WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Last Chance Date

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<v Speaker 1>Second Date, up Date. I saw a TikTok recently that said,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're on the dating apps right now, it's like

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<v Speaker 1>the last chopper out of Vietnam. A couple of years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>it was actually working. You could find quality matches on

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<v Speaker 1>there that weren't Russian bots. But now it's like wading

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<v Speaker 1>through the wet trash compactor that Luke Skywalker got dumped

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<v Speaker 1>into on the Death Star.

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<v Speaker 2>So many analogies here that I don't quite understand.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a gloomy, dark scene on the dating apps right now,

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<v Speaker 1>and one of our listeners says that he is just

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<v Speaker 1>about done with it. If we can't reconnect him with

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<v Speaker 1>the woman that he went out with last week, he

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<v Speaker 1>might be done completely.

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<v Speaker 2>Is a straw that's going to break the camel's back,

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<v Speaker 2>like some sort of an everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>It's nice to have one from like this century, but.

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<v Speaker 2>That's okayout Vietnam.

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<v Speaker 1>So his name is Thomas Thomas, Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey guys, thanks for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>That's honest. I know that your email was very down

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<v Speaker 1>on yourself, but maybe you were just like super emotional.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't actually mean that you're ready to give up

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<v Speaker 1>on the apps, entirely, are you.

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<v Speaker 3>I've been on these dating ass now for about two years,

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<v Speaker 3>and I mean, I'm just losing hope. It's just gotten

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<v Speaker 3>worse and worse and worse and worse.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, such a ray of positivity.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I listen. I started out in it with plenty

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<v Speaker 3>of hope, but I'm losing it now because I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't feel like I'm asking for much like I

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<v Speaker 3>just want somebody that I get along with, that I

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<v Speaker 3>share things.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, slow down with your long list of demands with

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<v Speaker 1>the perfect woman.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I feel like I've been doing things right

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<v Speaker 3>and I've had good conversations with women. You know, We've

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<v Speaker 3>had some things in common. There seems to be a

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<v Speaker 3>spark and that I don't hear back from them, or

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<v Speaker 3>they don't even show up.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but yeah, wait, did this woman show up for you?

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<v Speaker 2>You you said you.

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<v Speaker 4>Would have Norman.

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<v Speaker 3>Did this woman?

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<v Speaker 2>Did?

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<v Speaker 3>Her name is Diane?

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<v Speaker 1>Diane?

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<v Speaker 3>I put so much into this date.

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<v Speaker 2>Can I ask, right off the bat, did you complain

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<v Speaker 2>about the scene, the dating.

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<v Speaker 3>Scene the entire time.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just going to cut to the chase here.

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<v Speaker 3>No, No, I did not. We we honestly, we had

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<v Speaker 3>a wonderful date. We went to this Mediterranean restaurant, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>and she had a beautiful smile. There's great eye contact,

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<v Speaker 3>like she wasn't on her phone the whole time. She's

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<v Speaker 3>actually listening and interacting.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm assuming you're going in with zero expectations, since

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have much faith in the process. At this point,

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<v Speaker 2>I was.

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<v Speaker 3>Ready to just eat alone. And she showed up already

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<v Speaker 3>her past expectation.

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<v Speaker 1>I liked that mentality. If you go in thinking like

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to be terrible, then it's going to be

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<v Speaker 1>great no matter what. As long as they show up,

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<v Speaker 1>he's gonna start sitting down. And right now she's not

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<v Speaker 1>going to show up. Then she goes, oh, you're halfwaying

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<v Speaker 1>the meal. Best date ever? Oh my god, that's awesome.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Yeah, I'm glad. I only ordered like one cocktail

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<v Speaker 3>before she got there.

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<v Speaker 2>What was it like when you first saw her?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, like I said, she had a beautiful smile,

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<v Speaker 3>really like focused on me on the date, which was

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<v Speaker 3>which was nice. And she loves horror movies like I do,

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<v Speaker 3>and like I expected us to be there for like

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<v Speaker 3>an hour, but we were there. We talked for over

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<v Speaker 3>four hours. At the restaurant.

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<v Speaker 2>What what at the restaurant the entire time?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>The waiter was just so annoyed with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yea. Were you ordering more drinks in between that time?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just thinking from the waiters perspective.

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<v Speaker 3>There were a couple, but we had a good long talk.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean we ended up closing the restaurant down.

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<v Speaker 2>My gosh, I mean I could understand, just on that

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<v Speaker 2>experience alone, why you'd be so mystified why this woman

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<v Speaker 2>isn't calling you back.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well, especially because we agreed on another date.

