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Speaker 1: Hey, this is jonnas is Sam your og Okay Storytime

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Speaker 2: My in laws moved in without my permission and I

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Speaker 2: couldn't take it anymore. Bio get him out. So I

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Speaker 2: thirty three female, have been married to Tim thirty four

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Speaker 2: male for five years. He's incredibly family oriented, which normally

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Speaker 2: is sweet keyword. Normally, his mom, Laura sixties, his sister

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Speaker 2: Emma twenty one, Emma's boyfriend Chris twenty one, and Laura's

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Speaker 2: husband Jack sixties all lived together in Laura's home until

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Speaker 2: a gas leak turned their house into a carbon monoxide chamber. Yikes.

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Speaker 2: Thankfully no one was hurt, but the house needed major repairs.

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Speaker 2: We were told they'd be displaced for a while. By

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Speaker 2: the way, this comes from Creative Field sixty three ninety

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Speaker 2: the r slash Okay Storytime separated it. So here's where

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Speaker 2: it gets fun. Tim, you toilaterally decided to invite them

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Speaker 2: to live with us. Not ask me, not discuss it,

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Speaker 2: just told me they were coming twenty four hours before.

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Speaker 2: They showed up with suitcases and coolers of food, like

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Speaker 2: it was a summer camping trip. No, I would be

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Speaker 2: so upset, so upset. This wasn't a gim me host

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Speaker 2: them for a few days situation. This was they'll stay

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Speaker 2: until the house is fixed, which I later learned could

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Speaker 2: take months. I was livid. And before anyone calls me heartless, no,

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Speaker 2: I don't think you're heartless. I think that's crazy of

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Speaker 2: your partner. I grew up with three older siblings, two

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Speaker 2: the importance of family. I would give my family the

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Speaker 2: shirt off my back. But I also believe in boundaries,

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Speaker 2: especially when I wasn't consulted in my own dang house.

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Speaker 2: Now for context, Emma is the miracle baby, born after

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Speaker 2: Laura had long given up hope of another child. She's

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Speaker 2: the golden child, and Laura dotes on her like a

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Speaker 2: Victorian era air. Tim who's the second oldest, has spent

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Speaker 2: most of his life playing peacemaker and trying to earn

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Speaker 2: his mother's affection, especially since Laura and Tim's dad divorced

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Speaker 2: when he was ten. His dad and stepmom absolute angels, respectful, kind,

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Speaker 2: never overstep. Can't say the same about Laura and Jack.

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Speaker 2: Emma and Chris are both full time students with zero

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Speaker 2: job prospects. Chris spends all day in our media room

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Speaker 2: playing FPS games and vaping stress away yikes.

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Speaker 1: Well.

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Speaker 2: Emma uses her guest room as her personal content studio.

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Speaker 2: She's an aspiring lifestyle influencer with less than five hundred

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Speaker 2: followers and a ring light addiction. Jack just sits in

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Speaker 2: her sun room, reading and pretending the rest of the

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Speaker 2: world doesn't exist. And Laura she's been reorganizing my spice rack,

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Speaker 2: commenting on my wardrobe, and calling my dog hers. I

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Speaker 2: finally snapped after week two today when Laura told me

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Speaker 2: since I work from home and have no excuses. I

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Speaker 2: feel like that's like, that's the reason there, Yeah, what

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Speaker 2: he's talking about. It's a great reason. Yeah, I run

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Speaker 2: a consulting firm from my home. Off she thinks I

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Speaker 2: play on spreadsheets. I told Tim we needed to talk,

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Speaker 2: and he actually had the nerve to say, babe, don't

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Speaker 2: start their family. They needed us. Don't start, don't If

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Speaker 2: someone said babe, don't start to me, I say, oh,

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Speaker 2: so we're starting.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh.

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Speaker 2: Start line, room, room, room, We're just started.

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Speaker 3: That was that you just fired Blake's Oh those up

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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, ready set go.

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Speaker 2: Also just the fact that their family, no girl, their family,

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Speaker 2: So I didn't consult you, and I actually don't care

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we just have to like let them do whatever

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Speaker 2: I lost it. I told him they're his family, not

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Speaker 2: adults into our home without my input, that I felt disrespected, bulldozed,

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Speaker 2: but I'm not a dormat. He accused me of being

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Speaker 2: cold and said I don't understand what it's like to

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Speaker 2: come from a broken home. Oh don't put on the waterworks,

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Speaker 2: play your little violin somewhere else, buddy, Also trying to

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Speaker 3: It's like, okay, well explain it to me then, because

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Speaker 2: Really has nothing to do like your upbringing. Yeah, kind

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Speaker 2: of has nothing to do with the problem here, right,

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Speaker 2: because they've stayed for two weeks and saying, hey, you

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Speaker 3: And it's like if it was such a broken home, like,

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Speaker 2: What's that about? I reminded him that he married someone

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Speaker 2: from a healthy home where people ask before the impose

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Speaker 2: and boundaries are respected. It's like, yeah, okay, maybe you

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Speaker 2: grew up in kind of a bad family or a

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Speaker 2: right Yeah, Like, uh, just because Laura emotionally manipulated him

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Speaker 2: for decades doesn't mean I'm gonna let her run my

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Speaker 2: house like it's her second chance at suburban royalty. Now

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Speaker 2: he's sulking. Laura's been making martyr comments about not being wanted.

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Speaker 2: Emma passive aggressively posted a TikTok about people who don't

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Speaker 2: suppart your dreams, and I'm the villain in my own home.

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Speaker 2: I love my husband, but I feel like I'm being

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Speaker 2: punished for having a backbolt. Before we get into the

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Speaker 3: I hope that you see this when it comes out,

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Speaker 3: and I hope that you tag that girl that has

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Speaker 3: a ring light addiction. It's like, well, it's not that

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Speaker 3: I don't support your dreams. So all this crazy stuff

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Speaker 3: is happening now you weren't supposed to be here in

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Speaker 3: the first place, okay, and then you'll just start fighting

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Speaker 3: on social media and we'll be a part of that.

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Speaker 2: Exactly. Yeah, honestly, you could help if you really wanted to.

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Speaker 2: You could help Emma with her career by giving her

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Speaker 2: more drama to talk about. There you go, she'd probably

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Speaker 2: be more popular if she was like, yeah, my fat like,

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Speaker 2: mi right.

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Speaker 1: Give it with me.

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Speaker 2: Why talk about my sister in law? She's trying to

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Speaker 2: kick me out of my house. Exactly.

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Speaker 4: It's like, okay, yeah, just send her our way.

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Speaker 2: We'll help her.

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Speaker 4: We'll help her, for sure, will help.

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Speaker 2: Comments Common one says get them an Airbnb they can

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Speaker 2: stay there. I wouldn't stand for this in my house.

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Speaker 2: Comment two says change the Wi Fi password and don't

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Speaker 2: give it to any of them. Husband included if you

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Speaker 2: don't trust him not to pass it along. If Emma

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Speaker 2: wants to create content. She'll have to go somewhere else.

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Speaker 2: Chris will not be able to sit around all day

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Speaker 2: play in video games. They can both get jobs, learn

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Speaker 2: to read, or move out. Obviously, you need the internet

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Speaker 2: needs it. They want it, but do not eat it.

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Speaker 2: And if you are doing the food shopping, stop buying

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Speaker 2: any goodies or snacks they like. Start making life in

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Speaker 2: your home less comfortable for them all, so they will

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Speaker 2: want to move out sooner. People live for generations without

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Speaker 2: TV and internet. They'll survive, and mother in law and

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Speaker 2: father in law will probably try to increase the pace

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Speaker 2: He wasn't even trying to find a job, just sat

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Speaker 2: playing video games. I changed to the password, took all

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Speaker 2: quickly after that. Yeah, oh, take care of business. That

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Speaker 2: would only work if Opie's husband were on her side,

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Speaker 2: which he's not. Oh is this just an idea. It

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Speaker 2: hadn't happened yet. This is the comment. Oh yeah, this

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I don't know if he would be I

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Speaker 2: It'd be pretty hard to do all of this if

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Speaker 2: he wasn't on your side. Yeah, and once he was gone,

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Speaker 2: I gave a husband and kids back the WiFi password.

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Speaker 2: We all read a lot until he moved out because

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Speaker 2: no TV reply changed the password for both the WiFi

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Speaker 2: password to change it back. And folks, there's an update

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Speaker 2: and we're gonna get into it. Let's do it. Thank

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Speaker 2: you to everyone who commented, especially those who pointed out

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Speaker 2: how suspicious this ghastly situation was. Y'all gave me the

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Speaker 2: I went full detective mode. I told Tim I was

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Speaker 2: it didn't raise flags. Instead, I made three stops. Stop

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Speaker 2: supposed gas leak at Laura's address. They had no record

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Speaker 2: the problem here is that they're you know, staying for

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Speaker 2: so long. Now the gas leak might be fake. That's crazy.

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Speaker 2: So what are they doing here?

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Speaker 1: Are they here?

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Speaker 2: My gosh? Stop two the landlord. I called Laura's landlord

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Speaker 2: their house is a rental, to ask if they'd been

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Speaker 2: have been reported and handled asap. He'd just done a

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Speaker 2: and found nothing. Stop three, their actual house. Yup. I

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Speaker 2: drove over there, no warning signs, no work vehicles, nothing

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Speaker 2: look for after a carbon monoxide emergency. There were no

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Speaker 2: do not enter notices, no equipment, no new detectors installed, nothing.

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Speaker 2: The neighbors out front said that they hadn't seen any

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Speaker 2: cruise or heard about any leak either. I was fuming,

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Speaker 2: What do you mean? I'm now I'm like genuinely so confused. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: because why are they there? What are they doing?

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Speaker 4: Why are they at your house?

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Speaker 2: Like they have their own house that presumably they're paying for.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, they've been at your house for two weeks. Like

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Speaker 5: who are they riding from? They like in trouble with

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Speaker 5: ye law or with in a witness protection?

