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Speaker 4: I refuse to shovel the snow. Now my wife is

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Speaker 4: calling me selfish.

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Speaker 5: Pay the neighbor kid to do it.

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Speaker 4: I work out of town at a very physically demanding job.

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Speaker 4: Strangely enough, I'm really lazy. Okay, but right up, friend, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I mean you're honest, But I make lots of money,

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Speaker 4: so I have no problem pain for people to do

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Speaker 4: all my houseworking yard work. I have a cleaning lady

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Speaker 4: and a kid that mows my lawn and shovels the snow.

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Speaker 4: I'm Carly and we're here to give good advice. Gooofully,

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Speaker 4: but we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 4: what we'd do, So let us know what you would

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Speaker 4: do in the comments, and op says, my wife knew

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Speaker 4: all of this throughout our relationship. I didn't keep it

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Speaker 4: asad secret or anything. She actually seemed to appreciate that

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Speaker 4: my place was always clean when she came over, and

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Speaker 4: that there was more than just pickles and adult soda

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Speaker 4: in my fridge. She lived with her parents to save

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Speaker 4: money while she paid off her student loans. We discussed

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Speaker 4: her living with me, or even just in my house

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Speaker 4: while I was gone, but she wouldn't go for it.

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Speaker 4: Her family is very traditional. Anyways, we got married in

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Speaker 4: September and she finally moved in with me. She's amazing

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Speaker 4: and I'm stunned by how hard a worker she is.

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Speaker 4: I also offered to pay off the remaining balance on

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Speaker 4: her student loans, but she won't agree to that. What

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Speaker 4: she did agree to, though, was to take over housekeeping

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Speaker 4: and shopping in return for the money I used to

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Speaker 4: pay my housekeeper being added to her budget. It kind

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Speaker 4: of sucked, but a couple of the guys I worked

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Speaker 4: with took her on, so she's okay. The problem is

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Speaker 4: the dad is big on doing all the work around

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Speaker 4: his house. I am not. I pay people to clean

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Speaker 4: my gutters, I pay plumbers, electricians, whatever. I work extremely

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Speaker 4: hard for fourteen days in a row, and when I'm home,

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Speaker 4: I want to relax. I want to walk my dog

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Speaker 4: and not much more. My dog lived with my parents

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Speaker 4: when I worked, but now he's home with my wife.

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Speaker 4: Since we got married late in the year, my lawn

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Speaker 4: didn't need to be mowed after our honeymoon. We have

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Speaker 4: had a weird year for snow, like we just got

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Speaker 4: our first big dump. And since I was coming home

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Speaker 4: last night, she told the kid not to shovel, and

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Speaker 4: she kept the money. Whatever, we're a partnership. She can

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Speaker 4: make decisions like that. However, despite whatever her dad has

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Speaker 4: to say about it, I don't shovel. I could get

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Speaker 4: hurt or worse sweaty. So this morning I made sure

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Speaker 4: she knew that if the snow wasn't removed in forty

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Speaker 4: eight hours, we would get a citation from the city.

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Speaker 4: They would send out a crew to shovel, and we

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Speaker 4: would be charged for it at city union labor rates.

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Speaker 4: She said I could shull. I said I could, but

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Speaker 4: I wouldn't since I had budgeted for someone else to

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Speaker 4: do it. She ended up having to do it herself.

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Speaker 4: She tried calling the kid, but he was going to

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Speaker 4: school so he couldn't do it until afterwards, but he

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Speaker 2: He's booked edg space.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, he's like, he's like, sorry, I got kay, you

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Speaker 2: Next time you can sit on me. You're blacklisted.

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Speaker 4: You can handle my prices anymore.

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Speaker 5: This skyrocket is it's one hundred dollars now.

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Speaker 4: It's not twenty. She's mad at me because I could

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Speaker 4: have shoveled. I'm fully could have, but I didn't want to.

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Speaker 4: I never want to. That's why I pay other people

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Speaker 4: to do that crap. I don't even like that. I

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Speaker 4: have to unload the dishwasher now. I used to just

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Speaker 4: the cupboard. That sounds lovely? Am I the ahle for

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Speaker 4: assuming that if she took the money for a job,

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Speaker 4: And there are some comments no.

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Speaker 5: Because if that money was going to be given to

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Speaker 5: whoever shoveled for the snow, then her keeping the money

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Speaker 5: is her being paid to do the job of shoveling

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Speaker 5: the snow. You can get your booty outside and go

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Speaker 4: I think, yeah, I think you just have to set

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Speaker 4: like those round rules with her of you don't have

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Speaker 4: to do it, but you're not getting the money I

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Speaker 5: That's crazy to be like, well, so I'm actually gonna

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Speaker 5: keep the snow shoveling money, but I'm gonna need you

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Speaker 5: to go shut It's crazy.

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Speaker 4: It's crazy because like at the beginning of this relationship,

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Speaker 4: she said, I don't want you to just pay for

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Speaker 4: my student loans. So what which what does.

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Speaker 5: You think imagine turning that down?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean she's already turned it down, and but

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Speaker 4: then is expecting that anyway, right, just under the guise

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Speaker 4: of her doing something which she's not. She's not actually

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Speaker 4: don comment one says, not the a hole, But if

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Speaker 4: you're used to things being done, then don't give the

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Speaker 4: money to your wife, give it to people who will

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Speaker 4: do it. To be honest, I wish my hobby would

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Speaker 4: do this. Then more time for hobbies. Reply to common one.

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Speaker 4: There are studies that show that purchasing services to reclaim

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Speaker 4: your time leads to longer lasting happiness than using the

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Speaker 4: same amount of money to buy things. Time is valuable.

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Speaker 4: Oh he found a way to waste less of his

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Speaker 4: It's worth the cost. I think the solution is just

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Speaker 4: go back to what you're doing before. Yeah, comment two,

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Speaker 4: not the a hole. If she's gonna pocket the money,

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Speaker 4: then she needs to do the chore. She doesn't get

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Speaker 4: to pocket the money that insists you do the chores.

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Speaker 4: If she doesn't want to do the chores, then pay

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Speaker 4: the people you hire to do them. Your wife's being

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Speaker 4: the a hole here. Common three says, not the ale.

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Speaker 4: But I think you should keep hiring people to do

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Speaker 4: I don't think she respects the fact that you don't

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Speaker 4: and can't do some of the work that her dad does.

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Speaker 4: Opie says, I could do that work. I just don't

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Speaker 4: want to. We only ever agreed to her doing the housework.

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Speaker 4: When we get snow here, it is heavy, wet snow,

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Speaker 4: it sucks, and we have like three fourths of an

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Speaker 4: acre of a yard. Tom, I didn't plan on her

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Speaker 4: doing that either. She made the command decision not to

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Speaker 5: Like Opie's wife said, give me the money, I'll do

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Speaker 5: the house chores. And he's still paid for a yard

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Speaker 4: That's too much.

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Speaker 5: She could still do all the other house chores and

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Speaker 5: get paid the house cleaner's money. It'd be perfect, and

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Speaker 5: then someone else just does the yard. You turned the

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Speaker 6: You fool.

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Speaker 4: I get you, But your wife pocketed the money that

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Speaker 4: should have gone to people who will do the yard work,

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Speaker 4: while she's going back on her word about taking care

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Speaker 4: use the money to hire other people to do it. Basically,

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Speaker 4: you're paying her to yell at you to do the work. Lol.

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Speaker 4: I et you give her the money, she turns around

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Speaker 4: and basically tells you to go shovel the snow. You

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Speaker 4: op says also, I gave him twenty dollars because he

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Speaker 4: and she says, no.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's what it was. That's showed up with a

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Speaker 5: shovel and he was like, I'm ready to shovel.

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Speaker 4: I don't know why I didn't realize that he was there,

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Speaker 4: Like I thought there was like a call maker. So

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Speaker 5: Which he's probably just the neighbor kid he probably just

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Speaker 4: But still, how dare you that's a hard working blue

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Speaker 5: That's heavy snow for a kid too. Yeah, I hated

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Speaker 4: I have never shoveled snow.

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Speaker 5: So when the snow starts to it's really heavy snow

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Speaker 5: by me too. And when the snowplows come down the street,

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Speaker 5: it pushes it all up against the end of your

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Speaker 4: That sounds terrible. It is. Update. So we got another

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Speaker 4: big dump of snow today. There we go, snowed again.

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Speaker 4: My wife shovel again, got to shovel again. My wife

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Speaker 4: knew I wasn't going to do it, and she didn't

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Speaker 4: Why give the pork kid his money? We have a child,

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Speaker 4: We've got a child.

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Speaker 5: This kid needs his bank.

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Speaker 4: He needs to We've got a child. He's saving for something.

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Speaker 4: I know it. I don't know. Probably as five, yeah,

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Speaker 6: Talk to me cool.

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Speaker 4: I am warm inside with my dog. I had already

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Speaker 4: because it was an emergency. I volunteered to payment for

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Speaker 4: any way, but some of you think it is my

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Speaker 4: of saying that I will pay them off and she

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Speaker 4: can put the money she was paying for them into RRSP,

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Speaker 4: that's a retirement savings account in Canada. Her dad this Filipino.

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Speaker 4: For those of you who asked, where is Kean?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Kia kia on, come tell us.

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Speaker 4: But there are some comments this is just like these

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Speaker 4: people are too proud.

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Speaker 5: It's like the proud of being hard working, which I

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Speaker 5: can respect in some ways, but when this is like.

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Speaker 4: Pay like right, people are being paid one ohp he

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Speaker 4: already had a kid that he was paying twenty bucks.

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Speaker 4: And then Opie's wife's dad has people a part of

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Speaker 4: the apartment complex who are paid to do it. I'm

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Speaker 5: I invited my ex husband to my graduation and his

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Speaker 4: I think that would be the worst thing for you

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Speaker 5: That would be yeah, terrible, terrible idea. I agree with

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Speaker 5: You just like, hey, i've been getting some weird messages.