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<v Speaker 2>When you say you agreed on another date, did you

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<v Speaker 2>guys like set a day.

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<v Speaker 3>In a time or we made agree to go out afterwards?

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<v Speaker 3>We were going to meet at the same restaurant next week, Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>like the following week.

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<v Speaker 2>Interesting, Okay, I want to do the same one.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, if the vibes are so good at that

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<v Speaker 1>one place, to keep it going.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think we just had such a great time.

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<v Speaker 3>We wanted to keep the ball rolling.

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<v Speaker 1>That's gone and that could be your place someday, Like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is our our first two days. And they took

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<v Speaker 1>the chopper out of nom and then decided to fly

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<v Speaker 1>right back into it. Okay, how did your second tour go?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, that's the thing. She never showed up.

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<v Speaker 2>She did. Wait, wait on the second time, she didn't

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<v Speaker 2>show up.

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<v Speaker 3>She never showed up. I was there for over half

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<v Speaker 3>an hour. I texted her no response.

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<v Speaker 2>And had you guys texted in the week between, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>can't wait to see you? You know.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'd had a couple of texts, you know, back

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<v Speaker 3>and forth with her, And.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe that's the problem. I don't know the confirming of

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<v Speaker 1>the second day.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, you always have to confirm plans at least

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<v Speaker 2>three times before they actually happened.

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<v Speaker 1>A little mystery.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's not Look.

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<v Speaker 1>Are we on for tonight? Yeah? Are we? I guess

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<v Speaker 1>you'll have to show up and find out.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I didn't know the magic rule was three, But

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<v Speaker 3>do we noted? I guess for for the future. But

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<v Speaker 3>she just wasn't there, And then she hasn't responded to

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<v Speaker 3>any of my calls or technic.

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<v Speaker 2>Dude, dude, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, you guys know why I want to get off

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<v Speaker 3>of these apps, because again we spent four hours balking

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<v Speaker 3>and and then a no show on the second date.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, you've never been stood up before.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine, I've heard.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to try and make a happier image come

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<v Speaker 1>out of all of this we got because we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>come back. We're gonna call Diane for you and try

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<v Speaker 1>and get you your second date update, get you out

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<v Speaker 1>of nom once and for all, right right after this. No,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna drive this one home. God, we're gonna do

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<v Speaker 1>it right after this second date update. Imagine four hours

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<v Speaker 1>of non stop laughter and sharing stories and dreams. Two desserts,

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<v Speaker 1>one spoon. That sounds lovely, Jeffrey, I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>that really happened.

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<v Speaker 2>There was only one spoon. I'm sorry, I'd be out.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just picturing in my mind the best date ever,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's what Thomas described to us earlier when he

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<v Speaker 1>met up at a restaurant with Diane. Maybe it was

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<v Speaker 1>three desserts, no spoon.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you usually do one dessert and two spoons.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, the more spoons, the worst it's going. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>no spoon, hands behind the back of your lady in

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<v Speaker 1>the trap, and mudpie off of each other's fingers. That

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<v Speaker 1>is the best date night ever.

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<v Speaker 2>That visual will haunt me.

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly don't know. All I do know is that

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<v Speaker 1>Thomas is about to give up on the dating apps

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<v Speaker 1>if this doesn't work out for him, and we're not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna let that happen.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Brookes, that's right, we got you, Thomas.

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<v Speaker 3>Man. I appreciate y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Thomas, you haven't heard from her at all after

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<v Speaker 2>she stood you up.

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<v Speaker 3>Nothing, complete radio silence.

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<v Speaker 2>So are you? Are you mad going into this?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean a little bit, But to be honest, I'm more.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just exhausted and I just kind of want to

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<v Speaker 3>know why it doesn't make sense to me? Is all?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? All right, you're defeated.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, bring the energy down.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm hopeful Like you said, that's right like one minute ago.

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<v Speaker 4>I know.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'm hopeful for you too. We're gonna hold you up. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we're gonna reinflate you.

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<v Speaker 1>We're trying to.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna prop you up and make this happen.

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<v Speaker 3>All right.

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<v Speaker 1>If you'd like to hire Brooke to give a pep

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<v Speaker 1>talk to your company, makes you go to brook dot

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<v Speaker 1>com or sports team, got to lift let's plate stuff? Right?

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<v Speaker 3>Hello?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey is this Diane?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? This is her.

