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Speaker 4: What's talk talk?

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Speaker 5: You're just too apologetically black women with an opinion?

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Speaker 6: Who talks back?

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Speaker 7: What's up, y'all?

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Speaker 3: It's your girl, a j holiday. What's up, Tam Damn?

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Speaker 6: What's up girl? How you doing?

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Speaker 3: I'm good, Hey, y'all.

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Speaker 5: I love y'all. Once again, thank y'all for tuning in.

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Speaker 5: I missed y'all.

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Speaker 6: Hey, how was your little streak girl?

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Speaker 3: You got your new little streak girl?

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Speaker 5: You know, I had to put a little blonde in

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Speaker 5: there because I was feeling like having fun and they

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Speaker 5: say blondes have more fun, and I'm out and I've

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Speaker 5: been outside.

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Speaker 3: In New York having with them Brooklyn cats.

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Speaker 5: Now, I mean I've been hanging out with some queens

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Speaker 5: niggas in Brooklyn. Oh, it's a Brooklyn niggas. Shout out

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Speaker 5: to my homegirl, Tina. Tina came outside last night.

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Speaker 3: Tina.

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Speaker 5: Uh, you was liting this weekend. Girvanta, Oh uh, Gravonta

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Speaker 5: had a fight. But we're gonna talk about in a minute.

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Speaker 5: Let's talk about your weekend.

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Speaker 6: What'd you do?

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Speaker 7: My weekend was great.

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Speaker 8: I told you I was going to Miami this weekend,

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Speaker 8: so I did attend the premiere for July seven is

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Speaker 8: the name of the movie, and it was really good.

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Speaker 8: It's it's about the Haitian assassination of the Haitian president. So,

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Speaker 8: I mean, I know the story when when when the

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Speaker 8: president was actually assassinated, I did a whole went down

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Speaker 8: a super rabbit hole, see what the fuck was going on?

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Speaker 8: And this was actually during COVID, so a lot of

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Speaker 8: people just not paying attention to world events because it's

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Speaker 8: just everything was in fucking shambles at the time, right,

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Speaker 8: So yeah, it was a really good event, turn out

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Speaker 8: beautiful black people. It was really black tie, okay, you

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Speaker 8: know sometimes to be like black tie, like motherfucker's gonna

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Speaker 8: have girls. Took two dresses. The dress I wanted to wear.

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Speaker 8: I tried to lose ten pounds in a week. It

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Speaker 8: didn't work.

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Speaker 7: That's five though, But it.

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Speaker 3: Just wasn't enough. And I'm keep it my fucking dress

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Speaker 3: because it sold out.

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Speaker 6: Online and you're gonna get that other fire I am.

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Speaker 8: They could at least put at a little lastic down

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Speaker 8: at the leg part that's where it was tight at

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Speaker 3: Like the little train. Yeah, I would have been just

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Speaker 3: sitting there uncomfortable in the little.

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Speaker 6: As that you wore. You should posted a picture on

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Speaker 6: your page.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, and shout up to my homegirl, Dorothy Robinson. Okay,

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Speaker 8: she was in her big executive producer bag on this show.

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Speaker 8: This is the first time I saw my Saint Louis

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Speaker 8: friends chih this weekend since I left Saint Louis in

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Speaker 8: twenty fifteen.

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Speaker 3: That had a good time that we did the casinos.

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Speaker 8: Lost three hundred, two hundred and thirty dollars in the

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Speaker 8: casino on the slot machine in ten minutes, and I'm

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Speaker 8: still regretting that today because I could have bought some

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Speaker 8: stock options with them two hundred and thirty dollars and

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Speaker 8: slipped it right quick. I got having a good time. Yeah,

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Speaker 8: I just been all over New York eating. I ain't

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Speaker 8: gonna never love no weight like this.

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Speaker 3: Don't say never bit.

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Speaker 6: Eating like this.

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Speaker 4: I won't.

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Speaker 6: But I had trainy food for the first time.

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Speaker 5: Trinidaddyans is that how you said, Trinidadian's shout out to

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Speaker 5: them that food. I had this thing called a shrimp

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Speaker 5: and goat doubles. My god, it's called doubles, and it's

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Speaker 5: like this joey No, it's kind of like this doe

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Speaker 5: kind of it tastes like some doe bread that you

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Speaker 5: would get from the fair, or something like a peta.

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Speaker 3: The dumb Lades, Oh, like festival like from Jamaica or

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Speaker 3: like it.

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Speaker 6: Kind of tastes. Yeah, it kind of tastes like that.

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Speaker 5: A little bit had like chickpeas and all kinds of

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Speaker 5: stuff on the inside, and then you choose your topic.

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Speaker 6: Oh my god, it was so good.

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Speaker 5: Patty kind kinda kind of it would give something like that, right,

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Speaker 5: but it was so good. I had that from this

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Speaker 5: restaurant called Triny City, and queen shout out to Treney City.

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Speaker 5: I will be back. Yes, I just been eating and

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Speaker 5: then I went to this bar call.

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Speaker 6: Charm Bar.

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Speaker 5: Went there last night, so I'm just hanging out a

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Speaker 5: little bit. Yeah, it's a nice little bar. Is A

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Speaker 5: lot of these places in New York are real tiny,

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Speaker 5: you know. It's not a lot of spaces easy. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: but it was a cool vibe. It was so cold,

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Speaker 5: like twenty something degrees last night, so it was for

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Speaker 5: a reason.

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Speaker 6: But anytime I get a reason to pull out a

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Speaker 6: fur coat, I'm gonna do it. So I do it.

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Speaker 3: That's the only place you're gonna pull that for a

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Speaker 5: Yeah, no, I would pull it out in Charlotte if

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Speaker 5: it gets below if there's a three in front of

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Speaker 5: the temperature, I'm wanna pull out a fur coat.

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Speaker 3: You remember Vlad right, yeah? Yeah, did you?

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Speaker 6: He asked me to do some hosting there, so we're

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Speaker 6: supposed to have a conversation about me doing a little

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Speaker 6: hosting that Dia.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to go there.

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Speaker 8: And he's telling me to come to New York and

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Speaker 8: go and I'm like, I am just not a New

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Speaker 8: York girl. And it has to be warm outside. I'll

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Speaker 8: definitely come in April or May. I cannot do the

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Speaker 8: cold New York hole. And they was talking about some

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Speaker 8: arctic weather last week.

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Speaker 6: Who yeah, that's what now. Yeah. But other than that,

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Speaker 6: it's cool. Let's get in the sands.

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Speaker 5: Let's talk about Girvanta, because that happened over the weekend

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Speaker 5: two here in New York at the Barclays Center. There

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Speaker 5: was a big fight and Givanta what's his name, Davis?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, he took a knee during the fight. He took

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Speaker 6: a knee during the fight.

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Speaker 3: And did you watch the fight?

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Speaker 8: I missed it because by the end of the the

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Speaker 8: premiretive fight was over.

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Speaker 5: I did not watch the fight. I was so on Saturday.

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Speaker 6: I was in Charlotte.

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Speaker 5: I got back to New York on Sunday morning, so

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Speaker 5: I missed it. I was trying to get back in time,

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Speaker 5: but I had to handle business, so I couldn't get back,

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Speaker 5: so I did not watch it. But I saw the

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Speaker 5: cliff on the shade room at the end where he

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Speaker 5: was like his hair. Grease had come down into his

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Speaker 5: eyes and that's why he took a knee.

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Speaker 9: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Voluntarily took a knee midway through this fight.

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Speaker 4: It was not ruled a knockdown.

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Speaker 10: What happened to me, I just got my had done

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Speaker 10: two days ago, and she picked grease in my ship.

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Speaker 1: So the ship was like you know, like when you

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Speaker 1: sweating and things like that, and the grease come in

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Speaker 1: my face.

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Speaker 3: It burnt my eyes.

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Speaker 1: Shit, Now, why y'all boring like I'm saying bullshit.

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Speaker 3: Like that nigga got knocked down.

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Speaker 8: That nigga ain't take no me hurt it.

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Speaker 6: I got hit.

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Speaker 3: That nigga got to cut it out.

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Speaker 5: Now he stopped his nigga was hurting right. But it

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Speaker 5: was a draw, So they're gonna fight again. So the

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Speaker 5: next one, I want to go to Yeah.

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Speaker 8: So I saw that the hairstylace came out. It was like, boy,

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Speaker 8: that's some bullshit. I did your hair on Wednesday. It's Saturday.

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Speaker 8: Ain't no excuse for me to be slipping sliding in

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Speaker 8: the ring. He got knocked on his knees a little bit,

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Speaker 8: you know.

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Speaker 3: He the guy who he fought.

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Speaker 8: They apparently grew up together. They probably grew up sparring,

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Speaker 8: so they they if anybody knows his techniques, is this nigga?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's not, it's not.

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Speaker 5: He didn't even get knocked on his mond. He took

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Speaker 5: a knee. You can see he took a knee, you know,

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Speaker 5: like Paul's hold on Paul's Wait a minute, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Let me gather because I just got hit hard.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, let me gather. That's what really happened. He

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Speaker 6: had to gather his thoughts. Yeah, he tried to say

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Speaker 6: face with their hairstyle.

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Speaker 4: Ship.

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Speaker 3: But so it's gonna it's a draw.

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Speaker 8: They're gonna to do another fight and get that check

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Speaker 8: at period mad at it.

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Speaker 6: No, not that they're gonna go back to Vegas, because

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Speaker 6: it was in New York this time. Maybe they'll know.

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Speaker 8: I said, they're gonna get that check but Vegas runs

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Speaker 8: all sports, That's what I mean.

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Speaker 3: Oh you got that check out of Vegas. Yeah yeah,

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Speaker 5: And so I wonder how that works because when is

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Speaker 5: it a draw, does everybody get paid or does nobody

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Speaker 5: pay out? I think everybody gets paid out.

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Speaker 8: They still gotta make I mean, get money for doing

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Speaker 8: putting the show on because people still bought tickets. So

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Speaker 8: I don't know if they maybe get a lesser amount.

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Speaker 8: I don't know how that works. Mmmm mmm, maybe they

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Speaker 8: just finessed. They finessed the plug right quick. Saturday girl,

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Speaker 8: So Jennifer, Jennifer Williams, y'all remember Jennifer Williams from Basketball Wives.

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Speaker 8: This girl just got married to this nigga, Christian Gold. Okay,

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Speaker 8: I don't even believe that's his last name. And I

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Speaker 8: heard that she was trying to actually take on that

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Speaker 8: life scene too, to be Jennifer Gold. But do you

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Speaker 8: think she's possibly a scammer herself, because now he's in

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Speaker 8: the news for scamming some people in some type of

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Speaker 8: Ponzi scheme out of one hundred and twenty thousand dollars.

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Speaker 8: And the article is kind of weird because it says

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Speaker 8: he's violated the Georgia Rico Act. But then on the

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Speaker 8: other hand, it's saying that it's a class action lawsuit

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Speaker 8: from a group of people, so I don't know it,

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Speaker 8: says Christian gold aka Christian Walden, his real name is

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Speaker 8: again in legal hot water. This week, twenty one people

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Speaker 8: file a lawsuit against against Kristen in Atlanta area court

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Speaker 8: with multiple allegations. The various plaintiffs alleged Christen solicitated money

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Speaker 8: from each one of the pretense excuse me for each

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Speaker 8: one of them, under the pretense of an investment opportunity. However,

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Speaker 8: they claim Christian Field to invest their money and engage

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Speaker 8: Yeah, the people who usually come in on the back

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Speaker 8: Do you think googling is now a part of dating,

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Speaker 8: No because people might call you a hater, you know

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Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: So if it sounds right to her, I don't want

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Speaker 5: Well, I guess it depends on them because you have

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Speaker 6: You really do. So it just depends on how close

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Speaker 8: Yeah, and see that's what I was saying on that

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Speaker 5: But you know what, I think Jennifer Williams, based on

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Speaker 8: But just say you like scammers so your friends can

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Speaker 3: I don't don't believe do these things?

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Speaker 8: Those are smart men, Like who could figure out how

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Speaker 3: Off the computer? Like yeah, I don't think, not saying

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Speaker 6: But I don't think she likes scammers.

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Speaker 5: I think she likes being spoiled, and samers can spoil

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Speaker 10: You know, what was.

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Speaker 3: That that popped the balloon?

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Speaker 8: Did you see that video with a pop the balloon

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Speaker 8: But he basically was like how much money you make?

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Speaker 8: The doctor is like, we're not about to like compare

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Speaker 5: His money is illegal. That's a stereotype too. We don't

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. No, he looks like can scammers

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Speaker 5: But I mean I know, uh, doctors who were chain

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Speaker 8: Know, big ones like big name plates and.

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Speaker 3: The spikes on them.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well they are. They're some out there that are

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Speaker 3: Yeah me, good body.

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Speaker 6: But yeah, Jennifer, we hope you find love that last without.

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Speaker 8: I hope that for everybody listening. Honestly, I don't think

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Speaker 6: Down on that thirty one. He's young too.

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Speaker 3: No, they married.

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Speaker 8: Last caught him in Europe on Jennifer's ig account. He

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Speaker 5: Now, Jennifer, I don't know, baby, sound like sounds like

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Speaker 6: Honestly.

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Speaker 8: through your kids. Also, you won't have to make another one.

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Speaker 3: Just save save your kid.

445
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Speaker 6: Yeah. I'm just trying to think.

446
00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:57,240
Speaker 5: Like if I was in the ocean and it was like, uh,

447
00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:03,440
Speaker 5: somebody's baby, I don't know this, Uh, like a seven

448
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,160
Speaker 5: year old little white boy drowning over on one side

449
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 5: and my sister next to me drowning.

450
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Speaker 6: Who would I save? I don't know. I might say

451
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Speaker 6: my sister. I don't know, I don't know.

452
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Speaker 5: My instinct would be to grab my sister. I think

453
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:27,840
Speaker 5: it might be to grab my sister before this stranger's kid.

454
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Speaker 5: If we're like, honestly, if I'm being quite honest, in

455
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Speaker 5: that scenario, would I think to go over and say

456
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Speaker 5: this child that I don't know versus my sister right

457
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Speaker 5: next to me. My instinct with all the because I

458
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:42,920
Speaker 5: love her, you know, I.

459
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Speaker 8: Have a connection with her, and that's what I'm saying

460
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Speaker 8: about the child, So I would understand that in that moment.

461
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Speaker 8: But we add in all these we keep pushing the

462
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Speaker 8: envelope with the.

463
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Speaker 3: Changing because I'm like, of course I'm going for my sister.

464
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Speaker 5: Yeah, because I said any child, it would be to

465
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Speaker 5: save any child first, But that's not true.

466
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Speaker 3: Depending on what.

467
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Speaker 8: Okay, I'll save any child depending on what adult was

468
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 8: out there. If it's my mama and the child, then

469
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Speaker 8: you had a child might have to die if I

470
00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 8: don't know the kid, right, but we're talking about your

471
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Speaker 8: own kid.

472
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Speaker 6: Yeah, that pushed out of your vagina.

473
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, but now they have that conversation about, uh, who

474
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:23,960
Speaker 5: gets to eat first at the table, and people will

475
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 5: be like, oh, my husband, my man eats before the kids.

476
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Speaker 8: That's how I agree, that's how I yeah, that's how

477
00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:34,800
Speaker 8: I steak plate before us first.

478
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Speaker 6: Everybody this. And it is only a couple of moments

479
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Speaker 6: that you're gonna wait on your plate.

480
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Speaker 1: You know.

481
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Speaker 5: It's not like he gets to eat and y'all gonna

482
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Speaker 5: eat tomorrow. No, we're eating all together.

483
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Speaker 6: He just is surf first, because this is he's the king.

484
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,639
Speaker 5: Of this castle right here, and he bought the steak,

485
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:53,480
Speaker 5: and he provides, and he provides, right. So, but some

486
00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 5: people be like, why wouldn't you feed your kids first?

487
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:57,239
Speaker 5: They need sustenance.

488
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Speaker 9: Because they ain't fucking drowning and they ain't in here,

489
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:05,159
Speaker 9: and they ain't they gonna die in five minutes me

490
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,919
Speaker 9: feeding their father first, you know what I'm saying. I

491
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 9: don't even understand why that's even a discussion. It's like

492
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 9: black people be making up the weirdest ass scenarios to

493
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:15,720
Speaker 9: kind of pin women and men against.

494
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Speaker 3: Each other, Like why is that even a discussion? Whatever

495
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:20,880
Speaker 3: y'all do in y'all house, like your husband might make

496
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Speaker 3: a plate for the kids first. You know what I'm saying.

497
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Speaker 3: It's not that he doesn't think his wife should eat first,

498
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Speaker 3: you know.

499
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Speaker 8: But you niggas who'll be doing that boyfriend, the broke

500
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:35,159
Speaker 8: boyfriend hug standing behind the girl while she at the

501
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 8: grocery store pulling out her debit card. You the niggas

502
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 8: who'll be screaming, y'all want y'all plate before the churn,

503
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Speaker 8: Ain't it?

504
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Speaker 6: That's so funny because I.