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Speaker 5: Have you have you heard anything?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, but he was continuing to pay until you

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Speaker 5: He immediately asked me to send him the messages and

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Speaker 5: He said one of the phone numbers was indeed loaurna

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Speaker 5: at that. After a couple of hours, I received a

440
00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:03,119
Speaker 5: new message on WhatsApp from an unknown number asking me

441
00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:06,920
Speaker 5: if I was happy meddling in another relationship and accusing

442
00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:09,760
Speaker 5: me of telling on her and saying I tried to

443
00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:13,159
Speaker 5: ruin her relationship. I sent it to Elias and blocked

444
00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:16,880
Speaker 5: the number. I didn't hear anything from anyone until two

445
00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:20,080
Speaker 5: days ago, when I went to pick up Elias's parents

446
00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:22,720
Speaker 5: to take them to the mall and found him there.

447
00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:25,199
Speaker 5: I was confused, and I asked him what happened, and

448
00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:27,639
Speaker 5: he told me we would talk later. He offered to

449
00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:30,800
Speaker 5: take his parents instead of me, but they refused, telling

450
00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:34,440
Speaker 5: him we already scheduled our date and that he wasn't invited.

451
00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:35,439
Speaker 4: Of his parents.

452
00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:38,560
Speaker 5: That's so cute. They're great. Yesterday, Elias asked if we

453
00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:41,080
Speaker 5: could talk, and I said yes. We met at a

454
00:20:41,119 --> 00:20:44,080
Speaker 5: cafe near my apartment. He wanted to talk at my place,

455
00:20:44,119 --> 00:20:47,080
Speaker 5: but I declined because I didn't think it would be appropriate.

456
00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:50,240
Speaker 5: Smart we met and he said he had something to

457
00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:52,959
Speaker 5: tell me about him and Lorna. I told him it

458
00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 5: wasn't really necessary because that was between the two of them,

459
00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:58,320
Speaker 5: but he told me he broke.

460
00:20:58,160 --> 00:20:58,880
Speaker 4: Up with her.

461
00:20:59,119 --> 00:20:59,479
Speaker 6: Nice.

462
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:04,119
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sorry when she started sending threats to my ex.

463
00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:06,439
Speaker 5: Right, someone that I consider like my best friends.

464
00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:09,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, close friend, Yeah, that's it.

465
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:13,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's so much different, just because it was like

466
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:16,800
Speaker 5: such a young marriage that yeah, so amlicably like, yeah,

467
00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:20,080
Speaker 5: this isn't just like a little ex boyfriend that. I

468
00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:22,720
Speaker 5: was a little shocked, but also curious, so I asked

469
00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:25,119
Speaker 5: if it was about the messages. Although I found them

470
00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:28,240
Speaker 5: annoying and disrespectful, they didn't seem like enough to end

471
00:21:28,280 --> 00:21:31,399
Speaker 5: a relationship. I disagree. He said, not really, but that

472
00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:34,040
Speaker 5: it was the last straw. He said he'd wanted to

473
00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,199
Speaker 5: move back for ages to take care of his parents,

474
00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:39,320
Speaker 5: but Lorna refused because I was always there.

475
00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:40,160
Speaker 4: She said.

476
00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:42,320
Speaker 5: The only way we would move back with him was

477
00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:45,399
Speaker 5: if he told me to back off, but he couldn't

478
00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:48,040
Speaker 5: do it because he knew his parents wouldn't allow it.

479
00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:51,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, what is he gonna do? You can't show up anymore, Op?

480
00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:53,240
Speaker 4: And then Op's like, well.

481
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:55,000
Speaker 5: You can't go on dates with my mom and dad, And.

482
00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:57,280
Speaker 4: Then the mom and dad are like, uh, yeah she can.

483
00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:02,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, she's booked every month. He said they'd been having

484
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,760
Speaker 5: a lot of problems because she was always bad mouthing

485
00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 5: me and checking my social media, even after he told.

486
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:08,480
Speaker 6: Her the Star.

487
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 5: I told him he didn't need to tell me any

488
00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 5: of this. He got quiet for a long moment and

489
00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:16,880
Speaker 5: then said, I'm so sorry. I told him it wasn't

490
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:18,960
Speaker 5: really his fault, and he said he was sorry for

491
00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:19,720
Speaker 5: our divorce.

492
00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:24,119
Speaker 4: He's regretting. I don't think you guys should get back together.

493
00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:27,439
Speaker 5: He said his relationship with Lorna hadn't been working for

494
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:30,560
Speaker 5: a long time, maybe even from the beginning, but he

495
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:32,840
Speaker 5: refused to break up with her because he felt like

496
00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 5: he had to prove something, like he had to stay

497
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:38,160
Speaker 5: in that relationship or else our divorce would have been

498
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:40,680
Speaker 5: for nothing. He said. He was sorry he was too

499
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 5: weak to fight for us, and then he got scared

500
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 5: because all his friends were living the single dream life

501
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:46,960
Speaker 5: and he got jealous.

502
00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:50,480
Speaker 4: Dude, you weren't even single for like two seconds. Yeah,

503
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,639
Speaker 4: he jumped from one to the last and then married

504
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:57,720
Speaker 4: that girl almost. Oh yeah, fiance. Nice, you got out

505
00:22:57,880 --> 00:22:58,600
Speaker 4: just and done.

506
00:22:59,040 --> 00:22:59,920
Speaker 5: Yes, he learned.

507
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:00,439
Speaker 2: Mmmm.

508
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,440
Speaker 5: He said he broke up with Lorna because he wasn't

509
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:06,960
Speaker 5: even sure if he actually loved her. After my graduation,

510
00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 5: they went home and she complained the whole trip. Then,

511
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 5: out of frustration when she got home, she tried to

512
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 5: break a little dragonfly figurine I made for Elias on

513
00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 5: our first anniversary. I didn't even know he still had it.

514
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 4: He said.

515
00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:24,199
Speaker 5: He got so mad that he realized he had to

516
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 5: end it because at that point they were just ruining

517
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:30,359
Speaker 5: each other's lives. I didn't know what to say, so

518
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 5: I just patted his hand and asked him about his job.

519
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,440
Speaker 5: He said he quit, but his supervisor told him to

520
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:37,880
Speaker 5: think about it and gave him vacation time for two

521
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 5: or three weeks. So he's spending the holidays here. Yeah,

522
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:42,880
Speaker 5: I agree with you. I don't think they should get

523
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 5: back together, though.

524
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:46,720
Speaker 4: Think he wants that, though I don't think wants I

525
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:50,240
Speaker 4: don't think I think Opia has moved on or he

526
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:52,560
Speaker 4: is about to have that tested. But I do think

527
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:54,199
Speaker 4: that he wants to get back together.

528
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:57,640
Speaker 5: I think deep down he still wants that single life though,

529
00:23:57,680 --> 00:23:59,359
Speaker 5: So I think it could be really good for OPI

530
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 5: to even just have that moment of like, I love

531
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:02,800
Speaker 5: you all love you forever, but no.

532
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, go live that. Please don't get into a relationship

533
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 4: with the first person you meet, Dave, it was.

534
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 5: Actually people the first person that you were married to.

535
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah.

536
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:14,760
Speaker 5: I told him not to think too much about the

537
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 5: past and to just move forward, because what else do

538
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:20,280
Speaker 5: you say to that? Anyway, our parents apparently made a

539
00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 5: whole arrangement to spend Christmas together, even my sister is

540
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 5: coming from another city. Oh that's nice, but it also

541
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:29,879
Speaker 5: gave me some anxiety. I don't think anything significant is

542
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 5: going to happen after this, but I'll update again if

543
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 5: something changes. Happy Holidays, and thank you all for the

544
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 5: support and advice I received here.

545
00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:41,920
Speaker 4: Dude your pants, your families are spending Christmas together.

546
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:45,200
Speaker 5: Their parents are definitely trying to play matchmaker.

547
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 4: Absolutely y'all are spending Christmas you're single? No, it would

548
00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 4: be hold strong, got this. I've believe in you. I believe,

549
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 4: but that is the end of that story.

550
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:01,640
Speaker 5: My husband quit his job help at home and never

551
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:03,359
Speaker 5: did tell them to get on it.

552
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 4: We've been together for five years, married for nearly two.

553
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,919
Speaker 4: I'm thirty two female, ready to divorce my husband thirty

554
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 4: five male. Pooh because our visions for the future aren't aligned.

555
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:17,639
Speaker 4: I'm exhausted from having to ask for basic things that

556
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:19,720
Speaker 4: come naturally to me, and I don't know if I

557
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 4: have the energy to fix this relationship. By the way,

558
00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 4: this comes from no onion for thirty six and if

559
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:25,960
Speaker 4: you want to smit your own stories, go to the

560
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:27,920
Speaker 4: rslash Okay storytime subport it.

561
00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 5: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we're here.

562
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:31,760
Speaker 4: To give good advice. Goofy, but we don't have all

563
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 4: the answers. We only know what we'd do, So let's

564
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 4: know what you would do. In the comments, and op says,

565
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 4: I know this is my perspective and there's bias no

566
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 4: matter how hard I try to see his side. But

567
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 4: I need outsider opinions because I know I have high

568
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 4: expectations for context, I work in healthcare in a high level,

569
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 4: high profile position. I'm highly specialized and have worked really

570
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:55,920
Speaker 4: hard to get here. I'm the youngest person to ever

571
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:59,000
Speaker 4: hold my current position. But I'm not work obsessed or

572
00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 4: a workoholic. It's just the nature of the job that

573
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:05,400
Speaker 4: some weeks I work seventy to ninety hours, others closer

574
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,639
Speaker 4: to forty to fifty. I'm on call twenty four to

575
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 4: seven and sometimes spend twenty hours straight at work, though

576
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 4: that's rare now. Outside of work, I'm lazy as heck

577
00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:17,840
Speaker 4: and enjoy rotting. I work this job because I like

578
00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 4: what I do and it pays really well, but my

579
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 4: personality doesn't revolve around it. I have hobbies outside of work.

