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Speaker 1: I ditched my own son's wedding and got together with

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Speaker 1: his ex instead. Am I the a hole? You know?

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Speaker 2: Also, it's like got together? Is this a little hangout sash?

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Speaker 2: Is this a little makeoun sens?

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Speaker 1: Is this a little bit of jumping up and down

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Speaker 2: I might have to predict a hole.

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Speaker 1: I might have to do it, all right, all right,

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Speaker 1: well let me uh, let me give you the story,

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Speaker 1: John in light, me figure out quick backstory. After graduating

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Speaker 1: high school, my son moved three states away for college.

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Speaker 1: At nineteen, he married a girl he met nineteen. That's

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Speaker 1: that's early.

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Speaker 2: That's is early.

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Speaker 1: I tried convincing him to wait. I personally felt it

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Speaker 1: was too immature.

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Speaker 2: Ooh.

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Speaker 1: They both dropped out and moved back here to his hometown.

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Speaker 1: At twenty, they had their first child, a beautiful little girl, dang.

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Speaker 1: Sixteen months later, my daughter in law gave birth to

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Speaker 1: their second child, a little boy. They're bomping them out.

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Speaker 1: After the first baby, my wife and I noticed our

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Speaker 1: daughter in law wasn't happy. We both thought it was

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Speaker 1: postpartum depression related. This is like, this is a lot

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Speaker 2: It's the thick start.

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Speaker 1: Just after the second arrived, my son and his wife separated.

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Speaker 1: If you had bring the kids over for a visit,

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Speaker 1: it was then she began unloading on us. What did

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Speaker 1: she and load? John? Oh, that's billiot. I know there's

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Speaker 1: two sides of every story, but considering I know my son,

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Speaker 1: I believed her, like I know my son's a piece

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Speaker 1: of shit. I sat my son down numerous times to

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Speaker 1: speak with him regarding his marriage. He refused to take responsibility,

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Speaker 1: where he was the sole problem. It's like, son, you're

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Speaker 1: the mirror. That's thinking shit hole you are. They got

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Speaker 1: into counseling and for a year things were okay on

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Speaker 1: the surface. Our daughter in law filed for divorce. My

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Speaker 1: son three days later was on Facebook announcing his new girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Who announces their girlfriend anymore?

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Speaker 2: Wow?

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Speaker 1: Like who's Facebook official? And under forty yeah?

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Speaker 2: And also like Facebook official was just you change your

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Speaker 2: relationship stats? You didn't announce it like.

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Speaker 1: Hello world, this is my new girlfriend, isn't She's so

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Speaker 1: much hotter and smarter than my last girlfriend, my last

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Speaker 1: baby mama. A month later, they were engaged. Oh god, yo, dude,

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Speaker 2: Oh no.

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Speaker 1: My son had forced his then wife to become a

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Speaker 1: first child. She of course, had no other family or

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Speaker 1: friends here. She knew no one aside from us. She

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Speaker 1: had nowhere to go with two small children. Unbeknown to

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Speaker 1: her son, my wife and I helped her financially and

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Speaker 1: got her an apartment. That's good his ex wife. And

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Speaker 1: this kid says, two wives already and he's like twenty two. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but his ex wife, the parents are helping out pay

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Speaker 2: That is cool. That was very cool of them.

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Speaker 1: Before the divorce was finalized, we received a wedding invitation.

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Speaker 2: That is too much, too quick. Getting the wedding invite

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Speaker 2: before the divorce papers.

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Speaker 1: Is like, oh, maybe maybe pumped the brakes then love

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Speaker 1: with that new girl. I made it clear to my

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Speaker 1: son I would not be attending and they would not

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Speaker 2: There you have it.

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Speaker 1: His mother told him she would see to it that

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Speaker 1: I would attend. I stayed consistent in my decision. I

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Speaker 1: also asked him not to bring his fiance around our house.

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Speaker 1: Out of respect for the mother of his children. There

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Speaker 1: we go. The wedding happened on February eleventh, the night before.

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Speaker 1: My wife gave me the final push, and I did

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Speaker 1: not a ton. That's why I stick to your guns.

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Speaker 2: Ope.

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Speaker 1: Our daughter also did not attend for the same reasons.

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Speaker 1: My wife picked up our grandkids, got them dressed, and

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Speaker 1: a will slap in the face, like, not only are

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Speaker 2: I think they both kind of realized just how how

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Speaker 2: just the ex the X is in a not a

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Speaker 2: good place, you know, not a good situation.

