WEBVTT - Conversations About Relationship Roles 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.880 Watch up and welcome back to another episode and no 0:00:02.960 --> 0:00:05.960 Sillers podcast with your host. Not fun that with your 0:00:06.040 --> 0:00:15.440 low glasses, Malone, Joey, what's saying it cracking? You're all right? 0:00:15.760 --> 0:00:25.840 Oh man, I'm blessed man. Yeah, Red, what's the deal? So, Britt? Yeah, 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:29.280 what's happening to? Sylvia? Get a little closer to the mine. 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:32.879 Look bit that you hum up in there. Don't try 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:34.960 to use your cute voice. You gotta use your regular 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:39.400 feel me, yeah, your own voice. What's happening? Talk to me? 0:00:39.400 --> 0:00:45.840 I'll talk back. Is so, Look, Bret Red was explaining 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:51.600 to me why she felt she had a right to 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:59.080 cook the food for the house and not make the plates. Okay, 0:00:59.120 --> 0:01:02.120 so that's required when you could to make the plates. Look, 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:05.319 I said, I was tired. I said I make plates, 0:01:05.319 --> 0:01:08.360 But I said, I made an announcement that I'm not making. 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:11.000 Sometimes you just don't want to make a damn plate. 0:01:11.319 --> 0:01:14.120 Sometimes women take on more than that. And she cooked, 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:17.840 she prepared the meal, all the food on the middle 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:19.959 of the table. And people can make their own plates, 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:23.080 because then what they're gonna expect you to also wash 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:25.360 the dishes and put them. Yea, that's what they spect 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:28.240 and then one second sometimes like you and I and 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:30.479 I get caught up because I do like I do 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:33.199 like to to do that. But I'm like, I didn't 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:35.319 get a chance to sit down, like I'm tired, Like, 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:38.640 let me sit down, you don't if you don't, So 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:40.680 is it that you're tired of you just tired of them? 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:44.120 And now no, really I'm tired and I have a 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:50.160 seven month old baby. Wow, what excuse me? Can you 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:57.880 have a baby? Okay? No, no, but I'm glad you 0:01:57.920 --> 0:02:01.920 brought that up. So Sia Sylvia are part of their 0:02:01.960 --> 0:02:06.040 two members of a group I am producing. The group 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:09.720 is called forsome. I say folsome because that's just how 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:12.120 I talked about it. It's forsome. Yes, and this is 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:14.960 two of them right here. So sorry, now that you 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:17.880 said there are, I can ask you, so, are you 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:22.360 like a like a team player, like in a relationship 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:26.320 like fifty fifty, or you like a rose person? What's 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:30.519 a rose person? Like? You expect a man to do 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:36.800 manly things? Um? I think the history of me dating people, 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:40.799 I think I've dated people for potential, seeing the best 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:44.880 in them and doing so much in a relationship hoping 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:46.840 that they would get to a place where I wanted 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:49.560 them to be, like, become fully who I thought they 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:51.440 were when I met them or something like that, and 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:54.080 then that kind of never happens. But you know, you 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:57.600 never met that person. Obviously, I was creating this fantasy 0:02:57.639 --> 0:03:00.160 in my head that doesn't really exist. So I'm are 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:05.040 you a much a compromising person and I'm ruling to 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:08.200 accept people for who they are and then over time 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:10.880 if I just can't accept who you are, then goodbye. 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:15.600 So you're like a fifty fifty person, right, Okay, yeah, Sylvia, 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:18.840 are your fifty fifty person or your relationship roles person 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:23.360 one hunting on his end period? So so that's to 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:27.200 your relationship roles person because I'm not putting in ship. 