1 00:00:01,480 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:07,880 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:11,400 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:15,360 Speaker 1: by clicking submit Strawberry Letter. And guess what we could 5 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 1: be reading your letter live on the air, just like 6 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: we're going to read this one right here, right now, 7 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:23,279 Speaker 1: and you never know. It could be yours. It could 8 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:25,239 Speaker 1: be Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it 9 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:28,920 Speaker 1: for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter subject he 10 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:34,280 Speaker 1: can't stand being Alone. Dear Stephen Shirley. I was living 11 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: with my brother and his wife for a while after 12 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:38,680 Speaker 1: they had a baby and it was time for her 13 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:41,240 Speaker 1: to return to work. They didn't want the baby going 14 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,279 Speaker 1: to a babysitter yet, so I agreed to move in 15 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 1: and help out. I'm retired and my daughter is in college, 16 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 1: so I have a lot of time on my hands. 17 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 1: This is not what I signed up for, though. My 18 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: sister in law is a flight attendant and she does 19 00:00:56,520 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: international flights, which means she's gone for days at a time. 20 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: The first time she left, my brother left too. He 21 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: was gone all weekend and he did not tell me 22 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: where he was. He got home and washed all of 23 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:11,959 Speaker 1: his clothes and then went to pick up his wife 24 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:14,960 Speaker 1: from the airport. The next time she left the house, 25 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 1: he invited a woman over to the house, and he 26 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 1: told me that he was ordering out and watching a 27 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 1: movie with his friend. After I saw the fourth different 28 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 1: woman in the house, I asked my brother if he 29 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 1: had a problem and how could he do this to 30 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:33,920 Speaker 1: his wife like that. He said that he doesn't like 31 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 1: to be alone and the women helped him pass the time. 32 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: I told him. I told him if he's needing to 33 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:44,679 Speaker 1: pass the time, he could keep his five month old 34 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 1: son all by himself. He continued to bring other women 35 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:50,440 Speaker 1: in the house, so I told his wife I was 36 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 1: leaving because something came up and I needed to be 37 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 1: closer to home. She asked me if it was because 38 00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 1: my brother was being a womanizer. I lied and said 39 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 1: that wasn't it at all. She's been knowing and hasn't 40 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: said anything to him about it, and that makes me 41 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:10,920 Speaker 1: even more uncomfortable staying there. I'm not sure if she's 42 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 1: insecure or has low self esteems, and she had the baby, 43 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:18,800 Speaker 1: but my brother's behavior is unbelievable. I want to ask 44 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 1: her how much she knows, but I don't want to 45 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:24,799 Speaker 1: open Pandora's box. What do I do? Well, I say, 46 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:28,519 Speaker 1: you do the same thing you're doing. You know, look, 47 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:32,519 Speaker 1: you got you gotta get out of there. You're doing 48 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:35,839 Speaker 1: the right thing. I think you're absolutely doing the right thing. 49 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 1: Get out. Tell her something came up and you gotta go. 50 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 1: Because it's just way too much happening in and out 51 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: of this man's house and this woman's house. It's too 52 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 1: much happening in their marriage that you don't need to 53 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 1: be a part of. I mean, this dad needs to 54 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:53,920 Speaker 1: watch his own baby. If he's got this kind of 55 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:56,480 Speaker 1: free time, why isn't he at home with his baby. 56 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: Surely his son is more important than the women he's 57 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 1: cheating with on the baby's mom with. I just think 58 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 1: this is so disrespectful. I mean, that's needless to say, 59 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: but he's bringing the women in the house. The crazy 60 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: part is his wife seemed to know that he cheats, right, 61 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 1: even though she called it. Is he womanizing? You do 62 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 1: not approve of what your brother's doing, that's quite obvious. 63 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 1: He doesn't care how you feel, though, because he's not 64 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: trying to stop. He doesn't respect you or appreciate you. 65 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: For what he's what you're doing. I mean, you know, 66 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 1: he just says that he doesn't like to be alone. 67 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 1: I just think it's sad what he's doing. It's horrible 68 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 1: what he's doing, Horrible for his marriage, for his wife, 69 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: for the baby, everybody involved. But you don't need to 70 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 1: be there, you know, because they're not trying to fix this. 71 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: You have your own life. I mean I say, do 72 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 1: your own thing, you know, with your life. You say 73 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: you have a lot of time on your hands, but 74 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 1: they don't appreciate you. This is craziness. Poor baby, you know, 75 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: I just feel bad for the baby because you know what, 76 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: what are these parents doing, especially the dad, Steve, I 77 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 1: don't want to be alone? Whoa? And then more crazy 78 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 1: sugar foot or how players it was just a silly 79 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 1: game we were playing. Or see think about old schoolers. 