1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,000 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for wanting to be intimate 2 00:00:02,080 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: with my wife? I don't know, Sophia, Yes, yes, this 3 00:00:07,240 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: is now. This story is answer the question how should 4 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:12,240 Speaker 1: you handle disagreements when married? And it comes from turbulent 5 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:14,760 Speaker 1: context nine forty four, who says, I, male twenty eight, 6 00:00:14,840 --> 00:00:17,320 Speaker 1: dated my wife let's call her Rena female twenty six, 7 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 1: for three years before we got married, and during that 8 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:21,959 Speaker 1: time she made it known that she would like to 9 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 1: remain a virgin until marriage. We both met in a 10 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 1: religious event and are both church going and religious. 11 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 2: This is not a problem. 12 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 1: She's overall a wonderful person, the most caring, loving, sweet 13 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: wife I could ever have, and not to mention beautiful 14 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: as well. She takes care of me and even took 15 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: some time to take care of my mother when she 16 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:42,480 Speaker 1: was the hospital due to a car accident, and has 17 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: no problem with babysitting my sister's kids five and seven, 18 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: who love her very much. 19 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:48,520 Speaker 2: Dude, what can't she do? Supergirlfriends? 20 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:49,320 Speaker 3: That sounds amazing. 21 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 1: Everyone tells me how lucky I am, and I feel 22 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: the same. We've been married for four months now and 23 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: live together in my apartment. Her grandma had been sick 24 00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: for years and her dying wish was to see Rena 25 00:00:59,760 --> 00:01:00,720 Speaker 1: get married. 26 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:02,760 Speaker 2: Before she passes. I don't know if we do pull 27 00:01:02,760 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 2: this right now, but I'm curious in the comments. Do 28 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:06,840 Speaker 2: you get married for a. 29 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:09,200 Speaker 1: Like if you have a you know someone in your 30 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:12,039 Speaker 1: life you love a lot, do you get married. 31 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 3: Like if your relative's going to die, you get married. 32 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't think we need to do a poll. 33 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:22,839 Speaker 2: I'm curious, disgussm very curious. Do you marry? 34 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 3: Do you marry? 35 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:24,960 Speaker 2: Yeah? Yes or no. 36 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 1: I'm curious someone you really love, you know, someone that 37 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:29,680 Speaker 1: like you know, not just like anybody, you know what 38 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:31,319 Speaker 1: I mean. But anyway, I'm curious. 39 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:35,759 Speaker 3: Anny, old grandmamma, a super grandma. 40 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm curious what you have to say. 41 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 1: So Rina is the only girl among eight cousins, so 42 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:42,959 Speaker 1: she was very special and close to her grandparents. Knowing this, 43 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 1: I proposed to her as her whole family and mind 44 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: have basically become one and it. 45 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:47,880 Speaker 2: Was a no brainer at that point. 46 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: We got married in the courthouse within a week after 47 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 1: knowing the prognosis. We went straight to the hospital and 48 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 1: had a small party there with her. Since she had 49 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: a private room in the hotel, staff allowed adly she 50 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: passed about seventeen. Wow, you know, kine beautiful though, you 51 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: know that they were able to have as long as 52 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 1: everyone's on board. Yeah, like which he was the one 53 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 1: that did it, so he was definitely on board. 54 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 2: It's kind of beautiful. 55 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: But later that night, later that night, Sofia, after getting 56 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:13,640 Speaker 1: to the hotel from the wedding, she tells me she 57 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: thinks we should wait until we marry in a church 58 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: because she considers this marriage legal but not anointed by God, 59 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 1: and it's not right. 60 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 2: It's not right. 61 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:22,959 Speaker 1: We cut all kiss, but then when it gets heated, 62 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: she stops at midway and tells me the time will 63 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:27,519 Speaker 1: come and we will enjoy it. Our families are planning 64 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 1: a big church wedding for us in April, when we 65 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: will be fully yoked. But I don't know how I 66 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 1: could wait that long. I guess fully yoked is like 67 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:37,160 Speaker 1: fully marriage. Ye, yeah, there you go. 68 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 2: It is terribly uncomfortable cuddling in bed with her. 69 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: And wanting to make sweet, sweet love with her, knowing 70 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 1: I can't. She moved in with me in my one 71 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:48,520 Speaker 1: bedroom apartment a month after our marriage. Has been three 72 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,280 Speaker 1: months now of cohabiting temporarily before we move into a 73 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 1: bigger place. I feel in every way we are a 74 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,639 Speaker 1: married couple, not newlyweds, but more like an old couple 75 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: because of a lacking in the intimacy department. We do 76 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: grocery together, clean, cook take care of each other, except 77 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:05,240 Speaker 1: at that part. She says she believes our first time 78 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:07,200 Speaker 1: will be special since we will have it during our 79 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 1: honeymoon in Spain, right in for the wedding. We have 80 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: both been a big fan of Spain. Anyway, the other night, 81 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 1: we were watching a movie and started kissing that gradually. 