1 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: Hey lady, is doctor Dom here. If you like this 2 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: show and you want to make your own, let me 3 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: tell you about the free platform Anchor. It's a creation 4 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: tool that allows you to record and edit your podcast 5 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 1: right from your phone or computer. You can add songs 6 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: from Spotify and create any type of content that you 7 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:24,360 Speaker 1: are looking for. 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So in today's episode, 17 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 2: we just want to walk you through season four just 18 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 2: to give you an idea of what we covered, what 19 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 2: was our favorite part of the different episodes, and this 20 00:00:58,160 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 2: will give you an overview on where you might want 21 00:00:59,880 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 2: to jump in because you have lots of content that 22 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 2: you can tune into. We also want to share with 23 00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 2: you some very exciting updates that we have for twenty twenty. 24 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 2: We're going to share how you might be able to 25 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:12,119 Speaker 2: meet with us in person and chat and hang out 26 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:13,120 Speaker 2: and have some girl time. 27 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 3: Also how you can. 28 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:16,960 Speaker 2: Get more content if you want to hear more from us, 29 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 2: and all that good stuff, So be sure to stay 30 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 2: tuned until the end. 31 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 4: Welcome to her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting women 32 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 4: like you. When we're your hosts doctor Dominique Brussard, a 33 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 4: college professor and psychologist. 34 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 2: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a 35 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:39,400 Speaker 2: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please 36 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 2: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from 37 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 2: fiveboys to fake friends and create a safe space where 38 00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 2: black women can. 39 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:48,360 Speaker 4: Just be. 40 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 5: All right, all right. 41 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 4: So here we are at the end of season four, 42 00:01:57,040 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 4: and you know what that means. 43 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 5: We are also at the end of twenty nineteen. Can 44 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 5: you believe it? 45 00:02:04,240 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 4: We at this point will almost have taken three hundred 46 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 4: and sixty five trips around the Sun in twenty nineteen, 47 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 4: a whole year, four seasons of her Space, and lady, 48 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 4: you are still rocking with us, So thank you, shout 49 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 4: out to you for riding with us from episode one 50 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 4: where we said don gotta mic y'all yeah, all still 51 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:36,519 Speaker 4: rocking with domin her mic. So today's episode, we are 52 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:40,799 Speaker 4: going to recap season four for you. 53 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 5: First, we want to start off. 54 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 4: By acknowledging and thanking you, and I mean, we can't 55 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,080 Speaker 4: thank you all enough, Like we keep saying thank you, 56 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 4: thank you, thank you, because. 57 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:55,360 Speaker 5: We truly mean it. 58 00:02:57,120 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 4: At the time that we are recording this episode, we 59 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 4: have over two hundred and twenty five thousand unique downloads 60 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 4: and that's thanks to you, lady. 61 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:17,519 Speaker 3: So Tea, let's dive on there. Ready, let's do it. 62 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 2: Let's do it all right, So we have season four, 63 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 2: episode one. We talked about shyness and facing social anxiety, 64 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 2: and this is currently one of the most downloaded episodes, 65 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 2: so this seems to have resonated with some of you, 66 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 2: so thank you for tuning into that episode. I'm trying 67 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 2: to think of exactly what we talked about, because to 68 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 2: be honest, I feel like it's hard to remember. 69 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 4: We just I think one of the things that I 70 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 4: remember from that episode is that we kind of distinguish 71 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 4: between what it means to be shy and what it 72 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 4: really means to have a social anxiety disorder, because all 73 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 4: of us, to some extent, may have moments of shyness, 74 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 4: or may have moments when we're feeling a little trepidacious 75 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 4: about speaking in front of our friends or in front 76 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:22,560 Speaker 4: of our colleagues, or you know, giving that toast said 77 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 4: at your friend's wedding, or giving that big presentation about 78 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 4: this new proposal you have to your boss. But we 79 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:38,279 Speaker 4: really took time to kind of distinguish that from truly 80 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:42,039 Speaker 4: having a social anxiety disorder, and we gave you some 81 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:47,279 Speaker 4: tips on how to navigate managing situations in which you 82 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:48,960 Speaker 4: may feel anxious. 83 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:52,600 Speaker 2: Yes, I recall that, And I also I think what 84 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:55,359 Speaker 2: I love about this episode is that we know that 85 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 2: oftentimes when we feel like we're the only ones struggling 86 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:01,839 Speaker 2: with something, there are other people that are going. 87 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:03,479 Speaker 3: Through with us, and so we're not alone. 88 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:05,720 Speaker 2: And so I think that, considering that this is an 89 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:09,240 Speaker 2: episode that resonates so deeply with so many of you, 90 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 2: it's like, oh, we should all know that we are 91 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:13,840 Speaker 2: not alone, like you were not alone. 