1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,840 Speaker 1: I think my dad is a boyfriend. How do I 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:06,280 Speaker 1: support him? And by the way, you can join us 3 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 1: live on YouTube every weekday at three pm Pacific Standard 4 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: time just tap on our profile. And this is stands 5 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: the question of how do you support your queer family 6 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:14,960 Speaker 1: and friends? 7 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 2: Dude? I got it you ready, Okay, I'm worried. 8 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:21,760 Speaker 3: Hey Dad, I love you so much. I love how 9 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 3: much of a dad you are to me. I really 10 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:26,800 Speaker 3: wished that I had another dad in my life. 11 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 1: You are such a good dad. I wish I could 12 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: have two of YEA so hi bisexual, I'm your son, 13 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: says my mom died of COVID in summer twenty twenty oh, 14 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:39,640 Speaker 1: and it really messed my dad up. Thirty eight mail. 15 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 1: He was still working and taking care of me, but 16 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 1: that was pretty much it. That's really hard. He wasn't 17 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:47,880 Speaker 1: doing anything he used to like to do. And obviously 18 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 1: he was busier because he had to take care of 19 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:52,800 Speaker 1: me all by himself, and he couldn't go out because 20 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 1: of COVID. But still like he used to like Hocky 21 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 1: and weird old action movies, but he stopped watching all 22 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 1: of that stuff. That's really hard. So because they were 23 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:04,679 Speaker 1: only thirty eight, that's really hard age. I fifteen male 24 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 1: was also super depressed, obviously, but after a while I 25 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: started doing fun stuff for fun again, like video games 26 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 1: and hanging out with my friends and stuff. But he didn't. 27 00:01:14,240 --> 00:01:16,119 Speaker 1: And when I was a kid, I didn't really think 28 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: about it, but now that I'm older, I was worrying 29 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 1: about him. Obviously, losing someone at any time is really hard, 30 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 1: but definitely losing someone at thirty eight one. As a 31 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: fifteen year old, you know, when you're going through high 32 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 1: school and you expect to have you both, you know, 33 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 1: both your parents there, and losing them out of the 34 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: blue is really really hard. He started doing more stuff 35 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:38,680 Speaker 1: and being less sad all the time last summer. Then 36 00:01:38,720 --> 00:01:41,959 Speaker 1: in October he started doing this community service thing that 37 00:01:42,040 --> 00:01:45,480 Speaker 1: picks up trash in different neighborhoods. And then he met 38 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 1: this guy, Peter big name. I think he's fortyish and 39 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 1: I think they're dating. They hang out at least twice 40 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 1: a week, sometimes more. I stay at school until eight 41 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 1: three times a week for robotics club, and my dad 42 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: sees Peter at least one of the those days every week. 43 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: My dad used to talk about him all the time. 44 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 1: He was always like Peter said, or I was talking 45 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:09,639 Speaker 1: to Peter and he doesn't talk about him that much anymore, 46 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:12,400 Speaker 1: but they text a lot, and my dad's always smiling 47 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:16,920 Speaker 1: at his phone cute whoa. And he started dressing nicer 48 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 1: and getting his hair cut more often and stuff, and 49 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:22,720 Speaker 1: there's other stuff too. I just got a vibe from them, 50 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:25,799 Speaker 1: so I was like ninety percent sure they were dating, 51 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:28,120 Speaker 1: but thought maybe my dad was just excited to have 52 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 1: a friend again. He was probably lonely, I guess. But 53 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: now it's Ramadan and Peter, who isn't even Muslim, has 54 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:37,800 Speaker 1: stopped by a few times before sunrise to bring my 55 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:40,800 Speaker 1: dad food for each shore. And friends don't cook for 56 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 1: each other at stupid o'clock in the morning. They must 57 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: be dating, I guess. I technically still don't know if 58 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 1: they're dating, but like they're definitely dating. Label. Oh yeah. 59 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: If he's waking up at like I want, like five am, 60 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:57,560 Speaker 1: well he's probably waking up really early to cook it 61 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 1: and then bring it to OPI dad that that's not 62 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 1: friend behavior. 