1
00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:04,840
Speaker 1: Call It what it Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Luddington,

2
00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:07,120
Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast.

3
00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:20,280
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hi, call it Crew.

4
00:00:20,560 --> 00:00:24,600
Speaker 3: I'm laughing because Jessica, do you know that you have

5
00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:33,120
Speaker 3: a signature? Jessica, do you know that you have a signature? Hello?

6
00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:38,120
Speaker 3: To our listeners, it's always Hello, Hello, Hello, call it crew.

7
00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:40,519
Speaker 3: And now I feel like I can't ever start the

8
00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:43,760
Speaker 3: pop because I'm like, that's that's the good vibe to start.

9
00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:44,479
Speaker 2: Our hot allways.

10
00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:49,040
Speaker 1: I actually did notice that I just recently noticed that

11
00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:53,440
Speaker 1: that's how I started, and I'm hoping that's a good thing.

12
00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:56,440
Speaker 1: That's the way the spirit meet me when we start

13
00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:58,600
Speaker 1: these off. And I also always get to look at

14
00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:00,760
Speaker 1: your face, so I get all excited. That's my when

15
00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:02,360
Speaker 1: I see your face. Now just say.

16
00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:04,800
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hello. Yeah, I'm gonna add this move in.

17
00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:08,120
Speaker 3: Now we need to shoulder shim. It's a little ship. Yeah,

18
00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:09,479
Speaker 3: it's little Hello.

19
00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:12,040
Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Camilla Ludington.

20
00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:16,000
Speaker 3: Hello, Jessica Capshaw. I'm so excited to be here with

21
00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:16,679
Speaker 3: you today.

22
00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:19,800
Speaker 1: I'm very excited to be here with you today. My

23
00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:22,640
Speaker 1: morning start off a little rougher around the edges than

24
00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:26,880
Speaker 1: I really wanted it to. Nothing tragic, nothing, nothing of

25
00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:31,080
Speaker 1: great import, just more a rainy day, a rainy day

26
00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:34,640
Speaker 1: on the East Coast during a week that the kids

27
00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:39,479
Speaker 1: are in tennis camp and tennis has played outside, and

28
00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:44,600
Speaker 1: when it rains, tennis would probably be less enjoyable, and

29
00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,119
Speaker 1: orch is not possible, right because the courts just.

30
00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:48,040
Speaker 2: You can't play on it.

31
00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:53,200
Speaker 1: None of this is really was stopping me from sending

32
00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:57,280
Speaker 1: them no no. I was like, they're gonna they're gonna go,

33
00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:00,760
Speaker 1: and they kind of they all looked at me. Normally,

34
00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:03,480
Speaker 1: they don't even think it's the possibility to say, like,

35
00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:06,560
Speaker 1: let's not go. They wouldn't even ask. But for some

36
00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:11,520
Speaker 1: reason they paused. And the pause normally doesn't make me pause,

37
00:02:11,560 --> 00:02:13,800
Speaker 1: Like normally it's just yeah, keep going, keep walking. But

38
00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:17,799
Speaker 1: I paused, and the double pause gave way. Yeah, they

39
00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:20,600
Speaker 1: paused and I pause. They saw a window, they saw

40
00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:23,160
Speaker 1: the wind, they saw the window, they saw the crack.

41
00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:25,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they went for it.

42
00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:29,000
Speaker 1: They were like, but it's raining. And then they all

43
00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,640
Speaker 1: started talking really really fast and explaining how when it

44
00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:35,880
Speaker 1: rains that the campers go to the arena.

45
00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:41,400
Speaker 3: Where they get killed. What's the arena where the Hunger

46
00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:42,200
Speaker 3: Games happen.

47
00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:44,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, that's what I saw it. That's what I

48
00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:47,240
Speaker 1: saw in my head. And then they said it smells

49
00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,680
Speaker 1: like feet. The arena smells like feet.

50
00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:51,720
Speaker 2: That sounds a little District twelve to me.

51
00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:55,840
Speaker 1: Because now I'm an East Coaster. I thought, well, it

52
00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,160
Speaker 1: must be a hockey rink. It must be it like

53
00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:00,000
Speaker 1: in the winter at the hockey rink, right, and then

54
00:02:59,880 --> 00:03:02,960
Speaker 1: the summer it's where you go when it rains or

55
00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:04,280
Speaker 1: you've feel very bad.

56
00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:08,040
Speaker 2: What is now? We need to know what.

57
00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:10,960
Speaker 3: The arena is because do we need to call the cops?

58
00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:11,600
Speaker 3: I don't.

59
00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:13,560
Speaker 1: I don't know. We're gonna maybe you just let's well,

60
00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:15,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna explain more, and you're gonna tell me what

61
00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:17,440
Speaker 1: my next best step is. So they said, we go

62
00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:20,440
Speaker 1: to the arena. They said it smells like feet. And

63
00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:22,960
Speaker 1: then they said, and we have to do fitness in

64
00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,520
Speaker 1: the arena. Also, I haven't heard the word fitness in

65
00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:25,919
Speaker 1: a while.

66
00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:27,920
Speaker 3: I know that just bought I just did a little

67
00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:29,799
Speaker 3: WinCE because it bought back some memories.

68
00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:31,840
Speaker 1: Yeah you bumped on it.

69
00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:34,480
Speaker 3: I did because it was like, you know, it bought

70
00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:38,520
Speaker 3: out like school school fitness. Yeah, not my favorite.

71
00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:40,760
Speaker 2: Oh, oh my gosh.

72
00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:43,160
Speaker 1: That no Monday when we had to run the mile.

73
00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:46,560
Speaker 1: I mean I would have done, truly. I think I

74
00:03:46,600 --> 00:03:49,600
Speaker 1: did hide in the gym locker room a couple of times.

75
00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:53,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, negative twelve degrees out and you're in a hockey skirt.

76
00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:57,520
Speaker 1: No thanks, just running by the way, which, of course

77
00:03:57,600 --> 00:03:59,800
Speaker 1: I've said it before, and I'll say again, I don't

78
00:03:59,880 --> 00:04:07,200
Speaker 1: do and less chaste. So arena smells like feet, yeah, fitness, fitness,

79
00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:12,600
Speaker 1: And the crack widened, and I said, you're not doing that,

80
00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:13,960
Speaker 1: not on.

81
00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:16,760
Speaker 2: My watch, on my watch, Oh you did. Oh so

82
00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:18,120
Speaker 2: they're not at their arena.

83
00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:21,200
Speaker 1: No, that's why the morning took some detours for me.

84
00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:23,720
Speaker 2: Oh, because I thought they were there.

85
00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:25,360
Speaker 3: I thought you were like, just you're gonna go and

86
00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:26,839
Speaker 3: we're gonna find out if you survive.

87
00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:30,000
Speaker 2: No, I I let them not go.

88
00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:33,039
Speaker 1: And it started pouring, so I thought, well, that's a

89
00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:34,719
Speaker 1: solid choice. And then an hour later when it was

90
00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:38,440
Speaker 1: just drizzling, and they were like mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom,

91
00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:42,400
Speaker 1: mom mom, And I was like, well, and then Poppy

92
00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:44,919
Speaker 1: looked at me with these sad, sad eyes and she

93
00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:49,680
Speaker 1: was like, I just I wanted to ask you a

94
00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:54,080
Speaker 1: question and I Nope, that didn't that didn't soften me.

95
00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:56,359
Speaker 1: You would have thought it would the big blue eyes,

96
00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:58,760
Speaker 1: and you know it didn't soften. No, no, no, no, no, no

97
00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,000
Speaker 1: no no. I was just way too stuck in my

98
00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:05,960
Speaker 1: my Yeah. Yes, so I was like, I'm drying to

99
00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:10,080
Speaker 1: work with a glowing eyes, fire coming out of my mouth.

100
00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:15,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, fire. We've all been there. Lucas isn't too. He's like, well,

101
00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,479
Speaker 3: I just what it's this a little husky, little like

102
00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:21,680
Speaker 3: cute voice. I just want to ask a question. I'm like, okay, okay,

103
00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:25,960
Speaker 3: what's the question he was like in toy Story does bus?

104
00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:28,719
Speaker 3: I'm like, that's not a question. That's not a question.

105
00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,560
Speaker 3: We don't need to talk about. Buzz like your right now,

106
00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:35,839
Speaker 3: not an emergency. Well, I'm glad they didn't have to, like,

107
00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:40,120
Speaker 3: you know, battle it out at the arena today. No,

108
00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:43,400
Speaker 3: are you kind of like once it gets to a drizzle,

109
00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:45,640
Speaker 3: maybe the arena's starting.

110
00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:46,160
Speaker 2: To look a little good.

111
00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:49,000
Speaker 1: Oh no, the arena started looking good. Not there wasn't

112
00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:50,440
Speaker 1: didn't even have to get to drizzle. It was like

113
00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:52,480
Speaker 1: four minutes after I made the decision that they were

114
00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:54,839
Speaker 1: staying home. The arena sounded fine.

115
00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:57,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, fine, and it's fine.

116
00:05:57,400 --> 00:05:58,960
Speaker 3: Send them with a bow and arrow and they're on

117
00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:00,480
Speaker 3: their way and it's gonna be fair.