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Speaker 2: Literally, what's going on?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 2: I knew Emma's boyfriend, Chris is as sharp as a

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Speaker 2: wet paper towel and as the worst poker face known

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Speaker 2: to man. So I got him alone while everyone else

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Speaker 2: was at the beach again and calmly said, you're not

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Speaker 2: in trouble, but I need you to tell me the

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Speaker 2: He didn't even hesitate. He told them all to pack

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Speaker 3: Unfortunately, we've had multiple fallings out and have cut each

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Speaker 3: We politely as possible declined, but it wasn't taken very well.

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Speaker 4: I heard her say, oh, it's that witch's.

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Speaker 3: Problem, isn't it, referring to me and insinuating that it

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Speaker 3: Which, yeah, don't like that. Thinking about it, it was

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Speaker 3: He was ring shopping and again unbeenounced to me until

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Speaker 1: This is a great way to make your son go

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Speaker 2: This is on you. This is on you, mom, good one.

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Speaker 2: It's now twenty twenty.

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Speaker 3: Thanks to the bid, we got married in secret, just myself,

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Speaker 2: Sure that's a wow, Okay, equal way to do that.

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Speaker 3: but his mom wasn't you got married without me? How?

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Speaker 2: Could you get married without me?

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Speaker 3: So this excuse really did upset my husband. Husband was

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Speaker 2: As if it she already hasn't yet.

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Speaker 1: Oh boy, it's about.

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Speaker 2: Up so dramatic.

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Speaker 1: My goodness, you actually lost your son like the day

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Speaker 1: you were just like, Yeah, your fiance and your future

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Speaker 2: We all hate her.

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Speaker 3: We all have been talking about how much we hate her,

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Speaker 3: and we need to have an intervention with you so

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Speaker 3: you don't marry her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I'm out.

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Speaker 2: Mom, Like, come on.

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Speaker 3: She tried to suggest her strained relationship with her grandchildren

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Speaker 3: was my fault and not due to her own lack

438
00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:55,879
Speaker 3: of effort. I reminded her it's always her pain and

439
00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:59,000
Speaker 3: never her son's that she's concerned with. I said, I

440
00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:00,840
Speaker 3: couldn't care less if you turned up or not. It

441
00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:02,960
Speaker 3: doesn't change my life in the slightest, but for my

442
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:05,640
Speaker 3: husband and for our daughters, it would have been nice

443
00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 3: for you to make an effort for once.

444
00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:10,640
Speaker 4: And that is a quote from Oh Pete boom.

445
00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:12,639
Speaker 2: That's a great way to say that.

446
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:14,920
Speaker 1: Oh there's more, the quote continued.

447
00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:18,800
Speaker 3: The quote continues, not knowing about the wedding wasn't exclusive

448
00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:21,080
Speaker 3: to you. We ran away and wed because we were

449
00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:24,320
Speaker 3: in a pandemic. We should have been thrilled, not acting

450
00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:28,160
Speaker 3: like a little spoiled child. The messages finished with her

451
00:21:28,280 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 3: telling me, oh, and by the way, the only reason

452
00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:32,600
Speaker 3: I haven't laid you out is for the sake of

453
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:33,159
Speaker 3: the kids.

454
00:21:33,600 --> 00:21:37,000
Speaker 4: Think about that one, love, and keep looking behind you.

455
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Speaker 2: Just a bit of advice.

456
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Speaker 3: These are like the most like cheesy threatening lines, and

457
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:46,200
Speaker 3: I'm not threatened by them at all. I like, that's

458
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 3: so crazy. That was the final nail in the coffin.

459
00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:53,760
Speaker 3: Husband totally cut her off no contact. Just a week

460
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 3: before the wedding. Husband received one final message from mother

461
00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:59,480
Speaker 3: in law, which I've condensed down. I hope you realize

462
00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:01,040
Speaker 3: you made a bit make a mistake of your life

463
00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:03,760
Speaker 3: by marrying that witch. I will never forgive you for

464
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 3: letting her treat me how she has After everything I've

465
00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:10,680
Speaker 3: done for you. You are in such a controlling relationship.

466
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:13,440
Speaker 3: Why don't you wake up? I never want to see

467
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,879
Speaker 3: or speak to any of you again. As far as

468
00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 3: I'm concerned, you don't exist. Yeah, get it, backbone and

469
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:22,640
Speaker 3: stand up to her. You are no longer my son.

470
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:26,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're in such a controlling relationship. Break up with

471
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:30,400
Speaker 1: the right hour. I'm disowning you, and that's not controlling.

472
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 2: Do what I say.

473
00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:34,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can get out of that controlling relationship so

474
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:35,920
Speaker 3: you can stay in this one.

475
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

476
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,120
Speaker 1: You can only be in one controlling relationship at a time,

477
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:40,280
Speaker 1: and it should be with me.

478
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 2: Come bine. Oh my gosh, this is so crazy, dude.

479
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:47,840
Speaker 1: A ridiculousness.

480
00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:49,240
Speaker 2: Ridiculous.

481
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 3: This was two and a half years ago and the

482
00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,960
Speaker 3: no contact has remained the entire time.

483
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,600
Speaker 2: However, he has started saying how he.

484
00:22:57,560 --> 00:23:01,320
Speaker 3: Wants to make amends just in case she passes his words,

485
00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:03,959
Speaker 3: he's worried that she will pass away. She's in her

486
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 3: sixties and that's how things were left.

487
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:06,320
Speaker 2: Now.

488
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 3: Don't get me wrong, I have no idea the predicament.

489
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 3: My husband is and has been in I slash. We

490
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:13,919
Speaker 3: have a good relationship with my side of the family.

491
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 3: To be told it's us or her on multiple occasions

492
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:18,160
Speaker 3: can't have been easy.

493
00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 2: It just concerns me.

494
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 3: I feel like she'd thinks she was right, and more importantly,

495
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 3: she'd think my husband thinks so too. I've asked too

496
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 3: if he thinks anything his mom has said it's true,

497
00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 3: and he's adamantly denied.

498
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:31,880
Speaker 2: I do feel hurt.

499
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 3: He could forgive her or try to move past it

500
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:36,240
Speaker 3: after so little time.

501
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 1: You know, there is something to be said about Like

502
00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,200
Speaker 1: it's hard if somebody pass away, because that's you can't

503
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:44,440
Speaker 1: undo that at all, right, And that doesn't necessarily mean

504
00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:48,120
Speaker 1: that like all is forgiven or forgotten. Yeah, Like it's

505
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 1: just more like a logistics decision of like I'm going

506
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 1: to try to have something here, right, and it's like

507
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:56,640
Speaker 1: if you can be like, yeah, so here's the deal.

508
00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 2: I don't know.

509
00:23:57,880 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just like one of those things very complicated.

510
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 3: It might honestly be a thing where like could be

511
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:05,439
Speaker 3: mostly for him, you know. I mean, like if he

512
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 3: has something he wants to say to her.

513
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 4: You know, about things that he was grateful.

514
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 3: For somewhere in their relationship, Like maybe it's something like

515
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:15,400
Speaker 3: that that he just kind of needs to get out,

516
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:17,920
Speaker 3: you know, maybe he can write it on paper first

517
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:19,840
Speaker 3: and see if he feels like he wants to tell

518
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 3: her it or something.

519
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:25,919
Speaker 1: Like him for sure, more than like forgiving her for

520
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 1: everything right. And then you know, I always like to say,

521
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 1: silly baby, you just got to treat her like a

522
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 1: silly baby. When she starts saying silly baby stuff like

523
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:36,919
Speaker 1: she hates your wife, it's like, Uh, that's a silly

524
00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:39,720
Speaker 1: little baby thing to say. Oh, silly google ga gay.

525
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:40,880
Speaker 1: I wish my.

526
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:43,160
Speaker 4: Mom wasn't acting like a silly little baby, But ah,

527
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 4: what can you do?

528
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:46,000
Speaker 2: You know, that's just all it is. Really.

529
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:48,159
Speaker 3: I do feel hurt that he could forgive her or

530
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,439
Speaker 3: try to move past it after so little time.

531
00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:52,719
Speaker 4: I know, I feel like the wounded party.

532
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:55,120
Speaker 3: Most of her jobs were aimed at me, but they

533
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 3: did cut deep deep down. I know that this will

534
00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 3: happen again. He opens his life to her again and

535
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 3: she hurts him. It's what she does. But watching him

536
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,919
Speaker 3: fall into that again is hard. I've plainly told him

537
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,920
Speaker 3: if he pursues a relationship, I am continuing no contact

538
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 3: with her. What she said was too much for me

539
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:14,399
Speaker 3: to try and reconnect. But should I allow my children,

540
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:16,919
Speaker 3: one of whom she hasn't met.

541
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:18,119
Speaker 2: A relationship selfishly?

542
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 3: Selfishly, I know, but I don't want them to like

543
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 3: someone that hates their mother so deeply? Is it even

544
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 3: my call to make am I wrong to try and

545
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 3: discourage rekindling a relationship with my mother in law?

546
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 2: What's her answer to that question?

547
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:35,880
Speaker 1: My answer would be no. But I do think that

548
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 1: the way you need to go about this is just

549
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:41,159
Speaker 1: between you and your husband. Have a conversation about how

550
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:44,199
Speaker 1: you're feeling about it, and like where you want the

551
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 1: boundary to be set, like where do we go back

552
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 1: to no contact? Like, yeah, create a game plan together.

553
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 2: Yeap, I completely agree. There is a little bit of

554
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:55,719
Speaker 2: an edit. Its a little background info.

555
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 3: Mother in law never had a good relationship with her

556
00:25:58,520 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 3: own birth parents.

557
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 4: In law and father in law are no longer married.

