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Speaker 1: can sit in his office by himself with the latest

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Speaker 1: Bible software and he can write some you know, sermon

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Speaker 1: or some blog about why this is right, or the

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Speaker 1: guy that has submitted under the eldership of the church

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Speaker 1: had a series of people probe and discuss and and

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Speaker 1: go back to the word of like is this really

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Speaker 1: what it says? And then that is what is presented

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Speaker 1: and then and then that is what people are kind

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Speaker 1: of like falling under the authority of which one the

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Speaker 1: problem is is we have too many of these right

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Speaker 1: now in the world have we need And I think

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Speaker 1: I've talked to you about this, like we have we

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Speaker 1: have too many preachers and not enough good preachers, not

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Speaker 1: enough good churches, and just too many churches. So I

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Speaker 1: think we're doing it wrong. I think your your question

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Speaker 1: is just the question so many people have and the

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Speaker 1: reason that so many people don't want to attend church

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Speaker 1: because they're just kind of confused, like, well, if I

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Speaker 1: go here, do I have to believe these things? And

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Speaker 1: how's that differ from this sold Anybody out there that's

447
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Speaker 1: thinking these same things, I would encourage you to go

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Speaker 1: listen to this podcast and just to understand, like, man,

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Speaker 1: next generation coming up, Like what might it look like

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Speaker 1: for the body to be one? Yeah, I think it

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Speaker 1: just blows our minds to think about because we have

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Speaker 1: we have been in a church system for so long,

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Speaker 1: but to think, like, man, what would it look like?

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Speaker 1: I mean, together, for the gospel that we went to

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Speaker 1: was I think just like kind of a glimpse of

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Speaker 1: that where Baptist Presbyterian could sit together and kind of like, hey,

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Speaker 1: we're we're here, we are one, and we know there's

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Speaker 1: these differences between us that we can kind of say, yeah,

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Speaker 1: like you said, they fall into that second bucket or

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Speaker 1: the third bucket, and that's fine. The first buckets what

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Speaker 1: we need to be thinking about. Yeah, first bucket cannot

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Speaker 1: be changed. And it's a different conversation for a different

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Speaker 1: different podcast of what that is. And I'll tell you

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Speaker 1: right now, Danny, that there are good Christians in bad

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Speaker 1: churches right now, and there's bad Christians in good churches

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Speaker 1: right now. It's all mixed up, and that's just part

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Speaker 1: of it. We're gonna you're gonna have to discern. But

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Speaker 1: last thing I'll say, I don't think this is really

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Speaker 1: the question you're asking all of this. I think the

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Speaker 1: main thing is it's sin. That's that's usually the deep

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Speaker 1: problem with all of us, including me. It's like, hey, Granger,

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Speaker 1: I don't want that church to take away stuff I love,

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Speaker 1: So I guess I'm not gonna go because they're all

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Speaker 1: they're all disagreeing with each other anyway, And I don't

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Speaker 1: want them to. I don't want them to tell me

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Speaker 1: what I can't do because I love to do a

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Speaker 1: lot of things. That's usually the root problem. Now that

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Speaker 1: you have to understand, I'm going along on this podcast break.

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Speaker 1: But the thing about what Christ is offering is he

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Speaker 1: is he is not asking for you to give up anything.

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Speaker 1: He's asking for you to give up everything and then

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Speaker 1: him to come in and be bigger than anything you

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Speaker 1: could have ever had before. Right, that's so good man.

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Speaker 1: This is what's this, Danny. We're still on, Danny. Danny.

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Speaker 1: Here's what you need to ask yourself, and then what

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Speaker 1: you whatever church you go to, what you need to

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Speaker 1: ask the leadership of that church. Do I adore Jesus

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Speaker 1: and believe that He is worthy of all blessing and

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Speaker 1: honor and glory. Like, ask yourself that in the in

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Speaker 1: the context of all the small questions you're asking too,

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Speaker 1: and then talk to the leadership about that. I think though,

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Speaker 1: that kind of talk gets you into the conversation of

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Speaker 1: that first bucket. And if you do that with the

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Speaker 1: mindset that Granger just says, I think he's absolutely right,

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Speaker 1: Like your world will get flipped upside down for the better.