80 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 1: They have a song for everything. I don't want to 81 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:41,760 Speaker 1: be alone? And then more. That's all I could hear 82 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:46,640 Speaker 1: the whole time you read this letter. It's flat out 83 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:54,360 Speaker 1: crazy man, what boy? What listen? This woman had a baby, 84 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 1: heard her husband. They want to didn't want the baby 85 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 1: go to babysitter, so they paid you to move into 86 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: town and live with him. The woman's a flight attendant 87 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:09,239 Speaker 1: and she does international flights. After she got on her feet, 88 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 1: she went back to work. You there watching the baby. 89 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:15,720 Speaker 1: You had no idea how much watching your anthy don't 90 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 1: have to do. You got to be standing at this 91 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:23,839 Speaker 1: damn baby. I mean, you ain't got a breathable moment. 92 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 1: Now your white Your sister in law goes on an 93 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:32,839 Speaker 1: international trip. Your brother who is the father of the 94 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:36,719 Speaker 1: baby with the woman who is the international flight attendant. 95 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:40,599 Speaker 1: He drop off at the airport. You ain't seen him 96 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 1: all weekend. So now he got home, washed all his clothes, 97 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 1: then went to pick his wife from the airport. He 98 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:53,720 Speaker 1: had to wash them clothes. Ain't no telling him bos 99 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 1: on them clothes, especially if one of these girls is 100 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 1: a strip of the little own him. Damn cloth, good 101 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: lord ed glitter don't come out, so anyway he's trying 102 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: to wash it out. The next time she left the house, 103 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: he invited a woman over to the house, and he 104 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: told you he was ordered out and watch a movie 105 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:28,160 Speaker 1: with his friend. What house? And then he didn't Now 106 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:30,120 Speaker 1: let me tell you what before we go to break 107 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 1: after I saw the fourth different woman in the house. 108 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: So this boy's visit man. Well, I come back. I'll 109 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:40,760 Speaker 1: share you the rest of it. We're pretty much gonna 110 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 1: be all right. Coming up, part two of Steve's response 111 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:49,279 Speaker 1: to today's Strawberry letter, a subject he can't stand being alone. 112 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 1: We'll hear his response at twenty three minutes after it. 113 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: Right after this. You're listening Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve, 114 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,799 Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subjec is he can't 115 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: stand being alone. Well, here's a deal. Bottom line is 116 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:07,719 Speaker 1: this man and woman are married. Your brother is married 117 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 1: to this woman who's a flight attendant. They had a baby. 118 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: They didn't want the baby to go to a babysitter. 119 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 1: They hired you and brought you in full time nanny. 120 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: You there, but you didn't realize what the job entail 121 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 1: because she's an international flight attendant, so she's gone for 122 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: days at a time. She took her first trip out 123 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: of town. Then your brother didn't tell you this, but 124 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 1: he took a trip somewhere. He was gone for the 125 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:33,080 Speaker 1: whole weekend, came back in, washed his clothes, tried to 126 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: get all the glitter and make him hair out of it, 127 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: and then went to that point and picked up his wife, 128 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: and then the next time she left the house, he 129 00:07:41,440 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 1: invited another woman over to the house and told you 130 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 1: his sister that wrote this letter, he was ordering out 131 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:52,000 Speaker 1: and gonna watch a movie with his friend. After I 132 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: saw the fourth different woman in the house. The letter 133 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: writer then turns her brother and asked her brother if 134 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: he had a problem and how could he do his 135 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 1: wife like that? This is what the letter is about. 136 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: Right there, he said, out of his own mouth, with 137 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 1: his own lips perched. He don't like to be alone, 138 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:20,600 Speaker 1: and the women help him pass the time. Boy, there's golf, 139 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:28,840 Speaker 1: checkers online or business. You can go to gym, so 140 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 1: you can take up cooking. He's the big one you 141 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:35,839 Speaker 1: could do. If you really need to pass some time, 142 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: try watching a baby. You talk about time, Put that down, 143 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 1: set that quick, crowding over that league that alone, Get 144 00:08:47,480 --> 00:08:51,120 Speaker 1: out off of that, shut up, be quiet, don't go 145 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 1: over there, stay out of there. What are you doing? 