1 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha. They're welcome to stuff 2 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:19,120 Speaker 1: I never told you, protection of iHeart Radio, and welcome 3 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:22,159 Speaker 1: to our first recording of twenty three. So if we 4 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 1: are rusty, bear with us. Hey, that's my theme song 5 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: for life. I'm always rusty. I recorded with Savor for 6 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:33,400 Speaker 1: the first time of the year yesterday and it was 7 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:37,519 Speaker 1: not good. Like, why did I lose everything I know 8 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:43,280 Speaker 1: over the s fan of like one week? Anyway, I'm 9 00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: We're all working it out, working it out. Happy New Year, everybody, 10 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:51,240 Speaker 1: This is our first happy hour of the year. Also, um, 11 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:55,760 Speaker 1: as always with these, drink responsibly. Well are you sipping on, Samantha, 12 00:00:56,080 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 1: I am actually drinking something that you gave me Christmas. Um. 13 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: It is the Anna Green Gables Tea. So the Anna 14 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:13,800 Speaker 1: Green Tea Gables, yes, which I'm assuming is yes, um, 15 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:15,959 Speaker 1: and it's from y'all. I'm trying to read it off 16 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: and I'm in a dark part of my office and 17 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 1: I can't see, so band with me as I try 18 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 1: to read this off. It is from novelty Tens dot com. 19 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:28,640 Speaker 1: M that's the site, and it is a green tea 20 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: with orange pill raspberry pieces and natural flavor. So I'm 21 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: trying to be all natural moderate caffeine, also trying to 22 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:38,679 Speaker 1: be caffeinated because that is the new year. Am I right? 23 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:44,480 Speaker 1: Am I right? Yeah? So far that's been my experience. 24 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: Um well, I'm continuing to drink red wine out of 25 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: a box. Yeah, read read every time. Yeah, I know 26 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: you can't not do it. And I don't know that 27 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:57,560 Speaker 1: I've ever heard that song, but I've seen a parody 28 00:01:57,600 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 1: of that song. Really the song today, Oh perfect, excellent. 29 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:06,360 Speaker 1: Then you will never stop singing it no matter what. Well, 30 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 1: that's going to benefit both of us. So this is 31 00:02:10,680 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: a topic I want to talk about. I will say 32 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 1: I don't think we're gonna go too much into it, 33 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: but um there might We talked around like weight and eating. 34 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: So if that's especially around this time of year. If 35 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: that's not what you want to hear, understand, I don't 36 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 1: think we're gonna go too much into it, but might 37 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:27,720 Speaker 1: we might. Uh. And this is actually something that would 38 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:29,800 Speaker 1: have been I wrote this forever Agot like wrote I 39 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:32,800 Speaker 1: wrote bullet points for it forever ago. These are much 40 00:02:32,840 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 1: less structured than our full episodes. Um, but it was 41 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 1: it was because of parties, like going out of parties 42 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: and hang out with people. This is something that occasionally 43 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: I just feel, and I definitely felt it more lately 44 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: because I'm talking about this whole idea of being like 45 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: the sloppy not even drunk, but just like the sloppy 46 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 1: person in a group. And I feel like I've just 47 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: had so many experience is recently because I have gained 48 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 1: weight during the pandemic um and I just mostly wear 49 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:09,639 Speaker 1: the same thing. I change it up every now and then, 50 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: but generally the same kind of like T shirt, leggings. 51 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:15,639 Speaker 1: I feel like you dress up more than I do, 52 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:20,959 Speaker 1: so I'm worry I would disagree. Really, I feel like 53 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 1: when I'm around you, though, I feel very comfortable, so 54 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 1: I don't dress up. But that's that's what I'm saying. 