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Speaker 1: Charlotte, Jake, some donkey today is just sudy, Charlie, man, ready,

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Speaker 1: I never heard them donkey say it again? Charley, you

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Speaker 2: Is you okay? If the puma fits, you're gonna wear

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Speaker 2: it today?

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Speaker 1: See Valentine's Day to day that is for the loving you,

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Speaker 1: Salute to everyone out there who has a Valentine Drop

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Speaker 2: All right? How do you feel about Valentine's Day?

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Speaker 1: On Thirteen percent of people say it's their favorite holiday,

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Speaker 1: six percent of people say they hate it, five percent

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Speaker 1: percent say they are more into Singles Awareness Day. Ten

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Speaker 1: Nine percent of people buy candy and flowers for themselves

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Speaker 2: That's self love, I respect it, okay.

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Speaker 1: Twenty three percent of single women would rather spend Valentine's

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Speaker 1: percent of men say the same. Forty nine percent of

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Speaker 1: Americans treat their pets on Valentine's treat their pets the

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Speaker 1: what all right? We gotta watch those people because they

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Speaker 2: On my heart this morning, and I must deliver.

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Speaker 1: Did you know just hilarious that Valentine'sday is less popular

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Speaker 1: among men than women. Thirteen percent of men say Valentine's

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Speaker 1: There is their favorite holiday.

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Speaker 2: Eight percent of men absolutely hated.

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Speaker 1: Meanwhile, thirteen percent of women claim Valentine's There is their

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Speaker 1: enjoy the single life more than men do. Only nine

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Speaker 1: it's rooted in love. If you've been listening to the

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Speaker 1: I have given donkey to people.

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Speaker 2: Who don't have nobody.

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Speaker 1: And it's not that I was shaming people for not

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Speaker 2: Okay, it's by choice. The people I would.

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Speaker 2: To downplay those of us that do.

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Speaker 1: Don't buy humbug on Valentine's Day because you single, don't

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Speaker 1: be the grinch that stole Valentine's Day. You mad because

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Speaker 2: And now you mad. Okay, now you mad, all right?

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Speaker 2: You mad at everybody who got a bull.

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Speaker 1: You mad at the eighty five percent of women that

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Speaker 1: seventy three percent of flowers that will be purchased by men. Today,

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Speaker 1: Sit your heart shaped, candy hating ass down and let

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Speaker 2: To hear, but it's going to change your life.

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Speaker 1: God told me to tell you that the reason you

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Speaker 2: Is simply because you're a terrible toxic person.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, It is Valentine for you to acknowledge

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Speaker 1: You the wrong partner somebody chose. See, so many of

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Speaker 1: It is time to identify your toxic traits. And once

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Speaker 1: It's that unhealed trauma that you haven't dealt with that

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Speaker 2: A first date.

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Speaker 1: The cheesecake factory, applebeasts, olive garden, the movies, coffee dates,

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Speaker 1: those people aren't happy with themselves. One of the main

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Speaker 2: The reason you don't want to go anywhere.

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Speaker 2: You're afraid you're gonna get found out.

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Speaker 2: Don't try to act, you know, like.

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Speaker 1: Buffalo Wild Wings, Red Lobster, waffle House and sporting events

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, this is on you.

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Speaker 1: This is why they say your trauma may not be

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Speaker 1: because in life, we attract what we are, and if

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Speaker 1: right now, let's just focus on the fact you might

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Speaker 2: A horrible person.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know why you horrible. Some of y'all

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Speaker 1: stop acting like there's no good partners out there, because

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Speaker 2: I promise it's you.

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Speaker 1: Some of y'all too self senate, okay, And there's nothing

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Speaker 2: Have some issues you need to address. If you neglect

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Speaker 1: Such as your children and other family members and friends,

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Speaker 1: then why or why would you get blessed with a Valentine?

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Speaker 2: Are a Valentine? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Donkey of today today is you. It's your fault. You

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Speaker 1: the reason this is happening to you. Terrible men get

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Speaker 2: Fix youall.

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Speaker 1: Please Let Ringy magive all the single because they are

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Speaker 3: He huh ah, you stupid mind?

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Speaker 2: Are you dumb?

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Speaker 4: It's you got security today You're gonna get punched in

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Speaker 4: the head again.

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Speaker 2: They're gonna get slapped.

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Speaker 4: It's crazy.

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Speaker 2: He don't even know, He don't even know who he

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Speaker 2: work with, crazy, I was talking to all of them.

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Speaker 2: I was selling all of them.

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Speaker 1: See all the producers pissed off at you right now, Well,

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Speaker 1: they need to look in the mirror.

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Speaker 2: Damn I'm not talking. I'm not saying I'm talking to them.

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Speaker 2: I said that.

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Speaker 4: Damn Well, accountability is something that people should take.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 4: I remember being in a relationship. I was being in relationships.

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Speaker 4: I was one of those people. I wasn't a good

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Speaker 4: person for a long time. But I also didn't know

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Speaker 4: I was young, I was dating older guys. I was

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Speaker 4: I was getting whatever I could for me and my son.

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Speaker 4: Believe that had lights was off?

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Speaker 1: What's up a thousand dollars?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like all that everything.

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Speaker 4: And then I was with I had relationships, one relationship.

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Speaker 2: With a good guy, cheated on them all that. So

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Speaker 2: I definitely you understand what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 4: I do understand.

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Speaker 2: I was once a bad person. That's right.

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Speaker 1: Let's let's look you a good person and you blessed.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something, just the realist I heard

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Speaker 1: just say in the meeting the other day. I don't

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Speaker 1: even know why she volunteered this information. She was like,

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Speaker 1: I've been quit honing, Like what.

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Speaker 3: First of all, I'm like, what she did, executive, don't

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Speaker 3: I just like that?

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Speaker 4: No, we was talking about my journey.

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Speaker 2: I said at the beginning, Yeah, I was.

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Speaker 4: I was going, you know, but then I stopped.

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Speaker 2: Then I stopped because I grew into who I was.

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Speaker 2: That's right, I evolved. There you go.

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