146 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 1: Where is he? Where is he? Where? Don't climb up 147 00:08:56,040 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: on that. But if you want to just pass some time, 148 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:06,839 Speaker 1: watching a baby can fill it up. I'm talking about 149 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 1: to the brim. So now he tells you they help 150 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: him pass the time. Then you said he could keep 151 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 1: his five month old son by himself. After you told 152 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 1: him that, your brother continued to bring other women in 153 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 1: the house. So then you told his wife that you 154 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:27,679 Speaker 1: was leaving because something caming up and I need to 155 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 1: be closer to home. Nice move. The wife turned around 156 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 1: and asked you, is it because your brother was a womanizer? 157 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:40,320 Speaker 1: I lied and said that wasn't it at all. And 158 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:42,520 Speaker 1: then you realize that she'd been knowing this and ain't 159 00:09:42,520 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 1: said anything about it, and that makes you even more uncomfortable. 160 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:50,040 Speaker 1: Stand there now, you're saying that you don't know if 161 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: she's inconsied, excuse me, insecure, or got low self esteem 162 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: since she had the baby. But you don't you think 163 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 1: your brother this behavior is unbelievable. I want to ask 164 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:06,160 Speaker 1: her how much she knows, which you shouldn't because she 165 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:09,520 Speaker 1: just told you he was a womanizer. The details is 166 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 1: unimportant for the woman is a flight attended and she 167 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:14,559 Speaker 1: go out on a trip. You don't think she called 168 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:17,600 Speaker 1: a check on the baby. You don't think she asked 169 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 1: him what is the baby doing right now? FaceTime me 170 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 1: with the baby. He can't answer that because the baby 171 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 1: he hold it can't FaceTime with her. You see what 172 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:34,600 Speaker 1: I'm saying, so now she know, because ain't no woman 173 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 1: not gonna know when you're going for a whole weekend, 174 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:39,880 Speaker 1: are you supposed to be at the house where the baby. 175 00:10:40,200 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: Women know how to check up on that stuff. She 176 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: probably got his phone pined. He don't know it, and 177 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 1: I can't tell you she been knowing this dude's cheat, 178 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:54,120 Speaker 1: but you don't need to. Then you say you don't 179 00:10:54,160 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: want to ask her how much she knows because you 180 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 1: don't want to open up a Pandora's box. What do 181 00:10:57,800 --> 00:11:00,320 Speaker 1: I do? I think you should do exactly what you're 182 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 1: planned on doing, move back closer to home, and let 183 00:11:04,679 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 1: your brother figure it out, because your brother he doing 184 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:11,200 Speaker 1: way too much. First of all, man, you want to 185 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 1: know something that I've never understood. I have never understood, 186 00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 1: and I know, ladies you may have some problems with 187 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 1: what I'm about to say, but I've never understood a 188 00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:26,440 Speaker 1: man who cheats and brings the woman to the home 189 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:31,679 Speaker 1: of his wife. It's just another level of okay, you know, 190 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:34,559 Speaker 1: like you're you're very familiar with. There as honor amongst thieves. 191 00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 1: There's a code amongst the thieves, there's a cheatah code 192 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:44,920 Speaker 1: too well. Bringing a woman to your house where your 193 00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:49,880 Speaker 1: family is. Bro that's just like you know, that's another 194 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:53,080 Speaker 1: level of disrespect. I got you stepping out, I got 195 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 1: you got a side piece, I got all that, but 196 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 1: you're gonna bring the side piece to your house. Two 197 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:03,200 Speaker 1: things is wrong here? Why you? And huh? Because who 198 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:06,079 Speaker 1: is this skank that know you're married and go over 199 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:10,319 Speaker 1: your wife house and sitting up watching movies. I'll tell 200 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:13,959 Speaker 1: you the incident I had a long time ago. Then. 201 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 1: I would definitely keep the names out to protect the innocent. 202 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 1: Mostly meeting here. It's a pertinent piece of information. There 203 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:28,439 Speaker 1: a partner who was famous before I was. I stayed 204 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:32,680 Speaker 1: at his house and he had a girl over his 205 00:12:32,720 --> 00:12:35,800 Speaker 1: house and his wife went out of town to ski, 206 00:12:36,240 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: and he bought a girl to the house. I'm upstairs 207 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:40,439 Speaker 1: and I'm looking over the railing and I see the 208 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:43,199 Speaker 1: whole thing there on the couch and everything. She leaved 209 00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:45,400 Speaker 1: early in the morning. I said, dog, your wife could 210 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:48,079 Speaker 1: come back. He said, dog, this is my house. I 211 00:12:48,120 --> 00:12:51,439 Speaker 1: had this house while I married her. Oversasion I had 212 00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:53,719 Speaker 1: with that dude right there, I said, Broun, listen to me. 213 00:12:54,280 --> 00:12:58,680 Speaker 1: I've had that experience before, and it's not gonna work out. Wow, 214 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 1: sorry we're out of time, Steve whoa just to help 215 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:06,840 Speaker 1: you out, let me just be. It's also was his divorced. 216 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, that is child support all right. Coming up 217 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:16,880 Speaker 1: next it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, 218 00:13:17,679 --> 00:13:20,400 Speaker 1: you're listening to The Stave Harvey Morning Show.