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:29.160 And if I'm gonna put in and I'm gonna be 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:32.720 by myself, this ain't no, I'm not a roommate, okay, 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:35.720 So your relationship roles person men should do I feel 0:03:35.760 --> 0:03:39.640 like man should do everything. I'm going to do the 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:43.320 womanly things as far as cook, clean and make love 0:03:43.360 --> 0:03:45.880 to you, all that ship, but as far as take 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:49.280 care of the household, that's all you. And that's how 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:51.320 they used to do with old school, I mean, at 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:54.440 one point. At one point, men didn't even women didn't 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:56.640 even have rights, you know what I mean. And it 0:03:56.760 --> 0:04:00.480 wasn't women stayed at home. So I'm bad. I'm not okay, 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:03.320 I'm just listening. I'm not gonna argue with anybody. I 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:05.760 don't care about your potential. You already gotta come with it. 0:04:05.880 --> 0:04:14.080 You already gotta have it. I've already I've already experienced 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:16.840 potential when I was younger. So at this age, I'm 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:18.680 already a point where you already have to be together. 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:23.400 Don't agree that it shouldn't be fifty fifty. We should 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:26.320 change the term to a hundred. A hundred people should 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:30.400 be complete before they because we're already at that age 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:32.600 to where you already gave that a shot as far 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:34.800 as you know. Well, let me see, I feel like 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:36.479 you have potential. I did that when I was young 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:38.839 and it didn't work, So I'm not gonna keep doing 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:40.560 that now that I'm at this age. Just like, no, 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:42.320 you gotta have your ship together when you come to me. 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:48.480 Just period. That's just what it is. So you're okay 0:04:49.200 --> 0:04:51.719 a person, Yeah, I would like a person to say 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:54.919 the same thing to the table, but she got it. 0:04:55.400 --> 0:05:00.400 So your relationship. Your fifty fifty person signed, Sylvia's a 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:05.559 role person. You're person, britt Wood. Are you a rose 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:08.279 person or are you a fifty fifty person? So see, 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:12.000 I have some issues here. So see I can only 0:05:12.000 --> 0:05:15.039 go off of my previous experience. And for me, like 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:17.279 the dude that I was dealing with, he didn't want 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:22.680 me to like really, so you say I'm going there, 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:24.159 Hold on, you didn't want me to do all that, 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:27.240 So I'm ready to tell you. But I wanted to 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:30.800 put into the household. So I would just pay pay 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:33.400 with the bills and I would pay for like the 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:35.120 grocery shops like that, and I would could clean do 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:37.240 all the girls. Ship. But he took care of home, 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:40.640 so I could say fifty fifty. But he has to 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:43.279 have his own ship because I come with my own ship, 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:45.920 like I have a good job and confusing. So for 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:48.640 you start doing a woman thing, you know, women things 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:52.279 like the quiet noise, and it's not quite noise to you. 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:55.360 It's quiet noise because you're not really giving me an answer. 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:57.000 What you're doing is telling me a bunch of random 0:05:57.000 --> 0:05:59.240 ship that don't go together. Okay, So I would just 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:03.000 say this then as a human being as a woman. 0:06:03.160 --> 0:06:05.800 Do you want to be in a partnership relationship right 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:08.960 where you guys split things fifty fifty or do you 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:12.880 want the relationship roles type of situation where men do 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:16.719 traditional men that dude, what the you're supposed to Okay? 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:18.599 And then I'm gonna do what I'm supposed to do? 