118
00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:05,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, these kids have a nice life, you know, little adversity,

119
00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:09,560
Speaker 1: little little little friction, a little something or bump up against.

120
00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:17,000
Speaker 3: We want to hear about my Yeah, well yes, please, Okay, Well,

121
00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:21,760
Speaker 3: I uh forgot I had booked my dad to come

122
00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:24,560
Speaker 3: into town and stay with me. I literally had forgotten.

123
00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:28,120
Speaker 3: I had booked his tickets so far out that I

124
00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:30,359
Speaker 3: literally forgot who was coming to visit until like a

125
00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:34,839
Speaker 3: few days before. And I was like, crap, because it's

126
00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:37,400
Speaker 3: so busy, and I definitely feel the pressure people staying.

127
00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:42,240
Speaker 3: But I also forget always and I know that they

128
00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:44,760
Speaker 3: can't listen parents. I wish it was an age that

129
00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:46,920
Speaker 3: you got to where parents were like, you know what,

130
00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:50,560
Speaker 3: they've got it. Like it's like they've got it, they're

131
00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:54,279
Speaker 3: on their way, they've flown the nest. It's we don't

132
00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:59,000
Speaker 3: need to give any more unsolicited advice. I'm gonna throw

133
00:06:59,040 --> 00:07:02,159
Speaker 3: out an example of just one of the things my

134
00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:04,800
Speaker 3: dad said to me this week that made me want

135
00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:10,000
Speaker 3: to take to Tela shots. He was like, darling, he

136
00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:14,120
Speaker 3: wanted to. He wanted to know about, you know, investments, right,

137
00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:16,760
Speaker 3: because it's always like, you know, it's always the subjects

138
00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:18,720
Speaker 3: that are like what are you doing with your life?

139
00:07:19,280 --> 00:07:21,400
Speaker 3: Where is your you know, like it's always like the

140
00:07:21,440 --> 00:07:23,880
Speaker 3: big things, right, So he was like, you know, you

141
00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:26,200
Speaker 3: want to talk about investments, and then he goes Camilla

142
00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:30,000
Speaker 3: etn musk Okay, because he will never get a name, right,

143
00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:32,560
Speaker 3: he goes Eton musk Milla has come out with this

144
00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:37,720
Speaker 3: sort of app ai that predicts the best like stocks

145
00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:40,560
Speaker 3: and everything to invent, so you should really look into that.

146
00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:43,520
Speaker 3: And I was like, great, these are the kind of

147
00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:49,560
Speaker 3: gems I've been dealing with all week. Just send me that,

148
00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:53,080
Speaker 3: just seriously. Or he'll say things like he doesn't know

149
00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:55,760
Speaker 3: how the film industry works at all. He's like, should you.

150
00:07:55,880 --> 00:07:59,840
Speaker 2: Tell Grey's Anatomy that Joe is ready to be cheap?

151
00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:04,040
Speaker 3: And I'm like, yeah, should you know what I should

152
00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:06,480
Speaker 3: tell them? And that's probably gonna happen. I'm gonna go

153
00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:09,360
Speaker 3: up to our show runner Meg, who I love, and go, hey,

154
00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:14,200
Speaker 3: my dad thinks that Joe Wilson's ready to be chief

155
00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:14,840
Speaker 3: on the show.

156
00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:16,120
Speaker 2: Uh huh, what are you?

157
00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:19,000
Speaker 3: How are you feeling about that? Yeah? Thoughts and feelings,

158
00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:21,720
Speaker 3: thoughts and feelings. And then of course he is Oh,

159
00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:23,520
Speaker 3: here's the other thing he does. It's been driving me

160
00:08:23,560 --> 00:08:26,480
Speaker 3: crazy all week. He loves our dogs. We have three

161
00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:30,120
Speaker 3: rescue dogs. He loves our dogs. And he came in

162
00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:33,560
Speaker 3: and he was like, Darling, the dogs are so thirsty.

163
00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:36,000
Speaker 3: And I was like, Dad, their dog bowl is like

164
00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:38,280
Speaker 3: right over with that. He goes, do they know where

165
00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:41,600
Speaker 3: their bowl is? And I was like, no, Dad, For

166
00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:45,240
Speaker 3: two years since we've lived here, they've actually just been

167
00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:49,199
Speaker 3: wondering around the house dying of thirst, trying to figure

168
00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:49,480
Speaker 3: it out.

169
00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:51,280
Speaker 2: I was like, yes, they know where their bull is.

170
00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:55,360
Speaker 3: Yes, And so honestly, I don't know if anyone's seen

171
00:08:55,400 --> 00:08:58,520
Speaker 3: the movie signs and the movie signs Okay, the Alien

172
00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:02,079
Speaker 3: movie with Mel Gibson. There's bowls of water fucking everywhere.

173
00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:04,920
Speaker 3: Our house has about one hundred bowls of water out

174
00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:07,000
Speaker 3: right now for our dogs. There's a bowl in every

175
00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:10,480
Speaker 3: corner in case our dogs round that corner and decide

176
00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:14,000
Speaker 3: they're thirsty forget where their og bowl is and need

177
00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:15,440
Speaker 3: a drink. I'm not kidding.

178
00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:17,000
Speaker 2: I took a video yesterday.

179
00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:19,240
Speaker 3: I took a video yesterday and sent it to my

180
00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:21,560
Speaker 3: siblings because I was like, it's sending me of my

181
00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:26,080
Speaker 3: dog of my dad filling up the twentieth bowl of

182
00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:28,760
Speaker 3: water outside because there was a corner of the yard

183
00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:34,040
Speaker 3: that didn't have a bowl. So that that's been my week,

184
00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:37,840
Speaker 3: szaper Shell, I can't.

185
00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:40,920
Speaker 1: I think he was looking for some purpose and he

186
00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:43,240
Speaker 1: was wrapping it up in his ability to give your water,

187
00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:44,559
Speaker 1: your dog some water.

188
00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:48,160
Speaker 3: It's so annoying. I'm gonna take actually, you know what,

189
00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:50,280
Speaker 3: I'm gonna make a collage of all the water bowls

190
00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:54,760
Speaker 3: are out right now and just for this, just for

191
00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:55,760
Speaker 3: this episode.

192
00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,360
Speaker 2: But yeah, why do they come with so much advice?

193
00:09:58,960 --> 00:09:59,280
Speaker 3: Okay?

194
00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:02,040
Speaker 1: Well, so I said, so, I see you so deeply

195
00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:04,480
Speaker 1: on that because for whatever, maybe it's in maybe there's

196
00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:07,880
Speaker 1: something in the water right now, maybe there's something in

197
00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:11,560
Speaker 1: the star in the water world. Because I had a

198
00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:16,680
Speaker 1: recent recently, I had a similar experience where I told you,

199
00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:18,480
Speaker 1: in the summers, we spend a lot of time together,

200
00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:20,600
Speaker 1: like the whole family, like the bigger family, like not

201
00:10:20,640 --> 00:10:23,199
Speaker 1: just pot family, but like the bigger my family of origin,

202
00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:25,720
Speaker 1: and so lots of time and it's so much fun.

203
00:10:26,120 --> 00:10:28,360
Speaker 3: And isn't the whole gang go for the summer and

204
00:10:28,400 --> 00:10:29,480
Speaker 3: stay together? Is that what?

205
00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:31,920
Speaker 1: Yeah? But I'm kind of like a couple. Yeah, but

206
00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:35,560
Speaker 1: like some in and out and all that. But you know,

207
00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:37,840
Speaker 1: my mom and I are very closed and it's a

208
00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:40,880
Speaker 1: great time to have lots of family togetherness and everything else.

209
00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:42,839
Speaker 1: And I love spending time with her. She's one of

210
00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:47,960
Speaker 1: my favorite people, so much fun. And this week she

211
00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:50,480
Speaker 1: just every once in a while would like sort of

212
00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:55,360
Speaker 1: have like just a note for the suggestion Box, oh,

213
00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:57,559
Speaker 1: like just you know, some helpful little tidbit.

214
00:10:58,200 --> 00:10:58,959
Speaker 3: And she's so sweet.

215
00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:01,760
Speaker 1: She's been listening to the pods, which is so fantastic,

216
00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:05,480
Speaker 1: and I feel so loved and super just happy and supported.

217
00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:08,720
Speaker 1: And she's also just sort of had a couple notes

218
00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:09,600
Speaker 1: for how I've been talking.

219
00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:12,920
Speaker 3: No, no, oh my god, I don't even want to

220
00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:15,560
Speaker 3: know what Mama Capshaw would say about what I say,

221
00:11:16,559 --> 00:11:18,640
Speaker 3: because I think you're perfect on the pod And when

222
00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:20,880
Speaker 3: I when I listen to the edit back, I'm like,

223
00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:23,559
Speaker 3: oh god, let's just skip to Jess.

224
00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:26,680
Speaker 1: No. No, I think you're perfect. I think you're perfect.

225
00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:29,400
Speaker 1: But there's just been like a couple of things.

226
00:11:29,679 --> 00:11:31,800
Speaker 2: Where do what are we allowed to know? One of

227
00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:34,360
Speaker 2: the suggestion box suggestions.