505
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Speaker 5: Will, I told y'all, went to that spot Triney City.

506
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 5: He came and picked me up in the airport, right,

507
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:54,360
Speaker 5: so I was like, I'll treat you know, I got it.

508
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 5: It was nineteen dollars for both of our food, and

509
00:24:57,080 --> 00:24:58,960
Speaker 5: when I was paying for it, he's stood behind me

510
00:24:59,040 --> 00:24:59,679
Speaker 5: and held out to.

511
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Speaker 8: I just saw a post about it. That's why it

512
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 8: was on the tip of my brain. It was like

513
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:08,639
Speaker 8: an Asian guy talked about He was like, it's this

514
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 8: trend on social media, like they got all these visual

515
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 8: images of man's and they all look straggling setting behind

516
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 8: these women going in their pocketbook. And the thing is

517
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 8: is that the psychology behind that is you trying to

518
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 8: like First of all, you're it's almost like when you're

519
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:27,920
Speaker 8: trying to teach a child, like to do something good,

520
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:31,200
Speaker 8: So like you're giving this affection while she is conditioning.

521
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 8: And then the other part of it is like you're

522
00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 8: guarding other men, like from not coming in and taking

523
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:43,479
Speaker 8: your money. Just all up behind her, and shit, I'm

524
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:45,880
Speaker 8: be like that with them all man at the fucking ATM,

525
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:50,240
Speaker 8: go ahead, rubbing his back. Come on, baby, right, we

526
00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 8: got niggas at the ATM. Think big, bitch them niggas.

527
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Speaker 6: You think you're tall, right, you just got a little doubles.

528
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Speaker 6: I got.

529
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Speaker 3: That's it.

530
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Speaker 5: I was about to say, speaking of oh no, we

531
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Speaker 5: gotta I meant to mention Angie Stone passed away over

532
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 5: the weekend. Yeah, yeah, that ship was so you know what,

533
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:29,119
Speaker 5: You just gotta be grateful for every day, tell people

534
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:32,439
Speaker 5: you love them, and counter your blessings because you never know.

535
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 5: There is a uh invisible clock on all of us.

536
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 5: You just don't know when your number is up. But

537
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 5: I you know, I saw that she like I didn't

538
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:48,200
Speaker 5: know this about her, but she was in a rap

539
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 5: group called the Sequence and they were like the first

540
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 5: rap female yeah in South Carolina, and all these all

541
00:26:57,080 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 5: these histories of hip hop that I've seen and why

542
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:03,640
Speaker 5: arched and read, and they have never been mentioned I've seen.

543
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 8: I thought I saw like a video on it recently.

544
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 8: It probably popped back up because of her passing. But

545
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:12,879
Speaker 8: I saw that a while ago on Instagram about the

546
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:13,800
Speaker 8: group the sequence.

547
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, but they don't their birthdays, the ages. Yeah, they

548
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 5: never got the recognition that they deserved. So that's crazy

549
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 5: to find out that that was part. She's a hip

550
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 5: hop historian and a hip hop legend, and I didn't

551
00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 5: know that because when I think of Angie stone I

552
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:38,679
Speaker 5: think of black Brother, Strong Brother. I was listening to

553
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:39,399
Speaker 5: it in the shower.

554
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:44,400
Speaker 6: We Love Rest in Peace in South Carolina.

555
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:45,680
Speaker 3: I love Angie Stone Man.

556
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 8: That was so like when I see stuff like that,

557
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:50,880
Speaker 8: I'm like, damn man, Like you really don't know your time.

558
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 8: That's why every day, from the time my feet hit

559
00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 8: the floor, I'm saying thank.

560
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 6: You, gratitude, thank you, the attitude, thank you. Every moment.

561
00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 8: I say thank you at lista the times a day.

562
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 8: If it's not to a person, it's to myself all

563
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:04,400
Speaker 8: day long.

564
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:09,119
Speaker 3: Just be grateful, be thankful, getting up having another chance

565
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:10,879
Speaker 3: to do all the things.

566
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,919
Speaker 5: And be kind, especially if y'all from New York listening

567
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:20,160
Speaker 5: to this, are y'all okay?

568
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:21,560
Speaker 3: Here are you niggas well?

569
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 6: Why? Why are you smiling? I was like, I'm happy.

570
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:30,440
Speaker 8: He got in an argument with a nigga on clubhouse

571
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 8: once because I said, I'm from the South. Like when

572
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 8: I see when I see black people, especially I say hi,

573
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 8: I want them to know I recognized and acknowledge them.

574
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 8: I see you, hi, man or woman? Why do what

575
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 8: the fuck you just talking to strangers? Just talking to like,

576
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 8: y'all cold, that's the problem, y'all. Nigga's cold with no colt.

577
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 8: Why y'all so mad up there that y'all don't speak

578
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:55,160
Speaker 8: to each other?

579
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 6: Yeah, be kind? And then they was like, stop peaking

580
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 6: speaking to people. It's dangerous. I know. I'm just gonna

581
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 6: be myself. I'm covered in the blood of Jesus. I'm pretecting.

582
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 5: I don't never worry about it, and I'm not going

583
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 5: to carry that energy. I'm gonna be who I am

584
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 5: everywhere I go, and who I am is polite and

585
00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:14,560
Speaker 5: kind to people. I like to say hi, I like

586
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:18,080
Speaker 5: to smile. I'm joyous. So except on that train, though,

587
00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 5: I adopt I I ain't looking at nobody, smiling at

588
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 5: nobody on that motherfucker.

589
00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:29,280
Speaker 6: I'll be looking at my phone just like everybody else.

590
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 6: Scared this mother fuck on that three train.

591
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 3: You better carry a knife like you in London.

592
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:41,239
Speaker 6: I had a pistol up there, baby. That man on

593
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:43,600
Speaker 6: that first ride on that train, that man stood over

594
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 6: me talking about.

595
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 5: I can balance your chokras wall a dollar seventy five

596
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 5: cents right now?

597
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 3: Got please? Y'all ever noticed this voice can me be

598
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 3: putting on that ship?

599
00:29:57,400 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 6: Is fucking crazy? Man?

600
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 3: Why everybody can't possibly have that same voice? Nigga?

601
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 6: Who we got on to day? Girl?

602
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 3: We have the Black Dads podcasts right.

603
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 6: Yes, absolutely talking fatherhood and.

604
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 3: Love, amazing black men, Okay, and you.

605
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 6: Know divorce one still married.

606
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 8: I feel like, you know, their podcast is very necessary.

607
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 8: I wish they would do more than just a podcast.

608
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:38,960
Speaker 4: With it.

609
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 8: I suggested, we need to do more than just a

610
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 8: podcast with it. Well what they should with our ship? No,

611
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 8: but I mean like they can really like they can

612
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 8: really do some ship with black dads, you know what

613
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:56,520
Speaker 8: I'm saying, Like, yeah, we could do some ship with bitches.

614
00:30:56,520 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 3: We talk back, Hey, hey, hey, hey, talk back.

615
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 8: We're gonna have a whole conference with a bunch of

616
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 8: bitches who be talking back ins and whoever.

617
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 5: Knowstens or not just bitches, it's men who also enjoyed

618
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 5: the conversation.

619
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 8: Yeah, so I think they need to do like a

620
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 8: little nonprofit something, just do like a golf day with

621
00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 8: the dads something like that. They were that shit is lit.

622
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 8: I love uh, I love the Black Dads Podcast.

623
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm here for it too.

624
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 6: So y'all stay tuned. We got them coming up.

625
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 8: Welcome to we talk Back where we have conversations that

626
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 8: matter apparently. Okay, so today we're diving into the topic

627
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 8: of black fatherhood. It's a subject full of love, responsibility,

628
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 8: and unfortunately a lot of stereotypes. Okay, So we have

629
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 8: the Black Dad's Club podcast here and Charlotte and we

630
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:05,640
Speaker 8: talked back today.

631
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 1: Thank you for having us.

632
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 4: Happy to be here.

633
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:13,560
Speaker 8: Introduce yourself, sir, our audience always I guess, introduce yourself, audience.

634
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: My name is Gavin B. I'm from Charlotte. I'm a photographer.

635
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 1: I'm a dad. My boy dad. He whipping my ass

636
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: every day.

637
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 4: Your son three three?

638
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 7: You got a new baby?

639
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 6: What about you?

640
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 10: I am pastor Mike Will. I am also a father,

641
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 10: gav a longtime friend.

642
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 4: I guess I call that.

643
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Speaker 11: Oh gosh, I did you say pastor will past the

644
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 11: will past the mic or pastor.

645
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:50,240
Speaker 4: My past I have a congregation.

646
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 5: Okay, so you're a holy man, Yes I am.

647
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, what are you?

648
00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 4: Yeah?

649
00:32:58,120 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 7: Who are you?

650
00:32:59,200 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 6: Where are you?

651
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 10: Kind of get My congregation is all the productive black

652
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 10: men that.

653
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 4: Exists out there.

654
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 6: That is, you know, you have a church.

655
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 4: That's my that's my church. The podcast is his church podcast.

656
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 6: Okay, so you're not. You don't need around you that's all,

657
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 6: you know, like because if you were fastor you know,

658
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Speaker 6: I will.

659
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 4: You could talk that way around pastor though you.

660
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Speaker 7: Know, you know I have to have like from Atlanta. Yes,

661
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 7: I'm not going to say that.

662
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:30,840
Speaker 6: I'm just gonna you.

663
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 10: Know, no, no, no, I'm like, I'm not like a

664
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Speaker 10: real church pastor. Believe that I do not have a church.

665
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 10: Do not show up anywhere on Sunday.

666
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 4: Looking for me?

667
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:41,880
Speaker 3: So are you a Samulite Samular?

668
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 4: What's that say?

669
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 6: More Sammy recipes to Kevin?

670
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 10: Oh no, obviously not, because yeah I didn't. I didn't

671
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 10: know what that was, but I did, like I did

672
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 10: like his clips he is he has missed. I missed him.

673
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 10: I missed him on YouTube, like I miss all them clips.

674
00:33:58,240 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 10: They'll be funny, they'd be funny Meyer you no, no,

675
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 10: so I hear.

676
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 4: Here's that. I know all these guys, right, Okay, I

677
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 4: know of all these just making sure.

678
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 10: But I'm not I'm not red pill. Okay, right, I'm

679
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 10: not red pill. Now I'm also not a cook. So

680
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 10: it's you know, I'm right there in the middle. As

681
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 10: I always say on the pod, everybody gets all their credit.

682
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:22,920
Speaker 6: Okay, you're using a lot of words. I do not

683
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 6: know a cook.

684
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 3: I know you've seen that that that never heard of

685
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:28,000
Speaker 3: on the pornhub.

686
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 6: I don't.

687
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 3: It's like a white man next to the dick and

688
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 3: is going and his wife isn't that like that?

689
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:38,439
Speaker 5: That's part of that part of the pornole doesn't exist

690
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:40,879
Speaker 5: in Charlotte, right, Or it's she ain't got.

691
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 4: A VP and it's cool though it shtill get the

692
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 4: ex videos.

693
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 1: Now you can get on pornhum.

694
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 4: You just need yeah, tell me later.

695
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:53,399
Speaker 6: So how do you guys know each other?

696
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:54,800
Speaker 1: You want the truth?

697
00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, go ahead and tell the truth.

698
00:34:56,560 --> 00:35:00,800
Speaker 1: The truth is Mike new My mom knew Mike before

699
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:02,879
Speaker 1: he was born. My mom is like fifteen years older

700
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 1: than Mike, so it's through church and so she knew Mike.

701
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 1: So Mike knew me before I was born. But we

702
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 1: didn't get close to I don't know. I told you

703
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 1: it's alone.

704
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 5: We all grew up together, mama before you was born.

705
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:19,200
Speaker 1: Yes, my mom was at a church, so Mike was born,

706
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 1: so I.

707
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 10: Knew gay parents, like gay Dady to shoot ball, I

708
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 10: did a little young dude that to get on the court.

709
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 10: So I remember Gav being a little two old running

710
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 10: around basically, but we met because him and my brother

711
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 10: is the same age, so they are really good friends.

712
00:35:33,719 --> 00:35:35,400
Speaker 4: Okay, so double a.

713
00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: He was like, you gotta meet my brother and I

714
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 1: was like, all right, whatever, we'll see how this goes.

715
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 6: You did explain that good, because I was about to say,

716
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 6: are you.

717
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,720
Speaker 4: And his dad?

718
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 1: How long do you think I am?

719
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:48,280
Speaker 5: I don't know, but it was the way I described

720
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 5: it was like, Mike, no, my mama, yeah, fifteen.

721
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 1: Years older than you too, is yeah, I'm thirty five,

722
00:35:56,160 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 1: Well he's years yeah, so yeah, okay, but yeah, that's

723
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 1: how we know it through church, and but we just

724
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:04,919
Speaker 1: been It's funny though, because I get to always say

725
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 1: like I was a baby, didn't know Mike existed, but

726
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 1: he knew I existed. And then his brother was like, yo,

727
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: I want you to meet my brother and we've been

728
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 1: rocking every since. That had to be like oh nine

729
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:14,279
Speaker 1: something like that.

730
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 6: Nice.

731
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:16,320
Speaker 10: Yeah, y'all was I think like when y'all turned like

732
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:17,919
Speaker 10: twenty one, I started bringing you boys out.

733
00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 6: Yeah.

734
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

735
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:22,479
Speaker 8: So how did y'all come up with the podcast question?

736
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:26,439
Speaker 8: Which I think is very very.

737
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 10: Need Well, well, I mean we we started out so

738
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:31,439
Speaker 10: Gaff Gaff had a podcast and like Gavin, my brother

739
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 10: had a podcast. He's like, oh, you should come on,

740
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,279
Speaker 10: you come on, come on, right, Gavin is an early

741
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 10: adopter the podcast. So finally we had one, and we

742
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 10: just had really good chemistry on the podcast. So we

743
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:46,000
Speaker 10: started a podcast. Yeah, it sucked, trash, but it taught

744
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 10: us a lot. And then eventually, you know, we it

745
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 10: was it was so bad that we was going to

746
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 10: quit absolutely, and I was like, well, I said, we

747
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 10: got great chemistry on the mic, so I was like,

748
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 10: let's not quit, Like, let's figure it out.

749
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 4: So we took the time off and it just so happened.

750
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:02,319
Speaker 10: He ended up becoming a father and I was just like, huh,

751
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 10: I wanted this U Ril is available and it was

752
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 10: and I was just like, what do you think about this?

753
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 10: Same it was going through names and then he was

754
00:37:07,520 --> 00:37:10,240
Speaker 10: like that's the one. And then after that we pivoted.

755
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,320
Speaker 10: So it's kind of cool because we're able to track,

756
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:15,359
Speaker 10: you know, where we've been through the birth of his son,

757
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:17,400
Speaker 10: because that's literally when it changed.

758
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:19,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, cause I came back. So I took like three

759
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 1: months off of photography podcasting, and we love to tell

760
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 1: people now like I literally told my wife, I'm like, Yo,

761
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 1: when I get back, I'm just telling like this this

762
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 1: ship is done, Like I'm done, I'm out. And so we.

763
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 4: Got his wife he did tell me it was done.

764
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then when we got back that shit was

765
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:36,439
Speaker 1: so bad and so but the funny part when got back,

766
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 1: he was like his first question on the pot was like, Yo,

767
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:41,839
Speaker 1: how's life being, And I go, it's so much shit.

768
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,880
Speaker 1: Y'all did not tell me about being a dad, Like

769
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 1: this is crazy, And so we went through that and

770
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 1: then there was the response was just super cool and

771
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 1: like he said, he looked up the name. He was like, Yo,

772
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:56,879
Speaker 1: let's do this every every week now. And so now

773
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,799
Speaker 1: podcast has changed. We talk about parenting sometimes, but it's

774
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 1: my sleep just shipped that black dass like love and

775
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 1: care about exactly.

776
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 8: It's something that men talk some things that men talk

777
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:08,000
Speaker 8: about being a barber shop.

778
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 7: So what's some things that black men care about?

779
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 1: Sports? Okay, women women, but that's low on the list.

780
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 1: It's I think women think we high high on the

781
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: list of coming in there talking about women. But that'll

782
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: be like we usually you going to you're gonna argue

783
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:24,840
Speaker 1: about sports for like the whole time you there.

784
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:27,520
Speaker 10: Sports and then like you know how you view things right, Like,

785
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:30,840
Speaker 10: so men have a lot of life conversations. Yeah, like

786
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 10: I don't think like no time, we probably don't have

787
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 10: a life conversation just if we're shooting basketball. But like

788
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 10: if men are just sitting around, it's like, man, let

789
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 10: me tell you what I'm dealing with. You know, men,

790
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 10: men have those conversations. It's just that men don't judge

791
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 10: one another, so we'll.

792
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:48,319
Speaker 4: Listen to it. And definitely, no, no, we really really

793
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 4: don't because it's like.

794
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 6: Y'all need to judge each other. Though.

795
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 4: If a man does not ask for advice, we listen.

