WEBVTT - Black Dads Club

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<v Speaker 1>Speaks to the planet.

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<v Speaker 4>What's talk talk?

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<v Speaker 5>You're just too apologetically black women with an opinion?

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<v Speaker 6>Who talks back?

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<v Speaker 7>What's up, y'all?

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<v Speaker 3>It's your girl, a j holiday. What's up, Tam Damn?

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<v Speaker 6>What's up girl? How you doing?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm good, Hey, y'all.

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<v Speaker 5>I love y'all. Once again, thank y'all for tuning in.

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<v Speaker 5>I missed y'all.

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<v Speaker 6>Hey, how was your little streak girl?

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<v Speaker 3>You got your new little streak girl?

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<v Speaker 5>You know, I had to put a little blonde in

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<v Speaker 5>there because I was feeling like having fun and they

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<v Speaker 5>say blondes have more fun, and I'm out and I've

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<v Speaker 5>been outside.

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<v Speaker 3>In New York having with them Brooklyn cats.

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<v Speaker 5>Now, I mean I've been hanging out with some queens

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<v Speaker 5>niggas in Brooklyn. Oh, it's a Brooklyn niggas. Shout out

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<v Speaker 5>to my homegirl, Tina. Tina came outside last night.

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<v Speaker 3>Tina.

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<v Speaker 5>Uh, you was liting this weekend. Girvanta, Oh uh, Gravonta

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<v Speaker 5>had a fight. But we're gonna talk about in a minute.

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<v Speaker 5>Let's talk about your weekend.

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<v Speaker 6>What'd you do?

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<v Speaker 7>My weekend was great.

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<v Speaker 8>I told you I was going to Miami this weekend,

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<v Speaker 8>so I did attend the premiere for July seven is

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<v Speaker 8>the name of the movie, and it was really good.

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<v Speaker 8>It's it's about the Haitian assassination of the Haitian president. So,

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<v Speaker 8>I mean, I know the story when when when the

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<v Speaker 8>president was actually assassinated, I did a whole went down

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<v Speaker 8>a super rabbit hole, see what the fuck was going on?

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<v Speaker 8>And this was actually during COVID, so a lot of

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<v Speaker 8>people just not paying attention to world events because it's

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<v Speaker 8>just everything was in fucking shambles at the time, right,

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<v Speaker 8>So yeah, it was a really good event, turn out

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<v Speaker 8>beautiful black people. It was really black tie, okay, you

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<v Speaker 8>know sometimes to be like black tie, like motherfucker's gonna

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<v Speaker 8>have girls. Took two dresses. The dress I wanted to wear.

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<v Speaker 8>I tried to lose ten pounds in a week. It

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<v Speaker 8>didn't work.

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<v Speaker 7>That's five though, But it.

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<v Speaker 3>Just wasn't enough. And I'm keep it my fucking dress

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<v Speaker 3>because it sold out.

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<v Speaker 6>Online and you're gonna get that other fire I am.

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<v Speaker 8>They could at least put at a little lastic down

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<v Speaker 8>at the leg part that's where it was tight at

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<v Speaker 8>because they had.

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<v Speaker 3>Like the little train. Yeah, I would have been just

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<v Speaker 3>sitting there uncomfortable in the little.

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<v Speaker 6>As that you wore. You should posted a picture on

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<v Speaker 6>your page.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, and shout up to my homegirl, Dorothy Robinson. Okay,

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<v Speaker 8>she was in her big executive producer bag on this show.

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<v Speaker 8>This is the first time I saw my Saint Louis

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<v Speaker 8>friends chih this weekend since I left Saint Louis in

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<v Speaker 8>twenty fifteen.

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<v Speaker 3>That had a good time that we did the casinos.

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<v Speaker 8>Lost three hundred, two hundred and thirty dollars in the

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<v Speaker 8>casino on the slot machine in ten minutes, and I'm

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<v Speaker 8>still regretting that today because I could have bought some

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<v Speaker 8>stock options with them two hundred and thirty dollars and

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<v Speaker 8>slipped it right quick. I got having a good time. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 8>I just been all over New York eating. I ain't

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<v Speaker 8>gonna never love no weight like this.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't say never bit.

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<v Speaker 6>Eating like this.

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<v Speaker 4>I won't.

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<v Speaker 6>But I had trainy food for the first time.

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<v Speaker 5>Trinidaddyans is that how you said, Trinidadian's shout out to

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<v Speaker 5>them that food. I had this thing called a shrimp

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<v Speaker 5>and goat doubles. My god, it's called doubles, and it's

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<v Speaker 5>like this joey No, it's kind of like this doe

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<v Speaker 5>kind of it tastes like some doe bread that you

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<v Speaker 5>would get from the fair, or something like a peta.

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<v Speaker 3>The dumb Lades, Oh, like festival like from Jamaica or

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<v Speaker 3>like it.

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<v Speaker 6>Kind of tastes. Yeah, it kind of tastes like that.

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<v Speaker 5>A little bit had like chickpeas and all kinds of

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<v Speaker 5>stuff on the inside, and then you choose your topic.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, it was so good.

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<v Speaker 5>Patty kind kinda kind of it would give something like that, right,

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<v Speaker 5>but it was so good. I had that from this

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<v Speaker 5>restaurant called Triny City, and queen shout out to Treney City.

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<v Speaker 5>I will be back. Yes, I just been eating and

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<v Speaker 5>then I went to this bar call.

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<v Speaker 6>Charm Bar.

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<v Speaker 5>Went there last night, so I'm just hanging out a

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<v Speaker 5>little bit. Yeah, it's a nice little bar. Is A

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<v Speaker 5>lot of these places in New York are real tiny,

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<v Speaker 5>you know. It's not a lot of spaces easy. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>but it was a cool vibe. It was so cold,

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<v Speaker 5>like twenty something degrees last night, so it was for

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<v Speaker 5>a reason.

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<v Speaker 6>But anytime I get a reason to pull out a

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<v Speaker 6>fur coat, I'm gonna do it. So I do it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's the only place you're gonna pull that for a

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<v Speaker 3>coat out anyway.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, no, I would pull it out in Charlotte if

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<v Speaker 5>it gets below if there's a three in front of

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<v Speaker 5>the temperature, I'm wanna pull out a fur coat.

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<v Speaker 3>You remember Vlad right, yeah? Yeah, did you?

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<v Speaker 6>He asked me to do some hosting there, so we're

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<v Speaker 6>supposed to have a conversation about me doing a little

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<v Speaker 6>hosting that Dia.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I want to go there.

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<v Speaker 8>And he's telling me to come to New York and

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<v Speaker 8>go and I'm like, I am just not a New

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<v Speaker 8>York girl. And it has to be warm outside. I'll

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<v Speaker 8>definitely come in April or May. I cannot do the

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<v Speaker 8>cold New York hole. And they was talking about some

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<v Speaker 8>arctic weather last week.

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<v Speaker 6>Who yeah, that's what now. Yeah. But other than that,

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<v Speaker 6>it's cool. Let's get in the sands.

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<v Speaker 5>Let's talk about Girvanta, because that happened over the weekend

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<v Speaker 5>two here in New York at the Barclays Center. There

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<v Speaker 5>was a big fight and Givanta what's his name, Davis?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, he took a knee during the fight. He took

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<v Speaker 6>a knee during the fight.

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<v Speaker 3>And did you watch the fight?

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<v Speaker 8>I missed it because by the end of the the

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<v Speaker 8>premiretive fight was over.

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<v Speaker 5>I did not watch the fight. I was so on Saturday.

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<v Speaker 6>I was in Charlotte.

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<v Speaker 5>I got back to New York on Sunday morning, so

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<v Speaker 5>I missed it. I was trying to get back in time,

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<v Speaker 5>but I had to handle business, so I couldn't get back,

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<v Speaker 5>so I did not watch it. But I saw the

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<v Speaker 5>cliff on the shade room at the end where he

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<v Speaker 5>was like his hair. Grease had come down into his

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<v Speaker 5>eyes and that's why he took a knee.

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<v Speaker 9>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Voluntarily took a knee midway through this fight.

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<v Speaker 4>It was not ruled a knockdown.

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<v Speaker 10>What happened to me, I just got my had done

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<v Speaker 10>two days ago, and she picked grease in my ship.

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<v Speaker 1>So the ship was like you know, like when you

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<v Speaker 1>sweating and things like that, and the grease come in

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<v Speaker 1>my face.

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<v Speaker 3>It burnt my eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>Shit, Now, why y'all boring like I'm saying bullshit.

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<v Speaker 3>Like that nigga got knocked down.

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<v Speaker 8>That nigga ain't take no me hurt it.

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<v Speaker 6>I got hit.

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<v Speaker 3>That nigga got to cut it out.

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<v Speaker 5>Now he stopped his nigga was hurting right. But it

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<v Speaker 5>was a draw, So they're gonna fight again. So the

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<v Speaker 5>next one, I want to go to Yeah.

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<v Speaker 8>So I saw that the hairstylace came out. It was like, boy,

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<v Speaker 8>that's some bullshit. I did your hair on Wednesday. It's Saturday.

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<v Speaker 8>Ain't no excuse for me to be slipping sliding in

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<v Speaker 8>the ring. He got knocked on his knees a little bit,

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<v Speaker 8>you know.

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<v Speaker 3>He the guy who he fought.

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<v Speaker 8>They apparently grew up together. They probably grew up sparring,

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<v Speaker 8>so they they if anybody knows his techniques, is this nigga?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, it's not, it's not.

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<v Speaker 5>He didn't even get knocked on his mond. He took

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<v Speaker 5>a knee. You can see he took a knee, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>like Paul's hold on Paul's Wait a minute, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me gather because I just got hit hard.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, yeah, let me gather. That's what really happened. He

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<v Speaker 6>had to gather his thoughts. Yeah, he tried to say

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<v Speaker 6>face with their hairstyle.

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<v Speaker 4>Ship.

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<v Speaker 3>But so it's gonna it's a draw.

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<v Speaker 8>They're gonna to do another fight and get that check

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<v Speaker 8>at period mad at it.

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<v Speaker 6>No, not that they're gonna go back to Vegas, because

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<v Speaker 6>it was in New York this time. Maybe they'll know.

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<v Speaker 8>I said, they're gonna get that check but Vegas runs

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<v Speaker 8>all sports, That's what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh you got that check out of Vegas. Yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>m hm.

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<v Speaker 5>And so I wonder how that works because when is

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<v Speaker 5>it a draw, does everybody get paid or does nobody

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<v Speaker 5>pay out? I think everybody gets paid out.

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<v Speaker 8>They still gotta make I mean, get money for doing

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<v Speaker 8>putting the show on because people still bought tickets. So

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<v Speaker 8>I don't know if they maybe get a lesser amount.

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<v Speaker 8>I don't know how that works. Mmmm mmm, maybe they

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<v Speaker 8>just finessed. They finessed the plug right quick. Saturday girl,

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<v Speaker 8>So Jennifer, Jennifer Williams, y'all remember Jennifer Williams from Basketball Wives.

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<v Speaker 8>This girl just got married to this nigga, Christian Gold. Okay,

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<v Speaker 8>I don't even believe that's his last name. And I

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<v Speaker 8>heard that she was trying to actually take on that

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<v Speaker 8>life scene too, to be Jennifer Gold. But do you

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<v Speaker 8>think she's possibly a scammer herself, because now he's in

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<v Speaker 8>the news for scamming some people in some type of

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<v Speaker 8>Ponzi scheme out of one hundred and twenty thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 8>And the article is kind of weird because it says

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<v Speaker 8>he's violated the Georgia Rico Act. But then on the

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<v Speaker 8>other hand, it's saying that it's a class action lawsuit

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<v Speaker 8>from a group of people, so I don't know it,

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<v Speaker 8>says Christian gold aka Christian Walden, his real name is

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<v Speaker 8>again in legal hot water. This week, twenty one people

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<v Speaker 8>file a lawsuit against against Kristen in Atlanta area court

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<v Speaker 8>with multiple allegations. The various plaintiffs alleged Christen solicitated money

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<v Speaker 8>from each one of the pretense excuse me for each

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<v Speaker 8>one of them, under the pretense of an investment opportunity. However,

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<v Speaker 8>they claim Christian Field to invest their money and engage

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<v Speaker 8>in a Ponzi scheme, claiming he paid early investors with money.

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<v Speaker 8>So yeah, let me take your money. What I should

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<v Speaker 8>call people be doing in.

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<v Speaker 3>A hood.

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<v Speaker 6>The susu, A susu, susue blessing, a blessing ring.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what they call it in the church, but on

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<v Speaker 3>the streets they call it a susu some bullshit.

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<v Speaker 6>But this is lose.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, the people who usually come in on the back

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<v Speaker 8>end are usually the ones that's gonna lose. If you

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<v Speaker 8>started it, you're gonna get paid first, but you're getting

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<v Speaker 8>paid from the people at the bottom, the people you

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<v Speaker 8>bring in, you know.

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<v Speaker 6>So the only way is that it only works is

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<v Speaker 6>if it keeps going forever. But it don't. As soon

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<v Speaker 6>as it stopped, somebody's gonna take a l exactly.

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<v Speaker 8>So they say he took money from one hundred and

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<v Speaker 8>fifty victims from around the country. This is her second

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<v Speaker 8>sad scammer that we know of that has you know,

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<v Speaker 8>sweetye pie. What's the dude she was engaged to. He's

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<v Speaker 8>in prison now for life, I believe for having his

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<v Speaker 8>nephew murdered. Mm hmm, f insurance fraud. She just yeah,

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<v Speaker 8>I believe so, or maybe they just they were dating

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<v Speaker 8>for a while. She got scammed by him too, I believe.

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<v Speaker 8>So is she a part of the scams or you

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<v Speaker 8>just like scamming as niggas? And this dude is thirty

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<v Speaker 8>one years old. I think she's at least fifty eight

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<v Speaker 8>forty eight to fifty. Will say, you never know what

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<v Speaker 8>these people on Google, but girl, what are you doing?

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<v Speaker 8>And I remember seeing like some videos online and I

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<v Speaker 8>think it was Evelyn was like afraid to you know,

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<v Speaker 8>address her by her man. You know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 8>Like this does he really have money? Is he gonna

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<v Speaker 8>be able to take care of you? Just like on

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<v Speaker 8>some real life concerned friendship. Well, you know your friend

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<v Speaker 8>is an habitual dumb bitch, right, just be letting men

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<v Speaker 8>take advantage of them. And it's like you want to

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<v Speaker 8>try and intervene in some because you love them, right,

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<v Speaker 8>but it just keeps happening, like you attracting these people.

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<v Speaker 5>I ain't got no judge of Jerry for Jennifer because

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<v Speaker 5>I listen. It's so so hard out here. I hear

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<v Speaker 5>so many stories of women dating people who they thought

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<v Speaker 5>they were somebody and they turned out there was somebody else.

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<v Speaker 5>So I don't know, you know, she might just be

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<v Speaker 5>getting finissed.

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<v Speaker 8>Do you think googling is now a part of dating,

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<v Speaker 8>Like when you meet somebody like you start googling them

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<v Speaker 8>to see who they are, like what you can find

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<v Speaker 8>on them.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, I think that should be a part of the process.

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<v Speaker 8>I'm not gonna tell you I googled your ass, but

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<v Speaker 8>I'm already know a lot of shit about you.

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<v Speaker 3>I have some friends.

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<v Speaker 8>Who will be dating these people that they say are

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<v Speaker 8>celebrities or this person was drafted this place and that,

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<v Speaker 8>and I'm googling them, and I'm like, that nigga never

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<v Speaker 8>played in the NFL. The nigga never did none of

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<v Speaker 8>the things that my friend is telling me he's doing.

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<v Speaker 8>And I just don't say nothing. I just wait right

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<v Speaker 8>figure it out, because it's like you haven't done your

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<v Speaker 8>due diligence. You just going off of what this nigga

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<v Speaker 8>is telling you.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not daging my place. On several occasions, girl.

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<v Speaker 5>I saw this because if I took the time to

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<v Speaker 5>look it up, I'm gonna take the time to tell you, bitch, look,

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<v Speaker 5>look what did this say.

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<v Speaker 6>Let's say he is.

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<v Speaker 8>No because people might call you a hater, you know

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<v Speaker 8>what I'm saying. But and it has to be something

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<v Speaker 8>that the person says right. That kind of triggers me

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<v Speaker 8>even to do this like that don't even sound right?

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<v Speaker 8>Why it sound right to her?

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<v Speaker 6>You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>So if it sounds right to her, I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to be.

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<v Speaker 8>The one to burst the bubble. I'll just let her

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<v Speaker 8>find out on her own. And I'm saying her, but

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<v Speaker 8>it's actually plural.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I guess it depends on them because you have

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<v Speaker 5>to be careful with telling people about their relationship.

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<v Speaker 6>You really do. So it just depends on how close

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<v Speaker 6>I am to this person.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, and see that's what I was saying on that

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<v Speaker 8>clip I saw with Jennifer Williams. She was very defensive

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<v Speaker 8>when her girlfriends was trying to, like, you know, making

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<v Speaker 8>sure she's making the best decision for her. Like I

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<v Speaker 8>guess she felt like none of them were really in

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<v Speaker 8>a position to question her about her relationship when all

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<v Speaker 8>of them that like kind of fucked up relationships, but

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<v Speaker 8>none of them landed them in jail.

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<v Speaker 5>But you know what, I think Jennifer Williams, based on

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<v Speaker 5>how she presented on the show, would lead people to

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<v Speaker 5>believe that she is a woman who likes the finer

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<v Speaker 5>things and men who have disposable income. So she probably

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<v Speaker 5>attracts the type of men who get Men who scam

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<v Speaker 5>for money are more free with their money Okay, yes,

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<v Speaker 5>because they didn't have to work for it, right, So

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<v Speaker 5>she's probably attracting these types of men who can spend

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<v Speaker 5>previously and she likes that, you know, so that's how

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<v Speaker 5>she end up with these scammers.

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<v Speaker 8>But just say you like scammers so your friends can

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<v Speaker 8>shut the fuck up. Like I like white collar crime

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<v Speaker 8>a little bit like I like.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't don't believe do these things?

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<v Speaker 8>Those are smart men, Like who could figure out how

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<v Speaker 8>to get a million dollars.

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<v Speaker 3>Off the computer? Like yeah, I don't think, not saying

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<v Speaker 3>let's do it.

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<v Speaker 6>But I don't think she likes scammers.

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<v Speaker 5>I think she likes being spoiled, and samers can spoil

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<v Speaker 5>in a way that the average American is not.

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<v Speaker 10>You know, what was.

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<v Speaker 3>That that popped the balloon?

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<v Speaker 8>Did you see that video with a pop the balloon

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<v Speaker 8>video where it was a doctor and then this guy

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<v Speaker 8>with all the big jewelry on who be hopping off

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<v Speaker 8>the low ass fucking jet not even no real private

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<v Speaker 8>plane he'd be on like helicopters and ship hopping off.

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<v Speaker 8>But he basically was like how much money you make?

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<v Speaker 8>The doctor is like, we're not about to like compare

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<v Speaker 8>my my my money to your illegal money, like fads,

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<v Speaker 8>We're all at.

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<v Speaker 5>His money is illegal. That's a stereotype too. We don't

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<v Speaker 5>know that he might just be flashy.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think so. No, he looks like can scammers

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<v Speaker 3>have a look?

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<v Speaker 6>You know? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>But I mean I know, uh, doctors who were chain

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<v Speaker 5>when they off work, you.

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<v Speaker 8>Know, big ones like big name plates and.