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Speaker 1: And you'll you'll just be like, Wow, I had no idea.

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Speaker 1: This is what Jesus meant by the church in his word.

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Speaker 1: I always thought it was like a building and the

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Speaker 1: people that danced or didn't dance. But this is what

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Speaker 1: this is what it means. So maybe we just have

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Speaker 1: a fundamental difference in what the definition of church should be. Totally,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Take a break, gret back. Thank y'all

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Speaker 1: for listening to the podcast. If you want a late

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Speaker 1: that when I got them the wrong thing. I got

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Speaker 1: something for you. How about you get a cameo from me.

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Speaker 1: You can go to cameo dot com slash Granger Smith,

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Speaker 1: or you can download the cameo app and search for

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Speaker 1: me Granger Smith. I'll make a video message for you

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Speaker 1: and I'll tell them that You're sorry you got them

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Speaker 1: the wrong gift or I'm sorry that you forgot a

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Speaker 1: gift or here's a late whatever, last minute gift. But

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Speaker 1: I could say whatever you want, Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas,

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Speaker 1: Happy New Year, and it's super easy for you to do.

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Speaker 1: You just go on the app. You tell me exactly

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Speaker 1: what you want me to say. I pull out my

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Speaker 1: It goes back to you and then you send it

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Speaker 1: to them as a gift. Super easy, and you could

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Speaker 1: redeem your Christmas gift. Of course. I want to talk

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Speaker 1: to you also about my new movie moon Rise. You

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Speaker 1: pure Flix right now, and I would love to know

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Speaker 1: what you think about it. Back to the podcast, jumping

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Speaker 1: in here to next question. Subject line says becoming the

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Speaker 1: next country singer and fighting the fear of trying. Hey,

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Speaker 1: gre and your my name is Tanner from Idaho. I

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Speaker 1: need advice on wanting to start my country music career.

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty five and everyone I know around me says

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Speaker 1: I can't do it. But since I've listened to your

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Speaker 1: music and other country stars, I want to try to

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Speaker 1: make it a career for me. Any advice. Congrats movie,

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Speaker 1: my family and I love it. Ye, I'm right, Tanner,

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Speaker 1: Thanks for emailing man. I'm glad that I could be

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Speaker 1: uh an influence for you to say, see Granger's not

546
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Speaker 1: that good, I could do it. I could do it.

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Speaker 1: I think that's what he's saying. Okay, here's the thing

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Speaker 1: this is. This is probably not what you expect me

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Speaker 1: to say, but I'll say it. You are you The

550
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Speaker 1: world TikTok and Instagram will tell you that when people

551
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Speaker 1: people say you can't do it, you prove them wrong.

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Speaker 1: Prove them wrong, like Tom Brady did. People told Tom

553
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Speaker 1: Brady no, and did it? You know, like that's really popular.

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Speaker 1: Books are made about that, uh. Podcasts are made based

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Speaker 1: on that underdog underdog baby. But when everyone around you

556
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Speaker 1: here's you sing and says you can't do it, that's

557
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 1: not necessarily the path that you want to take to say,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna prove everybody wrong, because usually I understand the

559
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Speaker 1: underdog in the music business. But usually, like in the

560
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Speaker 1: little town where you start, everyone says you can do it.

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Speaker 1: Like that's usually the problem is you get too big

562
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Speaker 1: of a head, and then you move to Nashville and

563
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Speaker 1: then you realize you're a small fish in a big ocean.

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Speaker 1: But the little town that you come from usually is

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Speaker 1: the support that gets you there and gives you the confidence.