55 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 1: Like when we go out, I always like you're more 56 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:30,359 Speaker 1: dressed up than I am. I'm casually all the all 57 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:32,880 Speaker 1: the time. Same And because I wear helled boots, people 58 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:35,320 Speaker 1: think I'm fancy. You know, I'm just short and I 59 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: like killed boots. Like that's well, yeah, there's like a 60 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 1: theme to your outfit, and I'm like, hey, black, but 61 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 1: isn't my theme? Like Star Wars well sometimes and then 62 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 1: there's Spider Verse, and then there's last of us. You 63 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 1: do like the undercover cosplay all the time. I actually, 64 00:03:56,440 --> 00:04:00,240 Speaker 1: I think that's been my main theme during the pantomick, 65 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: Like clothing during the pandemic has been like very subtle 66 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: cosplay all the time. I love it. It's not so subtle. Well, see, 67 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 1: that's the thing. I love it too. And most of 68 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 1: the time I'm very secure and like maybe very secureity strong. 69 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 1: But most of the time I'm either too tired or 70 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:18,039 Speaker 1: I don't care what other people think that I'm wearing 71 00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: essentially cosplay, essentially pajamas, um out and about. But I've 72 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 1: had because we were going out more at the end 73 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 1: of the year, I had a couple of instances where 74 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I wonder if that's how people 75 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 1: see me. And I think one of the big things 76 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 1: was like at one at one event, I wore a 77 00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: dress that I'm pretty sure it was pretty sea through 78 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: when I was wearing like a braw and underwear. It 79 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 1: wasn't like naked under it. But I had somebody like 80 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 1: a friend of mine, very kindly, because you do want 81 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 1: to know that stuff, say you know, hey, you can 82 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: kind of see through it, And I really didn't care, 83 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 1: and it was kind of a weird moment of like 84 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 1: should I care? Maybe I should. I'm glad to know, 85 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:02,159 Speaker 1: but it was like a weird I just had to 86 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: kind of disconnect between I honestly was like, okay, but 87 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:12,160 Speaker 1: should I care? And this has been this has been 88 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 1: something we should revisit because I keep seeing headlines about 89 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:17,799 Speaker 1: celebrities that are wearing c through things and We're getting 90 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 1: so much attention and I'm kind of perplexed by the 91 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:24,840 Speaker 1: whole thing. But anyway, that was something. And then I'm 92 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 1: just like worn clothes that I know are too small 93 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:29,799 Speaker 1: for me because again I gained weight, but I also 94 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:33,599 Speaker 1: really don't care. Um that I had somebody mentioned that, 95 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 1: like the side game situation, Okay, I was like, what 96 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:43,719 Speaker 1: what did who said this? Okay, no, no, no, no no. 97 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:47,360 Speaker 1: And it's like, generally because that is a good thing 98 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: when a trusted friend can tell you just so you know, hey, 99 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:57,479 Speaker 1: here's this. Um. I think it's more like it's like 100 00:05:57,520 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 1: I'm coming out of a dream of this pandemic of 101 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 1: what I did before and what I do now, and 102 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: now I don't care. And I feel like that's fine. 103 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 1: But sometimes I'm like, hmmmm, it seems like people are 104 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:17,039 Speaker 1: still worried about these things, right, I think, yeah, I'm 105 00:06:17,080 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 1: I'm with you on that because I do care to 106 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: a certain degree of like I try to not look 107 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:25,279 Speaker 1: so from people, but that's kind of how I dress. 