82 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:16,239 Speaker 2: Ended up getting more and more heated. 83 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 1: He stops me after some time, and we had an 84 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: argument because yes, I know I was in the wrong 85 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: and didn't control myself. I guess I should have asked 86 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:26,679 Speaker 1: what marriage and spicy sleep really meant to her before proposing, 87 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:29,800 Speaker 1: instead of assuming. But I also think I'm being deprived 88 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: of something important in a relationship. She didn't speak to 89 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,360 Speaker 1: me for two days, and just a while ago we 90 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: had an honest conversation and have decided that we should 91 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 1: just move back to our parents until our actual church 92 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 1: wedding in April. We originally thought living together since we 93 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:45,839 Speaker 1: were legally married, would be good, would be a good 94 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 1: start at knowing each other. But I guess this is 95 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 1: for the best. I still have this nagging feeling in 96 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 1: my head. So am I the ahole for wanting intimacy 97 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: for my wife? 98 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:55,480 Speaker 2: Also? I never once forced myself on her. 99 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 1: Everything we do is consensual and I always stop as 100 00:03:57,760 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: soon as she says no because I respect her. I 101 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:01,839 Speaker 1: guess I'm just frustrated most of all, and I want 102 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: to know if I'm an a hole for feeling this way. 103 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 2: Sofia, we have edits, we have at all. We have comments. 104 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 1: My God, we have up but you know what we 105 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 1: have to do first, we have to talk about it. 106 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 3: It's because I have to break I've had thoughts and feelings. 107 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:21,359 Speaker 2: So interesting situation. Yeah, that op is in. 108 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 3: Yeah. My initial thoughts are because someone said that they 109 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 3: get both puvis and I think I'm on that kind 110 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 3: of train right now. Yes, yeah, Because on one hand 111 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 3: you have the wife who obviously we're looking at it. 112 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:36,840 Speaker 3: We're like, oh, well, she said she wanted to wait 113 00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 3: until marriage. But also if this is part of her 114 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 3: religion of like wanting to wait until marriage, it makes 115 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 3: sense that she wants that in a church because it's 116 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:47,560 Speaker 3: part of her religion, So like I understand that part, 117 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:49,720 Speaker 3: but then I also understand his part a little bit 118 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:51,480 Speaker 3: because I think that a lot of people who do 119 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:54,839 Speaker 3: wait for marriage don't tend to live together before that. 120 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, this is a very like different scenario for 121 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 1: this type of situate, like a very religious, like religious 122 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 1: celibacy and abstinence before marriage. Yeah type deal. I honestly 123 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:07,840 Speaker 1: I agree with you. I think I kind of see 124 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:09,840 Speaker 1: both sides. Where there was one point that he mentioned 125 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 1: right before he finished this part where he said, you know, 126 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:15,799 Speaker 1: maybe I did have communicated more on what that meant. 127 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: And I think ideally both of them should have like 128 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:22,480 Speaker 1: tried to come to the table because like op knowing 129 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 1: that he's like he's in his mind, he's like, oh, 130 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: I'm excited for this to finally happen, and he's thinking 131 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 1: that the legal marriage was it. 132 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, right, and she should have been like, actually, this 133 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 3: is what I'm thinking is a marriage in my mind? 134 00:05:33,640 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: Yes, So like the ideal scenario is kind of what 135 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,359 Speaker 1: he said, where hey, we talk about this before I 136 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 1: do the proposal, so that way we kind of know 137 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:43,920 Speaker 1: before he does the big proposal and they see Grandma 138 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:46,280 Speaker 1: and everything, they know both of them what they're getting into, 139 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 1: and they can either agree or yeah, maybe disagree or 140 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:51,600 Speaker 1: or maybe like maybe at that point it's like, hey, 141 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:55,000 Speaker 1: do we move up the church wedding to like to 142 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:56,480 Speaker 1: a little bit make that yeah, to a little bit 143 00:05:56,520 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 1: sooner and maybe like you do the like the church 144 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:00,159 Speaker 1: wedding there, like you rush the church wedding and then 145 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 1: you go to grandma's for the reception kind of like 146 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: they did, you know, from courthouse to their grandma in 147 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: the hospital. So yeah, I feel like, yeah, I see, 148 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 1: I see both sides. I don't think are they both 149 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 1: the ahole and not the A whole at the same 150 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 1: time for not communicating, Yeah, I think I'm trying to say. 151 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 3: I think that they're not necessarily Yeah, I think they're 152 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 3: to me, I don't think there are any A holes, 153 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 3: but they communicate. 