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Speaker 1: You say, everyone I know around me says I can't

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Speaker 1: do it. I don't think the music business is something

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Speaker 1: you want to prove all of your family and friends

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Speaker 1: wrong with. What do you think. Yeah, it's not like

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Speaker 1: record executives that are telling you you can't do it,

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Speaker 1: people in the industry telling you you can't do it.

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Speaker 1: These are like, this is your support system, this is

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Speaker 1: everybody you know. So I think you probably need to, uh,

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Speaker 1: just be self aware, man, Like be self aware. It's

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Speaker 1: totally fine to write songs, sing, do some small shows,

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Speaker 1: open mics as a hobby. I mean, that's that's the

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Speaker 1: world I live in, Bud. Come on, it's fun, man.

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Speaker 1: You know, we don't have to all tour and you know,

579
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Speaker 1: do the thing. But maybe that's the rep maybe you're

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Speaker 1: going to be more like Burns than Grizz is all

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. And that is pretty good. I got a

582
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Speaker 1: pretty good life, so it's not so bad. Yeah, man.

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Speaker 1: That to answer your question, how do you start a

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Speaker 1: country career, It's the same way you eat an elephant,

585
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:50,040
Speaker 1: one bite at a time. You just you find a

586
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Speaker 1: little local place and you start an open mic and

587
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 1: you just play a few songs, and you start an

588
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Speaker 1: Instagram account and play some music on it. You just

589
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Speaker 1: start small. That's the only way to do it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Play all the time, write all the time, write some

591
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Speaker 1: really really good songs, play for people. Take the criticism,

592
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Speaker 1: and I don't think Granger or myself are saying it

593
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Speaker 1: can't happen. It's really just a matter of you deciding,

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Speaker 1: you know how, Just be self aware. I like that,

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Speaker 1: be self aware. I like that. Another question might be

596
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Speaker 1: might be on the same lines. Here says overcoming the Odds.

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Speaker 1: Hey Granger, my name is Javier Gonzales. I'm from Mesa, Arizona.

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Speaker 1: I'm a first generation in my family. I am of

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Speaker 1: excuse me, I am the first generation of my family,

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Speaker 1: and I am pursuing to become a fireman in the future,

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Speaker 1: But the odds of me becoming one are less than

602
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Speaker 1: five percent. Plus being between five six and five seven

603
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Speaker 1: feet tall and weighing one hundred and twenty five pounds

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Speaker 1: decreases my chance of becoming a fireman. I want to

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Speaker 1: pursue this career, so I joined a fire cadet program,

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Speaker 1: and I'm eating well and working out, trying to get

607
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Speaker 1: in shape for this career. But the odds of me

608
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Speaker 1: becoming one are a lot less, and I have doubt

609
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Speaker 1: and fear about myself. How do I overcome these doubts

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Speaker 1: and fears? How did you overcome the odds pursuing your career? Man?

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Speaker 1: The perfect question to follow up the one before that,

612
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Speaker 1: because here's the opposite example. When everyone around you is

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Speaker 1: telling you no because they hear you sing, it's probably

614
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Speaker 1: a good indication to not do it. But when odds

615
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Speaker 1: and statistics tell you that you're too small to be

616
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Speaker 1: a fireman, that's something you can pursue and fight through

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Speaker 1: and overcome. Yeah, I think that they're especially for something

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Speaker 1: like a firefighter. There's probably more places in the world

619
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Speaker 1: that need firefighters, and those odds of like breaking through

620
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Speaker 1: that than becoming, like, you know, a successful country singer.