580
00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 4: I want to quit in a year or two and

581
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 4: start a business in a completely different field I'm passionate about.

582
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:33,159
Speaker 4: I explain this because I recognize I'm tied to my

583
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 4: work right now. I explain this because I recognize I'm

584
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 4: tied to my work right now, whether I like it

585
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:41,439
Speaker 4: or not. It's caused resentment where my husband feels I

586
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 4: work too much and don't prioritize quality time with him.

587
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:48,640
Speaker 4: I completely understand that this is where our visions don't align.

588
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 4: We met when I was still in school. He knew

589
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,919
Speaker 4: I was going to work a demanding job. He knew

590
00:26:54,119 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 4: my passion Forraf's sake. We met when I was in

591
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,440
Speaker 4: my last year of a dual degree program, while also

592
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:03,200
Speaker 4: working three part time jobs and defending a thesis. None

593
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,480
Speaker 4: of this is a surprise to him. But I work

594
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 4: hard so we can be comfortable, so we can travel,

595
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:10,879
Speaker 4: so we can pay for things we want without patting

596
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 4: an eye, so we can retire early, so his family

597
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 4: and mine are taken care of, and so if we

598
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,280
Speaker 4: have kids, they'd be well provided for. But he doesn't

599
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 4: value the same things. He doesn't feel responsible for his

600
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:25,240
Speaker 4: family financially the same way I do. His father is

601
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 4: about to move into hospice. Who's paying for its? I

602
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:31,320
Speaker 4: don't want his mother, in her sixties, still working full time,

603
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 4: to worry about it. He doesn't care about affording the

604
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,920
Speaker 4: nicer things in life and traveling, but when shopping or

605
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 4: planning vacations, he clearly prefers the nicer things. He doesn't

606
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,720
Speaker 4: have the same future planning and ambition that I do.

607
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 4: I get he wants to spend time with me, but

608
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 4: when I'm home exhausted after working an extremely high stressed

609
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 4: job where I've stayed up twenty four hours straight and

610
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 4: making very important decisions every minute. I just want to

611
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:58,119
Speaker 4: turn my effing brain off. But he always asks what

612
00:27:58,160 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 4: do I want to do for dinner or what I

613
00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 4: want to do. I'm tired of it. I've explained to

614
00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:07,399
Speaker 4: him multiple times why I have decision fatigue, why I

615
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 4: just want him to decide for us sometimes, but he

616
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:13,320
Speaker 4: claims I'm too high maintenance and picky and never like

617
00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 4: his choices, which I'm really not. But this man could

618
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 4: eat five protein bars for dinner and be fine. Well,

619
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:22,879
Speaker 4: solutioneers that we talked about it in the morning. Yeah,

620
00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 4: that's the solution. I mean, you already seem like you

621
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:25,880
Speaker 4: want to divorce him.

622
00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 5: So did we get Does he have a job?

623
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 4: Says quick?

624
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 6: Quit? His job?

625
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:30,160
Speaker 2: Quit?

626
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:31,159
Speaker 6: He quit? Okay.

627
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 4: He could play video games at home all week long

628
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 4: and not do any other activity and be fine, which

629
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 4: is fine. I love video games, That's how we bonded initially.

630
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 4: But I want to go out and explore and do things.

631
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be every night. But he never

632
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 4: has any idea what he wants to do, no desire

633
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 4: or hunger to explore. When we got engaged, I emphasized

634
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 4: that I didn't want a relationship where the man doesn't

635
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 4: help with wedding planning and acts like he couldn't care less.

636
00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 4: Guess what happened. Even with a wedding plan he didn't

637
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 4: help much. I had to make nearly all the decisions.

638
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 4: We talked about it during the planning, and he told

639
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 4: me he was honestly really upset that not many of

640
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 4: his friends or family could attend. He had maybe ten

641
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 4: percent of guests, So I guess it's hard to care

642
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 4: about an event that doesn't feel like his. It was

643
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 4: still disappointing because it was our wedding, but I tried

644
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 4: to move on. Before we got married, we decided together

645
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 4: to have completely joint finances. After the wedding, I tried

646
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 4: several times to find a financial advisor to help us

647
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 4: manage our finances. I was super busy with work and

648
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 4: my husband was stressed with the amount of money we had.

649
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 4: I'm still the only person who knows how much is

650
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 4: in our bank account and how much we're spending. He

651
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 4: shot down the financial advisor idea and said he wanted

652
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,560
Speaker 4: to do it himself, but still hasn't made any effort.

653
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 4: He gets stressed when I suggest a vacation and worries

654
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 4: about money, then admits he doesn't check how much we

655
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 4: have or what we budgeted for. We have completely joint finances,

656
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 4: account shared credit cards we pay off every month. I've

657
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 4: asked him several times to help manage it, and he hasn't.

658
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 4: He hasn't even thought about retirement. We also had issues

659
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,280
Speaker 4: with housework. When we bought our house. My husband had

660
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 4: a nine to five remote job where he managed to

661
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 4: play video games throughout the workday two to three hours

662
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 4: non AFK. He felt I wasn't contributing much to housework,

663
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 4: which I agreed with because I was always exhausted.

664
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Speaker 5: Uh what does this man do?

665
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 4: So he had a nine to five remote job?

666
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:32,960
Speaker 5: No, I mean, like, what does he actually bringing to

667
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 5: the table?

668
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 4: Nothing exactly, but I argued he had way more free time,

669
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 4: and I made three times what he did, so it

670
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 4: would be fair if he did more. I ended up

671
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 4: hiring weekly housekeepers, but ended those when they caused permanent

672
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 4: damage to fixtures.

673
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Speaker 5: Okay, why, oh we can try that one again.

674
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, just get a new house dinner.

675
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

676
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 4: I asked my husband to find a new service, okay,

677
00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 4: and he never did okay while there were yet I

678
00:30:57,640 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 4: gave up in the house was just dirty most of

679
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 4: the time. I'm except for the kitchen, laundry, and living room.

680
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 4: My husband is currently applying for full time work. He

681
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 4: resigned from his last job in May. It was an

682
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 4: extremely toxic environment and he was only there for the money.

683
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 4: I encouraged him to quit because his work was affecting

684
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 4: his mental health and I could support us both comfortably.

685
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 4: Before he put in his notice, I made it very

686
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 4: clear he could quit, but I still expected him to

687
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 4: contribute as a house husband, meaning cleaning, cooking, and laundry.

688
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 4: He agreed, but since then hasn't done a great job.

689
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 4: He does laundry, but doesn't clean until I ask. Even

690
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 4: then it takes him a few days. He doesn't cook

691
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 4: and hasn't learned. He claims I'm too hard to cook,

692
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,320
Speaker 4: for which I'm not. I'll literally eat cheese and crackers

693
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 4: for dinner if I'm alone. He says cooking makes too

694
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 4: much of a mess. Well good, you're there to clean it.

695
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:52,240
Speaker 4: That's your job. Gotta clean it. Crazy, This guy sucks. Divorce.

696
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 4: I now do the cooking on top of working choosing

697
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 4: quick meals. If I don't cook, he'll eat his protein

698
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 4: bars and then I have to find something else. We

699
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 4: recently moved to another country. We knew this in May,

700
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 4: and part of his rush now for quitting his job

701
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 4: was so he could have time to pack up the

702
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 4: house over the course of five months for the move.

703
00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 4: I offered to still pay for packers and movers. He

704
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 4: declined and said he'd do it himself. I am getting

705
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 4: the feeling that maybe this guy didn't do it himself.

706
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll be shocked if he did.

707
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, like he's like he actually came through and we're

708
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 4: working on our marriage right now.

709
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 5: I would not believe it.

710
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 4: I don't think that's what's gonna happen.

711
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 6: Read it.

712
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 4: When it came to moving day, the packing was still incomplete.

713
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 4: I had just finished my fifty hour work week and

714
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:42,239
Speaker 4: had to pack alongside him until two am. Woke up

715
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 4: at five am to continue packing, and still had to

716
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 4: postpone our moving day by a day. We took vacation immediately,

717
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:52,920
Speaker 4: after planned months in advance. He agreed to it. He

718
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:55,960
Speaker 4: did no planning, nothing. This was somewhere he wanted to

719
00:32:56,080 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 4: visit for years. He had no idea, what place is

720
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 4: we were going to, what day we were flying out.

721
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:06,560
Speaker 4: I'd shared notes and in a itinerary. He hadn't checked

722
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 4: it until we got there. Since moving about a month

723
00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 4: and a half ago, we still haven't fully unpacked. It's

724
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 4: smaller and I'm not making as much money, so we

725
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 4: have to budget furniture. But there's still work to be done,

726
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 4: and he claims he can't unpack because we have no space.

727
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 4: Then start getting rid of stuff. I come home and

728
00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 4: see mess everywhere. He has the whole day and claims

729
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 4: he works all day on the house. I don't see results.

730
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 5: The crazy thing too, like you're unpacking, show me the

731
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 5: empty box?

732
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, literally, like every day I want to see another

733
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 4: empty box, multiple empty box. I know he's probably playing

734
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:41,200
Speaker 4: video games and does two to four hours of work.

735
00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 4: I'm just tired. I constantly carry the mental load and

736
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 4: don't have the energy. My husband says he's doing work

737
00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 4: that I don't recognize that I'm an insane work allic dude.

738
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 4: You are literally not working. You're literally being supported by

739
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 4: your wife working the amount of time she has to work.

740
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, I can't.

741
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 4: He says I'm not normal and shouldn't expect others to

742
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 4: be the same. I don't expect people to do the

743
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 4: same as me. I recognize I'm ambitious, but I'm expecting

744
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 4: normal things from a house husband. I don't care about

745
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 4: the money. I'll happily be the sole breadwinner. I just

746
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 4: want equal effort and for him to listen instead of

747
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:24,240
Speaker 4: being defensive with an excuse for everything. I understand he's depressed.