558
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 3: During most of this story, she was remarried, but that

559
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 3: marriage recently ended. Both marriages husbands were borderline controlling, telling

560
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 3: mother in law they didn't like her friends, forcing sister

561
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 3: in law to go low contact with mother in law

562
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 3: due to a falling out regarding second husband. Also, none

563
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:21,200
Speaker 3: of mother in law's kids partners have been good enough

564
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 3: for their children. Sister in law's ex husband was supposedly

565
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 3: manipulative and controlling. Brother in law's girlfriends have always had

566
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 3: something wrong with them. X has kids. He never won kids?

567
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 3: Why so boring? He won't be tied down, et cetera.

568
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 1: My brother in law cut off his family and it's

569
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 1: being blamed on me.

570
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 2: Snip snip, you're out of there.

571
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:44,719
Speaker 1: I didn't do to snip in. I didn't do it.

572
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 1: This is some family drama concerning my in laws. For context,

573
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,399
Speaker 1: I female thirty five, have been with my husband, Harry

574
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 1: male thirty nine, for eleven years, married for four. Harry

575
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 1: has three half siblings, Sally female forty four, Roger male

576
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 1: forty six, and Kyle Mayle five twenty nine. They have

577
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,919
Speaker 1: the same mom, but Harry has a different dad. This

578
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:06,159
Speaker 1: is just for contact, as my husband has never been

579
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 1: treated any differently and has always been introduced as their brother.

580
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user throw that Stuff six' eight,

581
00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 1: nine directly from the r slash showkay storyti'me subreddit and

582
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 1: if you want to submit your, stories submit them. There oh,

583
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 1: so NOW i am luckier than most That on the,

584
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,359
Speaker 1: whole my in laws are. Great sally has become like

585
00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:31,439
Speaker 1: the SISTER i never, had and we're basically. BFFs joined

586
00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 1: at the. Hip she was my maid of honor at my.

587
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 1: Wedding i've always gotten along with the brothers and my

588
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 1: father in. Law, unfortunately they lost their mom before me

589
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:42,680
Speaker 1: And harry, met AND i think this has made them.

590
00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:45,679
Speaker 1: Closer sally has always acted like a mother hen to

591
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: all of the, brothers despite two of them being. Older

592
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 1: kyle has three children with his Ex taylor female twenty,

593
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:56,160
Speaker 1: Five haley female twenty, one And jake male. Fifteen about

594
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 1: three years, Ago taylor announced she was pregnant To Sally.

595
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 1: Rodger their, dad and some family friends that were there

596
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 1: for a. Party me And harry weren't able to make

597
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 1: it that, day, However taylor asked that they keep it

598
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:13,400
Speaker 1: quiet while she told everyone important. Herself these people included

599
00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 1: me And harry and his maternal. Grandmother months went, by

600
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 1: like probably two at a, minimum and still we didn't,

601
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 1: know and more, importantly my grandmother in law didn't. Either

602
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:28,160
Speaker 1: So sally kept trying to get them to tell her,

603
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:32,360
Speaker 1: repeatedly which she either got ignored or told they will

604
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 1: tell them when they're, ready Which sally said that there

605
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 1: are non family members who are aware of the pregnancy

606
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 1: and said it's going to get out. Eventually after these two,

607
00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:44,320
Speaker 1: Months sally called me up and told me About harry

608
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 1: and the. Pregnancy we were sworn to secrecy and we

609
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: said when she told, us we would act surprised. Spoiler

610
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 1: that took another two months until we were told over

611
00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 1: text she would have been around five or six months

612
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 1: pregnant and they did not know that we. Knew sally

613
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 1: asked whether she could tell grandmother in, law as she

614
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 1: was finding it difficult not to because she basically sees

615
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: her every single day as they live close, by and

616
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 1: even though grandmother in law is mostly, Independent sally does

617
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 1: help her out and go grocery shopping and do other

618
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 1: errands for. Her they are extremely close and she felt

619
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 1: bad for not telling her something as big as her

620
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 1: first great great. GRANDCHILD i, said maybe leave it a

621
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 1: few more, weeks and also Ask kyle And taylor when

622
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 1: they're planning to tell, her as it's becoming difficult for

623
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: you and is putting you in an impossible. Position she

624
00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 1: did just that and got crickets in. Return another piece

625
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 1: of context Around. Kyle he is absolutely terrible with. Money

626
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 1: he earns more than anyone else does in the, family

627
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 1: but is always constantly asking to borrow. Money his dad

628
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 1: has helped him numerous times to pay off, debt as

629
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: he's racked up credit card debt to the point where

630
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 1: he didn't have the income to pay it. Off kyle

631
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 1: is a nice guy and pleasant to talk, to but

632
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 1: we often don't hear from him until he wants.

633
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 2: SOMETHING i gotta love those types of, people.

634
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 1: The hey, man it's been a, while, hey so, uh

635
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 1: by the. Way on a real, level, though we are

636
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:08,479
Speaker 1: all guilty of doing that at some, point, sure but

637
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 1: it's when you do it every.

638
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 3: Time, time and there's no like genuine because if you

639
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 3: do it, enough it's, Like, okay you don't even care about.

640
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 4: Me you, might but from what you've shown, me it

641
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 4: doesn't seem like.

642
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 1: It, yeah Like kyle asking for money or a company

643
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 1: to go out drinking with him in the, bars although

644
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 1: he doesn't ask us for money anymore Because harry told

645
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 1: him no after we, met mostly BECAUSE i saw that

646
00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 1: he wasn't paying him back and Sending harry into financial,

647
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 1: issues SO i gave him the confidence to put his foot.

648
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 1: Down sally is a single mom and was constantly Bailing

649
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,440
Speaker 1: kyle out financially and never being paid. Back but then

650
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:49,440
Speaker 1: he would go in designer expensive clothing or buy a

651
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 1: new car that sort of. Thing, yeah when someone is

652
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 1: doing that and you don't hold them, accountable you are

653
00:30:56,880 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 1: part of the. Problem.

654
00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 4: Yeah it's like giving your dog food every time it.

655
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 2: Begs they're never going to leave you alone every time

656
00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 2: you have.

657
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 1: To, yeah and then they're are. Humans you're, Like i'm so,

658
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 1: SORRY i don't know why my dog does. This, yeah,

659
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 1: yeah you.

660
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 3: Do.

661
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Anyway, Eventually sally decided she was just going to

662
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 1: tell grandmother in law about the, baby thinking at this

663
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 1: point it had been three months since everyone was told

664
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 1: at the. Party. Now kyle had remarried To jess female forty,

665
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:25,600
Speaker 1: five about a year before this. Happened When jess was struggling,

666
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 1: Mentally kyle Asked sally to take her on walks and

667
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:32,000
Speaker 1: talk so she had a shoulder to cry on or talk,

668
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 1: to and also get out of the. House during one

669
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: of those, walks they were talking about baby, stuff And

670
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 1: sally took this opportunity to ask when they were going

671
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 1: to tell grandmother in. Law it had been four months

672
00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:44,920
Speaker 1: since the party at this, point And taylor was around

673
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 1: seven months. Pregnant. Wow jess wasn't sure and said that

674
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 1: they need to hurry up or Else she's gonna find

675
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 1: out from someone. Else sally felt bad and admitted that

676
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 1: she told grandmother in law because she couldn't keep this

677
00:31:57,120 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 1: a secret as it was too. Difficult jess promised to

678
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 1: tell anyone and agreed it had been too. Long jess

679
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 1: must have gone home and almost immediately Told, kyle which

680
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 1: was then passed To. Taylor sally got a message from

681
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 1: both of them telling her she was a quote horrible

682
00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 1: person and how she's taken the joy of telling grandmother in,

683
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:18,959
Speaker 1: law how it wasn't her news to, share et, cetera et.

684
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: Cetera sally defended, herself saying if four months wasn't long

685
00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 1: enough to tell grandmother in, law then they shouldn't have

686
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 1: told anyone until they were ready to tell. Everyone this is.

687
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:29,280
Speaker 1: TRUE i feel like you have no leg to stand

688
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 1: on being, like how dare? You it's like at this,

689
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 1: POINT i, mean seven months is super, premature but it's

690
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 1: like you could just have the. Baby, yeah, theoretically because.

691
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 3: Obviously you, know you want to wait at least like

692
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 3: a month or two when you first find out you're,

693
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 3: pregnant so that you, know just in case anything bad.

694
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 2: Happened but seven months in, dude you're locked.

695
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 3: In you're like pretty good, There SO i don't know

696
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 3: why they wouldn't tell the, Grandma, like were you.

697
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 1: Trying to like make it an extra extra, Surprise, like,

698
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 1: yeah it's gonna probably be a surprise no matter when

699
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 1: you tell.

700
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 2: Her for, like, yeah maybe they.

701
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 1: Don't have a good. Relationship maybe maybe there's it's complicated.

702
00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 4: There that would be the only thing that makes, Sense

703
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 4: but we haven't heard anything.

704
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: About, it but it. Doesn't they're keeping. That the fact

705
00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:14,720
Speaker 1: that they said you took the joy out of telling

706
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 1: it kind of makes me feel like that's not the,

707
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 1: Case so why would you wait so?

708
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 2: Long that's so.

709
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 1: Weird so this bickering went on for. Weeks sally eventually

710
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 1: decided she was going in no contact with them and

711
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:31,479
Speaker 1: blocked those that hadn't already blocked. Her sally hasn't spoken

712
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 1: to any of them. Since every now and, again Though

713
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 1: roger and her dad try to encourage her to mend

714
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 1: things which she feels bad. About she had tried reaching

715
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 1: out a few, times Wishing kyle a happy, birthday reaching

716
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 1: out When jake broke his, arm et, cetera always getting

717
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 1: one word. Responses kyle didn't Wish sally or her daughter

718
00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 1: a happy, birthday didn't reach out when her daughter had

719
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 1: suspected appendicitis and was in the, hospital or When sally

720
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 1: had to have security cameras installed due to a neighbor from.