796
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 4: We listen. There you go, you know, he says.

797
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:01,959
Speaker 5: That if you have a guy that comes to you

798
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 5: and says like, man, I really don't give a fuck

799
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 5: about them kids. Man, I don't be over there. Man

800
00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 5: that my baby mama get on my fucking nerves. Man,

801
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 5: she drives me crazy. I ain't going over there.

802
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 10: That conversation doesn't happen after what college sophomore year. At college,

803
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 10: men separate, men self segregate from dudes who ain't ship

804
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 10: and like men who are gonna be productive. So it's

805
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:24,360
Speaker 10: hard to it's hard to have that kind of conversation

806
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,839
Speaker 10: with the man unless you related to him, because we

807
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:28,280
Speaker 10: really don't see one another.

808
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:30,880
Speaker 4: We're not in the same place together. Yeah, just not.

809
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 1: We don't even be at the same barbershop.

810
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:35,239
Speaker 4: No, we don't.

811
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 7: You got no futures in y'all circle.

812
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:40,359
Speaker 10: No, I have a cousin that went kind of ham

813
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:43,319
Speaker 10: but it was like literally a cousin. And to that point, though,

814
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:45,720
Speaker 10: like he and I stopped hanging out like mid twenties,

815
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:48,319
Speaker 10: like we grew up together, probably mid twenties. Just like man,

816
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 10: our lives are heading in two different trajectory.

817
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 4: Just this and.

818
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 7: Gibody curiously through future.

819
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 1: Absolutely good guy.

820
00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 5: So you said that there were things that you know,

821
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 5: nobody told you. What are myths about black fathers that

822
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 5: like that people would believe?

823
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 6: But that's not true.

824
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:10,480
Speaker 1: Oh myths? Oh, I thought you was gonna ask something else. Yo,

825
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 1: it has to be that we really are active. Like

826
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 1: every dad that I know, even the dads who do

827
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:19,879
Speaker 1: not spend enough time with their kids. Right, every dad

828
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 1: I know love their kids. I really don't run into

829
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:26,759
Speaker 1: people like yof them kids like we'll come together and say, Yo,

830
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:28,360
Speaker 1: my kid get on my nerves. I gotta do this

831
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: like my boys three. So it's only but so much

832
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 1: nerves he can get on because he's learned. Like one thing,

833
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 1: all right, I talk too much. My mom I grew up.

834
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 1: She said I talked too much all My teacher said

835
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 1: that my son does not stop talking, damn. And so

836
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 1: his mom is in Cabo this week and literally at

837
00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 1: six thirty I heard him in there singing, and I

838
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 1: was just like, yo, it's go time, like he ready

839
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 1: and so like. But I enjoy it. So when he

840
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 1: tells me, like dad, you and me to stop talking.

841
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:56,719
Speaker 1: I feel bad. He asked you, ask if you yeah,

842
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: because I'd be like, yo, you gotta relact. I can't hear.

843
00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:02,479
Speaker 1: I can't think. I can't hear my thoughts. So I think,

844
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 1: you know, I think a lot of people. First of all,

845
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people think that we just

846
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 1: got kids everywhere, and that's just not the case. That's

847
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: one thing, like men just don't have kids all over

848
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,239
Speaker 1: the place. You do have like that ten percent, but

849
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:15,680
Speaker 1: that don't represent.

850
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 8: Like the whole talking about On our recent episode, we

851
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:21,360
Speaker 8: talked about how black men like to say that women

852
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 8: black women are having babies by the ten percent of men.

853
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:30,880
Speaker 8: So these same men have multiple, multiple fertility partners.

854
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so that's the stat and so it's funny.

855
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: But everybody I know, you know, Mike, talk about separating,

856
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: like y'all, I only hang around dads that's like full

857
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 1: time fathers. I don't hang around dads who not with

858
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,240
Speaker 1: their kids like it just and it's just the reason

859
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 1: why is because I know it's going to make you

860
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 1: feel bad when you come around and my kid is

861
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:51,799
Speaker 1: going to be right there with me. Like I got

862
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:53,839
Speaker 1: a meeting later a go, and I told you this,

863
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 1: I gotta go pick up my kid, and then I

864
00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 1: got to go to a meeting and he coming with

865
00:41:57,239 --> 00:41:58,920
Speaker 1: me to that meeting, it's like, but that's just what

866
00:41:58,960 --> 00:41:59,799
Speaker 1: type of time I'm on.

867
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 6: Who's gonna talk?

868
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:04,279
Speaker 1: Absolutely, And the girl was like, yo, because I have

869
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:06,360
Speaker 1: a meeting with a model. And she was just like,

870
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:08,000
Speaker 1: I guess it's gonna be my birth control for this week.

871
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, because he gonna talk.

872
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 8: So yeah, I had an article and I'm sitting there

873
00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 8: trying to find No, the article is actually speaking to

874
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:22,240
Speaker 8: what you're saying that it is a myth that black

875
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:25,120
Speaker 8: men aren't present in the kids lives because what they're

876
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 8: looking at is the single mom statistic, like the unweed moms.

877
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 8: So the black men may not be married, but they

878
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 8: are actively in their children's lives more than uh their

879
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 8: you know, white town of Parts or Hispanics.

880
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,239
Speaker 10: It's not even close. It's not even close. I mean,

881
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 10: and we should be married. But I mean that's a

882
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,520
Speaker 10: culture issue, right, that's a different conversation. I'm like, why

883
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:47,760
Speaker 10: that's not happening.

884
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,080
Speaker 4: But yeah, men men are very active.

885
00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 10: Like even when when I you know, listen to a

886
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 10: lady that say, okay, i'm a single mom, and you be.

887
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:56,760
Speaker 7: Like, you're a mom that's single.

888
00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:58,799
Speaker 10: You're not a single mom that that kid can go

889
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 10: to their father see their father whenever they want.

890
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:04,360
Speaker 4: And a lot of what goes on, you know, is

891
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:05,799
Speaker 4: leverage play. You know.

892
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 10: It's like, Yo, if you wanted more help, you could

893
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,359
Speaker 10: ask for more help, right, But if you don't ask

894
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:12,400
Speaker 10: for more help, most of the time it's going to

895
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 10: be what's court order. But you can always like you

896
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,720
Speaker 10: have another parent there, you can always ask for help

897
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 10: for another parent.

898
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 4: Who else? Who else are you supposed to ask for

899
00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 4: help from?

900
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, But sometimes that's not the case. Sometimes I know

901
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 5: women who need more help and just can't get more help.

902
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:29,920
Speaker 8: And then I also know women not personally, but like

903
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 8: through the men or through the other women in the

904
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 8: relationships having to deal with that woman and how hard

905
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 8: she's making it for him the parent.

906
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, Like, girl, you do not

907
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 3: want to be around your kid that much.

908
00:43:41,080 --> 00:43:44,440
Speaker 4: Damn child, That's what And that's what I say.

909
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 10: I always tell them, like, yo, everybody else, get some

910
00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 10: time getting like you. Women need that time away from

911
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 10: their children. I hate when I don't see it. Like

912
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:55,800
Speaker 10: one of the first things that I noticed, I'm divorced,

913
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:57,560
Speaker 10: So one of the first things that I noticed is

914
00:43:57,600 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 10: that once we got our custody order, in place. Is

915
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 10: is how tired I was when I dropped my kid

916
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 10: off and also when I would pick my kid up,

917
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 10: how tired she was. Right, So that made sure that

918
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:09,360
Speaker 10: I was like, Yo, I can't I can't miss a week,

919
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 10: you know what I'm saying. I can't be late because

920
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:14,319
Speaker 10: she's exhausted, and that's going to play out and how

921
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:16,839
Speaker 10: my child is raised. So if you care about your kid,

922
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:17,960
Speaker 10: you got to go get your kid.

923
00:44:18,080 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 5: Well that's called empathy, you know, and people's.

924
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 8: Emotional intelligence to actually consider how somebody else is feeling.

925
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:24,359
Speaker 4: Yeah.

926
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 10: Absolutely, But it came from the love for my child though, right,

927
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 10: you know what I'm saying, Like we was deefing at

928
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:32,759
Speaker 10: the time. We were not friends, let's be clear, right,

929
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:34,799
Speaker 10: But it was like, Yo, if she's tired though, right, Like,

930
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:36,800
Speaker 10: how is that playing out in my child?

931
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

932
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:39,800
Speaker 10: So it was like, you know, we just got finished,

933
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 10: so I already know how she is, right, you know.

934
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:43,279
Speaker 10: So it was like, yo, let me, let me let

935
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 10: me take that from you. I think a lot of

936
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 10: men don't understand that because I think there is.

937
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:49,400
Speaker 4: This image of this.

938
00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:52,000
Speaker 10: You know, I'm a strong black woman, right, and I

939
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:55,120
Speaker 10: got it and it's easy to believe that if you've

940
00:44:55,160 --> 00:44:57,799
Speaker 10: never really had a conversation, or if you're not surrounded

941
00:44:58,080 --> 00:45:00,440
Speaker 10: by women that you care about, not women that you know, right,

942
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:03,800
Speaker 10: women that you care about. So when when they're suffering,

943
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 10: you're like, man, I wish I could do something, but

944
00:45:06,120 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 10: I can't. Right, But when you can do something, you

945
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:11,360
Speaker 10: will see, Okay, see.

946
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:11,879
Speaker 7: Do you think that?

947
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,400
Speaker 8: I think a lot of No, do you think? Let

948
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,399
Speaker 8: me ask pull it as a question. I remember seeing

949
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 8: his video recently with this guy he had his I

950
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 8: guess the kid's grandma dropped the kids off to him

951
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 8: and he's speeding down the highway driving and the kid.

952
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 8: This is a real video. I thought it was faking

953
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 8: to the little girl started crying, but she really really.

954
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 8: She wasn't showing her face or the dad's face. The

955
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 8: phone was like just hidden in the car kind of.

956
00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 8: But then she put the phone in her face. You

957
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:38,120
Speaker 8: can see she's crying. But he's yelling in the front seat,

958
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 8: like I told your mom not.

959
00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:39,959
Speaker 6: To drop you all ass off.

960
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 7: I'm dropping y'all back. She was like, but we're hungry.

961
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:43,440
Speaker 7: We've been with you since one o'clock.

962
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 6: We haven't ate.

963
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 8: He was like, I don't got no money for y'all,

964
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 8: got money for food for me? This is how he's yelling.

965
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:51,799
Speaker 8: And then no man who can actually provide whatever say that.

966
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 8: So it's just he can't provide, and he's blaming the children,

967
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:56,319
Speaker 8: and he's blaming the mom.

968
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:57,759
Speaker 7: Yeah, you can't figure it out.

969
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 4: That's terrible. How many kids? Was it?

970
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 7: Two kids?

971
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 4: Two kids?

972
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:01,919
Speaker 6: Two kids?

973
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:02,279
Speaker 4: All right?

974
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 10: So I mean that One of the things that I've

975
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:05,759
Speaker 10: noticed is that a lot of times when I see

976
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:07,919
Speaker 10: a complaint about a ain't ship that.

977
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 4: Sorry, we ain't cursing.

978
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 6: That's right.

979
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 4: I'm a guest here.

980
00:46:18,480 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 10: One of the things that I that I that I

981
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 10: always noticed is most of the time it is multiple kids,

982
00:46:23,400 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 10: if not multiple baby mamas, and like that should be

983
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:28,719
Speaker 10: like an automatic red flag to any woman if you

984
00:46:28,719 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 10: meet a guy, I don't care what he looks, like,

985
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 10: how much money has, if he has multiple kids that

986
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 10: he's not with his children mom, or if he has

987
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:37,399
Speaker 10: most run baby mamas, like, this is not the man

988
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:37,960
Speaker 10: to date.

989
00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 8: Earlier, I was saying, is it something subconsciously about a

990
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 8: man like that that's appealing to a woman.

991
00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 6: We don't.

992
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 7: It's not in front of you got to tell me.

993
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 8: Know, you know what I'm saying, As much as I

994
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 8: would like a man who to have who doesn't have kids?

995
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:57,319
Speaker 7: A lot of men have kids, right, Well, but.

996
00:46:57,600 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 10: I'm saying like, like when this same situation where it's

997
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 10: a lot, right, like a man has four or five kids, Like, bro,

998
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 10: why aren't.

999
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:04,680
Speaker 4: You with one of those ones?

1000
00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 7: Exactly?

1001
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, Like that should be obvious, right,

1002
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 4: you know, God had with.

1003
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 8: A man recently, Like, listen, you got to pick a

1004
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 8: household to be in.

1005
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 7: You can't have all these life goals.

1006
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:15,879
Speaker 8: You want a million dollars, you got all these things

1007
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 8: you want to do. You can't do that when you're

1008
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:20,759
Speaker 8: spreading yourself so thin in between multiple households.

1009
00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:22,439
Speaker 3: Take a bitch, ye and do that.

1010
00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:25,280
Speaker 5: I think went back to different though.

1011
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 6: Well he be doing it successful.

1012
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:29,480
Speaker 7: I don't think he's happy. He probably not, but Nick

1013
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:30,320
Speaker 7: Cannon is happy.

1014
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 1: He got the money where that that don't matter for him.

1015
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:35,839
Speaker 1: That's a big thing too, Like a lot of these

1016
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 1: dudes out here are making multiple families, broken families, and

1017
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 1: they broke like his is expensive, yes, Like my daycare

1018
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 1: costs more than my mortgage, and that shit ain't fun.

1019
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:47,640
Speaker 1: That's why I'm shooting all the time.

1020
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:51,840
Speaker 5: You can't be broken and broken, right, yeah you can't.

1021
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:52,320
Speaker 4: You can't.

1022
00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:55,600
Speaker 1: You can't, and so it's tough. But yeah, if you

1023
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 1: if you run into a dude and it's like, you know,

1024
00:47:57,760 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 1: I always look at women, I say, damn, he is

1025
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:03,120
Speaker 1: never with his kid, Like how you dating that?

1026
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 3: I'm noting with somebody who don't ever have their kids,

1027
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:06,000
Speaker 3: you know, a.

1028
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 1: Lot of a lot of things. It's like, okay, well

1029
00:48:08,040 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to date a man with a kid

1030
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:11,720
Speaker 1: because I don't want to compete with this other woman

1031
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:13,319
Speaker 1: and this other stuff. And it's like cool, like all right,

1032
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:15,439
Speaker 1: but when you do get with that dude, at least

1033
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:17,840
Speaker 1: be happy that he's with his kid and he's you know,

1034
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 1: cares what's going on over there. But you running into

1035
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 1: a dude and it's like he ain't never got his kid,

1036
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:26,160
Speaker 1: he ain't never facetiming this kid. Kid ain't known the

1037
00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 1: story like he had FaceTime dad. Like that should scare you,

1038
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 1: Like all right, cool, you know, don't get prayed.

1039
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:33,799
Speaker 10: I get with women, don't want to date men with kids.

1040
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 10: I'm never finished shot. I'm like, yo, I get cool. Yeah,

1041
00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 10: Like kids are a lot especially if you're active father.

1042
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, Now I.

1043
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 8: Gotta consider you've got to spend time with your I

1044
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:46,360
Speaker 8: just want to go outside. You can't take me for

1045
00:48:46,400 --> 00:48:52,319
Speaker 8: a walk, no, sorry, Yeah, like you can't ever take

1046
00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 8: me for a walk because you got these damn kids.

1047
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 1: You're gonna get me a discovery place.

1048
00:48:58,200 --> 00:48:59,839
Speaker 4: That I introduced you to the kids?

1049
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 1: Ready?

1050
00:49:01,040 --> 00:49:02,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, right now that part?

1051
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:03,120
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1052
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 7: Okay, So now you're your divorce one child.

1053
00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:13,120
Speaker 8: One son, one son. Okay, so who gets to meet

1054
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:13,479
Speaker 8: the son?

1055
00:49:14,320 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 7: Has anybody? How long you've been divorced.

1056
00:49:16,280 --> 00:49:18,359
Speaker 4: I've been divorced. I think like seven years now, six

1057
00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 4: or seven years.

1058
00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 6: He got a lot of aunties. This your auntie.

1059
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:27,560
Speaker 10: Yeah, so this is gonna sound crazy. My son has

1060
00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 10: not met anyone. My son has not men.

1061
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1062
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:32,880
Speaker 7: No, so you haven't liked anybody.

1063
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 6: Yeah, but.

1064
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:35,880
Speaker 4: I haven't been serious.

1065
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:37,879
Speaker 10: I haven't been serious enough to like introduce my son

1066
00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:40,719
Speaker 10: because one of the I feel that it's important for

1067
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 10: him to see his father, Like as he grows up,

1068
00:49:43,600 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 10: like if he just sees a revolving door, he's going

1069
00:49:45,840 --> 00:49:48,040
Speaker 10: to think that's cool. And it's like I don't want

1070
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 10: him to think that's cool.

