm uh, I'm very pro. It's

4
00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:09,680
Speaker 2: like the lottery thing where you win the lottery and

5
00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:11,200
Speaker 2: you know those guys who show up in a mask.

6
00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:14,680
Speaker 1: Would you tell your significant other if you.

7
00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:16,279
Speaker 3: Tell lottery if you win the lottery? Yeah?

8
00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:18,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would probably tell my significant other, but maybe

9
00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:19,000
Speaker 2: no one else.

10
00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:22,079
Speaker 4: Okay, I would still can't get in California, brother, you

11
00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:23,520
Speaker 4: gotta you can't be anonymous.

12
00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:25,279
Speaker 2: Oh that's why I only play the Orgon lottery.

13
00:00:27,040 --> 00:00:29,600
Speaker 3: I can't do that either. A citizen of Oregon, you

14
00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:32,760
Speaker 3: count fucking play it. Yeah, you can't play the lotteries

15
00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:36,800
Speaker 3: of other of other states if you have a house

16
00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:38,319
Speaker 3: over there, and you just kind of like that, are

17
00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:39,120
Speaker 3: you sure? Yes?

18
00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:41,640
Speaker 4: It's like if I were to play the New York lottery,

19
00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:44,599
Speaker 4: I couldn't redeem it because I don't live there. Residents

20
00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:48,440
Speaker 4: only residents only valid for resident.

21
00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:50,840
Speaker 5: We're going all feelings, no facts.

22
00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:57,720
Speaker 6: All right, I mean, I just do you tell a

23
00:00:57,760 --> 00:01:02,040
Speaker 6: girlfriend depends how long we've been dating, how long, how long?

24
00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:04,640
Speaker 4: How many I would say after if we've been dating

25
00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:05,240
Speaker 4: for a year.

26
00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:06,720
Speaker 3: I would, I would tell her.

27
00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:11,160
Speaker 1: A year at but like, what if it was like

28
00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:13,800
Speaker 1: one hundred million dollars and she is like, now I

29
00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:15,319
Speaker 1: ex I expect something.

30
00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:18,920
Speaker 4: That's a great question because million it would depend It

31
00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:23,280
Speaker 4: would depend on if the newfound Wealth changed my opinion

32
00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:23,480
Speaker 4: on this.

33
00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:25,600
Speaker 2: You don't need to be a California resident or US

34
00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:28,800
Speaker 2: citizen to play and win any lottery but California lottery

35
00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:31,880
Speaker 2: games can only be purchased from a lottery retailer in California. Yeah, yeah,

36
00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:32,720
Speaker 2: I purchase it here.

37
00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:34,319
Speaker 3: So yeah you can. You can purchase the ticket anywhere.

38
00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:36,000
Speaker 2: Can you look in the camera and apologize to me?

39
00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:37,360
Speaker 3: I'm sorry?

40
00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:39,119
Speaker 5: Thank you Ben's apology video.

41
00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:45,080
Speaker 4: I didn't realize that people, Well technically that only said California, Oregon.

42
00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:47,120
Speaker 3: Organ, look up Organ, let's get a double apology.

43
00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:48,800
Speaker 2: The joke works.

44
00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:51,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, because I remember when I lived in New York,

45
00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,440
Speaker 4: I couldn't. I remember it's saying like for residents only,

46
00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:56,680
Speaker 4: and I lived there, but I didn't have any Maybe

47
00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:58,960
Speaker 4: you could have been a New York lottery winner if

48
00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:01,600
Speaker 4: you went against that. Fuck it was the only thing

49
00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:04,280
Speaker 4: or some ship. Ye, So one hundred billion dollars would

50
00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:06,120
Speaker 4: you tell your it depends.

51
00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,560
Speaker 2: Here in Oregon. As long as your winning ticket was

52
00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:11,640
Speaker 2: purchased inside the geographical boundaries of our state, you can

53
00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:14,680
Speaker 2: win regardless of interesting.

54
00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:17,480
Speaker 3: Sorry, you were right, that's take money out of state.

55
00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:20,160
Speaker 3: Can you look at that camera?

56
00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:22,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, a multi camp.

57
00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:24,160
Speaker 3: Sorry I was wrong. I mean just because the little

58
00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:25,000
Speaker 3: tier tier.

59
00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:27,320
Speaker 2: It just feels like if that was the case, they

60
00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:30,200
Speaker 2: would be checking your ID when you bought at you.

61
00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:31,920
Speaker 3: Know what I mean, because like what you do have

62
00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:34,880
Speaker 3: to do at eighteen and over? Yeah? Yeah, yeah they don't.

63
00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,200
Speaker 2: I mean maybe if you just look old as but

64
00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:40,360
Speaker 2: I've never been id'ed when I bought a lottery ticket.

65
00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:42,520
Speaker 3: When when's the last time you bought a lot of

66
00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:43,840
Speaker 3: past under eighteen?

67
00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:45,960
Speaker 2: Oh well when I was under eighteen.

68
00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:48,079
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe you just look old. Well.

69
00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:52,760
Speaker 4: So to answer your question, I would it depends because

70
00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:56,120
Speaker 4: that might change your perspective on the relationship. For some people,

71
00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:57,840
Speaker 4: that might make them think, well, I don't want to

72
00:02:57,840 --> 00:02:59,600
Speaker 4: be with this person anymore. I want to go funk

73
00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:01,720
Speaker 4: off and like live. You know, I don't want this

74
00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:03,079
Speaker 4: person to So you're.

75
00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:05,079
Speaker 3: Saying you would, like I'm saying, I don't know.

76
00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:09,079
Speaker 4: It would depend on how I I would totally have

77
00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:12,359
Speaker 4: been with her, But now that I'm like, rich, well, no.

78
00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:13,919
Speaker 3: It's just like two points.

79
00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:16,720
Speaker 4: I think that I would I think that I would

80
00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,440
Speaker 4: have to evaluate where we're at in the relationship because

81
00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:23,440
Speaker 4: if I tell her, is she going to think of

82
00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:27,840
Speaker 4: me differently? Is she going to if let's say we

83
00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:31,000
Speaker 4: were kind of floundering or something. Is this going to

84
00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,880
Speaker 4: make her treat me differently? And am I going to

85
00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:38,000
Speaker 4: trust that she's being authentic or if she just wants.

86
00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:39,800
Speaker 3: The thing is you won't know? That's the thing.

87
00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:43,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's on contact space because if you were married,

88
00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:45,040
Speaker 2: your marriage could be on the rocks and then you

89
00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:47,480
Speaker 2: could win. So it depends what's going on.

90
00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:50,600
Speaker 5: You could buy a lie detector tests with your hundred

91
00:03:50,640 --> 00:03:52,480
Speaker 5: million and subject her to that.

92
00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:54,960
Speaker 3: And that that is a great idea. I would tell her.

93
00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,200
Speaker 4: I would tell her, yeah, and I would say you

94
00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:59,600
Speaker 4: can No matter what I would say, you can stay

95
00:03:59,600 --> 00:03:59,920
Speaker 4: with me.

96
00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:05,600
Speaker 2: You can't if you don't want to still be with.

97
00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:08,960
Speaker 4: Me, but you feel bad, like, oh, man, I really

98
00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:10,480
Speaker 4: want to stay with this guy because he's got a

99
00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:12,440
Speaker 4: hundred million dollars. You don't have a prenup, do if

100
00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:14,240
Speaker 4: you really if you really love me?

101
00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,919
Speaker 3: Stay with me, and if you don't, if you don't

102
00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:18,240
Speaker 3: want to.

103
00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:20,479
Speaker 4: Be with me, I'll give you like a million dollars

104
00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:21,760
Speaker 4: so that you can at least you.

105
00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:24,000
Speaker 2: Know, insane way to tell your partner.

106
00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,280
Speaker 5: I got it, I got it, I got you can.

107
00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:29,839
Speaker 2: See there are two options.

108
00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:35,560
Speaker 3: Still fell down fell down stairs.

109
00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:37,560
Speaker 2: If you are a story with me, babe, you can,

110
00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:39,279
Speaker 2: But if you don't, I'll.

111
00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:40,120
Speaker 3: Give you a million dollars.

112
00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:45,040
Speaker 4: She's like, because I wouldn't want because I wouldn't want

113
00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,200
Speaker 4: her to stay with me out of just like, oh

114
00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:48,400
Speaker 4: so don't tell her?

115
00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:50,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, then how long do you even keep it from her?

116
00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:51,320
Speaker 5: Psycho?

117
00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:54,360
Speaker 2: A couple of years, a couple of Yeah, Well here's

118
00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:55,560
Speaker 2: what I would do too. I would have all the

119
00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:57,279
Speaker 2: money spoken for anyway, Like as soon as I bought it,

120
00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:58,480
Speaker 2: I'd be like, you need to I'd go to a

121
00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:00,359
Speaker 2: financial planner and be like, we need to put an trust.

122
00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,240
Speaker 2: You need to like make sure I keep it away

123
00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:05,839
Speaker 2: from my bitch girl. No, but like flipped, make sure

124
00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:07,840
Speaker 2: each one of my family members.

125
00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:11,320
Speaker 1: House if you're if you're married, like like, what isn't

126
00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:12,799
Speaker 1: there like a if you don't have a prenup?

127
00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:14,400
Speaker 3: Would it go? If you got divorced, would it go

128
00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:14,880
Speaker 3: half to her?

129
00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:18,120
Speaker 2: We'll go to court, right, because it also depends it's

130
00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:19,960
Speaker 2: going to depend like state by state they all have to.

