Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, we're back for part two with Juliana. Let's
Speaker 1: get right back into it. Does his son live with
Speaker 1: you or share time with you?
Speaker 2: Guys?
Speaker 3: Yea the time. Oh that's so not his name, Lucas.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah wow.
Speaker 4: I know you never thought you would relocate, but love
Speaker 4: has a way, truly, because now it's about a new
Speaker 4: life for you and your future and you want to
Speaker 4: grow old with him. So you start your life there.
Speaker 4: And the good news is it's not far.
Speaker 3: From your family exactly.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you could do it in a car. You don't
Speaker 4: have to take an airplane.
Speaker 1: But Juliana, isn't I mean, isn't it interesting? What do
Speaker 1: you ever think about the fact that a year ago,
Speaker 1: the day before you went to that event on Long Island,
Speaker 1: did you think a year from then, which is now,
Speaker 1: that you'd be so deeply in love with a big
Speaker 1: rock on your hand, planning a wedding and announcing an
Speaker 1: engagement with a man that you are so desperately in
Speaker 1: love with. Did you really think that you would be there?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: I really had no idea, you know, and not for nothing,
Speaker 2: but especially thinking about the mental headspace that I was
Speaker 2: in like last year at this time, and to just
Speaker 2: look back and see how far I've come, and like
Speaker 2: how much life has truly changed.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't even know.
Speaker 2: I don't even know what I thought last year, but
Speaker 2: I know I was like very hesitant to even date him,
Speaker 2: you know, and now here we.
Speaker 1: Are all right, Well, you are so wise?
Speaker 4: Do make it official? Can we have a personal text?
Speaker 4: Of course, we want to see the ring. We will
Speaker 4: to set the date with you.
Speaker 1: We wanted to argue, Leanna, you have been so you
Speaker 1: are your wives beyond your years. You taught me a
Speaker 1: few things. Every week, Susan and I answer questions from
Speaker 1: our listeners. We give golden advice. We're not going to
Speaker 1: call you coldon, but we want you to kind of
Speaker 1: weigh in and we're going to ask some questions and
Speaker 1: then ask your opinion. Are you all right?
Speaker 4: I'm going to read the first one, and it is
Speaker 4: from Julie from Cleveland. She says, I've been dating someone
Speaker 4: who is great in a lot of ways, but I
Speaker 4: noticed that I don't feel like I can fully be
Speaker 4: myself around him. Yet. I find myself filtering what I
Speaker 4: say or how I act. And I'm not sure if
Speaker 4: that's just early dating nerves or a sign we're not
Speaker 4: the right fit. How do you tell the difference?
Speaker 2: Hmm, I I think you know right off the bat.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm no dating expert.
Speaker 2: I have kind of minimal experience with that, but I
Speaker 2: would say there is definitely beginning nerves of you know,
Speaker 2: being fully just kind of like your weird self. But
Speaker 2: I think eventually, you know, it just clicks and you
Speaker 2: kind of forget about like kind of have those walls
Speaker 2: and the nervousness around your person, and you know, I
Speaker 2: would say, if it's something that you're constantly aware of,
Speaker 2: you know, filtering yourself so much, then you're obviously trying
Speaker 2: to protect yourself from maybe being judged.
Speaker 3: You don't feel like they're your safe.
Speaker 2: Space, that they may take things the wrong way or
Speaker 2: things don't want align right, but you know, trust your
Speaker 2: instincts on that you know yourself better than anybody else, Julie.
Speaker 1: So you know, that's a great answer. But you said
Speaker 1: the key word, Juliana, which is in the beginning, people
Speaker 1: have nerves. And we don't know how long Julie's been
Speaker 1: dating this guy, but you're absolutely right, in my opinion,
Speaker 1: if Julie, if you've been dating this guy a long
Speaker 1: time and you're still completely filtering what you say. That
Speaker 1: might be a sign, but if it's a new relationship,
Speaker 1: it's probably nerves.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And for me it's hard not to be myself, so.
Speaker 3: Not a bad problem to have.
Speaker 4: What you see is what you get. But for her,
Speaker 4: I could see the first couple dates being more reserved
Speaker 4: or you know, don't be your authentic.
Speaker 1: Well, you guys just told me not to be authentic,
Speaker 1: to be sweet and deliver only kindness.
Speaker 4: To be authetic.
Speaker 1: It's a delivery, So Julie, say whatever you want, but
Speaker 1: just control the delivery. It makes no sense zero.