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<v Speaker 3>The spikes on them.

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<v Speaker 6>They at heart, but they got an education.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know know who doctors, I'm honest. No, No,

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<v Speaker 3>they don't know nigga. Mm hmmm.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well they are. They're some out there that are

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<v Speaker 5>really hood. You don't know any professionals that are super hood,

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<v Speaker 5>but they're professional.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah me, good body.

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<v Speaker 6>But yeah, Jennifer, we hope you find love that last without.

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<v Speaker 3>Court and having to send canteen money and all that ship.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, man, we hope that.

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<v Speaker 8>I hope that for everybody listening. Honestly, I don't think

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<v Speaker 8>they're actually married yet. If they're if they aren't married yet,

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<v Speaker 8>she might want to slow.

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<v Speaker 6>Down on that thirty one. He's young too.

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<v Speaker 3>No, they married.

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<v Speaker 8>Last caught him in Europe on Jennifer's ig account. He

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<v Speaker 8>had to serve time in the cal County jail, but

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<v Speaker 8>ultimately was allowed to leave the country for their wedding

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<v Speaker 8>in Paris, France. So yeah, he's on probation, still scamming people,

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<v Speaker 8>and they did get married.

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<v Speaker 5>Now, Jennifer, I don't know, baby, sound like sounds like

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<v Speaker 5>you might be in on the heist.

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<v Speaker 6>But we still love you either way, all right.

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<v Speaker 5>So AJ sent me this video over the Weekend where

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<v Speaker 5>this podcaster was asked, if you're spousing your child getting

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<v Speaker 5>knocked off a boat in the middle of the ocean

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<v Speaker 5>and they are incapacitated, you can only save one and

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<v Speaker 5>the other will not make it. Who will you save?

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<v Speaker 5>And this uh woman she chose to save her husband

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<v Speaker 5>over the child. She said, you know that would be

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<v Speaker 5>a hard decision, and she would be upset about it,

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<v Speaker 5>and it would be devastating, and she would grieve the child.

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<v Speaker 5>But ultimately she's going to choose her partner over this

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<v Speaker 5>child because they can make another child she can't get.

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<v Speaker 5>She would not be able to get her partner. But

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<v Speaker 5>and she's still firming that decision, and that is her decision.

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<v Speaker 3>Think that's the only part of the decision.

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<v Speaker 8>I respected that she stayed firmanent and if she said

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<v Speaker 8>if anybody asked her about it, she was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 8>I chose my husband. I don't know why anybody would

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<v Speaker 8>ask that, you know, unless you told them, hey, I

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<v Speaker 8>let my kid drown. But I just don't see somebody

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<v Speaker 8>like in the midst of that actually happening, Like a mom,

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<v Speaker 8>you carry.

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<v Speaker 3>This baby, you birthed this baby.

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<v Speaker 8>There's a bond that a mother and a child has

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<v Speaker 8>that a man and a woman probably would never have,

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<v Speaker 8>you know what I'm saying. I don't think men bond

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<v Speaker 8>with their children as much as women do. So I

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<v Speaker 8>can't imagine, like actually being in it and outside of

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<v Speaker 8>a podcast sofa, that you would be in the middle

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<v Speaker 8>of the ocean and you see your husband, this big

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<v Speaker 8>ass man, right, and your baby that you can easily save, right,

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<v Speaker 8>your child, a small child. I just don't see you

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<v Speaker 8>going after your husband. You know, if anything, you're gonna

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<v Speaker 8>fuck run and drown trying to save both of them. Right,

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<v Speaker 8>But just to like consciously say I can just make

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<v Speaker 8>other kids. You don't know that, right, you know, So

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<v Speaker 8>in that moment, I really just don't think that would

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<v Speaker 8>be her decision.

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't even think she's a mom.

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<v Speaker 6>I think it, well, we ain't moms, but you know, but.

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<v Speaker 3>I have this now, some people are moms with without kids.

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<v Speaker 5>I think it sounds in her head because she has

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<v Speaker 5>maybe she has a man that she loves and she

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<v Speaker 5>already knows that love, and she don't know a love

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<v Speaker 5>for this imaginary child. So if the answer was easy

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<v Speaker 5>in her head, but I think in the thick of it,

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<v Speaker 5>she probably would choose her child. Almost I would choose

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<v Speaker 5>anybody's child.

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<v Speaker 6>Honestly.

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<v Speaker 5>If I saw a baby, said yeah, I saw like

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<v Speaker 5>my instinct would be to save this little helpless human

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<v Speaker 5>just instantly.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know. Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>So a man sent me that.

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<v Speaker 8>A man sent that to me, and his message with

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<v Speaker 8>the video was, uh, I want that and a wife.

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<v Speaker 8>He basically saying that's what he would want his wife

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<v Speaker 8>to do, like he would want his wife to think

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<v Speaker 8>like this woman. And I said, absolutely not. I said,

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<v Speaker 8>I feel like she's pandering to men. And I said,

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<v Speaker 8>I'm not a mam yet, but I'm saving kids before

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<v Speaker 8>any adult. If I see a kid drowning and it's

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<v Speaker 8>like some adults in trouble too, I'm gonna go save

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<v Speaker 8>the kids. I think that most adults would probably just

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<v Speaker 8>want you to get the kids. You know, they are

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<v Speaker 8>the future. I said, they are the world. They are

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<v Speaker 8>the future. Like your lineage are go on through your

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<v Speaker 8>through your kids. Also, you won't have to make another one.

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<v Speaker 3>Just save save your kid.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah. I'm just trying to think.

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<v Speaker 5>Like if I was in the ocean and it was like, uh,

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<v Speaker 5>somebody's baby, I don't know this, Uh, like a seven

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<v Speaker 5>year old little white boy drowning over on one side

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<v Speaker 5>and my sister next to me drowning.

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<v Speaker 6>Who would I save? I don't know. I might say

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<v Speaker 6>my sister. I don't know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>My instinct would be to grab my sister. I think

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<v Speaker 5>it might be to grab my sister before this stranger's kid.

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<v Speaker 5>If we're like, honestly, if I'm being quite honest, in

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<v Speaker 5>that scenario, would I think to go over and say

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<v Speaker 5>this child that I don't know versus my sister right

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<v Speaker 5>next to me. My instinct with all the because I

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<v Speaker 5>love her, you know, I.

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<v Speaker 8>Have a connection with her, and that's what I'm saying

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<v Speaker 8>about the child, So I would understand that in that moment.

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<v Speaker 8>But we add in all these we keep pushing the

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<v Speaker 8>envelope with the.

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<v Speaker 3>Changing because I'm like, of course I'm going for my sister.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, because I said any child, it would be to

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<v Speaker 5>save any child first, But that's not true.

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<v Speaker 3>Depending on what.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, I'll save any child depending on what adult was

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<v Speaker 8>out there. If it's my mama and the child, then

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<v Speaker 8>you had a child might have to die if I

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<v Speaker 8>don't know the kid, right, but we're talking about your

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<v Speaker 8>own kid.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that pushed out of your vagina.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, but now they have that conversation about, uh, who

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<v Speaker 5>gets to eat first at the table, and people will

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<v Speaker 5>be like, oh, my husband, my man eats before the kids.

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<v Speaker 8>That's how I agree, that's how I yeah, that's how

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<v Speaker 8>I steak plate before us first.

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<v Speaker 6>Everybody this. And it is only a couple of moments

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<v Speaker 6>that you're gonna wait on your plate.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 5>It's not like he gets to eat and y'all gonna

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<v Speaker 5>eat tomorrow. No, we're eating all together.

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<v Speaker 6>He just is surf first, because this is he's the king.

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<v Speaker 5>Of this castle right here, and he bought the steak,

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<v Speaker 5>and he provides, and he provides, right. So, but some

0:23:53.520 --> 0:23:55.520
<v Speaker 5>people be like, why wouldn't you feed your kids first?

0:23:55.560 --> 0:23:57.239
<v Speaker 5>They need sustenance.

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<v Speaker 9>Because they ain't fucking drowning and they ain't in here,

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<v Speaker 9>and they ain't they gonna die in five minutes me

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<v Speaker 9>feeding their father first, you know what I'm saying. I

0:24:07.960 --> 0:24:10.520
<v Speaker 9>don't even understand why that's even a discussion. It's like

0:24:10.600 --> 0:24:13.399
<v Speaker 9>black people be making up the weirdest ass scenarios to

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<v Speaker 9>kind of pin women and men against.

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<v Speaker 3>Each other, Like why is that even a discussion? Whatever

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<v Speaker 3>y'all do in y'all house, like your husband might make

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<v Speaker 3>a plate for the kids first. You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not that he doesn't think his wife should eat first,

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<v Speaker 3>you know.

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<v Speaker 8>But you niggas who'll be doing that boyfriend, the broke

0:24:31.880 --> 0:24:35.159
<v Speaker 8>boyfriend hug standing behind the girl while she at the

0:24:35.160 --> 0:24:37.560
<v Speaker 8>grocery store pulling out her debit card. You the niggas

0:24:37.600 --> 0:24:40.080
<v Speaker 8>who'll be screaming, y'all want y'all plate before the churn,

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<v Speaker 8>Ain't it?

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<v Speaker 6>That's so funny because I.

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<v Speaker 5>Will, I told y'all, went to that spot Triney City.

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<v Speaker 5>He came and picked me up in the airport, right,

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<v Speaker 5>so I was like, I'll treat you know, I got it.

0:24:54.000 --> 0:24:57.040
<v Speaker 5>It was nineteen dollars for both of our food, and

0:24:57.080 --> 0:24:58.960
<v Speaker 5>when I was paying for it, he's stood behind me

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<v Speaker 5>and held out to.

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<v Speaker 8>I just saw a post about it. That's why it

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<v Speaker 8>was on the tip of my brain. It was like

0:25:06.840 --> 0:25:08.639
<v Speaker 8>an Asian guy talked about He was like, it's this

0:25:08.800 --> 0:25:11.920
<v Speaker 8>trend on social media, like they got all these visual

0:25:11.960 --> 0:25:15.320
<v Speaker 8>images of man's and they all look straggling setting behind

0:25:15.359 --> 0:25:17.960
<v Speaker 8>these women going in their pocketbook. And the thing is

0:25:17.960 --> 0:25:21.720
<v Speaker 8>is that the psychology behind that is you trying to

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<v Speaker 8>like First of all, you're it's almost like when you're

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<v Speaker 8>trying to teach a child, like to do something good,

0:25:28.000 --> 0:25:31.200
<v Speaker 8>So like you're giving this affection while she is conditioning.

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<v Speaker 8>And then the other part of it is like you're

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<v Speaker 8>guarding other men, like from not coming in and taking

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<v Speaker 8>your money. Just all up behind her, and shit, I'm

0:25:43.640 --> 0:25:45.880
<v Speaker 8>be like that with them all man at the fucking ATM,

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<v Speaker 8>go ahead, rubbing his back. Come on, baby, right, we

0:25:50.280 --> 0:25:55.600
<v Speaker 8>got niggas at the ATM. Think big, bitch them niggas.

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<v Speaker 6>You think you're tall, right, you just got a little doubles.

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<v Speaker 6>I got.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it.

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<v Speaker 5>I was about to say, speaking of oh no, we

0:26:14.720 --> 0:26:19.920
<v Speaker 5>gotta I meant to mention Angie Stone passed away over

0:26:19.960 --> 0:26:24.960
<v Speaker 5>the weekend. Yeah, yeah, that ship was so you know what,

0:26:25.600 --> 0:26:29.119
<v Speaker 5>You just gotta be grateful for every day, tell people

0:26:29.160 --> 0:26:32.439
<v Speaker 5>you love them, and counter your blessings because you never know.

0:26:32.520 --> 0:26:36.000
<v Speaker 5>There is a uh invisible clock on all of us.

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<v Speaker 5>You just don't know when your number is up. But

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<v Speaker 5>I you know, I saw that she like I didn't

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<v Speaker 5>know this about her, but she was in a rap

0:26:48.240 --> 0:26:51.240
<v Speaker 5>group called the Sequence and they were like the first

0:26:51.480 --> 0:26:57.080
<v Speaker 5>rap female yeah in South Carolina, and all these all

0:26:57.080 --> 0:26:59.920
<v Speaker 5>these histories of hip hop that I've seen and why

0:27:00.080 --> 0:27:03.640
<v Speaker 5>arched and read, and they have never been mentioned I've seen.

0:27:03.720 --> 0:27:06.600
<v Speaker 8>I thought I saw like a video on it recently.

0:27:06.720 --> 0:27:09.000
<v Speaker 8>It probably popped back up because of her passing. But

0:27:09.040 --> 0:27:12.879
<v Speaker 8>I saw that a while ago on Instagram about the

0:27:12.880 --> 0:27:13.800
<v Speaker 8>group the sequence.

0:27:14.800 --> 0:27:18.960
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, but they don't their birthdays, the ages. Yeah, they

0:27:19.040 --> 0:27:23.600
<v Speaker 5>never got the recognition that they deserved. So that's crazy

0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:25.960
<v Speaker 5>to find out that that was part. She's a hip

0:27:26.000 --> 0:27:30.080
<v Speaker 5>hop historian and a hip hop legend, and I didn't

0:27:30.080 --> 0:27:32.280
<v Speaker 5>know that because when I think of Angie stone I

0:27:32.280 --> 0:27:38.679
<v Speaker 5>think of black Brother, Strong Brother. I was listening to

0:27:38.720 --> 0:27:39.399
<v Speaker 5>it in the shower.

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<v Speaker 6>We Love Rest in Peace in South Carolina.

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<v Speaker 3>I love Angie Stone Man.

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<v Speaker 8>That was so like when I see stuff like that,

0:27:47.760 --> 0:27:50.880
<v Speaker 8>I'm like, damn man, Like you really don't know your time.

0:27:50.920 --> 0:27:53.280
<v Speaker 8>That's why every day, from the time my feet hit

0:27:53.320 --> 0:27:55.000
<v Speaker 8>the floor, I'm saying thank.

0:27:54.840 --> 0:27:58.760
<v Speaker 6>You, gratitude, thank you, the attitude, thank you. Every moment.

0:27:58.840 --> 0:28:00.720
<v Speaker 8>I say thank you at lista the times a day.

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<v Speaker 8>If it's not to a person, it's to myself all

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<v Speaker 8>day long.

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<v Speaker 3>Just be grateful, be thankful, getting up having another chance

0:28:09.160 --> 0:28:10.879
<v Speaker 3>to do all the things.

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<v Speaker 5>And be kind, especially if y'all from New York listening

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<v Speaker 5>to this, are y'all okay?

0:28:20.400 --> 0:28:21.560
<v Speaker 3>Here are you niggas well?

0:28:22.560 --> 0:28:26.480
<v Speaker 6>Why? Why are you smiling? I was like, I'm happy.

0:28:27.800 --> 0:28:30.440
<v Speaker 8>He got in an argument with a nigga on clubhouse

0:28:30.480 --> 0:28:32.920
<v Speaker 8>once because I said, I'm from the South. Like when

0:28:32.960 --> 0:28:36.520
<v Speaker 8>I see when I see black people, especially I say hi,

0:28:37.400 --> 0:28:39.800
<v Speaker 8>I want them to know I recognized and acknowledge them.

0:28:39.880 --> 0:28:43.680
<v Speaker 8>I see you, hi, man or woman? Why do what

0:28:43.720 --> 0:28:46.200
<v Speaker 8>the fuck you just talking to strangers? Just talking to like,

0:28:46.720 --> 0:28:51.360
<v Speaker 8>y'all cold, that's the problem, y'all. Nigga's cold with no colt.

0:28:51.680 --> 0:28:54.680
<v Speaker 8>Why y'all so mad up there that y'all don't speak

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<v Speaker 8>to each other?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, be kind? And then they was like, stop peaking

0:28:59.440 --> 0:29:03.080
<v Speaker 6>speaking to people. It's dangerous. I know. I'm just gonna

0:29:03.120 --> 0:29:05.680
<v Speaker 6>be myself. I'm covered in the blood of Jesus. I'm pretecting.

0:29:05.720 --> 0:29:07.640
<v Speaker 5>I don't never worry about it, and I'm not going

0:29:07.680 --> 0:29:09.600
<v Speaker 5>to carry that energy. I'm gonna be who I am

0:29:09.640 --> 0:29:12.480
<v Speaker 5>everywhere I go, and who I am is polite and

0:29:12.560 --> 0:29:14.560
<v Speaker 5>kind to people. I like to say hi, I like

0:29:14.640 --> 0:29:18.080
<v Speaker 5>to smile. I'm joyous. So except on that train, though,

0:29:18.160 --> 0:29:26.080
<v Speaker 5>I adopt I I ain't looking at nobody, smiling at

0:29:26.120 --> 0:29:27.160
<v Speaker 5>nobody on that motherfucker.

0:29:27.160 --> 0:29:29.280
<v Speaker 6>I'll be looking at my phone just like everybody else.

0:29:29.960 --> 0:29:32.200
<v Speaker 6>Scared this mother fuck on that three train.

0:29:35.360 --> 0:29:37.360
<v Speaker 3>You better carry a knife like you in London.

0:29:38.280 --> 0:29:41.239
<v Speaker 6>I had a pistol up there, baby. That man on

0:29:41.280 --> 0:29:43.600
<v Speaker 6>that first ride on that train, that man stood over

0:29:43.720 --> 0:29:44.520
<v Speaker 6>me talking about.

0:29:44.600 --> 0:29:48.040
<v Speaker 5>I can balance your chokras wall a dollar seventy five

0:29:48.200 --> 0:29:49.040
<v Speaker 5>cents right now?

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<v Speaker 3>Got please? Y'all ever noticed this voice can me be

0:29:56.280 --> 0:29:57.280
<v Speaker 3>putting on that ship?

0:29:57.400 --> 0:29:58.800
<v Speaker 6>Is fucking crazy? Man?

0:29:59.320 --> 0:30:10.040
<v Speaker 3>Why everybody can't possibly have that same voice? Nigga?

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<v Speaker 6>Who we got on to day? Girl?

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<v Speaker 3>We have the Black Dads podcasts right.

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, absolutely talking fatherhood and.

0:30:25.800 --> 0:30:28.920
<v Speaker 3>Love, amazing black men, Okay, and you.

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<v Speaker 6>Know divorce one still married.

0:30:31.760 --> 0:30:34.400
<v Speaker 8>I feel like, you know, their podcast is very necessary.

0:30:34.560 --> 0:30:37.560
<v Speaker 8>I wish they would do more than just a podcast.

0:30:38.560 --> 0:30:38.960
<v Speaker 4>With it.

0:30:39.120 --> 0:30:41.280
<v Speaker 8>I suggested, we need to do more than just a

0:30:41.320 --> 0:30:47.240
<v Speaker 8>podcast with it. Well what they should with our ship? No,

0:30:47.320 --> 0:30:51.560
<v Speaker 8>but I mean like they can really like they can

0:30:51.600 --> 0:30:53.840
<v Speaker 8>really do some ship with black dads, you know what

0:30:53.880 --> 0:30:56.520
<v Speaker 8>I'm saying, Like, yeah, we could do some ship with bitches.

0:30:56.520 --> 0:31:01.160
<v Speaker 3>We talk back, Hey, hey, hey, hey, talk back.

0:31:02.520 --> 0:31:04.400
<v Speaker 8>We're gonna have a whole conference with a bunch of

0:31:04.400 --> 0:31:08.000
<v Speaker 8>bitches who be talking back ins and whoever.

