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Speaker 2: Dominic is on the phone today for our first date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Keisha.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call her and
Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and
Speaker 2: maybe get him another date. But first, Dominic, how long
Speaker 2: has it been sin see her from Keisha?
Speaker 3: Honestly, man, it's been about two weeks.
Speaker 2: You try to hit her up?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've called, I've taxted, like not like trying to
Speaker 3: look desperate.
Speaker 4: But you know, just a few Hey want to go
Speaker 4: hang out, you want to help meet up? Never message
Speaker 4: me back, never called back. I don't really get why.
Speaker 2: Well, let's talk about it. So you really liked her then, huh?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I felt like we really connected. I
Speaker 4: felt like we had so much just in common and
Speaker 4: I had such a great time. I really thought she
Speaker 4: wanted to meet up again and just disappeared.
Speaker 2: So sure, what did you guys do on your date?
Speaker 2: How did you meet her?
Speaker 3: I mean we met, you know, on the date apps,
Speaker 3: and honestly, like I saw her profile and she's just
Speaker 3: so gorgeous. I needed to message her, and I was
Speaker 3: so lucky. She messaged back.
Speaker 4: And we really just bonded over like Marvel movies and
Speaker 4: a little bit bonding over food. We both really like pasta,
Speaker 4: like Italian food stuff like that, and I thought, you know, hey,
Speaker 4: this is going really well.
Speaker 3: So we managed to go out and it was just
Speaker 3: really great.
Speaker 2: Okay, well what was so great about it?
Speaker 4: Well, I kind of gave her. I wanted to make
Speaker 4: it like special, and I'm kind of like, hey, we're
Speaker 4: having that first date, let's make it memorable. Hopefully this
Speaker 4: will lead to a lot more. So I kind of
Speaker 4: I made it a bit of a sensory experience.
Speaker 3: I put a blindfold on her. I walked her into
Speaker 3: the rest of it.
Speaker 2: So hold on real quick. So you went on the
Speaker 2: date and you started it. I put a blindfold on her.
Speaker 4: I can see where you might be going. Oh no,
Speaker 4: that sounds like a red flag, but I put.
Speaker 3: It on her.
Speaker 4: As we got to the rest, she she knew where
Speaker 4: we were, not where we were going, but like where
Speaker 4: we were. She didn't think she was going into a
Speaker 4: warehouse district and going, oh hey.
Speaker 1: Okay, so what were what was she doing while she
Speaker 1: was blindfolded, so she's she's showing up.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just walked her into the restaurant.
Speaker 4: I kind of put like the Avengers theme on, so
Speaker 4: it kind of a surprise.
Speaker 2: That's fun. Now you think it's fine. Look, anybody blindfolds
Speaker 2: me plus the Avengers team on, I'm down. But no,
Speaker 2: that that sounds fun. They're all worried about the blindfold.
Speaker 5: But all of a sudden, this guy is like walking
Speaker 5: around with the Avengers theme and that's normal, Like it
Speaker 5: makes the Captain America and my were great, so Avengers
Speaker 5: theme song, and.
Speaker 4: It was, you know, a really nice Italian place that
Speaker 4: I figured we both like, well, I've been there, so
Speaker 4: I knew I'd like it. But you know, we bonded
Speaker 4: over the Italian food, so I was like, we bring
Speaker 4: her here, let her kind of smell you know, the aromas,
Speaker 4: all the things, the garlic and the Italian place, and
Speaker 4: just kind of come in and be like, oh.
Speaker 3: It's going to be good. And she seemed to really
Speaker 3: like it. It really paid off.
Speaker 4: You know, we had a really great meal and you know,
Speaker 4: and then we went back for a little nightcap in dessert.
Speaker 2: When you say night cap in dessert. Are we talking
Speaker 2: like actual night cap in dessert or are we talking
Speaker 2: other stuff dessert?
Speaker 3: Both happened both, Oh.
Speaker 2: Okay, the solid night Yeah, and then how are things
Speaker 2: when you say goodbye?
Speaker 4: Like we talked about it before, you know, we dozed off,
Speaker 4: you know, let's meet up again? And I kind of
Speaker 4: had to go in the morning, Like, but you know,
Speaker 4: we had talked about everything, and she knew I was
Speaker 4: going to call after that. I like, I don't think
Speaker 4: it was just that I kind of like she knew
Speaker 4: I was going to leave before she.
Speaker 2: Woke up did anything else. It's weird.
Speaker 1: Happened on the day and designed from the blindfolding that
Speaker 1: could have been a reason why she decided not to
Speaker 1: call you back.