1071
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

1072
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 10: I want him to understand that, you know, like when

1073
00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:54,759
Speaker 10: you get older, you know, be with somebody and to

1074
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:58,720
Speaker 10: be respectful and mindful of that individual. So I've always

1075
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:00,839
Speaker 10: made that like when I got divorce, like I didn't

1076
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:02,919
Speaker 10: want him to see that because like you know, his father,

1077
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 10: Like one day he's gonna go and find all my youtubes. Right, Yeah,

1078
00:50:07,719 --> 00:50:09,799
Speaker 10: it's gonna be a lot of conversations that he's gonna

1079
00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:11,239
Speaker 10: want to have and he's gonna realize that like at

1080
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 10: one point in time, his father didn't mind to revolve

1081
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 10: in door, right, but for the whole time he saw

1082
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:17,640
Speaker 10: his father, that didn't happen. And we can have the

1083
00:50:17,640 --> 00:50:19,720
Speaker 10: conversation though, well, why why didn't that happen?

1084
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 1: Dad?

1085
00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 4: And it's like, okay, this is why.

1086
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 5: Do you think it's important for him also to see

1087
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:25,440
Speaker 5: you treat a woman.

1088
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 10: Well and absolute woman? Absolutely, which is why he sees

1089
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:29,920
Speaker 10: me treat his mother as well. Absolutely.

1090
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 7: Do y'all do stuff together? So as a family.

1091
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:36,919
Speaker 5: But what about romantic because I feel like the young

1092
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:40,279
Speaker 5: boys don't understand about romance and they're not seeing their

1093
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 5: father be romantic.

1094
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 7: That's a great point, you know, y'all not together?

1095
00:50:44,680 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean yeah, but I mean even in marriages

1096
00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 5: that are together, sometimes they don't.

1097
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 1: You know. It's funny because I grew up in a

1098
00:50:51,239 --> 00:50:54,560
Speaker 1: household where I saw my dad like romantic every day.

1099
00:50:55,000 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 1: Like my dad really took Valentine's Stay serious, which is

1100
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Speaker 1: why I was in high school spending money I did

1101
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:03,160
Speaker 1: not have. And but I saw that, and I saw

1102
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 1: him love my mom, and I saw my parents like

1103
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:08,160
Speaker 1: interacting kids all the time, you know, the joke kids.

1104
00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 1: When we was growing up in church, I used to

1105
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 1: ask my parents, like why ain't never seen my pastor

1106
00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 1: like kiss his wife. I ain't never seen nobody else

1107
00:51:13,640 --> 00:51:18,480
Speaker 1: kiss Okay, so you know, but it's interesting to see that,

1108
00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 1: and like I go home and I seen that. So

1109
00:51:20,560 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 1: that is a great point. But yeah, that's a.

1110
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 4: Solid point because I do want my son to see that.

1111
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 4: You know.

1112
00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:28,959
Speaker 10: It's like, y'all, I'm definitely open to, you know, having

1113
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:31,040
Speaker 10: that so he can see, you know, his father be

1114
00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:33,239
Speaker 10: romantic with his wife. But I don't want him to

1115
00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 10: see his father being romantic. Shar you know, she's going

1116
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:41,480
Speaker 10: out with somebody else. It's like, I don't I don't

1117
00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 10: want him to see that. Right, his genetics is gonna

1118
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 10: be fighting.

1119
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:54,200
Speaker 5: Right, what would you say, has been like one of

1120
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:58,840
Speaker 5: the greatest challenges being a black father, just between you

1121
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:00,879
Speaker 5: and the child, not even the mother, you and.

1122
00:52:00,840 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 6: The mother, but h.

1123
00:52:04,040 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 10: Honestly being too easy on them, like as a dad,

1124
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:12,440
Speaker 10: Like no, it's like you tried. This is the thing

1125
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 10: that you try not to. But I because I was

1126
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:17,319
Speaker 10: talking to one of my boys, like not about two

1127
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 10: months ago, and we was like, man, you know we

1128
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 10: grew up different, right, So we're growing up now. These

1129
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 10: kids they can go to any after school activity, they

1130
00:52:24,080 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 10: can go any school activity. They're living in the suburbs, right,

1131
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:30,040
Speaker 10: Like they're not in black classrooms the way we were

1132
00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 10: in black classrooms, right, And it's like, man, like, are

1133
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:35,160
Speaker 10: we being too gentle on them?

1134
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:35,440
Speaker 4: Right?

1135
00:52:35,560 --> 00:52:37,480
Speaker 10: Like are we giving them too much? Like one of

1136
00:52:37,520 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 10: my friends, she just had a baby, and she was

1137
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:41,719
Speaker 10: just like, you know, kid was acting up. She's like,

1138
00:52:41,760 --> 00:52:43,279
Speaker 10: when of the last time you spank your son? And

1139
00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:45,360
Speaker 10: I was like, believe it or not, I've never spanked

1140
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:48,000
Speaker 10: my son. I was like, I've never had to. I

1141
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:50,319
Speaker 10: was like, I take the time to parent them, right,

1142
00:52:50,320 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 10: I'll take it. If it takes thirty minutes to get

1143
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:54,759
Speaker 10: this lesson, I'm gonna take the thirty minutes to give

1144
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,040
Speaker 10: this lesson, right, but sometimes you be like dangn man,

1145
00:52:57,120 --> 00:52:58,080
Speaker 10: like this is not how.

1146
00:52:58,000 --> 00:53:01,400
Speaker 4: I was raised. So it's like, you know, am I

1147
00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 4: Am I doing enough? Right?

1148
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:02,719
Speaker 6: Like?

1149
00:53:03,080 --> 00:53:06,160
Speaker 10: Am I raising a kid that is too soft? It's

1150
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:09,520
Speaker 10: something that I'm constantly wondering, like can he take on.

1151
00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:12,080
Speaker 7: The we to surprise him every once in a while just.

1152
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:12,600
Speaker 4: Jack him up?

1153
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 10: No, he know his dad will, but it's like you

1154
00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:20,319
Speaker 10: do wander like, yo, are you gonna be able to

1155
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 10: take on the word, especially the way that the world

1156
00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:24,400
Speaker 10: is moving now. It's like, you know, man, have I

1157
00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 10: done you a disservice? And I think for me that's

1158
00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:28,359
Speaker 10: where I'm like.

1159
00:53:28,040 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 7: How do you find a balance?

1160
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:31,600
Speaker 4: Yeah? How do you find that? You know? So that's

1161
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:33,240
Speaker 4: where I'm always like, So we don't.

1162
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 7: Have no kids.

1163
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 8: Were talking about our nieces this morning, sorry y'all, And

1164
00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:38,880
Speaker 8: it's just like how they might.

1165
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 7: And I think the.

1166
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:45,520
Speaker 3: Our generation did the gentle parenting thing.

1167
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:47,480
Speaker 8: Because of how we were raised right, and it is

1168
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 8: making the kids more soft, like they can't do ship

1169
00:53:50,160 --> 00:53:55,799
Speaker 8: for themselfs Like my sister was like my niece's passwords

1170
00:53:55,840 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 8: for her email and ship till like twenty five, Like

1171
00:53:59,200 --> 00:54:01,520
Speaker 8: you ask your mom for your password.

1172
00:54:02,360 --> 00:54:05,879
Speaker 10: Should But on the other hand, I think, man, isn't

1173
00:54:05,880 --> 00:54:07,360
Speaker 10: that a blessing to be able to do it?

1174
00:54:07,400 --> 00:54:07,600
Speaker 4: Though?

1175
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 1: You know what?

1176
00:54:08,400 --> 00:54:10,640
Speaker 4: Because it's like, again, we didn't we didn't have it

1177
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:12,160
Speaker 4: at all, right, you know?

1178
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:18,839
Speaker 8: Yeah, but adults they're not they are adults in some

1179
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:21,759
Speaker 8: ways something's missing, right, Yeah.

1180
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:23,759
Speaker 5: It's like by giving them something what you didn't have,

1181
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:26,359
Speaker 5: you're taking away the lessons that you learned.

1182
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:29,879
Speaker 4: So we need to bring the belt.

1183
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:33,279
Speaker 3: I see one of these girls with the couple of

1184
00:54:33,280 --> 00:54:34,200
Speaker 3: their ass hanging out.

1185
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:38,600
Speaker 4: The belt as up.

1186
00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:41,239
Speaker 8: I wouldn't hit my kid. I don't think big people

1187
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:42,400
Speaker 8: should be hitting little people.

1188
00:54:42,520 --> 00:54:43,840
Speaker 7: You know what I'm saying. They just don't know.

1189
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:45,400
Speaker 4: I reserved the right to, though.

1190
00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:50,440
Speaker 3: Some people like when you're gonna stop hitting them?

1191
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 8: I mean, I think, like you can, shouldn't hit your

1192
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:54,960
Speaker 8: child for every little thing.

1193
00:54:55,239 --> 00:54:55,759
Speaker 6: I don't think.

1194
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 5: I hate when I see parents with a belt while

1195
00:54:58,640 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 5: they're doing homework, standing over a child trying to teach

1196
00:55:02,200 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 5: them their homework.

1197
00:55:03,120 --> 00:55:07,000
Speaker 6: And see that Johnny had like, yeah, how they gonna learn?

1198
00:55:07,080 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 3: Like Trump?

1199
00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:09,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, and like my boy he three, So it's like

1200
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:12,560
Speaker 1: I gotta talk to him. I gotta figure out you

1201
00:55:12,600 --> 00:55:13,920
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. But now he's getting to that

1202
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:16,520
Speaker 1: stages where he'd be like oh, because I'd be like, hey,

1203
00:55:16,560 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 1: what are you doing? He knows what he's doing now,

1204
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:20,880
Speaker 1: so like, but before it was like very much, no,

1205
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:23,600
Speaker 1: let's talk, let's figure out, like what's going on? Because

1206
00:55:23,680 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 1: I remember my whoopings and mindra I was active.

1207
00:55:26,680 --> 00:55:28,080
Speaker 7: That mean you didn't get a lot of beatings if

1208
00:55:28,080 --> 00:55:29,000
Speaker 7: you can remember, Oh no.

1209
00:55:28,960 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 1: I got plenty.

1210
00:55:29,960 --> 00:55:31,200
Speaker 7: Did you remember all of them?

1211
00:55:31,400 --> 00:55:33,120
Speaker 1: Look? No, not all of them. But I put it

1212
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 1: like this, it was one week I did not get

1213
00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 1: I didn't get a ask with My mom took me out.

1214
00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:42,960
Speaker 1: She was like, she said, I didn't have to whoop Gavin.

1215
00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:44,760
Speaker 1: This week, we're going out to you. It was only Wednesday.

1216
00:55:44,880 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 1: She was proud that we got there. And it was

1217
00:55:47,680 --> 00:55:49,520
Speaker 1: one of them times. But you know, I was never

1218
00:55:49,520 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 1: a bad kid, but I was just so active. I

1219
00:55:51,160 --> 00:55:54,240
Speaker 1: wasn't you know whatever. And so it's funny now because

1220
00:55:54,600 --> 00:55:56,239
Speaker 1: you do get older, you do get that kid there

1221
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:58,120
Speaker 1: and they look look at you in the eyes, and

1222
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:00,200
Speaker 1: then you know, they come up and say they love you,

1223
00:56:00,239 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 1: and then they want to hug you, and then you

1224
00:56:01,560 --> 00:56:02,600
Speaker 1: just melt and you be like, all.

1225
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 10: Right, I think it is generational and I mean, look,

1226
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 10: I see some of the others. Some of these kids

1227
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 10: need to be so like I said, I think I

1228
00:56:09,200 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 10: reserve the right to give it, but I don't think

1229
00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:13,520
Speaker 10: every kid needs it. And I think the way y'all

1230
00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:15,720
Speaker 10: are younger than me, but I think definitely my generational

1231
00:56:15,760 --> 00:56:16,439
Speaker 10: way we was raised.

1232
00:56:16,480 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 4: It's like you did something, you know, what what? What?

1233
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:18,759
Speaker 1: What?

1234
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:18,960
Speaker 6: What? Do?

1235
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 4: You always say?

1236
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:19,640
Speaker 6: What?

1237
00:56:20,840 --> 00:56:21,359
Speaker 4: Child? Right?

1238
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:23,320
Speaker 7: But child is inherently bad.

1239
00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:26,120
Speaker 3: It's beating them gonna make it really better?

1240
00:56:26,200 --> 00:56:27,800
Speaker 8: Like because now it's like shit, if all want to

1241
00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 8: get as a beat and let me go ahead and

1242
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:31,320
Speaker 8: do what the fuck I want and get this ass whooping.

1243
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:33,359
Speaker 5: Well, I think it needs to be a combination of things.

1244
00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:37,439
Speaker 5: It shouldn't be just yeah, it should be different types

1245
00:56:37,480 --> 00:56:38,719
Speaker 5: of reprimand.

1246
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 1: You know, in therapy and a bunch of other stuff.

1247
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:43,040
Speaker 1: You know. The sad part about this a little bit

1248
00:56:43,080 --> 00:56:45,360
Speaker 1: off topic, but the sad part about being a photographer

1249
00:56:45,600 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 1: is I run into so many parents who kids are

1250
00:56:48,160 --> 00:56:49,759
Speaker 1: on the spectrum and they don't know what yet.

1251
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:51,319
Speaker 4: There's grown men.

1252
00:56:51,960 --> 00:56:54,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, and a lot of times when your kid is

1253
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:56,680
Speaker 1: acting out and they behave in certain ways, you might

1254
00:56:56,760 --> 00:56:59,440
Speaker 1: need to go take them to the doctor and figure

1255
00:56:59,440 --> 00:57:01,560
Speaker 1: out why. Like so it's sad when I'm doing a

1256
00:57:01,560 --> 00:57:03,480
Speaker 1: photo shoot and They're just like, oh, my kid don't talk,

1257
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:05,120
Speaker 1: and I'm like, all right, cool, you know, I don't care.

1258
00:57:05,120 --> 00:57:07,719
Speaker 1: I'm there to work. And then you know, I look

1259
00:57:07,840 --> 00:57:10,640
Speaker 1: and then as you keep doing this, you'd be like, oh,

1260
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:13,239
Speaker 1: there's a pattern here for different parents. And then some

1261
00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:16,000
Speaker 1: parents know, and then the parents that don't know you

1262
00:57:16,040 --> 00:57:19,360
Speaker 1: just wish that they did know, you know, so check

1263
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:19,560
Speaker 1: on you.

1264
00:57:20,240 --> 00:57:22,880
Speaker 10: I've seen some people that was you know, like that

1265
00:57:23,000 --> 00:57:25,520
Speaker 10: growing up. They turned out all right. I mean they

1266
00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 10: turned out all right.

1267
00:57:27,920 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 5: Autistic people are the best happiest people on the planet.

1268
00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:34,760
Speaker 6: And I think we're all on the spectrum. The spectrum

1269
00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:35,600
Speaker 6: is a dimmer.

1270
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 1: It's not absolute spectrum.

1271
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:38,320
Speaker 6: We're all on it.

1272
00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:39,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll be acting now.

1273
00:57:40,200 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 8: Yeah, sometimes I'm definitely on the spectrum a little bit.

1274
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:44,920
Speaker 8: But some people it can actually be diagnosed with some

1275
00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:48,080
Speaker 8: ship because I see people who I was in high

1276
00:57:48,080 --> 00:57:50,320
Speaker 8: school with on social media and they got wives.

1277
00:57:50,840 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 7: Remember that.

1278
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 8: Remember that video of the guy was scamming people for

1279
00:57:56,800 --> 00:57:57,240
Speaker 8: the docum?

1280
00:57:58,360 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 3: Remember oh, yeah, that's one of my classmates.

1281
00:58:03,080 --> 00:58:03,800
Speaker 6: What's up nigga.

1282
00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:08,080
Speaker 8: You know, he was like Barral on the internet, like

1283
00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:10,360
Speaker 8: he mixing people's stuff, but he's not fixing it for

1284
00:58:10,440 --> 00:58:13,920
Speaker 8: scamming people around Charlotte Charleston. I forgot where he lived at.

1285
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:14,800
Speaker 8: Now what's up, nigga?

1286
00:58:15,160 --> 00:58:17,880
Speaker 7: But that niggas on the spectrum. We always knew that

1287
00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:18,560
Speaker 7: growing up.

1288
00:58:18,640 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 8: So now you're a wrong person with kids and a

1289
00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 8: wife and don't nobody know your past going to have that.

1290
00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:31,360
Speaker 6: I was in the little bus and.

1291
00:58:30,640 --> 00:58:32,960
Speaker 10: There's no way that that girl got with him and

1292
00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:36,360
Speaker 10: didn't think he wasn't special, y'all know.

1293
00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:38,960
Speaker 8: I mean, he figured out a way to make money

1294
00:58:39,240 --> 00:58:40,560
Speaker 8: and I fix people ship, so.

1295
00:58:40,520 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 6: He can't be that.

1296
00:58:41,360 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 11: So you see exactly, big ass Julie trunk like he

1297
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:58,080
Speaker 11: making money, he got a big brain, that boy member wearing,

1298
00:58:58,120 --> 00:58:59,920
Speaker 11: but the wrong ship, Like who the hell was it

1299
00:59:00,120 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 11: that class for students?