0:31:09.400 --> 0:31:13.880
<v Speaker 5>Knowstens or not just bitches, it's men who also enjoyed

0:31:13.880 --> 0:31:14.640
<v Speaker 5>the conversation.

0:31:15.480 --> 0:31:18.720
<v Speaker 8>Yeah, so I think they need to do like a

0:31:18.760 --> 0:31:22.440
<v Speaker 8>little nonprofit something, just do like a golf day with

0:31:22.520 --> 0:31:26.640
<v Speaker 8>the dads something like that. They were that shit is lit.

0:31:26.800 --> 0:31:30.200
<v Speaker 8>I love uh, I love the Black Dads Podcast.

0:31:30.280 --> 0:31:32.120
<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'm here for it too.

0:31:32.200 --> 0:31:34.280
<v Speaker 6>So y'all stay tuned. We got them coming up.

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<v Speaker 8>Welcome to we talk Back where we have conversations that

0:31:44.000 --> 0:31:49.800
<v Speaker 8>matter apparently. Okay, so today we're diving into the topic

0:31:49.880 --> 0:31:55.200
<v Speaker 8>of black fatherhood. It's a subject full of love, responsibility,

0:31:55.320 --> 0:31:59.120
<v Speaker 8>and unfortunately a lot of stereotypes. Okay, So we have

0:31:59.240 --> 0:32:03.760
<v Speaker 8>the Black Dad's Club podcast here and Charlotte and we

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<v Speaker 8>talked back today.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for having us.

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<v Speaker 4>Happy to be here.

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<v Speaker 8>Introduce yourself, sir, our audience always I guess, introduce yourself, audience.

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Gavin B. I'm from Charlotte. I'm a photographer.

0:32:18.040 --> 0:32:20.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm a dad. My boy dad. He whipping my ass

0:32:20.720 --> 0:32:21.120
<v Speaker 1>every day.

0:32:22.040 --> 0:32:23.280
<v Speaker 4>Your son three three?

0:32:23.480 --> 0:32:25.200
<v Speaker 7>You got a new baby?

0:32:30.840 --> 0:32:31.280
<v Speaker 6>What about you?

0:32:31.920 --> 0:32:34.640
<v Speaker 10>I am pastor Mike Will. I am also a father,

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<v Speaker 10>gav a longtime friend.

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<v Speaker 4>I guess I call that.

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<v Speaker 11>Oh gosh, I did you say pastor will past the

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<v Speaker 11>will past the mic or pastor.

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<v Speaker 4>My past I have a congregation.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, so you're a holy man, Yes I am.

0:32:56.760 --> 0:32:57.440
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, what are you?

0:32:57.760 --> 0:32:57.960
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:32:58.120 --> 0:32:59.160
<v Speaker 7>Who are you?

0:32:59.200 --> 0:32:59.480
<v Speaker 6>Where are you?

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<v Speaker 10>Kind of get My congregation is all the productive black

0:33:03.000 --> 0:33:03.440
<v Speaker 10>men that.

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<v Speaker 4>Exists out there.

0:33:04.920 --> 0:33:07.000
<v Speaker 6>That is, you know, you have a church.

0:33:07.360 --> 0:33:10.280
<v Speaker 4>That's my that's my church. The podcast is his church podcast.

0:33:10.880 --> 0:33:17.600
<v Speaker 6>Okay, so you're not. You don't need around you that's all,

0:33:17.680 --> 0:33:20.880
<v Speaker 6>you know, like because if you were fastor you know,

0:33:20.920 --> 0:33:21.320
<v Speaker 6>I will.

0:33:23.120 --> 0:33:26.040
<v Speaker 4>You could talk that way around pastor though you.

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<v Speaker 7>Know, you know I have to have like from Atlanta. Yes,

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<v Speaker 7>I'm not going to say that.

0:33:29.960 --> 0:33:30.840
<v Speaker 6>I'm just gonna you.

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<v Speaker 10>Know, no, no, no, I'm like, I'm not like a

0:33:32.480 --> 0:33:35.280
<v Speaker 10>real church pastor. Believe that I do not have a church.

0:33:35.320 --> 0:33:37.280
<v Speaker 10>Do not show up anywhere on Sunday.

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<v Speaker 4>Looking for me?

0:33:39.320 --> 0:33:41.880
<v Speaker 3>So are you a Samulite Samular?

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<v Speaker 4>What's that say?

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<v Speaker 6>More Sammy recipes to Kevin?

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<v Speaker 10>Oh no, obviously not, because yeah I didn't. I didn't

0:33:51.640 --> 0:33:53.640
<v Speaker 10>know what that was, but I did, like I did

0:33:53.680 --> 0:33:55.840
<v Speaker 10>like his clips he is he has missed. I missed him.

0:33:55.960 --> 0:33:58.160
<v Speaker 10>I missed him on YouTube, like I miss all them clips.

0:33:58.240 --> 0:34:02.240
<v Speaker 10>They'll be funny, they'd be funny Meyer you no, no,

0:34:02.960 --> 0:34:03.880
<v Speaker 10>so I hear.

0:34:03.960 --> 0:34:06.320
<v Speaker 4>Here's that. I know all these guys, right, Okay, I

0:34:06.400 --> 0:34:08.080
<v Speaker 4>know of all these just making sure.

0:34:07.960 --> 0:34:11.000
<v Speaker 10>But I'm not I'm not red pill. Okay, right, I'm

0:34:11.000 --> 0:34:15.319
<v Speaker 10>not red pill. Now I'm also not a cook. So

0:34:15.520 --> 0:34:18.000
<v Speaker 10>it's you know, I'm right there in the middle. As

0:34:18.040 --> 0:34:20.600
<v Speaker 10>I always say on the pod, everybody gets all their credit.

0:34:20.920 --> 0:34:22.920
<v Speaker 6>Okay, you're using a lot of words. I do not

0:34:23.040 --> 0:34:23.680
<v Speaker 6>know a cook.

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<v Speaker 3>I know you've seen that that that never heard of

0:34:27.239 --> 0:34:28.000
<v Speaker 3>on the pornhub.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't.

0:34:29.400 --> 0:34:32.520
<v Speaker 3>It's like a white man next to the dick and

0:34:32.640 --> 0:34:35.080
<v Speaker 3>is going and his wife isn't that like that?

0:34:36.360 --> 0:34:38.439
<v Speaker 5>That's part of that part of the pornole doesn't exist

0:34:38.480 --> 0:34:40.879
<v Speaker 5>in Charlotte, right, Or it's she ain't got.

0:34:40.760 --> 0:34:43.719
<v Speaker 4>A VP and it's cool though it shtill get the

0:34:43.960 --> 0:34:45.200
<v Speaker 4>ex videos.

0:34:44.960 --> 0:34:46.040
<v Speaker 1>Now you can get on pornhum.

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<v Speaker 4>You just need yeah, tell me later.

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<v Speaker 6>So how do you guys know each other?

0:34:54.080 --> 0:34:54.800
<v Speaker 1>You want the truth?

0:34:54.920 --> 0:34:56.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, go ahead and tell the truth.

0:34:56.560 --> 0:35:00.800
<v Speaker 1>The truth is Mike new My mom knew Mike before

0:35:00.800 --> 0:35:02.879
<v Speaker 1>he was born. My mom is like fifteen years older

0:35:02.880 --> 0:35:06.279
<v Speaker 1>than Mike, so it's through church and so she knew Mike.

0:35:06.400 --> 0:35:07.960
<v Speaker 1>So Mike knew me before I was born. But we

0:35:08.000 --> 0:35:11.880
<v Speaker 1>didn't get close to I don't know. I told you

0:35:11.920 --> 0:35:12.400
<v Speaker 1>it's alone.

0:35:12.840 --> 0:35:15.759
<v Speaker 5>We all grew up together, mama before you was born.

0:35:15.840 --> 0:35:19.200
<v Speaker 1>Yes, my mom was at a church, so Mike was born,

0:35:19.920 --> 0:35:20.480
<v Speaker 1>so I.

0:35:20.440 --> 0:35:22.880
<v Speaker 10>Knew gay parents, like gay Dady to shoot ball, I

0:35:22.960 --> 0:35:25.239
<v Speaker 10>did a little young dude that to get on the court.

0:35:25.719 --> 0:35:28.560
<v Speaker 10>So I remember Gav being a little two old running

0:35:28.600 --> 0:35:31.239
<v Speaker 10>around basically, but we met because him and my brother

0:35:31.320 --> 0:35:33.640
<v Speaker 10>is the same age, so they are really good friends.

0:35:33.719 --> 0:35:35.400
<v Speaker 4>Okay, so double a.

0:35:35.640 --> 0:35:37.000
<v Speaker 1>He was like, you gotta meet my brother and I

0:35:37.040 --> 0:35:38.719
<v Speaker 1>was like, all right, whatever, we'll see how this goes.

0:35:38.880 --> 0:35:40.680
<v Speaker 6>You did explain that good, because I was about to say,

0:35:40.760 --> 0:35:41.040
<v Speaker 6>are you.

0:35:41.040 --> 0:35:43.720
<v Speaker 4>And his dad?

0:35:44.440 --> 0:35:45.480
<v Speaker 1>How long do you think I am?

0:35:46.400 --> 0:35:48.280
<v Speaker 5>I don't know, but it was the way I described

0:35:48.320 --> 0:35:52.600
<v Speaker 5>it was like, Mike, no, my mama, yeah, fifteen.

0:35:52.320 --> 0:35:56.120
<v Speaker 1>Years older than you too, is yeah, I'm thirty five,

0:35:56.160 --> 0:36:00.719
<v Speaker 1>Well he's years yeah, so yeah, okay, but yeah, that's

0:36:00.719 --> 0:36:02.640
<v Speaker 1>how we know it through church, and but we just

0:36:02.680 --> 0:36:04.919
<v Speaker 1>been It's funny though, because I get to always say

0:36:04.960 --> 0:36:07.440
<v Speaker 1>like I was a baby, didn't know Mike existed, but

0:36:07.440 --> 0:36:09.600
<v Speaker 1>he knew I existed. And then his brother was like, yo,

0:36:09.680 --> 0:36:11.239
<v Speaker 1>I want you to meet my brother and we've been

0:36:11.320 --> 0:36:13.640
<v Speaker 1>rocking every since. That had to be like oh nine

0:36:13.719 --> 0:36:14.279
<v Speaker 1>something like that.

0:36:14.440 --> 0:36:14.640
<v Speaker 6>Nice.

0:36:14.680 --> 0:36:16.320
<v Speaker 10>Yeah, y'all was I think like when y'all turned like

0:36:16.320 --> 0:36:17.919
<v Speaker 10>twenty one, I started bringing you boys out.

0:36:18.040 --> 0:36:18.239
<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

0:36:18.280 --> 0:36:19.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:36:18.800 --> 0:36:22.479
<v Speaker 8>So how did y'all come up with the podcast question?

0:36:22.680 --> 0:36:26.439
<v Speaker 8>Which I think is very very.

0:36:25.960 --> 0:36:28.680
<v Speaker 10>Need Well, well, I mean we we started out so

0:36:28.920 --> 0:36:31.439
<v Speaker 10>Gaff Gaff had a podcast and like Gavin, my brother

0:36:31.480 --> 0:36:33.239
<v Speaker 10>had a podcast. He's like, oh, you should come on,

0:36:33.360 --> 0:36:35.279
<v Speaker 10>you come on, come on, right, Gavin is an early

0:36:35.320 --> 0:36:39.160
<v Speaker 10>adopter the podcast. So finally we had one, and we

0:36:39.320 --> 0:36:41.759
<v Speaker 10>just had really good chemistry on the podcast. So we

0:36:41.800 --> 0:36:46.000
<v Speaker 10>started a podcast. Yeah, it sucked, trash, but it taught

0:36:46.040 --> 0:36:48.640
<v Speaker 10>us a lot. And then eventually, you know, we it

0:36:48.719 --> 0:36:50.200
<v Speaker 10>was it was so bad that we was going to

0:36:50.320 --> 0:36:52.799
<v Speaker 10>quit absolutely, and I was like, well, I said, we

0:36:52.840 --> 0:36:54.680
<v Speaker 10>got great chemistry on the mic, so I was like,

0:36:54.760 --> 0:36:56.239
<v Speaker 10>let's not quit, Like, let's figure it out.

0:36:56.280 --> 0:36:58.600
<v Speaker 4>So we took the time off and it just so happened.

0:36:58.600 --> 0:37:02.319
<v Speaker 10>He ended up becoming a father and I was just like, huh,

0:37:02.600 --> 0:37:04.520
<v Speaker 10>I wanted this U Ril is available and it was

0:37:04.880 --> 0:37:05.960
<v Speaker 10>and I was just like, what do you think about this?

0:37:06.000 --> 0:37:07.520
<v Speaker 10>Same it was going through names and then he was

0:37:07.520 --> 0:37:10.240
<v Speaker 10>like that's the one. And then after that we pivoted.

0:37:10.320 --> 0:37:12.320
<v Speaker 10>So it's kind of cool because we're able to track,

0:37:12.440 --> 0:37:15.359
<v Speaker 10>you know, where we've been through the birth of his son,

0:37:15.400 --> 0:37:17.400
<v Speaker 10>because that's literally when it changed.

0:37:17.680 --> 0:37:19.399
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, cause I came back. So I took like three

0:37:19.400 --> 0:37:23.359
<v Speaker 1>months off of photography podcasting, and we love to tell

0:37:23.400 --> 0:37:25.560
<v Speaker 1>people now like I literally told my wife, I'm like, Yo,

0:37:25.560 --> 0:37:27.120
<v Speaker 1>when I get back, I'm just telling like this this

0:37:27.160 --> 0:37:29.759
<v Speaker 1>ship is done, Like I'm done, I'm out. And so we.

0:37:29.719 --> 0:37:31.560
<v Speaker 4>Got his wife he did tell me it was done.

0:37:31.719 --> 0:37:33.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then when we got back that shit was

0:37:33.560 --> 0:37:36.439
<v Speaker 1>so bad and so but the funny part when got back,

0:37:36.520 --> 0:37:38.520
<v Speaker 1>he was like his first question on the pot was like, Yo,

0:37:38.920 --> 0:37:41.839
<v Speaker 1>how's life being, And I go, it's so much shit.

0:37:41.920 --> 0:37:44.880
<v Speaker 1>Y'all did not tell me about being a dad, Like

0:37:45.520 --> 0:37:47.680
<v Speaker 1>this is crazy, And so we went through that and

0:37:47.680 --> 0:37:50.680
<v Speaker 1>then there was the response was just super cool and

0:37:51.960 --> 0:37:54.160
<v Speaker 1>like he said, he looked up the name. He was like, Yo,

0:37:54.239 --> 0:37:56.879
<v Speaker 1>let's do this every every week now. And so now

0:37:57.000 --> 0:37:59.799
<v Speaker 1>podcast has changed. We talk about parenting sometimes, but it's

0:37:59.840 --> 0:38:02.239
<v Speaker 1>my sleep just shipped that black dass like love and

0:38:02.280 --> 0:38:03.120
<v Speaker 1>care about exactly.

0:38:03.120 --> 0:38:06.759
<v Speaker 8>It's something that men talk some things that men talk

0:38:06.760 --> 0:38:08.000
<v Speaker 8>about being a barber shop.

0:38:08.200 --> 0:38:11.000
<v Speaker 7>So what's some things that black men care about?

0:38:11.400 --> 0:38:15.560
<v Speaker 1>Sports? Okay, women women, but that's low on the list.

0:38:15.760 --> 0:38:18.319
<v Speaker 1>It's I think women think we high high on the

0:38:18.360 --> 0:38:20.080
<v Speaker 1>list of coming in there talking about women. But that'll

0:38:20.120 --> 0:38:22.640
<v Speaker 1>be like we usually you going to you're gonna argue

0:38:22.640 --> 0:38:24.840
<v Speaker 1>about sports for like the whole time you there.

0:38:24.920 --> 0:38:27.520
<v Speaker 10>Sports and then like you know how you view things right, Like,

0:38:27.600 --> 0:38:30.840
<v Speaker 10>so men have a lot of life conversations. Yeah, like

0:38:31.040 --> 0:38:32.880
<v Speaker 10>I don't think like no time, we probably don't have

0:38:32.920 --> 0:38:36.120
<v Speaker 10>a life conversation just if we're shooting basketball. But like

0:38:36.120 --> 0:38:38.520
<v Speaker 10>if men are just sitting around, it's like, man, let

0:38:38.600 --> 0:38:41.080
<v Speaker 10>me tell you what I'm dealing with. You know, men,

0:38:41.239 --> 0:38:44.400
<v Speaker 10>men have those conversations. It's just that men don't judge

0:38:44.400 --> 0:38:45.600
<v Speaker 10>one another, so we'll.

0:38:45.400 --> 0:38:48.319
<v Speaker 4>Listen to it. And definitely, no, no, we really really

0:38:48.320 --> 0:38:49.040
<v Speaker 4>don't because it's like.

0:38:51.000 --> 0:38:52.600
<v Speaker 6>Y'all need to judge each other. Though.

0:38:52.680 --> 0:38:55.080
<v Speaker 4>If a man does not ask for advice, we listen.

0:38:55.800 --> 0:38:58.920
<v Speaker 4>We listen. There you go, you know, he says.

0:38:58.680 --> 0:39:01.959
<v Speaker 5>That if you have a guy that comes to you

0:39:02.040 --> 0:39:04.960
<v Speaker 5>and says like, man, I really don't give a fuck

0:39:05.000 --> 0:39:07.319
<v Speaker 5>about them kids. Man, I don't be over there. Man

0:39:07.880 --> 0:39:10.239
<v Speaker 5>that my baby mama get on my fucking nerves. Man,

0:39:10.360 --> 0:39:12.080
<v Speaker 5>she drives me crazy. I ain't going over there.

0:39:12.120 --> 0:39:15.960
<v Speaker 10>That conversation doesn't happen after what college sophomore year. At college,

0:39:16.320 --> 0:39:20.319
<v Speaker 10>men separate, men self segregate from dudes who ain't ship

0:39:20.480 --> 0:39:22.120
<v Speaker 10>and like men who are gonna be productive. So it's

0:39:22.160 --> 0:39:24.360
<v Speaker 10>hard to it's hard to have that kind of conversation

0:39:24.440 --> 0:39:26.839
<v Speaker 10>with the man unless you related to him, because we

0:39:26.920 --> 0:39:28.280
<v Speaker 10>really don't see one another.

0:39:28.320 --> 0:39:30.880
<v Speaker 4>We're not in the same place together. Yeah, just not.

0:39:31.600 --> 0:39:33.000
<v Speaker 1>We don't even be at the same barbershop.

0:39:33.400 --> 0:39:35.239
<v Speaker 4>No, we don't.

0:39:35.280 --> 0:39:37.680
<v Speaker 7>You got no futures in y'all circle.

0:39:37.960 --> 0:39:40.359
<v Speaker 10>No, I have a cousin that went kind of ham

0:39:40.800 --> 0:39:43.319
<v Speaker 10>but it was like literally a cousin. And to that point, though,

0:39:43.440 --> 0:39:45.720
<v Speaker 10>like he and I stopped hanging out like mid twenties,

0:39:45.719 --> 0:39:48.319
<v Speaker 10>like we grew up together, probably mid twenties. Just like man,

0:39:48.360 --> 0:39:50.799
<v Speaker 10>our lives are heading in two different trajectory.

0:39:51.120 --> 0:39:51.520
<v Speaker 4>Just this and.

0:39:53.960 --> 0:39:55.400
<v Speaker 7>Gibody curiously through future.