108 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 1: I don't mean to. It's just because I like way 109 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:29,800 Speaker 1: a large things and I'm tired of trying to h 110 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: be cutely. And I have also gained a lot of 111 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,120 Speaker 1: weight during the pandemic. And I say a lot of 112 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 1: weight because I've lost I had lost a lot of 113 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:38,720 Speaker 1: weight right before, and it was due to depression, so 114 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:41,680 Speaker 1: it wasn't healthy anyway. But believe me, I got all 115 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: the compliments and I have a stigma about that, and 116 00:06:43,720 --> 00:06:46,279 Speaker 1: we've talked about that before. And now I'm like, okay, 117 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:51,599 Speaker 1: I don't one of the things, uh, convenience wise, because 118 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:53,480 Speaker 1: I had lost all that weight. So I started getting 119 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: really excited, even though it wasn't a good way. And 120 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 1: I got the new clothes and now I cannot fit 121 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: into those clothes. That also reverted reverted back to the 122 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:05,279 Speaker 1: old clothes that got didn't throw those away, um, and 123 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: then it even bought like really uh better clothes like 124 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: that actually are supposed to fit me and they are 125 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 1: absally supposed to be nice quality and I had to 126 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: get a bigger side, you know that that felt some 127 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 1: type of way. But at the same time, like, yeah, 128 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: I don't care, like I just I'm going to wear 129 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 1: that big sweater. I'm gonna wear the T shirt that 130 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 1: I tie in and not with a lot of I've 131 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 1: always been a cardigan girl, so that's my thing. But 132 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 1: I do look like a grandma hunched over with my 133 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 1: giant UH sweaters. But yeah, it's kind of like, yeah, 134 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:35,960 Speaker 1: this is who I am. Enjoy it, deal with it. Uh. 135 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 1: And for the longest time, because I was so ashamed 136 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 1: of my body, I didn't want to buy clothes in 137 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: my size because it felt like at the feet and 138 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 1: it felt hurtful just to think about it because of 139 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:47,960 Speaker 1: the stigma behind UH those sizes, and even embarrassment to 140 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:50,880 Speaker 1: check out UH at the register because I don't want 141 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:53,840 Speaker 1: them to see what size it is, and then feeling 142 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 1: like but if I actually wear clothes my size, I 143 00:07:57,000 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: look better, you know what I mean? Right? And so 144 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 1: like going back and forth of like all these levels 145 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: of trying to figure this out, and yeah, we've been 146 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,600 Speaker 1: coming out more recently as in fact, I had a 147 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:12,559 Speaker 1: wedding in November, so I had to dress a dress 148 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:16,200 Speaker 1: up and I'm like, this is my nightmare, right, I 149 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: wore a poncho. Well, that's the thing is there's so much, 150 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 1: so much here that we've talked about that we could unpack. 151 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: Of like you feel judged for wearing clothes that are 152 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: quote too tight and then clothes that are quote to loose, 153 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 1: because that implies that you're not comfortable with your body, 154 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 1: even though that might be your most comfortable state. And 155 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:36,240 Speaker 1: then like one thing I've noticed, and we've talked about 156 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:41,680 Speaker 1: this before too, is my boobs feel a lot bigger 157 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: and Michael, which they are, but it's like they shouldn't 158 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:49,600 Speaker 1: feel so embarrassing to me, but they are. And I know, 159 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:51,600 Speaker 1: like we've talked about that. We've talked about that ad 160 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:54,320 Speaker 1: length of like people with bigger boobs can't find clothes, 161 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: and then when they do, people judge them for being 162 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: like too sexual at work or whatever. Um. So it's 163 00:08:59,880 --> 00:09:05,679 Speaker 1: just like it's been interesting. Um. I'm also kind of 164 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: unwilling to get a whole new wardrobe. Um, other than 165 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:15,120 Speaker 1: like sweatpants, which I bought some d I've been buying 166 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 1: T shirts and I haven't even I don't even wear 167 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,200 Speaker 1: T shirts like that. Like typically I used to just 168 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:22,959 Speaker 1: not wear those. I would wear like a little more 169 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:24,960 Speaker 1: fancy or like button up shirts or whatever. And now 170 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:28,040 Speaker 1: that