131
00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:22,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, California, we went in California.

132
00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:24,800
Speaker 2: I don't even they have like a community property rule.

133
00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:25,560
Speaker 2: It's so confusing.

134
00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:27,279
Speaker 3: I think it could. I think I could, all right,

135
00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:28,280
Speaker 3: but conine continue.

136
00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:30,480
Speaker 2: But so, yeah, I would just want all the money

137
00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:32,800
Speaker 2: spoken for anyway, when it's like, uh.

138
00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:34,720
Speaker 3: So you would do it in secret, behind her.

139
00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:36,600
Speaker 2: Back, behind everyone's back.

140
00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:38,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, how's that going to go over when you finally

141
00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:40,840
Speaker 4: tell it. You've been keeping this from me for two years.

142
00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:43,320
Speaker 2: She's pissed that were financially set for life.

143
00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:47,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, there's the I'll give you a million dollars

144
00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:48,080
Speaker 4: if you want to leave.

145
00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:51,599
Speaker 3: A good point. I don't know. I wouldn't be able to.

146
00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:54,520
Speaker 4: I can't even I can't even keep a birthday surprise.

147
00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:57,120
Speaker 4: I wouldn't be able to keep a hundred million dollars

148
00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:57,840
Speaker 4: for my wife.

149
00:05:57,880 --> 00:06:00,120
Speaker 2: One time I had a birthday party for girlfriend for

150
00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:03,360
Speaker 2: my friend and and Ben Ben was there.

151
00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:04,960
Speaker 3: Did they ruin it?

152
00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:06,480
Speaker 2: Yeah?

153
00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:07,560
Speaker 3: What what?

154
00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:14,120
Speaker 2: He goes? He went inside to the little bathroom and

155
00:06:14,440 --> 00:06:16,520
Speaker 2: my friend was like, oh, it was like most of

156
00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:17,800
Speaker 2: it was a surprise. I told them it was gonna

157
00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:19,240
Speaker 2: be like a small thing. It was a big party,

158
00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:21,640
Speaker 2: and like we had made him this cake, but he

159
00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:24,640
Speaker 2: didn't know about it. And uh so my friend's going like, god,

160
00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:27,200
Speaker 2: this is so great, thanks bah blah, and Ben goes, yeah,

161
00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:30,159
Speaker 2: and there's a cake inside. It's like we were actually

162
00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:31,000
Speaker 2: gonna do that.

163
00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:31,440
Speaker 3: I don't know.

164
00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,320
Speaker 2: I've ember have been to a party before, but usually

165
00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:34,880
Speaker 2: bring it out and you know, we turn out the

166
00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,160
Speaker 2: lights and yeah, and there's a cake.

167
00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:40,039
Speaker 4: And so yeah, the cake, I remember now they had

168
00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:43,880
Speaker 4: they had, for some reason threw him a party, and

169
00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:46,320
Speaker 4: yet it was supposed to be a surprise that there

170
00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:49,400
Speaker 4: was a cake. So when I went in the house,

171
00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:53,440
Speaker 4: when I went into the house to pee, I came

172
00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:56,120
Speaker 4: out and saw the cake there, and I was like, whoa,

173
00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:58,159
Speaker 4: this is a good looking cake. Oh, holy shit, the

174
00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:02,120
Speaker 4: cakes the cake is out. It's right, because naturally he

175
00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:04,200
Speaker 4: knows that there's a cake. So when yeah, when I

176
00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:06,400
Speaker 4: went outside and went, oh, man, cake in there is

177
00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:08,839
Speaker 4: looking great and apparently that was a surprise.

178
00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:10,160
Speaker 3: Is everyone else's fault?

179
00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:13,120
Speaker 4: No, it's my fault. But I just didn't I didn't

180
00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:14,920
Speaker 4: know I didn't know what the rules were.

181
00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:17,760
Speaker 5: I'll give you I will tell you about this case.

182
00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:19,040
Speaker 3: Give million dollars.

183
00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:22,360
Speaker 4: I did ruin a legitimate surprise party for someone once

184
00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:24,280
Speaker 4: around the same time.

185
00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:26,560
Speaker 3: This is like a theme. Uh yeah, it was.

186
00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:31,200
Speaker 4: It was That was truly a comedy bear's miscommunication. It

187
00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:35,600
Speaker 4: was not my fault, and it's never it really wasn't.

188
00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:37,880
Speaker 4: It wasn't my fault. I was under the impression that

189
00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:40,520
Speaker 4: the birthday girl knew that there was now a party

190
00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:44,320
Speaker 4: because she herself. Her boyfriend first invited me a week

191
00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:48,840
Speaker 4: in advance, said hey, it's Jessica's birthday. Uh next week,

192
00:07:48,840 --> 00:07:51,160
Speaker 4: we're doing a surprise party. And I said okay, awesome.

193
00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:54,960
Speaker 4: And then the day of the party, Jessica herself texted

194
00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:57,320
Speaker 4: me and said, hey, we're having a little get together

195
00:07:57,320 --> 00:07:58,280
Speaker 4: for my birthday tonight.

196
00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:01,559
Speaker 3: So what did you conclude that she knows? No, yes,

197
00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:04,720
Speaker 3: So I said, well he was a partying the surprise.

198
00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:08,000
Speaker 4: Immediately just would said oh, so no more surprise, and

199
00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:13,240
Speaker 4: she said what surprise and I was like, oh no, yeah,

200
00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:16,240
Speaker 4: And apparently the surprise element was that again it was

201
00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:18,840
Speaker 4: going to be bigger than just and there was a

202
00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:19,440
Speaker 4: cake inside.

203
00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:21,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, and there's a cake inside.

204
00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:29,200
Speaker 4: So this person inherited one hundred grand two hundred grands, and.

205
00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:32,160
Speaker 3: We do not tell her husband about it. Are you ready?

206
00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:32,800
Speaker 2: I guess yeah.

207
00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:34,680
Speaker 1: Let's get him to it. Let's get into it. I

208
00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:38,800
Speaker 1: just read the title. We speculated a lot. So my

209
00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:42,040
Speaker 1: partner thirty one male and I twenty five female.

210
00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:42,640
Speaker 2: This is so nice.

211
00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:46,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, look we got the genders ages twenty five female,

212
00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:50,320
Speaker 1: are having our second child. They started early and he

213
00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:53,320
Speaker 1: hasn't been working due to an in work injury. So

214
00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:55,760
Speaker 1: for the last two going on three months, it's been

215
00:08:55,840 --> 00:08:59,040
Speaker 1: very stressful for us. My parental or my paternal aunt,

216
00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,200
Speaker 1: gave me half of what she got from selling my

217
00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:04,000
Speaker 1: grandma's house her mother and she inherited last year due

218
00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:06,840
Speaker 1: to my grandmother passing away, and she spent six months

219
00:09:06,920 --> 00:09:09,760
Speaker 1: getting my moutures of a father and brother out of

220
00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:10,960
Speaker 1: the house and fixing it up.

221
00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:11,960
Speaker 2: What's up, bretda? Are we in?

222
00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,560
Speaker 3: And just probably you're in best of rheta or up there,

223
00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,600
Speaker 3: but it could be parents.

224
00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:19,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, they take like the best of already, and then

225
00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:22,240
Speaker 5: so it could be entitled people are in tele parents.

226
00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:25,800
Speaker 2: All right, So thirty one year old male is her partner.

227
00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:28,959
Speaker 1: Yep, twenty five female and he hasn't worked due to

228
00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:33,360
Speaker 1: a work related injury. Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, the husband,

229
00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:34,480
Speaker 1: So it could be.

230
00:09:34,559 --> 00:09:37,360
Speaker 3: It could be the baby. I got such a dangling.

231
00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:40,200
Speaker 2: I'm already appreciating the context that I feel way better.

232
00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:43,000
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, not a not a dirt bag. Yeah, it's nice.

233
00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:44,480
Speaker 4: As stressful as that last one.

234
00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:46,600
Speaker 2: Jesus.

235
00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:51,400
Speaker 1: Okay, So we haven't spoken since the funeral, and last

236
00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:54,320
Speaker 1: week she called to meet for lunch, and when I went,

237
00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:59,040
Speaker 1: she handed me a check worth over two hundred thousand dollars.

238
00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:00,880
Speaker 3: That's the aunt. The aunts.

239
00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:03,319
Speaker 2: You got to lunch, Just get banked up. Come on, dude,

240
00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:08,280
Speaker 2: in a briefcase, come ons.

241
00:10:07,240 --> 00:10:08,199
Speaker 3: Salmon for sure.

242
00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:12,040
Speaker 1: Are you guys close to your aunts? Like, I'm pretty

243
00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:12,680
Speaker 1: close with my aunt.

244
00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:13,240
Speaker 2: My aunt's hate.

245
00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:15,680
Speaker 3: I'd probably have to steal it the two hundred grand

246
00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:16,200
Speaker 3: from my aunt.

247
00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:19,200
Speaker 1: My aunt talks about doing kludes in the eighties with pilots.

248
00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:21,520
Speaker 2: That's the cool she was.

249
00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:23,920
Speaker 1: She was like an air hostess and like the eighties

250
00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:24,920
Speaker 1: back when it meant something.

251
00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:27,480
Speaker 2: Wait, are we aunt her anti people?

252
00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:30,000
Speaker 3: I don't know. I say both kind of both.

253
00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:34,480
Speaker 2: It's weird with some names. You're like Auntie Blank just.