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Speaker 1: Would you agree, Yeah, so maybe it's not you're part

622
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Speaker 1: of the New York Fire Department or like a big,

623
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Speaker 1: you know station, But yeah, you you start and then

624
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Speaker 1: you keep on and you keep on. I'm sure if

625
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Speaker 1: really just helping people and firefighting is what you feel

626
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Speaker 1: called to do, I think you can work hard like

627
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Speaker 1: you're saying, and you'll find your spot. Yeah. I mean

628
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Speaker 1: you're doing the right thing. You're eating, you're working out,

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Speaker 1: you're getting some calories in you. I mean, you're doing

630
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Speaker 1: all the right things. You're emailing the podcast. I mean,

631
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Speaker 1: I've run into some dudes that were five to seven

632
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Speaker 1: that I would not mess with, and they were just bad,

633
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Speaker 1: bad dudes, and they would go into a building no

634
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Speaker 1: matter what and what. I think you can do it,

635
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Speaker 1: man don't. Yeah. Yeah, So his question, let's go specific,

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Speaker 1: How do I overcome these doubts and fears? Yeah? I

637
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Speaker 1: miss that. So I think small, tiny victories, small victories,

638
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Speaker 1: and that could be. That could be a small victory,

639
00:38:56,640 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: could be you want a weigh one hundred and twenty

640
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:01,920
Speaker 1: seven pounds, one hundred and twenty five, and you get

641
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:03,360
Speaker 1: on that scale and you go boom, one hundred and

642
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 1: twenty seven victory. That's a small victory. It builds a small,

643
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 1: tiny sliver of confidence, but it's something, and so you

644
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 1: just keep doing it. Hey, I want to run a

645
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 1: mile in under this time, you run it, you train, boom,

646
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:20,839
Speaker 1: you got it. So you're building these small victories and

647
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 1: this is ways to build your confidence. When you build

648
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 1: your confidence, you find ways to overcome doubts and fears

649
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 1: with confidence. Confidence comes from small victories and encouragement from

650
00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 1: friends and family. Yep, yeah, I agree percent All right.

651
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:41,960
Speaker 1: Question next one is said on subject line says moving

652
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Speaker 1: out at Grandear love your podcast in your music. My

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00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 1: name is Henry. I'm twenty one years old. I'm a

654
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:50,240
Speaker 1: college drop out from California, living with my parents, working

655
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 1: my butt off, trying to save up money to move out.

656
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:55,160
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm getting too old to stay home.

657
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:57,439
Speaker 1: I want to spread my wings and make my own

658
00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 1: path in life, raise a good god, fearing family, make

659
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:03,799
Speaker 1: my community a better place. I feel disassociated with California

660
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 1: and the people who live here. I don't have many friends,

661
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:07,719
Speaker 1: and I spend a lot of time either with my

662
00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:10,640
Speaker 1: dad or playing video games in my room. I want

663
00:40:10,680 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 1: to make friends, but the culture, the politics the cost

664
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:15,879
Speaker 1: of living here make me want to shut in and

665
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 1: do nothing but just keep my head down. I want

666
00:40:20,880 --> 00:40:24,960
Speaker 1: to plant my roots somewhere and the heartlands like Kentucky.

667
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 1: I'm moved by the kindness of everyone I've met out

668
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 1: there when I've traveled to that state. It makes me

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Speaker 1: want to invest my time and my money into making

670
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 1: it a better place for myself and everyone else. But

671
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 1: maybe it's just a grass as always greener type thing.

672
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:40,320
Speaker 1: Maybe it won't help. Maybe I'll just be an introvert

673
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 1: for the rest of my life. I'm scared of being

674
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:45,960
Speaker 1: so far from my family, But I know myself and

675
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 1: I know sometimes I need a kick in the butt

676
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:51,160
Speaker 1: to motivate me to change. Do I have a gypsy heart?

677
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 1: Am I being selfish for leaving my parents behind? How

678
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 1: do I glorify God in doing this? How do I

679
00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 1: keep in touch with my loved ones when I'm so

680
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:03,240
Speaker 1: far away? Thank you, Henry, God blessed. That's a lot

681
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:07,440
Speaker 1: of stuff going on in Henry's head right now. And

682
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 1: thanks for the email, brother, thanks for shout out to California,

683
00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 1: and thanks for thinking of me and Bernie. Whenever you're

684
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 1: going through stuff like this, let's walk through it. You

685
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:21,240
Speaker 1: have a ton of questions. You just kind of dumped

686
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 1: a bunch. Honest, let's walk through this and see what

687
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 1: we could find out here. First, where should I go

688
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 1: with the first question? First question is your disassociation from

689
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 1: California and you thinking that Kentucky will be the problem

690
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 1: solver for all of this disassociation, Like Kentucky is the

691
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 1: place where your friends are. You just haven't met him yet.