Speaker 4: You got to be comfortable to be in a relationship
Speaker 4: when it's brand new. I get it. You feel a
Speaker 4: little weird, you're not sure, you're not sure about your
Speaker 4: own feelings or his what his thoughts are. But eventually
Speaker 4: you have to be okay being yourself and if it's
Speaker 4: not a.
Speaker 1: It's probably not the right fit if you have to
Speaker 1: too lot. All right, good job, all right here we
Speaker 1: got Wait one more question, Juliana, how long did it
Speaker 1: take you before you were unfiltered with Mike? Right? Did
Speaker 1: the get go? No?
Speaker 3: Not right from the get go. You know, I was
Speaker 3: very hesitant.
Speaker 4: It wasn't that weekend at the house. No.
Speaker 2: I think that weekend I was just feeling them out,
Speaker 2: you know. And then shortly after we went on a
Speaker 2: trip to Florida together and I didn't even think about it,
Speaker 2: but I was like, oh my god, I'm you know,
Speaker 2: going away, I'm sharing a hotel room. I was like
Speaker 2: kind of freaking me out, like and I think that helped.
Speaker 2: It kind of just forced things, you know, there was
Speaker 2: no escaping each other. So I was like, you know,
Speaker 2: I just I am who I am at this point.
Speaker 1: Please, that's right, good, good for you. All right, let's change, right,
Speaker 1: it can't change. Well, I'm going to change because you
Speaker 1: guys told me I have to. Okay, This next one
Speaker 1: is from Johnny from Seattle, and I think Johnny in
Speaker 1: this case is a girl because it to I. E Okay,
Speaker 1: I've been talking to someone who is very charming and attentive,
Speaker 1: but he moves fast, talking about trips together, future plans,
Speaker 1: and how different I am from anyone else he's met.
Speaker 1: Part of me is flattered, part of me is little overwhelmed.
Speaker 1: How do you tell if someone is generally exciting or
Speaker 1: if it's love bombing?
Speaker 2: I was just going to say, I feel like there
Speaker 2: is definitely a bit of what sounds like love bombing
Speaker 2: if a lot of it is like talks. But I think,
Speaker 2: you know, to give him the benefit of the doubt,
Speaker 2: somebody that's thinking of plans in the future, you know,
Speaker 2: that's a good sign, right. So I think actions speak
Speaker 2: louder than words. So see what he follows through with,
Speaker 2: you know, And I think words are tough when you
Speaker 2: know everything's so new, so you got to rely a
Speaker 2: lot more on actions than what they're saying. Otherwise, it
Speaker 2: sounds like it could be love bombing. If there's no
Speaker 2: like trips booked.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, I think what she's saying is she's nervous
Speaker 1: because he's talking about tripping, uh booking the trips, and
Speaker 1: maybe she feels like it's too soon. But I think
Speaker 1: to your point, Julianna, if if if you if you don't,
Speaker 1: if you're nervous about doing that, yeah, or or you
Speaker 1: feel like you're not ready, then maybe that is love bombing.
Speaker 1: It's like the flip side of the same point. You
Speaker 1: were ready to take that jump with Mike. Maybe she's
Speaker 1: not ready.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And me I am that person. I'm the love girl.
Speaker 4: I'm the one that's going to plan the future and
Speaker 4: talk about, oh, we should do this together when I'm excited.
Speaker 4: So I read it totally different. I think she should
Speaker 4: just enjoy the ride and whatever happens happens.
Speaker 1: Right, really, yeah, well, I don't know. I will tell you,
Speaker 1: Susan knows. I recently dated a guy who, on our
Speaker 1: I don't know, third date, looked at me and said,
Speaker 1: you know, you are really someone could fall in love with.
Speaker 1: It gave me the ick because because even though.
Speaker 4: I loved it, I was like, wasn't that sweet?
Speaker 3: I mean, I was real.
Speaker 1: I want well, Susan, since we're not together, how real
Speaker 1: was it?
Speaker 4: It doesn't mean he could have fallen in love with you?
Speaker 1: Whatever.
Speaker 2: I love a good lover boy, so I had like,
Speaker 2: you know, because I love a love with girl.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, it's that Italian thing, all right. The next
Speaker 4: one is from kat Oh my goodness, and she's from Philly.
Speaker 4: I can't wait. I've been dating someone who is really great,
Speaker 4: but I've noticed that I feel more anxious than secure
Speaker 4: when I'm with him. He's not doing anything wrong necessarily,
Speaker 4: but something just feels a little off and I can't
Speaker 4: quite explain it. Do you trust that feeling or try
Speaker 4: to work through it logically? Wait a minute, I don't wait.