748
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 4: I'm encouraging him to apply for jobs he'd enjoy. He's

749
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 4: not getting many responses, but this isn't enough for me.

750
00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:33,640
Speaker 4: I'm tired of not being listened to. I've told him

751
00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:37,280
Speaker 4: I'm not my wits end. He promised that he would change,

752
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 4: and he hasn't. We've talked about couples counseling, but he

753
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:43,239
Speaker 4: hasn't made any effort in finding one. I just want

754
00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 4: him to be proactive and fix a problem. Feels like

755
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:49,200
Speaker 4: I do all the thinking. I've honestly sort of made

756
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:51,400
Speaker 4: up my mind just waiting for him to get a

757
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 4: job so hopefully I can avoid alimony. I feel crazy help.

758
00:34:57,160 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 5: I feel like op knows ye that it's time that

759
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 5: she's just like I can't do this anymore. You told

760
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:04,799
Speaker 5: him that you tried to talk to him.

761
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Speaker 2: Mm hm.

762
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Speaker 4: You told us at the beginning that you were thinking

763
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 4: met divorce, so I feel like you're already there there,

764
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:13,280
Speaker 4: don't really need much convincing. Yeah, you know what effort

765
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,800
Speaker 4: you're putting in, and you've seen the lack of effort

766
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 4: he's putting in. So yeah, yeah, OHP says I recognize

767
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:22,719
Speaker 4: he feels that he has no partner at home, that

768
00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:25,640
Speaker 4: I work too much. In my mind, I justify it

769
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 4: because I want us to have a secure and comfortable life. Selfishly,

770
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 4: I want a secure and comfortable life and to retire early.

771
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 4: I know I may be an absent partner and not

772
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 4: always emotionally or mentally present on my off days with

773
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 4: him because I've exhausted myself from work, not to blame him,

774
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:43,320
Speaker 4: but then when I come home to a messy house

775
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:46,319
Speaker 4: and nothing being done, I push myself harder at work

776
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 4: so that maybe we can just throw money at our problems,

777
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 4: eat out more, hire housekeepers, take vacation time and fix things.

778
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 4: I don't know what a balance might look like.

779
00:35:56,520 --> 00:35:59,480
Speaker 5: I feel like, then we do need to try that again. Yeah,

780
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 5: Like if that's something that you are working more solely

781
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 5: to do when you're not doing that, yeah, like, try

782
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 5: it again, throw more money at the things and see

783
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 5: if you guys can find that. Yeah, especially if this

784
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,279
Speaker 5: job is going to be over in two years, what

785
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 5: if there was like that room to fix it.

786
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 4: The only thing I would say is that Op's only requests,

787
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 4: or one of her only requests, was hey, can you

788
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 4: find a new service? So she had she was like,

789
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 4: we can get this cleaner and then you don't even

790
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 4: have to worry about it.

791
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 6: Yeah.

792
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Speaker 5: I forgot that it was his job to find one,

793
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 5: because then it's like, yeah, you did offer him that

794
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:32,799
Speaker 5: at that point.

795
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:35,200
Speaker 4: I also wish he understood better about my line of

796
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:38,479
Speaker 4: work and that I'm literally trying to save lives. Would

797
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,239
Speaker 4: that make my work more excusable? I don't know. And

798
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 4: that's the end of the story.

799
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Speaker 3: I told my stepfather that I didn't choose him, and

803
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 3: it made him cry ouch.

804
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:01,319
Speaker 2: But I mean, I guess that's true.

805
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 3: My parents have been divorced since I seventeen female was

806
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 3: a baby. They had me and my two older brothers,

807
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 3: nineteen male and twenty two male together.

808
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 6: Custody of us was split.

809
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 3: Equally and we moved from mom's house to dad's house

810
00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:18,960
Speaker 3: every week. When I was four, my mom met my stepdad.

811
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Speaker 3: She introduced him to me and my brothers when we

812
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Speaker 3: were six, eight and eleven. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 3: your own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime

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Speaker 3: suburt it. I'm Dakota, I'm Angie, and we're all here

816
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 3: to give you some advice. It's good, maybe could be

817
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 3: not good.

818
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Speaker 6: We're a goofballs. We don't know everything.

819
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 3: Just tell us what you would do, if you would

820
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 3: do something, whatever it is, tell us in the comments,

821
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 3: and op says things got awkward after that. My stepdad,

822
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 3: before he was my stepdad, would come to my brother's

823
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 3: football games or my school plays, and he'd get really

824
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 3: weird at.

825
00:37:57,200 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 6: Seeing our bio dad.

826
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 3: I remember running to my dad after my school's talent

827
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 3: show where I won, and my stepdad intercepted and picked

828
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,279
Speaker 3: me up to hug me. And when I didn't hug

829
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:12,800
Speaker 3: him back, he said he wanted a hug from his girl.

830
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 3: I said I wanted my dad, and he looked annoyed

831
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 3: that my dad was there to begin with. I hadn't

832
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 3: known him that long either, maybe like five months max,

833
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 3: so it was weird. I used to hold my dad's

834
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 3: hand a lot back then, and every time one of

835
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,640
Speaker 3: my brothers had a game during dad's parenting time, my

836
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 3: stepdad would get furious that I'd hold Dad's hand, or

837
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 3: he'd get a furious look rather. A few times he

838
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 3: tried to do the same hold my hand, but I

839
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 3: would shake him off. One incident happened just before my

840
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 3: mom and stepdad got married. He called me and my

841
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 3: brother's his and Mom's kids. My dad rolled his eyes

842
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:55,240
Speaker 3: but didn't argue, and my stepdad accused him of showing

843
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 3: disrespect and dismissing his role in front of us kids.

844
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 3: My dad told him we didn't stop being his and

845
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 3: mom's kids because she had moved on, and my stepdad

846
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 3: called him.

847
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:10,720
Speaker 6: A booty hole for pushing him out.

848
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Speaker 3: Father's Day activities were weird because my stepdad wanted to

849
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 3: do them all and we just wanted to do them with,

850
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:20,880
Speaker 3: you know, our dad. My mom told us we should

851
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 3: do something with our stepdad because he loved us and

852
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:26,919
Speaker 3: showed up for us, so he reluctantly did one thing

853
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:30,760
Speaker 3: a year with him, but then he would cyberstock Dad

854
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:33,960
Speaker 3: and see we did so much more with him. One time,

855
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 3: close to Father's Day, my grandparents brought us all out

856
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:40,239
Speaker 3: for the day and my stepdad saw Grandma take me

857
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 3: to buy something for my dad. He assumed it was

858
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 3: for him, and I guess he had a meltdown on

859
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:48,840
Speaker 3: Father's Day when he saw Dad posted on his socials.

860
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 3: When I was ten, my mom ended up in the

861
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 3: hospital for over a month with the flu and another infection.

862
00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 3: My stepdad wanted to take on Mom's custody, and Dad

863
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 3: said no, and he told my stepdad we weren't his kids,

864
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:05,720
Speaker 3: so he didn't get to keep us in Mom's place.

865
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Speaker 3: We didn't try to go with him either, and my

866
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 3: stepdad blamed my dad and said he poisoned our minds

867
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 3: against him. My stepdad was more aggressive afterwards with trying

868
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,319
Speaker 3: to be a quasi.

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Speaker 6: Dad, a proxy father.

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Speaker 3: He insisted on doing professional family portraits and tried really

871
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:27,439
Speaker 3: hard to have me and my brothers standing around him

872
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:30,720
Speaker 3: instead of us being equally close to him and Mom.

873
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 3: He insisted on our birthday parties at Mom's house being

874
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 3: family parties and inviting all of his family. He started

875
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:43,759
Speaker 3: signing cards to us as Dad. My oldest brother said

876
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:46,279
Speaker 3: he even scratched out his name and cards we gave

877
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 3: him and wrote Dad in. He insisted my brother's play

878
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:53,800
Speaker 3: tennis with him, and he insisted on being their trainer.

879
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 3: He tried to make me do father daughter dances with him,

880
00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 3: but I refused and always found ways around. We did

881
00:41:01,040 --> 00:41:03,480
Speaker 3: talk to Mom about our issues with all of that

882
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,880
Speaker 3: several times. Mom would always say we should cut him

883
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 3: some slack and try harder to appreciate him and bond

884
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 3: with him, because he felt othered by us. She told

885
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 3: my brothers they were always so rude to him and

886
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 3: that it was not okay. And she told me I

887
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:20,279
Speaker 3: could be blessed with two dads if I give it

888
00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 3: a shot.

889
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 6: Okay.

890
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:25,040
Speaker 3: I told her, if he had his way, i'd only

891
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 3: have him, and she said I don't have to let

892
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 3: it happen, but should see it as a sign of

893
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 3: his love for me. Even him and Mom having my

894
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:37,200
Speaker 3: two half brothers together changed nothing. All of this is

895
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 3: why I chose to live with my dad when I

896
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:42,080
Speaker 3: turned sixteen. I go to Mom's house for a few

897
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 3: hours every month, but I don't sleep there anymore, and

898
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:46,720
Speaker 3: I don't stay long if things get.

899
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:49,320
Speaker 6: Weird, but they did last week.

900
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 3: I think, yeah, stay, staying away from this house and

901
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 3: living in joe Dad's makes sense.

902
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:57,879
Speaker 6: But I think we're about to get the real issue here.

903
00:41:57,960 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 3: Oh I hope, so right now we're about to get

904
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 3: the issue it got weird.

905
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:02,800
Speaker 4: I want to know so bad.

906
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 2: Please.

907
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:07,319
Speaker 3: My stepdad brought up how he felt ignored and and

908
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:11,280
Speaker 3: appreciated by me and my brothers, and how my decision

909
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 3: to live with Dad hurt him. Then he said that

910
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:16,760
Speaker 3: you would think we'd be more loving to the person

911
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 3: we chose to add to the family, and I was like, dude, no,

912
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 3: Mom chose you.