92 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 3: I've had people even come up to me. 93 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:17,840 Speaker 2: Like, girl, I listen to that social anxiety episode and 94 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:20,839 Speaker 2: thank you so much for sharing you know how awkward 95 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 2: you felt when you were like walking across the college 96 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:25,320 Speaker 2: campus and you know, you thought people were looking at you. 97 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:27,159 Speaker 3: And I went the same thing, and I'm. 98 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,279 Speaker 2: Like, oh my gosh, good. So it feels good to 99 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 2: know that you're not alone. And I feel like when 100 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:34,960 Speaker 2: we normalize these conversations and dive into the topics, then 101 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:36,719 Speaker 2: we all know that we're in it together. 102 00:05:36,960 --> 00:05:37,600 Speaker 5: Right right. 103 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 4: And I think because like you said, this is one 104 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 4: of our episodes that has had the most downloads, I 105 00:05:44,480 --> 00:05:46,560 Speaker 4: think that what that says to us is that we 106 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:49,159 Speaker 4: probably need to put out some more content in the 107 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 4: coming year related to these types of issues. 108 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:54,920 Speaker 3: Yes, so, lady, that's what you want. 109 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 2: You head on over to our Instagram at her space 110 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:01,040 Speaker 2: podcast and just dm us tag us. 111 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:01,520 Speaker 3: Let us know. 112 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:03,840 Speaker 2: Should we talk about this more, should we dive in 113 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:05,480 Speaker 2: a bit deeper, should we hop on videos? 114 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:07,559 Speaker 3: Should we talk about this at our live event? 115 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 4: Like? 116 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:08,839 Speaker 3: What should we do? Let us know? 117 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 2: We are here to serve the community by serving ourselves, 118 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 2: healing ourselves and also serving you and healing you, So let. 119 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 5: Us know, all right? 120 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 4: And so then we had episode two, a conversation you 121 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:31,359 Speaker 4: need to hear about suicide and resilience. For me, talking 122 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:36,240 Speaker 4: about suicide is something that I recognize it's hard for 123 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 4: people to do. Recently, the New York Times had an 124 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 4: article about the increase in rates of suicidal attempts within 125 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:56,719 Speaker 4: the black community, and the statistic was staggering to me. 126 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 4: They reported a one hundred and eighty two percent increase 127 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 4: in suicide suicide attempts among Black women. When I hear that, 128 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:17,040 Speaker 4: that says to me that it's a problem and we 129 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 4: need to be checking on each other. And so I 130 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 4: think that for this episode, what I liked is that 131 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 4: we didn't shy away from talking about suicide, but then 132 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 4: we also talked about ways in which we can build resilience. 133 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:39,360 Speaker 4: And within that episode. One of the things that I 134 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 4: also that I pointed out in that episode, but I 135 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 4: also want to reiterate now because we are talking about it, 136 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 4: that it is okay to ask for help, and there 137 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:55,000 Speaker 4: are lots of hotlines available to you no matter where 138 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 4: you are located in this country or in this world. 139 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 4: For those of our listeners, lady, if you were in 140 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 4: the United States and you are having thoughts of suicide, 141 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 4: call one eight hundred two seven three talk again. That 142 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 4: number is one eight hundred two seven three Talk and 143 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 4: that is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, and they have 144 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:33,480 Speaker 4: counselors available twenty four to seven to respond to your needs, 145 00:08:33,559 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 4: so never be afraid to reach out and ask for help. 146 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 2: I think this episode is the perfect episode to send 147 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 2: to someone that might be down, that might be a 148 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:44,720 Speaker 2: bit depressed. 149 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 3: I think it's a really great pick me up. 150 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 2: You know, even though we talked about a sensitive topic, 151 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 2: I think we definitely ended on a positive note, which 152 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:53,959 Speaker 2: we always try to do, and so I think that's 153 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 2: an empowering episode that you should definitely send to someone 154 00:08:56,440 --> 00:08:58,880 Speaker 2: who's just having a hard time. And of course, you 155 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:02,119 Speaker 2: know has Dom always said at the end of our episodes, 156 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 2: we want you to consult with, you know, a mental 157 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:07,079 Speaker 2: health provider, a therapist. However, this could be a supplement 158 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:08,960 Speaker 2: for someone that just needs to quick pick me up, 159 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:10,800 Speaker 2: you know, in the drive to work or you know, 160 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:13,560 Speaker 2: living their daily life and needs some inspiration. So definitely 161 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 2: check out episode two. And that takes us to episode three. 162 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:19,680 Speaker 2: Episode three was all about the truth about fibroids and 163 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 2: black women with doctor Joy Cooper and this was a 164 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 2: very informative episode but also very fun because after Joy 165 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 2: got some swag, and I love the way that she 166 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:33,559 Speaker 2: brings her energy, her swag, and her just her cool 167 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 2: vibe to the field. 168 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 4: Yes, like I said in the episode, like when moving 169 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 4: to Oakland and being connected with her, Unfortunately she's left 170 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:52,239 Speaker 4: Kaiser where I usually received my healthcare, but being connected 171 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 4: with the gynecologist who is as real and as down 172 00:09:57,559 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 4: to earth as doctor Joy is, she makes it. She 173 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 4: has an amazing bedside manner and that came through in 174 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:09,720 Speaker 4: this episode, and I think we definitely need to bring 175 00:10:09,720 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 4: her back. 176 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 5: Oh yes, Doctor Joy, if you're. 177 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:16,439 Speaker 4: Listening, no, we go highlight your girl if we are 178 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 4: gonna bring you back on, because there are so many 179 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:22,319 Speaker 4: other questions that. 180 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:25,040 Speaker 5: Our listeners have. 181 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:29,200 Speaker 4: And lady, if you're listening and you have questions you 182 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:33,000 Speaker 4: want us to ask Doctor Joy, feel free to let 183 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 4: us know. If there's a topic you think that we 184 00:10:35,679 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 4: should bring her back on to talk about, let us know, 185 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 4: and we will be happy to work with her on 186 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 4: making that happen. 