WEBVTT - BONUS: The Valley, VPR, and Vision Update! 0:00:06.000 --> 0:00:09.640 Hello, gorgeous. It is Lala Kent and my brother. 0:00:09.760 --> 0:00:16.239 Easton back in our cozy little space, ready to do it. 0:00:16.400 --> 0:00:23.040 Q and A. You know, Ocean started school today and it. 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:26.880 Is her last first day of school with this group. 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:30.960 They were all in the same class and now it's 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:35.920 their first no, their last first day of school at 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:39.080 this school and already and you want know who brought 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:42.800 that up? Sena in the group chat, I was like, 0:00:43.240 --> 0:00:44.560 do you spend you with time? 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:45.559 Thank you? 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:47.479 I'm like, I literally talk to you about this all 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:50.640 the time, Shina that time passing cripples. 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:53.400 Melly, would you bring it up? I have to tell 0:00:53.440 --> 0:00:56.440 everybody who's listening. We were in the car yesterday, just 0:00:56.480 --> 0:00:59.280 the fam, and Lauren says she gets up out of 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:03.640 sleep because time. Yes, that is wild and you do 0:01:03.760 --> 0:01:08.520 need to be medicated. Just that is wild. 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:11.200 It's time. Guess here's the thing. 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:14.680 Yes, it is sad that it's the last first day 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.399 with this group, but how magical you get to do 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:19.360 it with another group, Like I. 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:21.440 Don't think about that at all. I'm like a new group. 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:23.440 That means I don't know you, I don't know if 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:25.119 I like you, and I don't know that I. 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:25.560 Fuck with you. 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:28.360 How exciting that you get to find all those things. 0:01:28.240 --> 0:01:30.399 Out and see, this is why I should be medicated, 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:32.240 because then I could have that mindset. 0:01:32.520 --> 0:01:33.959 Instead, I go to bed. 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:38.080 I wake up at one thirty every single night or 0:01:38.120 --> 0:01:40.479 morning and go, oh my god. 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:41.920 When I wake up. 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:42.680 Time has passed. 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:43.679 Time has passed. 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:47.080 Ocean is going to be different, so says older. And 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:50.200 now I panic because that also means that when time passes, 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:50.720 people die. 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:54.720 All right, let's move on. I'm freaking out. 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:56.360 I need a fucking beata blocker. 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:00.520 So we're doing a Q and A today because the 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:02.400 reason I brought up the first day of school was 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:04.880 because it's chaotic the first day of school. I can't 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:06.680 even imagine what it's going to be like when the 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:08.720 curriculum is more than just finger painting. 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:10.120 Okay, I really. 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:11.359 Thinking about that last night. 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:13.800 Thank god I don't have to sit down and do 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:16.000 her homework with her, because I will have no idea 0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:16.400 what to do. 0:02:16.639 --> 0:02:17.520 But that's your job. 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:21.959 We'll be hiring a tutor because if I am responsible, 0:02:22.000 --> 0:02:23.640 I can barely do division. 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:25.720 I can't even multiply. 0:02:26.360 --> 0:02:26.880 Here's the thing. 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:29.679 I'm going to stand behind her and like that. That's 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:31.600 right with a calculator hidden. 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:34.600 Yep, you did it. Yeah, there's no other way I 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:35.080 can do it. 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:37.239 I'm sheer panic. So that's why we're doing the Q 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:41.440 and A today. The first question from that's Missus Castro 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:44.880 underscore one two six. Would you ever consider doing a 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:47.000 reality show of just your family? 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:47.760 I would watch. 0:02:48.040 --> 0:02:51.240 I I'm gonna interrupt you because you're the only one 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:52.480 who doesn't want to do it. 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:56.440 I feel like that's no. Mom doesn't want to. 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:59.000 Do that at all, and that's the sad thing because 0:02:59.040 --> 0:03:01.720 mom is is reality gold. 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:02.120 Yeah. 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:04.840 Well, I've had people come in and gauge my level 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:08.360 of interest and it's at a solid negative five million. 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:10.800 I would love to do a reality show with you guys. 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:15.560 The thing is is my family is my safe space. 0:03:15.720 --> 0:03:18.000 And at the end of the day, everyone knows that 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:23.680 reality TV that doesn't have the dramatic effect and it 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:26.040 just can't be happy, go lucky in the moments that 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:27.560 we are arguing. 0:03:28.639 --> 0:03:29.680 I don't want. 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:33.000 That put out for people to judge and say I'm 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:35.440 on Eastern side, I'm on Lisa's side, I'm on La 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:36.000 la side. 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:38.520 But we don't read comments, so it doesn't matter. We 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:40.000 just live our authentic life. 