913
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 6: Not us.

914
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 3: That's when the tears started, and he told me I

915
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:31,040
Speaker 3: really wanted to crush his spirit by telling him that.

916
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:33,439
Speaker 6: And he was like, I don't know what I did

917
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 6: to make you hate me that much.

918
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 3: Maybe it was the constant lack of respect or acknowledgment

919
00:42:39,239 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 3: of her wants or boundary or you know, feelings or attitudes.

920
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:47,280
Speaker 1: I feel like we got a little little narsty poo

921
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:48,280
Speaker 1: on our hands.

922
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, He's just like, I just don't understand why you

923
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 3: won't accept my behavior. The way that I wanted to be,

924
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 3: even though you don't appreciate it or like it.

925
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, you that don't hurt me. You just said, don't

926
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 2: hurt my feelings.

927
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,880
Speaker 3: There's no universe in which if I would have maybe

928
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:08,440
Speaker 3: pumped the brakes and pulled back a little bit and

929
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 3: treated you like you know, you're your own person and

930
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:14,360
Speaker 3: i'm your stepfather, yeah and not your actual dad, that

931
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:15,959
Speaker 3: maybe our relationship would be better.

932
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 6: Yeah.

933
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:21,359
Speaker 1: Like this guy is playing the victim card to a sixteen.

934
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 3: Year old, Like, bro, Honestly, Bro, the buddy sucks, and

935
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:28,319
Speaker 3: your mom is kind of like, I'm I don't know

936
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:30,399
Speaker 3: what kind of hypnosis she has been put on.

937
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:33,840
Speaker 1: There, because he's definitely playing these same tricks with the

938
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 1: mom and probably you know, manipulating her in a way.

939
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:40,839
Speaker 3: My mom was pissed that I said it, and that

940
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 3: made him cry too, So I left and I didn't apologize.

941
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 2: Good.

942
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:48,279
Speaker 6: I don't regret it, and it's true we did not

943
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 6: choose him.

944
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 3: My mom texted a bunch to say that I should

945
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 3: apologize and I should make more of an effort because

946
00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 3: it's not fair that he keeps trying and none of

947
00:43:56,600 --> 00:44:00,799
Speaker 3: us reciprocate. Does what I said, make me a No,

948
00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:03,240
Speaker 3: your mom and your stepdad are both idiots.

949
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 6: Yeah. I don't know if they're idiots or they just like.

950
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:11,400
Speaker 3: Have that perspective where it's like, well, whatever the you know,

951
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 3: authority figure says you must abide by, which she is

952
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 3: also stupid.

953
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:18,960
Speaker 6: Yeah. I don't like either of them.

954
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:19,880
Speaker 1: Yeah.

955
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 3: If I was your mom, I'd be like, hey, buddy,

956
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:26,400
Speaker 3: you're not their dad, right, And if you the harder

957
00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:28,319
Speaker 3: you push.

958
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 6: The further away, they're going to withdraw.

959
00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, comments comment one, not the a hole. I'll

960
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:38,200
Speaker 3: bet your mom's tone would entirely change about this type

961
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:40,560
Speaker 3: of behavior. If the shoe was on the other foot,

962
00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:42,640
Speaker 3: she would be losing her ever loving crap. If your

963
00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 3: dad had remarried and your new stepmom was behaving like this,

964
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:50,040
Speaker 3: your stepdad's behavior is weird and creepy. He needs therapy,

965
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:51,799
Speaker 3: and that is the end.

966
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 6: Of that story.

967
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:55,920
Speaker 1: My brother has been weirdly kind to me and refuse

968
00:44:56,040 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 1: to tell me why.

969
00:44:57,160 --> 00:45:01,120
Speaker 6: Oh sorry, so guys can't be kind anymore now? Yeah.

970
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 1: So this probably sounds super normal for some of you

971
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 1: who grew up with sweet, affectionate siblings, but that is

972
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 1: not me. Seventeen female and my brother's twenty one male

973
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 1: at dynamic at All. By the way, this comes from

974
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:15,240
Speaker 1: Okay raz and if you want to submit your own stories,

975
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:18,880
Speaker 1: go to the r slash Okay Storytime Separate and I'm Angie.

976
00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 6: I'm the Koodoo, I'm.

977
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 4: Sophia, and we're here to give good advice goofily, but

978
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:23,560
Speaker 4: we don't have all the answers.

979
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 1: We'll just know what we are gonna do in this situation,

980
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 1: So let us know what you would do in the

981
00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 1: comments and ohp sets. We sort of hated each other

982
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 1: and we were always that pair that just didn't get along.

983
00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:37,480
Speaker 1: Tons of past progressive comments, side eye, mild bickering, but

984
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:41,759
Speaker 1: never actually physically fighting, just a lot of tension. But

985
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:45,319
Speaker 1: about three weeks ago something flipped and I mean filipped

986
00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:49,360
Speaker 1: out of nowhere. He started being weirdly kind, way kinder

987
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:52,240
Speaker 1: than he has ever been my entire life. He brings

988
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: me my favorite snacks and food on his way home.

989
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 1: He's bought me little gifts for no reason, like things

990
00:45:58,360 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: I mentioned months ago, and he leaves work early to

991
00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: pick me up if I needed a ride. He hugs

992
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:06,960
Speaker 1: me randomly, kisses the top of my head or my

993
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:10,400
Speaker 1: forehead when I go out. It sounds sweet, and honestly

994
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 1: it is, but it's also low key freaking me out

995
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:15,879
Speaker 1: because it's so out of character for him. I've asked

996
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:18,040
Speaker 1: him multiple times why he's acting like this, and he

997
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:21,240
Speaker 1: either dodges the question or gives me the most bs.

998
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 2: Vague answer, like just felt like it or can it

999
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:24,880
Speaker 2: be nice to you?

1000
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 1: I even asked my parents and some of his friends

1001
00:46:28,320 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 1: if they knew anything, and they all said that they

1002
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 1: didn't know. With this weird knowing smile, it's like they're

1003
00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 1: all in on something but won't tell me. It's starting

1004
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:38,400
Speaker 1: to make me feel like I'm being set up for

1005
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:39,840
Speaker 1: the longest prank of all time.

1006
00:46:40,040 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 2: I don't know how to react or what I'm supposed

1007
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:42,440
Speaker 2: to do.

1008
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:44,799
Speaker 1: Part of me enjoys the attention because it's new, but

1009
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:47,959
Speaker 1: another part of me feels anxious, like something is going on.

1010
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 4: Behind my back?

1011
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 2: Is this some kind of joke? Am I overthinking?

1012
00:46:51,480 --> 00:46:54,840
Speaker 1: Has anyone had a siblings suddenly switched personalities overnight?

1013
00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:56,000
Speaker 2: There are some comments.

1014
00:46:56,120 --> 00:47:00,520
Speaker 1: One copter says, yeah, haha, I have, And this is

1015
00:47:00,560 --> 00:47:03,240
Speaker 1: so sweet. I think maybe he's grown up and realized

1016
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:07,280
Speaker 1: that she's not that bad. Guys kind of go through that. Also,

1017
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 1: I see it as more of a he wants you

1018
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:12,279
Speaker 1: type thing, and what I mean by that is that

1019
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:14,680
Speaker 1: he just wants to spend time with you. It's actually

1020
00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:17,160
Speaker 1: quite common and really sweet. If I were you, I'd

1021
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 1: utilize this to spend more time with him. As a

1022
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,600
Speaker 1: guy myself, I do get random spurts of love for

1023
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:25,359
Speaker 1: my family members. Opie responds, I get that, but it's

1024
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:29,480
Speaker 1: just been going on for weeks and feels a bit uncanny. Sorry,

1025
00:47:29,480 --> 00:47:32,480
Speaker 1: but I've never experienced this from him lol. The same

1026
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 1: commenter responds, I get you. If my brother randomly out

1027
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:38,320
Speaker 1: of nowhere for weeks did this, I'd feel so weird.

1028
00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:40,399
Speaker 1: But yeah, it sounds like it's a good thing though.

1029
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 1: Antique Pop fourteen seventeen says, where are you from? What culture?

1030
00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:46,840
Speaker 1: I have a scenario in my mind, but would like

1031
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:51,080
Speaker 1: more info. Opie says, We're in the US. We're Indian American.

1032
00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:54,840
Speaker 1: Another commenter says, are you two the only two children?

1033
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 1: I'm really asking if there are other siblings and is

1034
00:47:58,080 --> 00:48:00,279
Speaker 1: it the same for them? Is brother getting made read

1035
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:03,120
Speaker 1: or going to college? Has he been working and can

1036
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:05,880
Speaker 1: almost afford his own house now? Something is about to

1037
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:09,040
Speaker 1: change or maybe he's just been thinking about it. Upcoming

1038
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 1: changes are likely to happen soon just because of both

1039
00:48:12,600 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 1: of your ages. Opie says, yes, we are the only

1040
00:48:15,239 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 1: two siblings. He's a fourth year student in university and

1041
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 1: is graduating soon. We do have an update, but yeah, awesome,

1042
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 1: actually says. People don't typically change like.

1043
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 6: This without a reason. Yeah.

1044
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 2: I feel like he either like really needs money for

1045
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 2: her or something, or like.

1046
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:34,640
Speaker 1: I said before, like he just got he went through

1047
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 1: some sort of terrible relationship or a bad car crash,

1048
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:39,879
Speaker 1: and it's like, maybe I should be nice to people now.

1049
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 3: I think I think his parents are going to be like,

1050
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 3: we'll get you, will get you a brand new PlayStation two.

1051
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:54,720
Speaker 6: If you say to behave that's witched.

1052
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, you're talking about a brand new PlayStation two,

1053
00:48:58,360 --> 00:48:59,320
Speaker 3: Like that's.

