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Speaker 1: Subject I'm getting played by an old man. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty eight year old divorced woman and I

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Speaker 1: fell on hard times during the pandemic. I got laid

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Speaker 1: off and then I got a bad case of COVID

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Speaker 1: and had to move in with my father and stepmom.

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Speaker 1: That's where I met my stepmom sixty nine year old brother,

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Speaker 1: and he swept me off my feet. We started working

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Speaker 1: out together and we ran a marathon together. He started

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Speaker 1: out giving me money for my hair and nails, and

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Speaker 1: then he gave me a car to drive. My dad

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Speaker 1: asked him why he was being so generous, and he

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Speaker 1: said that he can only drive one car at a time,

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Speaker 1: so he didn't mind. My dad warned me to watch

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Speaker 1: out for him, but I was already attracted to this

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Speaker 1: man and was ready to sleep with him. I told

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Speaker 1: that he'd been waiting to hear that because he had

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Speaker 1: been attracted to me from the jump. We had sex

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Speaker 1: in his car that day. It all happened quickly, and

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Speaker 1: I loved it. From that day on, he gave me

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Speaker 1: money freely, and he started sneaking over to my dad's

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Speaker 1: stepmom were at work. The more we had sex, the

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Speaker 1: more I wanted to be with him. He said he

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Speaker 1: would get me an apartment so we could stop having

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Speaker 1: sex at my dad's house. Then he abruptly stopped calling

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Speaker 1: and coming to see me, and he texted me and

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Speaker 1: asked for his car back. I called him over a

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Speaker 1: million times and he wouldn't answer. He texted again to

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Speaker 1: tell me that he was with someone new and he's

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Speaker 1: moving in with him. Wait what and he's moving her

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Speaker 1: in with him. He blocked my phone number. After that,

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Speaker 1: I was heartbroken and mad. He promised to get me

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Speaker 1: an apartment and he played me. Should I give him

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Speaker 1: an ultimatum to get the apartment or I'll tell my

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Speaker 1: dad how he tricked me into falling for him. How

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Speaker 1: do I handle this? This was not an average sixty

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Speaker 1: nine year old man. Let's just say that. Okay, you

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Speaker 1: guys working out together. He ran a marathon with him,

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Speaker 1: and he gives you money too, and all of this.

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Speaker 1: He was a Zatti for real what everybody calls Zatti

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Speaker 1: for real. Okay, but you know, having said all that,

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Speaker 1: you still need to let him go, get him out

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Speaker 1: of your system, and move on. I'm guessing here. But

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Speaker 1: because he stopped seeing you so abruptly, I think your

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Speaker 1: father already found out what was going on between you two,

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Speaker 1: and he probably threatened the man's life or something. So

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Speaker 1: you can't use the threat to tell you ad on

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Speaker 1: him to get the apartment. He promised. That's over. It's over. Okay. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's followed for not telling you why. But as we've

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Speaker 1: learned on this very show, the Steve Harvey Morning Show,

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Speaker 1: men do not do closure, He's just moved on. There

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Speaker 1: was a reason your dad didn't want you to date

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Speaker 1: him in the first place, and his warning to you

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Speaker 1: fell on deaf ears, so he probably went straight to

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Speaker 1: the source. The older man who you say swept you

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Speaker 1: off your feet, his brother in law, his wife's brother.

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Speaker 1: Whatever went down at that meeting. This old guy decided

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Speaker 1: it wasn't worth it to fight for you guys in

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Speaker 1: this relationship. He didn't want to have to fight your

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Speaker 1: dad or anyone. So he hurried up, got with someone else.

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Speaker 1: And that's just how I see it. I think you

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Speaker 1: should forget him. You don't really miss him anyway. You

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Speaker 1: just missed the money and the perks, the car and

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Speaker 1: all that, and you miss the apartment he promised you,

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Speaker 1: So just move on. Steve, Well, well, well I got

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Speaker 1: played buy an old man. Is this subject all right now?

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Speaker 1: It's twenty nine year old divorce woman. Listen to me, careful.

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Speaker 1: Fell on hard times during the pandemic, got laid off

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Speaker 1: move in with my father and the stepmom. That's why

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Speaker 1: I met my stepmom sixty nine year old brother, and

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Speaker 1: he swept me off my feet. Let me give you

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Speaker 1: the facts back to you. You fell on hard times

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Speaker 1: and you got COVID. You was already off your feet,

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Speaker 1: easy to sweep somebody off their feet. That's all already

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Speaker 1: off their feet. So see, you didn't get played. You

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Speaker 1: misunderstood what was happening to you. You did not get

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Speaker 1: All right, that's the main part. We started working out

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Speaker 1: that's what I said. Hold on what you you come

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Speaker 1: out of COVID, started working out and run a marathon together.

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Speaker 1: like that. I know. Good to hell, Well your ass

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Speaker 1: ain't come out of COVID and ran twenty six point

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Speaker 1: two damn miles. I promise you this ain't a real marathon.