Speaker 1: Can I just stop position Susan the word logically. You
Speaker 1: don't even get to answer this question, Susan, You're just
Speaker 1: gonna let Juliana take all because the word the minue
Speaker 1: you introduce the word logic Susan's answers right off the window. Okay, ihead, Juliana,
Speaker 1: what do you think?
Speaker 2: I guess you know, one of my first questions I
Speaker 2: would ask is like, do you have things from your
Speaker 2: past that maybe are not resolved? Like is there trauma
Speaker 2: or insecurities from past relationships that you might be carrying
Speaker 2: into this because if he's not doing anything wrong, you
Speaker 2: may be kind of like projecting the anxiety of past situations.
Speaker 2: And I think when you start anything new, you know,
Speaker 2: you've got to leave the past in the past, and
Speaker 2: you have to kind of give everybody a clean slate
Speaker 2: to just prove to you who they are. You know,
Speaker 2: you can't judge somebody before you know them. But you know,
Speaker 2: I also think there's a benefit in a reason we
Speaker 2: have instinct, right, So it's just it's kind of hard.
Speaker 2: You know, you got to see if you're bringing anything
Speaker 2: in from the past, and if not, maybe your body's
Speaker 2: trying to give you some signs here.
Speaker 4: But she says something just feels a little off. So
Speaker 4: is she not sure about him right? And it's not
Speaker 4: even her like maybe she's questioning where he's been or
Speaker 4: his she's getting anxious.
Speaker 1: But also it could be what it could be what
Speaker 1: Juliana is saying, which is I think I'm more with
Speaker 1: you Juliana on this one. I think she probably has
Speaker 1: some trial. That's why she can't explain it because it's
Speaker 1: probably not him. It feels a little off to her
Speaker 1: because she's bringing along in that suitcase, that baggage, a
Speaker 1: little bit of trauma maybe from another relationship. I think
Speaker 1: you're right on the money, Juliana.
Speaker 2: And you know, one other thing I want to add
Speaker 2: too is I think in this like day and age,
Speaker 2: it's so hard when you start newly dating somebody, I
Speaker 2: feel like nobody really.
Speaker 3: Asks the question of like are we just dating each other?
Speaker 2: Like the fact kind of have to even ask that,
Speaker 2: you know, Like I think people say, like we're exclusive
Speaker 2: or like not exclusive, and there's so much confusion around
Speaker 2: that and like around the beginning stages of dating and
Speaker 2: until you get to that point that like, if she's
Speaker 2: confused about where you know what he's doing.
Speaker 3: I think you know ask. I think there's no shame
Speaker 3: in the game. I basically said to Michael, I was like,
Speaker 3: so are we dating? You know I was because I'm not.
Speaker 4: But before I sleep with you, you got to tell
Speaker 4: me you're not sleep with anybody else. Situationship that new
Speaker 4: dating thing now that means you could sleep with whoever
Speaker 4: you want dated?
Speaker 1: What the hell.
Speaker 2: It for you?
Speaker 1: We can? I just say I think I need to
Speaker 1: become Italian because you too seem to clearly have all
Speaker 1: the answers there. I love you as you can submit
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Speaker 1: won't be here each week, but Susan will take care
Speaker 1: of the Italian answers for everyone.
Speaker 4: I could definitely have her once a month at least,
Speaker 4: that's right. I like it. She's calm and she's you know,
Speaker 4: you say it like it is, Kathy. Do you see
Speaker 4: what she's saying.
Speaker 1: I don't see it at all. I see a beautiful
Speaker 1: girl who got the guy and I'm still out in
Speaker 1: the rain by myself. So no, and we're both from
Speaker 1: we're bull from the Massachusetts. Like why when?
Speaker 4: Okay, I don't know, Juliana. This week, we're going to
Speaker 4: play a game, okay, and we're gonna ask you to
Speaker 4: tell us which is worse in your opinion and why
Speaker 4: and no depends, allow you.
Speaker 1: Have to answer, Okay.
Speaker 4: I can't say it depends.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: I think this is the occult, okay, because I always
Speaker 4: have a difficult time with things like this.
Speaker 3: Context matters.
Speaker 4: Okay, Kathy, you want to start, you want me to.
Speaker 1: Start the first one? Here we go. Not that this
Speaker 1: has ever happened to you, Juliana getting ghosted after three
Speaker 1: dates or getting rejected after three dates?
Speaker 3: Ghosted?
Speaker 4: I think which is worse?
Speaker 3: Yeah, ghosted is worse.