228
00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:37,120
Speaker 1: Okay, so this particular instance was and I was so

229
00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,320
Speaker 1: I was talking, I was saying something, and I said

230
00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:42,320
Speaker 1: the word she, like she did something or she went somewhere.

231
00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:46,480
Speaker 1: And my mother said, oh, do you notice that when

232
00:11:46,520 --> 00:11:50,000
Speaker 1: you say she, you really put a strong emphasis on

233
00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:51,880
Speaker 1: the sh, like you really say she.

234
00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:55,360
Speaker 3: Oh huh.

235
00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:58,360
Speaker 1: She said, yeah, you just it's not just she, it's she.

236
00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:03,439
Speaker 3: Oh okay, what do you do with that?

237
00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:06,040
Speaker 1: Ill? And also just want to put this in there.

238
00:12:06,840 --> 00:12:11,920
Speaker 1: She's not wrong, She's not wrong. I do all of

239
00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:13,600
Speaker 1: a sudden, I'm now aware of the fact that I

240
00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:16,719
Speaker 1: don't say she, I say she she.

241
00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:20,320
Speaker 3: You know what I think you Here's a funny thing.

242
00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:22,120
Speaker 3: When I listen to the pod. I think that you

243
00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:29,320
Speaker 3: sound so like like Regal almost with your American accent. Okay,

244
00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:32,200
Speaker 3: And I think I've adopted I think that when I

245
00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:34,560
Speaker 3: came here, it's not my natural accent. I think I've

246
00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:41,319
Speaker 3: adopted some sort of like Laguna Beach slur. I think

247
00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:45,600
Speaker 3: it sounds like I'm like twenty martinis and sometimes and

248
00:12:45,640 --> 00:12:50,160
Speaker 3: I'm also you know, I just I can't like the

249
00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:52,880
Speaker 3: comparison it. Honestly, I sound drunk.

250
00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:54,640
Speaker 2: No, you don't like it.

251
00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:56,920
Speaker 3: I just sound sloppy, is what I'm trying to say.

252
00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:59,360
Speaker 3: I sound I Sometimes I think I might sound very

253
00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:02,320
Speaker 3: sloppy and like, why it why is that what I adopted?

254
00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:08,640
Speaker 2: You don't like all that reality TV? I got problem

255
00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:10,080
Speaker 2: because you were.

256
00:13:11,800 --> 00:13:15,120
Speaker 3: My God, You're right, I need I need to start

257
00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:18,360
Speaker 3: watching I don't know something more succession.

258
00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, there you go. Well I would. I don't

259
00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:24,200
Speaker 1: I think American accents or anything but regal, but I will.

260
00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:27,040
Speaker 1: I will take that compliment. I would compared to me

261
00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:29,880
Speaker 1: my mother did. We really had some notes for the

262
00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:33,600
Speaker 1: she and so I was like, okay, great, so it was,

263
00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:35,760
Speaker 1: and I just sort of went okay because again like

264
00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:39,920
Speaker 1: she's correct. So then I don't even know what it was.

265
00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:45,040
Speaker 1: But I was saying something else and she said something

266
00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:47,839
Speaker 1: about that I don't remember it was. And I was

267
00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:50,040
Speaker 1: trying to think back on my own advice, which of

268
00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:52,240
Speaker 1: course we keep saying, like give like be your best advocate,

269
00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:54,240
Speaker 1: be your number one band, so like, listen to your

270
00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:57,520
Speaker 1: own advice. And I said something along the lines of

271
00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:02,840
Speaker 1: love you so much, thanks for them, feedback. My suggestion

272
00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:04,200
Speaker 1: box is not open right now.

273
00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:06,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, not taking.

274
00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:10,520
Speaker 1: Suggestions, but I appreciate it, and I think we're good.

275
00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:14,760
Speaker 1: And she and we speak in humor, so she completely

276
00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:19,560
Speaker 1: got that. That was my nip it please, lady, hey, lady,

277
00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:23,240
Speaker 1: zip it. Yeah, but you know you can't unring a bell.

278
00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:26,920
Speaker 1: And now she's in my head and yeah, you're gonna

279
00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:29,800
Speaker 1: say she might never be the same. I'm not sure.

280
00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:32,440
Speaker 1: And then actually, funnily enough again going back to the

281
00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:34,440
Speaker 1: and with a lot of family these days, maybe like

282
00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:38,280
Speaker 1: the next day, I'm talking to my sister and I said,

283
00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:42,280
Speaker 1: and she looked at me, and she said, you know,

284
00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:43,800
Speaker 1: you do the Kardashian R.

285
00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:46,800
Speaker 3: God, wait, what is that?

286
00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:48,960
Speaker 2: What's the Kardashian R.

287
00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:51,480
Speaker 1: Well, I actually weirdly knew exactly what she was referring to.

288
00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:55,200
Speaker 1: It's the crispy R. It's the it's when I say great, great,

289
00:14:55,440 --> 00:14:58,760
Speaker 1: or I say it's it's it's really getting a crispy.

290
00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:00,960
Speaker 1: It's an R. It's a it's I don't know, it's

291
00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:03,240
Speaker 1: not like a pirate urg, but it's like a there's

292
00:15:03,240 --> 00:15:05,840
Speaker 1: a there's a real we'll say a word with an

293
00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:06,200
Speaker 1: R in it.

294
00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:07,320
Speaker 2: There's some heat on the R.

295
00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:10,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like if I think great, that's so great. Great

296
00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:13,200
Speaker 1: normal people were you wouldn't you would just say great.

297
00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:17,080
Speaker 1: But I guess this one, the crispy R is great? Right,

298
00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:19,360
Speaker 1: So she says this to me, and normally I would

299
00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:22,200
Speaker 1: think nothing of it and just continue, yeah, make it

300
00:15:22,240 --> 00:15:26,160
Speaker 1: my breakfast. And I think because I had this the

301
00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:30,040
Speaker 1: heat of the she moment earlier and again, you sort

302
00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:32,400
Speaker 1: of will give your sibling stuff that you probably don't

303
00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:33,080
Speaker 1: give your parents.

304
00:15:33,120 --> 00:15:35,640
Speaker 3: I looked at her like, I don't know if this

305
00:15:35,680 --> 00:15:36,200
Speaker 3: is because.

306
00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:38,880
Speaker 1: We're going on week five of all being together and

307
00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:41,840
Speaker 1: everything else. But let me ask you a question. Who cares?

308
00:15:42,160 --> 00:15:42,800
Speaker 3: Who cares?

309
00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:44,800
Speaker 2: How I say it, who cares?

310
00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:46,440
Speaker 1: Why do you feel like you need to tell me?

311
00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:47,160
Speaker 1: I don't?

312
00:15:47,480 --> 00:15:49,680
Speaker 2: What do you what do you care? What do you want?

313
00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:50,760
Speaker 1: What do you care?

314
00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:51,600
Speaker 2: What do you want?

315
00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:53,600
Speaker 1: And she kind of looked at me, and she's just sweet.

316
00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,800
Speaker 1: She's just sitting there. She's like, well, it's just that

317
00:15:56,840 --> 00:15:57,800
Speaker 1: you didn't always do it.

318
00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:04,480
Speaker 2: Oh god, it's really funny. I was like, well I do.

319
00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:22,280
Speaker 3: Now You're like, this is what I've adopted. I like

320
00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:25,760
Speaker 3: the idea of the suggestion box. I think I'm gonna

321
00:16:25,800 --> 00:16:29,920
Speaker 3: go home and be like, hey, dad, it's closed. Yeah,

322
00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:32,440
Speaker 3: the thing is, but the problem is that somebody has

323
00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:35,200
Speaker 3: to respect that it's closed. My dad will go okay,

324
00:16:35,280 --> 00:16:38,240
Speaker 3: oh god, okay, Like I'm being like a little bit dronk.

325
00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:41,360
Speaker 3: When I was younger, he used to go save it

326
00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:45,680
Speaker 3: for the screen, Camilla, save it for the screen, Like

327
00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:50,760
Speaker 3: I was like being such a demon, so annoying.

328
00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:53,480
Speaker 2: Parents are so annoying all the time.

329
00:16:54,160 --> 00:16:58,640
Speaker 1: It never runs, it never ends, especially now that I'm

330
00:16:58,680 --> 00:17:00,520
Speaker 1: a parent, And I wonder, I think think you're right.

331
00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:02,640
Speaker 1: I think that they never think their job is done,

332
00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:06,640
Speaker 1: and I think that we won't either, which I think

333
00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:08,720
Speaker 1: is something to consider. I think you gotta, we gotta.

334
00:17:09,200 --> 00:17:10,760
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to try, and I'm gonna write a

335
00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:14,760
Speaker 1: note to myself in twenty years, yeah, you know, a

336
00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:18,159
Speaker 1: little reminder note. But yeah, yeah. And I think that

337
00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,560
Speaker 1: they care so much, and so they just they think

338
00:17:20,600 --> 00:17:23,879
Speaker 1: that they're the unsolicited advice thing they just think is warranted.

