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Speaker 6: We should start doing more of this.

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Speaker 6: That just wasn't what it was. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 6: It shows she's not afraid.

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Speaker 7: If he's not accepting of the drink, you can't take

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Speaker 7: That's why you never personalized when you send someone to drink.

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Speaker 7: We personalized that life. I would tell you to send

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Speaker 1: And if he sends it back, then that's clearly the

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Speaker 6: Absolutely I remember all of this, and.

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00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:35,240
Speaker 1: I'm looking at him because the contemplation before he trucks

440
00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,000
Speaker 1: through the snow with this thing over his head is

441
00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:39,879
Speaker 1: like the snow is blowing in his eye, and you know,

442
00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:42,920
Speaker 1: I'm dying to myself inside because I'm just like, he's

443
00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:45,720
Speaker 1: look at you, look at your fool. Twenty minutes later,

444
00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 1: he circles back and he was like, I think we

445
00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:52,640
Speaker 1: should talk. I said, you had nowhere to go because

446
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:53,520
Speaker 1: where were you going?

447
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:55,720
Speaker 2: It was a blizzard, fucking blizzard.

448
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,040
Speaker 6: Do you remember? Do you remember what happened?

449
00:21:58,080 --> 00:21:59,920
Speaker 1: Where'd you go? I was too strong for on.

450
00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 7: So I got my car right and I got on

451
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:07,200
Speaker 7: the belt Parkway and I was like, I can't drive

452
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 7: back to Brooklyn all the way there. So I'm like, fine,

453
00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 7: I'm gonna go stay with one of my young boys.

454
00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:11,439
Speaker 3: Right.

455
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:14,320
Speaker 6: I went in the dorm. I got the dorm, I

456
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 6: pulled out the meat.

457
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:18,159
Speaker 7: Then I stole from cake and I was I.

458
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 3: Pulled out a cannabeans in a minute's full it out.

459
00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:33,320
Speaker 6: I was laughing because she wasn't lying.

460
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:33,479
Speaker 3: Man.

461
00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,920
Speaker 7: I was hungry as a motherfucker, and I was gonna

462
00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:36,720
Speaker 7: get something and she was.

463
00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:38,760
Speaker 6: Like, nah, those is my I can't eat that. I

464
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:39,560
Speaker 6: can't eat the fine.

465
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:41,159
Speaker 7: So I was like, I'm not taking the cold cuts

466
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 7: with all the frozen ship. I was just like that

467
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:46,200
Speaker 7: ship I bought, so I store, I took the frozen ship.

468
00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:48,440
Speaker 7: I'm with at my young boys room. I was like, yo,

469
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:51,640
Speaker 7: with a microwave or we don't got a microwave. I'm like,

470
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:55,159
Speaker 7: all right with the formy grille, and it was like,

471
00:22:56,359 --> 00:22:57,600
Speaker 7: we don't got no formal girls.

472
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,080
Speaker 6: Like y'all here all my.

473
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 7: All my frustration that I had, ok, I let out

474
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 7: on all of them, and.

475
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 6: I'm like, y'all don't got nothing in this house. Y'all

476
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 6: don't got no fucking microwave. Y'all got no George before

477
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,840
Speaker 6: me and girl, this is the problem. And also this

478
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:17,199
Speaker 6: is a Michael crosm of your grades. Look at you.

479
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:19,560
Speaker 6: You've been below a P average since I've known you.

480
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:21,040
Speaker 6: I'm screaming on them out everything.

481
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 7: You not starting your work, ethic, pits, everything, and I'm

482
00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:27,159
Speaker 7: just going in on them. Then I get my scarf

483
00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:28,840
Speaker 7: and I throw my scarf from around my neck.

484
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:30,960
Speaker 6: I did.

485
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:32,119
Speaker 4: That's why I.

486
00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:34,360
Speaker 1: Comes out.

487
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 2: Y'all, you don't have a George farn.

488
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:38,800
Speaker 6: I blacked out.

489
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 2: A black out isn't gonna his peas. That's what it was.

490
00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 6: I was trying to fraust my stolen goods.

491
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

492
00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:49,560
Speaker 7: And then that was the first lesson I learned about

493
00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 7: having a woman though, because we all athletes. I ran

494
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 7: back to my homies and I was like, yo, I'm

495
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 7: gonna stay on my young boys, and they ain't have

496
00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:58,919
Speaker 7: nothing that I needed.

497
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 6: So I took my ass back to the crib, had

498
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 6: my little roll away.

499
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 7: I was like, look, we're gonna have to talk because

500
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,359
Speaker 7: I don't want to leave you and here bout yourself.

501
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 6: It's not safe. I'm worried.

502
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:17,560
Speaker 7: I'm worried about you, because, yeah, I would have been fine.

503
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely stood at the door, like I know

504
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:25,920
Speaker 1: you was happy though about this. I just didn't wait.

505
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 7: No, I didn't stand there long. It was it was

506
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:34,119
Speaker 7: like knock, knock, the door was open.

507
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 2: So you still came back though.

508
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 6: I did come back. But I knew she was ready.

509
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:39,639
Speaker 2: He knew she was waiting.

510
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:41,919
Speaker 1: He was ready to give his spiel, and I just

511
00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:44,919
Speaker 1: turned around and I walked inside, and then you know,

512
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 1: one thing led to another, tell.

513
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 6: Him what you had on.

514
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 1: When I came back, I looked my action for you,

515
00:24:56,840 --> 00:25:05,400
Speaker 1: maybe like a right random nephew ready. Yeah, y'all got

516
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 1: a bunch of right and his cousin and best friend.

517
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:15,959
Speaker 3: Everybody y'all alone and like the boys was coming out.

518
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 3: It was like one, I thought, like God.

519
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 1: After the other after the other. We always joked that

520
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 1: they looked like the Wi Fi signals.

521
00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:25,480
Speaker 2: They really really do.

522
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, I think that's one of the

523
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:32,399
Speaker 4: beautiful things about meeting your person so young, because y'all

524
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 4: are willing to go through things together and work through

525
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:37,240
Speaker 4: it together. Because it's like, I'm really in love with

526
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 4: this person, and I was with him when they didn't

527
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:39,640
Speaker 4: have anything.

528
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:40,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, versus I.

529
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:43,920
Speaker 4: Think when you get older you always feel like it's

530
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 4: something better, especially once you get established. It's like, Okay,

531
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 4: I don't got to deal with this ship because I

532
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 4: can find somebody else.

533
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,920
Speaker 7: I think you're right, because the fact that we both

534
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 7: had nothing at the time, it didn't matter. That's why

535
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 7: when people ask me, I have to be honest and

536
00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 7: say I can't give you my perspective until you it's

537
00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:01,440
Speaker 7: going to be the same tay you guys, for example,

538
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:04,440
Speaker 7: you guys have worked your asses off and been able

539
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 7: to build something on your own right, So whenever you

540
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,879
Speaker 7: meet someone now you have to have something in the

541
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 7: back of your mind just that says I hope this

542
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:12,880
Speaker 7: person is here for.

543
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,280
Speaker 6: Me and not what they have access to.

544
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 7: When you eighteen and you don't got shited, and you

545
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 7: eighteen and you on gotsh I didn't have to think

546
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 7: about that with.

547
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 6: Him, So it's so very different.

548
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 7: That's why I don't judge people when they come to

549
00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:26,600
Speaker 7: us with relationship issues and they're like, I know we're

550
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,640
Speaker 7: not perfect. I said, first of all, we're not perfect neither,

551
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 7: so you can throw that shit out the window. But

552
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 7: we're not gonna judge you because we also understand that

553
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 7: we were eighteen with nothing when we met, which was so.

554
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:39,679
Speaker 1: Funny because there was I guess this is like one

555
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 1: of the earliest forms of like a shade room. But

556
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 1: when Daval first made it to the league, there was

557
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 1: this website called talk sports or something that net and

558
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 1: it pretty much was like a gosspep site. It was

559
00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 1: like a site where people was airing out people laundry,

560
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 1: you know who in what league they had it, they

561
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:58,679
Speaker 1: had it broken down according to sport, according to the league,

562
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:02,399
Speaker 1: according to team, and there was an NFL, the NBA.

563
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:05,479
Speaker 1: All that so under de vos tab because somebody sent

564
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 1: it to me one day. There was definitely people from

565
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 1: my face. Yeah, look, no, I don't even know what

566
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,240
Speaker 1: the website until somebody that it.

567
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 6: Lets me tell the truth.

568
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 3: What used to use spot wrack because the spot wreck

569
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:20,400
Speaker 3: was the site where you see how much they made.

570
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 2: I don't know how many baby Bam you got. Spot

571
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 2: Wreck was the website.

572
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 6: It's like what you say his name was, girl, I've

573
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 6: never heard of that.

574
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:30,639
Speaker 1: The active ro.

575
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:36,640
Speaker 7: The deal young young kings, y'all see what's out their

576
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 7: young Kings, Hi.

577
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:40,119
Speaker 6: Young Kings, the girls.

578
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:46,400
Speaker 7: It's probably even worse now with Ai Young Kings, pay attention, listen,

579
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 7: work on yourself.

580
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:52,639
Speaker 1: Bank account, that one thing that you the coin. But yeah, somebody,

581
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 1: so what people being messy? Of course, in my Facebook

582
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 1: inbox one day was this website and I was like, oh,

583
00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,400
Speaker 1: that's from the random you know, Spara page I guess

584
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 1: at that time, and it was the website and then

585
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 1: they put Devals link in my in the message and

586
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: it pretty much was like Kadena is only with Devo

587
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:09,800
Speaker 1: because of the money. At the time, I was like,

588
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:12,640
Speaker 1: what money, honey, Like there was no money at the time.

589
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,439
Speaker 1: There really was no money. Yeah, but he just started

590
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,400
Speaker 1: to get some notoriety trying to like make it onto

591
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:19,679
Speaker 1: the team. So Kadena has only been here with them.

592
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 1: And then he used to be sleeping with this person

593
00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 1: on campus, and I used to be with that person

594
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: on campus. So the messiness still existed back when we

595
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 1: were like twenty one years old too. So saying that

596
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 1: to say, like, you really just can't listen to the

597
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 1: noise because the minute you start to feed into that shit,

598
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,359
Speaker 1: you know, it's like a it's like a deep hole

599
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 1: that you go into and you just can't do that.

600
00:28:39,960 --> 00:28:42,000
Speaker 3: So I do want to ask y'all that a little

601
00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:45,200
Speaker 3: bit because you know, people probably you know, knew him

602
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 3: first because of his career and everything. So but how

603
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 3: did y'all handle that like dynamic? Because obviously you know,

604
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 3: she's a star too in her own right. So whenever

605
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 3: y'all started doing, like, you know, the the videos and stuff,

606
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 3: people started gravitating towards her. And now you're you're acting

607
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 3: and you're like really becoming like people are like, okay.

608
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 2: Where your wife back?

609
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 1: We love you?

610
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 2: Eat that, you know, So how do y'all balance that

611
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 2: as well? Too?

612
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:14,960
Speaker 7: I think KaDee would tell you too. This was always

613
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 7: the plan. I told I'm on record of saying this

614
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 7: from before and I'll say it now. I told everybody

615
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 7: I was like, my wife can be bigger than Kim Kardashian.

616
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 2: Period.

617
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 7: I've been saying that, and it was just like it

618
00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:28,840
Speaker 7: was like for real. I was like, Yo, she's super talented,

619
00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 7: she's educated, she's a family woman, like she she has

620
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 7: all of the things and the work ethic. So when

621
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 7: people used to come up to us in the airport

622
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 7: and they'd be like, I know you on TV but

623
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 7: I love your wife.

624
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 6: I'm like, you want me.

625
00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 7: To take the picture period, because to me, that's also

626
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:45,600
Speaker 7: part of the process. Understand that my wife during that

627
00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 7: time when I was building, everything sacrificed. So since she sacrificed,

628
00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 7: I'm not gonna let her just fall back by the

629
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 7: wayside and nobody know her. I'm like, come, come let

630
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 7: them see so that when you get the opportunity. They

631
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 7: were like, this is what he's been saying, and that's

632
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 7: all that's happening now. So even even coming here, I

633
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 7: was like, watch, and it's funny that y'all separated us.

634
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 7: She'll tell you, I said, both of these two young

635
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 7: ladies of super dynamic, they' Hilary, it's just like you.

636
00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 6: I told them that they reminded me of you.

637
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 7: You did say that, and I said, the three of

638
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 7: y'all gonna end up having a conversation and I'm gonna

639
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:19,720
Speaker 7: be on the outside.

640
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 6: And I'm enjoy it. Yeah, but not for nothing though.

641
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 6: This is this is what has always been.

642
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 7: It was my turn for a minute, it's her turn,

643
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 7: you know what I'm saying, like.

644
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:30,880
Speaker 6: Do this right?

645
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: No, he's absolutely right, And to piggyback off of what

646
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 1: he said like, how weird would it be if you

647
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 1: have a married couple that were like it was in

648
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 1: competition with each other, you know, because that exists, especially

649
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 1: that we're in It's just like, oh, like my wife

650
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 1: and my husband got a gig and I ain't get

651
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:49,480
Speaker 1: a gig in a minute, and it's like comparing notes.

652
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: I think that's super weird. Like he and I since

653
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 1: the moment we sat together for our first day and

654
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 1: talked about what we wanted to do, and he was like,

655
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 1: y'all want to do that? It was on TV And

656
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, you want to be act They're like,

657
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 1: and he's like absolutely. I'm like yeah. So when he

658
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 1: said that, I was like, oh, so me, you know,

659
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 1: trying to trying to flirt, put myself playing, you know

660
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, put the nail in it. I was like.

661
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 1: I was just like, so, how we gonna do that? Like,

662
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 1: how how are we going to help you get that?

663
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? Because I want to do

664
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 1: the same thing. I just thought a little a little agency,

665
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 1: but no, in that moment, it saw that from that

666
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 1: moment on, we were so invested in each other's dreams

667
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 1: and goals and we just talked about all the things

668
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:39,960
Speaker 1: that we could do, all the things that were possible.

669
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 1: So when I sit here on this couch, in this moment,

670
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 1: in the present, because I'm trying to be more mindful

671
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 1: of being in the moment and being present, I'm just like, damn,

672
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 1: that's just the ship that we talked about a years ago.

673
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:54,800
Speaker 3: And I do and I just want to give you

674
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 3: your flowers because, like I said, we've been doing this

675
00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 3: a while so a lot of times, and I know

676
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 3: they are gonna be like, let's stop being a hater.

677
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 3: I'm a hater, y'all, notice what I do. But a

678
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 3: lot of times when I meet people in person, I'm like,

679
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, they were like this online and I

680
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:09,400
Speaker 3: get upset when I meet them in person because it

681
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 3: does so but just seeing you and seeing how like, well,

682
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 3: how well spoken you are, Like I see that star

683
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 3: that he's talking about, because a lot of people can say, oh,

684
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 3: this person is a star because you see them on

685
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 3: social media, but that presence in persons, it's a different energy.

686
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 8: So I see you girls can tell you, I say,

687
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 8: I appreciate that because y'all do have an audience of

688
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 8: young women, right and there's this narrative going around that

689
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 8: men are intimidated by women who have their own right,

690
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 8: I can tell you.

691
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 6: That's far from the truth.

692
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 7: Really, I'm gonna tell you right, any man worth having right.

693
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 7: When I first saw her at eighteen, right, I was like, Okay,

694
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 7: she won pageants, like how your grades or you graduated

695
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 7: magnum coolaude.

696
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 6: It was valedictorian.

697
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 7: To me, it was like, yo, I found the female

698
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:02,840
Speaker 7: version of myself. So when I'm going to do my things,

699
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 7: she's not going to be like, oh, you're going to

700
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 7: practice again.

701
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 6: Oh. And it was like that all of college. Right

702
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 6: when all of.

703
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 7: Our friends was going on spring break and was taking

704
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 7: extra vacations.

705
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 6: I was like, Y're gonna stay and take another class.

706
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 7: She said, fine, since you're gonna stay here and take

707
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 7: another class, I don't got to pay for housing.

708
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 6: I'm gonna take another class. And it was just the partnership.

709
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 7: There are so many men who are looking for women

710
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 7: who want to be a part of the partnership. That's

711
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 7: the reason why I wanted to tell his stories because

712
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 7: it never intimidated me that she could be a bigger

713
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 7: start in me.

714
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 6: It was just like, we're doing life together.

715
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 7: So it's like, if I'm growing and I'm trying to

716
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 7: be the best version of myself, and I found a

717
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 7: woman who wants to do that, why not do that

718
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 7: shit together? And it's just been that way. So for me,

719
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 7: I think that you just have to find the right guy.

720
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 7: If you're dating guys and those guys are intimidated, say

721
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 7: that those guys are intimidated by women. Because let's be real,

722
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 7: If I date a thousand women, a thousand women, I

723
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 7: date a woman three different women every day, that's a

724
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 7: lot of women. For any other men, right, that's still

725
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 7: less than one thousandth of a percent of the population.

726
00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 6: What do I know about women?

727
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 2: That's true?

728
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 6: So my perspective just tells you because.

729
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:22,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, carried one. Well.

730
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:25,720
Speaker 3: The reason I say that because while I do agree

731
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:27,440
Speaker 3: with you, I guess I feel like, of course I

732
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 3: can't date all the men. I'm a grotto, but I

733
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 3: can't date all the men.

734
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:33,879
Speaker 2: I'm through you, you know what I'm try.

735
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,920
Speaker 3: But I will say, though, just my experience, I'm surrounded

736
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:41,799
Speaker 3: by successful women, right, and I feel like the conversations

737
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:45,480
Speaker 3: that we do have, though, like men are intimidated men

738
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:48,759
Speaker 3: like we tend to experience more men that aren't supportive

739
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 3: of what we have going on. And not just like us,

740
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 3: but I mean just like I have friends who work

741
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 3: high in tech.

742
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,120
Speaker 6: Change your environment, different men.

743
00:34:57,280 --> 00:34:58,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, that shows you.

744
00:34:58,280 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 7: How that tells you a lot about the type of

745
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 7: men you choose. Okay, I said the same thing to

746
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 7: my young boys. I got a lot of young athletes.

747
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,399
Speaker 7: All these bitches want money, all these but I said,

748
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 7: that tells me that you keep choosing the type of

749
00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 7: women who are chasing money. You how many girlfriends you

750
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 7: don't have your life? I had over ten, Oh you

751
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 7: had over ten girls. So you know so much about

752
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 7: women now and then they thinking about it. Women do

753
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:22,839
Speaker 7: the same thing just because you choose the same type of.

754
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 6: Guy over and over and over. That don't mean all

755
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:26,040
Speaker 6: guys are like that.

756
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 2: But I will say true though.

757
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:31,160
Speaker 3: You know, men like to put on that job interview.

758
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 3: When you go into a job interview, Yeah they have

759
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:37,319
Speaker 3: three months later they showing.

760
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 2: Up late, have not come. Yeah they love that represented.

761
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 1: So how long do y'all wait before y'all say, you

762
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:47,840
Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonna move on? Because I think that

763
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 1: in the era that Deval and I started dating, right

764
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 1: there were moments where I might have discovered something about

765
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:56,480
Speaker 1: him that I've been like, you know what, I'm not

766
00:35:56,520 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 1: dealing with this. It could be a red flag, right

767
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:01,320
Speaker 1: like I'm maybe maybe this is how he is and

768
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:03,400
Speaker 1: I can't deal with that or whatever. So what is

769
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 1: it that people are doing nowadays to know when is

770
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:06,839
Speaker 1: a time frame to say, you know what, I'm throwing

771
00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:08,799
Speaker 1: the towel with this person because I'm over it.

772
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:11,320
Speaker 2: To be honest, I'm always throwing in the tower.

773
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:15,279
Speaker 4: And that's probably got damn problem because as soon as

774
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:16,879
Speaker 4: you have a red flag.

775
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:20,360
Speaker 2: I'm gone immediately, like stage left.

776
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 7: That's a question to his question. Yeah, do y'all want

777
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:24,760
Speaker 7: to be wives? Y'all want to be brides?

778
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 2: I want to be a wife. I definitely want to

779
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 2: be a wife.

780
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 6: Y'all know what it takes to be a wife.

781
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:31,640
Speaker 3: Where I'm at in life right now, I'm like, I

782
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 3: don't know if I'm ready to be a wife right now.

783
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 7: Conversations that people are not having, and that's how you

784
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 7: get to marriage.

785
00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:41,320
Speaker 1: That's why when people hit see the valley of the airport,

786
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:42,759
Speaker 1: they'll be like, man, you missed it up for all

787
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 1: of us and be out here pressed, you know, making

788
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 1: bad for all of us. He gets that, and you.

789
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:53,800
Speaker 2: Know what I say, But you like, I'm just me

790
00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 2: and myself.

791
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,319
Speaker 7: No, I say, well, you need to ask yourself what

792
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:59,959
Speaker 7: you're not doing for your lady and she's looking outside. First,

793
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 7: I'm gonna just be honest, bro. I ain't no pussy bro.

794
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 7: So you could approach me if you want to. You

795
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:08,919
Speaker 7: can let the nice guy shit fool you. I'm mostly

796
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 7: a human and I will protect my family with my life.

797
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 7: So if you ever approach me on something negative, I'm

798
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 7: gonna give you the same energy. But y'all know I

799
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 7: leave with love. You know what I'm saying. But a

800
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:21,759
Speaker 7: lot of time these dudes do come up yo while

801
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 7: you're doing that and we have a real conversation. And

802
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 7: then once we have a real conversation, they be like,

803
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 7: you know what, I can't do better? And I said,

804
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:30,839
Speaker 7: that's really why you mad? You mad because you know

805
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:32,680
Speaker 7: you can do better. And then I asked him, I said,

806
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 7: why do you not do better? And they often say

807
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 7: because she don't do better? And I said, well, let

808
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 7: me ask you a question. You say, you're the man, right,

809
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,360
Speaker 7: You're the leader, You're the leader, right, Yeah, so lead first?

810
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:44,279
Speaker 7: You do better first? And they be like that. That's

811
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 7: fair and to be honest, I think that needs to

812
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 7: be the conversation. Right if we as gentlemen want to

813
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 7: say that we're the leaders of our community, and we're

814
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 7: going to be the ones that say we're going to

815
00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:57,320
Speaker 7: take control of our community. Sometimes you're gonna have to

816
00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:59,640
Speaker 7: deal with the fact that your lady may be a

817
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:02,879
Speaker 7: little bit more emotional than you, right she she may

818
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:04,919
Speaker 7: need you to break the ice. That's how it works

819
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 7: in our house. I don't do I do not. She

820
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:10,920
Speaker 7: will tell you I don't do that. We're gonna be

821
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 7: mad at each other for days and you're giving me

822
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 7: the silent treatment.

823
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 6: I don't do that. I'm grabbing you. I'm grabbing that ass,

824
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 6: I'm lifting you up, I'm letting you.

825
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 1: Let me tell you some of that blue light, the mood. Look, look.

826
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 6: Look at her face, flattening her face.

827
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 1: Can I be honest before nobody know?

828
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 6: Yes, there was an episode.

829
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 1: Yes, it was the Teama shout out to my girl

830
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 1: Crystal friend love her to death. So yeah, I seen

831
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 1: this episode that I was like, no, we did the

832
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 1: sex scene and whatever with the blue light, and I

833
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 1: was like, oh, tell me more, you know, like because

834
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 1: the actor in me as well, be like, you know

835
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:55,840
Speaker 1: what it is like. You know, you're stimulating sex and whatnot,

836
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 1: but when it looks real, it be looking real. So

837
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:03,360
Speaker 1: he he was in quarantine filming at TPS, so he

838
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:05,719
Speaker 1: was locked down for like three weeks or something. I

839
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 1: moved our other boys with my mom cross country from

840
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:11,719
Speaker 1: our place in California. It's Georgia. But the second time,

841
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 1: so the Sis was stressed. Okay, she was stressed. I

842
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:15,279
Speaker 1: didn't have no man. I had no day for like

843
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 1: three weeks. It was a lie, you know what I'm saying,

844
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:21,879
Speaker 1: no reliever or nothing. So it was around Valentine's Day

845
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 1: and he was like, damn, babe, iut some bad news.

846
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:25,960
Speaker 1: We're gonna have to film an extra two days. So

847
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 1: I was hoping not make it home on the thirteenth.

848
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna make it home till the fifteenth.

849
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:31,399
Speaker 1: So I was like, damn. I was hoping you could

850
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 1: be here for Valentin's Day. We could christen this house, honey,

851
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,320
Speaker 1: you know, do all the things new house. But I'm like,

852
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: it's fine, I'll see you when you when you get out.