154 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, they just need to community. 155 00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 3: I think there's a problem and it's communication. 156 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:24,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred. 157 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:27,720 Speaker 3: What a fitting thing for a linka lashat to say, I. 158 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: Have never heard that. Oh, I have never heard of 159 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: that saying what if? Is that a French saying French? Well, 160 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 1: we have more story to read, ladies and gentlemen. We're 161 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: going to get into this first edit. So thanks everyone 162 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:46,640 Speaker 1: for you feedback. I was reading everything and appreciate your points. 163 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 1: I do want to point out that we are not 164 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:51,840 Speaker 1: getting divorced or annulled, and I know I have no 165 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:54,279 Speaker 1: right to force her into anything. Yes, I just want 166 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:56,920 Speaker 1: to let out how I feel. Also, like I mentioned 167 00:06:56,960 --> 00:06:59,239 Speaker 1: in the comments, we also would like a larger wedding, 168 00:06:59,240 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: although it takes. 169 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:02,080 Speaker 2: Long to plan. Since her and my relatives are available 170 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:02,920 Speaker 2: in April and have. 171 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: Already taken PTO, that is an important thing to consider 172 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: where It's like weddings take so much planning and logistics 173 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:12,480 Speaker 1: and they honestly would probably have to scrap most of 174 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 1: what they planned for, which would. 175 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 2: Be pretty like hard to do. 176 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, or everyone involved that I feel like, because like 177 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 1: maybe people can't make it like yeah if. 178 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 3: You have weddings that are not in your country hard 179 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 3: like anything. 180 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: And just to bone to bone, maybe it's too large 181 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:30,120 Speaker 1: up in order. I will wait for her, of course, 182 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,240 Speaker 1: and I value her virtues and how strong she is 183 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 1: with her principles. We didn't talk about Spicy Sleep before 184 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: the courthouse wedding, I guess because we both had differing 185 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: assumptions on the relationship and despite her wanting the church 186 00:07:41,400 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 1: wedding before we moved in. She offered to move in 187 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: as a compromise since she knows what she's asking is. 188 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:47,560 Speaker 2: Also not easy. 189 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 1: Honestly, it sounds like and I think they moved back separately, 190 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: like just before we finished the first part. Oh oh, okay, 191 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 1: I think so. I honestly think at that point, I 192 00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: see where she's coming from. She's like, hey, here's a 193 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:02,320 Speaker 1: little give. But honestly, it's like worse. Yeah, bropy, because 194 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 1: it sounds like it sounds like op was like totally 195 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:06,920 Speaker 1: on board, like they were living separately. They had the relationship. 196 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: It was like kind of je working well, but now 197 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 1: he's like, yo, I'm right here, and yeah, I. 198 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 3: Feel like this isn't put the pressure on her, not 199 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 3: in like a she's in the wrong or anything, but 200 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 3: I think he'd be a little bit of pressure on 201 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 3: herself because they were technically legally married. And then she 202 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:23,720 Speaker 3: was like, oh, well we should move in together. That 203 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 3: will you know, that will tide you over? 204 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 1: Well intentioned, but I had unintended consequences. And I don't 205 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 1: think another small gathering is necessary because at this point 206 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:35,440 Speaker 1: it will be all just for show and take away 207 00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:37,680 Speaker 1: the uniqueness of the church wedding and the feelings involved 208 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 1: if we had too many wedding related events. I wanted 209 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 1: to feel special on that day because she is, and 210 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 1: to feel like how a bride does on that one 211 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 1: special day. Legally, though, she has started using my surname 212 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 1: because she acknowledges we are married, but that our church 213 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 1: wedding will wet us in all ways. We had the 214 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:56,600 Speaker 1: courthouse wedding but didn't invite our minister because as I mentioned, 215 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:58,880 Speaker 1: we wanted the church wedding to be on our big 216 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: special day. Only what I meant by controlling myself is 217 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:05,319 Speaker 1: my frustration, not necessarily my desires to take it further. Also, 218 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 1: her parents have never told us we had to wait 219 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:10,959 Speaker 1: or our church. They consider us married already. I guess 220 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:13,200 Speaker 1: for my wife it's more of a symbolism of marrying 221 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 1: in the church and for the honeymoon to be in 222 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 1: every sense of the word. And like we said before, 223 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 1: this is simply a issue of communication, like if that 224 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:23,439 Speaker 1: is what she wants and believe that is a million 225 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 1: times okay, infinity times okay, It's just the matter of 226 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:30,280 Speaker 1: like both getting on get on the yeah, letting him 227 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: know that that they can plan having spicy sleep and 228 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:35,200 Speaker 1: then going on a honeymoon defeats the purpose, and I 229 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:37,320 Speaker 1: also think it would be great to do it. 230 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 2: Then we fly to. 231 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:40,280 Speaker 1: Spain the next day after the wedding, and don't think 232 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 1: we would even have the energy for anything the night 233 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:43,760 Speaker 1: of the church wedding. 