1054
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:01,400
Speaker 2: Gonna be hard to come everything. Oh yeah, then he

1055
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 2: could resell it or something for a great value.

1056
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 6: In the box wrapped.

1057
00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:08,480
Speaker 2: That'd be pretty that people will pay big bucks for

1058
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:12,280
Speaker 2: an The last time you saw one of those. Couldn't

1059
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 2: tell you.

1060
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:13,760
Speaker 6: Every in my life.

1061
00:49:13,760 --> 00:49:17,200
Speaker 2: Don't even know what it looks like me, to be honest.

1062
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:19,799
Speaker 6: So we can all understand why he'd be so nice.

1063
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:21,520
Speaker 4: He wants that.

1064
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 6: He wants that, but I want to.

1065
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 2: Read the next op bait.

1066
00:49:25,719 --> 00:49:28,279
Speaker 1: One of my brother's friends finally cracked and told me,

1067
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:30,960
Speaker 1: apparently my brother has been talking to this girl he

1068
00:49:31,000 --> 00:49:33,600
Speaker 1: really likes, and she asked him what his relationship with

1069
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 1: his family was like. He told her the truth that

1070
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 1: we were never close and mostly just sarcastic to each other.

1071
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:41,880
Speaker 1: She basically told him that that's a huge green flag

1072
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:44,560
Speaker 1: for her, a guy who loves and protects his sister.

1073
00:49:44,760 --> 00:49:46,919
Speaker 1: So this man has been out here trying to change

1074
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:49,640
Speaker 1: his personality just because he wants to impress a girl.

1075
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: I confronted him nicely and he got super embarrassed and

1076
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:55,520
Speaker 1: admitted it. He said he wasn't trying to manipulate me

1077
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:57,680
Speaker 1: or anything. He just realized that he should have been

1078
00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 1: a better brother anyway, and talk to her kind of

1079
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 1: made him reflect on it.

1080
00:50:01,960 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, we went with the better scenario, Opie says.

1081
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 1: Honestly, I don't know whether to be annoyed, flattered, or amused.

1082
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 6: Maybe you should be all of them.

1083
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:16,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, sure, it's complicated.

1084
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:18,879
Speaker 6: It's a weird position to be in.

1085
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, Opie says, but at least I now know that

1086
00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:25,120
Speaker 1: I'm not passing away. He's not passing away, and the

1087
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:28,320
Speaker 1: world isn't ending. He's still being nice though, So maybe

1088
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: something good came out of this whole thing after all.

1089
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 1: There are some comments. One comment says, don't discount it

1090
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:38,840
Speaker 1: with a cynical assumption. He could very well have have

1091
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:42,439
Speaker 1: genuinely had a perspective shift because of it. Another commenter says, yeah,

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Speaker 1: sometimes it takes one outside nudge to realize you've been coasting.

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Speaker 2: Doesn't make it fake, just overdue growth.

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Speaker 6: One outside nudge from a hot lady.

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Speaker 1: Another commenter says, never doubt how a woman can change

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00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:57,440
Speaker 1: a man. Another commenter says, or sometimes it can be

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Speaker 1: the other way around, and never doubt how a man

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Speaker 1: can change a woman.

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Speaker 2: The last commenter just says, your bro is growing up.

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Speaker 4: And doing the right thing.

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00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:06,640
Speaker 2: Give him a pat on the back for me, and

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00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:08,600
Speaker 2: that's the end of this story. We're going on to

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Speaker 2: the next one.

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Speaker 3: I refused to lend more money to my brother and

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00:51:13,719 --> 00:51:14,840
Speaker 3: it made me the villain.

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00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:17,919
Speaker 2: Oh so on the villain now.

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00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 3: My brother thirty two male, lives abroad what's her name

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00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:23,720
Speaker 3: with his wife, thirty female. Over the past few years,

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00:51:23,760 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 3: I twenty nine female have lent him a total of

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00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 3: sixty five thousand dollars for various things, twenty five thousand

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00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:35,440
Speaker 3: for a house deposit, twenty five thousand for their wedding,

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Speaker 3: fifteen thousand to pay off a.

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00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:39,680
Speaker 6: Loan from loan Sharks.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user routine donut twenty

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Speaker 3: seven to twenty one. And if you want to submit

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Speaker 3: your own stories, go to the art slashowcase story time severed.

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Speaker 4: I'm Dakoto, I'm Angie, I'm Sophia, and.

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Speaker 6: We're here to give you some freaking advice.

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00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:54,799
Speaker 3: And it's gonna be goofy and it might not be

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Speaker 3: the best, but it could also be really great.

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Speaker 6: We don't know. We only know what we would do.

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Speaker 6: Tell us what you would do in the comments.

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Speaker 3: When I lent him that final fifteen thousand, I made

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Speaker 3: it explicitly clear that this was the absolute last time

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Speaker 3: I would ever help him financially. Just under a year later,

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Speaker 3: he's back asking for another fifteen thousand. He has several

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00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:18,399
Speaker 3: loan installments and believes that paying a lump sum will

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Speaker 3: help reduce their current monthly expenses, with his wife covering

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Speaker 3: the rest.

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Speaker 6: I refused.

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00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:25,600
Speaker 3: I told him that he and his wife must be

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Speaker 3: responsible for their own expenses and need to learn to

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Speaker 3: live within their means.

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Speaker 6: His wife got furious at me for saying this. She

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00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:34,600
Speaker 6: claims she hasn't spent a.

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Speaker 3: Single dollar of my brother's money, which seems absurd given

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00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:42,720
Speaker 3: their lifestyle choices. I feel justified in my refusal because

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00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:45,960
Speaker 3: I believe their financial distress is largely self inflicted due

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00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 3: to poor decisions like expensive rent. They choose to rent

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Speaker 3: a very expensive house despite the fact that they're paying

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00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:54,720
Speaker 3: a mortgage of a smaller home they could.

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Speaker 6: Have lived in.

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Speaker 3: I believe this was a joint decision between the two

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Speaker 3: of them. They had an over the top wedding, which

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00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:02,480
Speaker 3: I advised them to either have a small wedding or

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Speaker 3: use the twenty five thousand I gave them as a

1147
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:06,440
Speaker 3: holiday gift instead of overspending.

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00:53:06,880 --> 00:53:08,319
Speaker 6: The wife insisted on a.

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00:53:08,280 --> 00:53:11,279
Speaker 3: Wedding for about two hundred guests, which blew through the

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00:53:11,280 --> 00:53:13,160
Speaker 3: money and likely cost even more.

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00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 6: They went on an expensive.

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00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:19,240
Speaker 3: Holiday, a week long holiday that costs about six thousand dollars.

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00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:22,520
Speaker 3: His wife is now claiming she has to pay for

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00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:24,920
Speaker 3: it all by herself, as if that's some sort of

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00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:28,160
Speaker 3: tragedy and seems to imply I should be footing the bill.

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00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:31,200
Speaker 3: I can't see why she wouldn't pay, as she was

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00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 3: part of the trip. The wife has been making comments

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00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 3: such as, now I have to cover the debt, which

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00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:40,440
Speaker 3: admittedly are because of my brother's choices, but I don't

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00:53:40,440 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 3: think she's faultless. She's also told my mom that if

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Speaker 3: I don't help my brother, he'll have to file for

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Speaker 3: bankruptcy and to divorce. So that made my mom mad

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00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:54,360
Speaker 3: at me for not helping. I've already sacrificed a huge

1164
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:58,040
Speaker 3: amount of my own financial stability to help them multiple times.

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00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:00,880
Speaker 3: I feel like I've done my part. Am I the

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00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:03,000
Speaker 3: a hole for finally drawing a line in the sand

1167
00:54:03,160 --> 00:54:06,640
Speaker 3: and refusing this last request, even though it's causing friction

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Speaker 3: with my brother, his wife, and my mom. And there

1169
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:13,400
Speaker 3: are some comments comin. One Dude, you don't need to

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00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:16,440
Speaker 3: explain yourself at all. I'd laugh at my sister and

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00:54:16,480 --> 00:54:18,320
Speaker 3: hang up the phone if she asks for money.

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Speaker 6: Adults have to.

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Speaker 3: Live within their means and deal with the lumps that

1174
00:54:21,840 --> 00:54:24,760
Speaker 3: come from not doing so. You are helping them skip

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00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:28,000
Speaker 3: the learn from their mistake stage. I couldn't imagine giving

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Speaker 3: anyone close to that money. Unless I was taking care

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00:54:31,840 --> 00:54:36,440
Speaker 3: of family physically incapable of helping themselves, I'd be offended.

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Speaker 6: They would even ask.

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Speaker 3: To be quite honest, And there's an edit here, my

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00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:43,480
Speaker 3: mom did say she's willing to lend the money, but

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00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 3: she's financially dependent on me, so that means she's basically

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00:54:47,640 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 3: trying to give my money.

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Speaker 6: That I refuse to do. So there's an update. Folks, Okay,

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00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:54,200
Speaker 6: don't give them any money.

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00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:56,920
Speaker 3: Stop giving you Well, maybe do stop giving your mom money,

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00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:59,359
Speaker 3: but maybe you can be like mom. If you keep

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00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 3: on giving my mind money to my brother, I'm not

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00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:04,360
Speaker 3: giving you any more money. He is currently over fifty

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00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:06,880
Speaker 3: thousand in debt and thinks the extra fifteen from me

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00:55:07,080 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 3: can help him cover some of his monthly expenses while

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00:55:09,719 --> 00:55:12,080
Speaker 3: he finds a way to make more monthly income as

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00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:16,320
Speaker 3: he is self employed. He is unable to move from

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00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:20,400
Speaker 3: his rented house because they've recently signed a one year contract.

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00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 3: They've also signed a one year contract with the tenant

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00:55:23,840 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 3: for the house they bought. The wife said she's already

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00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 3: helped with twenty thousand dollars over the years and can't

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00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 3: afford to help anymore. She claims that my family has

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00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:37,560
Speaker 3: been causing inconvenience with her monthly spending and budgeting. She

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Speaker 3: said they're financially independent, so she doesn't think the money.