I'm like, teachers are great. Also because I hate 171 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 1: people reading things off my chest, which is where usually 172 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: the logos go or whatever is happening, because it makes 173 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:37,760 Speaker 1: me so self conscious. Growing up, I hated it because 174 00:09:37,760 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: it made me so self conscious. Of course, this has 175 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 1: a lot to do with trauma, so mean, sexualized as 176 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:46,480 Speaker 1: an Asian woman, all of those things. So I definitely 177 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: it took me a long time to be like, oh, 178 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 1: but these are so comfortable. T shirts are so great. Yeah, yeah, 179 00:09:53,880 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 1: me too. My mom and I were joking about that 180 00:09:55,800 --> 00:10:00,079 Speaker 1: ever this recent break because I remember when I is 181 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,360 Speaker 1: in high school, we had a conversation together I would 182 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: have been high school, it had been early college um, 183 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 1: where she was like, you know, you never wear logos 184 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: in your shirt and I don't either, and I was like, yeah, 185 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 1: I just kind of like to be bland and fit in, 186 00:10:10,960 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: and now all I do is like where soar shirts. 187 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 1: She was like, yeah, You've made a big change. I 188 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: like it. I was like, oh, thanks. The level of 189 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:22,400 Speaker 1: confidence there's so many things to unpack with them, like 190 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 1: placements of things like that and what we want to 191 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:29,000 Speaker 1: talk about, especially for those who do have breasts UM 192 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:32,199 Speaker 1: in general. But I do find it fascinating and I 193 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:34,880 Speaker 1: think something that we're going to come back on UM 194 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 1: is this trend UH swaying and we've talked about before 195 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: swaying back to the whole skinny body look and the 196 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 1: new diet fat of taking UM the diabetic medication shots, 197 00:10:48,679 --> 00:10:50,960 Speaker 1: which is two fold of like, why are you doing 198 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: this to people with diabetes and why are you doing 199 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 1: this to normal people who are seeing unrealistic expectations of 200 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:01,480 Speaker 1: this UM. And I hate that we're reverting back to 201 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: that because it finally came to the point that we are, 202 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: I feel not completely because there's still people out there 203 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:10,559 Speaker 1: who are awful when it comes to body image who 204 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 1: UM have not let go of the fact that skinny 205 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:20,719 Speaker 1: does not mean it's healthy. Conversation UM, but that that 206 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 1: we're back to this again and having to fight back 207 00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:24,559 Speaker 1: and just finally getting to the point of like people 208 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:28,079 Speaker 1: are understanding this healthy looks for different from different people, 209 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 1: and then it's not our place to judge in general 210 00:11:31,120 --> 00:11:34,320 Speaker 1: how people feel about themselves, like even if that is 211 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 1: they do want to lose weight or they don't want 212 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:40,280 Speaker 1: to lose weight or whatever whatever whatnot, UM. And I 213 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:42,240 Speaker 1: hate that we're going back to there, and I think 214 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 1: it's something that we should all be very cautious of 215 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:49,599 Speaker 1: in the conversations UM today because complimenting and I'm not 216 00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:52,920 Speaker 1: going to call out who it was who used to 217 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:55,680 Speaker 1: be kind of she was normal looking, she was normal 218 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: looking woman and then she has lost all this weight 219 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 1: and we're like, it is in insinuated that she has 220 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 1: used this product, and like everybody's complimenting on her, Like 221 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:07,440 Speaker 1: you need to back up because she looks unhealthy at 222 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:10,719 Speaker 1: this point because it's not her natural body form. I'm 223 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:12,679 Speaker 1: not judging the fact that she wanted to lose weight, 224 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 1: but what she's doing, how she's doing it, and how 225 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:18,280 Speaker 1: she's letting people think that it was all natural. That's 226 