721
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 1: Situation even, Worse kyle hasn't spoken or even seen grandmother

722
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 1: in law since Before taylor got. Pregnant she had a

723
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 1: milestone ninetieth birthday last year and received nothing From kyle

724
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:13,600
Speaker 1: or his. Kids the only one who has reached out Is,

725
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 1: haley but she asked to come see grandmother in. Law

726
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,800
Speaker 1: but could grandmother in law Ask sally to stay away

727
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 1: while she, visited as she didn't want to cross paths with.

728
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 1: Her grandmother in law told her no that if she

729
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 1: wanted to, come she would have to know that she's

730
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 1: not playing those games and she would either make it

731
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 1: work or not. Come, yeah ninety year old grandma doesn't

732
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:33,399
Speaker 1: have time for your.

733
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 2: Bs, Yeah like what is that asking your? Grandma it's, like,

734
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 2: oh can you, dude can you tell?

735
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:41,799
Speaker 1: Her can you make sure?

736
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:42,480
Speaker 2: Yourself?

737
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,840
Speaker 1: Yeah can you make SURE i don't See sally so

738
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:47,319
Speaker 1: THAT i don't have to deal with you, know the?

739
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 1: Situation she's, like you Mean, sally who's always? Here helping. Me, No,

740
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 1: nah you're probably gonna have to see.

741
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:57,720
Speaker 4: Her, Nah she's, Like i'm old enough to be a great.

742
00:34:57,760 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 2: GRANDMA i am not dealing.

743
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:05,240
Speaker 6: With this a great great, grandma a great great great great. Grandma,

744
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:08,840
Speaker 6: WELL i thoughd just great right because it's their, grandmother

745
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 6: like grandmother in law Of, Ope, yeah.

746
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:14,320
Speaker 2: She's too old to be dealing with his high school, crap.

747
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,919
Speaker 1: Dude, yeah she's too old to be having to wait

748
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:20,320
Speaker 1: seven months to know about the. Pregnancy she should be

749
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 1: the first person who gets told she's so.

750
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:25,439
Speaker 3: Exciting, yeah not a lot of people can be great

751
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:27,760
Speaker 3: great grandma's age before.

752
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:29,839
Speaker 2: Beauty tell her while you still, can.

753
00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 1: Dude. Truly so after all that she's chosen not to, Come, Christmas,

754
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:37,319
Speaker 1: birthdays even just general visits On sundays have not been

755
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 1: attended by, them which is WHERE i have my. Problem

756
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 1: grandmother in law did nothing, wrong so why is she being.

757
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 1: Punished One Father's day we went to eat for A

758
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 1: Father's day meal with, Me harry and my father in,

759
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 1: Law sally and her, daughter And kyle was. Invited, However

760
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,240
Speaker 1: kyle was not told That sally would be. There harry

761
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:56,840
Speaker 1: was getting us a drink at the bar When kyle,

762
00:35:56,960 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 1: Arrived harry was a bit, shocked as we Knew sally

763
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 1: would be coming and Assumed kyle wouldn't be. There just to,

764
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,320
Speaker 1: Clarify sally had no problem attending events That kyle was,

765
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 1: attending as she would just keep away or at least

766
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 1: be polite to. Him, however where, Possible kyle would either

767
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:13,760
Speaker 1: not attend or make sure he was in a completely

768
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:17,239
Speaker 1: separate room from her at all. Times harry was a

769
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: bit off with, him not sure whether he should let

770
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:22,240
Speaker 1: him know That sally was. Coming deciding that he should

771
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 1: be warned to avoid, drama he told. Him he stormed,

772
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:27,200
Speaker 1: off ignoring, me straight to his dad and, said you

773
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 1: didn't tell Me sally was. Coming i'm off, then and

774
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 1: left Before sally. Arrived, boo you're a little baby. Boy

775
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:37,359
Speaker 1: Now harry is annoyed Because kyle blatantly ignored me and

776
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 1: avoided me when he, left probably because of my close

777
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:43,760
Speaker 1: relationship With, sally and had annoyed his dad for this childish.

778
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 1: Behavior now he's Telling roger that he didn't leave because Of,

779
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 1: sally but Because harry was quote being weird with, him

780
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:52,320
Speaker 1: and it's my fault BECAUSE i was clearly Taking sally's

781
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:54,720
Speaker 1: side in all this and Poisoning harry against his, brother

782
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 1: and that he didn't ignore me at, all AND i

783
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 1: just made that. Up so just for some outside, personscives

784
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 1: are we the a holes for being annoyed about being

785
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 1: blamed for my brother in law's childish? Behavior and there

786
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 1: are some, comments, yes just. KIDDING i was, like oh, wow, yeah,

787
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 1: no that'd be. Crazy of course you're not the angles

788
00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 1: for being annoyed about. This, No i'm.

789
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 2: ANNOYED i don't even know you.

790
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 1: Guys, yeah it's just an annoying. Thing it's like we're

791
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:25,279
Speaker 1: in our late. Forties, yeah guy's almost. Fifty it's like

792
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:27,800
Speaker 1: you need to learn how to have a conversation literally

793
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 1: with your sister. Literally and by the, way they were a,

794
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:36,759
Speaker 1: holes yeah for not telling they're ninety year old, Grandmother

795
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:42,120
Speaker 1: hey my daughter's, pregnant or, hey great, Grandma i'm having a.

796
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:46,479
Speaker 3: BABY i just don't understand why it's such a big,

797
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 3: issue like why this whole thing is surrounded by, that

798
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:53,880
Speaker 3: like it surrounded that issue and it's such a silly

799
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:54,720
Speaker 3: issue to begin.

800
00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 4: With, yes like WHAT i JUST i just don't want

801
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:57,840
Speaker 4: to tell you.

802
00:37:57,880 --> 00:38:00,360
Speaker 3: Yet oh but, okay find That i'm gonna tell her

803
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 3: because you're seven months. Pregnant but oh my, gosh she

804
00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 3: took away all the.

805
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 2: Joys, yeah, well were You? Gonnat it makes just. Sense

806
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 2: you don't.

807
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 1: Want to do. It it makes no. Sense comments so

808
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:12,400
Speaker 1: weird to not tell the rest of the family about the.

809
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 1: Baby was it illegitimate and they feared? Judgment, okay So

810
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:19,960
Speaker 1: op says she wasn't, married but the baby daddy was her.

811
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:22,440
Speaker 1: Boyfriend no one in the family is religious and would

812
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:24,880
Speaker 1: not have judged her at. All she knows that no

813
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 1: one is, religious and my husband makes it well known

814
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 1: he is an. ATHEIST a reply to that, SAYS i

815
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 1: wonder if her dad was poisoning the well telling her

816
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:35,319
Speaker 1: not to tell people for financial, reasons like the possibility

817
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:37,320
Speaker 1: of your grandmother in law changing her will to include

818
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 1: a new grandchild and making his take. Less that is

819
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 1: the only way this makes. Sense, hey It's. Sam we're

820
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 1: gonna get back to the.

821
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 2: Stories but here's three minutes bads from our. Sponsors my

822
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:51,000
Speaker 2: family is ruining my wedding. Experience now they don't get to.

823
00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 2: Attend that's, right get out of. HERE i got engaged

824
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 2: In november twenty twenty. Four we planned our wedding For

825
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 2: november twenty twenty. Five, oohoo nice Nine so it was pretty.

826
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:07,680
Speaker 2: Quick i'm thirty one female and my fiance is thirty five.

827
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:10,759
Speaker 2: MALE i have three children that are not his biological,

828
00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 2: children and have six. Sisters most of my, LIFE i

829
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:16,839
Speaker 2: have been the black sheep of the. FAMILY i don't

830
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 2: talk to my family every, day mainly because it's exhausting

831
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 2: a lot of drama and always, bs AND i choose

832
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 2: my mental peace over that. Life by the, way this

833
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:29,560
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834
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:32,640
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835
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:34,120
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836
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 2: Slash okay storytime subread. It SO i KNEW i wanted

837
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:39,800
Speaker 2: my friends in the wedding because they are my support

838
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 2: system and always there for. ME i planned on asking

839
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:44,919
Speaker 2: two of my sisters out of the, six one being

840
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 2: too young for my wedding, party the other Two i'm

841
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:49,919
Speaker 2: not very close, with and my other one passed away

842
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 2: two years. Ago, oh so let's start with the SISTERS

843
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 2: i was putting. It let's call Them beth And. Tina

844
00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 2: beth and me are eleven months, apart have always been,

845
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 2: close but always fought a. LOT i Tell beth WHO

846
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 2: i plan on, asking and she's quick to, SAY i

847
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 2: need to ask all of my, sisters and guilt trips

848
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 2: me into. It beth, also BEFORE i asked, anyone went

849
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 2: and asked all of my friends if she was the

850
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:15,440
Speaker 2: maid of, honor which made me THINK i had to

851
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:17,720
Speaker 2: make her one or she would throw her usual temper

852
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 2: tantrum that she throws when she doesn't get. Away so

853
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 2: Now beth is my maid of. Honor my friends are my,

854
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:28,360
Speaker 2: bridesmaids And, tina, WELL i, ask let's call Them lisa And,

855
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:31,320
Speaker 2: sue my other two. Sisters sue, says, yes of. Course

856
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 2: then we come To lisa and her response was he's

857
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 2: all in. It SO i tell her and she never applies.

858
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:39,800
Speaker 2: Again that's. Crazy is this the younger?

859
00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 3: One?

860
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe that was the younger one, maybe but that's

861
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:47,440
Speaker 2: still a crazy. Response so that's literally like.

862
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 3: In being invited to a party and be like who's,

863
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 3: going but like someone's gonna be in your bridal?

864
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:58,439
Speaker 2: Party like not? YOU i, guess, Yeah so, whatever she's

865
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:01,959
Speaker 2: not in. It my fiance asks his five, friends my little,

866
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 2: brother And beth's father of her, kids Who i'm pretty close.

867
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:08,160
Speaker 2: With four months into planning the, wedding my sister's mom

868
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 2: and dad haven't asked me absolutely anything about the, wedding

869
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 2: But beth And tina. HAVE i went dress, shopping my

870
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:18,799
Speaker 2: Sister beth showed up and my. Friends this is where

871
00:41:18,840 --> 00:41:22,439
Speaker 2: it gets. MESSY i order my save the, dates sent

872
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:24,759
Speaker 2: money for the, stamps And beth sent them out for.