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<v Speaker 1>We got her. Okay, Diane, what's up? You're on the

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<v Speaker 1>radio right now with Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>most people cheer when we say that, but that's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually yeah, not one person has ever done that. Don't

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<v Speaker 2>feel any pressure. We're excited to talk to though.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah god, you answered.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like in the middle of something and you I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know what's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, we're in the middle of something too. It's

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<v Speaker 1>called a second date update, and I think our things

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<v Speaker 1>probably more important. Okay, sorry, no, I think we have

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<v Speaker 1>a listener who went on a date with you recently

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<v Speaker 1>and hasn't really been able to meet up a second time.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really bumming him out, and he just doesn't know why.

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<v Speaker 1>His name's Thomas.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, okay, okay, you know Thomas.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, I know Thomas.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay. We figured because you guys spent quite a

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<v Speaker 1>while together the other night at a restaurant having what

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<v Speaker 1>sounded like a really nice time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. He told us that you really connected.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, most people don't close down a restaurant when

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<v Speaker 1>they're having a bad time with each other.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Yeah, we had a date the other night, so

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<v Speaker 3>you admit it. HAA.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, if you had a good date. Then why

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<v Speaker 2>didn't you show up the second time?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we're all confused, and Thomas is especially confused because

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<v Speaker 1>apparently you were supposed to meet up again the following

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<v Speaker 1>week at the same exact restaurant and you ghosted. You

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<v Speaker 1>didn't even show.

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<v Speaker 4>First of all, I did not ghost him.

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<v Speaker 2>What he was there and you were.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he showed up and he says he weren't there.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, No, I went to the restaurant. I got there early,

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<v Speaker 4>and I left before I got there, But I did

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<v Speaker 4>not ghost him.

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<v Speaker 1>You left before he got there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you can't have a date at two different times.

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<v Speaker 3>The week.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, I was really looking forward to our gate

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<v Speaker 4>and I actually got there fifteen minutes early.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>When I got there, you know, the host when I

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<v Speaker 4>got there, was paying really like a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Of attention to me, like in a way that made

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<v Speaker 2>you uncomfortable the way you said that, Yeah, it was

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<v Speaker 2>just it was like they were familiar with me. Well

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<v Speaker 2>you were you closed down the place the week before.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe they know you.

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<v Speaker 2>About We heard you took the table for four hours.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, actually it was kind of the opposite. They put

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<v Speaker 4>me at the nicest table you could possibly be at

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<v Speaker 4>in the restaurant, like a beautiful view of the city.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, why is this an issue?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you know somebody that sounds really nice?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, there were like rose petals all over the table.

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<v Speaker 4>My favorite drink. I told him I was a Gin

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<v Speaker 4>and tonic and he had it like it was they're waiting,

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<v Speaker 4>that's so cute.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, what part of this is bad in

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<v Speaker 1>your mind?

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<v Speaker 3>I Well, it just was.

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<v Speaker 4>It was a lot for a second date.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just a Gen and Tonic and a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>rose petals. Wait, is that that like an anniversary thing?

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly?

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<v Speaker 2>He was excited.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not an anniversary though, it's a second date. And

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<v Speaker 4>it honestly felt like a proposal that much.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, You need to set your sits higher if you

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<v Speaker 2>think that's a proposal.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, hold on, let's just hear her out a little bit,

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<v Speaker 1>so that all those nice gestures made you feel uncomfortable,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I.

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<v Speaker 4>Just couldn't figure out. It was just like what does

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<v Speaker 4>he want for me?

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<v Speaker 3>Like it just was so so much.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't that awful that that's your first thought? Like that sucks?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, honestly, like what if all he wanted was

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<v Speaker 2>to show you that he liked you he should have.

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<v Speaker 4>Stuck with the I mean, that's great knowledge, but I

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<v Speaker 4>just from my experience, no man actually acts like that.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like a cartoon version of what.

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<v Speaker 1>I could definitely see both sides of the argument, where

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<v Speaker 1>maybe he was trying to be nice, maybe it was

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit too much too fast to.

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<v Speaker 3>Just believe him.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that part was a little rough. But the good

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<v Speaker 1>news is we can make everything better with a simple action,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's by putting Thomas on the phone with you

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<v Speaker 1>right now, because he's actually on the other line waiting

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<v Speaker 1>to you. Oh no, don't think of this as another

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<v Speaker 1>grand romantic gesture, just casual phone convoact, pretend like we're

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<v Speaker 1>not here, and say hi to each other. Thomas.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Hi. I thought I was being very like sweet

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<v Speaker 3>and considerate, and you know, I was trying to sad like.

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<v Speaker 3>I was also listening and paying attention to.

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<v Speaker 1>You, and.