187 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 2: Yes, because I can already think of a few topics 188 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:47,960 Speaker 2: okay we need to talk about. I would love to 189 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 2: talk about STDs and STIs and really break the stigma 190 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:56,080 Speaker 2: around them because I think that oftentimes there's just this misconception. 191 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:59,800 Speaker 2: I heard a friend talking about this recently, this misconception 192 00:10:59,880 --> 00:11:02,839 Speaker 2: that you know there's something wrong with you or you're 193 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:06,040 Speaker 2: you know, not clean, if you contract something. And it's like, 194 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:08,640 Speaker 2: this is part of the human experience, and it's important 195 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:14,319 Speaker 2: for us to educate people about these different diagnos, diagnoses. 196 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 5: Conditions that we may encounter. 197 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:18,840 Speaker 2: Exactly, So that's important. And then also just vaginal health 198 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 2: in general. We need to talk about the vagina. Okay, 199 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:23,520 Speaker 2: like this is important, we gotta talk about it. 200 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 5: All right. 201 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 4: So then that brought us to how to heal your 202 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:33,360 Speaker 4: spirit through relaxation so you can be truly at peace. 203 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 4: So when we look at those first three episodes, like 204 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:42,320 Speaker 4: we talk about some things that could really mess with 205 00:11:42,360 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 4: your peace, right, really keep you from being at peace, 206 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 4: because if you're socially anxious, then that keeps you keyed up, 207 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:55,600 Speaker 4: that keeps you your nervous system activated. If you're having 208 00:11:55,640 --> 00:11:59,679 Speaker 4: thoughts about suicide, that means that you are feeling depressed. 209 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 5: You're not at peace. 210 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 4: And then if you're dealing with gynecological issues, you also 211 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 4: aren't at peace. And so what we wanted to do 212 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:15,920 Speaker 4: for this episode was focus on teaching you how to 213 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:26,240 Speaker 4: relax right and really trying to hone in on identifying 214 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,680 Speaker 4: your unique ways of relaxation. So, you know, we talked 215 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 4: about that for some of us, relaxation may mean reading 216 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:39,520 Speaker 4: a book. For others of us, relaxation may look like 217 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 4: playing tennis. Now, that doesn't sound relaxing to me, right, 218 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 4: but for someone else that may be what they do 219 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:50,320 Speaker 4: to relieve their stress. 220 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:56,120 Speaker 2: Yes, this was a good episode, very needed for many 221 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:59,960 Speaker 2: of us that are workaholics and folks that just work 222 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:01,599 Speaker 2: a lot or have busy lives. 223 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:03,480 Speaker 3: I really loved. 224 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:07,640 Speaker 2: Just kind of reframing that conversation around relaxation doesn't mean 225 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:09,560 Speaker 2: just kind of going through the motions and you're. 226 00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:10,959 Speaker 3: Like, oh, check that box off. 227 00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 2: I'm meditated, even though I was hella, you know, disrupted, 228 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 2: and I just sat there with my eyes closed, but 229 00:13:15,960 --> 00:13:18,960 Speaker 2: I wasn't really relaxing right. Also, it's important to note 230 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 2: that this episode did drop on Domd's birthday, So I 231 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:25,120 Speaker 2: just want to shout that out real quick. October twenty fourth, 232 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:27,800 Speaker 2: that's why. Yeah, okay, so just put it out there. 233 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 2: This takes us to our next episode, Lady, Episode five, 234 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:35,680 Speaker 2: which is how and why gratitude can change your life. 235 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 3: For the better. 236 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:39,800 Speaker 2: And I love this episode because of course it's in 237 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 2: my birthday month, November, but also because it's just so 238 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:48,360 Speaker 2: important to practice a lifestyle of gratitude, and it's something 239 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:50,680 Speaker 2: that I've been a lot more serious about these days. 240 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:52,880 Speaker 2: I know, sometimes I'll wake up in the morning and 241 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:55,320 Speaker 2: I may not have gotten a lot of sleep, and 242 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 2: I'm grumpy and I'm just kind of like, like, even 243 00:13:57,559 --> 00:13:59,960 Speaker 2: this morning, I was like, the fuck, I want to 244 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:02,120 Speaker 2: way back down, Like I don't feel like getting up 245 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:03,559 Speaker 2: and doing shit. I just want to lay in bed. 246 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:05,960 Speaker 2: I was like, you know what, let's get into our 247 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:08,960 Speaker 2: gratitude space. So I did my meditation, thought about all 248 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 2: the things I'm grateful for, and I swear it really 249 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:13,520 Speaker 2: has a way of just shifting your energy and your 250 00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:16,560 Speaker 2: perspective because it's like, hey, my thing today was like, 251 00:14:17,160 --> 00:14:19,400 Speaker 2: I'm grateful to be able bodied and be able to 252 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:20,000 Speaker 2: get out. 253 00:14:19,800 --> 00:14:21,880 Speaker 3: Of bed and move my arms. 254 00:14:22,080 --> 00:14:25,040 Speaker 2: Like I love to think about that because those are 255 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:26,960 Speaker 2: things we take for granted so much, and so it 256 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:28,640 Speaker 2: really does help to shift my perspective. 257 00:14:29,160 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 5: It really does, And I think that. 258 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:36,680 Speaker 4: It forces you to really be in a positive space 259 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:40,520 Speaker 4: in general, right, and it could help move you out 260 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 4: of that depression. It could help ease some of that 261 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 4: anxiety when you shift your focus to let me pay 262 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 4: attention to the things that are going well for me right. 