873
00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 2: Me everything good. There month, SIX i order my invitations,

874
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:32,399
Speaker 2: AGAIN i give them To beth to send. OUT i,

875
00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 2: like feel Like beth didn't send these. Out that's WHERE

876
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:37,720
Speaker 2: i feel like this is. Going there is around sixty

877
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:41,879
Speaker 2: to seventy invitations that cost around three hundred. Dollars give

878
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 2: them To, beth and this time forgot to send her

879
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:46,880
Speaker 2: the money for. Stamps he never asked for, it so

880
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:48,800
Speaker 2: it just slipped my mind with everything ELSE i was

881
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:51,400
Speaker 2: doing and being in busy season at, work SO i

882
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:55,239
Speaker 2: was working seven days a. Week, WOOF a few days,

883
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:57,760
Speaker 2: LATER i stopped at her house and the invitations are still.

884
00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:00,879
Speaker 2: There SO i asked when she was mailing you said.

885
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 2: TOMORROW a week passes AND i noticed no one got the,

886
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,839
Speaker 2: invitations SO i asked if she mailed. Them she, said.

887
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 2: Yes another week passes and still no one has got.

888
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:12,919
Speaker 2: Them SO i asked where she took them to mail,

889
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 2: them and she said she'd dropped them in a blue

890
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:17,680
Speaker 2: mailbox and said not to, worry don't order new, ones

891
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 2: they'll come a week. Later still. Nothing the post office

892
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 2: is about five minutes From beth's. House you never took

893
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 2: the time to stop there or. Anything SO i made

894
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 2: time and, went and they didn't have any information because

895
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 2: they were dropped in the. Box beth's solution was to text,

896
00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 2: me put your phone on video and stick your phone

897
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:38,200
Speaker 2: in the box and see if you see, them and

898
00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 2: would text me every few. Days, hello, AL i can't

899
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:42,880
Speaker 2: believe no one got. THEM i don't think they had

900
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 2: any POST i don't think they had any stamps on.

901
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:50,359
Speaker 2: Them OH i think she sent them without. Stamps oh my,

902
00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 2: gosh you, Fool you absolutely.

903
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:55,480
Speaker 4: Fool it definitely could have. Happened, yeah it's been.

904
00:42:55,320 --> 00:42:57,319
Speaker 2: A month at this. Point SO i reordered, them get

905
00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:00,120
Speaker 2: them and send. Them everyone gets them in two, days two,

906
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 2: days and also opday three hundred. Dollars, yeah and now

907
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 2: we're at six hundred. Dollars. Yeah beth asked me if

908
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:10,360
Speaker 2: she could have a plus one because she wanted a

909
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 2: friend to. Come this wedding is about two hundred dollars

910
00:43:13,040 --> 00:43:16,120
Speaker 2: per person and around one hundred people that are her,

911
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 2: family so it didn't make sense to, Me BUT i, said.

912
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 2: Okay my bridesmaids AND i went out for a night

913
00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:24,279
Speaker 2: out And beth was, drinking telling the whole bar she's

914
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 2: gifting me five hundred dollars towards my wedding. DRESS i

915
00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 2: got one and after, ALTERATIONS i didn't love, it SO

916
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:31,759
Speaker 2: i got a second oh, Wow but she then never

917
00:43:31,800 --> 00:43:35,400
Speaker 2: brought it up again or gave. It that's completely fine

918
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 2: BECAUSE i never put that in with my. Budgeting the

919
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:41,919
Speaker 2: point is why say. It the bride'smaids wanted to get

920
00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 2: together three months before the wedding to discuss everything and

921
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 2: go over everything because we haven't talked about the wedding

922
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 2: much and.

923
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 1: It was getting.

924
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:51,520
Speaker 2: Close the day before our meetup at my, HOUSE i

925
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 2: dropped all of my centerpieces and all of the glass vaces.

926
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 2: Broke oh, Man SO i Asked beth if she get

927
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 2: me new. Vases they were only like fifty, DOLLARS i

928
00:44:02,640 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 2: asked her BECAUSE i had to work before they were

929
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 2: coming over and only got off an hour before they were.

930
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:11,320
Speaker 2: Coming she, said, yeah no problem. GIRL i don't believe

931
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 2: this girl is gonna do. ANYTHING i don't believe it

932
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:17,359
Speaker 2: once after the stamp, Fiasco i'd just ask someone. Else oh,

933
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:20,440
Speaker 2: yeah oh, YEAH i just get off. Work she texts

934
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:23,919
Speaker 2: me she's bringing, someone AND i say. Who she says

935
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:27,080
Speaker 2: the name of her harmful ex. Boyfriend, oh AND i

936
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:31,400
Speaker 2: respond absolutely. Not she then calls all the other bridesmaids and,

937
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:33,879
Speaker 2: says why are we even doing? This it's. Stupid i'm

938
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:35,919
Speaker 2: about to not. Come she had the nerve to tell

939
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 2: me he couldn't. Come, yeah what is this her? Thing

940
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:42,719
Speaker 2: why are we even doing? This why are you eating

941
00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:46,719
Speaker 2: in this a wedding related? Thing because there's no death was.

942
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 2: MARRIED a bridesmaid, replied we were going over to talk

943
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:51,839
Speaker 2: about the. Wedding it's not about you or. Him and

944
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:54,839
Speaker 2: are you still getting the? Vases she, Said, Now i'm

945
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:57,440
Speaker 2: not doing anything for. Her she isn't making me pay for.

946
00:44:57,480 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 2: Everything what have you paid FOR i had all intentions

947
00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 2: of sending her the money for. This she did, come

948
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 2: and the whole time she was, there she didn't speak a.

949
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,920
Speaker 2: Word the next, day the guys are supposed to go

950
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 2: to the text, fitting And beth texts me the father

951
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:14,280
Speaker 2: of her children doesn't have the money for the. SUIT i, say,

952
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 2: okay what does that mean he's not? Going and she

953
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 2: REPLIES i don't. KNOW i then, say why don't you

954
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:23,360
Speaker 2: give him the one ady out of the five hundred

955
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:26,319
Speaker 2: you said you were gifting. Meat her reply, is he

956
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 2: didn't even know he was in the. Wedding there's no

957
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,040
Speaker 2: way he didn't know he was in the. Wedding he's

958
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:34,280
Speaker 2: in the bridal. Party, yeah we talked about it multiple,

959
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:37,400
Speaker 2: times and he was invited to all bridal party. Activities

960
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:40,320
Speaker 2: confirmed he was, coming was going to the text. Fitting

961
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 2: you mentioned she talked to him multiple times with the,

962
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 2: wedding so none of it made sense to. ME i

963
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:47,799
Speaker 2: text him and he says he expressed A beth that

964
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:52,080
Speaker 2: made him uncomfortable because he's socially awkward and antisocial and

965
00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 2: he can't see himself walking down an aisle months, ago

966
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 2: and she was supposed to talk to.

967
00:45:56,560 --> 00:46:00,200
Speaker 4: Me what that's? Crazy what that's?

968
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:03,920
Speaker 2: Crazy that's also you, suck. DUDE i don't like if

969
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 2: you're socially. Anxious what you? Agree, WELL i guess maybe

970
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 2: because he's socially, anxious he didn't know it turned it.

971
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 2: Down he didn't want. To he's, like so we are

972
00:46:13,200 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 2: now three months away from my, wedding one guy down

973
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 2: and the lineup being messed.

974
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:19,879
Speaker 4: Up, WELL i know a girl that you can knock.

975
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 2: OUT i know a, party big person that you could

976
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:25,360
Speaker 2: take out of the. Bridesmaids after all of this, happened

977
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 2: me and three, bridesmaids Including, sue were on FaceTime discussing

978
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 2: what to. Do my fiance added my cousin's husband who

979
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:35,360
Speaker 2: we are good friends, with and my cousin is a

980
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:37,880
Speaker 2: bridesmaid as. Well we paid for a suit since it

981
00:46:37,920 --> 00:46:40,319
Speaker 2: was so last minute to throw him. In let's get to.

982
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:42,840
Speaker 2: Suit WHEN i asked, her she said. Yes but the

983
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 2: first five months of, PLANNING i text her about bridesmaid dress,

984
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:49,800
Speaker 2: shopping wedding dress, shopping the, wedding and she never once,

985
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 2: replied would leave anything about the wedding on, red but

986
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:56,000
Speaker 2: text me about different things outside of the. Wedding in

987
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 2: the bridal group, chat she never once. Replied when it

988
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 2: came down to every everyone getting together to discuss the,

989
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 2: wedding she kept saying on her way and then never showed.

990
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 2: Up and WHEN i asked, why she, Replied i'm not

991
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 2: dealing with all those. People at this, POINT i was

992
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 2: frustrated and told her she didn't need to be in my.

993
00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 2: Wedding then we went a month without. Talking then we

994
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 2: made up AND i explained WHY i led up to

995
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,359
Speaker 2: punting her, out and if she promised to be more,

996
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:24,360
Speaker 2: involved she could be in the wedding if she wanted to,

997
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:26,759
Speaker 2: be and she said she wanted to. Be we had

998
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 2: a nice talk and both understanding and on the same,

999
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 2: page SO i, thought oh was. Exhausting, yeah your sister

1000
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 2: is making way too much.

1001
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 1: Trouble.

1002
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 2: SORRY i put her back in the group, chat and

1003
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:44,400
Speaker 2: she once again never, responded to the point that the

1004
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 2: other bridesmaids reached out to me with concerns because they

1005
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:50,280
Speaker 2: were trying to plan a bachelorette party and bridal shower

1006
00:47:50,320 --> 00:47:52,880
Speaker 2: and needed to know if she was contributing or even.

