WEBVTT - Juliana Part 2 — Is She Engaged? | Golden Hour 0:00:07.760 --> 0:00:11.760 Hey, everyone, we're back for part two with Juliana. Let's 0:00:11.800 --> 0:00:15.600 get right back into it. Does his son live with 0:00:15.680 --> 0:00:16.759 you or share time with you? 0:00:16.840 --> 0:00:17.120 Guys? 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:23.480 Yea the time. Oh that's so not his name, Lucas. 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:24.279 Oh yeah wow. 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:28.280 I know you never thought you would relocate, but love 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:32.760 has a way, truly, because now it's about a new 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:35.760 life for you and your future and you want to 0:00:35.800 --> 0:00:38.400 grow old with him. So you start your life there. 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:40.360 And the good news is it's not far. 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:41.639 From your family exactly. 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:43.200 Yeah, you could do it in a car. You don't 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:44.519 have to take an airplane. 0:00:44.760 --> 0:00:48.800 But Juliana, isn't I mean, isn't it interesting? What do 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:52.160 you ever think about the fact that a year ago, 0:00:52.440 --> 0:00:55.520 the day before you went to that event on Long Island, 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:59.640 did you think a year from then, which is now, 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:02.680 that you'd be so deeply in love with a big 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:06.119 rock on your hand, planning a wedding and announcing an 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:08.480 engagement with a man that you are so desperately in 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:11.120 love with. Did you really think that you would be there? 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:11.800 No? 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:15.479 I really had no idea, you know, and not for nothing, 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:19.680 but especially thinking about the mental headspace that I was 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:23.360 in like last year at this time, and to just 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:26.000 look back and see how far I've come, and like 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.160 how much life has truly changed. 0:01:28.240 --> 0:01:29.720 I mean, I don't even know. 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:32.280 I don't even know what I thought last year, but 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:35.240 I know I was like very hesitant to even date him, 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:36.560 you know, and now here we. 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:39.000 Are all right, Well, you are so wise? 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:42.120 Do make it official? Can we have a personal text? 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:45.080 Of course, we want to see the ring. We will 0:01:45.120 --> 0:01:48.800 to set the date with you. 0:01:46.920 --> 0:01:52.520 We wanted to argue, Leanna, you have been so you 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:56.920 are your wives beyond your years. You taught me a 0:01:56.920 --> 0:02:01.200 few things. Every week, Susan and I answer questions from 0:02:01.240 --> 0:02:04.920 our listeners. We give golden advice. We're not going to 0:02:05.000 --> 0:02:06.760 call you coldon, but we want you to kind of 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:09.120 weigh in and we're going to ask some questions and 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:13.000 then ask your opinion. Are you all right? 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:15.360 I'm going to read the first one, and it is 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:21.800 from Julie from Cleveland. She says, I've been dating someone 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:24.880 who is great in a lot of ways, but I 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:28.040 noticed that I don't feel like I can fully be 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:32.560 myself around him. Yet. I find myself filtering what I 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:36.280 say or how I act. And I'm not sure if 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:39.720 that's just early dating nerves or a sign we're not 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:42.880 the right fit. How do you tell the difference? 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:50.760 Hmm, I I think you know right off the bat. 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:53.239 I mean, I'm no dating expert. 0:02:53.360 --> 0:02:56.760 I have kind of minimal experience with that, but I 0:02:56.760 --> 0:03:03.040 would say there is definitely beginning nerves of you know, 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:07.080 being fully just kind of like your weird self. But 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:11.960 I think eventually, you know, it just clicks and you 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:15.120 kind of forget about like kind of have those walls 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:20.840 and the nervousness around your person, and you know, I 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:24.400 would say, if it's something that you're constantly aware of, 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:29.919 you know, filtering yourself so much, then you're obviously trying 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:32.120 to protect yourself from maybe being judged. 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:33.840 You don't feel like they're your safe. 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:36.240 Space, that they may take things the wrong way or 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:40.080 things don't want align right, but you know, trust your 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:43.560 instincts on that you know yourself better than anybody else, Julie. 