853
00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 1: So I'm walking to the room one night, it's late,

854
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 1: the kids are in bed. It's February thirteenth, about to

855
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 1: be fourteenth. It's almost midnight, and I see this shadow

856
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:48,359
Speaker 1: and doorway. So first of all, went for my gun

857
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:55,799
Speaker 1: because I was like, oh, yeah, who I wasn't I did,

858
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 1: and I was like, let me, let me stop, let

859
00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: me And it was the val Oh, he's surprised. Men

860
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:05,040
Speaker 1: came home early. So when I had plans already, I

861
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 1: went on Amazon a couple of days before because I

862
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 1: was preparing fans to come home for Mountains, and they

863
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 1: got me some blue light bulbs because I had.

864
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:19,760
Speaker 4: Seen the episode.

865
00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 1: Trusty Dusty Amazon, and I got these lamps and I

866
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:25,959
Speaker 1: got these blue lights. When he come home, I'm gonna

867
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: do a blue light special here in the house for

868
00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:30,200
Speaker 1: him after seeing that episode, because I was like, that

869
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 1: was good. I had Chris. I was like, girl, he

870
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:33,880
Speaker 1: had you picked up. He did the tricks. She was

871
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 1: like yeah, girl. So he walks in and I had

872
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 1: the air mattress blown up on the floor in the

873
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 1: room because we didn't have our bed set up. Nothing

874
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 1: was there yet. And he came home, honey, and it

875
00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:46,879
Speaker 1: was like three weeks and we hadn't seen each other.

876
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:48,839
Speaker 1: This was our new home. It was just so much

877
00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:53,799
Speaker 1: to celebrate in that moment. Sweet fast forward numbers later,

878
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 1: Dakota Ellis is here and he's our blue light special baby.

879
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, time I see a blue light, I'm like,

880
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:03,319
Speaker 1: it's another one.

881
00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 4: He told us he gotta missex me. So I wanted

882
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:18,440
Speaker 4: to transition a little bit and talk about your career.

883
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 4: So I wanted to ask you how hard was it

884
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:25,320
Speaker 4: or was it not hard at all? To not get

885
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 4: lost in being a mom and being a wife. And

886
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 4: then also how surreal is it for you right now

887
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 4: that you have a TV show that your especially with

888
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 4: you always being in the arts, it always being something

889
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 4: you were interested in, having your degree in it, dance pageants,

890
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 4: all of the things.

891
00:41:43,719 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 2: So how does it feel right now? You know?

892
00:41:46,480 --> 00:41:52,240
Speaker 1: I I often tow the line between I can't believe

893
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: this is happening and it's about damn time, you know,

894
00:41:56,800 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 1: because I feel like I have spent the past my

895
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:03,360
Speaker 1: oldest is what fourteen, So fifteen years of my life

896
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 1: dedicated to my family, dedicated to having my children, to

897
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 1: being an active mom, and that will never change. That's

898
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:13,720
Speaker 1: r his first and foremost for me, active mom and wife.

899
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 1: But I feel like all of the years, all of

900
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 1: the sacrifices, all of the things that we've done. You know,

901
00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:22,359
Speaker 1: devoal having the vision to even start social media. Because

902
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 1: at first, when he came to me and approached me

903
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:25,879
Speaker 1: with this, Babe, I think we should start putting videos

904
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: up on Instagram, I said, hell the fuck. No.

905
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:30,360
Speaker 4: Well, I remember when y'all was in the apartment, you girls,

906
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:31,440
Speaker 4: the media.

907
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:32,800
Speaker 2: The apartment in Brooklyn.

908
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 1: I said, why would I want to put our life

909
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:37,879
Speaker 1: on social media? Like I am a West Indian girl,

910
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:39,879
Speaker 1: Like we keep our shit close, We keep our cards

911
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: close to the chest. We don't be telling people our

912
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:43,880
Speaker 1: business and airing out no laundry. But he was like, no,

913
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:45,239
Speaker 1: I think this would be a good approach and a

914
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 1: way to use social media to like get ourselves out

915
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 1: there as actors and actresses. Like we'll do these skits.

916
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:52,280
Speaker 1: We'll kind of start this like battle of the sexist

917
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:54,480
Speaker 1: thing and it'll be fun. And I was like m

918
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 1: But then that one little video went viral. I think

919
00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:00,879
Speaker 1: it was Dura Cell came to us with a bag.

920
00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 1: They was like, we'll give you three k to come

921
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:04,239
Speaker 1: to this event. I said, oh, we can make money here.

922
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 1: I said, oh, this is like becoming a thing. So

923
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 1: in using social media and you know, the videos turned

924
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:14,760
Speaker 1: into a podcast, podcast, into a book, the YouTube channel,

925
00:43:14,800 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 1: like everything started to rupt. So when the opportunity came

926
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 1: my way, I'll never forget it. For the show at

927
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 1: least January sixth, Tyler Perry hit my phone, shout out

928
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 1: to shout out to mister Perry, hit my phone. And

929
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:29,760
Speaker 1: I'll be honest and say I was at a moment

930
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: two weeks prior in my life where I was just

931
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:33,360
Speaker 1: kind of feeling a bit lost.

932
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 2: Yeah.

933
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:35,919
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, we've been doing the social

934
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:38,480
Speaker 1: media thing for a while. The podcast I felt like,

935
00:43:38,520 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 1: in my opinion, had run its course. I felt like

936
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:42,240
Speaker 1: we did all we had to do in that space.

937
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: So I said, maybe, like I'm onto something new, Like

938
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 1: there has to be something next for me. He was

939
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:50,920
Speaker 1: already on two number one shows, you know, BT BT plus,

940
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 1: So yeah, so I'm like, you know, you're doing your thing. Maybe.

941
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 1: My conversation with God. I was actually in Jamaica at

942
00:43:56,600 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 1: the end of the year twenty twenty four, and my

943
00:43:58,640 --> 00:44:01,319
Speaker 1: conversation with God one more as we were approaching the

944
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,920
Speaker 1: new year was you know, I don't know what's next.

945
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 1: I usually tend to be very type A and like

946
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:08,399
Speaker 1: want to plan for that, I said, but I'm really

947
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 1: feeling stuck, and I said, I feel like I need

948
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 1: to be still in this moment and allow you to move.

949
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,279
Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna make any plans. I'm gonna be

950
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:19,480
Speaker 1: content with just being at home with my kids. If

951
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 1: that's where you need me to be at home with

952
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 1: my kids and assisting my husband with whatever he has

953
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 1: going on, I'm cool with that. But if you have

954
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 1: something for me, I'm game. And baby. When TV hit

955
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:32,160
Speaker 1: my phone and was like, hey, I may have something

956
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:35,080
Speaker 1: for you, oh my goodness, and it was literally like

957
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:39,439
Speaker 1: days later. This was December thirty first, okay, days later,

958
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 1: and I already know that God was working because he

959
00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 1: was just preparing me for this moment. Devala said to

960
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:46,080
Speaker 1: me the other day, he was like, Yo, do you

961
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:50,399
Speaker 1: realize that here you are forty one, pretty much moving

962
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: like a girl in your twenties, because forty they keep

963
00:44:57,160 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 1: me young, they kill but he said, you are literally

964
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:02,239
Speaker 1: a woman who has all the things, like you have

965
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 1: your family, you have your husband, you are you know,

966
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 1: essentially taking care of your parents. You know, like we're

967
00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 1: at that age now where it's like we're parents to

968
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:13,399
Speaker 1: our parents and you know, so I feel like it's

969
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:18,600
Speaker 1: about time. And I fight imposter syndrome every day. I do.

970
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:22,919
Speaker 3: Yeah that before we bitch to look at I don't

971
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 3: want to see that.

972
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 1: It should be contagious because that's what I want to everyone.

973
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,760
Speaker 1: You feel like that. So even going through the process

974
00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 1: of filming, so I went from my chemistry reading, my

975
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 1: audition in la and January, finally got the call that

976
00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 1: I booked the role early February, and then baby, I

977
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:49,239
Speaker 1: went back into the lab because it's been a it's

978
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:51,839
Speaker 1: been a minute since school and you know, having an

979
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 1: acting gig, consistently acting in this capacity, acting in the

980
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 1: TPS universe, which is a big deal, which is.

981
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 2: Spent off of talking about that, and you show me,

982
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 2: let me tell you at.

983
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:11,720
Speaker 1: Sixteen episodes in nine days.

984
00:46:12,239 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 4: So if I said that two weeks, yeah, well that's

985
00:46:15,480 --> 00:46:17,400
Speaker 4: sixteen episode.

986
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 1: Sixteen episodes in nine days weekens off. Yeah, okay. So

987
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:27,320
Speaker 1: for me, I felt an immense amount of pressure first

988
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 1: because I'm like, all right, God, you gave me this

989
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 1: opportunity because you felt like I was ready. So me

990
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 1: hav an impostum syndrome was crazy because I'm like he

991
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:37,920
Speaker 1: would have never put me in this position, in this

992
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 1: moment in time if he didn't think I could. That's

993
00:46:40,080 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 1: the first thing. Then t P thought I could because

994
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:44,800
Speaker 1: he gave me the opportunity. Right. So there's the pressure

995
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:46,879
Speaker 1: of feeling like, okay, can you got to deliver because

996
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:48,799
Speaker 1: this man is giving you an opportunity, and in this

997
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:51,560
Speaker 1: industry all you hope and pray for is somebody gives

998
00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:53,359
Speaker 1: you a shot you could show what you could do.

999
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: Then I have my husband, who I don't want to

1000
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 1: disappoint because he's pretty much missed the TPS. But yeah,

1001
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 1: I like going out looked like going in there and

1002
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, it's been terrible. Come on. That partisum,

1003
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 1: she just got the job because my husband is on

1004
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:11,319
Speaker 1: the show. Who he asked for a favor, you know right,

1005
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:13,759
Speaker 1: So that throwing through my head. Then I have my

1006
00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 1: sons who are looking at me like damn, mom, like

1007
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:17,759
Speaker 1: you really locked in. You back in here studying with

1008
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:19,800
Speaker 1: your acting coach. You gone three, four or five hours

1009
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:21,840
Speaker 1: a day, you know. I had to fly my in

1010
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 1: laws in at one point because I'm like, guys, I

1011
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:25,239
Speaker 1: need help, like all hands on deck so I could

1012
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 1: just focus. So there were so many things happening at

1013
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:30,800
Speaker 1: one time because I just wanted to do a damn

1014
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:34,440
Speaker 1: good job. I was doing my nails shortly after I wrapped,

1015
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 1: and she was like, do you have any like regrets

1016
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:39,359
Speaker 1: or like you could have done differently? And I sat

1017
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:42,760
Speaker 1: and thought for a second, and I was like, I don't,

1018
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:45,840
Speaker 1: Like I really feel like in that moment, I put

1019
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 1: everything out there. I was so prepared for it. And

1020
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 1: not to say that there's nothing I have to learn,

1021
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:53,799
Speaker 1: you know. I can't wait to like watch and like

1022
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 1: dissect myself and my character and see what more I

1023
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:59,560
Speaker 1: could do. But I really genuinely feel like, damn I

1024
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:02,200
Speaker 1: gave it all, yeah, because I know I could not

1025
00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:06,560
Speaker 1: fumble the opportunity. So I'm grateful to answer your question.

1026
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,040
Speaker 1: I feel like all of the things right now has

1027
00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:13,720
Speaker 1: been for this moment, you know. And having my husband

1028
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:17,280
Speaker 1: who has just been like rooting for me and telling

1029
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:18,880
Speaker 1: me that I could on days that I felt like

1030
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:21,440
Speaker 1: I couldn't, and you know, taking the kids away so

1031
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:23,800
Speaker 1: I could do what I gotta do, and vice versa

1032
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:26,839
Speaker 1: on moments when he needed that. Like the best moment

1033
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 1: for me most recently after everything was maybe about two

1034
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 1: or three weeks after rapping my oldest son, when I

1035
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 1: was watching dishes after dinner one night, came up to

1036
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 1: me and just threw his arm around me and he

1037
00:48:38,760 --> 00:48:42,000
Speaker 1: was like, mom, man, I'm just so proud of you all.

1038
00:48:43,280 --> 00:48:46,120
Speaker 1: And I was like, I stopped and I looked at

1039
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:47,759
Speaker 1: him and I was like, damn, Jackson. I said, thank you.

1040
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,560
Speaker 1: I said, I appreciate that. I said, I always feel

1041
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 1: like you guys are proud of me. But hearing it,

1042
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 1: you know, it's reinforcement for me. He was like, nah,

1043
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 1: I honestly feel like yo, between you and dad, like

1044
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 1: I have no reason not to be great, right, And

1045
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 1: that was so so.

1046
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:04,279
Speaker 4: Because that's the goal with raising kids, like you want

1047
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:05,799
Speaker 4: them to want to be like you.

1048
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:06,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, and being.

1049
00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 3: To the fact that you had to go and film

1050
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:13,840
Speaker 3: all that and everybody was just ready to surround you

1051
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 3: and help you and.

1052
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: It's your turn. Go do what you gotta do it

1053
00:49:17,760 --> 00:49:20,960
Speaker 1: all hands on. Zacha Deval was literally like, don't buy

1054
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:22,759
Speaker 1: the mother. I'm gonna take care of this.

1055
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:23,239
Speaker 2: It's like.

1056
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 1: It was like, that's the grandparents because my parents lived

1057
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 1: with us. I had lost flew in so it's like

1058
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 1: you get a kid, you get a kid. Kid, y'all

1059
00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 1: rotate and then he had to film two weeks after me.

1060
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 1: So then the minute I wrapped, it was like the

1061
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:41,359
Speaker 1: role reversal. But this is what we've been doing our

1062
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:46,120
Speaker 1: whole live a whole village hand Thank God for the village.

1063
00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 2: So I can't wait.

1064
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:50,799
Speaker 4: I can't wait the show because I love sisters.

1065
00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 2: I love I am, I am a stand So I

1066
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 2: have a.

1067
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:58,280
Speaker 4: Question, h which sister's character would you compare your character

1068
00:49:58,440 --> 00:50:00,719
Speaker 4: on this new show to we had good?

1069
00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:05,840
Speaker 2: What shit? Because I'm so I hate.

1070
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:11,200
Speaker 4: Oh, okay, here in my least favorite.

1071
00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:15,160
Speaker 1: She really he's the worst. You don't like her character?

1072
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 2: Why no?

1073
00:50:16,320 --> 00:50:18,839
Speaker 4: Because she just can't let it go, girl, let it go,

1074
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:22,280
Speaker 4: let it go, Like I just feel like you gotta

1075
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,319
Speaker 4: move on with Grace, I could see.

1076
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: I think I think Geneva might have well, she's a

1077
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:30,280
Speaker 1: tinge of and Andy because you're learning that she's an attorney. Okay,

1078
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 1: she got a little she got a little gangster in us,

1079
00:50:33,719 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 1: so she might have a little fatima when she's okay,

1080
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:38,480
Speaker 1: you know, But other than that, I think she might

1081
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:40,440
Speaker 1: be her own new entity. And which is the amazing

1082
00:50:40,440 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 1: thing about mister Perry is that he finds ways to

1083
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:46,239
Speaker 1: find representation in everyone. Right, So there's an ensemble cast

1084
00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:50,040
Speaker 1: of us. Shout out to my castmates, five sisters who

1085
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:52,160
Speaker 1: all are coming from different walks of life, and they're

1086
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:54,240
Speaker 1: battling different things where that they're divorced, in the middle

1087
00:50:54,239 --> 00:50:56,279
Speaker 1: of a divorce, on their way to divorce, divorce, and

1088
00:50:56,320 --> 00:50:57,880
Speaker 1: they don't even know what any a marriage. You know,

1089
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things happening. But I do feel

1090
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:03,399
Speaker 1: like there's gonna be a woman out there who can

1091
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 1: relate to somebody. Yes, and if you can't relate directly,

1092
00:51:06,960 --> 00:51:08,399
Speaker 1: you'd be like, Yeah, that's my girl, that's my Hong

1093
00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 1: girl right there, you know. So I'm expected for them

1094
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 1: to be a lot of group chat conversation after the

1095
00:51:12,680 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 1: episode to see who relates to who and how they

1096
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:18,920
Speaker 1: deal with their situations and their circumstances. But yeah, yeah,

1097
00:51:18,960 --> 00:51:20,960
Speaker 1: I think Geneva's gonna be a very interesting person. I

1098
00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:23,359
Speaker 1: love that the show actually is Divorces. It's because it's

1099
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:24,440
Speaker 1: so far from what I am.

1100
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 2: That's what I was going to ask you next.

1101
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:29,440
Speaker 4: I'm like, how did you prepare for the role considering

1102
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 4: you're in such a happy marriage and happy relationship.

1103
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:34,680
Speaker 1: It was like the best challenge for me as an

1104
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:38,640
Speaker 1: actor because it made me have to develop Geneva as

1105
00:51:38,680 --> 00:51:41,480
Speaker 1: a character. Like that's the first thing I did, you know,

1106
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:43,640
Speaker 1: going back to my acting school days and trying to

1107
00:51:43,680 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 1: like work on my instrument, but also, you know, developing

1108
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:50,640
Speaker 1: a character something very very important, especially a new character

1109
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:52,760
Speaker 1: who's going to be introduced to people for the first time.

1110
00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: So it was interesting when I worked with my coach,

1111
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:58,319
Speaker 1: She's like figure out the nuances that made Geneva who

1112
00:51:58,320 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 1: she was and how different she was from Kadeen. But

1113
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 1: there were also moments where I felt like a little

1114
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:05,920
Speaker 1: bit of Kadeen could probably surface here, you know, and

1115
00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 1: it was amazing to me. I said, we had to

1116
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:11,080
Speaker 1: dispel the miss LaToya Porscha and I. We were on

1117
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:14,080
Speaker 1: the Sherry Shepherd Show Press of New York, and we

1118
00:52:14,080 --> 00:52:16,240
Speaker 1: were just like, let's just clear the air. When people

1119
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:19,440
Speaker 1: first saw the poster and it said Divorced Sisters and

1120
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:20,680
Speaker 1: I was front and center on.

1121
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:29,239
Speaker 2: I was like, it was.

1122
00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:34,440
Speaker 3: Because I thought it was a reality Who getting.

1123
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 6: What I did it first?

1124
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:35,600
Speaker 1: Though? How you know.

1125
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 6: Yourself, queen, yourself king.

1126
00:52:44,719 --> 00:52:54,520
Speaker 1: Insert my head. When everybody calmed down, everybody calmed down,

1127
00:52:54,560 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 1: it is not a reality show the scripted show where

1128
00:52:57,680 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 1: we're acting. But I think that's just the beauty and

1129
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:03,120
Speaker 1: it I can just place someone who's so far from yeah,

1130
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 1: and you know, it's fun to do that. It's fun

1131
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:06,319
Speaker 1: to show the representation of.

1132
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:08,359
Speaker 6: You're gonna tell them what we did the other night

1133
00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 6: was all playing looks.

1134
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:17,200
Speaker 2: Biting his lip. Y'all had to be doing it on freaking.

1135
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:20,520
Speaker 1: He read that it was. It was a little Zach

1136
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 1: meets Geneva. Okay, a little like intersection of worlds.

1137
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:28,000
Speaker 2: If you will, you can't produce this one. Come on now,

1138
00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:29,800
Speaker 2: this one.

1139
00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 6: Because this is the ultimate universe never follows.

1140
00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:39,360
Speaker 1: Ain't Nobody was worried about moment.

1141
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 7: You know, I traveled it, I traveled in time to

1142
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:43,240
Speaker 7: a completely different alternate.

1143
00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:44,440
Speaker 6: That's what happened.

1144
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:47,000
Speaker 1: Said, that would be funny if like one day, like

1145
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:49,120
Speaker 1: on Systems for example, like you know, he works in

1146
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:51,600
Speaker 1: the airport, Zach, so Geneva's like going through the airport

1147
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 1: and they bump into each other and it's just like, oh,

1148
00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:57,279
Speaker 1: that was quickly know.

1149
00:53:58,719 --> 00:53:59,520
Speaker 2: All a sudday day.

1150
00:54:03,800 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 1: I think I would be so cute.

1151
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:06,680
Speaker 3: Was there ever a moment where you were like reading

1152
00:54:06,680 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 3: the script and you were like, oh, my man can

1153
00:54:08,239 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 3: never do.

1154
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:08,920
Speaker 2: This to me.

1155
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:12,839
Speaker 1: Absolutely, He was like absolutely, or maybe my man would

1156
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 1: never put up with this m because some of them

1157
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:17,480
Speaker 1: was the one.

1158
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 7: How y'all automatically assume the man was in the wrong.

1159
00:54:21,280 --> 00:54:22,839
Speaker 6: I'm saying Fels I'm representing for.

1160
00:54:27,400 --> 00:54:29,439
Speaker 2: To watch. Was the one to watch?

1161
00:54:30,280 --> 00:54:30,719
Speaker 1: Might be me?

1162
00:54:31,800 --> 00:54:33,359
Speaker 2: He sounds like she cuts up.

1163
00:54:33,480 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 1: I am contrastingly obligated not to give you any details.

1164
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:38,640
Speaker 1: You didn't have to watch on be et plus y'all

1165
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 1: every time we.

1166
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:41,840
Speaker 4: Can't wait, I'm.

1167
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:42,040
Speaker 2: Gonna be tuned in.

1168
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:44,400
Speaker 1: I cannot wait. Thank y'all for the support.

1169
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:49,760
Speaker 4: What are we because we already yeah, very so, because

1170
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:51,840
Speaker 4: we have the two love birds, and I'm glad you

1171
00:54:51,840 --> 00:54:54,520
Speaker 4: know what I'm spot on with the blue Lights special

1172
00:54:57,840 --> 00:55:02,400
Speaker 4: Okay it is so we have two different drinks. We

1173
00:55:02,400 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 4: have a his and a hers is what we're gonna

1174
00:55:04,560 --> 00:55:07,440
Speaker 4: call it today. For the Hers, she has some spiced

1175
00:55:07,520 --> 00:55:10,080
Speaker 4: rum in there. We have some peach snaps. We have

1176
00:55:10,160 --> 00:55:13,320
Speaker 4: some blue cure soyle floated at the bottom, some lime juice,

1177
00:55:13,320 --> 00:55:14,719
Speaker 4: and we have some coconut syrup.

1178
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:16,759
Speaker 2: So that's what you're taking. Coconde.

1179
00:55:17,280 --> 00:55:20,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, you like that little tropical and then we garnish

1180
00:55:20,360 --> 00:55:22,400
Speaker 4: that one with a blue orchid, so we're getting.

1181
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:24,120
Speaker 2: More floral, little tropical in there.

1182
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 4: And then for Deval, we have a it's kind of

1183
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:28,600
Speaker 4: like a play on an old fashion. You know, he

1184
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:31,839
Speaker 4: loves his whiskey, so we have some whiskey in there.

1185
00:55:32,320 --> 00:55:36,239
Speaker 4: We have some eighteen twenty one old fashion. It's a

1186
00:55:36,280 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 4: barrel old fashioned syrup. And then I made my own bitters,

1187
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:42,840
Speaker 4: so yes, you do like a store. It has like

1188
00:55:42,840 --> 00:55:44,560
Speaker 4: a little bit of a spice to it, a little

1189
00:55:44,560 --> 00:55:46,880
Speaker 4: bit more so, you know, I got crafty.

1190
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 2: A little bit.

1191
00:55:47,239 --> 00:55:49,680
Speaker 4: So we have some of that homemade bitters, and then

1192
00:55:49,680 --> 00:55:52,280
Speaker 4: we garnish it with a dehydrated orange and a cherry.

1193
00:55:52,560 --> 00:55:56,359
Speaker 2: So we have the his and we have the herds. Cheers, y'all.

1194
00:55:56,719 --> 00:55:58,560
Speaker 3: Now your skin is glowing today.

1195
00:55:58,719 --> 00:56:03,960
Speaker 1: Thank you very I love ne and the orange giving

1196
00:56:04,200 --> 00:56:10,840
Speaker 1: sun kills. I have been in the gym, you know,

1197
00:56:13,040 --> 00:56:14,680
Speaker 1: making me feel like I'm on the beach in Jamaica.

1198
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:19,480
Speaker 2: That's what I said, walk on. I won, but I already.

1199
00:56:20,719 --> 00:56:21,640
Speaker 1: You should name it.

1200
00:56:24,560 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 4: Yeah one, it was all honorary Jamaic.

1201
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 1: She hit us with the bumble clock. It's like, you know,

1202
00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:38,720
Speaker 1: whenever you learn a new languages, like how do I say, Chinese,

1203
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:41,760
Speaker 1: don't you know you want to learn all the curse words,

1204
00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:46,480
Speaker 1: push the clo.