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Speaker 6: I gave benefited her. She argues the.

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00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 3: House is in my brother's name only, and that it

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00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:48,840
Speaker 3: is right for the man to pay for the wedding.

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00:55:49,640 --> 00:55:53,399
Speaker 3: Update two sounds like two leeches in a steamy little pond.

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00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:56,359
Speaker 1: But that doesn't make any sense of that it's actually happening, like, oh,

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00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 1: the man needs to be paying for the wedding. The

1206
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:00,719
Speaker 1: man is, it's his house, so he's paying for it.

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00:56:00,840 --> 00:56:04,320
Speaker 1: And it's like, yeah, he should. Where am I paying

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00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 1: for it? Like what, I'm not the man you're marrying.

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00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:10,400
Speaker 3: The man should pay for I don't care where he

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00:56:10,440 --> 00:56:14,080
Speaker 3: gets the money from. Yeah, I'm an eighty eight. Yeah,

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00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:16,040
Speaker 3: I just see man.

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00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:18,880
Speaker 6: Money. Man is money, and that's money.

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00:56:18,920 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 5: Man.

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00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:21,680
Speaker 2: It's like, well, then why are you asking me a female?

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00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:24,680
Speaker 4: She just meant a man should pay for it. She's like,

1216
00:56:24,760 --> 00:56:26,840
Speaker 4: any man could pay for it, doesn't have to be

1217
00:56:26,960 --> 00:56:29,320
Speaker 4: my man. Just a man needs to pay.

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00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 6: It here man.

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00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:35,840
Speaker 2: Oh forget. It's like he's like this is I'm a female.

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00:56:35,880 --> 00:56:39,680
Speaker 4: She's like, I'm not even a man. Yeah, I forgot

1221
00:56:39,760 --> 00:56:40,759
Speaker 4: that was a woman.

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00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:42,200
Speaker 6: But we have another update here.

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00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:45,640
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for the outpouring of support and responses.

1224
00:56:45,880 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 3: I am from a Southeast Asian background, so I was

1225
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:50,920
Speaker 3: completely blind when it comes to family.

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00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 6: And perhaps stupid to have put up with the situation

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00:56:53,280 --> 00:56:54,239
Speaker 6: for as long as I did.

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Speaker 3: What's interesting is that I genuinely started to feel guilty

1229
00:56:57,640 --> 00:56:59,799
Speaker 3: for not helping and wondered if I was actually the

1230
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 3: one in the wrong. I have officially cut ties with them.

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00:57:03,840 --> 00:57:06,879
Speaker 3: Before I did, I had one last conversation with them,

1232
00:57:06,880 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 3: which involved me having to explain my reasons for refusal.

1233
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:13,440
Speaker 3: My brother's wife made one last attempt to justify their

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00:57:13,480 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 3: actions and said I was distorting the whole truth, causing

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00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:21,080
Speaker 3: the downfall of their marriage. So her position on rent

1236
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 3: is she believes that since they are both freelancers.

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00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:26,920
Speaker 6: They require a three bedroom flat.

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00:57:26,720 --> 00:57:30,120
Speaker 3: So they can each have a dedicated bedroom and office.

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00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:34,520
Speaker 3: She actually called this investing and business, which I don't understand.

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00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:38,240
Speaker 3: She acknowledged that this was a joint decision between both

1241
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:40,919
Speaker 3: of them, but she claims I only have the right

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00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 3: to call my brother out, not her. There's an expensive lifestyle.

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00:57:45,400 --> 00:57:48,720
Speaker 3: She believes they've been working hard their entire lifetime to

1244
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:50,920
Speaker 3: make money, and it only makes sense for them to

1245
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:54,920
Speaker 3: treat themselves without feeling overstretched. We've got some more bullet

1246
00:57:54,920 --> 00:57:56,760
Speaker 3: points here, let's get into them.

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00:57:57,040 --> 00:57:57,440
Speaker 6: Wedding.

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00:57:57,880 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 3: She expected the groom's family to have paid thanks for everything,

1249
00:58:00,640 --> 00:58:02,800
Speaker 3: even though from the very beginning we told them we

1250
00:58:02,840 --> 00:58:05,320
Speaker 3: could only give a certain amount in total to work on.

1251
00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 3: She thinks that she has already contributed a lot to

1252
00:58:08,680 --> 00:58:11,320
Speaker 3: this marriage because she didn't get an engagement ring, my

1253
00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:13,960
Speaker 3: parents didn't buy her gold, and she had to use

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00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 3: eighteen thousand of the guests cash gifts to pay for

1255
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:20,919
Speaker 3: the venue, rather than keeping it all to herself. It's

1256
00:58:20,960 --> 00:58:23,960
Speaker 3: actually clear from the conversations that she sees herself as

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00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:27,360
Speaker 3: one individual separate from my brother and not family with

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00:58:27,440 --> 00:58:27,840
Speaker 3: my brother.

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Speaker 6: Now that they're married, thanks to.

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00:58:29,520 --> 00:58:31,400
Speaker 3: All of you, I now know for certain that my

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00:58:31,440 --> 00:58:35,040
Speaker 3: feelings were misplaced, and I'm starting to feel less guilty.

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00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 6: And that is the end of that story. Hey, this

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Speaker 1: My in laws gave my child a phone and refused

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Speaker 1: to be responsible about it.

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Speaker 3: They gave a phone with a big nuclear battery attached

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Speaker 3: to it.

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Speaker 1: Abbi fifty three and I forty two have a daughter thirteen.

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Speaker 1: He also has a son twenty four from a previous marriage,

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00:59:00,840 --> 00:59:03,919
Speaker 1: and three older sister I'll call them sister one, sister two,

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Speaker 1: and sister three. By the way, this comes from a

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Speaker 1: feisty contract thirty eight to forty nine. And if you

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Speaker 1: want to submit your own stories, go to the r

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Speaker 1: slash Okay storytime, separate it and I'm Angie, I'm Dakota,

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Speaker 1: and I'm Sofia, and we're here to give good advice.

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Speaker 2: Goofully.

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00:59:16,800 --> 00:59:18,480
Speaker 4: But we don't have all the answers. We just know

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00:59:18,520 --> 00:59:19,640
Speaker 4: what we would do in this situation.

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00:59:19,760 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 2: So let us know what you would do in the comments,

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00:59:22,160 --> 00:59:25,840
Speaker 2: and Opie says. Sister two passed away in twenty twenty one.

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Speaker 1: She had been living with my mother in law, and

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00:59:28,440 --> 00:59:32,120
Speaker 1: sister one and three lived together as well. After sister

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00:59:32,280 --> 00:59:35,920
Speaker 1: two's passing, it was decided that mother in law, sister one,

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00:59:35,960 --> 00:59:38,600
Speaker 1: and sister three would get a new house and move

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00:59:38,640 --> 00:59:41,680
Speaker 1: in together. One day, my daughter was out at mother

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00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:44,280
Speaker 1: in law's old house when they were packing up, and

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00:59:44,400 --> 00:59:47,240
Speaker 1: they gave her sister two's cell phone, which was still working.

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Speaker 1: This caused a major issue because Hobby and I felt that.

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Speaker 2: She didn't need a phone.

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Speaker 1: We lived in a small town where she could walk

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Speaker 1: to school in her friend's houses if.

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00:59:55,480 --> 00:59:56,400
Speaker 2: It wasn't close by.

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Speaker 1: She was under the supervision of an adult, so that

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00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 1: we knew really well. They said that her brother had

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Speaker 1: had a phone at that age, so she should have

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Speaker 1: one too. Her brother had a basic kid's phone that

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01:00:06,800 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 1: only had a few buttons, not even numbers. It was

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01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:12,560
Speaker 1: because at the time his mother had not been responsible

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01:00:12,600 --> 01:00:15,640
Speaker 1: for her phone bills, so Hobby wanted a reliable way

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01:00:15,680 --> 01:00:16,840
Speaker 1: to get in contact.

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Speaker 2: With her sister.

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Speaker 1: One and three decided to end an argument by buying

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Speaker 1: my daughter a phone and putting her on their contract.

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Speaker 1: Hubby made it clear that he was not okay with

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01:00:25,960 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 1: it and felt that she didn't need it, but if

1308
01:00:27,680 --> 01:00:29,720
Speaker 1: they did that then it was all on them.

1309
01:00:30,040 --> 01:00:31,360
Speaker 2: He wasn't going to pay for it.

1310
01:00:31,720 --> 01:00:33,840
Speaker 1: They told my daughter that she could choose from two

1311
01:00:33,880 --> 01:00:37,440
Speaker 1: specific phones because they were free. Hobby did help her

1312
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:40,440
Speaker 1: do the research and she decided what phone she wanted.

1313
01:00:40,680 --> 01:00:42,720
Speaker 1: I went with them when they went to get her phone.

1314
01:00:42,800 --> 01:00:44,880
Speaker 1: I bought her a new case and a pop socket.