Speaker 4: I mean, she she wanted to know generally how many
Speaker 4: people I've been with?
Speaker 2: She asked you that in bed.
Speaker 4: You know, it's kind of just that after glow of hey, okay,
Speaker 4: it's just fun, how many people have you been with?
Speaker 4: Kind of I think she just meant it more playfully
Speaker 4: and I just was there and ended up saying the truth,
Speaker 4: which she was thinking single or double digit and it
Speaker 4: was triple digit.
Speaker 2: Well I could see that being a reason, all right,
Speaker 2: we'll try to fight it off for you. Play a song,
Speaker 2: come back, call her, and then see if she'll tell
Speaker 2: us why she's ghosting you and maybe get to another date.
Speaker 3: Okay, all right man, thanks guys.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well plas on come back, get your first day
Speaker 2: follow up next. Right in the middle of your first
Speaker 2: day follow up if you're just joining us, Dominic is
Speaker 2: on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Keisha. So
Speaker 2: we're about to call her and see if she'll tell
Speaker 2: us why she's got see him and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date. But first, Dominic, why don't you refresh our
Speaker 2: memory on your situation?
Speaker 3: Hey guys, Well, we had a really great date.
Speaker 4: I blindfolded her, brought her to Italian food, played Avengers music.
Speaker 4: We went back to her place, had a really great night,
Speaker 4: and then I maybe freaked her out by.
Speaker 3: Telling her I slept with hundreds of people.
Speaker 2: That's a good breakdown. That's good doing. All right, You
Speaker 2: ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3: As ready as I'll ever be.
Speaker 2: All Right, here we go, Hello him, I a speak Takeisha.
Speaker 3: Please, This is Keisha may I ask is calling?
Speaker 2: Yes you can. My name is Jebel. I'm calling from
Speaker 2: a radio show. It's called the Jubil Show.
Speaker 1: Hi, Kisha, I'm Nina. Also on the Jubil Show. Hi,
Speaker 1: and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 2: How are you.
Speaker 6: I'm fine. This is a little unexpected. I is this
Speaker 6: a joke right now? I'm sorry be rude about that.
Speaker 3: Like it is real?
Speaker 2: Yes, this is real. We do a segment on the show.
Speaker 2: It's called the First a follow Up. It's where if
Speaker 2: you go out on a date with somebody and then
Speaker 2: you end up ghosting them, that person can email us
Speaker 2: and then we call you and ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 2: So we got an email about you. Oh great, it's
Speaker 2: from It's dominic.
Speaker 6: Yeah, unfortunately I figured I listen, I have been ghosting.
Speaker 6: That is one hundred percent true. But I have a
Speaker 6: good reason to ghost him. Okay, very good reason. The
Speaker 6: last date we had was so weird. It felt like
Speaker 6: the entire date. I felt like I was a main
Speaker 6: character in a TV show.
Speaker 2: So we talked to him and he told us that
Speaker 2: he told us how he blindfolded you and gave you
Speaker 2: a sensory experience. Is that what you're talking about? And
Speaker 2: the Avengers theme song was playing, but.
Speaker 6: You know what it goes beyond that. He also said
Speaker 6: he sang me alullaby, super cringe and.
Speaker 2: The date like, sang you a lullaby.
Speaker 6: Yeah, he sang me alullaby.
Speaker 3: It was creepy. It was so creepy.
Speaker 2: Well, he did tell us that he ended up spending
Speaker 2: the night there. Yeah, he didn't tell us about singing
Speaker 2: you a lullaby though.
Speaker 6: So, I mean we're laying there, you know, we had time,
Speaker 6: and you know, he asked if you know I was
Speaker 6: ready for bed, which I said, yeah, sure, and you know,
Speaker 6: of course we're doing like this spooning. He put his
Speaker 6: arm over me and holds me tight, but then he
Speaker 6: starts to slowly and very quietly sing Twinkle Twinkle a
Speaker 6: little star in my ear.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, okay, And you didn't dig.
Speaker 6: That, not even in the slightest. It was so unnerving,
Speaker 6: Like I don't know who's thought that was a good idea,
Speaker 6: but it was like I kind of felt like this
Speaker 6: guy I was with was like I don't even know
Speaker 6: how to explain it, but I was worried he was
Speaker 6: going to start busting out Old McDonald had a farm,
Speaker 6: being a little childish, and it was really uncomfortable, especially
Speaker 6: right after, you know, the the night we had had
Speaker 6: together and you know, at the same time, I did
Speaker 6: think it was kind of funny, but then I realized
Speaker 6: I don't think he was joking.