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:43.600 But sometimes it's hard Easton to not see those things. 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:45.760 You go into the explore page and you see something 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:48.760 that you did not intentionally want, like you didn't search 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:49.120 for it. 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:51.840 Yeah, no, I can see that. I would love to 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:53.040 do it for the question. 0:03:53.800 --> 0:03:57.080 For the question, I would like to really, Yeah. 0:03:56.800 --> 0:04:00.240 What are you kidding me? Like we living our vitual 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:03.400 lives with a camera. It is so fun. Our lives 0:04:03.440 --> 0:04:05.240 are fun. Mom, it is. 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:08.680 Fun, but it's not fun for actually people would beg 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:10.560 to differ that watching. 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:11.640 Fun is fun. 0:04:11.920 --> 0:04:13.480 Are arguing is fun? 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:14.280 That is true? 0:04:14.960 --> 0:04:15.600 Yeah, that's right. 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:17.880 Yeah, yeah, last night. 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:18.480 I'm sorry. 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:23.440 But what we all fight about is like stupid crumbs. 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:24.480 It's very stupid. 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:27.440 Yeah, because when we actually it is something I really 0:04:27.520 --> 0:04:29.200 don't think we ever really fight it. 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:31.320 We get it really light hearted argument. 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:34.120 Yes, Like that's where I'm saying, like I don't we 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:37.559 don't fight. We have little arguments, but they're fun. 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:40.760 You know, for us being around each other twenty four 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:42.880 to seven, you would think that there would be more 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:44.760 blow ups or like I'm sick of you, get out 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:45.279 of my face. 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:47.640 And that just doesn't know And that's where like I 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:49.760 think of the show a lot and I'm like, there 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:54.440 really is like nothing that I would ever be afraid 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:58.080 of putting out there because we never honestly have. 0:04:58.080 --> 0:04:58.840 Blow up fights. 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:04.320 Okay, we hang out and we have the funnest conversations. 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:09.400 Lisa just being fucking Lisa and Gigi is okay, So 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:10.080 stop tears. 0:05:10.160 --> 0:05:10.880 I'm gonna stop you. 0:05:10.920 --> 0:05:11.160 Though. 0:05:11.920 --> 0:05:15.480 I remember having conversations with people who are now on 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:19.839 the Valley who had this, We had this same exact. 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:23.840 They thought, my family's fun, this is how we. 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:26.960 Do things, and then it shifts. 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:30.719 Yeah, and then you stop being who you are because 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:32.920 you've seen things in the comments section and you get 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.560 worried and you're no longer like I enjoy who you 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:36.520 are right now, Easton. 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:38.040 I don't want you to change. 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:40.000 And you can say all day long that a reality 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:42.000 show would be fun and that would never happen. 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:45.320 It happens. Well, I would take your advice on that 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:46.440 because you've done it. 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:49.000 And I don't want Mom to ever change either, No, 0:05:49.160 --> 0:05:52.480 and she would it just it naturally happens, So I'm not. 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:56.320 I don't want to set my family up like that. 0:05:56.320 --> 0:05:57.840 That's where I'm at, Okay. 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:01.839 By underscore Lynn unders score May says, how is your eye. 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:04.800 So I had another person ask me like, can you 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:09.719 go into more depth about what happened with your eye? 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:13.159 So back on Mother's Day, and. 0:06:13.160 --> 0:06:16.360 I won't bore everybody with a long winded story. 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:18.880 But on Mother's Day I made a very. 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:21.599 Vain post about my eye and I was like, it's ugly. 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:23.000 Remove this shit. 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:29.440 Cut to I am set to leave the country to 0:06:29.480 --> 0:06:35.520 film something. I then feel like we have to take 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:38.920 care of this situation for vanity purposes. I don't want 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:41.400 to show up on camera with this on my eye, 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:47.120 so I go to see an ophthalmologist rather than an optometrist. Now, 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:50.880 the optometrist originally said that's an inflamed penguecula, which is 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:55.320 from sun exposure dust when just you know the elements 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:59.120 of being outside and it's almost like a callous on 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:03.640 your hand protectant that your eye forms. The only reason 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:06.960 I started tweaking out was because again I didn't want 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:09.440 to be on camera with that on my eye. So 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:12.640 that mixed with the vein post, I then felt like 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:17.080 I needed to update you guys that the ophthalmologist said 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:18.840 this is pre cancer on your eye and we need 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:22.480 to start you on chemo drops. That sounds terrifying. It's 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:25.760 a topical chemo. It's called five FU and they paired 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:28.360 it with lotomax, which is a steroid I had to 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:30.680 do or have to do those. I'm not done yet. 