Speaker 2: I think the lack of communication is like a lack
Speaker 2: of regard for you as a human.
Speaker 3: And I think that's worse.
Speaker 2: If somebody who open and honest and just say it's
Speaker 2: not working out, so much respect to them, you know.
Speaker 4: Hey, I love I agree.
Speaker 1: I one hundred percent agree with you. It's it's all
Speaker 1: about respect. It's it's somebody's tried it out, it didn't work.
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you after three dates and have
Speaker 1: the respect for that person to do it. Good job.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, here's a good one when texting, all right,
Speaker 4: being left on red or getting a one word response.
Speaker 4: I hate it when you know they read it and
Speaker 4: they didn't respond because as a woman, we assume, which
Speaker 4: is a cardinal role that we should not assume. But
Speaker 4: if they don't respond, maybe they're busy, maybe whatever. So
Speaker 4: what do you think I.
Speaker 3: Think no response is worse?
Speaker 2: I mean, you know if sometimes the one word answer
Speaker 2: is aggravating, but at least it's acknowledging.
Speaker 3: That you said something.
Speaker 2: So I'll take an acknowledgment over potentially getting ignored any day.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Kathy, Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I I so you know you little love love girls
Speaker 1: over there. I feel like if somebody has read it
Speaker 1: and I'm dating them and I know that they're you know,
Speaker 1: working on they're a lawyer and they're working on their case,
Speaker 1: they acknowledge that they just don't have time to answer.
Speaker 1: But if they answer fully later, I'm good to give
Speaker 1: a one word answer, unless it's are you coming over
Speaker 1: to cook me dinner tonight? And the answers yes. Then
Speaker 1: to me, the one word answer is exactly the opposite.
Speaker 1: It shows a lack of regard. It's like I can't
Speaker 1: be bothered to take time. I took the time to
Speaker 1: read your response, but I'm not really going to take
Speaker 1: the time to respond to you. I'd rather wait get
Speaker 1: the good answer.
Speaker 4: I have about dating someone who never texts first or
Speaker 4: someone who texts constantly.
Speaker 2: I think, I mean, if they never text first, I
Speaker 2: never even really pay attention to that. I mean, but
Speaker 2: I think it's like, I think that's worse, right, because
Speaker 2: I'd rather have somebody that's texting me all day, you know,
Speaker 2: And I can neither give the one word answers or
Speaker 2: now the responses with the thumbs up you.
Speaker 1: Know, Okay, I got one here, it's one of my
Speaker 1: and I'm sorry. I have another answer for this finding
Speaker 1: out they lied about their age or lied about their height, Juliana,
Speaker 1: which is worse.
Speaker 2: I mean, Boston is like known for the men saying
Speaker 2: they're six feet and they are not six feet. I think,
Speaker 2: I mean, I think age would be worse because you know,
Speaker 2: are you saying you're older or younger?
Speaker 3: First of all? And then you know, it's a that's
Speaker 3: a that's an important thing. Height I can get over,
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 4: Until you're my age. Okay, and you go on a
Speaker 4: dating app. I'm serious. I've lied before, and I've gone
Speaker 4: out to meet people that I met on the app,
Speaker 4: and within the first three minutes I said, listen, there's
Speaker 4: something I have to tell you. I am not sixty three.
Speaker 4: I am really sixty six. Neggatve Okay, I go. But
Speaker 4: some people would think I'm a liar. Yeah, but nobody
Speaker 4: was talking to me because I been fifty nine and
Speaker 4: sixty one. I don't remember the exact years, but you
Speaker 4: have to sometimes. I'm going on there at sixty nine.
Speaker 1: So I think toa you have the right answer. Though
Speaker 1: at our age, obviously it's different. You're you're younger. If
Speaker 1: a guy says he's you're thirty. Let's just say you're
Speaker 1: on a dating app and the guy said he was
Speaker 1: thirty two and he was really twenty eight, you may
Speaker 1: or may not date a guy two years younger. But
Speaker 1: in our age, if a guy is if you're if
Speaker 1: you're sixty nine like Susan, and you're looking for a
Speaker 1: guy and he says he's sixty seven and then you
Speaker 1: meet him and he's seventy five. You know his healthman,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, it's you get older. Age
Speaker 1: matters more.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so so you, But so would you.
Speaker 2: Guys think it's worse than if they lied about their height.
Speaker 1: I'd like to have a guy to lie to me
Speaker 1: about anything, right now, right fair.
Speaker 4: I'd be upset about the height because I have an issue.