63 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 3: Dang dude, I'm gonna be I'm gonna be real. I 64 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 3: had a moment like this with my buddy Rex. 65 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 1: Where he was making you food at five in the morning. 66 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 3: Well, we made each other breakfast and like spaghetti here 67 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:15,959 Speaker 3: and there, and I was always at his house. I 68 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:18,800 Speaker 3: did text him all the time, and we were always 69 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 3: hanging out, and like we always had a good time 70 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 3: his house, like most of the time. And then like 71 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 3: sometimes I feel like I went through a breakup because 72 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 3: I'm not with them. 73 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 2: No. 74 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: I mean, I think you can have very strong bonds 75 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 1: with your friends, but these guys are definitely maiding. Okay, 76 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: So now I want to know how to get him 77 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: to feel okay telling me. My dad never said he 78 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: was by I don't know if he just didn't tell people, 79 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: or if Peter's the first guy he liked. He and 80 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 1: my mom got together when he was nineteen, so he 81 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: didn't have a ton of time to date guys before now. 82 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 1: And I know he's okay with LGBT people. If I 83 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: were gay, I wouldn't be afraid of telling him at all. 84 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 1: But he was a teenager in the early two thousands 85 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 1: when things were different, so maybe he's ashamed. There are 86 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,120 Speaker 1: some gay people at her mosque and it's cool, but 87 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 1: I know some Muslims don't like gay people. I don't 88 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:04,119 Speaker 1: know what the mosque he went to as a kid. 89 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 1: Was like, so maybe it's like he doesn't think it's 90 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: okay for him to be by just other people. I 91 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:12,720 Speaker 1: don't know, and I also feel kind of weird about it, 92 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:15,800 Speaker 1: which isn't cool of me. I know, but I don't know. 93 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: I mean, I think op is taking this very maturely, 94 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,559 Speaker 1: especially because they are a fifteen year old who lost 95 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:25,040 Speaker 1: their mother. I think that it would be it's completely 96 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:29,400 Speaker 1: normal for a teenager to feel mixed emotions about it. 97 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:31,600 Speaker 1: I don't think that makes you, Yeah, I don't think 98 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:33,679 Speaker 1: that makes you a bad person. He took his wedding 99 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 1: ring off a few months ago, which is part of 100 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 1: why I started thinking he and Peter were dating. And 101 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: I know my mom is dead and my dad's not 102 00:04:41,120 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 1: actually that old, so it's not fair to think he 103 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:46,839 Speaker 1: can't ever date anyone else or get married again. And 104 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:49,040 Speaker 1: I want him to be happy and stuff. But it's 105 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 1: also like, he's supposed to be married to my mom. 106 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: You know, Peter's okay, but he's not my mom and 107 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:56,719 Speaker 1: not gonna lie. It's kind of weird that he's dating 108 00:04:56,760 --> 00:05:00,279 Speaker 1: a man who isn't Muslim. I'm barely Muslim now ready 109 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: with my dad, but I don't think I really believe anymore, 110 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 1: and I'm not really fasting. But being Muslim is important 111 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 1: to my dad. What if dating someone who isn't Muslim 112 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 1: makes him stop being Muslim too? But also it might 113 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: be weird if you dated a Muslim woman because then 114 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 1: it be like a replacement for Mom. So how do 115 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:18,960 Speaker 1: I support my dad and make him feel like it's 116 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:21,280 Speaker 1: okay to come out? And how do I deal with 117 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 1: my own crap and not make him feel bad? I 118 00:05:24,240 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 1: think ideally you should find a therapist if your you know, 119 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 1: dad is if you're able to uh and you know 120 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 1: you're able to afford that. I think talking to someone 121 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:37,720 Speaker 1: else about these feelings is really helpful. I don't think 122 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:39,840 Speaker 1: that Opie's dad has done anything wrong, Like it doesn't 123 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 1: seem like it's a fast time to move on, but 124 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 1: I think for a kid it does. It's always got 125 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: to feel. 126 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:48,159 Speaker 2: Fast, because it's like you're placing mom. 127 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:51,719 Speaker 1: Georgia Cooper says, let yourself feel things without guilt or shame. 