0:39:55.480 --> 0:39:56.520
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely good guy.

0:39:56.719 --> 0:39:59.960
<v Speaker 5>So you said that there were things that you know,

0:40:00.000 --> 0:40:03.000
<v Speaker 5>nobody told you. What are myths about black fathers that

0:40:03.280 --> 0:40:05.080
<v Speaker 5>like that people would believe?

0:40:05.120 --> 0:40:06.000
<v Speaker 6>But that's not true.

0:40:07.000 --> 0:40:10.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh myths? Oh, I thought you was gonna ask something else. Yo,

0:40:11.200 --> 0:40:13.560
<v Speaker 1>it has to be that we really are active. Like

0:40:13.880 --> 0:40:17.000
<v Speaker 1>every dad that I know, even the dads who do

0:40:17.080 --> 0:40:19.879
<v Speaker 1>not spend enough time with their kids. Right, every dad

0:40:19.920 --> 0:40:22.239
<v Speaker 1>I know love their kids. I really don't run into

0:40:22.239 --> 0:40:26.759
<v Speaker 1>people like yof them kids like we'll come together and say, Yo,

0:40:26.840 --> 0:40:28.360
<v Speaker 1>my kid get on my nerves. I gotta do this

0:40:28.800 --> 0:40:31.000
<v Speaker 1>like my boys three. So it's only but so much

0:40:31.239 --> 0:40:34.279
<v Speaker 1>nerves he can get on because he's learned. Like one thing,

0:40:34.280 --> 0:40:36.520
<v Speaker 1>all right, I talk too much. My mom I grew up.

0:40:36.560 --> 0:40:38.200
<v Speaker 1>She said I talked too much all My teacher said

0:40:38.200 --> 0:40:41.440
<v Speaker 1>that my son does not stop talking, damn. And so

0:40:41.520 --> 0:40:44.719
<v Speaker 1>his mom is in Cabo this week and literally at

0:40:44.760 --> 0:40:46.560
<v Speaker 1>six thirty I heard him in there singing, and I

0:40:46.640 --> 0:40:49.040
<v Speaker 1>was just like, yo, it's go time, like he ready

0:40:49.400 --> 0:40:51.520
<v Speaker 1>and so like. But I enjoy it. So when he

0:40:51.600 --> 0:40:53.640
<v Speaker 1>tells me, like dad, you and me to stop talking.

0:40:53.680 --> 0:40:56.719
<v Speaker 1>I feel bad. He asked you, ask if you yeah,

0:40:56.719 --> 0:40:58.920
<v Speaker 1>because I'd be like, yo, you gotta relact. I can't hear.

0:40:59.400 --> 0:41:02.479
<v Speaker 1>I can't think. I can't hear my thoughts. So I think,

0:41:02.600 --> 0:41:05.239
<v Speaker 1>you know, I think a lot of people. First of all,

0:41:05.239 --> 0:41:06.560
<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of people think that we just

0:41:06.600 --> 0:41:09.239
<v Speaker 1>got kids everywhere, and that's just not the case. That's

0:41:09.280 --> 0:41:12.160
<v Speaker 1>one thing, like men just don't have kids all over

0:41:12.160 --> 0:41:14.239
<v Speaker 1>the place. You do have like that ten percent, but

0:41:14.280 --> 0:41:15.680
<v Speaker 1>that don't represent.

0:41:15.320 --> 0:41:18.719
<v Speaker 8>Like the whole talking about On our recent episode, we

0:41:18.760 --> 0:41:21.360
<v Speaker 8>talked about how black men like to say that women

0:41:21.440 --> 0:41:24.680
<v Speaker 8>black women are having babies by the ten percent of men.

0:41:25.400 --> 0:41:30.880
<v Speaker 8>So these same men have multiple, multiple fertility partners.

0:41:31.040 --> 0:41:34.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and so that's the stat and so it's funny.

0:41:34.920 --> 0:41:38.040
<v Speaker 1>But everybody I know, you know, Mike, talk about separating,

0:41:38.120 --> 0:41:41.000
<v Speaker 1>like y'all, I only hang around dads that's like full

0:41:41.000 --> 0:41:43.640
<v Speaker 1>time fathers. I don't hang around dads who not with

0:41:43.760 --> 0:41:46.240
<v Speaker 1>their kids like it just and it's just the reason

0:41:46.280 --> 0:41:48.120
<v Speaker 1>why is because I know it's going to make you

0:41:48.120 --> 0:41:50.000
<v Speaker 1>feel bad when you come around and my kid is

0:41:50.000 --> 0:41:51.799
<v Speaker 1>going to be right there with me. Like I got

0:41:51.800 --> 0:41:53.839
<v Speaker 1>a meeting later a go, and I told you this,

0:41:54.080 --> 0:41:55.680
<v Speaker 1>I gotta go pick up my kid, and then I

0:41:55.680 --> 0:41:57.200
<v Speaker 1>got to go to a meeting and he coming with

0:41:57.239 --> 0:41:58.920
<v Speaker 1>me to that meeting, it's like, but that's just what

0:41:58.960 --> 0:41:59.799
<v Speaker 1>type of time I'm on.

0:42:00.239 --> 0:42:01.040
<v Speaker 6>Who's gonna talk?

0:42:01.520 --> 0:42:04.279
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, And the girl was like, yo, because I have

0:42:04.320 --> 0:42:06.360
<v Speaker 1>a meeting with a model. And she was just like,

0:42:06.400 --> 0:42:08.000
<v Speaker 1>I guess it's gonna be my birth control for this week.

0:42:08.000 --> 0:42:09.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, yeah, because he gonna talk.

0:42:11.280 --> 0:42:14.560
<v Speaker 8>So yeah, I had an article and I'm sitting there

0:42:14.600 --> 0:42:18.719
<v Speaker 8>trying to find No, the article is actually speaking to

0:42:18.800 --> 0:42:22.240
<v Speaker 8>what you're saying that it is a myth that black

0:42:22.280 --> 0:42:25.120
<v Speaker 8>men aren't present in the kids lives because what they're

0:42:25.160 --> 0:42:30.040
<v Speaker 8>looking at is the single mom statistic, like the unweed moms.

0:42:30.400 --> 0:42:32.920
<v Speaker 8>So the black men may not be married, but they

0:42:32.960 --> 0:42:37.719
<v Speaker 8>are actively in their children's lives more than uh their

0:42:37.920 --> 0:42:39.640
<v Speaker 8>you know, white town of Parts or Hispanics.

0:42:40.200 --> 0:42:42.239
<v Speaker 10>It's not even close. It's not even close. I mean,

0:42:42.280 --> 0:42:44.239
<v Speaker 10>and we should be married. But I mean that's a

0:42:44.239 --> 0:42:46.520
<v Speaker 10>culture issue, right, that's a different conversation. I'm like, why

0:42:46.560 --> 0:42:47.760
<v Speaker 10>that's not happening.

0:42:47.760 --> 0:42:50.080
<v Speaker 4>But yeah, men men are very active.

0:42:50.160 --> 0:42:52.560
<v Speaker 10>Like even when when I you know, listen to a

0:42:52.680 --> 0:42:55.279
<v Speaker 10>lady that say, okay, i'm a single mom, and you be.

0:42:55.239 --> 0:42:56.760
<v Speaker 7>Like, you're a mom that's single.

0:42:56.840 --> 0:42:58.799
<v Speaker 10>You're not a single mom that that kid can go

0:42:58.840 --> 0:43:01.239
<v Speaker 10>to their father see their father whenever they want.

0:43:01.320 --> 0:43:04.360
<v Speaker 4>And a lot of what goes on, you know, is

0:43:04.520 --> 0:43:05.799
<v Speaker 4>leverage play. You know.

0:43:05.800 --> 0:43:07.960
<v Speaker 10>It's like, Yo, if you wanted more help, you could

0:43:08.000 --> 0:43:10.359
<v Speaker 10>ask for more help, right, But if you don't ask

0:43:10.360 --> 0:43:12.400
<v Speaker 10>for more help, most of the time it's going to

0:43:12.440 --> 0:43:15.200
<v Speaker 10>be what's court order. But you can always like you

0:43:15.239 --> 0:43:17.720
<v Speaker 10>have another parent there, you can always ask for help

0:43:17.960 --> 0:43:18.520
<v Speaker 10>for another parent.

0:43:18.560 --> 0:43:20.080
<v Speaker 4>Who else? Who else are you supposed to ask for

0:43:20.120 --> 0:43:20.520
<v Speaker 4>help from?

0:43:20.600 --> 0:43:22.920
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, But sometimes that's not the case. Sometimes I know

0:43:23.040 --> 0:43:26.000
<v Speaker 5>women who need more help and just can't get more help.

0:43:26.920 --> 0:43:29.920
<v Speaker 8>And then I also know women not personally, but like

0:43:30.200 --> 0:43:32.560
<v Speaker 8>through the men or through the other women in the

0:43:32.600 --> 0:43:35.000
<v Speaker 8>relationships having to deal with that woman and how hard

0:43:35.520 --> 0:43:37.160
<v Speaker 8>she's making it for him the parent.

0:43:37.680 --> 0:43:38.960
<v Speaker 3>You know what I'm saying, Like, girl, you do not

0:43:38.960 --> 0:43:40.200
<v Speaker 3>want to be around your kid that much.

0:43:41.080 --> 0:43:44.440
<v Speaker 4>Damn child, That's what And that's what I say.

0:43:44.640 --> 0:43:47.960
<v Speaker 10>I always tell them, like, yo, everybody else, get some

0:43:48.040 --> 0:43:51.560
<v Speaker 10>time getting like you. Women need that time away from

0:43:51.640 --> 0:43:53.400
<v Speaker 10>their children. I hate when I don't see it. Like

0:43:53.440 --> 0:43:55.800
<v Speaker 10>one of the first things that I noticed, I'm divorced,

0:43:56.000 --> 0:43:57.560
<v Speaker 10>So one of the first things that I noticed is

0:43:57.600 --> 0:43:59.880
<v Speaker 10>that once we got our custody order, in place. Is

0:44:00.160 --> 0:44:02.200
<v Speaker 10>is how tired I was when I dropped my kid

0:44:02.239 --> 0:44:04.480
<v Speaker 10>off and also when I would pick my kid up,

0:44:04.480 --> 0:44:07.279
<v Speaker 10>how tired she was. Right, So that made sure that

0:44:07.320 --> 0:44:09.360
<v Speaker 10>I was like, Yo, I can't I can't miss a week,

0:44:09.680 --> 0:44:11.640
<v Speaker 10>you know what I'm saying. I can't be late because

0:44:11.640 --> 0:44:14.319
<v Speaker 10>she's exhausted, and that's going to play out and how

0:44:14.360 --> 0:44:16.839
<v Speaker 10>my child is raised. So if you care about your kid,

0:44:16.960 --> 0:44:17.960
<v Speaker 10>you got to go get your kid.

0:44:18.080 --> 0:44:20.520
<v Speaker 5>Well that's called empathy, you know, and people's.

0:44:20.120 --> 0:44:24.160
<v Speaker 8>Emotional intelligence to actually consider how somebody else is feeling.

0:44:24.200 --> 0:44:24.359
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:44:24.360 --> 0:44:27.200
<v Speaker 10>Absolutely, But it came from the love for my child though, right,

0:44:27.200 --> 0:44:28.560
<v Speaker 10>you know what I'm saying, Like we was deefing at

0:44:28.560 --> 0:44:32.759
<v Speaker 10>the time. We were not friends, let's be clear, right,

0:44:32.920 --> 0:44:34.799
<v Speaker 10>But it was like, Yo, if she's tired though, right, Like,

0:44:34.840 --> 0:44:36.800
<v Speaker 10>how is that playing out in my child?

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<v Speaker 4>You know what I'm saying.

0:44:37.800 --> 0:44:39.800
<v Speaker 10>So it was like, you know, we just got finished,

0:44:39.840 --> 0:44:41.680
<v Speaker 10>so I already know how she is, right, you know.

0:44:41.800 --> 0:44:43.279
<v Speaker 10>So it was like, yo, let me, let me let

0:44:43.280 --> 0:44:46.120
<v Speaker 10>me take that from you. I think a lot of

0:44:46.160 --> 0:44:48.600
<v Speaker 10>men don't understand that because I think there is.

0:44:48.480 --> 0:44:49.400
<v Speaker 4>This image of this.

0:44:49.680 --> 0:44:52.000
<v Speaker 10>You know, I'm a strong black woman, right, and I

0:44:52.080 --> 0:44:55.120
<v Speaker 10>got it and it's easy to believe that if you've

0:44:55.160 --> 0:44:57.799
<v Speaker 10>never really had a conversation, or if you're not surrounded

0:44:58.080 --> 0:45:00.440
<v Speaker 10>by women that you care about, not women that you know, right,

0:45:00.960 --> 0:45:03.800
<v Speaker 10>women that you care about. So when when they're suffering,

0:45:03.800 --> 0:45:06.040
<v Speaker 10>you're like, man, I wish I could do something, but

0:45:06.120 --> 0:45:08.680
<v Speaker 10>I can't. Right, But when you can do something, you

0:45:08.719 --> 0:45:11.360
<v Speaker 10>will see, Okay, see.

0:45:11.239 --> 0:45:11.879
<v Speaker 7>Do you think that?

0:45:12.280 --> 0:45:14.400
<v Speaker 8>I think a lot of No, do you think? Let

0:45:14.480 --> 0:45:17.399
<v Speaker 8>me ask pull it as a question. I remember seeing

0:45:17.400 --> 0:45:19.920
<v Speaker 8>his video recently with this guy he had his I

0:45:19.920 --> 0:45:23.680
<v Speaker 8>guess the kid's grandma dropped the kids off to him

0:45:23.920 --> 0:45:26.120
<v Speaker 8>and he's speeding down the highway driving and the kid.

0:45:26.200 --> 0:45:27.680
<v Speaker 8>This is a real video. I thought it was faking

0:45:27.680 --> 0:45:29.480
<v Speaker 8>to the little girl started crying, but she really really.

0:45:29.600 --> 0:45:32.040
<v Speaker 8>She wasn't showing her face or the dad's face. The

0:45:32.040 --> 0:45:33.680
<v Speaker 8>phone was like just hidden in the car kind of.

0:45:34.080 --> 0:45:36.040
<v Speaker 8>But then she put the phone in her face. You

0:45:36.040 --> 0:45:38.120
<v Speaker 8>can see she's crying. But he's yelling in the front seat,

0:45:38.160 --> 0:45:38.920
<v Speaker 8>like I told your mom not.

0:45:38.920 --> 0:45:39.959
<v Speaker 6>To drop you all ass off.

0:45:40.160 --> 0:45:42.080
<v Speaker 7>I'm dropping y'all back. She was like, but we're hungry.

0:45:42.080 --> 0:45:43.440
<v Speaker 7>We've been with you since one o'clock.

0:45:43.480 --> 0:45:44.040
<v Speaker 6>We haven't ate.

0:45:44.239 --> 0:45:45.640
<v Speaker 8>He was like, I don't got no money for y'all,

0:45:45.840 --> 0:45:48.719
<v Speaker 8>got money for food for me? This is how he's yelling.

0:45:48.680 --> 0:45:51.799
<v Speaker 8>And then no man who can actually provide whatever say that.

0:45:51.840 --> 0:45:55.440
<v Speaker 8>So it's just he can't provide, and he's blaming the children,

0:45:55.440 --> 0:45:56.319
<v Speaker 8>and he's blaming the mom.

0:45:56.520 --> 0:45:57.759
<v Speaker 7>Yeah, you can't figure it out.

0:45:57.840 --> 0:46:00.000
<v Speaker 4>That's terrible. How many kids? Was it?

0:46:00.280 --> 0:46:00.840
<v Speaker 7>Two kids?

0:46:00.960 --> 0:46:01.480
<v Speaker 4>Two kids?

0:46:01.480 --> 0:46:01.919
<v Speaker 6>Two kids?

0:46:01.920 --> 0:46:02.279
<v Speaker 4>All right?

0:46:02.320 --> 0:46:04.040
<v Speaker 10>So I mean that One of the things that I've

0:46:04.040 --> 0:46:05.759
<v Speaker 10>noticed is that a lot of times when I see

0:46:05.760 --> 0:46:07.919
<v Speaker 10>a complaint about a ain't ship that.

0:46:08.680 --> 0:46:10.160
<v Speaker 4>Sorry, we ain't cursing.

0:46:16.160 --> 0:46:16.520
<v Speaker 6>That's right.

0:46:16.960 --> 0:46:17.640
<v Speaker 4>I'm a guest here.

0:46:18.480 --> 0:46:19.880
<v Speaker 10>One of the things that I that I that I

0:46:19.880 --> 0:46:23.360
<v Speaker 10>always noticed is most of the time it is multiple kids,

0:46:23.400 --> 0:46:26.080
<v Speaker 10>if not multiple baby mamas, and like that should be

0:46:26.120 --> 0:46:28.719
<v Speaker 10>like an automatic red flag to any woman if you

0:46:28.719 --> 0:46:30.160
<v Speaker 10>meet a guy, I don't care what he looks, like,

0:46:30.440 --> 0:46:32.200
<v Speaker 10>how much money has, if he has multiple kids that

0:46:32.239 --> 0:46:34.080
<v Speaker 10>he's not with his children mom, or if he has

0:46:34.200 --> 0:46:37.399
<v Speaker 10>most run baby mamas, like, this is not the man

0:46:37.520 --> 0:46:37.960
<v Speaker 10>to date.

0:46:39.160 --> 0:46:43.600
<v Speaker 8>Earlier, I was saying, is it something subconsciously about a

0:46:43.640 --> 0:46:45.600
<v Speaker 8>man like that that's appealing to a woman.

0:46:45.800 --> 0:46:46.200
<v Speaker 6>We don't.

0:46:46.239 --> 0:46:49.600
<v Speaker 7>It's not in front of you got to tell me.

0:46:51.080 --> 0:46:52.719
<v Speaker 8>Know, you know what I'm saying, As much as I

0:46:52.719 --> 0:46:55.000
<v Speaker 8>would like a man who to have who doesn't have kids?

0:46:55.120 --> 0:46:57.319
<v Speaker 7>A lot of men have kids, right, Well, but.

0:46:57.600 --> 0:47:00.000
<v Speaker 10>I'm saying like, like when this same situation where it's

0:47:00.280 --> 0:47:02.920
<v Speaker 10>a lot, right, like a man has four or five kids, Like, bro,

0:47:03.000 --> 0:47:03.560
<v Speaker 10>why aren't.

0:47:03.400 --> 0:47:04.680
<v Speaker 4>You with one of those ones?

0:47:04.719 --> 0:47:05.080
<v Speaker 7>Exactly?

0:47:05.120 --> 0:47:07.200
<v Speaker 4>You know what I'm saying, Like that should be obvious, right,

0:47:07.280 --> 0:47:08.680
<v Speaker 4>you know, God had with.

0:47:08.640 --> 0:47:11.279
<v Speaker 8>A man recently, Like, listen, you got to pick a

0:47:11.280 --> 0:47:11.920
<v Speaker 8>household to be in.

0:47:12.000 --> 0:47:13.480
<v Speaker 7>You can't have all these life goals.

0:47:13.840 --> 0:47:15.879
<v Speaker 8>You want a million dollars, you got all these things

0:47:15.960 --> 0:47:18.000
<v Speaker 8>you want to do. You can't do that when you're

0:47:18.040 --> 0:47:20.759
<v Speaker 8>spreading yourself so thin in between multiple households.