263 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:53,240 Speaker 5: And one of the things that after we. 264 00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:59,360 Speaker 4: Recorded that episode, it inspired me because one of our 265 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:05,440 Speaker 4: activities was sending out thank you cards and letters, and 266 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 4: so I had took a couple of days and I 267 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 4: sat down and wrote out thank you cards to different 268 00:15:14,720 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 4: people in my life. It took me down memory lane 269 00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:21,800 Speaker 4: with some people, and it took me to a place 270 00:15:21,840 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 4: of like just really like just a sense of overwhelming 271 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:35,520 Speaker 4: thankfulness for the people in my circles. So if you haven't, lady, 272 00:15:35,520 --> 00:15:38,000 Speaker 4: if you haven't taken a moment to do any of 273 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:41,480 Speaker 4: the activities that we listed, like having the gratitude jar, 274 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:45,800 Speaker 4: or doing your daily gratitude journals, sending out thank you cards, 275 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:50,920 Speaker 4: or doing gratitude videos, any number of those things could 276 00:15:51,280 --> 00:15:59,000 Speaker 4: really just turn that negative, slow, unhappy day around into 277 00:15:59,040 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 4: something feeling a lot more positive. 278 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 2: That takes us to episode six, which is six Tips 279 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:06,000 Speaker 2: to Cope with the Holiday Blues. I think this was 280 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 2: a great episode because I realized that for me, this 281 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 2: was the first holiday season without any grandparents, which really sucked. 282 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 2: My grandmother passed away earlier this year, and she was 283 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 2: the matriarch in the family. Everyone went to her house 284 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:25,160 Speaker 2: for the holidays, and so this was the first year 285 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:28,200 Speaker 2: without her. But then it also had me thinking about 286 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:30,440 Speaker 2: the fact that I don't have any grandparents left, and 287 00:16:30,480 --> 00:16:32,960 Speaker 2: so it can be depressing when you think about the 288 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:37,120 Speaker 2: memories that you've created with your family and now it's 289 00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:41,040 Speaker 2: not really possible to get that those moments or that 290 00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:44,000 Speaker 2: time back. So the holidays can definitely be really depressing. 291 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:45,920 Speaker 2: So I'm glad that we were able to shed some 292 00:16:47,200 --> 00:16:50,240 Speaker 2: light and love during the holiday season. 293 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:52,880 Speaker 4: And I think too, one of the things that you 294 00:16:53,040 --> 00:16:56,760 Speaker 4: pointed out in that episode, you talked about some of 295 00:16:56,800 --> 00:17:00,520 Speaker 4: the new traditions that you and your husband have created 296 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:03,520 Speaker 4: for yourselves, and I think that that's one of the 297 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:08,960 Speaker 4: biggest takeaways from that episode is that giving giving yourself 298 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 4: permission to not do things the way you used to, 299 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:19,919 Speaker 4: giving yourself permission to create new traditions that may have 300 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:25,480 Speaker 4: meaning for you and your partner, new traditions that for 301 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:29,120 Speaker 4: you and your kids or whoever else is in your 302 00:17:29,240 --> 00:17:30,920 Speaker 4: new family, and. 303 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 5: That's a level of like. 304 00:17:35,160 --> 00:17:39,479 Speaker 4: Freedom in terms of freeing you from having those holiday blues. 305 00:17:40,320 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 3: That's a really good point. 306 00:17:42,440 --> 00:17:46,080 Speaker 4: So that takes us to episode seven, the myths and 307 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:51,439 Speaker 4: Beliefs we need to unlearn. And one of my favorite 308 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 4: things about that episode was our quote of the day, 309 00:17:54,880 --> 00:18:00,360 Speaker 4: which was a single word from John Singleton unlearned. And 310 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:04,120 Speaker 4: in this episode we talked about some of the things 311 00:18:04,160 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 4: that we were taught as kids that when you really 312 00:18:12,119 --> 00:18:14,520 Speaker 4: sit back and you think about it as an adult, 313 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:17,439 Speaker 4: reflect on it as an adult, or just reflect on 314 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:20,959 Speaker 4: it from a critical thinking standpoint, that shit don't make 315 00:18:21,000 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 4: no sense. So in this episode we really try to 316 00:18:29,080 --> 00:18:34,080 Speaker 4: dispel some of these myths and things that we know 317 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 4: are not correct. 318 00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:38,800 Speaker 2: I feel like this episode is the perfect episode to 319 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:41,880 Speaker 2: send to someone that's I don't know, found some new 320 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:45,880 Speaker 2: independence or they're just like a fresh adult, maybe they 321 00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:47,680 Speaker 2: just turned eighteen or they just turned twenty one. I 322 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 2: think this is a great episode to send to them 323 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:54,240 Speaker 2: so they can kind of be encouraged to be open 324 00:18:54,359 --> 00:19:00,720 Speaker 2: to learning, be open to thinking, but not necessarily always 325 00:19:00,760 --> 00:19:03,399 Speaker 2: being in the space of being taught what to believe 326 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:06,280 Speaker 2: or what to think, right, so just having independent thought 327 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:07,520 Speaker 2: and critical thinking skills. 328 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 3: I think that would be the episode for them. 329 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:12,879 Speaker 4: I think it'd be also important for us to point 330 00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 4: out that in this episode we talk about additional episodes 331 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:26,240 Speaker 4: where we mentioned other myths that caused some intergenerational trauma 332 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:31,600 Speaker 4: and how some of those wounds need to be healed. 333 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:37,600 Speaker 4: So those episodes were from season two episode one, Let's 334 00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 4: Talk About Sex, Season three episode twelve, Healing Intergenerational Trauma, 335 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:53,919 Speaker 4: Season three episode thirteen, Who Taught Us to Deny Our Sensuality? 336 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:58,000 Speaker 4: And season four episode three, The Burden of Fibroids for 337 00:19:58,119 --> 00:19:58,680 Speaker 4: Black Women. 