128 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 1: Opie's dad is going through something unimaginable. Dub Sam twenty 129 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:58,640 Speaker 1: twenty three says this post alone shows that both your 130 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 1: parents did a great job raising you. I'm sorry for 131 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: the loss of your mom. You're a wonderful, empathetic son. Honestly, 132 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 1: I think I would make him comfortable talking about dating. 133 00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 1: Mention that you notice that he took his ring off 134 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: and go from there. If he's ready to share it 135 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:14,560 Speaker 1: with you, great, If not, give him time, which I 136 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 1: think I think that's a good answer. It's absolutely okay 137 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:19,040 Speaker 1: to feel the way you feel about your dad being 138 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: married to your mom. Nobody will ever take your place. 139 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:24,560 Speaker 1: Loving somebody new does not take away from the love 140 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 1: that one still has for the person that was lost. 141 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:29,040 Speaker 1: The love that your dad has for your mom doesn't 142 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:31,280 Speaker 1: get smaller when there's new love for a new person. 143 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: Love only adds, it doesn't take away. That's the beauty 144 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 1: of it. As for Peter not being Muslim, that's something 145 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 1: that they have to work out among themselves. And Avita 146 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: Dona mart says, bless you. You're a good human and 147 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 1: a wonderful son. Just give him a hug and tell 148 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:48,800 Speaker 1: him I love you just the way you are, and 149 00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 1: if you love someone, I will try my best to 150 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:54,480 Speaker 1: love him too. You will understand. You're amazing And there 151 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 1: is an update, But this is really sweet. So far. 152 00:06:57,600 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's very encouraging. 153 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: This actually like two weeks ago. But I don't need advice, 154 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:06,680 Speaker 1: I don't think, so I didn't post anything, But then 155 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: I remember some of you seemed kind of invested in 156 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 1: my dad's love life, So here we go. I was 157 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 1: thinking a lot about everything with my dad and how 158 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 1: to talk to him and how to deal with the 159 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 1: way I feel about everything without making my dad feel 160 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: bad or like I'm the main character and he has 161 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: to do what I want or anything. And I guess 162 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: I was acting weird because my dad asked me if 163 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:29,239 Speaker 1: I was okay, and I said that he wasn't wearing 164 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 1: his wedding ring anymore. So he asked me if that 165 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: upset me, and I said kinda, because it wasn't like 166 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 1: he just took it off when Mom died and he 167 00:07:36,840 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 1: wasn't married anymore. He kept wearing it then, but then 168 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: he took it off now, so he feels different now, 169 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 1: I guess. And I was afraid he didn't care anymore, 170 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:46,800 Speaker 1: because I don't want him to be sad all the 171 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: time anymore, but I do kind of want him to 172 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: stay to still be a little sad maybe, which I 173 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 1: know isn't cool of me, but I'm still a little sad. 174 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 1: I think that it's okay to always be a little 175 00:07:58,160 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: bit sad about losing someone that you love. I think 176 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: the pain gets, you know, easier to manage as time 177 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 1: goes on. But I don't think it ever goes away, 178 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: because I don't think your love ever goes away for 179 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 1: that person. Then my dad got quiet for a while, 180 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: and then he apologized that he'd made me feel like 181 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 1: I didn't like he didn't care about my mom anymore, 182 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: and that he'd been handling things badly since she died. 183 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 1: He said that he still loves my mom and everything, 184 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 1: but that he loved her different now and he has 185 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: been acting like it was the same, which is why 186 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: he was sad all the time. But then he accepted 187 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:30,360 Speaker 1: that even though he still loved her and she was 188 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:33,840 Speaker 1: still his wife, it was different and he felt better. 