0:47:20.760 --> 0:47:22.439
<v Speaker 3>Take a bitch, ye and do that.

0:47:22.640 --> 0:47:25.280
<v Speaker 5>I think went back to different though.

0:47:25.400 --> 0:47:27.120
<v Speaker 6>Well he be doing it successful.

0:47:27.160 --> 0:47:29.480
<v Speaker 7>I don't think he's happy. He probably not, but Nick

0:47:29.520 --> 0:47:30.320
<v Speaker 7>Cannon is happy.

0:47:30.440 --> 0:47:34.040
<v Speaker 1>He got the money where that that don't matter for him.

0:47:34.080 --> 0:47:35.839
<v Speaker 1>That's a big thing too, Like a lot of these

0:47:35.920 --> 0:47:38.640
<v Speaker 1>dudes out here are making multiple families, broken families, and

0:47:38.680 --> 0:47:43.200
<v Speaker 1>they broke like his is expensive, yes, Like my daycare

0:47:43.200 --> 0:47:46.000
<v Speaker 1>costs more than my mortgage, and that shit ain't fun.

0:47:46.440 --> 0:47:47.640
<v Speaker 1>That's why I'm shooting all the time.

0:47:47.920 --> 0:47:51.840
<v Speaker 5>You can't be broken and broken, right, yeah you can't.

0:47:51.880 --> 0:47:52.320
<v Speaker 4>You can't.

0:47:52.440 --> 0:47:55.600
<v Speaker 1>You can't, and so it's tough. But yeah, if you

0:47:55.719 --> 0:47:57.719
<v Speaker 1>if you run into a dude and it's like, you know,

0:47:57.760 --> 0:48:01.000
<v Speaker 1>I always look at women, I say, damn, he is

0:48:01.080 --> 0:48:03.120
<v Speaker 1>never with his kid, Like how you dating that?

0:48:03.239 --> 0:48:05.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm noting with somebody who don't ever have their kids,

0:48:05.600 --> 0:48:06.000
<v Speaker 3>you know, a.

0:48:05.960 --> 0:48:08.000
<v Speaker 1>Lot of a lot of things. It's like, okay, well

0:48:08.040 --> 0:48:10.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to date a man with a kid

0:48:10.080 --> 0:48:11.720
<v Speaker 1>because I don't want to compete with this other woman

0:48:11.760 --> 0:48:13.319
<v Speaker 1>and this other stuff. And it's like cool, like all right,

0:48:13.360 --> 0:48:15.439
<v Speaker 1>but when you do get with that dude, at least

0:48:15.440 --> 0:48:17.840
<v Speaker 1>be happy that he's with his kid and he's you know,

0:48:18.080 --> 0:48:20.279
<v Speaker 1>cares what's going on over there. But you running into

0:48:20.320 --> 0:48:22.120
<v Speaker 1>a dude and it's like he ain't never got his kid,

0:48:22.480 --> 0:48:26.160
<v Speaker 1>he ain't never facetiming this kid. Kid ain't known the

0:48:26.200 --> 0:48:28.920
<v Speaker 1>story like he had FaceTime dad. Like that should scare you,

0:48:28.960 --> 0:48:31.480
<v Speaker 1>Like all right, cool, you know, don't get prayed.

0:48:31.800 --> 0:48:33.799
<v Speaker 10>I get with women, don't want to date men with kids.

0:48:33.840 --> 0:48:36.200
<v Speaker 10>I'm never finished shot. I'm like, yo, I get cool. Yeah,

0:48:36.239 --> 0:48:38.759
<v Speaker 10>Like kids are a lot especially if you're active father.

0:48:39.120 --> 0:48:41.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Now I.

0:48:41.480 --> 0:48:44.239
<v Speaker 8>Gotta consider you've got to spend time with your I

0:48:44.320 --> 0:48:46.360
<v Speaker 8>just want to go outside. You can't take me for

0:48:46.400 --> 0:48:52.319
<v Speaker 8>a walk, no, sorry, Yeah, like you can't ever take

0:48:52.360 --> 0:48:54.200
<v Speaker 8>me for a walk because you got these damn kids.

0:48:54.400 --> 0:48:56.040
<v Speaker 1>You're gonna get me a discovery place.

0:48:58.200 --> 0:48:59.839
<v Speaker 4>That I introduced you to the kids?

0:49:00.040 --> 0:49:00.440
<v Speaker 1>Ready?

0:49:01.040 --> 0:49:02.560
<v Speaker 7>Yeah, right now that part?

0:49:02.680 --> 0:49:03.120
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:49:03.200 --> 0:49:07.560
<v Speaker 7>Okay, So now you're your divorce one child.

0:49:07.560 --> 0:49:13.120
<v Speaker 8>One son, one son. Okay, so who gets to meet

0:49:13.120 --> 0:49:13.479
<v Speaker 8>the son?

0:49:14.320 --> 0:49:15.920
<v Speaker 7>Has anybody? How long you've been divorced.

0:49:16.280 --> 0:49:18.359
<v Speaker 4>I've been divorced. I think like seven years now, six

0:49:18.520 --> 0:49:19.120
<v Speaker 4>or seven years.

0:49:19.200 --> 0:49:21.000
<v Speaker 6>He got a lot of aunties. This your auntie.

0:49:24.719 --> 0:49:27.560
<v Speaker 10>Yeah, so this is gonna sound crazy. My son has

0:49:27.600 --> 0:49:29.880
<v Speaker 10>not met anyone. My son has not men.

0:49:30.880 --> 0:49:31.080
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:49:31.160 --> 0:49:32.880
<v Speaker 7>No, so you haven't liked anybody.

0:49:33.120 --> 0:49:33.560
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but.

0:49:35.080 --> 0:49:35.880
<v Speaker 4>I haven't been serious.

0:49:35.880 --> 0:49:37.879
<v Speaker 10>I haven't been serious enough to like introduce my son

0:49:37.960 --> 0:49:40.719
<v Speaker 10>because one of the I feel that it's important for

0:49:40.800 --> 0:49:43.560
<v Speaker 10>him to see his father, Like as he grows up,

0:49:43.600 --> 0:49:45.759
<v Speaker 10>like if he just sees a revolving door, he's going

0:49:45.840 --> 0:49:48.040
<v Speaker 10>to think that's cool. And it's like I don't want

0:49:48.120 --> 0:49:49.080
<v Speaker 10>him to think that's cool.

0:49:49.239 --> 0:49:49.719
<v Speaker 4>You know what I'm saying.

0:49:49.719 --> 0:49:52.080
<v Speaker 10>I want him to understand that, you know, like when

0:49:52.080 --> 0:49:54.759
<v Speaker 10>you get older, you know, be with somebody and to

0:49:54.800 --> 0:49:58.720
<v Speaker 10>be respectful and mindful of that individual. So I've always

0:49:58.760 --> 0:50:00.839
<v Speaker 10>made that like when I got divorce, like I didn't

0:50:00.840 --> 0:50:02.919
<v Speaker 10>want him to see that because like you know, his father,

0:50:03.000 --> 0:50:07.520
<v Speaker 10>Like one day he's gonna go and find all my youtubes. Right, Yeah,

0:50:07.719 --> 0:50:09.799
<v Speaker 10>it's gonna be a lot of conversations that he's gonna

0:50:09.800 --> 0:50:11.239
<v Speaker 10>want to have and he's gonna realize that like at

0:50:11.280 --> 0:50:13.440
<v Speaker 10>one point in time, his father didn't mind to revolve

0:50:13.480 --> 0:50:15.680
<v Speaker 10>in door, right, but for the whole time he saw

0:50:15.719 --> 0:50:17.640
<v Speaker 10>his father, that didn't happen. And we can have the

0:50:17.640 --> 0:50:19.720
<v Speaker 10>conversation though, well, why why didn't that happen?

0:50:19.800 --> 0:50:20.000
<v Speaker 1>Dad?

0:50:20.200 --> 0:50:21.600
<v Speaker 4>And it's like, okay, this is why.

0:50:21.840 --> 0:50:24.040
<v Speaker 5>Do you think it's important for him also to see

0:50:24.120 --> 0:50:25.440
<v Speaker 5>you treat a woman.

0:50:25.200 --> 0:50:27.759
<v Speaker 10>Well and absolute woman? Absolutely, which is why he sees

0:50:27.800 --> 0:50:29.920
<v Speaker 10>me treat his mother as well. Absolutely.

0:50:30.360 --> 0:50:32.080
<v Speaker 7>Do y'all do stuff together? So as a family.

0:50:32.160 --> 0:50:36.919
<v Speaker 5>But what about romantic because I feel like the young

0:50:36.960 --> 0:50:40.279
<v Speaker 5>boys don't understand about romance and they're not seeing their

0:50:40.360 --> 0:50:41.640
<v Speaker 5>father be romantic.

0:50:41.800 --> 0:50:44.080
<v Speaker 7>That's a great point, you know, y'all not together?

0:50:44.680 --> 0:50:47.560
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean yeah, but I mean even in marriages

0:50:47.600 --> 0:50:49.600
<v Speaker 5>that are together, sometimes they don't.

0:50:49.800 --> 0:50:51.239
<v Speaker 1>You know. It's funny because I grew up in a

0:50:51.239 --> 0:50:54.560
<v Speaker 1>household where I saw my dad like romantic every day.

0:50:55.000 --> 0:50:57.960
<v Speaker 1>Like my dad really took Valentine's Stay serious, which is

0:50:57.960 --> 0:50:59.719
<v Speaker 1>why I was in high school spending money I did

0:50:59.719 --> 0:51:03.160
<v Speaker 1>not have. And but I saw that, and I saw

0:51:03.239 --> 0:51:05.440
<v Speaker 1>him love my mom, and I saw my parents like

0:51:05.560 --> 0:51:08.160
<v Speaker 1>interacting kids all the time, you know, the joke kids.

0:51:08.200 --> 0:51:09.480
<v Speaker 1>When we was growing up in church, I used to

0:51:09.520 --> 0:51:11.640
<v Speaker 1>ask my parents, like why ain't never seen my pastor

0:51:11.680 --> 0:51:13.600
<v Speaker 1>like kiss his wife. I ain't never seen nobody else

0:51:13.640 --> 0:51:18.480
<v Speaker 1>kiss Okay, so you know, but it's interesting to see that,

0:51:18.680 --> 0:51:20.400
<v Speaker 1>and like I go home and I seen that. So

0:51:20.560 --> 0:51:24.200
<v Speaker 1>that is a great point. But yeah, that's a.

0:51:24.200 --> 0:51:26.080
<v Speaker 4>Solid point because I do want my son to see that.

0:51:26.320 --> 0:51:26.480
<v Speaker 4>You know.

0:51:26.520 --> 0:51:28.959
<v Speaker 10>It's like, y'all, I'm definitely open to, you know, having

0:51:28.960 --> 0:51:31.040
<v Speaker 10>that so he can see, you know, his father be

0:51:31.160 --> 0:51:33.239
<v Speaker 10>romantic with his wife. But I don't want him to

0:51:33.239 --> 0:51:39.200
<v Speaker 10>see his father being romantic. Shar you know, she's going

0:51:39.320 --> 0:51:41.480
<v Speaker 10>out with somebody else. It's like, I don't I don't

0:51:41.480 --> 0:51:44.520
<v Speaker 10>want him to see that. Right, his genetics is gonna

0:51:44.520 --> 0:51:46.200
<v Speaker 10>be fighting.

0:51:46.880 --> 0:51:54.200
<v Speaker 5>Right, what would you say, has been like one of

0:51:54.239 --> 0:51:58.840
<v Speaker 5>the greatest challenges being a black father, just between you

0:51:58.960 --> 0:52:00.879
<v Speaker 5>and the child, not even the mother, you and.

0:52:00.840 --> 0:52:02.480
<v Speaker 6>The mother, but h.

0:52:04.040 --> 0:52:06.960
<v Speaker 10>Honestly being too easy on them, like as a dad,

0:52:07.680 --> 0:52:12.440
<v Speaker 10>Like no, it's like you tried. This is the thing

0:52:12.480 --> 0:52:14.920
<v Speaker 10>that you try not to. But I because I was

0:52:14.920 --> 0:52:17.319
<v Speaker 10>talking to one of my boys, like not about two

0:52:17.320 --> 0:52:19.080
<v Speaker 10>months ago, and we was like, man, you know we

0:52:19.120 --> 0:52:21.520
<v Speaker 10>grew up different, right, So we're growing up now. These

0:52:21.600 --> 0:52:24.080
<v Speaker 10>kids they can go to any after school activity, they

0:52:24.080 --> 0:52:27.120
<v Speaker 10>can go any school activity. They're living in the suburbs, right,

0:52:27.200 --> 0:52:30.040
<v Speaker 10>Like they're not in black classrooms the way we were

0:52:30.080 --> 0:52:33.279
<v Speaker 10>in black classrooms, right, And it's like, man, like, are

0:52:33.280 --> 0:52:35.160
<v Speaker 10>we being too gentle on them?

0:52:35.280 --> 0:52:35.440
<v Speaker 4>Right?

0:52:35.560 --> 0:52:37.480
<v Speaker 10>Like are we giving them too much? Like one of

0:52:37.520 --> 0:52:39.520
<v Speaker 10>my friends, she just had a baby, and she was

0:52:39.600 --> 0:52:41.719
<v Speaker 10>just like, you know, kid was acting up. She's like,

0:52:41.760 --> 0:52:43.279
<v Speaker 10>when of the last time you spank your son? And

0:52:43.320 --> 0:52:45.360
<v Speaker 10>I was like, believe it or not, I've never spanked

0:52:45.400 --> 0:52:48.000
<v Speaker 10>my son. I was like, I've never had to. I

0:52:48.040 --> 0:52:50.319
<v Speaker 10>was like, I take the time to parent them, right,

0:52:50.320 --> 0:52:52.480
<v Speaker 10>I'll take it. If it takes thirty minutes to get

0:52:52.520 --> 0:52:54.759
<v Speaker 10>this lesson, I'm gonna take the thirty minutes to give

0:52:54.840 --> 0:52:57.040
<v Speaker 10>this lesson, right, but sometimes you be like dangn man,

0:52:57.120 --> 0:52:58.080
<v Speaker 10>like this is not how.

0:52:58.000 --> 0:53:01.400
<v Speaker 4>I was raised. So it's like, you know, am I

0:53:01.480 --> 0:53:02.640
<v Speaker 4>Am I doing enough? Right?

0:53:02.680 --> 0:53:02.719
<v Speaker 6>Like?

0:53:03.080 --> 0:53:06.160
<v Speaker 10>Am I raising a kid that is too soft? It's

0:53:06.160 --> 0:53:09.520
<v Speaker 10>something that I'm constantly wondering, like can he take on.

0:53:09.440 --> 0:53:12.080
<v Speaker 7>The we to surprise him every once in a while just.

0:53:12.080 --> 0:53:12.600
<v Speaker 4>Jack him up?

0:53:16.600 --> 0:53:18.680
<v Speaker 10>No, he know his dad will, but it's like you

0:53:18.719 --> 0:53:20.319
<v Speaker 10>do wander like, yo, are you gonna be able to

0:53:20.320 --> 0:53:21.960
<v Speaker 10>take on the word, especially the way that the world

0:53:22.000 --> 0:53:24.400
<v Speaker 10>is moving now. It's like, you know, man, have I

0:53:24.440 --> 0:53:27.120
<v Speaker 10>done you a disservice? And I think for me that's

0:53:27.200 --> 0:53:28.359
<v Speaker 10>where I'm like.

0:53:28.040 --> 0:53:29.040
<v Speaker 7>How do you find a balance?

0:53:29.200 --> 0:53:31.600
<v Speaker 4>Yeah? How do you find that? You know? So that's

0:53:31.640 --> 0:53:33.240
<v Speaker 4>where I'm always like, So we don't.

0:53:33.120 --> 0:53:33.560
<v Speaker 7>Have no kids.

0:53:33.640 --> 0:53:37.000
<v Speaker 8>Were talking about our nieces this morning, sorry y'all, And

0:53:37.000 --> 0:53:38.880
<v Speaker 8>it's just like how they might.

0:53:40.320 --> 0:53:41.600
<v Speaker 7>And I think the.

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<v Speaker 3>Our generation did the gentle parenting thing.

0:53:45.440 --> 0:53:47.480
<v Speaker 8>Because of how we were raised right, and it is

0:53:47.560 --> 0:53:50.040
<v Speaker 8>making the kids more soft, like they can't do ship

0:53:50.160 --> 0:53:55.799
<v Speaker 8>for themselfs Like my sister was like my niece's passwords

0:53:55.840 --> 0:53:58.560
<v Speaker 8>for her email and ship till like twenty five, Like

0:53:59.200 --> 0:54:01.520
<v Speaker 8>you ask your mom for your password.

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<v Speaker 10>Should But on the other hand, I think, man, isn't

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<v Speaker 10>that a blessing to be able to do it?

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<v Speaker 4>Though?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what?

0:54:08.400 --> 0:54:10.640
<v Speaker 4>Because it's like, again, we didn't we didn't have it

0:54:10.680 --> 0:54:12.160
<v Speaker 4>at all, right, you know?

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, but adults they're not they are adults in some

0:54:18.880 --> 0:54:21.759
<v Speaker 8>ways something's missing, right, Yeah.

0:54:21.760 --> 0:54:23.759
<v Speaker 5>It's like by giving them something what you didn't have,

0:54:24.239 --> 0:54:26.359
<v Speaker 5>you're taking away the lessons that you learned.

0:54:26.400 --> 0:54:29.879
<v Speaker 4>So we need to bring the belt.

0:54:31.640 --> 0:54:33.279
<v Speaker 3>I see one of these girls with the couple of

0:54:33.280 --> 0:54:34.200
<v Speaker 3>their ass hanging out.

0:54:35.960 --> 0:54:38.600
<v Speaker 4>The belt as up.

0:54:38.960 --> 0:54:41.239
<v Speaker 8>I wouldn't hit my kid. I don't think big people

0:54:41.239 --> 0:54:42.400
<v Speaker 8>should be hitting little people.

0:54:42.520 --> 0:54:43.840
<v Speaker 7>You know what I'm saying. They just don't know.

0:54:44.080 --> 0:54:45.400
<v Speaker 4>I reserved the right to, though.

0:54:47.920 --> 0:54:50.440
<v Speaker 3>Some people like when you're gonna stop hitting them?

0:54:50.560 --> 0:54:53.160
<v Speaker 8>I mean, I think, like you can, shouldn't hit your

0:54:53.239 --> 0:54:54.960
<v Speaker 8>child for every little thing.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't think.

0:54:55.880 --> 0:54:58.640
<v Speaker 5>I hate when I see parents with a belt while

0:54:58.640 --> 0:55:02.160
<v Speaker 5>they're doing homework, standing over a child trying to teach

0:55:02.200 --> 0:55:02.960
<v Speaker 5>them their homework.

0:55:03.120 --> 0:55:07.000
<v Speaker 6>And see that Johnny had like, yeah, how they gonna learn?

0:55:07.080 --> 0:55:07.560
<v Speaker 3>Like Trump?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and like my boy he three, So it's like

0:55:10.760 --> 0:55:12.560
<v Speaker 1>I gotta talk to him. I gotta figure out you

0:55:12.600 --> 0:55:13.920
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. But now he's getting to that

0:55:13.960 --> 0:55:16.520
<v Speaker 1>stages where he'd be like oh, because I'd be like, hey,

0:55:16.560 --> 0:55:18.160
<v Speaker 1>what are you doing? He knows what he's doing now,

0:55:18.239 --> 0:55:20.880
<v Speaker 1>so like, but before it was like very much, no,

0:55:21.000 --> 0:55:23.600
<v Speaker 1>let's talk, let's figure out, like what's going on? Because

0:55:23.680 --> 0:55:26.520
<v Speaker 1>I remember my whoopings and mindra I was active.