1205
00:56:49,280 --> 00:56:52,839
Speaker 3: So I do want to touch on this because the show, again,

1206
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:55,200
Speaker 3: y'all are our first couple, so we really we get

1207
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 3: into it.

1208
00:56:55,840 --> 00:56:57,960
Speaker 6: Okay, couples, Yes, let's get into it.

1209
00:56:58,160 --> 00:57:01,279
Speaker 2: So we wanted to talk about serving each other in.

1210
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 3: A relationship, because y'all talked about this, you know in

1211
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 3: the in the book that yeah, you know what I'm saying.

1212
00:57:06,040 --> 00:57:09,160
Speaker 7: We over meet New York Times bestseller period, counter intuitive approach,

1213
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:10,000
Speaker 7: you get everything.

1214
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 3: Relationship now, Yes, So I want to talk about the

1215
00:57:14,160 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 3: importance of that. And I think with serving someone, you

1216
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 3: really have to know how to let go of your ego, yes,

1217
00:57:20,360 --> 00:57:23,000
Speaker 3: and understand I'm not serving them how I think I

1218
00:57:23,000 --> 00:57:25,440
Speaker 3: should serve somebody. I'm serving them how they want to

1219
00:57:25,440 --> 00:57:26,040
Speaker 3: be served.

1220
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:26,680
Speaker 1: That's okay.

1221
00:57:26,720 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 3: So how do you get in the mindset to really

1222
00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:31,800
Speaker 3: do that and not get aggravated? And then also on

1223
00:57:31,840 --> 00:57:34,560
Speaker 3: the other end, when you're receiving this service, how do

1224
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:37,200
Speaker 3: you properly correct someone like, hey, this is not.

1225
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 2: Exactly how I like it.

1226
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:41,440
Speaker 3: Because you have to be able to receive that information,

1227
00:57:41,600 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 3: but you also have to understand how to give that

1228
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 3: information as well.

1229
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 6: Is this not perfect timing? Is this not perfect timing?

1230
00:57:49,440 --> 00:57:51,560
Speaker 7: And it's I'm glad you asked that question because here,

1231
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:54,880
Speaker 7: fifteen years of marriage going in twenty two we still

1232
00:57:54,880 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 7: have these conversations, and we want to say that so

1233
00:57:57,640 --> 00:57:59,960
Speaker 7: that people don't feel like, oh, it's been six months.

1234
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:01,840
Speaker 7: I already told his nigga. I didn't told this bitch,

1235
00:58:01,840 --> 00:58:04,520
Speaker 7: I ain't. No, it's twenty two years. Yeah, we continue

1236
00:58:04,560 --> 00:58:07,360
Speaker 7: to evolve, So it's the ever going conversation.

1237
00:58:06,920 --> 00:58:09,400
Speaker 1: It really is. And I mean you think about it

1238
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 1: being with someone in our circumstance. For example, from eighteen

1239
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:15,280
Speaker 1: nineteen years old to now, there have been several iterations

1240
00:58:15,320 --> 00:58:18,240
Speaker 1: of the valancadee. Right, So I'm not the same person

1241
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:20,360
Speaker 1: I was at eighteen or twenty something thirty, I'm not

1242
00:58:20,440 --> 00:58:23,840
Speaker 1: forty one. Like I've grown as an individual within this relationship,

1243
00:58:23,840 --> 00:58:26,280
Speaker 1: so the things that I require may also be different

1244
00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:28,520
Speaker 1: now than they were then. So that's why it has

1245
00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:31,480
Speaker 1: to be a constant conversation. In terms of the ego

1246
00:58:31,520 --> 00:58:33,560
Speaker 1: portion of it, that's something I particularly had a hard

1247
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:37,320
Speaker 1: time letting go of, and I think it's because me

1248
00:58:37,480 --> 00:58:39,680
Speaker 1: wanting to do things in my mind which I thought

1249
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:43,000
Speaker 1: was the perfect way was not always received by him

1250
00:58:43,240 --> 00:58:46,080
Speaker 1: as the perfect way. He'll be like, yo, I asked

1251
00:58:46,120 --> 00:58:50,320
Speaker 1: for this very specifically, and you chose to give me that.

1252
00:58:51,000 --> 00:58:52,360
Speaker 1: And then in my mind I'm like, well, ni, guy

1253
00:58:52,400 --> 00:58:52,880
Speaker 1: gave him.

1254
00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 2: Something because this is better than you.

1255
00:58:56,200 --> 00:59:00,240
Speaker 1: Know, yes, And He's just like, while I appreciate what

1256
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:03,040
Speaker 1: you did. You asked me what I wanted, I gave

1257
00:59:03,080 --> 00:59:05,280
Speaker 1: you specifics, and you still chose to do something else.

1258
00:59:06,040 --> 00:59:08,400
Speaker 1: Just give me what I want. And recently on one

1259
00:59:08,440 --> 00:59:11,720
Speaker 1: of our podcast episodes, we were speaking with the young

1260
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:13,919
Speaker 1: men who are on our panel as well too, and

1261
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 1: he said, men are pretty simple. They asked for what

1262
00:59:18,320 --> 00:59:21,400
Speaker 1: they want. Give them what they want. It doesn't have

1263
00:59:21,480 --> 00:59:23,840
Speaker 1: to be the theatric surround it. Because the reason the

1264
00:59:23,920 --> 00:59:26,120
Speaker 1: question came up, I said, you know, as a woman,

1265
00:59:26,160 --> 00:59:28,720
Speaker 1: sometimes you like a grand gesture. You want the balloons

1266
00:59:28,720 --> 00:59:30,840
Speaker 1: and the flowers when you check into the hotel, and

1267
00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:34,240
Speaker 1: those are some things that you would deem romantic, right,

1268
00:59:34,280 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 1: So if I'm doing something for my man, it's like, well,

1269
00:59:37,040 --> 00:59:39,080
Speaker 1: what do I do? That's the grand gesture that you

1270
00:59:39,080 --> 00:59:40,960
Speaker 1: can feel like damn, like she really put all this

1271
00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:42,400
Speaker 1: thought into it, And I was like, I don't want

1272
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:45,200
Speaker 1: no flowers. I don't want no balloons I asked for,

1273
00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:56,000
Speaker 1: but I want it in a cheerleading uniform.

1274
00:59:56,400 --> 00:59:57,240
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

1275
00:59:57,480 --> 01:00:00,439
Speaker 1: What you're hearing pigtails and some you know, the sake

1276
01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:01,760
Speaker 1: the glasses and some ship and.

1277
01:00:01,720 --> 01:00:04,880
Speaker 2: No excuse, no day amazon, that's.

1278
01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:10,000
Speaker 3: It doing seven pm. Them shorts go on at seven pm.

1279
01:00:10,560 --> 01:00:12,200
Speaker 1: Sure, And I'm gonna.

1280
01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:13,000
Speaker 2: Show you something here.

1281
01:00:13,360 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 6: I'm gonna show you something.

1282
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 7: What you got you put since you tried, since you

1283
01:00:18,560 --> 01:00:24,400
Speaker 7: tried doing embarrassed me. I'm going because people people like

1284
01:00:24,440 --> 01:00:27,680
Speaker 7: to say people going podcast and be talking about lives

1285
01:00:27,680 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 7: they don't live. This is randomly in the morning mood queen.

1286
01:00:35,480 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 7: I yeah, I want to take my son.

1287
01:00:41,560 --> 01:00:45,640
Speaker 6: To basketball on the workout, yo, I want to take.

1288
01:00:47,120 --> 01:00:49,360
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you.

1289
01:00:49,400 --> 01:00:51,640
Speaker 7: I want to take my son to basketball practice. I

1290
01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:53,720
Speaker 7: get a text message with this picture.

1291
01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:56,800
Speaker 6: I'm doing a buck thirty on my weight back home.

1292
01:00:57,680 --> 01:00:58,560
Speaker 6: That's what she says.

1293
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:02,360
Speaker 1: A way is not in the morning.

1294
01:01:04,280 --> 01:01:05,760
Speaker 6: That's my song shout out on my.

1295
01:01:11,440 --> 01:01:14,760
Speaker 1: It was. But yeah, you got to put your ego aside,

1296
01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:16,760
Speaker 1: just like if you can't be real with your with

1297
01:01:16,840 --> 01:01:19,280
Speaker 1: your partner, like what are we doing? What are we

1298
01:01:19,400 --> 01:01:20,960
Speaker 1: doing here? You know, and.

1299
01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:25,960
Speaker 7: For the man, it's the same thing. Like I asked

1300
01:01:25,960 --> 01:01:27,480
Speaker 7: men to do. You want to be a husband, you

1301
01:01:27,520 --> 01:01:30,000
Speaker 7: want to be a groom. They're like, what's the difference?

1302
01:01:30,400 --> 01:01:31,920
Speaker 7: If you want to be a groom, you want to

1303
01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:33,560
Speaker 7: take pictures with your wife, y'all want to look good

1304
01:01:33,600 --> 01:01:36,320
Speaker 7: on social media. You want to go on vacations and

1305
01:01:36,360 --> 01:01:38,320
Speaker 7: do that. If you want to be a husband, be

1306
01:01:38,440 --> 01:01:41,200
Speaker 7: ready to sacrifice. Be ready that when she's in the

1307
01:01:41,280 --> 01:01:43,400
Speaker 7: worst mood ever she don't want to have sex, be

1308
01:01:43,440 --> 01:01:45,960
Speaker 7: ready to say, yo, that's okay, because I know you're

1309
01:01:46,000 --> 01:01:48,560
Speaker 7: going through something. That's the leadership part of marriage that

1310
01:01:49,000 --> 01:01:51,520
Speaker 7: most people don't want to talk about, but I'm willing

1311
01:01:51,520 --> 01:01:53,640
Speaker 7: to talk about because me and this woman right here,

1312
01:01:54,400 --> 01:01:58,040
Speaker 7: I no longer perform for my gender. That's why people

1313
01:01:58,080 --> 01:02:00,440
Speaker 7: say all the time, like why why this nigga here

1314
01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:01,440
Speaker 7: talking all this other shit?

1315
01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:03,240
Speaker 6: Because I don't go to to y'all niggas.

1316
01:02:03,520 --> 01:02:06,240
Speaker 7: Then I'm a real nigga. I have a person I'm

1317
01:02:06,240 --> 01:02:09,160
Speaker 7: building a life with. So the only person I'm pledging

1318
01:02:09,200 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 7: allegiance to is my wife. So with that being said,

1319
01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:14,880
Speaker 7: I'm gonna always be ready to serve her. What do

1320
01:02:14,960 --> 01:02:17,920
Speaker 7: you need in this season. Okay, in this season, you

1321
01:02:17,960 --> 01:02:20,320
Speaker 7: don't want to be a boss no more. In this

1322
01:02:20,360 --> 01:02:23,400
Speaker 7: season you want to be flown down on vacations and

1323
01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 7: doing all this other stuff. Since I'm your husband and

1324
01:02:26,360 --> 01:02:28,560
Speaker 7: I chose that. No one told me I had to

1325
01:02:28,600 --> 01:02:31,080
Speaker 7: be a husband. Since I chose to do that, fly

1326
01:02:31,160 --> 01:02:33,760
Speaker 7: wherever you want to go. Baby, Wait, you tired of

1327
01:02:33,840 --> 01:02:36,200
Speaker 7: doing that shit. You want to be a boss, you

1328
01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 7: want to be on TV. I'm your husband. That's my

1329
01:02:38,880 --> 01:02:40,960
Speaker 7: job to do that. So let me make sure I

1330
01:02:41,000 --> 01:02:43,840
Speaker 7: can curate that space for you. So when you're ready

1331
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:46,280
Speaker 7: in that position with someone and you use discernment to

1332
01:02:46,280 --> 01:02:48,560
Speaker 7: find someone who's going to reciprocate that the same way,

1333
01:02:48,760 --> 01:02:51,200
Speaker 7: it's easy to be of service because the same way

1334
01:02:51,240 --> 01:02:53,680
Speaker 7: I'm ready to do all of that. When I come home,

1335
01:02:54,040 --> 01:02:56,960
Speaker 7: I drop all of my issues that I've come through

1336
01:02:57,240 --> 01:02:59,400
Speaker 7: the door with on the day, I drop them at

1337
01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:03,320
Speaker 7: the front door, and my wife is there, bathtub chicken,

1338
01:03:03,800 --> 01:03:10,640
Speaker 7: my weed, the kids, this and this is why I'm

1339
01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:12,680
Speaker 7: gonna name those things because that may not be the

1340
01:03:12,720 --> 01:03:15,480
Speaker 7: same for your men or your men. So for me

1341
01:03:15,560 --> 01:03:18,480
Speaker 7: to tell any other woman, in order to keep your man,

1342
01:03:18,560 --> 01:03:20,800
Speaker 7: you gotta do a k Dude, no, in order to

1343
01:03:20,840 --> 01:03:24,000
Speaker 7: keep your man, find out what your man needs, and

1344
01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:26,760
Speaker 7: once you find out what he needs, focused on that.

1345
01:03:27,120 --> 01:03:29,600
Speaker 6: Fuck the world. You don't got to prove to everybody

1346
01:03:29,600 --> 01:03:31,000
Speaker 6: else you're a good wife.

1347
01:03:30,920 --> 01:03:35,880
Speaker 1: And nobody is a mind reader exactly what you want? Like,

1348
01:03:36,040 --> 01:03:38,400
Speaker 1: be deliberate and say what it is that you want.

1349
01:03:38,600 --> 01:03:41,720
Speaker 1: So many of our issues were alleviated when we started

1350
01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:46,080
Speaker 1: having those just very raw, candid congradations. What do you

1351
01:03:46,080 --> 01:03:48,600
Speaker 1: need in the space to be successful? How can I

1352
01:03:48,640 --> 01:03:51,439
Speaker 1: make your day easier today? What do you have going

1353
01:03:51,480 --> 01:03:53,120
Speaker 1: on that you want to achieve that? Because if that

1354
01:03:53,240 --> 01:03:55,320
Speaker 1: was a mastermind of coming up with ideas, every other

1355
01:03:55,400 --> 01:03:57,480
Speaker 1: day's idea and I'm like, well, how are we going

1356
01:03:57,520 --> 01:03:59,480
Speaker 1: to you know, bring this to fruition? You know. But

1357
01:03:59,560 --> 01:04:02,400
Speaker 1: whatever it is that you know your partner is interested

1358
01:04:02,400 --> 01:04:04,320
Speaker 1: in and they want to do, it's like you got

1359
01:04:04,360 --> 01:04:06,600
Speaker 1: to ask those questions, yah, and you have to genuinely

1360
01:04:06,600 --> 01:04:09,439
Speaker 1: be interested in finding ways to deliver that, but also

1361
01:04:09,480 --> 01:04:11,760
Speaker 1: being comfortable knowing that I can do this because it's

1362
01:04:11,800 --> 01:04:14,280
Speaker 1: going to be reciprocated. Like Deval and I, I think

1363
01:04:14,320 --> 01:04:16,280
Speaker 1: we move like a well oiled machine most of the

1364
01:04:16,280 --> 01:04:19,120
Speaker 1: times because whoever is equipped in that moment to deal

1365
01:04:19,160 --> 01:04:21,880
Speaker 1: with whatever it is, deals with it. Whoever is on

1366
01:04:21,920 --> 01:04:24,040
Speaker 1: the forefront right now because their career is on the

1367
01:04:24,040 --> 01:04:27,000
Speaker 1: way up, we rally behind that problem, you know, like

1368
01:04:27,040 --> 01:04:29,320
Speaker 1: there doesn't have to be the internal battle. However, I

1369
01:04:29,320 --> 01:04:31,600
Speaker 1: could serve you to make your life easier in this moment.

1370
01:04:31,920 --> 01:04:33,480
Speaker 1: I'm going to do it because I want to do it.

1371
01:04:34,640 --> 01:04:36,080
Speaker 2: That's a that word.

1372
01:04:36,120 --> 01:04:37,520
Speaker 3: But I want to go back to something that you

1373
01:04:37,560 --> 01:04:40,520
Speaker 3: said earlier, because you were saying how like sometimes that

1374
01:04:40,600 --> 01:04:43,040
Speaker 3: she doesn't want to be intimate. You have to be

1375
01:04:43,160 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 3: as a man understanding and be like, okay, well let

1376
01:04:45,000 --> 01:04:47,200
Speaker 3: me figure out what's wrong. Because it was an old

1377
01:04:47,320 --> 01:04:49,240
Speaker 3: episode I was looking at because somebody had.

1378
01:04:49,120 --> 01:04:51,280
Speaker 2: Commented on it on our YouTube. It was a long time.

1379
01:04:51,160 --> 01:04:53,520
Speaker 3: Ago when I was saying something like, oh when ya man,

1380
01:04:53,560 --> 01:04:55,080
Speaker 3: wont it you gotta give it to him, You gotta

1381
01:04:55,120 --> 01:04:56,160
Speaker 3: give it to it. This was when we was in

1382
01:04:56,160 --> 01:04:57,200
Speaker 3: the red and black background.

1383
01:04:57,200 --> 01:04:57,960
Speaker 2: I was cutting up.

1384
01:04:58,440 --> 01:05:01,160
Speaker 3: But as i I've grown old, I'm like, that is

1385
01:05:01,200 --> 01:05:03,720
Speaker 3: so wrong because if you have a person, yeah who

1386
01:05:03,800 --> 01:05:05,680
Speaker 3: can understand like, hey, you know what, I'm not in

1387
01:05:05,720 --> 01:05:08,000
Speaker 3: the mood right now. I don't, So as a man,

1388
01:05:08,120 --> 01:05:09,880
Speaker 3: you should be understanding like, hey, she doesn't want to

1389
01:05:09,880 --> 01:05:11,360
Speaker 3: have sex right now, let me figure out what's wrong

1390
01:05:11,400 --> 01:05:15,000
Speaker 3: with her, what's going on versus Because women we're taught like, oh,

1391
01:05:15,040 --> 01:05:18,040
Speaker 3: you gotta cook clean, give him some coochie drain is balled,

1392
01:05:18,080 --> 01:05:21,080
Speaker 3: and it's like, sometimes that's not that's not what's going

1393
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:21,960
Speaker 3: to keep the home.

1394
01:05:21,800 --> 01:05:23,120
Speaker 2: Happy, you know what I mean.

1395
01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:26,240
Speaker 7: The bottom line is nobody can give you a number

1396
01:05:26,280 --> 01:05:28,520
Speaker 7: of how many times you're gonna have sex for your men.

1397
01:05:29,000 --> 01:05:32,880
Speaker 7: It all depends on the men, right, So stop asking

1398
01:05:32,920 --> 01:05:36,560
Speaker 7: your friends how many times is enough? Speak to your

1399
01:05:36,680 --> 01:05:39,520
Speaker 7: man and say, look, how many times is it enough

1400
01:05:39,520 --> 01:05:42,120
Speaker 7: for you? Once he gives you that, then tell him

1401
01:05:42,360 --> 01:05:45,240
Speaker 7: this is what we have done in our relationship. I'm

1402
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:47,720
Speaker 7: the type of person she knows my sex job is

1403
01:05:47,760 --> 01:05:50,280
Speaker 7: super high. I can have sex multiple times a day.

1404
01:05:51,200 --> 01:05:51,720
Speaker 6: That's just me.

1405
01:05:54,880 --> 01:05:57,560
Speaker 7: I also know my wife and I also know that

1406
01:05:58,080 --> 01:06:02,040
Speaker 7: if once she orgasms, she's good, I like it up.

1407
01:06:07,240 --> 01:06:08,439
Speaker 1: Times.

1408
01:06:10,000 --> 01:06:12,000
Speaker 6: But that goes back to serving. Right.

1409
01:06:12,160 --> 01:06:14,960
Speaker 7: If you're a husband, you know I'm in this to serve.

1410
01:06:15,760 --> 01:06:18,360
Speaker 7: So since I'm in this to serve is big? What

1411
01:06:18,400 --> 01:06:21,440
Speaker 7: do you need in this moment to make us get

1412
01:06:21,480 --> 01:06:23,560
Speaker 7: to this point? And I'm not gonna lie to you.

1413
01:06:24,000 --> 01:06:27,640
Speaker 7: It is reciprocated a lot in our relationship because since

1414
01:06:27,640 --> 01:06:30,480
Speaker 7: I'm always serving, I don't have to worry about not

1415
01:06:30,520 --> 01:06:31,000
Speaker 7: getting it.

1416
01:06:31,120 --> 01:06:33,200
Speaker 6: She gonna rain check me once in a while. You

1417
01:06:33,240 --> 01:06:34,520
Speaker 6: know she's tired, all right?

1418
01:06:34,840 --> 01:06:39,240
Speaker 4: You you was with the kids all day.

1419
01:06:37,720 --> 01:06:41,280
Speaker 7: And here's the here's the truth though, the fact that

1420
01:06:41,320 --> 01:06:44,000
Speaker 7: she said that it's fair right, just because someone gives

1421
01:06:44,000 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 7: you the ability to rain check, don't mean that you're

1422
01:06:45,880 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 7: always gonna throw it out.

1423
01:06:46,720 --> 01:06:50,280
Speaker 6: I'm not ready, I'm not right. Because there's also responsibility

1424
01:06:50,320 --> 01:06:50,760
Speaker 6: for women.

1425
01:06:51,080 --> 01:06:54,160
Speaker 7: You want this man to only be with you and

1426
01:06:54,200 --> 01:06:57,640
Speaker 7: not give any attention sexually to anybody else. So since

1427
01:06:57,680 --> 01:07:00,280
Speaker 7: you ask for that, how about you be a partartner

1428
01:07:00,320 --> 01:07:03,320
Speaker 7: and helping him develop what y'all sexual plan looks like.

1429
01:07:03,560 --> 01:07:05,600
Speaker 1: So for us what we do now, it's like sometimes

1430
01:07:05,600 --> 01:07:06,960
Speaker 1: there's days that I'm just like, you know what, I

1431
01:07:07,080 --> 01:07:09,800
Speaker 1: just I just don't want to be penetrated, Like she

1432
01:07:09,920 --> 01:07:12,240
Speaker 1: just don't want it in her today. But I know

1433
01:07:13,080 --> 01:07:15,880
Speaker 1: he might need you know, I see the I see

1434
01:07:15,880 --> 01:07:18,600
Speaker 1: the tossing and the turning happening. You're the attitude of

1435
01:07:18,680 --> 01:07:22,360
Speaker 1: slightly funky. You might need a little something. So that's

1436
01:07:22,400 --> 01:07:23,920
Speaker 1: when Sis is like, you know what, let me just

1437
01:07:23,960 --> 01:07:30,320
Speaker 1: pull this hair back from Okay, but situations the bad, honey,

1438
01:07:30,640 --> 01:07:38,360
Speaker 1: and to right, you know it's giving thousand. It's just

1439
01:07:38,840 --> 01:07:41,640
Speaker 1: because he gets what he wants. I essentially get what

1440
01:07:41,680 --> 01:07:43,680
Speaker 1: I want, you know, because it's like it's a fifty

1441
01:07:43,760 --> 01:07:45,240
Speaker 1: fifty situation in that moment.

1442
01:07:45,440 --> 01:07:48,200
Speaker 3: You know it's so I agree, Oh, go head, go ahead.

1443
01:07:48,200 --> 01:07:50,160
Speaker 4: Well, I just wanted to ask y'all because I wanted

1444
01:07:50,200 --> 01:07:52,520
Speaker 4: to ask a question for the single people. Do you

1445
01:07:52,640 --> 01:07:56,440
Speaker 4: feel like you need to serve your partner before marriage?

1446
01:07:57,560 --> 01:08:00,200
Speaker 4: That's a good because sometimes I think people off and

1447
01:08:00,240 --> 01:08:03,960
Speaker 4: feel like, Okay, if I'm giving everything before I get the.

1448
01:08:04,040 --> 01:08:05,960
Speaker 2: Ring, what's gonna make him want to give me the ring?

1449
01:08:06,960 --> 01:08:09,480
Speaker 1: You can get the milk for free, the car first,

1450
01:08:09,600 --> 01:08:11,360
Speaker 1: to see if the car has everything you need.

1451
01:08:12,040 --> 01:08:13,439
Speaker 6: That's that's that's a good point.

1452
01:08:13,480 --> 01:08:15,280
Speaker 7: But I will say this, if you're looking for someone

1453
01:08:15,320 --> 01:08:18,680
Speaker 7: who's looking to be of service in purpotue, it's not

1454
01:08:18,680 --> 01:08:20,519
Speaker 7: gonna matter whether you're married or not. That person just

1455
01:08:20,560 --> 01:08:22,760
Speaker 7: wants to be in service. I was of service to

1456
01:08:22,840 --> 01:08:26,760
Speaker 7: Kadeen before we were married when I covered all of

1457
01:08:26,760 --> 01:08:29,599
Speaker 7: her bills, I paid all of her stuff. That way,

1458
01:08:29,640 --> 01:08:32,479
Speaker 7: I protected her with my life before she was my wife.