1300
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 6: That's what I want to know.

1301
00:59:04,480 --> 00:59:06,440
Speaker 8: That telling me to ask on the first date how

1302
00:59:06,520 --> 00:59:08,600
Speaker 8: many people was in your class in high school?

1303
00:59:09,040 --> 00:59:13,400
Speaker 6: Because I was in the sole class ones but I

1304
00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:13,800
Speaker 6: knew it.

1305
00:59:14,280 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 4: I knew it.

1306
00:59:19,080 --> 00:59:27,520
Speaker 6: Listen, I need to explain. I need to explain.

1307
00:59:27,600 --> 00:59:31,320
Speaker 1: We're not going to just leave that right there, right now, So.

1308
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:38,240
Speaker 6: Okay, like the up just a quick story, all right.

1309
00:59:38,320 --> 00:59:42,600
Speaker 5: So I took I was in a P math, which

1310
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:45,200
Speaker 5: is advanced for those of you that don't know. So

1311
00:59:45,280 --> 00:59:48,640
Speaker 5: I took a freshman math in middle school and I

1312
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:51,480
Speaker 5: failed it, right, I took it in the ninth grade.

1313
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:52,480
Speaker 6: I failed it again.

1314
00:59:53,280 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 5: They put me in geometry in the so it would

1315
00:59:56,800 --> 00:59:58,600
Speaker 5: be like four by four so you could take like

1316
00:59:58,960 --> 01:00:00,880
Speaker 5: a full semester of class is in the beginning of

1317
01:00:00,880 --> 01:00:02,880
Speaker 5: the year and then the full semester. So they put

1318
01:00:02,920 --> 01:00:05,439
Speaker 5: me in geometry and I passed it. Then they put

1319
01:00:05,440 --> 01:00:09,960
Speaker 5: me in like what comes after that, uh, trigonometry or

1320
01:00:09,960 --> 01:00:10,600
Speaker 5: something like that.

1321
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:12,480
Speaker 6: So they put me in all the masks.

1322
01:00:12,760 --> 01:00:14,440
Speaker 5: By the time it was time for me to graduate,

1323
01:00:14,560 --> 01:00:16,080
Speaker 5: like my junior year, they were looking at what I

1324
01:00:16,120 --> 01:00:18,920
Speaker 5: needed and I had never gotten the algebra one credit.

1325
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:20,760
Speaker 6: So now they were like.

1326
01:00:20,760 --> 01:00:24,479
Speaker 5: What how work can we Yeah, where can I put

1327
01:00:24,520 --> 01:00:27,080
Speaker 5: you to make sure we have everything you need to graduate?

1328
01:00:27,360 --> 01:00:29,720
Speaker 5: And the only math class that would have counted as

1329
01:00:29,760 --> 01:00:33,680
Speaker 5: my freshman math was this remedial math class.

1330
01:00:34,000 --> 01:00:36,160
Speaker 6: So I was in it, and baby, we was in

1331
01:00:36,240 --> 01:00:37,200
Speaker 6: there drawing off.

1332
01:00:43,720 --> 01:00:46,840
Speaker 5: I'm telling you that there were blocks and I would

1333
01:00:46,840 --> 01:00:49,160
Speaker 5: be so embarrassed to go in that class because I

1334
01:00:49,160 --> 01:00:51,240
Speaker 5: could do like I could do math, well, you know

1335
01:00:51,280 --> 01:00:54,440
Speaker 5: I had passed all these I would dive in that bitch.

1336
01:00:54,240 --> 01:00:55,440
Speaker 6: When the bell right.

1337
01:00:59,200 --> 01:01:03,080
Speaker 8: Nobody I have had classes and just no class man

1338
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:06,400
Speaker 8: like nigga, we see y'all, Like why y'all running.

1339
01:01:06,160 --> 01:01:08,160
Speaker 3: To the bus with y'all book back on your face?

1340
01:01:11,800 --> 01:01:12,760
Speaker 6: Turkey off the wall?

1341
01:01:16,320 --> 01:01:22,040
Speaker 8: That is crazy, Turkey down.

1342
01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:24,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, turkey up.

1343
01:01:24,760 --> 01:01:28,800
Speaker 5: Ain't no group pictures, no, So what ended up happening?

1344
01:01:29,480 --> 01:01:31,720
Speaker 5: So what ended up happened is all right, the work

1345
01:01:31,800 --> 01:01:33,360
Speaker 5: was so easy that I would do it so fast,

1346
01:01:33,360 --> 01:01:35,120
Speaker 5: and then I would disrupt the rest of the class,

1347
01:01:35,160 --> 01:01:39,720
Speaker 5: like makeup. I was start doing makeup, pike your hair

1348
01:01:39,800 --> 01:01:40,400
Speaker 5: on the kids.

1349
01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:41,680
Speaker 6: Who really needed to be doing the work.

1350
01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:44,040
Speaker 5: So the teacher just like, look, you can't be a

1351
01:01:44,040 --> 01:01:46,320
Speaker 5: part of the class because you're disrupting. So he just

1352
01:01:46,320 --> 01:01:48,240
Speaker 5: gave me a big packet of work to do and

1353
01:01:48,280 --> 01:01:50,560
Speaker 5: just turn it in and that would be my math grade.

1354
01:01:50,600 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 1: So they separated you in the class.

1355
01:01:52,320 --> 01:01:54,800
Speaker 6: They did separate me, you know, real time.

1356
01:01:54,800 --> 01:01:56,480
Speaker 4: That's what we're going on in private schools. I ain't

1357
01:01:56,520 --> 01:01:56,960
Speaker 4: mad at it.

1358
01:01:57,080 --> 01:01:57,960
Speaker 1: Oh they cooked the books.

1359
01:01:58,000 --> 01:01:59,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what they're going on.

1360
01:01:59,160 --> 01:01:59,920
Speaker 1: In schools.

1361
01:02:00,040 --> 01:02:01,960
Speaker 4: They cooked the book. I'm not mad at it at all.

1362
01:02:02,160 --> 01:02:03,560
Speaker 4: Probably be teaching anything.

1363
01:02:03,920 --> 01:02:04,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, they cooked.

1364
01:02:05,520 --> 01:02:06,200
Speaker 6: So that was my.

1365
01:02:09,160 --> 01:02:10,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, you was a provo say that.

1366
01:02:12,120 --> 01:02:15,640
Speaker 5: Just go with that, all right, tell us you'll proudest

1367
01:02:15,640 --> 01:02:17,400
Speaker 5: moment so far as a father.

1368
01:02:18,560 --> 01:02:22,880
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, my kid. I think he won. I

1369
01:02:22,920 --> 01:02:25,640
Speaker 1: think he definitely didn't win president. He won vice president

1370
01:02:25,680 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 1: of his daycare class.

1371
01:02:27,120 --> 01:02:27,800
Speaker 6: The three year old.

1372
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:31,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, populous, Yeah, we want to day care.

1373
01:02:31,280 --> 01:02:32,760
Speaker 7: Everybody come in.

1374
01:02:32,840 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, but he don't know like two of

1375
01:02:35,240 --> 01:02:38,080
Speaker 1: the other girls in his class, they're twins. They're his cousins,

1376
01:02:38,440 --> 01:02:40,160
Speaker 1: so they be coming up hugging him, and he'd be

1377
01:02:40,200 --> 01:02:42,880
Speaker 1: making sure nobody don't mess with them and everything. But yeah,

1378
01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:46,720
Speaker 1: probably that and probably you know, one time I said

1379
01:02:47,160 --> 01:02:48,680
Speaker 1: I love you and he's like, I love you too

1380
01:02:48,760 --> 01:02:52,280
Speaker 1: much and he just walked off and it was funny,

1381
01:02:52,320 --> 01:02:53,760
Speaker 1: but it was cute trying.

1382
01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:55,160
Speaker 7: To tell you you love him too much.

1383
01:02:56,240 --> 01:02:57,400
Speaker 1: And I don't know what he was trying to say.

1384
01:02:57,440 --> 01:02:59,480
Speaker 1: But other than that, Yeah, my kid, you know I'm

1385
01:02:59,520 --> 01:03:01,280
Speaker 1: bringing in one day, Yeah.

1386
01:03:02,280 --> 01:03:05,520
Speaker 5: Because he Yeah, what about you?

1387
01:03:05,840 --> 01:03:07,040
Speaker 4: I don't I don't know.

1388
01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:10,600
Speaker 10: Like recently, I mean, my kid, I'm constantly like just

1389
01:03:10,640 --> 01:03:13,120
Speaker 10: amazing at the little human that he's becoming. So like

1390
01:03:13,200 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 10: this is his fifth grade year, so you know, he's

1391
01:03:15,280 --> 01:03:16,600
Speaker 10: like a senior in elementary school.

1392
01:03:16,600 --> 01:03:18,240
Speaker 4: So I think just watching him.

1393
01:03:18,040 --> 01:03:20,240
Speaker 10: Be like cool, like he gets out of the car

1394
01:03:20,320 --> 01:03:22,640
Speaker 10: cool now, like the way he walks, and just like,

1395
01:03:23,080 --> 01:03:24,440
Speaker 10: you know, I'll be messing with it. I'd be like

1396
01:03:24,760 --> 01:03:28,600
Speaker 10: Lay's son. You know, he'd be like, man, come on, yeah,

1397
01:03:28,840 --> 01:03:31,080
Speaker 10: chill out, man. So it's just I think, just send

1398
01:03:31,120 --> 01:03:33,560
Speaker 10: him mature to a little man. We were now I

1399
01:03:33,560 --> 01:03:35,560
Speaker 10: will say this, we were at camp. This is gonna

1400
01:03:35,560 --> 01:03:37,560
Speaker 10: be like my second Bible reference. I probably I'm not

1401
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:41,440
Speaker 10: a real pastor, but we were in We were in

1402
01:03:41,440 --> 01:03:42,920
Speaker 10: there with all the kids in the cabinet and like

1403
01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:44,120
Speaker 10: my son was like the only one end of the

1404
01:03:44,200 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 10: night was like, all right, I'm going to bed.

1405
01:03:45,440 --> 01:03:47,600
Speaker 4: Y'all can stay up and play. I'm going to sleep.

1406
01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:51,320
Speaker 10: And then it was it was funny because we had

1407
01:03:51,480 --> 01:03:54,480
Speaker 10: this Muslim parent there with his son and like my son,

1408
01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:57,520
Speaker 10: he's getting in bed and he starts saying his prayers right,

1409
01:03:58,080 --> 01:03:59,880
Speaker 10: and it was like they're like, hey, what do you do.

1410
01:04:00,560 --> 01:04:02,120
Speaker 10: You know He's like are you reading? And I was

1411
01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:04,360
Speaker 10: like no, he's praying like you need to hush. So,

1412
01:04:04,600 --> 01:04:07,120
Speaker 10: like just seeing him being willing to do that no

1413
01:04:07,120 --> 01:04:11,800
Speaker 10: matter who's around, I was like, okay, look, little do legit.

1414
01:04:11,960 --> 01:04:15,560
Speaker 8: So that's definitely a you got a girlfriend talking about girl,

1415
01:04:15,800 --> 01:04:16,360
Speaker 8: you know.

1416
01:04:16,440 --> 01:04:17,600
Speaker 1: You know what's funny.

1417
01:04:17,840 --> 01:04:20,000
Speaker 10: So I was I was at camp and my son

1418
01:04:20,080 --> 01:04:22,000
Speaker 10: is clueless to this little girl that likes her, Like

1419
01:04:22,040 --> 01:04:24,840
Speaker 10: it was so funny to watch. She's like she likes

1420
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:27,000
Speaker 10: him so much and he is clueless.

1421
01:04:27,600 --> 01:04:28,880
Speaker 4: Like I had that. I'm like, I was like, hey,

1422
01:04:28,880 --> 01:04:29,400
Speaker 4: who is that?

1423
01:04:29,760 --> 01:04:31,200
Speaker 10: And he was like who was like, you know, little

1424
01:04:31,240 --> 01:04:33,120
Speaker 10: such said you know that had ran up here, and

1425
01:04:33,160 --> 01:04:35,280
Speaker 10: he was just like, oh, that is somebody in my class.

1426
01:04:35,320 --> 01:04:36,960
Speaker 4: I was like, okay, I was like, y'all talk. He

1427
01:04:37,040 --> 01:04:38,920
Speaker 4: was just like no, I mean not really. I was

1428
01:04:38,920 --> 01:04:39,440
Speaker 4: just like okay.

1429
01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:40,920
Speaker 10: So I was like, I'm gonna leave it alone. Like

1430
01:04:40,920 --> 01:04:42,600
Speaker 10: I'm not going I'm not gonna press him. But it's

1431
01:04:42,640 --> 01:04:45,280
Speaker 10: so obvious, like she she pops up. She wasn't in

1432
01:04:45,320 --> 01:04:47,360
Speaker 10: our group. I kept seeing her, you know, and I'm

1433
01:04:47,440 --> 01:04:50,200
Speaker 10: just like, I was like, son, just say hi when

1434
01:04:50,200 --> 01:04:52,680
Speaker 10: she comes up to you, just say hi, just say

1435
01:04:52,680 --> 01:04:53,640
Speaker 10: her name, just say hi.

1436
01:04:53,720 --> 01:04:54,800
Speaker 4: That's all the game.

1437
01:04:54,880 --> 01:04:56,600
Speaker 10: I gave him like I do not want him to

1438
01:04:56,640 --> 01:04:59,400
Speaker 10: be at the girls, But no, he's not into like

1439
01:04:59,440 --> 01:05:02,920
Speaker 10: he's not into understanding the dynamics of that at the

1440
01:05:02,960 --> 01:05:04,240
Speaker 10: moment she is, though.

1441
01:05:05,520 --> 01:05:07,800
Speaker 1: It's gonna come about six to seventh grade.

1442
01:05:08,120 --> 01:05:10,320
Speaker 8: So, Gavin, you said, like nobody told you, So, what's

1443
01:05:10,360 --> 01:05:13,520
Speaker 8: some things that you wish you would have known three

1444
01:05:13,640 --> 01:05:14,720
Speaker 8: years ago before you.

1445
01:05:14,720 --> 01:05:15,440
Speaker 7: Had this baby?

1446
01:05:15,560 --> 01:05:19,600
Speaker 1: Yo, that first four months is hell. That is just

1447
01:05:19,880 --> 01:05:21,440
Speaker 1: Mike told me to get a rocking chair. That's the

1448
01:05:21,480 --> 01:05:23,720
Speaker 1: only advice he gave me. Now, mind, y'all been knowing

1449
01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:26,160
Speaker 1: Mike has known me my whole life. The only advice

1450
01:05:26,200 --> 01:05:28,240
Speaker 1: he gave me is get you a rocking chair. And

1451
01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:32,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, for what y'all needed that I needed at

1452
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:34,800
Speaker 1: that first four months. And you know, my wife went

1453
01:05:34,840 --> 01:05:38,680
Speaker 1: through postpartum like bad, right, and so I didn't know

1454
01:05:38,720 --> 01:05:40,680
Speaker 1: nothing about that. Like my dad didn't sit me down.

1455
01:05:40,680 --> 01:05:42,440
Speaker 1: I'm very close to my father. I want y'all think

1456
01:05:42,440 --> 01:05:46,240
Speaker 1: he ain't here, he ain't out here. But even that,

1457
01:05:46,480 --> 01:05:49,800
Speaker 1: and you know that time, I'm thinking thirty five years ago,

1458
01:05:49,800 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 1: I don't know like what postpartum looked like for those

1459
01:05:51,960 --> 01:05:54,360
Speaker 1: men and who had to deal with that. So that

1460
01:05:54,640 --> 01:05:57,640
Speaker 1: just coaching, like being there for my wife, understanding that

1461
01:05:59,480 --> 01:06:01,480
Speaker 1: I don't know, most part was like really tough, you

1462
01:06:01,480 --> 01:06:03,240
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. You know, it was funny enough.

1463
01:06:03,320 --> 01:06:04,960
Speaker 1: So my wife is Puerto Rican and I have to

1464
01:06:04,960 --> 01:06:07,640
Speaker 1: stress that because all the black women used to come

1465
01:06:07,720 --> 01:06:09,440
Speaker 1: up there and be like, oh, you're breastfeeding. You know,

1466
01:06:09,520 --> 01:06:12,440
Speaker 1: that's women's way of like shaving each other, like y'all shit,

1467
01:06:12,920 --> 01:06:16,840
Speaker 1: And so it's like, oh, are you breastfeeding titties?

1468
01:06:16,960 --> 01:06:18,400
Speaker 7: I mean babies hanging upities?

1469
01:06:18,680 --> 01:06:21,479
Speaker 1: So when when women be like no, like black women

1470
01:06:21,560 --> 01:06:23,440
Speaker 1: just roll their eyes and run off. But so that

1471
01:06:23,560 --> 01:06:25,920
Speaker 1: was our thing. We knew she knew she was breastfeeding, right,

1472
01:06:26,040 --> 01:06:27,640
Speaker 1: So it was like I was glad because I'm like,

1473
01:06:27,680 --> 01:06:30,880
Speaker 1: please answer this quick question correctly, right, And we get there,

1474
01:06:30,920 --> 01:06:34,400
Speaker 1: and then she couldn't feed past like six weeks, and

1475
01:06:34,440 --> 01:06:37,000
Speaker 1: so she got like depressed and she was going through it.