339
00:17:24,359 --> 00:17:26,600
Speaker 3: Yeah. But I also feel like there's that great thing

340
00:17:26,640 --> 00:17:30,120
Speaker 3: of like parents being like super hypocritical. It's like my dad,

341
00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:33,600
Speaker 3: I'm like, Kimala, have you drunk enough water today? And

342
00:17:33,680 --> 00:17:36,320
Speaker 3: He'll be saying it like smoking the end of his

343
00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:41,640
Speaker 3: pack of cigarettes, and I'm like, no, no, but I'm

344
00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:44,160
Speaker 3: glad you're on cigarette number twenty. Asking me.

345
00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:51,760
Speaker 1: Any who to do as I say, not as I do.

346
00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:55,040
Speaker 3: Make sure you wear some sunscreen, and he has a

347
00:17:55,160 --> 00:17:58,320
Speaker 3: sunscreen with a factor of four. Right now, I've never

348
00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:01,640
Speaker 3: seen someone buy oil. I haven't seen them by tanning

349
00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:04,919
Speaker 3: oil since I lived in Texas in ninety eight. My

350
00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:07,560
Speaker 3: dad's the only one that picked it up from CBS.

351
00:18:07,800 --> 00:18:10,320
Speaker 3: The reason why there's one off the shelf in CVS

352
00:18:10,680 --> 00:18:12,960
Speaker 3: is because you're in last Night. Notice my dad got that.

353
00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:16,120
Speaker 1: Is it like the Banda solet orange jealet?

354
00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:20,200
Speaker 3: No, it's like the old Is it Santra like the

355
00:18:20,200 --> 00:18:23,159
Speaker 3: the one that from the Canas. Yes, it smells like

356
00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:24,920
Speaker 3: a coconut hit you in the face.

357
00:18:25,119 --> 00:18:27,720
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, No, like a pina colada.

358
00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:30,480
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, all kind of yeah.

359
00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:32,720
Speaker 1: So the other thing that happened on the really really

360
00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:36,680
Speaker 1: positive end of things is I got my hair done.

361
00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:39,359
Speaker 1: I went to the salon and I got my hair

362
00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:43,359
Speaker 1: colored and cut. And I gotta tell you, not for nothing.

363
00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:45,679
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's the ceremony of it. I

364
00:18:45,720 --> 00:18:49,840
Speaker 1: don't know if it's the aftermath the hair and the bowl.

365
00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:51,639
Speaker 1: Like my kids always say that too, like no, no,

366
00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:53,960
Speaker 1: like they'll take a dat home haircut, but they really

367
00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:57,439
Speaker 1: want that that shampoo in the bowl at the salon. Really,

368
00:18:58,040 --> 00:19:00,199
Speaker 1: But I got out of there, and I was like,

369
00:19:00,440 --> 00:19:02,080
Speaker 1: I felt like I was walking in the slow motion

370
00:19:02,240 --> 00:19:04,439
Speaker 1: with a wind machine in front of me. Like it

371
00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:07,240
Speaker 1: was just everything changed. My whole perspective on life change.

372
00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:09,320
Speaker 1: Like if I went in and there was storm clouds

373
00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:13,760
Speaker 1: before I went in there, there was just bright sunny sunshine.

374
00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:23,480
Speaker 3: The horse trying. That's how I'm speaking, That's how I

375
00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:24,040
Speaker 3: speak on this.

376
00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:30,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I am. I was really really psyched about that.

377
00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:32,400
Speaker 1: I was very very happy to get my hair done. Okay,

378
00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:34,879
Speaker 1: so here's a funny little tidbit that goes back to

379
00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:37,919
Speaker 1: what we were talking about before. While they can just

380
00:19:38,160 --> 00:19:42,920
Speaker 1: assault us with all the unsolicited advice, they do redeem themselves.

381
00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:44,960
Speaker 1: When I went to check out, I found out that

382
00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:48,600
Speaker 1: my mother had treated me to my little salon experience.

383
00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,199
Speaker 1: I guess it's self care, right, but it's also just

384
00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:53,639
Speaker 1: there's something that fits a little extra spring in your

385
00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:57,240
Speaker 1: step when you're when you're feeling all tidied up.

386
00:19:57,960 --> 00:20:00,639
Speaker 3: It's funny because we did start shooting rais anutom me

387
00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:04,400
Speaker 3: this week, no beauty for you and no well here, well, yes,

388
00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:08,640
Speaker 3: no beauty for me because yeah, you're a doctor. Well, yes,

389
00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:11,159
Speaker 3: I'm a doctor, but I can't spoil but Joe Wilson's

390
00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:15,000
Speaker 3: you know, in the first episode's she's a little less

391
00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:18,119
Speaker 3: makeup than we even usually wear. But it was the

392
00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:21,560
Speaker 3: first time where I feel like this summer I've like,

393
00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:23,040
Speaker 3: you know, I wake up. I woke up in the

394
00:20:23,040 --> 00:20:26,120
Speaker 3: morning really early to go to work first filming day,

395
00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:28,240
Speaker 3: and I looked in the mirror and it was like

396
00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,920
Speaker 3: I could tell on my face how the summer had gone.

397
00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:33,200
Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean?

398
00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:36,159
Speaker 3: Like like it was like a map of like where

399
00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:40,240
Speaker 3: everything had strutt And I was like, Jess, like, this

400
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:45,240
Speaker 3: is a situation. And then I got shown this, tweeted

401
00:20:45,240 --> 00:20:48,119
Speaker 3: this picture of me which I'll put out on the

402
00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:52,280
Speaker 3: pod of me when I was little starting the show,

403
00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:55,280
Speaker 3: and I was like, damn, it's really hard. I've got

404
00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:59,080
Speaker 3: to tell you aging. Look at this. I'll tweet this

405
00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 3: out too. Oh gosh, wow, yeah, tiny babe.

406
00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:03,399
Speaker 2: I know, but it's hard.

407
00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:07,399
Speaker 3: It's it's hard as an actress going into your next

408
00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 3: season and knowing that you've been this character for a

409
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:14,920
Speaker 3: while and you have really aged, You've aged, and every

410
00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:18,000
Speaker 3: single mature age is sure matures you a little bit more.

411
00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:20,159
Speaker 3: Every summer matures you a little bit more. And it

412
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:21,920
Speaker 3: was the first time this summer. I was like, damn,

413
00:21:22,000 --> 00:21:24,640
Speaker 3: I gotta like get it together somehow.

414
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:27,280
Speaker 1: You're insane. If people could see what I'm looking at,

415
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:29,240
Speaker 1: You're like the most beautiful thing in the world, and

416
00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:31,520
Speaker 1: you have the most beautiful face and it's just full

417
00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 1: of life and youth, and I just I see, I

418
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:37,200
Speaker 1: understand that you feel that way, and I disagree.

419
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,040
Speaker 2: Well, let's be real, Okay.

420
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:42,160
Speaker 3: I sat down on the pod before we started filming,

421
00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:45,080
Speaker 3: and we're gonna talk about you today, So I'm gonna

422
00:21:45,080 --> 00:21:47,200
Speaker 3: talk about this right now. I told Jessica. I was

423
00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:51,320
Speaker 3: so excited because I found the touch up my Appearents

424
00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:54,919
Speaker 3: button on the zoom and I did a little I

425
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:56,399
Speaker 3: did a little skism.

426
00:21:56,760 --> 00:21:58,680
Speaker 2: I clicked it. I couldn't click it all the way

427
00:21:58,720 --> 00:21:59,160
Speaker 2: because I.

428
00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:04,120
Speaker 3: Just ended up blur and like one eyeball, and I honestly,

429
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 3: I was a little tempted. I was like, that's a

430
00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:08,919
Speaker 3: good eyeball. That's a blur, And then I had to

431
00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:10,960
Speaker 3: take it down to it where it's a little realistic.

432
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,400
Speaker 3: But I feel this is not actually really what In fact,

433
00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 3: if I put my hand in front of my face,

434
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:16,560
Speaker 3: is it doing it? No, it doesn't do a glitch.

435
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:20,320
Speaker 3: It's not that much, but I mean I felt like

436
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:24,520
Speaker 3: I needed just a little little wink wink Today, Yeah

437
00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:28,040
Speaker 3: you need a little a little But isn't it crazy

438
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:34,400
Speaker 3: that our technology can kind of lie that much? Oh well,

439
00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:36,159
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like even on a zoom,

440
00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:39,159
Speaker 3: I don't look quite like this. This is really like

441
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,680
Speaker 3: I have a little I'm tired in here, and the

442
00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 3: touch of my parents little has kind of made it

443
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:46,200
Speaker 3: all disappear.

444
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 1: I uh, yeah, well, I think technology has definitely changed

445
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 1: a lot of that, like what's real what's not. And

446
00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:58,200
Speaker 1: one of the first times I actually thought, wow, there's

447
00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 1: probably a very big difference between you used to remember

448
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 1: when you used to only see candid pictures of celebrities

449
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:14,439
Speaker 1: because an invasive group of paparazzi took a picture and

450
00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 1: they were so priceless because you were like celebrity in

451
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 1: the wild.

452
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:19,640
Speaker 2: Oh my god. They used to have that, yeah, yeah,

453
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:21,040
Speaker 2: celebrities in the wild.