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:34.640 Three rounds a week on, three weeks off, and in 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:37.760 that time I see my ophthalmologist twice. 0:07:38.440 --> 0:07:40.600 The first week off and then the week before you 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:41.880 start correct correct. 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:45.920 So the reason because so many people were like, you 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:50.360 haven't updated us, the reason for that is I was 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:54.920 so just blindsided by the time I made the initial 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:58.440 post of vanity, get this off my fucking eye, to 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:02.080 oh we're talking about my vision here to where I 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:03.720 didn't want to talk about it because I didn't want 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:07.160 to jinx it. The first two rounds of the chemo 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:14.600 drops knock on Wood has gone splendidly well, and the 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:18.440 doctor is thrilled about the progress that we're making and 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:21.520 the die that they put in. Literally two days ago 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:28.240 last week because it's Monday, there were almost no signs 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:30.440 of pre cancer cells anymore. 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:31.920 Knock on Wood. 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:36.400 So I start round three this week is this is 0:08:36.440 --> 0:08:40.040 my last round. So I haven't kept anyone updated because 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:41.719 I want to know. I don't want to come out 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:43.480 and here I am coming out talking about this, but 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:46.160 so many people have asked, if you have something on 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:49.920 your eye, you guys, I highly recommend going to an ophthalmologist, 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:51.120 not an optometrist. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:52.559 I was misdiagnosed. 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:55.000 Had I not had to leave the country to go 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:57.520 do something, I would have just sat there and been like, 0:08:57.520 --> 0:08:59.199 I don't want to go away when it goes away. 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:03.040 I never in a million years I have twenty twenty vision. 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:10.600 I never thought, and I asked. I asked the optimology ophthalmologist. 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:12.640 What causes this? And she goes, honestly, just bad luck. 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:16.959 You didn't wear sunglasses less than maybe someone else. You 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:19.400 didn't do anything wrong. 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.679 And it was just wild. So there's the update. 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:25.160 I'm praying to God that after round three is done 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:27.559 and I go in, they still say. 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:28.440 We're all good. 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:32.679 Here, I did ask, what do we do after? You know, 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:36.640 God willing all is good? She said, I'm going to 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:41.640 see you at six months on the dot for the 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:43.760 rest of your life. That is what you will have 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:47.960 to do. I'm like, the fucking eye doctor, Maya right, 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:51.480 It's like every six months, really, isn't it. 0:09:51.600 --> 0:09:53.719 Yeah? I go twice a year. Is that enough? I 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:55.480 don't know if I'm gonna get judged, but I go 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:56.120 twice a year. 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.240 I thought you went like only once a year. 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:00.000 Oh no, do you? 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:02.040 I don't know, but I do a whole bit. 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:07.200 I'm like water picker floss tongues when hydrogen po. 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:09.800 Thing wrong with my teeth. By the way, that's good. Well, 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:11.439 twice a year. 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:15.559 So that's what happened with the eye. And that's why 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:18.520 I haven't kept anyone updated. I just felt like I 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:19.480 was going to jinx it. 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:23.079 You yeah, you you you are that type of person. 0:10:23.120 --> 0:10:25.440 If I talk about it, it won't go away, or 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:27.480 I'll what I careful. 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:28.880 What you wish for? You're that type of person. 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.280 Well, in my mind, it's like maybe if I never 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:34.080 would have done the Vein post about how ugly it. 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:37.559 Was, maybe it would have never been. And it's like, no, 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:39.520 that's not how it works at all. 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:42.200 It's just that the whole time, which just fast. 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:43.120 The whole time. 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:48.560 Susan m with three US eighty nine says, what do 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:50.520 you think of all the viewers saying this season of 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:53.400 The Valley is forced and dark? I have not seen 0:10:53.400 --> 0:10:56.120 anyone say that it's forced. I've heard a lot of 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:57.240 people say that it's dark. 0:10:57.760 --> 0:10:58.480 There has to be. 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:01.560 And this goes back to you talking about like our 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:03.559 fights being fun, and I'm like, people crave the drama. 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:07.439 I think people are actually starting to really want some lightheartedness. 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:12.640 It's yeah, I agree. We've talked about this a lot. 