338 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 2: Now episode eight, our next episode, how to deal with 339 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:08,480 Speaker 2: Jealousy and Envy without beating yourself up. Now, this is 340 00:20:08,520 --> 00:20:12,840 Speaker 2: an episode that I probably think about almost every day, 341 00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:16,040 Speaker 2: and the reason is because people I hear people using 342 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:20,440 Speaker 2: the words jealous and envy or jealousy and envious so much, 343 00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:23,160 Speaker 2: and they often use it incorrectly. I literally was walking 344 00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:25,000 Speaker 2: up the steps today and I heard someone use it, 345 00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:27,920 Speaker 2: and I'm so now that we've studied this and we've 346 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:30,800 Speaker 2: done a podcast on it, and now I'm checking myself 347 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 2: whenever anyone says it, I'm so tempted to be like, wait, 348 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:36,959 Speaker 2: you actually mean envy. And so it's funny because I 349 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:40,200 Speaker 2: actually used it, I used it today and someone kind 350 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:42,200 Speaker 2: of looked at me like they thought I meant to 351 00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 2: say jealous and I'm like, no, it's actually envy based 352 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:46,760 Speaker 2: on what we talked about. So if you are ever 353 00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:50,160 Speaker 2: confused on when to use jealousy and when to use envy, 354 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:53,120 Speaker 2: you should definitely tune into that episode and also learn 355 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:55,960 Speaker 2: about the tips that we've shared on how you can 356 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:59,520 Speaker 2: have both of those emotions without beating yourself up because 357 00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:00,399 Speaker 2: of normal We're. 358 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:01,359 Speaker 3: Human, right. 359 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:03,560 Speaker 4: I think that's the hard part about like some of 360 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:07,400 Speaker 4: these emotions is that we get into a space of 361 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:12,119 Speaker 4: feeling shame around it then, which leads to us like 362 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:17,679 Speaker 4: verbally and emotionally beating ourselves up. And we have to 363 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:20,560 Speaker 4: practice compassion and forgiveness, and we talk about that in 364 00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:28,240 Speaker 4: that episode. So then that takes us to I would say, 365 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:33,560 Speaker 4: like a lighter episode in terms of So Episode nine 366 00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 4: is eight life hacks to save you time and energy. 367 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:42,679 Speaker 4: And what I enjoyed about this episode is that the 368 00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 4: takeaways from that, the hacks that we shared to me 369 00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:50,960 Speaker 4: are so helpful and I see it play out in 370 00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:54,639 Speaker 4: my day to day life, like the hack about picking 371 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:58,000 Speaker 4: out your outfits ahead of time. Now I still haven't 372 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:00,520 Speaker 4: gotten where you are tea where I'm like picking out 373 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:05,560 Speaker 4: all my outfits on Sunday, right, but I have since 374 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:11,040 Speaker 4: we recorded that episode, I do find myself like encouraging 375 00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 4: myself to like, okay, think ahead on what you want 376 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:18,720 Speaker 4: to wear. And then sometimes what I started, I started 377 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 4: to pay more attention to when I'm doing it. And 378 00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:24,600 Speaker 4: what I notice is that there's still some mornings where 379 00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,720 Speaker 4: I may have picked out my outfit ahead of time, 380 00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:30,680 Speaker 4: but then I'll I don't know what will happen. I'll 381 00:22:30,720 --> 00:22:34,600 Speaker 4: wake up and then I change my mind, and then 382 00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:38,399 Speaker 4: I find myself sitting there wasting time because I'm like, well, 383 00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:40,719 Speaker 4: if I don't really want to wear this, then what 384 00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 4: do I want to wear? And then I end up 385 00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:47,159 Speaker 4: wearing that same outfit, So then I'm like, okay, hold on, 386 00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:50,840 Speaker 4: let me just I just I'm looking at my watch, 387 00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:55,240 Speaker 4: and I just wasted fifteen minutes sitting here trying to debate, 388 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:57,359 Speaker 4: and then I'm back at what I originally said I 389 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,320 Speaker 4: was gonna wear. So I think I'm gonna go to 390 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:03,800 Speaker 4: I really in this new year. I think I really 391 00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:08,679 Speaker 4: am gonna try Sunday really picking out my outfits. So 392 00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:11,760 Speaker 4: that way, I really don't have to think about it. 393 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 4: I don't deliberate. Maybe Tuesday, I'm like looking at the 394 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:18,920 Speaker 4: extra outfits and I'm like, I'll wear what I thought 395 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:22,320 Speaker 4: i was gonna wear on Thursday, and then I can 396 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:26,920 Speaker 4: still I'm not wasting an inordinate amount of time. 397 00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:27,720 Speaker 3: Exactly. 398 00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:29,800 Speaker 2: Yes, that is a good idea, don because I'm telling 399 00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:32,480 Speaker 2: you it's Oh, it's so awesome. So I did that 400 00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:35,240 Speaker 2: obviously on Sunday. But the one thing I love about 401 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:38,320 Speaker 2: this episode is it was just so fun to hear 402 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:40,879 Speaker 2: some of your sort of life hacks and pro tips 403 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:42,960 Speaker 2: and how we can kind of compliment one another. 404 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:44,680 Speaker 3: So there were some that you shared. 405 00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, I do something similar, but 406 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,399 Speaker 2: I'm going to change it up a little bit. And 407 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 2: so the one that I probably one of my favorites 408 00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:55,000 Speaker 2: is the self care. So literally, like this week, I 409 00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:59,199 Speaker 2: have acupuncture, I have the gym, I have therapy, and 410 00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,120 Speaker 2: I went to the spot on this Saturday that just passed. 411 00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:05,360 Speaker 2: So all of this stuff was scheduled earlier in the 412 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:07,920 Speaker 2: month or like right at the end of November. So 413 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,919 Speaker 2: now I'm able to live out my month and have 414 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,080 Speaker 2: my self care. So listen to that episode, Lady if 415 00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:16,240 Speaker 2: you're looking for ways to make life easier for yourself 416 00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:17,960 Speaker 2: and to be more efficient. 