254
00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:38,280
Speaker 4: Kind of roll call her her first name. Now I'm

255
00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:40,640
Speaker 4: an adult, I don't say, oh, I call her by

256
00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:45,440
Speaker 4: my baby name, baby name, so I will. I called

257
00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:48,840
Speaker 4: her baba. Her name is Barbara, and I called her

258
00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:49,880
Speaker 4: baba and I still call her.

259
00:10:50,679 --> 00:10:54,480
Speaker 3: Yeah. Stop, now she's baba to everyone. Yeah, oh cute.

260
00:10:54,559 --> 00:10:56,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just destroyed her name just because I couldn't

261
00:10:56,960 --> 00:10:58,120
Speaker 1: pronounce it.

262
00:10:58,280 --> 00:11:01,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I didn't understand.

263
00:11:01,080 --> 00:11:03,280
Speaker 1: But she said, my grandma thought of me as a

264
00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:05,960
Speaker 1: daughter and I was the only one other than her

265
00:11:06,160 --> 00:11:08,560
Speaker 1: that took care of her and my grandpa. And while

266
00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:11,200
Speaker 1: they didn't have the money to give me, she sold

267
00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:13,360
Speaker 1: the house and after talking to her husband, decided I

268
00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:14,040
Speaker 1: deserved half of it.

269
00:11:14,120 --> 00:11:15,839
Speaker 3: So really sweet, what a.

270
00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:24,240
Speaker 4: Great and aunt aunt. And she bought her salmon. Yeah, yude, my.

271
00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:27,640
Speaker 3: Hormones were everywhere. She's pregnant.

272
00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:37,080
Speaker 2: Okay, she had to forget that, come correct, female audience.

273
00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:39,840
Speaker 2: I got nervous that if I ever came into money,

274
00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:40,520
Speaker 2: my hormones were.

275
00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:44,560
Speaker 3: Hormones are My hormones were everywhere?

276
00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:46,720
Speaker 1: And she had to help me calm down because we

277
00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:49,000
Speaker 1: were in so much debt, and I felt so thankful.

278
00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:52,160
Speaker 1: So this is changing Op's life. And again the husband

279
00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:53,880
Speaker 1: isn't working to the baby getting into more debt.

280
00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:55,760
Speaker 3: This is just a feel good story. I really like

281
00:11:56,120 --> 00:12:00,400
Speaker 3: it's gonna feel bad, feel really bad, and joy not.

282
00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:04,720
Speaker 4: Telling them her baby has a drug problem because she

283
00:12:04,760 --> 00:12:08,280
Speaker 4: was addicted to Mathew travels to the table kind of

284
00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:10,000
Speaker 4: like you know a belly is a jail.

285
00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:12,520
Speaker 3: Then you break out that that is true.

286
00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:16,360
Speaker 1: She told me she wasn't giving anything to anyone else

287
00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:20,400
Speaker 1: and would prefer for me not to tell anyone anyone.

288
00:12:20,200 --> 00:12:24,080
Speaker 4: Right because the dead other family members, she feels even better.

289
00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:28,040
Speaker 4: She's it's coming from the she's getting what she deserves.

290
00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:30,360
Speaker 1: So you would keep it a secret from your significant

291
00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:34,120
Speaker 1: other the other if the aunt said you can't tell anyone.

292
00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:36,240
Speaker 2: I need to know why. I need to know why.

293
00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:37,760
Speaker 1: I think if it was just what it was, just

294
00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:40,960
Speaker 1: the said, hey, i'm giving you two under grand on

295
00:12:40,960 --> 00:12:43,840
Speaker 1: one condition. You don't tell that bastard of a husband.

296
00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:47,079
Speaker 2: Oh god, it's on one condition. Yeah, It's like, okay, fine.

297
00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:49,280
Speaker 3: He's not a bastard's yeah, but he's just he's.

298
00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:55,200
Speaker 2: Just If that was the condition, yeah, I'm taking the cash.

299
00:12:53,760 --> 00:12:55,240
Speaker 3: And you wouldn't say you wouldn't say anything.

300
00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:56,760
Speaker 2: But if it was just like a oh, and don't

301
00:12:56,760 --> 00:13:00,000
Speaker 2: tell anybody. That's like, that's like, it is a condition.

302
00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:03,439
Speaker 4: I assume that they don't tell anybody applies to her

303
00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:04,280
Speaker 4: side of the family.

304
00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:07,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, and not the husband. I assume that it is anybody.

305
00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:12,200
Speaker 5: If we're going like contract legal over here, anybody.

306
00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:13,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's did anyone else?

307
00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:15,200
Speaker 5: Anyone else?

308
00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:15,559
Speaker 7: Okay?

309
00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:21,960
Speaker 1: Do not tell anyone anyone spouse to somebody, is anyone,

310
00:13:23,120 --> 00:13:23,280
Speaker 1: you know?

311
00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:23,760
Speaker 3: But you would.

312
00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:26,800
Speaker 1: You could also say that marriage nobody. Marriage is the

313
00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:28,760
Speaker 1: union between two souls, and now we.

314
00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:30,959
Speaker 2: Were it's mine as yours, you know. I would.

315
00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:33,280
Speaker 4: I would first use that money. I'm going to talk

316
00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:36,439
Speaker 4: like a presidential candid I would use that money.

317
00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:38,640
Speaker 3: I don't know what candidate this is. I would use

318
00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:40,560
Speaker 3: that money. I would use it.

319
00:13:40,600 --> 00:13:42,640
Speaker 4: I can't do Bill Clinton. I would use that money

320
00:13:42,679 --> 00:13:47,240
Speaker 4: to pay off the debt. And then when Hubby is like, dang, babe,

321
00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:50,839
Speaker 4: what happened to the debt? I'd go, remember that grandma

322
00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:55,400
Speaker 4: I had dead dead, and you know what that means

323
00:13:57,120 --> 00:14:00,240
Speaker 4: for me and Auntie. I think that's what I do.

324
00:14:00,679 --> 00:14:03,240
Speaker 4: I would that's that's still telling. It's still yeah, but

325
00:14:03,240 --> 00:14:06,360
Speaker 4: at that point violated, what's she gonna do? Clawde back,

326
00:14:06,440 --> 00:14:09,480
Speaker 4: she's gonna be mad. Also, well, then you just bring

327
00:14:09,520 --> 00:14:11,560
Speaker 4: your husband into the fold. You're going to harnish the

328
00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:14,800
Speaker 4: relationship with your aunt aunt. Don't tell don't tell Auntie

329
00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:15,960
Speaker 4: that that I told you.

330
00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:18,520
Speaker 2: Okay, but presumably that she doesn't have to go to

331
00:14:18,520 --> 00:14:21,120
Speaker 2: the grave with it. Maybe we need more content.

332
00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:23,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, let's let's keep you hones. You want to

333
00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:25,520
Speaker 3: know how this takes a dark turn? Two hundred K.

334
00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:28,240
Speaker 1: I put it in my account, and once it cleared,

335
00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:31,440
Speaker 1: I began slowly paying off my husband and my debt.

336
00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:35,880
Speaker 3: So exactly what Ben And she's working? Right? I believe

337
00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:38,480
Speaker 3: she is working her aunt at the very least. I

338
00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:38,680
Speaker 3: don't know.

339
00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:41,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe she was.

340
00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:43,040
Speaker 5: I mean she's pregnant. Now we don't know if I mean.

341
00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:46,640
Speaker 4: I mean I imagine to Yeah, that must be how

342
00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:48,720
Speaker 4: they're in so much debt is the husband.

343
00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:49,920
Speaker 3: Isn't working and she's not working.

344
00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:51,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, a workplace injury?

345
00:14:52,920 --> 00:14:55,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, sue, come on you record?

346
00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:57,360
Speaker 5: Do you record your podcasts at your place? Could you

347
00:14:57,480 --> 00:14:58,840
Speaker 5: sue for your you.

348
00:14:58,760 --> 00:15:01,880
Speaker 4: Know no, I could technically going disability because I like

349
00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:04,280
Speaker 4: hurt myself in its falling down the stet. I do

350
00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:08,480
Speaker 4: like thinking and sitting I hurt my ass and my

351
00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:09,880
Speaker 4: head content is everywhere.

352
00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:12,400
Speaker 3: Yeah. Now, I would never do that. I would never

353
00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:14,800
Speaker 3: take advantage of the government. Do you just the stimulus?

354
00:15:15,720 --> 00:15:15,840
Speaker 4: Uh?

355
00:15:16,120 --> 00:15:19,560
Speaker 3: No, no way, I would never do that. No, I

356
00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:20,560
Speaker 3: didn't do that at all.

357
00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,040
Speaker 4: Do you see how it took me a second to calibrate, Like, Okay,

358
00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:26,240
Speaker 4: I got a yes, let's say no.

359
00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:29,320
Speaker 1: So she began slowly paying off husband and my dad.

360
00:15:29,400 --> 00:15:31,680
Speaker 1: I paid people back that had loaned us money, cleared

361
00:15:31,720 --> 00:15:34,360
Speaker 1: our credit cards, paid our car off, put ten k

362
00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:36,800
Speaker 1: in our daughter's saving account, and planned to make one

363
00:15:36,840 --> 00:15:38,440
Speaker 1: for our second child when it's born.

364
00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:39,760
Speaker 2: This is huge use.

365
00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:41,640
Speaker 3: But it's all say, this is a paper trail too.

366
00:15:41,720 --> 00:15:42,920
Speaker 2: This one's just a happy story.

367
00:15:43,240 --> 00:15:44,680
Speaker 3: Yes, it's gonna go down.