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Speaker 1: She has a misunderstand I promise. Girl stopped and from

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Speaker 1: my uh he started giving me money for hand nails,

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Speaker 1: don't know why women to get impressed when a man

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Speaker 1: pay for your head nail. I don't know why that's

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Speaker 1: impressive to some women. It's just nail, all right, that's

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Speaker 1: all it is. Mortgage paid, you know, and you got

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Speaker 1: your hair. How often that happened? So I'm y'all get

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Speaker 1: impressed by a lot of little stuff. Now, your dad

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Speaker 1: asked him, man, why was he being so generous? He said,

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Speaker 1: you what happened right to that. All right, hang on,

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Speaker 1: letter subject I'm getting played by an old man. We'll

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Speaker 1: morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter. The subject I'm getting played by an old man.

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Speaker 1: All right, here's recapt I'm getting played by old man.

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Speaker 1: Twenty eight year old divorce woman fell on hard times

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Speaker 1: doing the pandemic, lost her job an got COVID, had

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Speaker 1: to move in with her daddy and her step mom.

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Speaker 1: She met the step daddy's sixty nine year old brother,

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Speaker 1: She was attracted to him, and he came in and

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Speaker 1: swept her off her feet. People that's already down is

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Speaker 1: a lot easier to sweep off their feet. All you

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Speaker 1: got to do is Scooper. Mom, you was on the ground,

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Speaker 1: met this sixty nine year old man. Y'all started working

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Speaker 1: out together and ran the marathon. What you know how

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Speaker 1: long it take to get in shape to run a

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Speaker 1: damn marathon? Little girl, you don't know what a marathon is,

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Speaker 1: and you don't know what getting swept off your feet is.

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Speaker 1: You just wrong on so many levels. He gave you

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Speaker 1: money for your hand, your nail, gave you a car

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Speaker 1: to drive. Then your dad, asking why he's being so generous,

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Speaker 1: Your daddy know that. Your daddy warned me to watch

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Speaker 1: out for him. But I was already attracted to this

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Speaker 1: this man I was attracted to him, and he said

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Speaker 1: he'd been waiting to hear that because he'd been attracted

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Speaker 1: to me from the joke. Next line, we had sex

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Speaker 1: in his car that day. Pump your brain. That's an

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Speaker 1: important thing, because right now, if you're sixty nine having

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Speaker 1: sex in the car. I'm impressed. Oh you're not impressed

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Speaker 1: with the marathon, but you're impressed. Damn now sixty nine

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Speaker 1: having sex in that car. I'm pressed. Law this man

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Speaker 1: right here, Damn that marathon. Skip all that buying your

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Speaker 1: hand nails. Y'all had sex that day in the car.

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Speaker 1: It all happened quickly, and I loved it from that

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Speaker 1: day own. He gave me money freely, and he started

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Speaker 1: at work. Naw, I'm not impressed. I'm back to being

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Speaker 1: You went from the impressing me to unimpressing me. The

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Speaker 1: more we had sex, the more I wanted to be

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Speaker 1: so we could stop having sex at my dad's house.

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Speaker 1: An apartment for sex. Here we go again. I'm not impressed.

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Speaker 1: Back to that. I don't know why y'all keep getting

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Speaker 1: excited about your hand, your nails, an apartment and listen

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Speaker 1: gonna deal with that in a minute. Then all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden, he abruptly stopped calling and coming to see me.

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Speaker 1: He texts me and asked first car back. I called

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Speaker 1: him a million times, he wouldn't answer. He texts me

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Speaker 1: to tell me he was with somebody knew he's moving

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Speaker 1: her in with him. He blocked my phone number. After that,

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Speaker 1: I was heart broken in mad He promised to get

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Speaker 1: him an ultimatum to get the apartment or I'll tell

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Speaker 1: my dad how he tricked me into falling for him.

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Speaker 1: How do I handle him? First of all, let's back

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Speaker 1: all this up. Number one. Your father told you in

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Speaker 1: you your father can't tell him what to do. He's

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Speaker 1: sixty nine. He probably older than your daddy. That one

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Speaker 1: was impressive about y'all had sex in the car. It's

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Speaker 1: hard to unfold your old ass after you've been in

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Speaker 1: You can't do like you want to. You're gonna get cramps.

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Speaker 1: Your lad's gonna lock up. There's a whole lot going

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Speaker 1: wrong again. Your daddy told you listen to me. He

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Speaker 1: didn't play you, You played yourself. Here's another thing. When

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Speaker 1: I've never seen that workout for a lady before. If

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Speaker 1: a man is gonna give you a car, didn't get

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Speaker 1: it because the moment you ain't having sex no more.

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Speaker 1: Guess what he wants. He want all his stuff back,

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Speaker 1: all his stuff he gave you don't have sexual him.

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Speaker 1: And see don't he asked for all his stuff back then.

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Speaker 1: Don't give you something for nothing. You got no commitment

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Speaker 1: your sister. You didn't notice how thrilled he must have

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Speaker 1: sixty nine. Impressing. But juniors, yeah, you didn't think that

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Speaker 1: was impressive on your part. So later, this is it.

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Speaker 1: But let me listen to all you fellas that's reading

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Speaker 1: this letter. Don't take your sixty nine year old ass

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Speaker 1: that car and having sex. It ain't gonna work out

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Speaker 1: for you, and that's the ball it is it now?

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