Speaker 1: I would be upset. I don't. For me, it would
Speaker 1: be the age because again, at my age, if a
Speaker 1: guy tells me he's younger, which I would date in
Speaker 1: a heartbeat, I'm looking for that energetic, adventurous guy. So
Speaker 1: if i'm if a guy tells me he's you know,
Speaker 1: an age that I would date, and then I meet
Speaker 1: him and he's, you know, barely ambulatory, then I feel
Speaker 1: terrible saying to him, you know, I don't want to
Speaker 1: say you weren't quite active enough for me? All right?
Speaker 1: What's the about this one?
Speaker 4: A bad first kiss or a terrible first date conversation?
Speaker 4: Oh they're both bad.
Speaker 3: Bad, But you know what is like?
Speaker 2: I think the kiss, I think the bad dinner conversation
Speaker 2: is worse only because it's like the whole date, you know.
Speaker 4: And you'll never get to the kiss.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and the right but a bad kiss is like,
Speaker 2: you know, if you had the best date ever and
Speaker 2: it's a bad kiss, it's like okay, like maybe it's
Speaker 2: the nerves at least, like I enjoyed the time and
Speaker 2: enjoyed the conversation, Like I'd give them another shot.
Speaker 1: You know, that's very smart, That is very cool. Okay,
Speaker 1: I've got one. Because we've been Susan and I've been
Speaker 1: talking about dating apps a lot. I'm in Philly. That's
Speaker 1: what we're talking about. Getting on dating apps. Okay, dating
Speaker 1: someone who never posts or posts you too much.
Speaker 2: Worse, I think would be too much. And I only
Speaker 2: say that because I think, you know, social media is
Speaker 2: a highlight, highlights of everybody's life, right, I think there's
Speaker 2: like something to be said about maybe somebody that's like
Speaker 2: kind of over sharing, you like, don't really know the authenticity.
Speaker 1: Behind you see bragging that he's waitit wait, I'm lost, Juliana,
Speaker 1: you're saying it's worse to post too much.
Speaker 3: Yes, I think it is.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I personally wouldn't have a problem with
Speaker 2: a guy that never posted me. You know, I know
Speaker 2: what goes on in our real life. I'm quick that
Speaker 2: I just that's fine with me. I think the overposting
Speaker 2: is almost like I just have had people friends in
Speaker 2: my past that have been really toxic relationships and like
Speaker 2: it hasn't been good in the real life, but then
Speaker 2: the guy's like going out that yeah, and it's just
Speaker 2: it's like I have a weird kind of lens with that.
Speaker 2: Like if a man is over sharing me, I love it.
Speaker 2: I feel like that's great for the girl, like okay,
Speaker 2: but also like why what's the intenship?
Speaker 1: Okay, wait a second, we gotta wait, since we got
Speaker 1: to add a little added thing on to this question,
Speaker 1: which is worse, Juliana. A guy who never posts you,
Speaker 1: but at the same time he's following and commenting on
Speaker 1: other girls posts.
Speaker 3: Oh, he's gotta go immediately. Gotta go.
Speaker 4: About this one. Getting dumped by a text or getting
Speaker 4: dumped over a two hour dinner, which is worse. Either
Speaker 4: one is good, but if you had to choose one, I.
Speaker 3: Would love to use. MYA depends on this one only
Speaker 3: because like, how long have you been together?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: I think a text would feel so sad from like
Speaker 2: such a long term relationship.
Speaker 1: Juliana. Wait, a second, love you girl. If you've been dating,
Speaker 1: let me just pose it this way. You've been dating
Speaker 1: a guy for a year, not Mike, because you know
Speaker 1: the rings on your hand and the date's coming. You've
Speaker 1: been dating a guy for a year, and now you're
Speaker 1: at dinner and he comes in and you notice he's
Speaker 1: off and it doesn't feel right, And because you're such
Speaker 1: a smart, beautiful woman, you're like, oh shit, this is
Speaker 1: something bad's come in my way. Do you really want
Speaker 1: to sit there for a guy that you are planning
Speaker 1: a future with and here for two hours about who
Speaker 1: cares what he has to say? Because I'm tuning out
Speaker 1: the minute he start, I'm getting up and saying I'm out.
Speaker 1: You're gonna listen to that for two hours?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: But which one's worse?
Speaker 1: Do you get just died? It's way worse for me
Speaker 1: to have to sit there for two hours. Give me
Speaker 1: a text and I'll go cry for the next two months. Okay,
Speaker 1: let me to listen. Do it. You're right.