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:21.200 So were don't be all right? Got it? So roles 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:25.120 are not necessarily No, no, that's not it's no, it's not, 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:34.440 but we don't. I'm just learning. I'm so so um. 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:38.000 I like the roles. So you like the roles, okay, Joey, 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:41.040 are you more of a partnership with a woman or 0:06:41.080 --> 0:06:46.320 are your roles partnership roles? And I played the position 0:06:46.320 --> 0:06:50.919 that I make adjustments. Okay, I like that because because yeah, 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:53.680 you know what I'm saying, I'll do what I can 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:56.919 when I can do it that ship, and I'm willing 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:59.479 to keep learning and trying to be better at whatever 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:01.000 it is I need to be better at. That's how 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:03.520 I look at it. Ain't nobody about to pull up 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:06.000 and tell me what ain't about to happen, and all hell, 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:08.720 if I need you to put something on something, you're 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:12.440 gonna do it. I need you to put something. Listen 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:16.360 here and listen to that lady what you got on 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:19.440 this because and if she don't have it, then we 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:21.480 I mean, it's it's going just gonna have to have 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:23.880 to have to happen, like I make that happen. But 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:30.760 that's right, I'm only I'm only willing to do that 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:33.760 if it's uh, like I've been with this person for 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:36.560 a while and understand there's ups and there's down. So yeah, 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:39.480 I'll participate, you know, here and there, but like just 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:44.600 some guy just coming in. Yeah, but like if it's 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:47.080 like a real relationship and and then you just haven't 0:07:47.160 --> 0:07:49.200 you know, some bad times, Yeah, of course I'm gonna 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:53.000 be there. So that's not what sure I understand. Yeah, 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:55.680 if if he failed that, But but for the most part, 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:57.720 you expect to do things that I'm not taking the 0:07:57.760 --> 0:08:02.920 trash out does not and it's stability. I'm not taking 0:08:02.960 --> 0:08:05.680 the trash, So you're not taking the trash. I'm not 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:08.920 Oh no, I never. I'm not taking the trash. So 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:10.960 if he ain't at the house in the trash four, 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:14.160 you're gonna wait till they get home. Yes, that trash 0:08:14.240 --> 0:08:17.800 is heavy. That's stupid though, because guess what, let me 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:21.440 tell you gonna cook if exactly, if I don't cook, 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:25.640 he ain't gonna eat. Yep, exactly, he's not gonna eat. 0:08:25.920 --> 0:08:34.960 So therefore this trash here. So it's like my trash. Clearly, 0:08:35.280 --> 0:08:37.719 I'm not gonna let it, you know, flow over, so 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:42.000 it's closed. I'm not touching it. But exactly I will 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:44.040 get another bag and started, but I'm not taking I 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:45.800 don't want to take the trash out, and I'm not. 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:48.040 I don't, So you're taking out, leave it by the door, 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:50.360 didn't put a new bag in. I don't even want 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:52.880 to take it out the bag because it might have 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:55.640 wet ship in it, and I don't want to trash. 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:58.560 I don't do it right. I won't take it. I 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:01.520 don't want to. I'm not saying that I've never taken 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:06.040 off the trash. Give by yourself. So you have, so 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:09.520 you do understand the concept of rods. Okay, So no 0:09:09.720 --> 0:09:16.360 sailings glasses low. My co host one half of the week, 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:20.679 The Cousin's Britt and read I got my man Joey 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:24.040 west Side from l A Giants, and I got my 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:27.800 partners feel Me from folks from Sylvia. J Sorry, so 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:29.840 This is the reason I asked you this because I 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:35.720 sent Britt and read a video. And in this video, 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:40.400 this guy, you know, he has his erie Kevin Samuel's 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:43.520 thing going on. But he was talking to another dude 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:45.839 that said he had been married for twenty years and 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:52.040 had a kid, and the question was why are women 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:57.559 not cooking? I'm gonna tell you exactly what he says 0:09:57.640 --> 0:10:00.959 right here. It was so it became such a own conversation. 