454
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

455
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:23,200
Speaker 1: And then there would be where you were meant to

456
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,320
Speaker 1: see them on a red carpet, and so that was

457
00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:28,040
Speaker 1: where you saw the people that you looked at in

458
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 1: movies and television, right, And I think that that was

459
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,960
Speaker 1: what they looked like what people looked like. But now

460
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:40,200
Speaker 1: everybody's in charge of their own image, and likely most

461
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,479
Speaker 1: of what's seen is stuff that they've taken themselves and

462
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:46,679
Speaker 1: put online or on their social media apps or whatever,

463
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 1: and which everything can be altered however you'd like it

464
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 1: to be, and I did. I remember a couple of

465
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 1: years ago seeing a picture of someone on a red

466
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,280
Speaker 1: carpet that I'd only been looking at on social media

467
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 1: for a while, and there was a huge disparity the

468
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:06,399
Speaker 1: way that the person looked on the red carpet on

469
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: real film versus what they had been putting out on

470
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 1: their you know, Instagram page was totally different because of

471
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:17,560
Speaker 1: the way that they used filters and you know, touch

472
00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:20,360
Speaker 1: up my appearance or whatever, which by the way I've done,

473
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:23,720
Speaker 1: I understand, I mean absolutely, I mean, I you know,

474
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 1: I do sort of feel like there's a it's personal right,

475
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:31,159
Speaker 1: like you have to My personal opinion is like you can, Josh,

476
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 1: but you can't like reconfigure you know what.

477
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,400
Speaker 3: This is really funny you say this like it can't

478
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 3: be a different head.

479
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 2: Yes, no, but let's talk about this.

480
00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:47,399
Speaker 3: I had a picture myself that I wanted to just

481
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:52,399
Speaker 3: a little right and face Tune is the only app

482
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 3: that I know that is you can you can kind

483
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 3: of juja a little bit, right, maybe you smooth out

484
00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 3: a little lions here and there. But I discovered the

485
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:04,439
Speaker 3: button where it's like it can auto just do a hole.

486
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 3: I don't even know what it's called, but it's like

487
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:08,879
Speaker 3: the button that can you can press it, and the

488
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 3: AI kind of was like, you know what, we can

489
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:15,920
Speaker 3: fix kind of this for you, right. I swear to god,

490
00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:23,440
Speaker 3: apparently my face is a Picasso because it literally shaved

491
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:25,159
Speaker 3: my chin off, like I don't know if I have

492
00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 3: a buzz light your chin. It shaved my chin down.

493
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 3: It gave me I was like gee. I was like,

494
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 3: oh my god, is this what I need done? My

495
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 3: eyeballs increased by five hundred percent on my precess, my

496
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:42,040
Speaker 3: lips were like so juicy, and then I had to

497
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:47,240
Speaker 3: go like back and forth between it because I was like, what.

498
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 2: What have they done?

499
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 3: AI has taken my face and been like this is

500
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 3: not gonna work and has literally showed me like this

501
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:57,360
Speaker 3: sucks on you, and I was like, this is fucked. Yeah,

502
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 3: this is messed up. I wasn't even asking for that.

503
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 3: I wasn't trying to increase my eyeball size. But I

504
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:05,360
Speaker 3: was like, you might want to look into that.

505
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 1: You might want to look into that for sure.

506
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:10,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I had.

507
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,159
Speaker 1: I had that one time. By the way, I think

508
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 1: probably a little more insulting. I was in a big

509
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:19,560
Speaker 1: I was in this big Western mini series and they

510
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:21,679
Speaker 1: did a group picture where it was I mean, it

511
00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:24,439
Speaker 1: had to have been fifteen to twenty cast members and

512
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 1: we didn't even shoot us all at the same time,

513
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:30,280
Speaker 1: but we're all lined up and I shot mine alone

514
00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: because I had been working somewhere else at the time,

515
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 1: so they had to put this together, this photo shoot

516
00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:35,919
Speaker 1: for me, and I take my photo and I actually

517
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 1: was feeling pretty good that day. And it was big,

518
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:41,919
Speaker 1: like big hair, big makeup, the anti Western because and

519
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 1: that we were no makeup and we're in like the

520
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:48,920
Speaker 1: dirt all the time. And I see the pictures basterwards,

521
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm totally happy with these pictures. These look great.

522
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 1: I'm so like, they look fantastic. And then the billboard

523
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:55,640
Speaker 1: comes out and it was one of the ones on Sunset,

524
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:58,400
Speaker 1: so this oh yeah billboard. And then also they took

525
00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 1: out pages in Vanity Fair, so it's like really everywhere

526
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:03,400
Speaker 1: and I'm so excited because it's like a big deal

527
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 1: for me. And I go to look at it and

528
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 1: I flipped through the thing and I look at it,

529
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:12,919
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what the They had drenched me out,

530
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,639
Speaker 1: like they had taken me from my head where my

531
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:19,880
Speaker 1: hair was, and my toes where my little Barbie heels were,

532
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:25,120
Speaker 1: and they just bowed me up. I was they made.

533
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,719
Speaker 1: They gave me an avatar body. I didn't just like it.

534
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:30,040
Speaker 1: It just is not my body.

535
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 3: So I had Zoe Selt on.

536
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 1: His body and Avatar, so I had an Avatar body.

537
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 1: And then same same my hair. I grew more of it.

538
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 1: There was so much more in my hair, so much

539
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: there was hair everywhere. Not only were my lips juicy,

540
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,199
Speaker 1: they were a totally different shape. They were like I

541
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,440
Speaker 1: get it that people like to overline the lips these days. Whatever, Okay,

542
00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 1: that's fun, that's dood. But they were like a bow.

543
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 2: They were like they were like a.

544
00:27:56,520 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 1: Big heart on top and had big heart and then

545
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 1: like my bottom lip went down to where like the

546
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 1: middle of my chinns. I look like one of those

547
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 1: like you like a yeah, I look at a brat's

548
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 1: exactly like a breath like.

549
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:17,119
Speaker 3: A slender man body with a bratstall head.

550
00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, oh oh and by the way, really new development.

551
00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 1: Because there's a lot of things that I've had issues

552
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 1: with about myself that I about do to my insecurity

553
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 1: or just you know, someone else's standard of beauty or

554
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 1: whatever whatever, But I actually have never had a complaint

555
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 1: about my nose. Like I've been like, I got a

556
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 1: good nose. I'm good, Like I don't have any I

557
00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: don't when people you talk about shading it or shout

558
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:39,720
Speaker 1: at what's it called?

559
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, contouring, contouring it.

560
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,320
Speaker 1: You know, I wouldn't even know what to do, and

561
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 1: I want I don't know how that works. New nose.

562
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 1: I had a new nose. My nose was not my

563
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 1: nose on this billboard or this spread of I had

564
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 1: a completely different nose. Again, this is I'm going to

565
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 1: find this image and you're going to see it.

566
00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 3: This is what I'm talking about. This is what I'm

567
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 3: talking about. The face tune did to me. I you know,

568
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 3: it's like I'm googling like eyeball surgeries after.

569
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 1: But my point is for you, it was an enameless,

570
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 1: faceless AI. There was some motherfucker that looked at me.

571
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 3: It was like, hold on, hold on, we can't put

572
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 3: this out.

573
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 1: We can't put this out. We gotta fix her up.

574
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 2: Pull an pull an out. Nos, we saved a couple

575
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 2: of weeks ago.

576
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, she is not fit to be.

577
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 3: Okay, so we're in a crazy industry. Obviously standards. I

578
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 3: want to know if you have ever, because I have

579
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:57,560
Speaker 3: a story. However, kind of lost a role based on

580
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 3: your looks because I back in the day audition for

581
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:05,959
Speaker 3: a c W show that I did not get, and

582
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:10,120
Speaker 3: the casting director's feedback was I was not pretty enough

583
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 3: for the wret the camera hair not excuse.

584
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: You, c WU like says who first of all, you

585
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:22,600
Speaker 1: know what's funny?

586
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 3: It's I was like what the what the fuck? Ever?

587
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 3: I was like whatever, moving on it honestly didn't like

588
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 3: I think because at that point I had so many

589
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 3: notes in my career like.

590
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 2: Just jokes on you get in line with the.

591
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:43,480
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah yeah. Well, first of all, I'm sorry,

592
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 1: is that even I mean, yes, we are, we are

593
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 1: absolutely trained to be and have that just be like okay,

594
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 1: well that whatever. You can't even take it seriously because

595
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:55,920
Speaker 1: again it's like you're like, okay, fine, but I guess

596
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 1: I guess what it brings up is like what it?

597
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 1: What is? What is pretty? How do we understand what

598
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 1: pretty is? What is pretty to that person? Was it

599
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 1: like a group think like all of them decided that

600
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 1: one a person decided that, Like I think that that's

601
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 1: sort of where things start, which of course ended up

602
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 1: being the question about what are the beauty standards and

603
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 1: how do they get set and who sets them and

604
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 1: obviously how much they change from you know, family to family,

605
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 1: town to town, city to city, country to country, you know, culture.

606
00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 1: It all influences what is pretty or beautiful or whatever.