1459
01:08:32,840 --> 01:08:35,799
Speaker 7: Before she was my wife, she made my meal, she cooked,

1460
01:08:35,960 --> 01:08:38,360
Speaker 7: she took care of my mental health, she made sure

1461
01:08:38,360 --> 01:08:40,640
Speaker 7: that my dar was correct. All the things that will

1462
01:08:40,680 --> 01:08:44,080
Speaker 7: consider red flags for women these days she was doing.

1463
01:08:44,160 --> 01:08:46,959
Speaker 7: But that showed me was like, this woman is preparing

1464
01:08:47,000 --> 01:08:48,559
Speaker 7: to be a wife, not just a bride.

1465
01:08:48,600 --> 01:08:51,479
Speaker 1: Because now now I think about it, back in the day,

1466
01:08:52,120 --> 01:08:54,840
Speaker 1: if we're using terms like we use nowadays, I probably

1467
01:08:54,840 --> 01:08:55,559
Speaker 1: would have been like the.

1468
01:08:55,479 --> 01:08:58,640
Speaker 6: P you'd been, I would and I'd have been a simple.

1469
01:08:58,520 --> 01:09:01,000
Speaker 1: Absolutely, And to me in that moment, now that I

1470
01:09:01,040 --> 01:09:02,680
Speaker 1: look at it, it's like him. I wouldn't think that

1471
01:09:02,800 --> 01:09:04,920
Speaker 1: I'm not doing this because I want him to like

1472
01:09:05,000 --> 01:09:07,559
Speaker 1: me or I wanted him to pick me. It was

1473
01:09:07,680 --> 01:09:10,400
Speaker 1: innate in me to want to nurture and take care

1474
01:09:10,439 --> 01:09:13,599
Speaker 1: of someone, and I met somebody who wanted to be

1475
01:09:13,720 --> 01:09:17,280
Speaker 1: taken care of. You know, that may not work for everybody,

1476
01:09:17,400 --> 01:09:20,800
Speaker 1: but that was just who I was and he received it. Now,

1477
01:09:20,840 --> 01:09:22,800
Speaker 1: if you are of service to somebody that you feel

1478
01:09:22,840 --> 01:09:26,280
Speaker 1: like it's being not reciprocated or it's not respected, or

1479
01:09:26,320 --> 01:09:27,640
Speaker 1: you feel like you're the only one doing it and

1480
01:09:27,720 --> 01:09:30,479
Speaker 1: things are lopsided, then that might be the red flag

1481
01:09:30,520 --> 01:09:32,400
Speaker 1: to say, you know what, this person is not deserving

1482
01:09:32,560 --> 01:09:33,719
Speaker 1: of that kind of treatment.

1483
01:09:34,680 --> 01:09:38,559
Speaker 4: Made me feel this is what because it just made

1484
01:09:38,600 --> 01:09:41,120
Speaker 4: me think about my last relationship that I was in.

1485
01:09:41,920 --> 01:09:44,880
Speaker 4: He was definitely doing all of that stuff before we

1486
01:09:44,880 --> 01:09:45,439
Speaker 4: were eating.

1487
01:09:45,920 --> 01:09:48,600
Speaker 1: Well know, were you withholding because you feel like we

1488
01:09:48,600 --> 01:09:49,160
Speaker 1: weren't married?

1489
01:09:49,280 --> 01:09:51,479
Speaker 6: Yeses and for nothing.

1490
01:09:51,760 --> 01:09:54,240
Speaker 7: That's fair though, yeah, because even if you look at

1491
01:09:54,280 --> 01:09:57,600
Speaker 7: today's conversation right, a lot of these conversations, I like

1492
01:09:57,640 --> 01:10:01,000
Speaker 7: to say, are being held by the loud minority. Most

1493
01:10:01,040 --> 01:10:04,479
Speaker 7: of the married people who are in successful relationships aren't

1494
01:10:04,479 --> 01:10:08,120
Speaker 7: on social media, they're not doing podcasts. So we're listening

1495
01:10:08,160 --> 01:10:10,920
Speaker 7: to the people who aren't in successful relationships tell a

1496
01:10:10,960 --> 01:10:15,920
Speaker 7: whole generation of people how to exist, and that's down there.

1497
01:10:15,960 --> 01:10:24,439
Speaker 6: I don't know.

1498
01:10:24,439 --> 01:10:28,040
Speaker 7: I don't apologize because devoal years ago was not the

1499
01:10:28,120 --> 01:10:32,120
Speaker 7: Devo now had. I had a lot of poor, toxic

1500
01:10:32,280 --> 01:10:35,479
Speaker 7: behavior that I can look back on, and to be honest,

1501
01:10:35,560 --> 01:10:37,639
Speaker 7: I love the fact when people call me on that

1502
01:10:38,040 --> 01:10:40,880
Speaker 7: you know why you said this then? And I said

1503
01:10:40,920 --> 01:10:44,080
Speaker 7: that's what I felt then, So this is this is

1504
01:10:44,120 --> 01:10:47,400
Speaker 7: an example of maturity and growth. I was wrong then.

1505
01:10:47,960 --> 01:10:51,160
Speaker 7: I didn't know I didn't have life experience. So I'm

1506
01:10:51,160 --> 01:10:53,720
Speaker 7: willing to openly and honestly say I fucked up, and

1507
01:10:53,760 --> 01:10:56,559
Speaker 7: I'm willing to fail in front of everybody and say

1508
01:10:56,600 --> 01:10:57,840
Speaker 7: I didn't do that right then.

1509
01:10:58,120 --> 01:10:59,200
Speaker 6: But look at the difference.

1510
01:10:59,240 --> 01:11:01,880
Speaker 7: That's why you should never hold yourself to the fire

1511
01:11:01,920 --> 01:11:04,559
Speaker 7: and say, damn, I'm doing something wrong. No, speak your

1512
01:11:04,600 --> 01:11:08,040
Speaker 7: truth because your truth has value, because your truth teaches

1513
01:11:08,120 --> 01:11:11,000
Speaker 7: us of history. Right bottom line, What is the history

1514
01:11:11,040 --> 01:11:14,160
Speaker 7: of black women in America over the last fifty years.

1515
01:11:14,200 --> 01:11:16,759
Speaker 7: If you start from the nineteen sixties, when the Civil

1516
01:11:16,840 --> 01:11:19,719
Speaker 7: rights movement started, there was an approach on the government

1517
01:11:19,760 --> 01:11:23,360
Speaker 7: to separate the black family. There was that was the agenda,

1518
01:11:23,800 --> 01:11:26,920
Speaker 7: and what we're looking at is the byproduct of that.

1519
01:11:27,680 --> 01:11:30,200
Speaker 7: So when you ask yourself, why do I feel this way,

1520
01:11:30,400 --> 01:11:33,160
Speaker 7: rather than guilty yourself and saying I shouldn't feel this way,

1521
01:11:33,200 --> 01:11:36,200
Speaker 7: say let me understand history, and now that I understand

1522
01:11:36,240 --> 01:11:38,519
Speaker 7: why this I feel this way, let me correct it

1523
01:11:38,560 --> 01:11:41,120
Speaker 7: so I can change the behavior so the next generation

1524
01:11:41,640 --> 01:11:44,040
Speaker 7: don't got to feel the way I feel. That's why

1525
01:11:44,080 --> 01:11:48,040
Speaker 7: I don't mind openly and honestly loving on and empowering

1526
01:11:48,080 --> 01:11:50,439
Speaker 7: my wife in public. People could call me a simp,

1527
01:11:50,479 --> 01:11:53,280
Speaker 7: don't give a fuck. Why don't mind crying because I'm

1528
01:11:53,320 --> 01:11:56,240
Speaker 7: going through shit in public? Is because so many young

1529
01:11:56,320 --> 01:11:59,640
Speaker 7: boys watch niggas stand online and act tough and they

1530
01:11:59,760 --> 01:12:03,040
Speaker 7: kill themselves later, and they say why because he was

1531
01:12:03,080 --> 01:12:05,480
Speaker 7: going through something and he wasn't trying to be vulnerable.

1532
01:12:06,360 --> 01:12:09,400
Speaker 7: I no longer want to play into the dogmas that

1533
01:12:09,479 --> 01:12:11,800
Speaker 7: society have created through this social media.

1534
01:12:11,880 --> 01:12:13,640
Speaker 6: I don't I want to be myself.

1535
01:12:13,760 --> 01:12:15,719
Speaker 1: It's exhausting, and I want.

1536
01:12:15,560 --> 01:12:17,719
Speaker 7: To show people that there's no one way to live.

1537
01:12:18,479 --> 01:12:21,639
Speaker 7: Figure it out. You're gonna make mistakes, Oh well, people

1538
01:12:21,720 --> 01:12:24,599
Speaker 7: gonna judge you. Oh well, they're gonna talk shit about you.

1539
01:12:24,960 --> 01:12:26,559
Speaker 2: Oh well, they're gonna do that anyway.

1540
01:12:26,680 --> 01:12:27,920
Speaker 6: Exactly right.

1541
01:12:28,280 --> 01:12:30,080
Speaker 1: And to piggyback of something that you said here when

1542
01:12:30,080 --> 01:12:32,720
Speaker 1: you talk about how history has impacted us as a people, right,

1543
01:12:33,320 --> 01:12:35,200
Speaker 1: one thing de Val and I have learned even through

1544
01:12:35,200 --> 01:12:38,680
Speaker 1: our podcast ELSs ever After and just learning how to

1545
01:12:38,760 --> 01:12:41,519
Speaker 1: have these open dialogues, because essentially the podcast started with

1546
01:12:41,600 --> 01:12:44,600
Speaker 1: us having these internal conversations and then bringing them to

1547
01:12:44,640 --> 01:12:47,640
Speaker 1: the forefront, like Okay, lord, let's let's have the conversation

1548
01:12:47,720 --> 01:12:50,240
Speaker 1: with everybody and see does anybody else feel like this?

1549
01:12:50,400 --> 01:12:51,759
Speaker 1: Or is this just us?

1550
01:12:51,960 --> 01:12:52,200
Speaker 6: Right?

1551
01:12:52,360 --> 01:12:54,599
Speaker 1: The first thing that we got from that was Okay,

1552
01:12:54,600 --> 01:12:56,640
Speaker 1: we're not the only ones yep. So it makes you

1553
01:12:56,720 --> 01:12:59,920
Speaker 1: feel like a little bit of a reprieve because it's like, oh,

1554
01:13:00,160 --> 01:13:03,000
Speaker 1: other people are experiencing the things that I'm experiencing. So

1555
01:13:03,080 --> 01:13:05,439
Speaker 1: our relationship and the issues that we make that we

1556
01:13:05,520 --> 01:13:08,360
Speaker 1: may have, it's not in a lot anomaly, right. But

1557
01:13:08,400 --> 01:13:10,439
Speaker 1: then there's also the conversations that he and I have

1558
01:13:10,560 --> 01:13:14,639
Speaker 1: had that trickle back to our family life, meaning when

1559
01:13:14,640 --> 01:13:16,800
Speaker 1: we grew up with our mother and our father and

1560
01:13:16,880 --> 01:13:20,679
Speaker 1: our sibling, and the roles and the dynamics that pretty

1561
01:13:20,760 --> 01:13:24,040
Speaker 1: much shaped who we are to this day. Being the

1562
01:13:24,120 --> 01:13:27,200
Speaker 1: first born or you know, being the first of your

1563
01:13:27,240 --> 01:13:30,240
Speaker 1: family to do something or realize him damn, because my

1564
01:13:30,320 --> 01:13:33,360
Speaker 1: mom and dad dealt with these traumas within their life

1565
01:13:33,400 --> 01:13:38,240
Speaker 1: growing up that that has pretty much directly impacted how

1566
01:13:38,320 --> 01:13:41,000
Speaker 1: I am as a person today. And we've learned to

1567
01:13:41,000 --> 01:13:45,599
Speaker 1: give each other a lot more grace by learning our parents,

1568
01:13:45,720 --> 01:13:48,880
Speaker 1: by me learning my in laws, by then seeing, Okay,

1569
01:13:48,920 --> 01:13:50,840
Speaker 1: these are the things that have shaped who we are,

1570
01:13:51,280 --> 01:13:54,439
Speaker 1: These are our triggers because of those things, and then

1571
01:13:54,479 --> 01:13:56,720
Speaker 1: how do we not pass that down to our children, Like,

1572
01:13:56,720 --> 01:13:59,559
Speaker 1: how can we be very deliberate about how we're raising

1573
01:13:59,600 --> 01:14:01,960
Speaker 1: our boys now or how we even interact with each

1574
01:14:02,000 --> 01:14:04,439
Speaker 1: other because some things that you know, the way I

1575
01:14:04,439 --> 01:14:06,880
Speaker 1: may react to a disagreement, He'll be like, man, that's

1576
01:14:06,960 --> 01:14:09,000
Speaker 1: just like your mom. And then I sometimes say that as.

1577
01:14:08,920 --> 01:14:10,439
Speaker 3: A trigger, like I'm not like my mom, you know,

1578
01:14:10,479 --> 01:14:11,400
Speaker 3: because I had my own.

1579
01:14:11,240 --> 01:14:13,680
Speaker 1: Triggers about my mom or dad or whatever. But it

1580
01:14:13,760 --> 01:14:15,559
Speaker 1: just really allows us to have those conversations and you

1581
01:14:15,560 --> 01:14:18,280
Speaker 1: give your partner or grace knowing that between history and

1582
01:14:18,320 --> 01:14:21,360
Speaker 1: between your family history, this is how we arrived at

1583
01:14:21,400 --> 01:14:21,920
Speaker 1: where we are.

1584
01:14:22,840 --> 01:14:24,880
Speaker 2: That's beautiful, Okay. I like that.

1585
01:14:24,920 --> 01:14:26,640
Speaker 3: I take a lot of times people don't look at

1586
01:14:26,640 --> 01:14:29,800
Speaker 3: that though they now you don't look at their like

1587
01:14:29,920 --> 01:14:32,679
Speaker 3: trauma from growing up or seeing how our parents grew

1588
01:14:32,800 --> 01:14:35,000
Speaker 3: up and stuff. So I think that is important though,

1589
01:14:35,000 --> 01:14:38,280
Speaker 3: to like break the generational curses, you know what our

1590
01:14:38,320 --> 01:14:41,160
Speaker 3: parents went through. And then also, like you said, not

1591
01:14:41,200 --> 01:14:44,000
Speaker 3: giving in to what people expect you to do, because

1592
01:14:44,000 --> 01:14:45,519
Speaker 3: I think that's something that we kind of deal with.

1593
01:14:45,640 --> 01:14:46,840
Speaker 2: Like if we get a man.

1594
01:14:46,760 --> 01:14:49,400
Speaker 3: And we say, God forbid, we cook a man some

1595
01:14:49,439 --> 01:14:51,640
Speaker 3: eggs and bacon, They're like, you cook what.

1596
01:14:52,760 --> 01:14:53,800
Speaker 2: You cook them some egg.

1597
01:14:53,840 --> 01:14:55,760
Speaker 6: Oh like he was hungry.

1598
01:14:55,840 --> 01:14:58,000
Speaker 2: Yeah. They just want us to be so much.

1599
01:14:58,000 --> 01:14:59,479
Speaker 3: And I know you probably deal with that a lot

1600
01:14:59,479 --> 01:15:01,040
Speaker 3: of them being like, oh my gosh, you do.

1601
01:15:01,080 --> 01:15:04,040
Speaker 1: So much and do the doing the most. I've heard

1602
01:15:04,080 --> 01:15:06,920
Speaker 1: that before. Lock that out. You have to, because who

1603
01:15:06,960 --> 01:15:08,280
Speaker 1: am I laying down at night with?

1604
01:15:08,680 --> 01:15:09,759
Speaker 2: As long as he happy?

1605
01:15:10,160 --> 01:15:12,839
Speaker 1: As long as he's happy, like we're doing this life together.

1606
01:15:12,920 --> 01:15:14,640
Speaker 1: That is it's not a good. Marriage is not a

1607
01:15:14,680 --> 01:15:18,200
Speaker 1: group project, honey. So I have the group chats, you know,

1608
01:15:18,439 --> 01:15:21,360
Speaker 1: but marriage is just not a group project. Your relationship

1609
01:15:21,400 --> 01:15:23,040
Speaker 1: is not a group project. And it's not to say

1610
01:15:23,040 --> 01:15:25,000
Speaker 1: you shouldn't have areas, but you con vent sometimes like

1611
01:15:25,040 --> 01:15:27,839
Speaker 1: you both have people who trust it should be trusted

1612
01:15:27,880 --> 01:15:29,280
Speaker 1: people who you go to to vents.

1613
01:15:29,479 --> 01:15:29,599
Speaker 6: Right.

1614
01:15:30,200 --> 01:15:31,880
Speaker 1: I was watching an interview recent, I think it was

1615
01:15:31,920 --> 01:15:33,840
Speaker 1: Kerry Washington said it in one interview and then will

1616
01:15:33,880 --> 01:15:37,320
Speaker 1: set it in another, and it's like essentially what they

1617
01:15:37,360 --> 01:15:39,839
Speaker 1: were both saying was like, why would you take advice

1618
01:15:39,880 --> 01:15:42,400
Speaker 1: from somebody who has not done something that you aspire

1619
01:15:42,479 --> 01:15:42,760
Speaker 1: to do.

1620
01:15:43,680 --> 01:15:47,880
Speaker 4: You've always always that any people love to say like

1621
01:15:47,960 --> 01:15:50,759
Speaker 4: you can get advice from anyone, which.

1622
01:15:50,640 --> 01:15:51,720
Speaker 2: I mean I can.

1623
01:15:52,280 --> 01:15:53,400
Speaker 1: You can't what should you.

1624
01:15:53,320 --> 01:15:56,720
Speaker 4: Take a life that I want to live or if

1625
01:15:56,760 --> 01:15:59,960
Speaker 4: it's not conducive to what I want, why should.

1626
01:15:59,680 --> 01:16:00,960
Speaker 6: I listen to you?

1627
01:16:01,120 --> 01:16:04,720
Speaker 1: Absolutely so that's how we feel like. If I'm not

1628
01:16:04,920 --> 01:16:09,160
Speaker 1: seeing other successful marriages within their scope of marriage, you

1629
01:16:09,200 --> 01:16:11,080
Speaker 1: know why am I then listening to anybody else who's

1630
01:16:11,080 --> 01:16:12,839
Speaker 1: not married, who hasn't been in it, who doesn't aspire

1631
01:16:12,880 --> 01:16:15,799
Speaker 1: to be married? Because that's okay too. You might realize today,

1632
01:16:16,680 --> 01:16:19,040
Speaker 1: you know what I heard about all this marriagehit. I

1633
01:16:19,080 --> 01:16:22,160
Speaker 1: read y'all book Marriages not for me. I'm about myself.

1634
01:16:23,240 --> 01:16:25,519
Speaker 1: I'm selfish in a sense. I don't want to have

1635
01:16:25,560 --> 01:16:27,040
Speaker 1: to worry about nobody else. I don't want to have

1636
01:16:27,080 --> 01:16:29,960
Speaker 1: to serve nobody else. That's okay, But you gotta be

1637
01:16:30,040 --> 01:16:34,720
Speaker 1: honest about that and not drag people into these relationships

1638
01:16:34,720 --> 01:16:36,639
Speaker 1: that you know is not going nowhere because you don't

1639
01:16:36,640 --> 01:16:38,960
Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship. But it's okay to

1640
01:16:39,000 --> 01:16:39,759
Speaker 1: not want to be married.

1641
01:16:39,960 --> 01:16:40,360
Speaker 2: It is.

1642
01:16:40,479 --> 01:16:42,640
Speaker 4: It is, And I think it's really refreshing what you

1643
01:16:42,760 --> 01:16:45,599
Speaker 4: just said, as far as you can talk to other people,

1644
01:16:45,640 --> 01:16:48,400
Speaker 4: people that you trust, because I think we've all been

1645
01:16:48,479 --> 01:16:50,960
Speaker 4: taught growing up like marriage is something it's supposed to

1646
01:16:51,000 --> 01:16:51,479
Speaker 4: just be.

1647
01:16:51,280 --> 01:16:53,200
Speaker 2: Between you and your partner. You shouldn't let.

1648
01:16:53,160 --> 01:16:56,280
Speaker 4: Anybody outside of that know what's going on. But sometimes

1649
01:16:56,320 --> 01:16:58,559
Speaker 4: you do need that insight. And that's why I think

1650
01:16:58,840 --> 01:17:01,200
Speaker 4: even in our generation, and it's really good that people

1651
01:17:01,240 --> 01:17:05,280
Speaker 4: are opening themselves up to going to the couple.

1652
01:17:03,560 --> 01:17:08,080
Speaker 1: Of couples, therapy and individual because you said earlier on

1653
01:17:08,280 --> 01:17:11,519
Speaker 1: that I realized I might have been the problem with something, right.

1654
01:17:11,720 --> 01:17:14,360
Speaker 1: You know that that self awareness when you reach that

1655
01:17:14,400 --> 01:17:17,000
Speaker 1: point where you're like, damn, I might have contributed to

1656
01:17:17,160 --> 01:17:19,519
Speaker 1: the issue here, or you say, damn, I might have

1657
01:17:19,600 --> 01:17:21,599
Speaker 1: dropped the ball in my last relationship because I didn't

1658
01:17:21,600 --> 01:17:24,400
Speaker 1: do X y Z Like. That's something that's very big girl,

1659
01:17:24,560 --> 01:17:25,640
Speaker 1: very grown. Yeah, I.

1660
01:17:34,479 --> 01:17:35,720
Speaker 2: Open the floodgates.

1661
01:17:35,800 --> 01:17:38,360
Speaker 7: I do want to say this though, to our community

1662
01:17:38,400 --> 01:17:45,080
Speaker 7: just watching right, we oftentimes are asking for equality while

1663
01:17:45,560 --> 01:17:48,160
Speaker 7: women are saying and waiting for men to lead, and

1664
01:17:48,240 --> 01:17:51,600
Speaker 7: Black men are saying, let us lead. I will honestly

1665
01:17:51,640 --> 01:17:54,360
Speaker 7: say this, black men, for us, if we want to lead,

1666
01:17:54,920 --> 01:17:56,720
Speaker 7: deal with the fact that our women have.

1667
01:17:56,720 --> 01:17:58,799
Speaker 6: Been hurt and hurting for generation.

1668
01:17:59,680 --> 01:18:02,120
Speaker 7: So you may come across a Black woman that may

1669
01:18:02,120 --> 01:18:05,240
Speaker 7: be hurt and she may not have found a way

1670
01:18:05,600 --> 01:18:08,760
Speaker 7: to let her hurt, go, but don't just give up,

1671
01:18:09,479 --> 01:18:11,559
Speaker 7: you know what I'm saying, once you realize that, Like

1672
01:18:11,600 --> 01:18:14,679
Speaker 7: I realized that this woman right here was my woman

1673
01:18:15,240 --> 01:18:18,280
Speaker 7: when we were nineteen years eighteen years old. I didn't

1674
01:18:18,320 --> 01:18:19,960
Speaker 7: know if I was the right person for her at

1675
01:18:20,000 --> 01:18:22,360
Speaker 7: that time. I didn't think I was. I didn't know

1676
01:18:22,360 --> 01:18:23,680
Speaker 7: if she was the right person for me. But I

1677
01:18:23,720 --> 01:18:27,040
Speaker 7: just knew that that was mine. And because I knew

1678
01:18:27,040 --> 01:18:29,160
Speaker 7: that that was mine, that God had decided that that

1679
01:18:29,240 --> 01:18:31,719
Speaker 7: was gonna be my woman for me. It didn't matter

1680
01:18:31,800 --> 01:18:33,880
Speaker 7: what changes I had to go through, what changes she

1681
01:18:34,000 --> 01:18:35,719
Speaker 7: had to go through, we were gonna go through it together,

1682
01:18:36,280 --> 01:18:38,880
Speaker 7: and not for nothing. That's what a husband does, right,

1683
01:18:39,080 --> 01:18:42,519
Speaker 7: Nobody a husband isn't it. There's no cash value, there's

1684
01:18:42,520 --> 01:18:45,519
Speaker 7: no amount of six packs, there's no height there's a

1685
01:18:45,600 --> 01:18:48,439
Speaker 7: husband knows that once he picks a wife, whatever that

1686
01:18:48,479 --> 01:18:50,800
Speaker 7: wife is going through, I'm gonna deal with it.

1687
01:18:51,120 --> 01:18:52,639
Speaker 6: And a wife does the same thing.