368
00:15:44,920 --> 00:15:47,320
Speaker 1: It's just you wait, I didn't tell my husband because

369
00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:50,880
Speaker 1: we have separate finances and have since we got together.

370
00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:53,120
Speaker 3: Well, then how do they have shared debt? What is

371
00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:54,520
Speaker 3: she talking about? Well?

372
00:15:54,520 --> 00:15:58,040
Speaker 1: I guess maybe I shared credit card, Yeah maybe, but

373
00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:00,520
Speaker 1: mostly separate finances. So I guess she can set up

374
00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:08,120
Speaker 1: like all the accounts. Yeah, but he's going to find

375
00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:09,920
Speaker 1: out right, Like, there's no way she's paying all this

376
00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:10,560
Speaker 1: stuff off.

377
00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:13,040
Speaker 4: Also, you wouldn't you wouldn't want your partner to be

378
00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:17,800
Speaker 4: visibly suffering. And just if you've ever been in debt,

379
00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:21,480
Speaker 4: it feels terrible or like it feels like every day

380
00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:25,400
Speaker 4: you've got this weight on your shoels like you're slipping. Yeah,

381
00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:28,560
Speaker 4: but he doesn't. He doesn't know that the burden is easing,

382
00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:31,000
Speaker 4: as far as I know, does he know?

383
00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:33,920
Speaker 1: He doesn't know, and he shouldn't know. Based on what

384
00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:36,800
Speaker 1: the aunt said that the stipulations.

385
00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:40,360
Speaker 4: Were, you shouldn't let your your husband, your significant other

386
00:16:40,800 --> 00:16:45,800
Speaker 4: still remain tormented by this, the weight of this crushing debt.

387
00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:47,400
Speaker 3: Have you been in debt? No?

388
00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:50,720
Speaker 4: But I have been close to the running out of money.

389
00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:54,960
Speaker 4: It feels terrible. It's a crushing feeling.

390
00:16:55,120 --> 00:16:57,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you it makes you work harder, Brian, You know.

391
00:17:00,360 --> 00:17:05,800
Speaker 4: I wake up my grind, Yeah, and it'll make your work.

392
00:17:06,040 --> 00:17:12,960
Speaker 3: I wake up and grind coffee beans? Nice? Same? Thank you?

393
00:17:14,440 --> 00:17:15,000
Speaker 3: Don't boomy?

394
00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:15,400
Speaker 4: Right.

395
00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:21,400
Speaker 1: This is sponsored by your your coffee company Folders.

396
00:17:24,040 --> 00:17:28,199
Speaker 3: W sponsors does smell good? Folders is good? Can we

397
00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:29,200
Speaker 3: hold smells good?

398
00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:29,280
Speaker 2: All?

399
00:17:29,359 --> 00:17:29,439
Speaker 4: Right?

400
00:17:29,520 --> 00:17:32,560
Speaker 1: Have you ever this is head folders? Have you ever

401
00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:36,080
Speaker 1: spoonfold instant folds directly into your mouth?

402
00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:40,240
Speaker 3: No? I have this this, he goes hard.

403
00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:41,239
Speaker 2: Did he get you jacked up?

404
00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:45,800
Speaker 3: It? Did? It made me bralic? Actually he'll put He'll.

405
00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:49,200
Speaker 5: Put like you know, green green mix in like espresso

406
00:17:49,400 --> 00:17:53,239
Speaker 5: and just like we did like liquid green. Like you know,

407
00:17:54,280 --> 00:18:01,160
Speaker 5: I don't want to say, you can't say, like yeah,

408
00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:03,760
Speaker 5: powdered green yea does that stuff work?

409
00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:09,320
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah? I literally feel incredible. This is totally not Spotsora.

410
00:18:09,400 --> 00:18:11,120
Speaker 3: Its so good. It is so good.

411
00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:15,160
Speaker 1: It really is the one you're thinking of. Actually it's amazing. Yes,

412
00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:16,920
Speaker 1: it feels like a cup of coffee, but it lasts

413
00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:20,400
Speaker 1: the whole time. Wait what it's like, Yeah, yeah, it's insane.

414
00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:22,120
Speaker 2: Out we're talking about different things. He's just talking about

415
00:18:22,160 --> 00:18:25,399
Speaker 2: like adderall powder.

416
00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:28,919
Speaker 5: Drink it first with nothing in your stomach, top of

417
00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:31,639
Speaker 5: the day. Then drink a coffee and I take an

418
00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:32,520
Speaker 5: ELF and nine after that?

419
00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:38,040
Speaker 3: Bam? Is it is? It? Is it? A yeah?

420
00:18:38,359 --> 00:18:41,000
Speaker 5: A grand products?

421
00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:41,320
Speaker 4: Yeah?

422
00:18:41,359 --> 00:18:44,000
Speaker 3: Yeah you take what after elf and nine?

423
00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:47,000
Speaker 5: It's like, uh, you guys are so I know. This

424
00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:48,920
Speaker 5: is my girlfriend. She's super she's like a developer.

425
00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:53,399
Speaker 1: Take some magic mushion, which actually I actually that that

426
00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:57,720
Speaker 1: was a joke, but I legitimately do have sixty mushroom

427
00:18:57,760 --> 00:18:58,840
Speaker 1: capsules that I take.

428
00:18:59,880 --> 00:19:01,159
Speaker 5: I want to try it.

429
00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:05,359
Speaker 4: Wait, I didn't get any effect from them when the

430
00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:07,879
Speaker 4: mushroom capsules, Yeah.

431
00:19:07,720 --> 00:19:10,960
Speaker 3: Did you get didn't you didn't feel anything? No, I

432
00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:12,439
Speaker 3: didn't feel like better or anything.

433
00:19:12,480 --> 00:19:15,800
Speaker 4: That took psychedelic mushrooms and nothing happened. Well, I took

434
00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:18,840
Speaker 4: the like pill ones from that brand that everybody used.

435
00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:21,000
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no no no, this is like this

436
00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:23,439
Speaker 1: is like a dude off Etsy that's like selling legal

437
00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:24,760
Speaker 1: magic mushrooms.

438
00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:29,040
Speaker 4: Yeah noah, So how many milligrams are you taking?

439
00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:31,480
Speaker 3: It's like point three? Oh yeah, I took.

440
00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:33,600
Speaker 1: I was at we were recording and I went to

441
00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:36,000
Speaker 1: get in and out and I had like two and

442
00:19:36,040 --> 00:19:38,280
Speaker 1: I usually have one. And then I was like waiting

443
00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:39,720
Speaker 1: for my burger, and I was looking at all the

444
00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:42,000
Speaker 1: in and out employees and like as I was staring them,

445
00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:43,760
Speaker 1: like wow, there's just like one system and they were

446
00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:46,480
Speaker 1: all blending together, and then I realized you probably should

447
00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:47,200
Speaker 1: only take one.

448
00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:47,560
Speaker 3: Instead of two.

449
00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:49,040
Speaker 5: As you were driving back or.

450
00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:50,960
Speaker 1: I was there and I was watching them and I

451
00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:53,640
Speaker 1: was like really staring at the cashier and I think

452
00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:55,280
Speaker 1: I was like freaking the person.

453
00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:58,320
Speaker 4: I wait, so do the powdered greens have stimulants in them. No,

454
00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:02,840
Speaker 4: powdered greens don't have a no, no, no. It might

455
00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:06,040
Speaker 4: just increase your blood oxygen absorption.

456
00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:07,960
Speaker 5: The way I thought about it is like, I guess

457
00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:10,200
Speaker 5: it's just like a bunch of vitamins that you.

458
00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:12,040
Speaker 3: Don't usually get. Yeah, mix it up.

459
00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:17,359
Speaker 2: From every day diet. You're probably not getting those nutrients and.

460
00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,479
Speaker 1: The only thing that can help with those nutrients is

461
00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:22,960
Speaker 1: a sponsor that will come eventually. Yeah, wow, this is

462
00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:25,160
Speaker 1: this is like probably the best sponsorship.

463
00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:28,000
Speaker 5: Okay, if someone knows what we're talking about there buying

464
00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:28,639
Speaker 5: it immediately.

465
00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:30,960
Speaker 3: But yeah, we're not going to say it. We're not

466
00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:32,200
Speaker 3: going to say it. I'm not going to say it.

467
00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:32,640
Speaker 2: DM.

468
00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:38,000
Speaker 4: I'll tell you subscribe to subscribe once you subscribe to

469
00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:40,680
Speaker 4: our show and screenshot it and then DM me and

470
00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:41,119
Speaker 4: I'll tell you.

471
00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:43,280
Speaker 3: There we go. I'll tell you what this is, all right,

472
00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:45,600
Speaker 3: Are ready to get back in? Yes? Okay.

473
00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:49,280
Speaker 1: So he doesn't even know what our debts were or

474
00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:51,720
Speaker 1: how far behind we were, so I didn't think he

475
00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:54,000
Speaker 1: would notice. But he watches his credit and when he

476
00:20:54,080 --> 00:20:56,399
Speaker 1: says that it went up and that I had received

477
00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,880
Speaker 1: a letter from my community college that my debt was paid, he.

478
00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:02,119
Speaker 2: Asked me, so not in So he wasn't even paying attention.

479
00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:05,680
Speaker 1: He wasn't paying attention at all, which seems bad, I mean,

480
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:07,639
Speaker 1: just to his credit. He was like, he's like he

481
00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:10,480
Speaker 1: got like a notification from like mint, like, oh, like a,

482
00:21:10,880 --> 00:21:14,320
Speaker 1: I don't know what At.

