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Speaker 1: Magala. Hold on tight, we got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry letta subject my best friend like

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Speaker 1: sexy strangers. Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a thirty three

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Speaker 1: thirty two year old wild woman. She works as a bartender,

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Speaker 1: She also has sex with these guys. She says that

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Speaker 1: sticks with the twenty somethings because they are great in bed.

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Speaker 1: I try not to judge her, but her sex life

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Speaker 1: is a big problem for me because she always uses

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Speaker 1: She lives with her brother, so she can't go to

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Speaker 1: wants to bring strangers into my house. It started off

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Speaker 1: as a one time thing, but now it's more frequent.

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Speaker 1: She has a key to my house, so I could

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Speaker 1: that I do not approve of her using my house

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Speaker 1: for sex, but she said, if I'm truly her friend,

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Speaker 1: I would trust her judgment and let her have a

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Speaker 1: sex fantasies. All of the guys are in great physical

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Speaker 1: just caught up on the fact that she can still

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Speaker 1: She told me that she hates that there's a double

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Speaker 1: to talk to her without signing to preachy. What should

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Speaker 1: I do? Okay, I gotta tell you right off the

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Speaker 1: bat that this is your fault. I mean, this is

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Speaker 1: really on you. Why because this is your house and

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Speaker 1: you know the saying your house, your rules. The problem

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Speaker 1: is you haven't said any rules, no boundaries in your

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Speaker 1: own home. You're so called best friend. This wild woman,

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Speaker 1: as you called her, she's taking advantage of you, and

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Speaker 1: she's doing it in the worst way. A real friend,

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Speaker 1: any kind of real good friend, they wouldn't do this

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Speaker 1: to a person. And you shouldn't allow her to do this.

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Speaker 1: Why are you letting her do this? It's like you're

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Speaker 1: afraid or something. You say you want to talk to her.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to sound too preachy. You say you

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Speaker 1: don't want to judge her, but who cares? This is

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Speaker 1: your house. I mean, this situation is way beyond and

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Speaker 1: it is far more serious than you know. You sounding

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Speaker 1: too preachy and you judging her. You're you're being manipulated

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Speaker 1: by this best friend of yours. She's using you. She's

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Speaker 1: bringing random guys into your house. She's putting you, your possessions,

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Speaker 1: everything in danger here. This is craziness. You have to

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Speaker 1: tell her to stop that she's done. You have to

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Speaker 1: tell her no more. She can't do this anymore. It's

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Speaker 1: not judging her, it's just taking your self out of

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Speaker 1: harm's way. You gotta get your keys back, or you

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Speaker 1: plain and simple, Steve, this letter crazy. Here's a thirty

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Speaker 1: three year old single woman. Her best friend is thirty

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Speaker 1: And most of the dude she hitting on is in

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Speaker 1: the twenties. And then you say in the letter she

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Speaker 1: also has sex with these guys? Well damn, and she

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Speaker 1: What thirty three year old dude can't keep up with you?

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Speaker 1: them glory days. Yes, seeing your twenties here where she

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Speaker 1: lot of times, but the quality just stain't there. It's

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Speaker 1: just I'm sorry, yeah, but you you you, you make

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Speaker 1: up for it in repetition, h get your primary brown. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you in that doing? What is who you work for? Circle? Lay?

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Speaker 1: What what you do? You has suckers? Old Lay? You?

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Speaker 1: Are you the lady diving in the champagne glass? Come

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Speaker 1: how you back in the living room? Asks necking? What

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Speaker 1: you because she always uses your guest room to hook

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Speaker 1: her roommate, No, she has her own place. She lives

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Speaker 1: her place, she lived with her brother. But she brings

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Speaker 1: all right, listen hold that thought right there, Steve. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: here's a recap. Thirty three year old woman got just

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Speaker 1: Now she lives with her brother, but she, like younger

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Speaker 1: So we don't know what the hell she in here doing.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what she's doing, but she got something

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Speaker 1: keep up with you, you two damn much. You need

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Speaker 1: she's been in there that night. Right, You ain't gotta

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Speaker 1: You're hearing something? How many times she didn't broke the

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Speaker 1: times have you had to remodel your guest room? You're

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Speaker 1: Who had the curtains is down? She told her. Curtains

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Speaker 1: keep up? You've told her that you don't approve of

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Speaker 1: She crazy, And let me tell you something else. Too

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Speaker 1: before we get out of here. This ain't your house.

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Speaker 1: This is a brothel. Oh see, this is not your house.

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Speaker 1: This is a brothel. And you don't have no say so.

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Speaker 1: You ain't even making money at your brothel. This is crazy,

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Speaker 1: pulling people, that mean you're using game to get them

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Speaker 1: When you bring a man out the club, you didn't

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Speaker 1: some deeper issues going on the issue. Ain't that deep

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Speaker 1: That term was too much? There's other terms now. I

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Speaker 1: why I ain't getting no amen's in here. Y'all know

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Speaker 1: there's a double standard when women hook up with multiple men.

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Speaker 1: You hate it. We didn't make the rules. These rules

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Speaker 1: And let me tell you why. Because if you sleep

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Speaker 1: So now what you want us to do? I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Now I want to talk to her without sounding the

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Speaker 1: but I agree with Shirley one. Why is she using

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Speaker 1: So when you're in there sleep, she can't walk in

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Speaker 1: change all right. See, we gotta get out of her.

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Speaker 1: many times you gonna flush. You're listening to the Stave

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.