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.600 She was funny, and it was I thought it was 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:06.920 really funny to me. I just it says why women 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:10.680 don't want to cook or clean for me anymore? I 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:14.920 have a question, why do men categorize women that's not 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:18.480 all women? Because yes, you are a women, so that's 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:21.719 a category. I think that's the women are not it's 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:28.800 that didn't do a lot of the times they're the 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:32.040 same and experiences, well, so what they meant in the twenties, 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:34.960 I feel like, sure they don't do it. It's because 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:43.000 they don't know how and they haven't been taught that. Okay, 0:10:43.080 --> 0:10:45.920 So it says why women don't want to cook a 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:50.480 clean for men anymore? And the guy says, because she's tired. 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:54.199 He said she had been at work all day and 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:57.640 she was tired, tired, so you asked me, You said, 0:10:57.720 --> 0:10:59.880 what what do you like? Do you like rolls? I 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:02.640 love rolls. I would love roles, but I have to 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:06.120 work too. So therefore, because I have to work, I'm 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:09.400 tired today. Do you change this is not happening. Do 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:14.520 you change your oil? So? Then how tired are you? Really? Forget? Wait? What? 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:19.559 First of all, I'm tired because I should expect him 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:23.080 to change your oil? Why are you You don't think 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:25.640 he's trying. You don't think he could be tired? But 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:29.079 did he cook me a whole meal? He took your oil? Okay? 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:32.679 So so then as I let me rewind, so I 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:38.720 sent the information to Pete to bread into red and Asia, right, 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:41.319 who's red? Is telling me? I just was saying that 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:44.679 to my household, like I cooked. I don't want to 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.520 make the plates like I'm tired, I don't want to 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:50.560 make the play. I'm done making plates. And I asked her, 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:54.360 I said, well, imagine to like your tires on flat 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:58.280 and the man goes right, he takes your tires off, 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:01.240 take your tired take it to the tire shop, old 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:05.240 Jiffy Lui or Micheley and you get your new tire, 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:07.360 and he comes and he's sitting next to your car, 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:09.240 like hew, here it is, and this sitting next to 0:12:09.280 --> 0:12:12.000 your car, and now you have to put the tire. 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:16.600 Why the fun would you tell me to make your 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:21.079 fucking plate because you're tired to plate? Because so why 0:12:21.120 --> 0:12:24.760 can't you put on your tire? I think it depends 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:27.199 on if you know what do you know how to do? 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:29.840 Nine times out of ten a woman doesn't know how 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:31.880 to change the tire. So do you think that makes 0:12:31.920 --> 0:12:35.160 it okay? It's literally simple. You hold up, listen. You 0:12:35.320 --> 0:12:37.960 literally said it is simple. It's not. It's not simple. 