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:14.880 That's why I feel like if I've said, like. 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.760 Schwortz even you like they need. 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:24.360 Somebody, they need somebody to like lighten it up because 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:27.000 everybody is about their business in there and. 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:32.200 That's great, but like there's no like light joke to 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:33.880 bring it out right. 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.040 Like everyone goes in with a machine. 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:39.520 Yeah, I will say the thing for me that I 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:44.840 think it's missing is the really deep rooted friendships. I 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:47.199 don't feel like there's enough at stake. 0:11:49.120 --> 0:11:49.959 Does that make sense? 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:51.400 No, it does. 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:54.480 It's like there's just like it's very up like surface 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:57.760 where I'm I want, like the thing that made vander 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:00.520 pump Roles so special as you could be like, wow, 0:12:00.720 --> 0:12:05.280 they've been roommates for ten years before this show even 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:09.440 came to be, you know. Yeah, So I remember entering 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:13.160 vander pump Roles and people being like when we were 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:15.719 filming the reunion, they're like, you don't know us La lad, 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:18.960 this group has history, and I was so intimidated by 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:21.200 that because I felt like such an outsider. And now 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:23.800 I'm sitting here and I'm like, you know nothing about us. 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:25.040 We got history. 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:27.520 Funny how the shoe goes around? 0:12:27.679 --> 0:12:33.000 I know, right, were just passing the shoe nicely. But 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:35.040 I have heard it's very very dark. 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:39.960 And the couple that I've watched are very very. 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:42.280 Dark, especially Jackson Brittany. 0:12:42.960 --> 0:12:44.960 What couple, No, just the whole thing. 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:48.200 Oh, a couple of episodes, the couplet, the couple, Like. 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:50.960 The couple of episodes I watched were very dark. 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.800 All right, so we're about to get a little dark. 0:12:54.600 --> 0:13:03.040 Lynn's underscore Mullins, Did you know about Brock's affair? Yes, 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:08.040 I did, but not for a while. So that Glamour 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:13.400 article came out today, Shina called me and said, I 0:13:13.440 --> 0:13:15.640 just want to give you the heads up, like tomorrow 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:20.240 this article is coming out with the excerpt, and like, 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:23.120 I may need to tap you in. I'm very nervous. 0:13:23.880 --> 0:13:25.720 I won't share exactly what she said on the phone 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:30.600 because that's between she and her husband. But I thought 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:36.360 the excerpt that Glamour pulled from her book was beautifully written, 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:42.560 well done, mark my words. I truly believe that it 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:44.040 will be okay. 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:45.240 I love it. 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:50.960 My Good Side, a memoir by Seena She will be 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:55.120 a New York Times bestseller. Brittany Howard three two one says, 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:57.360 has your opinion of Brock change since it has come 0:13:57.400 --> 0:14:00.160 out that he had an affair? So I've I've I've 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:03.040 had time to process it. Not that that matters. I'm 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:08.000 not in the relationship. Brock has always been a tremendous 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:10.000 not always. We've had our ups and downs, and I've 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:12.440 you know, said some things to him and you know, 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:14.680 called out some red flags to me. But since then, 0:14:15.240 --> 0:14:18.280 what I have watched is him be a great father 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:22.640 to Summer Moon. I've seen him with Ocean and Sosa, 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:25.200 and I just find him to be a very hands on, 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:26.560 great dad. 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:28.960 Every time I see him around, he is always very 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:30.520 hands on and on top of everything. 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:31.280 He's a good father. 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:34.720 And people can say whatever they want about his past. 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:37.560 I certainly did. What I know about life is it 0:14:37.560 --> 0:14:40.520 doesn't always go as we planned. There are a million 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:42.920 moments that I look back on in my own life 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:44.960 and go, damn, you know, if I could get a redo, 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:47.400 I would really do that differently. I know for a 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:48.880 fact he feels that way. 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:54.160 The moment. And this is my own opinion, This is. 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:56.760 Not what I feel people should do in a relationship 0:14:56.760 --> 0:15:00.400 if they've been cheated on. For me, the moment that 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:03.040 you find out that your person has cheated on you, 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:07.720 if you decide to stay, that is you forgiving that 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:09.960 person and you have to find a way to move 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:12.400 on from it. Yes, you cannot hold it over their 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:14.160 head forever. And by the way, I'm not saying that 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:17.040 she is doing that, because it's just me talking. Yeah, 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:20.000 I know that I'm the type of person that would 0:15:20.000 --> 0:15:22.600 hold it over your head for the rest of your life. 0:15:22.640 --> 0:15:23.320 Any little fight. 