483
00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:16,080
Speaker 2: That point, she's done nothing. This guy is not working,

484
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:17,640
Speaker 2: just hanging out.

485
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:20,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, howe.

486
00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:20,800
Speaker 5: That?

487
00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:22,200
Speaker 3: Like no idea?

488
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:23,760
Speaker 2: How much debt he's racked in?

489
00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:24,120
Speaker 3: Yeah?

490
00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 1: Okay, So I told him my aunt gave me money,

491
00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,679
Speaker 1: but not how much. And he tried accessing my bank account.

492
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:36,240
Speaker 1: When he couldn't get in, he took my debit card

493
00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:39,200
Speaker 1: without me knowing and went to an ATM and then

494
00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:39,919
Speaker 1: saw the balance.

495
00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:42,080
Speaker 5: That's yeah, what do we think about that?

496
00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:45,120
Speaker 2: So he knows the aunt gave him money, she wouldn't

497
00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:47,800
Speaker 2: tell him the amount. She fucking he took his, He

498
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 2: took her cards, took.

499
00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:51,880
Speaker 5: Her card after trying to get in, like log into

500
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:53,040
Speaker 5: wipe one of the cards.

501
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:54,119
Speaker 3: That that's a red flag.

502
00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:59,159
Speaker 1: I'm feeling some red flags from the husband, honestly, like

503
00:21:59,240 --> 00:22:00,159
Speaker 1: I'm feeling and.

504
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:05,200
Speaker 3: A little divorce is a lazy bum, Yeah, lazy fucking.

505
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:09,680
Speaker 1: He's not even smart enough to know that you should

506
00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:10,879
Speaker 1: claim in like disability.

507
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 3: He's not getting any money. He's not even working that hard.

508
00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 2: Was he able to get in with the with the card?

509
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:19,119
Speaker 1: With the card he was able to get so so

510
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:22,639
Speaker 1: he he now knows exactly how much was given or

511
00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:23,280
Speaker 1: how much left.

512
00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:25,240
Speaker 5: I guess how much like which is probably a lot.

513
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:27,199
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like.

514
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 4: So now he's got he's got his claim that you

515
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:33,439
Speaker 4: were keeping this from me, and I knew that you

516
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:36,399
Speaker 4: were lying, and because you were lying, I had to

517
00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:39,280
Speaker 4: go out. And I'm sure that that's what his rationale, right,

518
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:42,719
Speaker 4: I had to go look because I'm like, what are

519
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 4: you selling drugs or something else?

520
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 3: Is all this money coming in? Do you have like

521
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 3: a sugar added or something?

522
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 2: You're like an abuser? How'd you come up with that

523
00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:50,159
Speaker 2: lie so quickly?

524
00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 3: I didn't. I'm saying that probably I would.

525
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:56,440
Speaker 2: Never come up with that. Where'd you come up with that?

526
00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 5: It's comedian?

527
00:22:57,600 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 2: He thinks on his feet all of a sudden, All

528
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:01,359
Speaker 2: of a sudden, he's blaming the wife. I thought you

529
00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:02,199
Speaker 2: were selling drugs.

530
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 3: Wives are always to blame you.

531
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 2: You left me no joys.

532
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,119
Speaker 4: Yeah, he had no choice but to go behind your

533
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,680
Speaker 4: back and take your debit card, and I hope he

534
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 4: took out a twenty and bought himself some salmon.

535
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 2: Remind me to call Ben if I ever get in

536
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 2: trouble with my wife.

537
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 3: Help you.

538
00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 2: No, No, you got to make it her fault. Yeah.

539
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 3: Yeah. To the women out there, this is all just

540
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 3: a joke.

541
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 1: Okay, come and drove to just destroy you.

542
00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 4: I love women, say like Michael Jackson, I love I

543
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 4: love women.

544
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:48,359
Speaker 3: I love him so much. I would never lie to women.

545
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 1: That's a good impression. So he yelled at me for

546
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 1: hiding it. I told him it doesn't matter because we

547
00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 1: were no longer in debt and we could finish our degrees.

548
00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 1: And then he walked out and hasn't spoken to me

549
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 1: in three day. So that whole idea that we had earlier,

550
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:03,879
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, like we're rich now, you don't have

551
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:07,080
Speaker 1: to worry about like financial stuff anymore. Maybe doesn't pass.

552
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 2: I will say it's been three days. As someone who

553
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 2: was a proponent of not telling your spouse, I would

554
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,120
Speaker 2: imagine there would come a time when this would happen,

555
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,320
Speaker 2: where like she's gonna get pissed I didn't tell her,

556
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:18,639
Speaker 2: and I think she would be within her rights to

557
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 2: be like, I can't believe you didn't tell me this

558
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 2: huge thing.

559
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:22,160
Speaker 3: Would you be pissed?

560
00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, but I would like get over.

561
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:27,520
Speaker 5: Shocked at least, right, Yeah?

562
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think I can imagine I wouldn't be like,

563
00:24:30,640 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 2: give me a few days to fucking.

564
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:36,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's being a huffy baby. He probably wants her to.

565
00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:40,119
Speaker 4: He's probably got his arms crossed somewhere and he's just

566
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 4: waiting for her to come and see. I'm sorry, baby,

567
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I know, get over dude, Like you should

568
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:47,439
Speaker 4: be pumped.

569
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 3: I think I would be.

570
00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 1: I would think I would be maybe a little upset

571
00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:54,200
Speaker 1: because I just wouldn't know where the money came from

572
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: until I realized it was like from a family member

573
00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: or something. And she said, and she specifically said, you

574
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:02,400
Speaker 1: don't even have to tell me, but like they specifically said,

575
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 1: I'm going to give us to you, but don't tell anyone.

576
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 5: The full context.

577
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, if I got the full context, I'm not mad.

578
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 3: I would ask her to just take me out for

579
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 3: a nice salmon dinner.

580
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 2: Bro.

581
00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:12,439
Speaker 3: This guy, yeah, she told me.

582
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:14,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, she told me not to say anything. I also

583
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:17,360
Speaker 2: don't think I don't know. I've never been married, but

584
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 2: their finances.

585
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,919
Speaker 4: Well, that's a red flag ladies out there. Did you

586
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:28,639
Speaker 4: hear that he's never That sounds like that sounds like

587
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:29,919
Speaker 4: the problem.

588
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 3: Might be you.

589
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:33,200
Speaker 2: I didn't say the problem with anyone else.

590
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:35,439
Speaker 4: I don't know, man, I don't go on to keep

591
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:36,639
Speaker 4: digging admits it.

592
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,440
Speaker 3: So you've never been married, but you've never been married?

593
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:40,400
Speaker 2: How long?

594
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 5: How many years?

595
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:45,920
Speaker 2: Four years, three and a half decades?

596
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 5: Damn here.

597
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 2: But they keep their finances separate. It's like, I don't know.

598
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 2: It seems like the agreement is like that's yours, that's mine,

599
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:54,359
Speaker 2: and if anything, she came into the money, it was

600
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:55,200
Speaker 2: helping them both out.

601
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:57,440
Speaker 1: But it might be like I keep my finances separate,

602
00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 1: but we both kind of know where our finances are at.

603
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,360
Speaker 3: Because then it's like sure, sure, because if they.

604
00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 1: Have debt, they would probably be paying it off together

605
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 1: in some in some respects. Or it's like maybe maybe

606
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 1: what they're doing. We've seen this happen a lot where

607
00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 1: it's like someone makes like one hundred fifty k and

608
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 1: then someone makes like fifty K and then they pay

609
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:17,679
Speaker 1: off rent and debt proportionally. So what if they that's yeah,

610
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:19,400
Speaker 1: So if they have that set up and I guess

611
00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:22,680
Speaker 1: he's not making any money, so I don't know zero percent.

612
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,359
Speaker 1: So I requested a new debit card and change my

613
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:28,400
Speaker 1: information regarding my account because now I don't trust him

614
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 1: not to try and buy something, and the marriage is

615
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 1: eroding before eyes.

616
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is when you get into like poisoning the well.

617
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 3: So yeah, yeah, they don't do that. You come back

618
00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:38,840
Speaker 3: from this shit, talk to him. Don't do that.

619
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 1: I admit I should have told him, but it's not

620
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 1: like he knows how much money I make from my

621
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 1: Job's interesting, See that's interesting.

622
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,440
Speaker 2: Their finances are completely separate. This guy doesn't even know

623
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 2: how much he makes.

624
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 3: They're being don't even know how much she makes. I

625
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 3: feel like that's crazy.

626
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:57,920
Speaker 4: It sounds like they're trying too hard, but that makes it,

627
00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:00,879
Speaker 4: That makes it more okay, Like they keep things very separate.

628
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 2: Imagine getting married and just being like, I have no

629
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:04,159
Speaker 2: idea how much money you even make.

630
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 4: I mean, tell me, this is separate base, separate children.

631
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:13,400
Speaker 1: This one.

632
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 8: You have to know some information to like why at

633
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:23,399
Speaker 8: that point, like like what we don't know, but like

634
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 8: when you signed a lease or or got a mortgage

635
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:30,880
Speaker 8: or whatever, weren't either of you. They just like, how

636
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 8: are you, like, how much can we afford?

637
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,359
Speaker 2: It's like I won't, but yes I can.

638
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:36,719
Speaker 1: John and I were renting a house and we had

639
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 1: to like kind of go through both of our assets.

640
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 1: I had to know, we had to know what everyone

641
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: else in the house was was making too.

642
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 5: So it's like it just comes up casually in a relationship,

643
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:47,959
Speaker 5: like getting a new job or like doing whatever, like,

644
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 5: but it just happens.