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:40.200 It's the hard work is done. When you cook the food, 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:43.280 it's done. You did the cooking, the seasoning, you did 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:45.559 all that. That's the labor. So you're asking her to 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:47.520 do the labor. Put the time. No, we're asking her 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:50.680 to mount, to get up and make up, and expect 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:52.760 her to the labor. No. I said, I'm going to 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:55.160 take the tire off of your car, the flat tire, 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:58.160 because off your car. I'm will take it to Michilean, 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:00.920 have them put the new tire. Room filling up with 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:03.160 the air, make sure it's right, bring it back to 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:04.959 you and sit it next to your car and allow 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:07.280 you to put it back on at you. I need 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:12.559 getting up to make my plate is labor, So I 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:16.120 have something to say that it should be split labor 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:19.320 work more than splitting money. Because people make more money 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:23.079 than each other. Whatever, split the labor, like okay, I'll 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:25.400 make your play, but can't get the baby tonight, So 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:27.720 then why not split? Why do you not split the money? 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:30.960 I'm saying, because some people make more, some people make less. 0:13:31.040 --> 0:13:33.200 But I'm saying, why are you counting other people's money? 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:39.559 It should be just man o your man? So so 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:44.559 so term man write, the possession of term of this 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:49.040 is not a man, this is my man. I think 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:50.920 he do or not doing? So the why are you 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:54.120 counting your man's money if you don't feel like you 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:56.040 should do the same type of thing. I'm saying. If 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:58.640 we're both working, and I come home and I'm cooking 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:00.839 and I'm cleaning, and you can make your plate. But 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:03.440 so then so then if he goes and he actually 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:06.199 if he's working and he's paying mortgage and doing stuff, 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:08.880 he's doing that he could actually put a new tire 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.040 on your flat rim and then you can mind it 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:13.720 on your car. Some men do everything. Some man cook 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:16.880 took So since I'm the one, I'm the one that 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:20.280 made the announcement to the house. I like making the plates, 0:14:20.320 --> 0:14:22.040 but I made the announcement because I take care of 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:26.480 my father. I have my man, I have my baby, 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:29.120 my daughter's home for the don't take care of your father? 0:14:30.040 --> 0:14:34.400 What you mean, I don't take your father? Grown up? Um, listen, 0:14:35.520 --> 0:14:39.320 I take care of my father. So that stands was 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:42.680 for me to be like dad, Like you can make 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:46.640 your plate, I'm washing your clothes. I'm so you don't 0:14:46.680 --> 0:14:48.960 want to make your dad the reason you're on fucking 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:53.720 planet Earth, the greatest gift that you can give to 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:58.880 any human being beside your mother. Let me get this right, Yeah, 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:04.600 that d of those days. I don't cut breakfast before 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:09.000 we go into the three meals a day with your plate. 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:13.200 Hold up, hold up, hold up everything she said, hold 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:17.240 up because because you finished the job. It's like if 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:19.720 you make a song, right and you can relate to 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:22.080 this silvia. If you make a song and you don't 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:25.040 mix the fucking song, you finish the fucking job, you 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:27.480 master it. Let me ask you a question, right, was 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:31.000 your dad a dead beat dad. Then how the funk 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:34.680 dare you tell? Cause you can't make his plate? I 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:38.760 told you years this is what held up. This is 0:15:38.800 --> 0:15:42.760 what I do. Was he there all eighteen years? Yes, 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:47.160 he was nigger. Listen, do you mean to tell me 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:50.600 you can't? Man? I make no. He can make his 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:55.480 plate most time, not even most times. This is years 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:58.360 I make his plate. Now you should be to make 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:01.400 his plate. Listen, I do. But at the same time, 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:04.760 my dad there's certain things that he likes, a certain 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:11.160 way whatever, even everybody. I have to remember everybody's everybody's 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:17.440 ordering this. Man don't like this, My daddy don't like this. 