1007
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:55,600
Speaker 2: Coming she texted me and asked me to sit her

1008
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 2: boyfriend at my father's table since she was in the.

1009
00:47:57,760 --> 00:48:02,399
Speaker 2: Wedding are You are you the wedding laving her back from?

1010
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:06,239
Speaker 2: You and even if you, are like, you you're not

1011
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 2: the wedding.

1012
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 3: Planner, Nope you're just gonna go stand there and then

1013
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:11,839
Speaker 3: like plan the bachelorette.

1014
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:15,600
Speaker 2: Party that's all texted me about finding a new guy

1015
00:48:15,719 --> 00:48:18,399
Speaker 2: and not to let it stress me. OUT a week

1016
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 2: after finding a new guy for the lineup and, everything

1017
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 2: my cousin reaches out to her and asks if she's,

1018
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:26,160
Speaker 2: contributing et, cetera and she, SAID i don't know What i'm.

1019
00:48:26,160 --> 00:48:29,400
Speaker 2: Doing my cousin, says what do you, Mean and she,

1020
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:31,319
Speaker 2: SAYS i return my. DRESS i don't know if it'll

1021
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 2: be here in, time AND i don't want to keep

1022
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 2: getting punted, out SO i might not be in, it, Dude.

1023
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 4: LIKE i don't, KNOW i might just like be feeling

1024
00:48:38,520 --> 00:48:38,799
Speaker 4: weird that.

1025
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:39,879
Speaker 1: Day i'll see What i'm.

1026
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 2: DOING i might, LIKE i don't, know get my nails

1027
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 2: done or. Something, yeah we'll, See, like, no you're not

1028
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:48,120
Speaker 2: in it. Anymore you're if you're on, shore you're just

1029
00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 2: not in.

1030
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 3: It and then it's great because we don't have, you

1031
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 3: you crazy butt in the, wedding and then we also.

1032
00:48:54,080 --> 00:48:56,359
Speaker 2: Aren't uneven in the line of. Anymore per perfect works.

1033
00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 2: Out my cousin, replies if that's the, case you need

1034
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:01,319
Speaker 2: to tell her a, meeting and she, SAID i don't

1035
00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:04,000
Speaker 2: know What i'm Doing i'll tell her later, on and

1036
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:05,879
Speaker 2: my cousin, said if you don't want to tell, HER

1037
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 2: i will because but she literally fixed this issue a

1038
00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 2: week ago and she needs to know because her wedding

1039
00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:15,160
Speaker 2: is three months. Away she didn't tell, me so my cousin,

1040
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 2: did AND i texted her and, said do we need

1041
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:21,040
Speaker 2: to talk about. Something she, Replies i'm just worrying my.

1042
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:24,360
Speaker 2: Dress thumpy here three months for? Now you think that

1043
00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 2: your dress is not going to come within three? Months

1044
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 2: SO i told Her i'd call and, check AND i

1045
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:32,399
Speaker 2: did and they said it will BE i tell her

1046
00:49:32,440 --> 00:49:34,719
Speaker 2: and explain WHY i punted her out in the first

1047
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 2: place once, again and told HER i thought we had

1048
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:39,719
Speaker 2: a good talk before and we were both on the same,

1049
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:42,640
Speaker 2: page and tell her this is the last Time i'm

1050
00:49:42,640 --> 00:49:44,400
Speaker 2: going to ask if she's being in it or, not

1051
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 2: and if she couldn't, be that was. Fine it was

1052
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:50,280
Speaker 2: completely up to. HER a day goes by no, reply

1053
00:49:50,760 --> 00:49:53,560
Speaker 2: but she was texting my cousin the whole. Time then

1054
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:58,080
Speaker 2: she finally replies. Yes my cousin then asks her about

1055
00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:01,120
Speaker 2: contributing because she had to book something ace app and she,

1056
00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:03,399
Speaker 2: Replies i'm waiting to see if my dress is gonna

1057
00:50:03,400 --> 00:50:07,239
Speaker 2: come in, time you freaking. Liar, yeah you know it.

1058
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 3: Is it's such a terrible excuse to like put your

1059
00:50:11,640 --> 00:50:14,520
Speaker 3: claws into and hang on literally come up with something.

1060
00:50:14,560 --> 00:50:17,480
Speaker 2: Better come. ON i then text her again to reassure.

1061
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 2: HER i talk to them and it will arrive in.

1062
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:22,440
Speaker 2: Time she leaves me On red and it's been a,

1063
00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:25,360
Speaker 2: day SO i don't have an update on. That any

1064
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:29,160
Speaker 2: final thoughts on what to do with this, terrible terrible Sister.

1065
00:50:29,239 --> 00:50:31,879
Speaker 2: Beth get her out of. There, YEAH i just would

1066
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:34,759
Speaker 2: never in the. Wedding, yeah if she's this back and,

1067
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 2: Forth i'd be, like, Girl i'm, sorry you're just not.

1068
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:41,080
Speaker 3: RELIABLE i mean it started off bad when she was, like,

1069
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:44,799
Speaker 3: okay well so that SHE i avoid her, Tantrum i'm

1070
00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:46,960
Speaker 3: gonna make her my maid of. Honor but she's not

1071
00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:48,840
Speaker 3: even doing any of the made of honor. Stuff, no

1072
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:52,160
Speaker 3: not unless you have to like hold her hand through.

1073
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:52,880
Speaker 1: It and then.

1074
00:50:52,800 --> 00:50:55,080
Speaker 3: Even like planning the bachelor, party everyone else is doing

1075
00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:58,280
Speaker 3: that and she's not even, responding like she's not. There

1076
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:01,319
Speaker 3: she's not, there she's not that she can come to

1077
00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:04,239
Speaker 3: the wedding, shore but she's just not reliable for, This

1078
00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 3: like you have a little bit of responsibility for the, bridesmaids, like.

1079
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 2: And she can't she can't meet. That, come oh, bye

1080
00:51:10,760 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 2: you're out of the wedding bucks to. Six, yeah but

1081
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:15,760
Speaker 2: there is a little bit. Left let's get to. Dad

1082
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:18,279
Speaker 2: him and mom split up WHEN i was. Young he got.

1083
00:51:18,320 --> 00:51:20,440
Speaker 2: Remarried she was never a fan of, me AND i

1084
00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:22,319
Speaker 2: was never a fan of. HER i was a twelve

1085
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:24,799
Speaker 2: year old little girl who wanted my parents. Together you

1086
00:51:24,840 --> 00:51:27,399
Speaker 2: never got over. It so, now for the last ten,

1087
00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 2: Years dad hasn't invited me to any holiday get together

1088
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:33,840
Speaker 2: but invites all of my other, sisters hasn't come to

1089
00:51:33,880 --> 00:51:36,080
Speaker 2: any of my children's birthday, parties but makes it to

1090
00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 2: my niece and nephew's. Parties hasn't really been involved in

1091
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:41,520
Speaker 2: my life at. All SO i chose to have my

1092
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 2: thirteen year old son walk me down the. Aisle all

1093
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 2: that's really. HUGE i love That beth And sue keep

1094
00:51:47,680 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 2: pushing to allow him to walk me down the aisle

1095
00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:52,799
Speaker 2: and how it will hurt. Him beth needs to shut, Up,

1096
00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 2: yeah BUT i. Don't they never put into consideration how

1097
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:58,960
Speaker 2: it hurt me and my kids to basically be shunned

1098
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:02,960
Speaker 2: from all holidays and family gatherings because they were invited

1099
00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:06,080
Speaker 2: and didn't know how it. Felt he then starts texting,

1100
00:52:06,120 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 2: me AM i walking you down the? Aisle nothing, more nothing?

1101
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:12,839
Speaker 2: Less just is he doing? It at this, Point i'm

1102
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 2: so fed up and feel like my wedding's a huge

1103
00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:17,440
Speaker 2: mind game for them to mess with, me and they're

1104
00:52:17,520 --> 00:52:20,480
Speaker 2: ruining the experience for. Me so AM i the ale

1105
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 2: for wanting to remove most of my immediate family from my?

1106
00:52:23,480 --> 00:52:28,840
Speaker 2: WEDDING i don't think, That, OKAY i think that you

1107
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:31,480
Speaker 2: should remove them all from your wedding. PARTY i don't

1108
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 2: think that they should have any involvement in the actual,

1109
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:39,120
Speaker 2: light you, know anything that's going on with the. Wedding

1110
00:52:39,280 --> 00:52:41,920
Speaker 2: BUT i don't know if you. SHOULD i don't know

1111
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 2: if you have to invite the uninvite them from the wedding. Itself,

1112
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:46,520
Speaker 2: YEAH i.

1113
00:52:46,520 --> 00:52:49,120
Speaker 3: Mean if the dad was already like not, Invited, yeah

1114
00:52:49,160 --> 00:52:50,200
Speaker 3: then you keep them.

1115
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:51,799
Speaker 2: UNINVITED i don't think that's a.

1116
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:55,759
Speaker 3: Problem but, sisters, yeah you wouldn't be the a hole

1117
00:52:55,840 --> 00:52:57,800
Speaker 3: for the amount of your wedding.

1118
00:52:57,800 --> 00:53:00,360
Speaker 4: Party, FIRST i, AGREE i, think, yeah do that because

1119
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:01,759
Speaker 4: now you they're.

1120
00:53:01,840 --> 00:53:04,480
Speaker 2: Useless, yeah but, YEAH i mean like.

1121
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:06,880
Speaker 3: There are some, People, yeah you probably could keep in your.

1122
00:53:06,880 --> 00:53:09,359
Speaker 3: Wedding if you don't want to do, THAT i, mean it's.

1123
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:12,200
Speaker 2: Completely up to. You it just seems like most of

1124
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 2: the problems are coming from them not fulfilling the duties

1125
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:19,279
Speaker 2: and responsibilities that you ask them to. Do but if

1126
00:53:19,280 --> 00:53:21,839
Speaker 2: you just don't have them have any of, those then,

1127
00:53:22,320 --> 00:53:24,360
Speaker 2: YEAH i feel like some of those problems will go.