645
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 3: I agree over time. Yeah, I think you guys shouldn't

646
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 3: be married. I mean I'm thinking divorced.

647
00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 4: I'm shocked that I wouldn't jump straight to that. I

648
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:02,359
Speaker 4: would mix it, fix it. You got two kids.

649
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:06,119
Speaker 5: We have a chant on this show, divorce, divorce, divorce, divorce,

650
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 5: divorse man.

651
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,200
Speaker 2: That's kind of the Reddit chance. It's like if you're

652
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 2: ever run our slash relationships, it's like lawyer up divorce.

653
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 5: There's a you're just kind of adopted it.

654
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:18,159
Speaker 3: Yeah leave him, leave him something like that.

655
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:19,120
Speaker 2: Yeah leave him.

656
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 3: Edit.

657
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,120
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of questions and comments I need

658
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,199
Speaker 1: to answer some of them. So one, he doesn't like

659
00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 1: my family at all. Oh another fucking red five.

660
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:28,880
Speaker 2: Yeah.

661
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:30,720
Speaker 1: I met him when I was a kid because he

662
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: was my older brother's best friend.

663
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,159
Speaker 3: No, things change when.

664
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,920
Speaker 1: We got together when I was nineteen, and they don't

665
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: speak anymore. He avoids anything to do with my family.

666
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: So basically when I was he was twenty.

667
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 3: That's question.

668
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 1: Six years older, five so they've been kind of like yeah,

669
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: but he also like newer when a bit of a

670
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 1: grooming situation.

671
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, a little groomy, a little little yeah.

672
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 1: What do you guys think? Do you think this is groomy?

673
00:28:57,640 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 1: For your answer in the comments too, Most of our

674
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 1: relationship is great. We agreed to have one kid because

675
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 1: I dreamed of being a mom, and I guess like

676
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 1: he didn't want But during the pregnancy he treated me

677
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: like crap. No, and even after our daughter was born,

678
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 1: he continuously making me feel like a bad mom for

679
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: asking him for help when I was exhausted and.

680
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 3: He just wanted to play games or drink, play games,

681
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 3: play games. Okay, yeah, I'm gonna have to go with

682
00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 3: that chance.

683
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 1: He only started helping and being supportive after being separated

684
00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:34,959
Speaker 1: for a few months and ask getting Kyle solving counseling, counseling.

685
00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 2: So this guy sucks.

686
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 1: This guy sucks so much, but you have a kid together,

687
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 1: so she's probably trying to make a work at.

688
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 3: A second one on the way.

689
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 2: So is she asking for advice here?

690
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 3: She is asking for advice we have like because like

691
00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 3: we're getting.

692
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 2: More up divorced, Like, make sure he can't touch that money.

693
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 2: Fucking oh my god.

694
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 1: I mean it's gonna be hard to because now you

695
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 1: could probably claim it if if she's paid off someone

696
00:29:58,800 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 1: like that with that money.

697
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 4: I feel like maybe, I guess maybe it's different if

698
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:06,440
Speaker 4: it's not. If it's not, it makes earned money.

699
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 3: I don't know. Oh, so he and my daughter both

700
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 3: have my last name. That's an interesting.

701
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:12,800
Speaker 4: Hell.

702
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, so he's a cook. Okay, this guy's a real

703
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 3: free interesting.

704
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: I wanted joint finances when we got married and he didn't.

705
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 1: I was only in debt of five K from my

706
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:27,120
Speaker 1: college at the time, and he had some, but he

707
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 1: told me he had it covered, which I found out

708
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 1: he in fact did not five What I meant about

709
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 1: him not knowing how much in debt we were is

710
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,880
Speaker 1: that he'd open credit cards in both our name.

711
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 2: Holy shit, it.

712
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 1: Macks them out, and then when we couldn't use them anymore,

713
00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 1: he'd apply for more. I did not know this until

714
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:45,120
Speaker 1: hiring a firm to help get my credit up. They

715
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,920
Speaker 1: told me I could press charges or pay them off.

716
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 1: I wanted to pay it off because he's my husband.

717
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 1: Even if you put us in debt, I do love him.

718
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 1: What is he spending the money on too.

719
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 2: This poor woman?

720
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 1: Oh dude, it gets I told you that.

721
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 3: You thought it was all good.

722
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 2: You thought it was a bummer.

723
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:04,719
Speaker 1: You thought it was all good. It gets worse, It

724
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:09,320
Speaker 1: gets worse. We didn't want more children. He got into

725
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 1: a fight with his sister and she did something she

726
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 1: shouldn't have. But he also refused to get snipped. Yeah,

727
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 1: we didn't find out I was pregnant until it was

728
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 1: too late for another option.

729
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 2: Oh so pregnant with child number two.

730
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 3: So they didn't want it wasdental, Yeah, accidental. They hate

731
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:27,880
Speaker 3: this kid, They hate this baby. Seven.

732
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:29,719
Speaker 1: We moved in with my mom to help us get

733
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 1: things back on track, and he got hurt at work. Yes,

734
00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 1: I believe he is depressed, but he's also blown all

735
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 1: the money he had saved on video games, liquor, and pot.

736
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 1: He didn't spend a dime on any of the debt

737
00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 1: he caused, or for our daughter. He makes more than

738
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 1: I do, but with the way he spends it. It's

739
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 1: like we live on one income.

740
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 3: This guy needs to be beaten. Yeah, I mean we

741
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 3: we got four podcast right here. Yeah, we're all pretty

742
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 3: brollick here. I could just yell at him.

743
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 2: These are so difficult because uh, like it's so clear.

744
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 2: It's like you need to fucking leave. I don't understand,

745
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 2: like what is the advice? You need to see what

746
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 2: the fuck.

747
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 3: That thing is.

748
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 1: With a lot of these stories, it's kind of just

749
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 1: like once they put it all on paper and they

750
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 1: get like a few got checks, right, they're out of

751
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 1: the reality distortion field because then they're like they're probably

752
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: like as she's writing that, she's probably realizing like, oh fuck, yeah,

753
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 1: this is sure.

754
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 5: She might not have told anyone every.

755
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is like you can be honest on the internet,

756
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 3: which is kind of like.

757
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 2: Because I've definitely been in the situation where you're dating

758
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 2: somebody you're like, this doesn't feel right, and then you

759
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 2: start saying it out loud to a friend and you're like, okay, I.

760
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 3: Got your current relationship.

761
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 2: Wow. No, honestly, I just thought about it just the

762
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 2: first time. If I make a phone call, if.

763
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: It's on air, hey, we're doing our first calling, right,

764
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 1: now eight, Do I trust him? Yes, what I do

765
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 1: in almost every way I can, except for money, and

766
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,640
Speaker 1: he's proven that again and again. I also have him

767
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 1: giving him small portions of the money so he can

768
00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 1: still go and do things he wants to do. It's

769
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 1: not like I'm just hoarding it away from him. I

770
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:12,480
Speaker 1: just didn't tell him that it wasn't from my paychecks

771
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:14,840
Speaker 1: like he assumed. So he's on like a fucking stipend.

772
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 2: She's got through all the money so this guy can

773
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 2: play video games game.

774
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 5: He's gonna buy you Fortnite slot twist, blot twist. He

775
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 5: becomes number one twitch streamer in the world.

776
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 1: Trying to my streaming career, and she just didn't believe

777
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 1: in him.

778
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:32,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, and that was such a nice guy.

779
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:35,440
Speaker 2: That's something Ben would come up with. This is this

780
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 2: is just a guy with the dreamt up and you're

781
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 2: getting a lot of smoke for you.

782
00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:45,920
Speaker 3: This coming from a guy who's never been married. Come on.

783
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,920
Speaker 4: Also, I like how he hasn't pointed out yet that

784
00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 4: I haven't been married.

785
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 2: No, I know what I've gotten up.

786
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 3: I've got burned this spin cycle nine.

787
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: He has the pin to my debit card because while

788
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 1: I didn't tell him about the money. I do let

789
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 1: him use it when he needs to, And we're going

790
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 1: to go into the comments and a juicy, juicy update.

791
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:10,840
Speaker 1: But I want to hear from you guys, like what

792
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:13,360
Speaker 1: do you think so far? Are we in divorced territory?

793
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 2: Stressed out? I? Like, I want her to leave. I

794
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 2: really she sounds so sweet.

795
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, she does sound really sweet and just like the but.

796
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 2: Also I don't know she needs to, Like it scares

797
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 2: me that she got married when she was nineteen, and

798
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,720
Speaker 2: like maybe she doesn't have a big support group of people.

799
00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:31,640
Speaker 3: I think they got together when I don't think they

800
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 3: got married. I don't think.

801
00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 1: I think like this, like when when with the dude

802
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 1: when she like turned nineteen, is all right, right now

803
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:39,760
Speaker 1: it's time, okay?

804
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 2: But either way, like I think, yeah, she needs friends

805
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 2: being like oh this is not right.

806
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 3: Or Internet strangers podcast right here.

807
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:52,240
Speaker 2: I don't know, because it's the fact that she's saying

808
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 2: stuff like I still trust him. It's like he continuously

809
00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 2: took out credit cards in your name and was just

810
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:01,239
Speaker 2: running them up and then would like, oh, sorry, just

811
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 2: gonna keep doing it, And she's like I trust him

812
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 2: in every way except financially.

813
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:10,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, we all want what's best for you. Here, this

814
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 3: is a safe space. And this guy is a dick

815
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,279
Speaker 3: in Italy. He sucks, he sucks, and you are better

816
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:18,759
Speaker 3: than that. And you're really hot. Whoa, you're so good

817
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 3: looking wearing that.