0:55:26.680 --> 0:55:28.080
<v Speaker 7>That mean you didn't get a lot of beatings if

0:55:28.080 --> 0:55:29.000
<v Speaker 7>you can remember, Oh no.

0:55:28.960 --> 0:55:29.520
<v Speaker 1>I got plenty.

0:55:29.960 --> 0:55:31.200
<v Speaker 7>Did you remember all of them?

0:55:31.400 --> 0:55:33.120
<v Speaker 1>Look? No, not all of them. But I put it

0:55:33.160 --> 0:55:35.120
<v Speaker 1>like this, it was one week I did not get

0:55:35.920 --> 0:55:37.640
<v Speaker 1>I didn't get a ask with My mom took me out.

0:55:39.800 --> 0:55:42.960
<v Speaker 1>She was like, she said, I didn't have to whoop Gavin.

0:55:43.000 --> 0:55:44.760
<v Speaker 1>This week, we're going out to you. It was only Wednesday.

0:55:44.880 --> 0:55:47.640
<v Speaker 1>She was proud that we got there. And it was

0:55:47.680 --> 0:55:49.520
<v Speaker 1>one of them times. But you know, I was never

0:55:49.520 --> 0:55:51.120
<v Speaker 1>a bad kid, but I was just so active. I

0:55:51.160 --> 0:55:54.240
<v Speaker 1>wasn't you know whatever. And so it's funny now because

0:55:54.600 --> 0:55:56.239
<v Speaker 1>you do get older, you do get that kid there

0:55:56.239 --> 0:55:58.120
<v Speaker 1>and they look look at you in the eyes, and

0:55:58.200 --> 0:56:00.200
<v Speaker 1>then you know, they come up and say they love you,

0:56:00.239 --> 0:56:01.480
<v Speaker 1>and then they want to hug you, and then you

0:56:01.560 --> 0:56:02.600
<v Speaker 1>just melt and you be like, all.

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<v Speaker 10>Right, I think it is generational and I mean, look,

0:56:05.640 --> 0:56:07.120
<v Speaker 10>I see some of the others. Some of these kids

0:56:07.160 --> 0:56:09.160
<v Speaker 10>need to be so like I said, I think I

0:56:09.200 --> 0:56:11.160
<v Speaker 10>reserve the right to give it, but I don't think

0:56:11.239 --> 0:56:13.520
<v Speaker 10>every kid needs it. And I think the way y'all

0:56:13.560 --> 0:56:15.720
<v Speaker 10>are younger than me, but I think definitely my generational

0:56:15.760 --> 0:56:16.439
<v Speaker 10>way we was raised.

0:56:16.480 --> 0:56:18.520
<v Speaker 4>It's like you did something, you know, what what? What?

0:56:18.520 --> 0:56:18.759
<v Speaker 1>What?

0:56:18.760 --> 0:56:18.960
<v Speaker 6>What? Do?

0:56:19.040 --> 0:56:19.560
<v Speaker 4>You always say?

0:56:19.600 --> 0:56:19.640
<v Speaker 6>What?

0:56:20.840 --> 0:56:21.359
<v Speaker 4>Child? Right?

0:56:21.520 --> 0:56:23.320
<v Speaker 7>But child is inherently bad.

0:56:23.760 --> 0:56:26.120
<v Speaker 3>It's beating them gonna make it really better?

0:56:26.200 --> 0:56:27.800
<v Speaker 8>Like because now it's like shit, if all want to

0:56:27.840 --> 0:56:28.960
<v Speaker 8>get as a beat and let me go ahead and

0:56:29.000 --> 0:56:31.320
<v Speaker 8>do what the fuck I want and get this ass whooping.

0:56:31.560 --> 0:56:33.359
<v Speaker 5>Well, I think it needs to be a combination of things.

0:56:33.560 --> 0:56:37.439
<v Speaker 5>It shouldn't be just yeah, it should be different types

0:56:37.480 --> 0:56:38.719
<v Speaker 5>of reprimand.

0:56:38.320 --> 0:56:40.560
<v Speaker 1>You know, in therapy and a bunch of other stuff.

0:56:40.600 --> 0:56:43.040
<v Speaker 1>You know. The sad part about this a little bit

0:56:43.080 --> 0:56:45.360
<v Speaker 1>off topic, but the sad part about being a photographer

0:56:45.600 --> 0:56:48.160
<v Speaker 1>is I run into so many parents who kids are

0:56:48.160 --> 0:56:49.759
<v Speaker 1>on the spectrum and they don't know what yet.

0:56:50.360 --> 0:56:51.319
<v Speaker 4>There's grown men.

0:56:51.960 --> 0:56:54.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and a lot of times when your kid is

0:56:54.120 --> 0:56:56.680
<v Speaker 1>acting out and they behave in certain ways, you might

0:56:56.760 --> 0:56:59.440
<v Speaker 1>need to go take them to the doctor and figure

0:56:59.440 --> 0:57:01.560
<v Speaker 1>out why. Like so it's sad when I'm doing a

0:57:01.560 --> 0:57:03.480
<v Speaker 1>photo shoot and They're just like, oh, my kid don't talk,

0:57:03.560 --> 0:57:05.120
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, all right, cool, you know, I don't care.

0:57:05.120 --> 0:57:07.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm there to work. And then you know, I look

0:57:07.840 --> 0:57:10.640
<v Speaker 1>and then as you keep doing this, you'd be like, oh,

0:57:10.640 --> 0:57:13.239
<v Speaker 1>there's a pattern here for different parents. And then some

0:57:13.320 --> 0:57:16.000
<v Speaker 1>parents know, and then the parents that don't know you

0:57:16.040 --> 0:57:19.360
<v Speaker 1>just wish that they did know, you know, so check

0:57:19.400 --> 0:57:19.560
<v Speaker 1>on you.

0:57:20.240 --> 0:57:22.880
<v Speaker 10>I've seen some people that was you know, like that

0:57:23.000 --> 0:57:25.520
<v Speaker 10>growing up. They turned out all right. I mean they

0:57:25.640 --> 0:57:26.320
<v Speaker 10>turned out all right.

0:57:27.920 --> 0:57:32.360
<v Speaker 5>Autistic people are the best happiest people on the planet.

0:57:32.640 --> 0:57:34.760
<v Speaker 6>And I think we're all on the spectrum. The spectrum

0:57:34.840 --> 0:57:35.600
<v Speaker 6>is a dimmer.

0:57:35.280 --> 0:57:37.000
<v Speaker 1>It's not absolute spectrum.

0:57:37.360 --> 0:57:38.320
<v Speaker 6>We're all on it.

0:57:38.680 --> 0:57:39.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'll be acting now.

0:57:40.200 --> 0:57:42.760
<v Speaker 8>Yeah, sometimes I'm definitely on the spectrum a little bit.

0:57:42.800 --> 0:57:44.920
<v Speaker 8>But some people it can actually be diagnosed with some

0:57:45.000 --> 0:57:48.080
<v Speaker 8>ship because I see people who I was in high

0:57:48.080 --> 0:57:50.320
<v Speaker 8>school with on social media and they got wives.

0:57:50.840 --> 0:57:51.400
<v Speaker 7>Remember that.

0:57:52.400 --> 0:57:55.800
<v Speaker 8>Remember that video of the guy was scamming people for

0:57:56.800 --> 0:57:57.240
<v Speaker 8>the docum?

0:57:58.360 --> 0:58:01.680
<v Speaker 3>Remember oh, yeah, that's one of my classmates.

0:58:03.080 --> 0:58:03.800
<v Speaker 6>What's up nigga.

0:58:05.680 --> 0:58:08.080
<v Speaker 8>You know, he was like Barral on the internet, like

0:58:08.320 --> 0:58:10.360
<v Speaker 8>he mixing people's stuff, but he's not fixing it for

0:58:10.440 --> 0:58:13.920
<v Speaker 8>scamming people around Charlotte Charleston. I forgot where he lived at.

0:58:13.920 --> 0:58:14.800
<v Speaker 8>Now what's up, nigga?

0:58:15.160 --> 0:58:17.880
<v Speaker 7>But that niggas on the spectrum. We always knew that

0:58:18.040 --> 0:58:18.560
<v Speaker 7>growing up.

0:58:18.640 --> 0:58:21.600
<v Speaker 8>So now you're a wrong person with kids and a

0:58:21.600 --> 0:58:27.800
<v Speaker 8>wife and don't nobody know your past going to have that.

0:58:28.600 --> 0:58:31.360
<v Speaker 6>I was in the little bus and.

0:58:30.640 --> 0:58:32.960
<v Speaker 10>There's no way that that girl got with him and

0:58:33.600 --> 0:58:36.360
<v Speaker 10>didn't think he wasn't special, y'all know.

0:58:37.120 --> 0:58:38.960
<v Speaker 8>I mean, he figured out a way to make money

0:58:39.240 --> 0:58:40.560
<v Speaker 8>and I fix people ship, so.

0:58:40.520 --> 0:58:41.200
<v Speaker 6>He can't be that.

0:58:41.360 --> 0:58:47.640
<v Speaker 11>So you see exactly, big ass Julie trunk like he

0:58:47.760 --> 0:58:58.080
<v Speaker 11>making money, he got a big brain, that boy member wearing,

0:58:58.120 --> 0:58:59.920
<v Speaker 11>but the wrong ship, Like who the hell was it

0:59:00.120 --> 0:59:01.520
<v Speaker 11>that class for students?

0:59:01.800 --> 0:59:02.760
<v Speaker 6>That's what I want to know.

0:59:04.480 --> 0:59:06.440
<v Speaker 8>That telling me to ask on the first date how

0:59:06.520 --> 0:59:08.600
<v Speaker 8>many people was in your class in high school?

0:59:09.040 --> 0:59:13.400
<v Speaker 6>Because I was in the sole class ones but I

0:59:13.440 --> 0:59:13.800
<v Speaker 6>knew it.

0:59:14.280 --> 0:59:15.160
<v Speaker 4>I knew it.

0:59:19.080 --> 0:59:27.520
<v Speaker 6>Listen, I need to explain. I need to explain.

0:59:27.600 --> 0:59:31.320
<v Speaker 1>We're not going to just leave that right there, right now, So.

0:59:33.120 --> 0:59:38.240
<v Speaker 6>Okay, like the up just a quick story, all right.

0:59:38.320 --> 0:59:42.600
<v Speaker 5>So I took I was in a P math, which

0:59:42.640 --> 0:59:45.200
<v Speaker 5>is advanced for those of you that don't know. So

0:59:45.280 --> 0:59:48.640
<v Speaker 5>I took a freshman math in middle school and I

0:59:48.720 --> 0:59:51.480
<v Speaker 5>failed it, right, I took it in the ninth grade.

0:59:51.640 --> 0:59:52.480
<v Speaker 6>I failed it again.

0:59:53.280 --> 0:59:56.800
<v Speaker 5>They put me in geometry in the so it would

0:59:56.800 --> 0:59:58.600
<v Speaker 5>be like four by four so you could take like

0:59:58.960 --> 1:00:00.880
<v Speaker 5>a full semester of class is in the beginning of

1:00:00.880 --> 1:00:02.880
<v Speaker 5>the year and then the full semester. So they put

1:00:02.920 --> 1:00:05.439
<v Speaker 5>me in geometry and I passed it. Then they put

1:00:05.440 --> 1:00:09.960
<v Speaker 5>me in like what comes after that, uh, trigonometry or

1:00:09.960 --> 1:00:10.600
<v Speaker 5>something like that.

1:00:10.920 --> 1:00:12.480
<v Speaker 6>So they put me in all the masks.

1:00:12.760 --> 1:00:14.440
<v Speaker 5>By the time it was time for me to graduate,

1:00:14.560 --> 1:00:16.080
<v Speaker 5>like my junior year, they were looking at what I

1:00:16.120 --> 1:00:18.920
<v Speaker 5>needed and I had never gotten the algebra one credit.

1:00:19.760 --> 1:00:20.760
<v Speaker 6>So now they were like.

1:00:20.760 --> 1:00:24.479
<v Speaker 5>What how work can we Yeah, where can I put

1:00:24.520 --> 1:00:27.080
<v Speaker 5>you to make sure we have everything you need to graduate?

1:00:27.360 --> 1:00:29.720
<v Speaker 5>And the only math class that would have counted as

1:00:29.760 --> 1:00:33.680
<v Speaker 5>my freshman math was this remedial math class.

1:00:34.000 --> 1:00:36.160
<v Speaker 6>So I was in it, and baby, we was in

1:00:36.240 --> 1:00:37.200
<v Speaker 6>there drawing off.

1:00:43.720 --> 1:00:46.840
<v Speaker 5>I'm telling you that there were blocks and I would

1:00:46.840 --> 1:00:49.160
<v Speaker 5>be so embarrassed to go in that class because I

1:00:49.160 --> 1:00:51.240
<v Speaker 5>could do like I could do math, well, you know

1:00:51.280 --> 1:00:54.440
<v Speaker 5>I had passed all these I would dive in that bitch.

1:00:54.240 --> 1:00:55.440
<v Speaker 6>When the bell right.

1:00:59.200 --> 1:01:03.080
<v Speaker 8>Nobody I have had classes and just no class man

1:01:04.040 --> 1:01:06.400
<v Speaker 8>like nigga, we see y'all, Like why y'all running.

1:01:06.160 --> 1:01:08.160
<v Speaker 3>To the bus with y'all book back on your face?

1:01:11.800 --> 1:01:12.760
<v Speaker 6>Turkey off the wall?

1:01:16.320 --> 1:01:22.040
<v Speaker 8>That is crazy, Turkey down.

1:01:20.720 --> 1:01:24.200
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, turkey up.

1:01:24.760 --> 1:01:28.800
<v Speaker 5>Ain't no group pictures, no, So what ended up happening?

1:01:29.480 --> 1:01:31.720
<v Speaker 5>So what ended up happened is all right, the work

1:01:31.800 --> 1:01:33.360
<v Speaker 5>was so easy that I would do it so fast,

1:01:33.360 --> 1:01:35.120
<v Speaker 5>and then I would disrupt the rest of the class,

1:01:35.160 --> 1:01:39.720
<v Speaker 5>like makeup. I was start doing makeup, pike your hair

1:01:39.800 --> 1:01:40.400
<v Speaker 5>on the kids.

1:01:40.280 --> 1:01:41.680
<v Speaker 6>Who really needed to be doing the work.

1:01:42.000 --> 1:01:44.040
<v Speaker 5>So the teacher just like, look, you can't be a

1:01:44.040 --> 1:01:46.320
<v Speaker 5>part of the class because you're disrupting. So he just

1:01:46.320 --> 1:01:48.240
<v Speaker 5>gave me a big packet of work to do and

1:01:48.280 --> 1:01:50.560
<v Speaker 5>just turn it in and that would be my math grade.

1:01:50.600 --> 1:01:52.200
<v Speaker 1>So they separated you in the class.

1:01:52.320 --> 1:01:54.800
<v Speaker 6>They did separate me, you know, real time.

1:01:54.800 --> 1:01:56.480
<v Speaker 4>That's what we're going on in private schools. I ain't

1:01:56.520 --> 1:01:56.960
<v Speaker 4>mad at it.

1:01:57.080 --> 1:01:57.960
<v Speaker 1>Oh they cooked the books.

1:01:58.000 --> 1:01:59.080
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's what they're going on.

1:01:59.160 --> 1:01:59.920
<v Speaker 1>In schools.

1:02:00.040 --> 1:02:01.960
<v Speaker 4>They cooked the book. I'm not mad at it at all.

1:02:02.160 --> 1:02:03.560
<v Speaker 4>Probably be teaching anything.

1:02:03.920 --> 1:02:04.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they cooked.

1:02:05.520 --> 1:02:06.200
<v Speaker 6>So that was my.

1:02:09.160 --> 1:02:10.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you was a provo say that.

1:02:12.120 --> 1:02:15.640
<v Speaker 5>Just go with that, all right, tell us you'll proudest

1:02:15.640 --> 1:02:17.400
<v Speaker 5>moment so far as a father.

1:02:18.560 --> 1:02:22.880
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, my kid. I think he won. I

1:02:22.920 --> 1:02:25.640
<v Speaker 1>think he definitely didn't win president. He won vice president

1:02:25.680 --> 1:02:26.880
<v Speaker 1>of his daycare class.

1:02:27.120 --> 1:02:27.800
<v Speaker 6>The three year old.

1:02:28.200 --> 1:02:31.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, populous, Yeah, we want to day care.

1:02:31.280 --> 1:02:32.760
<v Speaker 7>Everybody come in.

1:02:32.840 --> 1:02:35.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah, but he don't know like two of

1:02:35.240 --> 1:02:38.080
<v Speaker 1>the other girls in his class, they're twins. They're his cousins,

1:02:38.440 --> 1:02:40.160
<v Speaker 1>so they be coming up hugging him, and he'd be

1:02:40.200 --> 1:02:42.880
<v Speaker 1>making sure nobody don't mess with them and everything. But yeah,

1:02:42.920 --> 1:02:46.720
<v Speaker 1>probably that and probably you know, one time I said

1:02:47.160 --> 1:02:48.680
<v Speaker 1>I love you and he's like, I love you too

1:02:48.760 --> 1:02:52.280
<v Speaker 1>much and he just walked off and it was funny,

1:02:52.320 --> 1:02:53.760
<v Speaker 1>but it was cute trying.

1:02:53.560 --> 1:02:55.160
<v Speaker 7>To tell you you love him too much.

1:02:56.240 --> 1:02:57.400
<v Speaker 1>And I don't know what he was trying to say.

1:02:57.440 --> 1:02:59.480
<v Speaker 1>But other than that, Yeah, my kid, you know I'm

1:02:59.520 --> 1:03:01.280
<v Speaker 1>bringing in one day, Yeah.

1:03:02.280 --> 1:03:05.520
<v Speaker 5>Because he Yeah, what about you?

1:03:05.840 --> 1:03:07.040
<v Speaker 4>I don't I don't know.

1:03:07.120 --> 1:03:10.600
<v Speaker 10>Like recently, I mean, my kid, I'm constantly like just

1:03:10.640 --> 1:03:13.120
<v Speaker 10>amazing at the little human that he's becoming. So like

1:03:13.200 --> 1:03:15.240
<v Speaker 10>this is his fifth grade year, so you know, he's

1:03:15.280 --> 1:03:16.600
<v Speaker 10>like a senior in elementary school.

1:03:16.600 --> 1:03:18.240
<v Speaker 4>So I think just watching him.

1:03:18.040 --> 1:03:20.240
<v Speaker 10>Be like cool, like he gets out of the car

1:03:20.320 --> 1:03:22.640
<v Speaker 10>cool now, like the way he walks, and just like,

1:03:23.080 --> 1:03:24.440
<v Speaker 10>you know, I'll be messing with it. I'd be like

1:03:24.760 --> 1:03:28.600
<v Speaker 10>Lay's son. You know, he'd be like, man, come on, yeah,

1:03:28.840 --> 1:03:31.080
<v Speaker 10>chill out, man. So it's just I think, just send

1:03:31.120 --> 1:03:33.560
<v Speaker 10>him mature to a little man. We were now I

1:03:33.560 --> 1:03:35.560
<v Speaker 10>will say this, we were at camp. This is gonna

1:03:35.560 --> 1:03:37.560
<v Speaker 10>be like my second Bible reference. I probably I'm not

1:03:37.560 --> 1:03:41.440
<v Speaker 10>a real pastor, but we were in We were in

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<v Speaker 10>there with all the kids in the cabinet and like

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<v Speaker 10>my son was like the only one end of the

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<v Speaker 10>night was like, all right, I'm going to bed.