417 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:20,040 Speaker 3: Yes, check that episode out. 418 00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:23,320 Speaker 2: And that takes us to a very I would say, 419 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:26,200 Speaker 2: kind of fun episode, even though the topic that may 420 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 2: not be super fun, but tapping into your greatest self 421 00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:32,640 Speaker 2: defense tool with Linda lu And that's episode ten. So 422 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,919 Speaker 2: we had our self defense instructor come on in to 423 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:41,120 Speaker 2: her space and she shared some just mindset shifts and 424 00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:45,240 Speaker 2: I mean tips and tools on you know, for self defense, 425 00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:49,919 Speaker 2: and also really validated women who may have been victim. 426 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:51,400 Speaker 3: You know, victimized in their life. 427 00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:53,840 Speaker 2: And it was just a really powerful episode that I 428 00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:56,680 Speaker 2: think is encouraging for any woman. So this is one 429 00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:58,639 Speaker 2: you have you have to share with all your friends. Okay, 430 00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:00,960 Speaker 2: you have to share this with all your friends. 431 00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:02,240 Speaker 5: All of them, all of them. 432 00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:07,120 Speaker 4: So that brings us to episode eleven, where we talk 433 00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 4: about the four levels of friendship and how to spot 434 00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:14,400 Speaker 4: fake friends. And I know that this episode has been 435 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:17,920 Speaker 4: a game changer for folks in terms of giving them 436 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:26,560 Speaker 4: an opportunity to reflect on those different levels and where 437 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:30,360 Speaker 4: they fit in people's lives and where other people may 438 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 4: fit in their life. And I hope that it is 439 00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:40,800 Speaker 4: really providing people an opportunity to have some conversations with 440 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:44,520 Speaker 4: some people in their lives where the dynamics of their 441 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,480 Speaker 4: interaction needs to change, where maybe there needs to be 442 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:50,840 Speaker 4: a little bit more understanding and forgiveness in terms of 443 00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:52,760 Speaker 4: how they're interacting with one another. 444 00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 5: But real talk. 445 00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,400 Speaker 4: The best part of that episode for me was talking 446 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:04,800 Speaker 4: about my friends DeAndre, So that was having an opportunity 447 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 4: to kind of put that out there, share that piece 448 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,760 Speaker 4: of me like that was probably and then hearing about 449 00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:14,639 Speaker 4: you and Mina and and how some of those things 450 00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:17,680 Speaker 4: that we have in common, which I think may probably 451 00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:21,560 Speaker 4: thread through most intimate friendships. 452 00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,080 Speaker 3: Yes, for sure, that makes perfect sense time. 453 00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:26,280 Speaker 2: And it's funny because after this episode, I was like 454 00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:28,679 Speaker 2: randomly like putting my socks on the other day, and 455 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:30,280 Speaker 2: I started thinking about people that I know, and I 456 00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:30,720 Speaker 2: was like. 457 00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:33,080 Speaker 3: What level would they be? And I was like, well, 458 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:34,119 Speaker 3: we've never done this together. 459 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,119 Speaker 2: I started like going through my head to kind of 460 00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:39,560 Speaker 2: categorize the different relationships and friendships that I have, So 461 00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:43,680 Speaker 2: that was funny. The last episode, episode twelve of this season, 462 00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:47,440 Speaker 2: is one of my favorites, and this episode is how 463 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:51,240 Speaker 2: to conduct your annual Year in Review and why it's 464 00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:54,879 Speaker 2: crucial to your personal growth. Now, this is my favorite 465 00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:56,560 Speaker 2: time of year, which I said in the episode. And 466 00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,720 Speaker 2: I am one of those weirdos which I'm okay with, 467 00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:04,040 Speaker 2: that loves to plan and goal map and literally during 468 00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:08,159 Speaker 2: the Thanksgiving and Christmas holiday break, I am the person 469 00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,680 Speaker 2: with my goal mapping journal and I'm just out mapping 470 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:11,160 Speaker 2: out goals. 471 00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:11,879 Speaker 3: I get so giddy. 472 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,200 Speaker 2: I get so excited, as you can probably tell from 473 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,000 Speaker 2: my voice. But this episode was really cool because we 474 00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:20,040 Speaker 2: walked you through some questions. Some were pretty cool, some 475 00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:24,080 Speaker 2: were a little tricky, and others were tough, possibly even emotional, 476 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:27,520 Speaker 2: where we just encourage you to sit still, be with 477 00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:30,520 Speaker 2: yourself and really reflect on your year. Because life moves 478 00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:33,440 Speaker 2: so fast, there's so much going on right for many 479 00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:35,640 Speaker 2: of us, we don't really have a time to look 480 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:37,760 Speaker 2: back and see where did we come from? 481 00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:39,840 Speaker 3: Where was I at on January one? And where am 482 00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,080 Speaker 3: I at now? What goals have I accomplished? 483 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:42,320 Speaker 1: Right? 484 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 3: What have I experienced? What have I overcome? 485 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:47,040 Speaker 5: Yeah? And I think that. 486 00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,720 Speaker 4: You know, as we were playing around with the title 487 00:27:53,040 --> 00:28:01,600 Speaker 4: for this episode, it's year in I in review, but 488 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 4: it also is the year end een D and I 489 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,760 Speaker 4: can see how people may get a little tongue tied 490 00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:14,320 Speaker 4: when they're trying to say the title of this episode, 491 00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:18,399 Speaker 4: but for me, either way you say it, it fits 492 00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:22,200 Speaker 4: in so perfect in terms of what you were speaking 493 00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:27,280 Speaker 4: of of just the end of the year being a 494 00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:33,200 Speaker 4: good opportunity for you to really dive into some personal 495 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:35,680 Speaker 4: reflection and. 496 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:37,920 Speaker 5: Kind of how you do. 497 00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:40,560 Speaker 4: You know how some of us have on our jobs 498 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:46,640 Speaker 4: where we have the annual review for our employers and 499 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,480 Speaker 4: they're looking at our performance and telling us how to 500 00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,040 Speaker 4: set our goals for the next year. I think this 501 00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:56,520 Speaker 4: episode guides you through an opportunity to do that for 502 00:28:56,560 --> 00:29:00,880 Speaker 4: yourself for things that might be happening, not maybe not 503 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 4: just professionally, but also personally. So now that we have 504 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:11,520 Speaker 4: actually come to our year end, that means we're headed 505 00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:13,040 Speaker 4: to the start of. 506 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,000 Speaker 5: Year twog oh her space. 