0:15:24.120 --> 0:15:28.040 Yeah, you want the grocery stores because you're a fucking cheater, 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:30.720 You're a low life, fucking loser. 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:32.720 No, I guess you would be like, oh, you forgot 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:36.800 the quinoa? Who are you texting this time? You wouldn't 0:15:36.840 --> 0:15:37.320 be able. 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:39.720 To leave the house or text or take a phone 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:42.440 call without me wondering who are you talking to? 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.120 I call you? You miss my phone call? Who you fucking? 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:47.880 I would have to just be done. 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:50.160 Yeah, but there's a lot of people who aren't. 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:52.000 No, and you're gonna find out in the book and 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:54.520 you know. I'm sure Shina will do a podcast about 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:57.280 it and her thoughts and whatever. I don't want to 0:15:57.280 --> 0:15:58.880 share too much about her. 0:15:58.920 --> 0:15:59.480 What a story. 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:02.840 First, it's her story, and I'm just here to support her. 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:05.600 And tell what we know and say what we know 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:10.360 from my perspective on cheating, you know, because she's gonna 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:12.520 have a fabulous party, and I have a new pair 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:14.640 of shoes i'd like to wear and. 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:15.960 I have nowhere to wear them. What am I gonna 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:19.320 wear six inch heels to my daughter's pick up? Actually, 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:22.560 there's a really hot dat at pickup, so I might. 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:23.160 I might. 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:25.120 Guys, don't even. 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:28.200 I will be walking up in my new Jimmy choes. 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:31.160 I'll start taking her to school every day now and 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:32.440 you can stay at home. 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:36.960 He's really hot. People have asked me are you dating? 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:39.880 And I say, I prefer to say that I'm talking 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:43.520 to men, because when you say I'm talking to a 0:16:43.560 --> 0:16:48.960 man or men or whatever, a guy, it means it's 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:52.760 very casual. Right the moment you say I'm dating, it's 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:56.480 opening this world of like there's potential for it to go. 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:59.360 Somewhere, and so you're closed off. 0:16:59.840 --> 0:17:02.920 I'm not why a man? Can I tell you? 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:04.840 If a man did what I did and said I 0:17:04.960 --> 0:17:07.840 just want kids, I got an egg donor and a surrogate, 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:08.960 people would. 0:17:08.800 --> 0:17:10.959 Be like, oh, that's what I want to do, and 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:12.920 nobody's doing that to me, So done it. 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:16.040 It's just words. Okay, it's just fucking worse. 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:17.560 All right. If there's any guys out here that have 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:18.040 done what. 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:20.280 She did, they would be applauded. 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:23.200 I go out and do it, and everyone's like, Uh, 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:27.159 she's so wounded. How's she going to explain that that 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:28.240 she doesn't have a dad. 0:17:28.440 --> 0:17:29.600 The only reason why. 0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:40.480 People say that is because they're taking your old story of. 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:39.120 The man who shall not be named. 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:41.000 In a box. 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:44.120 Yes, that's the only thing is because you had a bad. 0:17:43.920 --> 0:17:46.520 Relationship and now you're doing these So they're like, oh, 0:17:46.560 --> 0:17:48.040 the relationship has done. 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:50.760 It without moved on from all and that's the thing. 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:52.960 So I moved on from all events you have. 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:53.760 People have it. 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:56.480 Okay, well they should because they were directly affective. 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:01.160 But no, that's the only reason I'm saying you get 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:03.320 that is because I think people are putting you in 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:03.840 that box. 0:18:04.000 --> 0:18:07.560 Wow, you're a fucking genius. That's actually true. I'm sure, 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:08.320 I'm sure of it. 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:09.360 You nailed it on the head. 0:18:09.400 --> 0:18:10.560 Did I just throw a pin in it? 0:18:10.680 --> 0:18:13.639 Yeah, that's not the right tur or whatever. 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:17.880 Kylie Nowell ninety five, I currently have a two year 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:20.240 old and a four month old. Advice on being a 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:22.160 new mama of two. She's got a boy and a girl, 0:18:22.240 --> 0:18:22.639 a lot. 0:18:22.520 --> 0:18:27.760 Of red Bulls, probably red bull be twelve. 0:18:28.119 --> 0:18:30.440 No, but can I tell you there is a tremendous 0:18:30.560 --> 0:18:32.720 shift when two. 0:18:33.040 --> 0:18:34.639 Kids enter the world. 0:18:34.760 --> 0:18:38.280 Okay, because you're constantly trying to get two babies ready. 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:41.200 One's happy than one's screaming. Then they're both screaming. It's 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:42.719 just a lot. 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:43.720 I think my. 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:49.400 Advice would be two and it's easier said than done. 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:53.600 You just have to roll with it. Zero expectations. You 0:18:53.640 --> 0:18:58.960