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Speaker 1: I should say, yeah, like she wants like on the

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Speaker 1: I know, you're right, You're right. About a month after

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Speaker 1: before the deportance is finalized, too much. She was taken

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Speaker 1: aback that I didn't end up attending the wedding. We

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Speaker 1: took her out to distract her mind. I just wanted

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Speaker 1: her to know she'll always be considered family to us.

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Speaker 1: My daughter also made a joke that they can drop

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Speaker 1: the inlawst at us and just be sisters. Now that's

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Speaker 1: really cute.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she was.

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Speaker 1: Very tearfully grateful. I realized just how badly she needed

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Speaker 1: our support, and specifically on that knife, which is totally true.

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Speaker 2: It makes sense.

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Speaker 1: The next morning, my son called to let me know

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Speaker 1: that I spent the wedding evening with his X. He

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Speaker 1: said that was the ultimate form of betrayal, and from

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Speaker 1: that moment on, myself and his sister would have to

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Speaker 1: earn a relationship with him on his terms only what

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Speaker 1: You are in no position, buddy, Oh my God, and John,

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Speaker 1: there is an update. Oh God. First, I'd like to

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Speaker 1: sincerely thank each and every one of you for your support,

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Speaker 1: encouragement and all the awards. I know, without a doubt

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Speaker 1: I did the right thing. I even feel differently now

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Speaker 1: his mother should not have attended either, But we can't

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Speaker 1: go back and undo that. So my son saw the post.

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Speaker 1: I had sent my daughter to the link yesterday so

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Speaker 1: she could read the comments. This morning, she texts me

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Speaker 1: at work, Dad, you went viral. Anyways, He sent screenshots

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Speaker 1: He also told her he's dead to me now. Time

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Speaker 1: will tell if he means it. I'm sure he'll see

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Speaker 1: the update too. For that reason, I'm positively certain the

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Speaker 1: second he needs another cash loan, I won't be dead anymore.

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Speaker 2: Oh big daddy in a building.

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Speaker 1: His mom told him, your children have to be our

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Speaker 1: Maybe one day he'll understand this. This is hell complicated.

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Speaker 1: I need to know what you guys think. Put in

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Speaker 1: the comments right now. But while you're typing that up, John,

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Speaker 1: give us the breakdown, give us your verdict.

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Speaker 2: I mean, dude, that that bar of like, I'm sure

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Speaker 2: I'll come back to life once he needs a cash load.

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Speaker 1: Dude, I know he wow.

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Speaker 2: Uh yeah, bro, I'm I'm rocking with op. Op is

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Speaker 2: not the a hole dude, This this sun is it

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Speaker 2: just gets under my skin because he's like just like

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Speaker 2: like when he says you have to earn your relationship

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Speaker 2: back with me, when he was like so terrible to

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Speaker 1: So you know what I mean really quick? Yeah, has

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Speaker 1: he been bad to his children? Or like, like what

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Speaker 1: does he because I yeah, I feel like there wasn't

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Speaker 1: a lot said on what he actually he did, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Fair it is, it is pretty vague of the exact

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Speaker 2: details if if what I'm inferring is correct, and I

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Speaker 2: might be off in my assumptions. He made their relationship

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Speaker 1: The thing that I think we know for a fact

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Speaker 1: he's an a whole about is just like neglecting his kids.

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Speaker 1: It seems like or it seems pretty obvious that he

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Speaker 1: has been a neglectful father based on everything that op

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Speaker 1: is saying. It's like, okay, like when one, uh chapter

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Speaker 1: The big a hole move is three days after.

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Speaker 2: This, yeah, linking a new girl and marrying her a

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Speaker 2: month later. That that's the most clear cut, Like we

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Speaker 1: It seems like more of like a revenge relationship more

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Speaker 2: Literally, it's like well like almost it's like like the

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Speaker 2: continuation of just like whatever he did to like just

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Speaker 2: torch or her in this relationship potentially, like this seems

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Speaker 2: like a continuation of just antagonizing a better word, antagonizing her.

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Speaker 1: And he's not He's not like helping out with the

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Speaker 1: they're also needing to help out his his ex his

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Speaker 1: this seems like a revenge relationship. I think it makes

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Speaker 1: sense not to attend because it's like, I don't want

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Speaker 2: Yes, And it sounds like, oh he's like I know

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Speaker 2: my son and I know that that's why he's doing

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Speaker 2: it again again inferring, but like it seems to be

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Speaker 1: Like, yeah, get The only thing I wish we had

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Speaker 1: actually done. Like the Facebook post is pretty egregious, but

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Speaker 1: I want to know, like before that in the relationship,

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Speaker 1: like what was he doing that led to this divorce? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it would be good to have a clear picture, but

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Speaker 1: we want to know what's under the surface of your

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Speaker 1: little brain, so please tell us what y'all thought.