818
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 4: Maybe I'm so well. You're glowing, sweetie, you're glowing.

819
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 5: You sound like you want two hundred thousand dollars.

820
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no no.

821
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:29,280
Speaker 5: You sound like you want to split finances and be equitable.

822
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 3: Me. No, couldn't be me. No. But if you're out

823
00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 3: there and you're watching, leave him for me, come to me.

824
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 3: I don't care. I'm fine, I'm taking I don't know

825
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:46,760
Speaker 3: what I'm doing. I hit my head in the comments.

826
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 1: I've tried multiple different birth controls and the side effects

827
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:52,400
Speaker 1: make it difficult. However, my doctor and I have decided

828
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:55,160
Speaker 1: to tie my tubes because I've had multiple miscarriages and

829
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 1: high risk pregnancies.

830
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:57,960
Speaker 3: I didn't plan to have any more kids. But his

831
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 3: sister PopEd, wait wait, wait, what who is this?

832
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 4: This is?

833
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:03,240
Speaker 2: This is this is the open.

834
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 3: Replied, Oh my god, but my sister what his sister?

835
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 1: But his sister poked holes in our condoms and by

836
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:13,480
Speaker 1: the time we found out I was pregnant.

837
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 3: We couldn't get it.

838
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:15,360
Speaker 2: In her state.

839
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 3: So do to be do it? To be? B God?

840
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 3: Due to it being past six weeks?

841
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 2: What is going on her?

842
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 3: What?

843
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 2: This whole family? She needs to get away?

844
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:31,799
Speaker 3: Oh my, why does the sister have access to the condemns? A? Why? What?

845
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 3: What does the sister? Why does the sister? What is what?

846
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:40,399
Speaker 3: Is sick? Twisted and I mean crazy? Is the guy?

847
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:44,279
Speaker 1: This sounds like a terrible family to be a part of. Yeah,

848
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 1: you don't say so. Someone else asked in the comments

849
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:51,239
Speaker 1: if they are still in contact with the sister in law,

850
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:53,480
Speaker 1: and they said no. We cut contact when we discovered

851
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 1: I was pregnant. We told his family and she just

852
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:58,319
Speaker 1: laughed and threw it in our faces that she had

853
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:00,719
Speaker 1: the upper hands. We haven't spoken her since we found

854
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 1: out six months ago.

855
00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 2: Okay, so the brother was pissed as well. By the way,

856
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 2: there was a husband.

857
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, the husband was pissed as well. Whoa what the

858
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 3: but what's.

859
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:12,760
Speaker 2: Got the apprehend pregnant?

860
00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:17,359
Speaker 3: What fucking upper hand? She wants to adopt the kid?

861
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 3: Maybe she can't have kids? Her salve and she's like,

862
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 3: did you get from me another kids? Spoken her in

863
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:23,280
Speaker 3: seven months.

864
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 4: Jesus Christ, my plan could have worked perfectly, would have

865
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 4: had another kids is Christ?

866
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 3: So now we eve an update three days later. Oh god,

867
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 3: you're just torturing it at this point. All right? Yeah?

868
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:39,000
Speaker 2: Is it bad?

869
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 1: I'm not sure if this is how you update, but

870
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 1: I figured I would go ahead and try it. Over

871
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:45,799
Speaker 1: the last three days, I've spoken to my mom and

872
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 1: my in laws. My husband reached out to her that

873
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 1: he didn't want to be with me anymore.

874
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 2: But husband doesn't want to be with her.

875
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 3: And husband doesn't want to be with her, good riddance before,

876
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:57,920
Speaker 3: I mean, what the fuck? But it wasn't because of

877
00:37:57,920 --> 00:37:58,360
Speaker 3: the money.

878
00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 1: It was because he felt forced to get married and

879
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,319
Speaker 1: have a baby, even though we got pregnant with the

880
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 1: second one, because of his sister.

881
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 3: And he still blames me. Cool.

882
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:09,280
Speaker 2: This guy is such a sack of ship and so what.

883
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 4: Good rides her when his fucking sister? So what, you're

884
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 4: bigger than that, you're better than that sister get.

885
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:18,439
Speaker 1: Six years together and felt like he refused to even

886
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:19,160
Speaker 1: talk about it.

887
00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 3: So he's not even talking her anymore.

888
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 1: Even when we were in counseling, I asked his mom

889
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 1: what he wanted to do because he wasn't answering my

890
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 1: phone calls, her messages, and she said she sent him

891
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 1: money for a plane ticket so he could go to her,

892
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 1: going right back to mommy. I am heartbroken that she

893
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 1: didn't tell him or try harder for the kid. After all,

894
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:38,919
Speaker 1: his dad left him. After all his dad left him

895
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 1: and his siblings. But I can't force him to stay,

896
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 1: and I have to think about them right now. I

897
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 1: don't know what I'm supposed to do. I spoke to

898
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 1: a lawyer my friend used for his divorce yesterday, and

899
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 1: he's going to help me draw up a divorce plan.

900
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:52,279
Speaker 1: He said, my husband can go after the money, but

901
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 1: he doesn't think he will. I'm filing for full custody

902
00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: and we'll be asking for a minimum in child support

903
00:38:57,520 --> 00:38:59,919
Speaker 1: unless he wants to sign his rights over. I'm done

904
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,720
Speaker 1: being stupid and thinking he would grow up. I packed

905
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:05,399
Speaker 1: his things and hired a moving company to take them

906
00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 1: to his mom's house, so all his stuff will be

907
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 1: gone in a few days. My first clue he didn't

908
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:12,280
Speaker 1: want her daughter was that she was not even crying

909
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 1: asking where he is. She's just running around with me

910
00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 1: and my mom. I did send him a little bit

911
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: of money for his travels and told his mom, I'll

912
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 1: send it a divorce paper as soon as I get them.

913
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:22,719
Speaker 2: What the fuck?

914
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 3: She's an angel, true, she is the sweetest person.

915
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:29,760
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

916
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:32,439
Speaker 1: She told me okay and hung up. So that's what's

917
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 1: been happening the last few days. Haven't spoken to my

918
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,280
Speaker 1: soon to be ex husband, and I am now fully

919
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,800
Speaker 1: on my own the first time since I was nineteen.

920
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: I'm hoping everything goes good. Hopefully I don't have to

921
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 1: update again.

922
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:46,800
Speaker 2: Damn, two kids, husband's.

923
00:39:46,200 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 3: The end, and that's the end.

924
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 5: That's the end.

925
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 1: But no debt. I thought you were taking that out

926
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 1: to wipeway teen.

927
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 3: No, No, the hell was that.

928
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:57,760
Speaker 4: I was trying to clean up put my teeth feel gross,

929
00:39:57,760 --> 00:39:59,120
Speaker 4: and I was like, oh, I should just.

930
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 3: Like give him just do yeah camera, Yeah, editor, zoom

931
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 3: in on that. I really zoom in on his little

932
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:07,360
Speaker 3: little toothpick.

933
00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 2: God, this one's a bummer.

934
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:09,479
Speaker 1: Yeah.

935
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:10,919
Speaker 3: No, it has a happy ending.

936
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 2: I think it.

937
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:13,799
Speaker 3: Yeah's divorced, but she doesn't want it.

938
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:17,839
Speaker 5: She doesn't want him anymore. Is it like exposed everything right? Yeah,

939
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 5: because it seems like before she was almost completely oblivious

940
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,400
Speaker 5: and just letting him getting away with the most heinous

941
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 5: be all time. So the the not only did the

942
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 5: money come in and like obviously give her financial stability,

943
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:32,799
Speaker 5: but also it just happened to like set off this

944
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:35,359
Speaker 5: like nuclear chain reactor that exposed.

945
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, because he was a dick beforehand, Like he was

946
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 1: a massive the whole time. Yeah, the whole time, the

947
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 1: whole time. So now like maybe she can find a

948
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 1: better relationship.

949
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 3: Oh, yes, she's gonna be fine. My mom met my dad.

950
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:49,719
Speaker 4: She was twice divorced, had two kids, and she was

951
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:52,440
Speaker 4: like thirty three. Your mom was twice divorce and had

952
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 4: two kids with from each marriage or two different marriages.

953
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 5: So you're telling me your mom was married twice and

954
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 5: this man right here has not been married one single time.

955
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 4: This is I can't believe that, dude, no kids, single

956
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:08,360
Speaker 4: or it's not married, you know that single.

957
00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's true in the eyes of the law. In

958
00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:11,759
Speaker 3: the answer the law.

959
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:14,280
Speaker 2: How many times have you been married?

960
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 3: A couple of times you've been married.

961
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:19,399
Speaker 4: I've been married a couple of times about seventeen seven

962
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:20,120
Speaker 4: times seven.

963
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:24,279
Speaker 2: That's we went all the way back over. Ben thinks

964
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 2: the more you've been married, the more emotionally help you out.

965
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 2: I've been married nine times.

966
00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's fine.

967
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 2: You don't think I know a thing or two about relationships.

968
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:32,840
Speaker 4: I haven't been married a time, a single time. You

969
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 4: haven't even been engaged red flag, so what Yeah, it's red.

970
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 4: Some people like that color, some people's favorite color.

971
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 3: How long have you been in a relationship? Are longest

972
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:45,919
Speaker 3: relationship have been? Are you in a relationship? I am yeah?

973
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,160
Speaker 3: How long? It's been a little over six months? So

974
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:51,320
Speaker 3: when are you going to propose? Fair?