1128
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:25,040
Speaker 2: Away it might be.

1129
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 1: Good, Yeah, john, here we're gonna get back to this juicy,

1130
00:53:27,440 --> 00:53:29,279
Speaker 1: story but a quick three minute break of ads from our.

1131
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 3: SPONSORS i backed out last minute BECAUSE i refuse to

1132
00:53:33,480 --> 00:53:34,040
Speaker 3: sleep on a.

1133
00:53:34,120 --> 00:53:35,839
Speaker 2: Mattress well sprang with an air.

1134
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 3: MATTRESS i had twenty seven female and three friends made

1135
00:53:39,560 --> 00:53:41,560
Speaker 3: a last minute plan to go to the mountains this.

1136
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:44,200
Speaker 3: Weekend our group is a couple let's call Them jay

1137
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:47,399
Speaker 3: twenty seven female And sam thirty two, female and two

1138
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 3: single Friends me And alex twenty six. Male by the,

1139
00:53:50,239 --> 00:53:52,440
Speaker 3: way this comes From Agent olympus and if you want

1140
00:53:52,440 --> 00:53:54,160
Speaker 3: to submit your own, stories go to the r Slash

1141
00:53:54,200 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 3: okay Story Time. Supreddit AND i Am, Angie I'm, sophia

1142
00:53:58,600 --> 00:53:58,919
Speaker 3: And I'm.

1143
00:53:59,000 --> 00:54:02,319
Speaker 2: Riley and he, says we actually found a good.

1144
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:05,200
Speaker 3: Airbnb at first it had two, bedrooms one with the

1145
00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 3: king bed and one with two single. Beds alex AND

1146
00:54:08,120 --> 00:54:10,359
Speaker 3: i were totally fine sharing the second room as long

1147
00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:13,400
Speaker 3: as we had our own, bed But jay kept saying

1148
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:15,840
Speaker 3: that she wanted a. Pool this is, Short this is

1149
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:18,359
Speaker 3: a short two day trip and we're just staying one.

1150
00:54:18,480 --> 00:54:21,040
Speaker 2: NIGHT i really didn't see why a pool was a big.

1151
00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:23,800
Speaker 3: Deal we kept going back and forth trying to, decide

1152
00:54:23,840 --> 00:54:26,240
Speaker 3: and the place got booked by someone.

1153
00:54:26,280 --> 00:54:26,520
Speaker 1: Else.

1154
00:54:26,920 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 3: Great after, that the only places we could find had

1155
00:54:29,760 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 3: just one, bedroom a pull out, couch and an air.

1156
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 3: Mattress alex is recovering from an, injury so of course

1157
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 3: he shouldn't be on the air. Mattress the couple immediately

1158
00:54:38,440 --> 00:54:40,960
Speaker 3: said that they wanted the, bedroom but they're not offering

1159
00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:41,640
Speaker 3: to pay more for.

1160
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 2: It that leaves me with the air.

1161
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:47,720
Speaker 3: Mattress jay And sam both don't have a driver's, license

1162
00:54:47,760 --> 00:54:49,960
Speaker 3: And alex can't drive right now because of his, injury

1163
00:54:50,080 --> 00:54:52,920
Speaker 3: So i'm the only one who could drive us there and.

1164
00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:55,160
Speaker 2: Back AND i get the air mattress for. That come, on.

1165
00:54:55,239 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 3: Guys so on top of, That i'm also the one

1166
00:54:58,000 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 3: who has to work On. MONDAY i really don't want

1167
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:03,080
Speaker 3: to be the one driving for, hours sleeping on an

1168
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:05,359
Speaker 3: air mattress and then dragging myself to work the next,

1169
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:08,600
Speaker 3: day all tired and. SORE i genuinely hate sleeping on

1170
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:11,160
Speaker 3: an air. MATTRESS i always sleep like crap and it

1171
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:14,200
Speaker 3: hurts my. Neck SO i told them THAT i was backing.

1172
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 3: OUT i told them that if they really wanted to

1173
00:55:16,640 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 3: do a trip like, this they need to plan it

1174
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:21,600
Speaker 3: better so that everyone is. Comfortable alex And sam seemed to,

1175
00:55:21,680 --> 00:55:24,839
Speaker 3: understand But jay got. Annoyed she SAID i was being

1176
00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:27,279
Speaker 3: a party pooper and THAT i was being, selfish and

1177
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 3: THEN i was ruining the.

1178
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 2: Weekend says the one who literally lost the nice place

1179
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:33,240
Speaker 2: for the pool place literally.

1180
00:55:33,400 --> 00:55:33,760
Speaker 1: Sucks.

1181
00:55:33,840 --> 00:55:36,799
Speaker 3: Literally she told me THAT i should just adjust so

1182
00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 3: that we could all have. Fun for a, MOMENT i

1183
00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:41,480
Speaker 3: really did think THAT i was overreacting because it's just

1184
00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:43,680
Speaker 3: one night and going to the mountains would be super.

1185
00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:46,480
Speaker 3: Fun but, honestly it just doesn't feel fair THAT i

1186
00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:49,400
Speaker 3: have the worst sleeping arrangement and still get labeled as the.

1187
00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:52,080
Speaker 3: Problem so AM i the a hole for backing out

1188
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 3: last minute BECAUSE i didn't want to sleep on an

1189
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:56,960
Speaker 3: air Mattress and there are some comments it feels like.

1190
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:59,440
Speaker 2: It's not really about the air. Mattress jay's trying to

1191
00:55:59,480 --> 00:56:02,400
Speaker 2: control all the stuff and then you're getting left with

1192
00:56:02,440 --> 00:56:03,200
Speaker 2: all the crap.

1193
00:56:03,239 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 3: Stuff yeah, yeah, yeah exactly like. You, really you don't

1194
00:56:06,719 --> 00:56:08,200
Speaker 3: have to be there at. All you could just not

1195
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 3: want to go because you just don't want. To so,

1196
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:12,040
Speaker 3: yeah definitely not the a. Hole do what you.

1197
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:13,160
Speaker 2: Want there are some.

1198
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:17,800
Speaker 3: Comments snack And penguin, says that's legit crap. Beep everyone

1199
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:19,839
Speaker 3: pays the same, price but you get the worst bed

1200
00:56:19,920 --> 00:56:23,480
Speaker 3: option and are the designated. Driver, nah they're just mad

1201
00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:25,520
Speaker 3: because they can't do any of this without, you but

1202
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:30,200
Speaker 3: not on, appreciating but not appreciating the extra effort on your.

1203
00:56:30,239 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 3: Part not the a hole Status painter forty sixty one,

1204
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:36,480
Speaker 3: says have them sleep on the air mattress you get the.

1205
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:38,839
Speaker 3: Bed seems only fair since you were driving and have

1206
00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:42,760
Speaker 3: to work On, monday dangerous. Winter elf, says even without

1207
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:45,279
Speaker 3: work On, MONDAY i wouldn't want to sleep on an

1208
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:48,719
Speaker 3: air mattress after driving up their activities and, whatnot and

1209
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:52,279
Speaker 3: after sleeping like, crap do hours of driving. Back, yeah

1210
00:56:52,320 --> 00:56:55,840
Speaker 3: that's a good point. Toom that's just a big, no thank.

1211
00:56:55,880 --> 00:56:58,879
Speaker 3: You another commentary, says not the a. Hole jay thought

1212
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 3: it was more important for her to have a pool

1213
00:57:00,640 --> 00:57:02,520
Speaker 3: then for you to have a bed that shows what

1214
00:57:02,600 --> 00:57:04,399
Speaker 3: kind of person they, are and on top of, that

1215
00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:05,640
Speaker 3: to call you the selfish.

1216
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 2: One but we do have an update from five days.

1217
00:57:08,160 --> 00:57:12,360
Speaker 3: Later, Boy so thanks to everyone who replied to my original.

1218
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:15,120
Speaker 3: Post your responses really helped me feel LIKE i wasn't

1219
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:18,280
Speaker 3: crazy if you're feeling. Frustrated, UNFORTUNATELY i had to go

1220
00:57:18,320 --> 00:57:19,840
Speaker 3: on the trip BECAUSE i couldn't cancel the.

1221
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:22,440
Speaker 4: Airbnb, dang that was WHAT i was wondering.

1222
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 1: About.

1223
00:57:23,280 --> 00:57:27,040
Speaker 3: Darn now that the trip is finally, OVER i wanted

1224
00:57:27,040 --> 00:57:28,840
Speaker 3: to post a quick. UPDATE i hope they paid you

1225
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:29,560
Speaker 3: so much money for.

1226
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:32,080
Speaker 2: GAS i hope they paid gas money.

1227
00:57:32,160 --> 00:57:35,440
Speaker 3: Too, yeah for a bit more, CONTEXT i moved to

1228
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:37,040
Speaker 3: a new city last, year And i've been friends with

1229
00:57:37,080 --> 00:57:38,200
Speaker 3: these people for a little over a.

1230
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:40,640
Speaker 2: Year SO i haven't known these people for a very long.

1231
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 3: Time but we've gone out, drinking grabbed, food and gone

1232
00:57:44,080 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 3: to the movies a few. Times they've always seemed pretty,

1233
00:57:46,160 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 3: chill which is WHY i thought it wouldn't be a

1234
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:48,920
Speaker 3: bad idea to do a short trip with.

1235
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 1: Them turns OUT i was very.

1236
00:57:50,880 --> 00:57:51,200
Speaker 3: Wrong.

1237
00:57:51,640 --> 00:57:53,160
Speaker 2: Yep now onto the actual.

1238
00:57:53,240 --> 00:57:56,720
Speaker 3: UPDATE i had already booked everything before the whole sleeping arrangement.

1239
00:57:56,800 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 3: Argument my, BAD i, KNOW i, KNOW i just had

1240
00:57:58,960 --> 00:58:00,880
Speaker 3: to do it quickly because it was the fourth Of july.