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<v Speaker 4>It is it is, you know, very sweet, I just

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<v Speaker 4>like you, I think. I mean, it just was a lot.

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<v Speaker 4>We haven't even discussed what we've wanted in our future

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<v Speaker 4>anything like that, so it was just the most grand

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<v Speaker 4>gestures for just like meeting up again and wanting to

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<v Speaker 4>get to know each other.

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<v Speaker 2>But like you didn't even stick around to even tell

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<v Speaker 2>Thomas that it was too much. I bet Thomas you

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<v Speaker 2>would have removed those pedals as quickly as you could

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<v Speaker 2>had you known, right.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, the only reason I put him there in the

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<v Speaker 3>first place was because I thought she would like it,

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<v Speaker 3>not terrify her into disappearing off the face of the planet.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't like, let's scare a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Remember she liked horror movies.

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<v Speaker 1>You told us that.

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<v Speaker 3>Something scary. I should have wrote, I'm watching you on the.

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<v Speaker 2>It's actually Rob Coms. It terrified her.

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, just from from hearing from him, Diane,

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<v Speaker 1>I think his intentions were very pure, very like, kind

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<v Speaker 1>and thoughtful and nice, not trying to overwhelm you with love.

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<v Speaker 1>I've just got lost in translation.

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<v Speaker 4>Really yeah, yeah, I guess I panicked and I just ran.

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<v Speaker 1>This conversation is going better, Thomas, Do you still want

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<v Speaker 1>us to play the romantic violin music as the question?

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<v Speaker 2>I thought it was the quartet?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, We're gonna skimp all of that and

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<v Speaker 1>just go right to the question, which is, Diane, would

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<v Speaker 1>you like to go out on another date with Thomas

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<v Speaker 1>that we would pay for? And before she answers, Thomas,

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<v Speaker 1>is there anything else that you just want to say

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<v Speaker 1>to her to try and convince her to go out

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<v Speaker 1>with you one more time? Now's your chance.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't appreciate being ghosted like that, but I did

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<v Speaker 3>enjoy our date and I would like to do another.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you guys really playing?

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't play anything.

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<v Speaker 3>That was just natural.

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<v Speaker 1>That was the universe puts a conversation.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what you're talking about. Keep going, Thomas.

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<v Speaker 3>No, No, I would love to go on a second

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<v Speaker 3>date with you, and I will clothing down.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, that is so sweet, Dan. What do

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<v Speaker 1>you think Dan? One more date?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean yeah, I would love to go another date.

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<v Speaker 4>I just it was just a lot. And now that

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<v Speaker 4>I know you were coming from a good place like

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<v Speaker 4>it's you know, that's a little different. I'm sorry I panish, Thomas.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you feeling? Are you happy?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? I feel better at he was getting a hold

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<v Speaker 3>of her. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>We need we need to sound happier than that to

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<v Speaker 1>match the music.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, this is the perfect ending, as you got your

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<v Speaker 3>second date.

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<v Speaker 1>Jeffrey in the morning. All right. I did not want

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<v Speaker 1>to say this while we were on the phone. And

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<v Speaker 1>possibly ruined the good vibes and the good moment that

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<v Speaker 1>was happening.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you shouldn't say it now that I'm just saying.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like Thomas is going to finally quit the

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<v Speaker 1>dating apps.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh because he's going to be in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because he's given up on love, because he actually

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<v Speaker 1>found someone for the long haul. At least hopefully he

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<v Speaker 1>has to give up regardless, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think he's going to freaker out even more on date

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<v Speaker 2>three or four. I don't know. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>they seem like I really want this to work. I

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<v Speaker 2>just don't know if they're the best match.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the more they communicate, the better.

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<v Speaker 2>That's true that four hours together they didn't communicate.

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<v Speaker 1>It dial back the communication in some areas up in

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<v Speaker 1>other areas. We do an update update with them in

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<v Speaker 1>a few months, and Diane is actually happy about the

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<v Speaker 1>roses and the gin waiting at the Tajoh.

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<v Speaker 2>She's never getting that again for the rest of their relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want them to be on the same page.

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<v Speaker 1>To come on and they're glowing and lapping over their

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<v Speaker 1>first pregnancy scare WHOA. That's my dream for them just

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<v Speaker 1>having a great.

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<v Speaker 2>Time you have a different idea of fun, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>sounds good anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>We want to help you have fun in your dating life.

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<v Speaker 1>Email the show, we'll call that person who's not calling

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<v Speaker 1>you back, and you can always listen to any of

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<v Speaker 1>our second date updates wherever you get your podcasts at

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