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Speaker 1: Welcome. You are now listening to the Professional Professional. Hey guys,

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Speaker 1: welcome to this week's episode of the PhD podcast. It's

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Speaker 1: your girl, eban A and this is gonna be a

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Speaker 1: really fun episode, something um different. Before we begins, please

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Speaker 1: make sure to follow me on Instagram at the Professional

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Speaker 1: home Girl, at the PSD podcast and last time my

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Speaker 1: Lisa and even a beauty. Please keep in mind that

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Speaker 1: all of my guests are anonymous. So let's get getting

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Speaker 1: this week's episode. So I'm super excited about this week's episode. UM,

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Speaker 1: I have some really good questions for my listeners for

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Speaker 1: you to act. So we have a sex berg for

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Speaker 1: this week. So what is a sex berg? So a

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Speaker 1: sex bird is someone who is well versed in six UM.

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Speaker 1: So that can either mean UM they are typically sex

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Speaker 1: burs or well versed through like experience and through education,

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Speaker 1: but it can it can be one of the other. UM.

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Speaker 1: Mine is a combination of sorts. Okay, so how did

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Speaker 1: you start? Like, how did you get into the field. Um,

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Speaker 1: I went to school, So I have a health promotions

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Speaker 1: just kind to realize how misinformed people were about their

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Speaker 1: body because I would like post little random tipping just

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Speaker 1: sexual health on social media, and I was getting all

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Speaker 1: this you know, um like, oh my god, I didn't

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Speaker 1: there is really like a niche for this because grown

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Speaker 1: people are clueless about, you know, how their body works.

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Speaker 1: So it's it was a gradual, asual change that happened,

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Speaker 1: to now because I haven't been like I haven't been

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Speaker 1: in college, oh jeez, I think like fifteen years. So

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Speaker 1: it just kind of naturally happened over time. Now, now

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Speaker 1: you said through experience. So in order to become a sexpert,

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Speaker 1: would you say you have to have a lot of sex? Okay,

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Speaker 1: so I'm trying. I'm trying to figure out how to

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Speaker 1: add to this wild stidd and you know, um so no,

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Speaker 1: not necessarily. Um, you have to know a lot about six,

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Speaker 1: that makes sense. So if you are just like um

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Speaker 1: know about it per se, just from you know, UM

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Speaker 1: college and your studies, So that's not necessarily No, you

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Speaker 1: don't have to you know, engage in a lot of

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Speaker 1: six know about it now. So one of the questions

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Speaker 1: that everybody kept asking me is how do you become certified? So, UM,

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Speaker 1: there is a training course that I took under Dr

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Speaker 1: Rachel and she is, UM a black doctor on the Doctors,

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Speaker 1: the show. I don't know if anybody watched that show,

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Speaker 1: being six coaches and UM sex spurgs that you have

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Speaker 1: long does it How long does it take? UM? It's

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Speaker 1: But it's it's self paid, so I guess whenever you

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Speaker 1: your own time. So I know, when I first found you,

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Speaker 1: are some goals that you help people achieve? Very good

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Speaker 1: h it affects my sex life in a couple of ways. One,

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Speaker 1: I want my friends, I'm regular. When I with my

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Speaker 1: It would just be between us three. Okay. So the

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Speaker 1: first question, what's the best position for a woman to

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Speaker 1: I do? I told him to dump her. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I told her to dump him. This is funny because

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Speaker 1: this person anybody else who asked that question, is to

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Speaker 1: you know, getting that that, I mean, you know that's yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's is not what we're here. That's not what we

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Speaker 1: that a man, a man need to be more focused

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Speaker 1: especially if he um, especially if he cares about you. Right.

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Speaker 1: want to relationship with? Because Okay, So if I'm telling

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Speaker 1: So then it because a whole bearer issue. So um yeah,

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Speaker 1: thing for you and he's not, you know, doing it

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Speaker 1: that's a big issue. Yeah, I'm not big on organ

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Speaker 1: but you gotta eat me out like do still I

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Speaker 1: so because I want those people who don't orgasm or penetration,

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Speaker 1: they're you know, hardly ever. Um, so we're gonna have

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Speaker 1: we'll see what happens, all right. And last and not least,

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Speaker 1: what's some advice you would give to someone who wants

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Speaker 1: to express to his or her partner about their sexual needs. Um,

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Speaker 1: community just just communication, just say it right. Um, it's

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Speaker 1: all in the way you do it. So it's not

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Speaker 1: what you say, is definitely how you say how you

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Speaker 1: text it, you know. Or if you're someone who has

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Speaker 1: you just can't have a conversation. Um, there's there's this.

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Speaker 1: Um it's like a checklist. I found. It's like a yes, no,

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Speaker 1: maybe check That's what I call it. So and all

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Speaker 1: on all these things you pull to to your partner

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Speaker 1: about things that they may like or thinks they don't like,

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Speaker 1: so you can kind of figure out, um, what each

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Speaker 1: to communicate. You're never gonna know if you don't ask,

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Speaker 1: good thing. And I would rather find out that, you know,

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Speaker 1: play is like, um, you know me peeing on them

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Speaker 1: early in the game. Yeah, right, then later I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 1: you're don't caught me off guard, right, let me know

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Speaker 1: what your kink is early enough so I can so

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Speaker 1: I can decide one if this is what I want

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Speaker 1: to do, people something about that, like in the beginning

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Speaker 1: day one, but whenever you guys are have have decided Okay,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna do it. Is gonna be a thing, and

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Speaker 1: I don't know. So whenever you feel comfortable enough that

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Speaker 1: perfect time time to do that. I let people know,

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Speaker 1: like you know, um yeah, ahead time, this is why

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Speaker 1: I don't like doing I'm moving on into that whim

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