607
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 1: I actually very specifically lost a job early in my

608
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 1: career because I wasn't thin enough. And I remember I

609
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: auditioned for it. It was like a rom com and

610
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 1: it would have been like a very a big break

611
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 1: for me, and I really wanted it and I worked

612
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 1: really really hard on it, and I went in and

613
00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 1: I auditioned and I think I you know, probably went

614
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 1: through three were in heats if you will, right, And

615
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:05,000
Speaker 1: I made it into to the director and the director

616
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 1: was this lovely guy who was so awesome. He was like,

617
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 1: you're my pick, like absolutely, like I think you're fantastic.

618
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 1: I think it's gonna be amazing. And my manager said, Okay,

619
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 1: here's the deal. You're the pick. The head of the

620
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 1: studio thinks that you need to be thinner like they

621
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 1: they just they do. And I was like okay, and

622
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:33,600
Speaker 1: they said, so they'd like to give you, you know,

623
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 1: like I don't know what I was ten days, two

624
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 1: weeks whatever.

625
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:41,080
Speaker 3: Ten days, yeah, something crazy. What are you going to do?

626
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 2: Lose a limb?

627
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 1: Honestly, it was so ridiculous. And again it's just so

628
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 1: silly when I think back to my younger self, because

629
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 1: I'm you know, part of me thinks to say to

630
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:53,640
Speaker 1: her like that, you know what, whatever, not your job,

631
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 1: but you don't think that way and you want the job.

632
00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 1: So I remember they did this like very awkward thing

633
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 1: where they said, okay, it's you know, they didn't say it,

634
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: they didn't say it explicitly, right, but they said, you know, oh,

635
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 1: in two weeks, we'd like for Jessica to come in

636
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 1: and just have a meeting with the head of the studio,

637
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: just you know, just a meet and greet. And it

638
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 1: was a full check in like in those ten days.

639
00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 3: Because a scale and a measuring tape, but just ignore those.

640
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: I just I know, and I tried, and oh, my gosh,

641
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 1: your early twenties, the stupid shit you do that. I

642
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 1: wish I could take all back, and I would just

643
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 1: die if anyone I loved did it. But it was

644
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 1: like I remember, there was like this. It was the

645
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: cabbage soup diet. It was the oh my god, there

646
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 1: was another one that was like just you can eat

647
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 1: air and drink air, the Air Giant, the air diet.

648
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 1: And I remember I did, I did all that I could.

649
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: But the truth was is the when I was younger,

650
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 1: I mean still, but I just had.

651
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 3: I had. I'm assuming you, Distill did not get this role,

652
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 3: by the way, you're the director's pick.

653
00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 4: Yeah.

654
00:33:57,240 --> 00:33:59,320
Speaker 1: The end of the story was that I was given

655
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: those ten days and then I went in to meet

656
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 1: the head of the studio and I don't even know

657
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 1: if it was because of like whether I was thinking

658
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:09,919
Speaker 1: I must not have been thin enough. No, I didn't

659
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:13,280
Speaker 1: get the job, And the irony was that the person

660
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 1: that did was actually quite well known in the business

661
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:22,080
Speaker 1: for having disordered eating, having you know, issues with disordered eating.

662
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 1: So I was like, wow, this is so nuts. But yeah, yeah,

663
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 1: I mean, so the standard of beauty was thin.

664
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say it was worse then, Oh for sure, sure,

665
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 3: definitely worse.

666
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:37,759
Speaker 1: And that and that's the interesting thing is that when

667
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:41,239
Speaker 1: you think about who sets the beauty standards and then

668
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:44,839
Speaker 1: you think about how they affect you. While you can

669
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 1: say in this particular case, you can say like I

670
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 1: don't care, like in my personal life, we're in such

671
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 1: a weird business. Because it's then it felt like the

672
00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 1: difference between working and not right. You have to conform

673
00:34:59,880 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 1: to the beauty standards. If you don't conform to the

674
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 1: beauty standards, then you won't work, which is quite different

675
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 1: than you know, I mean, most other situations.

676
00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 3: I'm very strange, and I feel like this might be

677
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:17,839
Speaker 3: a Sagittarius trait where I'm a little rebellious. So if

678
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:20,880
Speaker 3: I was given ten days to lose weight, the first

679
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 3: thing I would do is go eat a hamburger. I'd

680
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:26,600
Speaker 3: like thank you, Like I'd be like, okay, I'll show

681
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:29,359
Speaker 3: up on Tuesday. I can't wait. And then i'd hang

682
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:31,640
Speaker 3: up and I'd be already in the dry through for

683
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 3: in and out, Like I just have a little bit

684
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 3: of like.

685
00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 2: I love that.

686
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:39,600
Speaker 3: Don't let you know, But I don't even know if

687
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 3: that's the way to go with it. I think the

688
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 3: better way to go is like, I'm just gonna carry

689
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:44,279
Speaker 3: on living my life. I don't think you need to

690
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:46,840
Speaker 3: go either way. I'm a little rebellious.

691
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 1: Well that's the key, right, and that's what you end

692
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,399
Speaker 1: up at, I think, which is exactly right. You're gonna

693
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 1: go live your life, right, You're gonna go live a

694
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 1: life that is yeah, healthy and in your in your

695
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 1: mind and body, and you're gonna look over it. You

696
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 1: look like you're going to be healthy for you. You're

697
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 1: going to be in your body. You're not going to

698
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:06,879
Speaker 1: try and make your body like somebody else's body, because

699
00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 1: everybody's body is different.

700
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 3: I also feel like that reaction from me is also

701
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 3: about trying to get control back. Worthy you are controlled, Yeah,

702
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 3: you know, if the feedbacks are there or the other

703
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:21,240
Speaker 3: it's like I'm going to get it back by saying

704
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,160
Speaker 3: few and now I'm going to get the animal fries

705
00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 3: in and out. Yeah, because you've lot it's a situation

706
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 3: where you've totally lost control.

707
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, I see, I didn't. I felt I felt the

708
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 1: pressure to conform, and in my younger years, I don't

709
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 1: even think I should say in my younger years, I

710
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 1: have felt that I have felt the pressure to conform,

711
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:45,759
Speaker 1: and it does a number on me, for sure, I have. Yeah, Yeah,

712
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 1: there's ways in which you know, I think that like,

713
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not so I'm not so convinced that

714
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,839
Speaker 1: my idea of beauty is mine alone, right that I

715
00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 1: came up with what I think is beautiful. I think

716
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:59,839
Speaker 1: that I'm heavily influenced by all the things that are

717
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 1: there in the world, and then and the ways in

718
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 1: which you see people being looked at or or regarded

719
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 1: as beautiful on your Yeah, for sure, for sure that's

720
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:10,799
Speaker 1: real for me.

721
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, I also feel like we grew up in a

722
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:16,840
Speaker 3: time Like me as a teen, I was one of

723
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 3: like Britney Spears came on the scene and it was

724
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 3: like the low low jeens with things.

725
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:24,520
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, you need a special bikini wax to wear

726
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:24,919
Speaker 1: those things.

727
00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 3: Totally, you need a bikini wax you need It's like

728
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:29,960
Speaker 3: Brittany had the apps. I mean, there was no one.

729
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 3: I was like, I want to be Britney Spears right Like,

730
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 3: I was a couple of years younger that I wanted

731
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 3: to be Britney and I felt like right off the bat,

732
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 3: like early early, early, which is happening now and happens

733
00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 3: to everybody. There was a body type that I did

734
00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 3: not have. That that's what I needed to have.

735
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, what a p a bummer.

736
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:51,480
Speaker 3: It's hard because when you have kids too, It's like

737
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 3: I look at Hayden and Lucas, both of them, and

738
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 3: I love I made their little bodies. I like the

739
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 3: idea that they could hate something about their body like

740
00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 3: destroys me and seems absurd too. Yeah, I can't have

741
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:06,840
Speaker 3: a great feeling about myself.

742
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I know. Oh, I know, there's so

743
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:15,480
Speaker 1: much to say there. But I think what I'm experiencing

744
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:22,360
Speaker 1: for the the the light that I see, the upgrade

745
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 1: that I'm observing in looking at it through a parenting eye,

746
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 1: is that it's really important how you talk to yourself

747
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 1: through it. It's really really important that you're kind to

748
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 1: yourself and that you acknowledge the thought.

749
00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:41,400
Speaker 4: You know.

750
00:38:41,560 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 1: It's like, Okay, I'm doing that thing, like I'm looking

751
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,239
Speaker 1: at that person and I'm thinking I wish that I

752
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 1: look like them for X, Y or Z reason, and

753
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:52,799
Speaker 1: I'm gonna feel that and then I'm gonna dismiss that

754
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: thought and let it move right on. Along and not

755
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: change my day, not change my behavior, or not change

756
00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 1: you know me, which is by the way, again, it's

757
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 1: a fine line, but that doesn't mean to say that

758
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:09,440
Speaker 1: you throw everything out right. Sometimes you get inspired, and

759
00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: I do find makeup and hair and a lot of

760
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff really creative. And I can get

761
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:16,359
Speaker 1: inspired by people in the way that they do those

762
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 1: their makeup. That's fun, you know, And and I think ultimately,

763
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 1: like what did I start with?

764
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:22,319
Speaker 3: Right?

765
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 1: I got my hair cut and colored and it was

766
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 1: like a whole new made There's something very fun and

767
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 1: uplifting about certain aspects of like our rituals, you know,

768
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 1: our beautiful our beauty rituals are our ideas of that.