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:47.560 So you know, that's a great answer. But you said 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:51.240 the key word, Juliana, which is in the beginning, people 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:54.360 have nerves. And we don't know how long Julie's been 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:57.200 dating this guy, but you're absolutely right, in my opinion, 0:03:57.560 --> 0:04:00.720 if Julie, if you've been dating this guy a long 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:04.480 time and you're still completely filtering what you say. That 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:07.200 might be a sign, but if it's a new relationship, 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:08.480 it's probably nerves. 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:12.360 Yeah, And for me it's hard not to be myself, so. 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:15.280 Not a bad problem to have. 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:19.120 What you see is what you get. But for her, 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:22.919 I could see the first couple dates being more reserved 0:04:23.080 --> 0:04:26.200 or you know, don't be your authentic. 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:29.320 Well, you guys just told me not to be authentic, 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:32.880 to be sweet and deliver only kindness. 0:04:33.440 --> 0:04:34.520 To be authetic. 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:39.919 It's a delivery, So Julie, say whatever you want, but 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:43.280 just control the delivery. It makes no sense zero. 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:46.080 You got to be comfortable to be in a relationship 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:49.039 when it's brand new. I get it. You feel a 0:04:49.040 --> 0:04:52.240 little weird, you're not sure, you're not sure about your 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:57.039 own feelings or his what his thoughts are. But eventually 0:04:57.080 --> 0:04:59.520 you have to be okay being yourself and if it's 0:04:59.560 --> 0:04:59.760 not a. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:02.839 It's probably not the right fit if you have to 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:05.240 too lot. All right, good job, all right here we 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:07.760 got Wait one more question, Juliana, how long did it 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:11.480 take you before you were unfiltered with Mike? Right? Did 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:13.400 the get go? No? 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:15.760 Not right from the get go. You know, I was 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:17.040 very hesitant. 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:19.520 It wasn't that weekend at the house. No. 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:21.560 I think that weekend I was just feeling them out, 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:24.359 you know. And then shortly after we went on a 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:28.200 trip to Florida together and I didn't even think about it, 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:29.760 but I was like, oh my god, I'm you know, 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:32.400 going away, I'm sharing a hotel room. I was like 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:36.119 kind of freaking me out, like and I think that helped. 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:38.320 It kind of just forced things, you know, there was 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:41.159 no escaping each other. So I was like, you know, 0:05:41.360 --> 0:05:43.159 I just I am who I am at this point. 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:46.800 Please, that's right, good, good for you. All right, let's change, right, 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:49.360 it can't change. Well, I'm going to change because you 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:52.960 guys told me I have to. Okay, This next one 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:58.159 is from Johnny from Seattle, and I think Johnny in 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:01.400 this case is a girl because it to I. E Okay, 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:05.440 I've been talking to someone who is very charming and attentive, 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:10.640 but he moves fast, talking about trips together, future plans, 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:16.360 and how different I am from anyone else he's met. 0:06:16.720 --> 0:06:20.040 Part of me is flattered, part of me is little overwhelmed. 0:06:20.360 --> 0:06:23.560 How do you tell if someone is generally exciting or 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:24.920 if it's love bombing? 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:28.159 I was just going to say, I feel like there 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:32.600 is definitely a bit of what sounds like love bombing 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:35.559 if a lot of it is like talks. But I think, 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:39.240 you know, to give him the benefit of the doubt, 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:43.200 somebody that's thinking of plans in the future, you know, 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:47.159 that's a good sign, right. So I think actions speak 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:49.840 louder than words. So see what he follows through with, 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:54.719 you know, And I think words are tough when you 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:57.200 know everything's so new, so you got to rely a 0:06:57.200 --> 0:07:00.919 lot more on actions than what they're saying. Otherwise, it 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:03.320 sounds like it could be love bombing. If there's no 0:07:03.480 --> 0:07:04.680 like trips booked. 