Speaker 3: Time is money, and you know what, he can't take
Speaker 3: two hours of my time.
Speaker 1: If he's just gonna there, yeah go Julian. Yeah.
Speaker 4: But if you feel like he's dumping you, during this
Speaker 4: order the dom Pernon and the caviar bitches. Yeah, you're
Speaker 4: gonna pay for this one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you know what happens. Oh shit, I
Speaker 1: left my wallet at home. Do you mind picking up
Speaker 1: this one?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: No, I have my wallet. Never brought my wallet, you know.
Speaker 4: What I Kathy, Kathy, how about flirt with everyone or
Speaker 4: rude to everyone? Julia?
Speaker 1: You know my answer?
Speaker 2: What's your answer, Juliana, I'm gonna have to go like
Speaker 2: rude with everyone.
Speaker 3: I don't know. I couldn't, and that my heart.
Speaker 2: I would like I hate when people are rude to
Speaker 2: people like but I couldn't.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 3: If he was blurting with everybody, I'd be like.
Speaker 1: He's mine. Yeah, I would be like, who cares? He's mine?
Speaker 1: Hope you have him fun. I had a date once
Speaker 1: with a guy who was so rude to what I
Speaker 1: should say, so rude rude enough that it was like,
Speaker 1: you know this is I don't like the way this looks.
Speaker 1: Whatever it was, and I never saw the guy again
Speaker 1: because to me, if you are rude to a server
Speaker 1: that tells me everything I need nobody.
Speaker 3: We're done here.
Speaker 4: So I do have to ask you, what is your
Speaker 4: biggest ick in meeting a man? What would your first
Speaker 4: ick a red flag?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 4: What do you I?
Speaker 2: I think it's hmmm, my biggest ick.
Speaker 4: I think it's I don't know, like rying if you
Speaker 4: find out he was a yeah, I.
Speaker 2: Mean I think, well, yeah, oh, I would be like
Speaker 2: I would be gone in a second.
Speaker 1: I don't deal with liar's a big ill.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't. I don't even have the time for
Speaker 3: like liars.
Speaker 2: I don't have time for people that to your point,
Speaker 2: waiters servers.
Speaker 4: Yeah, with about somebody the first meet and they talk
Speaker 4: nothing but trash about their exes.
Speaker 1: Oh, can't do it? Just wait, I've got one. No,
Speaker 1: go ahead, go ahead, Giuliana.
Speaker 2: No, I was just gonna say, you know, the way
Speaker 2: people talk about like their past relationships or even just
Speaker 2: other people, like you can learn a lot about them.
Speaker 1: Or I want I want Mike. I want Mike to
Speaker 1: listen to this next one because this might be the last.
Speaker 4: One we have time. I want Mike to come on
Speaker 4: after she comes out.
Speaker 1: Okay, but this one's really important, Mike. So Juliana tell
Speaker 1: them to listen to this one. Okay, even okay, ready.
Speaker 4: There, Michael. What they're saying Okay.
Speaker 1: Mike, Mike, listen up here. The answer I'm going to
Speaker 1: give you the answer before the question. The answer is neither,
Speaker 1: but we're going to play it anyway. Your partner, that
Speaker 1: would be you, Mike, forgets Juliana's birthday or is it
Speaker 1: worse to forget your anniversary with Juliana? Which is worse? Mike?
Speaker 1: Let me help you out here. I will never forget
Speaker 1: either one.
Speaker 4: Yeah, what do you think would be worse my birthday?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 3: My birthday?
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I'm not a big huge birthday gal. Anyways,
Speaker 2: I mean, this was my thirtieth and we did something
Speaker 2: super fun for it.
Speaker 3: But I think and I think.
Speaker 4: Your birthday would be about you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like doesn't involve them.
Speaker 2: It requires them to just kind of remember you individually.
Speaker 4: And there's no way they could forget an anniversary because
Speaker 4: we remind them. Babe. In six weeks, it's our fifth anniversary.
Speaker 4: Where are we going?
Speaker 1: No? No, no, Susan, Susan, Mike. Next Thursday is our
Speaker 1: four and a half month anniversary.
Speaker 4: Did you get me?
Speaker 1: I mean, seriously, that would be the question I have.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think that birthdays and anniversaries are
Speaker 1: really imparty. But Juliana, you did mention that you did
Speaker 1: something very special for your thirtieth birthday. Yes, what was it,
Speaker 1: she asked, in a very friendly, neighborly way.