769
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 1: But then there's some really damaging negative self talk that

770
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:44,399
Speaker 1: can happen that that I think is you know, better

771
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,360
Speaker 1: left better left behind.

772
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 3: You do you think as you've gotten older you feel

773
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 3: more pressure in a way or less.

774
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 1: I personally feel less me too. At the risk of

775
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:02,440
Speaker 1: sounding however this sounds, I I sort of feel cuter

776
00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 1: now than I was then. I mean, I know, I

777
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 1: don't know. I look at pictures of myself now I'm like, yeah,

778
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 1: I mean I get it. I get what people complain

779
00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 1: about with regards to maturing, But I think what you

780
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 1: gain is more than what you lose, if you even lose.

781
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 3: No, I think I think I feel cuter now, but

782
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 3: I think it's I don't. I don't think. I think

783
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:31,879
Speaker 3: it's because just I have more confidence. Yeah, I don't

784
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,719
Speaker 3: think it comes from like esthetically I really am cuter now,

785
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:36,760
Speaker 3: or my hair is better or whatever. I just feel

786
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:38,399
Speaker 3: like my confidence is a lot better.

787
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:42,360
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. Do you think the guys deal with it

788
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 1: as much as like, what do you think men? Uh

789
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:45,960
Speaker 1: deal with it?

790
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 3: I do.

791
00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 1: I think they do, but not in it's such in

792
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:49,759
Speaker 1: such a different way.

793
00:40:49,560 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 3: In such a different way. But I definitely think the

794
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 3: social media, I mean, talk, we listen, We're always going

795
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:56,040
Speaker 3: to end up at social media at some point in

796
00:40:56,080 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 3: these conversations. Social media for guys is the same as

797
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 3: for girls. But it's like all the workouts. There's a

798
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 3: lot of pressure too, a lot because of social media

799
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 3: that maybe there wouldn't have been there before necessarily, but

800
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:13,560
Speaker 3: there is now.

801
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:14,760
Speaker 1: Yeah.

802
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:18,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, we have some statistics so we could read on this.

803
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 1: Yeah. Also I feel like in a weird way, that's

804
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 1: that's their thing. I think is interesting here at the

805
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 1: male female not comparison. But no, it bear with me

806
00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:36,320
Speaker 1: for a second. No, women like there are these standards

807
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:41,200
Speaker 1: of beauty or attractiveness, let's say for both, you know,

808
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:45,319
Speaker 1: people who identify as male and female. And in the

809
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 1: female category, it feels like there's so much that you

810
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 1: can do rightly, all these improvements. There's a mass scare

811
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 1: for this, and there's a mass scare for that, and

812
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 1: there's a highlighter for this, and a little letter for that.

813
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,319
Speaker 1: Like there's all this makeup and hair stuff, and it's

814
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,840
Speaker 1: just it's such a huge business and you can buy

815
00:42:06,040 --> 00:42:08,440
Speaker 1: so much, and you can watch so many things that

816
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 1: will help you, you know, on your quest to become

817
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 1: more attractive. I think there's so many more things that

818
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 1: you can buy and things that you can watch that

819
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 1: are geared towards women. I think that men don't get

820
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:26,319
Speaker 1: as many things served up to them, which isn't to

821
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 1: say that they don't deal with the same insecurities. It's

822
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:31,239
Speaker 1: just like there's there's less being sold to them in

823
00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:33,800
Speaker 1: terms of making it better or feeling better.

824
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 2: So then it.

825
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 1: Always it seems like it pivots to like for guys,

826
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:40,359
Speaker 1: it's I feel like in the guy category. These days

827
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 1: you hear about it's like, yeah, it's the gem or

828
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 1: the muscles or the body or whatever. And then it's

829
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 1: like the hair. And then I feel like I've been

830
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 1: hearing a lot more about I don't know if it's

831
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 1: more like like the chin situation, there's a whole line.

832
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:58,440
Speaker 3: I think it's like the filler. The filler's happening in

833
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:02,839
Speaker 3: people's jawlines where they need that, like they need that,

834
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 3: Like really, yeah, yeah.

835
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 2: I'm more of a ce.

836
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 1: I'm more of an O.

837
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 3: I leaned into the sea shape.

838
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: By the way. Someone early days someone said that to me.

839
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:19,160
Speaker 1: Someone said that I should get my buckle fat pad removed,

840
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:21,840
Speaker 1: and I was like, what the is my buckle fat pad?

841
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:24,000
Speaker 1: And like does that thing just pop out? What happened?

842
00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 3: What do you mean? Do you get surgery?

843
00:43:27,280 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 1: And thank god, I mean thank god I didn't, And

844
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 1: thank god I had people around me that was like

845
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 1: that's insane.

846
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're still, we're around. These were the only two

847
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 3: round to night. I'm okay with it.

848
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 1: I'm good. So along the lines of talking about men

849
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 1: and women that it is reported in the conversation dot

850
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:02,240
Speaker 1: com that body image issues affect close to forty percent

851
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 1: of men, but many don't get the support that they need.

852
00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: It's estimated that between thirty and forty percent of men

853
00:44:07,080 --> 00:44:09,760
Speaker 1: are anxious about their weight, and that up to eighty

854
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 1: five percent are dissatisfied with their muscularity. Many men desire

855
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:16,440
Speaker 1: a lean and muscular physique. See that's what I'm saying,

856
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:20,879
Speaker 1: which is often seen as synonymous with masculinity. Yeah, so

857
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 1: it's like guys want to be ripped and hate that

858
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 1: though they want to be ripped with a full head

859
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:30,160
Speaker 1: of hair and a nice jaw line. And that's like

860
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: three things, which I'm not taking that away. It's three things, right,

861
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 1: And I think women it's like, oh my gosh, go

862
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 1: down the.

863
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 3: List and then and then and then.

864
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so many things. And I think that, you know,

865
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 1: and I think that again. We're going back to social media, right,

866
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,759
Speaker 1: it's comparison. Comparison in Front of Mine says comparison is

867
00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 1: a thief of joy. It's true. Whenever you compare yourself

868
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 1: to someone else, you know, it takes it sucks to

869
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 1: your joy right out. You're always going to think someone's

870
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 1: got something better, whatever it is. And social media is

871
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:03,960
Speaker 1: obviously the most fertile ground for that. All you have

872
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:07,359
Speaker 1: to do is you go on any at any time

873
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 1: and you're going to see someone who has something more

874
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:12,799
Speaker 1: than you do in some direction that you wish you

875
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 1: had it, and then you walk away feeling less then.

876
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 1: And that's what a lot of people are doing. And

877
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 1: it kind of doesn't even matter what their age is, right,

878
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:23,120
Speaker 1: They're going on there and they're seeing that there's something better,

879
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 1: something they don't have, and it makes you feel less then,

880
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:30,840
Speaker 1: And it's really a it's a big it's really bummer.

881
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:33,920
Speaker 3: It's interesting because I'm thinking, as you're talking about this,

882
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 3: I'm thinking, Okay, if I had the perfect body, right,

883
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:42,759
Speaker 3: the perfect body I think is potentially the esthetic for

884
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:48,040
Speaker 3: the perfect body, what difference in my day to day

885
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:52,479
Speaker 3: would it honestly make? What would it actually like? Give

886
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 3: me right, I'm still doing a school drop off. Does

887
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:58,799
Speaker 3: the perfect like the perfect body is not making a

888
00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 3: difference there. I'm gonna go get my coffee. It's not

889
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 3: really affecting my day there either, we go to dinner.

890
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:08,959
Speaker 3: Maybe I'm wearing a shorter crop top.

891
00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 2: I don't know. That's the extent, is what I'm saying.

892
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. What is it really, How is

893
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:19,359
Speaker 3: it really going to affect your day if you have

894
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,959
Speaker 3: the prefer if you have the perfect face that you've

895
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 3: decided that you have, does it really is it really

896
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,160
Speaker 3: actually gonna affect your day if you if you have it?

897
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 3: Because I feel like it won't.

898
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 1: Okay, So I understand what you're saying. I think that

899
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 1: I believe that your mindset about what you have is

900
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:45,399
Speaker 1: the most important thing. So yes, if your mindset is

901
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 1: I have the perfect body for me, I feel great

902
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:53,960
Speaker 1: about my body. It's and everyone's again, everyone's idea is different.

903
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:57,560
Speaker 1: You know, my body can run two miles without breaking

904
00:46:57,560 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 1: a sweat. That's really important to me. And so I

905
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 1: have that, and then my mindset's going to be great.

906
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 1: And it doesn't really matter what it looks like, it's

907
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:09,319
Speaker 1: how I feel about it. Right. So I think that

908
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 1: the journey, or like the Promised Land, is getting to

909
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:17,799
Speaker 1: the place where whatever it is that you have you

910
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 1: feel great about because that will just make your kid

911
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 1: drop off and your coffee later and your dinner later

912
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:27,840
Speaker 1: better because you're not weighed down by this idea that

913
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 1: you need to be anything other than what you are.