234 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 2: That's a great point. 235 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 3: That is those actually super jetlagged. 236 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:50,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, that is a fantastic point. What the heck? She 237 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 2: is nice well as well. It's the clear things out right, 238 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:53,960 Speaker 2: it is. 239 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it's always a possibility, but I 240 00:09:56,559 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 1: mean she did. 241 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:58,920 Speaker 3: I mean, I feel like it was pretty clear that 242 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 3: it's really just. 243 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 2: That is true. We have seen bigger plot tists on. 244 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:06,440 Speaker 1: This show to be clear. Oh my god, she is 245 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 1: not a all the clear things up. I know everyone 246 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: doesn't believe in abstinence and applying Bible principles in life, 247 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:12,760 Speaker 1: and I understand that, but. 248 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:15,120 Speaker 2: I request to please respect ours. 249 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 1: Right now, she will be staying with her parents, but 250 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 1: we are planning on talking to a counselor as well 251 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 1: as our minister if we could change any arrangements if needed, 252 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:26,679 Speaker 1: about our thoughts on spicy sleep in our unique circumstance. 253 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 2: Thanks. That is another good thing. 254 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 1: I think in addition to now having it, seems like 255 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 1: they've now are talking about it. Now they're living separately, 256 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: So I think that will you know, help Op kind 257 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 1: of get back to a place where he was before, 258 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:42,080 Speaker 1: where it wasn't like such a temptation. And now they're 259 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 1: getting some counseling handling it pretty well. 260 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, what are you saying? 261 00:10:45,559 --> 00:10:47,000 Speaker 3: I know, I think they're on the right track. I 262 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 3: feel like they talked about the issue and then they're 263 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 3: making the moves to figure it out. 264 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: So feel Why do I feel like I feel a 265 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: plot twist divorce coming up? Why do I feel that? 266 00:10:55,160 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 3: I don't know, I feel I think you feel that 267 00:10:57,200 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 3: because you've been burned so many times. 268 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:02,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, nothing, so often in these stories it 269 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:04,199 Speaker 1: doesn't work out, And this is. 270 00:11:04,160 --> 00:11:08,440 Speaker 2: Going too well. It is going too well at this point, Sophia. 271 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 3: I feel like will on board. 272 00:11:09,920 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 2: Okay. 273 00:11:11,040 --> 00:11:13,920 Speaker 1: Also, to address the elephant that's not in the room, 274 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,439 Speaker 1: A lot of you are commenting before, Oh, hey, Riley's. 275 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:21,199 Speaker 2: Getting back, Oh hay Hou's vacation. No, Riley isn't here. 276 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 2: Why isn't he here? 277 00:11:22,040 --> 00:11:24,720 Speaker 1: He's not here because he he booked a very late 278 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 1: flight with a certain paper towel tube airplane, spirited airline, 279 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 1: a certain cardboard with box with wings that was not 280 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: able to that literally completely canceled and was already a 281 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 1: red eye. So he's going to be back hopefully tonight. 282 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 1: He did text an update that I did not read. 283 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:44,280 Speaker 2: But I will read later. He's coming around six, he 284 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:44,679 Speaker 2: said that. 285 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 1: He said that today, so fingers crossed, Fingers cross, ladies 286 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:49,920 Speaker 1: a gentleman. Also, we're going to be at VIDCN this 287 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:53,840 Speaker 1: Wednesday through Saturday. If you are going to be at VidCon, 288 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: please say hi, Hi, Please, Oh Sophia, you want to 289 00:11:57,679 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 1: maybe okay, storytime you're running someone Culver City. 290 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,719 Speaker 3: I was in Culver City with a friend on Friday 291 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:08,719 Speaker 3: and a lovely one of one of you lovelies, your 292 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 3: name was Savannah after you're there, came up and said Hi. 293 00:12:11,040 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 3: It was really nice. 294 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 2: I was. 295 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:14,320 Speaker 1: I was very excited about Savannah. That was that your 296 00:12:14,360 --> 00:12:15,600 Speaker 1: first solo fan interaction? 297 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 2: Oh? 298 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, solo because the other two were with first was 299 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 3: with Riley and then the rest of the second one 300 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 3: was with you guys, And that was my first solo Yeah. 301 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:25,120 Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, is right. 302 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 1: The crazy thing is when we go all together me 303 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:31,160 Speaker 1: and Sam went to Vegas at like the end of 304 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:32,839 Speaker 1: twenty twenty two to do some man on the street 305 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 1: content and we he wore like the orange jacket. The 306 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:37,760 Speaker 1: amount of times we got recognized was like. 307 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:38,880 Speaker 3: It's the orange jacket. 