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<v Speaker 4>Y'all can stay up and play. I'm going to sleep.

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<v Speaker 10>And then it was it was funny because we had

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<v Speaker 10>this Muslim parent there with his son and like my son,

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<v Speaker 10>he's getting in bed and he starts saying his prayers right,

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<v Speaker 10>and it was like they're like, hey, what do you do.

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<v Speaker 10>You know He's like are you reading? And I was

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<v Speaker 10>like no, he's praying like you need to hush. So,

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<v Speaker 10>like just seeing him being willing to do that no

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<v Speaker 10>matter who's around, I was like, okay, look, little do legit.

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<v Speaker 8>So that's definitely a you got a girlfriend talking about girl,

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<v Speaker 8>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what's funny.

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<v Speaker 10>So I was I was at camp and my son

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<v Speaker 10>is clueless to this little girl that likes her, Like

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<v Speaker 10>it was so funny to watch. She's like she likes

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<v Speaker 10>him so much and he is clueless.

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<v Speaker 4>Like I had that. I'm like, I was like, hey,

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<v Speaker 4>who is that?

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<v Speaker 10>And he was like who was like, you know, little

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<v Speaker 10>such said you know that had ran up here, and

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<v Speaker 10>he was just like, oh, that is somebody in my class.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, okay, I was like, y'all talk. He

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<v Speaker 4>was just like no, I mean not really. I was

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<v Speaker 4>just like okay.

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<v Speaker 10>So I was like, I'm gonna leave it alone. Like

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<v Speaker 10>I'm not going I'm not gonna press him. But it's

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<v Speaker 10>so obvious, like she she pops up. She wasn't in

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<v Speaker 10>our group. I kept seeing her, you know, and I'm

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<v Speaker 10>just like, I was like, son, just say hi when

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<v Speaker 10>she comes up to you, just say hi, just say

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<v Speaker 10>her name, just say hi.

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<v Speaker 4>That's all the game.

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<v Speaker 10>I gave him like I do not want him to

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<v Speaker 10>be at the girls, But no, he's not into like

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<v Speaker 10>he's not into understanding the dynamics of that at the

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<v Speaker 10>moment she is, though.

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<v Speaker 1>It's gonna come about six to seventh grade.

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<v Speaker 8>So, Gavin, you said, like nobody told you, So, what's

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<v Speaker 8>some things that you wish you would have known three

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<v Speaker 8>years ago before you.

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<v Speaker 7>Had this baby?

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<v Speaker 1>Yo, that first four months is hell. That is just

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<v Speaker 1>Mike told me to get a rocking chair. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>only advice he gave me. Now, mind, y'all been knowing

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<v Speaker 1>Mike has known me my whole life. The only advice

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<v Speaker 1>he gave me is get you a rocking chair. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, for what y'all needed that I needed at

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<v Speaker 1>that first four months. And you know, my wife went

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<v Speaker 1>through postpartum like bad, right, and so I didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>nothing about that. Like my dad didn't sit me down.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very close to my father. I want y'all think

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<v Speaker 1>he ain't here, he ain't out here. But even that,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know that time, I'm thinking thirty five years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know like what postpartum looked like for those

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<v Speaker 1>men and who had to deal with that. So that

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<v Speaker 1>just coaching, like being there for my wife, understanding that

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, most part was like really tough, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. You know, it was funny enough.

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<v Speaker 1>So my wife is Puerto Rican and I have to

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<v Speaker 1>stress that because all the black women used to come

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<v Speaker 1>up there and be like, oh, you're breastfeeding. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>that's women's way of like shaving each other, like y'all shit,

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<v Speaker 1>And so it's like, oh, are you breastfeeding titties?

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<v Speaker 7>I mean babies hanging upities?

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<v Speaker 1>So when when women be like no, like black women

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<v Speaker 1>just roll their eyes and run off. But so that

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<v Speaker 1>was our thing. We knew she knew she was breastfeeding, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So it was like I was glad because I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>please answer this quick question correctly, right, And we get there,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she couldn't feed past like six weeks, and

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<v Speaker 1>so she got like depressed and she was going through it.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was one of them things where it was like, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta sit down and really focus on my wife

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<v Speaker 1>because if she's not okay, then my baby's not okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to go and do a photo shoot

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<v Speaker 1>and wonder if my kid is okay. You know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. So I wish somebody would have maybe sat

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<v Speaker 1>me down and been like, yo, like get ready for this,

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<v Speaker 1>this could happen, Like just be be patient, like take shifts.

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<v Speaker 1>I think Mike told me that once I can't. He

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<v Speaker 1>saw me, and I was as tired as hell, but

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, oh, y'all got to take ships. Like

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<v Speaker 1>whatever video game you want to play, like start it over,

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<v Speaker 1>start over, You're just gonna be up.

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<v Speaker 4>It's gonna be up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I think I started watching The Wire, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>again and so and then by that time, my kid

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<v Speaker 1>was older. When I say older, he was like a year,

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<v Speaker 1>So me and him started watching The Wire again, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. So it's one of those things

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<v Speaker 1>like just be prepared and watch after your girl, Like

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't like your girl, don't give her kid.

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<v Speaker 1>I stress that. I stressed that a lot. If you

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<v Speaker 1>don't like her, do not give her a child, because.

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<v Speaker 7>It's even, you know, more important than loving.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because when shit gets real, like you gotta take

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<v Speaker 1>care of her and your baby. And so, like I

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<v Speaker 1>tell everybody now, my wife's job matters the most in

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<v Speaker 1>our household because I'm an entrepreneur. So whenever she has

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<v Speaker 1>to do something like my schedule has to adapt to that. So,

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, Shan Cabo, so yo, my working hours

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<v Speaker 1>changed because who gonna watch my kid? Me? So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't like your girl, don't give it. Yeah please?

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<v Speaker 8>As a as a well dad, that's single divorcee. What

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<v Speaker 8>do you think about step dad's Oh gosh, what's the

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<v Speaker 8>comedian that was recently on the Breakfast Club And basically

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<v Speaker 8>he said, if the women ain't acting right, just is

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<v Speaker 8>gonna make another family? That's one thing he said, just gonna.

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<v Speaker 4>Have another baby, don't raise anybody else.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, he did say basically like stepdaddy's is we go

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<v Speaker 3>ultimate simps or I disagree?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I do too, But I mean.

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<v Speaker 10>So it's a lot. It's just it's layered. It's a

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<v Speaker 10>layered on you in there. So I don't think there's

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<v Speaker 10>anything wrong with the woman as a child, right. But

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<v Speaker 10>one of the things that I always stress, and any

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<v Speaker 10>any guy who knows me knows that I say this,

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<v Speaker 10>Like one of my boys married a young lady had

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<v Speaker 10>a kid, and me and he and I have conversations

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<v Speaker 10>and I'd be like, hey, that's not your child, that's

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<v Speaker 10>his child. You need to reach out to him, Like,

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<v Speaker 10>don't go off of what she say, reach out to

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<v Speaker 10>that man because the dude was active. I was like,

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<v Speaker 10>she's going to cause friction between you and him, and

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<v Speaker 10>low key, that's what she wants. Because she didn't want that,

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<v Speaker 10>she wouldn't cause the friction. So he and I, I mean,

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<v Speaker 10>I'm talking, we've had some like real conversations about that.

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<v Speaker 10>Ain't your kid, bro? Now the kid is older now,

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<v Speaker 10>and when he's when he speaks of having children, he says,

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<v Speaker 10>you know, I got three kids, and he's including that child, right,

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<v Speaker 10>But that was after he really understood it, like, yo,

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<v Speaker 10>I got to include this other man and decisions regarding

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<v Speaker 10>his child and that did not come from his wife.

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<v Speaker 4>He married the lady. That wasn't coming from her.

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<v Speaker 10>If he was, if he would have followed, she was

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<v Speaker 10>ready to just discard the dude that you know, created Yeah,

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<v Speaker 10>And I was like, I was like, bro, don't do that.

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<v Speaker 10>I was like, it's your job to reach out to

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<v Speaker 10>the man. So anytime we have these conversations around stepdad

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<v Speaker 10>and I see that the two men aren't conversating, I

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<v Speaker 10>don't like it just being just being frank because now

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<v Speaker 10>we're going through the woman. Why are we going why

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<v Speaker 10>are we going through her? We're two grown men. Why

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<v Speaker 10>are we going through her about anything?

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<v Speaker 6>But there's a lot of egos involved in that. You're like,

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<v Speaker 6>I don't want to talk to that.

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<v Speaker 4>There should be no there should be no man.

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<v Speaker 10>If I married woman with a child, that man should

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<v Speaker 10>not be calling my wife. If I married, if I

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<v Speaker 10>married one with a child, that man should not be

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<v Speaker 10>calling my wife.

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<v Speaker 4>He should be calling he should be calling me. He

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<v Speaker 4>should be calling me.

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<v Speaker 1>He should happen that way. But it's never gonna happen

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<v Speaker 1>that way.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, he should not be calling that is my wife.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but it's never gonna happen.

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<v Speaker 6>But they got kids together.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 10>And that's the problem with stepdad is they have children

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<v Speaker 10>together and there's a gun there, and it's like, yo,

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<v Speaker 10>you have to reshape that.

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<v Speaker 7>But what if everybody got along.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you have a good relationship, y'all have a good relationship,

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<v Speaker 3>Well you.

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<v Speaker 4>Better hope it's not too good.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, that's way ego.

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<v Speaker 4>That's not that's not feel No.

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<v Speaker 10>I'm so I'm practical, and I look at things were practical.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, I mean, because if I have a healthy relationship

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<v Speaker 8>if I have a child.

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<v Speaker 3>Like you, Yeah, your kid's.

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<v Speaker 7>Mom, if.

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<v Speaker 4>She was remarried, I'll talk to the dude.

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<v Speaker 3>You wouldn't talk to her no more. Do y'all talk now?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? We do? We talk now, we talk. We talk often.

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<v Speaker 7>Get married.

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<v Speaker 10>That's his wife, now, that's his Why if it was

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<v Speaker 10>an emergency, sure, but like the casual conversations. No, if

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<v Speaker 10>I if I need, if I need to come grab

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<v Speaker 10>my kid, right, I would, I'd be like, hey, I'm

1:11:25.640 --> 1:11:28.040
<v Speaker 10>coming over. I am going to tell the man I

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<v Speaker 10>am coming to his house before I pop up at

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<v Speaker 10>his house, because no telling what's going on between him

1:11:33.800 --> 1:11:36.479
<v Speaker 10>and his wife. As someone that's been married, there's no

1:11:36.600 --> 1:11:40.000
<v Speaker 10>telling what's going on between him and his wife. So yes,

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<v Speaker 10>I am going to reach out to the husband.

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<v Speaker 6>Respect factor, I get that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, why would we have that?

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<v Speaker 10>Then if we stepdad, why wouldn't we have respect for

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<v Speaker 10>the child's father and the husband? Right most because most

1:11:54.640 --> 1:11:57.120
<v Speaker 10>of the time the ladies aren't going to encourage that.

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<v Speaker 10>That is up to the men. So yes, I'm very

1:11:59.600 --> 1:12:01.920
<v Speaker 10>hard on guys. If you're going to marry a woman

1:12:01.920 --> 1:12:04.519
<v Speaker 10>to have a child, you need to find that child's father.

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<v Speaker 10>I don't care what she told you. I don't care

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<v Speaker 10>what she said. He didn't exists here in jail.

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<v Speaker 4>He's dead. Go to the cemetery. Make sure he's dead.

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<v Speaker 4>Make sure I tell a.

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<v Speaker 8>Woman if y'all if he not active, just tell people anyway,

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<v Speaker 8>are you.

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<v Speaker 3>Getting this new man?

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm like, make sure.

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<v Speaker 12>Everything going well and you're gonna say, oh, you just

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<v Speaker 12>got this randoms, make sure that's what I'm staying there?

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<v Speaker 6>What are yours for young fathers?

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<v Speaker 1>One?

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<v Speaker 10>First, they have said, make sure you put a baby

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<v Speaker 10>and a woman you like, make sure you just don't

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<v Speaker 10>like the sex, because that's where babies come from.

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<v Speaker 1>Marry her.

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<v Speaker 10>Yeah, yeah, And I think that's part of the problem.

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<v Speaker 10>Like if you don't want to marry one, don't don't

1:12:53.120 --> 1:12:55.000
<v Speaker 10>have children with that woman. It's too hard, it's too

1:12:55.040 --> 1:12:56.960
<v Speaker 10>hard to preparent for two homes.

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<v Speaker 4>And I do it. I won't.

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<v Speaker 10>I won't even say I'm doing sucessfully. Like we're treading water,

1:13:01.880 --> 1:13:03.800
<v Speaker 10>you know what I'm saying, Like it's way better to

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<v Speaker 10>be in the home together. There's so many times where

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<v Speaker 10>I'm like, so much better if I was married, not

1:13:09.240 --> 1:13:11.960
<v Speaker 10>even so much like married to her, just in general, Like, yo,

1:13:12.080 --> 1:13:14.800
<v Speaker 10>just be so much better if there was two people here.

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<v Speaker 10>So that's the first thing. Make sure you like the

1:13:16.560 --> 1:13:18.320
<v Speaker 10>woman you know, make sure you want to marry her

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<v Speaker 10>before you ever get don't have babies out of wet low.

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<v Speaker 10>That's the worst way to destroy any future wealth that

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<v Speaker 10>you'll ever make. It's having a baby out of wet loss.

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<v Speaker 10>So that's always the first advice I have the young men.

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<v Speaker 10>And then the second thing is everything that Gavin said.

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<v Speaker 10>No one really tells us. No one is really honest

1:13:34.320 --> 1:13:38.599
<v Speaker 10>with us how harmonal women are, like just in general,

1:13:38.920 --> 1:13:42.320
<v Speaker 10>not like the way that women are. No, we're not

1:13:42.320 --> 1:13:44.919
<v Speaker 10>not the way like as we get older, our tests

1:13:45.000 --> 1:13:48.720
<v Speaker 10>don't actually start waning. We actually become more peaceful to

1:13:48.760 --> 1:13:51.400
<v Speaker 10>deal with as we get older. So but no one's

1:13:51.439 --> 1:13:55.679
<v Speaker 10>really honest with us about when she have a baby, like, yo,

1:13:56.240 --> 1:13:59.320
<v Speaker 10>it ain't even you, bru at all has zero percent

1:13:59.360 --> 1:14:01.360
<v Speaker 10>to do with you. Has er because it's hard not

1:14:01.360 --> 1:14:04.960
<v Speaker 10>to take it personal when it's coming at you, right,

1:14:05.240 --> 1:14:07.479
<v Speaker 10>No one really explains that to men. I think we

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<v Speaker 10>all hope that people have great pregnancies and she doesn't

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<v Speaker 10>experience it. But there's too many conversations amongst men where

1:14:15.000 --> 1:14:18.360
<v Speaker 10>we're like, man, all right, this was wild. You know

1:14:18.400 --> 1:14:21.360
<v Speaker 10>what I'm saying, Like this everything almost fell apart during

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<v Speaker 10>this timeframe right here.

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<v Speaker 5>But you can't imagine how many changes a woman's body

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<v Speaker 5>goes through when she has a child.

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<v Speaker 4>I agree, That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 10>Men need to have the conversation, like we don't really

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<v Speaker 10>have these conversations of like, yo, you know this is

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<v Speaker 10>everything that was going on in my house.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's the problem that men have. It's like, like

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<v Speaker 1>I tell everybody, when you get married, start hanging out

1:14:43.320 --> 1:14:46.320
<v Speaker 1>with married people, Like seriously, that don't mean cut off

1:14:46.360 --> 1:14:48.920
<v Speaker 1>your single friends. You know. It's funny. I have a

1:14:49.040 --> 1:14:51.280
<v Speaker 1>dude and we're not as close anymore. But I remember

1:14:51.280 --> 1:14:53.599
<v Speaker 1>he used to always say, like, yo, when my friends

1:14:53.640 --> 1:14:55.880
<v Speaker 1>get married, I kind of just put space between us.

1:14:56.000 --> 1:14:57.519
<v Speaker 1>And it was like weird to hear him say that

1:14:57.520 --> 1:14:59.400
<v Speaker 1>because I was like, damn, I'm about to get married.

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<v Speaker 7>My friend.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and that's what exactly what happened. But now I'm like,

1:15:05.280 --> 1:15:07.280
<v Speaker 1>all right, cool, it's cool with me. My life is

1:15:07.320 --> 1:15:09.240
<v Speaker 1>better now. But I hang around people that me. Mike

1:15:09.320 --> 1:15:11.000
<v Speaker 1>is probably the only person I hang around. There ain't

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<v Speaker 1>mayor you know what I'm saying, But.

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<v Speaker 7>Mike don't marriage mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, it's a lot. Like Mike is way more mature,

1:15:17.720 --> 1:15:20.639
<v Speaker 1>so it's like, you know, yeah, so when I'm hanging

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<v Speaker 1>out with other people, and Mike has known me forever,

1:15:22.600 --> 1:15:24.479
<v Speaker 1>so he knows what I'm into, what I'm not into,

1:15:24.520 --> 1:15:25.920
<v Speaker 1>where i want to go, where I'm not going to go.

1:15:26.880 --> 1:15:29.599
<v Speaker 1>But that part and then when you have kids start

1:15:29.600 --> 1:15:32.559
<v Speaker 1>hanging around more fathers, like that is shape because when

1:15:32.560 --> 1:15:36.799
<v Speaker 1>we get around, like I told Mike the story yesterday,

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<v Speaker 1>like I put some money in the bank, I sent

1:15:39.360 --> 1:15:42.160
<v Speaker 1>my wife to Costco for some trash bags. She came

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<v Speaker 1>back with four bottles of wine and four bottles of

1:15:44.439 --> 1:15:47.519
<v Speaker 1>champagne in the trash bags. And I'm like, Cis, I

1:15:47.520 --> 1:15:49.200
<v Speaker 1>didn't give you money for this, Like what what are

1:15:49.240 --> 1:15:51.599
<v Speaker 1>you doing? And you in your card for this shit? Right?

1:15:51.960 --> 1:15:53.600
<v Speaker 1>And then I told her that the trash back was

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<v Speaker 1>for my dad. My dad still doesn't have the trash bags.

1:15:56.120 --> 1:15:58.160
<v Speaker 1>She forgot to give them to him. Like but you know,

1:15:59.040 --> 1:16:03.800
<v Speaker 1>if I'm telling my single and I'm like yo, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you know, her joke was, Oh, I'm gonna give

1:16:05.439 --> 1:16:06.800
<v Speaker 1>you the money back for you y'all think I'm getting

1:16:06.800 --> 1:16:09.680
<v Speaker 1>that money back? No, that shit is gone. And so

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm telling people that's not married that or who

1:16:13.120 --> 1:16:16.040
<v Speaker 1>don't have kids that, they're just like they're gonna come

1:16:16.080 --> 1:16:18.840
<v Speaker 1>down on my wife and think whatever. But people that

1:16:19.200 --> 1:16:22.320
<v Speaker 1>are with women, people that are have kids, they're just

1:16:22.320 --> 1:16:24.800
<v Speaker 1>gonna be like, hey, man, like what Mike said, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what women do.