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:08.400 Yeah, Well, I think what she's saying is she's nervous 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:12.080 because he's talking about tripping, uh booking the trips, and 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:14.680 maybe she feels like it's too soon. But I think 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:18.160 to your point, Julianna, if if if you if you don't, 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:23.880 if you're nervous about doing that, yeah, or or you 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:27.000 feel like you're not ready, then maybe that is love bombing. 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:28.920 It's like the flip side of the same point. You 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.840 were ready to take that jump with Mike. Maybe she's 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:33.040 not ready. 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:37.400 Yeah, And me I am that person. I'm the love girl. 0:07:37.640 --> 0:07:39.760 I'm the one that's going to plan the future and 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:42.520 talk about, oh, we should do this together when I'm excited. 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:45.520 So I read it totally different. I think she should 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:48.280 just enjoy the ride and whatever happens happens. 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:50.720 Right, really, yeah, well, I don't know. I will tell you, 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:54.640 Susan knows. I recently dated a guy who, on our 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:58.280 I don't know, third date, looked at me and said, 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:00.840 you know, you are really someone could fall in love with. 0:08:01.760 --> 0:08:08.440 It gave me the ick because because even though. 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:10.680 I loved it, I was like, wasn't that sweet? 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:13.040 I mean, I was real. 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:18.800 I want well, Susan, since we're not together, how real 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:19.600 was it? 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:21.600 It doesn't mean he could have fallen in love with you? 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:22.240 Whatever. 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:26.760 I love a good lover boy, so I had like, 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:28.920 you know, because I love a love with girl. 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:34.920 Yeah. Yeah, it's that Italian thing, all right. The next 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:37.760 one is from kat Oh my goodness, and she's from Philly. 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:42.839 I can't wait. I've been dating someone who is really great, 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:46.640 but I've noticed that I feel more anxious than secure 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:50.959 when I'm with him. He's not doing anything wrong necessarily, 0:08:51.040 --> 0:08:54.040 but something just feels a little off and I can't 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:58.120 quite explain it. Do you trust that feeling or try 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:01.600 to work through it logically? Wait a minute, I don't wait. 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:05.360 Can I just stop position Susan the word logically. You 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:08.040 don't even get to answer this question, Susan, You're just 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:10.560 gonna let Juliana take all because the word the minue 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:14.880 you introduce the word logic Susan's answers right off the window. Okay, ihead, Juliana, 0:09:14.920 --> 0:09:15.480 what do you think? 0:09:16.200 --> 0:09:18.840 I guess you know, one of my first questions I 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:21.679 would ask is like, do you have things from your 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:26.040 past that maybe are not resolved? Like is there trauma 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:30.040 or insecurities from past relationships that you might be carrying 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:34.080 into this because if he's not doing anything wrong, you 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:40.040 may be kind of like projecting the anxiety of past situations. 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:43.520 And I think when you start anything new, you know, 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:45.480 you've got to leave the past in the past, and 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:48.560 you have to kind of give everybody a clean slate 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:52.160 to just prove to you who they are. You know, 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:55.640 you can't judge somebody before you know them. But you know, 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:58.800 I also think there's a benefit in a reason we 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:02.200 have instinct, right, So it's just it's kind of hard. 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:04.640 You know, you got to see if you're bringing anything 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.559 in from the past, and if not, maybe your body's 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:09.000 trying to give you some signs here. 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:14.400 But she says something just feels a little off. So 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:18.600 is she not sure about him right? And it's not 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:23.480 even her like maybe she's questioning where he's been or 0:10:23.840 --> 0:10:26.280 his she's getting anxious. 