308 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: It was infinitely more than we'd ever been recognized, like 309 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 1: even even to this day. Like I think if we're 310 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:46,360 Speaker 1: with all four of us together and at VIDCN, we 311 00:12:46,440 --> 00:12:49,599 Speaker 1: might we might see some friends, some okay friends, some 312 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:50,439 Speaker 1: okay family. 313 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:54,120 Speaker 3: My mom's been making me clothes so that I'm stylish 314 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:55,040 Speaker 3: at d con. 315 00:12:55,120 --> 00:13:00,559 Speaker 1: Oh really, Sam and Sophia's mom is like a amazing 316 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:04,359 Speaker 1: at both design and clothing and architecture. 317 00:13:04,480 --> 00:13:05,920 Speaker 3: She's a jack of all trades. 318 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:08,160 Speaker 2: What a what a gem? What a gem? But ladies 319 00:13:08,200 --> 00:13:11,080 Speaker 2: and gentlemen, there is a gem that is the reveal 320 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:11,720 Speaker 2: of this. 321 00:13:11,640 --> 00:13:14,240 Speaker 3: Story, whether or not it ends apply. 322 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:16,720 Speaker 2: Or or divorce. Like I'm predicting, do we think divorce? 323 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:18,000 Speaker 2: Do we think divorce? 324 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:21,120 Speaker 1: We can end this poul So this was most sixty 325 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 1: eight percent said No, I would not marry someone because 326 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:27,600 Speaker 1: my grandma is going, oh wait, wait wait, what if 327 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:30,280 Speaker 1: we call we have spicy sleep? What about dirt sleep? 328 00:13:30,559 --> 00:13:33,160 Speaker 1: Have we already have we already talked to That's good, 329 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:35,720 Speaker 1: like all the sleeps all. 330 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:36,880 Speaker 3: What is the question? 331 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:40,120 Speaker 2: You know, that is a great question. Yes, divorce? 332 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:41,600 Speaker 3: Yes or no horizon? 333 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 2: Are they going to divorce? 334 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:45,840 Speaker 1: I just have a I have no I have nothing 335 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:48,240 Speaker 1: to stand on faith, but I have a feeling. 336 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 3: But you know what this story is about, John, what faith? 337 00:13:51,200 --> 00:13:55,360 Speaker 1: Gosh darn if you're not right, Sophia, Well, let's figure 338 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:58,120 Speaker 1: out what happens. So a commentary asked for a rel 339 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:00,920 Speaker 1: The comments ask op if you had to discussed spicy 340 00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:03,920 Speaker 1: sleep after marriage due to his wife's beliefs Opie says, yes, 341 00:14:03,960 --> 00:14:06,560 Speaker 1: she is very honest and is actually very curious about 342 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:09,040 Speaker 1: spicy sleep and even talks about how this is a 343 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:10,120 Speaker 1: very spiritual connection. 344 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 2: But she would really like us to wed in the church. 345 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:15,800 Speaker 1: And have our marriage be blessed anointed by a big 346 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: man himself. 347 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 2: Update number one. 348 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 1: It's been a while since I posted about my situation 349 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:21,160 Speaker 1: with my wife, and I just want to give a 350 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:23,840 Speaker 1: little update. I talked to Rena, his wife, the day 351 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:26,520 Speaker 1: after I posted, and talked about what exactly is holding 352 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:28,640 Speaker 1: her back and asked if she has any concerns she 353 00:14:28,680 --> 00:14:30,160 Speaker 1: could open up to me and talk about it. 354 00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 2: Like a married couple. If she even considered. 355 00:14:32,200 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 1: Us one ooo oooh yout that was a little bit 356 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:38,360 Speaker 1: uh laws out, that was that was a little me, 357 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:46,160 Speaker 1: We need a little more exactly shut out. She told 358 00:14:46,160 --> 00:14:47,960 Speaker 1: me she had seen the post and had actually read 359 00:14:48,000 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 1: a lot of the comments you guys posted and realized 360 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:52,640 Speaker 1: it stems from her feeling everything was so rushed and 361 00:14:52,720 --> 00:14:55,160 Speaker 1: it was not how she expected to get married and 362 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 1: in her head and what comes after that, which. 363 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:58,960 Speaker 3: I think is a valid feeling. They did get They 364 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 3: did have to rush the wedding for the grandma. 365 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:03,840 Speaker 1: They had this whole thing planned out, and now they're like, oh, 366 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:07,280 Speaker 1: let's do it immediately. That's totally fair. That's a that's 367 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 1: a big change, big change to deal with. She wanted 368 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: to make her nana happy, but at my expense. It 369 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 1: dawned on her after our small party in the hospital 370 00:15:14,720 --> 00:15:17,600 Speaker 1: how she didn't feel ready for it because she didn't 371 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 1: quote unquote feel married, thus letting me know later on 372 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:23,240 Speaker 1: that she wanted to wait. She has apologized about how 373 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 1: she handled things and thanked me for being patient. I 374 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: have done the same, and we have been talking about. 375 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:29,480 Speaker 2: It every day. Although she still lives with her. 376 00:15:29,320 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 1: Parents, we changed our plans altogether and have decided to 377 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:36,960 Speaker 1: do an elopement and be married in Romeoo. 378 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:39,160 Speaker 2: Honestly, kind of fine, ter and better. I like the solution. 