189 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:37,080 Speaker 1: But then looking at his wedding ring made him really upset. 190 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 1: I don't know he explained it really well, but I 191 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:41,320 Speaker 1: think it sounds dumb the way I wrote, but it 192 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:43,720 Speaker 1: made sense when he said it, because like, she's still 193 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:46,640 Speaker 1: my mom and I still love her, but obviously she's 194 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 1: not my mom the way she was when she was 195 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:51,040 Speaker 1: there all the time. Then he asked me if I 196 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: wanted their wedding rings. He said he'd been holding onto 197 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:56,320 Speaker 1: my mom's for me when I got older, and he 198 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,679 Speaker 1: figured I was old enough now to be responsible with 199 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: it and not lose it. So we got a chain 200 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:02,720 Speaker 1: for me to put them on, and I were both 201 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:06,679 Speaker 1: through wedding ring next. Anyway, since we were talking about it, 202 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:08,920 Speaker 1: I wanted to say something about how my dad is 203 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: dating Peter. I know some of you said that maybe 204 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: they were just friends, but if you were in my 205 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:16,880 Speaker 1: house and you saw the way my dad talks about him, 206 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 1: you would not think that. I haven't spent a lot 207 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: of time with Peter or anything. But I have been 208 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 1: around him and my dad together and they are not 209 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:28,520 Speaker 1: just friends. Lol. So I told my dad that I 210 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:31,120 Speaker 1: wouldn't be mad or upset if he dated someone else. 211 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: It would be okay. He shouldn't be alone forever, and 212 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:36,800 Speaker 1: he said it meant a lot that I said back then. 213 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 1: I said that Peter seems cool, This is so sweet, 214 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: and my dad got all awkward, not in a you're 215 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: so wrong way, in a embarrassed to talk about my 216 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: boyfriend way, And it was funny for a bit, but 217 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:53,680 Speaker 1: then I kind of felt bad, so I said Peter's 218 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:56,679 Speaker 1: old man sweaters aren't cool, but that at least they're 219 00:09:56,760 --> 00:10:00,320 Speaker 1: better than my dad's dumb polo shirts, which I said 220 00:10:00,360 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 1: mostly to change the vibe, but also because it's true. 221 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 1: And my dad called me a brat, then hugged me 222 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 1: and said I was a good kid, and we moved on. 223 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:10,080 Speaker 1: Their relationship is really sweet. 224 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:10,840 Speaker 2: That's cute. 225 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 1: I love I love how they're able to communicate, and 226 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 1: I really I think that Opie's got a really good 227 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:20,560 Speaker 1: support system. Yeah, so we didn't really talk about it, 228 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:23,440 Speaker 1: I guess, but I know they're dating, and he knows. 229 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 1: I know they're dating, and I'm cool with it. And 230 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 1: I still feel a little weird about my dad dating 231 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:31,200 Speaker 1: someone who isn't mom, but I feel better about it. 232 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 1: Not sure if anyone is reading this, but I hope 233 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: you are, and I hope you liked it. Lol and 234 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:41,440 Speaker 1: top comments to finish this story off, starchild says, this 235 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:44,080 Speaker 1: is such a lovely update, and I'm so glad that 236 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: you got the chance to talk to your dad about 237 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:49,440 Speaker 1: some of your feelings. It is totally fine that part 238 00:10:49,480 --> 00:10:51,520 Speaker 1: of you almost wanted your dad to be sad and 239 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: that you still feel weird. Losing your mother or in 240 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:56,959 Speaker 1: your dad's case, losing your wife at a young age 241 00:10:57,000 --> 00:10:59,839 Speaker 1: is about as big a topic as it gets. There 242 00:10:59,920 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: isn't any right or wrong way to feel. Please keep 243 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:05,600 Speaker 1: engaging with your dad about how you feel about your 244 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 1: shared loss. It sounds like you and he have a 245 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 1: wonderfully supportive relationship and I'm sure he wants to hear 246 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:13,719 Speaker 1: how you feel, even if it sounds like he might 247 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 1: be a little uncomfortable talking about how he feels. Wishing 248 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:21,120 Speaker 1: you all the best. And this is to answer the 249 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 1: question of how do you support your queer friends and family? 