1476
01:06:37,320 --> 01:06:39,120
Speaker 1: And it was one of them things where it was like, yo,

1477
01:06:39,160 --> 01:06:42,040
Speaker 1: I gotta sit down and really focus on my wife

1478
01:06:42,120 --> 01:06:45,680
Speaker 1: because if she's not okay, then my baby's not okay.

1479
01:06:45,800 --> 01:06:47,400
Speaker 1: I don't want to go and do a photo shoot

1480
01:06:47,440 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 1: and wonder if my kid is okay. You know what

1481
01:06:49,560 --> 01:06:53,000
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So I wish somebody would have maybe sat

1482
01:06:53,040 --> 01:06:55,160
Speaker 1: me down and been like, yo, like get ready for this,

1483
01:06:55,160 --> 01:06:59,160
Speaker 1: this could happen, Like just be be patient, like take shifts.

1484
01:06:59,480 --> 01:07:01,440
Speaker 1: I think Mike told me that once I can't. He

1485
01:07:01,520 --> 01:07:03,440
Speaker 1: saw me, and I was as tired as hell, but

1486
01:07:03,480 --> 01:07:05,000
Speaker 1: he was like, oh, y'all got to take ships. Like

1487
01:07:05,680 --> 01:07:09,120
Speaker 1: whatever video game you want to play, like start it over,

1488
01:07:09,640 --> 01:07:10,880
Speaker 1: start over, You're just gonna be up.

1489
01:07:11,040 --> 01:07:11,680
Speaker 4: It's gonna be up.

1490
01:07:11,920 --> 01:07:14,360
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think I started watching The Wire, you know,

1491
01:07:14,480 --> 01:07:17,120
Speaker 1: again and so and then by that time, my kid

1492
01:07:17,240 --> 01:07:19,480
Speaker 1: was older. When I say older, he was like a year,

1493
01:07:19,520 --> 01:07:21,680
Speaker 1: So me and him started watching The Wire again, you

1494
01:07:21,680 --> 01:07:23,200
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So it's one of those things

1495
01:07:23,240 --> 01:07:25,680
Speaker 1: like just be prepared and watch after your girl, Like

1496
01:07:25,800 --> 01:07:27,720
Speaker 1: if you don't like your girl, don't give her kid.

1497
01:07:28,720 --> 01:07:30,640
Speaker 1: I stress that. I stressed that a lot. If you

1498
01:07:30,680 --> 01:07:33,760
Speaker 1: don't like her, do not give her a child, because.

1499
01:07:33,800 --> 01:07:36,160
Speaker 7: It's even, you know, more important than loving.

1500
01:07:36,080 --> 01:07:39,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, because when shit gets real, like you gotta take

1501
01:07:39,520 --> 01:07:42,320
Speaker 1: care of her and your baby. And so, like I

1502
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:45,000
Speaker 1: tell everybody now, my wife's job matters the most in

1503
01:07:45,040 --> 01:07:48,760
Speaker 1: our household because I'm an entrepreneur. So whenever she has

1504
01:07:48,800 --> 01:07:51,480
Speaker 1: to do something like my schedule has to adapt to that. So,

1505
01:07:51,760 --> 01:07:55,040
Speaker 1: like I said, Shan Cabo, so yo, my working hours

1506
01:07:55,120 --> 01:07:58,800
Speaker 1: changed because who gonna watch my kid? Me? So yeah,

1507
01:07:58,840 --> 01:08:00,520
Speaker 1: if you don't like your girl, don't give it. Yeah please?

1508
01:08:02,600 --> 01:08:08,400
Speaker 8: As a as a well dad, that's single divorcee. What

1509
01:08:08,440 --> 01:08:11,040
Speaker 8: do you think about step dad's Oh gosh, what's the

1510
01:08:11,080 --> 01:08:15,160
Speaker 8: comedian that was recently on the Breakfast Club And basically

1511
01:08:15,200 --> 01:08:18,800
Speaker 8: he said, if the women ain't acting right, just is

1512
01:08:18,840 --> 01:08:21,280
Speaker 8: gonna make another family? That's one thing he said, just gonna.

1513
01:08:21,080 --> 01:08:23,040
Speaker 4: Have another baby, don't raise anybody else.

1514
01:08:23,120 --> 01:08:26,559
Speaker 3: Yeah, he did say basically like stepdaddy's is we go

1515
01:08:26,760 --> 01:08:29,360
Speaker 3: ultimate simps or I disagree?

1516
01:08:29,640 --> 01:08:31,320
Speaker 7: Yeah, I do too, But I mean.

1517
01:08:34,880 --> 01:08:38,280
Speaker 10: So it's a lot. It's just it's layered. It's a

1518
01:08:38,320 --> 01:08:40,760
Speaker 10: layered on you in there. So I don't think there's

1519
01:08:40,760 --> 01:08:44,080
Speaker 10: anything wrong with the woman as a child, right. But

1520
01:08:44,280 --> 01:08:46,400
Speaker 10: one of the things that I always stress, and any

1521
01:08:46,600 --> 01:08:48,559
Speaker 10: any guy who knows me knows that I say this,

1522
01:08:48,680 --> 01:08:51,800
Speaker 10: Like one of my boys married a young lady had

1523
01:08:51,800 --> 01:08:54,560
Speaker 10: a kid, and me and he and I have conversations

1524
01:08:54,560 --> 01:08:57,280
Speaker 10: and I'd be like, hey, that's not your child, that's

1525
01:08:57,360 --> 01:09:00,280
Speaker 10: his child. You need to reach out to him, Like,

1526
01:09:00,320 --> 01:09:02,640
Speaker 10: don't go off of what she say, reach out to

1527
01:09:02,640 --> 01:09:04,400
Speaker 10: that man because the dude was active. I was like,

1528
01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:08,280
Speaker 10: she's going to cause friction between you and him, and

1529
01:09:08,360 --> 01:09:11,200
Speaker 10: low key, that's what she wants. Because she didn't want that,

1530
01:09:11,320 --> 01:09:15,080
Speaker 10: she wouldn't cause the friction. So he and I, I mean,

1531
01:09:15,080 --> 01:09:18,320
Speaker 10: I'm talking, we've had some like real conversations about that.

1532
01:09:18,400 --> 01:09:20,680
Speaker 10: Ain't your kid, bro? Now the kid is older now,

1533
01:09:20,880 --> 01:09:23,439
Speaker 10: and when he's when he speaks of having children, he says,

1534
01:09:23,479 --> 01:09:26,800
Speaker 10: you know, I got three kids, and he's including that child, right,

1535
01:09:27,760 --> 01:09:30,840
Speaker 10: But that was after he really understood it, like, yo,

1536
01:09:30,880 --> 01:09:34,200
Speaker 10: I got to include this other man and decisions regarding

1537
01:09:34,240 --> 01:09:36,719
Speaker 10: his child and that did not come from his wife.

1538
01:09:36,880 --> 01:09:39,639
Speaker 4: He married the lady. That wasn't coming from her.

1539
01:09:40,000 --> 01:09:42,760
Speaker 10: If he was, if he would have followed, she was

1540
01:09:42,800 --> 01:09:47,000
Speaker 10: ready to just discard the dude that you know, created Yeah,

1541
01:09:47,439 --> 01:09:49,519
Speaker 10: And I was like, I was like, bro, don't do that.

1542
01:09:49,720 --> 01:09:51,960
Speaker 10: I was like, it's your job to reach out to

1543
01:09:52,000 --> 01:09:55,120
Speaker 10: the man. So anytime we have these conversations around stepdad

1544
01:09:55,479 --> 01:09:57,720
Speaker 10: and I see that the two men aren't conversating, I

1545
01:09:57,800 --> 01:10:00,640
Speaker 10: don't like it just being just being frank because now

1546
01:10:00,680 --> 01:10:02,880
Speaker 10: we're going through the woman. Why are we going why

1547
01:10:02,880 --> 01:10:04,479
Speaker 10: are we going through her? We're two grown men. Why

1548
01:10:04,520 --> 01:10:05,759
Speaker 10: are we going through her about anything?

1549
01:10:06,400 --> 01:10:08,439
Speaker 6: But there's a lot of egos involved in that. You're like,

1550
01:10:08,439 --> 01:10:09,240
Speaker 6: I don't want to talk to that.

1551
01:10:09,400 --> 01:10:11,040
Speaker 4: There should be no there should be no man.

1552
01:10:11,080 --> 01:10:13,200
Speaker 10: If I married woman with a child, that man should

1553
01:10:13,200 --> 01:10:16,320
Speaker 10: not be calling my wife. If I married, if I

1554
01:10:16,360 --> 01:10:17,880
Speaker 10: married one with a child, that man should not be

1555
01:10:17,920 --> 01:10:18,599
Speaker 10: calling my wife.

1556
01:10:18,920 --> 01:10:21,800
Speaker 4: He should be calling he should be calling me. He

1557
01:10:21,800 --> 01:10:22,680
Speaker 4: should be calling me.

1558
01:10:23,280 --> 01:10:25,680
Speaker 1: He should happen that way. But it's never gonna happen

1559
01:10:25,680 --> 01:10:25,960
Speaker 1: that way.

1560
01:10:26,280 --> 01:10:28,200
Speaker 4: Like, he should not be calling that is my wife.

1561
01:10:28,479 --> 01:10:29,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's never gonna happen.

1562
01:10:29,680 --> 01:10:30,599
Speaker 6: But they got kids together.

1563
01:10:30,760 --> 01:10:31,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.

1564
01:10:31,439 --> 01:10:35,120
Speaker 10: And that's the problem with stepdad is they have children

1565
01:10:35,160 --> 01:10:36,960
Speaker 10: together and there's a gun there, and it's like, yo,

1566
01:10:37,360 --> 01:10:38,599
Speaker 10: you have to reshape that.

1567
01:10:39,040 --> 01:10:40,479
Speaker 7: But what if everybody got along.

1568
01:10:40,680 --> 01:10:43,200
Speaker 3: Do you have a good relationship, y'all have a good relationship,

1569
01:10:43,200 --> 01:10:43,400
Speaker 3: Well you.

1570
01:10:43,400 --> 01:10:44,479
Speaker 4: Better hope it's not too good.

1571
01:10:44,960 --> 01:10:48,759
Speaker 6: Oh my god, that's way ego.

1572
01:10:49,479 --> 01:10:53,080
Speaker 4: That's not that's not feel No.

1573
01:10:53,120 --> 01:10:57,040
Speaker 10: I'm so I'm practical, and I look at things were practical.

1574
01:10:57,720 --> 01:11:00,000
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean, because if I have a healthy relationship

1575
01:11:00,160 --> 01:11:01,040
Speaker 8: if I have a child.

1576
01:11:00,960 --> 01:11:03,080
Speaker 3: Like you, Yeah, your kid's.

1577
01:11:02,920 --> 01:11:03,960
Speaker 7: Mom, if.

1578
01:11:05,439 --> 01:11:07,240
Speaker 4: She was remarried, I'll talk to the dude.

1579
01:11:07,360 --> 01:11:09,400
Speaker 3: You wouldn't talk to her no more. Do y'all talk now?

1580
01:11:09,560 --> 01:11:11,920
Speaker 4: Yeah? We do? We talk now, we talk. We talk often.

1581
01:11:14,439 --> 01:11:14,920
Speaker 7: Get married.

1582
01:11:15,640 --> 01:11:18,479
Speaker 10: That's his wife, now, that's his Why if it was

1583
01:11:18,520 --> 01:11:21,800
Speaker 10: an emergency, sure, but like the casual conversations. No, if

1584
01:11:21,800 --> 01:11:23,559
Speaker 10: I if I need, if I need to come grab

1585
01:11:23,600 --> 01:11:25,639
Speaker 10: my kid, right, I would, I'd be like, hey, I'm

1586
01:11:25,640 --> 01:11:28,040
Speaker 10: coming over. I am going to tell the man I

1587
01:11:28,080 --> 01:11:30,880
Speaker 10: am coming to his house before I pop up at

1588
01:11:30,920 --> 01:11:33,800
Speaker 10: his house, because no telling what's going on between him

1589
01:11:33,800 --> 01:11:36,479
Speaker 10: and his wife. As someone that's been married, there's no

1590
01:11:36,600 --> 01:11:40,000
Speaker 10: telling what's going on between him and his wife. So yes,

1591
01:11:40,080 --> 01:11:42,439
Speaker 10: I am going to reach out to the husband.

1592
01:11:43,040 --> 01:11:44,280
Speaker 6: Respect factor, I get that.

1593
01:11:44,560 --> 01:11:46,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, why would we have that?

1594
01:11:46,640 --> 01:11:50,200
Speaker 10: Then if we stepdad, why wouldn't we have respect for

1595
01:11:50,520 --> 01:11:54,599
Speaker 10: the child's father and the husband? Right most because most

1596
01:11:54,640 --> 01:11:57,120
Speaker 10: of the time the ladies aren't going to encourage that.

1597
01:11:57,120 --> 01:11:59,599
Speaker 10: That is up to the men. So yes, I'm very

1598
01:11:59,600 --> 01:12:01,920
Speaker 10: hard on guys. If you're going to marry a woman

1599
01:12:01,920 --> 01:12:04,519
Speaker 10: to have a child, you need to find that child's father.

1600
01:12:04,560 --> 01:12:05,960
Speaker 10: I don't care what she told you. I don't care

1601
01:12:06,000 --> 01:12:08,080
Speaker 10: what she said. He didn't exists here in jail.

1602
01:12:08,160 --> 01:12:10,559
Speaker 4: He's dead. Go to the cemetery. Make sure he's dead.

1603
01:12:13,000 --> 01:12:14,080
Speaker 4: Make sure I tell a.

1604
01:12:14,080 --> 01:12:17,600
Speaker 8: Woman if y'all if he not active, just tell people anyway,

1605
01:12:19,200 --> 01:12:19,439
Speaker 8: are you.

1606
01:12:19,520 --> 01:12:21,599
Speaker 3: Getting this new man?

1607
01:12:22,000 --> 01:12:23,480
Speaker 4: And I'm like, make sure.

1608
01:12:25,840 --> 01:12:28,519
Speaker 12: Everything going well and you're gonna say, oh, you just

1609
01:12:28,520 --> 01:12:37,679
Speaker 12: got this randoms, make sure that's what I'm staying there?

1610
01:12:38,080 --> 01:12:39,599
Speaker 6: What are yours for young fathers?

1611
01:12:41,240 --> 01:12:41,479
Speaker 1: One?

1612
01:12:42,080 --> 01:12:43,920
Speaker 10: First, they have said, make sure you put a baby

1613
01:12:43,960 --> 01:12:45,599
Speaker 10: and a woman you like, make sure you just don't

1614
01:12:45,640 --> 01:12:47,760
Speaker 10: like the sex, because that's where babies come from.

1615
01:12:47,880 --> 01:12:48,400
Speaker 1: Marry her.

1616
01:12:48,680 --> 01:12:50,679
Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, And I think that's part of the problem.

1617
01:12:50,680 --> 01:12:53,080
Speaker 10: Like if you don't want to marry one, don't don't

1618
01:12:53,120 --> 01:12:55,000
Speaker 10: have children with that woman. It's too hard, it's too

1619
01:12:55,040 --> 01:12:56,960
Speaker 10: hard to preparent for two homes.

1620
01:12:57,240 --> 01:12:58,639
Speaker 4: And I do it. I won't.

1621
01:12:58,720 --> 01:13:01,800
Speaker 10: I won't even say I'm doing sucessfully. Like we're treading water,

1622
01:13:01,880 --> 01:13:03,800
Speaker 10: you know what I'm saying, Like it's way better to

1623
01:13:03,840 --> 01:13:05,759
Speaker 10: be in the home together. There's so many times where

1624
01:13:06,000 --> 01:13:08,960
Speaker 10: I'm like, so much better if I was married, not

1625
01:13:09,240 --> 01:13:11,960
Speaker 10: even so much like married to her, just in general, Like, yo,

1626
01:13:12,080 --> 01:13:14,800
Speaker 10: just be so much better if there was two people here.

1627
01:13:14,840 --> 01:13:16,519
Speaker 10: So that's the first thing. Make sure you like the

1628
01:13:16,560 --> 01:13:18,320
Speaker 10: woman you know, make sure you want to marry her

1629
01:13:18,360 --> 01:13:20,160
Speaker 10: before you ever get don't have babies out of wet low.

1630
01:13:20,280 --> 01:13:23,559
Speaker 10: That's the worst way to destroy any future wealth that

1631
01:13:23,600 --> 01:13:26,479
Speaker 10: you'll ever make. It's having a baby out of wet loss.

1632
01:13:26,479 --> 01:13:29,000
Speaker 10: So that's always the first advice I have the young men.