1688
01:18:52,760 --> 01:18:55,479
Speaker 7: And it's important that we say that because it's the

1689
01:18:55,560 --> 01:18:59,599
Speaker 7: same way where I'm asking for these men to give credence,

1690
01:18:59,640 --> 01:19:01,800
Speaker 7: but those will give grace to black women. I'm asking

1691
01:19:01,840 --> 01:19:04,479
Speaker 7: black women please give grace and credits to black men

1692
01:19:04,760 --> 01:19:05,720
Speaker 7: because we're hurting too.

1693
01:19:06,439 --> 01:19:08,800
Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying, give us some grace. You

1694
01:19:08,840 --> 01:19:09,400
Speaker 6: know what I'm saying.

1695
01:19:09,880 --> 01:19:12,920
Speaker 1: We all come on, yeah, we do, we do.

1696
01:19:13,160 --> 01:19:17,800
Speaker 7: Come on, baby, see where you brought me every time

1697
01:19:17,840 --> 01:19:18,879
Speaker 7: you take me to the Bosoman.

1698
01:19:31,680 --> 01:19:34,320
Speaker 4: So I want to get into topic number two. So

1699
01:19:34,640 --> 01:19:36,519
Speaker 4: for the second topic, I wanted to talk to you

1700
01:19:36,600 --> 01:19:39,920
Speaker 4: all about how young it's too young to have your

1701
01:19:40,000 --> 01:19:41,960
Speaker 4: kids in the entertainment industry.

1702
01:19:42,120 --> 01:19:43,760
Speaker 2: So I'm sure y'all have probably seen.

1703
01:19:43,840 --> 01:19:47,080
Speaker 4: It's a little girl named it surely who she's been

1704
01:19:47,080 --> 01:19:50,040
Speaker 4: going viral a lot lately because she does the boots

1705
01:19:50,040 --> 01:19:52,639
Speaker 4: on the ground then, and so her parents have been

1706
01:19:52,640 --> 01:19:55,439
Speaker 4: getting a lot of backlash, like even somebody calls CPS

1707
01:19:55,560 --> 01:19:59,120
Speaker 4: on her parents. And I know y'all involved. Y'all's kids

1708
01:19:59,120 --> 01:20:01,880
Speaker 4: a lot in y'all, And one of your kids is

1709
01:20:01,920 --> 01:20:05,120
Speaker 4: actually acting now, well two of them.

1710
01:20:04,880 --> 01:20:07,679
Speaker 6: And yeah, Cairo is going to be in a feature

1711
01:20:07,720 --> 01:20:11,519
Speaker 6: film that I just did. Okay, Yeah, and he's been

1712
01:20:12,240 --> 01:20:15,400
Speaker 6: young Zach, right, y'all need.

1713
01:20:18,240 --> 01:20:19,759
Speaker 2: One of them the team.

1714
01:20:20,479 --> 01:20:22,680
Speaker 4: But yeah, so like one of your kids, well, two

1715
01:20:22,720 --> 01:20:24,840
Speaker 4: of your kids are acting now. So how do y'all

1716
01:20:24,840 --> 01:20:26,479
Speaker 4: feel about that or do y'all feel like these my

1717
01:20:26,520 --> 01:20:28,880
Speaker 4: goddamn kids. Worry about shorts, don't worry about what I

1718
01:20:28,880 --> 01:20:29,479
Speaker 4: got going on.

1719
01:20:30,400 --> 01:20:33,680
Speaker 7: I feel like, first and foremost, get your eyes out

1720
01:20:33,720 --> 01:20:36,680
Speaker 7: of other people's house, right, Right, That's that's my first thing.

1721
01:20:37,160 --> 01:20:39,639
Speaker 7: Right until your house is in order. Don't throw stones

1722
01:20:40,080 --> 01:20:43,080
Speaker 7: because everybody got their own issues. I do understand that

1723
01:20:43,160 --> 01:20:47,040
Speaker 7: people are concerned because social media, to me, realistically, is

1724
01:20:47,080 --> 01:20:51,240
Speaker 7: the devil, right, Kadeen and I have learned to utilize

1725
01:20:51,280 --> 01:20:53,240
Speaker 7: social media. And when I say that, I don't want

1726
01:20:53,240 --> 01:20:54,559
Speaker 7: people to take it to be like, well, y'all on

1727
01:20:54,600 --> 01:20:57,400
Speaker 7: social media. Yeah, we all social media, but we're also

1728
01:20:57,439 --> 01:20:59,160
Speaker 7: on the phone. I think the phone is the devil.

1729
01:20:59,560 --> 01:21:01,360
Speaker 7: You know what I'm say. I think there's a lot

1730
01:21:01,360 --> 01:21:04,280
Speaker 7: of things that can be utilized for even the biggest

1731
01:21:04,280 --> 01:21:10,120
Speaker 7: thing with me and Cato, our kids have options. Right, So, Jackson,

1732
01:21:10,479 --> 01:21:12,960
Speaker 7: were about to post this video? How you feel about it? Okay,

1733
01:21:13,200 --> 01:21:17,080
Speaker 7: this is a realistic conversation. Let me see it. This

1734
01:21:17,240 --> 01:21:20,240
Speaker 7: is Jackson, now, he's fourteen. What are we trying to

1735
01:21:20,280 --> 01:21:23,439
Speaker 7: teach in this video? Well, I think that by showing

1736
01:21:23,439 --> 01:21:25,160
Speaker 7: this video, we can show blah blah blah blah blah

1737
01:21:25,160 --> 01:21:27,559
Speaker 7: blah blah blah blah. I think my friends can learn

1738
01:21:27,600 --> 01:21:30,840
Speaker 7: something from that, let's post it, or I don't really

1739
01:21:30,880 --> 01:21:33,479
Speaker 7: feel comfortable because I don't know how I feel about it,

1740
01:21:33,640 --> 01:21:36,800
Speaker 7: We're not posting it. It's that simple, and we go

1741
01:21:36,880 --> 01:21:39,640
Speaker 7: through that with all of our kids. Because although this

1742
01:21:39,720 --> 01:21:41,880
Speaker 7: was a partnership and this was my idea, I went

1743
01:21:41,920 --> 01:21:44,719
Speaker 7: through that with my wife. To this day, I don't

1744
01:21:44,720 --> 01:21:48,759
Speaker 7: post anything unless she approves or my kids approve, because

1745
01:21:48,760 --> 01:21:50,600
Speaker 7: that's their likeness that they have to deal with for

1746
01:21:50,680 --> 01:21:51,559
Speaker 7: the rest of their life.

1747
01:21:52,120 --> 01:21:54,240
Speaker 6: I hope the parents are all doing the same thing.

1748
01:21:54,360 --> 01:21:56,920
Speaker 7: Some parents aren't because, let's be honest, you know what

1749
01:21:56,960 --> 01:21:59,439
Speaker 7: I'm saying, it's an easy way to get attention, and

1750
01:21:59,520 --> 01:22:02,000
Speaker 7: every parent feels like if I get my kid attention,

1751
01:22:02,120 --> 01:22:04,400
Speaker 7: my kid is the greatest I can make a million dollars,

1752
01:22:05,160 --> 01:22:07,120
Speaker 7: you know what I'm saying. And that's why people probably

1753
01:22:07,120 --> 01:22:09,960
Speaker 7: felt like, let me call CPS. But to be honest,

1754
01:22:10,160 --> 01:22:12,080
Speaker 7: I hope that their parents are doing the right thing

1755
01:22:12,120 --> 01:22:14,800
Speaker 7: with checking in with these kids' mental health because these

1756
01:22:14,880 --> 01:22:17,200
Speaker 7: kids would then start to get addicted to the adrenaline

1757
01:22:17,240 --> 01:22:19,959
Speaker 7: rush that comes with likes that we do as adults,

1758
01:22:20,400 --> 01:22:23,080
Speaker 7: but they don't have the ability to maintain it. You know,

1759
01:22:23,120 --> 01:22:25,240
Speaker 7: imagine a thirteen year old looking at their Instagram and

1760
01:22:25,280 --> 01:22:27,080
Speaker 7: they want likes and want likes, and in a minute

1761
01:22:27,120 --> 01:22:29,120
Speaker 7: they don't get likes. They feel like nobody likes them.

1762
01:22:29,680 --> 01:22:33,960
Speaker 7: That's what parents need to be you know, understand that

1763
01:22:33,960 --> 01:22:36,840
Speaker 7: that really happens. So I hope that those parents are

1764
01:22:36,840 --> 01:22:39,400
Speaker 7: doing it. And if they're doing it that way, kudos

1765
01:22:39,400 --> 01:22:41,240
Speaker 7: to them, because you may be able to break another

1766
01:22:41,320 --> 01:22:44,759
Speaker 7: great child actor. If they're not, I hope they realize

1767
01:22:44,760 --> 01:22:46,559
Speaker 7: sooner than later they're creating more damage.

1768
01:22:47,840 --> 01:22:51,720
Speaker 4: I saw me that saying social media has us in

1769
01:22:51,800 --> 01:22:54,160
Speaker 4: a chow called because they really have us thinking two

1770
01:22:54,200 --> 01:22:56,840
Speaker 4: thousand likes ain't lifted. Imagine getting jumped by two thousand

1771
01:22:56,880 --> 01:22:58,439
Speaker 4: people for real though.

1772
01:22:58,640 --> 01:23:05,000
Speaker 6: I mean I'm for real.

1773
01:23:07,520 --> 01:23:12,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, with kids on social media too. I think it's

1774
01:23:12,560 --> 01:23:15,360
Speaker 3: also like the type of content that you're putting out there,

1775
01:23:15,360 --> 01:23:17,599
Speaker 3: because I think the issue with the Miss Shirley situation

1776
01:23:17,760 --> 01:23:20,520
Speaker 3: was like she's doing meet and greets with grown people. Yeah,

1777
01:23:20,680 --> 01:23:25,880
Speaker 3: that little girl should be at meet and greets for kids,

1778
01:23:26,080 --> 01:23:28,040
Speaker 3: Like you know what I'm saying, Like, I'm pretty sure

1779
01:23:28,080 --> 01:23:31,800
Speaker 3: if y'all son's books of meeting greet or something, it's

1780
01:23:31,800 --> 01:23:34,240
Speaker 3: gonna be like a Nickelodeon or something something like that.

1781
01:23:34,960 --> 01:23:38,559
Speaker 2: Age appropriate appropriate, So I think it's like that great.

1782
01:23:38,800 --> 01:23:40,920
Speaker 3: And I don't have kids, so I really you know,

1783
01:23:41,000 --> 01:23:43,720
Speaker 3: I tread lightly when I speed, but it's at the

1784
01:23:43,760 --> 01:23:46,400
Speaker 3: same time I have nephews, and I could never imagine

1785
01:23:46,400 --> 01:23:48,840
Speaker 3: somebody like a grown woman being like, oh, because my

1786
01:23:48,840 --> 01:23:49,880
Speaker 3: nephew's name is Jackson.

1787
01:23:50,080 --> 01:23:52,600
Speaker 2: Oh, I want to meet Jackson. But what, bitch.

1788
01:23:56,120 --> 01:23:56,960
Speaker 1: Are people like that?

1789
01:23:57,080 --> 01:23:59,240
Speaker 3: There was videos of like the little Shirley like me

1790
01:23:59,280 --> 01:24:02,840
Speaker 3: and grown men, yeah, picking her up, picking her up

1791
01:24:02,880 --> 01:24:12,840
Speaker 3: and put them boots on the ground, the booths back

1792
01:24:12,960 --> 01:24:14,360
Speaker 3: on the motherfucking ground.

1793
01:24:14,520 --> 01:24:15,439
Speaker 1: She's too young.

1794
01:24:20,439 --> 01:24:23,040
Speaker 6: That was great though, put on boom that.

1795
01:24:23,080 --> 01:24:26,760
Speaker 1: Was because all engagement is not good engagement exactly, it's not.

1796
01:24:27,120 --> 01:24:29,000
Speaker 1: But what that and I do too with the boys,

1797
01:24:29,080 --> 01:24:31,800
Speaker 1: like we learn, we've learned also to respect them as

1798
01:24:31,920 --> 01:24:34,920
Speaker 1: as individuals and us. Like our third son, Katz, he

1799
01:24:34,920 --> 01:24:37,720
Speaker 1: could give a fuck about the camera, okay, don't he don't.

1800
01:24:37,960 --> 01:24:40,439
Speaker 1: He's very much like his mom. Very Sagittary is very moody,

1801
01:24:40,520 --> 01:24:41,280
Speaker 1: very simish.

1802
01:24:41,800 --> 01:24:47,720
Speaker 4: I love Sattariy my Jamaican Best Friends Day, November twenty eight.

1803
01:24:47,800 --> 01:24:49,240
Speaker 1: I love it. So cats is the twenty seven.

1804
01:24:49,360 --> 01:24:51,519
Speaker 3: My husband, remember said to December nine.

1805
01:24:51,520 --> 01:24:52,439
Speaker 2: She's December nine.

1806
01:24:52,320 --> 01:24:55,360
Speaker 1: On the fifth dandwich.

1807
01:24:56,640 --> 01:25:01,000
Speaker 7: Okay, come on, I told y'all I'm that y'all that

1808
01:25:01,200 --> 01:25:07,479
Speaker 7: I was like, okay, yeah.

1809
01:25:07,400 --> 01:25:07,800
Speaker 2: I love it.

1810
01:25:07,840 --> 01:25:09,760
Speaker 1: Fireside, we know each other. You're close enough to Gemini

1811
01:25:09,800 --> 01:25:11,360
Speaker 1: because I love me a Gemini too, but you're close.

1812
01:25:11,840 --> 01:25:12,639
Speaker 2: I'm on the cusp.

1813
01:25:12,640 --> 01:25:16,880
Speaker 1: But Aries, okay, so I like him, So we I

1814
01:25:17,080 --> 01:25:21,120
Speaker 1: like we could hear aries, but no, like, for example,

1815
01:25:21,160 --> 01:25:23,080
Speaker 1: so Kaz don't really be care about the camera. So

1816
01:25:23,120 --> 01:25:25,320
Speaker 1: what we do We respect that you don't want to

1817
01:25:25,320 --> 01:25:27,840
Speaker 1: be in the video. Yeah, in the video, Like we

1818
01:25:27,920 --> 01:25:30,519
Speaker 1: do that all the time, but there are really like

1819
01:25:30,760 --> 01:25:33,240
Speaker 1: random times and they're farm froom between because people will

1820
01:25:33,280 --> 01:25:35,200
Speaker 1: meet us. And for the most part, I would say

1821
01:25:35,280 --> 01:25:37,840
Speaker 1: ninety eight percent of the time, super sweet. We always

1822
01:25:37,840 --> 01:25:40,400
Speaker 1: show love and public give love back and all that divide.

1823
01:25:40,439 --> 01:25:42,360
Speaker 1: Had an encounter in the airport one time where this

1824
01:25:42,439 --> 01:25:45,880
Speaker 1: man well out. You can tell the story because I I've.

1825
01:25:45,760 --> 01:25:46,800
Speaker 6: Told the story a bunch of times.

1826
01:25:46,840 --> 01:25:49,280
Speaker 7: Long story, short dude thought I meant the dude dude

1827
01:25:49,280 --> 01:25:51,639
Speaker 7: looked a little off. He's like, y'all from South Carolina.

1828
01:25:51,680 --> 01:25:53,840
Speaker 7: I'm like, yo, South Carolina, we could be family. Blah

1829
01:25:53,880 --> 01:25:55,280
Speaker 7: blah blah. That can we take a picture?

1830
01:25:55,600 --> 01:25:57,040
Speaker 6: I was like yeah. It was me Cayrol and Kas.

1831
01:25:57,160 --> 01:25:58,479
Speaker 7: I say, yo, y'all want to take a picture, and

1832
01:25:58,479 --> 01:26:01,080
Speaker 7: it was me, Jackson and Caro. They was like, now

1833
01:26:01,080 --> 01:26:02,920
Speaker 7: we're tired of six in the morning. So I was like, cool,

1834
01:26:02,920 --> 01:26:04,559
Speaker 7: step aside. So I go to take the picture. He's like, yo,

1835
01:26:04,560 --> 01:26:08,240
Speaker 7: they're not taking the picture and I was like yeah.

1836
01:26:08,040 --> 01:26:09,680
Speaker 6: And I was like nah. He's like yo, but those

1837
01:26:09,680 --> 01:26:12,519
Speaker 6: are like my cousins. I said no.

1838
01:26:13,040 --> 01:26:17,200
Speaker 7: I said we could be cousins because you from South Carolina.

1839
01:26:18,040 --> 01:26:20,040
Speaker 6: And then he was just like nah.

1840
01:26:20,080 --> 01:26:22,320
Speaker 7: And I was like, if it's going to be a problem,

1841
01:26:22,360 --> 01:26:25,160
Speaker 7: you won't get no fucking picture because then that's when daddy.

1842
01:26:25,400 --> 01:26:34,400
Speaker 6: Yeah, this is another thing I learned. There's nothing I learned.

1843
01:26:34,439 --> 01:26:35,280
Speaker 6: I want you to learn too.

1844
01:26:35,560 --> 01:26:38,720
Speaker 7: When you get to a certain level, there's people air

1845
01:26:38,760 --> 01:26:41,559
Speaker 7: marshals follow you in the airport to make sure that

1846
01:26:41,600 --> 01:26:45,599
Speaker 7: you're okay. And during that encounter, when the dude started

1847
01:26:45,600 --> 01:26:48,080
Speaker 7: to get hostile and I put my bag. Now, dude

1848
01:26:48,160 --> 01:26:49,720
Speaker 7: rolled up and said, yo, mister ellis you good? And

1849
01:26:49,760 --> 01:26:51,840
Speaker 7: I was like, who the fuck are you? And he

1850
01:26:51,880 --> 01:26:53,880
Speaker 7: was just like I'm just making sure you're good. And

1851
01:26:53,880 --> 01:26:55,679
Speaker 7: then afterwards he told me he was an air marshal

1852
01:26:55,960 --> 01:26:58,799
Speaker 7: and whenever my name comes up to come to Heartsville, Atlanta,

1853
01:26:59,200 --> 01:27:00,519
Speaker 7: they know someone used to be there.

1854
01:27:01,479 --> 01:27:02,040
Speaker 2: Protect mind.

1855
01:27:04,439 --> 01:27:14,320
Speaker 7: I wish, I wish I could do it, But I

1856
01:27:14,360 --> 01:27:17,160
Speaker 7: will say this though, for parents who don't know every

1857
01:27:17,200 --> 01:27:21,760
Speaker 7: person you meet on social media isn't sane, right. There

1858
01:27:21,760 --> 01:27:26,080
Speaker 7: are people who live on social media who think it's

1859
01:27:26,080 --> 01:27:26,759
Speaker 7: a real place.

1860
01:27:27,360 --> 01:27:28,800
Speaker 6: So be careful with your children.

1861
01:27:28,840 --> 01:27:31,080
Speaker 7: I'm gonna look at the camera and say this because

1862
01:27:31,120 --> 01:27:34,200
Speaker 7: you don't know the person that's going to say I

1863
01:27:34,240 --> 01:27:36,839
Speaker 7: know that child because I've seen them on social media.

1864
01:27:37,200 --> 01:27:40,160
Speaker 7: Then goes to your child's school because you've made your

1865
01:27:40,240 --> 01:27:43,960
Speaker 7: child so accessible to the public that now it's okay

1866
01:27:44,000 --> 01:27:45,479
Speaker 7: for regular people to walk up to them.

1867
01:27:45,520 --> 01:27:46,439
Speaker 6: And this is what happens.

1868
01:27:46,479 --> 01:27:49,920
Speaker 7: You teach your child to be nice to everybody because

1869
01:27:49,960 --> 01:27:52,040
Speaker 7: you want your child to be accepting so that we

1870
01:27:52,120 --> 01:27:54,559
Speaker 7: all can get the money. So now your child sees

1871
01:27:54,640 --> 01:27:56,840
Speaker 7: the person they don't know and they say your child's name,

1872
01:27:57,280 --> 01:27:59,680
Speaker 7: and they say, oh, yeah, that's so and so, and

1873
01:27:59,720 --> 01:28:02,400
Speaker 7: now you child is going I'm just saying, as a

1874
01:28:02,439 --> 01:28:06,160
Speaker 7: parent who thinks about everything you have to be very

1875
01:28:06,240 --> 01:28:09,280
Speaker 7: aware of the fact that not everybody on social media

1876
01:28:09,439 --> 01:28:10,280
Speaker 7: is a good person.

1877
01:28:11,439 --> 01:28:12,880
Speaker 1: I'm always not like if they were, if they were

1878
01:28:12,920 --> 01:28:14,320
Speaker 1: to walk past me and you call their names, they're

1879
01:28:14,360 --> 01:28:15,120
Speaker 1: not even addressing you.

1880
01:28:16,000 --> 01:28:16,200
Speaker 2: Kids.

1881
01:28:16,800 --> 01:28:17,599
Speaker 6: We don't play that.

1882
01:28:18,439 --> 01:28:20,760
Speaker 7: We've been going through drills since they was real, real

1883
01:28:20,880 --> 01:28:23,760
Speaker 7: little kids, and sometimes my kids. People will think that

1884
01:28:23,800 --> 01:28:26,800
Speaker 7: our kids are rude on purpose. I'm like, if you

1885
01:28:26,960 --> 01:28:31,240
Speaker 7: don't know who that is, don't say anything. If they're

1886
01:28:31,240 --> 01:28:34,240
Speaker 7: trying to be nice, Hey Jackson, Hey Cairo, don't nah,

1887
01:28:34,560 --> 01:28:37,679
Speaker 7: then get on your phone call me because I'm.

1888
01:28:37,560 --> 01:28:40,519
Speaker 1: There in our heart themselves.

1889
01:28:40,520 --> 01:28:42,240
Speaker 6: But if they are, I will I will say this

1890
01:28:42,320 --> 01:28:43,000
Speaker 6: publicly too.

1891
01:28:43,439 --> 01:28:46,360
Speaker 7: Kadean got a little bit of a bad rap because

1892
01:28:46,600 --> 01:28:49,479
Speaker 7: she's Mama Beer all the time and when we're around

1893
01:28:49,479 --> 01:28:53,519
Speaker 7: the kids, especially at sporting events, she's only focused on

1894
01:28:53,600 --> 01:28:56,000
Speaker 7: the kids. So sometimes people will be like, oh, Deva

1895
01:28:56,160 --> 01:28:58,320
Speaker 7: was nice, but Kadeen was a little And I just

1896
01:28:58,320 --> 01:29:01,320
Speaker 7: want people to understand, like, these are really our kids,

1897
01:29:01,360 --> 01:29:03,759
Speaker 7: and that's really my wife and be really a family.

1898
01:29:04,560 --> 01:29:07,120
Speaker 7: Somebody always has to be watching the kids. So when

1899
01:29:07,160 --> 01:29:09,760
Speaker 7: you see all of us, if I was happy with

1900
01:29:09,800 --> 01:29:11,559
Speaker 7: you that nice that day, and she wasn't.

1901
01:29:11,600 --> 01:29:14,799
Speaker 6: It's because she was focusing on what it's for one second.

1902
01:29:14,880 --> 01:29:17,920
Speaker 1: Yes, you happened, that's truly one second.

1903
01:29:18,040 --> 01:29:18,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1904
01:29:18,400 --> 01:29:20,679
Speaker 1: So while I try to be like personal and say hey,

1905
01:29:20,720 --> 01:29:22,760
Speaker 1: what's up real quick, but like my focus is on

1906
01:29:22,800 --> 01:29:24,800
Speaker 1: where them kids is at all the time, where we

1907
01:29:24,840 --> 01:29:27,200
Speaker 1: at track, meet basketball, whatever, I'm focused because in that moment,

1908
01:29:27,240 --> 01:29:29,360
Speaker 1: I'm in my hold, you know. So it's hard sometimes

1909
01:29:29,400 --> 01:29:31,880
Speaker 1: because you want people to meet you in public and

1910
01:29:31,920 --> 01:29:34,400
Speaker 1: have a good experience. Like you said, yeah, someone and

1911
01:29:34,680 --> 01:29:36,639
Speaker 1: you watch them online for so long and you meet

1912
01:29:36,640 --> 01:29:38,120
Speaker 1: them in person, it's like damn. But if they ain't

1913
01:29:38,160 --> 01:29:41,200
Speaker 1: pass the vibe checking person, sometimes it's just not even personal.

1914
01:29:41,240 --> 01:29:43,080
Speaker 1: It's like you might have caught me in a saying

1915
01:29:43,080 --> 01:29:44,639
Speaker 1: flight and it's four am and you want to picture

1916
01:29:44,640 --> 01:29:46,880
Speaker 1: at four am, and I'm like, damn, I have to,

1917
01:29:47,040 --> 01:29:47,240
Speaker 1: you know.