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 1: some BS and that's so dangerous for the standards of 227 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: where we are today and for the young kids they 228 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:26,920 Speaker 1: got this gen Z years no better, but still yeah, 229 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 1: it's still very insidious and harmful messaging. And it's it's 230 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:45,920 Speaker 1: like everywhere and I was thinking to you about like 231 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: there's so many jokes around women typically like oh, she 232 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 1: thinks she can pull that off. R oh she thinks 233 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: she can wear that, she doesn't realize she can't wear that. 234 00:12:56,280 --> 00:12:57,839 Speaker 1: And I was thinking about that just with um. I 235 00:12:57,920 --> 00:13:02,760 Speaker 1: hear that a lot with cosplay because people like to 236 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:08,559 Speaker 1: judge women in cosplay a lot um And and I 237 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:11,560 Speaker 1: also would say there's a lot there's a risk I've 238 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:15,760 Speaker 1: seen of like backhanded compliments, right, I think people are 239 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 1: coming from the right place, but they'll essentially I got 240 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:20,880 Speaker 1: one that was like, I've always wanted to embrace my 241 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:22,920 Speaker 1: camel to like you do. And I was like, whoa, 242 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:34,120 Speaker 1: my one camel too? What Well, that was one of 243 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:37,200 Speaker 1: those things where I didn't even notice and now I'm like, oh, well, 244 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:40,439 Speaker 1: I've never noticed that on you. Well well, I mean 245 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 1: also it's kind of like yeah, yeah, but it was 246 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 1: lit comfortable around them from there, and I'm like, what 247 00:13:52,559 --> 00:13:55,679 Speaker 1: you look at bro, Yeah yeah, but you know, I'm 248 00:13:55,679 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: pretty sure that a broad But still I was out. 249 00:13:57,840 --> 00:13:59,600 Speaker 1: I was at walking today and I was just like 250 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 1: so comfortable. But it's just those things that like lodge 251 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 1: in your head, um about people making comments about your body. 252 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 1: So I wish can we just not do that anymore. 253 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:15,800 Speaker 1: Let's not even for it as a compliment. Let's just 254 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:18,760 Speaker 1: leave it be. You want to say you look good, 255 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:24,160 Speaker 1: that's the don't give specifics. Look good in a genuine tone. 256 00:14:24,280 --> 00:14:30,000 Speaker 1: Not you look happy, you looked at it. You look 257 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:36,520 Speaker 1: well rested? How about that? Yeah? Yeah, I don't know. 258 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 1: It's just been kind of adjustment and I'm still working 259 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:42,320 Speaker 1: it out. And then I also was kind of one 260 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 1: thing we didn't get to talk about during our epic 261 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 1: holiday movie discussion. Oh yeah, um was there was a 262 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:54,640 Speaker 1: moment and while you were sleeping where uh, Sandra Block's 263 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:59,000 Speaker 1: character is like older and single, um, older, but it's 264 00:14:59,040 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 1: implied that she late twenties. Yeah, but it's implied that 265 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 1: like she's an old spinster. Yes, And there's like the 266 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 1: whole idea because she's single during the holidays, you'll do 267 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: the work. And then there's that scene where she's like 268 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:16,000 Speaker 1: eating the oreos and I don't know, mac and cheese 269 00:15:16,080 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: or something. Um, And so I'm trying I'm still trying 270 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 1: to wrap my mind around this idea also of like 271 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 1: being this still older single person that like goes out 272 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:28,400 Speaker 1: to all of these things. And I think that kind 273 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:32,160 Speaker 1: of like idea of oh, she's sloppy, can get tied 274 00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:36,680 Speaker 1: into that. Um. But I haven't like formulated. I've had 275 00:15:36,720 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 1: a lot of like big thought breakthroughs during the holidays, 276 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:43,000 Speaker 1: Samantha knows. Most of them were nerdy in nature. But 277 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:45,560 Speaker 1: I was really thinking about some things and I was 278 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 1: like writing essays and I was like, wait, why are 279 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 1: you running essays? Are you and essays? You're like for 280 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: what purpose? And I was like, because oh, you are 281 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:02,880 