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<v Speaker 4>That's what women do.

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<v Speaker 1>After he left, and it's like I wasn't even mad

1:16:29.360 --> 1:16:31.800
<v Speaker 1>about it. It was just I was just expressing something. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's like that my boy just got married. My boy

1:16:34.760 --> 1:16:38.160
<v Speaker 1>Ryan just got married what three weeks ago? And I

1:16:38.240 --> 1:16:39.880
<v Speaker 1>asked him last week, I'm like, how's it going. It's

1:16:39.880 --> 1:16:43.240
<v Speaker 1>been two weeks? Because she get real when you get

1:16:43.320 --> 1:16:49.800
<v Speaker 1>you say, I do ship change everything? Because like right now,

1:16:49.840 --> 1:16:52.080
<v Speaker 1>we really got skinned in the game. And it's like

1:16:52.720 --> 1:16:54.880
<v Speaker 1>some people do let their guard down. Well not even

1:16:54.880 --> 1:16:58.040
<v Speaker 1>some people, everybody does. Like you know, the hardest thing

1:16:58.040 --> 1:16:59.760
<v Speaker 1>for me and my wife was is when she moved

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<v Speaker 1>in the house with me, And she moved in the

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<v Speaker 1>house with me maybe six seven months before we got married.

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<v Speaker 1>That would have happened the day we got married. And

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't saying shack up. That would have happened the

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<v Speaker 1>day we got married. We would have we would have

1:17:11.560 --> 1:17:15.479
<v Speaker 1>made it, or if we wasn't engaged together first. Yeah,

1:17:15.520 --> 1:17:18.439
<v Speaker 1>I've changed my stance on that. Yeah, but just don't

1:17:18.640 --> 1:17:21.519
<v Speaker 1>don't get her pregnant, broy you're not.

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<v Speaker 5>Married, but it's hard to do that living in the

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<v Speaker 5>same house, it's right next to you.

1:17:28.840 --> 1:17:30.800
<v Speaker 7>If a woman doesn't, like get pregnant, you don't have to.

1:17:32.280 --> 1:17:33.360
<v Speaker 1>They're gonna kick you.

1:17:33.600 --> 1:17:36.519
<v Speaker 8>All of us are here from the pull out method.

1:17:36.680 --> 1:17:37.559
<v Speaker 8>About at least.

1:17:37.439 --> 1:17:42.120
<v Speaker 6>Two of us sitting on this count here because somebody didn't.

1:17:46.080 --> 1:17:48.840
<v Speaker 1>Sure and it's tough, like, but me and my wife,

1:17:48.840 --> 1:17:50.639
<v Speaker 1>we wouldn't have made it. We got a look when

1:17:50.680 --> 1:17:52.800
<v Speaker 1>the day she moved in, I was fussing at her mom.

1:17:52.880 --> 1:17:56.120
<v Speaker 1>I was fussing at her I'm like And then probably

1:17:56.160 --> 1:17:57.760
<v Speaker 1>two weeks later we had to like have a sit

1:17:57.800 --> 1:17:59.479
<v Speaker 1>down because we was like, yo, we might not make

1:17:59.520 --> 1:18:02.080
<v Speaker 1>it to the wedding day. And then it was a

1:18:02.080 --> 1:18:06.040
<v Speaker 1>lot of me. It was a I was changed, Yeah,

1:18:06.040 --> 1:18:08.080
<v Speaker 1>because she came to my house. Yeah, and I had

1:18:08.120 --> 1:18:10.280
<v Speaker 1>to I had to say, this ain't my house no more,

1:18:10.360 --> 1:18:14.760
<v Speaker 1>this is her house. This is our home. Like it's cool, cool,

1:18:14.800 --> 1:18:17.880
<v Speaker 1>you bought it, your name on everything, You're not not anymore.

1:18:17.880 --> 1:18:20.240
<v Speaker 1>If you want to be happy, like you gotta communicate.

1:18:20.320 --> 1:18:22.600
<v Speaker 1>A lot of people don't communicate. But going back to

1:18:22.600 --> 1:18:25.720
<v Speaker 1>what Mike said, like we got to teach men that hey,

1:18:25.840 --> 1:18:28.720
<v Speaker 1>women are this way and it's okay, Like you're not

1:18:28.760 --> 1:18:31.200
<v Speaker 1>going through something that's just so that ain't never happened.

1:18:31.240 --> 1:18:32.040
<v Speaker 4>I feel like it's just you.

1:18:32.479 --> 1:18:35.679
<v Speaker 10>Yeah, like nobody else has dealt with this, is dealing

1:18:35.720 --> 1:18:37.759
<v Speaker 10>with this, and it's like that's not the case.

1:18:37.520 --> 1:18:39.080
<v Speaker 1>Because and I ain't trying to be funny, but like

1:18:39.120 --> 1:18:41.040
<v Speaker 1>it ain't like the single moms is like sitting their

1:18:41.120 --> 1:18:42.720
<v Speaker 1>sons down and say, hey, this is how women are.

1:18:43.439 --> 1:18:45.000
<v Speaker 1>They act like they do are women?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, like maybe that's another episode.

1:18:49.760 --> 1:18:53.240
<v Speaker 6>I ain't got enough time for that. I just want

1:18:53.280 --> 1:18:53.719
<v Speaker 6>to know.

1:18:56.280 --> 1:18:57.960
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that love women.

1:18:58.040 --> 1:19:00.519
<v Speaker 10>We we think that you're angels back and when we

1:19:00.640 --> 1:19:05.320
<v Speaker 10>find out that y'all are not, that is earth shatterings.

1:19:04.320 --> 1:19:07.960
<v Speaker 7>And what way like doing something bad or not cleaning up?

1:19:08.120 --> 1:19:10.519
<v Speaker 10>No, no, no, it's just just in general, just like

1:19:10.960 --> 1:19:15.200
<v Speaker 10>we really see y'all as angelic beings and y'all are.

1:19:15.160 --> 1:19:22.160
<v Speaker 6>Not because nasty ain't you don't know y'all still.

1:19:21.960 --> 1:19:28.760
<v Speaker 4>Have babies, you just yeah, baby, yeah, But as a

1:19:28.840 --> 1:19:29.479
<v Speaker 4>dude in college.

1:19:29.560 --> 1:19:31.120
<v Speaker 1>Like, yo, when the first time you found out your

1:19:31.200 --> 1:19:34.639
<v Speaker 1>girl was sleeping with everybody, that should be hurtful.

1:19:34.760 --> 1:19:37.200
<v Speaker 4>You'd be like the first time man is Yeah, it's

1:19:37.479 --> 1:19:38.200
<v Speaker 4>the nature of one.

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<v Speaker 1>First time I go to college and nature of a

1:19:40.520 --> 1:19:44.040
<v Speaker 1>woman in college. My girl come to my room and

1:19:44.120 --> 1:19:47.920
<v Speaker 1>then my roommates started laughing. I'm like, he was like, yo,

1:19:48.040 --> 1:19:50.640
<v Speaker 1>she jumped from Florida, Florida, she got and I was

1:19:50.720 --> 1:19:51.200
<v Speaker 1>your girl.

1:19:51.439 --> 1:19:52.120
<v Speaker 4>Yeah it was my girl.

1:19:52.200 --> 1:19:53.040
<v Speaker 1>She ain't my girl, No, mother.

1:19:54.640 --> 1:19:59.160
<v Speaker 6>Girl was the past around she was, isn't it?

1:20:01.760 --> 1:20:07.160
<v Speaker 4>That's how they get there? Everybody taking this time. I

1:20:07.200 --> 1:20:08.960
<v Speaker 4>ain't know what I was doing. She was showing me.

1:20:11.640 --> 1:20:12.840
<v Speaker 4>Dudes be waiting their turn.

1:20:13.160 --> 1:20:17.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so like women, they're good. Did you find that

1:20:17.080 --> 1:20:17.400
<v Speaker 1>your girl?

1:20:18.640 --> 1:20:20.479
<v Speaker 3>Is that the worst part though, just finding out that

1:20:20.600 --> 1:20:22.080
<v Speaker 3>she's experienced.

1:20:21.520 --> 1:20:24.360
<v Speaker 10>Well not not just experience, but it is also it's like,

1:20:24.560 --> 1:20:27.320
<v Speaker 10>you know the attitudes, right that that you have to

1:20:27.360 --> 1:20:27.640
<v Speaker 10>deal with.

1:20:28.040 --> 1:20:31.160
<v Speaker 7>Men not do you not ever have the poking Women

1:20:31.439 --> 1:20:31.800
<v Speaker 7>said that.

1:20:32.320 --> 1:20:35.720
<v Speaker 10>Men men don't have this aura of not having attitudes.

1:20:35.760 --> 1:20:38.920
<v Speaker 10>Men don't have this aura of not being over the top.

1:20:39.000 --> 1:20:41.599
<v Speaker 10>That's men's aura, right, Like it's different for men when

1:20:41.640 --> 1:20:43.559
<v Speaker 10>you find out a man, it's sweet and kind and caring.

1:20:43.600 --> 1:20:45.200
<v Speaker 10>You be like, oh damn, Like I know he was

1:20:45.360 --> 1:20:48.200
<v Speaker 10>just romantic, you know. But for women it's the opposite.

1:20:48.240 --> 1:20:50.439
<v Speaker 10>We think y'all are, and then when y'all not, that's

1:20:50.560 --> 1:20:52.719
<v Speaker 10>what kind of knocks us out, like whoa.

1:20:52.960 --> 1:20:53.679
<v Speaker 1>And it's just a shot.

1:20:53.760 --> 1:20:55.800
<v Speaker 4>Expect it's just a shot. We look, we still love

1:20:55.880 --> 1:20:56.679
<v Speaker 4>when we're human.

1:20:56.840 --> 1:20:58.000
<v Speaker 7>That's what y'all be forgetting.

1:20:58.080 --> 1:20:59.639
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, because we think you are angels.

1:20:59.680 --> 1:21:04.000
<v Speaker 8>That's what I am, though I am definitely from godperriting

1:21:04.080 --> 1:21:10.720
<v Speaker 8>all energy. So I did not say I don't have

1:21:10.880 --> 1:21:13.600
<v Speaker 8>any man come and shoot you in particular. What I

1:21:13.760 --> 1:21:16.439
<v Speaker 8>did say is I like nigga is that and knock

1:21:16.479 --> 1:21:17.760
<v Speaker 8>all this ship over if need be?

1:21:18.600 --> 1:21:22.479
<v Speaker 6>That is what I like. Easy way to say this.

1:21:22.600 --> 1:21:30.519
<v Speaker 5>But all right, we have a segment on our show,

1:21:30.600 --> 1:21:33.040
<v Speaker 5>this is gonna close this out called SIMP series.

1:21:33.720 --> 1:21:37.000
<v Speaker 4>SIMP series, and you gotta share.

1:21:36.840 --> 1:21:39.040
<v Speaker 5>A time that you got played by the well I

1:21:39.080 --> 1:21:41.760
<v Speaker 5>feel like you already don't, yes, so you can tell

1:21:41.840 --> 1:21:44.160
<v Speaker 5>us a story about when you got played by the opposite.

1:21:44.400 --> 1:21:46.840
<v Speaker 1>Oh man, when I got played by the opposite, Yo,

1:21:47.240 --> 1:21:49.840
<v Speaker 1>why he's thinking about it? You got enough plenty.

1:21:51.040 --> 1:21:52.800
<v Speaker 4>I'm trying to make the story that I can tell.

1:21:53.200 --> 1:21:53.400
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

1:21:53.439 --> 1:21:57.679
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So we at we're doing something. We at church. Sorry,

1:21:58.080 --> 1:22:01.439
<v Speaker 1>and so we there and we're leaving right, So everybody's like, yo,

1:22:01.479 --> 1:22:03.240
<v Speaker 1>we're going here to eat at a restaurant. Were going

1:22:03.280 --> 1:22:06.320
<v Speaker 1>to chill. And so I'm like all right, bet so

1:22:06.439 --> 1:22:09.080
<v Speaker 1>we going there. Everybody's sitting down, and so my short

1:22:09.280 --> 1:22:10.720
<v Speaker 1>is like, yo, I'll be right back. I gotta go

1:22:10.800 --> 1:22:13.880
<v Speaker 1>pee cool let her out. We all laughing. I'm looking down.

1:22:13.920 --> 1:22:16.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, damn, it's been five minutes, ten minutes. And

1:22:16.280 --> 1:22:18.000
<v Speaker 1>where he's eating at. I'm like, this ain't the place

1:22:18.040 --> 1:22:18.479
<v Speaker 1>you shit at.

1:22:18.800 --> 1:22:19.479
<v Speaker 6>Go to corral.

1:22:19.680 --> 1:22:22.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was down here. I was like, shit here.

1:22:22.600 --> 1:22:25.400
<v Speaker 1>And then I'm looking and no.

1:22:25.479 --> 1:22:26.599
<v Speaker 3>First ill go to corral.

1:22:26.680 --> 1:22:27.840
<v Speaker 6>It's gonna make you shit dwn.

1:22:29.320 --> 1:22:32.880
<v Speaker 1>And so my boy is like looking down and I'm

1:22:32.920 --> 1:22:35.000
<v Speaker 1>like the energy just changed. I'm like, what the fuck

1:22:35.120 --> 1:22:38.360
<v Speaker 1>is going on? And my boy just looks down and

1:22:38.479 --> 1:22:41.840
<v Speaker 1>then so I'm like whatever, like cool, And so Shorty

1:22:41.880 --> 1:22:43.840
<v Speaker 1>comes back. It's been like twenty thirty minutes. I'm like,

1:22:43.880 --> 1:22:46.160
<v Speaker 1>you good, you throwing up some shit? She was like nah,

1:22:46.160 --> 1:22:50.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm good, I'm good, and Shorty like sister just starts

1:22:50.280 --> 1:22:52.240
<v Speaker 1>crying at the tables. I'm like, what the fuck is

1:22:52.280 --> 1:22:53.679
<v Speaker 1>going on? Did I miss something?

1:22:54.280 --> 1:22:54.439
<v Speaker 6>You know?

1:22:54.479 --> 1:22:57.080
<v Speaker 1>I Mike said his son, don't know that some girl

1:22:57.160 --> 1:23:00.280
<v Speaker 1>like I don't be seeing shit. So I'm like whatever.

1:23:00.640 --> 1:23:02.800
<v Speaker 1>So all the girls get up from the table and leave,

1:23:03.760 --> 1:23:05.800
<v Speaker 1>and my boy look at me. He go, Yo. She

1:23:05.880 --> 1:23:07.200
<v Speaker 1>been in the car with her nigga for like the

1:23:07.400 --> 1:23:12.200
<v Speaker 1>last thirty minutes, and I was like, I said, Yo, yeah,

1:23:12.320 --> 1:23:14.360
<v Speaker 1>I gotta go home. I just gotta go. We ain't

1:23:14.400 --> 1:23:15.400
<v Speaker 1>talk since, but it's cool.

1:23:16.160 --> 1:23:17.280
<v Speaker 7>So she was fucked up.

1:23:17.479 --> 1:23:18.400
<v Speaker 6>You paid for her dinner.

1:23:19.080 --> 1:23:20.920
<v Speaker 1>Actually, did you know what I'm saying? That's some I

1:23:20.960 --> 1:23:21.880
<v Speaker 1>don't know if that's a SIMP.

1:23:23.120 --> 1:23:25.000
<v Speaker 4>I mean he was. He was already halfway in and

1:23:25.080 --> 1:23:25.879
<v Speaker 4>then I joined.

1:23:25.680 --> 1:23:27.200
<v Speaker 1>Free band game, Shut up the future.

1:23:28.800 --> 1:23:32.240
<v Speaker 4>Let's see a best SIMP story or not the best?

1:23:33.560 --> 1:23:33.680
<v Speaker 6>Uh?

1:23:34.560 --> 1:23:36.640
<v Speaker 10>The girl that I dated that I thought that I

1:23:36.640 --> 1:23:39.960
<v Speaker 10>would have married. So I was in my twenties. Her

1:23:40.120 --> 1:23:43.120
<v Speaker 10>dad and mom was going through a divorce, so like

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<v Speaker 10>dad basically stopped paying her car. Her car got repossessed,

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<v Speaker 10>so I actually like we went and got a car

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<v Speaker 10>and I co signed on the car for her.

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<v Speaker 12>Man.

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<v Speaker 10>Yeah, we broke you know, that's simp shit. And we

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<v Speaker 10>broke up probably I don't know, maybe a year later,

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<v Speaker 10>and guess what she let the car do get repossessed.

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<v Speaker 6>Credit.

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<v Speaker 10>Yeah, yeah, so I was I was in my young

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<v Speaker 10>twins at that time. And you know when I tell you,

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<v Speaker 10>like that created a lot of rules from that point forward.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, that girl up for the rest of us

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<v Speaker 6>who needed a car.

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<v Speaker 1>The lessons you learned out everybody.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, when I tell you that, he didn't take

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<v Speaker 4>another bits to go to corn.

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<v Speaker 6>A lot. So.

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<v Speaker 10>But I mean I wasn't mad at it then, was

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<v Speaker 10>not mad at it now. But that's probably that's probably

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<v Speaker 10>the stupidest thing.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, that's a good one.

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<v Speaker 4>I got.

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<v Speaker 10>I got another couple married though it was a guy,

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<v Speaker 10>and she was like, oh it was my best friend,

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<v Speaker 10>you know whatever. You know, like we weren't dating, like

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<v Speaker 10>she was just she was in Atlanta. I been Atlanta

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<v Speaker 10>all the time. So I ended up like just crashing

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<v Speaker 10>into the place. And her quote unquote best friend like

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<v Speaker 10>really didn't like he. I don't think he liked her

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<v Speaker 10>because she was experienced and he wasn't. He knew all

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<v Speaker 10>he knew all the stories. I knew a lot of us.

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<v Speaker 10>I knew he knew all of him. So so because

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<v Speaker 10>he and I was friends before, we start kicking it.

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<v Speaker 10>And like, long story short, like they didn't have like

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<v Speaker 10>a family event and he was there or whatever. So

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<v Speaker 10>he sees me there with you know, the young lady,

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<v Speaker 10>and you know, like I'm a lover of man, like

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<v Speaker 10>I'm a love boy, right, so I'm like, you know,

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<v Speaker 10>taking care of her, kicking it with the family, all this.

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<v Speaker 4>Stuff that he seeth it, I mean just see it,

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm just like, you know, so I walk up

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm like, yo, what's up with your boy?

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<v Speaker 6>You know? He good?

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<v Speaker 4>She was like no, no, he was good.

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<v Speaker 10>So the next day we were supposed to I already

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<v Speaker 10>knew what time it was. Next day, like they were

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<v Speaker 10>like a family breakfast and she was like are you going?

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like it's like nah.

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<v Speaker 10>I was like I want you and your friend have

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<v Speaker 10>a good time. So I was like I'm gonna stay here,

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<v Speaker 10>like he's not gonna enjoin me being there. But long

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<v Speaker 10>story short, they end up getting married. I could tell that,

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<v Speaker 10>like because she and I were just fun. It's just

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<v Speaker 10>a situationship. But I could tell like when he saw

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<v Speaker 10>somebody else taking care of it. He was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 10>putting that on him. Yeah, he was like, man, nah,

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<v Speaker 10>I need and they are married now. Yeah, so thank

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<v Speaker 10>you for letting me date your girlfriends.

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<v Speaker 8>So if you enjoy this episode and these fabulous black

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