250 00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 1: And I think ope did a really great job of it. Yeah, 251 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 1: I think Ope one recognized his own kind of complicated 252 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:36,560 Speaker 1: feelings and kind of uh looked at those before coming 253 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:37,199 Speaker 1: to his dad. 254 00:11:37,400 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 2: Very mature to check yourself before bringing it forward. 255 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:42,760 Speaker 1: All right, let's get into the next one. I told 256 00:11:42,800 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 1: my son his boyfriend isn't allowed to sleep over. Now 257 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:48,839 Speaker 1: he's threatening to move out. And this is to answer 258 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 1: the question of how do you show support for queer 259 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 1: friends and family? So actual pop forty three eighty two 260 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 1: says I thirty four female recently found out. My son, 261 00:11:57,640 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 1: twelve male, has been secretly dating his best friend, also 262 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: twelve mail, since year five, nine to ten years old. 263 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 1: They started young man, very young. That's like a long 264 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:10,720 Speaker 1: relationship for also for a night to ten year old. 265 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, my first one does kindergarten? Cook ount? 266 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:16,880 Speaker 3: Well, I guess all the girls in elementary school was 267 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 3: my girlfriend. They all took turns. 268 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:19,720 Speaker 2: Doesn't count. 269 00:12:19,880 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 3: Okay, Well, the longest relationship I've been in is when 270 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 3: I was in seventh grade. 271 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:24,360 Speaker 2: It was like a year and a half. 272 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 1: That's impressive. My son, Harley just finished his year of 273 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:30,080 Speaker 1: high school last Wednesday and came. 274 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:30,880 Speaker 2: Out school at twelve. 275 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 1: They might be not in America, and came out to 276 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 1: me and his dad last Friday. Now I am supportive 277 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:39,679 Speaker 1: of Harley being whoever he thinks he might be. I 278 00:12:39,760 --> 00:12:43,360 Speaker 1: realize this is an age of experimentation and doesn't automatically 279 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:46,160 Speaker 1: mean he's gay. He may just be trying out this identity. 280 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 1: Harley has been best friends with his boyfriend since he 281 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 1: was in year one five at five to six years old. 282 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:54,079 Speaker 2: Whoa wait, damn? 283 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:57,960 Speaker 1: Okay, and you're still you still think that they're not dead. 284 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:01,240 Speaker 1: And here's where my issue is. If I were to 285 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:03,720 Speaker 1: treat this as a real relationship, I would say no 286 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:06,360 Speaker 1: to Harley sharing a room with a girl. But since 287 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: Harley and Luke have been friends for so long, they've 288 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:10,960 Speaker 1: had plenty of sleepovers where they sleep in the same 289 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:13,200 Speaker 1: bed in the same room, something that of course I 290 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 1: never had an issue with before because I didn't know 291 00:13:15,760 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: my son was experimenting with this identity. However, now that 292 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:22,920 Speaker 1: I know this, I have become very uncomfortable with Luke 293 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 1: staying overnight, and so I have banned Luke from staying overnight. 294 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 1: Harley was obviously incredibly upset with this, but sometimes I 295 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 1: feel as a parent, you have to make decisions that 296 00:13:33,080 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: do put you as a bad guy in your children's 297 00:13:35,400 --> 00:13:39,000 Speaker 1: eyes to keep them safe, and frankly, I'm uncomfortable with 298 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:42,320 Speaker 1: my son having spicy sleep at his young age. I 299 00:13:42,320 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: don't know why she's assuming that they are having spicy sleep. 300 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:48,960 Speaker 1: I'm hoping that what she means is if I treated 301 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:52,320 Speaker 1: it because they're so young and not because they're gay, 302 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 1: Because it feels a little hormophobic the way she's talking 303 00:13:55,640 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 1: about this. Amuriel Stasa says, if she's worried about spicy sleep, 304 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:04,079 Speaker 1: sleep in different rooms Yeah, there's so many different solutions 305 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:09,760 Speaker 1: than just like banning him from sleepovers altogether. Nicki Bordo says, 306 00:14:09,760 --> 00:14:11,880 Speaker 1: I feel like respecting the relationship as if it were 307 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:15,199 Speaker 1: hetero is good. But also I don't think she's being homophobic. 