914
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:32,359
Speaker 1: You're happy with what you are, You're content, You can

915
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 1: focus on other things. You can listen to the conversation,

916
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 1: you can listen to the words of the person sitting

917
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:38,880
Speaker 1: across from you at dinner, because you're not fixating or

918
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:41,399
Speaker 1: thinking about something that you don't have, that you didn't

919
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 1: get right.

920
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 4: You know.

921
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that's the waste of time. I

922
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:47,839
Speaker 1: think that's the the I think that's.

923
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:49,280
Speaker 3: What I'm getting at. Like, I think I'm getting at

924
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:53,960
Speaker 3: the idea of what you could be. What would it

925
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:57,319
Speaker 3: really bring you if you were that, Like if we

926
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 3: were just if we end up being happy with ourselves,

927
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:05,400
Speaker 3: that's it. That's awesome. It's not really gonna affect my life.

928
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:07,320
Speaker 1: She goes some questions.

929
00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:08,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do some questions.

930
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 1: So Matthew writes in I'm going to be blunt. I'm

931
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 1: a thirty two year old man and I'm already losing

932
00:48:14,120 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 1: my hair. I am on every dating app and I

933
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 1: wear a hat in all my profile photos when I

934
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:20,319
Speaker 1: meet up for a date with a woman. She thinks

935
00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 1: I'm catfishing when I show up with my bald head,

936
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: but no one will swipe right if I show them

937
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 1: that I am balding. I feel frustrated.

938
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:30,319
Speaker 3: Any advice, well, First off, I disagree that no one

939
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:31,879
Speaker 3: will swipe right.

940
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 1: Yes, I agree with you.

941
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:36,839
Speaker 3: So I think that if you love wearing a hat,

942
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 3: you feel like you look cute and hat, have some

943
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 3: hat pictures, but have some pictures where you're not wearing

944
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 3: a hat too, not to not to not catfish people,

945
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 3: but because that's what you look like. And there's gonna

946
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 3: be women that don't think that you're a little hotty hottie.

947
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 3: There's so many hot men with no hair. Yep, hello

948
00:48:56,040 --> 00:49:03,399
Speaker 3: Jason Statham, right the Rock Yeah, Stanley Tucci. Yeah, there's

949
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:06,080
Speaker 3: a million guys with no I do not think for

950
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 3: one second that being bald makes you not attractive. There

951
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 3: are women out there that are definitely attracted to bald men,

952
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:16,000
Speaker 3: So I say rocket.

953
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 1: I also like your idea of the meeting it halfway,

954
00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 1: which is, if you think you look cute and a hat,

955
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:23,000
Speaker 1: wear a hat in a couple of pictures. Right, Like,

956
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 1: there's there's a lot of pictures up there, and if

957
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:27,439
Speaker 1: you have to pick up, if you have to pick

958
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 1: one for your profile, then fine, pick the one that

959
00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:32,200
Speaker 1: you think is the cutest, but then add in some

960
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:33,320
Speaker 1: more where it's all.

961
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:40,480
Speaker 3: Of you exactly. Yes, love that Matthew, You're gonna You're

962
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 3: gonna find the right person for you.

963
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:44,360
Speaker 1: The wipe rights are coming.

964
00:49:44,560 --> 00:49:49,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, the swipe rights are coming. Okay, very excited. We

965
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:55,000
Speaker 3: have a bus male to less and I've been going

966
00:49:55,000 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 3: to your singing coach. Just just these moments. Just kidding, Okay, Okay,

967
00:50:01,239 --> 00:50:04,560
Speaker 3: let's play it. This is from Parker, Hey.

968
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 4: Milan, Jessica. My name is Parker. First, I'm loving the pod.

969
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:11,839
Speaker 4: It's amazing. And second, I was just wondering if you'll

970
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 4: have any you know, words of encouragement or advice on

971
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:20,439
Speaker 4: dealing with beauty standards, specifically postpartum era. I'm a new

972
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:24,759
Speaker 4: Ish mom. My daughter's almost seventeen months, and you know,

973
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:27,760
Speaker 4: I'm just always comparing myself to other moms on social

974
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:31,520
Speaker 4: media or even just friends who just seem to kind

975
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 4: of bounce back quicker than I have, if that makes sense.

976
00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 3: Anyways, I would just love you here to love to

977
00:50:37,040 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 3: hear your.

978
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:41,280
Speaker 4: Thoughts on this as some other mamas. All right, thanks,

979
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:42,120
Speaker 4: I love you guys.

980
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 1: Bye.

981
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:45,920
Speaker 3: I know I keep saying it. I love hearing the

982
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:47,719
Speaker 3: cruise voice.

983
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:50,040
Speaker 1: Yeah I do too, I love it. Oh my gosh, Parker,

984
00:50:50,520 --> 00:50:53,160
Speaker 1: I've been there and also congratulations.

985
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:53,360
Speaker 3: Because you're a baby.

986
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 2: I know, seventeen months. That's cute.

987
00:50:56,400 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 3: First off, seventeen months, you just say birth, it's seventeen months.

988
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 1: Be kind to yourself. Everybody is different.

989
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 3: Here's what I think. Do yourself a favor first of all,

990
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:10,640
Speaker 3: and unfollow all the accounts that are like this is

991
00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 3: me and two days after our baby and I have abs.

992
00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:15,400
Speaker 3: Just for now, Okay, you can always refollow them if

993
00:51:15,440 --> 00:51:18,640
Speaker 3: you love them. For now, we're gonna mute those accounts.

994
00:51:19,160 --> 00:51:22,840
Speaker 3: Find accounts that you feel are like more your vibe,

995
00:51:23,320 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 3: not making you feel like when you look at them,

996
00:51:26,440 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 3: and bring it.

997
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 2: Because I know that as.

998
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:32,480
Speaker 3: Moms, we are scrolling through our phone and we're feeding

999
00:51:32,520 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 3: all these images into our brains and they don't. It

1000
00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 3: doesn't help. So I think, just literally, like, I know

1001
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 3: it's hard to log off, So I'm not saying log off.

1002
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,840
Speaker 3: I'm saying, log off of those accounts and follow accounts

1003
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 3: that you feel are where more you're at. It's really

1004
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 3: hard to say, like, don't feel the pressure, because we

1005
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:53,360
Speaker 3: all feel that pressure. It's so annoying. I have to

1006
00:51:53,400 --> 00:51:56,280
Speaker 3: say I did not bounce back.

1007
00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:59,280
Speaker 1: So here's what I feel. I completely agree with Camilla.

1008
00:51:59,360 --> 00:52:02,279
Speaker 1: I think anybody that doesn't make you feel fantastic, you

1009
00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:04,279
Speaker 1: can absolutely mute. I do it all the time, and

1010
00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:07,080
Speaker 1: then I absolutely revisit it again and go back and

1011
00:52:07,120 --> 00:52:09,200
Speaker 1: go right back to it. But if it's hitting you

1012
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:11,360
Speaker 1: in a certain way for this period of time in

1013
00:52:11,400 --> 00:52:13,759
Speaker 1: your life, then so be it. So take a little

1014
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 1: pressure off yourself, and I don't know, you know, do

1015
00:52:17,120 --> 00:52:19,479
Speaker 1: what you need to do and be with that little baby.

1016
00:52:19,520 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 1: It's the most important part. And a lot of times

1017
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:25,000
Speaker 1: when you take your like the pressure off it, you'll

1018
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,560
Speaker 1: get to where you want to get to a little easier.

1019
00:52:27,680 --> 00:52:29,560
Speaker 1: It's just like, sometimes this is too much pressure.

1020
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 3: Basically, long story short here, Ladies like you just did

1021
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:39,719
Speaker 3: something incredible and I feel you. I there wasn't the

1022
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:41,920
Speaker 3: bounce back never happened for me, and that's fine. I

1023
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:44,440
Speaker 3: don't care. I've moved on, and I think that there

1024
00:52:44,440 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 3: are so many women listening that feel the exact same way.

1025
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:53,080
Speaker 3: Didn't bounce back. You haven't jumped, you know, haven't regotten

1026
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:56,200
Speaker 3: a six pack or found you know, didn't lose all

1027
00:52:56,239 --> 00:52:58,759
Speaker 3: the weight by you know, breastfeeding. You also hear that too,

1028
00:52:58,800 --> 00:53:00,799
Speaker 3: you lose all the weight by breast breastfeeding So I

1029
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 3: was on the couch breastfeeding, being like, wow, is this like,

1030
00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 3: you know, me doing you know what?

1031
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 2: Is it CrossFit?

1032
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:09,880
Speaker 3: It's basically me doing CrossFit on the couch while I'm breastfeeding.

1033
00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:12,919
Speaker 3: It was a lie for me. I didn't lose a

1034
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:19,840
Speaker 3: single pound breastfeeding. It's all good, you guys, it's all good.

1035
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:22,880
Speaker 3: I want the crew to know, you're can gorgeous.

1036
00:53:23,400 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 1: Agree. Agree. So I think that this was just a

1037
00:53:27,239 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 1: nice little, you know, catch up stroll down memory lane,

1038
00:53:31,880 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 1: an examination of how we were put together and what

1039
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:37,640
Speaker 1: we what we come to aspire to.

1040
00:53:38,400 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 2: And I think that now.

1041
00:53:40,800 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 3: We can call it the end of the episode.