507 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:16,920 Speaker 3: Oh MG. 508 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:21,520 Speaker 4: Now, lady, if you've been rocking with us for a minute, 509 00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:26,280 Speaker 4: you know that we are constantly thinking of ways to 510 00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:30,440 Speaker 4: change things up. And if we're talking to you about 511 00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:35,160 Speaker 4: your own personal growth, then you know that means that 512 00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:40,320 Speaker 4: we're also holding ourselves accountable for growth for the podcast, 513 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:42,760 Speaker 4: So t you ready to tell them? 514 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:44,560 Speaker 3: I am so freaking excited I can't wait. 515 00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:45,600 Speaker 5: Okay, let's do it. 516 00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:46,080 Speaker 3: Let's do it. 517 00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:48,200 Speaker 5: Let's talk about twenty twenty really. 518 00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:49,360 Speaker 3: Quick before we dive into twenty twenty. 519 00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,920 Speaker 5: Do you watch Power I missed this last season. 520 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:54,040 Speaker 2: Okay, so, lady, I just want to say, if you 521 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:57,720 Speaker 2: watch Power so fifty he changed for his last season. 522 00:29:57,760 --> 00:29:59,920 Speaker 3: He changed the theme music. 523 00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:01,560 Speaker 5: Oh I heard about that contraver and. 524 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:04,000 Speaker 2: It costs so much chaos. A lady, we need you 525 00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:06,400 Speaker 2: to always communicate with us. So whether you're in the 526 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:09,280 Speaker 2: comment section on Instagram, whether you're sending us an email 527 00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:10,920 Speaker 2: or a DM, you need to let us know what 528 00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:12,440 Speaker 2: you want to hear because we're here for you. 529 00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:14,720 Speaker 3: We don't want to change up no stuff, and. 530 00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:18,240 Speaker 2: You'd be like yo, terrying don what the fuck is this? Okay, 531 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,520 Speaker 2: so let us know where to go. So we're gonna 532 00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:23,120 Speaker 2: dive into twenty twenty and it's very exciting, so get ready. 533 00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:25,160 Speaker 5: Okay. 534 00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:28,479 Speaker 4: So one of the first things that we'd like to 535 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:34,280 Speaker 4: introduce to you is that I doctor Dom and starting 536 00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:44,040 Speaker 4: a talk back Tuesdays. So talk back Tuesdays, lady, is 537 00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:49,800 Speaker 4: your opportunity to send me an email and ask me 538 00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:53,040 Speaker 4: a question, whatever burning question you have on your mind. 539 00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:58,680 Speaker 4: Log on to herspacepodcast dot com and click the ask 540 00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:03,320 Speaker 4: doctor Dom tabu and then type out whatever that question 541 00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:04,760 Speaker 4: is some. 542 00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:05,440 Speaker 5: Of the questions. 543 00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:08,560 Speaker 4: If you give us permissions, some of those questions may 544 00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:17,040 Speaker 4: be published publicly via social media or at some point 545 00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 4: in the future you'll get a direct response from me. 546 00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:24,479 Speaker 2: And even if we publish the questions publicly, we will 547 00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:27,200 Speaker 2: keep it anonymous if you so choose. But Dom and 548 00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,320 Speaker 2: I were talking and we were thinking, if you have 549 00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,120 Speaker 2: a question, most likely another lady out there has the 550 00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:33,920 Speaker 2: same question. So it'd be really nice if we could 551 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:37,320 Speaker 2: share some of those questions to give more insight and 552 00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:39,520 Speaker 2: inspiration and advice to other women as well. 553 00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 3: Okay, shall we share the next update? 554 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:44,000 Speaker 5: Yes? We should. 555 00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:49,400 Speaker 2: Okay, So, lady, I have been posting these Wisdom Wednesday 556 00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:52,120 Speaker 2: with Terry posts on my Instagram and I also send 557 00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:55,880 Speaker 2: out an email newsletter for my email subscribers, and so 558 00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,800 Speaker 2: it's been going really well. People have loved the content, 559 00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,360 Speaker 2: really inspired by it. So I'm like, let's take it 560 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:05,080 Speaker 2: up a notch for the Heartspace podcast. So, lady, if 561 00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:08,040 Speaker 2: you want to tune into Wisdom Wednesday with Terry every Wednesday, 562 00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:11,040 Speaker 2: you can head on over to the Hearspace podcast website, 563 00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:15,320 Speaker 2: which is herspacepodcast dot com. And click on the Patreon 564 00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:17,480 Speaker 2: link at the top. It's gonna be a little tab 565 00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:19,520 Speaker 2: there that says Patreon, and that will give you more 566 00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:23,480 Speaker 2: information on how you can tune into the Weekly Wisdom 567 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:24,640 Speaker 2: Wednesday episodes. 568 00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,040 Speaker 4: But there's more, right, of course, you know there's you 569 00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:30,520 Speaker 4: have more. No, it's twenty twenty, there's gonna be more. 570 00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:31,840 Speaker 3: Yes, lady. 571 00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:35,720 Speaker 2: Have you ever listened to a podcast and it's going well, 572 00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,280 Speaker 2: you're resonating with the content, and all of a sudden 573 00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:44,000 Speaker 2: you here an annoying as advertisement on the podcast? Yes, right, 574 00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:45,920 Speaker 2: that has happened to me so many times, and so 575 00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:48,560 Speaker 2: Dom and I we've been talking about advertising on the 576 00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:51,520 Speaker 2: Heirspace podcast. But the thing is, we don't want it 577 00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:53,520 Speaker 2: to be like any other podcasts. We wanted this to 578 00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:55,600 Speaker 2: be a conversation that we share with you, where you 579 00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:57,880 Speaker 2: understand where we're coming from, why we're even doing this, 580 00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:01,280 Speaker 2: And with the podcast growing so much, we want to 581 00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:02,000 Speaker 2: spend more. 582 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:03,400 Speaker 3: Time on giving you content. 