308 00:14:15,280 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 1: The real relationship thing might be about age. That's what 309 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:20,200 Speaker 1: I'm thinking. I think it could be about that. I'm 310 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:23,880 Speaker 1: just saying if it isn't, then it's a little homophobic. Now, 311 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 1: this is where the big problem comes in. Harley's dad, 312 00:14:27,640 --> 00:14:30,800 Speaker 1: George says, I'm being way over dramatic when I mentioned 313 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:33,280 Speaker 1: my concerns about sex. He said, if they want to 314 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 1: have spicy sleep, banning them sharing a room isn't going 315 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:39,600 Speaker 1: to stop it. But from my perspective, no, it may 316 00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: not eliminate it, but it does help prevent it. He 317 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:45,160 Speaker 1: said it wouldn't matter anyway, because if they had wanted 318 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 1: to experiment spicy sleep wise, they probably would have done it, 319 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: considering they had sleepovers almost every weekend, which I think 320 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 1: is weird thing to say because they're only twelve. He 321 00:14:57,280 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 1: also asked if it ever stopped us when we were tea, 322 00:15:00,440 --> 00:15:03,240 Speaker 1: which I don't get because it's a completely different world now, 323 00:15:03,560 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 1: and just because we did something irresponsible, doesn't mean I 324 00:15:06,400 --> 00:15:08,360 Speaker 1: want to roll over and make it easy for my 325 00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 1: children to make the same mistake. 326 00:15:10,240 --> 00:15:12,200 Speaker 2: None of the sorry is that a teenager yet? And 327 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:14,760 Speaker 2: I love that he's bringing up whenever you guys were teenagers. 328 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:17,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, the dad has kind of got like a weird 329 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 1: idea of this too. I mean they're literally twelve. I 330 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:23,960 Speaker 1: think they're both like thinking about Like both parents are 331 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:26,360 Speaker 1: thinking about spicy sleep a lot, and this twelve years 332 00:15:26,520 --> 00:15:28,160 Speaker 1: probably not think about it at all. 333 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:29,600 Speaker 2: Who knows, I don't know. 334 00:15:29,640 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 1: I feel like they're probably not think of it at all. 335 00:15:32,280 --> 00:15:33,680 Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know. 336 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 3: I mean the kids think A lot of kids are 337 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:38,880 Speaker 3: introduced to porn at a young age. 338 00:15:38,920 --> 00:15:41,880 Speaker 1: That's true, but I think also it is probably a 339 00:15:41,880 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 1: little bit different when you know, growing up like as 340 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:49,240 Speaker 1: a queer person and not maybe having access to that. 341 00:15:49,440 --> 00:15:52,360 Speaker 1: Angelina Turkey Carrion says they both need to chill out. 342 00:15:52,920 --> 00:15:55,160 Speaker 1: The parents are in opposite sides of the spectrum, and 343 00:15:55,200 --> 00:15:57,440 Speaker 1: the right answers in the middle. I think that is. 344 00:15:58,120 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: I think I agree with you, Angelina. I think maybe 345 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:05,040 Speaker 1: the solution here is providing sex education to your children, 346 00:16:05,280 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 1: and maybe you know you have a sleepover, but you 347 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 1: have to be in separate rooms. 348 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 2: I think this sounds like a good time for that, 349 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:12,360 Speaker 2: all right. 350 00:16:12,280 --> 00:16:16,440 Speaker 1: But let's keep going. Let's figure more of this story out. 351 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:18,720 Speaker 1: Though I have put my foot down to both of them, 352 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:21,280 Speaker 1: told George to stop trying to enforce rules in my 353 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: home and that Luke will not sleep over and anytime 354 00:16:24,680 --> 00:16:27,720 Speaker 1: he is over, the door must remain open. George claims 355 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:30,000 Speaker 1: he wasn't trying to enforce any rules from my home, 356 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 1: though he was clearly trying to pressure me. George says 357 00:16:33,440 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 1: he will not have those rules at his home. Legally, 358 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:38,440 Speaker 1: we have split custody of Harley, though I only have 359 00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:42,480 Speaker 1: weekends and George weekdays. Informally, though we haven't stuck to 360 00:16:42,480 --> 00:16:45,320 Speaker 1: that agreement in years, and just do one week splits. 361 00:16:45,520 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 1: Harley stays with me for a week than George for 362 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 1: a week. I think it's irresponsible for George not to 363 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:52,480 Speaker 1: back me on this issue, as it causes a non 364 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:55,800 Speaker 1: united front. I believe he should adopt my rules. But 365 00:16:55,840 --> 00:16:58,600 Speaker 1: of course Harley is claiming I've ruined his summer holiday 366 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:01,640 Speaker 1: since I won't allow Luke over and they already planned 367 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: all of these gaming nights. Harley is now saying he 368 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:07,520 Speaker 1: will stay with his dad for the entire summer if 369 00:17:07,600 --> 00:17:09,800 Speaker 1: I don't change my mind. And George just told me 370 00:17:09,840 --> 00:17:11,679 Speaker 1: he won't force Harley to come and stay with me 371 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 1: any more than the legal minimum in our agreement unless 372 00:17:15,320 --> 00:17:18,800 Speaker 1: Harley wants to do so. Am I being unreasonable here? 373 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:22,119 Speaker 1: I honestly don't see how I could be in the wrong. 