379 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:41,840 Speaker 1: We contacted a relative we have living there who set 380 00:15:41,880 --> 00:15:44,360 Speaker 1: up everything from the venue, photographer and the minister. Wow, 381 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 1: we decided on a little ceremony by the lake with 382 00:15:46,960 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: just us, minister, our relative and the photographer. We are 383 00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 1: going to be leaving in a week and we are 384 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 1: very excited about it. And since we will be there, 385 00:15:54,160 --> 00:15:56,800 Speaker 1: we'll have our honeymoon in Spain right after as planned, 386 00:15:56,880 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: since it's only a few hours away. 387 00:15:58,280 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 2: Okay, I mean low key kind of perfect, kind of perfect, 388 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 2: kind of perfect. 389 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:04,800 Speaker 1: The April Redding will still push through for our family 390 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 1: and friends as more of a vow renewal slash reception. 391 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:09,560 Speaker 1: Love that we have informed them about it and they 392 00:16:09,680 --> 00:16:11,960 Speaker 1: do understand how our case has been very unique and 393 00:16:11,960 --> 00:16:14,760 Speaker 1: our very happy in supporter regardless, our elopement is simply 394 00:16:14,760 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 1: a ceremony for the both of us, not thinking about 395 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:19,840 Speaker 1: other people for once. We are already looking for a 396 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:22,200 Speaker 1: bigger apartment for us when we return from the trip, 397 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 1: so Reena could have her own working studio as my 398 00:16:24,680 --> 00:16:26,760 Speaker 1: apartment is too small. We will be updating if we 399 00:16:26,800 --> 00:16:29,640 Speaker 1: can after the trip, as your input has really put 400 00:16:29,680 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: things in perspective. Thanks for everything, and it really help 401 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 1: us look deeper into the foundation of our principles and 402 00:16:35,960 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 1: our priority. It's perfect, it's perfect. But no, what it's 403 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 1: not over. You think we're ending here and it's all 404 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 1: just gonna be pg keen Well, pgke it would be yeah. 405 00:16:46,320 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 1: Well you know what, Sophia. Guess what the pole says. 406 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:51,200 Speaker 1: Sixty one percent of people think there'll be divorced. 407 00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 3: Forty one of you hate love. 408 00:16:53,480 --> 00:16:56,240 Speaker 2: That's a majority. Okay, I am. 409 00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:59,840 Speaker 1: I am putting my name on the line that this 410 00:16:59,920 --> 00:17:02,560 Speaker 1: is going to end in the messiest divorce you've ever 411 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 1: seen on the show. Bets. I'm putting all my chips 412 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:11,160 Speaker 1: on the table. That's what I'm doing today, all. 413 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:12,439 Speaker 3: Of your chips on the table. 414 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 2: What if you're wrong, I put all my chips. It 415 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:17,119 Speaker 2: is what it is. 416 00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:19,439 Speaker 3: Right, Well, you might you might win big or. 417 00:17:19,520 --> 00:17:20,040 Speaker 2: Might lose big. 418 00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:25,720 Speaker 1: Wait hey hey, hey, hey, stop stop it started dropping. Guys, 419 00:17:25,720 --> 00:17:28,880 Speaker 1: stay with me, Orange Army, where are you at? Stand up? 420 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:30,800 Speaker 2: Your juice is flowing. 421 00:17:31,119 --> 00:17:35,200 Speaker 1: But ladies and gentlemen, we have a final update after this, 422 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 1: this is it, This is it. Okay, and it's six 423 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:40,280 Speaker 1: months Get ready, buckle your seat belts. 424 00:17:40,280 --> 00:17:41,520 Speaker 2: This is this is for all the marbles. 425 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:44,280 Speaker 1: It's been six months since I posted this, and I 426 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:46,560 Speaker 1: just want to give you guys an update. Reena and 427 00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:49,840 Speaker 1: I finally had our beautiful church wedding last month. Locket, 428 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 1: you're wrong, Amar. It was a sunny and warm day 429 00:17:55,960 --> 00:17:58,560 Speaker 1: and she looked stunning and it was better than anything 430 00:17:58,600 --> 00:17:59,840 Speaker 1: we both ever imass. 431 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:02,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, totally, get totally. 432 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:04,760 Speaker 2: It is guaranteed divorces. 433 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 3: You know, when they call you beautiful, your heading. 434 00:18:09,119 --> 00:18:11,160 Speaker 2: Exactly for the door, that's right. 435 00:18:11,400 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 1: Our families helped a lot in the wedding preparations, and 436 00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: as I mentioned in the previous post, my wife did 437 00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:17,840 Speaker 1: move out to live with her parents until we got 438 00:18:17,840 --> 00:18:20,320 Speaker 1: married in church. We made sure to talk thoroughly about 439 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:22,840 Speaker 1: how we felt and if this was really what she wanted. 440 00:18:22,880 --> 00:18:25,680 Speaker 1: We met every week and talked every night until the 441 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:27,240 Speaker 1: day we finally got married in. 442 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:28,440 Speaker 2: Church mid February. 443 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 1: There were talks and doubts, doubts about the relationship and 444 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:35,720 Speaker 1: if our expectations of a marriage were aligned and weather 445 00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:37,960 Speaker 1: was best to just hold off on the wedding to 446 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 1: see if we were indeed compatible and if our courtroom 447 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 1: wedding was merely an obligation we had to fulfill before 448 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:46,720 Speaker 1: her nan passing. It was just a box to check. Yeah, 449 00:18:46,720 --> 00:18:47,720 Speaker 1: that's it, that's all. 450 00:18:47,960 --> 00:18:49,720 Speaker 2: It's a forced. 451 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:54,320 Speaker 1: Marriage for tax purposes, just for Grandma. It was a 452 00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:56,600 Speaker 1: difficult month for us, really difficult, guys. I don't know 453 00:18:56,640 --> 00:18:58,239 Speaker 1: if they're gonna make it through. We talked about her 454 00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:01,520 Speaker 1: fears and she explains it is just that she has 455 00:19:01,600 --> 00:19:03,920 Speaker 1: had this belief in her mind about keeping ourselves pure 456 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:05,960 Speaker 1: in her big day, and it was purely hers alone 457 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:09,000 Speaker 1: and not her family or anybody else. We did go 458 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:12,520 Speaker 1: through marriage counseling to help more in dealing with our situation. 459 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 1: During this time, I moved to a larger place and 460 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:16,520 Speaker 1: found a better paying job and got busy. 461 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 2: That's great. 