692
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 1: I think there probably could be some truth in that.

693
00:41:56,400 --> 00:42:00,440
Speaker 1: But the problem I have really believing that is it

694
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 1: doesn't sound like he's giving the people of California a

695
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:08,000
Speaker 1: real chance. He's locking himself in his room playing video games.

696
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 1: And I get it. He's an introvert. You're an introvert.

697
00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: Meeting new people and really being vulnerable and engaging is

698
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:21,840
Speaker 1: kind of uncomfortable. Like, totally understand that. But you will

699
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:26,719
Speaker 1: ultimately find the same thing in Kentucky if you practice

700
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:32,520
Speaker 1: the same things that you're practicing. And so, I don't

701
00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 1: know if that disassociation with people of California is It

702
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:40,719
Speaker 1: could be, because you know, there's definitely differences in the

703
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:47,120
Speaker 1: people in the culture around the country. But I feel

704
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 1: like i've heard graindeer on the podcast say before, like,

705
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:54,279
Speaker 1: you need to find something you're into, like even if

706
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,919
Speaker 1: it's video games, Okay, we'll go to a video game

707
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 1: conference in your area. Find people that are into the

708
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:06,800
Speaker 1: same things that you are, and start building community around

709
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:10,320
Speaker 1: a common something, whether it's a church, could be something

710
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: like a men's Bible study, or a video game team

711
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:17,719
Speaker 1: or whatever they do now. But the point is is

712
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: like when you do that, you're going to start to

713
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 1: build your confidence, which will help you be able to

714
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 1: meet new people, which will be able to give you

715
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:28,839
Speaker 1: some resources to like maybe step out on your own.

716
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 1: You meet a roommate at one of these you know

717
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:33,799
Speaker 1: events that you go to, it's like, oh, hey, he's

718
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 1: looking for a roommate. I'm looking for roommate. So that

719
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 1: that's my first thought on that question. I think part

720
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:43,320
Speaker 1: of that is just so good man. That's such wise counsel.

721
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 1: And I loved I loved the idea that Bernie said

722
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 1: were you're not giving California a chance, because if you

723
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:54,839
Speaker 1: gave Kentucky people the same chance you're giving California people,

724
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 1: you're going to get the same result. And that's this

725
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 1: part that I'm I'm just glad that you were vulnerable

726
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,799
Speaker 1: enough to mention that you sit in your room and

727
00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 1: play video games instead of making friends. But you put

728
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:10,719
Speaker 1: those two sentences back to back. I sit in my

729
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:13,800
Speaker 1: video my room, playing video games. And the next line

730
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: is I want to make friends. But the culture of

731
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 1: the politics, the cost of living. And like Bernie said,

732
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 1: this is you know that there's truth to that. I'm sure,

733
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 1: but I love the idea that Bernie's suggesting, Like are

734
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 1: you giving them a chance? Is there a video game

735
00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 1: that you do love? Is there some kind of convention

736
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:36,719
Speaker 1: with that game that you could find people? Is there

737
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 1: a group that you can go with to Kentucky? And

738
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:41,320
Speaker 1: this is I've said this so many times when people

739
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:45,239
Speaker 1: are considering moving. Could you go for a weekend with

740
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:49,400
Speaker 1: somebody and visit Louisville and go to a couple of

741
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:51,800
Speaker 1: towns and you're there for like a Friday, Saturday, Sunday,

742
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 1: and you drive, you fly back on Southwest Airlines. You

743
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 1: get a good airfare, and you fly back to California.