374 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:24,240 Speaker 1: This is the same as I would do if Harley 375 00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:26,760 Speaker 1: had a real relationship. So I feel like George is 376 00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:29,119 Speaker 1: unfairly pushing this on me. Why was she using the 377 00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 1: term real relationship if it was just about the age, 378 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:34,280 Speaker 1: I feel like she wouldn't say a real relationship. 379 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:37,080 Speaker 2: Would you let your twelve year old have their partner 380 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:38,480 Speaker 2: over er sleep? 381 00:17:39,080 --> 00:17:42,640 Speaker 1: I think that if they were friends a early long 382 00:17:42,720 --> 00:17:45,240 Speaker 1: time and I knew this kid, I think maybe I'd 383 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 1: be like, hey, let's do separate rooms. But there is 384 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:50,400 Speaker 1: an update, so let's get into it. Thank you everyone 385 00:17:50,440 --> 00:17:52,960 Speaker 1: for your advice regarding my son. I've read most of 386 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 1: the comments and honestly was pretty shocked by the fact 387 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:57,480 Speaker 1: that so many trolls found their way onto my post. 388 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 1: Just to clarify a few things, I am not homophobic 389 00:18:01,119 --> 00:18:03,440 Speaker 1: in any way whatsoever. I don't know if you can 390 00:18:03,480 --> 00:18:06,080 Speaker 1: say that. I have spoken to Harley and asked him 391 00:18:06,080 --> 00:18:09,280 Speaker 1: if he thinks I'm homophobic, and he said no. I said, 392 00:18:09,640 --> 00:18:10,719 Speaker 1: do you think I'm homophobic? 393 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:13,400 Speaker 2: And he's like, no, do you think I'm homophobic? 394 00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:18,320 Speaker 1: He's like, no, can my boyfriend sleep over? So there, 395 00:18:18,400 --> 00:18:21,520 Speaker 1: you can all stop saying that now. Secondly, I read 396 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:23,720 Speaker 1: most of the genuine advice and it all seemed to 397 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:26,040 Speaker 1: agree with what I was saying about protecting my son 398 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:29,560 Speaker 1: from himself and making mistakes around spicy sleep. So I 399 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 1: have decided to stick to my guns and keep my rules, 400 00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:35,400 Speaker 1: as well as starting the proceedings to take my ex 401 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:37,879 Speaker 1: back to court to get the custody agreement change to 402 00:18:37,920 --> 00:18:41,159 Speaker 1: reflect what we have now, as my ex says he 403 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:43,680 Speaker 1: will not force Harley into staying with me any more 404 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:46,399 Speaker 1: than the mandated amount if that is not Harley's choice, 405 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:49,560 Speaker 1: which in my opinion is unfair since that is not 406 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:53,160 Speaker 1: how we've been sharing custody for years now. Sadly, this 407 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:57,160 Speaker 1: may take a while. I was considering showing my ex 408 00:18:57,200 --> 00:18:59,439 Speaker 1: the post I made to make him realize that he 409 00:18:59,520 --> 00:19:02,320 Speaker 1: was in the wrong for essentially allowing Harley the facilities 410 00:19:02,359 --> 00:19:04,879 Speaker 1: to have a spicy sleep. But I have decided that 411 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:08,479 Speaker 1: I will screenshot and send over selected comments so he 412 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:10,680 Speaker 1: doesn't see the trolls that seem to derail the point 413 00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:13,200 Speaker 1: of the post by bringing up things that aren't even relevant. 414 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:16,119 Speaker 1: It's frustrating when I'm trying to get genuine advice and 415 00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:19,440 Speaker 1: I have to weigh through hundreds of irrelevant comments. I finally, 416 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:22,000 Speaker 1: I support Harley being gay if that's how he chooses 417 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:24,399 Speaker 1: to identify at the moment. I support him being in 418 00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:26,879 Speaker 1: a preteen relationship. I just don't think he should be 419 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:29,480 Speaker 1: having spicy sleep, which I agree with Scooter Kids says 420 00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:32,199 Speaker 1: there is still a decent chance they aren't thinking of 421 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:36,399 Speaker 1: anything spicy sleep wise, and she's blowing out of proportion. Yeah, 422 00:19:36,000 --> 00:19:40,640 Speaker 1: that is my thinking. I do understand her worries, though 423 00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:42,719 Speaker 1: I think that is true for a lot of parents. 424 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:44,440 Speaker 1: That is also the end of the story, by the way, 425 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:46,560 Speaker 1: which is why a lot of parents won't let you 426 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 1: have like, you know, like mixed gender sleepover like codes 427 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:52,880 Speaker 1: sleepovers and stuff. I think it seems like people are 428 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 1: pretty mixed in the comments, though I don't think either 429 00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:59,920 Speaker 1: opinion is necessarily wrong. I think there are a way 430 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:02,159 Speaker 1: that you can go about it. To make sure that 431 00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:06,240 Speaker 1: your child is being safe and and not not you know, 432 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:09,280 Speaker 1: doing anything that they're not ready for. I think that, Yeah, 433 00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:11,360 Speaker 1: I think protecting your children is important. 