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:30.400 But also it could be what it could be what 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:34.240 Juliana is saying, which is I think I'm more with 0:10:34.240 --> 0:10:37.439 you Juliana on this one. I think she probably has 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:40.040 some trial. That's why she can't explain it because it's 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:43.000 probably not him. It feels a little off to her 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:47.040 because she's bringing along in that suitcase, that baggage, a 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:50.120 little bit of trauma maybe from another relationship. I think 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:51.679 you're right on the money, Juliana. 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:53.800 And you know, one other thing I want to add 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:56.520 too is I think in this like day and age, 0:10:56.600 --> 0:11:00.120 it's so hard when you start newly dating somebody, I 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:01.479 feel like nobody really. 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:05.400 Asks the question of like are we just dating each other? 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:07.800 Like the fact kind of have to even ask that, 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:11.040 you know, Like I think people say, like we're exclusive 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:15.840 or like not exclusive, and there's so much confusion around 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:18.480 that and like around the beginning stages of dating and 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:21.280 until you get to that point that like, if she's 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:24.720 confused about where you know what he's doing. 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:27.480 I think you know ask. I think there's no shame 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:30.360 in the game. I basically said to Michael, I was like, 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:33.000 so are we dating? You know I was because I'm not. 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:37.120 But before I sleep with you, you got to tell 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:41.080 me you're not sleep with anybody else. Situationship that new 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:44.160 dating thing now that means you could sleep with whoever 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:45.000 you want dated? 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:46.079 What the hell. 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:48.800 It for you? 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:51.360 We can? I just say I think I need to 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:55.199 become Italian because you too seem to clearly have all 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:58.600 the answers there. I love you as you can submit 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:00.640 to the rest of the world. You can submit all 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:03.679 your bringing questions to us by going to batchel nation 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:07.880 dot com slash Golden Hour come back each week. Juliana 0:12:07.920 --> 0:12:10.280 won't be here each week, but Susan will take care 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:12.080 of the Italian answers for everyone. 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:14.760 I could definitely have her once a month at least, 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:18.000 that's right. I like it. She's calm and she's you know, 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:20.960 you say it like it is, Kathy. Do you see 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:21.800 what she's saying. 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:24.960 I don't see it at all. I see a beautiful 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:28.120 girl who got the guy and I'm still out in 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:30.560 the rain by myself. So no, and we're both from 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:33.640 we're bull from the Massachusetts. Like why when? 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:42.040 Okay, I don't know, Juliana. This week, we're going to 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:46.080 play a game, okay, and we're gonna ask you to 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:51.240 tell us which is worse in your opinion and why 0:12:52.080 --> 0:12:55.760 and no depends, allow you. 0:12:55.960 --> 0:12:57.240 Have to answer, Okay. 0:12:57.240 --> 0:12:58.760 I can't say it depends. 0:12:58.880 --> 0:12:59.160 Okay. 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:02.040 I think this is the occult, okay, because I always 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:03.640 have a difficult time with things like this. 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:05.120 Context matters. 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:08.480 Okay, Kathy, you want to start, you want me to. 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:11.560 Start the first one? Here we go. Not that this 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:15.880 has ever happened to you, Juliana getting ghosted after three 0:13:16.000 --> 0:13:20.319 dates or getting rejected after three dates? 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:21.400 Ghosted? 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:23.400 I think which is worse? 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:25.120 Yeah, ghosted is worse. 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:28.600 I think the lack of communication is like a lack 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:30.200 of regard for you as a human. 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:32.199 And I think that's worse. 0:13:32.280 --> 0:13:34.800 If somebody who open and honest and just say it's 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:37.880 not working out, so much respect to them, you know. 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:41.640 Hey, I love I agree. 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:44.160 I one hundred percent agree with you. It's it's all 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:48.560 about respect. It's it's somebody's tried it out, it didn't work. 