583 00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:06,040 Speaker 2: We want to spend more time on figuring out how 584 00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:07,560 Speaker 2: are we going to host live events, how are we 585 00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:10,680 Speaker 2: going to host conferences, how are we going to really 586 00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,880 Speaker 2: give back to our community, and so advertisings is one 587 00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:15,440 Speaker 2: of the best ways that we can do that. So 588 00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:18,360 Speaker 2: this way we can monetize the podcast, and the way 589 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:22,480 Speaker 2: that this will look ideally is Domini will come together, we'll. 590 00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:24,360 Speaker 3: Think about the products that we actually use. 591 00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:27,280 Speaker 2: Our goal right now is to really just promote to 592 00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:28,440 Speaker 2: you things that we're already using. 593 00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:31,360 Speaker 3: Right we don't have to, you know, do any out 594 00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:32,480 Speaker 3: of the box crazy stuff. 595 00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:35,040 Speaker 2: It's just like, hey, if I use this cell phone 596 00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:36,600 Speaker 2: charger and I love it, I'm going to share it 597 00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:38,360 Speaker 2: with you dom and I will get some kind of 598 00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 2: commission and those are funds that we will use for 599 00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:43,760 Speaker 2: the podcast to allow us to do the work that 600 00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:47,720 Speaker 2: we do right, so the editing, the studio space, the 601 00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:50,600 Speaker 2: social media posting, the community stuff. There's so much that 602 00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 2: we want to do, but a lot of that costs money. 603 00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:55,920 Speaker 2: So just think about it as when you purchase anything 604 00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:58,640 Speaker 2: from the podcast or when you invest in us, it's 605 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,600 Speaker 2: literally going right back into the community. So we'd love 606 00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:03,360 Speaker 2: to get your feedback on what you think about the 607 00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:06,480 Speaker 2: episode that we do share with ads because we don't 608 00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,239 Speaker 2: want it to be annoying, but we also want to 609 00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:11,200 Speaker 2: be able to reach our goals for advertising so that 610 00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,920 Speaker 2: we can't expand the podcast and do greater work with you. 611 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:17,799 Speaker 4: Terry and I have talked about this a bunch of 612 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:21,719 Speaker 4: times to really flesh out how we could do this 613 00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:26,839 Speaker 4: in a way that maintains the integrity of our episodes 614 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,560 Speaker 4: that lady, we know you were used to listening to 615 00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,759 Speaker 4: and so there may be times where you'll hear and 616 00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:38,520 Speaker 4: add and what our goal is is to make it 617 00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:42,640 Speaker 4: as seamless as possible so that there's as less of 618 00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,800 Speaker 4: an interruption to your listening experience as possible. 619 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:48,640 Speaker 5: I feel like we have a lot to. 620 00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:52,759 Speaker 4: Look forward to in twenty twenty, and I think the 621 00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:55,680 Speaker 4: one last thing that we want to mention is that 622 00:34:57,120 --> 00:35:00,480 Speaker 4: we want to be able to host live events. So 623 00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:04,560 Speaker 4: that's another reason why. Also we're trying to incorporate advertisements 624 00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:08,839 Speaker 4: so that that way we can cover the cost of 625 00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:15,080 Speaker 4: what it takes to host a live event without creating 626 00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:18,480 Speaker 4: something that's going to be burdensome for you, lady, Like, 627 00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:22,279 Speaker 4: we want to make sure that if we are going 628 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:26,080 Speaker 4: to do stuff like this, that everyone is able to 629 00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:29,680 Speaker 4: come and we don't want costs to be an issue. 630 00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:33,560 Speaker 2: All right, lady, Well, that wraps up our season finale, 631 00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:36,399 Speaker 2: so be sure to visit herspacepodcast dot com for more 632 00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:39,920 Speaker 2: information about Talk Back Tuesday with Doctor Dom and for 633 00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:42,799 Speaker 2: Wisdom Wednesday with Terry and if you want to learn 634 00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:44,960 Speaker 2: more about our other episodes, we also have links to 635 00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:49,680 Speaker 2: those episodes on our website at herspacepodcast dot com. And 636 00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:53,200 Speaker 2: shout out to Doctor Dom's therapist for this awesome mantra 637 00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:54,040 Speaker 2: for season five. 638 00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:59,640 Speaker 4: Thanks for joining us today in her Space. Please note 639 00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:04,160 Speaker 4: that our show may contain conversations about self help, advice, 640 00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:07,920 Speaker 4: self empowerment, and mental health, but it is by no 641 00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:11,400 Speaker 4: means meant to be a substitute for an ongoing formal 642 00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:16,160 Speaker 4: relationship with a trained mental health provider. If you are 643 00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:19,080 Speaker 4: someone you know is in need of mental health care, 644 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:23,760 Speaker 4: please visit the Therapy for Black Girls directory Psychology today 645 00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:26,200 Speaker 4: or contact your insurance provider. 646 00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:30,040 Speaker 2: If you liked what you heard and want to keep 647 00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:33,440 Speaker 2: the conversation going, connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, and 648 00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:38,400 Speaker 2: Twitter at her space podcast or check out our website 649 00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:42,680 Speaker 2: at herspacepodcast dot com. And before we meet again, repeat 650 00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:47,040 Speaker 2: after me, There's something inside of me that's bigger than 651 00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:48,000 Speaker 2: any obstacle. 652 00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:50,400 Speaker 5: We'll see you next Week Lady