1918
01:29:48,200 --> 01:29:53,080
Speaker 4: It's to that point though, he's not like we're still

1919
01:29:53,120 --> 01:29:55,920
Speaker 4: at a point where I'd be like, okay, yeah, but

1920
01:29:56,240 --> 01:29:59,640
Speaker 4: I need to start saying oh, come okay with saying oh,

1921
01:29:59,720 --> 01:30:00,240
Speaker 4: so let me.

1922
01:30:00,280 --> 01:30:02,040
Speaker 6: Say this to y'all though, just think about this.

1923
01:30:02,240 --> 01:30:04,800
Speaker 7: People have been watching y'all for hours and hours every

1924
01:30:04,840 --> 01:30:08,439
Speaker 7: every day. Yeah, and now finally for the first time

1925
01:30:08,479 --> 01:30:09,880
Speaker 7: they get to see you in person.

1926
01:30:10,000 --> 01:30:12,240
Speaker 6: That's what I always It's like.

1927
01:30:12,240 --> 01:30:14,519
Speaker 7: This is the only time they may never see you,

1928
01:30:15,040 --> 01:30:17,719
Speaker 7: and they you don't know how you've changed their life

1929
01:30:18,240 --> 01:30:20,920
Speaker 7: because y'all probably don't even realize this. The fact that

1930
01:30:20,960 --> 01:30:23,599
Speaker 7: you have a platform means that you have something to

1931
01:30:23,640 --> 01:30:25,880
Speaker 7: say that millions of people want to hear.

1932
01:30:26,240 --> 01:30:27,920
Speaker 6: Right, So you're doing something.

1933
01:30:28,000 --> 01:30:29,559
Speaker 3: But I will agree with you on a moment because

1934
01:30:29,560 --> 01:30:31,400
Speaker 3: I had a moment with my nephew as well, because

1935
01:30:31,400 --> 01:30:33,960
Speaker 3: I used to post my oldest nephew all the time

1936
01:30:34,439 --> 01:30:36,360
Speaker 3: and we were out to eat one day and somebody

1937
01:30:36,400 --> 01:30:38,240
Speaker 3: was like, oh my gosh, Jackson, you got so big.

1938
01:30:38,880 --> 01:30:40,680
Speaker 6: Yeah, the fact they said the name.

1939
01:30:40,800 --> 01:30:43,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, I never post him anymore because.

1940
01:30:43,439 --> 01:30:45,120
Speaker 3: He's he doesn't like to be on he doesn't he

1941
01:30:45,160 --> 01:30:46,240
Speaker 3: don't like pictures.

1942
01:30:45,920 --> 01:30:47,120
Speaker 6: He don't like that's my family.

1943
01:30:47,320 --> 01:30:48,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I mean.

1944
01:30:48,200 --> 01:30:49,880
Speaker 3: I'll post my little one and the oldest one in

1945
01:30:50,200 --> 01:30:52,439
Speaker 3: the close friend, but oh my story, I don't even

1946
01:30:52,479 --> 01:30:55,200
Speaker 3: post him no more. So I can only imagine with you,

1947
01:30:55,200 --> 01:30:56,760
Speaker 3: you know, like you said, me and a mama bear

1948
01:30:56,840 --> 01:30:58,960
Speaker 3: mo because like I said, I don't have children. It

1949
01:30:59,160 --> 01:31:02,320
Speaker 3: freaked me out. So it's true.

1950
01:31:02,479 --> 01:31:04,799
Speaker 1: And even with our children or with someone who we trust,

1951
01:31:04,800 --> 01:31:09,800
Speaker 1: like a trusted friend, go ahead. So even if our

1952
01:31:09,880 --> 01:31:12,320
Speaker 1: kids are sometimes with like a trusted you know, friend

1953
01:31:12,400 --> 01:31:14,880
Speaker 1: or family member, we have to kind of give them

1954
01:31:14,920 --> 01:31:16,439
Speaker 1: the for one one and be like, okay, listen, if

1955
01:31:16,520 --> 01:31:18,799
Speaker 1: y'all going somewhere public, like if someone were to approach

1956
01:31:18,840 --> 01:31:20,519
Speaker 1: to kids, because it happened one time where our oldest

1957
01:31:20,560 --> 01:31:23,080
Speaker 1: went to a baseball game with some friends and at

1958
01:31:23,080 --> 01:31:24,760
Speaker 1: the time when we met them, we really just met

1959
01:31:24,800 --> 01:31:27,720
Speaker 1: them on the surface of they connected as friends, so

1960
01:31:27,760 --> 01:31:30,320
Speaker 1: we're the parents, let's get the kids together for a playdate, whatever.

1961
01:31:30,640 --> 01:31:32,840
Speaker 1: So when they had gone to this ball game, a

1962
01:31:32,920 --> 01:31:36,120
Speaker 1: couple individuals might have recognized Jackson and they were like

1963
01:31:36,360 --> 01:31:39,000
Speaker 1: we had adults being like, oh my god, that's Jackson Ellis.

1964
01:31:39,680 --> 01:31:41,599
Speaker 1: So I said, you know what, that was our bad.

1965
01:31:41,720 --> 01:31:44,120
Speaker 1: We didn't even think about the fact that run down,

1966
01:31:44,439 --> 01:31:46,400
Speaker 1: you know, giving them the rundown. So they were like,

1967
01:31:46,479 --> 01:31:48,439
Speaker 1: we just felt like, all right, let's just protect him

1968
01:31:48,439 --> 01:31:51,599
Speaker 1: because he's are strangers and Jackson knew not to engage either.

1969
01:31:52,120 --> 01:31:54,519
Speaker 1: But you have to be mindful of that because you know,

1970
01:31:54,600 --> 01:31:56,559
Speaker 1: essentially our kids didn't ask for this. And to be honest,

1971
01:31:56,560 --> 01:31:59,280
Speaker 1: when I look back on it now, doing the family

1972
01:31:59,320 --> 01:32:03,240
Speaker 1: content waste when we had like three thousand followers, and

1973
01:32:03,479 --> 01:32:07,240
Speaker 1: at the time I had no idea of the trajectory

1974
01:32:07,240 --> 01:32:09,840
Speaker 1: of where this was gonna go, right, I didn't think

1975
01:32:09,840 --> 01:32:12,400
Speaker 1: that we would have combined almost five million people five

1976
01:32:12,520 --> 01:32:14,840
Speaker 1: I didn't think that this was gonna happen. Yeah, So

1977
01:32:14,920 --> 01:32:16,840
Speaker 1: when Dval was like, yo, let's do the social media thing,

1978
01:32:16,840 --> 01:32:18,840
Speaker 1: I thought it was cute in the beginning, but now

1979
01:32:19,439 --> 01:32:21,720
Speaker 1: I guess if I can go back in time, I

1980
01:32:21,720 --> 01:32:24,360
Speaker 1: would have probably been more mindful about how much we

1981
01:32:24,439 --> 01:32:26,519
Speaker 1: engage the children in the content. But for us, we

1982
01:32:26,520 --> 01:32:27,880
Speaker 1: were just like, yo, we just want to show what

1983
01:32:27,920 --> 01:32:31,400
Speaker 1: it's like to be a millennial couple married raising kids. Like,

1984
01:32:31,680 --> 01:32:34,280
Speaker 1: you don't see those stories often too many times, the

1985
01:32:34,800 --> 01:32:37,439
Speaker 1: narrative around the black family was always something that was

1986
01:32:37,439 --> 01:32:40,720
Speaker 1: super heavy and the father was absent and all this

1987
01:32:40,880 --> 01:32:43,160
Speaker 1: turmoil and you know, the one kid that made it

1988
01:32:43,160 --> 01:32:45,880
Speaker 1: out of the hood, Like there's always those stories. So

1989
01:32:46,000 --> 01:32:50,160
Speaker 1: we're like, you know, no, we also know several families

1990
01:32:50,200 --> 01:32:52,320
Speaker 1: who were just like us, Like, we're not an anomaly.

1991
01:32:52,960 --> 01:32:56,120
Speaker 1: So by sharing these stories as a couple, as a family,

1992
01:32:56,120 --> 01:32:58,600
Speaker 1: we felt like it was necessary for our culture. And

1993
01:32:58,680 --> 01:33:01,519
Speaker 1: I will say again, ninety eight percent of the time

1994
01:33:01,760 --> 01:33:04,240
Speaker 1: when we meet our people, it's always love.

1995
01:33:04,520 --> 01:33:08,280
Speaker 4: It is absolutely, yeah.

1996
01:33:08,479 --> 01:33:09,160
Speaker 1: Absolutely.

1997
01:33:09,280 --> 01:33:11,360
Speaker 4: Do you ever feel like I was just gonna say,

1998
01:33:11,360 --> 01:33:13,240
Speaker 4: I feel like it's like that across the board, though,

1999
01:33:13,280 --> 01:33:15,840
Speaker 4: because I know, like even for me my mom, she

2000
01:33:15,920 --> 01:33:18,400
Speaker 4: still lives in Houston and she lives by herself, so like,

2001
01:33:18,439 --> 01:33:21,080
Speaker 4: for a really, really long time, I never used to

2002
01:33:21,120 --> 01:33:24,160
Speaker 4: want to post her online, and then I recently started

2003
01:33:24,200 --> 01:33:26,680
Speaker 4: posting her and then it's crazy because we were at

2004
01:33:26,680 --> 01:33:29,640
Speaker 4: our premiere for the r b T Show. We were

2005
01:33:29,640 --> 01:33:32,040
Speaker 4: at our premiere and somebody saw her in the restroom

2006
01:33:32,080 --> 01:33:32,760
Speaker 4: and she was like, yeah.

2007
01:33:32,760 --> 01:33:34,840
Speaker 2: They was like, can we take a picture with.

2008
01:33:34,960 --> 01:33:36,799
Speaker 1: My mom right in the restaurroom.

2009
01:33:39,160 --> 01:33:42,240
Speaker 4: I ever feel that like that way about your whole family,

2010
01:33:42,800 --> 01:33:46,559
Speaker 4: it's always absolutely because they didn't sign up for this.

2011
01:33:46,640 --> 01:33:48,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, like us being in the entertainment industry, this is

2012
01:33:48,920 --> 01:33:51,120
Speaker 1: something that we wanted to do, we elected to do, right,

2013
01:33:51,400 --> 01:33:53,639
Speaker 1: So we have to respect the fact that sometimes our

2014
01:33:53,720 --> 01:33:56,080
Speaker 1: family just doesn't want to be involved. Like my brother

2015
01:33:56,120 --> 01:33:57,880
Speaker 1: said recently, he's like, you know, I'm mindful of how

2016
01:33:57,920 --> 01:34:00,200
Speaker 1: I even conduct myself in public, going to to a

2017
01:34:00,240 --> 01:34:02,040
Speaker 1: bar or going to a lounge or whatever, because I

2018
01:34:02,120 --> 01:34:04,320
Speaker 1: know I'm a reflection of you. The last thing you

2019
01:34:04,360 --> 01:34:06,639
Speaker 1: want is the headline to say Candialyus's brother is doing

2020
01:34:06,720 --> 01:34:09,320
Speaker 1: x y Z. You know. So it kind of forces

2021
01:34:09,400 --> 01:34:11,960
Speaker 1: them to be in a position that it didn't necessarily

2022
01:34:12,000 --> 01:34:14,680
Speaker 1: sla for. So we tried to be very understanding of

2023
01:34:14,720 --> 01:34:17,400
Speaker 1: how much we involve them in our content because this

2024
01:34:17,520 --> 01:34:19,240
Speaker 1: is what we wanted to do. We didn't ask them

2025
01:34:19,240 --> 01:34:20,160
Speaker 1: for this, right. You know.

2026
01:34:20,200 --> 01:34:22,040
Speaker 7: That also brings up a point about the kids too,

2027
01:34:22,120 --> 01:34:24,960
Speaker 7: because the kids don't always want to be online, And

2028
01:34:24,960 --> 01:34:26,800
Speaker 7: sometimes people be like, oh, I liked it when the

2029
01:34:26,880 --> 01:34:29,600
Speaker 7: kids were online, and I'm like, I appreciate that my

2030
01:34:29,680 --> 01:34:32,599
Speaker 7: kids entertain you, But my kids don't want to entertain

2031
01:34:32,640 --> 01:34:35,360
Speaker 7: you right now, right like, they just don't. And Jackson's

2032
01:34:35,360 --> 01:34:37,559
Speaker 7: going to high school. He wanted to focus on his

2033
01:34:37,600 --> 01:34:39,439
Speaker 7: sports and his stuff. He don't want to deal with that.

2034
01:34:39,720 --> 01:34:41,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, But I also think it's a good point that

2035
01:34:41,680 --> 01:34:44,400
Speaker 3: y'all still realize that y'all are the parents and it's

2036
01:34:44,479 --> 01:34:47,360
Speaker 3: y'all's responsibility to take care of the household. Yes, because

2037
01:34:47,360 --> 01:34:49,280
Speaker 3: a lot of these parents are depending on their kids

2038
01:34:49,280 --> 01:34:51,200
Speaker 3: to pay their bills, true, And I think.

2039
01:34:51,080 --> 01:34:52,839
Speaker 2: That's where it's like, yeah.

2040
01:34:52,680 --> 01:34:55,200
Speaker 3: I don't care that there's weirdos out here and you're

2041
01:34:55,680 --> 01:34:58,599
Speaker 3: making this child do things because you don't want to work.

2042
01:34:58,640 --> 01:35:01,000
Speaker 1: There is a contention of people to do this, That's true,

2043
01:35:01,120 --> 01:35:03,839
Speaker 1: there are, and you know that's just not our ministry.

2044
01:35:03,920 --> 01:35:06,400
Speaker 1: You know, we just we protect our kids at all costs.

2045
01:35:06,439 --> 01:35:09,800
Speaker 7: And before social media, it was stage moms. You know,

2046
01:35:09,840 --> 01:35:12,200
Speaker 7: they said this about all the Disney moms and all

2047
01:35:12,200 --> 01:35:13,720
Speaker 7: the moms who wanted their kids to be on.

2048
01:35:13,760 --> 01:35:16,679
Speaker 1: Broadway, Nickelodeon and all that easy way for them.

2049
01:35:16,520 --> 01:35:18,240
Speaker 6: To get paid without having to do the work.

2050
01:35:18,400 --> 01:35:25,120
Speaker 1: Or it's the parents trying to live through their children

2051
01:35:25,320 --> 01:35:26,639
Speaker 1: right now, that's.

2052
01:35:36,560 --> 01:35:38,680
Speaker 2: Right now, right on that.

2053
01:35:40,400 --> 01:35:43,639
Speaker 7: Brit is always a reminder of me not to put

2054
01:35:43,680 --> 01:35:46,439
Speaker 7: pressure on your kids. When she spoke honestly about how

2055
01:35:46,479 --> 01:35:49,080
Speaker 7: her parents feel, and I know we make a jokes

2056
01:35:49,080 --> 01:35:54,520
Speaker 7: since she's entertainer, but seriously, it's a serious issue and nothing.

2057
01:35:55,080 --> 01:35:57,679
Speaker 7: I appreciate her being honest about it because how would

2058
01:35:57,960 --> 01:35:59,960
Speaker 7: how would we know if she wasn't honest about it?

2059
01:36:00,120 --> 01:36:03,080
Speaker 1: Right her? Even justin Bieber recently with Sis that they

2060
01:36:03,080 --> 01:36:05,519
Speaker 1: had a moment on stage together, and it's just like, man,

2061
01:36:05,560 --> 01:36:07,200
Speaker 1: I think so many people were just like wow, but

2062
01:36:07,400 --> 01:36:10,000
Speaker 1: they just we feel sadly you go through a lot.

2063
01:36:10,080 --> 01:36:15,240
Speaker 4: Yeah documentary on Hulu, it is she recently forgot about

2064
01:36:15,280 --> 01:36:18,280
Speaker 4: like the pressure from her dad. And then it's like

2065
01:36:18,320 --> 01:36:19,920
Speaker 4: a documentary about the Carters.

2066
01:36:20,120 --> 01:36:27,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, all the Carter documentary. I know, the Carnaron Carter

2067
01:36:28,000 --> 01:36:30,000
Speaker 3: Backtreet boy O.

2068
01:36:30,840 --> 01:36:32,599
Speaker 2: Their documentary is crazy.

2069
01:36:32,840 --> 01:36:34,760
Speaker 3: But and I want to say something about Raving Simon too,

2070
01:36:34,760 --> 01:36:37,320
Speaker 3: because everybody was like calling her a weird alo.

2071
01:36:37,680 --> 01:36:38,800
Speaker 2: She is a success story.

2072
01:36:38,920 --> 01:36:42,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, hell yeah, she is the success story because she's

2073
01:36:42,280 --> 01:36:45,799
Speaker 3: still you know, she's aware, she's very you know, maybe

2074
01:36:45,840 --> 01:36:47,840
Speaker 3: her story didn't end up like you thought she should

2075
01:36:47,920 --> 01:36:48,200
Speaker 3: end up.

2076
01:36:48,320 --> 01:36:52,040
Speaker 1: But she's healthy, right, she's healthy. But truth I love

2077
01:36:52,080 --> 01:36:52,519
Speaker 1: that for her.

2078
01:36:52,600 --> 01:36:55,320
Speaker 6: This is an issue. We do this all the time

2079
01:36:55,400 --> 01:36:56,000
Speaker 6: as people.

2080
01:36:56,120 --> 01:36:59,000
Speaker 7: Right, we'll call somebody like Raving someone to say she's

2081
01:36:59,000 --> 01:37:02,439
Speaker 7: a widom. You point out she's a success story, look

2082
01:37:02,439 --> 01:37:05,719
Speaker 7: at what she's accomplished in her life. But to most

2083
01:37:05,760 --> 01:37:09,559
Speaker 7: of people that is weird though, because they've never accomplished it.

2084
01:37:10,000 --> 01:37:12,240
Speaker 7: That's why when you look at the vernacular that you use,

2085
01:37:12,320 --> 01:37:14,720
Speaker 7: I hate, I hate using this, but I'm going to

2086
01:37:14,840 --> 01:37:15,160
Speaker 7: use it.

2087
01:37:15,400 --> 01:37:15,599
Speaker 6: Right.

2088
01:37:15,920 --> 01:37:18,559
Speaker 7: Remember when we were all in middle school. We weren't

2089
01:37:18,600 --> 01:37:21,240
Speaker 7: all in the same class, right, We weren't on the

2090
01:37:21,240 --> 01:37:23,640
Speaker 7: same class. Some of us were in regular class, some

2091
01:37:23,720 --> 01:37:26,439
Speaker 7: of us were in astral alert, and some of us

2092
01:37:26,520 --> 01:37:29,200
Speaker 7: was in special A give the talented, give and talented.

2093
01:37:29,920 --> 01:37:35,559
Speaker 7: Social media for everybody the same app. So now time

2094
01:37:35,680 --> 01:37:38,200
Speaker 7: you look, you're looking at people who's just like, dang,

2095
01:37:38,800 --> 01:37:40,400
Speaker 7: what the fuck are they talking about?

2096
01:37:43,720 --> 01:37:44,840
Speaker 2: Who's like vernacular?

2097
01:37:45,200 --> 01:37:47,120
Speaker 6: I got.

2098
01:37:48,360 --> 01:37:50,960
Speaker 1: It's like the playing fieldings level, but it really ain't.

2099
01:37:51,000 --> 01:37:53,920
Speaker 2: They aren't supposed to be. We are supposed to be talking.

2100
01:37:53,640 --> 01:37:56,240
Speaker 4: To y'all, right, but we also talking to people who

2101
01:37:56,240 --> 01:37:57,880
Speaker 4: don't know how to spell y'all and don't know where

2102
01:37:57,920 --> 01:37:58,280
Speaker 4: to put.

2103
01:37:58,160 --> 01:38:00,439
Speaker 1: The who don't know the difference between there, there and

2104
01:38:00,479 --> 01:38:04,200
Speaker 1: there and two.

2105
01:38:04,760 --> 01:38:07,400
Speaker 7: As much as we think we educated, there's people watching

2106
01:38:07,479 --> 01:38:11,000
Speaker 7: us thinking like them niggas don't know what the and

2107
01:38:11,080 --> 01:38:13,040
Speaker 7: you were rare enough to realize that, you start to

2108
01:38:13,040 --> 01:38:13,680
Speaker 7: realize like that.

2109
01:38:13,800 --> 01:38:16,080
Speaker 3: But you know what, I think we do a good job. Well,

2110
01:38:16,120 --> 01:38:17,880
Speaker 3: I can't say we. I'll speak for me. I'll do

2111
01:38:17,920 --> 01:38:20,280
Speaker 3: a good job of staying in my place though when

2112
01:38:20,320 --> 01:38:22,720
Speaker 3: somebody is talking and then and then I know where

2113
01:38:22,760 --> 01:38:25,519
Speaker 3: to correct them because I know the facts I'll be

2114
01:38:25,520 --> 01:38:27,599
Speaker 3: like okay, but when somebody is talking, I'm like, okay,

2115
01:38:27,640 --> 01:38:29,479
Speaker 3: I let them talk because I'm not educated on it.

2116
01:38:29,720 --> 01:38:32,879
Speaker 1: I'm glad you said that, you know why to Valini.

2117
01:38:33,520 --> 01:38:36,200
Speaker 1: Just like once we rebranded the podcast, we started a

2118
01:38:36,280 --> 01:38:42,280
Speaker 1: new segment called op or no I opinion or no Opinions,

2119
01:38:42,680 --> 01:38:46,320
Speaker 1: And what we were trying to get going was exactly

2120
01:38:46,360 --> 01:38:51,479
Speaker 1: what it's okay to not have an opinion on something

2121
01:38:52,439 --> 01:38:56,599
Speaker 1: just because there's a story that went out about I

2122
01:38:56,680 --> 01:38:59,200
Speaker 1: was you know, anyone did anything. I guess he's a

2123
01:38:59,240 --> 01:39:01,960
Speaker 1: bad example because these in the news now a lot, but.

2124
01:39:02,000 --> 01:39:06,639
Speaker 6: Just sat example, I was like, I got some sad.

2125
01:39:08,000 --> 01:39:10,560
Speaker 1: But just there's random things that pop up sometimes and

2126
01:39:10,720 --> 01:39:11,960
Speaker 1: be like, well what do you think about this? Is

2127
01:39:12,000 --> 01:39:13,720
Speaker 1: that and the third and it's like I'm not equipped

2128
01:39:14,200 --> 01:39:17,040
Speaker 1: to even have an opinion because I don't know all

2129
01:39:17,080 --> 01:39:19,960
Speaker 1: the facts. I don't know these people personally. I don't

2130
01:39:19,960 --> 01:39:22,880
Speaker 1: know what has been infiltrated into the story that's just

2131
01:39:22,960 --> 01:39:25,599
Speaker 1: not true. Right now, there is a story going around

2132
01:39:25,600 --> 01:39:32,160
Speaker 1: about me that I have breast cancer. Yes, seriously, I've

2133
01:39:32,200 --> 01:39:35,559
Speaker 1: had people calling my father from Saint Vincent, my aunts

2134
01:39:35,600 --> 01:39:38,120
Speaker 1: and uncle's like oh my god, what's going on, nobody

2135
01:39:38,200 --> 01:39:43,160
Speaker 1: said anything. Someone literally just falsified an entire article and

2136
01:39:43,200 --> 01:39:44,360
Speaker 1: it's all over faceing.

2137
01:39:44,400 --> 01:39:46,120
Speaker 6: And created a whole page.

2138
01:39:46,680 --> 01:39:47,839
Speaker 1: A whole story.

2139
01:39:48,120 --> 01:39:49,240
Speaker 6: This is why I said, social.

2140
01:39:49,040 --> 01:39:53,840
Speaker 1: Media people are in my DM sending me healing prayers, remedies,

2141
01:39:54,160 --> 01:39:57,200
Speaker 1: all sorts of stuff, doctor savvy books, go alkaline, go

2142
01:39:57,280 --> 01:40:00,519
Speaker 1: to Honduras, and I'm like, it's not even true. So

2143
01:40:00,520 --> 01:40:03,320
Speaker 1: first of all, I rebuke that, yes, you know, in

2144
01:40:03,400 --> 01:40:05,799
Speaker 1: Jesus name, And there's also people who are really dealing

2145
01:40:05,800 --> 01:40:09,000
Speaker 1: with this nasty illness, like why would you make something

2146
01:40:09,000 --> 01:40:11,080
Speaker 1: else like that? So that just goes to show that

2147
01:40:11,080 --> 01:40:12,120
Speaker 1: there's just people making.