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.680 I'm going to tell you after three dates and have 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:52.600 the respect for that person to do it. Good job. 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:56.040 Okay, okay, here's a good one when texting, all right, 0:13:56.720 --> 0:14:01.720 being left on red or getting a one word response. 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:07.280 I hate it when you know they read it and 0:14:07.320 --> 0:14:11.839 they didn't respond because as a woman, we assume, which 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:14.680 is a cardinal role that we should not assume. But 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:18.320 if they don't respond, maybe they're busy, maybe whatever. So 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:20.520 what do you think I. 0:14:20.320 --> 0:14:22.000 Think no response is worse? 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:26.160 I mean, you know if sometimes the one word answer 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:31.400 is aggravating, but at least it's acknowledging. 0:14:31.160 --> 0:14:32.160 That you said something. 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:37.760 So I'll take an acknowledgment over potentially getting ignored any day. 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:40.360 Yeah, Kathy, Yeah, I don't know. 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:46.640 I I so you know you little love love girls 0:14:46.680 --> 0:14:49.680 over there. I feel like if somebody has read it 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:54.040 and I'm dating them and I know that they're you know, 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:56.480 working on they're a lawyer and they're working on their case, 0:14:57.360 --> 0:15:00.920 they acknowledge that they just don't have time to answer. 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:05.920 But if they answer fully later, I'm good to give 0:15:05.960 --> 0:15:09.400 a one word answer, unless it's are you coming over 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:12.360 to cook me dinner tonight? And the answers yes. Then 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:15.560 to me, the one word answer is exactly the opposite. 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:18.520 It shows a lack of regard. It's like I can't 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:20.920 be bothered to take time. I took the time to 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:23.280 read your response, but I'm not really going to take 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:26.920 the time to respond to you. I'd rather wait get 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:28.400 the good answer. 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:33.360 I have about dating someone who never texts first or 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:36.200 someone who texts constantly. 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:44.800 I think, I mean, if they never text first, I 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:47.240 never even really pay attention to that. I mean, but 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:51.520 I think it's like, I think that's worse, right, because 0:15:51.520 --> 0:15:54.440 I'd rather have somebody that's texting me all day, you know, 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:56.440 And I can neither give the one word answers or 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:59.200 now the responses with the thumbs up you. 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:04.040 Know, Okay, I got one here, it's one of my 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:07.680 and I'm sorry. I have another answer for this finding 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:11.640 out they lied about their age or lied about their height, Juliana, 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:13.120 which is worse. 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:18.520 I mean, Boston is like known for the men saying 0:16:18.560 --> 0:16:21.560 they're six feet and they are not six feet. I think, 0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:26.880 I mean, I think age would be worse because you know, 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:28.680 are you saying you're older or younger? 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:32.400 First of all? And then you know, it's a that's 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:35.400 a that's an important thing. Height I can get over, 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:36.040 you know. 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:39.720 Until you're my age. Okay, and you go on a 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:43.120 dating app. I'm serious. I've lied before, and I've gone 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:45.120 out to meet people that I met on the app, 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:47.680 and within the first three minutes I said, listen, there's 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:50.920 something I have to tell you. I am not sixty three. 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:55.040 I am really sixty six. Neggatve Okay, I go. But 0:16:55.160 --> 0:16:58.400 some people would think I'm a liar. Yeah, but nobody 0:16:58.560 --> 0:17:01.040 was talking to me because I been fifty nine and 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:04.480 sixty one. I don't remember the exact years, but you 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:08.640 have to sometimes. I'm going on there at sixty nine. 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:11.000 So I think toa you have the right answer. Though 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:15.320 at our age, obviously it's different. You're you're younger. If 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:18.320 a guy says he's you're thirty. Let's just say you're 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:20.439 on a dating app and the guy said he was 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:23.479 thirty two and he was really twenty eight, you may 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:25.919 or may not date a guy two years younger. But 0:17:26.119 --> 0:17:29.040 in our age, if a guy is if you're if 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:31.800 you're sixty nine like Susan, and you're looking for a 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:35.800 guy and he says he's sixty seven and then you 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:40.040 meet him and he's seventy five. You know his healthman, 0:17:40.119 --> 0:17:42.040 you know what I'm saying, it's you get older. Age 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:42.760 matters more. 