Speaker 2: It was like a very intense moment.
Speaker 3: You didn't think that was romantic.
Speaker 2: Can you said, that's dominic he's actually on the phone listening.
Speaker 3: That was what freaked you out? Just you know, I'm
Speaker 3: saying you a little lullaby. Thought thought it was, you know, cute.
Speaker 3: It's something I thought it would be, like a little
Speaker 3: thing we did.
Speaker 6: I'm not even sure how to respond to that, but
Speaker 6: you're a grown man and you were trying to like
Speaker 6: put me asleep by you know, saying alullaby. No disrespect,
Speaker 6: but if you want me to sleep. I feel like
Speaker 6: there's other activities you could have done, you know, to
Speaker 6: do that, but sure goes straight to doing allullaby. I
Speaker 6: guess it was, you know, I just don't understand we
Speaker 6: did the other things first, Yeah, and then you ended
Speaker 6: it with alullaby?
Speaker 3: Do you check?
Speaker 6: Can you only not see how that might be cringed
Speaker 6: for a lot of people.
Speaker 3: No, I mean I've had, you know, other people that
Speaker 3: really thought it was cute. I thought it was you
Speaker 3: Just you treat me like you treating me like I
Speaker 3: was a child. Well, it's not like I tucked you
Speaker 3: in and gave you a warm milk.
Speaker 2: I don't think I would have hated that either. I
Speaker 2: don't know. I don't understand the problem. So like, was
Speaker 2: it his singing Keisha that was so bad about the
Speaker 2: lulla byer just the fact that it happened.
Speaker 3: It was a bit of both.
Speaker 6: Like again, when he finished, you know, singing Twinkled Twinkle
Speaker 6: Little Star, I immediately was bracing myself for like old
Speaker 6: McDonald had a farm or something, and I'm automatically thinking,
Speaker 6: if he starts to make the barnyard noises, I'm gonna
Speaker 6: lose it.
Speaker 3: It's not like in a mean way.
Speaker 6: But I won't be able to stop laughing at I
Speaker 6: was worried about that.
Speaker 2: Oh that's funny. I love it. That's the image that
Speaker 2: came to your mind.
Speaker 4: Now, I feel like I should have done that, because
Speaker 4: at least, you know, would have gotten to laugh.
Speaker 3: Maybe that would have been better.
Speaker 6: I'm not really sure if you want someone you know
Speaker 6: laying next to you laughing, you know, especially when you're
Speaker 6: in bed together intimately, But it's that, you know, if
Speaker 6: that's how you walked away from that experience, I guess
Speaker 6: I get it, but I still think it's it's really it.
Speaker 2: Wear that Victoria. Why is it scary? Because it's like
Speaker 2: also like you're in bed and twins be like, are
Speaker 2: you okay?
Speaker 3: I mean yeah, if you sing it like that, it's scary.
Speaker 3: I wasn't like sitting in the corner of the room
Speaker 3: with my eyes on going trying to sing it kind
Speaker 3: of cute.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think it's a solid effort. Even if
Speaker 2: you don't like it, Kisha, would you like to go
Speaker 2: on another date with Dominic? Will pay for it?
Speaker 3: You know I'm going to pass on the date.
Speaker 6: I appreciate the effort, Dominic, I really do, and I
Speaker 6: don't regret us being together, but I really just don't
Speaker 6: see a future and I don't really see us moving
Speaker 6: forward together there.
Speaker 3: I mean, I could not sing lullabies. I'm cool with that.
Speaker 2: What if he doesn't sing lullabies. I don't think you
Speaker 2: should give that up, Dominic.
Speaker 6: I can. I understand. It's just at the end of
Speaker 6: the day, I found it so funny that I actually
Speaker 6: was worried you if you were going to get upset
Speaker 6: with me, and you know it just I cannot move
Speaker 6: past this.
Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. I really can't. I mean, I guess
Speaker 3: if that's how you feel. At least you told me, well,
Speaker 3: you know what, I didn't really think that.
Speaker 6: You know, I would have to explain to a grown
Speaker 6: man why you know, singing a lullabye to a grown
Speaker 6: woman would be creepy. But it's just, you know, it's
Speaker 6: the radio fanatical thing to happen and comes to light.
Speaker 4: That's fine. Some people like romance, some people don't. Oh
Speaker 4: my gosh, radio people seem to really like it.
Speaker 3: You guys like the Avengers.
Speaker 2: I mean, I do yes first, and you follow up.