2148
01:40:11,960 --> 01:40:14,479
Speaker 3: It up right, And and that's why I said, we

2149
01:40:14,560 --> 01:40:17,360
Speaker 3: talked about like Mark lamont Hill one other week. But

2150
01:40:17,640 --> 01:40:20,680
Speaker 3: if I'm sitting here talking to like Angela RAI, I

2151
01:40:20,720 --> 01:40:24,519
Speaker 3: want cook let her do a thing because there's a

2152
01:40:24,560 --> 01:40:28,080
Speaker 3: certain there's a field that she is education and she

2153
01:40:28,160 --> 01:40:31,880
Speaker 3: knows you don't have to debate and argue down with everybody.

2154
01:40:32,080 --> 01:40:34,960
Speaker 3: Now I'm not saying that, you know, educated people can't

2155
01:40:35,000 --> 01:40:37,679
Speaker 3: be wrong, but there I think there's just a certain

2156
01:40:37,800 --> 01:40:41,160
Speaker 3: level of there's certain things that she's probably ignorant too,

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01:40:41,280 --> 01:40:43,680
Speaker 3: that I know about. You know, that, of course, but

2158
01:40:43,760 --> 01:40:45,559
Speaker 3: I just think sometimes we gotta stand in our lane.

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01:40:45,800 --> 01:40:47,720
Speaker 2: That's the fact, you know, we gotta stand our lane

2160
01:40:47,760 --> 01:40:48,559
Speaker 2: on a certain fact.

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01:40:48,640 --> 01:40:51,000
Speaker 3: I agree that was a good That was a good

2162
01:40:51,040 --> 01:40:53,840
Speaker 3: point that now, okay, you're ready to move on because

2163
01:40:53,840 --> 01:40:54,240
Speaker 3: it's time.

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01:40:56,280 --> 01:40:56,800
Speaker 2: Been waiting on.

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01:40:57,080 --> 01:40:57,719
Speaker 1: Okay, now.

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01:40:59,360 --> 01:41:04,240
Speaker 4: It's a little big bow wait bow about.

2167
01:41:06,680 --> 01:41:12,160
Speaker 2: Okay having the ball. He said that we were gonna

2168
01:41:12,200 --> 01:41:13,000
Speaker 2: love you, Down.

2169
01:41:15,240 --> 01:41:16,479
Speaker 6: I don't love you too.

2170
01:41:17,880 --> 01:41:22,560
Speaker 2: Having a time go ahead, okay, I wanted to I

2171
01:41:22,680 --> 01:41:22,960
Speaker 2: love what.

2172
01:41:23,000 --> 01:41:28,840
Speaker 4: You said that like, okay, so I wanted to talk

2173
01:41:28,880 --> 01:41:33,840
Speaker 4: about having a six injury. Have you ever got too

2174
01:41:34,000 --> 01:41:39,120
Speaker 4: freaky like too freaking somewhere you hurt yourself? Right?

2175
01:41:39,280 --> 01:41:42,519
Speaker 2: Because I have you have absolutely.

2176
01:41:42,960 --> 01:41:44,960
Speaker 1: Stretch before the cramp?

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01:41:45,240 --> 01:41:47,559
Speaker 2: Yes, I did. I caught a cram crab.

2178
01:41:47,840 --> 01:41:50,600
Speaker 1: I think you usually pulled a muscle for real, like

2179
01:41:50,760 --> 01:41:52,120
Speaker 1: needed like needed to have.

2180
01:41:53,040 --> 01:41:56,519
Speaker 2: Oh god, uh see, I will say to Down, I.

2181
01:41:56,920 --> 01:41:59,559
Speaker 1: More recently have been working on our flexibility and movement

2182
01:42:00,720 --> 01:42:03,920
Speaker 1: because you know, sometimes when you reach a certain age,

2183
01:42:04,120 --> 01:42:06,439
Speaker 1: you need to have a little more oil in your coil.

2184
01:42:06,760 --> 01:42:08,680
Speaker 1: As you would say back in the Islands. You know,

2185
01:42:08,760 --> 01:42:10,160
Speaker 1: you remember the ten man or you had to go

2186
01:42:10,240 --> 01:42:11,760
Speaker 1: with the little the oil and you had to go

2187
01:42:11,880 --> 01:42:14,240
Speaker 1: and look. So we definitely have been working on that.

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01:42:14,360 --> 01:42:16,760
Speaker 1: And the funny thing is we were on tour last

2189
01:42:16,840 --> 01:42:19,840
Speaker 1: year for our podcast. We did this big Love against

2190
01:42:19,880 --> 01:42:21,720
Speaker 1: the World tour and a bunch of different cities, sold

2191
01:42:21,720 --> 01:42:24,040
Speaker 1: out shows and whatnot, and Deval came up with the

2192
01:42:24,160 --> 01:42:29,559
Speaker 1: idea of us dancing and performing doing a spoof off

2193
01:42:29,680 --> 01:42:33,120
Speaker 1: of Usher's tour and Beyonce's tour because maybe I was

2194
01:42:33,160 --> 01:42:35,439
Speaker 1: on tour with Sist like I went to Sweden, I

2195
01:42:35,479 --> 01:42:37,840
Speaker 1: went to Atlanta, I went to all the shows rightwhere

2196
01:42:37,840 --> 01:42:39,400
Speaker 1: I was everywhere. Honey, I was on tour with be

2197
01:42:40,360 --> 01:42:43,360
Speaker 1: she could say, know it. But so after being so

2198
01:42:43,560 --> 01:42:46,080
Speaker 1: inspired by those shows, we went and saw Chris Brown.

2199
01:42:46,200 --> 01:42:47,479
Speaker 1: We saw a bunch of He was like, yo, I

2200
01:42:47,520 --> 01:42:49,759
Speaker 1: think we could do it, Like you have dancing background

2201
01:42:49,800 --> 01:42:51,800
Speaker 1: and I can dance. Like we should just do a

2202
01:42:51,840 --> 01:42:57,120
Speaker 1: whole choreography routine. So in doing that, the choreographer shout

2203
01:42:57,160 --> 01:42:59,880
Speaker 1: out to our boy Brian Jordan Junior. He said, hey,

2204
01:42:59,920 --> 01:43:02,240
Speaker 1: you think you could do a split again. I said,

2205
01:43:02,320 --> 01:43:05,160
Speaker 1: my nigga, mon nigga, I ain't gonna slit since I

2206
01:43:05,320 --> 01:43:09,200
Speaker 1: was like not a teen. Yeah, so I said, I

2207
01:43:09,360 --> 01:43:10,800
Speaker 1: did it. I said, let me see if I could

2208
01:43:10,800 --> 01:43:13,720
Speaker 1: get this joint back right. So I started doing like

2209
01:43:13,960 --> 01:43:16,519
Speaker 1: my dance stretches again and all of that, and since

2210
01:43:16,560 --> 01:43:18,840
Speaker 1: got hell little right side split back. Now to do

2211
01:43:18,960 --> 01:43:20,760
Speaker 1: the cent to one, that's still gonna require a little

2212
01:43:20,760 --> 01:43:23,880
Speaker 1: bit of work, but I'm saying that to say that

2213
01:43:24,000 --> 01:43:28,920
Speaker 1: has coming very handy as of late in the bedroom

2214
01:43:29,040 --> 01:43:30,240
Speaker 1: because it's.

2215
01:43:30,160 --> 01:43:32,200
Speaker 3: Been like he's just like like, yo, your hips be

2216
01:43:32,320 --> 01:43:33,200
Speaker 3: a little more open.

2217
01:43:33,280 --> 01:43:35,560
Speaker 1: You know, even him too, it's just like, you know,

2218
01:43:35,720 --> 01:43:51,599
Speaker 1: its just allow gy Gindy. That's that's.

2219
01:43:53,280 --> 01:43:56,400
Speaker 2: That's too young. And about the Malvin, oh my god.

2220
01:43:57,000 --> 01:43:57,719
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

2221
01:43:58,600 --> 01:44:03,960
Speaker 1: You gotta head, as I know it, and it's stamina,

2222
01:44:04,320 --> 01:44:06,960
Speaker 1: Oh my god. But we definitely had moments. Burd's just like,

2223
01:44:07,040 --> 01:44:08,920
Speaker 1: damn bait, you gotta let the lake down, honey, because

2224
01:44:09,360 --> 01:44:10,800
Speaker 1: you're catching a little cramp. Oh.

2225
01:44:10,960 --> 01:44:12,600
Speaker 4: I had to learn it the hard way. And I

2226
01:44:12,680 --> 01:44:15,720
Speaker 4: actually started stretching to like about two years ago.

2227
01:44:15,920 --> 01:44:17,120
Speaker 2: I downloaded this app.

2228
01:44:17,360 --> 01:44:18,760
Speaker 4: I don'm gonna say the name of the app because

2229
01:44:19,040 --> 01:44:22,240
Speaker 4: they paid for it, but I downloaded this app and

2230
01:44:22,560 --> 01:44:25,479
Speaker 4: you do like ten fifteen minute stretches every morning, and

2231
01:44:25,560 --> 01:44:27,880
Speaker 4: you can even decide like, Okay, I want to be

2232
01:44:28,000 --> 01:44:29,720
Speaker 4: able to do the front slits again, I want to

2233
01:44:29,760 --> 01:44:31,960
Speaker 4: be able to do the side or I just want

2234
01:44:32,000 --> 01:44:34,639
Speaker 4: to do full body stretches. So I started back doing

2235
01:44:34,680 --> 01:44:37,479
Speaker 4: that after I injured myself. And then for my thirty

2236
01:44:37,520 --> 01:44:41,759
Speaker 4: second birthday, remember I decided to bust the slid.

2237
01:44:44,280 --> 01:44:49,360
Speaker 2: My god, I was feeling real copedy. You No, we

2238
01:44:49,520 --> 01:44:51,560
Speaker 2: was at the pool. Nobody was at the pool. We

2239
01:44:51,760 --> 01:44:54,519
Speaker 2: was at the club for my birthday. Remember that long

2240
01:44:55,439 --> 01:44:56,679
Speaker 2: you're talking about. We was in the club.

2241
01:44:57,200 --> 01:45:00,679
Speaker 1: I remember I didn't again the pearl dress.

2242
01:45:00,800 --> 01:45:01,559
Speaker 2: I went to Florida.

2243
01:45:01,800 --> 01:45:03,759
Speaker 3: Remember we went to Florida because we went to Universal

2244
01:45:03,800 --> 01:45:05,479
Speaker 3: Studios and we were splitting that.

2245
01:45:05,640 --> 01:45:07,880
Speaker 2: Yes, we both did it, splitting the pool. We both

2246
01:45:08,360 --> 01:45:14,400
Speaker 2: both double.

2247
01:45:12,360 --> 01:45:15,000
Speaker 1: Wow on a Thursday afternoon.

2248
01:45:15,120 --> 01:45:19,920
Speaker 2: Now, but I ain't good. But I'm my whole dress up, y'all,

2249
01:45:19,960 --> 01:45:20,840
Speaker 2: But I need to sleep.

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01:45:20,960 --> 01:45:22,439
Speaker 1: Okay, now I'm in good company, honey.

2251
01:45:23,280 --> 01:45:26,519
Speaker 3: I like y'all's injuries are cute, Like, oh, I'm been

2252
01:45:26,560 --> 01:45:28,120
Speaker 3: stressed to see my injury.

2253
01:45:27,960 --> 01:45:29,519
Speaker 2: Was not you injured yourself.

2254
01:45:29,600 --> 01:45:32,479
Speaker 3: I definitely injured myself because I was like, okay, so

2255
01:45:32,880 --> 01:45:35,120
Speaker 3: me and the dude at the time, I was day

2256
01:45:35,200 --> 01:45:35,320
Speaker 3: you know.

2257
01:45:35,880 --> 01:45:40,559
Speaker 2: It was like a passionate night. Yeah, oysters, I'm trinking wine.

2258
01:45:42,520 --> 01:45:43,599
Speaker 2: It was about that time.

2259
01:45:44,400 --> 01:45:45,800
Speaker 3: So you know how you just have a moment where

2260
01:45:45,840 --> 01:45:47,879
Speaker 3: y'all just start like passionately kissing.

2261
01:45:48,800 --> 01:45:50,720
Speaker 2: You know, we're just doing all this, so we're like.

2262
01:45:50,840 --> 01:45:54,280
Speaker 3: Tossing and turning and kissing, and then he like turns

2263
01:45:54,320 --> 01:45:55,840
Speaker 3: me around, like throws me on the bed.

2264
01:45:56,439 --> 01:45:58,560
Speaker 2: But when I he threw me on the bed, I

2265
01:45:58,720 --> 01:45:59,800
Speaker 2: stub my toe.

2266
01:46:01,760 --> 01:46:03,320
Speaker 6: That's who now lifted.

2267
01:46:05,160 --> 01:46:06,720
Speaker 2: And I'm still trying to throw it back.

2268
01:46:07,720 --> 01:46:13,360
Speaker 1: Was it the ton No, it was it was my second.

2269
01:46:14,240 --> 01:46:14,719
Speaker 1: The second.

2270
01:46:15,160 --> 01:46:17,120
Speaker 3: On top of that, my feet already up in the bit,

2271
01:46:17,240 --> 01:46:18,920
Speaker 3: so I'm already trying to hide them.

2272
01:46:21,040 --> 01:46:21,559
Speaker 6: He didn't care.

2273
01:46:21,920 --> 01:46:26,840
Speaker 2: He didn't They had already seen them. Shut my back,

2274
01:46:26,920 --> 01:46:33,479
Speaker 2: and I'm like, that's art. It was a bad You said,

2275
01:46:33,520 --> 01:46:40,519
Speaker 2: what did you get inded on time? Like I was

2276
01:46:40,640 --> 01:46:42,760
Speaker 2: literally like hobbling the next day.

2277
01:46:43,320 --> 01:46:47,280
Speaker 1: If you need a workers compensation, all the things, Paul

2278
01:46:47,360 --> 01:46:47,840
Speaker 1: at y'all.

2279
01:46:49,520 --> 01:46:51,919
Speaker 2: It was so bad, y'all. I was so embarrassed.

2280
01:46:51,920 --> 01:46:54,559
Speaker 3: But like the whole time, because have y'all well, obviously

2281
01:46:54,640 --> 01:46:56,559
Speaker 3: y'all have it because y'all have been comfortable each other,

2282
01:46:56,640 --> 01:46:59,479
Speaker 3: but when you're having sex with somebody and you are

2283
01:46:59,600 --> 01:47:02,320
Speaker 3: in that at beginning stage is the first time y'all

2284
01:47:02,360 --> 01:47:02,840
Speaker 3: messing around.

2285
01:47:02,840 --> 01:47:04,599
Speaker 2: You're trying to turn it up, and you don't show

2286
01:47:04,680 --> 01:47:08,280
Speaker 2: out like neither my toenail it all.

2287
01:47:10,320 --> 01:47:11,880
Speaker 6: He wouldn't have cared that had been rough.

2288
01:47:12,439 --> 01:47:14,280
Speaker 1: He wouldn't and I'm sure he wasn't concerned about no to.

2289
01:47:14,400 --> 01:47:16,400
Speaker 2: He wouldn't be started about my toe. He was not

2290
01:47:16,920 --> 01:47:19,920
Speaker 2: give a damn you did. You were doing what needed

2291
01:47:19,960 --> 01:47:22,400
Speaker 2: to be done on my back. I'm just looking at

2292
01:47:22,479 --> 01:47:27,519
Speaker 2: my toe. I'm like, please, don't fallow head, just dangling.

2293
01:47:28,000 --> 01:47:33,840
Speaker 2: He wouldn't feel like, oh I am so sis trying

2294
01:47:33,880 --> 01:47:35,360
Speaker 2: to get that toenail up out of out.

2295
01:47:35,600 --> 01:47:36,400
Speaker 6: He wouldn't.

2296
01:47:38,360 --> 01:47:41,920
Speaker 2: Your feet up and your tonail follows in his eyes

2297
01:47:43,400 --> 01:47:46,519
Speaker 2: like whoa, what was that that fell in my wig?

2298
01:47:47,320 --> 01:47:49,840
Speaker 6: Gus, Let me tell you something. He wouldn't have cared

2299
01:47:50,760 --> 01:47:53,760
Speaker 6: that toenail could have felt on his eye. He'd have

2300
01:47:53,760 --> 01:47:54,479
Speaker 6: been like, what is this?

2301
01:48:00,280 --> 01:48:04,400
Speaker 1: Made no difference they take me to the It was

2302
01:48:04,520 --> 01:48:05,479
Speaker 1: you know, I give out.

2303
01:48:07,240 --> 01:48:09,360
Speaker 3: I get a crylic on my toe. So at the

2304
01:48:09,439 --> 01:48:13,040
Speaker 3: time it hurt, But it was the acrylic that I

2305
01:48:13,160 --> 01:48:16,639
Speaker 3: wasn't But the whole time my legs there, I think

2306
01:48:16,720 --> 01:48:18,240
Speaker 3: that is falling off.

2307
01:48:18,479 --> 01:48:21,960
Speaker 6: They're still worried about the ton nail. You didn't you

2308
01:48:22,000 --> 01:48:22,880
Speaker 6: didn't even have feet.

2309
01:48:23,000 --> 01:48:23,840
Speaker 1: I was in pain.

2310
01:48:24,760 --> 01:48:27,240
Speaker 2: That was the point. Don't not that you don't even

2311
01:48:27,280 --> 01:48:28,800
Speaker 2: have to have the I'm gonna be honest.

2312
01:48:29,280 --> 01:48:32,080
Speaker 1: We had a friend that had an amputee.

2313
01:48:32,200 --> 01:48:32,920
Speaker 2: They got porn.

2314
01:48:33,120 --> 01:48:35,360
Speaker 1: We had a fight with an amputee, and he was

2315
01:48:35,400 --> 01:48:36,920
Speaker 1: just like Yo, I didn't care about the ampute I

2316
01:48:36,960 --> 01:48:40,320
Speaker 1: took the ship off. It was just like porn.

2317
01:48:40,600 --> 01:48:41,639
Speaker 6: Unbuckled the joint.

2318
01:48:44,760 --> 01:48:47,080
Speaker 2: Leg on the side of the too.

2319
01:48:49,560 --> 01:48:53,840
Speaker 7: Realize man chicks me throwing it back with one leg. Okay,

2320
01:48:54,360 --> 01:48:56,720
Speaker 7: imagine you imagine you only got one leg and you

2321
01:48:56,760 --> 01:48:59,000
Speaker 7: could throw it back on the nigga make him.

2322
01:49:00,280 --> 01:49:04,439
Speaker 2: I'm matter that you're talking about. I didn't know.

2323
01:49:04,680 --> 01:49:07,960
Speaker 1: It's just a casual true.

2324
01:49:08,160 --> 01:49:10,960
Speaker 2: True, they don't even have but that don't have the sugars.

2325
01:49:11,160 --> 01:49:13,240
Speaker 2: No topic. We got to talk about black hell.

2326
01:49:13,320 --> 01:49:13,680
Speaker 1: I know what.

2327
01:49:15,920 --> 01:49:17,800
Speaker 2: I know that ain't stopping letting.

2328
01:49:19,080 --> 01:49:19,639
Speaker 6: That's a fact.

2329
01:49:22,160 --> 01:49:22,799
Speaker 1: Don't stop.

2330
01:49:23,439 --> 01:49:27,840
Speaker 6: Is she eating good? To ask fat? True as fact,

2331
01:49:27,920 --> 01:49:28,680
Speaker 6: she could throw it back.

2332
01:49:29,080 --> 01:49:33,160
Speaker 2: Is the booty still fat? Is the question? So y'all

2333
01:49:33,240 --> 01:49:35,519
Speaker 2: let us know in the comments. What sex injuries, y'all.

2334
01:49:36,800 --> 01:49:38,439
Speaker 2: I don't want to hear that sex injuries.

2335
01:49:38,479 --> 01:49:40,000
Speaker 1: I want to hear that. Yeah, we haven't had anything

2336
01:49:40,080 --> 01:49:41,760
Speaker 1: to major. We just need.

2337
01:49:44,400 --> 01:49:44,879
Speaker 2: Movement.

2338
01:49:45,080 --> 01:49:48,439
Speaker 1: Little plotis yoga, so now you don't end up in

2339
01:49:48,479 --> 01:49:48,880
Speaker 1: the e R.

2340
01:49:49,320 --> 01:49:51,200
Speaker 2: Have y'all ever seen that? Used to be a show

2341
01:49:51,320 --> 01:49:51,880
Speaker 2: on t o C.

2342
01:49:52,320 --> 01:49:53,240
Speaker 1: Sex in the e R.

2343
01:49:54,360 --> 01:49:58,880
Speaker 2: Y'all, y'all they have a little couple of movie night

2344
01:49:59,080 --> 01:50:02,080
Speaker 2: or series. Hey, I'm down in the e R. People

2345
01:50:02,240 --> 01:50:04,560
Speaker 2: was doing wild ship like people would end up in

2346
01:50:04,600 --> 01:50:05,960
Speaker 2: the e R for having.

2347
01:50:05,800 --> 01:50:13,280
Speaker 1: Like right, yeah, like I think I didn't know. It

2348
01:50:13,360 --> 01:50:14,280
Speaker 1: was always show around it.

2349
01:50:14,320 --> 01:50:14,719
Speaker 2: But I'm.

2350
01:50:16,960 --> 01:50:18,479
Speaker 1: Used to work in the ear and she used to

2351
01:50:18,520 --> 01:50:19,519
Speaker 1: have some crazy stories.

2352
01:50:23,160 --> 01:50:23,920
Speaker 6: Let me ask a question.

2353
01:50:24,280 --> 01:50:26,639
Speaker 2: It's like, damn, I hope I don't never be there, horny.

2354
01:50:26,760 --> 01:50:28,280
Speaker 6: How many black people was on that show?

2355
01:50:29,120 --> 01:50:29,519
Speaker 1: You know what?

2356
01:50:30,040 --> 01:50:33,080
Speaker 6: Not a lot of us. We know who was on

2357
01:50:33,280 --> 01:50:33,639
Speaker 6: the show.

2358
01:50:36,880 --> 01:50:38,640
Speaker 2: It was something though you would be surprised it was

2359
01:50:38,640 --> 01:50:41,840
Speaker 2: probably more of us, you know who was.

2360
01:50:41,880 --> 01:50:42,439
Speaker 3: The main star.

2361
01:50:45,120 --> 01:50:55,560
Speaker 2: So now it's time to get into the bout woot

2362
01:50:55,600 --> 01:50:56,040
Speaker 2: the week.

2363
01:50:56,520 --> 01:50:59,280
Speaker 3: It's the music that we've been listening to, Okay, So

2364
01:50:59,400 --> 01:51:01,640
Speaker 3: it doesn't have to be new. It can be the

2365
01:51:01,760 --> 01:51:04,479
Speaker 3: old school classes that you like something new or artist

2366
01:51:04,600 --> 01:51:07,240
Speaker 3: that you love, anything whatever you've been jamming this week.

2367
01:51:07,320 --> 01:51:08,160
Speaker 2: So I'll go first.

2368
01:51:09,400 --> 01:51:12,360
Speaker 3: Okay, I need to tell y'all how pleasantly I was

2369
01:51:12,600 --> 01:51:15,880
Speaker 3: surprised at this artist. She's an amazing artist. She's got

2370
01:51:16,000 --> 01:51:20,920
Speaker 3: Grammy's under her belt. She's a superstar. Lizzo came out

2371
01:51:20,960 --> 01:51:23,920
Speaker 3: with a freestyle to whim women, and when I tell you,

2372
01:51:24,080 --> 01:51:27,680
Speaker 3: she ate it up. And people forget that Lizo can

2373
01:51:27,760 --> 01:51:30,960
Speaker 3: really wrap right because Lizzo, I mean, if we're being honest,

2374
01:51:31,160 --> 01:51:32,960
Speaker 3: makes the music like I'm free.

2375
01:51:33,520 --> 01:51:40,559
Speaker 9: I'm good right, I know her for it the music playing. Sorry, yeah,

2376
01:51:40,640 --> 01:51:47,680
Speaker 9: that's aw. Lizzo will be right period, Liz I know

2377
01:51:47,800 --> 01:51:48,560
Speaker 9: you're finna take that.

2378
01:51:49,360 --> 01:51:56,840
Speaker 2: Let's go to the studio and collab it. That's what

2379
01:51:57,000 --> 01:51:58,160
Speaker 2: Lizzo does on the trash.

2380
01:51:59,040 --> 01:52:03,960
Speaker 3: But Lizzo Jesus swammy remix and rapped her asshof that

2381
01:52:04,040 --> 01:52:05,960
Speaker 3: she god to remind you, I'm an h Town queen.