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:45.879 Yeah, so so you, But so would you. 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:49.040 Guys think it's worse than if they lied about their height. 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:51.520 I'd like to have a guy to lie to me 0:17:51.560 --> 0:17:53.600 about anything, right now, right fair. 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:57.880 I'd be upset about the height because I have an issue. 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:01.280 I would be upset. I don't. For me, it would 0:18:01.280 --> 0:18:04.480 be the age because again, at my age, if a 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:07.080 guy tells me he's younger, which I would date in 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:11.000 a heartbeat, I'm looking for that energetic, adventurous guy. So 0:18:11.040 --> 0:18:13.560 if i'm if a guy tells me he's you know, 0:18:13.600 --> 0:18:15.440 an age that I would date, and then I meet 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:19.320 him and he's, you know, barely ambulatory, then I feel 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:23.439 terrible saying to him, you know, I don't want to 0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:26.040 say you weren't quite active enough for me? All right? 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:27.240 What's the about this one? 0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:33.000 A bad first kiss or a terrible first date conversation? 0:18:33.960 --> 0:18:35.800 Oh they're both bad. 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:38.480 Bad, But you know what is like? 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:43.000 I think the kiss, I think the bad dinner conversation 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:48.360 is worse only because it's like the whole date, you know. 0:18:48.400 --> 0:18:49.959 And you'll never get to the kiss. 0:18:50.200 --> 0:18:52.960 Yeah, and the right but a bad kiss is like, 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:54.679 you know, if you had the best date ever and 0:18:54.720 --> 0:18:56.600 it's a bad kiss, it's like okay, like maybe it's 0:18:56.640 --> 0:18:59.359 the nerves at least, like I enjoyed the time and 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:02.200 enjoyed the conversation, Like I'd give them another shot. 0:19:02.320 --> 0:19:05.800 You know, that's very smart, That is very cool. Okay, 0:19:05.880 --> 0:19:07.919 I've got one. Because we've been Susan and I've been 0:19:07.960 --> 0:19:10.720 talking about dating apps a lot. I'm in Philly. That's 0:19:10.720 --> 0:19:15.160 what we're talking about. Getting on dating apps. Okay, dating 0:19:15.280 --> 0:19:21.080 someone who never posts or posts you too much. 0:19:23.880 --> 0:19:29.800 Worse, I think would be too much. And I only 0:19:29.880 --> 0:19:33.040 say that because I think, you know, social media is 0:19:33.080 --> 0:19:37.080 a highlight, highlights of everybody's life, right, I think there's 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:40.000 like something to be said about maybe somebody that's like 0:19:40.160 --> 0:19:47.320 kind of over sharing, you like, don't really know the authenticity. 0:19:46.440 --> 0:19:50.240 Behind you see bragging that he's waitit wait, I'm lost, Juliana, 0:19:50.320 --> 0:19:52.879 you're saying it's worse to post too much. 0:19:53.359 --> 0:19:54.439 Yes, I think it is. 0:19:54.600 --> 0:19:57.040 Yeah, I mean I personally wouldn't have a problem with 0:19:57.040 --> 0:19:58.800 a guy that never posted me. You know, I know 0:19:58.840 --> 0:20:00.800 what goes on in our real life. I'm quick that 0:20:01.160 --> 0:20:04.480 I just that's fine with me. I think the overposting 0:20:04.560 --> 0:20:08.280 is almost like I just have had people friends in 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:13.080 my past that have been really toxic relationships and like 0:20:13.720 --> 0:20:15.959 it hasn't been good in the real life, but then 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:19.719 the guy's like going out that yeah, and it's just 0:20:20.080 --> 0:20:22.439 it's like I have a weird kind of lens with that. 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:26.080 Like if a man is over sharing me, I love it. 0:20:26.119 --> 0:20:29.040 I feel like that's great for the girl, like okay, 0:20:29.160 --> 0:20:32.080 but also like why what's the intenship? 0:20:32.080 --> 0:20:34.320 Okay, wait a second, we gotta wait, since we got 0:20:34.359 --> 0:20:36.720 to add a little added thing on to this question, 0:20:37.200 --> 0:20:42.760 which is worse, Juliana. A guy who never posts you, 0:20:43.520 --> 0:20:47.520 but at the same time he's following and commenting on 0:20:47.800 --> 0:20:49.200 other girls posts. 0:20:49.240 --> 0:20:52.240 Oh, he's gotta go immediately. Gotta go. 0:20:53.960 --> 0:20:59.280 About this one. Getting dumped by a text or getting 0:20:59.359 --> 0:21:04.320 dumped over a two hour dinner, which is worse. Either 0:21:04.400 --> 0:21:09.680 one is good, but if you had to choose one, I. 0:21:09.640 --> 0:21:12.000 Would love to use. MYA depends on this one only 0:21:12.040 --> 0:21:13.760 because like, how long have you been together? 0:21:14.040 --> 0:21:14.320 You know? 0:21:15.240 --> 0:21:18.080 I think a text would feel so sad from like 0:21:18.160 --> 0:21:20.440 such a long term relationship. 0:21:21.040 --> 0:21:27.280 Juliana. Wait, a second, love you girl. If you've been dating, 0:21:27.720 --> 0:21:29.920 let me just pose it this way. You've been dating 0:21:29.920 --> 0:21:31.720 a guy for a year, not Mike, because you know 0:21:31.840 --> 0:21:34.120 the rings on your hand and the date's coming. You've 0:21:34.160 --> 0:21:36.840 been dating a guy for a year, and now you're 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:39.359 at dinner and he comes in and you notice he's 0:21:39.440 --> 0:21:42.600