1633
01:13:29,200 --> 01:13:31,000
Speaker 10: And then the second thing is everything that Gavin said.

1634
01:13:31,040 --> 01:13:34,320
Speaker 10: No one really tells us. No one is really honest

1635
01:13:34,320 --> 01:13:38,599
Speaker 10: with us how harmonal women are, like just in general,

1636
01:13:38,920 --> 01:13:42,320
Speaker 10: not like the way that women are. No, we're not

1637
01:13:42,320 --> 01:13:44,919
Speaker 10: not the way like as we get older, our tests

1638
01:13:45,000 --> 01:13:48,720
Speaker 10: don't actually start waning. We actually become more peaceful to

1639
01:13:48,760 --> 01:13:51,400
Speaker 10: deal with as we get older. So but no one's

1640
01:13:51,439 --> 01:13:55,679
Speaker 10: really honest with us about when she have a baby, like, yo,

1641
01:13:56,240 --> 01:13:59,320
Speaker 10: it ain't even you, bru at all has zero percent

1642
01:13:59,360 --> 01:14:01,360
Speaker 10: to do with you. Has er because it's hard not

1643
01:14:01,360 --> 01:14:04,960
Speaker 10: to take it personal when it's coming at you, right,

1644
01:14:05,240 --> 01:14:07,479
Speaker 10: No one really explains that to men. I think we

1645
01:14:07,560 --> 01:14:10,880
Speaker 10: all hope that people have great pregnancies and she doesn't

1646
01:14:10,920 --> 01:14:15,000
Speaker 10: experience it. But there's too many conversations amongst men where

1647
01:14:15,000 --> 01:14:18,360
Speaker 10: we're like, man, all right, this was wild. You know

1648
01:14:18,400 --> 01:14:21,360
Speaker 10: what I'm saying, Like this everything almost fell apart during

1649
01:14:21,439 --> 01:14:22,679
Speaker 10: this timeframe right here.

1650
01:14:23,120 --> 01:14:26,920
Speaker 5: But you can't imagine how many changes a woman's body

1651
01:14:26,960 --> 01:14:28,719
Speaker 5: goes through when she has a child.

1652
01:14:28,760 --> 01:14:29,760
Speaker 4: I agree, That's what I'm saying.

1653
01:14:29,960 --> 01:14:32,880
Speaker 10: Men need to have the conversation, like we don't really

1654
01:14:32,920 --> 01:14:35,479
Speaker 10: have these conversations of like, yo, you know this is

1655
01:14:35,479 --> 01:14:37,599
Speaker 10: everything that was going on in my house.

1656
01:14:38,040 --> 01:14:40,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the problem that men have. It's like, like

1657
01:14:40,880 --> 01:14:43,320
Speaker 1: I tell everybody, when you get married, start hanging out

1658
01:14:43,320 --> 01:14:46,320
Speaker 1: with married people, Like seriously, that don't mean cut off

1659
01:14:46,360 --> 01:14:48,920
Speaker 1: your single friends. You know. It's funny. I have a

1660
01:14:49,040 --> 01:14:51,280
Speaker 1: dude and we're not as close anymore. But I remember

1661
01:14:51,280 --> 01:14:53,599
Speaker 1: he used to always say, like, yo, when my friends

1662
01:14:53,640 --> 01:14:55,880
Speaker 1: get married, I kind of just put space between us.

1663
01:14:56,000 --> 01:14:57,519
Speaker 1: And it was like weird to hear him say that

1664
01:14:57,520 --> 01:14:59,400
Speaker 1: because I was like, damn, I'm about to get married.

1665
01:15:00,640 --> 01:15:01,120
Speaker 7: My friend.

1666
01:15:01,400 --> 01:15:04,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's what exactly what happened. But now I'm like,

1667
01:15:05,280 --> 01:15:07,280
Speaker 1: all right, cool, it's cool with me. My life is

1668
01:15:07,320 --> 01:15:09,240
Speaker 1: better now. But I hang around people that me. Mike

1669
01:15:09,320 --> 01:15:11,000
Speaker 1: is probably the only person I hang around. There ain't

1670
01:15:11,000 --> 01:15:12,639
Speaker 1: mayor you know what I'm saying, But.

1671
01:15:12,600 --> 01:15:14,960
Speaker 7: Mike don't marriage mind.

1672
01:15:15,080 --> 01:15:17,639
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's a lot. Like Mike is way more mature,

1673
01:15:17,720 --> 01:15:20,639
Speaker 1: so it's like, you know, yeah, so when I'm hanging

1674
01:15:20,680 --> 01:15:22,479
Speaker 1: out with other people, and Mike has known me forever,

1675
01:15:22,600 --> 01:15:24,479
Speaker 1: so he knows what I'm into, what I'm not into,

1676
01:15:24,520 --> 01:15:25,920
Speaker 1: where i want to go, where I'm not going to go.

1677
01:15:26,880 --> 01:15:29,599
Speaker 1: But that part and then when you have kids start

1678
01:15:29,600 --> 01:15:32,559
Speaker 1: hanging around more fathers, like that is shape because when

1679
01:15:32,560 --> 01:15:36,799
Speaker 1: we get around, like I told Mike the story yesterday,

1680
01:15:37,000 --> 01:15:39,360
Speaker 1: like I put some money in the bank, I sent

1681
01:15:39,360 --> 01:15:42,160
Speaker 1: my wife to Costco for some trash bags. She came

1682
01:15:42,200 --> 01:15:44,360
Speaker 1: back with four bottles of wine and four bottles of

1683
01:15:44,439 --> 01:15:47,519
Speaker 1: champagne in the trash bags. And I'm like, Cis, I

1684
01:15:47,520 --> 01:15:49,200
Speaker 1: didn't give you money for this, Like what what are

1685
01:15:49,240 --> 01:15:51,599
Speaker 1: you doing? And you in your card for this shit? Right?

1686
01:15:51,960 --> 01:15:53,600
Speaker 1: And then I told her that the trash back was

1687
01:15:53,600 --> 01:15:56,120
Speaker 1: for my dad. My dad still doesn't have the trash bags.

1688
01:15:56,120 --> 01:15:58,160
Speaker 1: She forgot to give them to him. Like but you know,

1689
01:15:59,040 --> 01:16:03,800
Speaker 1: if I'm telling my single and I'm like yo, and

1690
01:16:03,800 --> 01:16:05,439
Speaker 1: then you know, her joke was, Oh, I'm gonna give

1691
01:16:05,439 --> 01:16:06,800
Speaker 1: you the money back for you y'all think I'm getting

1692
01:16:06,800 --> 01:16:09,680
Speaker 1: that money back? No, that shit is gone. And so

1693
01:16:10,760 --> 01:16:13,120
Speaker 1: if I'm telling people that's not married that or who

1694
01:16:13,120 --> 01:16:16,040
Speaker 1: don't have kids that, they're just like they're gonna come

1695
01:16:16,080 --> 01:16:18,840
Speaker 1: down on my wife and think whatever. But people that

1696
01:16:19,200 --> 01:16:22,320
Speaker 1: are with women, people that are have kids, they're just

1697
01:16:22,320 --> 01:16:24,800
Speaker 1: gonna be like, hey, man, like what Mike said, that's

1698
01:16:24,840 --> 01:16:25,320
Speaker 1: what women do.

1699
01:16:25,400 --> 01:16:26,000
Speaker 4: That's what women do.

1700
01:16:26,920 --> 01:16:29,360
Speaker 1: After he left, and it's like I wasn't even mad

1701
01:16:29,360 --> 01:16:31,800
Speaker 1: about it. It was just I was just expressing something. So

1702
01:16:32,080 --> 01:16:34,720
Speaker 1: it's like that my boy just got married. My boy

1703
01:16:34,760 --> 01:16:38,160
Speaker 1: Ryan just got married what three weeks ago? And I

1704
01:16:38,240 --> 01:16:39,880
Speaker 1: asked him last week, I'm like, how's it going. It's

1705
01:16:39,880 --> 01:16:43,240
Speaker 1: been two weeks? Because she get real when you get

1706
01:16:43,320 --> 01:16:49,800
Speaker 1: you say, I do ship change everything? Because like right now,

1707
01:16:49,840 --> 01:16:52,080
Speaker 1: we really got skinned in the game. And it's like

1708
01:16:52,720 --> 01:16:54,880
Speaker 1: some people do let their guard down. Well not even

1709
01:16:54,880 --> 01:16:58,040
Speaker 1: some people, everybody does. Like you know, the hardest thing

1710
01:16:58,040 --> 01:16:59,760
Speaker 1: for me and my wife was is when she moved

1711
01:16:59,840 --> 01:17:01,680
Speaker 1: in the house with me, And she moved in the

1712
01:17:01,680 --> 01:17:05,000
Speaker 1: house with me maybe six seven months before we got married.

1713
01:17:05,439 --> 01:17:07,840
Speaker 1: That would have happened the day we got married. And

1714
01:17:07,880 --> 01:17:10,120
Speaker 1: I ain't saying shack up. That would have happened the

1715
01:17:10,160 --> 01:17:11,479
Speaker 1: day we got married. We would have we would have

1716
01:17:11,560 --> 01:17:15,479
Speaker 1: made it, or if we wasn't engaged together first. Yeah,

1717
01:17:15,520 --> 01:17:18,439
Speaker 1: I've changed my stance on that. Yeah, but just don't

1718
01:17:18,640 --> 01:17:21,519
Speaker 1: don't get her pregnant, broy you're not.

1719
01:17:21,439 --> 01:17:24,120
Speaker 5: Married, but it's hard to do that living in the

1720
01:17:24,160 --> 01:17:26,840
Speaker 5: same house, it's right next to you.

1721
01:17:28,840 --> 01:17:30,800
Speaker 7: If a woman doesn't, like get pregnant, you don't have to.

1722
01:17:32,280 --> 01:17:33,360
Speaker 1: They're gonna kick you.

1723
01:17:33,600 --> 01:17:36,519
Speaker 8: All of us are here from the pull out method.

1724
01:17:36,680 --> 01:17:37,559
Speaker 8: About at least.

1725
01:17:37,439 --> 01:17:42,120
Speaker 6: Two of us sitting on this count here because somebody didn't.

1726
01:17:46,080 --> 01:17:48,840
Speaker 1: Sure and it's tough, like, but me and my wife,

1727
01:17:48,840 --> 01:17:50,639
Speaker 1: we wouldn't have made it. We got a look when

1728
01:17:50,680 --> 01:17:52,800
Speaker 1: the day she moved in, I was fussing at her mom.

1729
01:17:52,880 --> 01:17:56,120
Speaker 1: I was fussing at her I'm like And then probably

1730
01:17:56,160 --> 01:17:57,760
Speaker 1: two weeks later we had to like have a sit

1731
01:17:57,800 --> 01:17:59,479
Speaker 1: down because we was like, yo, we might not make

1732
01:17:59,520 --> 01:18:02,080
Speaker 1: it to the wedding day. And then it was a

1733
01:18:02,080 --> 01:18:06,040
Speaker 1: lot of me. It was a I was changed, Yeah,

1734
01:18:06,040 --> 01:18:08,080
Speaker 1: because she came to my house. Yeah, and I had

1735
01:18:08,120 --> 01:18:10,280
Speaker 1: to I had to say, this ain't my house no more,

1736
01:18:10,360 --> 01:18:14,760
Speaker 1: this is her house. This is our home. Like it's cool, cool,

1737
01:18:14,800 --> 01:18:17,880
Speaker 1: you bought it, your name on everything, You're not not anymore.

1738
01:18:17,880 --> 01:18:20,240
Speaker 1: If you want to be happy, like you gotta communicate.

1739
01:18:20,320 --> 01:18:22,600
Speaker 1: A lot of people don't communicate. But going back to

1740
01:18:22,600 --> 01:18:25,720
Speaker 1: what Mike said, like we got to teach men that hey,

1741
01:18:25,840 --> 01:18:28,720
Speaker 1: women are this way and it's okay, Like you're not

1742
01:18:28,760 --> 01:18:31,200
Speaker 1: going through something that's just so that ain't never happened.

1743
01:18:31,240 --> 01:18:32,040
Speaker 4: I feel like it's just you.

1744
01:18:32,479 --> 01:18:35,679
Speaker 10: Yeah, like nobody else has dealt with this, is dealing

1745
01:18:35,720 --> 01:18:37,759
Speaker 10: with this, and it's like that's not the case.

1746
01:18:37,520 --> 01:18:39,080
Speaker 1: Because and I ain't trying to be funny, but like

1747
01:18:39,120 --> 01:18:41,040
Speaker 1: it ain't like the single moms is like sitting their

1748
01:18:41,120 --> 01:18:42,720
Speaker 1: sons down and say, hey, this is how women are.

1749
01:18:43,439 --> 01:18:45,000
Speaker 1: They act like they do are women?

1750
01:18:45,760 --> 01:18:47,599
Speaker 7: Yeah, like maybe that's another episode.

1751
01:18:49,760 --> 01:18:53,240
Speaker 6: I ain't got enough time for that. I just want

1752
01:18:53,280 --> 01:18:53,719
Speaker 6: to know.

1753
01:18:56,280 --> 01:18:57,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, that love women.

1754
01:18:58,040 --> 01:19:00,519
Speaker 10: We we think that you're angels back and when we

1755
01:19:00,640 --> 01:19:05,320
Speaker 10: find out that y'all are not, that is earth shatterings.

1756
01:19:04,320 --> 01:19:07,960
Speaker 7: And what way like doing something bad or not cleaning up?

1757
01:19:08,120 --> 01:19:10,519
Speaker 10: No, no, no, it's just just in general, just like

1758
01:19:10,960 --> 01:19:15,200
Speaker 10: we really see y'all as angelic beings and y'all are.

1759
01:19:15,160 --> 01:19:22,160
Speaker 6: Not because nasty ain't you don't know y'all still.

1760
01:19:21,960 --> 01:19:28,760
Speaker 4: Have babies, you just yeah, baby, yeah, But as a

1761
01:19:28,840 --> 01:19:29,479
Speaker 4: dude in college.

1762
01:19:29,560 --> 01:19:31,120
Speaker 1: Like, yo, when the first time you found out your

1763
01:19:31,200 --> 01:19:34,639
Speaker 1: girl was sleeping with everybody, that should be hurtful.

1764
01:19:34,760 --> 01:19:37,200
Speaker 4: You'd be like the first time man is Yeah, it's

1765
01:19:37,479 --> 01:19:38,200
Speaker 4: the nature of one.

1766
01:19:38,240 --> 01:19:40,400
Speaker 1: First time I go to college and nature of a

1767
01:19:40,520 --> 01:19:44,040
Speaker 1: woman in college. My girl come to my room and

1768
01:19:44,120 --> 01:19:47,920
Speaker 1: then my roommates started laughing. I'm like, he was like, yo,

1769
01:19:48,040 --> 01:19:50,640
Speaker 1: she jumped from Florida, Florida, she got and I was

1770
01:19:50,720 --> 01:19:51,200
Speaker 1: your girl.

1771
01:19:51,439 --> 01:19:52,120
Speaker 4: Yeah it was my girl.

1772
01:19:52,200 --> 01:19:53,040
Speaker 1: She ain't my girl, No, mother.

1773
01:19:54,640 --> 01:19:59,160
Speaker 6: Girl was the past around she was, isn't it?

1774
01:20:01,760 --> 01:20:07,160
Speaker 4: That's how they get there? Everybody taking this time. I

1775
01:20:07,200 --> 01:20:08,960
Speaker 4: ain't know what I was doing. She was showing me.

1776
01:20:11,640 --> 01:20:12,840
Speaker 4: Dudes be waiting their turn.

1777
01:20:13,160 --> 01:20:17,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, so like women, they're good. Did you find that

1778
01:20:17,080 --> 01:20:17,400
Speaker 1: your girl?

1779
01:20:18,640 --> 01:20:20,479
Speaker 3: Is that the worst part though, just finding out that

1780
01:20:20,600 --> 01:20:22,080
Speaker 3: she's experienced.

1781
01:20:21,520 --> 01:20:24,360
Speaker 10: Well not not just experience, but it is also it's like,

1782
01:20:24,560 --> 01:20:27,320
Speaker 10: you know the attitudes, right that that you have to

1783
01:20:27,360 --> 01:20:27,640
Speaker 10: deal with.

1784
01:20:28,040 --> 01:20:31,160
Speaker 7: Men not do you not ever have the poking Women

1785
01:20:31,439 --> 01:20:31,800
Speaker 7: said that.

1786
01:20:32,320 --> 01:20:35,720
Speaker 10: Men men don't have this aura of not having attitudes.

1787
01:20:35,760 --> 01:20:38,920
Speaker 10: Men don't have this aura of not being over the top.

1788
01:20:39,000 --> 01:20:41,599
Speaker 10: That's men's aura, right, Like it's different for men when

1789
01:20:41,640 --> 01:20:43,559
Speaker 10: you find out a man, it's sweet and kind and caring.

1790
01:20:43,600 --> 01:20:45,200
Speaker 10: You be like, oh damn, Like I know he was

1791
01:20:45,360 --> 01:20:48,200
Speaker 10: just romantic, you know. But for women it's the opposite.