434 00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:13,880 Speaker 3: Oh dude, my mom found out that I've had icy 435 00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:18,879 Speaker 3: sleep before. Okay, story time. My brother's moving out of 436 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 3: this apartment in Tennessee. Yeah, and my mom went to 437 00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 3: go help her and she was vacuuming under my bed 438 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:26,120 Speaker 3: and there was like like half of a con thing there, 439 00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:29,280 Speaker 3: or like not half of a con but like the 440 00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:32,920 Speaker 3: peeling of like a like a trojan. Yeah, you know 441 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:35,720 Speaker 3: how the packaging and everything, Well, one of it was 442 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:37,879 Speaker 3: there and she was vacuuming there and she had to leave. 443 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 3: She's like, I can't do this anymore. And my dad 444 00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:41,959 Speaker 3: likes a picture of it and Senate and he's like, 445 00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 3: oh no, mom found this, sorry son. And I was 446 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:46,520 Speaker 3: like no, because my mom used to woke it at 447 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:50,399 Speaker 3: Breightnancy Center were very so my sexual education, like at 448 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:54,320 Speaker 3: least she's well no, no, no, she she was like, 449 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:57,000 Speaker 3: don't ever have it because she's like helped with these 450 00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:59,639 Speaker 3: young mothers. And yeah, it was like oh no, like 451 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:02,119 Speaker 3: don't do it, don't do it. She get me, did 452 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 3: you hear about the Game of sex. Okay, So she 453 00:21:04,560 --> 00:21:08,720 Speaker 3: had this pamphlet, a briefcase of pamphlets of like sexual 454 00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 3: diseases you can get, and one of those was the 455 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:12,800 Speaker 3: Game of Sex and basically like you had dice and 456 00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:15,879 Speaker 3: a thing and if you rolled like a four, uh, 457 00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:17,639 Speaker 3: you had sex for the first time, but it was 458 00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:20,639 Speaker 3: the condom was broke and she's pregnant, and then if 459 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:22,720 Speaker 3: you rode like a three, you get chlamydia. 460 00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:24,800 Speaker 1: It's like, it's like it's just so bad. Did you 461 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:27,679 Speaker 1: have like good sex education? Because my sex education was 462 00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 1: just learning about STDs and. 463 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:31,720 Speaker 2: Like the school to teach me. 464 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 3: She wanted to teach me because she thought that a 465 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 3: lot of the statistics were wrong and everything like that, 466 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:39,000 Speaker 3: which you know, I mean that's HER's on a Yeah, 467 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:42,119 Speaker 3: but she just she she believes in waiting till marriage. 468 00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:45,199 Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, But like, did you get education on it? 469 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,199 Speaker 3: Or one time she forgot to sign something and I 470 00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:51,000 Speaker 3: got school education and she was like, this is wrong. 471 00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:52,800 Speaker 3: You should have been thinking about this. But I'm like, oh, 472 00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:54,520 Speaker 3: that's what you do with the banana. That's crazy. 473 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:54,760 Speaker 1: Yeah. 474 00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:57,359 Speaker 3: See I didn't get any of that really, no, because 475 00:21:57,359 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 3: I went to Catholic school. 476 00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I went to Catholic school by like from K 477 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:04,320 Speaker 1: till I was eighteen. So I literally just got these 478 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:06,640 Speaker 1: are the STDs that you will get and that's it. 479 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 2: That's crazy. 480 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:11,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, Kristin Foyle hat says, trolls selective comments, hundreds of 481 00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:14,520 Speaker 1: irrelevant comments if he wants to beget at the moment. 482 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 1: Totally not homophobic at all. 483 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:17,640 Speaker 2: Totally yeah. 484 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,160 Speaker 1: I think the mom is probably not a bit homophobic, 485 00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:24,359 Speaker 1: but it seems like she is still for the most part, 486 00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 1: supportive of her son. I think she has a lot 487 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 1: to learn, and hopefully she does that she educates herself 488 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:35,600 Speaker 1: on those topics as her son grows. But that is 489 00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:37,200 Speaker 1: the end of this story.