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:22.760 I'm tired, y'all gonna make your all late tonight Christmas palms. 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:30.680 All the waste the money on wasted strong his daughter, 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:33.040 He didn't waste any money because guess what I'm taking 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:36.800 care of. Expect you to be strong. I think he 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:44.240 just say, consider you should be honest. I love consosed 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:48.680 to make you selfless so you could be quiet selfless Joey, 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:53.720 you know what, I am selfless. But guess what I'm like. 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:56.600 You know what I'm not. I'm setting the food out. 0:16:56.720 --> 0:17:01.960 I make a beautiful presentation. It's always beautiful. It's buffets. 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:05.040 Now make your plates. So let me ask you a question. 0:17:05.160 --> 0:17:09.000 Get would you be okay if your dad I'm asking, 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:11.880 would you be okay? If your dad right? He's hard 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:14.960 days at work, all these paying for these proms and 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:17.639 fucked up ship you got going on and get you 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:20.280 out of trouble. Clothes every day on your back, and 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:22.960 heat for the house that you lived in your whole life, 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:25.640 and air conditioning and all the wonderful things. The gas 0:17:25.760 --> 0:17:28.600 he took you to shoot you quit on that. He 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:31.240 probably wasted money on. All the cheerleading stuff you probably 0:17:31.240 --> 0:17:36.359 stopped the second day. Hold up, hold up. The fact 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:38.320 that you don't hold it over your head makes you 0:17:38.359 --> 0:17:42.080 a piece of ship. Yes, if you do not hold 0:17:42.160 --> 0:17:45.760 your parents and make point, hold up, and make my point. 0:17:46.240 --> 0:17:48.920 If you don't hold your parents, who were there for 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:53.440 you in the highest regards, you are a piece of ship. 0:17:53.760 --> 0:18:00.479 Father absent. But when he broke down and he had 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:03.560 a mid life crisis and everybody turned his back on him, 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:05.720 I nursed him back to health, and I thank god 0:18:05.800 --> 0:18:07.640 that he's back to health. But I didn't hold none 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:10.280 of I'm not I'm not saying it. This ain't about you. Though, 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:12.359 but it's a mini I'm not saying that you're an 0:18:12.359 --> 0:18:14.400 awesome woman, so I just not your point. The point 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:22.000 I'm making is read father said, I want, I want to. 0:18:23.480 --> 0:18:27.640 But remember I grew up in the eighties, so yeah, 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:30.760 I went through shipped too. But that's my father. He's been, 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:35.080 he's there. He's with me because he's not married, he 0:18:35.240 --> 0:18:38.160 has no one. I'm his daughter to make sure he's good. 0:18:38.840 --> 0:18:42.160 Guess what, I have a seven month old. Probably had 0:18:42.200 --> 0:18:45.479 I not had my baby, I can cater to everyone, 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:48.920 but she's my number one priority. I'm tired. So yes, 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:53.159 I went back and forth with myself, like, you know, 0:18:53.320 --> 0:18:55.800 what do I do because I get stressed out because 0:18:55.800 --> 0:18:58.760 I'm trying to make everybody in the house happy. I'm 0:18:58.760 --> 0:19:01.359 trying to make every body good. You don't think everybody 0:19:01.400 --> 0:19:03.879 in the house tries to make you happy. You're a 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:06.720 damn lie. That's why she's right here, Like, no, that's 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:08.359 not why she's the reason she right here right now. 0:19:08.400 --> 0:19:11.119 Because her father knocked her mom down, got her pregnant, 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:13.120 and literally did things to make sure she was okay. 0:19:13.400 --> 0:19:15.720 That's why she's here right now, not because she did ship. 0:19:15.920 --> 0:19:17.879 So she didn't even have to have a day and 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:20.680 that she's tired, and that she said that a day off, 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:27.520 and say a day off. I said, you, guys, she 0:19:27.640 --> 0:19:30.280 made a permanent but I went ahead. And what was 0:19:30.320 --> 0:19:34.159 I doing last night? What I do was I making plates? Well? No, 0:19:34.280 --> 0:19:36.200 actually Dad came out the room and I was like, oh, 0:19:36.359 --> 0:19:38.879 he he made his play. But I was gonna make 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:41.439 his play. But the whole point is, my whole thing 0:19:41.560 --> 0:19:43.840 is you guys are not even like you know what 0:19:44.840 --> 0:19:47.120 I got this? Do you want me to make your play? 0:19:47.320 --> 0:19:50.040 You sit down. You've been standing up literally from the 0:19:50.160 --> 0:19:52.640 time I get up in the morning at seven, I'm 0:19:52.800 --> 0:19:56.280 on my feet. I'm tiger. You're the only one. I 0:19:56.440 --> 0:20:01.040 work a reg I'm not a homemaker, but I'm working. 0:20:01.440 --> 0:20:03.800 Do you make the house? I make the house? No? 0:20:03.920 --> 0:20:05.560 Do you make the home or do you make the house? 0:20:05.600 --> 0:20:08.080 You know the difference? Yeah, I'm oh, yeah, I make 0:20:08.119 --> 0:20:09.840 the house. So you pay for the mortgage? No, I 0:20:09.880 --> 0:20:12.520 don't say you don't. Then stop buying in front of 0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:15.560 these people, these tens of thousands of people listen to 0:20:15.680 --> 0:20:19.880 this podcast that you make. See Joey, this is home. 0:20:20.280 --> 0:20:22.240 And I've been saying this to Joey. I mean this 0:20:22.560 --> 0:20:25.119 This is the point I've been saying to Joey. I said, look, Joey, 0:20:25.560 --> 0:20:28.640 I got Joey super big brother advice. I say, look, 0:20:29.280 --> 0:20:32.359 if nothing else, man, you gotta take care of your 0:20:32.359 --> 0:20:34.480 old lady. You gotta put the roof over here. You 0:20:34.560 --> 0:20:37.520 gotta really do more, because without it, they act like 0:20:37.600 --> 0:20:42.680 they're doing everything. I'm not minimizing a woman's work. That's 0:20:42.720 --> 0:20:46.080 just ridiculous. I think women in general, honestly, are even 0:20:46.200 --> 0:20:49.240 greater than men. Right, They're more adorable, They're stronger, like 0:20:49.680 --> 0:20:52.840 they can't vince pressed. But the durability, the ability to stretch, 0:20:52.960 --> 0:20:56.360 come back, put it together though through Paine makes you stronger. 0:20:56.840 --> 0:21:03.800 What are you a man? Are roses? I'm not with 0:21:03.920 --> 0:21:06.800 none of this ship you'll talking about. She put out money. 0:21:06.840 --> 0:21:12.960 I'm embarrassed, Like I'm totally flabbergasted. How dare you? If 0:21:13.040 --> 0:21:18.040 you if you if you walk, if you walk, if 0:21:18.080 --> 0:21:22.600 you walked and grabbed the door, I'm offended. But I 0:21:22.720 --> 0:21:24.760 am different with that, And I'm not saying this is 0:21:24.840 --> 0:21:27.560 the only way because I don't. I don't touch handles 0:21:27.600 --> 0:21:30.720 and stuff, but sometimes I do just wanna buy my 0:21:31.200 --> 0:21:34.320 person something. I'm not saying there's no crime in that 0:21:34.560 --> 0:21:38.600 I'm not mad. The foundation of it is okay, roses 0:21:38.680 --> 0:21:42.040 and ship. Right, So what I was telling Joey was 0:21:42.080 --> 0:21:45.440 I was saying, Joey, look, man, if your old lady 0:21:45.560 --> 0:21:48.880 feels like she has she has to work to do anything, 0:21:49.480 --> 0:21:52.240 she's going to make it the greatest thing that's going 0:21:52.320 --> 0:21:56.200 on in the house. She's gonna always feel neglected. She 0:21:56.240 --> 0:21:58.560 will always be like nobody appreciates me. She's not gonna 0:21:58.560 --> 0:22:00.520 think of nothing else that's happening the house, but the 0:22:00.560 --> 0:22:04.159 ship she do that's already women like you already got 0:22:04.240 --> 0:22:07.680 to deal that with that. Women women automatically as you, 0:22:07.880 --> 0:22:10.439 as far as putting in money to the household, then 0:22:10.440 --> 0:22:12.600 she's gonna feel like she's writing No, it don't matter 0:22:13.200 --> 0:22:15.040 when they leave their draws on the floor and you 0:22:15.200 --> 0:22:17.840 just cleaned up that tyme of ship like you don't 0:22:17.880 --> 0:22:27.000 appreciates up everywhere like peck the draws up when disrespect 0:22:27.359 --> 0:22:30.680 I don't care about. And that's the point up not 0:22:30.840 --> 0:22:35.240 listen because he paid the bills. He doesn't just listen. 0:22:35.440 --> 0:22:40.600 I can do that. The thing about a really good 0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:43.680 relationship is two people cleaning up behind each other. Don't 0:22:43.680 --> 0:22:45.280 clean up at all. I'm gonna tell you why. He 0:22:45.359 --> 0:22:47.920 cleans up. He cleans up in other ways. He cleans 0:22:47.960 --> 0:22:49.760 up the ship that you get your dumbas self into 0:22:49.800 --> 0:22:51.720 when you're be doing some bullshit. You got this flat 0:22:51.800 --> 0:22:54.800 tired because you were somewhere. Ye's being Nigga's clean up 0:22:54.800 --> 0:22:58.320 behind yall. Other ways, Nigg's clean up behind y'all own 0:22:58.400 --> 0:23:01.480 interest rates. Nigg's clean up behind y'all own bad decisions 0:23:01.520 --> 0:23:03.119 you make on food that cost too much money that 0:23:03.200 --> 0:23:10.000 you're not gonna eat, that's a huge clean up. Huge 0:23:10.000 --> 0:23:11.920 clean up is when you say some ignorant because you 0:23:12.040 --> 0:23:15.040