1792
01:20:48,240 --> 01:20:50,439
Speaker 10: We think y'all are, and then when y'all not, that's

1793
01:20:50,560 --> 01:20:52,719
Speaker 10: what kind of knocks us out, like whoa.

1794
01:20:52,960 --> 01:20:53,679
Speaker 1: And it's just a shot.

1795
01:20:53,760 --> 01:20:55,800
Speaker 4: Expect it's just a shot. We look, we still love

1796
01:20:55,880 --> 01:20:56,679
Speaker 4: when we're human.

1797
01:20:56,840 --> 01:20:58,000
Speaker 7: That's what y'all be forgetting.

1798
01:20:58,080 --> 01:20:59,639
Speaker 4: Yeah, because we think you are angels.

1799
01:20:59,680 --> 01:21:04,000
Speaker 8: That's what I am, though I am definitely from godperriting

1800
01:21:04,080 --> 01:21:10,720
Speaker 8: all energy. So I did not say I don't have

1801
01:21:10,880 --> 01:21:13,600
Speaker 8: any man come and shoot you in particular. What I

1802
01:21:13,760 --> 01:21:16,439
Speaker 8: did say is I like nigga is that and knock

1803
01:21:16,479 --> 01:21:17,760
Speaker 8: all this ship over if need be?

1804
01:21:18,600 --> 01:21:22,479
Speaker 6: That is what I like. Easy way to say this.

1805
01:21:22,600 --> 01:21:30,519
Speaker 5: But all right, we have a segment on our show,

1806
01:21:30,600 --> 01:21:33,040
Speaker 5: this is gonna close this out called SIMP series.

1807
01:21:33,720 --> 01:21:37,000
Speaker 4: SIMP series, and you gotta share.

1808
01:21:36,840 --> 01:21:39,040
Speaker 5: A time that you got played by the well I

1809
01:21:39,080 --> 01:21:41,760
Speaker 5: feel like you already don't, yes, so you can tell

1810
01:21:41,840 --> 01:21:44,160
Speaker 5: us a story about when you got played by the opposite.

1811
01:21:44,400 --> 01:21:46,840
Speaker 1: Oh man, when I got played by the opposite, Yo,

1812
01:21:47,240 --> 01:21:49,840
Speaker 1: why he's thinking about it? You got enough plenty.

1813
01:21:51,040 --> 01:21:52,800
Speaker 4: I'm trying to make the story that I can tell.

1814
01:21:53,200 --> 01:21:53,400
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1815
01:21:53,439 --> 01:21:57,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, So we at we're doing something. We at church. Sorry,

1816
01:21:58,080 --> 01:22:01,439
Speaker 1: and so we there and we're leaving right, So everybody's like, yo,

1817
01:22:01,479 --> 01:22:03,240
Speaker 1: we're going here to eat at a restaurant. Were going

1818
01:22:03,280 --> 01:22:06,320
Speaker 1: to chill. And so I'm like all right, bet so

1819
01:22:06,439 --> 01:22:09,080
Speaker 1: we going there. Everybody's sitting down, and so my short

1820
01:22:09,280 --> 01:22:10,720
Speaker 1: is like, yo, I'll be right back. I gotta go

1821
01:22:10,800 --> 01:22:13,880
Speaker 1: pee cool let her out. We all laughing. I'm looking down.

1822
01:22:13,920 --> 01:22:16,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, it's been five minutes, ten minutes. And

1823
01:22:16,280 --> 01:22:18,000
Speaker 1: where he's eating at. I'm like, this ain't the place

1824
01:22:18,040 --> 01:22:18,479
Speaker 1: you shit at.

1825
01:22:18,800 --> 01:22:19,479
Speaker 6: Go to corral.

1826
01:22:19,680 --> 01:22:22,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was down here. I was like, shit here.

1827
01:22:22,600 --> 01:22:25,400
Speaker 1: And then I'm looking and no.

1828
01:22:25,479 --> 01:22:26,599
Speaker 3: First ill go to corral.

1829
01:22:26,680 --> 01:22:27,840
Speaker 6: It's gonna make you shit dwn.

1830
01:22:29,320 --> 01:22:32,880
Speaker 1: And so my boy is like looking down and I'm

1831
01:22:32,920 --> 01:22:35,000
Speaker 1: like the energy just changed. I'm like, what the fuck

1832
01:22:35,120 --> 01:22:38,360
Speaker 1: is going on? And my boy just looks down and

1833
01:22:38,479 --> 01:22:41,840
Speaker 1: then so I'm like whatever, like cool, And so Shorty

1834
01:22:41,880 --> 01:22:43,840
Speaker 1: comes back. It's been like twenty thirty minutes. I'm like,

1835
01:22:43,880 --> 01:22:46,160
Speaker 1: you good, you throwing up some shit? She was like nah,

1836
01:22:46,160 --> 01:22:50,240
Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm good, and Shorty like sister just starts

1837
01:22:50,280 --> 01:22:52,240
Speaker 1: crying at the tables. I'm like, what the fuck is

1838
01:22:52,280 --> 01:22:53,679
Speaker 1: going on? Did I miss something?

1839
01:22:54,280 --> 01:22:54,439
Speaker 6: You know?

1840
01:22:54,479 --> 01:22:57,080
Speaker 1: I Mike said his son, don't know that some girl

1841
01:22:57,160 --> 01:23:00,280
Speaker 1: like I don't be seeing shit. So I'm like whatever.

1842
01:23:00,640 --> 01:23:02,800
Speaker 1: So all the girls get up from the table and leave,

1843
01:23:03,760 --> 01:23:05,800
Speaker 1: and my boy look at me. He go, Yo. She

1844
01:23:05,880 --> 01:23:07,200
Speaker 1: been in the car with her nigga for like the

1845
01:23:07,400 --> 01:23:12,200
Speaker 1: last thirty minutes, and I was like, I said, Yo, yeah,

1846
01:23:12,320 --> 01:23:14,360
Speaker 1: I gotta go home. I just gotta go. We ain't

1847
01:23:14,400 --> 01:23:15,400
Speaker 1: talk since, but it's cool.

1848
01:23:16,160 --> 01:23:17,280
Speaker 7: So she was fucked up.

1849
01:23:17,479 --> 01:23:18,400
Speaker 6: You paid for her dinner.

1850
01:23:19,080 --> 01:23:20,920
Speaker 1: Actually, did you know what I'm saying? That's some I

1851
01:23:20,960 --> 01:23:21,880
Speaker 1: don't know if that's a SIMP.

1852
01:23:23,120 --> 01:23:25,000
Speaker 4: I mean he was. He was already halfway in and

1853
01:23:25,080 --> 01:23:25,879
Speaker 4: then I joined.

1854
01:23:25,680 --> 01:23:27,200
Speaker 1: Free band game, Shut up the future.

1855
01:23:28,800 --> 01:23:32,240
Speaker 4: Let's see a best SIMP story or not the best?

1856
01:23:33,560 --> 01:23:33,680
Speaker 6: Uh?

1857
01:23:34,560 --> 01:23:36,640
Speaker 10: The girl that I dated that I thought that I

1858
01:23:36,640 --> 01:23:39,960
Speaker 10: would have married. So I was in my twenties. Her

1859
01:23:40,120 --> 01:23:43,120
Speaker 10: dad and mom was going through a divorce, so like

1860
01:23:43,400 --> 01:23:45,920
Speaker 10: dad basically stopped paying her car. Her car got repossessed,

1861
01:23:46,320 --> 01:23:48,519
Speaker 10: so I actually like we went and got a car

1862
01:23:49,240 --> 01:23:50,800
Speaker 10: and I co signed on the car for her.

1863
01:23:52,080 --> 01:23:52,200
Speaker 12: Man.

1864
01:23:52,400 --> 01:23:55,280
Speaker 10: Yeah, we broke you know, that's simp shit. And we

1865
01:23:55,800 --> 01:23:59,519
Speaker 10: broke up probably I don't know, maybe a year later,

1866
01:24:00,120 --> 01:24:04,360
Speaker 10: and guess what she let the car do get repossessed.

1867
01:24:05,720 --> 01:24:06,000
Speaker 6: Credit.

1868
01:24:06,240 --> 01:24:07,800
Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, so I was I was in my young

1869
01:24:07,840 --> 01:24:09,800
Speaker 10: twins at that time. And you know when I tell you,

1870
01:24:10,320 --> 01:24:13,840
Speaker 10: like that created a lot of rules from that point forward.

1871
01:24:15,120 --> 01:24:17,559
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, that girl up for the rest of us

1872
01:24:17,600 --> 01:24:18,320
Speaker 6: who needed a car.

1873
01:24:19,520 --> 01:24:21,600
Speaker 1: The lessons you learned out everybody.

1874
01:24:21,840 --> 01:24:23,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, when I tell you that, he didn't take

1875
01:24:23,479 --> 01:24:25,080
Speaker 4: another bits to go to corn.

1876
01:24:26,720 --> 01:24:27,519
Speaker 6: A lot. So.

1877
01:24:27,760 --> 01:24:30,360
Speaker 10: But I mean I wasn't mad at it then, was

1878
01:24:30,560 --> 01:24:32,479
Speaker 10: not mad at it now. But that's probably that's probably

1879
01:24:32,800 --> 01:24:33,880
Speaker 10: the stupidest thing.

1880
01:24:34,080 --> 01:24:35,280
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's a good one.

1881
01:24:36,320 --> 01:24:36,559
Speaker 4: I got.

1882
01:24:36,640 --> 01:24:39,679
Speaker 10: I got another couple married though it was a guy,

1883
01:24:39,840 --> 01:24:41,320
Speaker 10: and she was like, oh it was my best friend,

1884
01:24:41,840 --> 01:24:45,400
Speaker 10: you know whatever. You know, like we weren't dating, like

1885
01:24:45,680 --> 01:24:48,040
Speaker 10: she was just she was in Atlanta. I been Atlanta

1886
01:24:48,040 --> 01:24:49,799
Speaker 10: all the time. So I ended up like just crashing

1887
01:24:49,840 --> 01:24:53,320
Speaker 10: into the place. And her quote unquote best friend like

1888
01:24:53,640 --> 01:24:56,240
Speaker 10: really didn't like he. I don't think he liked her

1889
01:24:56,280 --> 01:24:59,840
Speaker 10: because she was experienced and he wasn't. He knew all

1890
01:25:00,000 --> 01:25:01,400
Speaker 10: he knew all the stories. I knew a lot of us.

1891
01:25:01,400 --> 01:25:04,920
Speaker 10: I knew he knew all of him. So so because

1892
01:25:04,920 --> 01:25:06,600
Speaker 10: he and I was friends before, we start kicking it.

1893
01:25:06,760 --> 01:25:08,600
Speaker 10: And like, long story short, like they didn't have like

1894
01:25:08,640 --> 01:25:10,640
Speaker 10: a family event and he was there or whatever. So

1895
01:25:10,760 --> 01:25:13,679
Speaker 10: he sees me there with you know, the young lady,

1896
01:25:13,960 --> 01:25:15,840
Speaker 10: and you know, like I'm a lover of man, like

1897
01:25:15,840 --> 01:25:17,479
Speaker 10: I'm a love boy, right, so I'm like, you know,

1898
01:25:17,600 --> 01:25:20,120
Speaker 10: taking care of her, kicking it with the family, all this.

1899
01:25:20,120 --> 01:25:22,760
Speaker 4: Stuff that he seeth it, I mean just see it,

1900
01:25:23,200 --> 01:25:24,640
Speaker 4: and I'm just like, you know, so I walk up

1901
01:25:24,640 --> 01:25:25,840
Speaker 4: and I'm like, yo, what's up with your boy?

1902
01:25:26,280 --> 01:25:26,960
Speaker 6: You know? He good?

1903
01:25:27,520 --> 01:25:28,720
Speaker 4: She was like no, no, he was good.

1904
01:25:28,800 --> 01:25:31,519
Speaker 10: So the next day we were supposed to I already

1905
01:25:31,600 --> 01:25:33,240
Speaker 10: knew what time it was. Next day, like they were

1906
01:25:33,680 --> 01:25:36,040
Speaker 10: like a family breakfast and she was like are you going?

1907
01:25:36,439 --> 01:25:38,240
Speaker 4: And I was like it's like nah.

1908
01:25:38,320 --> 01:25:41,320
Speaker 10: I was like I want you and your friend have

1909
01:25:41,400 --> 01:25:43,479
Speaker 10: a good time. So I was like I'm gonna stay here,

1910
01:25:43,640 --> 01:25:45,680
Speaker 10: like he's not gonna enjoin me being there. But long

1911
01:25:45,760 --> 01:25:48,120
Speaker 10: story short, they end up getting married. I could tell that,

1912
01:25:48,360 --> 01:25:50,519
Speaker 10: like because she and I were just fun. It's just

1913
01:25:50,600 --> 01:25:53,080
Speaker 10: a situationship. But I could tell like when he saw

1914
01:25:53,160 --> 01:25:55,160
Speaker 10: somebody else taking care of it. He was like, yeah,

1915
01:25:55,320 --> 01:25:58,280
Speaker 10: putting that on him. Yeah, he was like, man, nah,

1916
01:25:58,439 --> 01:26:01,559
Speaker 10: I need and they are married now. Yeah, so thank

1917
01:26:01,600 --> 01:26:03,040
Speaker 10: you for letting me date your girlfriends.

1918
01:26:03,120 --> 01:26:10,160
Speaker 8: Oh all right, everybody where they can find your show,

1919
01:26:10,439 --> 01:26:12,120
Speaker 8: plug all your things, y'all.

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Speaker 1: First of all, thank y'all, Thank y'all, Thank y'all so much.

1921
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1922
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1924
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Speaker 12: Club.

1925
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Speaker 1: We're okay, nice, y'all gonna come on the show.

1926
01:26:34,800 --> 01:26:37,080
Speaker 8: Like y'all need to expand that more than just the podcast,

1927
01:26:37,120 --> 01:26:38,599
Speaker 8: Like y'all need to be doing a little golfing trips.

1928
01:26:38,640 --> 01:26:40,880
Speaker 3: I'll take a little cute ship with the Black Dads.

1929
01:26:41,960 --> 01:26:45,200
Speaker 1: So we get so many women who are just like y'all,

1930
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Speaker 1: don't want people with kids, But we get so many women.

1931
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Speaker 1: It's like, y'all, you just have.

1932
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Speaker 6: Y'all could do it like a.

1933
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Speaker 3: Single daddy no babies convention.

1934
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Speaker 4: Y'all get the ladies there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we can combine on this.

1936
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1937
01:27:02,160 --> 01:27:04,519
Speaker 4: But yeah, Black Dance Club put you on Instagram man.

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Speaker 1: Oh I am underscore Gavin B. Follow me if you

1939
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Speaker 1: need some picture. Y'all want some pictures?

1940
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Speaker 7: Yes, we need some.

1941
01:27:09,040 --> 01:27:09,920
Speaker 3: Picture, bring your camera.

1942
01:27:10,280 --> 01:27:13,560
Speaker 10: Yeah, I'm pas Will at past Mike Will anywhere. You

1943
01:27:13,600 --> 01:27:15,880
Speaker 10: can find me with Black Dass Club dot com.

1944
01:27:16,520 --> 01:27:18,800
Speaker 7: Hey, we appreciate y'all.

1945
01:27:18,840 --> 01:27:21,800
Speaker 4: Okay, this was a great time, y'all having us on

1946
01:27:21,920 --> 01:27:22,360
Speaker 4: this is great.

1947
01:27:23,080 --> 01:27:23,639
Speaker 7: All right, y'all.

1948
01:27:23,720 --> 01:27:26,759
Speaker 8: So if you enjoy this episode and these fabulous black

1949
01:27:26,840 --> 01:27:30,839
Speaker 8: men who take kids, they probably got excess money, all types.

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Speaker 4: Of sh we got kids, do not have money.

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Speaker 7: Now, you're gonna be.

1952
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Speaker 4: Definitely Black Dance Club is broke.

1953
01:27:41,360 --> 01:27:49,519
Speaker 6: Black dollar. That might be a five. That's a that's

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Speaker 6: a nonprofit club.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, nonprofit.

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Speaker 8: Okay, there work, all right, y'all. Enjoyed this episode, y'all.

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Speaker 8: Tune in every Thursday on The Black Effect. iHeart Radio

1958
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Speaker 8: Apple where you get your podcast. This is your co host,

1959
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Speaker 8: A j Holiday two point oh a.

1960
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Speaker 3: Y'all.

1961
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Speaker 5: I love y'all so much.

1962
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Speaker 6: Thank you for tuning in. It's Tam Bam. Follow me

1963
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Speaker 6: on Instagram.

1964
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Speaker 5: Remember speak now, uh and never and always hold your children.

1965
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Speaker 7: Always, always hold your kids.

1966
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Speaker 3: This is that's your stepdaddy.

1967
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Speaker 4: Oh my god, For

1968
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Speaker 8: More podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts,

1969
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Speaker 8: or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.