2382
01:52:06,600 --> 01:52:10,280
Speaker 1: She is from Hugh I love she was really RAPPI

2383
01:52:10,720 --> 01:52:13,479
Speaker 1: she was doing what needs to be done. We gotta

2384
01:52:13,520 --> 01:52:16,559
Speaker 1: do this. Listen, listen like.

2385
01:52:16,640 --> 01:52:19,640
Speaker 2: When we're whammy remix them.

2386
01:52:19,920 --> 01:52:23,360
Speaker 1: Okay, the list of remix. Yes, okay, okay, this girl,

2387
01:52:23,479 --> 01:52:23,880
Speaker 1: we love you.

2388
01:52:24,000 --> 01:52:25,599
Speaker 2: Now, come on, poor mind, sit on the couch.

2389
01:52:25,680 --> 01:52:28,360
Speaker 4: Come on, period, Come on girl, listen to trail And

2390
01:52:28,439 --> 01:52:31,040
Speaker 4: that's so that's so crazy because my bob was gonna

2391
01:52:31,040 --> 01:52:32,840
Speaker 4: be this the Beato song, but I'm gonna save it

2392
01:52:32,920 --> 01:52:36,320
Speaker 4: for the next episode. Okay, I've ben't listening to whim

2393
01:52:36,439 --> 01:52:40,320
Speaker 4: women too. But the one with Sexy REGs, there's versions

2394
01:52:40,360 --> 01:52:40,519
Speaker 4: of it.

2395
01:52:40,960 --> 01:52:42,280
Speaker 1: It's versions of version.

2396
01:52:43,920 --> 01:52:44,760
Speaker 7: Don't let me go.

2397
01:52:44,960 --> 01:52:48,040
Speaker 2: He shall being on the same accord, the one with

2398
01:52:48,240 --> 01:52:50,000
Speaker 2: Sexy reg I love this song.

2399
01:52:50,160 --> 01:52:50,640
Speaker 1: Can't get no.

2400
01:52:50,680 --> 01:52:52,639
Speaker 2: Coochie out of the queen. You cain't get no koochie

2401
01:52:52,640 --> 01:52:53,120
Speaker 2: out the corner.

2402
01:52:53,200 --> 01:52:54,200
Speaker 1: This on my but.

2403
01:52:57,600 --> 01:52:59,840
Speaker 2: It's yeah with the TikToker.

2404
01:53:00,439 --> 01:53:02,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god.

2405
01:53:02,400 --> 01:53:05,120
Speaker 2: I like to remax, like, yeah, we're right here, right here.

2406
01:53:06,040 --> 01:53:07,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta get we gotta get with it.

2407
01:53:07,760 --> 01:53:08,240
Speaker 3: To the val.

2408
01:53:10,240 --> 01:53:11,479
Speaker 1: I'm about to be so old.

2409
01:53:14,640 --> 01:53:19,240
Speaker 7: If I'm being honest, I know Joey Badass represents Shout

2410
01:53:19,280 --> 01:53:22,080
Speaker 7: out Joey bad New York. Yeah he did a verse

2411
01:53:22,320 --> 01:53:25,360
Speaker 7: because they were having these ciphers against the West Coast.

2412
01:53:25,560 --> 01:53:28,439
Speaker 7: Shout out to Joey Badass for representing New York. Baby

2413
01:53:28,720 --> 01:53:31,120
Speaker 7: that's what we do. He's a lyricist man, he said.

2414
01:53:32,880 --> 01:53:35,200
Speaker 7: He came in everybody and it was all it was

2415
01:53:35,240 --> 01:53:39,160
Speaker 7: all good, like wholesome but old school hip hop bars

2416
01:53:39,680 --> 01:53:40,759
Speaker 7: like no whole bars.

2417
01:53:41,240 --> 01:53:42,880
Speaker 6: He did his thing. So shout out to Kendrick. Gonna

2418
01:53:42,880 --> 01:53:43,519
Speaker 6: listen to that right now.

2419
01:53:45,160 --> 01:53:47,880
Speaker 1: Kill. I was about to age myself.

2420
01:53:48,040 --> 01:53:54,120
Speaker 6: No don't born.

2421
01:53:53,200 --> 01:53:55,160
Speaker 1: No, no, no, not to beat. I gonna age myself

2422
01:53:55,200 --> 01:53:57,960
Speaker 1: because it's crazy when I be in the gym, depending

2423
01:53:58,000 --> 01:54:00,240
Speaker 1: on what mood I'm in, I will put on some

2424
01:54:00,360 --> 01:54:02,960
Speaker 1: old school like Keith Washington and whatnot. But what I

2425
01:54:03,000 --> 01:54:04,800
Speaker 1: will say, I've been bopping too lately. And this is

2426
01:54:04,840 --> 01:54:08,720
Speaker 1: because it's kind of when is this gonna air after

2427
01:54:08,760 --> 01:54:09,519
Speaker 1: the BT Awards?

2428
01:54:09,760 --> 01:54:09,840
Speaker 3: Ye?

2429
01:54:09,880 --> 01:54:12,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so when you see my looks for the

2430
01:54:13,000 --> 01:54:14,560
Speaker 2: BET Awards, okay.

2431
01:54:14,560 --> 01:54:19,800
Speaker 1: She was a fairy. Yes, that's my And then I

2432
01:54:19,880 --> 01:54:21,640
Speaker 1: let it out. Hear the song and he was just like,

2433
01:54:21,720 --> 01:54:23,240
Speaker 1: what the fuck is the lyrics? I said, don't worry

2434
01:54:23,240 --> 01:54:23,519
Speaker 1: about it.

2435
01:54:25,360 --> 01:54:32,960
Speaker 6: A fairy. You got me, I know, because I was like,

2436
01:54:33,080 --> 01:54:34,280
Speaker 6: this is just stupid.

2437
01:54:35,760 --> 01:54:42,080
Speaker 1: About it's a whole bob And I was like, this

2438
01:54:42,280 --> 01:54:45,320
Speaker 1: is my theme song the BC Awards. So it was

2439
01:54:45,440 --> 01:54:47,800
Speaker 1: after I got my dress. I had like a whole

2440
01:54:47,880 --> 01:54:50,440
Speaker 1: dress fiasco, but finally found this dress and I was like, oh,

2441
01:54:50,480 --> 01:54:52,200
Speaker 1: this is cute. Might be a little moment. So I

2442
01:54:52,240 --> 01:54:54,160
Speaker 1: said to my sister and I was like, yeah, your name.

2443
01:54:54,200 --> 01:54:56,600
Speaker 1: She's like it's giving, she's a fairy. So I'm like

2444
01:54:56,840 --> 01:54:59,480
Speaker 1: my whole look was inspired pretty much around that song

2445
01:55:00,040 --> 01:55:05,960
Speaker 1: love It's cute. It's you know bet or you know

2446
01:55:06,120 --> 01:55:07,880
Speaker 1: you have a little fun, a little fun.

2447
01:55:08,200 --> 01:55:09,960
Speaker 2: Yes, for sure, I love that.

2448
01:55:10,880 --> 01:55:14,320
Speaker 3: Okay, So as usual Autumn of the week mused beauty collection.

2449
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Speaker 3: What you got for because I know you got something

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Speaker 3: today from us beauty.

2451
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2452
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Speaker 1: knowing my love language some mused beauty products.

2453
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2455
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2456
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Speaker 1: look very good. But this is what happens.

2457
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Speaker 2: You're like, what my amused beauty. I'm aware they're coming away,

2458
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Speaker 2: you know, I'm I'm working on some beard oil.

2459
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Speaker 1: Come on, beard oil. I wear this for dress of

2460
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Speaker 1: road play nights so you'll get to experience music beauty.

2461
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Lipstuff, honey, About to go home

2462
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Speaker 1: You know I love to support our phone, so I

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Speaker 1: appreciate you.

2467
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2468
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2470
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2471
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Speaker 3: So now we are going to our favorite segment of

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01:56:18,080 --> 01:56:19,280
Speaker 3: the week, Pour your heart out. Now.

2473
01:56:19,360 --> 01:56:21,000
Speaker 2: I usually ask the guests, do y'all give a good

2474
01:56:21,080 --> 01:56:23,240
Speaker 2: good advice? I know, y'all, we know y'all give good advice.

2475
01:56:24,040 --> 01:56:25,880
Speaker 3: Pour your Heart out is when the listeners can write in,

2476
01:56:26,280 --> 01:56:28,040
Speaker 3: give us a question and okay, answer it.

2477
01:56:28,120 --> 01:56:28,720
Speaker 1: You know that.

2478
01:56:28,920 --> 01:56:31,160
Speaker 3: If you want your questions answered on the show, make

2479
01:56:31,240 --> 01:56:34,080
Speaker 3: sure you email ask poor Minds at gmail dot com.

2480
01:56:34,160 --> 01:56:36,480
Speaker 3: If you're a Patreon member, put that in the headline

2481
01:56:36,520 --> 01:56:37,840
Speaker 3: and you get to skip the line.

2482
01:56:37,880 --> 01:56:40,360
Speaker 2: Okay, bro, you got the question right? Or who got

2483
01:56:40,440 --> 01:56:41,880
Speaker 2: it right?

2484
01:56:42,440 --> 01:56:42,480
Speaker 7: No?

2485
01:56:42,600 --> 01:56:45,880
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe it's on the phone, my bad and that

2486
01:56:46,360 --> 01:56:46,720
Speaker 2: she did?

2487
01:56:47,360 --> 01:56:47,560
Speaker 6: Did?

2488
01:56:47,960 --> 01:56:49,120
Speaker 2: Go ahead? You read you better than me?

2489
01:56:49,240 --> 01:56:50,880
Speaker 1: Did you get nervous when you were in school if

2490
01:56:50,920 --> 01:56:51,800
Speaker 1: you had to read? You know what?

2491
01:56:52,520 --> 01:56:53,160
Speaker 2: Tom La Shawn?

2492
01:56:53,320 --> 01:56:55,720
Speaker 3: Oh good because I could play characters, y'all fin to

2493
01:56:55,760 --> 01:56:57,880
Speaker 3: be the teachers used to be mad and whatnot?

2494
01:56:58,760 --> 01:57:04,879
Speaker 1: Inflection else.

2495
01:57:06,760 --> 01:57:07,920
Speaker 6: Else anybody?

2496
01:57:13,880 --> 01:57:17,240
Speaker 4: Because she still do the voices and I'm not gonna stop.

2497
01:57:18,000 --> 01:57:22,400
Speaker 4: So Sha, you said you made this shorter? Okay?

2498
01:57:23,120 --> 01:57:23,560
Speaker 2: Is it still?

2499
01:57:28,880 --> 01:57:29,360
Speaker 6: And keep it?

2500
01:57:29,800 --> 01:57:31,640
Speaker 2: Would be like keep it short, but I guess you

2501
01:57:31,760 --> 01:57:33,680
Speaker 2: know be short? Okay?

2502
01:57:34,000 --> 01:57:36,880
Speaker 4: Hey lex Andrea, I love y'all and how you always

2503
01:57:36,960 --> 01:57:38,760
Speaker 4: remind women not to settle.

2504
01:57:39,160 --> 01:57:40,800
Speaker 2: I really need some big sister advice.

2505
01:57:40,920 --> 01:57:43,960
Speaker 4: When my relationship started, I was still talking to another guy,

2506
01:57:44,360 --> 01:57:47,280
Speaker 4: not serious, but still wrong. I owned up to it,

2507
01:57:47,480 --> 01:57:50,280
Speaker 4: blocked him, and have been all in ever since. I

2508
01:57:50,400 --> 01:57:52,680
Speaker 4: even let my boyfriend go through my phone to prove

2509
01:57:52,760 --> 01:57:55,400
Speaker 4: I had nothing to hide. I never snooped on him

2510
01:57:55,440 --> 01:57:58,120
Speaker 4: because I thought I could trust him. Now I found

2511
01:57:58,160 --> 01:58:01,000
Speaker 4: out he's been talking to other women. When I brought

2512
01:58:01,040 --> 01:58:04,080
Speaker 4: it up, he laughed, deflected, and through my past in

2513
01:58:04,160 --> 01:58:06,600
Speaker 4: my face. I cried and he said I was being

2514
01:58:06,680 --> 01:58:09,640
Speaker 4: manipulative and needed to either leave or shut up about it.

2515
01:58:10,440 --> 01:58:12,760
Speaker 2: I feel hurt, used and confused.

2516
01:58:13,160 --> 01:58:15,320
Speaker 4: I've been trying to make things right and he's just

2517
01:58:15,440 --> 01:58:19,000
Speaker 4: been doing him with no accountability? Is this emotional manipulation?

2518
01:58:19,400 --> 01:58:22,360
Speaker 4: Should I have been left? Thanks for always reminding us

2519
01:58:22,440 --> 01:58:26,240
Speaker 4: that love shouldn't mean accepting this. Once blinded, now bothered.

2520
01:58:27,880 --> 01:58:28,720
Speaker 4: I guess that's her name.

2521
01:58:31,160 --> 01:58:35,080
Speaker 2: Look, the unmarried woman is not going to answer yes,

2522
01:58:35,720 --> 01:58:37,000
Speaker 2: go way, we'll go last.

2523
01:58:37,040 --> 01:58:39,720
Speaker 1: But based off of how he responded, what would you think,

2524
01:58:39,760 --> 01:58:40,400
Speaker 1: bab this is.

2525
01:58:40,440 --> 01:58:43,280
Speaker 7: My first thing. We talked about this before, about ban boozling,

2526
01:58:43,960 --> 01:58:46,440
Speaker 7: she said. I admit when I first started, I was

2527
01:58:46,520 --> 01:58:49,240
Speaker 7: talking to other people, but then I stopped. But you

2528
01:58:49,320 --> 01:58:52,120
Speaker 7: stopped on your own terms. Now she wants him to

2529
01:58:52,160 --> 01:58:55,280
Speaker 7: stop on her terms. To be honest, I don't think

2530
01:58:55,280 --> 01:58:57,720
Speaker 7: that's fair. You was able to stop banboozling him when

2531
01:58:57,760 --> 01:59:00,720
Speaker 7: you was ready. You wasn't checking this. You let him

2532
01:59:00,720 --> 01:59:02,400
Speaker 7: do all of that, all right, He may not be ready.

2533
01:59:02,880 --> 01:59:05,360
Speaker 7: Here's the thing, though, if you're ready for a serious

2534
01:59:05,480 --> 01:59:08,560
Speaker 7: relationship and not deal with that, let him go.

2535
01:59:09,160 --> 01:59:11,920
Speaker 6: If you want to keep playing games and keep playing

2536
01:59:11,960 --> 01:59:12,280
Speaker 6: with him.

2537
01:59:12,360 --> 01:59:15,160
Speaker 7: But he just told you by his response that he's

2538
01:59:15,240 --> 01:59:17,720
Speaker 7: not serious about being in a relationship. So why keep

2539
01:59:17,800 --> 01:59:20,560
Speaker 7: going back and forth? Okay, you want to laugh, you

2540
01:59:20,640 --> 01:59:22,600
Speaker 7: want to do this, I'm gonna argue back and forth.

2541
01:59:23,000 --> 01:59:25,880
Speaker 7: That's not what I'm looking for. I showed you that

2542
01:59:26,000 --> 01:59:27,959
Speaker 7: I was ready to be in a committed a relationship.

2543
01:59:28,000 --> 01:59:30,880
Speaker 7: I left everything, I gave you my phone, trying to

2544
01:59:30,920 --> 01:59:33,480
Speaker 7: give you an opportunity to do the same. But since

2545
01:59:33,520 --> 01:59:35,040
Speaker 7: you don't, I'm moving on.

2546
01:59:35,720 --> 01:59:37,680
Speaker 1: It's like I think she was literally like, step up

2547
01:59:37,680 --> 01:59:39,040
Speaker 1: to the plate. If you're not gonna step up to

2548
01:59:39,080 --> 01:59:40,440
Speaker 1: the plate, then like what are we doing here?

2549
01:59:40,520 --> 01:59:40,640
Speaker 7: Right?

2550
01:59:40,840 --> 01:59:42,600
Speaker 1: I think too many times we just a lot of

2551
01:59:43,320 --> 01:59:44,680
Speaker 1: from what I'm hearing, because we have a lot of

2552
01:59:44,720 --> 01:59:47,320
Speaker 1: listening letters that write into us too. And they asked

2553
01:59:47,360 --> 01:59:49,640
Speaker 1: the question, but I think ultimately know what the answer is.

2554
01:59:50,240 --> 01:59:52,200
Speaker 1: It's like, you know what time it is, like what

2555
01:59:52,320 --> 01:59:54,320
Speaker 1: are you? What's your intention? Are you here to play games?

2556
01:59:54,440 --> 01:59:57,200
Speaker 1: Or are you here to make moves? And people tend

2557
01:59:57,280 --> 02:00:00,520
Speaker 1: to show you who they are. I believe the first time.

2558
02:00:01,200 --> 02:00:01,960
Speaker 1: Do you know what I'm saying?

2559
02:00:02,040 --> 02:00:04,520
Speaker 6: So he bamboozling. Since you know that and you don't

2560
02:00:04,520 --> 02:00:07,640
Speaker 6: want to bamboozle, move on? I agree, you know.

2561
02:00:07,880 --> 02:00:09,680
Speaker 3: And I also think if you make the decision to

2562
02:00:09,760 --> 02:00:12,560
Speaker 3: forgive somebody, like if somebody did something to you and

2563
02:00:13,320 --> 02:00:14,960
Speaker 3: you're like, Okay, I can forgive them, but we can

2564
02:00:15,040 --> 02:00:16,840
Speaker 3: get back together, or I cannot forgive them and I

2565
02:00:16,880 --> 02:00:18,640
Speaker 3: can move on with my life. But if you choose

2566
02:00:19,160 --> 02:00:22,080
Speaker 3: to forgive them, you also have the responsibility.

2567
02:00:21,480 --> 02:00:23,040
Speaker 6: Of not throwing that in their facts.

2568
02:00:24,240 --> 02:00:27,200
Speaker 3: That is so like, oh but look what you did

2569
02:00:27,360 --> 02:00:30,280
Speaker 3: look like this, So why are we still talking about

2570
02:00:30,840 --> 02:00:31,320
Speaker 3: you know what I mean?

2571
02:00:31,720 --> 02:00:33,840
Speaker 1: They throw out the receipts at that point, don't get killing.

2572
02:00:34,080 --> 02:00:35,600
Speaker 6: That's a good point to me.

2573
02:00:35,840 --> 02:00:39,280
Speaker 7: It sounds like he's ready to do whatever he wants

2574
02:00:39,320 --> 02:00:41,520
Speaker 7: to do, and he knows he has a joker. Well,

2575
02:00:41,560 --> 02:00:44,160
Speaker 7: you did this first, so the men that I get caught,

2576
02:00:44,320 --> 02:00:46,520
Speaker 7: I could throw that, which shows you that's the type

2577
02:00:46,520 --> 02:00:46,960
Speaker 7: of person.

2578
02:00:46,840 --> 02:00:47,720
Speaker 6: Who's playing games.

2579
02:00:47,760 --> 02:00:49,640
Speaker 1: It's giving very much doing that.

2580
02:00:49,720 --> 02:00:50,920
Speaker 6: Hey, I don't want to do that no more.

2581
02:00:51,000 --> 02:00:51,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I be.

2582
02:00:51,680 --> 02:00:53,880
Speaker 4: Feeling like those the type of situations where he wants

2583
02:00:53,920 --> 02:00:56,080
Speaker 4: you to leave him alone, Like if you don't ever

2584
02:00:56,120 --> 02:00:57,440
Speaker 4: say nothing no more, you ain't never.

2585
02:00:57,320 --> 02:00:58,200
Speaker 2: Gonna hear from him again.

2586
02:00:58,400 --> 02:00:59,960
Speaker 1: So meaning like he wants you to make the decision

2587
02:01:00,120 --> 02:01:01,320
Speaker 1: he wants, he wants you to be the.

2588
02:01:03,400 --> 02:01:06,040
Speaker 4: Want you to walk away the one because he doesn't

2589
02:01:06,080 --> 02:01:08,000
Speaker 4: really seem like he cared it much either way.

2590
02:01:08,920 --> 02:01:10,640
Speaker 7: You know how I know he don't care because when

2591
02:01:10,680 --> 02:01:12,840
Speaker 7: she said I was talking to someone else, but then

2592
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Speaker 7: I stopped on show the phone and he said, Okay.

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Speaker 2: He said, game, I'm gonna show you.

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Speaker 7: Honestly, Yes, yeah, I'm saying he's gonna feel like you

2595
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Speaker 7: did it first.

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Speaker 2: So you know what it is and it's gonna be

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Speaker 2: all right.

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Speaker 3: Let the people know where they can find y'all, what

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Speaker 3: y'all got coming up and all.

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Speaker 1: The good stuff. So, of course, Eli sever After is

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Speaker 1: our new podcast, formerly known as dead Ass because you know,

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Speaker 1: we keep it real Brooklyn, real thorough, real New York is,

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Speaker 1: So Eli sever After you can find pretty much wherever

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Speaker 1: you get your podcasts. You can find me in all

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Speaker 1: socials at kadeen k h A D double E N

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Speaker 1: I A M so Kadeen I am and I.

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Speaker 6: Am Devo I A M D E v A l E.

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Speaker 7: And if you're listening on Apple podcast, that's where you're

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Speaker 7: find absolutely.

2610
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Speaker 1: And we have our New York Times best selling book

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Speaker 1: We Over Me, that you can get pretty much wherever

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Speaker 1: you get your books. It's the counter intuitive approach to

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Speaker 1: getting everything you want out of your relationship. So we

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Speaker 1: pretty much are telling our love story, not with the

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Speaker 1: pillars of how you can have a successful relationship, but

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Speaker 1: instead telling people about our story and how we were

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Speaker 1: able to pretty much develop into the people we are

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Speaker 1: today through our relationship. So you can get that anywhere

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Speaker 1: you get your books.

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Speaker 7: And I want to say I told y'all because I've

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Speaker 7: been telling y'all for fucking fifteen years and my wife

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Speaker 7: was a superstar. Now you get a chance to see

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Speaker 7: your first hand. I appreciate what it looks like because

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Speaker 7: you say, here, baby, you just did what I know.

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Speaker 6: Thank you personality.

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Speaker 1: I love that, and I mean, hype you up. Don't

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Speaker 1: forget to watch him on Sisters be et Zatima on

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Speaker 1: b et Plus and of course Divorced Sisters coming really

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Speaker 1: coming out all the baby, We're just getting started. We

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Speaker 1: love y'all down. I'm so happy I came.

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Speaker 3: Through our first couple experience and hopefully not your last.

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Speaker 1: Like I said, like, we're not the only ones out

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Speaker 1: here doing this life thing together. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: So we select the picachus who you have on here.

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Speaker 1: But it's good to hear perspective. Right, this was fun.

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Speaker 2: Time.

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Speaker 1: Bye, I love it and we'll see y'all next week.

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Speaker 2: Now what's our group name? I don't know?

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Speaker 3: And the.

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Speaker 1: Have your baby period? Baby, you don't know what you

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Speaker 1: do to me between me and you a chemistry. I

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Speaker 1: don't want no one come and take your place, because

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Speaker 1: the love you give can be replaced. See no one

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Speaker 1: else let me like you do. That's why I'm out

2645
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Speaker 1: to spend my life with you. I want to please

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Speaker 1: you in any way I can. I want to share

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Speaker 1: my world. Don't you understand? Because your love is a

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Speaker 1: one and a million, It goes on and on and on.

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Speaker 1: You give me a really good feeling.

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Speaker 4: All day long.

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Speaker 1: Your love is a one and a million.

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Speaker 2: It goes on and on and on. You give me

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Speaker 2: a really good.

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Speaker 1: Feeling all day long. Turn me inside up, make my

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Speaker 1: heart speak. I need no one else your role I

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Speaker 1: need you. Ain't looking at me boy.

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Speaker 2: Let me love everything about you.

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Speaker 1: Your snack.

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Speaker 2: Your style is so fly. I can't do that. I

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Speaker 2: got a question you in their shoe indeed, and.

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Speaker 1: You made me believe.

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Speaker 5: Sure, it goes on and on, and you give me

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Speaker 5: a really good feeling.

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Speaker 1: Oh day, you know and all and all really fire,

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Speaker 1: Oh day love.

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Speaker 2: Had a thing your bone from me?

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Speaker 1: Anything you want, and then you're so desire.

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Speaker 2: Now good.

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Speaker 1: Anything you won't from me? Anything you want, anything unit

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Speaker 1: anything you're so desired. Yeah, we ain't that the Destiny's

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Speaker 1: cousins on the on the daddy's side.

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Speaker 2: Last, my God, little worry