744
00:44:57,719 --> 00:45:02,440
Speaker 1: There's always Southwest airlines from Louisville Dee, California. I know

745
00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:04,680
Speaker 1: that for a fact, and they're always pretty good priced

746
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:08,880
Speaker 1: under one hundred dollars. Could you go do that. You

747
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 1: don't have to commit everything and move and pack up

748
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:13,399
Speaker 1: a U haul and go all the way to cross

749
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 1: the country and then worry that you're going to miss

750
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: your family and you've got a gypsy hard and how

751
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:20,360
Speaker 1: could you possibly do this? You could just go for

752
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 1: a weekend and you might come back and go. Nah,

753
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 1: it ain't when I thought right. And just to be clear,

754
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: I don't know your parents, but I'm pretty sure that

755
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 1: they're not going to be upset if you go out

756
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:35,600
Speaker 1: on your own. Like as a parent, I'm going to

757
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 1: be excited when my kids, especially if they're twenty one

758
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:40,719
Speaker 1: still living at home, it's like, all right, jet, time

759
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:43,240
Speaker 1: to go, buddy. Like me and your mom got some plans.

760
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: So here's that's part of one of his shotgun questions

761
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:49,240
Speaker 1: at the end. Here am I being selfish for leaving

762
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:52,839
Speaker 1: behind my parents? No? No, that's what you're supposed to do, YEA.

763
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 1: Their nice question is how do I glorify God in

764
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:59,720
Speaker 1: doing this? Well, the Bible says leave your mother and father,

765
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 1: go out. The Bible also says go make disciples of

766
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 1: all nations. So the Bible is saying, yes, you should

767
00:46:08,600 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 1: leave your parents, and you should kind of feel like

768
00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 1: you have a gypsy heart because you're leaving and you're

769
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:16,479
Speaker 1: going out. How do you glorify God by telling other

770
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:21,279
Speaker 1: people about him? That's it. It's not about how much

771
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:23,439
Speaker 1: money you make, or what job you have, or where

772
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: what state you live in. It's telling everyone you know

773
00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:31,240
Speaker 1: about him. That's how you glorify him and doing whatever

774
00:46:31,280 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 1: you're doing. How do I keep in touch with my

775
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 1: loved ones when I'm so far away? That's your last question.

776
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:38,720
Speaker 1: FaceTime is a good option, Skype is a good option.

777
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 1: And did we live in a day when you could

778
00:46:42,520 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 1: text and voice text and email and video message mama,

779
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 1: and you can hop on a plane and fly back,

780
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: you know, pretty pretty easily. So let's hit one more

781
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 1: and then, well I went late on that last section,

782
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:58,319
Speaker 1: so and hit one more before people get bored with

783
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 1: the burns. Speeder speed around here. Subject Glad says talking

784
00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 1: to a girl while having many other things going on

785
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:10,799
Speaker 1: in my life parentheses question for your podcast. He Andrew.

786
00:47:10,840 --> 00:47:12,720
Speaker 1: My name is Owen. I'm a senior in high school.

787
00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 1: I'm talking to this girl. I'm very busy balancing school

788
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:19,040
Speaker 1: and work, so it's hard to make time for other things.

789
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,879
Speaker 1: And she says I don't make enough time for her,

790
00:47:22,239 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 1: which I totally understand due to the many things going

791
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:26,719
Speaker 1: on in my life. I just can't figure out if

792
00:47:26,719 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 1: I should be focusing on school and work instead of

793
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 1: being in a relationship, being the only being only a

794
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:35,880
Speaker 1: senior in high school, or if I should focus more

795
00:47:35,960 --> 00:47:39,440
Speaker 1: on this relationship. Also, I love listening to your podcasts

796
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 1: and your music. Thanks so much, Bernie. I'm gonna make

797
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:48,360
Speaker 1: owen like your son. Boston's Boston talking to you? Okay,

798
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 1: how old is Boston? Your son twelve? He's twelve, so

799
00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:56,959
Speaker 1: six years from now. Boston is saying, Dad, here's the deal.