Speaker 1: dedicated writer. That's that's where that comes in. I'm a writer, 282 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 1: and I also like to be able. I like to 283 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 1: be ready to defend my opinion and a lot of 284 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:10,200 Speaker 1: times if I'm surprised with a question, then I kind 285 00:16:10,200 --> 00:16:11,840 Speaker 1: of shut down because I'm like, well, I got to 286 00:16:11,880 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 1: think about it from all these angles. So I like 287 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 1: to like already formulate my thoughts. In case Bybone wants 288 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:22,960 Speaker 1: to ask me about Anakin Skywalker at any point, I 289 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:28,200 Speaker 1: am already, Oh I love it. Yeah, yeah. But I 290 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:32,680 Speaker 1: think also during New Years, during this time, this has 291 00:16:32,720 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: when a lot of those like weight loss and exercise 292 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:37,640 Speaker 1: things come in, which if that's what you want in 293 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 1: a healthy way, then I'm all for it. But it's 294 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:44,800 Speaker 1: a lot. It's just a lot that's all I think. 295 00:16:44,800 --> 00:16:46,960 Speaker 1: I'm with you, like just I do a lot of 296 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:50,280 Speaker 1: reflection of the year, and we did this as an 297 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:52,560 Speaker 1: episode about like looking at at the past and the 298 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 1: big things and small things, you know, all the questions, um, 299 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:59,200 Speaker 1: trying to be profound and trying to be thoughtful, um, 300 00:16:59,760 --> 00:17:02,000 Speaker 1: very purposeful for the next year, because you really think 301 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 1: you have control over that and that's not true, which 302 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:06,119 Speaker 1: is hilarious to me because when we come back to 303 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:10,440 Speaker 1: these were like, yeah, that did not happen. Um. So 304 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:13,200 Speaker 1: it's always a fun risk, but it is. There are 305 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:16,399 Speaker 1: things that you hope will happen. There's things that you 306 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:19,439 Speaker 1: hope doesn't happen, but that does put you into the 307 00:17:19,440 --> 00:17:23,000 Speaker 1: state of like, Okay, I have no control about this. 308 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:27,720 Speaker 1: How do I control this? Yeah? Yeah, And that's the thing, 309 00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:30,359 Speaker 1: Like this is a bigger topic that I won't get 310 00:17:30,400 --> 00:17:32,359 Speaker 1: into too much in this, but I've talked about it before, 311 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:36,040 Speaker 1: Like when it comes to wait, a lot of it 312 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 1: feels like it's out of my control, even though I 313 00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:43,240 Speaker 1: know the things to do, UM, it just feels like 314 00:17:43,320 --> 00:17:48,359 Speaker 1: it's something I can't necessarily control, and that kind of 315 00:17:48,400 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 1: puts me in the state of like almost panic around it. 316 00:17:53,320 --> 00:17:56,680 Speaker 1: A lot, So I don't know. I would just as 317 00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:59,800 Speaker 1: we always say in these um you know, we love 318 00:17:59,840 --> 00:18:01,480 Speaker 1: you out there, and I would urge you to take 319 00:18:01,520 --> 00:18:04,760 Speaker 1: care of yourself and kind of examine like like I'm 320 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:07,320 Speaker 1: trying to do what what do you really want and 321 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:10,680 Speaker 1: what it's healthy and what is reasonable? And I don't know, because, like, 322 00:18:10,680 --> 00:18:12,040 Speaker 1: like I said, one of the biggest things for me 323 00:18:12,119 --> 00:18:16,600 Speaker 1: here was I kind of I was like, huh, I 324 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:21,280 Speaker 1: sort of stopped worrying about that. I love it. That's 325 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:24,000 Speaker 1: a great place, and I hope you can remain there. Yeah. 326 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:27,200 Speaker 1: I think it's gonna be hard, too hard on it. Yeah, yeah, 327 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:28,720 Speaker 1: for sure. I think it's gonna be like it's just 328 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:31,240 Speaker 1: because I've been inside by myself or with you most 329 00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:33,880 Speaker 1: of the time. But I think was like, go out 330 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:35,440 Speaker 1: into the real world a lot more. It's going to 331 00:18:35,520 --> 00:18:40,399 Speaker 1: be a lot harder, but it will do it. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 332 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:46,119 Speaker 1: But you know, cheers and happy New Year. Ye yes, 333 00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:49,000 Speaker 1: And to all of you listeners, you would love to 334 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 1: hear from you. If you have any thoughts about this, uh, 335 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 1: you can contact us at our email just Stephanie, your mom. 336 00:18:55,160 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: Stuff that I hurt me to dot com. 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