462 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 1: We started working from home and accompanied her brother who 463 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:21,800 Speaker 1: moved to Japan to help him get settled. She was 464 00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:24,280 Speaker 1: there for about two weeks and actually had a nice break. 465 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:26,000 Speaker 1: We both had a lot of time and it helped 466 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:29,199 Speaker 1: strengthen our relationship to be honest and to realize how 467 00:19:29,280 --> 00:19:31,640 Speaker 1: much we really wanted to be with each other. Yeah right, 468 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:33,639 Speaker 1: We just got back from our two week honeymoon to 469 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 1: the number two in our bucket list, New Zealand. 470 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:38,879 Speaker 2: God more more travel. 471 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 1: These guys are travelers over there travel, little explorers, travel, 472 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:48,199 Speaker 1: feen for travel as much as alpeend for Jesus. We 473 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:50,320 Speaker 1: originally planned to go to Spain, but we decided to 474 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:53,040 Speaker 1: change itineraries since we planned to travel to Europe in 475 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:55,280 Speaker 1: the future, so Spain could wait. It was wonderful, but 476 00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:58,040 Speaker 1: very exhausting and costly trip, but so worth. We drove 477 00:19:58,080 --> 00:20:00,000 Speaker 1: in to camper van and stayed at the camp round 478 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:03,840 Speaker 1: every night. Under the Stars Divorce, Yeah, the seeds for divorce. 479 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:05,960 Speaker 1: You look into the disguise and you're like, these are 480 00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:08,919 Speaker 1: infinite people that it could be with other other than your. 481 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:13,160 Speaker 3: Stars will guide your hand, exist sign the divorce. 482 00:20:14,000 --> 00:20:19,120 Speaker 2: Look to the stars, you see divorce is in you banking. 483 00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:19,720 Speaker 2: That's right. 484 00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:21,680 Speaker 1: I hiked a lot and basically just spend time together 485 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 1: and enjoyed nature and yes, for everyone waiting for an update, 486 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:25,240 Speaker 1: we had our. 487 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:28,560 Speaker 2: First intimate whoa I. 488 00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:37,680 Speaker 1: Corrember under the Stars Mama Aazo Mama. 489 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 2: First time was pretty uncomfortable for her. 490 00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:42,000 Speaker 1: We were also in a van, so not the most 491 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:43,320 Speaker 1: pleasant playee. 492 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,760 Speaker 3: They waited that long and then did it in a van. 493 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:49,439 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, I could just get a Honda Odyssey and 494 00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:50,680 Speaker 2: you know, just do do your. 495 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:53,080 Speaker 3: He's like, babe, babe, this is could be so romantic. 496 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:56,640 Speaker 2: It's gonna be so great. Got a whole air mattress. Baby, 497 00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:58,200 Speaker 2: it's gonna be We can put the seeds. 498 00:20:58,480 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 3: It's fine. 499 00:20:59,320 --> 00:21:01,760 Speaker 1: Look all like a It's not a fire hazard, I swear, 500 00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:05,480 Speaker 1: Oh my god. And she still has this thing where 501 00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:08,399 Speaker 1: she can't stop overthinking every time we are doing it. 502 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:08,800 Speaker 2: Haha. 503 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:11,720 Speaker 1: We are getting better at it, though, oho, and we 504 00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:14,960 Speaker 1: have actually slowly learned each other's once and dislikes. She 505 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:17,960 Speaker 1: actually initiates it from time to time and it made 506 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:20,760 Speaker 1: me happy but also relieved that she urges to do 507 00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:23,560 Speaker 1: it too, and letting me know. Her family moved her 508 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 1: stuff into my new place while we were on vacation, 509 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:27,160 Speaker 1: so it was a relief not to have to move 510 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 1: stuff again after a long, exhausting trip and just be 511 00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 1: able to rest coming home. That lag is still really bad, 512 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 1: but just out of writing this now while my wife 513 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:35,760 Speaker 1: is sleeping next to me. 514 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:39,720 Speaker 2: We are both scared, terrified, divorced. 515 00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:46,680 Speaker 3: All the bron's chips are on the line, and we 516 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,040 Speaker 3: have one paragraph. 517 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:53,000 Speaker 2: Le paragraph and a half. Excuse me mad to put 518 00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:55,520 Speaker 2: money money on this? All right? Yeah, we should have. 519 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,800 Speaker 2: We should have made a bet. Oh my gosh, another 520 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 2: venmo for me to send Sophia to be. 521 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:05,800 Speaker 1: We are both scared for a future's newly weds, but 522 00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:08,639 Speaker 1: also excited for our little family. Rina, my wife and 523 00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:10,720 Speaker 1: I hope to have kids in the near future, but 524 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,720 Speaker 1: for now we have decided on becoming fur parents first 525 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:17,560 Speaker 1: and looking into shelters once we are full ah bonds. 526 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,320 Speaker 1: She also read the post I wrote before just recently 527 00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:23,560 Speaker 1: and found the comment about having spicy sleep and sky 528 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 1: diving to be hilarious, and she is quite curious about 529 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:29,959 Speaker 1: us doing it to Lowell. I know you're not very 530 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,399 Speaker 1: experienced in the spicy sleep department, Opie's wife, but that 531 00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 1: sounds terrible. 532 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:35,679 Speaker 3: This sounds like publicans. 533 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:39,560 Speaker 1: You're in the sky. You're in the sky, Who cares? 