1315
01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:48,440
Speaker 1: My daughter has babied that phone. She's got a carry

1316
01:00:48,440 --> 01:00:51,080
Speaker 1: strap on it and checks her case regularly to make

1317
01:00:51,120 --> 01:00:54,440
Speaker 1: sure her phone is protected. So fast forward to now

1318
01:00:54,760 --> 01:00:57,840
Speaker 1: we've moved to a more rural area. She can walk

1319
01:00:57,880 --> 01:00:59,840
Speaker 1: to a few friends houses, but for the most part,

1320
01:01:00,000 --> 01:01:01,960
Speaker 1: she uses her phone to talk to everyone since they're

1321
01:01:02,000 --> 01:01:04,760
Speaker 1: so far away, including her old friends. She's also involved

1322
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:07,040
Speaker 1: in more activities and is sometimes with people that we

1323
01:01:07,040 --> 01:01:09,520
Speaker 1: don't know at all because we need help sometimes getting

1324
01:01:09,560 --> 01:01:12,040
Speaker 1: her to and from activities. I feel at this point

1325
01:01:12,080 --> 01:01:15,320
Speaker 1: she needs a phone. Abby does not agree. The issue

1326
01:01:15,360 --> 01:01:18,080
Speaker 1: at hand is with the two sisters. The phone is

1327
01:01:18,480 --> 01:01:21,480
Speaker 1: passing away. She turns it off at school and the

1328
01:01:21,520 --> 01:01:25,400
Speaker 1: battery will drop at least fifty percent. Many times she's

1329
01:01:25,520 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 1: not with us and her battery will be less than

1330
01:01:27,560 --> 01:01:30,240
Speaker 1: five percent. She doesn't always get the texts, and more

1331
01:01:30,280 --> 01:01:32,680
Speaker 1: issues with Wi Fi and mobile data than the rest

1332
01:01:32,720 --> 01:01:35,120
Speaker 1: of us. The first time this was brought up to

1333
01:01:35,160 --> 01:01:37,760
Speaker 1: Hebby's sisters, they said that they weren't replacing it because

1334
01:01:37,760 --> 01:01:40,320
Speaker 1: supposedly my daughter and I had gone off and picked

1335
01:01:40,320 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 1: a whole new phone and it had cost them one

1336
01:01:42,240 --> 01:01:42,880
Speaker 1: hundred dollars.

1337
01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:44,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, that didn't happen.

1338
01:01:45,440 --> 01:01:47,760
Speaker 1: We did go look around, but the only change she

1339
01:01:47,840 --> 01:01:50,640
Speaker 1: made was the color of the phone because the salesperson

1340
01:01:50,680 --> 01:01:51,560
Speaker 1: asked her in.

1341
01:01:51,520 --> 01:01:54,760
Speaker 2: Front of sister three. I was asked if we.

1342
01:01:54,720 --> 01:01:56,840
Speaker 1: Wanted a special plan on the phone because she was

1343
01:01:56,880 --> 01:01:58,640
Speaker 1: a kid, but I said no because I didn't want

1344
01:01:58,640 --> 01:02:00,479
Speaker 1: them to have that much control over her her phone.

1345
01:02:00,960 --> 01:02:03,280
Speaker 1: I would have I would have had to ask them

1346
01:02:03,320 --> 01:02:04,919
Speaker 1: to put new numbers on it, etc.

1347
01:02:05,720 --> 01:02:07,880
Speaker 2: They were called out on the lie.

1348
01:02:08,320 --> 01:02:10,600
Speaker 1: They then tried to say that we needed to put

1349
01:02:10,640 --> 01:02:14,240
Speaker 1: her phone on our plan, which even mother in law

1350
01:02:14,280 --> 01:02:16,480
Speaker 1: said wasn't a good argument because we had said no

1351
01:02:16,640 --> 01:02:19,120
Speaker 1: to begin with. Now the argument is that they never

1352
01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:21,760
Speaker 1: said they were going to maintain it. Hubby says he

1353
01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:24,360
Speaker 1: feels like it's a trap to force him to pay

1354
01:02:24,360 --> 01:02:27,080
Speaker 1: for a phone. He still feels like she doesn't need it.

1355
01:02:27,320 --> 01:02:30,160
Speaker 1: I feel like she does. The one person in the

1356
01:02:30,160 --> 01:02:34,040
Speaker 1: middle is my daughter, with neither side budgeting. My daughter

1357
01:02:34,200 --> 01:02:36,919
Speaker 1: is sad. She knows that the way things are going,

1358
01:02:37,040 --> 01:02:39,280
Speaker 1: she won't have a phone for long. She already has

1359
01:02:39,360 --> 01:02:41,680
Speaker 1: anxiety and mild depression, and I think this is making

1360
01:02:41,720 --> 01:02:43,920
Speaker 1: things worse. If I buy a phone and add it

1361
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:46,280
Speaker 1: to our plan. It will cause a huge issue in

1362
01:02:46,320 --> 01:02:49,280
Speaker 1: the marriage. I feel like my only recourse is to

1363
01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:51,760
Speaker 1: just add her to our plan. I have to consider

1364
01:02:51,760 --> 01:02:54,600
Speaker 1: her mental health as well. In this maybe I'm missing something.

1365
01:02:54,800 --> 01:02:57,560
Speaker 1: So I'm here to ask some outsiders what they suggest,

1366
01:02:57,680 --> 01:02:59,320
Speaker 1: and we do have an update.

1367
01:03:00,080 --> 01:03:03,200
Speaker 2: But what what do you think, Dakota, I.

1368
01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:05,520
Speaker 6: Already told you get the walkie talkie, man, Yeah.

1369
01:03:05,400 --> 01:03:06,280
Speaker 2: I get the walkie talking.

1370
01:03:06,600 --> 01:03:08,480
Speaker 6: I also wonder she's thirteen.

1371
01:03:09,040 --> 01:03:10,560
Speaker 3: She's gonna be so cool if you get a walkie

1372
01:03:10,560 --> 01:03:12,480
Speaker 3: talk I swear, dudek.

1373
01:03:13,040 --> 01:03:18,360
Speaker 1: I wonder what she's got on her phone because sometimes phones,

1374
01:03:18,560 --> 01:03:21,240
Speaker 1: if you're on there too much, they can cause anxiety

1375
01:03:21,280 --> 01:03:24,720
Speaker 1: and depression. So maybe that's the issue. Yep, you know

1376
01:03:24,800 --> 01:03:26,680
Speaker 1: what's never caused anxiety or depression?

1377
01:03:26,720 --> 01:03:29,960
Speaker 2: WALKI doki walkie talk Honestly, I feel gets cured.

1378
01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:31,120
Speaker 4: There is an update here.

1379
01:03:31,720 --> 01:03:33,440
Speaker 2: I want to address a few things.

1380
01:03:33,440 --> 01:03:33,720
Speaker 4: First.

1381
01:03:33,840 --> 01:03:35,960
Speaker 1: A time limit for how long this would go on

1382
01:03:36,200 --> 01:03:38,680
Speaker 1: was never addressed. My daughter even offered to pay for

1383
01:03:38,720 --> 01:03:40,680
Speaker 1: her own phone from her savings, and no one is

1384
01:03:40,720 --> 01:03:42,720
Speaker 1: okay with that because we want her to save it.

1385
01:03:42,960 --> 01:03:43,919
Speaker 2: Adding her to our.

1386
01:03:43,840 --> 01:03:46,720
Speaker 1: Plan is a financial issue, not huge, but one that

1387
01:03:46,760 --> 01:03:49,840
Speaker 1: we haven't budgeted for yet. The battery issue isn't the

1388
01:03:49,840 --> 01:03:52,120
Speaker 1: only issue, so while a power bank would help, it

1389
01:03:52,120 --> 01:03:55,240
Speaker 1: won't fix everything. That being said, yesterday my daughter and

1390
01:03:55,280 --> 01:03:58,120
Speaker 1: I were out. We talked about the phone issue. She

1391
01:03:58,280 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 1: even offered to give up her allowance to pay for

1392
01:04:00,600 --> 01:04:02,840
Speaker 1: the phone and said that she preferred to be on

1393
01:04:02,920 --> 01:04:05,480
Speaker 1: our plan. We were near our local phone store, so

1394
01:04:05,520 --> 01:04:07,600
Speaker 1: we stopped by. We found out how much it would

1395
01:04:07,600 --> 01:04:09,760
Speaker 1: cost to add her to the plan. After leaving, she

1396
01:04:09,800 --> 01:04:12,640
Speaker 1: looked defeated, then said that she could start babysitting and

1397
01:04:12,720 --> 01:04:14,919
Speaker 1: use all that money to pay for it. I told

1398
01:04:14,960 --> 01:04:16,760
Speaker 1: her that I would talk to her dad when we

1399
01:04:16,840 --> 01:04:19,000
Speaker 1: got home. She ended up talking to her dad as

1400
01:04:19,000 --> 01:04:21,560
Speaker 1: soon as she could. He told her that he'd think

1401
01:04:21,600 --> 01:04:24,800
Speaker 1: about it. Apparently he had talked to her the day

1402
01:04:24,800 --> 01:04:27,240
Speaker 1: before about it, and she had expressed her feelings about

1403
01:04:27,280 --> 01:04:30,160
Speaker 1: the matter. Between the two conversations, he has agreed to

1404
01:04:30,160 --> 01:04:31,920
Speaker 1: put her on our plan.

1405
01:04:31,800 --> 01:04:32,520
Speaker 2: With the new phone.

1406
01:04:32,840 --> 01:04:35,160
Speaker 1: If she gets babysitting jobs, she can pay towards it

1407
01:04:35,200 --> 01:04:37,440
Speaker 1: with some of what she earns. But she's not losing

1408
01:04:37,480 --> 01:04:40,480
Speaker 1: her allowance. She doesn't know this, but we'll put whatever

1409
01:04:40,520 --> 01:04:45,360
Speaker 1: she gives us into her savings. Oh, what a good choice.

1410
01:04:45,600 --> 01:04:47,640
Speaker 1: I was already looking at getting a second job. I

1411
01:04:47,720 --> 01:04:50,040
Speaker 1: work for a school district and don't make much. I

1412
01:04:50,160 --> 01:04:52,560
Speaker 1: was looking at something on the side to start saving

1413
01:04:52,600 --> 01:04:54,560
Speaker 1: more or maybe not have to work as much over

1414
01:04:54,560 --> 01:04:56,720
Speaker 1: the summer. Hubbe he can't get a second job because

1415
01:04:56,720 --> 01:05:00,960
Speaker 1: of his disabilities. Anyway, the issue is resolved. My daughter

1416
01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:03,320
Speaker 1: will have a new phone by the end of the day,

1417
01:05:03,920 --> 01:05:05,240
Speaker 1: and that's the end of the story.