800
00:47:57,120 --> 00:48:00,520
Speaker 1: I'm in this relationship. This girl says I don't enough

801
00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:03,360
Speaker 1: time for her. But you know, Dad, I'm busy with

802
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:06,840
Speaker 1: sports and school and balancing and all that. So, Dad,

803
00:48:06,920 --> 00:48:10,520
Speaker 1: I'm asking you, should I focus more on her? Or

804
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,520
Speaker 1: should I focus more on my senior year in high

805
00:48:13,560 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 1: school and finishing up my responsibilities. Son, I love you,

806
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 1: and I support you no matter what you do. But

807
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:26,399
Speaker 1: tell that girl buy and be eighteen and enjoy it.

808
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:28,799
Speaker 1: It's interesting when I reword it like that, it just

809
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:32,560
Speaker 1: makes it so obvious to anyone listening. Like I think

810
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: sometimes these questions are just answered before I even start.

811
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 1: It's just they're answered in the reading of the question.

812
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,680
Speaker 1: And sometimes I just have to put inflection in certain

813
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 1: lines or words, and sometimes I just have to redirect

814
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:47,360
Speaker 1: the question back to you. And when I say it

815
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:51,319
Speaker 1: like that or put your son in perspective. No, you

816
00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 1: should not focus on the relationship. Yeah, you should focus

817
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:58,040
Speaker 1: on being eighteen and finishing your school because you've got

818
00:48:58,080 --> 00:49:00,000
Speaker 1: college coming up, and you've got sports, and you got

819
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 1: your buddies and you're only eighteen. Once. Yeah, it goes

820
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:09,839
Speaker 1: so quick, man. Just enjoy and enjoy being eighteen. That's

821
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 1: my advice. The other thing is the girl saying that

822
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,920
Speaker 1: you don't make enough time for her is normal. Yeah,

823
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 1: that's like ingrained in girls from a very early age,

824
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:22,440
Speaker 1: and especially if her daddy's not given her that much attention,

825
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 1: then she's going to pull it out of you and

826
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:28,400
Speaker 1: you're never going to be enough for her. Just know

827
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:31,719
Speaker 1: that you might not know that yet, will you'll learn

828
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 1: it with a girl like this, You'll learn it soon

829
00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:37,600
Speaker 1: that even if you did drop everything and we're there

830
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 1: all the time, you're never going to be enough of

831
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:43,919
Speaker 1: what she wants out of you. So just understand that

832
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,279
Speaker 1: I love that your heart actually cares about her and

833
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:49,800
Speaker 1: you kind of feel sorry for her and you realize

834
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 1: that you're doing other things, but you are in the

835
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:56,759
Speaker 1: right here. Yeah for sure. Hey, before we jump off,

836
00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 1: I just want to give one shout out to your

837
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:04,439
Speaker 1: fan the fans that I met at the movie premiere. Man,

838
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 1: they were just so amazing. And a couple people, in

839
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:14,840
Speaker 1: particular Kendra and jan Jan gave up her seat for

840
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 1: Leslie and I. She had a seat, like the best

841
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:19,799
Speaker 1: seat in the house to watch the movie right by

842
00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:24,520
Speaker 1: you guys. We weren't there, and she was like, she

843
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: saw me. She was like, you need to sit by Grainger.

844
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:29,840
Speaker 1: I was like, no, it's fine. She gave up her seat,

845
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:33,280
Speaker 1: went and sat in another theater so that we could

846
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:36,320
Speaker 1: like be front and center, like right by you guys

847
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 1: to watch it. And I just want to say that

848
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:42,120
Speaker 1: is just one of the fans that we met and

849
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:45,279
Speaker 1: that we have met of ye nation, and dude, you

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