534 00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 1: What are the are the police gonna follow you? And 535 00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:49,359 Speaker 1: the freaking like police, ale, let's get them bullet stop, 536 00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:51,520 Speaker 1: stop freeze. 537 00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:55,639 Speaker 2: They're just like fly. They have like a giant bullhard. 538 00:22:55,680 --> 00:23:02,960 Speaker 1: They're like, sir, disrespecting decency of the skies. Pull over now, 539 00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 1: ntecting your parachute immediately before you object something else, sir. 540 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,639 Speaker 2: Oh good Lord, time to read about divorce. 541 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:14,600 Speaker 1: So if that does happen, that's a whole post in itself, 542 00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:16,200 Speaker 1: and we are now divorced. 543 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:17,040 Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. 544 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:19,359 Speaker 3: Wait, there's a there's a comment comment. 545 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:24,280 Speaker 4: Oh, there's still hoping, there's still hope closed And as 546 00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:30,200 Speaker 4: sky Daddy read it, Okay, I was right. 547 00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:33,240 Speaker 2: I was right. Oh good. 548 00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:36,159 Speaker 3: You know we don't get a lot of wholesome stories. 549 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:39,480 Speaker 1: You know, this is great, This is we should definitely do. 550 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:42,880 Speaker 1: Let's add a wholesome story to the weekly rotation. Honestly, 551 00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 1: a wholesome, wholesome story vibes, those are great. So let's 552 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:48,640 Speaker 1: go back to our question, how should you handle disagreements 553 00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:49,280 Speaker 1: when married? 554 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:50,120 Speaker 2: How do we think they did. 555 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:52,520 Speaker 3: I think they were a little bit rocky in the beginning, 556 00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:54,239 Speaker 3: but then they got through it and they handled it 557 00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 3: like champs. 558 00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:55,240 Speaker 2: Yeah. 559 00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:57,600 Speaker 1: I will be honest, like, I think this was a 560 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:02,119 Speaker 1: near perfect interaction because I do empathize with both sides 561 00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:05,159 Speaker 1: where like, think about it there when they were planning 562 00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:07,680 Speaker 1: the rushed court wedding, Grandma was in the hospital. 563 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:08,800 Speaker 2: We don't know when she's gonna go. 564 00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:12,080 Speaker 1: They're rushing to coordinate all of the logistics, so I 565 00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,159 Speaker 1: could see how both of them it kind of like 566 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:15,080 Speaker 1: slipped their minds. 567 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:18,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, the communication stuff is kind of fair considering they 568 00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:19,840 Speaker 3: were going through a very stressful time. 569 00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:21,120 Speaker 2: Yeah. 570 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:25,520 Speaker 1: Sorry, Holly just commented spicy, following this is we need 571 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:29,160 Speaker 1: to just find a whole, a whole a dictionary of spicy. 572 00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:29,719 Speaker 2: Blank. 573 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:32,400 Speaker 3: Well we have, We've got a dirt sleep. 574 00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:35,680 Speaker 1: Dirt sleep and oh yeah sleep and then spicy y spicy. 575 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:37,480 Speaker 2: But yeah, I honestly think. 576 00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:40,520 Speaker 1: This is a pretty textbook example because, like in a marriage, 577 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:44,680 Speaker 1: in a relationship, over years and years, there will be miscommunications, disagreements, 578 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,879 Speaker 1: and this one like felt very reasonable that it kind 579 00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:48,359 Speaker 1: of happened. 580 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,440 Speaker 2: It totally happened on accident. Nobody. 581 00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:53,919 Speaker 1: I don't think anybody had any misaligned intentions and or 582 00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:58,120 Speaker 1: what is it, malicious intentions, And when the issue was 583 00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:01,119 Speaker 1: brought up, they both seemed to be pretty like pretty 584 00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:03,400 Speaker 1: great at communicating and breaking it down. I'm curious, chat 585 00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:07,080 Speaker 1: if you have any disagreements on that. But I honestly 586 00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:10,200 Speaker 1: think like they talked it out, they got counseling, they 587 00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,280 Speaker 1: found some some solutions too, you know, beat things up. 588 00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:14,200 Speaker 3: Ricky agreed. 589 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,080 Speaker 1: I for the first time in a long time, I 590 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 1: don't know if I could really kind of critique anything here. 591 00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 1: I think they did it good. But yeah, that's good 592 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 1: stuffladies to dom on. But this episode is how many minutes? 593 00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:28,480 Speaker 2: These nine? Probably really thirty nine? 594 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:31,200 Speaker 1: That means we got a whole another gosh bindle a 595 00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:34,359 Speaker 1: darn story in this right here episode, my ladies and gentlemen. 596 00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 1: So uh, I'm gonna hop on into it. I feel 597 00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,000 Speaker 1: like we should do one more story. I think so 598 00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:41,120 Speaker 1: MAYBEES three. Sure'll stick? 599 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:44,360 Speaker 2: Do it? Leave that save that stuck her for a day? 600 00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:45,240 Speaker 2: You want it all right? 601 00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:47,560 Speaker 3: You want to read some of those comments? 602 00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:51,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I do. Wo do we have any donos? 603 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:52,280 Speaker 3: Uh? 604 00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:55,119 Speaker 2: Yes we do. But Sophia, let's do it. We have 605 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 2: another one to dive into. So