1241
00:58:00,960 --> 00:58:04,160
Speaker 3: Week got, Dang, yeah those book up, Quick, yeah the,

1242
00:58:04,200 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 3: airbnb the gondola, tickets shuttle, tickets and even prepaid. Parking

1243
00:58:08,440 --> 00:58:11,560
Speaker 3: after realizing the airbnb couldn't be, CANCELED i Figured i'd

1244
00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 3: just go. ANYWAY i even messaged the host to ask

1245
00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:15,959
Speaker 3: if she could help us with another mattress or. Something

1246
00:58:16,320 --> 00:58:18,040
Speaker 3: she said the pullout couch would be big enough for

1247
00:58:18,080 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 3: two people and just looked small in the. Photos at that,

1248
00:58:20,920 --> 00:58:23,240
Speaker 3: Point sam And jay still wouldn't, budge SO i told

1249
00:58:23,280 --> 00:58:24,360
Speaker 3: Myself i'd just suck it.

1250
00:58:24,360 --> 00:58:25,520
Speaker 2: Up and deal with it for one.

1251
00:58:25,600 --> 00:58:29,200
Speaker 3: Night we were supposed to leave Early saturday, morning and

1252
00:58:29,240 --> 00:58:31,400
Speaker 3: they were supposed to show up at my place by

1253
00:58:31,480 --> 00:58:34,040
Speaker 3: five THIRTY am so we could leave by, six and

1254
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:37,640
Speaker 3: all of them only reached around seven fifteen to seven,

1255
00:58:37,720 --> 00:58:40,200
Speaker 3: thirty so we ended up starting the drive late.

1256
00:58:41,000 --> 00:58:42,120
Speaker 2: H, s pissing me.

1257
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:45,680
Speaker 3: Off we only got to the town around one. Pm

1258
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 3: then they took two hours to eat, lunch and because of,

1259
00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 3: that we missed our shuttle to the. Gondola WHEN i

1260
00:58:51,520 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 3: suggested that we'd just do a short hike, instead they

1261
00:58:54,280 --> 00:58:56,480
Speaker 3: said that they were too tired and just wanted to

1262
00:58:56,480 --> 00:58:59,440
Speaker 3: get drinks at the local. Bar SINCE i refused to

1263
00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:02,160
Speaker 3: drive them to the, bar they got it delivered and

1264
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:05,200
Speaker 3: they stayed up drinking on the couch aka my bed

1265
00:59:05,240 --> 00:59:07,800
Speaker 3: for the night and didn't let me sleep until two.

1266
00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:13,360
Speaker 2: Am, DUDE i literally would like stop being friends with these.

1267
00:59:13,360 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 3: People they got absolutely wasted and told me that they

1268
00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:17,600
Speaker 3: weren't going to the lake the next, morning and then

1269
00:59:17,680 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 3: passed out on the couch slash.

1270
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:21,680
Speaker 2: FLOOR i did get the, bed but at what. Cost.

1271
00:59:22,080 --> 00:59:25,280
Speaker 3: WELL i woke up at around seven am to cancel

1272
00:59:25,320 --> 00:59:27,640
Speaker 3: our shuttle tickets and started cleaning up the airbnb at

1273
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:30,640
Speaker 3: before our eleven am check. Out they didn't wake up

1274
00:59:30,720 --> 00:59:33,200
Speaker 3: till ten, thirty AND i had to beg them to

1275
00:59:33,200 --> 00:59:34,680
Speaker 3: get dressed so that we could check out on.

1276
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:36,800
Speaker 2: Time Poor, ops the one who's paying for all of

1277
00:59:36,800 --> 00:59:38,200
Speaker 2: this exactly it's unhr.

1278
00:59:38,320 --> 00:59:41,560
Speaker 3: THING i was so done at this, point SO i

1279
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:44,400
Speaker 3: drove them all back To alex's place and went. Home

1280
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:47,040
Speaker 3: so we did absolutely nothing on the trip except to

1281
00:59:47,120 --> 00:59:49,440
Speaker 3: take a sixteen minute gondola ride up and down a.

1282
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:54,160
Speaker 2: Mountain no one has paid me back for. Anything i'me of,

1283
00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:55,120
Speaker 2: course so.

1284
00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:59,360
Speaker 3: Angry FOR I i'm so, angry my, goodness not for the,

1285
00:59:59,360 --> 01:00:02,600
Speaker 3: airbnb not for the, gas not even for the. Tickets

1286
01:00:02,880 --> 01:00:05,080
Speaker 3: you were all. RIGHT i was just the driver and

1287
01:00:05,160 --> 01:00:08,160
Speaker 3: just someone who helped make their trip. CHEAPER i don't Think.

1288
01:00:08,080 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be hanging out with the pool.

1289
01:00:09,480 --> 01:00:12,160
Speaker 3: Anymore all wait to get my money back IF i ever,

1290
01:00:12,240 --> 01:00:13,240
Speaker 3: do and Then i'm.

1291
01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:18,040
Speaker 2: Done, literally do not stop bothering them about. It, absolutely say, like, hey,

1292
01:00:18,320 --> 01:00:19,680
Speaker 2: hey this is how. Much this is so? Much it

1293
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:22,120
Speaker 2: is so much it Is i'll please send me the.

1294
01:00:22,160 --> 01:00:22,800
Speaker 2: Money send me the.

1295
01:00:22,840 --> 01:00:24,840
Speaker 3: Money you're not gonna be friends with them, afterwards. Anyway

1296
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:26,320
Speaker 3: well here's if they don't like, you so piss them.

1297
01:00:26,320 --> 01:00:28,640
Speaker 2: Off, yeah show about their. House you don't WHERE i.

1298
01:00:28,720 --> 01:00:31,360
Speaker 2: LIVE i give me money right. NOW i need my. Money.

1299
01:00:31,480 --> 01:00:33,200
Speaker 4: Yeah i'll drive you to the bank so you can

1300
01:00:33,200 --> 01:00:33,440
Speaker 4: give me.

1301
01:00:33,520 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 3: Money.

1302
01:00:33,760 --> 01:00:35,280
Speaker 2: YEAH i won't even charge you for gas to drive

1303
01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:37,480
Speaker 2: to the. Bank, yeah exactly to give me your.

1304
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:39,960
Speaker 3: Money it feels kind of sad because these are some

1305
01:00:39,960 --> 01:00:41,680
Speaker 3: of the first FRIENDS i made since moving to the.

1306
01:00:41,720 --> 01:00:46,640
Speaker 3: City but, honestly life's too short to spend around, selfish inconsiderate. People,

1307
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:49,680
Speaker 3: true deep, DOWN i already knew this trip would be a,

1308
01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:51,120
Speaker 3: mess BUT i had to learn it the hard.

1309
01:00:51,120 --> 01:00:52,160
Speaker 2: WAY i guess.

1310
01:00:52,040 --> 01:00:54,320
Speaker 3: Hopefully next Time i'll spot people like this a little,

1311
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:57,840
Speaker 3: earlier lesson. Learned, YEAH i feel like WHAT op could

1312
01:00:57,840 --> 01:01:00,520
Speaker 3: have done is, LIKE i, mean, obviously you, know in,

1313
01:01:00,600 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 3: hindsight you don't know what's gonna. Happen you could be, like, okay,

1314
01:01:03,560 --> 01:01:05,439
Speaker 3: guys LIKE i was able to get a refund on the, Trip,

1315
01:01:05,520 --> 01:01:06,640
Speaker 3: Sorry i'm not gonna.

1316
01:01:06,680 --> 01:01:08,680
Speaker 2: Go i'm not gonna go to. Trip it's not gonna work.

1317
01:01:08,680 --> 01:01:11,640
Speaker 4: Out and then you go to the trip but, alone

1318
01:01:11,680 --> 01:01:12,040
Speaker 4: and then.

1319
01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:16,960
Speaker 3: You're, like, beautiful. STAYCATION i can so nice little alone. Trip,

1320
01:01:17,200 --> 01:01:19,520
Speaker 3: yeah or bring some other friends or, something.

1321
01:01:19,480 --> 01:01:20,680
Speaker 2: Or, yeah cancel on.

1322
01:01:20,800 --> 01:01:24,800
Speaker 4: Them, yeah, literally but we do have an updates sush.

1323
01:01:24,960 --> 01:01:28,520
Speaker 2: Edit sam And alex just sent me their. Share, okay. Good.

1324
01:01:28,520 --> 01:01:31,720
Speaker 3: Hey jay still hasn't But sam said that she'll cover

1325
01:01:31,800 --> 01:01:32,360
Speaker 3: for her if.

1326
01:01:32,200 --> 01:01:32,920
Speaker 2: She doesn't paid By.

1327
01:01:32,920 --> 01:01:36,320
Speaker 3: Saturday i've been going through all your, comments and, YEAH

1328
01:01:36,360 --> 01:01:39,200
Speaker 3: i was definitely being a. Doormat they've never acted like this,

1329
01:01:39,240 --> 01:01:41,800
Speaker 3: before SO i didn't see it. Coming i've never really

1330
01:01:41,840 --> 01:01:45,160
Speaker 3: been surrounded by friends like, this Or i've always managed

1331
01:01:45,200 --> 01:01:47,680
Speaker 3: to cut them off before it got this. Bad i'm

1332
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:49,880
Speaker 3: definitely going to stand up for myself more from now.

1333
01:01:49,920 --> 01:01:54,760
Speaker 3: On thanks, Guys and there are some comments but OH,

1334
01:01:54,800 --> 01:01:59,280
Speaker 3: p don't respond to dam but, yeah good, great.

1335
01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:00,919
Speaker 2: OH, p good. Job you did.

1336
01:02:00,960 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 4: It you did did, it learned the hard, way but

1337
01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:04,440
Speaker 4: you learned.

1338
01:02:04,440 --> 01:02:07,320
Speaker 2: Immediately you didn't make me angry like the last. Person, yeah,

1339
01:02:07,480 --> 01:02:08,000
Speaker 2: exactly