975
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:54,640
Speaker 2: At least what are you waiting for?

976
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 4: At least at least another six months? You can't propose

977
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:01,120
Speaker 4: before six months?

978
00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 3: You got to do it?

979
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:02,080
Speaker 2: Is that true?

980
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 3: Are nine months? They're nine months?

981
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:12,760
Speaker 5: My parents were nine months dating, then proposed and then good.

982
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 3: Marriage, like right before you.

983
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:16,960
Speaker 5: It was a different time. No, no, no, they had

984
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:17,879
Speaker 5: me five years later.

985
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:18,399
Speaker 3: Oh wow.

986
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 5: All of their siblings had been married and children by

987
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:24,479
Speaker 5: like twenty same thing with their kids.

988
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 3: My cousins.

989
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:25,479
Speaker 5: How old?

990
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:26,920
Speaker 2: How old were they when they got married?

991
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:29,719
Speaker 5: My parents like twenty nine? Both twenty nine?

992
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 2: Oh I think? Yeah, Well I think the older you get,

993
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:34,160
Speaker 2: the less time.

994
00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, unless you're Mormon than like twenty like all like

995
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:38,759
Speaker 1: the I talked to some of the Mormon kids, and

996
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,240
Speaker 1: they like, oh yeah, they all are like eighteen nineteen.

997
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:44,320
Speaker 7: But I think if you're like older in your uh

998
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 7: taking selfie, it's a video of you guys, Ah, you're cute.

999
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:54,520
Speaker 7: Love that, it's less weird to have a shorter dating

1000
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:55,760
Speaker 7: period before getting engaged.

1001
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 3: I think because you're like, we're fucking kind of been

1002
00:42:59,080 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 3: through it.

1003
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:01,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, I will tell you this, No, don't tell me

1004
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 4: ship when I I'll tell them when I get married.

1005
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:09,400
Speaker 4: I don't think I'm gonna do the whole thing ceremony.

1006
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:11,920
Speaker 2: It just makes it just want to go down too.

1007
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 5: We do have stories that you know, weddings are a you.

1008
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 1: Think your your your partners on on board from yes, yeah, yeah, just.

1009
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:23,839
Speaker 3: Like I have a party somewhere, that's it.

1010
00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:26,560
Speaker 2: Just like I've seen the way this guy, uh, the

1011
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 2: way he wriggles out of anything.

1012
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 3: Even if she didn't want, she definitely doesn't want.

1013
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 2: I don't even have to ask, does he make it

1014
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 2: seem like it was her idea?

1015
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 3: I have a baby said he didn't want that.

1016
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,360
Speaker 5: Why did you force us to get married?

1017
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 2: Baby?

1018
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 4: It's just the pomp and circumstance and the fucking the

1019
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 4: tradition and and all of that it's just it just

1020
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:48,359
Speaker 4: feels so weird and antiquated.

1021
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:51,000
Speaker 2: It feels especially I've gone to so many weddings.

1022
00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 3: Oh, this guy goes to a wig Man free single.

1023
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:56,840
Speaker 2: Fun It's I was literally just at a wedding on Saturday.

1024
00:43:56,880 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 2: It's really constant. But and it's funny. The more you go,

1025
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:03,840
Speaker 2: you start to get it. Well, you just go what

1026
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:07,959
Speaker 2: everyone is like my big special day, but you really

1027
00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:10,440
Speaker 2: start to realize what's happening is, no, you guys rented

1028
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 2: this venue. You guys are gonna get shuffled out here,

1029
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:14,880
Speaker 2: and honestly, probably tomorrow because now people do weddings on

1030
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 2: Sundays and Fridays. There's gonna be a new bride and

1031
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:19,040
Speaker 2: groom coming through here. And it's just like all so

1032
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 2: weird that I remember I had a I had two

1033
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 2: weddings back to back weekends, and that's when it was

1034
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:26,280
Speaker 2: really like, wow, we're all just like going through the motions.

1035
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:29,040
Speaker 2: It was like and now here's the father daughter dance,

1036
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:31,320
Speaker 2: and and you're like, Jesus fucking Christ, I can't.

1037
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 5: Believe a year then it I mean, yeah, it's just

1038
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 5: it's just very so.

1039
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 3: You're not going to have a wedding either, I definitely.

1040
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 2: If I was gonna get married, I would definitely just

1041
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:45,799
Speaker 2: like go down to the courthouse and get it, you know,

1042
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:48,280
Speaker 2: get it taken down.

1043
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:48,760
Speaker 3: There with a gun.

1044
00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:57,279
Speaker 5: They're pretty cute.

1045
00:44:57,680 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 2: Come on, I signed your own marriage certificate. I could see.

1046
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 2: I could see planning like a little thing later, but

1047
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 2: without the pressure too. That's the thing. It's like, you know,

1048
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:10,279
Speaker 2: the whole marriage industrial complex. It's like we live in

1049
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:13,839
Speaker 2: a society, but like that's the thing too. You know,

1050
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 2: people get engaged and then it's like the clock starts ticking.

1051
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 2: It's like, well, we don't want a long engagement and

1052
00:45:18,080 --> 00:45:21,800
Speaker 2: we need to start planning. And it's just so I

1053
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:24,200
Speaker 2: could see like getting married and be like, great, it's done.

1054
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 2: You know, we can have the tax benefits and everything,

1055
00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:29,359
Speaker 2: and then whenever we want to do something, we can

1056
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:31,360
Speaker 2: invite everyone to do it. We don't have to start

1057
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 2: being like calling venues.

1058
00:45:33,120 --> 00:45:36,239
Speaker 1: And do you feel any sort of pressure either be

1059
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:37,280
Speaker 1: on that to get married?

1060
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:41,279
Speaker 3: Yeah? No, none, none, no sick.

1061
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:44,920
Speaker 5: I have a question to close it out that I

1062
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 5: think you know, you two are specifically built for.

1063
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 3: Yeah to.

1064
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 5: Bralic Finance Bros. Okay, op now is probably going through divorce?

1065
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 5: Is basically going to be did she did? We conclude on.

1066
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 3: That she's going to be yours and she's going to

1067
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:04,720
Speaker 3: take custody of the kids.

1068
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:07,879
Speaker 5: So now that op single has let's call it maybe

1069
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:10,239
Speaker 5: one hundred and fifty ish some somewhere around there, a

1070
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 5: lot of money, more money than she had, what should

1071
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 5: she do with the money now to help secure her

1072
00:46:15,480 --> 00:46:19,120
Speaker 5: in her children's future. And your guys is professional, Yeah,

1073
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 5: professional pay pigs.

1074
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:23,800
Speaker 3: Well, first of all, we're not. We're not professionals.

1075
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:26,680
Speaker 2: We're not even finings. We like we have a show

1076
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:29,879
Speaker 2: where we make fun of the finance. Yeah, fair and fair,

1077
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 2: but just to caveat that. But and if you like

1078
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 2: that kind of thing, come join us where we we

1079
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 2: have a comedy show. But yeah, I don't know.

1080
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:41,480
Speaker 3: You pay off all your debt first, Yeah, get rid

1081
00:46:41,520 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 3: of all that debt.

1082
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 4: Don't buy anything, I would say, instead of here's what

1083
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:48,319
Speaker 4: you should do. Some of the things you shouldn't do.

1084
00:46:49,440 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 4: And this is just I mean, I'm living proof because

1085
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 4: I never do it. Don't buy any new cars. She

1086
00:46:55,200 --> 00:46:58,480
Speaker 4: sounds smart enough to not do it. I have new car,

1087
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 4: nothing flashy. Don't live beyond your means. Put that money

1088
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 4: I would put that money in like index funds.

1089
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, she was already doing it right. She like set

1090
00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 2: up her kid and her future kid savings accounts, was

1091
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 2: immediately like paying off debt. It doesn't sound like she

1092
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:20,480
Speaker 2: bought like one high ticket item. It's like do that shit. Yeah,

1093
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 2: and now there's like high yield savings accounts she can

1094
00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 2: put it in.

1095
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:24,360
Speaker 4: Uh.

1096
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:26,759
Speaker 3: She could also just give it to me. Yeah, i'd

1097
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:28,920
Speaker 3: take you a way to do it. Yeah. Some might

1098
00:47:28,960 --> 00:47:31,080
Speaker 3: say that that's a smart I mean I would give

1099
00:47:31,120 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 3: her stock in me.

1100
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 2: I would also say take your time in dating. It

1101
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:38,239
Speaker 2: sounds like, yeah, you need to really think what's out

1102
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 2: there after this, because her biggest financial problem seemed to

1103
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:46,880
Speaker 2: be fucking jackass. You know, she seems like she's got

1104
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:50,440
Speaker 2: a head on her shoulders. So I would say, it's

1105
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 2: a big wide world out there. Find someone you fit with,

1106
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:56,920
Speaker 2: you know, with similar values, similar goals.

1107
00:47:57,400 --> 00:48:00,120
Speaker 1: I think that is a beautiful place to end, the

1108
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:02,560
Speaker 1: most beautiful and thanks for watching.

1109
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:04,680
Speaker 3: If you guys, I want to check out.

1110
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:10,240
Speaker 1: These beautiful gentlemen, you should go to pay pigs wherever.

1111
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 4: Uh a search for pay pigs pod pay pigs is

1112
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:18,040
Speaker 4: two separate words, and yeah, you'll find us huge.

1113
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:19,879
Speaker 2: It's a fun show. Come join the show.

1114
00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 3: We like it. Damn