Speaker 2: Well, I, of course woke up here in our New
Speaker 2: York home, and Mike had made my usual breakfast that
Speaker 2: he always does, with coffee and flowers, and he got
Speaker 2: me some really breathing gifts, one of which may or
Speaker 2: may not have been a beautiful ring.
Speaker 3: And we went to New York.
Speaker 1: Wait, wait, wait, stop, he doesn't want to.
Speaker 4: Does he have a father and uncle?
Speaker 1: I got where's his father? Uncle? And I will move
Speaker 1: back to Newton wherever I moved to Long Island. I
Speaker 1: don't care.
Speaker 4: Wait wait, you had a great day.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then we met my friends and my aunts
Speaker 2: and some of my cousins in the city, and we,
Speaker 2: uh we did.
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I don't care about your job, Michael, I don't.
Speaker 1: Care about her friends in the city. You just said
Speaker 1: you got a ring, and you're not going to say
Speaker 1: on our podcast. I'm officially engaged because I'm gonna say
Speaker 1: it if you don't, well, my can't.
Speaker 4: It was a ring.
Speaker 3: It was a ring. It was It had a lot
Speaker 3: of meaning behind it.
Speaker 4: But you know, I think the promise ring.
Speaker 1: No, yes, I promise to show you later is what
Speaker 1: it is.
Speaker 4: Diamond ring.
Speaker 3: It's not a diamond ring.
Speaker 4: Okay, that hells It's so fine. Nonetheless, he gave it
Speaker 4: to you. It means the world to you. I think
Speaker 4: Michael's doing a good job. He's doing we want our
Speaker 4: girl happy, and now we do the most there.
Speaker 1: Wait, hey, Michael, I'm from Newton. We all stick together.
Speaker 1: Where's your uncle, your grandfather, your father, your stepfather. I'm good,
Speaker 1: I mean just leving off.
Speaker 4: You are just a delight if you are, smile on
Speaker 4: my face for the second we started this podcast.
Speaker 1: We're so glad that you joined us for a batchoor
Speaker 1: happy hour. You are Wait, I have one more question.
Speaker 1: We can't leave. Okay, I don't know if you're in
Speaker 1: a home or an apartment, but have you started to
Speaker 1: redecorating it yet?
Speaker 3: Yeah, we are in a home and it is so fun.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a woman's touch. That man's place just needs help.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Wait, Susan, this guy not only see buyer I suuly surprises,
Speaker 1: brings her breakfast, He's letting her decorate the home. We
Speaker 1: need this guy, he needs to write a book. He
Speaker 1: needs to write a book for other men.
Speaker 4: Really, he's so smart.
Speaker 1: He's very sorry. He's top tier. Will you come back
Speaker 1: once you if you ever get engaged or decide to
Speaker 1: get married somewhere down the road, will you come back
Speaker 1: on with Mike.
Speaker 4: With him, yes, so we could talk to him too.
Speaker 3: I would love that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we would love that as well.
Speaker 1: Thank you, well, thanks again for joining us on Bad
Speaker 1: for a happy Hour.
Speaker 4: Kathy, she is adorable.
Speaker 1: Of course she's adorable. She's from Newton, where I'm from,
Speaker 1: and you call me adorable.
Speaker 4: She's Italian. I could say too, but no. You know
Speaker 4: how people see her us anybody on the show, on
Speaker 4: any kind of film, and then you talk hard to
Speaker 4: heart like that. I loved her. Yeah, well close is
Speaker 4: with her dad?
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, let's when we talked with her. First of all,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go on a limb. This just Kathy.
Speaker 1: I think that she is probably engaged, wants to make
Speaker 1: an announcement. It's just my intuition. And I sat there
Speaker 1: thinking a year ago, you know, she went through this
Speaker 1: public breakup and all this mess. But she said herself
Speaker 1: on our podcast that had she not done the show,
Speaker 1: she wouldn't be where she is today, she wouldn't have
Speaker 1: met Mike. And I thought, you know, that is such
Speaker 1: a positive way to look.
Speaker 4: Look at it. Yes, just to have a good head
Speaker 4: on her shoulders. But I'm with you. That thirtieth birthday, Yeah,
Speaker 4: that he made breakfast in bed like he always does.
Speaker 4: Did you hear that always does? Where is that man?
Speaker 4: And she had flowers?
Speaker 1: But well, what do you think though? I mean, she
Speaker 1: she was glowing, first of all, the girl was so happy.
Speaker 1: But I feel like we're not that age anymore. We're
Speaker 1: not thirty. But you know, listening to her talk, I
Speaker 1: kept thinking, she's thirty and she knows she's you know,
Speaker 1: they say when you know, you know, you know when
Speaker 1: you know she knows. That was one thing I thought.
Speaker 1: The other thing I thought was how much her life
Speaker 1: has changed. I didn't get the sense I'm asking your opinion.
Speaker 1: I did not get the sense that she really cares
Speaker 1: about She said, I'm a private person that she doesn't
Speaker 1: really want to be in the public eye. Did you
Speaker 1: get that sense?
Speaker 4: I exactly that, Yes, she doesn't care about that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And what if I always said to you, if I
Speaker 1: could find the right person, Yes, I mean, I would
Speaker 1: always be grateful for the experiences we've had, but I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for every experience. I am too, but I would,
Speaker 1: I mean, I love Bachelor Nation. You know that. How
Speaker 1: many times have I said it gave me back my life?
Speaker 1: But listening to.
Speaker 4: Julie, you're back out of depression your husband, Yes.
Speaker 1: It did. It's but I also feel like she as
Speaker 1: hard as it was. And I have no idea because
Speaker 1: I was never chosen by the lead. I was never
Speaker 1: a lead. But I really felt like as she's graceful,
Speaker 1: she is empathetic. I loved her answers.
Speaker 4: To return her lye her clothing line, nice girls.
Speaker 1: It's nice girls, It's always and her grandmother said it's
Speaker 1: always nice to be nice. What a great message to
Speaker 1: send to everybody.
Speaker 4: My family was always be kind and the same difference,
Speaker 4: you know, I don't know. I just check out their line,
Speaker 4: though of course you.
Speaker 1: Do it shopping. Susan always wants to go shopping. All
Speaker 1: I can say is in the the fact that she
Speaker 1: has moved in with him after a year. She literally
Speaker 1: it sounded like she had us moved in.
Speaker 4: I think the year is good, though, don't you.
Speaker 1: I think with what she's been through. I think she
Speaker 1: knows what she knows, and I think she's ready, and
Speaker 1: I think there will be an engagement, if it there
Speaker 1: hasn't been one already.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think there'll.
Speaker 1: Be a marriage. And hey, Juliana, if you're listening, I
Speaker 1: kind of like to come to this wedding and you know, meet.
Speaker 4: Your if you need me to officiate.
Speaker 1: We are relentless. Anyway. She is a lovely, lovely hum
Speaker 1: And for all of you in Bachelor Nation who don't
Speaker 1: think that she was in it to find love, you
Speaker 1: don't have to worry, because she has found love now.
Speaker 1: And that's the name I am.
Speaker 4: The fact that she said she was not a big dater.
Speaker 4: You know, she tried the dating app after the show
Speaker 4: and all, but she was more of a private person.
Speaker 4: And like you said, Kathy, without Bachelor, she would have
Speaker 4: never went to that house to film with all the
Speaker 4: and and waitling like.
Speaker 1: Wait, can I answer your question? Yeah, if I didn't
Speaker 1: want to like embarrass myself. But when she said she
Speaker 1: was in the Hamptons at this influencer party party and
Speaker 1: this guy like just immediately zones in on her, can
Speaker 1: you imagine all the quote unquote beautiful people who must
Speaker 1: have been at that party like you and I. What
Speaker 1: chance would we have had.
Speaker 4: Like she I went to something like this at the Mayers.
Speaker 1: Remember, Oh that's right. I'm guessing that Juliana ton.
Speaker 4: Out tons of people. There was not an executive producer
Speaker 4: that flirted with me.
Speaker 1: Our time is coming. You heard her time is coming.
Speaker 4: But I enjoyed her, and I hope she holds true
Speaker 4: to bringing Michael on and we'll have them both on
Speaker 4: when they want to announce there. But you know what,
Speaker 4: the fact that he has a little boy and she
Speaker 4: loves him and takes him back to play with her nephew,
Speaker 4: and it sounds you.
Speaker 1: Know what, Lucas can be the ring bear. It's already,
Speaker 1: it's already set up. Juliana, you are lovely. We are
Speaker 1: so grateful that you came on the podcast to show
Speaker 1: everybody what happiness and love looks like.
Speaker 4: Yes, and with that and every minute of.
Speaker 1: Happiness, and don't forget send me your uncle or Michael's
Speaker 1: uncles nan. In the meantime, thank you all for joining
Speaker 1: us on batchlor A Golden Hour.
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Speaker 4: We'll see you next week and tell you about the
Speaker 4: rest of our week that we're having together.
Speaker 1: It's going to be a wild time. Have a great week,
Speaker 1: have a good one.